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Filipino Culture On Marriage and How It Affects Filipino Couples and The Idea of Live-In Relationships
Filipino Culture On Marriage and How It Affects Filipino Couples and The Idea of Live-In Relationships
LIVE-IN RELATIONSHIPS
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INTRODUCTION
making a life together, and second as institutions which serves a vital societal purpose.
Also, Marriage is defined that it is the process by which two people make their
relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that
putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Over the
course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot
happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes.
Filipino marriage still remains a very strong commitment. Though, not all
Filipinos have the privilege to get married, or they don’t see it as a necessity for them
as a couple. For over the past dozen years, the number of registered marriages has
fallen to 30% according to the Philippine Statistics Authority. The lack of a divorce law,
the high cost of getting married and the growing acceptance of live-in arrangements
and same-sex unions were some of the factors cited behind the 30-percent dive in the
Traditionally, the Filipino approach to marriage is one of a family alliance. The opinions
of parents, relatives and their choices usually carry much weight. The trend today
however, which is very evident in an urban context, is that the couples are able to
exercise their choice more independently from parental influence. In the present
sample, 70 percent of the women and 67 percent of the men made an independent
choice of their spouse. The age of the respondents at the time of marriage emerged
parents' influence was directly associated with higher ages at time of marriage.
Parental influence of mate choice was not only more frequently present among the
and have a sexual relationship without being married. Also, it is defined as a living
Couples cohabit, rather than marry, for a variety of reasons. They may want to
test their compatibility before they commit to a legal union. They may want to maintain
their single status for financial reasons. In some cases, such as those involving gay
or lesbian couples, or individuals already married to another person, the law does not
allow them to marry. In other cases, the partners may feel that marriage is
emerges as accepted family form, its continued uptake over time may reflect different
different educational backgrounds may have different reasons for opting into or out of
over time.
ages 15 to 49 were formally married and six percent were cohabiting in 1998. A decade
1. What is marriage?
2. What is cohabitation?
3. What are the effects of the Filipino culture of marriage to lived in couples?
4. What are the reasons why some Filipinos are lived in?
5. According to the gathered data which is a better choice for Filipino couples?
METHODOLOGY
The researchers mainly used the qualitative approach for this study. This
sources.
The researchers gathered data from books found in the library. But, it doesn’t
limit to physical copies only, the researchers also searched for data from online books,
articles, and researches related to the study. The researchers interviewed Filipino
cohabiting couples first handedly to get data from the subject’s experience.
The researchers also asked information from the elderly people, and sought
data from books and online resources on how the Filipinos see marriage comparing
to the lived-in partners throughout the time on how they see the effect of it in the
society.
The researchers also gathered information from the family of the lived-in
partners, on what effects they see on it. Also the researchers gathered the information
The results of the study are gathered from books and thesis regarding
Cohabitation, which is the focus of the study. Moreover, there are some parts that
required the researchers to get data from the married and cohabiting couples
themselves.
I. What is marriage?
defined marriage as the emotional and legal commitment of two people to share
emotional and physical intimacy, various tasks, and economic resources. The
society.
2. Marriage is joining two family and social networks. When individuals marry, they
marry not only each other but their partner’s family and friends. Friends of both
partners may be affected; only those friends liked by both partners tend to
3. Marriage is legal contract between the couple and the state. Each state
financial unit for most purposes. As a group, married couples are probably
6. Marriage is the context of most human sexual activity. Most couples rate this
7. Marriage is a reproduction unit. Most married couples become parents and see
Although many marriages fail, many other provide a supportive context in which
Under Article 1 of the Family Code of the Philippines, Marriage is also defined
as “a special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman entered into
in accordance with the law for the establishment of conjugal and family life. It is the
consequences, and incidents are governed by law and not subject to stipulation,
except that marriage settlements may fix the property relations during the marriage
According to Olson and DeFrain (1994), couples can give many positive
reasons for marrying, but they often have difficulty in identifying reasons not to marry.
1. Companionship.
3. Supportive Partnership
growth as a human being and for nurturing the growth of one’s partner.
4. Sexual Partnership
for both partners, although this view was declined in the 1970s and
5. Sharing Parenthood
Data on marriages presented in this release were obtained from the Certificates
of Marriage (Municipal Form No. 97) that were registered at the Office of the
City/Municipal Civil Registrars all throughout the country and forwarded to the
which occurred from January to December 2015. Figures presented are not adjusted
The number of registered marriages showed an erratic trend for the past 10
years. The most notable change occurred in 2013 which recorded a decrease of 8.2
percent from 482,399 in 2012 to 442,603. It is also interesting to note that from that
year up to 2015, the number of marriages declined continuously. Registered marriages
declined by 2.9 percent in 2014 and 3.6 percent in 2015. (See Figure 1)
2005 to 2015.
Figure 1
According to legal dictionary, couple cohabit rather than marry, for a variety of
reasons. They may want to test their compatibility before they commit to a legal union.
They may want to maintain their single status for financial reasons. In some cases,
another person, the law does not allow them to marry. In other cases, the partners
cohabitation, and they also analyzed the marital and nonmarital union experiences of
25 – 27 year olds. They find that attitudes toward cohabitation remain quite
conservative among young Filipinos, although men view cohabitation more favorably
than do women. They also find that men’s socioeconomic status affects their ability to
enter unions, particularly marriage, whereas women’s union formation patterns are
influenced by the family in which they grew up, their participation in religious services,
and to some degree by their place of residence. Both men and women who hold more
liberal attitudes on a range of issues are more likely to have cohabited than are
individuals who do not share those views. For now, however, Williams, Kabamalan
and Ogena (2007) do not expect cohabitation to become a widespread substitute for
Kabamalan and Omega (2007) says that ‘In the face of unforeseen events, like
more practical considerations gain prominence. For some young people, they are
willing to wait when the ‘time is right” while for others cohabitation becomes a rational
choice.’
III. What are the reasons why some Filipinos are lived in?
1. FinancialReason
that marriage especially a church wedding is what most of the women are
courts could be a sign of fulfillment for this dream. “Oo naman syempre, kahit
huwes lang”. However there is one barrier that prevents them from realizing
kami.”
This statement seems to show that the couple decide to cohabit just after the
child was born. It could be deduced that they decide to cohabit is because of
the child. As a matter of fact, Graefe and Lichier (1999) mentioned in their study
that cohabiting couples are encourage to find ways to secure the economic well
being of the children. This again increase of possibility that the quality of the
3. Married at first
maghahabol.”
Such a response indicates that the respondent wants to get married but she
needs to postpone it. She is distressed by the possibility that they marry her
partner’s former wife might come to sue them. According to Clarkberg (1995)
stated in their study where those in post divorce cohabitation are expected to
show behavior that are non-traditional. Most likely they would exhibit attitude or
However the response affirm the finding of Yabiku and Gager (2009), who said
gradually developed into deeper intimacy as the couple learn to find way to
Mynarska & Bernardi (2007) in their analysis of meanings and attitudes attached to
cohabitation in Poland said that while “cohabitation was interpreted as a testing period
leading to marriage, attitude towards it are still very ambiguous” (p. 519) with the key
issue of “commitment” differentiating the two. The study of Korteweg (2001) examining
the meanings of marital union in the Netherlands found similar results which tells the
IV. What are the effects of the Filipino culture of marriage to lived in couples?
them answered with a “Jinu-judge po kami ng mga tao.” and “‘Di namin nararanasan
ang mga benefits ng kasal”. Also, the respondents said that cohabitation still can’t beat
marriage. Many women in cohabiting couples say that they are insecure and feel that
they are not loved because they are not married. They also felt that their relationship
is temporary, and the risk of breaking up is high. Though, because of some reasons
(like financial problems, the partner is still married to another, unplanned pregnancy),
V. According to the gathered data which is a better choice for Filipino couples?
The researchers gathered data to make a comparison between the legal and
Marriage wins over living together in terms of relationship costs and benefits.
infidelity compared to a married couple since they view their sexual relationships as
temporary. Living together also affects the emotional development of children because
of the high risks of divorce according to Manning (2015). She explains, “Only one out
of three children born to cohabiting parents remains in a stable family through age 12,
in contrast to nearly three out of four children born to married parents.” During break-
up children pay economic and emotional price, and sometimes there is a high chance
of child abuse, when children live without both parents. Similarly, married women are
less likely than cohabiting women to suffer sexual and physical abuse. In terms of
financial management, married couples are better off than cohabiting partners.
Married couples utilize budgets and spending plans to monitor the use of finances.
compulsory heir of the other. Also, cohabiting couples cannot avail the privileges
provided in Rule I30, Sections 20(b) and 2I(a) of the Revised Rules of Court. A
cohabitant has no right to intervene in the probate proceedings of the deceased unless
she is named as an heir of the deceased. Therefore, cohabitants are deprived of rights
To sum it all up, Marriage is still a better choice for Filipinos for it has more
mean that marriage is still valued as a significant institution of family formation. They
want to get married not only for the children but for a lasting relationship that marriage
could offer and contract marriage legally not only because it will make their relationship
Marriage among couples is already set as a norm by the society. Due to this,
marriage truly affects live in couples. Cohabitants are often looked down upon by their
families and the community; asking why are they not settling for marriage, why did
they have a relationship with a married partner, and nagging that marriage is better
than simply living in. Also, in some cases, partners felt insecure about their relationship
often asking to themselves why aren’t they marrying if they truly love each other?
benefits husband, wife and their children more than cohabitation. Cohabitation
provides less of the benefits and rewards that are available in a committed and strong
marriage. When individuals are married rather than cohabiting, they are better off to
gain personal wealth, physical health, and emotional health. Cohabitation is becoming
more popular among the young adults; though, it has numerous costs than benefits.
intimate relationship.
RECOMMENDATIONS
The study has found effects of the culture of marriage to cohabitants. But, the
respondent’s responses are not enough, and it doesn’t cover a lot. We, the
more data.
between marriage and cohabitation, and the effect of cohabitation to the youth. Lastly,
we are recommending that the government will somehow consider on giving legal
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