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The 3 P's of Manhood - A Review
The 3 P's of Manhood - A Review
The 3 P's of Manhood - A Review
Review
Are men everywhere alike in their concern (and desire) for being manly?
For the last several weeks we have been exploring the answers to these
questions by discussing the findings contained in Dr. David D.
Gilmore’s Manhood in the Making.
What he discovered was that far from being exceptional and widely divergent,
conceptions of what constitutes a “real man” have been common and
consistent through time and around the world. A distinct code of manhood has
not only been part of nearly every society on earth — whether agricultural or
urban, premodern or advanced, patriarchal or relatively egalitarian — these
codes invariably contain the same three imperatives; a male who aspires to
be a man must protect, procreate, and provide.
As the subject is a fascinating and vital one, we have given each of these “3
P’s of Manhood” a thorough treatment. It was definitely a lot to take in; it’s
really turned into a kind of Manhood 101 course! So today, for those who
didn’t make it through the beastly posts, and for those who did but could use a
quick re-orientation, today we’re providing a crib sheet that distills what we
have covered thus far down to the basic fundamentals.
Protect
The essence of provision is the ability to tame nature, to turn chaos into order,
to take the raw materials of life and transform them into something of value. It
involves, as Gilmore puts it, “purposive construction” — “commanding and
assertive action that adds something measurable to society’s store.”
Hunting is the “provisioning function par excellence,” for it involves all the
manly attributes (physical strength, mastery of tools, discipline and
determination, initiative, etc.) and is a creative act that parallels battle, sport,
and sex.
The manly imperatives can be seen as having a dual nature and purpose:
they are both civic duties and personal development pathways that (if the
prerequisites above are met) simultaneously benefit both a man’s community
and the man personally.
We’ll explore this dynamic and its implications in a modern world where
manhood isn’t honored or valued in the final two posts in this series.
Manhood: A Three-Fold Path
Across cultures and time, the journey to manhood has been considered a
three-fold path. Manhood can be viewed as a mighty edifice that must be built
with three pillars of support. If one of the pillars is missing or weakened, too
much stress is placed on the remaining pillars, twisting and contorting them.
For example, in a time where most men aren’t called upon to be protectors,
and may have an unsatisfying, uncreative job, the procreator pillar (at least
the sex part of it) can seem the only remaining way to demonstrate one’s
manhood. Designed to be just one part of a man’s multi-faceted life, the pillar
of procreation is forced to support much more weight than it was intended,
turning sex into an unhealthy obsession.
Each of the pillars is important, and each interacts and interrelates with the
others. For example, a man who demonstrates prowess as a protector can
win the respect of his fellow men who then wish to partner with him in
hunting/business, offering him the chance to become a better provider. And a
man who is a better provider will attract more women, leading to the
opportunity to become a procreator. The pillars cannot be completely
separated either; a man will not be considered manly if he, say, fathers a
brood of progeny, but fails to provide for them.
The greatest shame and scorn is reserved for a man who can’t, or won’t,
strive in the pursuits of manhood – and doesn’t care either. He may denigrate
the ideals of masculinity, evince indifference to the importance of a manly
reputation, or attempt to move the goal posts on manhood to better match his
own personal aptitudes and proclivities. For example, a man who is frail but
has a keen intellect may say, “There’s nothing manly about being strong.
That’s for dumb meatheads. A real man cultivates his mind.” Or a man who
can’t, or does not want to have children may say, “What’s manly about being a
dumb breeder? Any idiot can knock a woman up. A man knows what he
wants, and I don’t want to ever have children.”
An honorable man says, “I cannot contribute in this manly role, and I admit I
fall short in this area of the manly code. But I understand why this standard is
part of the code and I respect it. I will strive to be excellent where I can and
seek to contribute in other ways.”
The second emerges from the realities of biology, evolution, and the
environment.
It is possible to be good at being a man, without also being a good man. For
example a mob boss has a dangerous job, supports his family, and is highly
resourceful. He also whacks people on a whim. He’s not a good man, but he’s
good at being a man. He does actually live the 3 P’s. Which is why, even
though we might not want to emulate him, we still can’t help but to think of him
as pretty manly. Think Walter White for a modern pop culture example –
audiences still wanted to root for him in spite of all the horrendous things he
did (and wanted to lambast Skyler White for her desire to seek the truth and
turn in Walt). The moral side of our brains tells us that he’s not a “real man”
but at the gut-level we feel a degree of ancient, amoral respect.
While it’s possible to be good at being a man, without being a good man, as
we shall see next time, the reverse is not true.
At the start of this series, I wrote that in our current culture some people think
manliness is altogether meaningless, and some recognize its reality but fall
into one of three camps: 1) the code of manhood should continue on much as
it has for thousands of years, 2) the code of manhood is
offensive/damaging/irrelevant and should be dropped altogether, or 3) there
are some parts of the code that should be retained, while others should be
jettisoned.
Hopefully, the first three articles in this series have shown that the first
contention – the idea that manliness is meaningless – is thoroughly untenable.
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