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“We need to be clear that there is no such thing as giving up one’s privilege to be
‘outside’ the system. One is always in the system. The only question is whether one is
part of the system in a way that challenges or strengthens the status quo. Privilege is
not something I take and which therefore have the option of not taking. It is something
that society gives me, and unless I change the institutions which give it to me, they will
continue to give it, and I will continue to have it, however noble and equalitarian my
intentions.”
− Harry Brod, “Work Clothes and Leisure Suits: The Class Basis and Bias of the Men’s Movement,”
in Men’s Lives, ed. Michael S. Kimmel and Michael Messner (New York: Macmillan, 1989), 280.
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Making Decisions for what my friend and I had planned without
any input from people of color.)
Everyone A couple of weeks later, at our second
meeting, the women of color pointed out
White privilege is the ability to make that I had fallen into the classic trap of white
decisions that affect everyone without women: the come-be-part-of-what-we’re-
taking others into account. This occurs doing syndrome. “If you truly want us to
at every level, from intellectual to work with you to create a conference, we
individual. The following story could will. But it means starting over and building
look simply like an oversight: “Oops, I a plan together. If you want us to enter the
forgot to ask other people what they planning process in the middle and add our
thought.” However, it is typical behavior ideas to yours, we’re not interested.”
for white women who want women of
color to join them in their endeavors.
During a visit with an out-of-town White People Don’t
friend − another white woman and a Have to Listen
librarian – we began to plan a
conference for librarians on racism that Being white enables me to decide
we named “Librarians as Colleagues: whether I am going to listen to others, to
Working Together Across Racial Lines.” hear them, or neither. As one of those in
We talked and talked, making notes of what Lisa Delpit calls “the culture of power,”
good exercises to include, videos to I also silence others without intending to or
use, materials that might prove helpful. even being aware of it. For example, a
It was absolutely clear that we needed a colleague of mine, and African American
diverse committee to work with me, the woman, attended a conference on the
facilitator, and we created one that process of dialogue. Of the forty-five
would include all voices: two white people there, she was one of four who were
women (one Jewish), a Latina, a not white. The whites were of the
Chinese American woman, straight intellectual elite: highly educated, bright,
women and lesbians, and several and, for the most part, liberal people. As
African Americans. By the end of our the meeting unfolded, it became
conversation, I was extremely excited increasingly clear that, if the women of color
and couldn’t wait to contact the women didn’t mention race, no one would. The
on the “planning committee.” white people were not conscious enough to
At the first meeting with these the fact that race − their race − was an
women, during the introductions, I talked integral aspect of every conversation they
about my twenty-five year history of were having. When the women of color did
working on issues of racism and insert the issue into the dialogue, the white
particularly my own work on what it people felt accused of being “racist.” In this
means to be white and Southern. Then instance, “silencing” took place when the
I presented what my friend and I had planners were not clear that race was
thought up as the plan for the present at the conference even if no people
conference and all of us talked about of color attended; the white participants
the particulars. (In other words, I didn’t include the reality of others in their
presented my credentials as a “good plan; and, when the issue was raised by my
white person” and then proceeded to colleague, she was made to feel that she
create a conference that was exactly was the one who was “causing trouble.”
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In her article “The Silenced Dialogue: White privilege allows us not to see race
Power and Pedagogy in Educating in ourselves and to be angry at those who
Other People’s Children” (Harvard do. I was asked to address a meeting of
Education Review, Vol.58, Number 3, white women and women of color called
August 1988), Delpit includes the together to create strategies for addressing
profoundly disturbing comments of an social justice issues. Each of the women
African American teacher that illustrate had been working for years in her own
how we silence dialogue without being community on a range of issues from health
aware of doing it or meaning to. care to school reform. As I spoke about the
When you’re talking to White people work that is required for white women and
they still want it to be their way. You can women of color to collaborate authentically,
try to talk to them and give them the white women became nervous and then
examples, but they’re so headstrong, resistant. Why was race always such an
they think they know what’s best for issue for women of color? What did I mean
everybody, for everybody’s children.
when I said it was essential for white
They won’t listen. White folks are going
to do what they want to do anyway. women to be conscious of how being of
It’s really hard. They just don’t listen their race affects every hour of their lives,
well. No, they listen, but they don’t hear just as women of color are? They were all
− you know how your mama used to say professionals, some said, why did it matter
you listen to the radio, but you hear your what color they were? The silencing of
mother? Well, they don’t hear me. dialogue here occurred because the white
So I just try to shut them out so I can women didn’t see the race of the women in
hold my temper. You can only beat your the room as an issue. It did not occur to
head against a brick wall for so long them that their daily experience was
before you draw blood. If I try to stop different from that of the African Americans,
arguing with them I can’t help myself
Latinas, and Asian Americans in the room.
from getting angry. Then I end up
walking around praying all day “Please Had I not been asked to raise the issue, the
Lord, remove the bile I feel for those possibility of doing so would have been left
people so I can sleep tonight.” It’s funny, to the women of color, as it usually is.
but it can become a cancer, a sore. (pp. Believing that race is “N.M.I” (“Not My
280-281) Issue”) and being members of one or more
As Delpit says, these are not the groups that also experience systemic
sentiments of one isolated person who discrimination, we use the privilege of
teaches in a particularly racist school. emotionally and psychologically removing
The feelings are representative of a vast ourselves from the “white” group, which we
number of people of color as they see as composed either of demonically
interact with white people on a daily racist people who spout epithets and wear
basis. Ku Klux Klan robes or white, straight,
The saddest element is that the healthy males. For those of us who are
individuals that the Black and American white, and are also disabled, gay, lesbian,
Indian educators speak of…are seldom or straight women, our experience of being
aware that the dialogue has been excluded from the mainstream hides from
silenced. Most likely the white educators us to the fact that we still benefit from our
believe their colleagues of color did, in
skin color. By seeing ourselves as
the end, agree with their logic. After all,
they stopped disagreeing, didn’t they? removed in some way from the privileged
(p.281) group, we may be all the more deaf to our
silencing of people of color.
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Discounting People of Color suggesting that race is the only cause of
pain and discrimination. I am pointing
out one of the ways in which white
As white people, we have the
people suggest that someone else’s
privilege and ability to discount the
experience can’t be any worse than
worth of an individual of color, his or her
what we ourselves have experienced or
comments and behavior, and to alter his
can understand).
or her future, based on our asses-
sments. One of the most frightening Asking why people of color always focus
aspects of this privilege is that we are on the negative, as if life can’t be that
able to do enormous damage with a glib bad. A similar way of discounting
or off-hand comment such as “I just someone’s experience is to say, “You
don’t think she’s a good fit for our always focus on race. I remember at
organization.” Promotions have been two meetings last year…”
denied on the basis of such comments. Commenting, “I know we have a way to
There are many ways in which our go, but things have gotten better.”
comments are given inflated worth (Read, “Stop whining. What do you
because of the privilege we hold. want from me, anyway? Didn’t we fix
For example: everything in the 60’s?” Or “I know what
Seeing those most affected by your reality is better than you do.”)
racism as wounded or victims and Seeing and keeping ourselves central,
somehow, then, as defective. never marginal. For some years know,
Identifying a member of an writers of color have been discussing
oppressed group as wounded is the experience of living in the margins
patronizing, particularly when done while white people are living in the
by someone with privilege. center. In one of her early books,
“Mis-hearing” the comments of Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center
people of color so that their words (Boston: South End Press, 1984), Bell
are less important, not understood or Hooks defines it:
fully appreciated, and thereby To be in the margin is to be part of
heightening our sense of superiority. the whole but outside the main
body…Living as we did − on the edge −
Rephrasing or translating for others,
we developed a particular way of seeing
as if they cannot speak for
reality. We looked both from the outside
themselves, without appearing rude
in and from the inside out. We focused
to others like us.
our attention on the center as well as on
Being allowed, by others like us, to
the margin. (p.ix.)
take up most of the airtime without
saying much of substance.
Suggesting that people of color need Seeing White as “Normal”
to “lighten up,” not to take things so
seriously. Another element of this privilege is the
Saying or implying that, as a woman ability to see white people as normal and all
(or gay person or a working class the others as different-from-normal. In
person, and so on), you know what describing heterosexuals’ privilege, Allan G.
the person of color is going through. Johnson also identifies a white privilege.
“I know just how you feel. When the “They have the privilege of being able to
children in the playground made fun assume acceptance as ‘normal’ members
of me because I was fat…” (I am not of society…live[ing] in a world full of cultural
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images that confer a sense of legitimacy responsibility for the privileges we
and social desirability…” (The Gender Knot: receive as white people. The pain and
Unraveling Our Patriarchal Legacy, Philadelphia: sense of being less-than, often based
Temple University Press, 1997, p. 149.)
on reality, may emanate both from our
White people express this privilege
personal life experiences − my father
in many ways:
died when I was four − and our
We use ourselves and our
membership in groups from which
experiences as the referent for
privileges are systematically withheld −
everyone. “I’m not followed around
being poor or Jewish or gay or deaf. In
in the store by a guard. What makes
our minds, this sense of struggling
you think you are?”
somehow lessens or removes our
We reinsert ourselves into the responsibility for our receiving or
conversation if we feel it has drifted colluding in systematic white privilege.
to focus on a person of color or an For example, I often hear, “I don’t have
issue of others’ race. “I don’t really white privilege because I’m working
think the issue is race as much as it class.” White working class people do
is class.” not have the same socioeconomic
We bring a critical mass with us privileges as white upper-middle class
wherever we go. Even if I am the people. But, while class privileges are
only white person in a room of being withheld from them, they are
university administrators of color, I given the same skin color privileges.
know that most of the other We shift the focus back to us, even
administrators in the nation’s schools when the conversation is not about us.
look, relatively speaking, like me. A classic example of this is white
We believe that we have an women crying during conversations
automatic right to be heard when we about racism and women of color having
speak because most leaders in most to put their pain aside to help the white
organizations look like us. women who are crying. (African
(Obviously, this privilege in particular Americans and gays and lesbians, in
is significantly altered, though not particular, are expected to take
eliminated, by the intersections of responsibility for other people’s
socioeconomics class, gender, responses to and discomfort with them.)
sexual orientation, etc.) We use our white privilege to define the
We have, as a racial group, the parameters of “appropriate”
privilege not to have to think before conversation and communication,
we speak. If what we say is keeping our culture, manners, and
upsetting to others, our thought- language central by:
lessness, rudeness, anger, and so o Requesting a “safe” place to talk
on, are attributed to us as individuals about race and racism. This is often
rather than as members of our race, translated as being “safe” from
as is the case for others. “I can’t hearing the anger and pain of people
believe Bill was such a jerk in the of color as well as being able to say
meeting today,” as opposed to, “racist” things without being held
“Latinos are so passionate; they just accountable for them.
don’t think before they speak.” o Establishing the rules for “standard”
We use the pain and experience of English and holding others to our
being deprived in our lives to keep rules.
us central and lessen our
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o Setting up informal rules for white men died, as if no indigenous
communicating in the people had been killed there.
organizations and then failing to We are able to grow up without our
share those rules with people racial supremacy’s being questioned. It
who are different from us. is so taken for granted, such a
o Creating institutions that run by foundation of all that we know, that we
our culture’s rules but acting as if are able to be unconscious of it even
the rules are universally held, though it permeates every aspect of our
such as what time meetings start, lives. Charles W. Mills describes this
how people address one another, phenomenon in his book The Racial
the “appropriate” language to Contract (Ithaca: Cornell University Press, 1997).
use. “…white misunderstanding, misrepre-
sentation, evasion, and self-deception
If History is White on matters related to race
are…psychically required for conquest,
The privilege of writing and teaching colonization, and enslavement. And
history only from the perspective of the these phenomena are in no way
colonizer has such profound accidental, but prescribed by the terms
implications that they are difficult to of the Racial Contract, which requires a
fathom. As white people, we carry the certain schedule of structured blindness
stories we were taught as the truths, and opacities in order to establish and
often failing to question those truths and maintain the white polity.” (p. 19, italics his)
discrediting those who do. There are While we are deprived of the skills of
many embedded privileges here: critical thinking by being given such a
We are able to live in the absence of rudimentary view of our heritage, our
historical context. It is as if we are ignorance is not held against us. We
not forgetting our history, but acting are taught little complicated history to
as if it never happened. Or, if it did, have to sort through, think about,
it has nothing to do with us today. question, and so we have few
For most of us who are white, our opportunities to learn to grapple with
picture of the United States, both complexities. We end up with simplistic
past and present, is sanitized to sentiments like “America − love it or
leave out or downplay any atrocities leave it” because we have only been
we might have committed. Our taught fragments of information. We’re
Disneyland version of history is that told that George Washington couldn’t
our white ancestors came here, had tell a lie, but we aren’t told that he
a hard time traveling west, finally owned African people who were
conquered those terrible savages enslaved or that he most likely has
and settled our country, just as we descendants by those slaves. We don’t
were supposed to do − Manifest often have to wrestle with the fact that
Destiny. one of the biggest fights in framing the
Constitution was over maintaining
We are taught that we are the only
slavery.
ones in the picture. If there were
others, they obviously weren’t worth We have the privilege of determining
mentioning. An example of this is how and if historical characters and
the white crosses at the Little events will be remembered. From the
Bighorn Battlefield indicating where Alamo to the Filipino-American War to
the Japanese internment to Viet Nam to
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training the assassins at Fort loan, it’s because she or he didn’t earn
Benning, GA, who killed nuns and it.
priests in El Salvador: we retain an We are able to delude ourselves into
extremely tight hold on what is and is thinking that people of all colors come to
not admitted and how information is the table having been dealt the same
presented. We do this as a culture hand of cards. We act as if there are no
and we do it as individuals. remnants of slavery that affect African
We control what others know about Americans today, that the Japanese
their own histories by presenting only didn’t have to give up their land, their
parts of a story. Because we all go homes and businesses, or that the
to the same schools, if you will, Latinos weren’t brought back into what
everyone, regardless of color, is told had been their country to do stoop labor.
the “white” story. Japanese We can disconnect ourselves from any
Americans are told that their families’ reality of people of color that makes us
internment was purely a safety uncomfortable, because our privilege
precaution, just as white children allows us to believe that people
are. American Indian students see basically get what they deserve or we
Walt Disney’s “Davy Crockett” feel helpless to do anything about
alongside their white schoolmates, another group’s pain. So we have kind,
learning that their great grand- good people who, because of race and
mothers were “squaws” and their class privilege, are so removed that they
ancestors were “savages.” We all don’t have to see or experience others.
learn the “tomahawk chop” during Without that personal experience, they
baseball season. None of us sees a have no understanding of or motivation
whole picture or our nation that to address others’ lives.
includes the vast contributions of
those who are not white. All of us Inclusion and Collateral
are given a skewed picture of reality.
This is part of what Charles Mills is
We have the privilege of being able to
writing about in The Racial Contract.
determine inclusion or exclusion (of
We are able, almost always, to forget
ourselves and others) in a group.
that everything that happens in our
We can include or exclude at our whim.
lives occurs in the context of the
“She would be great here, but her
supremacy of whiteness. We are
research doesn’t focus enough on Latin
admitted to college, hired for jobs,
America even though she’s a Latina.”
given or denied loans, cared for by
And, moments later, “She would add a
the medical profession, and we walk
lot to our department, but she’s just
down the street as white people,
so…Chicana!”
always in the context of white
dominance. In other words, part of I have the ability as a white woman to
the reason that doors open for us is move back into my gender and
our unearned racial privilege. But commiserate with other women about
we act and often believe that we men if I don’t want to be aligned with
have earned everything we get. We other whites.
then generalize from our perceived We are able to slip in and out of
experience of deserving the opportu- conversations about race without being
nities we receive to thinking that , if a questioned about our loyalty or called an
person of color doesn’t get a job or a Oreo or a Banana or a Coconut.
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We can speak up about racism Property” (Harvard Law Review, 1993,
without being seen as self-serving. Vol. 106.)
In fact, we can even see ourselves
as good at standing up for others Ongoing Excavation
and mentally pat ourselves on the
back. We cannot allow our fear of anger to deflect
We expect and often receive us nor seduce us into settling for anything
appreciation for showing up at “their” less than the hard work of excavating
functions – the Multicultural Fair, the honesty…
NAACP annual fundraising event, - Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider,
the Asian Women Warriors awards Freedom, CA: The Crossing Press,
celebration – as if they don’t really 1984, p. 128.
pertain to us. If we aren’t thanked For those of us who are deeply
profusely by people of color, we give committed to social justice work, the
up because we feel unappreciated. purposeful crafting of systemic supremacy
We have the privilege of having our of whiteness is one of the most difficult and
race serve as a financial asset for painful realities to hold. It would be more
us. We are beneficiaries of a system comfortable to believe that racism
that was set up by people like us for somehow magically sprang full-blown
people like us so that we can control without our having had anything to do with
the critical financial aspects of our it. We would rather remain unconscious of
lives more than people of color are decisions that reinforce white privilege that
able to. There is much research that are made by a few on behalf of all white
shows that race, when isolated as a people.
variable, overrides the variables of However, if we are truly to understand
class and gender in impacting the racial context of the twenty-first century,
institution’s financial decisions. I am we have to grapple with our dogged
able to count on my race as a unwillingness to understand the patterns of
financial asset, if I have nothing else discrimination for what they are. We must
to offer as collateral. For example, ask how we participate in not seeing the
as a white person I am far more experiences of people of color that are so
likely to have access to expensive very different from white people’s. We
medical procedures, particularly should question our resoluteness to identify
pertaining to heart disease, than class rather than race as the primary
people of color. Statistically, the determinant of opportunity and experience,
likelihood is that I will pay less for a particularly when there is so much evidence
new car than a Black woman will. to the contrary. In short, white people can
Examples of this element of white continue to use unearned privilege to
privilege are plentiful. For a more in- remain ignorant, or we can determine to put
depth discussion of whiteness as aside our opacities in order to see clearly
financial collateral, see Cheryl I. and live differently. As Harvey Cox said in
Harris’s article, “Whiteness as The Secular City, “Not to decide is to
decide.”
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