Evidence Regrets From The Dying

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Learning activity 1

Evidence: Regrets from the dying

This evidence is divided into two parts. Read the instructions below and make
sure you complete both tasks.

Fuente: SENA

A. In 2012, Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative nurse, wrote a book called “The
Top Five Regrets of the Dying”. Read the following article about that book and
answer the questions below.

To answer questions 1 and 2, follow the grammar structure in the example:

Example: They wish they hadn’t wasted time in silly arguments.

Source: http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-
of-the-dying
Top five regrets of the dying

A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the
top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be
if this was your last day of life?

There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who
has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common
regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in
particular, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in


palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She
recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which
gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of
their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned
about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says,
"common themes surfaced again and again".

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others
expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life
is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many
dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of
their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had
made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no
longer have it".

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their
children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of
this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female
patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply
regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work
existence".
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.
As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who
they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to
the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result".

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their
dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had
become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships
slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving
friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their
friends when they are dying".

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that
happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits.
The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well
as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and
to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to
laugh properly and have silliness in their life again".

What's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or
change before you die?

Questions:

1. What is one of the most common regrets dying people, particularly men,
have?

2. When dying people are asked about their regrets, what are the most
common themes they mention?

3. In the article they mentioned that happiness is a choice. What do you think
this means?
Questions:

1. What is one of the most common regrets that dying people have,
particularly men?

Answer: The most common regret of men is to have worked so hard,


because they missed the youth of their children and the company of their
partner.

2. When the dying are asked about their regrets, what are the most
common issues they mention?

Answer: The most common themes of repentance mentioned by the dying


are not to live a life faithful to oneself, but a life faithful to others, since they
could not fulfill half of their dreams and, consequently, have lived without
being happy because they did not realize until the end, that happiness is an
option and they had been trapped in old patterns and habits taking them to
the so-called 'comfort', all for fear of change, this made them pretend to
others, and for themselves, that they were happy, when I was in the
background, I really wanted to laugh and enjoy life as they had wanted to
live from the beginning.

3. In the article they mentioned that happiness is a choice. What do


you think this means?

Answer: I think it's true, since we all choose to be happy or to repress that
happiness, for example you know that if eating an ice cream makes you
happy you eat it and you're happy, or instead instead of being happy you
prefer to think about all the stereotypes that society has and if you eat ice
cream you can get fatter you prefer not to do it, but deep down you know
that you really wanted that ice cream, so that's where you have the choice to
be happy

with what you want or not be.


B. Using the answers from part A question 2, describe how things would have
been different if they had changed their actions in each situation. Read the
example below:
Example:

Regret: They wish they hadn’t wasted time on silly arguments.

Reflection: If they hadn’t wasted time on silly arguments, they would have
enjoyed the company of others more.

Answer:

Regret: They wish they had not lived as they loved others, but a life like the one
they really wanted.

Reflection: They would have to think about what they really wanted to live in their
lives, taking into account that if you wish you can, as well as fulfill your projects,
your things and not the others.

Regret: They wish they had been happier.

Reflection: They would have to make more effort in what they wanted and in
developing it, they would have been happier.

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Note: This evidence is an individual activity. Remember to check the learning


guide in order to know if you have done all the assigned activities, know how to
develop them and deliver them correctly.

Criterios de evaluación
 Enuncia remordimientos en el contexto requerido.

 Formula consecuencias hipotéticas a cursos de acción distintos en el


pasado en el contexto requerido.

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