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Use Power To Educate: Breaking Through Barriers To Cooperation
Use Power To Educate: Breaking Through Barriers To Cooperation
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of agreement the outcome look like a victory for them
Breaking Through Barriers to Cooperation Their Power Use Power to Educate - enhance your
negotiating power and use it to bring
• We want to get to yes, but often the answer we get back is them back to the table. Show them that
NO. they cannot win by themselves but only
• Examples: Wife says no to buy a car; boss rejects proposal; together with you.
store refuses to give a refund,etc.
• Negotiation can cause the nicest people to turn into angry
opponents. Because every person and situation is different, you need to marry the
• Negotiation is the process of back-and-forth communication five breakthrough principles with your own knowledge of the particulars
aimed at reaching agreement with others when some of your in order to create a strategy that works for you.
interests are shared and some are opposed.
• Negotiation is not limited to the table, but can also be informal,
whenever you try to get something you want from another. PROLOGUE
• Negotiation is the pre-eminent form of decision-making in
personal and professional life. Prepare, Prepare, Prepare
• Our lives are affected even by negotiations where we have no • Before every meeting, prepare.
involvement. Example: Failure to reach an agreement, resulting • After every meeting, assess your progress, adapt your strategy
to a transpo strike. and prepare again.
• “winging it” without preparation will not succeed because they
Joint Problem-Solving may miss opportunities for joint gain they could have achieved
if they prepare.
• Combination of hard and soft negotiation. • Negotiations are more effective if people spent more of their
• Turning face-to-face confrontation into side-by-side problem limited time preparing.
solving • To prepare for a negotiation, just like embarking n a voyage,
• It revolves around interests instead of positions. you need a good map.
• It generates better results for both sides by saving time and
energy by cutting out posturing. Mapping Out the Way to Agreement
• Leads to better working relationships and mutual benefit in the
future. There are 5 important points along the way to a mutually satisfactory
agreement:
Five Barriers to Cooperation 1. Interests
1. Your Reaction • Interests are the intangible motivations that lead you to
2. Their Emotion take a certain position – your needs, desires, concerns,
3. Their Position fears and aspirations
4. Their Dissatisfaction (not interested in a mutually satisfactory • To end up with an agreement that satisfies both sides,
agreement) you need to begin by figuring out each side’s interests.
5. Their Power (they think they don’t need to negotiate because • Figure out your interests, then figure out their interests
they can get what they want) o How? Imagine their point of view. The more
you can find out about the other side, the
To get past no, you need to break through each of these five barriers to better your chances of influencing
cooperation. 2. Options for Satisfying those interests
• Options can be possible agreements or part of an
The Breakthrough Strategy agreement.
• Like in sailing, to get where you want to go, you need to tack • Don’t dwell on a single solution, your original position.
(to zigzag) toward your destination. • Don’t let criticism and evaluation, while important
• A direct route is to focus on interests and develop options that functions, interfere with your imagination. Invent first,
satisfy those interests. But in the real world, you cannot get a then evaluate later.
mutually satisfactory agreement by the direct route. You need 3. Standards for Resolving differences fairly
to “tack,” take the INDIRECT ROUTE. • Fair standards independent of either side’s will.
• Breakthrough negotiations treat their opponents as negotiating • Example of common standards:
partners who are presenting an opportunity to reach a mutually o Market value
satisfactory agreement. o Equal treatment
• The negotiator must clear away the barrier that lies between o The law
NO and YES. o The way the issue has been resolved before.
• Do research on persuasive standards.
Steps to break the 5 Barriers 4. Alternatives to Negotiations
• Come to a negotiation aware of your alternatives.
Barrier Steps to take • The purpose of negotiation is to explore whether you can
Natural reaction Go to the Balcony – stay focused on satisfy your interests better through an agreement than
achieving what you want. To get you could by pursuing your Best Alternative to a
perspective, imagine yourself standing on Negotiated Agreement (BATNA).
a balcony looking down on your • Example:
negotiation o In negotiating with your boss for a raise, your
Their negative emotions Step to their side – do the opposite of BATNA might be to find a job with another firm.
what they expect. Take their side by • BATNA is the key to negotiating power. Your power
listening to them, show them respect. depends less on whether you are bigger, stronger, more
Their Position Reframe – accept what they say and senior, or richer than the other person than on how good
reframe it to deal with the problem. “help your BATNA is.
me understand why you want that.” Act • If you have a viable alternative (a better BATNA), then
as if they were your problems genuinely you have more power in the negotiation.
interested in solving the problem.
Their Dissatisfaction, Build them a golden bridge – bridge a gap 5. Proposals for Agreement
-people who play hardball are usually very good at it hoping
Identify your BATNA. that you are going to attack them
It is your measuring stick for evaluating any potential agreement.
3 Kinds of alternatives in identifying BATNA 2. Giving in
1. "Walkaway" alternative - what you can do all by -usually results in an unsatisfactory outcome
yourself to pursue your interests (another customer if you are -rewards the other side and gives you a reputation of
a seller) weakness
2. "Interactive" alternative - what you can do directly -they may try to exploit you in the future
to the other side to make them respect your interests (go on
strike or go to war) 3. Breaking Off
3. "Third party" alternative - mediation, arbitration or -break off relations with the difficult person or organization
court. -sometimes, avoidance is the appropriate strategy
Select the one that satisfies your needs. -it may remind the other side of their stake in the relationship
and leads them to act more reasonably
Boost your BATNA. -emotional and financial costs are high
- it needs to be developed and improved