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"Any Girls Want To Chat Press 911": Partner Selection in Monitored and Unmonitored Teen Chat Rooms
"Any Girls Want To Chat Press 911": Partner Selection in Monitored and Unmonitored Teen Chat Rooms
ABSTRACT
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We examined the search for partners by participants in two teen chat services having differ-
ent ecologies. Over 12,000 utterances from monitored and unmonitored chat rooms were an-
alyzed to assess online partner selection attempts and to see how such attempts may be in-
fluenced by the presence of an adult monitor. We found that the search for partners is
ubiquitous in adolescents’ online haunts, just as it is in their offline lives, and approximately
two requests for a partner occur each minute. Although partner selection appears to be an im-
portant activity in online teen chat rooms, there are differences in frequency and format (e.g.,
the use of numerals, sexualized requests) as a function of participants’ age and gender, and
chat room ecology (monitored vs. unmonitored).
1Institute
for Research on Children, Youth and Family, Masaryk University, Brno, Czech Republic.
2Department of Psychology, California State University, Los Angeles.
3Children’s Digital Media Center, UCLA, Los Angeles, California.
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processes, such as the construction of identity and any body wa nna chat) or may be specific and contain
sexuality. Online teen chat rooms provide adoles- details related to identity (e.g., if there r any m/13/Tx
cents with an anonymous social context to discuss in here if so im me). Others contain identity informa-
issues related to their identity and their developing tion with a request for a numeral to indicate inter-
sexuality.4 In a study of chat conversations, more est (e.g., who wants to chat with a hot and sexy 13/f/ct
than half of the 583 participants (identified by a dis- press 12345). Finally, they may not contain identity
tinct screen name) communicated identity informa- information but may contain a topic of common in-
tion, most frequently their gender.6 Of the 12,000 terest such as a music group (e.g., hey anyone in this
chat utterances that were analyzed in that study, room like Eminem, nelly, Good Charlotte, Shaggy, Brit-
sexual themes constituted 5% of all utterances, with tany Spears press 4).4
one sexual comment occurring per minute.6 More Although we now have a basic understanding
importantly, monitored teen chat rooms contained how partners are selected in chat rooms, many ques-
less explicit sexuality and less crude language.6 tions remain. For instance, how commonly do part-
There are indications that chat rooms may be ner requests occur in chat rooms? Are participants
used for yet another important adolescent concern: with certain identities (e.g., age, gender) more likely
finding a romantic partner and establishing a ro- to make such requests? Are requests for partners
mantic relationship.4 Romantic partners serve the having certain identities (e.g., females) more com-
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important adolescent need for intimacy and com- mon than others? To what extent are partner re-
panionship10 and romantic relationships are a ma- quests sexualized? Finally, do requests for partners
jor topic of adolescent peer conversation.11 In fact, change as a function of the chat environment (teen
peer relationships provide an important context for chat rooms with adult monitors versus those with-
the development of adolescent romantic relation- out adult monitors)?
ships.12,13 As teen chat rooms allow for public in-
teractions with peers, they can make this process
potentially visible to researchers for the first time.
METHODS
Although there is limited research on this topic in
connection with chat rooms, studies suggest that
In order to address these questions, we analyzed
adolescents use the Internet to address concerns
the partner requests made in a large sample of con-
about romantic relationships; analysis of a bulletin
versations from online teen chat rooms. To test the
board on a popular health support web site for teens
generality of our findings regarding adolescent
revealed that questions about romantic relation-
partner selection, we selected chat rooms from two
ships were the second most frequently posted ques-
teen chat services having very different ecologies.
tions, after questions about sexual health.14 The ev-
One teen chat service required a subscription fee
idence suggests that some adolescents may use the
and had adult monitors (Service 1), whereas the
Internet to form casual relationships as well as for
other was free and did not have any adult monitor
dating, partner selection, and online romances.15,16
(Service 2). To assess how adolescent partner selec-
Researchers have concluded that “forming online
tion may be impacted by an adult’s presence, we
relationships might be one of the most generally ap-
compared the conversation from monitor-present
pealing aspects of Internet use among young peo-
periods with that from monitor-absent periods for
ple, given that forming relationships is a develop-
the monitored chat rooms. Thus, we hoped to study
mental imperative of adolescence.”15
how the quintessentially adolescent activity of part-
ner selection is impacted by the presence of an adult.
How are partners selected in chat rooms?
Sample
Despite its importance, adolescents’ partner se-
lection is not a well-understood aspect of their ro- A total of 20 chat sessions were analyzed. This
mantic relationships17 and is even less understood sample is the same as that analyzed in previous
in online contexts. In the absence of visual cues work4 and was obtained from a larger sample of 38
about physical appeal and cues such as gesture and sessions.18 It consisted of 10 sessions from each kind
gaze that convey interest, how is partner selection of chat service on the same day of the week (week-
accomplished? It appears that participants search days and weekends) and at approximately the same
for partners actively by making “partner requests” time during May 2003. In order to ensure compa-
in the public space.4 Such partner requests fre- rable samples, conversations were recorded from
quently contain the age/sex/location (a/s/l) chat both services only at times that the monitored chat
code and may not have a specific addressee (e.g., rooms were open (daily from 12 to 9 p.m. PST). The
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348 SMAHEL AND SUBRAHMANYAM
chat sessions were recorded by a researcher who en- within a chatroom. For the individual-level analy-
tered the chat rooms on the appointed day/time ses, we coded whether or not a participant (identi-
and remained there for one half hour (or until 15 fied by a particular nickname) contributed a partic-
pages of text were collected). Throughout this time, ular kind of utterance (e.g., partner request,
the researcher was a passive observer and did not gendered partner request) at least once; regardless
initiate or engage in any interaction with the other of whether a participant had made one, two, or mul-
participants. At the end of 30 min, the log of the con- tiple utterances of that kind, he/she was considered
versation was copied and pasted into a Word doc- to have made that kind of utterance and contributed
ument for further analysis; to protect the anonymity only one data point to the chi-square analysis.
of participants, nicknames have been changed.
Coding
RESULTS
Host/no-host coding for chat service 1. Because a sin-
gle monitor (called a “host”) supervises multiple In order to give the reader a sense of who (e.g.,
chat rooms in Service 1, an adult monitor is not al- age, gender) was in the chat rooms and how they
ways present in a chat room on that service. Tynes presented themselves, we briefly summarize the rel-
et al.18 have suggested that this results in the chat evant results from the earlier study.6 There were 583
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rooms becoming functionally unmonitored in the nicknames in the transcripts from Chat Service 1
temporary absence of the monitor. Therefore, all (monitored) and 567 nicknames in the transcripts
transcripts from Service 1 were coded for the pres- from Chat Service 2 (unmonitored). These partici-
ence versus absence of host; inter-rater reliability pants produced a total of 6702 utterances in Chat
was calculated by having two coders code all 10 Service 1 [M (utterances) 11.50] and 5556 utter-
transcripts from Service 1. An acceptable kappa of ances in Chat Service 2 [M (utterances) 9.80].
0.873 was obtained.6 Analysis of participants’ declarations regarding
their identity—mostly their age and gender—
Utterance coding. As there were over 12,000 ut- showed that participants in the monitored chat
terances to be coded, two coders each coded half the rooms presented themselves as younger and female
sample. The coders were trained on 18 transcripts compared to participants in the monitored rooms.
that were not part of the sample for this study. In-
ter-rater reliability was established on this training Romantic partner selection
sample, and the kappas for the coding categories
Pairing-off and romantic partner selection, quin-
were 0.79–0.92 for Service 1 and 0.84–1.0 for Service
tessential adolescent activities, are found online just
2. All utterances were coded as to whether they con-
as they are ever-present in the offline world (Table
tained content related to pairing-off/romantic part-
1). Across the two services, 10.8% of utterances con-
ner selection (e.g., Ladies If Ya Sexy Press 11, hey any
sisted of requests for partners (e.g., “any ladies
one wanna chat witha hot 13/f/oh blond hair blue eyes
wanna chat im me” or “any cute guy want 2 chat”);
5’2 im me). They were further sub-categorized if this
53% of nicknames or participants made at least one
request involved the a/s/l chat code (a/s/l lilcow)
request for a partner, and participants who uttered
and/or requested a numeral (Ladies If Ya Sexy Press
a partner request made an average of 2.2 requests.
11). Partner requests were also coded with regard
In contrast, a/s/l requests directed to the room as
to the nature of the request—specifically whether
a whole or to particular individuals were much
they were sexual (Ladies If Ya Sexy Press 11), non-
more infrequent (1.6% of chat lines) and so were not
sexual (skins im me), contained requests for a picture
analyzed further.
(any guys pic on pro), and were sexual and contained
In order to assess the influence of the host on part-
requests for a picture (any hot girls with pics press
ner selection in Service 1, we compared utterances
555)
contributed in the host’s presence with those con-
tributed in the host’s absence. Second, to assess how
Statistical analysis
partner selection was influenced by the service in-
We analyzed the data at two levels—at the level dependent of the host, we compared utterances
of the chat room, and at the level of individual nick- from Chat service 2 (unmonitored) with those from
names or participants. For the former, each indi- Chat Service 1 (monitored), eliminating all utter-
vidual utterance is the unit of analysis regardless of ances from Service 1 when a host was present. Chi-
who uttered it. Chat room or utterance-level analy- square tests revealed no differences in the occur-
ses are informative about the utterance environment rence of partner requests in Service 1 as a function
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TABLE 1. DISTRIBUTION OF THE DIFFERENT UTTERANCE TYPES IN MONITORED AND UNMONITORED CHAT ROOMS
of the host’s presence [2 (1, N 6702) 0.176, p were nonsexual (2.9%). Only a small proportion of
0.185] as well as no differences between Service 1 numeral requests were sexualized (0.2%; “press 66
(no-host lines) and Service 2 (all lines) [2 (1, N if u want to talk to a hot girl”), and some even con-
9387) 0.221, p 0.638]. tained the number 69 (“ANY GIRLS WANNA HAVE
PHONE SEX PRESS 69 OR IM ME PLZZZ”)—a
Age and gender effects in partner requests code for the 69 sexual position and hence consid-
ered a sexual number.
To assess whether there were any age and gen-
der differences in the tendency to make partner re-
Sexual versus non-sexual partner requests
quests, we coded whether a nickname made a part-
ner request; only participants who provided their Partner requests were also coded as to whether
age and gender were included in this analysis. We they were sexual, nonsexual, and only contained
found no reliable age (10–13, 14–15, 16–17, and pictures. Across both services, the majority of part-
18–24 years) effects [2 (3, N 406) 1.3, p 0.73, ner requests were nonsexual in nature (77.2%), fol-
suggesting that a similar percentage of nicknames lowed by sexualized requests (16.2%). Requests for
in each age group made a partner request at least pictures (3.8%) and requests that were sexual in na-
once. However, of those who uttered a partner re- ture and contained request for pictures (1.1%) were
quest at least once, we found age differences in the very infrequent and were not analyzed further. Al-
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percentage of such requests [2 (3, N 5667) though most partner requests were nonsexual, they
24.56, p 0.000]. For participants who stated that were more sexualized in nature when compared
they were 10–13 years of age 13.1% of utterances with the other kinds of utterances in our chat cor-
were partner requests, for those who stated that pus [2 (2, N 12258) 698.34, p 0.000]. Among
they were 14–15 years of age 11.1% were partner re- partner requests, 12.7% of utterances were implic-
quests, for those who stated that they were 16–17 itly sexual and 5.7% were explicitly sexual; for all
years of age 16.4% were partner requests, and for other utterances, 1.3% were sexually implicit and
those who stated that they were 18–24 years of age 2.3% were sexually explicit.
9.5% were partner requests. With regard to gender Chi-square analysis revealed no reliable differ-
differences, a similar analysis revealed a tendency ence in the sexual versus nonsexual nature of part-
for a greater proportion of declared females to make ner requests in Service 1 as a function of the host’s
partner requests compared to declared males[2 (1, presence versus absence [2 (2, N 705) 0.89, p
N 524) 3.28, p 0.070]. Among participants 0.35]. Although not reliable, there was a trend to-
who stated that they were male 65% uttered a part- ward a greater percentage of sexualized partner re-
ner request, whereas among participants who stated quests in Service 2 (all lines; 20.3%) compared to
that they were female 72% uttered partner requests. Service 1 (no-host lines; 15.7%) [2 (1, N 940)
This trend was strongest among those who stated 3.28, p 0.070]. There was also no reliable differ-
that they were 10–13 years of age [2 (2, N 92) ence in the distribution of sexualized and nonsexu-
8.97, p 0.011]; 77.6% of declared females uttered alized partner requests as a function of stated age
partner requests compared to 56.0% of declared (10–13, 14–15, 16–17, 18–24 years) [2 (3, N 673)
males. Participants who said they were female also 3.70, p 0.30] and stated gender [2 (1, N 858)
uttered a greater proportion of partner requests [2 0.84, p 0.36].
(1, N 7021) 3.83, p 0.027]. For nicknames who
stated they were female, 13.5% of all utterances Partner requests specifying gender
were partner requests, whereas amongst those who
Across both services, 3.8% of partner requests
stated that they were male, 11.9% of utterances were
specified partner gender (2.1% requested female
partner requests.
partners, and 1.7% requested male partners). Chi-
square analyses revealed no reliable differences in
Requests for numerals
the gender of the partner sought as a function of the
From prior work, we know that chat participants host’s presence in Service 1 and [2 (2, N 6702)
use numerals to identify potential conversation/ro- 4.70, p 0.096] and as a function of service (Service
mantic partners.4 Across the entire chat corpus, 1, no host lines, vs. Service 2, all lines) [2 (2, N
3.1% of utterances contained requests for numerals 9387) 5.03, p 0.081]. However we did find dif-
from potential partners (to put this in perspective, ferences in the gender of the partner sought as a
numeral requests made up 28.1% of partner re- function of participants’ stated gender. As can be
quests), and 21% of participants uttered at least one seen in Figure 1, declared males not only asked
request for a numeral. The majority of these requests more often for female partners, but they did so more
PARTNER SELECTION IN TEEN CHAT ROOMS 351
often. Although declared females asked more often were information about the self (12.3%), partner re-
for male partners, they were not as explicit as de- quests (10.8%), and greetings and goodbyes
clared males in specifying the gender of the partner (9.2%).6,20 Since information about oneself and part-
they were seeking [2 (2, N 899) 288.24, p
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