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Session 4
Session 4
Session 4
CCSS.ELA-LITERACY.SL.11-12.1
Initiate and participate effectively in a range of collaborative discussions (one-on-one, in groups, and teacher-
led) with diverse partners on grades 11-12 topics, texts, and issues, building on others' ideas and expressing
their own clearly and persuasively.
Learning Objective(s):
Students understand what consent means and looks like.
Students know how to respond if someone they are with does not enthusiastically consent to sexual
activity.
Students know about resources in the community that support survivors of sexual abuse or assault.
Materials:
1. Loose leaf paper for students (1 per student)
2. Brochures for sexual abuse or assault agency (1 per student, plus extras)
3. Session Evaluations
Lesson Outline/Procedure: Include each of your learning activities
1. Introduce myself as the school counselor again. Review briefly the previous lesson on sexting and how
technology can negatively impact relationships. Let students know that we will be talking about sex and
consent today, and if they feel uncomfortable at any time, they can take a break and leave the room with
the permission of the teacher.
2. Start by asking students to write down their definition of “consent.” Have them crumple the paper into a
ball. Then, give students one minute to have a “snowball fight” by throwing their ball of paper and
continuing to pick up and throw others’ papers. Maintain that students should not throw the paper at
each other. After a minute, tell students to pick up one snowball close to them and read it. Have a
handful of students read out loud. Affirm correct or close definitions.
3. Share the dictionary definition of consent out loud and written on the board. “Consent is permission for
something to happen or agreement to do something.” Ask students to pair and share what they think
they need to ask their friends and partners consent for. After two minutes, have a couple students share
out loud. Let students know that consent is crucial in all kinds of relationships, especially regarding
physical contact. Often it is important to ask for consent for even something simple like a hug, because
people have different comfort levels with physical touch.
4. Let students know that now you will be talking specifically about consent regarding sexual activity. Ask
a student to be the “scribe” and write on the board under three columns: “Wants to,” “Does not want to,”
and “Is not sure.” Ask students to share out examples of how you know if someone wants to, does not
want to, or is not sure if they want to have sex or engage in any sexual activity. (See attached example
chart for reference.)
5. Let students know that legally, consent during sexual activity has to be giving a “yes” to do something.
Not saying anything is not consent. Saying “no” nine times but being convinced to say “yes” the tenth
time is not consent. Consent should always be an ENTHUSIASTIC yes. Moving forward with any kind
of sexual activity without consent is considered sexual assault or abuse and it is not ok.
6. Ask students to share out how they could respond if their partner seems to be unsure if they want to
engage in a sexual act. Encourage examples like: respect their boundaries, stop, go do something
different together, ask if they want to talk, reassure them that it’s ok.
7. End by handing out brochures on resources in the area that support students who have experienced any
kind of sexual assault or abuse. An example is Rebuilding Hope, the Sexual Assault Center of Pierce
County. Let students know that they can also come and talk to me as the school counselor.
8. Hand out session evaluation (attached) and collect after session.
Wants to be there Does not want to be there Is not sure if they want to be there
- Kisses you back - Says NO - Says yes but hesitates
- Says YES when you ask - Isn’t kissing back - Doesn’t say anything
them - Pulls away from you - Seems uncomfortable
- Does not hesitate - Gives reasons to leave most of the time
- Body language is - Seems stiff and - Avoids eye contact
comfortable uncomfortable - Pulls away
- They seem happy and - Gives mixed signals
into you
Session 4 Evaluation: Consent