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Raising
Responsible Children
Likely it is the last thing parents think about as they look at their pre-
cious newborn. But it is a simple truth: Eventually that tiny infant will
grow to become a young adult who will live on his own. This is as it was
meant to be, for the Bible says that “a man will leave his father and his
mother.” (Genesis 2:24) Of course, the same could be said of a young
woman.
Nevertheless, on that bittersweet day when a grown son or daughter
leaves home, many parents are anxious. ‘Did I raise my child properly?’
they wonder. ‘Will he [or she] be able to keep a job, maintain an apart-
ment, and live within a budget?’ Even more important, ‘Will my child live
by the values we have tried to instill?’—Proverbs 22:6; 2 Timothy 3:15.
This special issue of Awake! will show how the Bible’s advice can
help parents at each stage of their child’s growth.
HOW TO RAISE RESPONSIBLE CHILDREN
BABY’S brain has been called “the most All of these are most frequently and readily
A powerful learning machine in the uni-
verse,” and for good reason. An infant en-
available in the form of an adult care-taking
human being.” No wonder parents play such
ters the world primed to absorb all the sights, a vital role in the child’s development!
sounds, and sensations that surround him.1
“I Spoke as an Infant”
Above all, the infant is intrigued by other
humans—their faces, their voices, their touch. Parents and pediatricians alike are as-
The book Babyhood, by Penelope Leach, tounded by a newborn’s ability to learn a lan-
states: “Many studies have been made of guage by merely listening to it. Researchers
the sights which interest an infant most, the have found that within days, an infant is ac-
sounds which attract and hold his attention, customed to his mother’s voice and prefers it
the sensations he most clearly seeks to repeat. over that of a stranger; within weeks, he can
tell the difference between the speech sounds
1 For the sake of simplicity, throughout this magazine we re- of his parents’ native tongue and those of
fer to the child as a male. However, the principles discussed ap-
ply to both genders. other languages; and within months, he can
sense the junctures between words and thus Baby cries, and someone is there to change
tell the difference between normal speech him. Baby cries, and someone is there to hold
and unintelligible sounds. him. Such pampering is appropriate and nec-
The Christian apostle Paul wrote: “When essary. It is a primary way that parents fulfill
I was an infant, I spoke as an infant.” (1 Co-their role as caretakers.—1 Thessalonians 2:7.
rinthians 13:11, Modern King James Version) In view of the above, it is only natural if a
How does an infant speak? Usually with baby believes that he is at the center of the
an outpouring of incoherent babbling. Just universe and that adults—in particular, par-
noise? Hardly! In her book What’s Going On ents—exist solely to do his bidding. That view
in There?—How the Brain and Mind Develop in is flawed but completely understandable. Re-
the First Five Years of Life, Dr. Lise Eliot re-
member, for more than a year, that has been
minds us that the act of speaking is “an intri-
the baby’s reality. In his view, he is the mon-
cate motor task, requiring the rapid coordina-arch of an empire populated by big people
tion of dozens of muscles controlling the lips,
who were put here to serve him. Family coun-
tongue, palate, and larynx.” She adds: “While selor John Rosemond writes: “It takes just
babbling may seem to be just an enchanting short of two years to create this fantastic im-
way for babies to get attention, it also serves
pression; it takes at least sixteen more years
as a very important rehearsal for the complex to correct it! And that, paradoxically, is a par-
gymnastics of speaking.” ent’s job: cause his/her child to believe in this
Parents respond to their infant’s babbling fantasy, then burst—albeit gently—the child’s
with animated speech of their own, and this bubble.”
too serves a purpose. Exaggerated speech At about age two, the bubble does indeed
stimulates the infant to respond. This back- burst as a parent shifts roles from caretaker
and-forth exchange teaches the infant the ru- to instructor. Now the baby becomes aware
diments of conversation—a skill he will use
that his parents are not following his lead; in-
for the rest of his life.
stead, he is being expected to follow theirs.
Shifting Roles The baby’s monarchy has been overthrown,
Parents of infants are kept quite busy re- and he may not take well to the new regime.
sponding to their newborn’s everyday needs. Frustrated, he attempts to hold his ground.
Baby cries, and someone is there to feed him. How?
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More than ever before, a three-year-old is beginning
to learn the concepts of right and wrong, good and bad
Coping With Tantrums Well, consider the radical shift that has tak-
At about two years of age, many babies ex- en place in the toddler’s life. Until recently, all
hibit a radical change of behavior, often in- he had to do was whimper, and adults would
cluding fits of bad temper known as tantrums. come running. Now he begins to realize that
This period is so frustrating for parents that it his “rule” was only temporary and that he
has been termed “the terrible twos”! Sudden- will have to do at least some things for him-
ly, the toddler’s favorite expression is “No!” self. More and more, he comes to understand
or “I don’t want to!” He may become frus- that he is in a submissive role, which can be
trated with both himself and his parents as summed up by the Bible’s statement: “Chil-
he struggles with his own conflicting feelings. dren, be obedient to your parents in every-
He wants to be away from you, yet he wants thing.”—Colossians 3:20.
to be near you. To bewildered parents, little During this difficult period, parents should
seems to make sense, and even less seems to hold on to the reins of authority. If they do so
work. What is going on? in a firm but loving way, the child will adjust
to his new role. And the stage will be set for
further marvels of growth.
Moral Character
Animals, even machines, can recognize
WHY TANTRUMS words and imitate speech. But only a human
MAY KEEP COMING can step back and examine himself. Thus, at
“Some parents feel that tan-
about two or three years of age, a toddler is
trums occur because they have able to feel such emotions as pride, shame,
made some mistake in dealing guilt, and embarrassment. These are the first
with the child’s demands,” writes stages toward his becoming an adult with
John Rosemond in New Parent moral qualities—one who can firmly stand up
Power. “It stands to reason, if for what is right, even when others are doing
they are to blame for the child’s wrong.
tantrum, that they must right the At about this time, parents are thrilled to
wrong as quickly as possible. experience yet another wonder. Their child
So, having said no, they say yes. is becoming aware of the feelings of others.
Or, having spanked, they then give Whereas at two years of age, he only played
the child more than he or she alongside others, now he may play with them.
originally demanded, to keep their He also recognizes when his parents feel good
guilt at bay. These maneuvers and may want to please them. Thus, he is like-
work. The tantrum stops, the par- ly to become more teachable.
ent is relieved, and the child, learn- More than ever before, a three-year-old is
ing that tantrums are a successful beginning to learn the concepts of right and
means of obtaining things, throws wrong, good and bad. Clearly, this is a time
more and better ones.”
for parents to train their children with the
goal of helping them to become responsible
adults.
6 Awake! October 2011
WHAT PARENTS SAY
If you are the parent of a preschool child, you likely face challenges.
For example, how should you deal with the tantrums? How can you teach
your child right from wrong and give balanced correction? Note how some
parents have dealt with these issues.
TANTRUMS
“During the ‘terrible twos,’ a child expects to get
what he wants. Our son had this problem. If his de-
mands weren’t met, he would throw things. This was
our first child, so we had no prior experience with tan-
trums. It didn’t help when others told us that this kind
of behavior should be expected.”—Susan, Kenya.
“At the age of two, our daughter would lie on the
floor, scream, cry, kick . . . It was exasperating! Trying
to talk to her at that moment didn’t work. So my hus- “Toddlers experiment to see
band and I would send her to her room and quietly tell how far they can push limits.
her that when she felt better, she could come out Allowing a child to do what you
and we would discuss the matter with her. Once she have clearly forbidden sends a
calmed down, one of us would go to her room and confusing message. We found
help her understand why her behavior was unaccept- that when we were firm and
able. This method was successful. Once we even consistent, our children gradually
overheard her praying to God, asking for his forgive- learned that screaming is not the
ness. In time, her tantrums became fewer and then way to get what they want.”
stopped.”—Yolanda, Spain. —Neil, Britain.
DISCIPLINE
“When a child is under five years of age, it’s difficult
to measure how well he is listening. The key is repeti-
tion. You have to repeat and repeat, seemingly thou-
sands of times, along with gestures and a firm tone.”
—Serge, France.
“Even though they were being raised in the same
“It is important not to com- environment, each of our four children was unique.
promise. But at the same time, One would cry just knowing that she had disappointed
a parent shouldn’t be dogmatic us; another would try to see how far she could push
or rigid. Sometimes, when the the limits. In some instances a stern look or scolding
child is truly sorry, we feel that would be enough, while at other times we’d have to
it’s best to be reasonable and enforce a consequence.”—Nathan, Canada.
lighten the discipline.”
—Matthieu, France.
“I try not to impose too many rules, but
the ones that exist are nonnegotiable. My
three-year-old son knows the consequences
of disobedience, and that helps him control
his behavior. True, when I’m tired it would
be easier for me to ignore his wrong actions.
But for the sake of consistency, I force myself
to act. Consistency is everything!”
—Natalie, Canada.
CONSISTENCY
“Little children seem to have a memory chip people are present. If my answer is no, I say
that records any inconsistency from a parent.” so from the beginning, and I make it clear to my
—Milton, Bolivia. son that I will not listen to constant pleadings.”
“Sometimes my son would ask about the —Chang-seok, Korea.
same matter in different ways in an attempt “Both parents need to present a united
to see if we would give the same answer. Or front. If my wife and I don’t agree on some-
if I say one thing and his mother says some- thing, we talk about it in private. Children can
thing else, he will see that as ´a loophole and detect when their parents are not united on
try to take advantage of it.”—Angel, Spain. an issue, and they will try to take advantage
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“Sometimes I ignored my son’s bad behav- of the situation.”—Jesus, Spain.
ior when I was in a good mood but punished “When a child knows that his parents are
him harshly when I was in a bad mood. I found united and that they cannot be manipulated,
that this would only aggravate the bad behav- he has security. He knows what to expect,
ior.”—Gyeong-ok, Korea. whether he is obedient or disobedient.”
“It is important for young children to under- —Damaris, Germany.
stand that if a certain type of behavior is wrong “To my wife and me, consistency also in-
today, it will always be wrong.”—Antonio, Brazil. volves keeping our word when we promise our
“If parents aren’t consistent, the child will daughter something nice. This way she learns
think that Dad and Mom are unpredictable, that she can rely on our promises.”—Hendrick,
that their decisions depend on their mood. Germany.
But if parents stick to their principles, children “If my employer constantly changed what
will know that what is wrong is always wrong. was required of me on the job, I would be
This is one way that parents provide security irritated. Children are no different. They find
and love.”—Gilmar, Brazil. security in knowing the rules and knowing that
“Children can take advantage of situations the rules won’t change. They also need to know
in which a parent seems to have little choice the consequences of disobedience and that
but to give in to a request—such as when other these won’t change either.”—Glenn, Canada.
Unplanned Pregnancy
HOW WE ADJUSTED
As told by Tom and Yoonhee Han Tom and
Yoonhee with
their daughter,
Amanda
“Up until your children are five years old, The responsibility of raising children in-
they are in cozy family surroundings and it cludes a number of challenges. Let us consid-
is easier to instill good qualities in them. But er just a few of them.
once they start school, they are exposed to A Time to Listen
different ways of doing things and different The Bible says that while there is “a time
ways of speaking.”—Valter, Italy. to speak,” there is also a time to listen. (Ec-
clesiastes 3:7) How can you teach your
S CHILDREN grow, they explore the child to pay attention when others—includ-
A boundaries of their expanding world.
They interact with more people—playmates,
ing you—are speaking? One way is to set the
example. Do you listen attentively to others,
schoolmates, and extended family. As Valter, including your children?
quoted above, notes, you are no longer the Children can easily be distracted, and no
sole influence in your child’s life, as you were doubt your patience will be tested as you at-
when he was an infant. That is why it is es- tempt to communicate with them. Each child
sential that you use these years to teach your is different, so be observant and determine
child the value of obedience and good man- which methods of communication work best
ners. It is also important to provide direction with your child. For example, David, a fa-
with regard to right and wrong. ther in Britain, says: “I get our daughter to tell
The skills just described do not come me in her own words what I have just said.
quickly and intuitively. Likely, you will need As a result, she is listening more as she gets
to “reprove, reprimand, exhort, with all long- older.”
suffering and art of teaching.” (2 Timothy When Jesus was instructing his disciples,
4:2) Israelite parents were commanded re- he told them: “Pay attention to how you lis-
garding God’s laws: “You must inculcate ten.” (Luke 8:18) If adults need to do that,
them in your son and speak of them when how much more so do children!
you sit in your house and when you walk on
the road and when you lie down and when “Forgiving One Another Freely”
you get up.” (Deuteronomy 6:6, 7) As that The Bible states: “Continue putting up
scripture indicates, your ongoing instruction with one another and forgiving one anoth-
is vital. er freely if anyone has a cause for complaint
10 Awake! October 2011
against another.” (Colossians 3:13) Children
can be trained to develop the ability to for-
give. How?
As discussed above regarding the art of lis-
tening, you need to set the example. Let your
children see you display a spirit of forgive-
ness in your dealings with others. Marina, a
mother in Russia, makes an effort to do that.
“We try to set a good example for our chil-
dren in forgiving others, making concessions,
and not getting offended,” she says, adding:
“When I am wrong, I apologize to my chil-
dren. I want them to learn to do the same in
their dealings with others.”
The ability to resolve differences and for-
give will be necessary in adulthood. Train
your children now to be considerate of others Children can learn to be
and to accept responsibility for their own mis- thoughtful of others
takes. By doing so, you will be imparting a
valuable gift that will serve them well as they velop lasting and close relationships later in
grow. life.
“Show Yourselves Thankful” “Do Not Hold Back Discipline”
In these “critical times hard to deal with,” As your children grow, it is essential for
many people are “lovers of themselves.” them to learn that actions have consequences.
(2 Timothy 3:1, 2) Now, while your children Even at a young age, children are answerable
are young, is the time to instill in them a spir- to authority, not only in the home but also at
it of gratitude. “Show yourselves thankful,” school and in the community. You can help
wrote the apostle Paul.—Colossians 3:15. your children learn the principle that you
Even while they are young, children can reap what you sow. (Galatians 6:7) How?
learn to show good manners and be thought- The Bible states: “Do not hold back disci-
ful of others. How? “The best thing you can pline.” (Proverbs 23:13) If you have made it
do to engender a thankful attitude is to dem- clear that a certain wrong act will bring a par-
onstrate it tirelessly at home,” Dr. Kyle Pruett ticular consequence, do not be afraid to fol-
tells Parents magazine. He adds: “This means low through. “Consistency is vital,” says Nor-
that you’re regularly saying how much you ma, a mother in Argentina. “Inconsistency
appreciate the help you get or other acts of encourages a child to manipulate situations
thoughtfulness . . . It takes lots of practice.” according to his liking.”
Richard, a father in Britain, strives to do Parents can do much to avoid endless
that: “My wife and I demonstrate how to wrangling after a misdemeanor by making
thank those who have been kind to us, such sure their children understand the conse-
as schoolteachers or grandparents,” he says. quences of disobedience beforehand. Chil-
“Whenever we visit a family for a meal, we dren are less likely to resist if they know the
write a thank-you card, and all the children rules and what will happen if they break those
sign it or draw a picture on it.” Being gra- rules and if they have reason to believe that
cious and thankful will help your child to de- the consequences are nonnegotiable.
Awake! October 2011 11
Correct children in such a way that they retain their dignity
Succeeding as a
Single Parent
An interview with
Lucinda Forster
Lucinda with her daughters, Brie and Shae
What is most challenging for relaxed environment. I also newspapers for inexpensive
you as a single parent? constantly tell them how much activities. We go on picnics or
Simply being a parent is I love them. take walks to see the plants
daunting, but as a single par- How do you administer growing in nurseries. We plant
ent, I find it especially challeng- discipline? herbs in our garden and have
ing to manage my time and fun selecting our own herbs
Children need definite
energy. It takes time to instill for cooking. Recreation is im-
boundaries, and consistency
principles and values and still portant, even if we just spend
is essential. I try to be kind but
have an opportunity to relax time at a local park.
firm. I have to reason with my
and laugh together. I often children and explain why a par- What joys and rewards have
have to sacrifice my relaxation ticular behavior is wrong. I also you experienced?
time to get household chores try to draw them out before Living in a single-parent
done. disciplining them, to determine household has been difficult
How do you maintain good why they behaved the way they for us, but we have drawn clos-
communication with your did. If I am in the wrong—for ex- er to one another, and we
daughters? ample, if I have misunderstood have learned to appreciate the
a situation—I apologize. blessings we have. I love to
After a divorce, children see how each child’s personal-
can feel insecure and angry. How do you teach your
children respect for others? ity is developing. At this age
I find that when problems they want to spend time with
arise, eye contact and a calm I remind them of what Jesus
me, and I cherish their compa-
tone of voice are essential. taught—to treat others as you
ny. They are perceptive of my
I wait until we are calm, would like to be treated. (Luke
moods and will sometimes
and then I try to express my 6:31) I encourage the girls to
just give me a hug to reassure
concern without making a big sort out their own issues as
me. Their expressions of love
issue. I ask for their opinions, much as possible, and I teach
give me great joy. Most impor-
listen very carefully, and them the value of responding
tant, we have felt the love of
show that I really value their mildly and kindly when they
a caring Creator who has
feelings. I take an interest in are upset.
helped us through many dif-
their schooling and commend What do you do for ficult situations. The Bible has
them for what they do. We relaxation? given me strength to keep
always eat meals together We can’t always afford to go trying to be a good parent.
at the table in a calm and away on vacation, so we look in —Isaiah 41:13.
Awake! October 2011 15
Adolescence
PREPARING FOR ADULTHOOD
CHANGES
“When he was younger, my son would
take my counsel without questioning it. But dur-
ing the teenage years, he seemed to lose confi-
dence in my authority. He questioned both what
I said and the manner in which I said it.”—Frank,
Canada.
“My son doesn’t talk as much as he used
to. I have to ask him what’s on his mind rather “Patience is very important. At times
than expect him to tell me. Getting him to we may want to lash out at our children,
answer a question isn’t easy. The answer will but calming down and having a conversa-
come—but not right away.”—Francis, Australia. tion with them is always a better solution!”
—Felicia, United States.
COMMUNICATION
“Sometimes my teenage daughter has this their hearts. To open the door for that, we
wall of defense that she puts up, and some- need to be ready to hear what they have to
times she thinks that I’m picking on her. I have say, even if that includes things we would
to remind her that I love her, that we’re on the prefer not to hear.”—Dalila, Brazil.
same team, and that I’m rooting for her!” “If I have to correct my daughter, I try to
—Lisa, United States. do so privately rather than in the presence of
“When they were younger, my children readi- others.”—Edna, Nigeria.
ly opened up to me. It was easy to draw them “Sometimes when I am talking with my son,
out. Now I have to try to be understanding and I begin to get distracted by other activities in
to show that I respect them as individuals. the home and I don’t give him my complete
That is the only way they will open up their attention. He realizes it, and I think that
hearts to me.”—Nan-hi, Korea. is one of the reasons why he doesn’t talk with
“It’s not enough to forbid teenagers to do me much. I need to try to pay more attention
certain things. We have to reason with them to him when we talk so that he will continue
and have meaningful conversations that touch expressing himself.”—Miriam, Mexico.
INDEPENDENCE
“I had always been apprehensive about “We set limits, but we also granted free-
granting independence to my teenagers, and doms, gradually. The better our children han-
it definitely has been a source of some conflict. dled those freedoms, the more they received.
I discussed the matter openly with them. I ex- We provided them with opportunities to earn
plained why I felt fearful, after which they ex- freedom, showing them that it was our desire
plained why they desired more freedom. We for them to obtain it; but we would not withhold
were able to reach an agreement by which they consequences if they abused our trust.”
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could have more freedom within the reasonable —Dorothee, France.
limits that I had set up.”—Edwin, Ghana. “I never lowered my standards. But when
“My son wanted a motorbike. I was so much my children were obedient, I was willing to
against the idea that I found myself scolding make concessions. For instance, on occasion
him and pointing out all the negative aspects I would relax their curfew. But if they broke a
of buying one, without giving him any opportuni- curfew more than once, there would be conse-
ty to explain himself. That made him angry quences.”—Il-hyun, Korea.
and more determined to get one! I decided to “The more obedient and responsible an
try a different approach. I encouraged my son to employee is, the more consideration he will
research the subject from every angle, including receive from his boss. Likewise, my son can
the dangers, the expense, and the require- see that the more obedient and responsible
ments to obtain and maintain a license. I also he is within the boundaries we have given him,
told him to seek the advice of mature Chris- the more independence he will gradually earn.
tians in the congregation. I came to realize that My son knows that just as an employee is
instead of being oppressive, it was better for penalized for not fulfilling his responsibilities,
me to encourage my son to talk freely about his he can lose the independence that he’s
wishes. In that way I could reach his heart.” earned if he doesn’t handle it responsibly.”
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—Hye-young, Korea. —Ramon, Mexico.
“Parenting Adolescents Is a
Wonderful Experience”
Joseph: My two oldest her, and reassuring her. My
daughters are teenagers, and husband and I let our daugh-
I find that it’s important to lis- ters know that they can ex-
ten to and acknowledge their press themselves and that we
viewpoints. Being honest about will respect their feelings. I try
my own shortcomings—and to apply the wisdom of James
showing respect when talking 1:19, which says to be “swift
to my daughters—helps keep about hearing, slow about
the lines of communication speaking.”
open. All told, I feel that parent- Victoria: My mom is my The Camera family: Joseph,
ing adolescents is a wonderful best friend. I’ve never met any- Lisa, Victoria, Olivia, and
experience, thanks to the guid- Isabella
one as sweet and as caring
ance we get from God’s Word, —and she’s that way with
the Bible. everyone. I can’t think of a bet-
Lisa: I noticed that when ter word to describe her than don’t have much ourselves. He
our oldest daughter became a “genuine.” She could never be knows how to be serious, but
teenager, she needed my at- replaced. he also really knows how to
tention even more. I can re- Olivia: My dad is caring have a good time. He’s a spe-
member spending much time and generous. He’s always giv- cial dad, and I’m glad he’s
listening to her, talking with ing of himself even when we mine!
If your adolescent develops a love for God him to treat people with respect and to re-
and his standards, he will make wise choices, solve conflicts peacefully? (Ephesians 4:29,
even when you are not present.—Psalm 119: 31, 32) The Bible says: “Honor men of all
97; Philippians 2:12. sorts.”—1 Peter 2:17.
Money Management. (Luke 14:28) Can you
Impart Practical Skills
help your adolescent to learn a trade, work
As brought out on page 2 of this magazine, within a budget, and avoid debt? Have you
the day will come—perhaps all too soon, in trained him to save for needed items and
your view—when your grown child “will leave avoid impulse buying and to be content with
his father and his mother.” (Genesis 2:24) necessities? (Proverbs 22:7) Paul wrote:
As a parent, you want to make sure that he “Having sustenance and covering, we shall be
has the skills he needs in order to function content.”—1 Timothy 6:8.
as an independent adult. Consider some of Adolescents who learn to live by upright
the skills that you can help him develop now, values and who have developed practical
while he is still at home. skills are truly prepared for adulthood. Their
Domestic Skills. Can your adolescent pre- parents have reached their goal!—Proverbs
pare meals? wash and iron his clothes? keep 23:24.
his room clean and organized? perform main-
tenance and basic repairs on a car? Devel-
oping such skills will enable either a son HAVE YOU WONDERED?
or a daughter to manage a household some- ˘ What is your goal as a parent?
day. The apostle Paul said: “I have learned, —Hebrews 5:14.
in whatever circumstances I am, to be self- ˘ What will be your adolescent’s own
sufficient.”—Philippians 4:11. responsibility when he becomes an
Social Skills. (James 3:17) How well does adult?—Joshua 24:15.
your adolescent get along with others? Can
he settle disputes amicably? Have you trained
YOUNG
PEOPLE
ASK
Who am I?
S
S T R E N GT H
Michael sees Brad approaching, and WEAKNESSES
he dreads what is about to happen. “Hey,
Mikey, try this!” Brad says. Brad opens
his hand, and Michael sees exactly what
he expected to see—a fresh marijuana
joint. He doesn’t want to accept it, but he
doesn’t want to seem like a loser either.
“Look,” Michael says weakly, “maybe an-
other time. . . . OK?”
N THE above scenarios, why is Jessica bet- music, while others are athletically inclined.
I ter able to resist the pressure? Because she
has something that Michael doesn’t. Do you
Raquel has a knack for fixing cars.1 “When
I was about 15,” she says, “I realized that
know what it is? An identity. No, not a card I wanted to be a mechanic.”
with a name and a photo on it. An identity is Bible example: The apostle Paul wrote:
an inner sense that tells you who you are and “Even if I am unskilled in speech, I certainly
what you stand for. Armed with that knowl- am not in knowledge.” (2 Corinthians 11:6)
edge, you’re empowered to say no to trouble With his thorough grasp of the Scriptures,
—to control your life instead of letting others Paul was able to stand his ground when oth-
control it for you. How can you develop such ers challenged him. He didn’t let their nega-
confidence? Answering the following ques- tive attitude shake his confidence.—2 Corin-
tions is a good start. thians 10:10; 11:5.
Analyze yourself. Below, write down a tal-
1 WHAT ARE MY STRENGTHS?
ent or skill that you possess.
Why it matters: Knowing your abilities and
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positive traits will boost your confidence.
Now describe a character strength that you
Consider: Everyone has various gifts. For
example, some people are talented in art or 1 Some names in this article have been changed.
”
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FOR DISCUSSION: What do you
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learn from these verses? Is just know-
FINISH 36 ing God’s name enough to receive his
favor? CLUE: Read Psalm 91:2; Prov-
erbs 3:5, 6. Why are you wise to avoid
meddling in other people’s matters?
5 CLUE: Read Galatians 6:5-7; 1 Thessa-
2 lonians 4:11; 1 Peter 4:15. Next, read
Proverbs 26:18, 19. Are practical jokes
simply harmless fun? CLUE: Read Prov-
erbs 14:13; 15:21; Matthew 7:12.
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Jerusalem
Last Bible
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The queen of
Sheba traveled some
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1 C.E.
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wisdom
S O L O M O N
1000 B.C.E.
Lived circa
PROFILE The second son of David and
Bath-sheba. Solomon ruled Israel for
40 years. He built a great house for
Jehovah’s worship. (1 Kings 5:2-5) Je-
hovah used Solomon to write Proverbs,
Ecclesiastes, and Song of Solomon. Bad
association with foreign wives led him
away from Jehovah.—1 Kings 11:1-6.
years of life, but for what? B. 3,000, 1,005.—1 Kings 4:29, 32.
B. Fill in the blanks. Solomon could C. Jedidiah, meaning “Beloved of Jeho-
speak
proverbs, and his songs vah.”—2 Samuel 12:24, 25.
came to be
.
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created
4026 B.C.E.
Adam
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