NEL REVIEWER 1st Ever

FACTORS INFLUENCING A SPOUSE:

 Homogenous mate selection - similarities

 Heterogenous mate selection – difference
 Parents were concerned for: Social Standing and prestige, economic status, education, family
background
 Factors in choosing a spouse
o Religious difference
o The division of labor
o Division of time
o Different use of language
o Your future spouses family
o Drug history and record work
o Methods of contraception
 Question: A fundamental social group in society typically consisting of one or two parents and
their children, two or more people who shares values, long term commitments. Answer: Family
 Question: An activity that anyone can engage in and requires no formal preparations Answer:
Dating
 Question: Defined as making or having social engagement with person you are attracted.
Considered less formal, less serious. Answer: Dating
 Far more serious than dating, wooing a woman: Answer: Courting
 Roles of Married Couple
o Husband
 Provision of food, shelter, money for the family
 Making important decision
 Breadwinner
 Head of the family
o Wife
 Preparing food and keeping the house in order
 Nurturing and raising children
 Homemaking
 Rearing children
 Managing households

FAMILY DEVT TASK

 Unity of interacting person related by ties of marriage birth or adoption. Answer: Family
 Is a task which arises at or about a certain period in life of an individual. Answer: Developmental
Task
 Devt task of beginning Family:
o Establish home
o Satisfy sex
o Establish relationship
o Facing possibility of children
 Expectant family
o Arranging for the coming of the baby
o New patterns for getting and spending income
o Expanding communications
 Childbearing
o Housing arrangements
o Cost of family leaving
o Refining intellectual and emotional communication system.
o Fitting in the community
  Pre school
o Adequate space for expansion
 School Age
o Parent privacy
o Financially solvent
 Teenage stage:
 Launching center stage:
o Physical facilities
o Meeting the cost of launching centers
o Reallocating responsibilities
 Middle Years:
o Pleasant and comfortable home
o Security
o Closer as a couple
o Facing bereavement and widowhood.
o Finding meaning in life.

OTHER DEV’T TASK

- LEAVING HOME
 Relinquishment of family origin, greater sense of autonomy and independence
 Broadening of support
- MARRIAGE
 Investment
 Satisfy marriage
 Developing parenthood
- BIRTH OF FIRST CHILD
 Having adjusting to dev’t of child
 Adjusting and maintaining the spouse relationship
- PRE SCHOOL
 Needs of a pre school
 Teaching self control
- SCHOOL AGE
 Fitting into the community of elementary school
 Encouraging children’s educational achievement
- TEENAGE
 Balancing freedom with responsibility. Maintain relationship with parents by listening
 Post child rearing interest
- LAUNCHING ADULT
 Relinquishing young adult to work
 Maintain supportive home
- EMPTY NEST
 Intensive husband and wife relationship
 Maintaining kin ties with older and younger generations
- AGING FAMILY
 Coping with loss including health, job (retirement)

Cohabitation: refers to an arrangement whereby two people decide to live together on a long term or
permanent basis in an emotionally and or sexually intimate relationship.

PEOPLE MAY LIVE TOGETHER FOR A NUMBER OF REASON (cohabitate not marriage)

 Test compatibility or financial security

 Same sex, interracial interreligious marriage
 Polygamist
  Does not like to commit 

Cohabitation becomes a problem

 Instability
 Revolving door

Marital infidelity  or ADULTERY

Domestic violence: also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, battering, and intimate partner
violence

Family code: EO 209

Intimate partner Violence: IPV has been broadly defined as pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both
partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage

Classification of Abuse:

 Physical
 Sexual Abuse
 Emotional Abuse
 Verbal Abuse
 Economic abuse

Cycle of Abuse

 Tension Building phase: poor communication, tension, fear of causing outburst

 Violent episode: outburst of violence
 Honeymoon phase: Apology