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Emaan Yaqub
Mrs. Stein
English
21 December 2017
Nina lives by the words of “If they needs help, I will go help” She will no matter a
person’s history, background, ethnicity, race, religion, creed always be willing to help
anyone in need and not to judge them based on their parents actions. She has learned
this charitable attitude from her mother who held the same beliefs. That is if someone
commits a great crime against you, that you should eventually forgive, but never forget.
That education should be foremost for a child. She works hard to achieve her goals and
believes in a strong and tightly knit family unit with traditional values. Being true to
yourself and respecting others, even if they don’t necessarily agree with your point of
Nina was born on January 30, 1936 in Lewiston Maine. She was raised entirely by
her mother, as her father had left a when she was two. Although she does not remember
much about her father she does know that he had Indian blood in him, that is why she
says, that many of her sibling had jet black hair and high cheekbones, indicative of their
Native background. She did not know her grandparents as they had passed away before
she was born. Nina’s mother did recall their goodness, and their willingness to always
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help. It is most like true that were as kind and generous as Nina’s mother says, if it ran
in their blood.
As for her parents, she only really ever knew her mother. There were sixteen
children in her family, and there were eight still left to raise when her father left. She
recalls her mother being kind, that anyone could come into her family, that her “family
was like the United Nations” But in her family got along better and had a deeper respect
for each other than the real United Nations. The U.N. has a thing or two to learn from
her family.
Her mother had eleven girls and five boys, including her. They were all different
and unique. She was closest to her sister Helen who would have been a hundred now.
When Helen fell ill, Nina would leave Gorham or Portland to take care of her. And she
did that for three years. Some of her fondest memories would be of spending Sundays
with her family and going to the beach. “It is not like today” she remarks, “Where people
watch TV”. She also admits that the older siblings may have heard arguments between
their parents, but she never did. As a child she would play hopscotch and read for fun.
She figured that if she was good in school then she could grow up to be somebody and
In her family, Nina always knew that despite a stretched financial situation, she
would always eat well and that her mother would always be there to take care of the
family. She was so good, she was like a father and mother all in one. And her number
one priority was always her family and beliefs first, Nina never saw her mother going out
with men. As she was either working or raising eight kids all by herself, with no
Nina says that she inherited a willingness to never be afraid to help anybody from
her mother. Once, her mother gone over to help someone across the street when a
neighbor tried to stop her. The neighbor said, “Don’t go help her, she’s a prostitute” to
which her mother responded that “what she gets for money does not belong to me, so if
she needs help, I will go help.” Her neighbor made the mistake of thinking the lowliest
in society don’t need help, when in reality they deserve it more than anyone else. One
can witness a theme of always willing to help out despite who or what someone was or
believed in. Nina always says, “I do not care what religion people are, I never ask that.
You got to respect everybody's religion the same they respect yours.” Think of how much
conflict in this world would be avoided if more people adopted this simple yet true
philosophy.
Her neighborhood in Lewiston was destitute, but filled with hard workers. In
general, she was a happy child (thanks to her mother), but there were two incidents in
which she was unhappy. The first was when she was taken to a Christmas party by a
judge. But, what she did not know was that it was a party for underprivileged. Her
embarrassment culminated in her being put on a literal stage as an example of the poor.
And she said, “I’m not underprivileged, I’m happy, I’m not starving.” Do this day, her
husband questions her as to how she did not know she was in such a situation. She
replies that she was a happy child, The surroundings may have been poor, but she did
not know any better since all she knew were her surroundings. The second was when
she would go to the Catholic School. Everybody went there. She was hurt however, when
she would never be invited to the girls birthday parties. This was because her father did
not live at home. In those days that was something seriously wrong. To this day, if her
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children or grandchildren ever have a birthday party, they must invite all the girls of
their class, or else there is simply no party. She does not like to keep kids out.
She did remember her teacher from that school as well. They all had French
names. She had one teacher who would always say to her, “you’re doing good work, but
your sister was better than you.” Nina jokingly remarked that she used to get mad. She
tried to take something from all her teachers. Nina firmly believes that everybody has a
good side. She once had a neighbor, and noticed one day in which beds and hospital
supplies being delivered. She asked her if she needed help, and who was sick. And the
grandfather, ninety-three.”(on top of three young kids) Nina said that she needed help,
but the neighbor declined. Two days later the neighbor called back asking for help.
Sometimes people may not look like they need help, but it is always worthwhile to ask
Nina went to Lewiston High School. She remembers her two favorite teachers
Lamontagne and Walsch. Out of the two Walsch was her most favorite. She was a hard
but fair teacher, and they would talk to each other all the time. In one story, she was late
with her work and asked if she pass in her work tomorow. Walsch refused and said, “No,
but you can pass it in at the end of the day. And Nina did stay late to finish her work.
Walsh also influenced Nina by telling her that her future was in teaching. And today,
Nina knows she was right. Tough but fair, is how Nina remembers her favorite teachers,
Despite not legally being an adult, she she became an adult when got her first
job. When Nina turned thirteen, she became a waitress. She was friends with the owners
daughter, so no matter how many mistakes she made, he was alright with it. The best
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part for Nina was that at the end of her shift she would be able to order a big meal, she
recalls that she ate real good that summer. And when her mother was finished working
at the mill, she would come and see her daughter at the restaurant. Nina calls to mind
just how proud her mother looked when she waited on her and her friends. And when
summer passed she applied to a department store. And despite being fourteen she told
them she was sixteen and got the job. She was an avid worker. They told her to come
only on Mondays, Thursdays and Saturdays, despite that she showed up everyday and
did such a good job she was never told to go home. She continued doing such a good job
they gave her own counter, and after that they tried to also give her her own office. But
after spending four years there, she wanted to try and experience new opportunities. In
her attitude to work, one can see her diligent attitude to work. She went above and
beyond what most people would think of doing today in their careers.
Nina also had many good memories from high school. She was in many clubs and
activities, including the writing club and the newspaper club. Of course, she had to do
these clubs during school as she had to work after school. She remember the business
course with particular fondness. There was one time she wanted something, and told her
mom she was going to drop school. Her mother told her she would be working full time
if she did. This reflects the industrious attitude and the importance for school her
mother had. For instance in the third grade she struggled with math class. Her mother
despite being poor sent her to summer school to take lessons. Her mother always put
family and her family’s education first. After all the best way to break a chain of poverty
She enjoyed her time as a teenager and does not recall any bad experiences. She
was good in school. In her free time she would go to as many games as she could, and
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write to Ray in the service. Sometime she would walk with three or four of her friends to
the movies on saturday nights, and then go to a restaurant or an ice-cream parlor. But,
she held on to her conservative values as a teenager. For example, at graduation, she
and two other girls were the only ones to wear long sleeves. No matter what event or
celebration it was, Nina always stuck true to her tradition and ideals. Even if it went
against the grain and was not popular. Is that not true conviction? What point are ideals
and beliefs if one abandons them as soon as it becomes difficult to hold those ideals and
beliefs.
Entering her adult years she married her now husband Ray, at eighteen. She
knew she wanted a family, and she knew she wanted Ray to be apart of it. She had met
him in her neighborhood. They would go to the park, play ball, and swing. Ray was her
first one, and she did not want someone who went out all the time. Ray felt the same.
They got married in church, but, she did not wear a white dress, as mother would have
felt obligated to give a big wedding. After coming back from the service, Ray found a job
within a week or two, and Nina’s mother never payed for anything after that. She would
finally have a chance to relax. Despite being married, she stayed with her mother. After
all, her mother never left her, so why would she leave her mother. And she also used this
time to take her mother to restaurant, and anything she never had a chance to do before
Nina also went into business. She was promoted to manager of an Electrolux,
after the previous manager was transferred. She enjoyed the job and the security of it.
Sh rose quickly through the ranks. She always tried to maintain both a career and the
tough job of raising children. She was more blessed than her mother in this regard, be
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she had a supportive and capable husband who was supporting her all throughout her
life.
Unfortunately, her adulthood also began with tragedy. Her mother would always
take care of Nina’s daughter. Infact, Nina for the first six months of being a mother
never actually woke up due her daughter was crying. Nina’s mother would always be
there to take care of the baby, dress her up and then bring her to Nina. The baby would
not even have a chance to cry. One morning Nina woke up to the sound of her daughter
crying. She was surprised, as her mother would have usually been on top of that. After
getting the baby, she went to check up on her mother. She had found her mother had
passed away. Nina was twenty one. But her mother’s memory lives on. Nina has
emulated her mother’s actions and beliefs, her compassion and understanding to the
best of her ability. Over and over in Nina’s biography, one can read actions and relate to
her mother and the values and traditions imparted to Nina from her mother. Perhaps,
more so than most people. After all, she was like a father and a mother, she had to be, to
To Nina a sense of community is very important. She believes that its is very hard
for a people to come together if their values are different. One example she had of
changing values was when her daughter went to go ahead and buy some boots. She came
back with two hundred and fifty dollar boots. Some kids now a days she remarks, “Are
wearing outfits that cost over a hundred dollars, there is no need for that” Pointless and
frivolous materialism won’t make anyone feel better, not in the long run at least. Now
that she has her own kids, Nina says her daughter understands now.
One turning point was when Ray was introduced to Nina’s whole family. Ray’s
family is all French and Catholic. He was surprised when in Nina’s family there were
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Protestants, non-believers, Jews, and Greeks. To Nina’s mother, anybody was welcome.
Nina has two kids. She had a very difficult time getting her second one. They were
ten years apart. If she hadn’t had that child, she says she would have convinced Ray to
adopt. She was very strict with her children when she was raising them. She would
always try impart her traditional values on her children. Once, her eldest daughter had
to stay after school. She came to pick up her daughter, and found her talking to the
football players on the football field. She put an end to that. She tried to impart several
values to her daughter. Being yourself, and a good person were foremost. And not
looking for money when getting married. One of her daughters married a chiropractor.
The other married a locksmith. And both, she say are doing amazingly great, as they
To Nina, the most important celebration is Christmas. She enjoys the whole
family coming together and the cooking. And as a religious and devout Christian, she
appreciate the aspect of it being Jesus Christ’s birthday. She especially enjoys the
grandkids coming together. Although she has noticed that her grandkids have some
different values. One of her grandkids for example, brought his girlfriend to their
Christmas party. Something Nina or Ray would never have done at his age. She really
appreciates the Christmas trees themselves. She says it is because they had the worst
tree back when she was a child. She said, “If there was an award for the worst tree in
town, we would have won it” In fact, when she got married, one of the things she wanted
was a Christmas Tree that would touch the ceiling. She has also noticed how some of her
grandkids don’t even like the Christmas tree. They say it is too much fussing. But, she is
all too aware how they don’t mind the fussing over cooking.
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Nina says that as you get older, material things don’t matter much to you
anymore. Friends, family and relationships are what matter at the end of the day.
She does not like to dwell over material things. But, if she does want something and can
afford it, she will get it. But, she does not do it to one up and impress other people.
There are some people that go out and buy something after seeing it and become
jealous, for the sole purpose of on upping their neighbor. Fashions come and go, in less
than ten years something popular today will look ridiculous. And this is of course, very
true. One just has to look at the fashion sense of the nineties to see that. Or, just wait a
She always believes in telling the truth and not exaggerating. And that just
because you do not have something now, does not mean you can’t have it later. She
believes one should not have a boyfriend or girlfriend until they are married, essentially,
waiting until marriage. A big one would be respecting others. Nina says, “My mother
never asked, who’s your father? Who’s your mother? It doesn’t matter. Her father could
be a murderer and it does not matter. The child is always innocent. Don’t judge a child
by bad parents”. Over and over again one can see the affect of her father leaving their
family had on Nina. She as a child was left out from gatherings for a fact that she could
not control, that she had no power or choice over. As an adult and as a parent, she
makes sure that her children will never make a mistake like those children made ever
again.
Nina has also known many special people over life. Her sister especially, she
would always pay for Nina to visit her in the summer in New York. She also says she has
had very good bosses over the years. She has noticed that if you do good, then if
somebody wants you to do bad, they will not invite you. She hopes she never forgets her
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mother or Ray, and how good he was to her. A lot of times, Nina says she would not have
been invited to parties, because people would know that she would not drink do things
like that. She would not have been able to imagine her mother's reaction to her coming
home drunk.
Nina has had many struggles over the years. One of the toughest moments in her
life was when Ray got pancreatic cancer, but fortunately, he beat it. Another was when
her mother fell ill. She never did miss her father however. She didn’t know him, how
could she? When he fell sick she didn’t not go visit him since he was a stranger. She
would not go to a stranger’s funeral, so why his? After many years, she went to visit his
grave at the cemetery. But, she could not find his grave not matter how long she looked.
She said, “God, you don’t want me to see him He doesn’t deserve a visit from me, I don’t
know him. But I forgive him” It took her a very long time to say that she forgives him.
But, Nina says that she never forgets someone if they hurt her like that. She despised
him for the longest time. When she was younger, she wanted her father to die so that her
mother could at least collect the social security money, and least he could help their
family in some way. But, he outlived her for a long time and reached over a hundred.
Nina jokes that it “must be the Indian in him”. Forgive, but do not forget, do not go
back. And this is a good policy as one can feel good about forgiving someone and not
stewing over a grudge in their heart, but it prevents them from being taken advantage of
again. But she has finally come to peace with her father.
Religion plays a very large role in Nina’s life. She is a Catholic Christian. But, just
because she is a Catholic does not mean she will not go to a church of a different
denomination. Nina says that if she is traveling and there is only one church available,
and it is of a different denomination, she will still go to it. They are all houses dedicated
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to worshiping God, so why should it matter which one she does it in.She believes in faith
and she believes in God. And that in the long run she says it is the same God that people
worship. She believes one needs faith, if not, life is meaningless without it. But, she also
says that if we were born without being told what our religion was, and we studied the
world’s religions, then who know what we would have chosen. She believes in being
religious, but not to the point of Fanaticism, or as she says “preaching in the middle of
the street” One has to respect others faiths. Because of this she does not judge others
because of their faith. Just like how her mother would not judge if her children married
others outside the Catholic faith. She gets an inner strength from her faith.
Nina also has advice for younger generations. She says kids should stop asking
for things and go do something. She wants workers. The kids of today go to college for
four years, rack up ludicrous debt and then come out not know what they want to do.
“Go to a trade school” she says, “ Not everybody has to go to college” The kids rely too
much on others. And that they should stop the smoking, drinking and drugs. Nina
believes that those are disgraceful and disgusting behaviors. One does not need a
traditional outlook on life to see the detrimental effects using those substances can and
will have on a person. And she defines success as hard work. As long as you know what
you want to be, and you work towards that goal with hard work you will achieve success.
(Lastname)
One can see her approach to life represented by how her neighbors view her. She
was always willing to help. Even in my very own family, when my mother had to go to
work, Nina would watch over me while we waited for the bus, and always make
chocolate milkshakes. (Yaqub) She was is prying like some are, and will come over to
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talk about how things are going. She is much more outgoing than other neighbors and is
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Biography Questions
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Loraine
Neighbor
11/27/17
Infancy:
Nina: Well, my parents told me where my father was born. He was born in Maine. But his
mother was a pure Indian. Native American Indian. But I never took advantage of it, we could
have payed for my kids to go to college for nothing. My mother didn’t believe in that.
Nina: I have a lot of good memories. I had a good family and family gatherings. One Christmas
my mother told me she would leave and come back. Not to give me or my sister a hard time,
she would leave and come right back home from work. She had left to get me that doll.
Childhood:
Nina: I didn’t know them because they died before I was born. My mother talked about how
good they were, how they helped. While she was bringing up her family. I was the youngest so,
by the time I was born my grandparents had died. Good memories as they talked about them,
Nina: Well, I can’t describe my father I didn’t know him, he left when I was two. My mother, we
had sixteen kids in the family. And my mother had eight left when my father left. My mother was
a kind - anybody could come to my house- my family was like the united nations. It's true.
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Nina: Not to be scared to help someone. My mother went to help someone across the street
once, and a neighbor said, “Don’t go help her she is a prostitute.” And my mother said, “What
she gets for money does not belong to me, so if she needs help I’ll go help.”
Who are your brothers and sisters, when were they born?
Nina: Oh my God, we have eleven girls and five boys, I’m included with the girls. The most
important one, Helen, she would be one hundred now, she is the most important to me. And
when she was sick, I’d leave Gorham, I’d leave Portland and I would take for of her, And I did
that for three years. They were all important, they were all different. I had a few that had the
high cheek bone like the Indians and with black hair.
Describe each of your siblings. What are your most vivid memories of them when you were
young?
Nina: They'd pick us up, bring us to the beach, we’d go to the beach, with my mother, sister. We
were close, every Sunday it would be family, it’s not like today where people watch TV.
Nina: I know that I would eat well, that I had a good mother, that I never missed my father.
Because, my mother was so good, she was my father and mother. I never saw her going out
with men. She took care of the family, she was a good person.
Your neighborhood?
Nina: All poor. But all good people, hard workers. In Lewiston.
Nina: A happy child. I was very unhappy one day, I was picked up by a judge to bring my to a
christmas party, not knowing I was going to a party for underprivileged kids. And I was so
embarrassed when I found out he was on the Stage saying that we were all underprivileged
children, and I said, “I’m not underprivileged, I’m happy, I’m not starving.” My husband keeps
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saying to me, “you didn’t know you were poor?” “No, I was a happy child, the surrounding were
poor but, I didn’t know- the surrounding were all the same so I never questioned it.
Nina: We played hopscotch, I read, was good in school. I figured if I’m good in school, then I
can be somebody. I didn’t want to live where we were, I wanted a house, but, you know, each
day was a- good- I was happy! A child does not know they are poor, If people are good, and
they eat well, and we always had good food on the table.
Nina: I did, the older ones probably heard arguments with the parents, but I never did.
Nina: Nina: I started school at five years old. I went to the Catholic School, everybody went
there. If somebody in the class had a birthday party, they didn’t invite me, because my father
didn’t live at home. That was bad in those days. My mother took the place of my father, and she
was better than some women who had their husbands. That hurt. And to this day, if ever I have,
my kids were in schools and they had a birthday party, and they would come home with a few
friends, -no- she had to invite all the girls in the class, if she didn’t invite all the girls, I wasn’t
gonna have the party. I don’t like to keep kids out, I like to help people. Those kids are innocent.
I mean, what happens in their household has nothing to do with the child, you know?
Nina: Nina: Superior, it’s all French names. A lot of my teachers, yeah. And I had one teacher,
every time she looked at me, she said, “you’re doing good work, but your sister was better than
you”. I used to get mad. (Jokingly) I remember my teachers, I tried to take something from all of
them. Everybody's’ got a good side. We had a neighbor, we saw beds being delivered, and
hospital supplies. I knocked on her door, and asked her if she needed help and who was sick?
And she said, “I took in my grandmother ninety years old, and I took in my grandfather, ninety-
three. I says, “you need help” this is a young person with three kids. And she says, “no, I’ll be
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fine”. Two days later she called me, “I need help”. And I went and - you know - talked to them
and prepared lunch and read. I don’t care what religion people are, I never ask that. You got to
Nina: Nina: Oh yes, first I was gonna be a hairdresser in high school. But, one of the teachers
told me I should be a teacher, cause I love kids, she said “you are very very good and I think
you’re going the wrong direction” and she was right. Because I also taught in Pre-K. And I
volunteered in the first, grade. And if I hugged one, I hugged them all.
Nina: Yes, I was in Lewiston High School. Lamontagne and Walsch. I loved her, she was fair.
When I worked, she would come and talk, and I understood everything, and you know, she was
a good teacher. She was fair. A couple of times I was late and I said, “Can I pass my work in
tomorrow?” and she said, “No, but you can pass it in at the end of the day. And after school I
Nina: She wanted me to go to being a teacher, and today I know she was right. I never thought
Nina: My first job, you won’t believe, I was a waitress. I was thirteen years old. I was the worst
waitress you could ever have. And before leaving, I could eat. So I would order a real good
meal. The owner of the place, his daughter, I was her girlfriend. My mother worked at the mill,
and she would come, and I would wait on them. Oh, she was so proud. Worst Waitress you
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could ever have. I worked there the whole summer. I worked at a department store. I got the job
when I was fourteen and told them I was sixteen. And he said, come only on Mondays,
Thursdays and Saturdays. I went in everyday and he never told me to go home. I was doing
good. You name it, I did it. After awhile I had my own counter and they wanted me to stay after
in the office. I said no, I had been there four years. Now, I need to go in business. Oh, and I got
married after high school, at eighteen. And I married Ray. We were buddies. We were friends.
He lived close to me. His family had only four kids, so I thought he was rich.(Laughter) And
everybody said we would never ever make it together. And in December nineteen. We’re gonna
What what would you pick out as the most significant event of your life from age six to sixteen?
Nina: I would have to say, the most significant event- was our mother stayed with us for a short
while, and then she died. And I stayed with her, when he was in the service. And I went out with
her, I brought her to restaurants, anything she never did, I did it. Because, I wanted her to have
a good life, at least until the end. She payed nothing, she took care of my daughter, and we took
care of her all week and gave her what we had. What we could afford. I never used to hear my
daughter cry. She woke up early, took care of her, and brought her to me all dressed up. And
that morning the baby cried. She was six months, And I said, “God, wheres my mother?” She
didn’t have a chance to cry, because she was always there. And if I did try to stop her, she
would have said she’s not needed and gone to work. Then I went to pick up my baby, then I
went to say hi to Maymay, and she was dead. And I found her. And so, you know, that’s life, I
Nina: They were all good memories. Funny, serious,. I liked the business course. I tried to get
into all clubs, the writing club, the newspaper. I was into all activities. As much as I could, but it
had to be during school, because I had work after school. I did good in school. One day I told
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my mother. I wanted something, And I was going to quit school. She asked me where my job
was? You quit school you go to work, otherwise you go back to school.
Your worst?
Nina: I enjoyed it, went to all the games, as much as I could. Used to write to you (Ray) until he
Nina: Nope.
Nina: We’d go to the movies on saturday night, just be us three or four girls. Stop at the
restaurant and have an ice cream sundaes. No cars so we would walk. And then we would go
home. I was not a girl to go out, but those were my friends from grammar school.
Nina: If all the teenagers of today were like me, and you and Ray the parents would not have
problems. Like the nun’s said. At graduation we wore long sleeves. I think only three or two girls
wore long sleeves. They all had shortsleeves. I had long sleeves.
Nina: Oh, I knew who I was. When you live where we lived, how we lived. You had problems in
school. You had problems in schools, ninety percent of the time you could not hire a tutor. In the
third grade, I had math problems. And my mother sent me to summer camp to take lessons. As
poor as we were, she went me to take lessons, that was her responsibility. And she did it. My
husband could not understand. I think what I went through many people went through. I can
understand if a person needs help. I’ll help, I’ll knock on any door, As long as I know they need
help.
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Nina: To have a family. I knew Ray was gonna be my husband, He was my first one and I didn’t
go out. In those days, you didn’t go out with a man who went out all the time and he felt the
same way. I don’t know, maybe you’d call that old fashioned. We saw a lot around us, people
drinking, the fathers, not the wives, the wives were home. But, what it is to have a father I don’t
know. I wanted a happy household with my husband. If not I would have gone to New York to
be with my sister. But not before staying with my mother. She didn’t leave us, so I wouldn’t
Nina: Number one, I went into business because there were people asking for help. I managed
a electrolux, vacuum cleaners. I worked in the office. And then the manger was transferred and
When did you first realise that you had become an adult?
Nina: I knew that in the 8th grade. When you’re looking for a job before entering high school,
you know you are an adult. I had to say I was sixteen to get hired. When I did turn 16, my
manager asked me, “Are you 16 now?” and I said yes. I worked everyday after school.
Nina: We were in the same neighborhood. We used to go to the park, swing, play ball.
Nina: He asked my mother, we got married in church, but I didn’t wear a white dress, because I
knew my mother would have felt obligated to give a big wedding. So I had a suit. So we got
married, he finished his service, and came home. And the day he came home, I gave him a
week or two. He found a job, and my mother no longer paid anything in the house. Cause I felt,
now that he’s home, he can take over and she can relax. And that’s what she did.
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Nina: I didn’t have free time, I worked, I go to school, after school I’d go eat, a hotdog, a 99 cent
hotdog. Remember, we made 50 cents an hour. Then I’d go to work, by the time I left, it would
be 6 or 7 when I got home. I’d get up at 5 in the morning to review my stuff. It would be the
Nina: Yes, I think if you are surrounded with people, it can be very difficult if you don’t have the
same values. I might be wrong saying this. One year, my daughter wants boots, she was in
junior high. She came back with 250 dollar boots. And he (Ray) says, “Return those” You will
see some kids, who have outfits that cost over 100 dollars, there is no need for that. But, now
she has her own, so she understands. We don’t give gifts to anybody that’s not a kid. There’s
only so much money we have, so we play a game, Yankee Swap. Food and togetherness goes
Nina: His (Ray) family, there was only French and Catholic. And he’s coming to my house and
there’s Protestants, there’s non-believers maybe, there’s Jewish people, there’s Greeks, we had
them all. And that was surprising to him. My mother, anybody was welcome. I had broken my
tooth, she went to the dentist and he charged her 50 dollars, that’s not a lot today but then it
was.
Nina: Two. I lost 5. I’ve had 5 miscarriages, we wouldn’t have had 7 kids. We wanted another
one. And if we didn’t have the second one, I think I would have convinced my husband to adopt.
Nina: We keep together, but I feel they’ve had a good childhood, we were strict with them.
Once, the oldest one had to stay after school, I went and she was on the football field talking to
Nina: Just to be yourself, be a good person, don’t look for money, when you get married, look
for character. And, one’s married to a chiropractor, and one’s married to a locksmith. And he
Life as a Whole?
What family or social celebrations, traditions or rituals are important in your life?
Nina: Christmas, and you know, the older you get. I enjoy Christmas. It reminds you the whole
family gets together. I like cooking, and all of this. We have the grandkids, and one has a
girlfriend. But, I am not breaking the tradition, he could have another next year, she will be in the
yankee swap. I love Christmas. Maybe it’s because we had the worse trees. If there was a prize
in that town for the worst Christmas tree we would have won it. And I said when I get married, I
am going to have a Christmas tree that touches the ceiling. I like Christmas. And my grandkids,
two of them, they don’t like Christmas Trees, too much fussing. but they don’t think we over fuss
Nina: Those things don’t matter much when you get older, friends, family and relationships
matter. Don’t dwell on material things. Don’t get me wrong if we want it and can afford it we will
get it.
But, that isn’t true happiness. What is in style today is gone in maybe ten years.
What beliefs or ideals do you think your parents tried to teach you?
Nina: Tell the truth, don’t exaggerate. We have what we can now, but that doesn’t mean you
can’t have more later. You do not have an affair with a boy until you’re married. There were
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people they would come and go and there were always with guys. But my mother was a good
person. Respect others. My mother never asked, Who’s your father, who’s your mother, it
doesn’t matter. Your father could be a murderer. It wasn’t that little girl. Don’t judge a child by
bad parents.
Nina: One of my sisters was always good to me, came from New York. Every Summer she
payed for me to visit. All my bosses were good. Really. You know, if you do good, if somebody
wants to do bad, they won’t come and get you. A lot of times I wasn’t invited cause’ they knew I
Nina: Getting married, had to make sure you were ready. Sometime young people think they
know it all and they don’t. Maybe, buying our first car. Payed two-fifty.
Nina: The only way you can learn. Don’t try to be the other person. Don’t become jealous of
someone else. And don’t be upset someone is rich, if they worked for it, it is good for them. I
What do you think has been the happiest and most productive time of your life?
Nina: I think, when we started, we lived in a house. We sold that and built our home. It was a
Nina: When Ray was sick, he had pancreatic cancer, but he beat it! And when my mother was
sick. I never missed my father. I didn’t know him. I never went to him when he was sick. He was
a stranger. I wouldn’t go to a stranger’s funeral. However, after many years, I went to the
cemetery to visit him, but, I couldn’t find him. I looked up to heaven and said, “God, you don’t
want me to see him” He doesn’t deserve a visit from me, I don’t know him. But I forgive him, it
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took me a long time to say I forgive. But, if somebody hurts you don’t ever forget. Don’t ever go
back. I despised him, I wanted him dead so we could have social security. But, I forgive.
Nina: A big role. If there would be only one church if I was traveling, it would not matter what
denomination it is, I would go in to say a prayer. I believe in faith. I believe in God, I believe it’s
the same god, in the long run. I believe faith is the best part of life. You need faith. Somebody
made this world, it wasn’t me. (laughter) Religion is a big thing. If you would not been told what
religion you were, and you were sent to study religion. Which religion you would choose, I don’t
know. I respect faith. I’m a Catholic. I read Billy Graham. All he says go to your place of worship,
Do you feel you have an inner strength? Where does that come from?
Nina: Yes. From my faith. The way we were brought up. Not everyone of my brothers and
sisters married a Catholic. So long as they believed in God, my mother was fine with them.
Nina: Yes.
Nina: My mother. My husband and how good he was. I’m 82 and we still talk about our parents.
Nina: Stop asking for things, and try to do something, go to work, part-time. You don’t see kids
bagging. I want workers. Kids, don’t pay for their cars. And they go to college, they come out,
and they don’t know what to do. Go to a trade school. Not everybody is meant to go to college.
The kids rely too much on others. Stop the drinking, cigarettes and the drugs.
Nina: Hard work. Hard work brings you success. Know what you want to be. Whatever leads
What is there in your experiences that give your life unity, meaning, or purpose?
Nina: I feel good, I hope I live till I’m hundred and five.
What have I neglected to ask you that you would like to include in your life story?
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Mom Questions
Mom: You were one years old when she came to this neighborhood, around seventeen years
old.
Mom: She was a good and nice lady, she would babysit you and give you chocolate
Mom: Since we first met. She’d come to my house, I’d go to her house. She is my best friend in
the neighborhood.
Mom: She is my favorite neighbor, we would always talk to each other when we see each other.
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Dad Questions
Dad: A few months after we moved in, she bought the house next to ours.
Dad: I didn’t really think anything, as I had not met her yet.
Dad: She was a a good neighbor who wasn’t nosy and let other neighbors do what they wanted
to do.