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Emotional Awareness
In this first module of Emotional Toughness Training, we’ll ex-
plore emotional awareness to help you better understand why
you react to situations in the manner that you do. Champions
know who they are and what makes them tick. This is called
emotional awareness and it can help you develop a road map
that guides your life journey. Among other activities in this edi-
tion, I’ll show you how to find your strength zone to become
more successful and happier at work, find your true calling in
life, and establish a vision to guide you along your path.
Dr. Gregg Steinberg
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came a dominate force, with all eyes looking up- were nothing else to accomplish of worthy merit.
ward at the moon, wondering if we could really Buzz Aldrin was telling the crowd an im-
do the impossible--have a man walk on the moon. portant construct of having a vision. We need to
A vision for the country is no different from a continually set new goals to attain throughout our
personal vision. Our personal vision is our guiding lives.
light. Your vision are your personal dreams and Do you feel demotivated? Have you stop
aspirations We all need this light. In a sense, it is setting new goals for your life because you have
our survival mechanism. Our vision keeps us alive accomplished much in your life?
inside, without it, we may slowly die inside.
When Neil Armstrong’s foot landed on the
Ask Buzz Aldrin. A few years back I heard Al- moon’s surface, it was an evolutionary step for hu-
drin speak at the Southern Festival of Books in manity. It showed that anything is possible, but it
Nashville. (Buzz Aldrin was Armstrong’s wingman
all starts with a vision.
and second in command on Apollo 9). Aldrin said
that after doing the impossible and returning to Henry David Thoreau once stated, “In the long
Earth, he felt empty inside and depressed. He said run, men hit only what they aim at”. I would add,
that he had accomplished all his dreams-he had “We need to adjust our aim” The passing this week
reached the mountaintop. He felt as if there of Neil Armstrong showed us that when we have
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was the “big picture”. He was a visionary. His Are you allowing your weaknesses to drain you
weakness was the details and the “nuts and and de-energize your days? Let go of your weak-
bolts” of the operation. When he was in the de- nesses and focus on your strengths and you will
tails of his company, he would get drained and be turn your life into a masterpiece.
grumpy. He disliked the details but thought he
needed to be better at this aspect of his compa- Every block of stone has a stat-
ny.
ue inside it and it is the task of
With my advice, he finally agreed to let go of
the details and hire someone in that regard. As a
the sculptor to discover it.
result, he became more energetic and positive - Michelangelo
and his business began to explode.
Self-Lead to Success
With all the incessant fighting on Capital Hill Former President Hall had a positive and
leading to the government shutdown, we are all affirming attitude that created a trickle down
asking, “Where have all the great leaders gone?” effect to the faculty and staff, producing a won-
It seems like our leadership has failed us in so derful synergy that now permeates the school
many ways, mainly by their selfishness in focusing grounds. As a faculty member for the last 15
on their interests instead of the people’s needs. years, I can say without a doubt, he was the best
president we have had in my tenure.
Fortunately, we have had great local leader-
ship in our backyard: Tim Hall, the former Austin While APSU greatly benefited from Tim’s pres-
Peay State University president. Because of his ence on campus, anyone could gain from his lead-
stewardship, APSU was voted as one of the best ership style and philosophies. His principles of
Universities to work in the United States for the leadership can help you to become a better self-
past two years. (Only 140 Universities were leader. A self-leader follows a positive affirming
picked for this prestigious list). lead in life.
Regardless of whether you are a business ex-
ecutive, student or musician, you must take the
lead to your success. Here are a few of Tim Hall’s
key leadership principles that can help create a
transformation in your life:
1. Great leaders have great EQ: Emotional
Intelligence. When you interact with Pres-
ident Hall, he always leaves you feeling
good about yourself. Furthermore, he gives
off great energy, always smiling and in a
Dr. Tim Hall good mood.
Photo Courtesy of Austin Peay
State University
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A self-leader gives off positive energy and able. The feedback is more positive. As a
in return, gets it back in their life. result, people begin to have higher expec-
2. Great leaders have solid values. Being un- tations in what they can do which leads to
ethical will catch up to you. As Tim Hall greater performance. This is the definition
told me, “It is hard to hide being unethical. of a self-fulfilling prophecy. From day one,
Your actions will find you out. “A self- Tim Hall believed that APSU had amazing
leader talks the talk and walks the walk. potential. A self-leader believes in their
This builds a bridge of trust with others. own amazing potential. To transform your
life and get the success you deserve, you
3. Great leaders believe in the potential of must become a self-leader.
others. When you have high expectations
of others, your interactions are more favor-
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This is a historic tale that should be told in seen professors get promoted to V.P. because
all history books as a word of caution. Talent and they would have scored off the charts on a likea-
skill is not enough. For you to be successful, in bility scale. I have seen graduate students get
politics, business, or any area of your life, you amazing jobs, not because they had the most tal-
must have emotional intelligence. ent or were the most skillful, but because they
What is emotional intelligence? For every ex- had the highest emotional intelligence.
pert, there is a different definition. I would define I know you too have seen this happen in your
emotional intelligence as the ability to make field, time and time again.
friends, the ability to make people feel good
While we teach basic knowledge in school, we
about themselves, and the ability to have people
also need to emphasize the skill of emotional in-
respect you.
telligence, not only today but for the centuries to
I have seen emotional intelligence rocket indi- come.
viduals to success, time and time again. I have
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There is an old saying in the self-help litera- ues to argue for the career. The one that fits best
ture and it is a bit clichéd but very true—“ When and feels right will be your direction. (This could
you love what you do, you never work a day in be an awareness exercise for parents working
your life” with their children to find a direction. I describe
The difficult part, of course, is finding your such an exercise in my book, Flying Lessons.)
calling. Here is a 3 step process to help discover Finding your direction and staying on that
your calling: Make a list of 5 of your key path for the rest of your life is a wonderful experi-
strengths. This could such items as creativity, and ence. I remember the story of the 92 year old
negotiator and problem solver pediatrician who said that he would never think
of retiring because he loves his job so much. He
Make a list of 5 of your key values: This could could never think of retiring because it keeps his
be such items as charity, money, or compassion. mind sharp and love in his heart. I can only wish
Then pick two careers that you think are your call-
those sentiments to you.
ing and write a persuasive paragraph (as if you
are writing it to me) using your strengths, and val-
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going full throttle without burning out. My energy peaks in the morning so I write
Step 2: Create an energy to-do list this column and do my creative work early in my
day. I also have another peak around 2pm and I
Most successful individuals create a to-do list. have scheduled to teach my classes then. This
Here is a twist--quantify those activities on your matching system has allowed me to be very pro-
to-do list in terms of three different levels of en- ductive at the right times during the day.
ergy: high, moderate and low. Meeting with a
On the flip side, if I did my high-energy
disgruntle client may take immense energy
tasks when I had naturally low energy, I would be
whereas sending out e-mails requires low energy. forcing my creativity. Not only would this make
Step 3: Create an energy plan in which you me less effective, it would also zap my energy,
match tasks to your energy levels. and increase my chances of burning out.
Energy rhythms are all around us-the ebb and
More specifically, place the most demanding
flow of tides, the migration of the birds, the moon
energy tasks at times when your energy is soar-
orbiting the Earth, and the Earth orbiting the Sun.
ing. Position moderate energy level tasks for
times in the day when your energy begins to slide There is a rhythm to the Universe. Once you cap-
ture those rhythms in your life, then you will be
and do low energy tasks when you have
able to go full-throttle without burning out.
bottomed out.