SEXUAL CONTRACT

This agreement is meant to encourage communication and inspire safe and consensual exploration. It is an important step to
getting the sex life you want. See tips to negotiate sexual contracts to get some guidance on making this a fun and exciting
endeavor.

Made this day ____ of 2014 (The Commencement Date)

Between:

Party A

And

Party B

The Parties agree as follows:

COMMENCEMENT AND TERM:

Parties enter into this contract of commencement date fully aware of its nature and undertake to abide by
its conditions.

This contract shall be effective for a period of ________________(days/wks/mths/years)

SUBJECT TO: Safewords:

The party(ies) recognize that one of the parties may make demands of the other party that may push their
personal, emotional, spiritual and physical boundaries. In such circumstances related to this, one party
may make use of one or both of the safewords.

Yellow will be used to bring to the attention of the other party that the first party is close to
her/his limit of endurance.

Red will be used to bring to the attention of the other party that the first party cannot tolerate
any further demand. When the word is said, the first party actions will cease completely with
immediate effect.

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PERSONAL LIMITS
Please check off your limits. I will engage in all of the following acts involving:

ACTIVITIES:

Does Party A consent to:

Breast/Nipple play give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Role Play give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Hand job/Manual give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Masturbation give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Masturbation Mutual give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Cunnilingus give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Fellatio give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Swallowing semen give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Vaginal intercourse give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Vaginal fisting give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Vaginal Play (fingers/toys) give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Anal Manual give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Analingus give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Anal Intercourse give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Anal Fisting give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Threesome (FFM) give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Threesome (MMF) give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Group Sex ` give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Urination give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Needles, knives or blood give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Breath control give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Electrical current give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____

Does Party B consent to:

Breast/Nipple play give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Role Play give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Hand job/Manual give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Masturbation give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Masturbation Mutual give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Cunnilingus give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Fellatio give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Swallowing semen give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Vaginal intercourse give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Vaginal fisting give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Vaginal Play (fingers/toys) give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____

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Anal Manual give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Analingus give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Anal Intercourse give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Anal Fisting give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Threesome (FFM) give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Threesome (MMF) give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Group Sex ` give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____

Urination give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Needles, knives or blood give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Breath control give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____
Electrical current give ____, receive _____, depends on ___________ not okay _____

TOYS:
Does Party A consent to play with:
Vibrators (suggestion)
Dildos (suggestion)
Anal Toys (suggestion)
Clitoral Pumps (suggestion)
Stimulating creams (suggestion)
Blindfolds (suggestion)
Gags (suggestion)
Bondage Rope (suggestion)
Handcuffs/Restraints (suggestion)
Bondage Tape (suggestion)
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____

Does Party B consent to play with:

Vibrators (suggestion)
Dildos (suggestion)
Anal Toys (suggestion)
Clitoral Pumps (suggestion)
Stimulating creams (suggestion)
Blindfolds (suggestion)
Gags (suggestion)
Bondage Rope (suggestion)
Handcuffs/Restraints (suggestion)
Bondage Tape (suggestion)
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____
give ____, receive _____, depends on ________, not okay ____

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BDSM:
I accept the following forms of stimulation/discipline:

Party A Party B:
____ spanking ____ spanking
____ whipping ____ whipping
____ biting ____ biting
____ genital clamps ____ genital clamps
____ hot wax ____ hot wax
____ paddling ____ paddling
____ caning ____ caning
____ cat-o-nine tails ____ cat-o-nine tails
____ belt ____ belt
____ crop ____ crop
____ nipple clamps ____ nipple clamps
____ ice ____ ice
____ other __________ ____ other __________

How much pain is each party willing, where 1 is likes intensely and 5 is dislikes intensely

Party A 12345
Party B 12345

OTHER TERMS:

1. ______________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
2. ______________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
3. ___________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________

CONCLUSION:

We the undersigned have read and understood fully the provisions of this contract. We freely accept the
terms of this contract and have acknowledged this by our signatures.

___________________________________ _________________________________
Party A signature Party B signature

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OPEN RELATIONSHIP APPENDIX

Discuss with your partner the characteristics that each of you agree the other partner can date.

PEOPLE:
I agree to choose potential partners who are:
Party A:
Men: ______ Women: ______ Not important: _______
Couple:______ Single: _______ Not important: _______
Older: ______ Younger: _____ Not Important: _____
Straight: _____ Gay: _____ Bi: _____

I agree to choose potential partners who are:

My: Friend: ______ Acquaintance: _____ Colleague: _____ Ex: _____Stranger: _______
My Partners: Friend: ______ Acquaintance: _____ Colleague: _____ Ex: _____Stranger: _______

Appearance/body type: ______________________ Type of person: _____________________________

Party B:
I agree to choose potential partners who are:
Men: ______ Women: ______ Not Important: _______
Couple:______ Single: _______ Not Important: _______
Older: ______ Younger: _____ Not Important: _____
Straight: _____ Gay: _____ Bi: _____

I agree to choose potential partners who are:

My: Friend: ______ Acquaintance: _____ Colleague: _____ Ex: _____Stranger: _______
My Partners: Friend: ______ Acquaintance: _____ Colleague: _____ Ex: _____Stranger: _______

Appearance/body type: ______________________ Type of person:_____________________________

FREQUENCY:

Time allowable to see another partner:

- Every day: ___2-3 X/week: ___1 X /week: ___ 2-3 X / month: ___ 2 3 X/year:___
Time allowable to see another partner at one time: 2- 3 hours: ____ 1 day:___ 2+ days _____
Reserved days/times for my primary partner: _______________

WHERE:
Play parties: yes ____, no _____, depends on __________
In town: yes ____, no _____, depends on __________
Our bed: yes ____, no _____, depends on __________
Our home: yes ____, no _____, depends on __________
Other: _________________ yes ____, no _____, depends on __________
Other: _________________ yes ____, no _____, depends on __________

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OPEN RELATIONSHIP APPENDIX cont.

ACTIVITIES:
Party A:
Activities I can do with another partner:
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________

Activities I will not do with another partner

______________________________________________
______________________________________________

Party B:
Activities I can do with another partner:
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
______________________________________________

Activities I will not do with another partner

______________________________________________
______________________________________________

SAFE SEX:
Safe sex is defined as: ____________________________________________

Safe sex will be practiced during: Oral sex: _____ Vaginal Penetration: _____ Anal penetration: _____
Manual: _____ Any wet activities: _______ Other (____________________): ______

OTHER BOUNDARIES:
_________________________________________
_________________________________________
_________________________________________
_________________________________________

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