Net2Bed System Headline Mastery v2.0

NET2BED-NET2WED
How to Attract
The Woman of Your Dreams For a Night, a Lifetime … or
Anything in Between
ONLINE HEADLINE MASTERY

By Grant Adams
www.net2bed.com
Version 2.0
November, 2006
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Headlines
Some of the better web dating sites like YahooPersonals ask for a
headline rather than a name.
This provides you with an extraordinary opportunity to make yourself

absolutely invisible! To throw out a meaningless cliché. To be pathetic or
a downer, an empty vessel braggart, a copycat or an unworthy, creepy
enigma!
Yes, it’s the perfect place for a woman to breeze right on by your smiling
face to the cool guy below you.
And, of course, it’s also a golden opportunity, in one fell swoop to stand out
brilliantly, the capture her imagination, awaken her inner princess or
goddess or lover, stimulate her sensual core, liberate her from her daily
grind by making her laugh or feel inspired, led, directed or burningly
curious to find out who this very different man is.
To quote my favorite online dater, Alissa from How To Get The Guy on
ABC when she wandered across my profile, “Damn! Who is this guy!?”
Sorry for what seems like a shameless plug, but it’s just to remind you that
this material does its work. I’ve gotten, “Wow, I read every word you
wrote twice – I’m intrigued to learn more” – and I’ve gotten it dozens of
times in different forms. This isn’t theory and it’s not a maybe. Writing with
conscious intention and combinatorial subtlety works.
So let’s get into it. All the examples you read below are REAL. I pulled
them off the net from guys’ sites, writing to some of them to ask how their
profiles are working for them and if women comment on their great
headlines (usually happens at the date, not online). I also double checked
the power of these headlines with my own private panel of very desirable
women here in god-blessed L.A.
Many of the principles of the entire N2B/N2W system hold true here.
For example, one guy in Houston gave a great electric contrast:
Lawyer/sculptor seeks honey bunny
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Okay, although the honey bunny part makes me throw up in my mouth a
little, and reminds me of the diner thieves in “Pulp Fiction,” I love the
Lawyer/sculptor part. It was accompanied by a dignified shot and bare-
chested shot in front of a 20 foot sculpture he was working on. Electric!
Here’s another good electric contrast:
Wacky intellectual with muscles
Love that because it has three, count ‘em, three contrasting elements.
More electricity! I also like that he didn’t feel like he needed to push it. He
already got her attention, so at the start of his profile, he eased into
building positivity, trust, social proof of friends and family and humor.
Read on…
I am a pretty happy guy, I have a job I love, a few good friends,

a wonderful family. I love to laugh and make others laugh as
well.
Not scintillating, but after his great opening headline, a calming

complement.
Want to hear a really bad example of electric contrast. The headline:
Kid at heart
Great. But – he’s 25! That’s like a 70 year old headlining himself as
“geezer at heart!” No electricity there, folks. A 50 year old could headline
himself “Kid At Heart” and accompany it with him playing with his big dog
or nieces or little native children on Safari – as long as it’s balanced with
an authoritative photo of him being a directed masculine man. That’s
contrast. But if you’re in your 20’s, you’re a kid. Find a way to subtly show
the mystery of wisdom beyond your years, if you feel you have to offer that
to a woman. That’s electric contrast.
Let’s talk for a moment about the problem of invisibility because I think it’s
the biggest one with regard to headlines. I studied men’s profiles in
several cities in all corners of the country and the middle. When you do
that, you get a woman’s eye view of the online dating scene. You see
what’s repeated over and over and over again.
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If you were advertising a restaurant, would you say: “Some food for people
to eat?”
That’s pretty much what 30-40% of men do.
They utterly waste their primary billboard space. For example:
Ynot
There’s a man who knows what he’s about, hmm?
Read women’s profiles. See what they want. The best women, the most
quality women almost always have a line where they ask for a man who
“knows what he wants,” or “knows what he’s about” or “has a strong
sense of purpose. Ynot just lost all of those in a flash instant. Same with
this guy:
Can't believe I am doing this
Grow up, dude. Stand for yourself like a man. Believe in what you do.
You’re no better than anyone else. So don’t act like online dating is
beneath you.
(Caveat: If she says in her profile that she can’t believe she’s doing this,
then you can write back to her and talk about how you hesitated at first but
have come to like the boldness of reaching out into the unknown and you
respect her for doing it too. That’s putting yourself on her side of the line
as a rapport-building technique and that’s fine. I’ve joked about the 60
year olds and the Ukranian, Tasmanian and Uzbeki women who write me
– but all in good humor – not from a superioristic position. It makes her
feel comfortable that she’s not the only one being spammed.)
Here it is again, folks, I ain’t making this stuff up:
ummm..do i really need an intro?..lol
Ok, wretch – and double wretch for the lol at the end! He goes on to open
with…
Im not really sure what to write here because I don’t think I

can describe me in this little box but I guess I can try...so lets
see.
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For the record, brought you by the 25 year old age bracket.
Here’s another wasted headline.
Doesn't hurt to try this, I guess
That’s the erotic equivalent of a wet sock. What women would vibrate
inside to that? Would lick her lips, grow moist and lean closer? Is it any
surprise he follows up with:
I'm not really much for describing myself to others…
… which honestly, opens our discussion to the separate subject of wasting

your opening line in the text of your profile. Guys! Pay attention. Think of
every letter on the page as precious real estate that will draw women in.
Read these opening lines:
Hmmmm, let’s see… what can I really say….
Let’s see, well its really hard to capture who I really am in

words…
Wow, that’s a tough one, you’d have to meet me…
I really dont know what to put here..there is so much I could

say about myself, so if you want to learn more about me...just
ask
Blah! Blah! Blah!
Men. Know yourselves. Know your 5 most appealing qualities right on the
tip of your tongue and stand in them if someone asks you. Here’s a clue to
what at least 3 of them should be: they should be some kind of service to
others.
Go back to Part One of the Net2Bed/Net2Wed System Workbook and

review your attractors. Can you frame at least 3 as service. Good. Make
sure one of them is sizzling somewhere in your headline or opening lines,
if indirectly.
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Ready for another winner:
Life is short why be miserable
Cool, a reminder of death PLUS the word “miserable” all in one short
headline. Kinda sexy, huh? Look how he follows up, and you can get a
clear idea of his mindset.
I've seen those E-harmony commercials & figured I'd give it a

shot
Some confidence. Some sense of openness and adventure. A bit

guarded are we?
Here’s another waste of valuable headline space:
Just looking around
And guess what – here’s his first line:
College grad trying to start career…
This guy is projecting aimlessness, ungroundedness, wandering – zero

attractiveness to a together woman.
I want to point out that a lot of these above aimless headlines belong to
guys in their young to mid twenties. Maybe they are aimless or maybe
they just haven’t learned to stand in their manhood yet. Anyway,
something to ponder.
And just you older guys think you’re getting away easy, check out this
headline which really got me suicidal:
It ain't easy being me
Wow! That’s a come on! This 51 year old guy went on to open like this:
I've been single for a long time. I'd like to meet someone
special. It's time to stop doing things alone and share my life
with you
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Failure mentality. Needy mentality. There’s no invitation to an exciting life
with a man. Only a plea for someone to save him from his hell. What kind
of woman might respond to that, if any? A scary thought.
Need to be batted over the head some more with this? Imagine how
women must feel when they come across yet another guy whining…
I want a sweetheart please!
Followed by…
I know this is the hard part, (pick me, pick me part) but I'm
getting tired of women with these incredible demands and
expectations.
Yeah, sure, blame them. Any woman worth her salt would be thinking,
“maybe you just suck.” Don’t complain that women expect too much from
you. You’re just saying you can’t satisfy “all” the women out there. Maybe
you’ll end up with a doormat of a woman with no self-esteem with this ploy,
but nothing else.
Here’s another way people waste their headlines, ready:
Still looking
Still searching
here we are again...
Back to the well
Back to the drawing board
No luck so far
God! Not dating again
I hate dating
Okay, team, what’s the message of these to women? That’s right – I suck!
I fail! I am failing now! Hey wanna join me in my failure!?
Here’s a headline bound to send quality women running…
Looking to Live Again....
I'm a single 34 yr old hispanic male that just got of a long term
relationship…
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In other words, you’re an emotional wreck. What kind of woman will
respond to that? A saving type at best – and you’ll end up hating her soon,
plus once you have your confidence back, she won’t know what to do with
you. You might find a co-emotional wreck, recently separated. And, look,
I’ve been through it, there’s some self-esteem in numbers after a big
breakup.
But compare the dead voltage of the guy who is only “looking” to live with
this guy:
Wake up every day with a purpose!
Here’s a guy who is out there, striving, not dependent on any woman, or
anyone else. He directs his own life. And continues well…
I am an honest, humble, hardworking and loving man, who is

looking for someone to share my life with
Now, look, going back to dating, like anything else can be defined by your
attitude. I will almost always say I am new to the site. I start and stop my
membership for that reason. I will always take a positive attitude. I will
always say on dates that “by the time I know and like someone enough to
meet them in person, they always end up being great people.” I ALWAYS
respect the women I have previously met online. I may joke about the
distant hopefuls that write me, but I remain very respectful about anyone
I’ve taken time to meet. That puts the woman opposite me not only in a
chain of chosen or elite winners and demonstrates that I respect women
(always a plus) but also shifts the “still dating” negative vibe to a positive
adventure – she will hear: how great it is that there are so many great
women out there and I love meeting them all and you may be the special
one.
While I’m ranting – please do not open your profile by saying you are
“down to earth” or “laid back” or “easy going” Thousands of guys have
already driven that cliché into the muck. Is there sex appeal in that? If you
want to make her feel safe, create trust in some way. Of find another way
of saying you don’t have pretensions and that you value the everyday joys
and kindnesses of life.
Okay, let’s move on. Do you know what a tell is in poker? When a guy
scratches his nose every time he bluffs? Or how about a comic to
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telegraphs his jokes, who delivers the line and then opens his palm and
begs for a laugh?
The common denominator is that these two failed players fail by revealing
their process. It’s not seduction if you clumsily reveal what you are doing
(unless you do it in a super-ballsy knowing, confident way, demonstrating
that you know way more about male-female dynamics than she does, but
that’s highly advanced stuff and not for here.)
Here’s an odd case of a guy giving away the strategy – a tell:
“Attraction is not a choice.”
Now I’m about as big a fan of David D as anyone

(grantlikes.com/doubleyourdating). It is a rare woman who will find this
provocative.
She WANTS you to actively choose her because of who she is. She
doesn’t want to believe in the automatic nature of attraction, true as it may
be - and it is to an extent.
Now, if this guy’s profile went into a subtle and sensitive exposition on the
nuances of the male/female dance, he might have been intriguing to a
woman. But he didn’t. He threw it down because it sounded smart, like
David D.
Here’s another case of giving away your strategy, and in this case, it’s
giving away your power. This headline is craven:
Hear much, Speak Little
Dude, let her discover that about you! Let her first see that you’re a real
man with plenty to say about the world but that in her presence, you just
grow quiet because what she has to say is so interesting, and because you
are honoring her and because you care.
You don’t say little and listen because you are a habitual wallflower, you do
it in HER presence because she’s so awesome! This guy simply gave
away the game. Pulled the rug out from under all the opportunity for her
opening into feeling special with him. All that process and pleasure he’ll
never get from her now.
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And while were on the joy of the game, here’s a guy who gives away his
power in another game, by thinking he’s gaming the game.
Prince looking for princess
Yes, women want to think they are princesses. And yes, if you approach
them that way, they will feel special. Especially if you lead with it!
You will also get another reward – a woman who is stuck in her early
adolescent phase of self-worth – her daddy’s princess – either real or
missed. She will expect you to shower her this way. Treat her like a
princess, fine. Call it to her playfully once you really dig her, touch that
button lightly, but do not, under any circumstance ask for it up front. You
will get the pouty, self-centered pubescent in a woman’s body you asked
for.
I am cautious of any woman who has the word princess in her profile, as
most of you know. Or of anyone who is looking for a “White Knight.”
These are adolescent women, not powerful, loving, grounded passionate
adults. Yes, you can flatter that kind of woman into bed, but everyone will
get hurt sooner rather than later.
While we’re on red flags in women’s profiles here’s another:
I tend to stay away from any women’s headlines that say anything like
“Impress Me” or “I’m Hard to Impress” It puts you in the disempowered
position. You’re just gonna be climbing up and emasculated if you play her
game.
The only way to win this game, if you are inclined to try (worth it for the
experience, is all, in my view) it is to be so cocky and funny and so reverse
her power game that you bust through her pretensions. She might ignore
you because she’s probably very hot and is bombarded, but she also might
admire your big balls.
Then you have a second problem of course. If you do get her attention –
what kind of woman is she going to be? The sweet, loving, open flow of
feminine lusciousness, or a withholding, self-important, spoiled ballbuster.
I don’t need the latter, do you? The internet dating ocean is wide and deep
and filled with multicolored fishies. Why play Crocodile Hunter and swim
with Sting Rays?
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Bait them if you want. As I said, the internet is a GREAT place to practice
your personae. But know what you’re getting into.
Okay, let’s talk about humor. What if you’re a creative guy? You can lay it
out there,
Cool creative guy
Semi-yawn. This also risks being seen as a pompous self satisfied guy. Or
-- you can play with it. Check this headline:
Oh no, the creative type!
Which is what most women will think. But his sense of humor dissipates
the anxiety that he might be flighty, or worse, poor.
10 points to Griffindor!
Then there’s the humor that points to a shared experience with a book or
movie. It’s what I called the “humor of shared recognition.” On TV, as on
Saturday Night Live, it’s a weak way of creating an audience reaction –
rather than actually being unique or funny. They just toss out a catch
phrase and everyone laughs (Eddie Murphy where are you now!!!? Come
back to us!)
But with headlines, it’s an effective way to create some light, instant
rapport – IF it indicates something real about you. For example…
One time, at band camp...
Nice, it identifies him as a music lover as well as a funny guy who likes to
laugh – always a sexy thing (although he misquotes the line, It’s “Once…
at band camp…”) Side note- I read that line in the American Pie script
before it was released and I have NEVER laughed so hard at a written
piece of film dialogue. Love it. So maybe I’m prejudiced.
Another music lover hung out perfect bait with this headline:
'is you is, or is you ain't my baby?'
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Yes! A fantastic classic song, a great lyric and sure enough, it bespoke a
cultured guy seeking a cultured girl – and drew exactly the kind of girl he
wanted. His profile opened…
Mid-twenties, arts employed. Thin, curly haired, dual-citizen

with the US/UK... go out often, love live music, love books,
literature, the theater…
A real New Yorker.
Let’s talk about projecting Leadership, an authoritative, sensitive

masculinity.
Remember those headlines above that said – I’ve got nothing to offer?
Weren’t enough for you? Here’s some more as a reminder:
Sorry I couldnt think of a good headline
Which then opens with the profile line,
I am in writers block...
Age 28.
Or how about the powerful magnetic headline…
Just take a look, you'll never know
Age: 32
Here’s another winner:
Just me
Wow! I’m a quality woman and I want to be with Charlie Brown. Just me.
He opens with.
I'm ready for a change. Tired of being single, looking for

something new,
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So I as a woman am supposed to relieve him of his boredom. That’s a
romantic fantasy to ignite a woman’s sexuality.
And here’s another guy who put absolutely no effort in. His headline is
simply…
MAN
First of all, that’s questionable because a real man has something

important to say to the world. But a real self-sabotager has something
really suicidal to say to women – to guarantee they will not write him. He
opens his profile…
HI, ME- I COULD BE JEFFREY DAHMER OR THE

UNABOMBER AND WRITE SOMETHING REALLY
FABULOUS AND CORNY TO GET YOUR ATTENTION BUT
SORRY, I'M ABOVE THAT…
Anyone out there believe he’s above it? Or above anything? Or just
collapsed under his own lack of genuine masculine identity?
These above are honestly making me sorry for women – THIS is what they have
to choose from? It also makes me very confident that those in the N2B/N2W
Community have an amazingly unfair advantage! It’s up to you to make it work!
Let’s compare these verbal incarnations of dating suicide bombers with men who
project a sense of purpose, authority and leadership. This is tricky because you
don’t want to be braggy or snotty.
I like this guy’s headline:
A Man Without A Plan Is Not A Man
It’s assertive and its true. And it also challenges HIMSELF ot a higher
level of responsibility and presence in his life.
Remember how I said you need to be able to stand in your strength

attractors? He opens with two physical ones – by the way – two attributes
that women always talk about regarding attractive men:
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My best features are my eyes and hands. On our dream date,
my match and I would have a 4 course meal at 4 restaurants.
1 for each course
I love this guy! And more important, so do the women I ran this profile by.
He is comfortable in his attractiveness and immediately “invites” a woman
on a “dream date” that shows creativity and verve! 4 restaurants! Women
innately feel that this guy is going to make an effort to please them by
being a leader, taking control in a creative, playful, sensually alive way.
Well done Plan-Man.
How do you feel about this headline:
You ain't seen nothin' yet...
Well, it catches her eye, certainly a woman who is ambitious and seeking
an ambitious man, although she might be wary of boasting if he follows up
with a catalogue of his cars, boats and trophies.
Unfortunately, this guy totally doesn’t follow up, the way that Mr. Plan-Man
did. He opens his profile…
I am interested in meeting someone, for friendship and/or a

potential relationship
And he goes on being equally uninteresting and uninspired for line after
line. It was like he one short ejaculatory moment of bravado, but on
retrospect, it’s more like empty hope. Certainly an empty promise.
By comparison, here’s a guy who follows up his great attention grabbing

confident headline with something alluring and a solid photo to boot…
Real men are hard to find, until now....
I am an aspiring singer who loves to mesmerize audiences with

my soothing R&B voice. I am currently working on my first
album while going to school full time and working full time.
Cool dude. He’s not only a devoted “mesmerizing” artist but he’s hard at work
improving himself WHILE holding down a full time job. That’s a triple threat on
the electric contrast scale!!!
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We believe that he’s a real man, at least enough to give him a shot at a date.
Whether he has the presence and sensitivity and attention to bring out the love in
a woman is another question. Can’t know that yet. But his headline and opening
have done their jobs!
Okay, now let’s talk to those of you who are seeking a wife.
The clearer you can be, the more targeted your marketing will be.
I like these headlines for these purposes:
Just Want 1 Good Woman
And
Time To Find My Best Friend
Clean, inviting, focused, devoted to the virtue and appealing qualities of a

woman truly seeking one man. By the way, if you are not seeking one
woman, don’t say you are. Guys do this and it ends up creating very very
bad karma.
I want to point out how a slight nuance of the above headlines make them
stand out from the endless parade of copycat, invisible headlines that
disappear one into the next. Listen:
Are you the one?
I may be the one
Looking for someone special
Gentleman looking for someone special
Here are needy, and therefore, even worse versions:
i need someone
and
Need a partner for fun
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Gentlemen, you don’t NEED a woman, you are INVITING her into your
exciting life. If you can’t offer that, why would she be magnetized to you?
We’ll talk about the power of inviting women in with your headline when we
talk about travel, below.
For now, I want to stay on this inability to STAND OUT from the crowd.
Here’s another template that guaranteed to blend into the hundreds of
Xerox copies of your headline:
Nice guy
Nice guy seeks nice girl
Man seeking woman
Mr Nice Guy looking for Ms Nice Girl
Nice guy needs nice gal
Which of course adds that extra spice of neediness that women find so
appealing.
Okay all you nice guys, do you see what’s happening over and over out
there. And those many of you who think you’re getting away with being
original with:
Nice Guy With an Edge
Fuhget about it! There’s lots of you. SHOW your edge, don’t say you
have it.
Another waste of space and dearth of imagination:
Hello,
Hi
Hello there
Sounds like a nightmare speed-dating event. Sounds like Napolean’s

brother in Napoleon Dynamite, but without his LaFawnduh.
Compare the appeal of “hi” with…
Abnormally Sane Individual
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Boom. Wow. Good. Different. Energy. Trustability. Humor. She’ll have
a look at what he has to say.
But what about if you’re one of the many stuffed animal fetishists:
I’m a Teddy Bear
Great. Guaranteed to bring out the 4 year old in any woman. I saw this
one over 5 times in two days:
PART TEDDY BEAR, PART SOCIAL BUTTERFLY
Nice gene splicing, but all the other mutants are out there with you.
Here’s another:
HI I'M TEDDY BEAR CAN YOU HOLD ME
Ew! Uch! Where are your testicles, man!? Find them. Your headline
reads like desperation. If you’re going to be a Teddy Bear (say you are big
and cuddly), then at least contrast it electrically with something strong,
directed, self-guided… masculine!
And would somebody help me with all these
Let’s go fly a kite
Is there a dating guru who recommends this? Mary Poppins? Barney?

Dr. Psychopath Phil? What’s going on? Write me. Tell me. The Kite
industry maybe?
INVITING MISS DAISY
Okay, now let’s talk about one of my favorite subjects: Inviting Women into
Your Exciting Life. Remember, they ALL want to be brought by the hand
into a life more exciting, more expansive than their own. One where they
will be recognized, listened to, honored, worshipped even, and, most
importantly, loved.
So many guys lay out their data right from the start – in their headlines.
Here we go, ready fact-junkies?
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"Truth is simple"
life is good
Life is laughter.
The past does not equal the future."
The unexamined life is not worth living
Okay, so…. Then what? Is this a door being opened to a woman? An

invitation into a sensual garden? Into a party? Into adventure? Or is it
some guy spouting off his second or fiftieth-hand cliché’d pseudo-wisdom?
The only promising one there is the last one which is Socrates’s line about
the unexamined life. But this guy opens his profile by saying that looking
for a job is a drag. First reaction – the UNEMPLOYED life isn’t worth
living. Start working, stop examining, if you want to take a girl out for a
drink, big fella.
Here’s a particularly special headline:
LIFE IS SHORT AND DOES NOT MATTER.....
Gee, that’s romantic, she’s gonna feel special. That’s gonna put her in
the mood! Verbal Jagermeister, that one is.
Here’s another non-invitational assertion:
The greatest risk is not taking one
True, I suppose and the best cliché is the one you never hear – sadly that
doesn’t go for any of the above.
Here’s one of the assertion of seemingly wise sayings as headlines that

actually has a little traction…
“A dreamer lives for eternity.”
He could have followed by what he meant by being a dreamer – and how,

by the way, he’s also grounded, and more importantly, how he will lift a
woman into new heights by virtue of his imagination and drive…
But he didn’t.
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Opportunity wasted.
Here’s an attempt at a cliché but he didn’t even get it right. The comic
effect of the missed effort is almost too perfect to believe…
Live Like you Were Dying
Uh, I think you mean, as if everyday were your last day. When Homer
Simpson heard this saying, he sat by the side of the road, wailing, “I’m
gonna die! I’m gonna die!”
Here’s an odd headline assertion…
"don't get mad, get even"
Huh? Great for Don Carleone to pass on to Michael, but to bring out the
goddess in a woman? Let’s see the power that this guy brings to his
opening line that expands what he offered in his headline…
I'm just here to see wat this brings me. I'm a easygoing
person, enjoy having friends going places
By the way, I leave all the spelling mistakes intact.
Also, do you get the point by now that your profile should expand upon,
contrast with or somehow tie into your headline?
Here’s an assertion/cliché that at least opens a conversation with

women…
To love is to move in the same direction
Okay, he’s not gonna win the Nobel Prize for Psychological Insight and
Originality but at least its about women’s favorite subject – not getting
even, or some abstraction about life being short or cruel.
Remember: the house of a woman’s mind has many rooms and whatever
else they may be as rooms, they are also THE LOVE ROOM. They – on
the whole – live in the drama of “am I loved? Am I still loved? Am I
lovable? Might I be loved more deeply? Will a man ravish me?” The
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drama of love is the constant in the feminine heart and you can’t really lose
if you speak intelligently and sensitively to it.
Here’s a BAD invitation:
Hey ppsssttt, yes U honey pie
Although if you were clearly having fun with it, you might get a woman to
enjoy your ballsiness and sense of humor. But I think he meant it. I think
that was his best opener.
Also not so great:
She must be a soft and kindhearted woman
The sentiment is fine and alluring to women, but say instead…
Are you a soft and kindhearted woman?
Speak directly to her. Open up the conversation with your reader. Invite
her in. Get her to whisper “yes” in the privacy of her bedroom.
Here’s a terrific invitation:
Having a great time, wish you were here!
It plays with the old postcard cliché, it bespeaks a high-energy, fun guy
who is ALREADY living his life and enjoying it (no “lonely guy” or “man
needs woman with vagina” attitude here. And it invites her directly to join
him!
His profile continued the lively, happy energy…
Career-minded and easy-going. I like to work hard and then

take the time that's left to really enjoy life
Got it? Now here’s a creepy version of the above:
"Wanna go for a ride???"
This guy’s 50 and actually looks kinda creepy. It turns out he has a Harley,
but that’s buried in the text. If there was a photo of him smiling with his
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hog on a mountaintop or by the beach or lake – cool. But there isn’t, so…
wanna go for a ride, little girl? Creepy.
While we’re on creepy, here’s an odd headline from the Brothers Grimm, I
suppose…
Like the wolf, I wont leave you.
Yikes.
Ready for some more? These are real, guys…
WITH ALL THE DYING TREES I SCREAM...
A screaming man? Okay – Sam Kinison was allowed to scream. Richard

Simmons is expected to scream. But DEATH and SCREAMING in one
headline. Looking for a Goth girl? Okay, good work then. If you are an
environmentalist, I feel your pain, but 99% of women won’t stick around
long enough to feel anything, regarding pain or pleasure.
Okay, let’s rinse off and move on. Here’s a great invitation:
lets get off the computer and go outside
See that? Instead of saying, I’m a Mountain Man! I’m an Outdoors Athlete
Dude! He establishes RAPPORT in an instant – “let’s” do something
together – he’s already got her in his picture – and then further rapport by
co-admitting with her that they are both stuck behind a computer. So he
invites her outside. Like a friend popping by. Very sweet. Good work.
Bad invitation:
Need some fun
Get a trampoline. But don’t ask your woman to supply you fun. You’re the
one who should be taking the lead into the world!
Another good invitation…
Where are the adventurers?
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An adventurous woman will say to herself, “Here! Right here! Of course
you can’t find them because they are not me, they are not special” and she
will be tempted to answer his call!
This fellow knows something about women. He’s 46, by the way, and
follows up with the opener…
As a business owner that trades internationally, my schedule

limits my leisure time to weekends for social entertaining.
Events that suit YOUR FANCY are always welcomed.
Awesome! Not only is he creating scarcity regarding his time, thereby

raising his value, he actually invites women to participate in choosing their
fun. He’ll listen, honor and respect her! She’s not going to have to watch
him adventurously playing bocce with the boys or deep-sea fishing if she
hates it. And yes, it helps that he’s got a cool sounding job – but you don’t
need it. You need to provide a sense of valuing your time, and of being
open to a woman’s desires.
This invitation is from a very traditional guy, and it works:
Open the door...let magic in...
Women like magic. How else can you explain the career of the very
creepy David Copperfield and his very creepy hair? But they like magic in
all its possibilities, magic landscapes and castles, glitter, the magic of love,
the sparkle of champagne on a moonlit night. They love extraordinary
magical moments that are full of sensual delight in exquisite combinations.
The magic of heightened moments.
He seems to know this, as he opens his profile with…
Chivalry is certainly not dead...I know this because I represent

everything it stands for. I'm the type of guy who believes in
traditional values when it comes to respecting women
He’ll get himself his PromiseKeepers type of wife. Good luck to them and
their 2 ¾ kids.
Here’s another type of invitation which I think is awesome…
Behind Every Successful Man...

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What’s a woman doing to do? She will fill in the rest of that sentence and
see herself there. Women DO want to empower their men and so it’s a
nice invitation to participate in his life, his success. It implies his sense of
belief in the reader.
Another good invitation begins with a great headline…
I have good news.....
But then inexplicably doesn’t follow it up with anything. Not good news
about him, not even the Good News about the Gospel, which I half
expected. Zip! Just went on to write his standard boring, “I’m a down to
earth guy looking for a special lady” drivel. That’s bad news.
I like this invitation. He’s already engaged the woman at the other end of
the pipeline and speaks past her exterior:
Think there’s more to you than your look:
Honestly, EVERY woman wants to hear this. Whatever they look like, they
want to know that doltish men can see past their penises into the true heart
and soul of a woman.
His follow up is very appealing…
You should know that I am attracted to people who are

exceptional, HONEST, intelligent, spontaneous, and open to
new ideas, learnings and adventures, who are passionate, and
confident…
All good.
Now here a couple more excellent invitations…
Let's pick up and travel the world
A woman would answer that. It’s so much better than the bald statement,
“I love to travel” or “To Travel Is to Learn” or the other hundred stilted
ways guys communicate their love of travel.
How about this one:
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If the road intersects, let's meet there
Yes. It’s good. It’s not only travelly, but it’s conditional. It’s open handed
and creates a peaceful picture that suggests fate.
His follow up continues the road theme, and adds social virtue (service),
humor and listening to the mix, a great mix of signifiers done swiftly and
elegantly.
I like to workout and run in my spare time and sometimes do

races for a good cause. I am told I always have a smile and
tend to be a great listener…
Here’s the wrong way to bring up travel…
"I cannot rest from travel..."
No invitation there. Just sounds like a frantic, exhausted guy.
Much better…
perpetual traveller seeks island
There’s a nice double-meaning here in that she is also his island, his
refuge, his peaceful destination. He follows up nicely…
Dynamic perpetual traveller seeks to get lost on some lost

island in your company ... Hedonism essential, more than
vanilla is offered
Moving away from travel for a moment, but sticking with the idea of inviting
a woman in, here’s another interesting, invitational opener. It invites her
into sharing her deepest self…
what do you do with all your power?
It assumes the reader knows she has power and honors her for it. It’s
good to ask this kind of question, not a klunky, “when was the last time you
met a great guy?” – which is just white noise. His question is about her –
but really curious about her – and not about himself.
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Unfortunately, and again inexplicably, he then neglects to build on it, to
make a women feel like she’s seen into, or invited to express her secret,
unseen power. It’s almost like someone gave him the line and he didn’t
know what to do with it.
Let’s go back to magic for a moment for a zoological headline less creepy
than the stalking wolf:
Searching for the unicorn
Women love unicorns, don’t ask me to go into the phallic Freudian reasons
why, but let it suffice that unicorns also conjures up magical lands,
possibilities, princesses and romantic landscapes. Just the word unicorn
makes the reader, if she’s into these kinds of things (it’s not gonna snag a
Wall Street Exec), she will feel that like the unicorn, she is seen as rare
and special and pure and has magical powers. I believe the tears of
unicorns are supposed to magical have healing powers. Anyway -
certainly better than seearcning for wombats or wallabies. Very magical
and romantic.
Here’s an invitation that is also a challenge:
Any truly unconventional woman left?
An unconventional woman is likely to respond to herself, “hell, I’m one!”

And she may write you. But the attitude has to be welcoming, not
demanding, not pissy that women are boring, uninteresting, dullards.
Don’t’ go picking on other women. Just paint the ideal self she can step
into – just like glass slippers!
Now, here’s another opportunity. Remember how I said a true man lives in
service. That is fundamentally how a man expresses love. So a headline
that suggests service or is just generous, can have a powerful effect.
Here’s one…
May Your Wishes All Come True
He could have launched into the fact that he just wants everyone to
express themselves and be happy and live well and explain his positive
outlook on life, free of ego and need. Nope. What did he do? Blow real
estate value…
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Obviously I could talk forever about myself, but would you
read it all? I know I wouldn't read it and I'm definitely not going
to write it. That's for you to ask if you're in (blah blah blah!)
Now the guy looks like Orlando Bloom so he probably did fine – but what a
horrible opening for a profile!
Remember, don’t waste space.

- Don’t say “looking for a lady,” 0 they know! That’s why
you’re on the damned site!
- Don’t say “obviously it’s hard to capture a person in q few
paragraphs,” - we know! Just be a purposeful man and get
to it!
- And don’t start out with “Im a down to earth” or “easy going”
– because thousands of other guys open the same way!
Catch her attention, intrigue her. Mystify her. Make her
dream or wonder or fill with sensual images. Just don’t bore
her with what everyone else says.
A few more before we wrap up:
I want it all, do U?
That’s great because it leads a woman to an automatic “yes” answer and

you’ve started her on a “yes” chain. It also suggests ambition, always an
attractor in a guy.
As good as that one is, here’s one as bad:
I can wear a tie...or shorts and sandals
We all know what he’s trying to say, but it comes off sounding like a proud
3 year old. Can you button your own shorts, big guy?
And finally a nice straightforward confident…
Great catch, seeking same.
Not striking – but confident and flattering to the reader at the same time, so
better than the average, “good guy seeks woman.”
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And certainly better than the oversell of this guy:
Great Guy Seeks Great Girl
He then slathers it on thicker…
Hi! I'm a really sweet, wonderful, sensitive caring guy who

would like to meet a woman who is…
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“Catch” is so much more elegant and pithy. There’s no braggadocio in it.
And last but not least, here’s one that melts the heart of every woman I’ve
showed it to:
Take Home Chef
Now go write yourself a stand out headline and succeed!
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This provides you with an extraordinary opportunity to make yourself

For example, one guy in Houston gave a great electric contrast:

Lawyer/sculptor seeks honey bunny

Here’s another good electric contrast:

Wacky intellectual with muscles

I am a pretty happy guy, I have a job I love, a few good friends,

Not scintillating, but after his great opening headline, a calming

Want to hear a really bad example of electric contrast. The headline:

That’s pretty much what 30-40% of men do.

They utterly waste their primary billboard space. For example:

There’s a man who knows what he’s about, hmm?

Can't believe I am doing this

Here it is again, folks, I ain’t making this stuff up:

ummm..do i really need an intro?..lol

Im not really sure what to write here because I don’t think I

Here’s another wasted headline.

Doesn't hurt to try this, I guess

I'm not really much for describing myself to others…

… which honestly, opens our discussion to the separate subject of wasting

Hmmmm, let’s see… what can I really say….

Let’s see, well its really hard to capture who I really am in

Wow, that’s a tough one, you’d have to meet me…

I really dont know what to put here..there is so much I could

Blah! Blah! Blah!

Go back to Part One of the Net2Bed/Net2Wed System Workbook and

Life is short why be miserable

I've seen those E-harmony commercials & figured I'd give it a

Some confidence. Some sense of openness and adventure. A bit

Here’s another waste of valuable headline space:

Just looking around

And guess what – here’s his first line:

College grad trying to start career…

This guy is projecting aimlessness, ungroundedness, wandering – zero

It ain't easy being me

I want a sweetheart please!

Here’s another way people waste their headlines, ready:

Here’s a headline bound to send quality women running…

Looking to Live Again....

Wake up every day with a purpose!

I am an honest, humble, hardworking and loving man, who is

Here’s an odd case of a guy giving away the strategy – a tell:

“Attraction is not a choice.”

Now I’m about as big a fan of David D as anyone

Hear much, Speak Little

Prince looking for princess

While we’re on red flags in women’s profiles here’s another:

Cool creative guy

Oh no, the creative type!

One time, at band camp...

'is you is, or is you ain't my baby?'

Mid-twenties, arts employed. Thin, curly haired, dual-citizen

A real New Yorker.

Let’s talk about projecting Leadership, an authoritative, sensitive

Sorry I couldnt think of a good headline

Which then opens with the profile line,