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Leave The Safe Harbor
Leave The Safe Harbor
Who do you look up to? Who are your heroes? Who do you know
who has great courage and strength, who dares to do what is noble
and adventurous? Whose bold exploits inspire you to live more vitally,
to
dare more beautifully?
Many people whine about all their problems, complaining that their
ship hasn’t come in. What they don’t recognize is that they’ve never
left
the dry dock. When you stay safe and sound at shore, you’ll never set
sail and really choose the good life. How sad to realize that many
people
die within five miles of where they were born, having been afraid to
explore the unknown. My father, for example, often said with a
chuckle,
“You can’t trust the French.” But how did he know? He never went to
France.
You have to start somewhere. Choose a harbor near you and explore
the exciting opportunities and challenges awaiting you. Whether you
go
on a ride in a car, a boat, a train, or a plane, or you choose to go
hiking or
on horseback, don’t stay where it’s comfortable and safe. Get moving.
Get
going. Let the exciting adventure begin.
When you compare how relatively easy it is for us to travel today,
compared to one hundred years ago, we have no excuse not to
choose
to explore a larger chunk of the planet earth. How will you ever know
firsthand how you feel. The mountain peak is there; experience it.
Leave
the bondage of the known to awaken to the freedom of the boundless.
A widow from a small town in North Carolina is reaching out in all
directions to expand the life that had once been so sheltered, so safe,
so
limited. She’s now traveling around the country, visiting with friends,
going to college reunions, and taking group trips to Europe and Asia,
bringing along some grandchildren.
You can leave the safe harbor in small ways every day: choose to go
to a new art gallery or try a new restaurant or a new dish. Dare to
dress
differently from how you are used to dressing or the way your family
and friends expect you to dress. Question everything you’re thinking
and
doing. If you love color passionately, don’t wear drab neutral colors
after
Labor Day just because this is the “proper” thing to do. Did you know
that the reason for the forced march to switch our color wardrobes is
so
the fashion world will make more money?
Young college students today are often invited to take a junior
semester or year abroad. Some agonize over these opportunities and
choices and end up back at school, having declined the program
because
they were afraid of what they’d miss while they were away. They
thought
they’d miss their safe harbor, but how did they really know what they
were missing? It’s hard to guide a teenager into looking at the big
picture
when it is entirely unfamiliar, but whenever we’re given an
opportunity to
broaden our horizons, it is always good to reach out for the new,
different
cultural experience.
The winter of 2004 was not our turn to spend Christmas in Washington
with the grandchildren; we’d been there for Thanksgiving. Suddenly,
Peter and I saw an opening, a time when we could go to Hong Kong,
a dream we’d had for years. I first went to this exciting city in 1959
and
returned in 1980 on a buying trip as a guest of the Singapore
government.
Peter had business in China and we went to Hong Kong together
during
that trip in the late 80s. We longed to return, to take the colorful ferry
back
and forth from Kowloon peninsula to Hong Kong, to be among these
There are exciting places for us to go. Choose to expand your horizons
by
leaving behind everything that is familiar. Be a guest in an unfamiliar
city
or country or island. Choose to make your home more of the planet
earth.
It’s there. Accept the invitation and go. The good life, as we discover
when
we travel, can be found in many places. Expand your awareness of
how
good people are everywhere you go when you leave the safe harbor.
Be bold and brave. Be the eccentric one in your family. What Aunt
Betty did for me when I was sixteen transformed my life. She was true
to
her choice to explore the world. By bringing her three oldest nieces on
a
world trip, her gift continues to grow by making me more sensitive to
the
larger family of fellow human beings who share this planet.
Leave the safe harbor. Be an Aunt Betty. Take a niece or a grandchild
around the world. Start a travel fund. By being daring and taking a
chance, you will be embracing a wonderful way of finding happiness
and
joy otherwise overlooked and denied.