40 Hadiths on Marriage

‫م‬ َّ‫ب ال َع َّب الش‬

‫أ و اس ا ي‬
 Table of Contents
Table of Contents.................................................................................1

Introduction .........................................................................................2

Virtues of Marriage .............................................................................4

Choosing a Spouse ..............................................................................6

Spousal Rights ....................................................................................10

Events from the Prophet’s Life ........................................................12

Proverbs .............................................................................................. 23

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 Introduction:
،‫ والصالة والسالم عىل محمد بن عبد هللا‬،‫ وهزم الاحزاب وحده‬،‫ ونرص عبده وأعز جنده‬،‫امحلد هلل اذلي صدق وعده‬
،‫ ومن تبعهم بإحسان اإىل يوم ادلين‬،‫ وعىل حصابته الغر امليامني‬،‫ وعىل أل بيته الطيبني الطاهرين‬،‫املبعوث رمحة للعاملني‬
:‫أما بعد‬

It is established that we, as Muslims, have a rich historical tradition that can be authentically
traced back to the blessed Messenger of Allah, Muhammad bin ‘Abdillah ‫ﷺ‬. These reports
span a variety of subjects and topics, ranging from the most fundamental theological
doctrines to the simplest details pertaining to his personal life ‫ﷺ‬. When looking at the Quran,
one finds Allah addressing His Prophet in many different contexts.

Allah, for example, addresses His Prophet in the Quran saying:

O Prophet, indeed We have sent you as a witness and a bringer of glad tidings and a
warner (45) And a caller to Allah, by His permission, and an illuminating torch (46)
[Al-Ahzab]
Allah also describes him in the Quran saying:
Indeed, there has been a great example for you in the Messenger of Allah, for anyone
who has hope is in Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah often.
[Al-Ahzab; 21]
Allah, in the Quran, also commands Prophet Muhammad:
Say[to the believers], [O Muhammad]: "If you love Allah, then follow me, so that
Allah shall love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful."
[Al-‘Imran: 31]

Thus, it is evident from these verses (and many more) that obeying and following this man is
the true source of victory, success and guidance in this life and the Hereafter. Not only did he
convey the Message as ordained by Allah, but he has also set an example of perfection as a
leader, father, husband, warrior, and virtuous human being.

In this book, I have compiled around 40 hadiths that display the Prophet’s character and
wisdom pertaining to his marital life, hoping to benefit the English-speaking Muslims.

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I have ensured that they are all authentic (Sahih) reports. Thus, if the report is from Sahih Al-
Al-Bukhari or Sahih Muslim, then that shall be enough to display its authenticity.
If the report is not from Sahih Al-Al-Bukhari or Muslim, then I have quoted the opinions of
authoritative Muslim Hadith scholars who deemed the report to be authentic, while doing a
thorough analysis of the report’s isnad myself, as well.

When citing the books: Sahih Al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim, Sunan Al-Nasa’i, Sunan Abi
Dawud, Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi and Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, I relied upon the numbering provided on
https://sunnah.com/ to make the reports accessible to the reader.

When citing reports from Musnad Ahmed, I relied upon the numbering provided by the
‫ الرسالة‬edition of the Musnad.

When citing reports from Sahih Ibn Hibban, I relied upon the numbering provided by the first
publication of Sheikh Shu’ayb Al-Arnaut’s edition of Sahih Ibn Hibban.

Looking through these reports, one immediately recognizes that volumes of literature could
be written merely expounding on the different lessons and values contained in them.

Hence, if you, as a reader, find any benefit in this book, then I request that you make duaa’
for me, my parents and loved ones, and the rest of the Ummah of Muhammad ‫ﷺ‬.

‫ وهللا أكرب‬،‫ وال اإهل اإال هللا‬،‫ وامحلد هلل‬،‫وس بحان هللا‬

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 I. The Virtues of Marriage
1. ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud said:
We were with the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬while we were young, and we barely had any wealth. So,
Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬once said, "O young men! Whoever among you is financially able
to get married, then he should do so. Indeed, it helps one lower his gaze and protects
him from adultery. Whoever is not able to marry, then he should fast, for that will
help him control his desire. 1

َ َ ‫ " ََي َم ْع‬: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬

َّ ‫َش‬
‫ َم ِن‬،‫الش َب ِاب‬ ِ َّ ‫ فَقَا َل لَنَا َر ُسو ُل‬،‫ ُكنَّا َم َع النَّ ِ ِ يب ﷺ َش َب ااب َال ََنِدُ َشيْئاا‬:‫عن عبد هللا بن مسعود قال‬
ِ َ ‫ فَان َّ ُه َأغَ ُّض ِللْ َب‬،‫ْاس تَ َطا َع الْ َب َاء َة فَلْ َي َ ََت َّو ْج‬
.‫ َو َم ْن ل َ ْم ي َْس تَ ِط ْع فَ َعلَ ْي ِه ِب َّلص ْو ِم فَان َّ ُه َ ُهل ِو َجاء‬،‫ َو َأ ْح َص ُن ِللْ َف ْر ِج‬،‫رص‬
ِ ِ

2. Anas bin Malik said:

A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬inquiring about
the Prophet’s acts of worship. When they were informed, they seemed to consider it
insufficient, and they said: "What are we compared to the Prophet? His past and
forthcoming sins have all been forgiven."
Then one of them said: "I will stay up all night praying for the rest of my life.”
The other said: "I will fast throughout the year, and I shall never break my fast."
The third said: "I will avoid women, and I shall never get married."
Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬later came to them and said, "Are you the same people who said
such-and-such? By Allah, I am more conscious and fearful of Allah than you; yet I
fast and I break my fast, I pray and I sleep, and I also marry women. Whoever does
not follow my Sunnah is not from me. 2
‫ون َع ْن ِع َبا َد ِة النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ فَلَ َّما‬ َ ُ‫وت َأ ْز َوا ِج النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ ي َْسأَل‬ ِ ‫ َج َاء ثَ َالث َ ُة َر ْهطٍ ا َىل بُ ُي‬:‫ ي َ ُقو ُل‬،ُ‫اَّلل َع ْنه‬ َ ِ ‫اِل َر‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬ ٍ ِ ‫عن َأنَس ْب َن َم‬
ِ
‫ فَا ِ يّن‬، َ‫ َأ َّما َأَن‬:‫ َو َأيْ َن َ َْن ُن ِم َن النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ قَدْ غُ ِف َر َ ُهل َما تَقَ َّد َم ِم ْن َذنْ ِب ِه َو َما تَأَخ ََّر؟ قَا َل َأ َحدُ ُ ُْه‬:‫ فَقَالُوا‬،‫ُأخ ِ ُْربوا َ ََكَّنَّ ُ ْم تَقَالُّوهَا‬
ِ
ُ ‫ فَ َج َاء َر ُس‬،‫ َأَنَ َأ ْع َ َِت ُل ال ِن ي َس َاء فَ َال َأتَ َز َّو ُج َأبَدا ا‬:‫ َوقَا َل أخ َُر‬،‫ َأَنَ َأ ُصو ُم ادلَّ ه َْر َو َال ُأفْ ِط ُر‬:‫ َوقَا َل أخ َُر‬،‫ُأ َص ِ يّل الل َّ ْي َل َأبَدا ا‬
‫ول‬

1
Sahih Al-Bukhari [1905] , Sahih Muslim [1400] , Sunan Al-Nasa’i [2241] , Jami’ al-Tirmidhi [1081]
2
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5063] , Sahih Muslim [1401] , Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3217] , Musnad Ahmed [13534]

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 ، ُ‫ َو ُأ َص ِ يّل َو َأ ْرقُد‬،‫اَّلل ا ِ يّن َ ََلخْشَ ُ ْاُك ِ َّ َِّلل َو َأتْقَ ُ ْاُك َ ُهل لَ ِك ِ يّن َأ ُصو ُم َو ُأفْ ِط ُر‬
ِ َّ ‫ " َأن ُ ُُْت َّ ِاذل َين قُلْ ُ ُْت َك َذا َو َك َذا ؟ َأ َما و‬:‫ فَقَا َل‬،‫اَّللﷺ ال َْيْ ِ ْم‬
ِ َّ
ِ َ ِ
.‫ فَ َم ْن َر ِغ َب َع ْن ُسن َّ ِِت فَلَيْ َس ِم ِ يّن‬،‫َو َأتَ َز َّو ُج ال ِن ي َس َاء‬

3. 'Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Al-'Aas reported that the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬once said:
"The world is but an enjoyment; and the best enjoyment of the world is a pious and
virtuous woman". 3
َّ ‫ الْ َم ْر َأ ُة‬:‫ َوخ ْ َُْي َمتَا ِع ادلُّ نْ َيا‬،‫ " ادلُّ نْ َيا َمتَاع‬:‫اَّللﷺ قَا َل‬
.‫الصا ِل َح ُة‬ ِ َّ ‫ َأ َّن َر ُسو َل‬:‫اَّلل ْب ِن َ َْع ٍرو‬
ِ َّ ‫ع ْن َع ْب ِد‬

4. Abu Dharr said:

One day, a group of Sahabis told the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬: "O Messenger of Allah, the affluent have
taken all the reward, for they pray as we pray, fast as we fast, and they give a lot of
charity by virtue of their wealth."
The Messenger of Allah responded: "Has not Allah given you many opportunities for
charity? Indeed, every tasbeehah [saying: ‫ ]سبحان هللا‬is a charity, every takbeerah
[saying: ‫ ]هللا أكبر‬is a charity, and every tahmeedah [saying: ‫ ]الحمد هلل‬is a charity, and
every tahleelah [saying: ‫ ]ال إله إال هللا‬is a charity. And enjoining what is good is a
charity, and forbidding an evil is a charity, and in your sexual acts there is a charity
as well."
They asked, "O Messenger of Allah, does one of us get rewarded for fulfilling his
desires?"
He ‫ ﷺ‬replied: "Do you not see that if he were to act upon it in haram then he would
be worthy of punishment? Likewise, if he were to act upon it in halal then he would
be worthy of reward. 4

‫اَّلل َذه ََب َأ ْه ُل‬ ِ َّ ‫ ََي َر ُسو َل‬:‫َاب النَّ ِ ِ يب صىل هللا عليه وسمل قَالُوا ِللنَّ ِ ِ يب صىل هللا عليه وسمل‬ ِ ‫ ِم ْن َأ ْحص‬،‫ َذ يٍر َأ َّن َنَ اسا‬،‫َع ْن َأ ِِب‬
‫اَّلل لَ ُ ُْك َما‬ َ ُ‫ون َ َمَك ن َ ُصو ُم َويَتَ َص َّدق‬
ُ َّ ‫ قَا َل " َأ َولَيْ َس قَدْ َج َع َل‬. ‫ون ِب ُفضُ ولِ َأ ْم َوا ِله ِْم‬ َ ‫ون َ َمَك ن َُص ِ يّل َوي َ ُصو ُم‬
َ ُّ ‫ادلُّ ثُ ِور ِب َُل ُج ِور يُ َصل‬

3
Sahih Muslim [715 k] , Sahih Ibn Hibban [4031] , Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3232] , Musnad Ahmed [6567]
4
Sahih Muslim [1006], Sahih Ibn Hibban [4167], Al-Adab Al-Mufrad [227], Musnad Ahmed [21482]

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 ِ ‫يَل َصدَ قَة َو َأ ْمر ِبلْ َم ْع ُر‬
‫وف َصدَ قَة‬ ٍ َ ‫ك َتَ ْ ِل‬ ‫ك تَ ْكب َِْي ٍة َصدَ قَة َو ُ ِي‬
‫ك َ َْت ِميدَ ٍة َصدَ قَة َو ُ ِي‬ ‫ك ت َ ْسبِي َح ٍة َصدَ قَ اة َو ُ ِي‬
‫ون؟ ا َّن ِب ُ ِي‬
َ ُ‫ت ََّص َّدق‬
ِ
‫ون َ ُهل ِفْيَا َأ ْجر قَا َل " َأ َر َأيْ ُ ُْت‬ ِ َّ ‫ قَالُوا ََي َر ُسو َل‬. " ‫َوَّنَ ْى َع ْن ُم ْن َك ٍر َصدَ قَة َو ِِف بُضْ ع ِ َأ َح ِد ُ ُْك َصدَ قَة‬
ُ ‫اَّلل َأيَأْ ِِت َأ َحدُ َنَ َشه َْوتَ ُه َويَ ُك‬
. " ‫ل َ ْو َوضَ َعهَا ِِف َح َرا ٍم َأ ََك َن عَلَ ْي ِه ِفْيَا ِو ْزر فَ َك َذ ِ َِل ا َذا َوضَ َعهَا ِِف الْ َح َاللِ ََك َن َ ُهل َأ ْجر‬
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II. Choosing a Spouse

5. Jabir b. ‘Abdillah said:

I was with Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬in an expedition, and when we returned, I wanted to
hurry, while I was on a slow camel. A rider followed me, and I looked back and noticed
that the rider was the Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬.

He asked me: "What makes you in such a hurry?"

I replied: "I am newly married."

He asked: "Did you marry a virgin or a matron?"

I replied: "A matron."

He asked: "Why didn't you marry a virgin with whom you could play, and she could
play with you?"

Then, when we approached Medina, the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Wait until the night has come
before you enter your homes, so that the ladies with unkempt hair may comb their
hair, and those whose husbands have been absent may shave their pubic hair." 5

‫ فَلَ َّما قَ َفلْنَا تَ َع َّجلْ ُت عَ َىل ب َ ِع ٍْي‬،‫اَّلل صىل هللا عليه وسمل ِِف غَ ْز َو ٍة‬ ِ َّ ِ‫ ُك ْن ُت َم َع َر ُسول‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫َع ْن َجا ِب ٍر بن عبد هللا‬
‫ قُلْ ُت ا ِ يّن‬." ‫ل؟‬ َ ُ ِ‫ قَا َل " َما يُ ْعج‬.‫اَّلل صىل هللا عليه وسمل‬ ِ َّ ِ‫ فَالْ َت َف ُّت فَا َذا َأَنَ ِب َر ُسول‬،‫وف فَلَ ِحقَ ِّن َرا ِكب ِم ْن َخلْ ِفي‬ ٍ ‫قَ ُط‬
ِ ِ
‫ قَا َل‬." ‫ قَا َل " فَهَ َّال َج ِاري َ اة تُ َال ِعُبُ َا َوتُ َال ِع ُب َك؟‬.‫ قُلْ ُت ب َ ْل ثَ ِيي ابا‬." ‫ قَا َل " فَ ِب ْك ارا تَ َز َّو ْج َت َأ ْم ثَ ِي ي ابا؟‬.‫يث َعهْ ٍد ِب ُع ْر ٍس‬ ُ ‫َح ِد‬
" ‫َك تَ ْمت َ ِشطَ الشَّ ِعثَ ُة َوت َ ْس تَ ِح َّد الْ ُم ِغي َب ُة‬ْ َ ‫فَلَ َّما قَ ِد ْمنَا َذ َه ْبنَا ِلنَدْ ُخ َل فَقَا َل " َأ ْمهِلُوا َح ََّّت تَدْ ُخلُوا ل َ ْي اال ـ َأ ْى ِعشَ ااء ـ ِل‬

5
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5080] , Sahih Muslim [715 f] , Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3219] , Sunan Abi Dawud [2048]

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6. Abu Hurairah narrates that the Messenger of Allah said:
"A woman may be married for four reasons: her wealth, her status, her beauty and
her religion. Thus, you should marry the religious one, and you shall be blessed.” 6

‫ فَ ْاظ َف ْر ِب َذ ِات‬،‫ َو ِ ِدليِنِ َا‬،‫ َو َ ََجا ِلهَا‬،‫ َو ِل َح َس ُبِ َا‬،‫ ِل َما ِلهَا‬:ٍ‫ " تُ ْن َك ُح الْ َم ْر َأ ُة ِ ََل ْربَع‬:‫ َع ِن النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ قَا َل‬،ُ‫اَّلل َع ْنه‬ َ ِ ‫َع ْن َأ ِِب ه َُرْي َر َة َر‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬
" َ‫ي ِادل ِين تَ ِرب َ ْت يَدَ اك‬

7. Abu Huraira said:

A man came to Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬and said: “I just contracted a woman from the Ansar
for marriage”
The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬responded: “Did you cast a glance at her? For there is
something in the eyes of the Ansar….”
He said: “I did cast a glance at her.” 7

‫ فَقَا َل َ ُهل النَّ ِ ُّب صىل‬. ‫ قَا َل َج َاء َر ُجل ا َىل النَّ ِ ِ يب صىل هللا عليه وسمل فَقَا َل ا ِ يّن تَ َز َّو ْج ُت ا ْم َر َأ اة ِم َن ا ََلنْ َص ِار‬،َ‫َع ْن َأ ِِب ه َُرْي َرة‬
ِ ِ
.‫ قَدْ ن ََظ ْر ُت ال َْيْ َا‬:‫ قَا َل‬. " ‫ون ا ََلن َْص ِار َشيْئاا‬
ِ ‫هللا عليه وسمل " ه َْل ن ََظ ْر َت ال َْيْ َا فَا َّن ِِف ُع ُي‬
ِ ِ ِ

8. Thabit Al-Bunani said:

I was once with Anas bin Malik while a daughter of his was present. Anas said: "A
woman came to Allah's Apostle and presented herself to him, saying: “O Messenger of
Allah, have you any need in me [through marriage]?

Thereupon Anas's daughter said, "What a shameless lady she was! Shame! Shame!"
Anas replied: "She was better than you; she had a liking for the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬, so she
presented herself to him for marriage." 8

6
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5090] , Sahih Muslim [1466] , Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3230] , Sunan Abi Dawud [2047] , Jami’
Al-Tirmidhi [1086]
7
Sahih Muslim [1424 b] ,
8
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5120], Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3250]

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،‫اَّلل ﷺ تَ ْع ِر ُض عَلَ ْي ِه ن َ ْف َسهَا‬ ِ َّ ِ‫ " َج َاء ِت ا ْم َر َأة ا َىل َر ُسول‬:‫ قَا َل َأنَس‬،ُ‫ ُك ْن ُت ِع ْندَ َأن َ ٍس َو ِع ْندَ ُه ابْنَة َهل‬:‫ قال‬،‫اّن‬ ‫عن ََثبِت الْ ُبنَ ِ ي‬
ِ
‫ِه خ َْْي ِم ْن ِك َر ِغ َب ْت‬ َ ِ :‫ قَا َل‬،‫ َما َأقَ َّل َح َي َاءهَا َوا َس ْو َأَتَ ْه َوا َس ْو َأَتَ ْه‬:‫ فَقَال َ ْت ِبن ْ ُت َأن َ ٍس‬،‫ َأ َ َِل ِِب َحا َجة‬،‫اَّلل‬ ِ َّ ‫ ََي َر ُسو َل‬:‫قَال َ ْت‬
" ‫ِِف النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ فَ َع َرضَ ْت عَلَ ْي ِه ن َ ْف َسهَا‬

9. Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬said:

A divorced/widowed woman must not be married until she is consulted, and a virgin
must not be married until her permission is sought.
They asked the Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬: How is a virgin’s consent solicited?
He said: That she remains silent.9

.‫اَّلل صىل هللا عليه وسمل قَا َل " َال تُ ْن َك ُح ا ََل ِي ُّي َح ََّّت ت ُ ْس تَأْ َم َر َو َال تُ ْن َك ُح الْ ِب ْك ُر َح ََّّت ت ُ ْس تَأْ َذ َن‬
ِ َّ ‫ َأ َّن َر ُسو َل‬،َ‫عن َأِب ه َُرْي َرة‬
ِ َّ ‫قَالُوا ََي َر ُسو َل‬
. " ‫اَّلل َو َك ْي َف ا ْذَّنُ َا؟ قَا َل " َأ ْن ت َ ْس ُك َت‬
ِ

10. `Umar bin Al-Khattab said:

"When my daughter, Hafsa bint `Umar, lost her husband Khunais bin Hudhaifa As-
Sahrni, who was one of the companions of Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬who had fought in the
battle of Badr and had died in Medina, I met `Uthman bin `Affan and suggested that he
should marry Hafsa saying: "If you wish, I will marry you to Hafsa bint `Umar.”

Uthman said: “I will think it over.”

I waited for a few days, and then he later told me: “It has become apparent to me that I
should not get married right now.”

I later met Abu Bakr and said: “If you wish, I will marry you to Hafsa bint `Umar.” He
kept quiet and did not give me any reply, and I was more angered with him than I was
with `Uthman.

9
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5136], Sahih Muslim [1419 a], Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3267], Sunan Abi Dawud [2139]

8
 Some days later, Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬asked for her hand in marriage and I married her to
him. Later, Abu Bakr asked: "Perhaps you were angry with me when you offered Hafsa to
me for marriage and I gave no reply to you?”

I said: “Yes.”

Abu Bakr said: “Nothing prevented me from accepting your offer except that I had learnt
that Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬had mentioned her [for marriage], and I would never disclose
the secret of Allah's Messenger. Had he not married her, I surely would have accepted
your offer.” 10

َّ ‫اَّلل َعِنْ ُ َماأ َ َّن ُ ََع َر بْ َن الْخ ََّط ِاب ِح َني تَأَي َّ َم ْت َح ْف َص ُة ِبن ْ ُت ُ ََع َر ِم ْن ُخنَيْ ِس بْ ِن ُح َذافَ َة‬
،‫السهْ ِم ي ِي‬ ِ َّ َ‫عن َع ْبد‬
َ ِ ‫اَّلل بْ َن ُ ََع َر َر‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬
،‫يت ُعثْ َم َان ْب َن َعفَّ َان فَ َع َرضْ ُت عَلَ ْي ِه َح ْف َص َة‬ ُ ‫ فَلَ ِق‬:‫ قَا َل ُ ََع ُر‬،‫اَّللﷺ قَدْ َشهِدَ بَدْ ارا ت ُُو ِ ي َِف ِبلْ َم ِدينَ ِة‬ ِ َّ ِ‫َاب َر ُسول‬ ِ ‫َو ََك َن ِم ْن َأ ْحص‬
‫ قَدْ بَدَ ا ِِل َأ ْن َال َأتَ َز َّو َج ي َ ْو ِمي‬:‫ فَقَا َل‬،‫اِل‬ َ ِ ‫ َسأَن ُْظ ُر ِِف َأ ْم ِري فَلَ ِبث ْ ُت ل َ َي‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫ ِا ْن ِشئْ َت َأنْ َك ْح ُت َك َح ْف َص َة ِبن ْ َت ُ ََع َر‬:‫فَ ُقلْ ُت‬
‫ فَ ُكنْ ُت‬،‫ ا ْن ِشئْ َت َأنْ َك ْح ُت َك َح ْف َص َة ِبن ْ َت ُ ََع َر فَ َص َم َت َأبُو بَ ْك ٍر فَ َ ْمل يَ ْرجِ ْع ا َ َِّل َشيْئاا‬:‫ فَ ُقلْ ُت‬،‫يت َأ َب بَ ْك ٍر‬ ُ ‫ فَلَ ِق‬:‫ قَا َل ُ ََع ُر‬،‫ه ََذا‬
ِ ِ
‫ل َو َجدْ َت‬ َ َّ ‫ ل َ َع‬:‫ فَقَا َل‬،‫اَّللﷺ فَأَنْ َك ْحُتُ َا ا ََّي ُه فَلَ ِقيَ ِّن َأبُو بَ ْك ٍر‬ ُ ‫ ُ َُّث خ ََطُبَ َا َر ُس‬،‫اِل‬
ِ َّ ‫ول‬ َ ِ ‫عَلَ ْي ِه َأ ْو َجدَ ِم ِ يّن عَ َىل ُعثْ َم َان فَلَ ِبث ْ ُت ل َ َي‬
ِ
ْ‫ فَان َّ ُه ل َ ْم ي َ ْمنَ ْع ِّن َأ ْن َأ ْرجِ َع ال َ ْي َك ِفميَا َع َرضْ َت ا َّال َأ ِ يّن قَد‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫ ن َ َع ْم‬:‫ قُلْ ُت‬،‫عَ َ َّّل ِح َني َع َرضْ َت عَ َ َّّل َح ْف َص َة فَ َ ْمل َأ ْرجِ ْع ال َ ْي َك‬
ِ ِ ِ ِ
ِ َّ ِ‫ِس َر ُسول‬
.‫ َول َ ْو تَ َر َكهَا لَقَ ِبلُْتُ َا‬K‫اَّلل‬ َّ ِ ‫ِش‬ َ ِ ْ‫ فَ َ ْمل َأ ُك ْن ِ َُلف‬،‫اَّللﷺ قَدْ َذ َك َر َها‬ ِ َّ ‫عَ ِل ْم ُت َأ َّن َر ُسو َل‬

11. Ma'qil ibn Yasar said:

A man came to the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬and said: “I have found a woman of great status and beauty,
but she does not give birth to children. Shall I marry her?”

He said: “No.”

He came again to him, and the Prophet prohibited him again. He came to him a third time,
and then the Prophet said: Marry the amiable child-bearing woman, for I shall
outnumber the nations through you.”11

10
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5145], Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3248], Musnad Ahmed [4807], Sahih Ibn Hibban [4039]
11
Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3227], Sunan Abi Dawud [2050] & declared Sahih by Ibn Hajar in ‫ فتح الباري‬9/111

9
 ‫ َأفَأَتَ َز َّو ُ َُجا؟‬،‫ ا ِ يّن َأ َصبْ ُت ا ْم َر َأ اة َذ َات َح َس ٍب َو ََجَالٍ َواَّنَّ َا َال ت ِ َُِل‬:‫ َج َاء َر ُجل ا َىل النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ فَقَا َل‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫َع ْن َم ْع ِق ِل ْب ِن ي ََس ٍار‬
ِ ِ ِ
" ‫ فَا ِ يّن ُم ََك ِثر ِب ُ ُُك ْ ُاَل َم َم‬،َ‫ " تَ َز َّو ُجوا الْ َودُو َد الْ َولُود‬:‫ فَقَا َل‬،‫ ُ َُّث َأَتَ ُه الث َّا ِلثَ َة‬،‫ فَِنَ َا ُه‬،‫ ُ َُّث َأَتَ ُه الثَّا ِن َي َة‬،" ‫ " َال‬:‫قَا َل‬
ِ

III. Spousal Rights

12. `Abdullah bin `Umar said:

The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬said: "Every one of you is a guardian and every one of you
shall be asked about his duties. A ruler is a guardian, and he shall be asked about his
subjects. A man is a guardian of his family, and he shall be asked about it. A wife is
a guardian of her husband's house, and she shall be asked about it. A slave is a
guardian of his master's property, and he shall be asked about it. Indeed, all of you
are guardians and you shall all be asked about your duties.” 12

‫ فَ ْاال َما ُم َرا ٍع َوه َُو‬،‫ " ُُكُّ ُ ُْك َرا ٍع َو َم ْس ُئول َع ْن َر ِع َّي ِت ِه‬:‫ول‬ ُ ‫اَّللﷺ ي َ ُق‬ ِ َّ ‫ َأن َّ ُه َ َِس َع َر ُسو َل‬،‫اَّلل َعِنْ ُ َما‬ ِ َّ ‫َع ْن َع ْب ِد‬
َ ِ ‫اَّلل ْب ِن ُ ََع َر َر‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬
ِ
‫ِه َم ْس ُئ َوَل َع ْن‬ َ ِ ‫ َوالْ َم ْر َأ ُة ِِف بَيْ ِت َز ْو ِ َُجا َرا ِع َية َو‬،‫ َو َّالر ُج ُل ِِف َأه ِ ِِْل َرا ٍع َوه َُو َم ْس ُئول َع ْن َر ِع َّي ِت ِه‬،‫َم ْس ُئول َع ْن َر ِع َّي ِت ِه‬
" ‫ َوالْخَا ِد ُم ِِف َمالِ َس ِ يي ِد ِه َرا ٍع َوه َُو َم ْس ُئول َع ْن َر ِع َّي ِت ِه‬،‫َر ِع َّيُتِ َا‬

13. Mu'awiyah al-Qushayri said:

I once asked Messenger of Allah: “What are the rights of our wives upon us?”

He replied: You must give her food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe
yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not make taqbih of her, and do not
separate yourself from her except in the house.13

Abu Dawud said: The meaning of tuqabbih is to say: "May Allah revile you".

،‫ " َأ ْن ت ُْط ِع َمهَا ا َذا َط ِع ْم َت‬:‫ َما َح ُّق َز ْو َج ِة َأ َح ِدَنَ عَلَ ْي ِه؟ قَا َل‬،‫اَّلل‬ ِ َّ ‫ ََي َر ُسو َل‬:‫ قُلْ ُت‬:‫ قال‬،‫َع ْن معاوية بن حيدة‬
ِ
." ‫ َو َال تُقَ يب ِْح َو َال َتَ ْ ُج ْر ا َّال ِِف الْ َبيْ ِت‬،َ‫َْض ْب الْ َو ْجه‬ِ ْ ‫ َو َال ت‬،‫َوتَ ْك ُس َوهَا ا َذا ا ْكت َ َسيْ َت َأ ِو ا ْكت َ َسبْ َت‬
ِ ِ
12
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5188] , Sahih Muslim [1829 a] , Sunan Abi Dawud [2928], Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi [1705]
13
Sunan Abi Dawud [2142], Musnad Ahmed [20013] & declared Sahih by Al-Daraqutni in ‫ العلل‬7/90

10
 ُ َّ ‫ قَبَّ َح ِك‬:‫ َأ ْن تَ ُقو َل‬،‫ َو َال تُقَبي ِْح‬:‫قَا َل َأبُو د َُاود‬
‫اَّلل‬

14. ‘Uqbah b. ‘Aamir said:

The Prophet (‫ )ﷺ‬said: "The terms most entitled to be abided by are those through which
sexual relations have become permissible to you” 14

َ ‫وط َأ ْن تُوفُوا ِب ِه َما ْاس تَ ْحلَلْ ُ ُْت ِب ِه الْ ُف ُر‬

‫وج‬ ِ ‫الَش‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬
ُ ُّ ‫ " َأ َح ُّق‬: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬ ُ ‫ قَا َل َر ُس‬:‫ قَا َل‬،ُ‫اَّلل َع ْنه‬ َ ِ ‫َع ْن ُع ْق َب َة ْب ِن عَا ِم ٍر َر‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬
"

15. Abu Hurairah said:

The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬said: "If a husband calls his wife to his bed [for sexual
intercourse] and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse
15
her till the morning."

َ َ‫ " ا َذا َدعَا َّالر ُج ُل ا ْم َر َأتَ ُه ا َىل ِف َر ِاش ِه فَأَب َ ْت فَب‬: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬
‫ات غَضْ َب َان‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬
ُ ‫ قَا َل َر ُس‬:‫ قَا َل‬،ُ‫اَّلل َع ْنه‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬َ ِ ‫َع ْن َأ ِِب ه َُريْ َر َة َر‬
ِ ِ
" ‫عَلَْيْ َا ل َ َعنَُتْ َا الْ َم َالئِ َك ُة َح ََّّت ت ُْصب َِح‬

16. Al-Aswad bin Yazid said:

I asked `Aisha "What did the Messenger of Allah do when he was home?"
She said: "He used to keep himself busy serving his family, and when it was the time for
prayer he would leave." 16

ُ ‫ " ََك َن يَ ُك‬:‫ َما ََك َن النَّ ِ ُّبﷺ ي َ ْصنَ ُع ِِف بَيْ ِت ِه؟ قَال َ ْت‬،‫ َسأَلْ ُت عَائِشَ ة‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫َع ِن ْ َاَل ْس َو ِد‬
،‫ون ِِف ِمهْنَ ِة َأه ِ ِِْل تَ ْع ِّن ِخدْ َم َة َأه ِ ِِْل‬
‫الص َال ِة‬
َّ ‫الص َال ُة خ ََر َج ا َىل‬
َّ ‫ْض ِت‬
َ َ ‫فَا َذا َح‬
ِ ِ

14
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5151], Sahih Muslim [1418], Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3281] , Sunan Abi Dawud [2139]
15
Sahih Al-Bukhari [3237], Sahih Muslim [1436 a] Sunan Abi Dawud [2141]
16
Sahih Al-Bukhari [6039], Musnad Ahmed [24226]

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 IV. Prophetic Events
17. `Amr bin Al-Aas said:
The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬delegated me to lead the Army of Dhat-as-Salasil. I then came up to him
and asked him: "Who is the most beloved person to you?"
He said: " `Aisha."
I asked: "and among the men?"
He said: "Her father."
I asked: "Then who?"
He said: "Then `Umar bin Al-Khattab." He then named other men. 17

‫ َأ ُّي النَّ ِاس َأ َح ُّب‬:‫ فَ ُقلْ ُت‬،ُ‫الس َال ِس ِل فَأَتَيْ ُته‬

ُّ ‫ َأ ين النَّ ِ َّبﷺ ب َ َعثَ ُه عَ َىل َجيْ ِش َذ ِات‬،ُ‫اَّلل َع ْنه‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬ َ ِ ‫عن َ َْع ُرو ْب ُن الْ َع ِاص َر‬
‫ فَ َع َّد ِر َج ااال‬،" ‫ " ُ َُّث ُ ََع ُر ْب ُن الْخ ََّط ِاب‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫ ُ َُّث َم ْن‬:‫ ُقلْ ُت‬،" ‫ " َأبُوهَا‬:‫ فَقَا َل‬، ِ‫ ِم َن ي ِالر َجال‬:‫ فَ ُقلْ ُت‬،" ‫ " عَائِشَ ُة‬:‫ال َ ْي َك؟ قَا َل‬
ِ

18. `Ali bin Al-Husain said:

Safiya, the wife of the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬, told me that she went to the Prophet one night to visit
him in the mosque while he was in I’tikaf in the last ten days of Ramadan. She talked to
him for a while, then she got up to go back home, and the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬accompanied her
back. When they reached the gate of the mosque near the door of Umm Salama, two
Ansari passed by greeting the Messenger of Allah.
He then told them: “Hold on for a second…. She is my wife, Safiya bint Huyai."
Both of them said: "Subhan Allah!” and they felt bad.
The Prophet said to them: "Satan flows through the body of the son of Adam just as
blood does. I was afraid that Satan would insert an evil thought into your minds." 18

‫اَّللﷺ تَ ُز ُور ُه ِِف ا ْع ِت ََك ِف ِه‬ ِ َّ ِ‫ َأَّنَّ َا َج َاء ْت ا َىل َر ُسول‬،ُ‫ " َأ َّن َص ِفيَّ َة َز ْو َج النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ َأخ َ َْربتْه‬:ُ‫اَّلل َع ْنه‬ َ ِ ‫عن عَ ِ ُّّل ْب ُن الْ ُح َس ْ ِني َر‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬
ِ
‫ َح ََّّت ا َذا‬،‫ فَقَا َم النَّ ِ ُّبﷺ َم َعهَا ي َ ْق ِلُبُ َا‬،‫ ُ َُّث قَا َم ْت تَ ْنقَ ِل ُب‬،‫ فَتَ َح َّدثَ ْت ِع ْندَ ُه َساعَ اة‬،‫َش ْ َاَل َوا ِخ ِر ِم ْن َر َمضَ َان‬
ِ ْ ‫ِِف الْ َم ْسجِ ِد ِِف الْ َع‬
ِ
‫ عَ َىل‬:K ‫اَّللﷺ فَقَا َل لَهُ َما النَّ ِ ُّب‬ ِ َّ ِ‫ فَ َسل َّ َما عَ َىل َر ُسول‬،‫ ِع ْندَ َب ِب ُأ يِم َسلَ َم َة َم َّر َر ُج َال ِن ِم ْن ْ َاَلن َْص ِار‬،‫بَلَغ َْت َب َب الْ َم ْسجِ ِد‬

17
Sahih Al-Bukhari [3662], Sahih Muslim [2384], Musnad Ahmed [17811], Sahih Ibn Hibban [7107]
18
Sahih Al-Bukhari [3281], Sahih Muslim [2175 a], Sunan Abi Dawud [4994],

12
 ‫الش ْي َط َان ي َ ْبلُ ُغ ِم َن‬ ِ َّ ‫اَّلل ََي َر ُسو َل‬
َّ ‫ ا َّن‬:K ‫ فَقَا َل النَّ ِ ُّب‬،‫ َو َك ُ َرب عَلَْيْ ِ َما‬،‫اَّلل‬ ِ َّ ‫ ُس ْب َح َان‬:‫ فَقَ َاال‬،‫ِه َص ِفيَّ ُة ِبن ْ ُت ُح َ ٍ يي‬
َ ِ ‫ ِان َّ َما‬،‫ِر ْس ِل ُكَا‬
ِ
ُ ‫ َوا ِ يّن خ َِش‬،‫ْاالن ْ َس ِان َم ْبلَ َغ ادلَّ ِم‬
.‫يت َأ ْن ي َ ْق ِذ َف ِِف قُلُو ِب ُكَا َشيْئاا‬
ِ ِ

19. Anas b. Malik said:

While the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬was at one of his wives’ houses, a mother of the believers sent him a
meal in a dish. The wife who had the Prophet in her house that day struck the hand of the
servant, causing the dish to fall and break. The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬gathered the broken pieces of
the dish and then started collecting the bits of food, which had been in the dish and said,
"Your mother was jealous."

Then he kept the servant till a sound dish was brought from the wife who broke the dish.
He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken, and he left the broken
one at the house where it was broken. 19

ِ ‫ فَأَ ْر َسلَ ْت ا ْحدَ ى ُأ َّمه‬،‫ " ََك َن النَّ ِ ُّبﷺ ِع ْندَ ب َ ْع ِض ِن َسائِ ِه‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫َع ْن َأن َ ٍس‬
َ َ َ‫ ف‬،‫َات الْ ُم ْؤ ِم ِن َني ب َِص ْح َف ٍة ِفْيَا َط َعام‬
‫ْضب َ ِت ال َّ ِِت‬
ِ
َّ ‫ ُ َُّث َج َع َل َ َْي َم ُع ِفْيَا‬،‫الص ْح َف ِة‬
‫الط َعا َم َّ ِاذلي‬ َّ ‫ فَ َسقَ َط ِت‬،‫النَّ ِ ُّبﷺ ِِف بَيُْتِ َا يَدَ الْخَا ِد ِم‬
َّ ‫ فَ َج َم َع النَّ ِ ُّبﷺ ِفلَ َق‬،‫ فَانْ َفلَقَ ْت‬،‫الص ْح َف ُة‬
َّ ‫ فَدَ فَ َع‬،‫ ُ َُّث َحبَ َس الْخَا ِد َم َح ََّّت ُأ ِ َِت ب َِص ْح َف ٍة ِم ْن ِع ْن ِد ال َّ ِِت ه َُو ِِف بَيُْتِ َا‬،‫ غَ َار ْت ُأ ُّم ُ ُْك‬:‫ول‬
‫الص ْح َف َة‬ ُ ‫ َوي َ ُق‬،‫الص ْح َف ِة‬
َّ ‫ََك َن ِِف‬
َ َ ‫حصفَُتُ َا َو َأ ْم َس َك الْ َم ْك ُس َور َة ِِف بَيْ ِت ال َّ ِِت َك‬
‫ِس ْت‬ ْ َ ‫ِس ْت‬
َ ِ ‫الص ِحي َح َة ا َىل ال َّ ِِت ُك‬
َّ
ِ

20. Umar narrates, regarding the incident of Hudaybiyah :

When the writing of the peace treaty was concluded, Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬said to his
companions: "Get up and slaughter your sacrifices and get your heads shaved."

By Allah none of them got up, and the Prophet repeated his order thrice. When none of
them got up, he left them and went to Um Salama and told her of the people's response
towards command. Um Salama said: "O Prophet of Allah! Do you want your orders to be
carried out? Go out and don't say a word to anybody until you have slaughtered your
sacrifice and called your barber to shave your head."

19
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5225], Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3955], Sunan Abi Dawud [3567]

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 So, the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬went out and did not talk to anyone of them till he slaughtered his
sacrifice and called his barber to shave his head. Seeing that, the companions of the
Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬got up, slaughtered their sacrifices and started shaving the heads of one
another. They were in such a rush to the extent that some were about to slaughter each
other by accident.20

:‫ قَا َل‬،‫ ُ َُّث ا ْح ِل ُقوا‬،‫اَن ُروا‬ َ ْ َ‫ قُو ُموا ف‬:‫اَّللﷺ ِ ََل ْحصَا ِب ِه‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬ ُ ‫ قَا َل َر ُس‬، ]‫ فلام فَ َر َغ ِم ْن قَ ِض َّي ِة الْ ِكتَ ِاب [يوم احلديبية‬:‫قال َعر‬
‫ فَلَ َّما ل َ ْم ي َ ُق ْم ِمِنْ ُ ْم َأ َحد َد َخ َل عَ َىل ُأ يِم َسلَ َم َة فَ َذ َك َر لَهَا َما ل َ ِق َي ِم َن‬،‫اَّلل َما قَا َم ِمِنْ ُ ْم َر ُجل َح ََّّت قَا َل َذ ِ َِل ثَ َال َث َم َّر ٍات‬
ِ َّ ‫فَ َو‬
‫ َوتَدْ ع َُو َحا ِلقَ َك‬،‫ ُ َُّث َال تُ َ ِكي ْم َأ َحدا ا ِمِنْ ُ ْم َ ُِك َم اة َح ََّّت تَ ْن َح َر بُدْ ن ََك‬،‫ َأ ُ َِت ُّب َذ ِ َِل اخ ُْر ْج‬،‫اَّلل‬
ِ َّ ‫ ََي ن ِ ََّب‬:‫ فَقَال َ ْت ُأ ُّم َسلَ َم َة‬،‫النَّ ِاس‬
‫ فَلَ َّما َر َأ ْوا َذ ِ َِل قَا ُموا فَنَ َح ُروا َو َج َع َل‬،ُ‫ فَخ ََر َج فَ َ ْمل يُ َ ِكي ْم َأ َحدا ا ِمِنْ ُ ْم َح ََّّت فَ َع َل َذ ِ َِل َ ََن َر بُدْ ن َ ُه َو َدعَا َحا ِلقَ ُه فَ َحلَقَه‬،‫فَ َي ْح ِلقَ َك‬
.‫ب َ ْعضُ ه ُْم َ َْي ِل ُق ب َ ْعضا ا َح ََّّت ََك َد ب َ ْعضُ هُ ْم ي َ ْق ُت ُل ب َ ْعضا ا َ ًَّغا‬

21. A’isha said:

I’ve never been as jealous of any of the Prophet’s wives as I was of Khadijah, even
though I never met her. Whenever the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬slaughtered a sheep, he
would say: “Send it to Khadijah’s companions.”
I angered him one day, and I said: “Khadijah !.”
Thereupon Allah's Messenger (‫ )ﷺ‬said: “I was given love of her.” 21

ِ َّ ‫ َو ََك َن َر ُسو ُل‬:‫ قَال َ ْت‬،‫ َوا ِ يّن ل َ ْم ُأد ِْر ْكهَا‬،‫ َما ِغ ْر ُت عَ َىل ِن َسا ِء النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ ا َّال عَ َىل َخ ِد ََي َة‬:‫ قَال َ ْت‬،‫ع ْن عَائِشَ َة‬
‫اَّللﷺ ا َذا َذب َ َح‬
ِ ِ ِ
ِ َّ ‫ فَقَا َل َر ُسو ُل‬،‫ َخ ِد ََي َة‬:‫ فَ ُقلْ ُت‬،‫ فَأَ ْغضَ ْب ُت ُه ي َ ْو اما‬:‫ قَال َ ْت‬،‫ َأ ْر ِسلُوا ِبِ َا ا َىل َأ ْص ِدقَا ِء َخ ِد ََي َة‬:‫ول‬
ْ‫ " ا ِ يّن قَد‬: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬ ُ ‫ فَ َي ُق‬،َ‫الشَّ اة‬
ِ ِ
.‫ُر ِز ْق ُت ُحُبَّ َا‬

22. Aisha said:

I used to drink from a cup while I was on my period, then I’d hand it to the Messenger of
Allah ‫ ﷺ‬and he would drink from it and put his mouth on the same where mine had been.
I would also eat meat off a bone while I was menstruating, and I’d hand it over to the

20
Sahih Al-Bukhari [2731], Sahih Ibn Hibban [4872], Musnad Ahmed [18928]
21
Sahih Muslim [2435 b], Sahih Ibn Hibban [7006]

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 Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬and he would put his mouth on the same sport where mine had
been. 22

َ ْ َ‫ فَي‬،َّ‫ ُ َُّث ُأَنَ ِو ُ ُهل النَّ ِ َّبﷺ فَيَضَ ُع فَا ُه عَ َىل َم ْو ِضع ِ ِِف‬،‫ْش ُب َو َأَنَ َحائِض‬
،‫ َو َأتَ َع َّر ُق الْ َع ْر َق‬،‫َش ُب‬ َ ْ ‫ " ُك ْن ُت َأ‬:‫ قَال َ ْت‬،‫َع ْن عَائِشَ َة‬
ِ ‫ ُ َُّث ُأَنَ ِو ُ ُهل النَّ ِ َّبﷺ فَ َيضَ ُع فَا ُه عَ َىل َم ْو ِضع‬،‫َو َأَنَ َحائِض‬
23. A’isha said:
The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬used to lean on my lap and recite Qur'an while I was on my period.23

.‫ فَ َي ْق َر ُأ الْ ُق ْرأ َن‬،‫اَّللﷺ يَتَّ ِك ُئ ِِف ِح ْج ِري َو َأَنَ َحائِض‬

ِ َّ ‫ول‬
ُ ‫ " ََك َن َر ُس‬:‫ َأَّنَّ َا قَال َ ْت‬،‫َع ْن عَائِشَ َة‬

24. A’isha said:

The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬used to put his head out for me while he was in i`tikaf in the
mosque, and I would comb and oil his hair while I was on my period. 24

‫ فَأُ َر ِ يج ُ ُِل َو َأَنَ َحائِض‬،‫ " ََك َن النَّ ِ ُّبﷺ يُ ْص ِغي ا َ َِّل َر ْأ َس ُه َوه َُو ُم َجا ِور ِِف الْ َم ْسجِ ِد‬:‫ قَالَ ْت‬،‫اَّلل َعِنْ َا‬ َ ِ ‫َع ْن عَائِشَ َة َر‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬
ِ

25. Al-Qasim said:

A’isha told me: Whenever Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬set on a journey, he would cast lots
amongst his wives. On one occasion, it was in my favor and Hafsa’s.
During the night, the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬used to tread by ‘Aisha and talk with her.
Hafsa then said to 'A'isha: ‘Would you like to ride upon my camel tonight and allow me
to ride upon your camel so that we could have different views?”
A’isha said: “Yes.”
So 'A'isha rode upon the camel of Hafsa and Hafsa rode upon the camel of 'A'isha, and
Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬came near the camel of 'A'isha, which Hafsa had been riding. He
greeted her, and then rode with her until they rested. Thus, 'A'isha missed the company of
the Prophet, and when they sat down, A'isha felt jealous. She put her foot in the grass and
said: “O Allah, let a scorpion sting me or a snake bite me, but regarding Your Messenger,
I cannot say a thing.”25

22
Sahih Muslim [300], Sunan Al-Nasa’i [300], Sahih Ibn Hibban [1360], Musnad Ahmed [25594]
23
Sahih Al-Bukhari [297], Sahih Muslim [301], Sunan Abi Dawud [260]
24
Sahih Al-Bukhari [2028], Sahih Muslim [297 d], Sunan Abi Dawud [2469]
25
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5211], Sahih Muslim [2445]

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 ،‫ فَ َط َار ِت الْ ُق ْرعَ ُة ِل َعائِشَ َة َو َح ْف َص َة‬،‫ َأ َّن النَّ ِ َّب صىل هللا عليه وسمل ََك َن ا َذا خ ََر َج َأ ْق َر َع ب َ ْ َني ِن َسائِ ِه‬:‫ َع ْن عَائِشَ َة‬،‫اِس‬
ِ ِ ِ َ‫َع ِن الْق‬
‫ فَقَال َ ْت َح ْف َص ُة َأ َال تَ ْر َكب َِني الل َّ ْي َ ََل ب َ ِع ِْيي َو َأ ْر َك ُب‬،‫َو ََك َن النَّ ِ ُّب صىل هللا عليه وسمل ا َذا ََك َن ِبلل َّ ْي ِل َس َار َم َع عَائِشَ َة ي َ َت َحد َُّث‬
ِ
‫ فَ َقال َ ْت ب َ َىل فَ َر ِك َب ْت فَ َج َاء النَّ ِ ُّب صىل هللا عليه وسمل ا َىل َ ََج ِل عَائِشَ َة َوعَلَ ْي ِه َح ْف َص ُة فَ َس َّ َمل عَلَْيْ َا ُ َُّث‬،‫ب َ ِع َْي ِك تَ ْن ُظ ِر َين َو َأن ُْظ ُر‬
ِ
،‫ول ََي َر ِ يب َس ِل يطْ عَ َ َّىل َع ْق َر اب َأ ْو َحيَّ اة ت ْ ََِلغُ ِّن‬ ُ ‫ فَلَ َّما نَ َزلُوا َج َعلَ ْت ِر ْجلَْيْ َا ب َ ْ َني اال ْذ ِخ ِر َوتَ ُق‬،‫َس َار َح ََّّت نَ َزلُوا َوافْتَقَدَ تْ ُه عَائِشَ ُة‬
ِ
.‫َو َال أ َْس تَ ِطي ُع َأ ْن َأقُو َل َ ُهل َشيْئاا‬

26. Aisha said:

I once told the Messenger of Allah: "Suppose you landed in a valley where there was a
tree that had been eaten from and then you found trees that were untouched, which tree
would you want your camel to graze from?"
He said: “By the one which had not been touched."
The transmitter said: `Aisha meant that she was the only virgin the Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬
had married.26

‫ َو َو َجدْ َت َش اَرا‬،‫ك ِمِنْ َا‬ َ ِ ُ‫ش َرة قَدْ أ‬ َ َ ‫ َأ َر َأيْ َت ل َ ْو نَ َزلْ َت َوا ِد اَي َو ِفي ِه‬،‫اَّلل‬
ِ َّ ‫ " ََي َر ُسو َل‬:‫ قُلْ ُت‬:‫ قَالَ ْت‬،‫اَّلل َعِنْ َا‬ ُ َّ ‫ِض‬ َ ِ ‫َع ْن عَائِشَ َة َر‬
ِ َّ ‫ تَ ْع ِّن َأ َّن َر ُسو َل‬،‫ ِِف َّ ِاذلي ل َ ْم يُ ْرتَ ْع ِمِنْ َا‬:‫ ِِف َأ ِ يّيَا ُك ْن َت تُ ْرِت ُع ب َ ِعْيَكَ ؟ قَا َل‬،‫ك ِمِنْ َا‬
" ‫اَّللﷺ لَ ْم ي َ َ ََت َّو ْج ِب ْك ارا غَ ْ َْيهَا‬ ْ َ ‫ل َ ْم يُ ْؤ‬

27. Abu Musa Al-Ash’ari said:

Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬said, "Many men have attained perfection, but none have
attained it among the women except: Mariam bint ‘Imran and Asiya, the wife of
Pharaoh. And the superiority of `Aisha to other women is like the superiority of
Tharid (delicacy among the Arabs) to the rest of food. 27

‫ " ََكَ َل ِم َن ال ي ِر َجالِ َك ِثْي َول َ ْم يَ ْ ُك ْل ِم َن ال ِن ي َسا ِء ا َّال أ ِس َي ُة ا ْم َر َأ ُة‬: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬ُ ‫ قَا َل َر ُس‬:‫ قَا َل‬،ُ‫اَّلل َع ْنه‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬ َ ِ ‫وَس َر‬ َ ‫َع ْن َأ ِِب ُم‬
ِ
َّ ‫الَّثي ِد عَ َىل َسائِ ِر‬
.‫الط َعا ِم‬ ِ َّ ‫ َوا َّن فَضْ َل عَائِشَ َة عَ َىل ال ِن ي َسا ِء َكفَضْ ِل‬،‫ِف ْر َع ْو َن َو َم ْر َ ُّي ِبن ْ ُت ِ َْع َر َان‬
ِ

26
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5077], Sahih Ibn Hibban [4331]
27
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5428], Sahih Muslim [2446 a] Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3947], Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi [1834]

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28. Anas bin Malik said:
The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬used to tour upon all his wives and have sexual intercourse with them in a
single night, and he had nine wives at that time.28

" ‫اَّللﷺ ََك َن ي َ ُط ُوف عَ َىل ِن َسائِ ِه ِِف الل َّ ْي َ َِل الْ َوا ِحدَ ِة َو َ ُهل ي َ ْو َم ِئ ٍذ ِت ْس ُع ِن ْس َو ٍة‬
ِ َّ ‫ َأ َّن ن ِ ََّب‬:‫عن أنس بن ماِل‬

29. 'A'isha said:

I used to apply cologne to the Messenger of Allah ‫ﷺ‬. He would then go around his wives
[having sexual intercourse]. The next morning, he’d be in a state of Ihraam with the scent
of cologne still on him.29

" ‫ ُ َُّث يُ ْصب ُِح ُم ْح ِر اما ي َ ْنضَ خُ ِطي ابا‬،‫اَّللﷺ فَ َي ُط ُوف عَ َىل ِن َسائِ ِه‬
ِ َّ ‫ " ُك ْن ُت ُأ َط يي ُِب َر ُسو َل‬:‫عن عائشة قالت‬

30. A’isha said:

Whenever the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬wanted to be intimate with any of his wives during
her period, he would tell her to clothe herself, and then he would approach her."
Aisha then said: "Which one of you today is capable of controlling his urges as the
Prophet did?" 30

‫ ُ َُّث‬،‫اْشهَا َأ َم َرهَا َأ ْن ت َّ ََِت َر ِِف فَ ْو ِر َح ْيضَ ُتِ َا‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬

َ ِ ‫اَّللﷺ َأ ْن يُ َب‬ ُ ‫ " ََكن َْت ا ْحدَ اَنَ ا َذا ََكن َْت َحائِضا ا فَأَ َرا َد َر ُس‬:‫ قَال َ ْت‬،‫َع ْن عَائِشَ َة‬
ِ ِ
ُ ِ ‫ل ا ْرب َ ُه َ َمَك ََك َن النَّ ِبﷺ يَم‬
" ‫ل ا ْرب َ ُه‬ ُ ِ ‫ و َأي ُ ُْك يَم‬:‫ قَال َ ْت‬،‫اْشهَا‬
ُ ِ ‫يُ َب‬
ِ ْ ُّ ِ ْ ُّ َ

31. 'A'isha said,

I once said: "O Messenger of Allah, will you not give me a kunya (teknonym)? " He said,
"Go by the kunya of Umm ‘Abdillah”.
And so she was called Umm 'Abdullah until her death, even though she never bore a
child. 31

28
Sahih Al-Bukhari [284], Sunan Al-Nasa’i [3198], Sahih Ibn Hibban [1209]
29
Sahih Al-Bukhari [267], Sahih Muslim [1192 b], Sunan Al-Nasa'i [431]
30
Sahih Al-Bukhari [302], Sahih Muslim [293 a], Sunan Al-Nasa’I [374]
31
Al-Adab Al-Mufrad [851], Musnad Ahmed [25181] & Declared Sahih by Al-Albani in ‫ صحيح األدب المفرد‬p.
317

17
 ِ َّ ‫ك ِن َسائِ َك لَهَا ُك ْن َية غَ ْ ِْيي ؟ فَقَا َل لَهَا َر ُسو ُل‬
‫ " ا ْكتَ ِّن َأن ِْت‬:K ‫اَّلل‬ ِ َّ ‫ ََي َر ُسو َل‬:K ‫عن عروة َأ َّن عَائِشَ َة قَال َ ْت ِللنَّ ِ ِ يب‬
ُّ ُ ،‫اَّلل‬
ِ َّ ‫ ُأ ُّم َع ْب ِد‬:‫ فَ ََك َن يُقَ ُال لَهَا‬." ‫ُأ َّم َع ْب ِد ا َّ َِّلل‬
.ُّ‫ َولَ ْم ت ِ َِْل قَط‬،‫ َح ََّّت َمات َْت‬،‫اَّلل‬
32. A’isha said:
I used to play with dolls in the presence of the Prophet ‫ﷺ‬, and my friends used to play
with me as well. When Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬would come in, they’d hide themselves, but
the Prophet would call them to come and play with me. 32

ِ َ‫ " ُك ْن ُت َألْ َع ُب ِبلْ َبن‬:‫ قَالَ ْت‬،‫اَّلل َعِنْ َا‬

‫ فَ ََك َن َر ُسو ُل‬،‫ات ِع ْندَ النَّ ِ ِ يبﷺ َو ََك َن ِِل َص َوا ِح ُب يَلْ َع ْ َْب َم ِعي‬ ُ َّ ‫ِض‬ َ ِ ‫ع ْن عَائِشَ َة َر‬
.‫ُِسِبُ ُ َّن ا َ َِّل فَ َيلْ َع ْ َْب َم ِعي‬
ِ ‫اَّللﷺ ا َذا َد َخ َل يَتَقَ َّم ْع َن ِمنْ ُه فَي َ ي‬ِ َّ
ِ ِ
33. A’isha said:

Whenever any of the members of the Prophet’s household felt ill, he used to recite al-
m’uwadhathat [Surah Al-Falaq & Al-Nas] and then blow over that individual. When he
[the Messenger of Allah] suffered from his terminal illness, I used to blow over him and
then rub his body with his own hands, since they had more barakah than mine.33
َ ‫ " فَلَ َّما َم ِر َض َم َرضَ ُه َّ ِاذلي َم‬،‫اَّللﷺ ا َذا َم ِر َض َأ َحد ِم ْن َأه ِ ِِْل ن َ َف َث عَلَ ْي ِه ِبلْ ُم َع ي ِو َذ ِات‬
‫ات‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬ ُ ‫ ََك َن َر ُس‬:‫ قالت‬،‫ع ْن عَائِشَ َة‬
ِ
‫ َج َعلْ ُت َأنْ ُف ُث عَلَ ْي ِه َو َأ ْم َس ُح ُه ِب َي ِد ن َ ْف ِس ِه ِ ََلَّنَّ َا ََكن َْت َأع َْظ َم بَ َر َك اة ِم ْن ي َ ِدي‬،‫ِفي ِه‬

34. Anas said:

It once reached Safiyyah that Hafsah called her “The daughter of a Jew”, so she wept.
Then the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬entered upon her while she was crying, and he asked: “What makes
you cry?”
She said: “Hafsah called me the daughter of a Jew.”
So the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬responded: “You are the daughter of a Prophet, your uncle is a
Prophet, and you are married to a Prophet, so what is she boasting to you about?”
Then he said: “Fear Allah, O Hafsah.”34

32
Sahih Al-Bukhari [6130], Sahih Muslim [2440 a], Sahih Ibn Hibban [5863], Musnad Ahmed [24298]
33
Sahih Al-Bukhari [4439], Sahih Muslim [2192 a], Musnad Ahmed [24927]
34
Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi, Sahih Ibn Hibban [7211], Musnad Ahmed [12392] & declared Hasan Sahih Gharib by
Al-Tirmidhi

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 َ ِ ‫ فَدَ َخ َل عَلَْيْ َا النَّ ِ ُّبﷺ َو‬،‫ ِبن ْ ُت ّيَ ُو ِد ٍ يي فَبَ َك ْت‬:‫ بَلَ َغ َص ِفيَّ َة َأ َّن َح ْف َص َة قَال َ ْت‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫َع ْن َأن َ ٍس‬
ِ ‫ " َما يُ ْب ِك‬:‫ فَقَا َل‬،‫ِه تَ ْب ِِك‬
‫يك؟‬
‫ فَ ِف َمي‬،‫ َوان َِّك ل َ َت ْح َت ن ِ ٍ يَب‬،‫ َوا َّن َ ََّع ِك لَنَ ِ ٌّب‬،‫ " ان َِّك َالبْنَ ُة ن ِ ٍ يَب‬:K ‫ فَقَا َل النَّ ِ ُّب‬،‫ ا ِ يّن ِبن ْ ُت ّيَ ُو ِد ٍ يي‬:‫ قَال َ ْت ِِل َح ْف َص ُة‬:‫ فَقَال َ ْت‬،"
ِ ِ ِ ِ
" ‫اَّلل ََي َح ْف َص ُة‬ َ َّ ‫ ات َّ ِقي‬:‫تَ ْفخ َُر عَلَ ْي ِك؟ ُ َُّث قَا َل‬
35. A’isha said:
Divine revelation to Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬first came in the form of good dreams, such that
he would not see a dream except that it became true just as broad daylight [comes after
the night]. Then, he was made to love seclusion, and he used to go to the cave of Hira
alone where he would worship Allah continuously for many nights before he’d return to
his family.
He used to continuously take food with him, and then he’d come back to Khadija to
resupply again. One day, the Truth descended upon him while he was in the cave of Hira.
The angel came to him and asked him to read. The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬replied, "I do not know
how to read." The Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬added: "The angel then embraced me, and he pressed
me so hard that I could not bear it any more. He then released me and asked me to
read again, and I replied: “I do not know how to read.” Thereupon, he embraced me
again and pressed me a second time until I could not bear it any more. He then
released me and asked me to read again, but I similarly replied: “I do not know how
to read” Thereupon he caught me for the third time and embraced me, and then
released me and said: “Read in the name of your Lord, who has created ;created
man from a clot. Read! And your Lord is the Most Generous."
Then Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬returned with his heart severely trembling. Then, he went to
Khadija bint Khuwailid and said, "Cover me! Cover me!" They covered him until his
fear dissipated. After that, he told her everything that had happened, and he said: "I
feared for my life." Khadija replied, "Never! By Allah, He shall never disgrace you. You
keep good relations with your kin, help the poor and the destitute, serve your guests
generously and assist those affected by calamities."
Khadija then took him to her cousin Waraqa bin Nawfal bin Asad bin 'Abdul 'Uzza, who
was a Christian monk who used to write the scripture in Hebrw during the Jahilyyah. He
used to write from the Gospel in Hebrew as much as Allah wished him to write. He was
an old man, and he had lost his eyesight by then. Khadija said to Waraqa, "Listen to the
story of your nephew, O my cousin!"

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 ‫ﷺ ‪Waraqa asked, "O my nephew! What have you seen?" The Messenger of Allah‬‬
‫‪described what he had seen. Waraqa said: "This is the Namus whom Allah had sent to‬‬
‫"‪Moses. I wish I were young and could live up to the time when your people expel you.‬‬
‫"?‪ asked, "Will they expel me‬ﷺ ‪Allah's Messenger‬‬
‫‪Waraqa said: "Yes. There is not a single man who has ever come with something similar‬‬
‫‪to what you have come with except that he was treated with hostility. If I shall remain‬‬
‫"‪alive till the day when you are expelled, I’d support you.‬‬
‫‪After a few days, Waraqa died, and the Divine Inspiration paused for a while.35‬‬

‫الصا ِل َح ُة ِِف النَّ ْو ِم‪ ،‬فَ ََك َن َال يَ َرى‬ ‫اَّللﷺ ِم َن الْ َو ْ ِ‬
‫ْح ُّالر ْؤ ََي َّ‬ ‫َع ْن عَائِشَ َة ُأ يِم الْ ُم ْؤ ِم ِن َني‪َ ،‬أَّنَّ َا‪ ،‬قَالَ ْت‪َ " :‬أ َّو ُل َما بُ ِد َئ ِب ِه َر ُس ُ‬
‫ول َّ ِ‬
‫اِل َذ َو ِات‬‫الص ْب ِح‪َُّ ُ ،‬ث ُحبي َِب ِال َ ْي ِه الْخ ََال ُء َو ََك َن َ َْيلُو ِبغ َِار ِح َرا ٍء‪ ،‬فَ َيتَ َحنَّ ُث ِفي ِه َوه َُو التَّ َع ُّبدُ الل َّ َي ِ َ‬ ‫ُر ْؤ ََي ا َّال َج َاء ْت ِمثْ َل فَلَ ِق ُّ‬
‫ِ‬
‫الْ َعدَ ِد قَ ْب َل َأ ْن ي َ ْ ِْن َع ا َىل َأه ِ ِِْل َوي َ َ ََت َّو ُد ِ َذل ِ َِل‪َُّ ُ ،‬ث يَ ْرجِ ُع ا َىل َخ ِد ََي َة فَ َي َ ََت َّو ُد ِل ِمثْ ِلهَا َح ََّّت َج َاء ُه الْ َح ُّق َوه َُو ِِف غَ ِار ِح َرا ٍء‪ ،‬فَ َج َاء ُه‬
‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬
‫ل‪ ،‬فَقَا َل‪ :‬ا ْق َر ْأ‪ ،‬قَا َل‪َ :‬ما َأَنَ ِب َق ِارئٍ ‪ ،‬قَا َل‪ :‬فَأَخ ََذ ِّن فَغ ََّط ِّن َح ََّّت بَلَ َغ ِم ِ يّن الْ َجهْدَ ‪َُّ ُ ،‬ث َأ ْر َسلَ ِّن‪ ،‬فَقَا َل‪ :‬ا ْق َر ْأ‪ ،‬قُلْ ُت‪َ :‬ما َأَنَ‬ ‫الْ َم َ ُ‬
‫ِب َق ِارئٍ ‪ ،‬فَأَخ ََذ ِّن فَغ ََّط ِّن الثَّا ِن َي َة َح ََّّت بَلَ َغ ِم ِ يّن الْ َجهْدَ ‪َُّ ُ ،‬ث َأ ْر َسلَ ِّن‪ ،‬فَ َقا َل‪ :‬ا ْق َر ْأ‪ ،‬فَ ُقلْ ُت َما َأَنَ ِبقَ ِارئٍ ‪ ،‬فَأَخ ََذ ِّن فَغ ََّط ِّن الث َّا ِلثَ َة‪،‬‬
‫ِس َرب ي َِك َّ ِاذلي َخلَ َق { ‪َ } 1‬خلَ َق االن ْ َس َان ِم ْن عَلَ ٍق { ‪ } 2‬ا ْق َر ْأ َو َرب ُّ َك اَلَ ْك َر ُم { ‪" } 3‬ق‪،‬‬ ‫ِ‬ ‫ُ َُّث َأ ْر َسلَ ِّن فَقَا َل‪:‬ف " ا ْق َر ْأ ِب ْ‬
‫ِ‬
‫اَّلل َعِنْ َا‪ ،‬فَقَا َل‪َ :‬ز ِ يملُ ِوّن َز ِ يملُ ِوّن‪ ،‬فَ َز َّملُو ُه‬ ‫اَّللﷺ يَ ْر ُج ُف فُ َؤا ُد ُه‪ ،‬فَدَ َخ َل عَ َىل َخ ِد ََي َة ِبن ْ ِت خ َُويْ ِ ٍِل َر ِ َ‬
‫ِض َّ ُ‬ ‫ول َّ ِ‬ ‫فَ َر َج َع ِبِ َا َر ُس ُ‬
‫اَّلل‬
‫يك َّ ُ‬ ‫يت عَ َىل ن َ ْف ِِس‪ ،‬فَقَال َ ْت َخ ِد ََي ُة‪َّّ َ :‬لَك َو َّ ِ‬
‫اَّلل َما ُ َْي ِز َ‬ ‫َح ََّّت َذه ََب َع ْن ُه َّالر ْوعُ‪ ،‬فَقَا َل ِل َخ ِد ََي َة‪َ ،‬و َأخ َ َْربهَا الْخ َ ََرب‪ :‬لَقَدْ خ َِش ُ‬
‫ك‪َ ،‬وتَ ْك ِس ُب الْ َم ْعدُ و َم‪َ ،‬وتَ ْق ِري الضَّ ْي َف‪َ ،‬وتُ ِع ُني عَ َىل ن ََوائِ ِب الْ َح ي ِق‪ ،‬فَان َْطلَقَ ْت ِب ِه َخ ِد ََي ُة‬ ‫َأبَدا ا‪ ،‬ان ََّك ل َ َت ِص ُل َّالر ِح َم‪َ ،‬و َ َْت ِم ُل الْ َ َّ‬
‫ِ‬
‫رص ِِف الْ َجا ِه ِل َّي ِة‪َ ،‬و ََك َن يَ ْك ُت ُب الْ ِكتَ َ‬
‫اب‬ ‫َح ََّّت َأت َْت ِب ِه َو َرقَ َة ْب َن ن َْوفَ ِل ْب ِن َأ َس ِد ْب ِن َع ْب ِد الْ ُع َّزى ا ْب َن َ يِع َخ ِد ََي َة‪َ ،‬و ََك َن ا ْم َر ًأ تَنَ َّ َ‬
‫اَّلل أَ ْن يَ ْك ُت َب‪َ ،‬و ََك َن َش ْيخاا َكب اِْيا قَدْ َ َِع َي‪ ،‬فَقَال َ ْت َ ُهل َخ ِد ََي ُة‪ََ :‬ي ا ْب َن َ يِع‪،‬‬ ‫اّن‪ ،‬فَيَ ْك ُت ُب ِم َن ْاال َْن ِ‬
‫ِيل ِبلْ ِع ْ َربا ِن َّي ِة َما َش َاء َّ ُ‬ ‫الْ ِع ْ َرب ِ َّ‬
‫ِ‬
‫اَّللﷺ خ َ ََرب َما َر َأى‪ ،‬فَقَا َل َ ُهل َو َرقَ ُة‪َ :‬ه َذا‬ ‫يك‪ ،‬فَقَا َل َ ُهل َو َرقَ ُة‪ََ :‬ي ابْ َن َأ ِِخ‪َ ،‬ما َذا تَ َرى‪ ،‬فَأَخ َ َْرب ُه َر ُسو ُل َّ ِ‬ ‫اَس ْع ِم َن ابْ ِن َأ ِخ َ‬ ‫َْ‬
‫اَّلل ‪:K‬‬‫ون َحيًّا ا ْذ ُ َْي ِر ُج َك قَ ْو ُم َك‪ ،‬فَقَا َل َر ُسو ُل َّ ِ‬ ‫وَسﷺ ََي ل َ ْيت َ ِّن ِفْيَا َج َذعاا‪ ،‬ل َ ْيت َ ِّن َأ ُك ُ‬ ‫اَّلل عَ َىل ُم َ‬‫النَّا ُم ُوس َّ ِاذلي نَ َّز َل َّ ُ‬
‫ِ‬

‫‪35‬‬
‫]‪Sahih Al-Bukhari [3], Sahih Muslim [160 a‬‬

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 ‫ ُ َُّث ل َ ْم‬،‫َرصا ُم َؤ َّز ارا‬ ْ ُ ‫ َوا ْن يُدْ ِر ْك ِّن ي َ ْو ُم َك َأن‬،‫ط ِب ِمث ِْل َما جِ ئ َْت ِب ِه ا َّال عُو ِد َي‬
‫ْرصكَ ن ْ ا‬ ُّ َ‫ ل َ ْم يَأْ ِت َر ُجل ق‬،‫ ن َ َع ْم‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫ِج ُ ُْه‬ َّ ِ ‫َأ َو ُم ْخ ِر‬
ِ ِ
" ‫ْح‬ ُ ْ ‫يَنْشَ ْب َو َرقَ ُة َأ ْن ت ُُو ِ ي َِف َوفَ َ ََت الْ َو‬

36. Anas bin Malik said:

The son of Abu Talba, who was born of Umm Sulaim died, and Umm Sulaim said to the
members of her family: “Do not tell Abu Talha anything about his son until I do.”

Abu Talha then came home, and she presented to him the supper. He ate it and then drank
water. She had also adorned herself in a manner she had not done previously.

He then had a sexual intercourse with her, and when she saw that he was satisfied, she
said: “Abu Talha, if some people borrowed something from another family, and then the
family asked for its return, would they be able to resist returning it?”

He said: “No.”

She said: “Then seek the reward in your son from Allah …. [due to his death].”

He was furious, and he said: “You waited until I had had sexual intercourse with you,
then you informed me about my son ?!”

He went to Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬and informed him of what had happened. Thereupon
Allah's Messenger ‫ ﷺ‬said: “May Allah bless both of you in that night you spent with
each other.”

Anas said: She then became pregnant, and Allah's Messenger was in the course of a
journey, and she was with him. When the Messenger of Allah came near Medina, he did
not enter it at night, and they settled at its outskirts. At that moment, she began to feel the
contractions of delivery.

Abu Talha remained with her, and the Messenger of Allah proceeded into Medina.

Abu Talha said: “O Lord, you know that I love to go with Your Messenger wherever he
goes, in and out….but I have now been detained as You can see.”

Umm Sulaim said: “Abu Talha, I do not feel as much pain I had previously felt, so let us
proceed. So they proceeded, and she felt the contractions of delivery as they entered
Medina. A child was born to them, and my mother said to me: “O Anas, no one should
nurse him until you go to Allah's Messenger tomorrow morning.”

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 ‫‪When it was in the morning, I carried him to the Messenger of Allah.‬‬

‫‪When I met him, I saw that he had in his hand the instrument for the cauterization of the‬‬
‫‪camels.‬‬

‫”?‪When he saw me, he said: “Perhaps this is what Umm Sulaim has given birth to‬‬

‫”‪I said: “Yes.‬‬

‫‪He put the instrument on the ground, and I brought that child to him and placed it in the‬‬
‫‪Prophet’s lap. He [the Prophet] asked for Ajwa dates to be brought, and he chewed on‬‬
‫‪them, softening them in his mouth. When the dates had become palatable, he placed them‬‬
‫‪in the mouth of that child, and the child began to palate them.‬‬

‫”!‪Then the Messenger of Allah said: “Look at the Ansar’s affinity to dates‬‬

‫‪He then wiped his face and named him “Abdullah”. 36‬‬

‫ون َأَنَ ُأ َح يِدثُهُ‪ ،‬قَا َل‪:‬‬ ‫ات ا ْبن ِ ََل ِِب َطلْ َح َة ِم ْن ُأ يِم ُسلَ ْ ٍمي‪ ،‬فَقَال َ ْت ِ ََل ْه ِلهَا‪َ :‬ال ُ ََت يِدثُوا َأ َب َطلْ َح َة ِببْ ِن ِه َح ََّّت َأ ُك َ‬ ‫َع ْن َأن َ ٍس‪ ،‬قَا َل‪َ " :‬م َ‬
‫ْش َب‪ ،‬فَقَا َل‪َُّ ُ :‬ث ت ََصنَّ َع ْت َ ُهل َأ ْح َس َن َما ََك َن ت ََصنَّ ُع قَ ْب َل َذ ِ َِل‪ ،‬فَ َوقَ َع ِبِ َا‪ ،‬فَلَ َّما َر َأ ْت َأن َّ ُه قَدْ‬ ‫ك َو َ ِ‬‫فَ َج َاء فَقَ َّرب َ ْت ال َ ْي ِه َعشَ ااء‪ ،‬فَأَ َ َ‬
‫ِ‬
‫وُه؟ قَا َل‪:‬‬ ‫اب ِمِنْ َا‪ ،‬قَال َ ْت ََي َأ َب َطلْ َح َة‪َ :‬أ َر َأيْ َت ل َ ْو َأ َّن قَ ْو اما َأعَ ُاروا عَ ِاريَُتَ ُ ْم َأ ْه َل بَيْ ٍت‪ ،‬فَ َطلَ ُبوا عَ ِاريَُتَ ُ ْم َألَهُ ْم َأ ْن ي َ ْمنَ ُع ُ ْ‬‫َش ِب َع َو َأ َص َ‬
‫َال‪ ،‬قَال َ ْت‪ :‬فَا ْحت َ ِس ْب ابْنَ َك‪ ،‬قَا َل‪ :‬فَغ َِض َب‪َ ،‬وقَا َل‪ :‬تَ َر ْك ِت ِّن َح ََّّت تَلَ َّطخ ُْت‪َُّ ُ ،‬ث َأخ َ ْْربِت ِّن ِببْ ِّن‪ ،‬فَان َْطلَ َق َح ََّّت َأ ََت َر ُسو َل‬
‫ول َّ ِ‬
‫اَّللﷺ ِِف‬ ‫اَّلل لَ ُكَا ِِف غَا ِب ِر ل َ ْيلَ ِت ُكَا‪ ،‬قَا َل‪ :‬فَ َح َملَ ْت‪ ،‬قَا َل‪ :‬فَ ََك َن َر ُس ُ‬‫اَّلل ‪َ :K‬ب َركَ َّ ُ‬ ‫ول َّ ِ‬ ‫َّ ِ‬
‫اَّللﷺ فَأَخ َ َْرب ُه ِب َما ََك َن‪ ،‬فَقَا َل َر ُس ُ‬
‫َاض‪،‬‬ ‫ْضِبَ َا الْ َمخ ُ‬ ‫اَّللﷺ ا َذا َأ ََت الْ َم ِدينَ َة ِم ْن َس َف ٍر َال ي َ ْط ُرقُهَا ُط ُروقاا‪ ،‬فَدَ ن َْوا ِم ْن الْ َم ِدينَ ِة‪ ،‬فَ َ َ‬ ‫ول َّ ِ‬
‫ِه َم َعهُ‪َ ،‬و ََك َن َر ُس ُ‬ ‫َ‬ ‫َس َف ٍر َو ِ‬
‫ِ‬
‫ول َأبُو َطلْ َح َة‪ :‬ان ََّك لَتَ ْع َ ُمل ََي َر ِ يب ان َّ ُه يُ ْعجِ ُب ِّن َأ ْن َأخ ُْر َج َم َع‬ ‫ول َّ ِ‬
‫اَّللﷺ قَا َل‪ :‬ي َ ُق ُ‬ ‫فَا ْح ُت ِب َس عَلَْيْ َا َأبُو َطلْ َح َة‪َ ،‬وان َْطلَ َق َر ُس ُ‬
‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬
‫ول ُأ ُّم ُسلَ ْ ٍمي ََي َأ َب َطلْ َح َة‪َ :‬ما أَجِ دُ َّ ِاذلي ُك ْن ُت‬ ‫وِل‪ ،‬ا َذا خ ََر َج َو َأ ْد ُخ َل َم َع ُه ا َذا َد َخلَ‪َ ،‬وقَ ِد ْاحتَبَ ْس ُت ِب َما تَ َرى‪ ،‬قَا َل‪ :‬تَ ُق ُ‬ ‫َر ُس ِ َ‬
‫ِ‬ ‫ِ‬
‫َاض ِح َني قَ ِد َما فَ َو َ َدل ْت غُ َال اما‪ ،‬فَقَال َ ْت ِِل ُأ ِ يمي‪ََ :‬ي َأن َ ُس َال يُ ْر ِض ُع ُه َأ َحد َح ََّّت‬ ‫َضِبَ َا الْ َمخ ُ‬
‫أَجِ دُ ان َْط ِل ْق‪ ،‬فَان َْطلَ ْقنَا‪ ،‬قَا َل‪َ :‬و َ َ‬
‫اَّللﷺ فَلَ َّما َأ ْص َب َح ا ْحتَ َملْ ُتهُ‪ ،‬فَان َْطلَ ْق ُت ِب ِه ا َىل َر ُسولِ َّ ِ‬
‫اَّللﷺ قَا َل‪ :‬فَ َصا َدفْ ُت ُه َو َم َع ُه ِم َيسم‪ ،‬فَلَ َّما َرأ ِّن‪،‬‬ ‫تَغْدُ َو ِب ِه عَ َىل َر ُسولِ َّ ِ‬
‫ِ‬
‫قَا َل‪ :‬ل َ َع َّل ُأ َّم ُسلَ ْ ٍمي َو َ َدل ْت‪ ،‬قُلْ ُت‪ :‬ن َ َع ْم فَ َوضَ َع الْ ِم َيس َم‪ ،‬قَا َل‪َ :‬وجِ ئ ُْت ِب ِه‪ ،‬فَ َوضَ ْع ُت ُه ِِف َح ْج ِر ِه‪َ ،‬و َدعَا َر ُسو ُل َّ ِ‬
‫اَّللﷺ ِب َع ْج َو ٍة ِم ْن‬

‫‪36‬‬
‫]‪Sahih Al-Bukhari [1301], Sahih Muslim [2144 d‬‬

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 ِ َّ ‫ فَ َقا َل َر ُسو ُل‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫الص ِ ُّب يَتَلَ َّم ُظهَا‬
: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬ َّ ‫ ُ َُّث قَ َذفَهَا ِِف ِِف‬،‫ فَ َال َكهَا ِِف ِفي ِه َح ََّّت َذاب َ ْت‬،‫َ َْع َو ِة الْ َم ِدينَ ِة‬
َّ ‫ فَ َج َع َل‬،‫الص ِ ِ يب‬
ِ َّ َ‫ فَ َم َس َح َو ْ َُج ُه َو َ ََّسا ُه َع ْبد‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫ان ُْظ ُروا ا َىل ُح ِ يب ْ َاَلن َْص ِار التَّ ْم َر‬
.‫اَّلل‬
ِ
V. Proverbs
37. Abu Huraira reported that the Messenger of Allah said:
A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes a certain behavior
from her, he should like another. 37

َ ِ ‫ " َال ي َ ْف َركْ ُم ْؤ ِمن ُم ْؤ ِمنَ اة ا ْن كَ ِر َه ِمِنْ َا ُخلُقاا َر‬: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬

" ‫ِض ِمِنْ َا أخ ََر‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬
ُ ‫ قَا َل َر ُس‬:‫ قَا َل‬،َ‫َع ْن َأ ِِب ه َُرْي َرة‬
ِ

38. Sa’d bin Abi Waqqas reported that the Messenger of Allah said:
"There is not a single thing you spend for the sake of Allah, except that Allah shall
reward you for it, including a morsel which you put in your wife's mouth." 38

‫اَّلل ا َّال أُجِ ْر َت عَلَْيْ َا َح ََّّت َما َ َْت َع ُل‬

ِ َّ ‫ " ان ََّك ل َ ْن تُ ْن ِف َق ن َ َفقَ اة تَبْتَ ِغي ِبِ َا َو ْج َه‬:‫اَّللﷺ قَا َل‬
ِ َّ ‫ َأ َّن َر ُسو َل‬، ‫َع ْن َس ْع ِد ْب ِن َأ ِِب َوقَّ ٍاص‬
ِ ِ
" ‫ِِف فَ ِم ا ْم َر َأ ِت َك‬

39. Jabir bin ‘Abdillah reported that the Messenger of Allah said:
"When anyone of you is away from home for a long time, he should not return to his
family at night as a surprise." 39

.‫ " ا َذا َأ َطا َل َأ َحدُ ُُكُ الْغَ ْي َب َة فَ َال ي َ ْط ُر ْق َأه َ ُِْل ل َ ْي اال‬: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬
ِ َّ ‫ول‬ ِ َّ ‫عن َجا ِب َر ْب َن َع ْب ِد‬
ُ ‫ قَا َل َر ُس‬:‫ قال‬: ،‫اَّلل‬
ِ
40. Anas bin Malik said:
I worked as a servant for the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬for ten years, and, by Allah, never had
he ever told me “uff” [out of frustration], and never had he complained to me about a
single thing [I did wrong] saying: “Why did/didn’t you do it that way?” 40

37
Sahih Muslim [1468 b], Musnad Ahmed [8363]
38
Sahih Al-Bukhari [56], Sahih Muslim [1628 a], Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi [2116], Sunan Abi Dawud [2864]
39
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5244], Sahih Muslim [715 ab], Sahih Ibn Hibban [2713]
40
Sahih Muslim [2309 a], Sahih Ibn Hibban [2893], Musnad Ahmed [11974]

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 ْ َ ‫ َو َال قَا َل ِِل ِل‬،ُّ‫اَّلل َما قَا َل ِِل ُأفًّا قَط‬
‫ ِل َم فَ َعلْ َت‬،‫ِش ٍء‬ ِ َّ ‫ َو‬،‫ََش ِس ِن َني‬
َ ْ ‫ " خَدَ ْم ُت َر ُسو َل َّاَّلل ﷺ ع‬:‫ قَا َل‬،‫اِل‬
ٍ ِ ‫َع ْن َأن َ ِس ْب ِن َم‬
" ‫ َوه ََّال فَ َعلْ َت َك َذا؟‬،‫َك َذا‬
41. A'isha said:
The Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬never beat anyone with his hands, neither a woman nor a
servant, except when he’d be fighting for the sake of Allah. He also never took revenge
for anything unless a right of Allah was violated. Then, he would take revenge for Allah,
the Exalted and Glorious.41

ِ َّ ‫ِيل‬
‫ َو َما‬،‫اَّلل‬ ِ ‫ ا َّال َأ ْن ُ ََيا ِهدَ ِِف َسب‬،‫ َو َال خَا ِد اما‬،‫ َو َال ا ْم َر َأةا‬،‫اَّلل ﷺ َشيْئاا قَطُّ ِب َي ِد ِه‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬ ُ ‫َض َب َر ُس‬ َ َ ‫ " َما‬:‫ قَال َ ْت‬،‫َع ْن عَائِشَ َة‬
ِ
.‫ فَيَ ْنتَ ِق َم ِ َّ َِّلل عز وجل‬،‫اَّلل‬
ِ َّ ‫َشء ِم ْن َم َح ِار ِم‬ ْ َ ‫ ِا َّال َأ ْن يُنُْتَ َ َك‬،‫ فَيَ ْنتَ ِق َم ِم ْن َصا ِح ِب ِه‬،ُّ‫َشء قَط‬
ْ َ ‫ِني َل ِمنْ ُه‬
42. Ibn ‘Abbas reported that the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬said:
If anyone of you were to say “In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from Satan
and also protect what you bestow upon us from Satan” prior to having sexual
intercourse, then Satan shall never be able to harm that offspring, if they were
destined to have a child. 42

َّ ‫ اللَّه َُّم َج ِني ْبنَا‬،‫اَّلل‬

‫ َو َج ِني ْب‬،‫الش ْي َط َان‬ ِ ْ ‫ ِب‬:‫ قَا َل‬،ُ‫ " ل َ ْو َأ َّن َأ َحدَ ُ ُْك ِا َذا َأ ََت َأه َِْل‬:‫ ي َ ْبلُ ُغ النَّ ِ َّب ﷺ قَا َل‬،‫َع ِن ا ْب ِن َع َّب ٍاس‬
ِ َّ ‫ِس‬
ُّ ُ َ ‫ِض بَيِْنَ ُ َما َو َدل لَ ْم ي‬
" ‫ْض ُه‬ َ ِ ‫ فَ ُق‬،‫الش ْي َط َان َما َر َز ْقتَنَا‬
َّ

43. Anas bin Malik said:

While he was traveling, the Prophet ‫ ﷺ‬visited to some of his wives, and Umm Sulaim was
among them. A man was leading the camels which carried the women, and the Prophet
then told him: " O Anjasha (his name) ! Drive the camels slowly, as they are carrying
glass vessels. (referring to the women) " 43

ِ َّ ‫ قَا َل ََكن َْت ُأ ُّم ُسلَ ْ ٍمي َم َع ِن َسا ِء النَّ ِ ِ يب صىل هللا عليه وسمل َوه َُّن ي َُس ُوق ِبِ ِ َّن َس َّواق فَقَا َل ن ِ َُّب‬،‫اِل‬
‫اَّلل صىل‬ ٍ ِ ‫َع ْن َأن َ ِس ْب ِن َم‬
. " ‫هللا عليه وسمل " َأ ْى َأ ْ ََنشَ ُة ُر َويْدا ا َس ْوقَ َك ِبلْقَ َو ِاري ِر‬

41
Sahih Muslim [2328 a], Sunan Abi Dawud [4786], Sahih Ibn Hibban [6444]
42
Sahih Al-Bukhari [3271], Sahih Muslim [1434 a], Sunan Abi Dawud [2161], Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi [1092]
43
Sahih Al-Bukhari [6149], Sahih Muslim [2323 a], Sahih Ibn Hibban [12090], Musnad Ahmed [12090]

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44. Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported that the Messenger of Allah ‫ ﷺ‬said:
“When any of you has sexual intercourse with his wife and then he intends to go
again, he should perform ablution [in between sessions]” 44

ْ‫ فَلْ َيتَ َوضَّ أ‬،َ‫ ُ َُّث َأ َرا َد َأ ْن ي َ ُعود‬،ُ‫ " ا َذا َأ ََت َأ َحدُ ُ ُْك َأه َِْل‬:K ‫اَّلل‬ ُ ‫ قَا َل َر ُس‬:‫ع ْن َأ ِِب َس ِعي ٍد الْخُدْ ِر ِ يي قَا َل‬
ِ َّ ‫ول‬
ِ
45. Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger of Allah said:
Treat women kindly, for Woman was created from a rib, and the most curved
portion of the rib is its upper portion. If you attempt to straighten it out, it will
break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked. So treat women kindly." 45

‫ " ْاس تَ ْو ُصوا ِبل ِن ي َسا ِء فَا َّن الْ َم ْر َأ َة ُخ ِلقَ ْت ِم ْن ِضلَع ٍ َوا َّن َأع َْو َج‬: ‫اَّلل ﷺ‬ ِ َّ ‫ول‬
ُ ‫ قَا َل َر ُس‬:‫ قَا َل‬،ُ‫اَّلل َع ْنه‬ َ ِ ‫َع ْن َأ ِِب ه َُرْي َر َة َر‬
ُ َّ ‫ِض‬
ِ ِ
ْ َ ‫ فَا ْن َذ َه ْب َت تُ ِقمي ُ ُه َك‬،‫الضلَع ِ َأعْ َال ُه‬
" ‫ َوا ْن تَ َر ْكتَ ُه ل َ ْم يَ َز ْل َأع َْو َج فَ ْاس تَ ْو ُصوا ِبل ِن ي َسا ِء‬،ُ‫ِستَه‬ ‫َش ٍء ِِف ِي‬ َْ
ِ ِ

‫ خمته أبو العباس الشايم ادلمشقي غفر هللا هل ولوادليه ولسائر املسلمني‬،‫هذا متام كتاب اَلربعني ِف أحاديث النَكح‬

1439 ‫يوم الثالث عَش من شعبان س نة‬

‫وصىل هللا عىل محمد‬

‫وعىل أهل‬

‫وحصبه‬

‫وسمل‬

44
Sahih Muslim [308], Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi [141], Sahih Ibn Hibban [1211], Musnad Ahmed [11227]
45
Sahih Al-Bukhari [5185], Sahih Muslim [1468 a]

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