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Writing Assignment 2
Writing Assignment 2
Interpersonal Communications
22 October 2018
Listening. It’s something we could all do a little bit better at. Listening is considered an
“Important ingredient of satisfaction” (Prager & Buhrmester, 1998). Listening is defined as:
“The process of receiving and responding to other’s messages”, at least in our interpersonal
relationships. So we’re going to be analyzing the absolute importance of listening in our own
interpersonal relationships.
The question we’ve been asking ourselves is: “What’s the importance of listening in our
ingredient of satisfaction”. In our interpersonal relationships it’s stated that: “The importance of
Faye Doell (2003) showed that there are two types of listening: “listening to understand” and
“listening to respond.” Those who “listen to understand” have greater satisfaction in their
Especially in the workplace where working adults were asked to name “The most
common communication behavior they observed in their place of business” (Kenyon et al., 2013)
And of course “listening” topped the list! In the business world executives spend approximately
Not only is it in the workplace is “listening” vital but also in our family/social
relationships as well as the career list (Brownell & Wolvin, 2010; Wolvin 1984). In committed
Before we dive right into what I scored the highest and lowest in allow me to kind of define what
First off we have Relational Listening. Relational listening is mainly focused on:
“Building emotional closeness with others” People who are relational listeners are typically
extroverted, attentive, and friendly. Relational listeners aim to understand how others feel, are
aware of their emotions, and are highly responsive to those individuals. Relational listeners may
lost their detachment and ability to objectively assess the quality of information others give them
Then we have Analytical Listening. Analytical listening is mainly focused on: “Attending
to the full message before coming to judgement”. They want to hear details and analyze an issue
from a variety of perspectives. Analytical listeners can be a big help when the goal is to assess
the quality of ideas and when there is value in looking at issues from a wide range of
perspectives.
Task-Oriented Listening is focused on: “Efficiency and accomplishing the job at hand”.
Listeners who are Task-Oriented see time as scarce and valuable, and they often grow irritated
when they believe others are wasting it. When deadlines and other pressures demand action can
be beneficial. It’s most appropriate when: “the primary focus is taking care of business”.
Critical Listening is mainly focused on: “Strong desires to evaluate messages”. Critical
listeners go beyond trying to understand the topic at hand and try to assess its quality. They tend
to focus on the accuracy and consistency of a message and tend to be helpful when the goal is to
investigate a problem.
When I actually took the Revised Listening Styles Profile I scored the highest in
honest like I know I tend to listen to what someone has to say before I make a comment or
judgement but I always saw myself more as a Relational Listener which was my second highest
because I like to understand the feelings of speaker so I can sympathize and provide comfort if
needed. I wasn’t too surprised I scored low in Critical and Task-Oriented listening to be honest
because I’m not much of a critical person when it comes to looking for inconsistencies in what a
speaker says nor do I really get impatient with people who ramble on because I also tend to
My lowest score was an eighteen in Critical Listening. I wasn’t really surprised though
because I’m not much of a critical person when I’m listening to to someone talk. I could improve
though like for example in a debate I should be paying attention to inconsistencies in what
someone says so I can craft a better argument. I would help me have better arguments when I
I could use questioning I could use more often. By questioning I could see what the
speaker actually intends to say if I’m not one hundred percent certain on what he/she means. It
would make me seem more enlightened and curious as a listener by asking questions and getting
By using non-verbal skills such as body language and eye contact I personally feel like I
could be a better listener. By making eye contact it gives the speaker a cue that I’m attentive and
listening to what they have to say and it’s just politie in general to give someone all of your
attention when you’re talking to someone or just even listening it’s common sense. Body
language could be like the listener is sitting up straight or their body is facing towards the
speaker to show the speaker that they have your attention and you’re listening fully to what they
have to say.
Listening shows that we’re attentive to what a speaker has to say to us and it improves and
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