mediators learned from Marshall Rosenberg Session 1 Notes Men are socialized not to have needs at all, but to focus on achievement and responsibility. Women are socialized not to worry about their needs, to focus exclusively on the needs of others. Session 2 Notes IOFNR Intention. It should be to create greater connection. Observation. Feeling. What are mine? What are the other person’s? I can better identify these if I restate to him or her. Needs. What do I need? What does s/he need? Request. Make one or listen to one. Yes, no, maybe, revise for a better request. Co-worker incident ”I was just bringing them out to snack, but I was waiting to hear people come in.” “I know you have a strong connection to those two children, so I believe you.” Why wouldn’t she believe me? That’s weird. I can’t understand Katie. I don’t know how she thinks, and I don’t know what she thinks about me even after a whole school year together. I just heard you say, “I believe you.” Tools that will likely assist in a school NVC/NAC/CC Activity. Awareness of breath in nostrils, then accusations, then debrief what happened. Activity. If I hear an accusation, ask for a clarification. If I need to state something in an emotionally charged moment, think through whether it is as factual as possible before sharing it. Process. First do a mind-dump. Once you’re out of ammo, in that quiet is where you start building a pure observation. Mediation De-escalation Developing the skill of neutral statements of observation with children, rather than “good job” Questions When developmentally do you feel it is appropriate to teach NAC tools to children?