Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Transforming The Inner Mother
Transforming The Inner Mother
Transforming The Inner Mother
A FREE GUIDE
BETHANY WEBSTER
!
Our!task!as!awakened!women!is!to!transform!the!inner!mother!
within!our!psyche!from!a!duplicate!of!our!biological!mother!with!
her!human!limitations!into!the!mother!we!always!needed!and!
wanted.!In!doing!this,!the!inner!mother!accurately!meets!our!
needs!and!unconditionally!nurtures!us!in!ways!our!outer!mothers!
may!have!been!unable!to.!!
We!can!become!the!mother!we!always!wantedto!ourselves.!!
In!this!way,!we!become!capable!of!accepting!the!limitations!of!our!
outer!mother!because!the!inner!mother!becomes!the!primary!one!
we!can!rely!on!in!ways!that!perhaps!we!were!never!able!to!rely!on!
our!outer!mother.
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com! 1!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
Our!mother!could!only!love!us!to!the!extent!that!she!could!love!
herself.!
At!a!certain!point!we!must!face!that!our!mothers!could!not!and!
will!not!meet!our!needs!in!all!the!ways!that!we!needed!and!
wanted!her!to.!This!must!be!grieved!all!the!way!through.!We!have!
to!grieve!the!ways!we!had!to!compensate!and!suffer!from!the!
mother!wound.!In!the!process!of!grieving!we!have!the!chance!to!
realize!that!the!fact!that!we!felt!unloved!or!abandoned!in!
moments!was!not!our!fault!and!we!can!stop!struggling!to!prove!
our!worth!to!the!world.!In!the!grieving!process,!we!can!also!have!
compassion!for!our!mothers!and!the!burdens!they!carried.!
Healing!the!mother!wound!transforms!your!life!beyond!
anything!you!can!imagine.!!
Through!facing!this!pain,!we!may!find!that!what!we!thought!was!
our!pain!may!actually!be!partly!our!mothers!pain!that!we!have!
been!carrying!for!her!out!of!love.!We!can!now!choose!to!put!this!
burden!down.!Instead!of!attenuating!ourselves!out!of!guilt,!we!
can!stand!confidently!in!our!bodies!and!hearts!with!a!sense!of!
true!wholeness!and!selfClove.!
By!becoming!the!good!enough!mother!to!ourselves,!we!
liberate!not!only!ourselves,!but!everyone!else!in!our!lives.!!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com! 2!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
It!is!challenging!to!admit!to!ourselves!where!we!felt!unloved!in!
our!relationship!with!our!mother.!We!may!recall!seeing!how!
burdened!and!overwhelmed!she!was!and!we!may!have!thought!
that!we!were!the!source!of!her!pain.!This!daughter!guilt!can!
keep!us!stuck.!Recognizing!the!innocence!and!legitimacy!of!our!
childhood!needs!is!a!way!of!releasing!shame!and!baptizing!
ourselves!into!the!truth!of!our!goodness.!Once!we!first!grieve!for!
ourselves,!we!can!then!grieve!for!our!mothers!and!for!women!as!a!
whole.!
Grief!replenishes!and!strengthens!us.!
As!women!we!can!heal!and!give!ourselves!what!our!mothers!
could!not!give!us.!We!can!become!our!own!source.!The!collective!
female!pain!body!is!healed!one!woman!at!a!time.!And!as!the!
female!pain!body!heals!so!does!the!collective!human!pain!body.!
Our!own!healing!is!not!only!a!gift!to!ourselves,!but!to!the!world.!
The!mother!wound!is!a!great!opportunity.!
As!we!allow!ourselves!to!contact!what!feels!like!an!ancient,!
inexhaustible!hunger!for!an!inexhaustible!motherwe!birth!
ourselves!into!our!true!identitywhat!I!call!the!womb!of!light,!
an!inexhaustible,!overflowing!fountain!of!love!and!abundance!
that!is!not!dependent!on!circumstances!or!conditions.!We!then!
can!live!in!service!to!that!which!we!truly!arelove!itself.
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com! 3!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother!
!
Even!though!we!are!adult!women!the!mother/daughter!
relationship!continues!to!live!within!our!psyche.!!
!
Mother/daughter!relationships!are!on!a!continuum,!with!healthy!
and!supportive!on!one!end!and!abusive,!conflictCridden!on!the!
other!end.!We!all!fall!somewhere!on!this!continuum.!Depending!
upon!the!level!of!positive!bonding!that!you!experienced!with!your!
mother,!your!mothers!voice!may!be!the!supportive,!nurturing,!
comforting!voice!that!encourages!you!when!you!feel!confused!or!
challenged.!And!likewise,!you!may!recognize!the!voice!of!the!inner!
critic!to!be!the!voice!of!your!mother,!causing!you!to!feel!doubtful,!
stuck!and!limited.!!
!
There!is!no!such!thing!as!a!perfect!mother/daughter!relationship.!
And!many!women!have!experienced!great!pain!and!conflict!with!
their!mothers.!!
!
Our!task!as!we!heal!the!mother!wound!is!to!transform!the!inner!
mother!within!us!from!a!duplicate!of!our!human!mother!(with!her!
limitations)!into!the!mother!we!always!wantedan!inner!mother!
that!can!abundantly!meet!our!needs!and!support!us!in!
flourishing!and!loving!ourselves!for!who!we!truly!are.!!!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com! 4!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
!
Transforming the Inner Mother:
Become the Mother You Always Wantedto Yourself
A FREE GUIDE
with BETHANY WEBSTER
!
!
It!is!an!important!step!to!really!allow!yourself!to!see!that!your!
pain!was!never!your!fault!and!to!grieve!the!fact!that!you!cannot!
go!back!and!get!that!nurturing!you!needed.!!
!
In!taking!this!step,!you!begin!the!process!of!liberating!yourself!to!
become!the!powerful,!unique,!amazing!woman!that!you!are!and!
to!live!your!life!authentically!expressing!your!truth!and!your!gifts!
to!the!world.!!
!
This!process!can!take!a!while!but!it!works!!Be!patient!with!
yourself.!If!you!stick!with!it,!you!will!increasingly!feel!the!weight!
and!pressure!lift!off!of!you!and!a!new!sense!of!freedom!will!begin!
to!dawn!in!your!life.!You!gradually!become!free!to!be!you,!without!
guilt,!shame!or!selfCdoubt,!but!rather!with!clarity,!confidence!and!
joy!!!
!
Your!Inner!Child!
!
Your!Inner!Child!is!a!source!of!creativity,!vitality!and!innocent!
wisdom.!Many!of!us!were!rejected!to!some!degree!in!childhood!
and!compensated!in!some!way!by!creating!a!false!self.!This!false!
self!was!the!self!we!had!to!show!to!the!outside!world!in!order!to!
be!accepted.!The!parts!of!us!that!were!rejected!went!into!shadow!
and!remain!inaccessible!to!us!until!we!retrieve!our!inner!child!and!
create!a!nurturing,!safe!inner!relationship!that!allows!for!our!true,!
authentic!self!to!emerge.!!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com! 7!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
How!are!you!feeling!today?!
What!do!you!need!from!me!in!this!moment?!
What!can!I!do!for!you!right!now?!
I!sense!that!you!are!feeling!______.!Would!you!like!to!talk!
about!it?!
What!would!you!like!to!do!right!now?!
!
!
!
!
!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com! 8!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
Examples!of!affirming!things!you!can!say!to!your!inner!child:!!
You!are!thoroughly!good!and!wonderful.!
You!are!lovable!and!special.!
You!are!safe.!
I!respect!you.!
I!am!so!proud!of!you!!
Im!so!happy!you!are!here!!
You!can!do!it!!
Im!right!here!for!you!whenever!you!need!me.!
Its!OK!to!have!needs.!I!love!filling!your!needs!!
I!love!taking!care!of!you!!
Its!OK!to!make!mistakes.!
All!of!your!feelings!are!OK.!
You!can!rest!in!me.!
Theres!nothing!you!could!say!or!do!that!would!make!me!not!
love!you.!
!
Your!inner!Mother!
!
Your!inner!Mother!is!your!adult!self,!with!all!your!knowledge!and!
power,!supported!by!higher!forces!such!as!the!universe,!
God/Goddess!and!higher!self.!!
!
!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com! 9!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com 11!
!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com 12!
!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com 15!
!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com 17!
!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!
!
Disclaimer:$The$content$of$this$report$is$informational$in$nature$
and$intended$to$inspire$women$to$fulfill$their$potential.$The$
information$is$based$on$my$own$education,$life$experiences,$
memories,$perspectives$and$opinions.$While$I$do$have$degrees$in$
psychology,$I$am$not$a$licensed$psychotherapist.$If$you$are$seeking$
medical,$professional$or$legal$advice,$please$contact$those$
professionals$who$are$licensed$to$provide$that$information.$!
!
!Bethany!Webster!2014-2017.!All!Rights!Reserved.!http://womboflight.com 18!
Transforming!the!Inner!Mother:!A!Free!Guide.!!