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Writing Assesment 5
Writing Assesment 5
Kathleen Volpei
Professor Granillo
English 101
30 October 2018
Blurred Lines
Love is love no matter what gender one is attracted to. In today's society people are more
open to accepting this concept. Another concept that is so prominent is gender roles. Gender
roles dictate what's acceptable or what is not when it comes to actions of each sex. In Stephen
Mays article, what about gender roles in same-sex relationships, he argues that in homosexual
relationships they are clearly both the same gender but at the same time in each homosexual
relationship whether a gay or lesbian couple one is more masculine while the other is more
feminine.
In all relationships heterosexual or homosexual one person is more feminine while the
masculine. In my friends relationship he is the more masculine one while his boyfriend is the
more feminine one. All relationships and people are different but Mays states in regard to his
relationship that, “one huge aspect of the gay male relationship that [he] appreciates is the more
leveled playing field that [they] have. We are both men” (Mays 597). While this point made by
person is more feminine while the other is masculine. It is true that not all women have to be
feminine and not all men have to be masculine but each person associates themselves with one or
the other. Our society has come a long way in regards to gender. In the past the norm was that
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the men worked and made the money while the women stayed home cooked, cleaned, and cared
for the children. Nowadays the gender roles have blurred and it is perfectly fine for a woman to
be the one working while the man stays home and cares for the children and the house. Either
way weather the man stays home or the woman stays home one will always be considered more
masculine while the other feminine. This is true with all relationships including homesexual ones
Though I insist that relationships consist of masculine and feminine people, I concede
Mays point that in a gay relationship they are both clearly boys. While walking Mays overheard
someone ask, “who do you think is the girl in the relationship” in regards to a gay couple
walking ahead of them (Mays 596). Mays was outraged and rightfully so. Obviously in a gay
relationship both people are males and in a lesbian relationship both are women. A person who is
homosexual is attracted to someone of their own sex. In a gay relationship the one that may show
more feminine qualities isn’t a woman in that relationship just like “the muscled, bearded gay
man doesn’t have to be the man of the relationship” (Mays 597). Some people's views are so
skewed that when they see a homosexual relationship their mind wanders and thinks one must be
the girl of the relationship in regards to a gay couple. They are both clearly men. Appearances
are very deceiving and if one were to see a guy opening the door for his partner that happens to
male as well they would assume that the one who opened the door is the “man” of that
relationship because gender stereotypes are so prominent in our society and people attach certain
All in all in a gay relationship both partners are men and in a lesbian relationship both
partners are females. In each relationship gay or straight one person is more feminine while the
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other is more masculine. That does not mean that if a man in a gay relationship is more feminine
Works Cited
Stephen Mays. “What about Gender Roles in Same-Sex Relationships?” They Say I Say, Gerald
Graff, Cathy Birkenstein, Russel Durst, Version 4. Red & Black, September 24, 2013.