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Coaching and The Will
Coaching and The Will
Just a couple of days ago post a coaching session, my client commented on the
session saying that it seemed like nothing much really happened during the session,
but deep within he was convinced of and totally excited about taking the next step in
his career growth – an important purpose in his life presently. This was his agenda
for the coaching sessions. He seemed amazed at the simplicity and power of
coaching and spent some time in silence trying to figure out the “mystery” behind its
success. He said he knew all along what he wanted and had been trying hard to
achieve his goal but progress was slow and energy consuming. And then suddenly
just a couple of session with a coach and he was experiencing progress in leaps and
bounds, raving to get to the next level in his professional career and filled with the
certainty of it happening in the near future.
A common topic of conversation I hear around New Year’s time is about making
resolutions. I wonder how many of us are really able to keep our resolutions and
achieve our goals. For those of us who do, we are often all too familiar with the
human experience of attaining our goal with great effort and unimaginative self-
discipline. Often people wonder what makes it hard for them to begin or complete
activities and tasks. I believe there are many factors which may play a role or serve
to explain these difficulties. At any moment we may find ourselves going along with
outside pressure: social constraint, propaganda, and so on or we may fall into the
groove of habit and act on automatic pilot. More rarely we may even function purely
according to instinctive mechanisms. Whether it is unconscious or conscious forces
within oneself, or the external forces without, they somehow come in one’s way of
achieving what one truly wishes. It seems we have a knack of coming in our own
way! In this paper, I’d like to examine the role coaching plays in helping people get
out of their own way.
What is it in coaching that creates the desire and inspiration, in a coaching client to
go for ones goal? I believe it is the process of connecting the client with his or her
own will. However let us understand what we mean by ‘will’ before going further.
Will-Power
One way of getting out of one’s own way and going for one’s goals is through will-
power and self-discipline. In the not so long past this way was given great
importance and will-power and self-discipline seemed to be telling most people
what to do. However in the last decade with the deepening of psychological
awareness, there has been a change of attitude towards the will. With the ‘discovery’
of the mechanism of repression, people realized the immense power of these inner
forces they had been naively trying to dominate, while they themselves were
actually being dominated by them. Since then prevailing thought took down the
‘will’ from its throne and it was given its rightful place.
However not to discount the power of the will, we must remember that in its true
essence the will can explain a host of human attainments, while its absence can
account for much dysfunctional behaviour. This is one perspective and should not
be neglected otherwise we would be throwing out the baby with the bath water. So
what other perspective to the will is there in addition to this one?
The Will
In this paper the experience of the will here is not to be confused with “will power”.
The real function of the will here is to direct and not to impose. If understood in its
proper perspective, the will is, more than any other factor, the key to human freedom and
personal power. Another expression for the will given by psychologist Andras Angyal
is ‘autonomy’ which can be defined as, the capacity of an organism to function freely
according to its own intrinsic nature rather than under the compulsion of external
forces. It is this aspect of the will that is in focus during the coaching process.
The use of the term coach was used in relation to sports long before the spread of the
term ‘life coaching’ or ‘executive coaching’. In 1970’s Tim Gallwey captain of the
Harvard tennis team, discovered that his coachees enjoyed greater success when
taught how to learn, that when given techniques for hitting balls over the net. He
realized that the most important challenging opponent is the one inside the player,
rather than the adversary on the opposite side of the net. These principles he put to
paper in his book ‘The Inner Game of Tennis’ in 1974 and later focussed on applying
them to life and work.
Through the Fulfilment Model of Coaching all action plans and goals are set by the
client and are in alignment with what is most important or what they really wants.
And in the coaching sessions, all agreed upon commitments are made in total
freedom by the client. The client truly experiences the power to choose and every
time the client achieves this alignment, the coach acknowledges and celebrates the
client’s expanding sense of fulfilment and self-empowerment.
In my experience of being coached and coaching others I have always been amazed
at how simple and yet so powerful coaching can be. In this paper I have attributed
this power to process of facilitating connection of the client with their will by the
coach. I have personally and professionally gained immensely from this process and
feel fulfilled as I facilitate the same process for others.