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behnam March 17th 2010


Dear Negin, Ghazal, Cathy, Minh, Ahmad, and other friends who belong to this circle of
friends,

How are you doing? I hope everything is going well with you. This is just to let you know
that I've missed you terribly. Would you please put a message and make me aware of
your health and mood?

This is sixth thousand post. I would like to take this opportunity to thank all my friends
for their attempts and efforts to increase the number of posts, and then to make one of the
longest thread in the world. Thank you very much indeed.

I wonder if Clare; our main teacher and the runner of this powerful site, could read this
post and would let me know if 'sixth thousand' is grammatically correct or not?

I am very much looking forwards to hearing from you as soon as possible.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 March 2010

mortaza.abtahi March 17th 2010

Hello Rosa,

Thank you for sending me a nice message! I am very happy that you do not leave this
place. It would be great if you could write regularly, but the important part is that you
never give up writing!

As you said, we are, AGIAN, in holidays because of new year vacation. In Iran, new year
vacation, for students and teachers, starts from March 20 and it lasts until April 3. Pretty
long vacation, isn't it? However, other employees should start their work in new year
from March 25.

To be honest, I do not miss my students! But I do miss my work and its beautiful
environment. Why I don't miss my students? Well, maybe it is because they usually do not
satisfy me with their learnings.
So, how is it going there, Rosa? Seems you are very busy with your work and teaching.
How are your students? Do you still teach those adult students? Have they taken any
exam in your class? If so, what was the results? Was it very good, good or fair?!?!

Hope to hear from you very soon.

All the best,


Mortaza, March 17, 2010.

mortaza.abtahi March 17th 2010

Dear Behnam,

Thank you my friend for being very nice to me and all other friends.

It is a great honor, to me, to be a member of this thread and participate in its discussions.
Writing in English everyday requires a good discipline; actually, I congratulate you for
being such a self-discipline man so that you are a good leader in this group.

Have a very good time, and happy new year to you, in advance.

Mortaza, March 17, 2010.

mortaza.abtahi March 17th 2010

Dear Mohsen,

How are you?

So, lots of people come to your home to visit you and your family for new year blessing
and you should provide lots of Ajeal and fruits to entertain them? This means that you
already are a blessed man!

As we, Iranians, believe, when a guest come to our home he/she brings affluence to the
family and when he/she leave our home he/she take affliction outside the family. So you
are a lucky man.

Since non of our relatives live in Damghan, each year we travel to Mashad and Kashmar
[!!] to visit our families. So, during all the new year vacation, we are guests and they are
hosts. This yields that I do not have to provide anything; we just need to make ourselves
ready to eat and ea (lol).

Here also Pistachio is very expensive but not that expensive as in Esfahan. Since I have
not bought it recently I cannot tell the exact price. I can assure you that in case we come
to Esfahan to visit this beautiful city and come to your house for several days and
nights[!], I will bring you some Pistachio as souvenir.

Good luck,
Mortaza, March 17, 2010.

Andrew March 17th 2010


Hello Mortaza,

yes, an ability to memorize things and just to keep in mind all the lot of details of our
daily activity fades day by day since our teens. That is why one should use special
training in order that to make brains working in operation mode.
Some extreme sport like permanent writing on this very thread would be one of the most
effective ways to solve few tasks at a time:

to improve English,

to improve speech itself (you know, one who can say nothing in his native language will
never say anything in foreign too)

to make gray matter of brain work in operation mode:))))

Please don't overestimate MY vocabulary - I get much from dictionaries as well:)

Best wishes,
Andrew
P.S. Have you watched "A Good Year"? What a good movie it is!:) Have you something
to recommend for watching?

elham_z March 17th 2010


Dear friends

Thanks again one more time. I read all your posts carefully several times.

There is something I am sure 100 % about. I don't hate my cousin at all but I don't like
him either. I think if I loved him I had to look for reasons. And I cant force myself to love
him because he loves me. According to my personality, I know very well what kinds of
people I may fall in love with. I believe it is not that if someone expresses his love for me,
I may hate him now but I would fall in love with him later or maybe I like him deep down
and I don't know myself. I don't say it cant happen. NO. It is possible. But it is not a rule.

Marina is right. Actually it is true that when you realize someone loves you, you have a
good feeling. It is natural that I may get used to it. I am certain that I never forget who
first expressed his love for me and I am sure hi himself never forget his first love. I am
honest with myself. Maybe someday (and I wish this day comes very very soon) by
knowing his love for someone else I feel ...... . I really found no adjective.
I respect his love for ever. This is all the sense I have about it.

Mayby dear Behnam says you are fantasizing about love but I escape from those just
having a crush on somebody. I dare to say I am looking for a worthwhile long-term
relationship. It doesn't matter at all if we feel some special sense about several persons
during our youths. It has happened to all of us. But as Behnam has written to Setayesh it
is a feeling of hunger. It is natural that when we are looking for something , during our
way we may stop a lot of times and doubt it might be the one I were looking for. As I
believe nothing is accidental, even those are sent to our lives for they carry a special
mission.

To giving rational reasons for not liking him, I can say I don't like him. I see no reason to
love him.. I have understood him very well. But I am confident he never can enter my
world. It is not bad enough. I don't expect all people to understand me. And since I know
him well I am sure he himself would get upset seeing he cant make me happy and is not
my true mate.

I don't know if I was wrong to feel some sense of responsibility for his sorrow. All I wish
is that he finds his true soul mate and be happy both together. Maybe I have to never
appear to his sight again.

In case you have any extra opinions coming to your minds while reading my post , they
would be welcomed with open arms. I get so happy to know about them.

Thank you for reading,

Elham

elham_z March 17th 2010


Dear friends

Thanks again one more time. I read all your posts carefully several times.
There is something I am sure 100 % about. I don't hate my cousin at all but I don't like
him either. I think if I loved him I had to look for reasons. And I cant force myself to love
him because he loves me. According to my personality, I know very well what kinds of
people I may fall in love with. I believe it is not that if someone expresses his love for me,
I may hate him now but I would fall in love with him later or maybe I like him deep down
and I don't know myself. I don't say it cant happen. NO. It is possible. But it is not a rule.

Marina is right. Actually it is true that when you realize someone loves you, you have a
good feeling. It is natural that I may get used to it. I am certain that I never forget who
first expressed his love for me and I am sure hi himself never forget his first love. I am
honest with myself. Maybe someday (and I wish this day comes very very soon) by
knowing his love for someone else I feel ...... . I really found no adjective.
I respect his love for ever. This is all the sense I have about it.

Mayby dear Behnam says you are fantasizing about love but I escape from those just
having a crush on somebody. I dare to say I am looking for a worthwhile long-term
relationship. It doesn't matter at all if we feel some special sense about several persons
during our youths. It has happened to all of us. But as Behnam has written to Setayesh it
is a feeling of hunger. It is natural that when we are looking for something , during our
way we may stop a lot of times and doubt it might be the one I were looking for. As I
believe nothing is accidental, even those are sent to our lives for they carry a special
mission.

To giving rational reasons for not liking him, I can say I don't like him. I see no reason to
love him.. I have understood him very well. But I am confident he never can enter my
world. It is not bad enough. I don't expect all people to understand me. And since I know
him well I am sure he himself would get upset seeing he cant make me happy and is not
my true mate.

I don't know if I was wrong to feel some sense of responsibility for his sorrow. All I wish
is that he finds his true soul mate and be happy both together. Maybe I have to never
appear to his sight again.

In case you have any extra opinions coming to your minds while reading my post , they
would be welcomed with open arms. I get so happy to know about them.

Thank you for reading,

Elham

behnam March 17th 2010


IRANIAN FESTIVAL

Iranian festival of fire, "Chaharshanbe Suri", is held on the eve of the last Wednesday of
the Persian calendar year. This year, the ritual falls on the night of March 16. The
festival is a prelude to "Nowrouz", the Persian New Year that starts on March 21 and
marks the arrival of spring. Chaharshanbeh Suri is an ancient Iranian festival dating at
least back to 1700 BCE of the early Zoroastrian era. During the festival, bonfires are lit
in public places with the help of fire and light, it is hoped for enlightenment and
happiness throughout the coming year. People leap over the flames, shouting:
'Sorkhi-ye to az man; Zardi-ye man az to" which means "Give me your beautiful red
colour; And take back my sickly pallor!"

With the help of fire and light symbols, the people welcome to the arrival of springs
longer days. Many of them specially children wrap themselves in shrouds symbolically
re-enacting the visits. By the light of the bonfire, they run through the streets banging on
pots and pans with spoons called "Gashog-Zani" to beat out the last unlucky Wednesday
of the year, while they knock on doors to ask for treats. In order to make wishes come
true, it is customary to prepare special foods and distribute them on this night.
Noodle Soup (Ash) a filled Persian delight, and mixture of seven dried nuts and fruits,
pistachios, roasted chic peas, almond, hazelnuts, figs, apricots, and raisins. The ancient
Iranians celebrated the last 10 days of the year in their annual obligation feast of all
souls. They believed the guardian angels for humans and also the spirits of dead would
come back for reunion. These spirits were entertained as honored guests in their old
homes, and were bidden a formal ritual farewell at the dawn of the New Year. The ten-
day festival also coincided with festivals celebrating the creation of fire and humans. In
Sasanian dynastic era the festival was divided into two distinct pentads, known as the
lesser and the greater Pentad, or Panji as it is called today. Gradually the belief
developed that the 'Lesser Panji' belonged to the souls of children and those who died
without sin, whereas 'Greater Panji' was truly for all souls.

Iranians today still carry out the spring-cleaning and set up bon fires for only one night
on the last Tuesday of the year. Young and old will leap over the fires with songs and
gestures of merriment. This festival was not celebrated on this night and in this manner
before Islam and might be a combination of different rituals to make them last.
Wednesday in Islamic tradition represents a bad omen day with unpleasant
consequences. This is contrary to Zoroastrian cosmology where all days were sacred and
named after a major deity. By celebrating in this manner, Iranians were able to preserve
the ancient tradition. The festival is celebrated on Tuesday night to make sure all bad
spirits are chased away and Wednesday will pass uneventfully. In rural areas and remote
villages flames are still burnt all night on the rooftops and outside the homes, though
people have no idea what this is all about.

The festivities start in the early evening. Children and fun seeking adults, wrap
themselves in shrouds symbolically re-enacting the visits by the departed spirits. They
run through the streets banging on pots and pans with spoons or spoon banging to beat
out the last unlucky Wednesday of the year. They will knock on doors while covered and
in disguise and ask for treats. The practices are very similar to Halloween, which is a
Celtic version of similar festivals celebrated throughout the area in ancient times. It is
believed that wishes will come true on this night, reminiscent of ancient traditions.
Wishes are made and in order to make them come true, it is customary to prepare special
foods and distribute them on this night.
Another routine of the Chaharshanbeh Suri festival is the Iranian version of Trick or
Treating associated with the Western Halloween night. Flocks of often young trick or
treaters, hidden under a traditional Chador (veil) go from door to door banging a spoon
against a metal bowl asking for treats or money.

In the past few years, this festival has departed from original tradition. Many people,
especially the youth, have celebrated it in a wrong way by using firecrackers all around
the city. The explosion could be heard from everywhere. This situation provides risk of
serious injury and recompense.

Source: Tehran Times

All the best,


Behnam, 17 March 2010

behnam March 17th 2010


Hi Nastaran, Hi Soheila,

How are you? I hope you are fine. This is just to let you know that I've missed you a lot.

Please do not lose contact with this thread. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 March 2010

behnam March 17th 2010


Eeeeeeeeeee, what I terrible mistake!

Dear Setayesh, I am glad that your tooth stops aching, or I am glad that your tooth
doesn't ache! Oh my God! What is going to happen to me and my mind?

SO SORRY FOR MAKING SUCH A TERRIBLE MISTAKE!

May God bless me. Please pray for me. :):):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 17 March 2010
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setayesh March 17th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Don't mention my dear brother, I completely understood you. It was a funny mistake that
shows omiting a word in a sentence how much can chenge its meaning.

I'm thinking about your question and trying to manage my mind in order to answer it. So
I will answer it sooner or later.

It was just to let you know, I read your post as soon as you posted it

All the Best,


Setayesh

setayesh March 17th 2010


Dear Rosa,

How are you my dear spanish friend? I wish all is well with you. Thanks a lot for your
quick reply and so sorry for being late in answering.

Yes, dear we are now on holiday. All my classes finished last Sunday at university. We
will continue studying after holidays.
I was thinking to write you about Charshanbe suri, one the old traditional festivals in
Iran before Nowrooz, but I saw that our friend Behnam has put a complete article about
our festivals. So he made the situation easy for me.

Dear Rosa, as Behnam said, Charshanbe suri is a kind of fire celebration. The last
Wednesday of the year is when people, Iranians gather in streets of almost every city of
the country or at the yards of their houses . Making fire and jumping over it.

Today is the last Wendnesday of this year, We usually celebrate it at Tuesday night since
the tomorrow is the last Wendnesday. Some people celebrate it tonight, and some other
people celebrate both nights.

Some families hold great parties at wendnesday's night which is full of music and
dancing and enjoying themselves.

But last night we didn't do all I and behnam mentioned, for my family being happy by
gathering together, enjoying ourselves by special nuts that is called Ajil,listening to the
music and reviewing our last year good memories is enough.
last night I thought about you alot. I wished you were here at this period of year, then we
could party all ceremonies together.

hope to hear from you soon

All the best,


Setayesh

metzean March 17th 2010

Dear Cathy , Clare , Elham , Ghazal , Kamelia , Marina,Maryam , Nastaran , Negin,


Rosa , Sohiela , Stayesh , Veronica,

On occasion of new year in Iran (1389) I wish you a prosperous ,healthy and happy new
year to all of you.
I have honor to present all of you 13 gifts and the gifts are 13 cars in 13 colors , The
latest Ford company Car production.I hope you accept it and enjoy driving it when you
wear a smoky glass and driving in 200 kms/h in new avenue of Rasht-Ghazvin., the final
destination is Kelardasht villa, The jangle in mountainous slope in one side and seaside
in other side.what a beautiful scenery.

I should mention it that I never bought the American brands before ,but this time is
different. The Ford company has been bankrupted, the company could n't pay its
employees wages ,so they couldn't afford to stay in business. I decide to help them
,Maybe by purchasing 13 cars ,13 wages will be paid ,the employees are innocent people
who became a toy of their government mistakes.

We share our happiness with people.


Mohsen
behnam March 18th 2010
Hi Rosa,

How are you? How are things my YOUNG friend? :):):) I hope everything is going well
with you. Thank you for posting lovely posts.

Once I wrote something about my New Years's Resolutions. Next year (we are still in old
year. New year will come on 21st. of March! :):):)) I will carry on IELTS-oriented
practising English, will do exercise one hour a day ( one hour walk in the afternoon or
maybe evening), and will strengthen my friendship through writing actively in this thread.

The other day (on Tuesday 16th of March) I had an IELTS exam (not a real exam which
we must take in the British consul) in order to be recognized my level at four skills;
speaking, listening, reading, and writing. It is a sort of self-evaluating to know your
weaknesses and strengthens in the English language.

Last weak I took verbal exam (speaking). My mark was 6 out of 9. It means that I must
practise speaking. Written exam (including listening, reading, and writing) was
interesting and instructive. It took 3 hours.

Dear Rosa, since Kamelia is my English teacher in Iran, I have to give a report to her, so
I hope you don't mind if I tell her the rest of story. :):):) If you are interested in knowing
more about the story please read my post to Kamelia, which will come soon! :):):)
hehehehe, jajajaja, jejejeje, lol :)):)):))=))=))=))

Thank you for reading. I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 March 2010

behnam March 18th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you doing? I hope all is well with you. Where are you? I've missed you and your
posts.

Dear Kamelia, I was telling dear Rosa the story of my self-evaluating IELTS test (azmune
taeen sath). For me that is a duty to give a report on it to you. If you are interested in
knowing what I've so far told dear Rosa about the story, please read my post to her.
:):):):) hehehehehe loool

The first written (katbi) exam was listening. It took 1 hour. There were four sections to
the listening module. There were 40 questions altogether. The audio lasted approximately
30 minutes. During the test, they gave us time to read the questions before we heard the
audio. As we were listening, we could write our answers in our test booklet. At the end of
each section, they gave us 30 seconds to check our answers. When the audio finished,
they gave us 10 minutes to transfer our answers from our test booklet to the official
answer sheet.

It wasn't difficult at all, but I wasn't familiar with it. In other words, it seems difficult for
me, but I realised that IELTS test will be easy if I get the hang of it. This is a very
important point. We must know how to deal with IELTS test.

In the first section of the listening module, a women was speaking to a policeman, giving
some information to him about two men who had robbed an old lady stealing her bag. I
understood it completely, but can you believe that I had some spelling mistakes! For
example, the woman said, " ...the younger one was about 27, slim build, and had curly
hair...) Can you believe that I wrote 'curvy' rather than 'curly'?!!! Ah, I wrote curvy
whereas I had used this word more than 100 times for describing my friends hair. What
made me write 'curvy' instead of 'curly'? I don't know!

I understood that writing in this thread covers four skills completely. You should know if
you don't care about spelling you lose score.

We had to spell words correctly!!!

Another important point which is VERY important should be made that there were no
grammar points, no phrasal verbs, no idioms, no proverbs, no difficult expressions, no
sayings! It was a very simple test, but a very tricky one at the same time. The questions
were standard. The test booklet and answer sheet had a mark of the British Council at the
bottom of the pages.

Dear Kamelia, if you are interested in knowing more about my IELTS test, for example
what I did to the reading and writing modules please let me know.

I should take this ideal opportunity to tell my friends and people who visit this thread and
read this post that I am ready to give you details information about IELTS test. Please do
not hesitate to write me.

Thank you for reading.

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 March 2010
sweetsmile March 18th 2010
Hi dear Behnam and other friends
thanks alot u still remember me ,i appreciate u and appologize u that i dont answer the
posts u mention to me,as u know some problems occured that i am not able to write
here,but believe me i read all post here daily and enjoy them,
i have missed u all
good luck
Nastaran

Clare March 18th 2010


Hi Behnam

Congratulations on making this probably the longest thread ever, anywhere!

It would be "the six thousandth post" I think, or even "the sixth thousandth post". But the
"th" after "six" wouldn't be pronounced, as the next word starts with "th".

Hi Mohsen
Thank you very much for the Ford car. What colour is it?
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Andrew March 18th 2010


Not Ford dear Clare. It's actually a Jag. Spotty I guess..

Bluegreen March 18th 2010


Dear all lovely friends here,

Hiiiiii.how are you?This is just a note to let you know I'm still alive out here LOOL

I'd write to you all soon,I checked that some friends came here after a long time,like
Veronica,Morteza and Nastaran,welcome back dear friends.I wish you all joy and health.

I'll write soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
metzean March 19th 2010
Dear Clare,

Yours is azure , hope you fond it.

Andrew ,Jog and Spotty are Rusian modle which are produced under Ford license ,aren't
they?

B.R
Mohsen
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behnam March 19th 2010


Hi my Iranian friends and people who are Iranian and follow us regularly,

Happy New Year to YOU and to your family. I hope this year brings you happiness and
prosperity. I wish you happiness, peace in mind and prosperity.

As you know, there are still 2 days left to have New Year, so it may make you wonder why
Behnam is in a hurry! You are right, but you should know that the world isn't predictable
and it has got colourful character! I don't know what will happen to me in the afternoon,
in tomorrow, etc!

In the morning you are someone's hope, but in the afternoon you are black sheep. Oh
Behnam, forget it.

Stay happy AND healthy.

All the best,


Behnam, 19 March 2010

behnam March 19th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks for the reply. I am just a member of this wide circle of friends. Undoubtedly, your
help and support make us gather together and have this long thread. Thank you for all
you have done for us. Thank you very much indeed.
All the best,
Behnam, 19 March 2010

setayesh March 19th 2010


Hi Behnam,?

How is it going? I hope you are in a very good mood, happy, healthy and everything
?going well with you. And sorry for being late in answering.?

Although I thought about your question a lot, I'm still thinking it is a very general
?question. So I can state my opinion just by considering some aspects of it and only by
?approaching ?to it from only one angle, however, we need to look at this issue from
?different angles.?

I think in the world where LOVE can convert to HATERD, HATERED also can convert
?to LOVE.?

I may be criticized ?and said" The love which finally converts to hatred, was not love
from ?the beginning ?it was a hallucination ?of love that the person had built in her/his
mind. So it ?was transitory". I will say; yes undoubtly it is completely true. I also believe
the same ?about the hatred ? which can convert to love.?

Sometimes our feeling ?shows something opposite ?while the truth is another thing. We
?laugh under the pressure ?of sadness to outlet our inner feeling. Sometimes ? we can't
?imagine that we love the person who pops the question. So we use the most convenient
?instrument, the opposite ?sense,? to prevent ?facing reality. These sorts of hatred are
not ?firm. They are not more than what we make in our minds.?

? In this situation hatred can change to love after more communicating but when people's
?reasons for hatred are deeper and more reasonable it is not possible to be converted to
?passion.?

Thanks for reading.?

Hope to hear from you again.

Regards,?
Setayesh ?

Clare March 19th 2010


Behnam - it's my pleasure!
Thanks Mohsen. Azure sounds a nice colour.

Isn't a Jag a Jaguar? I don't know if they're produced under licence to Ford, but they are
beautiful cars. I particularly like the old, classic models.

I also love sports cars, but I've never owned one - or even sat in one. Maybe I should go
to the Ferrari showroom and ask for a test drive, though I think they've heard that too
many times before!
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

helen.fan March 19th 2010


Hello everyone, I am from China, my Chinese name is Xiao Jie Fan, English name is
Helen.
I like English, but my English is bad, therefore I would like to know some friends together
to learn. My interest is in sports, such as: taekwondo, badminton ...... I also like to know
some friends.
Here I talk about our country, China is a population of many countries, but the Chinese
people are very kind-hearted lovely. China's history is very long, until now experiencing
a lot of dynasties. There are many many stories in China, like the Chinese friends can
share together.
Thank you.

Bluegreen March 19th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Hi dear old friend.so glad you're back again.how are you doing?How about your
family?Hope you're enjoying every minute of your life.

Dear Friend,I read your whole post about your trip,that was so nice of you to narrate the
whole story,I actually felt like I were there,especially in talking about the transportation.
I'd heard some of these that you wrote,before,like you wrote it was cleaner than
Thailand! Actually everyone who goes to Malaysia compares it with Thailand,I don't
know why!
Now I wanted to ask about those twin towers,I wonder if you've visited them.
Oh and sth else,lots of Iraninas do study there,have you seen them?LOOL
Oh god lots of questions came to my mind at once,now I want to ask about the food,how
was it?Do they all eat cockroashes?Dogs?
Dear Veronica,I think you're a woman of traveling,you really enjoy it and that is clear
from your beautiful describtion .would you please tell me how do you feel about it?I know
most of us would like to travel abroad and visit extraordinary uniques natural scenaries
but some people do feel a stronger desire for it.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 19th 2010


Dear Morteza,

Hi there.How are doing dear friend?Long time no see,how's everything about your sweet
family and you?How's this little girly Negar doing?I know that this bundle of joy(baby
Negar)wouldn't let you all do anything but playing with her.
By the way,how?s Damghan these days?I had friends studying there,but I think in Azad
University.Oh about these holidays,do you really think that it?s too much?Oh for god?s
sake,poor little students,dear,have a mercy on them! LOOOOL
Dear friend,we all really felt your absence here, but sometimes we can't keep in touch
because we've got lots of things to do,but at the same time we really like to be active in
here,like reading all the posts and writing to all friends here,but it's just out of our
control,so don't worry dear friend! we all understand.

Wish to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 19th 2010


Dear Morteza,

Hi there.How are doing dear friend?Long time no see,how's everything about your sweet
family and you?How's this little girly Negar doing?I know that this bundle of joy(baby
Negar)wouldn't let you all do anything but playing with her.
By the way,how?s Damghan these days?I had friends studying there,but I think in Azad
University.Oh about these holidays,do you really think that it?s too much?Oh for god?s
sake,poor little students,dear,have a mercy on them! LOOOOL
Dear friend,we all really felt your absence here, but sometimes we can't keep in touch
because we've got lots of things to do,but at the same time we really like to be active in
here,like reading all the posts and writing to all friends here,but it's just out of our
control,so don't worry dear friend! we all understand.

Wish to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 19th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hiii.How are you doing?How's everything with you and with that SWEET
COUSIN?LOOOL
Oh I was just kidding,please don't get the pet honey,i didn't mean anything.
Dear Elham,I deeply felt you when you were talking about yor problem and when you
said that you just wanted to think and maybe talk to god,because I'm a girl just like
you,and I can feel your efforts to make him believe what you say about your attitude
towards him,but honey why the cry?you don't have to make yourself sad for these
problems,as you read,Setayesh had experienced this situation twice but ask her if she
were this much sad about it?!
All in all I wish that you can keep up with it very well.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 19th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hiii.How are you?How's your family doing?I wish you a happy No-Rooz too.
Now about those cars,I really didn't get the story but that is so nice of you,LOOOL and
as dear Clare asked you,what's the color?LOOOL
And I wonder if you've chosen 13 cars for these 13 days of holidays till 13 Be Dar LOOL

Hope to read from you so soon,


Sincerely,

Kamelia
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Bluegreen March 19th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Hii dear friend.How are you doing?How's life there?Are you enjoying these busy days of
No-Rooz?I really hope that you do.
Here comes something new to my mind before I start writing officially to you
LOOOL,and that is,your name is really beautiful,I wanted to tell this to you before but it
just slipped my mind,your name reminds me of the vastness of this blue sky up above our
head,you must be really proud of it girl.
This post to you is just to let you know that I've missed you and your cute posts.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 19th 2010


Dear Marina,

Hiii.How are doing dear friend?How's Lattakia?i hope everything's fine with you.
Honey,it is our new year in Iran and we've got lots of things to do but I just wonder that
why is sweet Marina absent?
Is it because of that you're busy?Or no maybe you're considering different new topics to
ask us and especially poor me to deal with LOOOL
Oh I was just kidding,wish you joy and health and peace in mind.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen March 19th 2010
And Finally :

Dear Behnam,

Hiii.How's everything with you?How are you doing with the hustle and bustly of the No-
Rooz?How;s your sweet family?Oh and I wonder if your sister and her family have
arrived yet.
All in allI wish you and your family a nice holiday,full of health and merry.

Dear Behnam,thank you so much for your nice post to me and to Dear Rosa,that was so
nice of you to write all about your exam and let us know every tiny tip about it.
Honey,as you name the council and these exams,it makes me feel like I really want to
participate in one of them! LOOL Because it seems so important!

Oh I read somewhere that IELTS test in Tehran is held in Sharif university with the help
of this sweet professor Mrs.Shariati.

Now about your test,how about explaining more about it,how were some of your
questions rather than the ones you mentioned,and whether this test was all yours to
choose or you HAD to take it,I mean if students like you do have to take the test or they're
free to choose whether to pass it or not.
Here's another question,I understand that there's no special grammer for IELTS but there
are some, for TOEFL and i'm sure about it,but how about words?Do we have to to check
out any special book for learning new words to pass the exams?

Now as you said,the last question's about reading and writing module,would you mind
explaining all about it?

Oh god,loads of questions,please be kind to us and explain them all.

Dear Behnam,you always say that this thread is useful for us,honey,at first I must state
that if it weren't yDear Clare and you here,so here existed neither of us nor of posts! So
we all should be really thankful to have Clare and you here! Isn't that true?:)

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen March 19th 2010
Dear all friends,

This post is just to congratulate the new year 1389,and wish you and all your families all
the best things of the world.

Hope that this new year has the sweetness of the honey and the peacefulness of the blue
sky.
As we prepare to make this Sofereye Haft Seen and as we bring those seven symbols of
life,happiness,feritility,prosperity and so on I think we bring along all of them to our life
in the new year.:)

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL OF YOU

Love,
Kamelia

Marina1 March 19th 2010


Dear Behnam,

How are you my best friend??? How is it going with you???


I hope everything is going well with you. I wish you happy new year, and I hope you'll
achieve all your dreams in this year. You really deserve the best.

You congratulated your friends, but I didn't feel your happiness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I'd like to say to my friend Behnam that nothing deserve to be not happy for. Please be
always happy, and let's feel your happiness, because we need it.

I'd like to write to Kami through this post, I really thank you dear friend and I wish you
happy new year.
I'm not busy at all, but I'm a bit worried because of something and my mind doesn't work
properly. I hope you'll forgive my absence and being late in answering. I promise to
manage myself and write soon. Please pray for me.

Dear Behnam and Kami, please be always, always , always happy and depend on God.
He know about us more than what we know.

Hope to see you soon. Please write to me, and make me write.

Marina.
metzean March 19th 2010
Dear Mortaza,

Kashmar has beautiful sceneries, kind people and clean air, I have a good memories of
Kashmar when I was coming back from Mashad last year , I stopped in Kashmar for half
a day to rest .
You surly enjoy traveling to Kashmar and Mashhad.
You are right ,guests are blessing, Having party with family and relatives make us feel a
good pleasure.
I should prepare everything for my parties , one day for my relatives and one day for my
wife's relatives, because my house is small I can't invite both families together at the
same time. The reception consist of fruits, confectioneries, Ajeal, lunch or dinner. I would
rather prepare the lunch at home, I don't trust to what is cooked at restaurants, the taste
maybe is better ,but qualities are not trustable . what do you think of eating out ?

Welcome to Esfahan , I hope to be a good host for you, Esfahan is waiting for one million
tourists during Nowrooz holiday. Yesterday I was in the downtown , all shops were being
cleaned and windows' decorations were attractive.Workers were cleaning the streets and
Parks , painting all safe guards , street lines , and so on..

B. wishes,
Mohsen

metzean March 19th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Your car 's color is fuchsia. Hope you fond it , my story is very clear, we have 13 women
in this thread as I mentioned their names ,so my gift is 13 Ford cars to 13 women.

Thanks if you find a relation between 13 women and 13 days holiday !!!?. Can you label
each day to one of you(women) ,and each day you send your own massage to all of
friends in this thread.

B.wishes
mohsen
behnam March 19th 2010
Hi Nastaran,

You cannot imagine how happy I was when I saw you friendly post. I'd really missed you.
Thank you very much for writing and making me happy.

Doctor Nastaran, we really need you to help us with questions related to medical science.
There are too many questions concerning nutrition which is directly related to fitness and
health. I am absolutely certain that you can help us with knowing more about diets and
things related to fitness and health.

One of my New Year's resolutions is walking at least one hour a day, in the evening. In
springs and summer daytime is long enough to do some exercise. I often do it in 6 months
of every year. Would you please let me know how I can do it efficiency? I mean, how can
I get better results? Could you give me some tips on it? For example, what the speed of
walking should be? What about the time? Etc.

I am quite eager to hear from you as soon as possible.

All the best,


Behnam, 19 March 2010

metzean March 19th 2010


To Helen from China,

I hope you are doing fine, Did spring arrieved in China? I am from Iran, My favorite car
is Ford , I also like sailing , I play badminton when I go to the park with my relatives , I
also like Shovalin..
Would you please share me one Chinese story about shovalin?

Have a good time


Mohsen

behnam March 19th 2010


Hi Helen,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you very much for putting message on this site, in this
place. Thank you once again for joining this wide circle of friends.

Your English is very good, but there are room for improvement. I am sure we can help
each other to improve our skills in the strange world of the English language. I named it
'strange world'! I do believe in it. :):):)

There is no doubt that China is a great country with a long history and high culture. It is
known as the land of inventions. I have got many friends from China. Cathy is my
Chinese kind sister. Nana is my kind friend. I love Chinese people. They are kind and so
friendly.

Please do not hesitate to write to me and to my friends. My friends are very kind. They
will answer to you and will help you with your English. I am sure about it.

Would you please let us know a little bit more about you?
I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 19 March 2010
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Marina1 March 19th 2010


Dear Rosa and Setayesh,

How are you my kind friends??? How is it going??? This place is more beautiful when
Spanish and Iranian flowers are here.
I really love your posts. Thank you for coming back and writing actively.

Dear friends, please forgive me for being late in answering. Now I'm here. Writing to
you. :)

Dear Rosa, what an easy food you gave us! :)) :)) COME ON! Be generous
(LOOOOOOOOOOL). By the way, I do love this kind of food because it's easy to make
and delicious at the same time. We make it in Syria, and you can add lots of vegetables
on it. Anyway, thanks a lot for giving us that recipe , it was from your kindness.

Dear Setayesh, so nice to read your writing about Behnam's topic. I really love it.
I think there are two kinds of hating. Sometimes we hate because of some essential things
or movements , and this kind of hating can't be converted to love. The second kind of
hating because of a main situation between that people, a kind of misunderstanding. In
this case, it's possible and easily to convert hatred to love. I'll write about it very soon.

By the way, Happy new year for you and your family Setayesh. I hope this year will bring
you happiness, God willing.

Thank you my dear friends. It's the sold time in all shops, are you going shopping these
days??? :)
I hope to read from you very soon.

Marina.

helen.fan March 20th 2010


Hi Mohsen

Thank you very much can see my information.

First of all, you say spring arrieved, whether it is Chinese New Year? , Oh, and if so, then
the Spring Festival is our biggest holiday, and most important holiday. This time of year,
regardless of where the people will always try to rush back home and their families
together.

Secondly, shovalin mean I do not quite understand, I am very sorry. Can explain what it
means? Thank you very much.

Finally? Ford's cars in China, there are many people driving, its style is also very pretty.
Unfortunately, I do not drive.

Look forward to your reply, we can mutually understand one another, as well as each
other's countries and culture.

I wish you happy every day


Helen 20 March 2010

helen.fan March 20th 2010


Hi Behnam

Thank you for your welcome, and I am honored to know new friends here.

Would also like to thank you for the affirmation to me in English, of course, there are
many inadequacies, yes, where we can share with each other more in English, we can
better improve our level.

I'm glad you have so many friends in China, hoping that I will also become one of them.

I am 24 years old this year, yes, we Chinese have 12 Chinese Zodiac Signs, did not know
if you get it? Is that everyone should have their own birth sign, followed by the order of
rat, cow, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, sheep, monkey, rooster, dog and pig. My
Zodiac is one of the tiger. In fact, say that these do not know if everyone understand?

I have worked for a year, and work there are many fun things, of course, there are some
unhappy. Later, I can share the fun with more friends.

I want to be everyone's friend, while looking forward to your reply, thank you.

I wish you a happy and healthy


Helen 20 March 2010

elham_z March 20th 2010


* THE SEASON OF SPRING

weather seems to sing


lovely lovely days
are coming our ways

the season of spring


birds unfold their wings
diving high into sky
wish one could fly

the season of spring


nice sound bells ring
new wave new style
faces have on a smile

the season of spring


an new awakening
busy humanity on earth
as if it's a new birth

listen listen to my words


the season of spring is near
now a look into your lovely eyes
and one can see spring is already here

It is not just the dawn of a new day, it is a whole new beginning of new hopes and dreams
to achieve and live every moment with love and peace.

I wish all my sweet friends a harvest of happiness and prosperity this New Year.

** HAPPY NOWRUZ **
Elham

behnam March 20th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Thank you so much for friendly posts. Thank you once again for showing interest in my
IELTS test and its story. :):):)

After the listening module a lady took both the test booklet! Then she gave us another test
booklet and said, "There are 40 questions in the test booklet and you will have only 60
minutes to read the passages and answer the questions. Be careful to answer the
questions in the answer sheet and on the opposite side (answer sheet 1 barg bud,
montaha posht o ro). We had to write no more than three words for each answer! It
wasn't difficult at all.

The last module was writing. There were two tasks in the writing module. Task 1 was
writing a letter to the manager of a sports club, imagining we are studying at a college
with no sports club, introducing ourselves, telling why we are interested in their club,
asking for facilities, costs, etc. We had to write at least 150 words and we had to start our
letters with 'Dear Sir, or Dear Madam'! We shouldn't spend more than 20 minutes on this
task.

Dear kamelia, I am sure you know that when we start a formal letter with 'Dear Sir, or
Dear Madam' we should finish it with 'Yours faithfully,'. I did it very well.

Task 2 was giving my opinion (Now, nobody was in the class. All candidates left the
class, so I was the only person who was writing and writing:!:):):)) on wearing
traditional costumes. I should spend 40 minutes on this task, and I should write at least
250 words! I should give reasons for my opinion and include my relevant examples from
my own knowledge or experience. I did it very well. I wrote more than 300 words. I just
remember the lady said,"time over!":):):):):)

It was a great practical experience in sitting IELTS test. It really identified my strengths
and weaknesses in English which is need for IELTS test.

Thank you for encouragement, motivation, support, and all you hove done for me. Thank
you for reading.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 March 2010
setayesh March 20th 2010
Hi Mohsen,

I'd like to thank you for your gift to us as the other ladies. and ask you the colour of my
car, if you don't mind.

By the way, your suggestion to Kamelia was great, please consult together and let me
know my own day as soon as you can.

I'm impaiently waiting.

All the Best,

Setayesh

behnam March 20th 2010


Hi Elham,

What a lyric poem! Thank you for sharing it with us. I really enjoyed it.

I would like to ask permission to write a poem in Azerbaijani. I will translate it into
English. I hope dear Clare doesn't mind me writing a poem in Azerbaijani!

Bodi galdi Bahar fasli,


daghlarin lala vaghtidi,
achilibdi ghizil gullar,
bulbulin nala vaghtidi.

Bulbular dolanir baghi,


dor khalvat ela otaghi,
sana gurban olim saghi,
mey ver piala vaghtidi.

Ala gozli boee basta,


hech kas olmaz man havasda,
al bashimi dizin osta,
vor ginan lay lay vaghtidi.

Bo shelari yazdim be eftekhare tamame Azerbaijani doslarima. Bayramiz mobarak olsin!

Oh my God! How can I translate it into English? OK, I will try just to give you some
explanation, not to translate word for word!

Spring is about coming,


it is time for mountains to be covered by tulips,
Roses are blooming,
It is time for nightingales to sing.

Nightingales are flying (moving, walking) in the garden,


stand up and tidy up the room (make it as a private place),
I wish I could sacrifice myself for you, who gives wine,
Give me wine, it is time for drinking.

My soul mate, who is average height (not tall and thin, and not short and plump) and has
got black and white eyes (in a way that the black part is very dark, and the white part is
very bright, so these sorts of eyes are attractive. They are always shining. We call it
'Shahla guz' in Azerbaijani),
nobody can be as passionate as I am,
Put my head on your thigh,
it is time for playing lullaby.

I wrote these poems in honour of all my Azerbaijani friends. Happy New Year to YOU.

I hope you enjoy it.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 March 2010

behnam March 20th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you keeping my old friend? I hope you are in a good mood.

dear Mohsen, you have given a car as a gift to every lady in this thread. That is very
generous of you, but don't you think that it makes us (men) feel jealous? How about poor
men? Have you made any decision on this matter? :):):)

Happy New Year to You and to you family.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 March 2010
behnam March 20th 2010
Hi Morteza,

How are things with you dear professor? I hope everything is going well with you. How
about you family, particularly your sweet daughter? Please give my regards to them. I
wish you happiness and health.

Dear Morteza, I completely agree with your views. Thank you very much for writing
about my questions. I think we have got many things in common. Please keep on writing
in this thread. Your posts make me happy, and your presence in this thread motivates me
and gives me hope and energy. Thank you for being my friend.

Oh Morteza, I just looked out through the window, it is drizzling! I washed my car
yesterday! You see, clouds were waiting for my car to be washed! It is so funny, isn't it?
By the way, what about God's clock? I think there is a one season time difference
between God's clock and ours! Is it winter or spring? :):):):):)

Happy New Year to YOU and to your family.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 March 2010

helen.fan March 20th 2010


Hi Mohsen

Just suddenly understand what you said, "Did spring arrieved in China", yes, we Chinese
New Year is over. Our Spring Festival is a lunar calendar of January 1. I am sorry that I
know your New Year is at this time. Happy New Year!

"arrieved" whether you should write arrived?

Best wishes
Helen 20 March 2010
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helen.fan March 20th 2010


All friends of Iran

I'm very sorry, just know that the Iranian New Year at this time.

Happy New Year!

Your new friends from China,Helen

Soheilalotfi March 20th 2010


salam Behnam, Elham, Marina, Kamelia, Mohsen, Setayesh, Veronica, Mortaza, Helen,
Nastaran, Andrew,....

Merry new year! happy days! Full of peace,love & enjoyment!


DEAR Behnam thanks for beautiful files and helpful email. Ok man I will care about
punctuation mark. Don't you know man that old habits die hard? Hahahah....Behnam,
sorry I was busy this week. my sister came from France. We have guests from France and
Tehran, and...I'm reallyyyyyyyyyyy busy. I will be busy until 13 bedar!!!! I can't come and
write but i read your letters...Oh yes, thanks thanks for complete and clear answer to my
question....Behnam, what is your branch or studying field?
Dear Elham you came to Shirza and went!!! Don't forget I will do same with you if i
come Esfahan. Tit for tat! Dear Marina happy to see your letters. You're a kind girl. well
when you took behnam attention it means you are special. Oh Behnam, don't kill me
hahahahahahah kaku.... Nice Kamelia happy to see you here. especial hello and respect,
because your mother's name is Soheila!!!!.... Setayesh pleased to meet you honey. I love
your letters. Your answer to Elham is wonderful.... Mohsen, nothing from you??? did you
forget me??? Thanks rich man for giving 13 expensive cars.i love your gift...send it to
Shiraz hurryyyyyyyyyyyy up.... hahaha I like purple cars!!!! Veronica welcome back
honey. Will you be my friend? Doctor Morteza happy to meet you here, sweet girl! Kind
Nastaran where are you? Miss you! Andrew nice to see your invitation! no time to chat
dear, so sorry... Helen welcome sweet girl.
It is raining in Shiraz. Many guests from other cities. Shiraz is crowded. Streets are full
of cars, traffic is heavy.
Happy new year! I like to see smiles on your lips. I love see you always happy. I hope all
days be Eid. happy newrouz. happy new year... don't forget me, i won't forget you. pray
for me, i will pray for you...
Behnam i'm a fan of let's learn together, i read all letters but don't get sad if i'm busy and
can't write...I'll compensate, I promise!!!!

Best wishes
Yours Sincerely
Soheila
Oh Behnam, rasti send me an email and give me details information about Ielts exam, I
need it...soooooooooooooon
elham_z March 20th 2010
Hi Mohsen,

Soooooo many thanks for your precious gift. I really enjoyed your present since I am
crazy about driving.
I beg my father to buy us a new car but he has bought a new Capra for himself and I just
have to dream for it. From now on whenever I drive this old car, I imagine myself in a
really nice Ford. Wow ...... How much I enjoy myself in it :):):)

I hope you lots of happy, enjoyable moments beside your lovely family,

* Happy New Year

Elham

elham_z March 20th 2010


Dear Soheila,

Long time no see,

Where are you girl? I have missed you a lot. Believe me if I had'nt been pressed in time
for sure I would have managed to meet you.
I don't know if Bahar Narenj trees are now in flower or not. I really liked to see, smell
and feel them from near. At that time when we were there, there was still no flower. I had
heard about their heady scent and I was looking forward to experiencing it. So enjoy as
much as you can breathing in that pleasant, wonderful weather of Shiraz on my behalf.

I was waiting to read from you related to the subject under discussion about me. In case
you have any special suggestion I would be so happy to know about that.

Wishing you lots of happy times in holidays of Now Ruz,

Elham

behnam March 20th 2010


Hi Helen,
Thanks for fast reply. How are you? I hope you are very well.

Therefore, you were born under tiger sign of the Zodiac! Would you please let me know
more about your horoscope ? This year is tiger year in China. Am I right?

Please give me some details information about signs and the Zodiac. It seems so
complicated to me.

What did you study? What do you do?

I am eager to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 March 2010

behnam March 20th 2010


Hi Marina,

How are you my close friend? I hope everything is going well with you and you enjoy
every second of your life.

Thank you for your nice post. You were late, I was worried about you. Your post made me
happy.

Please keep in contact with this thread and with us. We can't stand your absence. You
maybe read all posts, but in my view that isn't enough just to read posts, although it is
very kind of you to read them. How can we realise that Marina reads our posts? The only
way is just putting a message, even though a short message like 'hello, I am hear, bye'.

Let me make you write. :):):) How is greed different from envy? What are the differences
between jealousy and zealously? You see, it is easy for me to introduce a wide range of
challenging topics. :):):):)=))=))=)) lol

I am impatiently waiting for your post.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 March 2010

Andrew March 20th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Happy New Year!


I understand that you must be short in time this days but we need to know your opinion
about little annoing problem well known to all of us - unwanted emergence of ? sign
(question mark) except of some others like " , ' , ... (and maybe some else) after the using
Microsoft Word for writing a draft copy.
I have solved this riddle for myself long ago and I thought it mustn't be a problem to
anyone else. But I see that it stay to be problem! Yesterday I tried to help Setayesh to get
rid of these nasty unwanted question marks (read Tohid's thread, March, 19). I thought
it'll be easy but I was mistaken.
I'm sure that you can clear up the situation - there MUST be simple and rational
explanation. All the details are there, in our yesterday discussion with Setayesh.
Thank you in advance.

Andrew

Bluegreen March 20th 2010


Dear Helen,

Hi.How are you?How's China dear friend?I hope you're enjoying your time there.

Dear Helen,this is so wonderful to have you as a new friend and member here.I wish you
find lots of new friends here.

But please,keep in touch,write soon,we all would like to read your lovely posts,so do not
hesitate to write to each of us here dear.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 20th 2010


Dear Soheila,

Heeelllooooo there.How are you dear physics teacher?How's Shiraz?So glad to hear
your sister's back honey.Behnam's sister will be in Iran soon,everybody's sister's coming
back,good for all of you.

Dear Soheila,mom sends regards to you,wish you a happy Eid till 13 Be Dar.
Wish you the best,

Kamelia

sami March 20th 2010


Hi Behnam, Elham, Marina, Kamelia, Mohsen, Setayesh, Veronica, Mortaza, Helen,
Nastaran, Andrew...and all friends

First, I want to say a big HAPPY NEW YEAR to those who celebrate it now. I hope you
all have a great time with your family and friends, so as to start (and continue) the new
coming year with lots of energies. I sincerely wish you all the best, since you are also
part of my family :)))

Dear Behnam, how are you? Is your sister with you now? Ifso, could you please tell me
what you felt when you saw her after a long time??? I can imagine it, but, please, can
you tell us about it?

I have read your post to Mortaza, you have said that you washed your car yesterday and
it was raining soon after it, so your car got dirty again... ;)))))))) jajajajaja Why does it
happen??????? Dear, it is a proven fact, whenever you wash your car or you clean the
glass of the window...it rains!!! Always!!! So... this is the solution for you when you want
rain, it is a way of calling the rain!!!! :))))))))) I am laughing now, but, when it happens
to me, I usually get a bit angry!

About your topic..."is it possible to convert hatred into love?" I dont think so. First, I
think I have never felt hatred towards a person. It is a hard feeling, and any person has
marked negatively me so deeply so as to hate him/her. So I cannot answer this question
from my personal experience. I think if you hate someone and then you love him/her, you
didnt hate him/her really.

I consider possible the other way round, I mean, I think you can love someone and then
feel hatred toward him/her. It can happen. If you love someone deeply and that person
hurts you...that love may be changed into hate.

Dear Marina, I am happy to know that you also like omelette and you also cook it in your
country. I know it is a quite easy recipe to cook, but it is also the main emblem of Spanish
food. If you want me I would write you another recipe, a more elaborated one. Just tell
me what kind of food you like most and I will write something with that as the main
ingredient.
Marina, I was a bit worried because you wrote to all friends and you didnt write to me...I
was starting to think... What have I done to Marina? Why doenst she want to write to me?
:(( Now I am happy to see you wrote to me. :))))

Dear Kamelia, how is it going these days? Are you anxious for the arrival of the new
year?

Dear Elham, how are you feeling now? Did you find the way to solve your problem? I
really hope so.

Dear friends (all) as I told you a few days ago, the sun came to my city, but just for a few
days. Now, we have again cloudy and rainy days, I can't see my sun, which is the one
who gives me energies... These days, also with the arrival of spring, I feel quite tired,
much more than usual, and my mood is not the best one these days...Do you feel the same
with the arrival of spring? If so, what do you do? I am sure that what I need is the
SUN!!!!!!

I hope to read very soon from you.


I love you all, you are my seocnd family.

Have a very nice time,


Rosa, 20 March 2010.
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behnam March 20th 2010


Hi Andrew,

Thank you very much for sharing that problem with me. Once I wrote my post in
Microsoft word. I copied and pasted it into this box (I mean box in which I am writing
now, and it's located at the bottom of page). After sending I saw there are question marks
wherever I've used comma (,), colon (:), semicolon (;), apostrophe ('), quotation mark ("),
dash (-), slashes (/, ), brackets ((,),[,]), points (...), and other signs and symbols! I
realised that this box couldn't recognize symbols, marks, signs, unless they were written
in standard version of Microsoft word.

After that time, I rarely write a file in Microsoft Word format. I try to write in this box.
However, if I was obliged to write a file, and then copy and paste it into here, I was
careful to rewrite all the marks in this box. I mean, I deleted all marks and symbols, then
rewrote them.

I am not sure whether our friend's (dear Setayesh's) problem is like this or not. I just can
keep my fingers crossed for her to deal with this problem properly. Nevertheless, her
posts are great, either with question marks or without them. I hope this problem won't
prevent her from writing.

Thank you once again for writing to me. I hope to hear from you soon. Thank you once
again for congratulating me on New Year. That is really considerate of you.
All the best,
Behnam, 20 March 2010

helen.fan March 20th 2010


Hi Kamelia

I'm fine, thank you, and you? I wish you all the best.

I am very happy and lucky to be your friend, I will as soon as possible and all our friends
to keep in touch, please all my friends say that I English errors. Thank you very much.

Hi Kamelia, I have just graduated from college one year, the company I work for a year,
I studied at the university which is a math education, which should become a teacher, but
my job is to trade clothes now, as well as foreign trade export. Can you understand?

Right, and I also like taekwondo, in college, amateur electives it for four years, took part
in our provincial competitions, and get some small success. I like sports, sports can be a
strong body.

Good luck
Helen 20 March 2010

metzean March 20th 2010


Dear Behnam,

You are right, I am indebted to the men of this thread, I never forget them .Before I
perchased the Ford cars ,I had bought a remarkable beautiful land(villa) in Kelardasht.
Do you remember my story, I wrote that women in their Ford cars are driving in
Ghazvin- Rasht avenue. and the destination was Kelardasht villa.
Do you know who is the owner of that villa. The villa is belong to the men , and each men
in this thread have 1000/square meters of that villa as my present for new year, I hope
they fond it .
So, Dear Ahmad , Andrew , Araghi , Bahnam ,Tohid, Daryosh, Hossien, and other male
friend who I forget their name ,Happy new year to all of you.
I wish you the best in 1389
Mohsen

helen.fan March 20th 2010


Dear Behnam

I'm fine, thank you.

You are right, this year is the Year of the Tiger, I was born under tiger sign of the Zodiac.

Here I give you to talk about China's system of twelve signs.

Chinese astrology has a system of twelve signs, sometimes also refers to as "zodiac". The
Chinese Zodiac is consisted of 12 animals; they are: rat, ox, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake,
horse, sheep, monkey, rooster, dog, and pig.

The Chinese Zodiac is a 12 year cycle. Each year of the 12 year cycle is named after one
of the 12 animals. Each animal has different personalities and different characteristics.
For example, rat has the characteristic of disciplined and charming; ox can be
dependable, modest and logical, and so on. The animal is believed to be the main factor
in each person's life that gives them their traits, success, and happiness in their lifetime.

There are many stories about the origins of the Chinese Zodiac. One popular legend has
it that a race was used to decide the 12 animals. Another legend said that the 12 animals
were decided by a swimming match. In Buddhism, legend has it that Buddha summoned
all of the animals of the earth to come before his departure from this earth, but only
twelve animals actually came to bid him farewell. To reward the animals who came to
him, he named a year after each of them, the years were given to them in the order they
had arrived.

An interesting story from the Chinese Zodiac is about how rat and cat became enemies.
Once they were good friends, but both of them are poor swimmers, so before the
swimming match, they asked the ox if they could stay on top of his head to cross the river,
and ox agreed. Along the way rat pushed the cat off the ox?s back. The cat was incapable
of swimming, and lagged behind. The rat stayed on top of the ox?s head, and as the ox
was about to cross the finish line, the rat jumped from the ox?s head and became first
place. The cat finished too late to win any place, and vowed to be the enemy of the rat
forever.

There are still many other stories about it, and all of them are parts of our Chinese
culture. These 12 animals are Chinese traditional mascots. Hope you?ll like them.

You can now understand that it?


Best wishes
Helen

metzean March 20th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

There are beautiful cars in different colors. The color of your car is hot pink lemon,
metallic .Hope you like it. I don't know if Kamelai have time to manage my suggestion,
may be she has another suggestion.On the other hand , it is difficult to have a well
ordered plan during holidays , but if the women are ready ,they can send their massage
as per following order from tomorrow : Cathy , Clare , Elham , Ghazal , Kamelia ,
Marina,Maryam , Nastaran , Negin, Rosa , Sohiela , Stayesh , Veronica

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

metzean March 20th 2010

Dear Helen,

Thanks for making my mistake correct, I always use dictionary to find the words and
write them here. I also had another type mistake writing Shovalin. It is Shaoleen. There
are some Shaoleen temple in China , and people who live in the temple ,practice Kongfuo
to defend the temple. Do you know a short story about Shaoleen tempel ?

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

metzean March 20th 2010


Dear Soheila,

How can I forget my sole shirazien friend , My gift was the sign of my loyalty, I send you
the purple car to Shiraz, driving the Ford with your sister and enjoy it.
Meghsi Madmazel,
Mohsen

metzean March 20th 2010


Dear Elham,

Don't worry for the Cars, Please take accept my gift ,a white Ford car in which you can
overtake your father's car. Enjoy your holiday and be happy in Nowrooz.

B.Wishes
Mohsen

sami March 20th 2010


Hello Mohsen!!!

I forgot to say in my previous post! Thank you for your car!!!!!!!!!! Which colour is
mine????? Let me tell you that I love red colour, is it possible mine is red???????? ;)))

My actual car is black, it is a beautiful car, but this one you are giving us is
wonderful!!!!!!!!! You are a very generous friend!!! :))))

Thank you!
Rosa, 20 March, 2010.

Marina1 March 20th 2010


Dear all my Iranian friends ( Behnam, Kamelia, Elham, Mohsen, Maryam, Nastaran,
Soheila , Negin, Ghazal and all other Iranian friends)

I'd like to say " Happy new year " for all of you. I hope the this year bring happiness for
all of you. God bless you, and help you to achieve all your goals.

With my best wishes for you nd your families.


Marina.
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Marina1 March 20th 2010


Dear all my Iranian friends ( Behnam, Kamelia, Elham, Mohsen, Maryam, Nastaran,
Soheila , Negin, Ghazal and all other Iranian friends)

I'd like to say " Happy new year " for all of you. I hope the this year bring happiness for
all of you. God bless you, and help you to achieve all your goals.

With my best wishes for you and your families.


Marina.

Fong_ls March 20th 2010


Dear friends:
Hellow, I am Fong. I am a new guy at english-at-home, I'd like to meet some friends from
here in oreder to help our english at same time.
I am a talkable guy, not only like that also funny, so if you want to make a chat with me, I
can talk with you all the day.
I wish we would be a good friends, I am here waitting for you.
shifongle@yahoo.com
Fong 20.March. 2010

metzean March 20th 2010


Dear Rosa and Marina,

Thanks for your writing , you make my happiness double .


I am very happy that you Rosa accept my gift (the red color Ford). also I put a yellow
orange for Marina, hope you accept it Marina.
People in Iran waiting for the new year in next 3 hours ( 9 PM). Almost all people are
preparing the special traditional lay out of Haft sin table as follow .
One of the most popular traditions of Iranians during the NowRuz holiday is laying out
the Haft Sin or the ?Seven 'S's?. A ?Spread? or ?Tray? signifies daily sustenance and
blessing in the ancient Iranian culture. Anything used in the Haft Sin spread is a symbol
of birth, blessing and purity.

Senjed (the dried fruit of the oleaster tree): symbolizing rebirth and a new beginning.

Seer (garlic): symbolizing cleanliness, and a cleansing of anything soiled and unclean.

Serkeh (vinegar): symbolizing cleanliness and purity.

Somaq (powdered sumac berries): symbolizing cleanliness and purity.

Samanu (a sweet pudding made from wheat germ): symbolizing the growth of plants,
sweetness and joy.
Sabzeh (wheat, barley or lentil sprouts grown in a dish): symbolizing growth and
blessing.

Sib (apple): symbolizing freshness, sweet fragrance and a new life.

The Holy Book of Quran as a symbol of spirituality and guidance, a bowl of goldfish as a
symbol of beauty and agility, and fragrant and beautiful flowers such as lilies and
hyacinths are also usual additions to the Haft Sin table. The tasteful layout and
decoration of everything is one of the most important and enjoyable aspects of the Haft
Sin, cherished by all Iranians.

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

setayesh March 20th 2010


All my dear Friends,

I am writing to say a very big "HAPPY NEW YEAR" to all my Iranian friends and all
other Iranian who I haven't the chance of writing to them because they just follow us by
reading this thread. I guess I am the last Irainian who is writing this messsage here.

I postponed writing this message to the last moments of this year to be more close the
time of changing the year since I've heared all the wishes come true at this time. It's just
1 hour left to the new year. At this time, I wish you all a new year full of joy, happiness,
success, peace, and all the best in your life.

I would like to give an special thank to my dear friends who are not Iranian like Dear
Andrew, Marina, Rosa,Clare and others that made us happy by their congratulations .
Dear firends I thank you from the bottom of my heart for congratulating our New year,
your messages showed us again how nice and supportive people you are.

Again "Happy new year"

All the best,

Setayesh

Clare March 20th 2010


Happy New Year!

Wishing you all happiness, peace and prosperity!


--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam March 20th 2010


Dear friends,

Happy New Year! Thank you for your great posts. I am living with this thread, among
you and your posts. I am very happy to be your friend.

My sister is in Tehran now. Tomorrow, I will leaveTehran with my family. We will visit
some relatives, after 5 days we will go Mashad. We will be back on 5th of May, maybe
sooner. I will miss you. For me, it will be difficult to stay far from this thread and my
friends. I will try to take every opportunity to read your posts and to put messages. I hope
so.

We had planned to Go Tabriz and Marand. Unfortunately, something bad happened, and
then we had to change our decision. Please pray for me. I need your prayers.

I just want you (ask you, beg you) to keep on writing in this thread. This thread isn't
mine. This thread is for all people who share their sadness and happiness with other
human beings, in all over the world. This thread has no owner, but at the same time we
all are its owner. I hope these sentences don't sound humility, pride, selfishness, etc. You
know very well that some people try to pretend to be humble, just by using some soft
sugar coated words. I am humbler than the humblest person in the world, BUT I am
much prouder than the proudest person in the world as well! This is my policy, I don't
care about its correctness or incorrectness. What I am saying is this: This thread isn't
mine, it belongs to all people who care about it. I mean it, I am not advertising!

I never watch TV. For some reasons, tonight I had to watch TV. How disgusting it was!
You see, people look directly at your eyes and say, "I love all Iranian. I love all human
beings. I really don't know how to appreciate your kindness, you great people"! This is
what people pay as a nice compliment, especially some stupid singers and cinema stars,
and football players, who don't know how to spend their money!

Yes, it is not possible to please two bosses at the same time. People who claim that they
love all human beings, their stomachs are full and they are lying, without any doubts. If
you don't believe, just check it. Control them and see what they do when their stomachs
are empty! Oh remember, when poverty comes in through the door, all things (love,
kindness, humanity, affection) fly out through the window! So sad, yes facts are sad!

Oh Behnam, what are you saying? This is your new post in Iranian New Year. Why are
you so angry? So strange of you Behnam!

Yes, it is so strange of me to write such things at this time of the year, but believe it or
not, for me it doesn't matter if it is old year, new year, or something like that. There is a
saying in Azerbaijani 'daliya har gun bayramdi'( for mad person everyday is like the
beginning of a new year=eid), so I feel honoured to be considered as a mad person.
:):):):)

Thousand times I had told my mother not to want me to watch TV! Tonight she again
forced me to be there, among them, watching TV, waiting for the New Year! "Behnam,
mummy, you MUST be here. It is not good to forget all traditional customs"!

Whenever I watch Iranian TV, I feel as if they (people on it) have being waiting just to
fool me! Imagine there is a hat in someone's hand with no owner, as soon as s/he sees
you, puts the hat on your head! This is my feeling. I hope you understand it, as I wish. I
am so pessimistic about it. I'd better visit a psychologist! :):):):), or maybe our TV must
be thrown away! :):):):):) Which of them is easier? :):):):)

This thread isn't mine. This is my main sentence. Please try to keep it active and alive.
(Oh Behnam, come on man! If it isn't for you, why do you insist on keeping it alive and
active? Doesn't it mean that you are fooling people yourself?) A very nice question! Who
asked it? Nobody is here! :):):)

Yes, you are right. Thank you for understanding. Remember, if you see a human being
with so many holes, NEVER believe their words, because s/he is coming to eat
something! Yes, exactly, I do care about this thread, because of myself and my own need,
since I cannot live without this thread.:):):) Therefore, in the first place I am thinking of
myself, rather than anyone else! :):):) Shame on you Behnam.:):):)

All life is a sort of dealing. We give something, then we receive something. Otherwise the
world doesn't work. Human beings are needful with many needs. They can't be like God,
although it is difficult to understand why even God has wanted us to worship him! Oh
Behnam a new story again, come on man! Tomorrow, you aren't here to read public
criticism!

Joking aside, I will miss you, and I want nothing from you in return. I will miss you,
because I enjoy missing you. Whenever I miss you, I feel life, as if I am alive and
breathing. Thank you for giving me this feeling.

Stay happy and healthy. PLEASE pray for me. Forgive me if I've made you sad, annoyed
or upset, it wasn't on purpose, I swear to God, who is fully aware of our hearts.

Hope to see you again.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 March 2010
helen.fan March 21st 2010
Dear Mohsen

I think I understand you now, you want to know about China's Shaolin Temple, is it?

I happen to have some information in this regard, the following I will give you to say
something about it.

Shaolin Temples of China

The Shaolin temple has many legends and mysteries surround it. The origin of martial
arts, the origin of kung fu surround the vague mysteries of the Shaolin Temple and the
shaolin monks.

Shaolin Temple is probably the most famous temple in China, not only because of its long
history and its role in Chinese Buddhism, but also because of its martial arts or Wushu
Chan. Shaolin Temple is situated in the beautiful Songshan Mountains, which is only
eight miles of Dengfeng and about 50 miles southwest of Zhengzhou, the capital of Henan
Province.
Shaolin Temple was established in 495 during the Northern Wei Dynasty (386-534).
Batuo, an Indian monk, came to Luoyang, the ancient capital, for spreading Buddhism at
that period. Emperor Xiaowen was a believer of Buddhism so he decided to build the
temple in the Songshan Mountains to house Batuo, who translated many Buddhist works
and had a few hundred followers there.

Shaolin Monks

Damo (Bodhidharma), the legendary Indian monk, came to Shaolin in 517, who was the
creator of Chinese Zen. There are many legendary stories about him. One of the well-
known stories says he was meditating in a cave for nine years. The cave is now called
Damo Cave. Many people believe he wrote the famous 'Yijinjing,' the base of Shaolin
martial arts or Gongfu. But there is no record about the book before and during the Tang
Dynasty (618-907) so experts think Damo has little to do with Shaolin Gongfu.
Zongheng, a Taoist priest of Tiantai Mountain, wrote 'Yijinjing' in 1624, but to add
mystery to it, he made up a story saying 'Yijinjing' was originally written by Damo.

Shaolin does have a long tradition of Chinese martial arts, as the saying goes 'All martial
arts (gongfu) are from Shaolin.' This is partly because Shaolin was located in a strategic
area so they had to protect the temple themselves from wars or any invading, and partly
because of the support of most emperors from different dynasties, which came after the
13 Shaolin monks once saved Li Shimin, the emperor of the Tang Dynasty (618-907).
Since then Shaolin was allowed to have solider-monks. During the Ming Dynasty (1368-
1644), Shaolin housed over 1,000 solder-monks at its peak and they were often used by
the government to combat rebellions and Japanese bandits. But martial arts were
forbidden during the Qing Dynasty (1644-1911). Even with the protection of solder-
monks, Shaolin was severely damaged by fire a few times. The largest fire set by the army
of Shi Yousan in 1928 destroyed most of the buildings of Shaolin Temple.

There are many noted relics at Shaolin. There are over 300 ancient stone inscriptions,
some of them by famous calligraphers. The large mural of 500 arhats in the Qianfo Hall
was from the Ming Dynasty. There are 232 pagodas from different dynasties, known as
the forest of pagodas. The oldest one was from the Tang Dynasty. The pagodas are the
tombs of the celebrated Shaolin monks. The Shaolin martial arts are an important part of
the relics.

Shaolin Temple, there are many legends, you can take the time to understand it. Jet Li,
you know? Now kung fu star, played a lot about the Shaolin Temple movies. If you know,
you can take a look at.

I hope I said that these give you some help, what questions we can continue the
discussion.

Finally, once again wish you a happy New Year.

B.Wishes
Helen 21 March 2010

Ali_khan March 21st 2010


Hi friends I am new over here.let me first see the basic aim of this panal..by the way i'd
like to be ur panal friend..
Regards
Ali

Marina1 March 21st 2010


Dear Kami,

How are you my kind friend??? How is it going??? I hope you are enjoying your time
with your family. I know it's the first day in the new Iranian year, so tell me what is the
difference between yesterday and today ;) ;)

I'm sure that you are very busy these days, as all Iranian friends. But on the contrary, I'm
not busy at all :), in fact I've got nothing to do.
Today is the mother's day in Syria as I mentioned before. The first day in spring is the
mother's day! The weather is so lovely, the sun is shining and the air fresh make us feel
calm and comfortable. I hope Behnam will not wash his car these days again
(LOOOOOOOOOOOOL).

Dear Kami, Happy mother's day for your mother, God keep her for you and your family.

These days, I'll give Iranian friends some time without giving hard topics, but after few
days, Super Marina will return back with her difficult topics, so prepare yourself. :)

I hope to read from you very soon.

Marina.

Marina1 March 21st 2010


Dear Mohsen,

So many thanks for your gift. Of course I accept it with open arms :). But please change
the color, I prefer it white , blue or red. :)
By the way, Marina doesn't accept any gift if she will not gift the same person. So please
accept the Villa which is located on the Adriatic sea, with personal plane beside it. I hope
you'll accept my gift, it's simple just as yours ;)

Happy new year, thank you for sharing us some especial things about the new Iranian
year.

Hope to see you soon.

Marina.
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Marina1 March 21st 2010


Hi Behnam,

So you are going to be absent for some days???!!! Emmmmmm, Be sure that we will miss
you so much.
In one hand we need you here, but on the other hand, I really feel happy when I see
Behnam among his family , especially with your sister. So please enjoy your time, but
don't forget us!

So, Behnam saw the TV yesterday! Come on! have mercy on them, don't judge soon
(LOOOOL), you don't know what was happeneing before on the same TV channel . :) :)
Dear Behnam there is a poem in Arabic cutlure which is really meaningful! it says " the
person who has a good brain is tired in this life because of it, and the mad person in
happy in his life because of his madness". So I wish I was mad too, and without heart at
the same time!
Girls are so strange, but men more stranger than them. But men say the contrary! All in
All, I wish I don't have both, my brain and heart.

Dear I'll write about jealously very soon, I just wanted to say " Happy new year" for you
and your family, I wish you all happiness, peace in mind and prosperity,

I hope to see you soon between us. We will miss you!

Marina.

Clare March 21st 2010


Have a good trip Behnam, and I look forward to hearing from you again when you
return!
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

giaminhh74 March 21st 2010


dear behnam,
I visited Rice-cooking.And i introduce it for you.
The festival was held in the communal house yard about one kilometer away from a
river.There were three competitions: water-fetching,fire-making and rice cooking.The
festival took one day.
One person from each team has to run to river.There four bottles of water on the river
bank and each runner must take a bottle and return to the starting position.
In the fire-making,the fire is made in the traditional way.Two team members try to make
a fire by rubbing pieces of bamboo together.The winners are the frist ones to make fire.
Six people from each team took part in the rice-cooking contest.They had to separate the
rice from the husk and then cook the rice
After three contest,the judges try the finished products and the most delicious rice is the
winner .Then all the points are added and the grand prize is awarded.
I want you will tell your festival for me
Minh
sami March 21st 2010
Hi Behnam!

Happy New Year!! What has happened to you? What a strange post you have written!!!!
:))))))) I guess it is the result of being forced to watch TV!!!!

I am happy to see you are going to spend your holidays with your family, happy to know
your sister is with you now. I hope you enjoy your time with her.

We will be waiting for you, but you should know that we will miss you a lot, so please,
whenever you can, post a message here for your friends...will you???? ;)))

Well, my friend, enjoy as much as you can, and take careof yourself, we want you back
soon and safe!!!

Best wishes,
Rosa, 21 March, 2010.

sami March 21st 2010


Hello Mohsen

Thank you very much for your beatiful present to me! I am so happy to drive a new
car!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :))))))))

Thank you for writing about special preparations for welcoming the new year, it was
interesting to read about it. I wish I could have seen you all through a little hole while
you were celebrating with your family!!!

Are you travelling any place during this holiday? If not, can you tell us about your plans
(of course, if you have time of telling)??

Anyway, I hope you enjoy anything you do, have a nice time,

Rosa, 21 March, 2010.

sami March 21st 2010


Hi Marina

How are you my friend?? It seems you are going to rest for a while until our friends come
back to normality after these important days for them.

I'm sure it will give you more energies to go on thinking about difficult topics for us to
write. :)))) You are a great topic giver!

How will you spend your free time these days? I wish you could give me a topic (an easy
one, please!!!! :)))) to write about. As you know, our lovely friend Behnam is very
worried about this thread, he wants us to write, so please... ;))))

Well, have a nice time my friend,


Hope to read from you soon,
Rosa, 21March, 2010.

kamrul March 21st 2010


Hello Dear all lovely friends,
how are you all. I wish everything is going well with you. my name is KAMRUL ISLAM.
I'm from Bangladesh. I'm a new member of this wide site. I want to write with you in this
site. I'm not good in English like you. I want to increase my English skill with your help.I
believe English is very essential to everybody for prosper their life. My educated guess is
that you will help me for rising my English proficiency.I love you too much. all of you
please help me to be skilled in English and be connected with you.
all the best
Kamrul

helen.fan March 22nd 2010


Hi, fong
I am also from China, very glad to met you.
Friends here are very friendly, we can jointly improve our English, listen to you say you
are a very humorous guy, hope we can become good friends.
I would like to learn more about you, please reply as soon as possible.
Your new friend
Helen

goodman March 22nd 2010


Dear elham
This month i am very busy. you canot beleive in this time i very miss you and other
friends though must doing many things. how are you ? my dear friend .now my mater and
i work in the goverment . many people come here to complaint many tings. somebody is
very angry and excited. everyday i must get up at 6 am . And when i come home is half
past seven. i feel tired. i face to these persons.i have mixed feeling.
sadness, angry,~~
my dear friend .what about you ? how are you? do you have some problems?if you feel
tired you can tell me. maybe i can do nothing about you. but you can relax your heart.
yours wangxin
i hope your everything is well
except your reply
miss you .
wangxin

Bluegreen March 22nd 2010


Dear Ali,

Hi dear friend.How are you?Welcome to this humble thread.

As a little member of here I shall say that I'm so honored to see new members here
everyday,that is really fun to check out various topics and posts here.

Dear Ali,please do not hesitate to write in here,and comment on everybody's posts,that


would be really wonderful to have your ideas here.

Hope to read from you so soon,

SIncerely,

Kamelia
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Bluegreen March 22nd 2010


Dear Kamrul,

Hi there. How is it going? Welcome to this humble thread.


Oh you're from Bangladesh,it's so nice to have you here.

Dear,none us are born with this innate ability of knowing English, we all are trying to
make it better and better, so please, do not hesitate to write in here, all your posts and
comments on other friend's posts are very welcomed here.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,
Kamelia

elham_z March 22nd 2010


Hiiiiii Wangxin,

How are you my dear Chinese friend? You don't know how much I am happy to see your
post to me. Thank god that you are healthy and having taken time to write to me.

Dear Wangxin we Iranian are in our New Year holidays. It is second day of New Year
and we are all happy and hopeful in having started a successful year. You know, spring is
a truly proper time for new beginnings, when everything and above all nature is
celebrating its new birth.
As a matter of fact today Im a little upset since this morning I have had a minor conflict
with my mom over whether or not turning on the heater. I think Iv had annoyed her. Well
this tongue is a strange organ. It has the power to heal or destroy and course or bless
someone. I think I have used it in a bad way in relationship with my mom. I feel sad that
she might think I have been disrespectful through her. She is my everything. This was not
a right manner with my everything. I am extremely ashamed of myself !!!

Congratulation on your new workplace. So you are not forced to spend time in streets
anymore. Although I can completely feel the tiredness and such letting you down fillings
caused by people's complaints, but on the other hand Im happy knowing my friend is
doing something really worthwhile.

*Be happy and satisfied since you are spending your life on lending a helping hand to
other humans. The value of our job is more important than how much we earn through it
or it brings us happiness. I wish you good luck my successful policeman.)))))

Dear Wangxin , for me there is no better thing to feel, than I know I am helpful and my
presence is productive. I never feel complete peace unless I get involved in doing
something useful for my society or other people, when I make sure I benefit. So you are
one step further than me. Be proud of it. ))))

Pleas take more time to make me happy by writing to me.

All the best,


Elham

ghazal March 22nd 2010


Dear behnam
Hi .are you ok?

Oh please forgive me I said I will write for you regularly but I go back on !!!!!
You know after long time I come to my house and now I have many work ,I must help my
mother (khonetekoni va az injor karha dige)

I hope you and yourfamily have good time in tihs new year(1389)

Yours Sincerely
GHAZAL

ghazal March 22nd 2010


Dear kamelia
Hi my freind ,are you ok?
Do you know how many days I can't see you?
I miss you my freind.

I hope you have very good time in this new year.


I think last year was hard year for us because we have konkor and we must study
hard.OH that was so bad and I can't have nice time last year in Noroz.

Don't forget that we have 4quize afterthis holiday.

Yours Sincerely
GHAZAL

kamrul March 22nd 2010


Dear Kamelia,
at first I want to give you million thanks from the core of my heart. believe you are the
first reader of my post for this reason I won't forget you in my entire life. I want to write
more and more in this site if you reply to me. though at first I got your reply. truly
speaking I became very much have to see your reply. I wish I'll get more response from
you in this site. I'm graduate in Philosophy from Chittagong University, Bangladesh. I
wanna go abroad for my higher study. for this reason I have need English skill with four
section such as reading, writing and listening as well as speaking. within very short time
I wanna sit to IELTS (International English testing system). IELTS is very essential to
going abroad. I want to be a great educated person in my entire life and want to be a
honest guy. my confident is that very soon I will increase my English proficiency if you
help me. So I have need your help. Please help me with your cordial mind.
be happy and keep well.

Kamrul
Yahoo ID: kamucu@yahoo.com
skype : kamrul.jalahar

Ruqayeh March 22nd 2010


Dear All,
I am new comer here , hope to write usfull and new things for you. I need to learn more
so I am jointing you. by the way I am learing Business in English in a good institute, It
makes me glad to share the whole things that I learn.

Have a wonderfull times,


Ruqayeh

helen.fan March 23rd 2010


Hi Kamrul

I'm glad you come here, and also very happy to know you.
I am a girl from China hope that we can become good friends

I wish you all the best


Helen

helen.fan March 23rd 2010


Dear Ruqayeh

Very glad to see you here, we can learn together, share everything here, and get to know
more friends, understand each other.

I wish you all the best


Helen

metzean March 23rd 2010


My Dear teacher Rosa,

I hope everything is going fine with you, I am sure you are very comfortable these days as
you got ride of the inspector .
Regarding my schedule during holiday ,I should say that my time was totally booked ,
One of my plan is having some exercise everyday. So for last three days ,every morning I
have gone to the park at mornings ( at mornings there is lest traffic in the streets) First
day I was busy exercising with some fitness equipment with installed in the park and a
light running . Second day playing volleyball with my wife and some relatives , and
yesterday I play football for two hours ( We had some guests from Tehran and we were
together-20 people -in the country ) a little climbing and for the whole day we enjoyed
our time . we made a brazier beside the river and prepared a big barbecued chicken for
the lunch.
Today morning I waked up before sun rising ,I did my prayer and decided to go out for
running. But I couldn't move a muscle ,even walk, because all my muscles dried and
desiccated ,I am now like a dried stick , busy with showering hot water and massage , I
called swimming pool ,but it is off for the week.

Another plan for me was watching a movie in English during holiday , I saw Patch
Adams , but my listening is not good ,so I had to download the subtitle of the movie via
internet and watch it again.
Have you watched this movie?

The main part of our new year holiday , is visiting relatives , and this visits are bilateral
,it means that each family we go to visit ,another day they come to visit us ,so everyday
we have party. I like this program ,because I have a humorous taste ,teasing each other
in parties and hold my sides with laughter. But my wife is not an easy going person and
always she is bothered in parties. I don't know,maybe female are different , what is your
idea?

B.Wishes ,
Mohsen

metzean March 23rd 2010


Dear helen,

I hope you enjoy every minute of your life , As I know about you are a girl ,living with
your parents, What is your job?
Thanks a lot for telling the story of Shaolin. I enjoyed reading it , I wish I were in Shaolin
temple for one year and had a strong body. Have you ever visited the temple ? Why do
you play tecwondo? Itn't it a Korean style?
Would you please tell me how many provinces China has ? which province is more
important and which one is less important , ranking all of them.

B.wishes,
Mohsen
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kamrul March 23rd 2010


Dear Helen,

How are you? hope every thing is going well with you. I want to give you million thanks
for your post. I have also become happy to see you in the great site. I'm agree with you
for being GOOD friend. of course all the member of this site are good friend. please
accept me with cordially.
be happy and know to live with your own mind

KAMRUL

Ruqayeh March 23rd 2010


Dear Helen,
Thank you for saying welcome to me, hope we will be good freinds. I am an Iranian girl,
my mother tongue is Turkish, I know Persian as well, would you please tell me what is
your mother tongue? and which country are you from?

Enjoy your life and have a good time!!


Ruqayeh

setayesh March 23rd 2010


Dear Kamelia,

How are you my dear friend? I hope all is well with you and you enjoy your holidays.

Dear Komelia, I'm so glad that you like my name. What a great thing my name reminds
you of, Vastness of Sky! So I am a very lucky person:) of course not because of having
this name. I'm so lucky that my name reminds you of sky, so the sky can also recall you of
me. As the sky is so broad there is a high probability of catching glimpse of it , therefore I
have the chance of being in your mind whenever you look at the sky.

Dear Kamelia, these days I'm busy with visiting my relativies so I'm so sorry for being
late in replying.

hope to hear from you again.


All the best,

Setayesh

setayesh March 23rd 2010


Hi Kamrul, Ruqayeh, Helen and other new friends,

I'm writing to welcome you all to this friendly thread. Have a good time here.

All the best,


Setayesh

setayesh March 23rd 2010


Hi Behnam,

Dear brother, It's just to wish you a good, safe and enjoyable trip. We miss you a lot.
Have a nice time!

Take care,
Setayesh

setayesh March 23rd 2010


Dear Marina,

How's it keeping? I hope you are fine.

You asked me about shopping at New year time. In Iran, shopping for new year starts
from one month before Norooz and end exactly a day before new year. Nowrooz
shopping is like a festival in Tehran. During those days Tehran becomes a city that never
sleeps. I have done all my shopping. and now it's time of useing whatever I've bought.

Dear Marina, please be active and write regularly for us.

I'm looking forward to hearing from you.

Best Wishes,
Setayesh
Bluegreen March 23rd 2010
Dear Helen,

Hello there again. How are you? How's everything in China? I hope everything's fine
with you.

Dear Friend, I read your article to Dear Mohsen about Shaolin Temple, believe me, that
was such a nice article, I really liked it but as always I've got lots of questions about it. I
hope that you be patient enough and bear my sweet little questions LOOL
Now, here they are, first one's about the Damo, you wrote Damo means Bodhidharma,
right? Is this Bodhidhram the same as Buddhidharma?
And what does Dharma mean? I wonder if you've heard about the word Dharma, it was a
lot mentiones in one the amercian soup operas called Lost! So if you please, just tell me
what is Dharma? I'm really curious about it.

Now another questions, dear you wrote that Damo was the first creator of Chinese Zen,
what is Zen? I think it is related to Buddhism, Is it true? So please if it is not a problem
for you explain about Buddhism too.

Oh dear Helen, I think I made you tired by these questions, I hope that you be patient and
write to me about them.

Waiting imaptiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 23rd 2010


Dear Marina,

Hiii.How are Sweet friend? How's life going on with you? I really wish loads of
happiness and health for you and your lovely family.

Dear Marina,thank you so much for giving us a little bit rest and not coming up with
those super marinian questions LOOOOOL
You know honey, these days I'm a little bit busy helping mom out for serving the new
year's guests and especially packing up for going to a trip(God willing).

Sweet Marina, as you see, Dear Behnam's on his holidays with his family after a year of
working and studying and I think that he deserved it, so please help keeping this thread
alive with the help of yours and our other dear friends.
Please write more and motivate us all to write.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 23rd 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Hiiiiii. How are you sweetie? How's life in Ghaenat? How's that blond classmate of
us?LOOOL I was kidding, sorry, I wish you happiness and health dear auntie LOOL .

By the way how's that sweet little kid of your brother which you showd me the pictures
of?Oh honey please kiss that little thing for me.

Honey, I got really happy seeing your post here, because I think this is the first time that
you are writing a post from your own home.( so glad that you're starting to use that old
pc ey! LOOL)

Dear Ghazal, please do not make me recall all those quizzes, oh for God's sake girl, I
was just forgetting theM :)):)):))
But hey,to bed honest with you I cracked that nasty book of 1100 WORDS a little bit to be
prepared! Hope that's enough :)):)):))

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 23rd 2010


Dear Roqayeh,

Hi.How are you? I wanted to welcome you to this humble thread as kind and warmly as I
can but I don't know how. So just please accept my kind regards toward you.

Dear Roqayeh,would you please interduce yourself a little bit? So in this way we can get
to know you better. And maybe I had the honor of becoming friends with you :)
Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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helen.fan March 23rd 2010


Dear Mohsen
I'm fine, thank you. I hope you have all the best.
I work for a year now, and I live in a hostel in the company now, with our company
partners.
My job is to garment trade, but also for export trade, do you understand?

Yes, taekwondo from Korea, but I think it is relatively simple, Shaolin martial arts is very
broad, need a lot of time to learn, but you're right, the temple where the body can indeed
strong. If there is a chance I can give you some pictures about it.

China is a big country,


China has 23 provinces: namely Heilongjiang, Jilin, Liaoning, Hebei, Henan, Shandong,
Jiangsu, Shanxi, Shaanxi, Gansu, Sichuan, Qinghai, Hunan, Hubei, Jiangxi, Anhui,
Zhejiang, Fujian, Guangdong, Guangxi, Guizhou, Yunnan, Hainan.
Five autonomous regions: Inner Mongolia, Xinjiang Uygur Autonomous Region, Ningxia
Hui Autonomous Region, Tibet, Ningxia Hui Autonomous Region.
Four municipalities: Beijing, Tianjin, Shanghai, Chongqing
Two Special Administrative Regions: Hong Kong, Macau

In fact, all the provinces and municipalities are very important, and we are all one and
indivisible.
However, there is time to introduce you to what I can give well-developed provinces and
cities, which is relatively backward provinces.

helen.fan March 23rd 2010


Dear Mohsen

Taiwan is also an indispensable part of our China

Helen
helen.fan March 23rd 2010
Dear Mohsen

Taiwan is also an indispensable part of our China

Helen

Ruqayeh March 23rd 2010


My dear Friends; Setayesh and Kamelia ,
Thank you so much by welcoming me, I?m positively sure we will become good friends!!!
As I wrote I am an Iranian girl and 28 years old. My mother tongue is Turkish and I
know Persian as well . I am learning English in business and it?s so interesting for me to
have many friends all over the world . I respect all ideas and cultures, I would be happy
if you write me about your local cultures ,your daily activities and your experience in the
life. I will be in your disposal, any question that can be answered by me please let me
know. Also I would like to know more about you. Please write for me.
Thank you again for your kind concern , and your hospitality. hahahahahaha

Wish you the best


Ruqayeh

Bluegreen March 23rd 2010


Dear Kamrul,

Hi.How are you? How's everything with you? I really wish you a happy and healthy life.

Dear Friend,that is so nice of you to call me a friend of yours,I really wish that you write
to everyone and be more active here, even more than you are now!

By the way, I like Bangladesh, one of my professors had gone there and she explained to
us that Bangladesh is a very big and beautiful city and she said that in ancient years it
had lotf os huge tigers which were used to keep thieves and burglars from invading
people's territories.

So I really wonder if you would like to explain a little bit about your country and it's
people and natural places of there.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,
Kamelia

sami March 23rd 2010


Hi Kamelia!

Happy New Year to you!!! How are you ? How are you spending your holidays? Are you
doing anything special?

Now, I am at school, my older students are practicing with some jclic activities and I take
the opportunity of visiting the site and say a big HELLO to you, my friend.

Spring in in the south of Spain now, we are enjoying warm days which make me very
happyyyyy. How about the weather in your city???

I hope you are spending a good time,


Hope to read from you soon,
Rosa, 23 March, 2010.

Marina1 March 23rd 2010


Dear female friends Kamelia, Setayesh, Rosa, Veronica, Clare, Helen, Ruqayeh, Cathy,
Maryam, Nastaran, Elham, and all other female friends,

Thanks for all of you for your writings. I'd like to apologize for being late in answering,
Please forgive me.

As I see, there are lots of new friends, I'd like to welcome every new member, and to say
that all your writings are welcomed with open arms. :)

It's 23 March. Very soon, I've to go to Damascus for a training course, I'll be there on 28
March until 1 April. I'll try my best to be in contact with all of you, I promise.

As I see there is no current topic to write about. Ok! As my dear friend Kamelia said,
Marinian topics would be ready (LOOOOOOOOOL). In fact, I've got one of them. From
two days ago, I met a person who spoke about a book which is written by an Arab writer,
the writer is female. She spoke about some advices to forget guys who stuck in some girls'
minds. I mean , she gave some steps to forget men that we love.

I'd like to ask all of you to give me some steps about this topic. How do you think of
it???? as you know, girls have memories more than men, so when they love from the
bottom of their hearts, it's very hard to forget. But this situation is very dangerous for
some girls who refuse any kind of relationship with others because of being stuck in mind
and heart with somebody else.

All in all, how can we forget someone??? What about our souls, if our minds forgot, how
could we make our hearts forget too???
Please think of this topic, it's very interesting. Please feel free in writing about it. I'm
impatiently waiting for your replies.

Marina.

Bluegreen March 23rd 2010


Dear Rosa,

Hiiii. How's everything with you dear teacher? How are your young smart students?
LOOL I hope you're keeping up fresh and alive !!

Honey,the weather here is terribly unpredictable,one day it is sunny and the other day
exactly the other way around I don't know what's gonna happen to this world?

Anyway,about the congratulations I should accept it with a warm hug dear Rosa, thank
you so much for this kindness and consideration:)

Honey, you remeber I had some questions about spanish food? Well I have them right
here, Like first I don't know which city of spain you live in? And second if it is Madrid, do
you know anything about Madrid's Tele Pizza? That has been based by Leopoldo
Fernandez?

Now about my next question, I don't know what are Tortillas? And Paellas? How are they
made?

I'd be really thankful honey, I know they maybe hard for you to find time and asnwer
them.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 23rd 2010


Dear Roqayeh,
Hii.How are you doing? That is so nice of you to read my post and reply to it this fast. I
really wish that you stay this way always :)

Honey, I do not speak Turkish and my mother tongue's Persian but we have a wonderful
friend here called dear Behnam who speaks Turkish more fluent than everybody I know
because it is his mother tongue but he is on his holidays right now I think after No-Rouz
you'll get the chance to write to him.

But about me, well I am Kamelia, 19 years old and probably the youngest member of
here LOOOL(mind you girls) LOOOL

I study English Literture in Mashad but I live in northern part of Iran. I'd be really glad
to read from you, if there are any further explanations needed or any extra questions
remained unanswered.

Dear, Please write as soon as possible because now we all know that this way for
learning english is so useful and will shed some lights through improvement for us.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

kamelia

helen.fan March 24th 2010


Dear Kamelia

I'm fine, and you?

First of all, thank you for like China's Shaolin Temple.

Secondly, Bodhidhram and Buddhidharma is the same as the meaning is there for
Bodhidharma, that is, Damo.

Buddhism is also very far away for me, because it is very wide and very profound, but I
can learn more about it to give you FAQ.

Here is a Buddhist site online, http://www.fjnet.com/english/, you can take a look, we can
continue the exchange.

Also, Have you heard of China's Four Masterpiece? There is a myth of the novel
"Journey to the West" is speaking in this respect. Oh, if you know you can look.

"Zen" and "Buddha" in Buddhism is two totally different concepts. "Buddha" is the
highest goal of Buddhist self-cultivation, and "Zen" is the Buddhist self-cultivation as a
method or means.

In short, the Shaolin culture and Buddhist culture is very deep very broad, and I only
know a little bit, but we can learn gradually in subsequent chats.

I hope you can understand what I write.

Best wishes
Helen
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helen.fan March 24th 2010


Dear Ruqayeh

How are you?

I am from China, my mother tongue is Chinese, I would have been 24 this year. You will
say that your mother tongue, as well as Farsi, as well as English, you are very powerful.
Hehe

What is your job? What is your interest? We can share and look forward to your reply.

Lucky
Helen

helen.fan March 24th 2010


Dear Kamrul

I am fine, thank you


You say right, we will become good friends here. I am from China, my job is to export
trade, the recent period is not busy,I can always communicate with everyone.

My home in China's north, but I now work in southern China.


Know a lot of new friends in the company, everyone is very friendly, we work and live
together.

Want to learn more about you, thank you


Lucky
Helen

Bluegreen March 24th 2010


Dear Friends,

Hi there.How are you all doing? I hope ythat everything's alright with you.

I don't know whether to say fortunatly or unfortunatly but I think I'm going to go on a trip
for about 5 days, so I may not be abe to write in here but I am able to read all your posts
please keep in touch and try to write to each other and keep this thread alive as it was
before.

LOOOL I am talking sooo proudly like I have created the website myslef :)):)) shame on
you Kamelia but as a little member of here I really don't want it to be dumped in the
shelves.

I wish you all great times,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

araghii March 24th 2010


Hi daer Behnam,
and salam my Iranian friends, happy new year to you and to your lovely family.
beast regards,
Araghi,

araghii March 24th 2010


Hi our sweet friend Rosa,
How are you my friendly and fragrant garden flower? Thank you writing to me( in March
15th 2010) as you know gardening means passion for somebody , it means love for your
plants and the beautiful world of greenery. Being a gardener can be lifetime hobby for
many people but it is a lovely job for me indeed , I spend my main time with trees and
flowers in my office, I walk in the garden everyday and manage work flow and believe or
not remember all of my friends and sometimes I feel there are many couple of eyes are
looking to beautiful landscapes of our garden and those are my friends eyes indeed. I
always appreciate and enjoy from watching a rainbow that made of from colorful flowers
and watching a bumblebee go from flower to flower or a bird makes a nest in tree. In this
garden the roses are fragrant and trees look so grand and life began with deep breath
and with smile. When you look at some bird behavior in garden you see they are not
eating and drinking anything , just singing and singing ,especially these days in the
beginning of spring season .
I have so many beautiful picture form this garden but unfortunately I don?t have your e-
mail for sending them for you.
Dear Rosa how is your Father?s flower in patio ? do you spend time with them? I hope
they are in good succulence and elegance .
Best wishes,
Araghi,
March,24,2010

setayesh March 24th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Have a nice and safe trip. Enjoy your time and don't worry about anything. Surly, We
miss you a lot during these days.

All the Best


Setayesh

Ruqayeh March 24th 2010


Dear Kamelia,
How are you doing? Hope everything goes well with you. I am fine, better than any time!!
As you know we are in the Norooze Holiday so I have much time to check the comments
and reply them. I should go back work on March 27, and the relaxing days are finishing!!
So may me won?t be able to reply as soon as these days But I promise to check the site in
the busiest days once a day.

I my humble opinion training is one of the most important parts of everyone?s life,
doesn?t matter how old are you!!! Me myself enjoy studying, reading, asking something
new, to have new experience and etc. that?s why I jointed this thread.

Sweetie, please let me know what motivates you. What do you do to have a special life
and to enjoy it?? By the way enjoy your trip , doesn?t matter you arrange it or not.
Looking forward to hear from you sooooooooooooooooooooon.
Take care,
Ruqayeh

Ruqayeh March 24th 2010


Dear Marina,
This is Ruqayeh one of the new members of this thread. Happy to read your comment and
thank you for welcoming.

Sweetie, when people fall in love with someone and after some time they realize it is
better for both to get divorce( for some reason) in this situations mostly girls are more
vulnerable. They don?t know how release the memories and start new life. They want to
stop everything and start new life , maybe alone , maybe with someone else but something
annoy them . the first step to forget someone is to forgive him.

- The only thing we should do is change our view and look at this as a regular event. I
know it is difficult but practice make perfect.

- Instead of thinking why this happened, why someone did this, why??.. it is better to ask
ourselves? what did I do to lead this?? Then change your react.

- Don?t blame anyone for loosing anything. We ourselves are responsible our life.

- Don?t want to stop life, make everything OK then start again, never do that. if you want
to stop the life it is better to dead!!! Keep it alive, we are human being and mistakes are a
part of our life so just try not to repeat a mistake!!

Dear, anytime something bad happens in your life try to look at this blessing in disguise!

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments.


Ruqayeh

Ruqayeh March 24th 2010


Dear Helen,
Nihao
Nice to hear you are from china, I have some chinese freind too!! (they are living in
shanghai) . I've studied Business Mangment in university , and I'm learning business in
english language now. I am working in a comercial department in an equiped labratory.
that is nice.

My motivation are mountain climbing , swimming , and studing . I really enjoy learning.

write for me about yourself , which province are you living? what is your ambitions?
what motivates you?

can I ask you to learn numbers me in chinese language , if yes, start from one (1) please!

Looking forward to hearing form you soooooooooooooooon.

Take care,
Ruqayeh

elham_z March 24th 2010


Hiiii friends,

How are you doing all? I hope you are enjoying yourselves as much as you can.
* I see a lot of new friends here. Dear ( Rughayeh, Helen , Kamrul) accept my sincere
welcome .you have chosen the best place you could ever find. So enjoy as much as you
can.

I have just arrived at home from garden. Today we had a lot of fun, my uncle and his
daughters who live in Tehran had come here and we all gathered together and just talked
and laughed and took pictures. The more I spend time among people, the more I see
myself dependant on them. It really gives me the opportunity to know myself, to feel
myself and motivates me to try for a better positive personality.

The best thing that could ever happen, occurred to me. A really nice rain made the nature
such a wonderful bride and I had chance to bike as much as I want along those awesome
green grasses which were covered beautifully with water drops. My paradise on earth *
Yes, that's it, my paradise. I was on top of the world. The happiest Elham that could ever
exist. Of course!!! As my cousin said, this Elham lacked something??? Yes, you are right.
A mate like herself so they could enjoy themselves in tow. ( Loooooooooooooooo):):):)

I think with myself that nature is the best and the most precious gift God could present to
us. Have you ever had such feeling I experience: sometimes I really don't know how to
react to these beauties, I find myself given up to them. I wish I could eat them or either I
could be immersed in them (they could eat me) :):):):)

*** Sooooooooo , my father PLANS for a trip , but Behnam and Kamelia TAKE the trip.
Oooooooook. I am not jealous. If they are happy, I feel happy too. I wish them great
times among their families. But they shouldn't forget about our souvenir ***

These days im involved in thinking about the idea of a persons value. Actually I am
thinking about the factors that make a person deserving respect. Does education bring
respect ??? I would be happy to know of your ideas. Help me with this question whenever
you can.

All the best,


Elham

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Ruqayeh March 24th 2010
Dear Elham,

Thanks my freind to welcoming me.

what a nice explanation of your garden , I wish i could be there!!! as I guess you are
Iranian, am I right? if yes which city are you from? I'm positively sure it should be one of
the most beautiful one, but tell me the name please.

about the valuable things in the life I should say something about my self: 1- not to annoy
nobody 2- helping people as much as I can 3- being happy and showing I am happy all
the time, try to smile everytime 4- try to see the positive side of everything

and about the deserving respect , I think knowledge can help people to get this not
education!! I mean to know how you behave people. How you react in a best way, how
you reply them,...

enjoy your life and be happy all the time. your comment mad me happy and glad. thanks
again for the explanation about your garden.

have a wonder moments


Ruqayeh

helen.fan March 25th 2010


Hi Ruqayeh

Nihao

Heard you have a lot of Chinese friends I am very happy, they live in Shanghai?
Shanghai is a bustling city. But I live in Shenzhen. I was strengthening my knowledge of
English.

My interest is in sports, for example, taekwondo, badminton, mountain climbing, etc. I


liked.

My home in Shanxi province, China. But I work in Shenzhen, our company made clothing
trade, and export trade.

I'm glad you like the Chinese, I will do my best to teach you, now, "1" and read in
Chinese "Yi", "2" read "er", "3" read "san", "4" read "si", "5," Reading "wu". Oh, you
understand?
If I can, I can teach you more next time.

Best Wishes
Helen

Ruby_liu March 25th 2010


Hi everyone,
I am Ruby,i am from China.I am work in Shanghai now.My English is not good,but i love
English.i just think the reason why my English is not good is i cannot find a way to
remember more words.i just want to make more friends to talk in English.And you all r so
welcome to point my mistakes.
MSN:Rubyliu86@hotmail.com

sami March 25th 2010


Hello busy Mohsen!

How are you? I hope everything is well with you in the first days of this new year. For
sure, you must feel very well and healthy, because you are practising sports a lot!!
Exercising everyday is a way of keeping health problems away. :))) Although you must be
careful with getting cold after some exercise... This is what is happening to me now and I
feel as starting to get a cold...I am having some pills to stop it, I hope they work!!! (We
start tomorrow a week holiday "holy week" and I want to enjoy it!!).

I understand you very well, Mohsen, when you say your muscles are dried and
desiccated...It usually happens when you dont practise for a long time,,, as if muscles
werent trained. Do you know why it happens?? My father says that it happens because
when we are doing some exercise, our muscles need sugar and if they dont find sugar in
our organism, they ache. A remedy for this is drinking a glass of water and some sugar in
it just before going to exercise. I have proved it, and it works! ;)))

About watching films...it is a great way to learn English, although sometimes we feel
frustrated because we cannot get all the conversation...it is normal, but we should keep
on, most times meaning is got from the context. I havent watched Patch Adams, I love
watching films, however, now it is impossible for me to find time for it. I will try to watch
at least one during this holy week.

I have to finish this writing now, my mum is here, wanting me to go with her to buy a new
sofa for our house in the beach...I must go with her, moreover... I will pay the sofa!

I hope to hear from you soon, have a nice time and enjoy,
Rosa, 25 March, 2010.

Ruqayeh March 25th 2010


Dear Helen,

Nihao,
first of all I should appreciate you for teaching me Chinese language.
Thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaanks!!! (shie shie , right?)

Are Shanxi and Shenzhen close each other? you commute every day from work to home ?
(Sorry my geographic science is not so good).

I love people who like sport and are using to exercise, so I LOVE YOU.

I am living in Tehran, the bustling city in Iran. I work in Tehran too. as you see, many
Iranian people travel to china and some of them are doing business or even living there
for education. I think to have a good relation with people from other countries or cultures
it is good to know some key words in their language so I can help you to understand
Iranian people by knowing some special words in Farsi, if you agree ask anything you
want to know.

Sweetie in our language (farsi) Nihao , Hi, Hello is Salam .

Thank you again for teaching me Chinese language it can help me to understand Chinese
more.

I wish I could help you too. If there is any question feel free to ask.

Enjoy your time and have wonderful moments.


Ruqayeh

Ruqayeh March 25th 2010


Dear Ruby,
Hi,
Welcome to this thread, congratulation my friend you chose the best way to improve your
English , the only thing that everyone need to learn something new (language or other
things) is having motivation that you have too , so I'm positively sure you will learn it
soon.

Waiting for your new comments here.

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments.


Ruqayeh

Ruby_liu March 26th 2010


Dear Ruqayeh,

You r so nice to call me your friend.I am so happy to be here and to communicate with
you all.cause of my last job,i met many foreign friends,but i left that city and also left
those friends.we seldom contract each other again.i am so disappointed and i want to
make some penpals,it wont be no contract just because of distance.

i like to make foreign friends dont just want to improve my English,in this way , i will
know more countries' cultures .i think it is a nice way to help us to know other coutries
well.

Do you also think like this way ,my friend ?

i hope to hear from you soon.

Best regards,
Ruby

helen.fan March 26th 2010


Dear Ruqayeh

I am grateful you can teach me Farsi, I am very very happy.

Shanxi and Shenzhen are that far apart, but I work in Shenzhen, but also live in
Shenzhen, a year when the New Year will come back to Shanxi, and family to celebrate
the New Year.

Thank you liked me, thank you.


Tehran must be a very beautiful city, I believe. Yes, no matter which country, to
understand some of their basic language and culture are very helpful, and I hope you can
teach me some basic Persian, thank you very much dear friend.

"Thank you" how should I say in Persian? In Chinese reading"xie xie", writing writing
"??", and "sorry" in Chinese read "Dui bu qi", writing "???", there are some basic you
can tell me, oh, I am very happy to learn some Farsi.

Best Wishes
Helen

ghazal March 26th 2010


Hi Roqayeh
welcome to this theard.
I'm so happy because add one friend to my friends here

please say somethings about yourself

I do first.
I'm18 and I study english literature in ferdowsi university in Mashhad.

I hope see your post soon

have good time

ghazal March 26th 2010


Dear helen
Hi,I hope all things around you was good

I think we can be good friend for eachother.


Oh you say that you are from china.very good I want to know your custom and want to
learn your language.
can you help me?

Now I write for you great sentence:


(love life and life will love you back.
love people and they will love you back)

best whishes for my new friend


615
ghazal March 26th 2010
Dear kamelia
hi.I hope you have nice days in your trip(chashm khanom moalem yademon nemire
mashghhamon ro benevisim!!!!!)

you ask about baby that she is my brother'sdaughter,oh she is very lovely and I really
love her but now she come back to tehran and I miss her.

this great sentence is for you:


(what is the difference between school and life?
in school you are taught a lesson an then given a test but in life you are given test that
teaches you a lesson)

sinecerly
GHAZAL

ghazal March 26th 2010


Hi Ruby
are you ok?
I hope you have good time in this thread

my friend I tender this for you:


Because existence can become severe
in one day,
just sense me and I'll be there.
In the minds eye,
I'm not so far away.
If you hold out your hand,
in the whispers,
I'll become the zephyr.
and besiege you.
If your eye's upon the stars,
in the crystalline darkness,
I'll become the moon.
And the light shall guide you.
If you rest upon the ground,
in the warmth,
I'll become the grass.
And embrace you.
If you turn outside,
in the wetness,
I'll become the rain.
An upon your forehead, kiss you.
If you free the air,
in the light of day,
I'll become the sun.
And smile for you.

Between the miles-


if you need me.
If you need a friend.
Let me be the friend, I want to be

have good time


ghazal

sami March 26th 2010


Hello Araghi

How are you????? I has been a long time since I saw you for the last time...so I am
happy to see you here. :))

Dear Araghi...I will be very happy to see your garden, could you send me some pictures?
my email is rosammd@hotmail.es I hope you can send them, so I could see your beautiful
work.

My dad's patio is great, flowers are starting to bloom, we have had a lot of rain, so I
think these plants will grow beautifully.

Friend...do you have plants at home too? Do you think plants are good to create a nice
atmosphere at any place? As you may know, I am a teacher and I am working at this
school for the first year, for a few months I felt our teachers' room lacked something, it
was cold and I didn't feel comfortable then. I didnt know what...One day I thought that I
could buy some plants to decorate it and this is what I did, I bought some interior plants,
three, small ones, but they have made the room look nicely and I feel more comfortable
than before when I am there. Have you ever felt that???

I hope to read from you soon,


you write beautifully, your writing is poetry...please, give us a bit more of your poetry ;))

Rosa, 26 March, 2010.

helen.fan March 27th 2010


Dear Ghazal

I am very happy to receive your letter.

Are you 18 years? I'm 24 years old this year, I have been working. I'm glad you like the
friend of China, is also interested in Chinese language and culture, and I will try to teach
you, and we learn together, but also hope that we become good friends.

You can tell me what you want to know everything about China, I will answer for you.

Last teach you to meet the most basic words in Chinese, "Ni hao" means "Hello". "Xie
xie" means "thank you."

Tell me something you are interested in China, looking forward to your reply

Your new friend


Helen

ghazal March 27th 2010


Dear Behnam
Hi,where are you ?I didn't see yourpost!!!!!

you ask me about that poem ,you know I really love poem and search in books and in
enternet and when I see good poem save in my computer and now I don't know more
things about that poem that send for you soooooorry

have good time


GHAZAL

metzean March 27th 2010


Dear Helen ,

How are you my friend , I understand that your job is garment exporter ,I am very happy
to to find a friend as a business woman ,? if I have a lot of money , I will place an order
to your company for garments. What is your idea ,do you accept your friend's order ?
How about payment ,do you let me to buy the goods on credit ? I like business ,but for
embarking on business ,I need a lots of money . what is the minim order I can place to
you?

B.Wishes ,
Mohsen

metzean March 27th 2010


Dear Rosa,

I hope you and your family have spent the holy week as well as possible, why this week
called holy day ,what is the history of holy week .
Thanks for your diagnostic of my muscles , I try not to forget drinking a glass of water
suger ,although I eat a lot of sugar these days and I should have checked up my blood for
sugar and grease after holiday.

I went to visit one of my relatives, He is an old man of 85 ,he lives in his bed for 2 years ,
even he can't eat himself and his wife and daughters nursing him for years. In many
families in my city ,they never deliver their parent to the rest house ( Where old people
are kept by some nurses), because they believe ,it is a kind of disrespect ,they like their
parents very much and they like them to be beside them when they are old and die.
What do people treat with their old parents in your city?

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

Ruqayeh-m March 27th 2010


Dear Helen,
I have lost my password and site didn't gave me the new pass word , I registered again so
this is my new username.

Dui bu qi for the delay!! in our language


thank you is "Mamnoon"
and sorry is "bebakhshid"
how are you? "chetori?"

Enjoy your life and have wonderfull moments.


Ruqayeh
Ruqayeh-m March 27th 2010
My dear friends,

I have lost my password so I had to register again this is Ruqayeh with new username.

Regards,
Ruqayeh

sami March 27th 2010


Hello Kamelia

I think you must be enjoying now a nice trip...at least, this is what I hope. ;)))

Now, it is Holy Week in Spain, school are closed for a week so that means that I am on
holidays too!!! :))) During this week I am going to take some rest, I need to disconnect
my mind from school and students and I need to have some joy with my friends. We are
preparing a trip to Granada, another city of Andalusia. Maybe we will leave next
wednesday. Let's see what happens!

Now, answering to your questions I tell you that I am from (and I live) in Huelva. It is a
city in the west of Andalusia, which is at the south of Spain. So I live in the South West of
Spain. I love my city, it is not the most important one of Andalusia, not so big, but for me
it is the best one. I love it and I especially love its beaches. They are wonderful.

About Telepizza...it is a company that maybe started in Madrid (the capital city of Spain)
but it has spread to the rest of this country. I think each city (and even some towns) of
Spain has a telepizza. Do you what it is? well, it is a restaurant where you can eat pizza,
but not only that, you can buy the food and take it home, or what is better, you can phone
the restaurant, ask for the food you want and they take the food home. So imagine, you
don?t want to cook dinner and you call Telepizza and in half an hour you have got your
food at home.

You know what???? I worked in Telepizza for a few months!!! Yes, it was when I was at
University, I wanted to earn some money and I decided to take my Cv there and they
employed me. It was something temporal for me, the salary was not high due to the fact
that I worked there for 2-3 hours a day. My task there was to answer the phone when
people phoned to ask for a pizza, and then, to cook them. We were mainly young people,
girls answering the phone and cooking pizzas and boys taking pizzas home in a
motorbike. I spent a nice time there and, I put on some weight!!!!!! You can imagine why!

Tortillas and Paellas are typical food here in Spain. I love tortillas (omelettes), you can
mix eggs with any ingredient you wish and the result is great! My favourite omelette is
potatoes one, which is also called Spanish omelette. I wrote about it in a post to Marina
not so long ago, so I think you can find it.

Paella is also a dish foreign people want to taste when they come here. Its main
ingredient is rice, some saffron, so the rice becomes yellow, it has small pieces of
chicken, rabbit?s meat, crushed tomatoes, red pepper, some water? Some people also
add some seafood instead of rabbit or chicken?People love it, however, I don?t eat it.
Mainly, I don?t like yellow rice (saffron), then I could never eat rabbit?s meat (I had a
rabbit as a pet for at least ten years, you can imagine, I can?t eat it), and finally, I am
allergic to seafood. But this is just something of me, people, I repeat, love it.

I hope you can come to Spain some day and I will take you to the best restaurants to eat
our tastiest food. If you wish, my home is here for you ;))))

My dear Kamelia, I know you study English literature, I studied it at university to as well
as English history and language, and I would like to study more about it, since when I
was at university I studied just to pass exams. Now?I am a bit sorry for it, since I didn?t
learn as I should have learnt. I hope you can get what I mean. Is it possible that you to
send me some of the contents of what you are studying??? My email address is
rosammd@hotmail.es I can understand if you don?t want to; however you will make me
very happy if you do? :))

Well I have to finish this long (and maybe boring) writing, I hope you have enjoyed it and
I also hope to read from you soon.

Have a nice time,


Rosa, 27 March, 2010.
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sami March 27th 2010


Hello Mohsen

How are you? I hope you are fine and stop eating so much sugar!! You know, sugar is
good for our health but just a little bit!! (I dont know why I'm saying this, I have eaten 1/3
of a bar of chocolate with almonds! :(( )

Im going to tell you a little bit about Holy Week; although it is celebrated in all cities of
Spain, it is said that Andalusian people feel it more than people in the rest of our country.

What is Holy Week? Holy week is the week before Easter commemorating the last week
of the earthly life of Jesus Christ before his crucifixion and his resurrection on Easter
Sunday.
What do we do in Holy Week? Well, first in our churches, we have "pasos" which are
floats with lifelike sculptures of Jesus, Virgin Mary, and many others who can be found in
the Holy Bible. Many men called "costaleros" take those "pasos" out of the different
chuches and they walk with them on their shoulders from street to street, so that people
can see it.

As I have written, Holy Week lasts 7 days, and the "pasos" of each day represent what
Jesus lived and suffered during his last days of live.

I have written many times that I am not too religious, I believe in God and I usually pray,
but I dont go to the church each Sunday, for example. However, I usually fell touched by
this. What I try to say with this, is that even though you weren't a religious person, you
would enjoy it a lot. These "pasos" are usually precceded by a band of musicians, playing
nice melodies, and followed by lots of people who made a promise to God.

I have to say that I dont follow all processions, in fact, I just follow one, which goes out
from a chuch near home. The image of Jesus of this chuch is as a captive and it put my
willies whenever I see it. It is very emotive, especially by the sound of the music and
costaleros ways of walking.

I think you can search it in the Net, maybe you can watch some videos in youtube to see
what I am talking about. This is the best way to understand it, or simply by coming here. I
have invited Kamelia to come to Spain and eat our tastiest food, you are also invited to
enjoy our Holy Week. I can send you some videos or photos of it if you wish, if so, let me
know.
;)))

About old and ill relatives...I can say that in Spain we also have "rest houses" (I couldn't
find a better way to call it) and many people take there their relatives. However, I dont
think I could do that to my parents or any relative...It is a way of keeping them there until
they die, and this is very very sad.

My mum usually says that she doesnt want to be a charge for us when she cannot do
things by herself, she wants us to take her to a rest house, but I think it is just what she
says, for sure she doesnt want it. It is very sad.

I hope you are enjoying this time,


Rosa, 27 March, 2010.

goodman March 28th 2010


dear elham
i am very soorry . there is too busy to reply you. i am sorry .it's reply you too late.
dear friend you tell me your mother and you had skirmishes.the matter let you sad.that is
nothing.the love of mother is the greatese of all. your mother love you very much i really
believe.
this weekend i go home. my home is in the countryside. i rarely go home.so i chat with my
mother long time. i cannot remeber what i said but i very enjoy that time. last days my co-
worker's mother was died . i think we could cherish our family and enjoy the time we
together.
by the way. your email i receive. thank you my dear friend
i hope you reply and wish you everything is well
yours wangxin

araghii March 29th 2010


Hi dear Rosa,
I hope you are doing well,
First of all I congratulate you for having such a kind and gracious heart, I as a gardener
can see things just from the garden?s and plant?s point of view , so I feel you are a
figurative gardener too, but your seeds are faith, and you plant sincerity, thereupon you
will harvest a good life . what I have learned from you more than I can tell in written
words.
Dear Rosa I work in a big garden that belong not only to Iran but also to the world ,
because it is Botanical Garden, maybe you have heard about this kind of garden in the
world.
I have a lot of old picture from this garden and try send to you some of them.
With reading your sentences in last post ?I don?t like pick the flowers ? I remember this
poem :
I will be the gladdest thing under the sun,
I will touch a hundred flowers and not pick one,
Be the same as flower but have lifetime longer than 100 years .
Have a nice time,
Araghi,
March,29,2010

Ruqayeh-m March 30th 2010


Dear Rubby,
Nihao,
thank you for your post and I'm so sorry for the dealy.

I agree with you and I really like to know other contries and cultures. I am an Iranian
girl and I'm living in Tehran now.I would be so glad to answer your question about our
culture , country and anything you ask. so feel free to ask anything.
My freind as I realized you are from china and I try to speak in your language I know it is
so difficult but I try to learn some words .

Dear Rubby tell me about yoursefe alittle bit more. I really like to know.

Enjoy your time and have wonderful moments.


Ruqayeh.

Ruqayeh-m March 30th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Glad to know you as an Iranian girl on this site and thanks for your post. I was so busy in
these days and I couldn't be able to answer you sorry for the delay.

I am living in Tehran and I 've educated in business management and now I am learning
Business in english. I intend to continue my education ( I hope so) but I am so busy. by
the way I am 28.

If you travel to Tehran I would be so happy to meet you.

Looking forward to hear from you soon.

Enjoy your life and have wonderfull moments.


Ruqayeh, March 30, 2010

Ruqayeh-m March 30th 2010


Dear Araghii,

I read you post that you have made for Rosa, I really glad to to know you as a gardner. I
like folowers , trees ,gardnes and gardners,... and any thing related to this beautiful
nature!

I did not meet you but I feel kindness , happiness,... when I see your post on the site.

the picture that you chose for your ID motivated me to write for you. I'd like to know
what it is. would you please explain it for me?
Thank you in advance for your reply.

Enjoy your life and have wonderfull moments.


Ruqayeh , March 30, 2010

Cathy Li March 30th 2010


Dear Behnam (dear brother),

The rain drizzles in the night, the light and soft vocie "Dida, Tida" as a rap. It is so a
precious gift as welcome as flowers in May. Severe droughts hit in southwest China. The
long drought meets sweet dew tonight. May God bless all human-beings!

Dear brother, I miss you a lot. Wish you enjoy every minute of sacred journey.

Best wishes

Cathy

March 30, 2010

Aylin March 30th 2010


Hi Behnam,
How are things with you?God bless everything would be as great as you desire.

Since,the first step in all of acquaitances is introduction,let me first introduce myself.


My name is Aylin,I`m student of English translation in 6th term,I love my major a
lot,and,that`s why It`s crucial for me to do my best to learn it as well as I can,I got
familiar with this nice and useful site just maybe one month ago,but now I`m so happy of
being here.
Then,I would like to thank you,for stablishing this friendly thread,to provide an
opportunity for people interested in English,come together and share their ideas here.

To tell truth,I could read just some of posts,not all of them,and I should confess,I don`t
know what do you exactly do here?:((

So,can you do me a favour and,clarify this point for me?by now Thank you so much.

I`m impatiently waiting for your reply;))

Yours truly,
helen.fan March 31st 2010
Hello everybody
Sorry, I'm a bit busy recently

Hi Mohsen

How are you?

About your question, I think it is a good idea. We accept orders for foreign friends, but
first paid a deposit, we can provide the goods. Yes, our company mainly engaged in
outdoor sports clothing, such as: skiing, rock climbing and mountaineering.
What do you think?

Best Wishes
Helen

My MSN?fanxiaojie218@hotmail.com
You all can add me, thank you

araghii March 31st 2010


Salam dear Ruqayeh,
How are you? I hope you are fine and OK, thank you for your writing to me. I must say
that I love flowers and trees and like everybody who loves these God`s gift. The gifts that
God have wanted to increase the beauty of His world.
Dear Ruqayeh about the image in my ID, I can not write anymore here, because dear
Clare showed me a yellow card already and reminded of me that here is not for political
issue , and I respect her rule and regulation always , but what I can say is that picture
shows my brothers and sisters in a great gathering for asking just a simple question after
a big deception and skullduggery in president election in Iran, maybe you have heard it.
Yes that was: where is my vote? And this phenomenon is called green movement
nowadays in Iran and in the world. And I am a member of this green movement.
May I wish you every success.
Araghi,
March,31,2010

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ghazal March 31st 2010


Dear Helen
"Ni hao" my friend,I hope you enjoy your time

You know we are in holiday and in friday I must come back to university and it's so hard
for me because I must abandon myfamily.

ok now you say somethings about your self.can I ask you question:
what's yourreligion?
where you learn english?
can you say me somethings about youreducation?

Oh please say my another useful word in your language

I hope see your post soon

GHAZAL

Bluegreen March 31st 2010


Dear Friends,

Hellooo there.How are you all? Finally I am back from my nearly long journey to
northern part of Iran.
Oh maybe it wasn't suitable to begin my post with the word FINALLY because it might
sound like I really hated the trip and i just bore it, but tell you what? It was all fun and I
can say that I could enjoy it even on behalf of you all LOOOL

Dear friends, to be honest with you I can't express how much I've missed this thread
during these days because I really take this thread in my heart.

And that not knowing what was going on in here added insult to this injury! You might
perhaps be aware of this feeling!

Anyways, the trip's finished and I had lots of new experiences and joyous times with my
family BUT NOW, Kamelia's back here to go on with path leading here.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen March 31st 2010
Dear Helen,

Hi there. How are you doing honey? How's everything in China? I hope that all is going
alright with you.

Dear, thank you so much for your answers to my questions I nearly got my answers but
not totally, but I really appreciate your help and kind way of replying. Oh and thank you
so much for offering that website as a help, although I really wanted to learn those things
from a kind friend like you but that was really nice of you to put that address, I'll check
that out and would inform you about the consequences.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 31st 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Hello there. How are you doing? How's life going with you and your family? I hope that
everything's alright.

Oh honey, our trip finished and I had alot of fun (jaye shoma khali) but now, it's time to
write in here and get aware of my friends' planning for these last three or four days of
these holidays.
Please tell me, How did it all go? How did you spent these days?which were your
favorite parts?
Do you like partying? Or you're the one who enjoys going to trips and having fun out of
the hometown?

You know what? It is so intersting to know that, exactly on the days that I was doing some
certain works what were my other friends doing?
This idea keeps me stood by and think of others alot, and actually makes the memories
which I had here with them fresh everytime.

Waiting imaptiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen March 31st 2010
Dear Roqayeh,

Hi there. How are you dear new friend? How's everything? I really hope that you've
enjoyed these beginning days of spring.
How's the weather in your hometown? By the way do you live in Tabriz?

Dear, your idea about the relationship between travelling and age was so intersting to
me, and I couldn't agree with you more, but I've got a tiny question here, here it is, if
that's it and people can enjoy travelling at any age, so why do our grandparents
sometimes resist to come? And why do some of them say that we're too old to enjoy our
trip or to experience somethings new? Well, travelling is all about new stuff, right?!

Honey, you asked me something unique which I had never been asked in this way before,
well, I think that I always try to have new plans for my daily life, for example, to finish a
book and then start the new one with the beautiful covering, or to start learning
something new, like French language, or I sometimes just think and plan of some stuff
that seem adventures and fun to be done!

You know, life's not something predictable, I just think and plan but sometimes it comes
to be exactly the other way around, although you may at first think that oh this new
happening ruined my whole today program, but I wanna say that THIS HAPPENING can
also be a motivation to think of more ways to spend your daytime.

I really don't know if I put it clear enough or no, but I really hope that you forgive me
either way, because I think I wrote it in a complicated way LOOOL

So please state your opinion about this matter too,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 31st 2010


Dear Roqayeh,

Hi there. How are you dear new friend? How's everything? I really hope that you've
enjoyed these beginning days of spring.
How's the weather in your hometown? By the way do you live in Tabriz?

Dear, your idea about the relationship between travelling and age was so intersting to
me, and I couldn't agree with you more, but I've got a tiny question here, here it is, if
that's it and people can enjoy travelling at any age, so why do our grandparents
sometimes resist to come? And why do some of them say that we're too old to enjoy our
trip or to experience somethings new? Well, travelling is all about new stuff, right?!

Honey, you asked me something unique which I had never been asked in this way before,
well, I think that I always try to have new plans for my daily life, for example, to finish a
book and then start the new one with the beautiful covering, or to start learning
something new, like French language, or I sometimes just think and plan of some stuff
that seem adventures and fun to be done!

You know, life's not something predictable, I just think and plan but sometimes it comes
to be exactly the other way around, although you may at first think that oh this new
happening ruined my whole today program, but I wanna say that THIS HAPPENING can
also be a motivation to think of more ways to spend your daytime.

I really don't know if I put it clear enough or no, but I really hope that you forgive me
either way, because I think I wrote it in a complicated way LOOOL

So please state your opinion about this matter too,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

ghazal March 31st 2010


Salam araghii
I hope you have good time and enjoy your time.

It's very interesting that you say(salam)


can you explan for me abouy your your picture?

I say you somethings about myself and then you do please.


I'm 18 and I'm from qaen ,I educate in mashhad in ferdowsi university ,I learn english
literture.

I see to find your post soon


best whishes
GHAZAL

ghazal March 31st 2010


Dear kamelia
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii my dear classmate
I'm so happy you comeback
Do you have good time in your tripe?where did you go?

I really miss you ,this theard is not active wite out you and Behnam.(looooooooooooool)

Do you know where is he?

Oh when do you want comeback to mashhad?


Do you study our lesson?

It's so hard for me because I must abandon myfamily,my room and all lovelythings I have
here.

And I can't study all lesson just read lovely book(fonon)


I know you love this book vry much!!!!!!!!

But see you and all of my dear friend is motivate me

Sincerely,
GHAZAL

Bluegreen March 31st 2010


Dear Elham,

Hiii there. So nice to hear that you're taking a trip too, oh but please tell us all about it
when you were back, that would be so nice to read your new experiences.

As you know I always enjoy reading your posts because they give this thread a whole new
look and a colorful one, I think that' because you pay attention to details in a great deal
and that makes your posts beautiful.
Like you explained about the rain drops on the grasses and some natural events
happening in spring, I really like the way that you express your feelings with these words.

Honey, your question made me think of human values and how do we deal with other
people and expect them to tread us in a certain way, but I really want to know how did
this idea come to you?
It's a little bit hard to answer it without our other friends' help especially Dear Behnam
who always came up with logical reasons and arguments.

Now in my opinion, the values that makes a person deserve respect are humbleness,
honesty, rational kindness, morality, and humane actions!
Educations does have effects but not that much, but unfortunatly there are lots of ideas
about this, like if you are a doctor and you always clothe in a special way then you are
mostly respected, or if you are an engineer or a professor, but none of these shows the
real person inside, I think the way you think and your outlook shows who you are and
how much you deserve to be respected.

I really wish to read your own opinions about this subject,

Please write soon to us,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
P.S. If it?s not rude to ask I?ve got a girlish question LOOOL was this cousin the one you
hated?:)):)) then that was a really sarcastic sentence of him to say LOOOOL

Bluegreen March 31st 2010


Dear Ruby,

Hello there. How are you doing dear new friend? How's everything going on?

Well, I would like to warmly welcome you to this humble thread and wish you find lots of
new friends and have fun writing to them.

Dear, would you mind telling us more about yourself? if you don't mind you can tell us
your age, your major of studying, or about your job, describe them n as much words as
you like please. Then we can get to know you more and better and I really wish that we
can become good friends.

I'd be really glad to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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Bluegreen March 31st 2010
Dear Ghazal,

Well hellooo there. How's everything with you? How are going to spend these last days of
Eid? I hope that you've got nice plans going on in your mind.

Now honey, would you mind telling me how many times you read that 1100 WORDS
book? LOOOL Or how many times you watched that hilarious Mask movie? LOOOOOL
By means of remembering them to you I just wanted to ruin your happiness in this joyful
Eid :)):)):)) I know that it really drags but what can we do? LOOOL

Oh it mostly sounds like two lazy students who're trying to get that 10 napoleon grade
mark :)):)):)) and I wonder what would our other friends think while reading this
post?LOOL
Dear, the trip was awesome(jat khali) I sometimes missed all my friends there, you know
it is hard to keep in touch full time with somebody but then leave her or him for a while. I
hope that you undestand.
Well, I read a little bit, then we?ll see what?ll happen
Anyways, I really wish you luck, and I beg you to wish me the same,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 31st 2010


Dear Rosa,

Oh my god, you don't know how happy I became while watching your new post to me,
that was such a delightful way of writing, thank you so much for reading my post and
replying to that, I really appreciate your help honey.
So, how are you doing? How are you spending your holy week? As Dear Mohsen asked I
am really curious to knwo about the history of the holy week, I wonder if it is easy for you
to write about it. If it is, so please do honey.

Oh about the Tele pizza, you know, we've got lots of homefood and fast food deliveries
here in Iran too, but you know what? In that article it had explained it in a special way
that I really thought it might be something really new and extraordinary! Like I was
really passionate to see Spain one time and try foods there LOOOOL
So, you said you had worked there,huh? That must be a nice experience, I think the
atmosphere was good too, right? I mean for a young student girl like you.

Now here's my question coming up, Is it really important? I mean the atmosphere of
where you work and spend your time there? Does it really effect? Does it make any
difference if you're a boy or girl there?

Well you know, in Iran most of the times such works are for boys and they say it's not
right for a girl to work in these places, is it the same there too?

Dear Rosa, I don't think that you lack anything in English, your writing style is very
unique and I like it very much, and about that email offering, sure honey, it's not a
problem, I'll add you today and will write something to you, then we can have more
writings to each other. And that would make me happy to.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen March 31st 2010


Dear Aylin,

Hello there. How are you dear new friends? I'd like to welcome you as a little member of
here.

Dear Aylin, I really liked your first post, it was written clearly and beautifully, and your
writing skill's great I bet, Dear, would you mind telling us a little bit more abot yourself?
Forexample, where are you from, where do you study, and what is your opinion about
your major?

Dear, I wonder if you've ever read any of my posts here, but I am an English students too,
But our majors are different, I study English literture and I'm in second semester of it.

Honey, Dear Behnam's on a trip and I think he wouldn't come come till 13th of
Farvardin, now I wanna be rude enough and asnwer your last question in on behalf of
him, but I'll answer it in short terms then when he came back he's gonna explain to you
more about it.

Honey, here on this thread we write to each other on a certain framework, that is English
rules in writing, we try to ask the questions that come to our minds of others and then in
this way motivate them to write as much as they can, in this way, you're gonna be
prepared for every English test that you might be taken in future, because you've got the
basic ideas and you know how to put them in order to be right.

Now I really wonder if I was clear in righting to you, but this was just a brief post to shed
some lights towards you.

Honey I'm so sorry if it was a boring post, hope that we can become good friends in near
future,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,


Please do not hesitate to write to me, I'd be really glad to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

ghazal March 31st 2010


Dear Rosa
Hi,I hope you enjoy your time in your country
I see your post for another friends several and I see your profile too you said english is
part of your life Oh it's very good .

I hope we are good friends ,for start this friendship I tender you one of best poem:

This is for you, my best friend,


the one person i can tell my soul too
Who can relate to me like no other
Who I can laugh with to no extents,
Who I can cry too when times are tough,
Who can help me with the problems of my life.

Never have you turned your back on me


Or told me I wasnt good enough
Or let me down

I don't think you know what that means to me


You have went through so much pain and you still have time
For me.
And I love you for listening even when inside YOU are dying
And I look up too you because you are strong,
and caring
and beautiful.
Even though you don't think you are.

And I hope you know that I am always here


To listen to you laugh and cry and help
In all the ways that i can
And I will try to be at least half the friend you are
To me.

I hope you know I would not be the person I am today, with out you.
My best friend.

I hope see your post soon

your new friend


GHAZAL

metzean March 31st 2010


Dear Marina,

Thank for your gift the villa in Island on the Adriatic Sea. It was amazing flying with
personal plane.last week I took part in UAE flight competition tournament. On my back
to the Island on Adriatic I crushed in Unknown Island, and I was lost in Jangle ,I had a
chance to found my laptop in fuselage to open the thread and write my SOS massage.
I didn't your writing as I open the thread and I became worry about you . Are you riding
your Ford on full throttle to Halab ? Did you drive your car to Marand in Behnam
Garden? Where are you!!?
I am waiting for saving team in this Island.

Sincerely
MoHsEn

metzean March 31st 2010


Dear Rosa,

I appreciate if you send me the Holy week pictures to my email: mohbon@gmail.com.

I should say that I am an addictive to sugar, my hands and legs is shaking when I have a
delay in eating of sugar. What is your mean by 1/3 a chocolate bar? I eat at least 10 to
15 chocolate bars each day. Chocolate is in my packets and as soon as I feel weakness I
use it.
I like dates, dry and fresh. We have different type of dates . I like to eat date and milk
together but not a kind of milk which is delivered by milk factories . there is a milk shop
in our street ,the owner of the shop has a cattle in his private field, every early morning
he bring the milk of his cattle and sale it . This is the kind of milk that I like to eat with
fresh date. Do you have date in your country?
What is your idea about milk and date?

Sincerely
mOHsen

metzean March 31st 2010


Dear Helen,
Thanks that you trust me , What I siad about order was only a bussiness english practice.
but you suppose that i want to place an order for garment and you asked me deposit ?
how can I pay a deposit to your account ? how much money , 50% , 25% or 10%?

Do you accept letter of credit or you asked for total advance payment?

Sincerely,
Mohsen

Bluegreen March 31st 2010


Dear Behnam,

Helloooo there. How are you honey? Are you enjoying your trip? I really wish that you're
having fun with your family and enjoying every moment of your life.

Honey, I really wish to see you back here soon, and you can see the reason, lots of people
are asking about you of me or of our other friend's here, that where is Behnam? And how
he is doing? And this makes me feel like I miss you and your posts alot.

Dear friend, I read your last post carefully, I think it was betond my capability and
knowledge to comment on that but I really liked the way you used the words in order to
express your feeling about day to day life experiences.

Dear Behnam, lts of topics are coming up here, and we've got lots of new friends here to
be welcomed by you, and I think that everyone misses you here, so please to make this
long story short show up SOONER LOOOOOL.

Waiting impatiently to see you again here,


Sincerely,

Kamelia

sami March 31st 2010


Hello Kamelia!!!

Welcome back friend!!! How are you? How was the trip? I hope it was great. I have to
admit that I have missed you all, and I hope you all come here little by little.

My Holy Week is being fine. I am spending time with my family and friends, and I am
sleeping siesta at last!!! I dont usually sleep siesta because, I always work after lunch,
and also because I dont usually feel well after siesta. These days, I am enjoying it, and
contrary to what was usual...I feel very well after it! ;) Do you have siestas?? This word
is typical Spanish, but I think many people in different parts of the world also do it.

I have already written to Mohsen about Holy Week, you can read my last post to him, I
hope you understand it. If you also want pictures or videos, tell me, and I will send them.
I think some images are better than words!

About your last question...to tell the truth...I am not sure about what you really want to
know, I am going to answer what I guess you are asking! (LOL)

In Spain, as well as many parts in the world, we are trying to make no difference between
a boy and a girl, (apart from the obvious ones). As you know, in the past, women were
always hidden in society, and girls always separated from boys. From a long time ago,
women have been claiming equality with respect to men. For me, men and women are the
same in terms of human beings. Both were created by God, and as God creatures they
are the same, women are not inferior to men or the other way round. So?why differences
between men and women in society????
This idea is not complete my dear friend Kamelia, however, I have to finish this writing
now. I have to leave to take my sister and brother-in-law to the center. I hope you forgive
me, and please, let me know your opinion about what I was writing about. I know it is not
what you asked me, but I don?t know the reason of my digression!! ;)))

I hope to be able to write soon, tomorrow I will be on a trip to Granada until next
Sunday. I hope to see you then.

Have a nice time,

Rosa, 31 March, 2010.


P.S. Thank you for your compliments about my English, but I really feel my English is
getting poorer day after day.

April 2010

hanna April 1st 2010


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helen.fan April 1st 2010


Hi GHAZAL
"Ni hao", I'm fine, "xie xie"

Yes, I had to go to school the same way, we have to give up our families, it is necessary.

You say the problem:

My religion is Buddhism.
I studied English in school, junior high school has this program
I graduated from college, in college majoring in mathematics, English is the secondary
curriculum.

Give you some commonly used words, in China

Hello, everybody read "Da jia Hao"


I love you read "wo ai ni"

I read "WO", you read "ni", he or she read "ta"


Good to see you read "hen gao xing jian dao ni"
The last sentence may be hard for you.

Well, good luck

elham_z April 1st 2010


Dear Kamelia ,

Hi my friend. ( Residan bekheyr). How are you? It is sooooooooo nice to see you back
here again. It is obvious that you'v had an enjoyable trip. Thank god. Good for you. As I
had written my father just PLANED for trip. He made us hopeful and as you see it is the
last days of holidays and Im still at home.

You have truly brought us all joy and energy. There is no need to say, your presence in
this thread is a real treasure. I truly count you as one of my very friends. This emphasized
very, indeed, does not mean a lot. You fill me with the sense of life in a really hopeful
way.

Thank you for putting your idea for me. Actually I think it is a delicate subject to discuss.
The idea came to my mind after having a deep discussion on it with my sisters husband.
He complained that why people expect respect after having some education in higher
levels. Most of them lack adequate moral manners. They have just studied some books
more than other people and he wondered why this makes them feel they are a head and
shoulder upper than all others. My father on the other hand, believes most of these
educated young people don't know how to manage a life, they are not thought how to
make a living, they lack enough good manner (shour ).

A lot of times we have had serious discussions near to serious arguments together. I want
them not to generalize. This is not that we say: this boy is educated, so he is this and that.

On the other hand, considering the respect they themselves have for a real educated
KNOWLAGBLE, sophisticated person, I noticed that as our dear friend Rughayeh has
mentioned, it is truly knowledge that brings respect not education itself. Then I noticed
that in our society, in a really wrong way, educated people are respected in a special
way. We have seen a lot of people that are given much respect .why? Just because they
are engineers. Ok an engineer. What does come to our mind after this word?
RESPECT!!!
Why don't we respect workers as much? Why don't we respect hardworking the same as
knowledge???

Several nights ago we were in my aunts house when one of our relatives came there too.
One of the boys was in his last year of studding dentistry. The other one was mechanic
engineer. Don't you believe it. I was shocked to see my father giving them a very warm
greeting, while the boy didn't noticed at all, dropped his head down and continued his
way. The mother on the other side in a really selfish way delivered us a cold hello. They
really think high of themselves because they have education AND they have lived in
Tehran for some while. Oh my God. We entered a new factor. Yes, living in large cities
like Tehran. Its so sad to see they look down at you since you are from a small city (
Shahrestani). What I personally have experienced lots of times. Or because we don?t
wear as open as they do. Before Eid we went to Isfahan for shopping. It takes us about 30
minutes to get there. Dear Kamelia , you should see the Elham who came back home. I
was so angry and sad. Most of the clerks didn't notice us since we were simply dressed
having full Hijab. The truth is that they respect money not the humanity itself.

These recent events, made me thinking deeply of the real meaning of worth and what
causes real value in a person. In my book, we have to take a new look to our
justifications.
Im sure this topic deserves discussing and theres a lot to say about it. I hope other friends
help us with it as well. Where is Behnam? We need him. I noticed my poor English in
writing about this subject. Don't mention my mistakes.

Best wishes,
Elham

P.S. this mentioned cousin was not that mentioned one. These were all girls. And I don't
hate him. I just look at him as a cousin.

Ruby_liu April 1st 2010


Dear Reqayeh,Ghazal and Kamelia,

I am so happy to see your new posts to me.Today i will tell more things about myself.Fist
of all,i am 23 years old, i work in Shanghai (one city in China) when i graduate from
university.Now my company contains two items,one is International Student Exchange
and the other is Intership in China.Recently,i am so busy at work,just like yesterday,I
even forget to eat lunch.^_^~~

I am a very optimistic person,i like to stay with friends,without them i will fell
lonely.Bceause i like playing tricks on them,heheee~~just a joke,and i really very like
them.

And i am so sorry to reply to you all so late.you are very nice,and Ghazal ,your poem
very great,i like it.Moreover,i an a little baby-fat ,i like to eat all kinds of delicious
food.So next time you can tell me the famous food in your countries.

I have to continue work now,so this time i have no time to reply to you one by one, but
next time i promise i will post to you each one.Thank you all again.

Hope you all have a good time.


Ruby

Bluegreen April 1st 2010


Dear Marina,

Oh Marina, my sweet friend, the sweetest girl I've ever seen How are you honey? How is
everything going with you? How are training courses going? I really hope that
everything's going on perfectly well with you.

Honey, I know that I wrote to everyone except you, and I knw the reason, I really didn't
mean to upset a sweet friend like you or hurt your feelings, on the other hand I had
missed you too much that I really didn't know what to say and how to express it.

Look, in this not such a long time we've been good friends and there's no possitbilty that I
would forget you for even a day, I really didn't know what to write but i really wished
that you could come sooner and make us happy with your cute posts.

Dear Marina, let me play a joke on you if I may,and in order to change the mood of this
post,here it is: I promise to write to you as soon as I can but just on ONE CONDITION
:)):)):)) you must promise to keep in touch ASAP,deal?

Honey, I'll be waiting mpatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Aylin April 1st 2010


Hi dear Kamelia,

Thanks a lot for your warm greeting to me,I`m feel so good of being here,your
explanation was sufficiently persuading and clarifying,thank you so much my dear
friend;))

About myself,I`m from Khoy,a lovely,small,but historically and cultural rich city,located
in west of Azarbayjan,I study in P.N university and I love my major a lot,you know,in fact
I love English itself and totally I`m eager about foriegn languages.

To tell truth,I have a confess to commite,dear Kamelia,I realy envey you,that you study
English literature,you know,I love literature a lot,or to be honest,I`m mad of
literature,but from another aspect I`m so happy to meet you here,because I think this
common intrest will be a nice reason to tighten our friendship.
once more thank you for your answer and I`m realy happy to meet you dear kamelia :))
I`m impatiently waiting for you,and please tell more about yourself to me,bye now,thanks
a lot.

Cordialy,

behnam April 2nd 2010


Dear Friends,

You cannot imagine how much I've missed you. I've missed you terribly. How are you? I
hope all is well with you and you are happy & healthy. I hope you've got a deep
contentment, fulfilment and peace from within. These things are crucially important for
human beings.

To Kamelia: A very big thank for managing the thread, posting lovely posts, and for your
full and strong support. Thanks a lot for being so active in this humble thread - I owe you
one. How are things with you? Are you still in Gonbad, or you are in Mashhad?

To Roghayeh (Ruqayeh): A very warm Welcome! Thank you for joining us and writing in
this thread. How nice you write! Your posts are great, and your English is excellent.
Thank you for active participating. Khoshgalmisiz!

To Rosa: How are you my kind friend? I've missed you very much. Thank you so much for
posting some lovely posts. I hope you are happy and healthy.

To Marina: Where are you Marina??? Nothing from you!!! Oh my God, I can't believe it!
I've missed you a lot. I am waiting impatiently for your posts.

To Cathy: How are you my sister? I hope everything is going well with you. Thanks for
your friendly post. Please try to write regularly.

To Andrew: How are you my close friend? Where are you Andrew? Have you forgotten
your friends and this thread? Please write something and let us know you are OK.

To Mohsen: How are things Mohsen? I've missed you and your posts. Thank you for
writing in this thread. How is life? Is Esfahan crowded these days?

To Helen: How are you keeping? I hope you are fine. Thank you for your helpful posts.

To Aylin: Welcome to this thread. Thank you very much for putting message in this
humble thread. You have asked us a strange question! My dear friend Kamelia has
answered it completely, however I believe, such a unfriendly question needs no answer,
since the answer is obvious itself! Anyway, thank you.

To Ghazal: How are you Ghazal? What a nice name! I hope you are enjoying every
second of your holidays with you family and friends. When I was in Mashhad, I was
thinking of you and Ghaen! Thank you so much for posting some nice and delightful
posts. In particular, thanks for poems.

To Veronica: How are you? Where are you? I hope you are fine.

To Araghi: Nejasan? How are you keeping? I hope you are happy and healthy. Thanks a
lot for being in contact with us. Please try to write regularly, your posts make me happy.

To Mortaza: How are you Mortaza? I hope you are fine. When I was passing Damghan, I
thought of you. I also went to a gas station in Damghan, because the car needed some
petrol.

To Setayesh: How are you? Where are you? Nothing from you! I hope you are happy and
healthy. Please try to write something in this thread, I love your posts.

To Elham: How are you doing? I hope all is well with you. Thank you very much for
writing in this thread and for posting great posts. I really love your posts and your way of
writing is excellent. Your posts cover a wide range of interesting topics. I will write about
the last under discussion topic soon.

To Clare: How are things? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you for
running this powerful web log and giving us this perfect opportunity to share some
friendly time with other people.

To Negin: How are you? Where are you? I hope you are fine.

To Hanna( carvans): Thank you for putting message on this site. Welcome to this thread.
Would you please let us know a little bit more about you? Thank you once again for
joining us.

To Wangxin: How are you doing? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for your posts.
Please write regularly.

To Ruby: Thank you for joining us. Welcome to this thread. Would you please let us know
more about you?

My English is a bit rusty. I couldn't write as good as before. I am a little bit tired too.
Now, I'm at home. I arrived in Tehran last night. Today is the last day of New Year's
holidays in Iran. Almost all Iranian people go outside to eat lunch and to stay outside,
and then to enjoy the beauties of nature. There are different philosophies. I'm at home!
Well, I have been outside a lot! :):):):):) The roads will be crowded. I prefer staying at
home and writing to my friends.
I may forgot some people, but it wasn't on purpose. Please forgive me if I've forgotten to
mention some people's names.

I am impatiently waiting for your posts.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 April 2010

behnam April 2nd 2010


Oh my God, my mother was calling me for having breakfast, so I was in a hurry, and I've
forgotten two important names!

To Nastaran: I've missed you terribly. You cannot imagine how much! I hope all is well
with you. Ruhim ghafasda oynir, san yadima doshanda (whenever I remember you, my
spirit starts flying in its place). Please write something and let us know about you.

To Soheila: How life is going in Shiraz? Nothing from you!!! Have you forgotten this
thread? :(:(:( I hope all is well with you. Please make time to write something. I've
missed you and your posts.

I am sure, there are still some names that I cannot remember right now. Well, I'm an
absent-minded person. I beg your forgiveness.

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 April 2010

Ruqayeh-m April 2nd 2010


Dear Ruby,
You asked about our delicious foods, what a nice question!! As you know I?m living in
Iran , a country with several nation that all of them has different delicious foods depends
on the region people live, their domestic culture and so on. But I am originally from the
northwest of Iran which is called Azarbayjan in fact I am a Turkish girl.

Our famous and delicious food in this region is ?Koofte ? it is so difficult to cook and I
can?t explain it here but hope you travel Iran and make a trip to Tabriz and have a
delicious Koofte.
We have other delicious food like? Ghorme Sabzi ? , Kabab (with different tastes) and so
on.
I really enjoy seeing you here, if you travel Iran I would be very happy to accompany
you.

Waiting impatiently to know about your culture more.

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments.


Ruqayeh April 02, 2010

Ruqayeh-m April 2nd 2010


My Dear Friend, Kamelia,

Thank you for your reply. I'd like to ask you to go on page 613 and read my post again. I
said Training is one of the most important part of every one's life , Training means
Learning , Not Traveling.

And I was endorsing your word about the way of training in this site. And I mean me
myself believe that if I got older I try to learn. I don't believe any limitation for elderly to
learn study and continue education formal or informal (doesn't matter). You know
sometimes we hear some people say ?you are old so you cannot learn anymore!!! I just
disagree with this idea.

By the way I'm living in Tehran.

Waiting for your reply.

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments.


Ruqayeh April 02, 2010

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Ruqayeh-m April 2nd 2010


Dear Behnam,

Thank you for your warm welcome!! I am so happy to have a friend like you, a Turkish
one I mean.

You know, I've heard about you before, Kamelia my dear friend, said you can speak
Turkish more fluent than others when she found out I am a Turkish girl. Happy to have
post from you. It makes me happy.

And also appreciate for your complementary. So nice to see someone is saying my
English is excellent. But I think I should learn more and there are many things that I have
not learned yet.

Sizin kimin dostlarinan yashamagh na shirindi. (it is very sweet to live with (have) friends
like you.

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments.


Ruqayeh , April 02,2010

Ruqayeh-m April 2nd 2010


Dear Araghii,
Thank you for sparing time for my question and thank you for your clear answer!

I don't know I should call you Mr. or Mrs. !!! Dear, I am living in Tehran and I was
forced to being involved with political issues. Not participating in this kind of gathering,
just seeing people on the street and what was happening in Tehran on those days. I am
not a political person and here also is not the right place to talk about that so I prefer to
skip it and talk about other things.

sometimes I read others post and today I did it again , Dear Behnam's post for you. He
use a Turkish word for you Nejasan)!! You are Turkish too???? I am a Turkish girl and I
like Turkish language a lot. I wish it became International language.

By the way forgive me because of being late to response.

looking forward to hearing from you soon.

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments.


Ruqayeh , April 02, 2010
elham_z April 3rd 2010
Dear friends,

I hope all my dear friends who are also the best of mine are healthy and happy.

Dear Behnam , welcome back not only to your thread but also to all heart homes of many
people who were looking forward to hearing from you again. In one hand you should be
so happy having attracted all these the bests to yourself, on the hand it brings you
responsibility to be careful with their affection and friendship towards you. And I am sure
you are master in both recognizing and handling such value.
Dear Behnam pleas do me a favor and inform me of your personal opinion on my last
topic.

I have told lots of times how much this place and all its members mean to me. Finding
here and writing here was an absolute turning point in my life. I am repeating my words
to tell you how much it would be hard to me not writing here for more than 2 months.
Since here is the only place I truly find and feel and show my true self, I am worried that
I may die from missing it. But, any other option, I HAVE TO attempt my best to bother
myself as much as I can. No pain, no gain. I have stepped onto a laborious path.

Pleas pray for my strength and success. I strongly believe in deep effect of souls on each
other. My soul will receive and be affected by all signals you will send it.

Love you,
Elham

metzean April 3rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

I hope you are doing fine and enjoyed your holiday.


I am pleased to read your post, to know that you come back from your journey. I also had
pleasure time during the holiday, I am satisfy with schedule plan that I had done on
holiday.
What did you do in Marand/ did you have special plan?

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

behnam April 3rd 2010


Hi Roghayyeh,

Thank you very much for the fast reply? How life is going? What did you do yesterday?
Did you tie any grasses together and did you make any wishes? I hope all your wishes
come true.

I don't know if it is a good thing to say or not, but I am quite confused with the spelling of
your name. How should I write it? I think it should be written 'Roghayyeh', but you often
write 'Ruqayeh' or 'Roqayeh'! As you know, In the English language, we have to put a 'u'
after 'q', but you don't care about it!

An other point should be made that I am an Azerbaijani rather than a Turk. The word
Turk often refers to people who live in Turkey. I am originally from East-Azerbaijan
province of Iran. My father is from Marand, which is a small and green city about 60 KM
away from Tabriz. It is located in the northwest of Tabriz. My mother is from Tabriz.

Your English is excellent. It is not just a simple complement. It is a fact. However, it


doesn't necessarily mean that you ought to stop learning! In my opinion, learning a new
language is a lifelong process. There is no stop point!:):):)

I speak Azerbaijani very well. I love it. I don't know how fluently you speak, but I speak
and understand it very well.

Thank you once again for paying a very nice complement. It is the same for me! I mean,
it's a great honour for me to be a friend of you.

Would you please write a little bit more about yourself?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 April 2010

behnam April 3rd 2010


Hi Elham,

How are you? I hope you have peace in mind.

Thanks a million for writing some friendly sentences, and then praising me. Am I so
important? I can't believe it! :):):):):) I am very happy to be among some understanding
and considerate people. You are one of them! :)):)):))

What is the matter? Why are you going to be absent for two months? I will miss you.
Whatever the reason is, I wish you all the best.
Dear Elham, I am afraid of digressing, could you possibly let me know what your last
topic is? Would you please let me know just the title of your last topic?

I am looking forward to hearing from you as soon as possible.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 April 2010

behnam April 3rd 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you doing? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you so much for
posting.

Dear Mohsen, now it is time to play a naughty joke on you. You can't believe if I say that
I was thinking of this matter all the time.:)):)):))

I clearly remember you gave 13 cars to ladies(since at that time, there were 13 ladies in
the thread); a car to each lady. That was very generous of you rich man! Once I
complained about ignoring men, then you kindly gave 8 villas in the north of Iran to men
(since at that time, there were 8 men in the thread); so that every man received a villa!
Again, that was very kind of you to think of men. You also mentioned ladies will drive to
the north, mainly to those villas!!! The point which has made my mind busy since I read
your post is related to maths somehow! How can we divide 13 ladies into 8 villas? By the
way, are you sure that the ladies will agree with you on this decision? How brave you
are! Finally, let's imagine there is at least an answer to that mathematical equation, now
would you mind telling me where is my own villa and who is going to be my guest?
:)):)):)):)) Oh dear Mohsen, Behnam is a naughty man, you know! :):):)

It was just a joke. I am joking, I hope this joke doesn't upset anyone.

I wasn't in Marand. I went to Mashad. I visited many cities. I will write about my long
journey as soon as I can find time.
I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 April 2010

araghii April 3rd 2010


Hello Behnam (Mr Marandi)
Salaam , how are you?
Salaam to you and to your lovely family from bottom of my heart with smell of spearmint
and bee balm , happy spring to you.
I hope the kind spring sun warms your brow and brightens your days and wind and rain
of spring prepare and beget a dreamy scene in front of your gracious eyes and enjoy your
life .
I am here , between thousands of trees and colourful flowers, but with a heavy and
difficult task for caring them, such as watering and weeding . maybe can not write
quickly and regularly , but be sure will read your and other friends writings everyday. So
please forgive me.
Best wishes,
Araghi

Marina1 April 3rd 2010


Dear beloved friends( Behnam, Rosa, Kami, Mohsen, Mortaza, Andrew, Clare,
Veronica,Araghi, Elham, Rouqaya,Negin, Sohiela, Nastaran, Ghazal and all other
friends,

How are you all?? How is it going??? I've really missed you a lot. you can't imagine how
much I thought about this thread and its members during my trip. I could read all
writings but it was a bit difficult to write. But you were always in both my heart and
mind.

This trip was so especial for me because of scientific benefits and visiting new places.
The only thing that made me sad that I couldn't visit Zeinab's (PBUH) shrine, I hope to
do it in the next time , and the next time is very soon, it's on 18 April which means after
two weeks from now.

I spent my days in a place which is very near to the occupied place from Syrian land by "
Israel". This place's name " Alqunaitera". For Syrians this city means a lot because of its
location ( in the eastern south of Syria which means very near to Palestine and Aljawlan
which is the occupied region from Syria). I had Lots of emotions and thoughts. I could
see some Israeli towers which built to spy on Syria. The center of Alqunaitera was
destroyed by " Israel" on the war of 1973 which was between Syria and Egypt against the
Israeli army. Now it's free, but before leaving it, the Israeli's army destroyed it from the
beginning to the end.

I was proud and very happy to be in that place. It was a great experience which I could
know lots of that city's customs and way of living. I really love it , and I wish one day I
can visit the beloved city from Syrian land " Aljawlan". I also met a great family with
great persons, they made my days more beautiful and easy. They helped me a lot.

I know you'll ask me about scientific benefits (LOOOOOOOL), ok! They were good :) :).
Dear Behnam, you know that your absence makes me always be away from writing here.
When you aren't here, I feel that it's hard to be in. Anyway , you are here now. Welcome
dear! Please share me something to write about. I'm at your service :)

Dear Kami, so many thanks for all your great writings in this thread. As Behnam said
you knew how to handle it. thank you for your writing to me, you made me very happy.
Even I know you from short time, but I feel that I know you from ages. I really take the
great honor of making a friendship with a girl like you. Please motivate me to write, and
share me something.

Dear Mohsen, so happy that you accepted my very simple gift ;) , I heard the sound of the
personal plane in the Syrian sky. I even saw the photo which you put as a logo for this
plane. It's really suits it. :) :). Thank you for being worried about me, thank you very
much indeed.

Dear all Iranian friends, during my trip , in Damascus I met lots of Iranian people, they
were shopping and they were eating ice-cream :) . All ladies were beautiful, and their
beauty was so clear. They were white skinned with black and a little bit thick eyebrows.
The thing that attracted my attention that the distance between the eyebrow and the eye is
a bit big :D. so you can know how much I looked at them ;).

Rosa, Mortaza, Roquaya , Veronica and all other friends, please don't be silent, please
write and be active, we need all of you. A person worth nothing when he/she is not with
his/her friends.

Thank you all for reading. Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeee write to me soon.

Marina.

Marina1 April 3rd 2010


Dear friends,

I've made a stupid mistake. Alqunaitera is located in the western south of Syria not in the
eastern south of it.

:) Please check it in my writing.

Marina.
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sami April 3rd 2010
Hello my lovely friends

How are you? I'm happy to see most of you are back and as active as before...I love it!

I'm back too from a short thip of three days. I have gone to Granada, which is another
Andalusian city as well as Huelva(where I live), but this one is in the east coast of
Andalusia.

I have been more than 500 kilometres from home, but I have been close to all of you. you
have been in my mind all the time. Granada is a city which was invaded by muslims for a
long time, and as a consequence, they left here a great legacy that is visited by lots of
visitors. During these days, I have been one of those visitors. I have visited, among other
places, The Alhambra, which is a massive castle constructed over many centuries. It
mainly consists of gardens, fortifications and sumptuous palaces, being for a long time
the home of many of the Arabic sultans whol ruled this place (Spain) before the Catholic
King and Queen.

There, in the main entrance of this great fortification, you can read a passage from the
Koran (I believe, but not sure) which says something like "the heaven is a garden with
running water", so as I also read there, "the Alhambra is an Arabic attempt to create
heaven on earth".

I had visited this place before, I remember it was a trip with my parents lots of years ago.
I knew it was a very lovely place, but now I can say that I am in love with this place!
Great gardens (so our dear Araghi would be pleased to be there, for example, ;))), great
views, lots of foreign people, being for us a great opportunity to use our English...

Do you want to know a bit more about it??? It is considered to be one of the 10 wonders
of the world...have you ever seen it?? Im sure you can have a view easily in the net, if you
do so, I hope you enjoy it.

I have to stop writing now, I have to undo my luggage, use the washing machine...you
can imagine after a few days out!

I hope to read from you very soon,


Have a nice time,
Rosa, 3 April, 2010.

behnam April 4th 2010


Hi Mr Araghi,

"Har zadin tazasi, dustin kohnasi!" (Every new thing is good, but when it comes to
friends, an old friend is good instead). How are you my old friend? (old friend =a friend
you have known for a long time)

I hope all is well with you and you are enjoying every second of your life. Thank you so
much for writing, reading our posts and being with us. Thank you once again for praising
me.

Your posts are very useful. There are many new words in your last post. For example,
'beget, weed, gracious, spearmint'. I saw them for the first time. Therefore, you help me
to widen my vocabulary range.

Your posts make me happy. Please make time to participate in discussing topics. I am
sure, people are interested in knowing your opinions.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 April 2010

Bluegreen April 4th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiii. How are you doiiing?Where have you been man? I missed you alot.

Oh I should have written to you sooner,but as a matter of fact I was moving from Gonbad
to Mashad and then checking out my friends there(shaking hands and giving and
recieving hugs and kisses from more than 1 hundred girls LOOOOL) and then my 5
sweet roommates!
And at last, uh, making up the room and unpacking the luggage!

Honey, so your trip was to Mashad?uhha? My lovely city, You must tell me all about it,
write to me what you saw, what you did, which places in Mashad you went to, and how
much you liked them!! Please do me a favor and write about them, I'll be looking forward
to HEARING from you!

Dear Friend, I really wanted to say, all of us helped to keep up this thread fresh and
alive, and I wasn't the only one, you know at those times when I was absent here, I saw
lots of Dear Rosa's posts, Dear Roghayyeh's and our other friends. But gerenerally, tell
you what, it is absoloutely nothing without you, I couldn't feel your value ( LOOOL)
when you were present and here, but I felt a very HUGE missing point when you weren't
here.
Now I won't make you tired anymore,

I'd be waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 4th 2010


Dear Rosa,

Hi Honey.How are you? Welcome back dear, so you've been to a trip too? Wow that's
wonderful, I think we're catching more and more subjects to read and write about, here!

I wanted to thank you for reading my post and replying to that, that was so nice of you to
explain to me about your whole idea of that matter.

Honey, I believe that there was no digression at all, I got my answer and thank you so
much for that!

Oh and about your last post which was about your trip, they were some lovely points
which I'd like to ask about them more,
Like the Alhambra castle, I've heard about it alot, but I've never really searched for the
pictures or any opinions about that, your sentences gave me some new information about
it, and there's a kind of guitar called Alhambra, Now I wonder if you've heard it or not, is
it related to that castle? Did they use to plays such kind of music there?

And sth else, why is it called Alhambra?

I'd be waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 4th 2010


Dear Marina,

Hi honey. How are you? So nice to see you back here, Oh I know it was hard for you to
write, don't mention it!

So how was the trip? I bet you enjoyed it :)


But here's sth else, you said that you're gonna be on another trip in about two weeks,is
that true? So I have to miss you again, oh god! Lots of trips for a sophisticated enginner
like you, why don't them let you take alittle bit rest? :)):))

Dear Marina,in anyways, I'd be really glad to read from you ASAP,you know me,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Darioush April 4th 2010


Dear friends,

I come again,and I like to be accepted in this thread.

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also
believe. (Anatole France)

mortaza.abtahi April 4th 2010

Dear all my good friends,

How are you? I hope you are all fine and enjoy every moment of your life.

After a long period of holydays in Iran due to Persian new year and being far from my
home due to a long journey to Mashad, Kashmar and Gonabad (3 cities in eastern part of
Iran), I am finally at home feeling comfortable and enjoying the Internet!

Let me first say hello to Behnam who is the main reason that we are here together and
the existence of this thread and its survival rely on him.

I also would like to express my happiness that many of my old friends (Rosa, Marina,
Mohsen, Andrew, Araghi, ?) are still writing and this makes me feel warm. However, I
cannot see any post from our good friend, Veronica, in recent pages. Any news from her?

And a few words for Kamelia; as I remember, you sent a post addressing to me just
before the new year holydays. I am sorry that I could not reply to you; please accept my
apology. To be honest, sometimes I become bored of long holydays!! I know that you may
not understand my feeling! It is interesting that students always want more and more
vacations!! They always are happy if a class does not take place and they become glad of
hearing that their professor would have been facing a difficulty so that he/she cannot
come to the class. One of my ex-students texted me the following message: "Aghaze saale
jadide tahsili mobarak harchand tatilat behtare" !!!!!!! (I must apologize our non-
Persian friends for not writing it in English!)

Thank you for reading, and I am waiting to hear from you.

Mortaza, April 04, 2010

ghazal April 4th 2010


Hi dear friends

Behnam,kamelia,Roqayhe,Rosa,Mohsen,Elham,Setayesh,and all friends here

I write short story for you please read and then write for me youridea about this.

I hope enjoy?..

A small crack appeared on a cocoon

A man sat for hours and watched carefully the struggle of the butterfly to get out of that
small crack of cocoon.
Then the butterfly stopped striving it seemed that she was exhausted and couldn't go on
trying.

The man decided to help the poor creature.


He widened the crack by scissors.

The butterfly came out of cocoon easily , but her body tiny and her wings were wrinkled
The man continued watching the butterfly.

He expected to see her wings become expanded to protect her body.


But it didn't happen!

As matter of fact , the butterfly had to crawl on the ground for the rest of her life ,for she
could never fly.

The kind man didn't realize that God had arranged the limitation of cocoon and also the
struggle for
butterfly to get out of it so that a certain fluid could be discharged from her body to
enable her to fly afterward....

sometimes struggling is the only things we need to do.

If God provided us with on easy life to live without any difficulties then we became
paralyzed, couldn't become strong, and could not fly.

I asked for strength and God provided me with enough difficulties to become strong.

I asked for knowledge and God provided me with problem to solve.

I asked for prosperity and promotion and God provided me with ability to think and
hands to work.

I asked for bravery and God provided me with obstacles to overcome.

I asked for motivation and God show me people who need help.

I asked for love and God provided me with opportunity to give love to others.

I didn't get what I wanted.....


But I was provided whit what I needed

Don't warry ,fight with difficulties and be sure that you can prevail over them.

the end

I hope see your post soon

Sincerely

ghazal

ghazal April 4th 2010


Dear Behnam

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii.are you ok?I hope you enjoy Nowroz


I think you went to trip.do you have nice times?

About poem,your welcome my friend

I have idea plesae tell all topic and then we write around that topic.
Have good time
GHAZAL

ghazal April 4th 2010


Dear Darioush
Hi,how are you my friend?

I 'm so happy when see your post,I really missed your stories
and poem.

welcome to this big house eagle.

Please read my post that send for all dear friends and then say me your idea.

Sincerely
ghazal

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ghazal April 4th 2010


Dear Rosa
How are you ?I hope you have good times everywhere you are.
in page618 I send for you poem for start friendship but you didn't answer me!!!!

You don't love that poem?

I hope see your post sooooooooooon

Ruqayeh-m April 4th 2010


Hey Behnam,
Congratulation my friend , you?ve chosen the best way to remove your confusion!!! I will
tell you why I am using this spelling for my name, but let me tell you something before
that ; it makes me haaaaaaaaaappy if you correct my mistakes or tell me where I am
wrong . Promise if there is any question feel free to ask.
And about the spelling of my name, I?d like to tell you its history!!! Few years ago I and
some of my friends were gathered our home and everyone had something to surprise
others. It was the same time that I started to learn English seriously. One of my friends
had run the Babylon dictionary that I haven?t seen before!! It pronounces every word
you write on the box; there is no limitation like other dictionaries!!! Then we started to
type some special word like our names that there aren?t in the dictionary. Finally the
best pronunciation was Ruqayeh. Using q instead of gh and u instead of o. you can check
it if you wish?????
What do you mean we have to put ?u? after ?q? ?
And about myself; I am originally from East Azarbajan province and I was born there so
you are right? we are Azarbayjani?. I know Azarbayjani well and I can talk as fluent as
you I am sure about that!!! Hahahaha
Nicely consideration, learning is a lifelong process and I agree with you.
By the way I tied grasses together, I do it every year. It is an opportunity to wish the best
for myself and my friends too. (In fact it is a part of our tradition). I try to enjoy every
single moment of my life that?s why I am doing such things.

Thanks a lot for you friendly letter. Please write for me about everything motivates you.
Sweetie Sometimes it is good to do something out of ordinary, what do you do to surprise
yourself?
Your prompt reply is highly appreciated.

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments!!


Ruqayeh , April 4, 2010

Marina1 April 4th 2010


Hello Kami,

Thanks a lot for your writing to me. you can't imagine how much I'm busy these days. My
family makes some changes in the decoration of the guest and living rooms. I can't iron
my clothes, I can't sit in a quit place, well everything gets its price. ;)

Yes dear, I'm going to travel again on 18th April for one week too. It's another training
course and it will be in Damascus too. To tell you the truth , I love traveling but I wish
the next time my trip would be to Iran to see all of you :). One of my co-workers is going
to travel to Iran for one week in order to make a training course there, I wish I were in
his place! I really envy him!

In the way of Damascus, while I was in the bus, all passengers were asleep and they were
making lots of noise during sleeping! What should poor Marina do then???? She put the
headphone and played the music (LOOOOOOOOOOOL).

Dear Kami, when I saw Iranian ladies I thought about you. I said to myself " is Kami like
this lady, or that one???!" , I really wish one day to meet you face to face. But let's make
a deal! If you came to Syria I'd invite you to a restaurant , but if I came to Iran you'd do
it (LOOOOOOOOOL) ;) ;)

Thanks for writing. Before finishing, I'd like to tell you a joke, it's a very funny one " a
man was walking in the street when he put his foot on a frog. He made his eyes came out
from his face. The man looked at that poor frog and said ' why are you surprised??!!' "
(LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL).

Take care, and write to Marina soon :).

Marina.

Marina1 April 4th 2010


Dear all my Christians friends ( Rosa, Clare, Andrew, Veronica , Cathy and all other
friends)

I'd like to say " Happy Easter day" for all of you. I hope you are enjoying this great day
with your families. I know that you were too busy recently in order to prepare for this day
, especially coloring the eggs :). Anyway , I hope after it you'll be active here again.
I've missed you.

Marina.

behnam April 5th 2010


Hi Marina,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. I am happy you are back with a
lot of first-hand knowledge. Well, you have been to Damascus to take part in a training
course, and to gain knowledge. :):):):)

You have written that there were some Iranian ladies, and the distance between their eyes
and eyebrows were long- it made you wonder!

There are two possibilities:

1- For the sake of beauty, some ladies remove the hair of their eyebrows partly, and then
make it narrow!

2- Some ladies believe that God has made a mistake in the place of eyebrows. They
believe eyebrow was much more beautiful if God put it upper naturally! Therefore, they
remove all hair from their eyebrows and make other eyebrows by tattooing, with different
places, different shapes, different sizes, and different curvatures!!!!

In my opinion, those kinds of eyebrows are not beautiful at all. I really hate those sorts of
eyebrows. How do you think of it?

This can be a good topic to discuss. Would you please write something about it?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

P.S: I hope all friends will participate in discussion this topic. Natural beauty or...can be
a proper title for this topic. Please do not hesitate to write about it. Thanks in advance.

Darioush April 5th 2010


Dear GHAZAL,

Hi my dear friend.How's it going?

Your story is beautiful instructive story. I want to copy it in my thread "STORIES AND
IDIOMS". Of course, with your permission.If you want to read more poems,take a look at
my thread.I would be happy to see you there.

Best wishes,

Darioush

behnam April 5th 2010


Hi Kamelia

How are you doing? I hope you are fine. Thank you so much for your friendly post.

I've recently received an email from you. It consists of some lovely pictures of the nature
in the north. They were very beautiful. Marvelous places! Thank you very much indeed.

You have asked me for writing about my journey. I've decided to write about it in details.
I will do it as soon as I can find time.

Mashhad was very crowded, packed with people and cars in fact. I personally dislike
crowded places. A point which makes me wonder is the huge amount of money which is
spent in Mashhad by too many passengers from all over Iran, even from other Muslim
countries! It also makes me think of having a shrine in other cities, particularly in
Marand. :):):) That is so beneficial.:):):)

Dear Kamelia, I also went to visit your university. A very large area is named 'Ferdowsi
University', but there were only a few buildings! For example, in a small dormitory, you
are six people living in a small room, whereas the area, which is considered as 'Ferdowsi
University', is bigger than a city!!! So funny!:(:(:( There is maybe some limitation, I don't
know, but it seemed strange to me. However, the university is located in a beautiful place,
so you are quite lucky in this regard.

I am not that important you have mentioned, but thank you for saying some good things
about me. That is very kind and positive attitude of you to think positively about me.

Please write something about 'natural beauty or...'. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

behnam April 5th 2010


Hi Rosa,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Thank you so much for posting some delightful
posts. I really love your posts. Your way of writing is excellent. It is easily understood.

I am so happy you are back. I hope you have enjoyed your trip.

Would you please write something about 'natural beauty or...'? I am sure it will be a
great job if we discuss this topic.

I hope to read from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

behnam April 5th 2010


Hi Darioush,

How are you keeping? I hope you are happy and healthy. Thank you for posting again.
You are a member of this circle of friends. You belong to this thread, and this thread
belongs to you.
Please try to write in this thread regularly. Dear Darioush, I often visit your thread.
Believe me, I was pressed for time, so I couldn't put any comments. I will try to share
some stories with people in your thread.

Would you please write your opinion about 'natural beauty or...'? Thank you for
participating actively both in posting and in discussing topics.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

behnam April 5th 2010


Hi Mortaza,

How are you dear professor? How about your family and your lovely daughter? I hope
all is well with you.

So many thanks for being among us. You are very important for me and for the thread.

Thanks for praising me. That is very kind of you. I am actually nothing without my
friends, and you are one of my best friends.

Dear Mortaza, I am sure your opinion about 'natural beauty or...' will be important for
us. Would you please express your opinion on this topic?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010
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sami April 5th 2010


Hello Ghazal

How are you? I hope you are fine. Thank you so much in offering your friendship and for
the nice poem, it's very kind of you. Of course I liked the poem and of course I want to be
your friend!!! :)))

You maybe know that I am usually busy and I haven't got much time to write. Now, we
come back to work after a week of holidays; however, I will try to be active, because I
want to keep your friendship as well as those of the other friends!

Whenever I come here, I do it in a hurry, to see whether a friend has written to me or not
and then to answer it, just this, it is a bit difficult for me to read other's posts, for this
reason....can you tell me a little bit about yourself?????

Waiting for your reply,


Your friend, Rosa, 5 April, 2010.

behnam April 5th 2010


Hi Ghazal,

How are you doing? I hope you are fine. How were your holidays? I hope you have fully
enjoyed your holidays.

Thanks a million for your post.

The story was great and the moral of it is the importance of taking efforts to achieve a
goal, and the to meet success. In a nutshell, 'no pain no gain' can be considered its
moral. Thank you for sharing it with us.

I have already seen another version of this story. I'm going to share it with you and with
other people. Here it is:

STRUGGLE

Trials in life can be tragedies or triumphs, depending on how we handle them. Triumphs
don't come without effort.

A biology teacher was teaching his students how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly. He
told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out
of the cocoon. However no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.

The students were waiting and it happened. The butterfly struggled to get out of the
cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the
cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it
didn't have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died!

When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that
by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the
struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The
boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died.

Apply this same principle to our lives. Nothing worthwhile in life comes without a
struggle.

As parents we tend to hurt the ones we love most because we don't allow them to struggle
to gain strength.

I hope you like it.

Dear Ghazal, would you please express your opinion about 'natural beauty or...'?

I hope to read from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

behnam April 5th 2010


Hi Roghayyeh,

How are things with you? I hope everything is going well with you.

Many thanks for your friendly post.

As far as I know, there is always a 'u' after any 'q'! For example, 'quite, quiet, question,
quotation, quick, ...'. Therefore, you have to write a 'u' after 'q' in your name, although it
has been pronounced so similar to what we say in Farsi by Babylon. By the way, you
should know the sounds are making by a machine in some dictionaries. They cannot be
reliable.

I don't know if you have got 'Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English' on your
system or not. I strongly recommend it.

It is against my strategy to correct people's mistakes. There are several reasons for this;
the main one is that I am a learner myself. On the other hand, your English is much
better than mine, so how can I correct you? To be honest, I am learning through reading
your posts.

Sometimes, I see some grammatical mistakes. In many cases, I try to send a signal
indirectly, for example I often write a sentence with correct structure. Please do not force
me to correct you, since it is not good to force someone into doing unfavourable things.
:):):):) LOOOL

Dear Roghayyeh, would you please let us know your opinion about 'natural beauty or..'?
I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

sahand April 5th 2010


Hello everybody
It?s the first time I?ve gone on this address. I?ve been hovering on this board for a while
but I haven?t really posted anything so I decided to introduce myself.
I?m Sahand, 24 year-old, Undergraduate in computer engineering field. I?m originally
from Tehran but I moved to London at the time I was born and went back to my home
town at the age of 7 but I?m not that good in English. My backgrounds are Pro-
Designing, Senior Programming, Furniture Production and Export, Teaching Fender
Stratocaster and Pop Guitar ? pretty diverse and random backgrounds but I feel that all
fields have given me the ability to connect and relate with people of all backgrounds.
I joined this forum not just to learn English but with fervent hope of meeting beautiful
minds.

Sincerely,
Sahand
E-mail Address: sahand_yegane@yahoo.com

Ruqayeh-m April 5th 2010


Dear Duarioush ,
I read your post, nicely said,? To accomplish the great things we must not only act, but
also dream not only plan but also believe?!!

Imagination is a part of our life that can be useful to achieve our goals; I strongly believe
it because last year I wrote my imagination about my life for the next 5 years and I was
going to plan for it but you cannot believe how everything comes true!!! I don?t know
how GOD tied everything together that I achieved them one after the other.

Sweetie, I?d like to know do you have any real experience in this regard. If yes please
write for me where and how, if no I ask you to test it. Please let me know what is your
idea?

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments!


Ruqayeh, April 5, 2010
Ruqayeh-m April 5th 2010
Dear Ghazal,
Hope everything goes well with you. What a nice story????????????????, I really
enjoyed it you cannot imagine how much!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks a lot my friend. I am waiting for the next one.

Oh, by the way I love the name Ghazal !!

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments!


Ruqayeh, April 5, 2010

Ruqayeh-m April 5th 2010


dear Ghazal ,
I dont know why the :):):):):):) change to ????? after story!!!! so write it agait , just for
you.

Thanks again.
Ruqayeh

Ruqayeh-m April 5th 2010


Dear Behanm,
Hi, how are you doing ? hope everything goes well with you.

You forget to answer my question!!! What do you mean by Natural Beauty ? would you
please open it up a little bit more?

Enjoy your life and have wonderful moments!


Ruqayeh, April 5, 2010
behnam April 5th 2010
Hi Roghayyeh,

How are things? I hope you are fine.

Thank you for fast reply. Which question do you mean?

You maybe write in Microsoft word format, then copy and paste in this box. In doing so,
some punctuation marks won't be recognized by this box. You have to rewrite all
punctuation marks, after pasting your file here. If you do it, you will get rid of extra ?
mark!

Natural beauty means for example eyebrows without tattooing. What do you think of it?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

ghazal April 5th 2010


Dear Behnam
I'm fine,and with kamelia have good time in university!

How are you ?thanks million for yourpost


yourstory was good too and I enjoy

And about my name do you know definition this name?


means full of love

About yourstory:
Az you know everythings that exist in world have reason

when we have problem maybe that help us to have good time in future or chose better
way for our life.

Every things that God created are beatifull and I really things God love all and want all
have good time in their life.

Sincerely

GHAZAL
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behnam April 5th 2010
Dear Roghayyeh,

Sorry, did you mean this question: what do you do to surprise yourself? Nothing.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

ghazal April 5th 2010


Dear Ruqayeh
Hi my friend.are you ok?

Yourwelcome and I 'm so happy because see that all my friend love my story

when I read another story like that write for you certainly .

I hope see yourpost soon

Sincerely
GHAZAL

Marina1 April 5th 2010


Dear sweet Rosa,

So many thanks for writing some sentences about Arabic civilization in Andalusia. I'd
really like to thank you from the bottom of my heart.

What Arabs did in Andalusia still in their minds. The way of building, poems, medicine ,
love, religion and many other things are still there between its castles, streets and even
air.

Granada is a beloved city in Arabs minds. I really wish to be there one day.

All in all " THANK YOU" from the bottom of an Arab lady's heart. :)

Dear Rosa, I'd like to share you a priceless email which I received , I hope you'll enjoy
and get the benefit of it. I hope all friends will read it too.
" seven things u shouldn't do after eating!!"
*Don't drink tea -Because tea leaves contain a high content of acid. This substance will
cause the Protein content in the food we consume to be hardened thus difficult to digest.

* Don't eat fruits immediately - Immediately eating fruits after meals will cause stomach
to be bloated with air. Therefore take fruit 1-2 hr after meal or 1hr before meal.

*Don't loosen your belt -Loosening the belt after a meal will easily cause the intestine to
be twisted & blocked.

*Don't bathe - Bathing will cause the increase of blood flow to the hands,
legs & body thus the amount of blood around the stomach will therefore decrease.
This will weaken the digestive system in our stomach.

*Don't walk about - People always say that after a meal walk a hundred steps and you
will live till 99 In actual fact this is not true.
Walking will cause the digestive system
to be unable to absorb the nutrition from the food we intake.

*Don't sleep immediately - The food we intake will not be able to digest properly.
infection in our intestine & Thus will lead to gastric.

*Don't smoke Experiment experts proves that


smoking a cigarette after meal is comparable
to smoking 10 cigarettes .

I found this tips are so important I hope you'll enjoy them.

Thanks for reading, I hope to read from you soon.


Marina.

Marina1 April 5th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Thanks a lot for your writing. how is the weather in Tehran??? Is it hot as Lattakia???
Oh God! The Summer is going to begin and the humidity's degree is going to raise here.
God bless us! :)

Emmmmmmm, nice question with nice explanations for that long distance between eyes
and eyebrows :). But Behnam, the ladies that I saw were natural beautiful,I'm sure about
it.
When a woman makes some changes in her face, we can guess the changes easily
especially when it comes to noses, mouths, cheeks and also eyebrows. So , honestly, the
Iranian ladies that I saw were so beautiful from Marina's point of view :).

Let's imagine that a man got married to a very beautiful girl but this beauty came after
lots of changes in her features in addition to wear extra make up, what would
happen???? Emmmmm, the children will come with a beauty which is related to the
origin not to the modified one (LOOOOOOOOL). So men, be careful with choosing your
wives. Lovely children means natural beauty. :) ;)

The strange behaviors from both boys and girls made girls make that changes. It's really
a clear fact. How do you think of it Behnam???Don't you think that men are a main
reason of such behaviors??? Don't you think that the extra Expectations are a reason
too??? What should a girl do when her society ask her directly and indirectly to make
some changes in her physical appearance???

There are lots of questions which are related to this topic.


I would like to complete it, but I wish you make the discussion more active by making
comments in my writing and nswering my questions. :)

I hope to read from you soon.

Marina.

Bluegreen April 6th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hii. How are you doing? How's everything going? So finally you didn't go on that trip
did you?Oh come on, it's no big deal at all, not going somewhere might mean that there
could be other bnefits in not going! At least I believe so ! :)

So, Do I really feel you with the sence of life? Wow that makes me think of myself as a
powerful girl :)):)) Any ways, thank you so much for saying some good things about me!

Honey, I read your post concerning the respct, knowledge, money and their relationships,
well I really don't know what to say because it's somehow complicated!

You know, in this world we might face lots of difficulities regarding hamun behaviour
and we can't tolerate them becuase we think they've been unfair to us right?!

But they, themselves think that it is appropriate for them to judge others just byu their
appearance! Well I don't know who has given them the right to do that?! Or the right to
tjudge about other's personalities just by face!
Well, I think the sense of ethnocentricity's got some hands in between! Now I bet you
know what it means! Ethnocenterism means believing that one's own culture or
behaviour is better than other ones! You see what I mean?

Because they think that they're perfect they give the right to themlselves to judge about
others as simple as they do!

Dear Elham, don't pay attention to thers, you can't make every one's mouth closed (this is
a persian saying I don't know the English one LOOL) Can you? So the only idea's that
just let them say whatever they want, try to believe that you are living on your own and
that you're not dependant on others!

All of us might have experienced the same problem as you did, don't worry, this happens!

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 6th 2010


Dear Roqayyeh( Behnam shaked my conviction about your name honey) LOOOL

Hi. How are you doing? How's everything in Tehran?I hope you're doing all ok.

Dear Friend, it's been not such a long time since I wrote to you, but I miss it, I had to tell
you something about my last post,

At first thank you so much for reading my post and replying to that, then I'd wanted to
say that If there was a mistake on behalf of me between the words TRAINING AND
TRAVELING you must forgive me, maybe that was really my fault!

Oh but the truth is that I wanted to hear your last sentence dear, you said that you
disagree with the idea and that's it!!!

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen April 6th 2010
Dear Morteza,

Hi. How are you doing dear Professor? How's your family?And lovely Negar? Kiss her
on behalf of me please.

Thank you so much for reading my post and replying to that, that was so nice of you,

Uh and about that text messege and you're speech of student's desires I must say that all
of us has experienced such things, haven't we? I mean I just want you to go back to your
studying days,sometimes when you were tired and you had a difficult course at that time
forexample: Differencials didn't you really wanted that professor or teacher to be absent
at that time?LOOOL I bet you did!

There's a little sense of lazyness in all of us sometimes! But just sometimes! Right?

I'd be really glad to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 6th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Hii. How are you? How are studies going? I hoep everything's going on ver well with
you.

Oh I read your post and the story I think that was a really nice one thanks for that,

Honey, Dear Behnam asked such a beautiful question I bet that would be nice discussing
about that, So I wonder if you'd like to express your opinions about that matter( Oh not
that as fast as you said ey! LOOOL)

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

shanar April 6th 2010


hi to all friends.happy new year .im new member that join to this place & special to this
lovely & fantastic group. im shanar , female,19 from iran.i study english literature in
ferdowsi university in
mashhad.my best friends that you know them (dear kamelia & dear ghazal) offered to me
join to this interesting place.im realy glad to be friend with you because here and the
person who come and write these things are very exotic.now i wanna appreciate of my
best friend,kamelia,because of her clapping to join here.thanks honey.
in addition i wanna appreciate of you,behnam, because you are realy talent & created
such a nice place and useful

ghazal April 6th 2010


Hi dear Rosa
I was so happy when saw your post
thanks million for your reply

I?m18years old and now I study English literature and I really love my course.
When I have time I read best poems and novels
And listen to music
now I live in dormitory

What do you want to know about me?


You please say some things about yourself?

I hope to see your post sooooooon

sincerely

GHAZAL
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ghazal April 6th 2010


Dear shanar
Hi honey , I?m so happy because you join to this thread

I hope you have good time here and find good friends

Oh now we are three class mates here you must sustain your friends (LOOOOL)

Please tell everybody definition your name

SINCERELY
GHAZAL

ghazal April 6th 2010


Hi sahand

How are you? I hope you have wonderful times in your life

Welcome to this thread, I usually for start friendship tender poem to person and now it?s
your poem :

"Truly A Friend"

Someone to lean on when problems appear,


Someone on whom you?d depend,
Someone who?ll lift you when you?re down in the dumps,
That someone is truly a friend.
That?s how I feel about you my dear friend;
You?re so special just as you are.
Just to know that you?re there provides comfort to spare;
A friendship like yours sets the bar.

I hope you enjoy


I hope see your post soon

sincerely
GHAZAL

ghazal April 6th 2010


Hi morteza
how are you? happy new year
I hope you have wonderful times in holiday

I understand you are Professor and you studied mathematic


Oh I really love mathematic
about your picture in your profile I think she is your girl and her name is nagar
She is really lovely how old is she?

kamelia is my friend and she is my classmate too,so I introduce myself

I hope see your post soon


GHAZAL

ghazal April 6th 2010


Dear Helen

?Ni hao? my new friend

What are you doing? I didn?t see your post ,I hope you enjoy your life.

You said your religion is Buddhism.

I?m Muslim and I read some things about your religion about Nirvana. but I want to
know more
Please tell me about Nirvana?

I tried but I can?t translate last sentences that you write for me,
please translate for me

?wo ai ni?
GHAZAL

sahand April 6th 2010


Hello Ghazal

How is everything ?

I wonder whether it's Ghazal or Ghazaal ?

Thanks for your lovely poem. It was such a fantastic greeting ! You're the first one who is
writing to me on this board. It seems that everybody's writing to their own friends, not
others !

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely,
Sahand
Aylin April 6th 2010
Hi Behnam,
o,my God,I`m so sorry,I realy feel disaterous!
Dear Behnam,there is a big misunderstanding,I felt very bad when I read your post and
your idea about my first post,I never ever meant that way you think,but if I completely
unintentionaly caused you and my other friends to consider my post and my question
unfriendly I`m so sorry.

I Do apologize again from all and you Behnam,to be misunderstood is very oppressive:((

Cordialy,Aylin

helen.fan April 6th 2010


Dear friends

The past few days we have a holiday, Ching Ming Festival, just concluded, very happy to
see everyone again.

Love you
Helen

helen.fan April 6th 2010


Dear GHAZAL

I miss you, Oh, Chinese is "wo xiang ni". I'm all right, thank you

The past few days we have a holiday, Ching Ming Festival.

About Nirvana, also can be understood as Paradise, or heaven. I said my religion is


Buddhism, but I did not join the church, or go to church every week. This is my religion.
Most Chinese people believe in Buddhism. This is like a lot of people believe in God as
Christianity.

I said, you know?

wo ai ni
Helen
Bluegreen April 6th 2010
Dear Marina,

Hii.How are you doing? You made me sp happy with your lovely post to me. So how's
everything at work? and at home? Still busy with designing and decoration of the
ornaments?
I really hope that everything's going on very well with you and your sweet family.

Honey, thank you for the nice explanation about iranian ladies, actually Kamelia's
among of those beautiful ladies that you saw :)):)):)) ( she's the best of them ) Oh my god
LOOOL

Um, did you know that I actually have the same definittion for the empty space between
the eyes and eyebrows as Dear Behnam did? At first I thought that they had done their
face! Be it plastic surgery or just removing the extra hair, but then you said that they
seemed so natural! So I give up! Maybe we are that beautiful LOOOL

Oh and about that joke, it was such a funny joke but meanwhile it was harsh too,LOOOL,
honey my tplerance towards hurting animals is so low! I can't watch them be hurt or
killed by people ! Poor things!

Dear Marina, I actually read your post to Dear Behnam about the matter of natural
beauty too and I liked it because you had written about the originity of this behaviour and
why do some girls and boys do plastic surgeries in order to achieve more beauty!

Well, I'm gonna express my opinion in a post to him and I'd be really glad if you read
that one too,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 6th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hii. How are you doing? How's Tehran's weather these days? Oh I think Mashad's sky is
having a kind of mental disability! One day suny the other day cloudy! You're never
gonna know which dress is suitable for you to wear!

So you visited Mashad and you're gonna write about every detail in another post huh?
Then that would be wonderful, I can't wait to read that!

And about the university, I agree, they say that Park e Mellat's area( imagine the
vastness of the park) is just half the Ferdowsi universitie's area! Can you believe it? But
unfortunatly we're living in dormitories with such a small space, like everybody keeps
saying we're living like ants in holes!

But here, If I say the bad points I shall mention the good ones too, like the classes and
colleges or faculities(we say) are much bigger especially ours! Their structure is cpmlex
and they've been attached with long halls and lobbies! I wonder if I could show you some
pictures of it!

Oh, something else I remebered, yesterday when I was taking a walk out of the university,
taggin along my friends, I couldn't believe my eyes, they'd fashioned some artisitically
done things! Like wagons of Haft Seen, or they'd put some mirriors with the shapes of
butterflies flying over them! I bet you saw them! I think that they will attract tourists
more!

I talked alot about Mashad but nothing about The Natural beauty or the artificial one,
but here's my opinion,

I wonder if you believe in this or not but BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER!
I think the one who does surgery doesn't have enough self-confidence about his or her
face and on the other hand he or she thinks that if this surgury happens all the worldly
eyes would be on her!

But I see that most of them seem even uglier than before! Have you ever seen one of
them? Their faces look so handmade! And most of them are alike! LOOOL

In my opinion we're being created by god and this outter surface of our body is not THE
WHOLE THING! By doing this we're just interfering his work! Maybe he made us like
this to be different from others and I think life's nothing without the variety!

The other reason can be fashion and this daily mode! Surgeeries or even doing tattos are
so popular or even piercings, so because my friend did that then I'm gonna have a tatto of
dragon on my both arms and... I think they don't know why are they doing that?!

You know by changing the normal shape they're making a painting page of their body!
I hope that I made it clear enough,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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Bluegreen April 6th 2010


Dear Friends,

By this post I would like to introduce my friend Shanar to here,She's a really good friend
of mine.

She was intersted in doing some works about English so I suggested this thread to her.

Wish you the best,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 6th 2010


Dear Shanar,

Hii. How are you honey?It's been not such a long time since I joined this thread but I'm
really prud of being here among such lovely sophisticated friends, Now I wanted to
welcome you as behalf of me.

Honey,you'd be promising me to write as soon as you can and get to know with all of
friends here,

So please: 1. Be in contact always


2. Try to write as carefully and nicely as you can

Waiting to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen April 6th 2010
Dear Helen,

Hi honey. How are you?How's China doing?Welcome back dear.

Well I see that you a party and holiday, glad to hear that, but honey when you name
something so must know that Kamelia gets so curious and wants to knowmore about that
LOOL

Now would you mind telling me about the originity of this Ching Ming festival? I really
would like to know about that.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam April 6th 2010


Hi Sahand,

Welcome to this humble thread. Thank you very much for putting message on this site.
Thank you once again for joining us.

You have been to London, and you have lived there for at least 6 years. How lucky you
are! Come on man! Is it possible to spend your childhood in an English spoken country
(the center of the English language in fact) and still be hopeless at it? I can't believe it. I
never believe it. COME ON!:):):)

Your English is excellent. I had no right to judge about it, so sorry.

Please do not hesitate to write to all people. I am sure my friends are kind enough to
answer you. By the way, BE PATIENT! I have to write to people who has written to me
(be nobat), it takes me a lot of time, so I couldn't write you yesterday.

Your subjects are computer and music, but unfortunately I know nothing about them! I
am sure we have got many other things in common. At least we are both male! :):):):)

Would you please write a little bit more about yourself? In particular, I am very
interested in your childhood (the time you have spent in London); could you possibly
write something about your childhood memories?

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 6 April 2010

shanar April 6th 2010


dear kamelia
hi honey. how are you?
thanks for your welcome.
i promis to you be on contact an write nicely.If i can.
im proud of being here too ,cause here is realy fantastic
thanks again for ur help
have a nice time .loooooooooooool
shanar

shanar April 6th 2010


Hi dear behnam
Iwanna write something about natural beauty and invite you and others to read them.the
things that i write for you are my personal opinion.
You know there is a famous sentence that said:god is beautiful and love beauty.Around
this sentence we can discover that all the things in the world has their own natural beauty
like people ,animals,nature in different seasons,birds,sky,day,night... .cause god created
all the world.you know this kind of beauty is different in each group.some one have too
much of this beauty an others maybe not much(or so so).i belive that even some animals
or insects like beetle, lizaed etc that we think they are homely,are beautiful and even
useful for us and
invirement . i think when people want to speak about beauty, most of them, heed to
outward beauty .i mean that they are shallow.its better that we pay attention to inner
beauty rather than outward beauty because the outward beauty ,maybe, Can find in all
people (artificial or natural) but inner beauty not exist in all men.
Have a nice time:)
Shanar;)

shanar April 6th 2010


dear ghazal
hi my friend.how are you?
thanks for your welcome.you ask me to defination my name.okay.shanar is a turkish word
that it mean pomegranate's blossom .
i hope i explain it clearly
have a nice time
shanar

Darioush April 6th 2010

Dear Behnam,

How?s everything? Thanks for sharing a story with me. As you know, writing in one
thread is time-consuming let alone in two threads. That?s why I can?t write in your
thread. You forgive me, too. Thanks from bottom of my heart for your compliment about
my thread. When I begin to do something, nothing can prevent me from pursuing it.

Darioush April 6th 2010

Dear Ruqaye,

How?s it going? Are things going well with you?


I believe it, like you. I was depressed 7 years ago, because I failed in university entrance
exam. So, I decided to go English institute for 4 years. During these years, some people
teased me, even made fun of me, but I had irony will, and knowing that God help me. two
years ago, I accepted in university. Now I?m one of top students of university in English.
And also, I believe this sentence ?where there is a will, there is a way?
Enjoy every moment of your life.
With all best wishes,
Darioush

behnam April 6th 2010


Hi Shanar,

Thank you very much for putting message in this thread. Welcome to this friendly place.
Thank you once more for joining us.

Would you please let us know more about you? Could you possibly tell us a little bit more
about yourself? Would you mind telling me what exactly does your name mean?
I guess you know that I am an Azerbaijani. I speak and understand Azerbaijani quite
well. I am also familiar with its history and folklore. However, your name is unfamiliar to
me, or it is fair to say that I am not familiar with your name.

There is no doubt that your name is very nice, but I am asking just to satisfy my curiosity.
Curiosity killed the cat, but I hope not to be killed by you. :):):):):) I am only joking. I
hope you don't mind.

Thanks a lot for expressing your opinion about beauty. I couldn't agree more. However, I
wonder how you've dared to write 'inner beauty not exist in all men'! :)):)):)) Don't you
afraid of men and their anger? :):):)

Obviously roster is more beautiful than hen. If you pay attention to animals, you will see
that males are much more beautiful than females. According to some philosophies,
human beings cannot be an exception. Therefore, men are more beautiful than women.
(What a dangerous idea! :):):)) What do you think of this idea?

Oh yes, I've forgotten that according to you women are more beautiful than men when it
comes to considering inner beauty. I agree, inner beauty counts!

Dear Shanar, I am pulling your leg (sarbesaring! :):):):) I hope not to take it out of its
place (az sheddate keshidan az jash dar nayaram! :):):):):) LOOOL

My friends know it is uncommon for me to write in such an informal way to someone for
the first time. I did it, because there is an obvious reason. YOU ARE MY FRIENDS'
FRIEND! Yes, you are Ghazal and Kamelia's friend, so I felt easy to play some jokes on
you. I hope my strange way of writing won't upset you.

I hope to hear more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 6 April 2010
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metzean April 6th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I hope you are doing fine, Once again you resuscitated the thread and many posts have
been exchanged since you came back from your trip.

These days I am very busy working till overtime ,may to pay back my arrears.
Thanks for following the story of new year presents, I never think about the story so
elaborately as you done ,you know my two weakness points are English and mathematic ,
so I helplessly make up my mind about dividing of 13 girls in 8 villas. The only hint that
drop out of my mind is that I like to stay in one villa with Clare and Mortaza , and the
other thing is that I have no villa of mine in klardasht.I gave the new year present to my
friends.

I accept you suggestion ,whatever you assign the circumstances.

Sincerely
Mohsen

sahand April 6th 2010


Hello Behnam

Thanks for your wonderful greeting. It's a great honor for me to have such lovely friends
on this board.

You've got the most crowded topic on this site, how could you do that man ? You're a
genius !

I've been far far away from London at about 17 years, I can't even find anyone to have a
little conversation with him ... I really don't expect myself to be good at English.

Too many too choose from ! Ok, gotta play along ...

I was a big fan of Disneyland. It's one of the rare places that I can literally remember
how I felt to be a kid, complete with smell and sound associations. My favorite ride has
probably always been the Enchanted Tiki Room.
Back row of a near-empty music class
Not going to school
High Street Kensington where I spent my childhood in
Christmas and street parties

And the last memory I can remind happened when I was a 7 year-old boy. I was
wandering around in the airport. There was a man who keeps calling up saying
something in Farsi. I really didn't know what was going on and I couldn't even answer
him. I was wondering how come he is talking that way ! I was that sleepy I had forgotten
I've just arrived in Tehran !

Can't seem to remind much in the smells department though ... yeah, that was my sweet
childhood life !

Hope to read from you soon


Sincerely,
Sahand

shanar April 7th 2010


Dear behnam
Hiiiiii.how are you going????????
Thank's for your welcome. you ask me say a bit about my self. So, I write biography of my
self. as you know my name is shanar, second children in family. from gonbad & its
yummy that i and dear kamelia are townsman. my father and my mother are teacher. I
studing english literature in ferdowsi university.
It's so marvelous that you are an azarbaijani(yashasen azarbaijan:):):) ). I love very
much turkish language but i cant completely speak it.You said that you know history and
folklore of azarbaijan . it's wonderful !!!!!!!!!!! come onnnnnnnnnnn:) please tell me a bit
information about it .
meanwhile let me say something.
I didn't wanna said than inner beauty doesn't exist in all men i wanna say all man and
people pleas excuse me and accept my apology. I never wanted to disdain to men . I am
so sorry honey.
You said that through the animals, males are more beautiful than females but i dont know
why someone, when wanna tell story ,said miss kindly sun :):) but for wolf or fox they
said mr mischievous fox!!(poor fox):(:(
you see that even in story all the bad faces are for male.
but i think all the people(men or women) are beautiful and there is no exception.
thanks for your joke. I like this kind of writing you can be relax with me because im witty
too and never get upset dear.
you make me very happy with this post and i realy glad that you permit me to write here
and be with this kindly friends.
* HAVE A NICE TIME *
waiting impatiently to read from you,
respectfully yours,
shanar ;)

mortaza.abtahi April 7th 2010

Dear Behnam,

How are you?

In my opinion, when every part of a system is in its order and everything is balanced then
that system seems beautiful. For example, a very tall man does not seem physically
beautiful just like a very short man. Neither a woman who has a very dark skin nor a
woman with a very white skin may be considered as a beautiful lady.

Human beings, however, try to make their environment beautiful. For example, if
someone has got a big nose then he/she will probably go to a doctor to do a plastic
surgery on his/her nose. Almost all women, and some men, wear make up to hide some
disorders that may exist on their faces.

Let me give one more example. With no doubt, having beautiful sleep (= good sleep)
every night is a wish for everyone. But, how can one achieve this goal. Some people go to
big stores and buy very soft and expensive beds and pillows. They may also try to
decorate their bedroom with luxury furniture. But everyone knows that it does not
necessarily lead to a naturally beautiful sleep; it may seem artificial!

As I said before, my father is a farmer and I used to work on land to help him. Often we
went out to do farming and we stayed at work during the daylight. So we had to take
some food with us for lunch. Consisting of a loaf of bread and a piece of cheese our lunch
was very simple. But it was very delicious and palatable.

When we came back home from work we were very tired and there was nothing as good
as drinking a cup of tea. After eating supper we could barely stay awake; we went to bed
and had a very nice and beautiful sleep.

Now, I am tired of drinking tea. Some nights I have to stay in bed for an hour to fall into
sleep. Eating a loaf of bread for lunch is no longer beautiful in my life. Changing my bed
will not lead to a naturally beautiful sleep.

...

Finally, let me say again that everything is naturally beautiful as long as it is in its order.
If something does not seem beautiful we cannot make it beautiful unless we put it in its
right place. For example, if I don't do exercise regularly then I may not experience a
good sleep in my life, even if I take some medicine.

Thank you for reading and I hope to read from you soon.

Mortaza, April 07, 2010.

mortaza.abtahi April 7th 2010

Dear Kamelia,
Thank you very much for your nice message.

I clearly remember that when I was a student there were some courses that I loved if their
professors did not came to the class on time. But there were also many courses that I
loved being in class and learning more and more from my professor.

I think these days a huge part of students are not motivated enough to study their courses
and increase their knowledge. When I was a student my classmates were less than 20 and
almost all of us were competing with each other. But, now I cannot feel a similar
situation in my university.

How is your university?

Thank you for reading and I hope to hear from you soon.

Yours sincerely,
Mortaza, April 07, 2010.

mortaza.abtahi April 7th 2010

Dear Ghazal,

Thank you very much for writing to me. It makes me very happy.

You are right, I put my daughter's photo in my profile. Some friends put a flower for their
picture; it is very nice, but to me my daughter is much more beautiful than any other
flower. As you said her name is Negar and she is now one year and one month and 15
days!

By the way, you said that you love math. I am very happy to hear that. Actually you
belong to a small group of people who love mathematics. One reason that an individual
like math is that he/she is capable of learning it and understanding it. So I assume that
you are a very smart person:))

Yours sincerely,
Mortaza, April 07, 2010.

sami April 7th 2010


Hello friends!!

How are you??? It is so nice of seeing you are active!!! However...the fact that you are
active makes me be inactive!!!! If you write, I am insterested in reading your posts but I
dont have time to write then...

I want to thank you because you with this you make me happy!!! I enjoy a lot reading
your writings!!!!

Hello Mortaza!!! It is great to see you here again!! How long!!! How are things with
you??? I hope you and your family are healthy. Tell me something about yourself; what
have you been doing all this time?????

Hi nice Marina and Behnam; I'm so happy to see you here. I address to you together
because you both always go and come together!!! You form a good team!!!

Marina thank you for sharing that email with me, I enjoyed reading it and I think it is
quite useful.

About the topic of natural beauty, I would say that I prefer natural beauty rather than
artificial one; I think natural beauty is much more beautiful than the other one. I respect
those people who have their face, breasts, etc, however I personally think that I will never
do it, unless it is required for my health.
I read a nice post about it but I dont remember who wrote it, it was advising men to
choose a wife whose beauty is natural, so their children will be beautiful...(LOL) It is
very funny!!!!I would also like to write the saying: "Beauty is on the eye of the beholder".
Maybe what is beautiful for you, it is not for me, or the other way round...

Dear Kamelia, I read your post too, thank you very much for writing to me. The name
Alhambra comes from "Al ?amr?'" in arab (the red, ????????????, from "al Qal'at al-
hamra" (red fortress) (wikipedia). I didnt know why it was called Alhambra and thanks to
you(and wikipedia) I know it ;)) It is called the red fortress because it was being built at
night and due to the light of some torches it was seen red from afar. (this is at least what
wikipedia says!) It is a really really beautiful place, you should come to visit it and you
know you have got a home to stay in!

And now, my friends, I need your help...Imagine you have been wishing something a lot,
wishing from the bottom of your heart, but due to several reasons it has always been
unattainable for me. However, now I have the chance of attaining it, I am really wishing,
but If I get it know I will be hurting someone's feelings... What will you do??? What do
you suggest me??? I know I won't have this chance in the future, but it is hard for me to
decide when people's feelings are involved. I would rather lose it forever than hurting
someone...Please...I need your help

I hope to read from you soon and forgive me for not writing a post to each of you!
Have a nice time,
Rosa, 8 April 2010.

helen.fan April 8th 2010


Dear Kamelia
I'm fine, miss you very much.

On Ching Ming, of course, I can tell you.

Ching Ming Festival, the standard translation for the "Tomb-sweeping Day".
Qing Ming is a time to remember the dead and the dearly departed. More important, it is
a period to honour and to pay respect to one's deceased ancestors and family members.
Because it reinforces the ethic of filial piety, Qing Ming is a major Chinese festival.
Literally meaning "clear" (Qing) and "bright" (Ming), this Chinese festival falls in early
spring, on the 106th day after the winter solstice. It is a "spring" festival, and it is an
occasion for the whole family to leave the home and to sweep the graves of their
forebears. Chinese being practical people this sweeping of the graves is given an
extended period, that is, 10 days before and after Qing Ming day. Among some dialect
groups a whole month is allocated.

Ching Ming Festival, also known as outing section, according to the Gregorian calendar,
it is every year 4 to 6 April between, it is greeted with sunshine and vegetation Tulv
season, it is also one spring outing (the ancient name Outing) good time, so the ancients
a clearer outing, and launched a series of sports practices. In ancient times, there is a
saying, "March Day."

Yours
Helen

helen.fan April 8th 2010


Dear Kamelia

I am looking for some information in the following, I hope to help you.

Celebrated two weeks after the vernal equinox, Tomb Sweeping Day is one of the few
traditional Chinese holidays that follows the solar calendar-- typically falling on April 4,
5, or 6. Its Chinese name "Qing Ming" literally means "Clear Brightness," hinting at its
importance as a celebration of Spring. Similar to the spring festivals of other cultures,
Tomb Sweeping Day celebrates the rebirth of nature, while marking the beginning of the
planting season and other outdoor activities.

Qing Ming Jie in Ancient Times


In ancient times, people celebrated Qing Ming Jie with dancing, singing, picnics, and kite
flying. Colored boiled eggs would be broken to symbolize the opening of life. In the
capital, the Emperor would plant trees on the palace grounds to celebrate the renewing
nature of spring. In the villages, young men and women would court each other.

The Tomb Sweeping Day as Celebrated Today


With the passing of time, this celebration of life became a day to the honor past
ancestors. Following folk religion, the Chinese believed that the spirits of deceased
ancestors looked after the family. Sacrifices of food and spirit money could keep them
happy, and the family would prosper through good harvests and more children.

Today, Chinese visit their family graves to tend to any underbrush that has grown. Weeds
are pulled, and dirt swept away, and the family will set out offerings of food and spirit
money. Unlike the sacrifices at a family's home altar, the offerings at the tomb usually
consist of dry, bland food. One theory is that since any number of ghosts rome around a
grave area, the less appealing food will be consumed by the ancestors, and not be
plundered by strangers.

Honoring Ancestors
Honoring ancestors begins with proper positioning of a gravesite and coffin. Experts in
feng shui, or geomancy, determine the quality of land by the surrounding aspects of
streams, rivers, trees, hills, and so forth. An area that faces south, with groves of pine
trees creates the best flow of cosmic energy required to keep ancestors happy.
Unfortunately, nowadays, with China's burgeoning population, public cemetaries have
quickly surplanted private gravesites. Family elders will visit the gravesite at least once a
year to tend to the tombs.

While bland food is placed by the tombs on Qing Ming Jie, the Chinese regularly provide
scrumptious offerings to their ancestors at altar tables in their homes. The food usually
consists of chicken, eggs, or other dishes a deceased ancestor was fond of. Accompanied
by rice, the dishes and eating utensils are carefully arranged so as to bring good luck.
Sometimes, a family will put burning incense with the offering so as to expedite the
transfer of nutritious elements to the ancestors. In some parts of China, the food is then
eaten by the entire family.

Kites
Besides the traditions of honoring the dead, people also often fly kits on Tomb Sweeping
Day. Kites can come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, and colors. Designs could include
frogs, dragonflies, butterflies, crabs, bats, and storks.

Best Wishes
Helen

Darioush April 8th 2010


Dear friends,

Sand and Stone


A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the
journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one
who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: "TODAY MY
BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE."
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The
one, who had been slapped, got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend
saved him. After the friend recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:
"TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE."
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you
wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"
The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where
winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us,
we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."
LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND, AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS
IN STONE.

Best wishes,

Darioush

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sami April 8th 2010


Hi Ghazal

How are you? I hope you are fine, enjoying English literature as much as possible!!! Did
you know that I also studied English Literature at University? I loved it and I still love it;
If I could go to University and study again I would choose it again.

What is your favourite period of English literature? Which kind of literature do you
prefer? By the way, what is your favourite piece of literature??

I have more questions for you :)) Dear Ghazal, why are you studying English literature??
Most people choose their field of study according to some reasons, one of them is having
the possibiity of getting a good job, and another one is just because they like it. What is
yours? I chose mine because I knew very well that I wanted to be an English teacher, and
the way of achieving it was this.

I didnt study just English literature, I study English philology and literature was one of
the areas, the others were English language, syntax, grammar, history and culture. I
loved them all! What a good time I had a University!!! Those old years!!! ;))) Oh my
God!!!!!!! I'm talking like an old lady!!! (LOL)

I have another question for you dear friend, what do you think of living in a
dormitory??? Do you like it, or you prefer living at home with your family instead? What
are (for you) the advantages and disadvantages of living there???

Sorry for asking so many questions! ;))) I hope you answer them. I would liketo read
from you soon,
Have a nice time,
Rosa, 8 April, 2010.

behnam April 8th 2010


Hi Elham,

How are things? I hope all is well with you.

I've promised to write something about 'education', 'values' and 'respect'.

I've recently read a book. There were some sections, discussing this subjects. I found
them interesting, so I'd like to copy some parts of the book into this place.

It should be mentioned that I've modified some sentences in order to make them easier.

"...Information cannot be knowledge! We receive a lot of information in schools and


colleges. Don't get me wrong. We do need information to be educated. However, we need
to know the true meaning of education.

True education is training of both the head and the heart. An uneducated thief may steal
from the freight car but an educated one may steal the entire railroad (Cho dozdy ba
cheragh ayad gozidetar barad kala!).

Intellectual education influences the head, and values based education influences the
heart. In fact, education that does not train the heart can be dangerous. If we want to
build character in our offices, homes and society, we must achieve a minimum level of
moral. Education that builds fundamental traits of character such as honesty,
compassion, courage, persistence and responsibility is absolutely essential. We don't
need more academic education; we need more values education. I would like to stress
that a person who is morally educated is much more valuable than a morally bankrupt
person with excellent academic qualifications!

We need to compete for knowledge and wisdom, not for grades. Knowledge is piling up
facts, wisdom is simplifying it. One could have good grades and a degree without
learning much. The most important thing one can learn is to "learn to learn." People
confuse education with the ability to memorize facts. Education of the mind without
morals creates a menace to society.

In a nutshell, educated persons are those who can choose wisely and courageously under
any circumstances. If they have the ability to choose between wisdom and foolishness,
between good and bad, between virtuousness and vulgarities, regardless of the academic
degrees they have, then they are educated.

Education and knowledge without common sense has little meaning. Common sense is
the ability to see things as they are and do them as they ought to be done. We are born
with five senses touch, taste, sight, smell, and hearing. But successful people have a sixth
sense common sense. Common sense is gained in spite of, not necessarily as a result of,
education. The best education without common sense is worthless. An abundance of
common sense is called wisdom..."

I've chosen those sentences, it means that I do agree with the writer! :):):), and I think
like him.

I hope that helps.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 April 2010

ghazal April 8th 2010


Dear Rosa
Hi my new friend, how are you? I fine thanks

Now I must ask your question like student that ask teacher (LoooL)

Az you know I study literature because I really love poem and novel and I want to
translate best novel and best letter at future
and learning English is my life

I?m so happy that we are studding same course and our course is best, isn?t right ?

You know living in dormitory at first was hard for me because in my home I have special
room and my mother always support me when I studied but living here is new experience
for me and now I have very good friends in dormitory

being far from family is hard but I think this maybe help me to have new life in this age.

After months I adopt my with new situation I have.


BEST WHISHES FOR YOU

GHAZAL

ghazal April 8th 2010


Hi mortaza

Hi my teacher how are you? I hope you and your daughter have good time

Oh I think I can understand when you see negar what feeling you have
because my brother have daughter and she is one years old and 4days and when my
brother comeback to home after work she is very happy(hesabi babayie!negar chi?)

and I can see sheen in his eyes that show happiness .

Az I said I really love mathematic but three years ago I had teacher, she said me
something that wasn?t fair and I had bad remembrance .

SIMCERLLY

GHAZAL

behnam April 8th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you.

I've promised to write about my journey. On Friday, we left Tehran at about 10 in the
morning. The weather was nice. I was driving carefully. My father was sitting in the front
seat, next to me, and my mother was sitting in the back seat. We had different audio files;
a cassette for my father full of Azerbaijani music, some audio files for my mother saved in
my flash memory, and finally a lot of audio files for me downloaded from the Internet, all
my files were in English. We shared the time with each other: Everybody had right to
listen to his/her favorite music for 30 minutes. When I was listening to my audio files, my
parents were listening to their favourite music on their mobiles. However, when my
father's favourite music was broadcasting on cassette player, I listened to it too. It was
the same for my mother's favourite music. When FM player was broadcasting her
favourite music, I listened to it too, but they couldn't stand my English files! :(:(:( We
argued about this matter with each other many times! :(:(:(
There were people who gave us the map of Semnan province. It was so helpful. In
Semnan we stopped to drink a cup of tea. After drinking tea, I went to a shop and filled
the flask with boiled water again.

In Damghan we stopped to have lunch. We ate some homemade food, then I went to gas
station because the car needed some petrol. There were a long line in the gas station. I
dislike standing in any lines. I got off and went to have a walk and wanted my father to
stand in the line and fill the tank of the car. It took us about one hour. In Damghan, I was
always thinking of our friend Mortaza. I wish I had had his mobile number!

In Sabzevar we stopped, because this time we needed to go to the t... (Oh my God, all the
life is filling and emptying some holes over and over again, how stupid we are!!!) The
t...was VERY dirty, you won't understand and imagine how much dirty it was. Not only
there, I can easily say that I didn't see any clean t... during the journey!!!

Now I'd like to digress. I remember once I asked some friends to write about what they
would do if they could be God! I think it was possible for God to create human beings in
a different way, with different system of feeding, eating and losing waste material. In
short, if I was God, I would change this system, and would replace it with another
modern one, like getting energy just by smelling something rather than eating and... I
believe, stomach is the main enemy of human beings. It is really boring and bothering to
fill and empty it again and again. Particularly, when we have to use some dirty t...:)):)):))
on the other hand :(:(:(:(

It was desert, dry lands, as far as the eye could see! I couldn't see any green places until
Neyshapoor. I found this city very beautiful. It was about 6 PM we arrived in
Neyshapoor. I was quite tired, so we pitched our tent, although the weather was cold. We
ate something and then slept. In the morning, we got up early and had breakfast! Then we
went to visit Attar's tomb and the tomb of Khayyam. Oh my God, these two famous people
are buried in a very beautiful places. Some people had horses. I rode a horse for about 5
minutes and paid $2! Then we visited Shadyakh, it was quite interesting!

We had lunch in Neyshapoor, then we left it at about 2PM. The distance between
Neyshapoor and Mashhad is about 130 KM. It took me two hours to drive, because it was
very windy. It was difficult to control the car.

We arrived at Mashhad at about 4 PM. We directly went to our hotel. We took some rest
after having a shower. We visited Imam Reza's shrine in the evening. I cannot call it
visiting somewhere, since it was packed with people, as if all Iranian people were there! I
just told him hello from distance!

One thing made me very sad and disappointed. When you see people try their best to
touch Imam Reza's shrine, you feel proud of yourself that you are among them. However,
when you come out, you see people fooling each other! I am not going to list what they
do, I just want to say that there is a big paradox!
Love without caring and understanding is a foolish feeling! If you love some one, you
MUST care about him/ her, and caring someone is having some signs of him/her or
following his/her path to the best of our abilities! Anyway, forget it!

A friend of mine who lives in Mashhad called me and invited me to a wedding party! The
party was in downtown of Mashhad. My friend asked me if I could let my car be
decorated for using as a bride car! I agreed! They wanted me to be the driver of the car
too. Oh my God! Cheshmat rooze bad nabinad. You can guess what happened to me. I
won't speak about it.

At the end, the bride and groom sat in my car, and they wanted me to go to Imam Reza's
shrine, after turning around there for two or three times, they wanted me to go to
'Bulvare Froodgah' (a boulevard near to the airport). They call it 'Arus keshan'! First, I
didn't understand what its meaning was. You cannot imagine how many motorcycles
were following us! In the boulevard I stooped, and suddenly people came and removed
all the decoration of the car. Some people wanted to take the bride out of the car!
Finally, I understood what 'Arus Keshan' meant! :):):) Yes, they really pull the bride!
hahahahah loool I got angry and said, "You have no right to come close to my car. This
car is from Tehran. You must afraid of it. Don't you see the number plate?" I didn't let
them touch the bride!

The story related to Mashhad finished right now, since I had written something before. I
will continue later.

It is too late, and we have some guests. I have no time to check my post. I am sure there
are many mistakes. Please forgive me.

Thank you for reading.

All the best,


Behnam, 9 April 2010

behnam April 9th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Today I read what I've written! I noticed that 'Shadyakh' is unknown to our friends. I
have to write something about it. When we were visiting there, I also showed people my
sense of humour, so it is worth sharing something about 'Shadyakh' and the story about
it.

In Neyshapoor we received a map of the city. All interesting and famous places were
addressed on the map. One of them was 'Shadyakh' as a destroyed historical city.
There were some skeletons. Two of them attracted my attention. (You should know,
bastanshenasan ba haffari be shahre dafn shode va skeletons reside boodand. Be mahze
residan be skeletons ha haffari ra motavaghef karde va skeletons ha ra jabeja nakarde
boodand, faghat roye ona yek mahfaze shishee gozashte boodand. Yani vaziate skeletons
ha natural bood.) I looked at two skeletons. I said, "You know. there are wife and
husband. I think this city was destroyed by an earthquake at night, while this couple had
been sleeping. They had not been on speaking terms, since they are sleeping in opposite
direction of each other(69)!" People, particularly some men laughed. My mother
disagreed with me, then we went to an office (responsible) and asked them about the
story of 'Shadyakh'. They said, "according to the history, Shadyakh was destroyed by an
earthquake hundreds years ago."

A friend of mine called me and asked about 'Gyroscope' right a few seconds ago. I lost
the thread of what i was writing. :):):) That's all about 'Shadyakh'. I have to leave.

All the best,


Behnam, 9 April 2010

Bluegreen April 9th 2010


Dear Morteza,

Hi. How's everything going? How's your family? How's that sweet bundle of joy Negar
doing?I really wish a bunch of happy days for you.

Oh well, you're perhaps right, you know what Morteza? These things depend on the field
of study and the materials you're gonna read and if you don't enjoy you wouldn't
probably like to even face that professor again! Right?

LOOOL well, I loved differencials alot when I was in high school, but then there was this
demanding harsh teacher who made me hate it like it wasthe my bitterest enemy ever!

He kept shouting and all the student were afraid that if they've got any problems while
they're solving the problems on the board he might actuallly hit them LOOOOL Oh well I
bet you know what the solution was! Kamelia go to the board please then when ever he
said now who's ready? All of them shouted oh sir SHE IS SHE IS! Oh my god, then I went
there tembling and shaking and if I had done it right then he just kept staring at me and
saying(with the Torkamanish accent) BAREKALLA! BISHIN!

LOOOOL Oh my god, when I remember that I feel like it was a hell!

Oh I suppose I digressed alot, but you're right, I had asked one professor before choosing
my field of studying in university that how's it going on between students in colleges out
there?! Then he said, well, you've gottta know that they're studying less and less! And the
rivalary between them has decreased to a great degree!

Now I really think that it's because of the lack of motivation,but tell you what, it's not that
in our class, we're always in a hurry to answer :)):)):)) I really wonder why! Maybe
we're too jelous of each other! LOOOOL

Oh I think I gave you a huge headache! I wrote a lot.

Well I really hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 9th 2010


Dear Rosa,

Oh Hii. Long time no see.How are you? How's everything? I should emphasize that I've
really missed you and your wonderful posts.

Honey I read all of them, I especially read the one about Alhmbra that was so nice of you
to tell me about it,oh and thanks for reading and replying to my post, I really appreciate
it.

Dear Rosa,I wanted to say that you'd asked me about my contents of studying and I had
sent them to you in an email,now I really wonder if you caught it or not because there
was no news of you here or there!

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 9th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiiii.How are you doing? How's life in Tehran? How's your work?(lots of how's
everytime I wonder if I made you bored with them LOOOOL) I really wish you alot of
happy days.

Honey, wow my goodness, your both posts to Elham and me were wonderful, I really
liked your style of writing in them, and the way you used to express you feelings in the
different situation and the experiences you had, I really thought I was there experiencing
them! That was really nice.

Oh and about your trip, so you always keep on listening to English music and english
parts always huh? Great way man! Because our professors say that exposure to a
language is the best of learning that!
Now I wonder what would happen to you if you were leaving in a country with English
language speaking people! LOOOOL

Oh about Shadyakh, yup that was right to explain about it because even me myself hadn't
ever heard of it, and here when you stated it I asked my friend about it( one of my
roommates is from Neyshabour) then she told me almost all about it. and guess what
happened to me? I'm in a strong desire to visit Neyshabour once! :)):))

Uh, Gyroscope, the word has a nice taste LOOOL Um now I wonder if it is related to
gyrating, spinning or something! I'll have to check that out in the dictionary.

Oh Dear Behnam, I've got a question, what did you mean that they were pulling bride?
why so?
You know what? I suddenly remebered a kinf od cultural action in Tibet, if the girl's
getting married and she's got a really mischevious suitor which wants her by all his heart
then if he wants he can come and steal her just in her marriage's night! Then is the
groom has got the guts he can defend but if not he's a loser! LOOOOOL
But I hadn't heard about it in Iran!

Honey, again I want to say that it was so nice of you to explain every detail,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

ghazal April 9th 2010


Dear Dariyosh
How are you? I?m so happy since saw you writing here.

Oh your stories is good and interesting thanks for that

Really when we tried to write bad even in stone that engraving will be in our life always
and our heart will be full of rancor and with rancor just waste our times in life.

but when we write in sand, wind help us forget bad even

you have good thread I hope wherever you are have wonderful times

Beast whishes for you

GHAZAL
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ghazal April 9th 2010


Dear Helen

?ni hao?
I hope you enjoy your life and have wonderful times

Thanks million about your post

you are my friend and my teacher because you help me learning key words in your
language

about Nirvana, I know that is like our parodies but I read in books Nirvana isn?t place
and means being free of this world .is it true?

"wo ai ni"

GHAZAL

ghazal April 9th 2010


Dear sahand
How are you my new friend?

About poem your welcome and about my name, it is ghazal means full of love and
remember Hafez and I think in English we can said lyric poem!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh you learned many things and it?s very good for young person(ye jorayi hame fan
harif!?! )(LoooL)

You said you are musician ,I really love dulcimer and I want to learn it.

I hope see your post soon

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

sami April 9th 2010


Hello Kamelia

How are you honey? I hope fine. Thanks for answering my post. You said you have
emailed me, but I havent received any email from you :( I write again my email address,
in case there was a spelling mistake: rosammd@hotmail.es

Please, try to send it again, ok? I will be very happy.

Kamelia, in the same post in which I wrote about Alhambra, at the end I asked for your
(and other friends') opinion about a "problem" I'm facing now. Please, tell me what you
would do. It's very important for me.

I hope to read from you soon,


Have a nice time,
Rosa. 9 April, 2010.

behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Mortaza,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you for writing about
beauty. Your view is different and I really support it.

I will write something about 'natural beauty or ...' soon.

Please keep on writing. Please introduce a new topic.

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 10 April 2010

behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Marina,

How are you keeping? I hope all is well with you. I've missed you and your posts terribly.
Where are you? Are you tired? :):):):):):)

I am waiting for your posts. Please don't keep me waiting. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 April 2010

behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Ghazal,

How are things? I hope you are happy and healthy. Thank you very much for sharing
lovely poems with us. You are full of energy. Thank you once again for participating in
discussions.

Please write about 'natural beauty or ...'. I am sure your opinion will be different and
interesting.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 April 2010

behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Shanar,

So many thanks for the fast reply. Thank you once again for your friendly post. How are
you? I hope you are fine.

You are an optimistic and happy girl. This is what your posts imply.

Would you please introduce a new topic?

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 10 April 2010

behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Roghayyeh,

How are you? I hope you are in a good mood. Where are you? !!! I've missed you and
your nice posts a lot. Please do not lose contact with us.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 April 2010

behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Sahand,

How are you? I hope all is well with you.

Thank you very much for friendly reply. Thank you once again for paying some nice
complements.That's very kind of you.

Would you mind writing your opinion about 'natural beauty or...'?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 April 2010

behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are things? I hope everything is going well with you. Where are you? You don't
write as you used to do! What is the matter? I've missed your posts very much.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 April 2010
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behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Rosa,

How are you doing? I hope you are in a very good mood. Thank you very much for
wonderful and useful posts.

Come on girl! What do you mean by writing '..Marina and Behnam go and come
together..'? I am here, but Marina isn't here! Isn't it a paradox? :):):):)

Would you please write your opinion about 'natural beauty or...'?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 April 2010

helen.fan April 10th 2010


Dear GHAZAL

I'm fine, Chinese is "wo hen hao"

In fact, the Nirvana is imaginary, Buddhism, the pursuit of the highest state is called
Nirvana.

It is each of us wants to reach the state, but it is difficult, after all we are all mortal, huh,
huh

Well, give you a few Chinese, I hope you can understand

Come on! Chinese is "jia you"

People, Chinese is "ren"

Boy, Chinese is "nan hai"

Girls, Chinese is the "nv hai"

Baby, Chinese is "bao bei"


Well

Good luck
Helen

behnam April 10th 2010


Hi Setayesh, Negin, Veronica, Cathy, Andrew, Soheila, ...

How are things? I hope all is well with you.

This is just to let you know that I've missed you terribly. You are absent from this thread,
but surely you are present in our minds and hearts.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 April 2010

mortaza.abtahi April 10th 2010

Hi dear Rosa,

How are you my good friend? It has been a long time since our last communication. I
really miss you.

Let me start by talking about the weather and springtime. I think that at this time of year,
Damghan, the city that I am currently living in, has its best weather; it is not very warm
and it is not cold; the land is thinly covered by green plants.

Before the weather become so hot so that no one can stay outside under the sun for a
while and before the land become dry and barren, we try to enjoy it as much as we can.
Thus, almost all weekend we go picnic. Sometimes we go to the south and sometimes to
the north.

Going picnic is very useful for us to have a good sleep at night and to be in a good mood
the next day. Especially, it has significant effects on our children.

When we go outside, we usually make fire by collecting woods and burning them. We
then put a kettle full of water on the fire to make the water boil. Then, with this boiling
water, we make tea which is very refreshing!
When the wood is burned it produces charcoal. The charcoal has a special property; it
can be used as fuel and it makes heat without making flame and smoke. So it is very
suitable to use charcoal for BBQ; we put small piece of meat above burning charcoal
and after a short while the meat is cooked and ready to eat; it is very delicious.

Thanks for reading and I hope to hear from you very soon.

All the best,


Mortaza, April 10, 2010.

Marina1 April 10th 2010


Dear friends Behnam, Kami and Rosa,

So many thanks for your posts. I always follow them. they give me a strong connection for
each one of you.
As I said before , I'm very busy these days and God only know that I'm dying to be active
here again. But what should I do??? There is an Arab saying " the wind goes against the
ships way". :)

I've read your post Behnam about your journey to Mashhad, it was great. I've never slept
or spent my night in a tent. It looks a lovely experience. Good for that couple who
Behnam drove his car which hold both of them, how lucky they are! :)
It was really a nice gesture from you to agree for it, it shows your humility and nice
personality.

Dear Kami, I do agree with you about everything you wrote about Behnam's topic. By the
way, it seems you are studying in a beautiful university as Behnam described. The
university that I studied in is the most beautiful one in all Syria. Green trees are
everywhere besides or nice chairs. But when you enter the buildings, you'll not like it :)
:).

Dear Rosa, How are you my friend who lives in a beloved part of the earth???? How is
the weather there??? How do you spend these says??? I know that you like to spend your
Summer days in your home on the beach , and Summer is very near. I'm sure that you
count days to live there because you love the sea , and Spain is known by its beaches and
beautiful ladies walking around it ;)

Dear friends, how can we treat with selfish people????? How do you think of it?.

I'll try to write whenever I find time. Thanks for reading. I hope to read from you soon.
I've really missed all of you. :)

Marina.
mortaza.abtahi April 10th 2010

Dear Kamelia,

Thank you very much for your nice post.

In this writing, I would like to talk about some of my teachers that I have had during my
studies, from elementary school to the time I was a PhD student. This is because you, in
your last writing to me, wrote something about one of your teachers and it was very
interesting and made me remind me of some of my own teacher!

You know, teachers have a vital role in motivating students to learn more and more or,
conversely, in making them become disappointed of learning. I am a teacher and after 4
years experience of teaching, I still have big challenges on making my students happy of
learning math; my job is one of those hard jobs!

I clearly remember my teacher when I was at fourth grade at elementary school. He was
a very nice teacher and he was actually a friend of his students. He never frightened us
even when some students did not do their homeworks. He never hit any student, although
at that time (1360s) almost all teachers usually punished lazy students by using
variational methods that I do not like to mention any of them.

But, how did this nice teacher make us study and do our homework? Actually, in a very
interesting way. When some of us did not do the homeworks, he stopped speaking and he
tried to show that he was very sad and angry because of our action. Then he folded his
hands and put them on the table and he put his head over his hands (masalan ba ma
ghahr mikard).

We felt extremely ashamed of this situation and we hated it, ... and you can guess the rest
of story! I never forget this teacher.

I also would like to talk about one of my professors at the time I was a graduate student
at univerity. He was young and passionate. He was a very smart mathematician but when
it came to teaching he was, in my opinion, an awful teacher. In his class, it was very hard
for me, and for almost all students, to underestand what he was teaching. He tried to
teach in its highest level. He gave often very hard examples, so that instead of making the
subject clearer his examples made it more complicated and they brought more problems
to us!!!

And the worst thing about this professor was that when a student asked him a question
which seemed simple (to him, of course) he did not give a complete answer to the
question and, instead, he said: "What kind of question is this, this is a very simple
question and you can find its answer in any book!"; so that nobody was urged to ask any
question. He, actually, had a tendency to prove that the students were ignorant of that
subject and he was the one who was master of the subject.

Talk to me more about teaching and the ways that one teacher can make his/her student
happy in the class (of course, any teacher can make his/her student happy by sending a
message that he/she is not able to come to the class!!!).

Thanks for reading and I hope to hear from you soon,

Yours sincerely
Mortaza, April 10, 2010.

shanar April 10th 2010


Dear darioush

Hiiiiiii?:) How are things? Are you okay?

How an interesting story you was wrote!!!!!! :)


Exactly your story was so beautiful & instructive. that's very good if we could forget bad
things and allow to our mind that just recall good things, cause it made us feeling happy
and didin't dark our heart with bad things & bad memories.

Now, if you let me, i wanna write a story for you and other friends.however my story not
as well as you but i love it , so I like enclose this story with you.

** There was a father that he have a litttle son.his son had 7 years old and was very
clever.one day the father decided to carry on his son to village, in order to show him that
peoples who are live there are realy poor.
They went there and when they wanted to came back her son jumped to his father's
embrace and said : thanks dad. It was the best journey that i had been have until now.
The great thing, that i discoverd, was we are very poor.his father wondered and said :
why you thing we are poor.his son answerd : because in town we have one small house
but here they have a large house with huge yard.we have one small dog but they have so
many dogs and sheep.the children in village can play and jumpe and go to evry where but
i can.their sky and air are so fresh and clean but in our town it's dark and dirty. Thanks
father for your help.you mage me aware that we are poor**

I wish it will be interesting for you too

* Have a nice time honey *

Respectably
shanar ;)

shanar April 10th 2010


Dear ghazal

Hiiiiiiiii honey?:) How are you going dear???

Your poem was very very very ... nice, beautiful, and full of ... i don't know how i say,full
of every good things . I realy joy . you are so lovely honey?

I wish be active, happy, and full of blessing my friend.

*Have a nice time*

Respectably

shanar ;)

shanar April 10th 2010


Dear behnam

A friendly hiiiiii for a friendly guyyy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! : )

How are you going ?? I wish you will be fine .

Your last topic(natural beauty ) was realy good and made me to think about it very much,
because i didn't think about it seriously before .

But about a new subject. I don't know exactly what kind of subject is good to challenge
about it .you know there are many usefull topic that are good to know about them like
people's personality and different kind of them,social problem or even about the new
things that these days are common,the end of the world(2012).or about bad luck ,i mean
did you believe that bad luck exist or not /why you believe such a thing?and any idia
about bad luck or good luch.
I am not realy genius to affer good topic.excuse me if these topic maybe not be interesting
.

* Have a nice time *

Respectably

Shanar ;)

metzean April 10th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I hope you enjoy every minute of your life, thanks for chronicle writing of your journey to
Mashhad , I read it and enjoy it, but how do you know that people who were touching the
shrine were not in the same path of their imam . people should be evaluate according
their knowledge . the majority have tender hearts , we should not cross a person by a
mistake which he has done. This is the path of imam and our prophet AS. The path of
magnanimity. They respected people although they committed a lot of mistake and sins.

Dear Behnam, I am crazy about this season, I believe that we should use this season
being in green area as much as possible, not lose even a minute. I was yesterday out from
7 am till 11 pm , from morning I went to a garden with my family and after eating our
lunch we came back to the town at evening and went to park beside the river , it was
drizzling from 1 pm till the 6. There was the scent of Jasmine and roses, jasmines which
climb up the plane trees, created a feeling of joy and sensation.
Do you go to the Alborze mountain (Darband) every Friday?. Do you like the scent of
jasmines?

Your lark,
Mohsen

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sahand April 10th 2010


Hi Ghazal

How's life going on ?

Nice name, I like it ! ;)


Dulcimer ???! Wow ... you've surprised me with your ambition cause most of girls are
interested in Guitar and Piano, not Dulcimer ! :D

So Ghazal, tell me a bit about yourself. your background, the field your studying, your
university.

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely,
Sahand

sahand April 10th 2010


Hi Behnam

How's life going on ?

About your question ...

To me it's someone who does not cake their face in make up and has a unique yet
stunning look. There are a lot of pretty girls out there however a lot which look
commercial !

Right now there's hardly such things as natural beauty ... people tend to do make up more
and less and most importantly make up has reach the stage where it's almost impossible
to tell what you were wearing if you got a professional natural looking make over job ...
just see old movies and compare make ups and you will see.

The traditional natural beauty was something like a right fugue, nice warm big eyes,
fresh and spotless skin even the tone ...

In reality these are way last century. Most of the people want perfection and those
features are considered to be natural beauty.

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely,
Sahand

behnam April 11th 2010


Hi Marina,

How are things? I hope you are extremely happy. Thanks a million for posting.

Why didn't you write anything about 'natural beauty or...'? :(:(:( Are you still tired?
:):):):) How tired you are! You kill me with your tiredness!:):):):) I'm only joking.

Please share something with us about 'natural beauty or...'. I am sure your opinion about
it will be different.

Dear Marina, don't be so tired, it is difficult to remove your tiredness everyday! :):):):)

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 April 2010

behnam April 11th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you doing? I hope all is well with you. So many thanks for your lovely and
friendly posts. They motivate us to write more and more.

The weather in Tehran is wild! :):):) Yes, maybe it is the first time in the world that
someone describes the weather as a wild animal. :):):) Well Behnam is a crazy describer!
:):):):)

I just can say that surely there is no fruit left on the trees, since a lot of hailstones came
down the other night!!! Can you believe it made the ground white! Yes, many hailstones
covered the earth and made it white like what often happens in the winters (not thease
winters, 25 years ago I mean lol!!!)

In Mashhad it was different from what you said. It was doing something at the end of
party when the bride is spending her last times out of the home, in the car. They do it for
fun.

I have to leave right now. Please forgive me for writing so short.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 April 2010
behnam April 11th 2010
Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope you are enjoying your life in some green and beautiful places,
which can be found easily in Esfahan; half of the world, if we don't consider Tabriz! :):):)
It is funny even ridiculous--we often exaggerate what we have, and underestimate what
others have! This is a very bad habit of people who like to fool themselves! It is very
difficult to fool ourselves, but we (some people) can!

Khoshtar an bashad ke hosne delbaran, gofte ayad bar zabane digaran (It is better other
people speak about and confirm the goodness of our soul mates)!

Dear Mohsen, the result of our actions and beliefs are important. We are speaking about
the average of the people. When people don't care about each other, who they can care
about religion and Imams path? When they squeeze children and old people so that they
nearly die, it can't be a true action. I strongly believe touching Imam's shrine can't be
effective, unless we believe and do something according to what they told us! Actions
speak louder than words.

The result of our actions show if they are right or wrong. We must be result-oriented
rather than thinking of God as a big king (Iranian sort of kings in the past) with some
people around him (Imams and prophetess), then trying to pull strings or greasing their
palms! This is in our blood somehow! Why? Iranian way of worshiping!!!

Imams just give us direction. They show us the path, and shed light on the path, IF we
follow them! There is a saying in Azerbaijani culture; '124000 peighambara yalvarinja,
bir allaha yalvar' (Instead of asking 124000 prophets, just ask one God)!

Pay a close attention please! I am not saying that we should ignore Imams or other good
people who are close to God. What I am saying is this: We should be result-oriented, and
we must follow good people. Good people can be some good tools (Like a lamp at a dark
night) they mustn't be goals themselves! Yes, if someone thinks that just touching Imam's
shrine or kissing some metals or wood around his tomb can be useful, s/he is absolutely
wrong and s/he has lost the path! First, we must care about the rights of people who are
around us (friends, parents, wife, husband, children, neighbours, ...). After doing that we
must care about the rights of God and,... If we change the sequence, it won't work at all.
It is excellent and correct to do them at the same time, but changing the sequence is
incorrect.

People who squeeze me and use their elbows and other parts of their body to go closer to
Imam's shrine don't care about my rights. Such people can't be ideal people, and Imams
and God cannot do anything for them. If Imams or God forgive them, I don't believe in
such a system at all!
We must be polite, and visit Imams' shrines politely. We should respect all people and
care about their rights. I have to mention again that I never ignore them and their effects
on our lives. I mean we should use them correctly--as a powerful lamp which sheds light
on very dark roads.

Dear Mohsen, I know this post will be challenging. I never meant that all people are like
what I said. I mean there are many people who don't know how to care about Imam and
other people.

I hope my post doesn't upset anybody. Please make comment on it, and criticise me
instructively.

I have to leave. I have no time to check the post and correct mistakes. Please forgive me.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 April 2010

Darioush April 11th 2010


Dear shanar,

How's it going?

I read your story,and enjoyed a lot.As I know, you study English litrature, and you llike
stories and poems. I have a thread named "STORIES & IDIOMS". I like to see you there.

I'm darioush, 26 years of age, I come from khoy, I study English translation in PAYAM
NOOR UNIVERSITY of khoy.

I hope to run into each other again.

Bluegreen April 11th 2010


Dear Helen,

Hii.How are you doing? How's everything? I really hope that you're having happy days.

Oh I read your beautiful post, that was so nice of you to read my post and then reply it in
this awesome way, believe me or not but I enjoyed it alot.
You know, I've always liked to get familiar with the traditions of the countries around tha
globe and it kind of makes me feel like I'm experiencing something advantures!

Well, now this is the same, it was really intersting to get to know with these ancient
customes and you know what? In my opinion keeping these customes alive can make a
very fine excuse for living, because most of us are spending these 24h coming and going
and being busy with routin daily works but when it comes to partying I think it adds a
sense of freshness and livelyhood to our lives!

Now, this time, on the contrary to the other times I've got no special question because
that was enough clear for me ,your explanation actually was really great, I could imagine
myself there, I've seen some of the decorations in chinese movies like there was one that I
can remeber called " The memories of Geisha" You really can't imagine how charming
and eye-catching that movie was! You'd better take a look at it if you like.

Honey, Now I wonder if you expressed your opininon about the " Natural beauty or...."
Would you mind writing something about it?

I'd like to know your opinion about that,

Waiting impatienlty to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 11th 2010


Dear Rosa,

Hiii.How are you? How's everything going on in Spain dear lovely teacher? Oh I wish
lots of happy days for you(hope you get along very well with students girl LOOOL)

Honey at last I was succesful sending you that email,well you know I had a hard time
writing your hotmail ID in th TO part of the email then finally I copied and pasted it in
there LOOOOL
well it is called the uncounscionable memory of us! I'm not that familiar to other IDes but
the Yahoo! ones! LOOOL

So,you'd asked me to express my opinion about your matter, Um, I wanted to say that
actually had read somewhere a story just like this and it is in this way: There was an
strict editor in chief of a highly bought fashion magazine( I'm not really sure about this
term highly bought)but anyway, she had a first assistant manager and she needed
another one to get the work done, the first one was a stylish luxurious girl but a jelous
and nagging one LOOOL then came along this second rivalary of her, she was a nice
beautiful girl but a simple and kind one, one of those that cannot even hurt a little ant,
she wasn't at all in to rivalaries and competetions among those of other co-workers, but
days passed and the editor came to linke her even more than the first one so she got
promotions day after day till she reached a point where the first one was dying to get!
They were gonna spend a wekk in Paris and the first one had longed for this trip (to go
along with the editor) for years and now it was the second one's choice which could
determine the first one's (maybe) future career success!

Then there came the day of choosing and the editor invited her to her home and told her
that she was gonna be chosen for this trip of dreams( let's call it in this way) BUT! she
couldn't be disloyal to the first one because whatever she knew was from the first
assistant who had taught her this work,well not patiently but atleast she did! So she one
day, when the second one was in the editor lemo to go to this press conference and
suddenly she made her choice and left the car! She refused to go any longer! BUT before
this! The editor had warned that if she wants her future and better work opprtunities she
had to make her way up the work and be cruel to thers because she thought that this
compassion wouldn't work in this wild life!

To make the long story short, and not make you even more bored than this, I have to say
that there are lots of multiple choice questions in life but the last answer's yours Rosa, I
think you have to know what you want! Don't think of daily decisions as cruel acts!
Maybe sometimes you're doing something in favor of the other person,but at first might
seem harsh!

Well,I am too young to tell a logical person like you what to do, we'll have to see what
our other friends have to say about it! Now I wish that they soon do! But here's the thing
just mention for yourself what you want and what is your goal thenthat might show you
the path!

Hope I didn't make you tired with this boring post LOOOL

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 11th 2010


Dear Morteza,
Well, well, well, looks like we're having a pile of different colorful experiences, don't we?

How are you doing after all? I've gotta say thanks a million for reading my post and
replying to that, that is so nice of you to share your memories and then wanting me to
share them too to you!

Oh then seems like we're dealing with another professor here in this thread, good for us
man! So you teach right? and you teach mathematics? And moreover, you've
accomplished your PHd? That is so wonderful, but you know what, they say that field like
mathematics and physics are so hard to be accomplished now I wonder how Dear
Behnam and you kept doing this?

Oh about your 4th grade school teacher, I'm quite the opposite, she kept teasing us about
every spelling or talking mistake and I remember that one day I said this tree is called
Ocaliptus she kept saying no you are wrong, you impish child, how dare you talking to
me like this, get outta here ! And that's it I was kicked out! You know she told me it was
octalipus rather than ocaliptus! And this happening just occored in that class, Well now
take a look at her action, for more than two years I couldn't state my opinion outloud in
class because I was afraid of being expelled out of class like I'd been before, and I just
could show myself to teachers with the test being given! I'd became absoloutely shy!

You know what? I don't say that teachers or professors should be like kind angels alway s
hugging and light hearted with flowrs and hearts! But what I want to say is that there's
no need to show your powers by shouting or insulting or just telling them you're out and
that's it!

A teacher's power is shown whereever he or she is teaching and just by making students
have a better look and comprehension toard that certain lesson! But unfortunatly most of
professors think that getting it too hard to students is the only way it works!

Now to make it short,I had awesome teachers and professors too which I think I can
never forget but these two rarely happened and I just wanted to mentions them!
LOOOOL

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 11th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiiii.How are you doing? Oh gush, seems like Tehran's weather just as bad as here and
as you called it a crazy one!

Well last night we were inside and studying then we heard a kind of sound like the water
drops hiting the windows hard but there was no rain out there then we heard the boys
shouting( not screeaming but shouting out of joy! Oh men! How strange you are)

And this friend of mine Sanaz there must be a kind of raining or hailstoning coming down
there and we didnt believe her because we're just tow blocks aways from boy's dormitory
and how can it be possible?!! But she was right! LOOOL suddenly the thundering clouds
raised skywards and first rain then these hailstones begun to drop! It was, how can I say
it, stunning! and we were amazed! Like I myself hadn't seen such thing before :)):)):))
Crazy weather Mashad has!

So Behnam, you haven't still stated your opinion about this "Natural beauty or.." or
atleast I don't see anything here! And there's one more thing I'd like to ask and that's
there's another topic still going on in here and that's Dear Rosa's question on page 627 !
I'd really love to know your outllok toward that, and you're gonna make all of us happy
by writing about it!

Oh here's another thing, regarding to your post to Dear Mohsen I was just thinking that
everyone who goes to the this Holy shrine of Imam Reza notices that actions!

I, myself was once going there with my friends they said now lets get deeper and closer!
and just guess what?! Lots of old ladies over 30 or 40 hitting you and you just can't
breath because you're being shoved,jostled,kicked and squeezed just time after time!
Suddenly I gave up saying what the hell is this action?!!! Why can't they control
themselves, well if such old ladies cannot understand these basic rules or moral and
ethics how can they say they've got strong beliefs and they're going toward that way?!!
Well I'm not understimating or questioning their beliefs but what is this mind for?!!

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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Marina1 April 11th 2010
Dear Behnam,

YES, I still too tired! ;), what is your suggestion to remove my tiredness ?? ;) :)
As I see, Behnam motivates all people to write about that topic but he didn't write his
idea yet. Moreover, I asked you some questions related to this topic in order to make the
discussion active and vital, but Behnam didn't shared me the answers.
So you see, Marina is a good lawyer! (LOOOOOOL).

Dear Behnam, of course natural beauty is so priceless from all points of view containing
giving birth for lovely children. And as you know, beauty is relative! Different people
have different ideas about beauty. The same girl who is very beautiful from your point of
view may be the most ugly one in other person's eyes.

In my opinion, a girl should make some simple things in her physical appearance
particularly her face in order to make some retouches with main goal , to be satisfied
about the whole looking.
But on the other hand, I'm against tattooing or making changes in their features' shapes.
I believe that everybody should have the feeling of having unique shape. We shouldn't be
the same, we should be different with different noses, eyebrows, cheeks and so on.
I as Marina love my physical appearance with the great feeling of having the satisfaction
of my features which should be unique , not like other people's ones. I maybe do some
retouches , just in order to arrange myself (LOOOOOOOOL).

Now it's your turn Behnam, please write something about this topic. I'd like to read your
writing about it containing the answers of my past questions.

Thank you for being always beside Poor Marina. Marina counts herself the luckiest
person in the world because of having a friend like you cares about her tiredness :) ;) ;)

I hope to read from you soon.


Marina.

sami April 11th 2010


Hi Behnam!

How are you man? I am fine and very happy. Do you know why???? Because I love
SPRING!!!!!!!!! Rain and cold weather has gone far away from Andalusia and at last I
am enjoying sunny and warm weather!!!!!!!! I really love it. I have always thought that
this season, as well as summer, has a very good reaction on me!!! I am like...how to
say...more active!!! I love doing lots of things, having nice walks on the beach...How
about in Iran right now??? You complain it is changing, you once wrote you have almost
all the seasons in the same day!!! And you know what??? It reminds the time I was in
England. I remember it was very cold in the morning, then, in the afternoon it was hot,
and in the evening it rained!!! For me, it was a bit disgusting and uncomfortable because
I had to wear lots of clothes (like the layers of onions) and as hours were passing I had to
take them out and carry them!!
Dear Behnam! I have written about natural beauty yet! I wrote about it in a post I wrote
for all of you. In a few words, I wrote that I prefer natural beauty. What's your opinion? I
would like to read it.

My dear friend, I have also asked you (you all) about a "problem" I am facing (it is in the
same post as my opinion about natural beauty). I know you dont like advising people, but
I really don't know what to do. Tell me what would you do if you were in my shoes,
please. (LOL) Sorry but I have just made a mental image of Behnam wearing my high
heeled shoes!!!!!!!! It's very funny!!!! I hope you dont mind, Please forgive me ;))))

I hope to read something from your soon,


Have a nice time,
Rosa, 11 April, 2010.

sami April 11th 2010


Hello my dear friend Mortaza!

How are you??? Yes, you are right, we havent written each other for a long time, and I
have to say that I have really missed your posts. Thanks for writing to me again! :)))

I have enjoyed a lot your last post to me. With this nice weather we are enjoying now,
fields around my city are full of people practising some sports or preparing BBQ! I really
like eating meat made in a BBQ; it has a very special taste I love, however, I go to BBQ
from time to time because I dont want to put on weight!!!!

My nice friend, during this time I have been quite busy withmy students. They had their
important exam (to get the GCSE) yesterday, and I have been trying to help them. It is my
first serious experience as a teacher with this kind of students, and I have been quite
implicated with them. I wanted all of them to pass these exams and be successful. You can
imagine, some friends, even other teachers teaching the same, have told me I was more
worried about the exam that the students themselves!!! Maybe I was, but I think any other
person would has done the same as I.

This exam is made by an external entity (external from my school; we don't evaluate, we
just prepare them for the exam) and the important day was yesterday. I went with my
students to the school where they had to sit for the exam. It was from 9 p.a to 20 p.m with
a few break intervals between exam and exam. I wanted to be with them all the time, in
case they needed anything from me or from any other teacher, I wasnt alone there. Do
you know something which happened to me??? One of the teachers in that school thought
I was a student and called me to come in into the classroom!!! I told him I wasn't a
student but a teacher!! He told me I was too young, the same age as most students...It
was nice!!!
Now, we will know the marks of the exams next Thursday and I really hope they have
passed them. I can't say they have studied a lot, but I think they deserve it at least just for
assisting to school everyday and listening to me!!!! Let's see what happens!

What about your teaching these days?


I hope to read from you soon,
Rosa, 11 April, 2010.

sami April 12th 2010


Hello my nice and kind friend Kamelia!!

How are you? I hope you are very well! First, I would like to thank you for being kind
and sending me an email. It was very interesting to know about it, and everything you
wrote remainded me when I was at university. What you are studying is quite quite
similar to what I studied! Oh!!! I wish I could go to university again and study the
same!!!

Thank you also for giving me your opininon about my "problem". I always write " "
because I don't know how to call it, it is not as big so as to be a problem but it is
something that worries me a lot. I know I should do what I consider the best for me, but
by doing it I will be hurting others...I know i should do it, otherwise...I won't have peace
of mind. It is like a paradox, if I do it, I will hurt others and so, I wont have peace of
mind; and then...If I dont do it, I won't have peace of mind neither, because I will keep
thinking I should have done it! How complicated is life!!!! I wish everything was easier
than it is, for me and for all people.

I wish Behnam wrote his opinion about it, he knows very well how to make things simple
and clear, he does it with physics! So real life may be easier for him!!

Honey!!! don't say again your writing is boring, I really enjoy reading it, they are very
interesting, and even you are young (by the way, how old are you??) you are a very
smart girl. The same happens with our sweet Marina, she is young, however her writings
dont say so. I congratulate you and her for having this great ability which I want for
me!!!! ;))) I am quite sure your teachers are very happy to have a nice student like you!

Have a nice time,


Rosa, 12 April, 2010.

sami April 12th 2010


Hello sweet Marina!

How are you?? I have read here that you are tired...why?? Maybe spring has something
to do. People is usually more tired at the beginning of spring. For me,,it depends,
sometimes I am very energetic in spring, like these days, and some others, especially
when we have higher temperatures, I am a bit tired. If it is the case, honey, try to do
something to activate yourself, like eating energetic food, having walks, being with
friends... Because your tiredness has made wrong my theory about Behnam and Marina
going and coming together!!! (LOL)

Yes, my dear friend, you know I love the beach, having walks near the shore, and maybe
soon (in summer, at the end of the academic year) I will go to my house there. I will have
two months holidays, and this summer I would like to spend sometime there , but I would
also like to travel somewhere. I like doing some trips in summer, which I couln'd do
before because I was a poor student!!! Let's see what I can do now! I will be telling
you!!!

My nice friend, I have to finish writing now, I have to go to take my niece from school.
Have a nice time,
Rosa, 12 April, 2010.

Bluegreen April 12th 2010


Dear Marina,

Hellooo there. How are you doing? It makes me really happy reading your sweet posts
and at the same time it makes me sad finding out that you feel tired!

I can totally empathize the situation with you,well it's like three or 4 years ago when my
parents decided to gave a new look to the inner design of the house,like the docorations
and changing the way where walls used to be:)):)):)) and then it was like dusty
everywhere you couldn't breath and because we were going to paint the walls and install
some wall papers so they had removed the carpets,lockers,closet,drawers and everything
and I just couldn't find my things so they suggedted me going to the grandma's house and
stay there with tranquility LOOOOL but what tranquility?!! You know my grandma's
such a kind angel but when it comes to school days and being the first first grandchild
she forced me to do nothing but studying ! And that was....,you know! LOOOOOL

So now you don't have to study but I can feel how you're doing these days because it feels
more comfortable being in your private room,it feels much calm and relax!

But still, I was reading somewhere that if you keep doing peaceful things,the ones which
bring bonus relaxation like Yoga,walking,listening to soft melodies(without a vocalist)
taking a shower every night, or consuming green foods like yogurt,water,different types
of soups especially the vegetable ones(You're a vegetarian right?) they'll do good!

I really hope to see more posts from you,


Hope to see you soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. Yeah! according to Dear Behnam it is such a beautiful university,but if you count out
the winter time LOOOL

behnam April 12th 2010


Hi Rosa,

How are things? I hope all is well with you and your life is beautiful. I hope you are filled
with joy and happiness.

Many thanks for your wonderful posts. I REALLY love your posts. They are great.

I am terribly sorry, but I had no idea about your topic (question in fact). I've already
read your post. Today, I read it carefully again.

If I were you, I never take that thing. I dislike to hurt someone's else feelings. I believe it
sounds selfish to ignore other people's feelings.

Precisely speaking, it depends-to a great extent- on the thing, the person, and the
meaning of hurting someone's feeling. Most people feel sad if we speak to them just a
little bit loudly. Most people are easily affected. Just a simple word hurts their feelings.
Therefore, I need some details. Would you please let me know what the thing is, and some
information about the person, and sort of feeling that is going to be hurt?

I hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 April 2010

metzean April 13th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Thank for your comment ,I hope you are fine . Yesterday I departed from Esfahan at 6
morning to Khashan with some friends , visiting Khashan ,particullary the Fin Garden
and Fin Hammam, where the great Amir was killed by order Ghajar king , then his body
was taken to Eraq , Karbala and burried there.

I also visited Abyaneh , a villege which its history came back to 2000 years ago. Have
you ever seen abyaneh ?
Today I have lot of work to do. let me say good bye.

Mohsen

January April 13th 2010


Hello Behnam, Hello everybody
I?m really interested in English and I was always looking for such interesting methods to
improve my English speaking skills. Seems that I have found the right place for that and
I?m so happy :), so would you please accept me as a friend in ?Let?s learn together? ;). I
would like to join you in your discussions. Have a nice day
Regards, Maya
Sultanate of Oman

sami April 13th 2010


Hello my lovely friend Behnam!

How are you? I hope you are enjoying life and being happy. Thank you for wishing my
life is beautiful...I don't really know if it is already beautiful or not, what I know for sure
is that there are some factors which make my life beautiful, such as great family, friends
who love me...and also having Behnam as a friend. You are part of my happiness :)))

Well, Behnam!!! Thank you for answering to my problem, althought briefly. But you want
to know a lot my friend!!!! ;)) To tell the truth I prefer having that information unknown;
you know, I dont want to hurt someone's feelings and imagine some day this person
comes and reads about it...

Believe it or not, you have helped me a lot with your post, my nice friend, because I have
thought about the possibility of losing this person's friendship and I know in this way I
will lose more than what I may get by taking that thing. I really want it, but the lose
would be much bigger. So...I will try to forget it!!!

I would like to thank you and Kamelia for thinking about this problem and trying to help
me. Your posts have been quite useful for me, so thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I have to leave now, and I would like to read from you soon.
Have a nice time,
Rosa, 13 April, 2010.
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ghazal April 13th 2010


Dear sahand

I?m fine thanks and how are you my new friend. Do you have good time?

Your name is good too!

Az I said I really love dulcimer and violin but I think dulcimer is better, what?s your
idea?

I?m 18 years old and now I?m studding English literature in Ferowsi University in
mashhad.

I prefer when I have time I read best books specially poem and novel.

About music I prefer to listen music that has good music and poem so I don?t like rock
and rap and I think rap is just for amusement.
I love Mr. shajariyan and his music what?s your idea about him?

Oh I read philosophy and psychology book too.

I?m writer!!!!!And I?m writing my novel now perhaps next year you can read my
novel!!!(LoooL)

About sport I play chess!

Always I try don?t have same time in tow days!

What else do you want to know?

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL
ghazal April 13th 2010
Dear Helen

(ni hao) my honey.


I hope you have wonderful time in your life

Thanks million for your post and new words that you learned me.

Please say me these words: welcome, God

Now I want to write for you great sentence:


(give all your heartache that you have in your life to God that exist in your heart and then
escape all problem)

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

behnam April 13th 2010


Hi Maya Sultanate,

Thank you very much for putting message on this site. Welcome to this friendly place.
Thank you once again for joining us.

Would you please tell us a little bit more about yourself?

Your English is quite good. We are gathered here to help each other with our English
skills. We have got many things in common, but the English language is one of the most
important thing which we have got it in common. It makes us gather in this friendly place
and enjoy being with each other. I really love to spend my free time with me friends (In
this thread).

Please do not hesitate to write us. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 April 2010

behnam April 13th 2010


Dear Marina, Kamelia, and other friends,

How are you? I hope you are extremely happy, filled with pleasure and happiness.

These days I 'm really pressed for time. Three days a week I go IELTS class. Each session
of the class itself lasts for one hour and a half, but as a matter of fact, it takes me one
hour to drive there. Therefore, it takes me two hours to go there and come back.
Sometimes the traffic is very heavy, so I am stuck in the traffic for hours. It makes me
extremely tired:):):)

Above all, I have to do some homework. The teacher often gives us 30 questions and asks
us to make ourselves ready for the next session, sine we are supposed to answer the
questions carefully with correct grammar (structure) and according to a particular
format.

I'm not justifying. I am really pressed for time. I promise to write about 'natural beauty
or...' as soon as I can find time.

You should know that I do agree with you on this matter. Natural beauty is much more
better than the artificial beauty. Precisely speaking, artificial beauty can't be considered
as effective and impressive as natural beauty, because there are always some negative
signals carried by artificial beauty.

A good appearance is a real gift from good to some people, BUT we should know that
(actually we should have a strong belief that) God's gifts are different, and He distributes
them among people fairly. Appearance beauty is easily recognized, so we easily can see
it, BUT there are many things which are shared with different people, and in many cases
there are hidden from our eyes. As a merely simple example, some people have self-
esteem, but they don't look beautiful. Which one is better? Obviously, inner appearance
and good character count! However, we should know that natural beauty is a gift from
God to some people (for example you I guess! LOL :)):)):)))

It must be mentioned that everything has got a sort of beauty, but we must stare at it to
realize or to discover. We must dig it deeply and remove all dirt to find golden part of
something. It requires great patience, and it takes a lot to find this hidden treasure!

I personally admire natural beauty. However, it is OK if a lady wears make up at home!


:):):):) Challenging idea! :):):):)

As you have mentioned, beauty is subjective. Different people have different ideas about
it. In other words, beauty means differently to different people! This is a proven and well-
known fact.

I have to leave right now. I wrote about it, so I have nothing to do with it. :):):) I will try
just to add some philosophies to my ideas and support my opinion. I promise to do it in
due time!
I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 April 2010

behnam April 14th 2010


Hi Ghazal and Shanar,

How are you keeping? I hope everything is going well with you, and you are enjoying
every second of your beautiful life in Mashhad and at a green, wide and vast university.

Whenever you go to Imam Reza's shrine, say to him that Behnam says hello to you.
Remember me and pray for me, this is what I am requesting.

A little bird told me that students had exams the other day. I heard it right from the
horse's mouth! You know, animals are friends with me, so they tell me their news
frequently. :):):):):) Anyway, the philosophy of writing such things is just wishing you
success in your exams. I am saying this sentence with crossed fingers.

Do you get along well with my dear friend Kamelia? Aside from being girl and studying
English, what else have you got in common? How (you girls) recognize that you are on
the same wavelength or you are like-minded? Do you often express your opinions about
different things?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 April 2010

Bluegreen April 14th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hello there. How are you doing? How's everything with you? I really hope that this joyful
pressures on you decrease as soon as possible! LOOOL

Well, pressed with time or being up to your ears means that you're having having a tough
time right? But come on! I think the best days of my life were those which I used to go to
English classes! Oh yeah I know, you are required to do so many homeworks and that
might irk a little bit but boy, isn't it fun? Being involved with the topic you always liked
and then knowiny that every day you're learning something new is the most fascinating
time-consuming activity.Isn't it? LOOOL
Now, I just read your post carefully and figured out that there was such a challenging
topic regarding to the make up matter of women and I think this topic's most challenging
in asian and muslim countries because we've got a variety of attitudes toward that right?
Well I don't think that I'm gonna be able to answer that LOOOL

Honey, I've got some questions toward your IELTS classes and these are:

1. How many books are you studying?

2.what are the topics of the books? Are they related to the 4 skills of English learning?

3. Are the home works just given by your teacher or you're required to do more
excersizes from the books?

4. And the last one's,how do you feel being in these classes? Is it different from the Kish
air you used to go?(I'm not sure whether it was kish air or resalat)

Waiting impatiently to read from you(although I know you've got a lot to do)

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. Do not hesitate to send your homeworks to me, maybe I could do them LOOOOOL

sahand April 14th 2010


Hi Ghazal

How are you ? What's up there ?

Well ... I don't know, it all depends on your ambitions. So you've gotta choose what to
play, not me of course.

Hmmm despite what you said, I really love rock music. I've passed my Fender
Stratocaster courses in Alternative Rock method.

Wow ... are you really a writer ???!!! :D so remind me to buy your book exactly on the
date of publish !
Thanks a lot for answering

That was all I wanted to know ;)

Sincerely,
Sahand

ghazal April 14th 2010


Dear Behnam

How are you?


I wish for you best moments in your life

I don?t know why I have same feeling about you and my brother!
really when I write for you I think this post is for my brother,

you know I have just one brother and he lives in Tehran and I can?t see him every day or
every month ,just in holiday!!!

Oh you said me about topic thanks million and sorry I write so late, I and kamelia and
shanar have exam .

NATURAL BEAUTY
If we want to speak about human and beauty that exist in them I think we must speak
about apparent and interior.

apparent, you know our God is beautiful (jamal) so all creature are beautiful too how we
can image that God create some one ugly
so don?t exist ugliness in this world,
all things that we think those are ugliness perhaps are beautiful and just we have
negative idea so for those just try to change your way of thinking (chashm ha ra bayad
shost jor digar bayad did)

I read this sentence in one book :


all person are beautiful just some one can?t show her or his beauty.

About interior, when every person born is like angel really just see babies

But after living in this world some one loses natural beauty that exists in them and some
one try to keeping.
I think it?s really bad that some one has outwardly good and inwardly bad.

At the end:

natural beauty is present form God for every person so try to keep this ,when you keep
this every person love you and

?GOD IS LOVE?

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

ghazal April 14th 2010


Hi sahand
how are you? I ?m fine thanks

Oh you love rock and play!


Among singer who do you love?

Don?t worry when I write my novel, I will say you !

You are now in Iran?


What do you do?

Hope see your answer soon

GHAZAL

sahand April 14th 2010


Hi Ghazal

Thanks for your fast reply

Yeah I really like it. As I told you before I'm interested in Alternative Rock so I prefer
listening to such styles ... like Evanescence or such groups

Yes I live in Tehran right now


I'm undergraduate in Computer Engineering/Software at Elmo Sanat University and I'm
trying my best to finish M.S in a month or two.

Wish you the best

Sincerely,
Sahand

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ghazal April 14th 2010


Hi behnam

as little bird say you we have hard quiz but for us was so easy!!!!!!!!!(vase hefze abero
doroghe maslehati goftam!!!)

Oh I?m sure that you know every woman can understand character of all people very
well!
When we talk with our friend we recognize that we are on same liked-minded !!!

I don?t know what did you ask? And what do you want to know?
Sorry I know my answer is not good
please ask my question then I try to ask better ,

SINCERELY

GHAZAL

metzean April 15th 2010


Just Stay

A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside.


?Your son is here,? she said to the old man.
She had to repeat the words several times before the patient?s eyes opened.
Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young
uniformed Lieutenant standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The
Lieutenant wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man?s limp ones, squeezing a
message of love and encouragement.
The nurse brought a chair so that the Lieutenant could sit beside the bed.All through the
night the young Lieutenant sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man?s
hand and offering him words of love and strength. Occasionally, the nurse suggested that
the Lieutenant move away and rest awhile.
He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Lieutenant was oblivious of her
and of the night noises of the hospital ? the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of
the night staff members exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.

Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only
held tightly to his son all through the night.
Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Lieutenant released the now lifeless hand he
had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.
Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the Lieutenant
interrupted her.
?Who was that man?? he asked.
The nurse was startled, ?He was your father,? she answered.
?No, he wasn?t,? the Lieutenant replied. ?I never saw him before in my life.?
"I just came here to see one of the patient ,Mahmud Raof, to tell him that his son was
killed by American troops in Najaf"
The Nurse shed tears ?Then why didn?t you say something when I took you to him?, He
was Mahmoud Raof who died in your hand
Lieutenant tried to hide his tears by his hand and said ?I knew right away there had been
a mistake,
but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just wasn?t here.
When I realized that he was too sick to tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how
much he needed me, I stayed.?

The next time someone needs you ? just be there. Stay.


**************
WE ARE NOT HUMAN BEINGS GOING THROUGH A
TEMPORARY SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE.
WE ARE SPIRITUAL BEINGS GOING THROUGH A TEMPORARY
HUMAN EXPERIENCE.
PLEASE PASS THIS ONE ON AND
GOD WILL BLESS YOU!
THIS IS WHAT WE ARE PUT ON THIS EARTH TO DO ANYWAY. RIGHT ?
HAVE A GREAT DAY AND BLESS SOMEONE ELSE IN SOME LITTLE WAY TODAY!
GOD IS SO GOOD.

Mohsen

Bluegreen April 15th 2010


Dear Ghazal,
Now I see that you write in here and then you keep disappearing suddenly girl, oh we'll
see each other tomorrow morning! We will! LOOOOOL

Hellooo there. How's everything with you honey? I've missed your posts to me although I
see you every day! Well, they are totally different,aren't they?( meeting and writing)

So,how's everything going on with you my next door friend?:))

Now I bet where you are now,in the room,studying grammar! You book worm! LOOOL

Hope you don't mind I was kidding,I read your post regarding natural beauty and I
wondered if you'd written anything about that artificial one and if you're with it or
against it!

I liked it,

Kepp writing something to me! It won't hurt,would it?! :)):))

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. Don't read alot,you might end up having heavy glasses! LOOL

Bluegreen April 15th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hi. How are you? How's your family? I really wish that everything's going on very well
with you.

I read that story that was really nice,it made me think of love stories, well I think it's a
kind of love and effection toward human beings,right? Kind of philanthropy!

Sometimes we are needed ut we're not aware of that and we keep doing the vice versa
thing and it might end up hurting other people's feelings,bu here in this story, it was so
dramatic finding out the lieutenant's action !

Thank you for the sweet story,


Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam April 15th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you doing? I hope all is well with you.

Thank you very much for asking me some questions concerning IELTS class.

First, I must say that I really have got a lot to do as if I am snowed under a lot of duties.
Being pressed for time, or being up to my ears in work just means to have got a lot to do.
I am not speaking about roughness are softness of something; I am just speaking about
the lack of enough free time to write and socialize as I used to do. :):):):)=))=)) LOL

As we know, you are a student, and you are studying English at a quite famous university
in Iran, so you inevitably taking part in many classes which are different courses in
English. How lucky you are! You are doing something you love. That's great. :):):):)

To come back to your questions:

1) There are four skills, and then four courses; listening, speaking, reading and writing.
You are at liberty to choose all of them or only one of them. I am taking part in speaking
class. There are many books related to this skill. The most famous one is "IELTS
Speaking Tests" by Dr. H. Iravani.

2) and 3) As I said, I am just going to 'Speaking' class, so the book is concerning some
common topics and questions which candidates are usually asked by examiners. The
book has got three captures. There are different parts; family, home, hometown, job,
education, and entertainment which are discussed and questioned in chapter 1. There are
40 or 50 questions related to each part. The teacher often chooses some questions and
wants us to make ourselves ready for the next session. In Class, the teacher asks the
students to answer some questions randomly. Nobody knows which questions will be
asked by the teacher. Therefore, I have to practice answering to more than 40 questions
for every session. It takes me a lot of time.

4) As a matter of fact, there is a world difference between this institute and Kish. The
teacher is knowledgeable and skillful with great British accent. The students are so
serious about learning. However, it is expensive.
I hope this helps.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 April 2010

behnam April 16th 2010


Hi Ghazal,

How are things? I hope all is well with you. Thank you very much for lovely posts.

I am fascinated by your opinion about 'natural beauty or...'. Would you please express
your opinion about artificial beauty?

Right now, a point came to my mind. Swear to God, it came to my mind right. I think,
women will look terrible if they don't wear make up! Women who wear make up are
respectful and we must treat them with respect, because they make the atmosphere look
beautiful. At least, they don't spoil the beauties of nature. I mean, by wearing make up,
they try to follow the beauty of nature. It is really admirable. Therefore, I believe a
woman, who wears make up, has respect for the society, people and herself!

The other week I was on a bus. I saw a young lady who had a mustache! Not as thick and
hairy as a man's mustache, but it was clear that the lady had a lot of hair on her face. It
was disgusting. A few seconds ago, when I wanted to be opposed to make-up, I suddenly
remembered that lady and her disgusting face. I told myself, "Come on Behnam! On the
one hand, you are against to make up in public. On the other hand, you hate to see hair
on ladies' faces! Isn't it a paradox?!"

Dear Ghazal, I have to leave, because I must reassemble and reset my mind. :):):):):)

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 April 2010

mortaza.abtahi April 16th 2010

Dear Kamelia,
Thank you very much for your nice post to me.

What does actually make mathematics seem difficult to study? Why do usually people
think that if their children study mathematics then they are smart and intelligent?

I clearly remember that when I was a student at high school, those students who studied
social sciences (Olum-e Ensani, if I am right in translating [!]) were not considered as
smart and clever as a normal person! On the other hand, those students who studied
mathematics and physics had a feeling if they had an IQ greater than that of normal
persons in society. Of course, it may not be necessarily true.

What is the result of this situation? One obvious result is that those people who are really
clever and intelligent have a tendency to continue their studies in mathematics, physics
and engineering and related fields. And thus those people who THINK they are not
capable of studying mathematics, physics and engineering feel constrained to accept to
study social sciences and related fields.

In my opinion, social sciences have a vital role in society. I think the cleverest and the
most intelligent people should study social sciences. After all, if there are ten good
engineers then there must be one successful manager to plan for these ten engineers!!

What do you think, Kameila?

I am waiting for your writing.

Yours sincerely,
Mortaza, April 16, 2010.

mortaza.abtahi April 16th 2010

Dear Rosa,

Thank you so much for your writing; It was great:)

You wrote about an important exam that your student had had to take. How was the
result? Was it excellent, good or just fiar? I hope all your students have passed the exam
with very good grades.

You said that you were mistaken for a student! I understand your feeling completely,
since I have been in a similar situation, too, for many times. I remember that, when I was
teaching in an institute as a part time worker, one day I went to eat my lunch at a certian
place where teachers go there to eat their lunch and students were not allowed to enter
that place, instead students had their own place to eat their lunch. While I was eating my
lunch at a table, a gentleman came towards me and said very quietly that I should not be
there. He said that perhaps I had made a mistake so he showed me the other place, where
students were eating their lunch there. It was embarrassing to me. I explained that I was
not a student and I was a part time teacher, and maybe that was the reason why he did
not know me!!

***
Dear Rosa, today is friday and I am at home. Last night, my daugther was crying and she
did not let us have a good sleep. She is sick, maybe she is poisoned by something because
last night, and today in the morning too, she vomited several times. We took her to a
doctor this morning and he prescribed her a few medicen including a shot [an injection].
I felt very sad when she took the shot; she was so week that she was not able to cry
loudly.

So we have to stay at home all day. I hope my daugther become healthy very soon so that
next weekend we can go outside for a picnic!!

Thank you very much for reading and I am waiting to hear from you.

All the best,


Mortaza, April 16, 2010.

January April 17th 2010


Hello Behnam, Hello friends I hope that you are all having nice times
Behnam,
Thank you so much for your friendly post. Well, about myself I am 24 and I have
terminated my studies in the field of chemical & process engineering. Currently I am
under training as process engineer. I like process engineering although of some
challenges I do face. I enjoy reading (only in areas that I like), travelling and cooking! I
am from Sultanate of Oman so Sultanate is not my last name!! Off course you know
Oman we are neighbors, separates us Arabian Gulf.
I completely agree with your opinions about natural beauty except makeup or as Marina
said (retouches) but you have changed your opinion about it ,so you are safe now ; )
Appeared beauty is indeed a gift from God for some people and others should not change
(in my opinion) their natural shapes that God gave them. Besides that, they should look
for their hidden beauty because there are so many things that make us love or appreciate
people rather than their appeared beauty like being funny, respective, cooperative,
informative, and merciful and so many good manners. I agree with Marina that some
retouches may be required either for ladies or men so they feel satisfied with their
appearance.
Best wishes and pardon me for any inconvenience
Bluegreen April 17th 2010
Dear Behnam,

Hii.How are you doing? How's your work going on with having A LOT TO DO?:)):))
I hope that everything's going on very well.

At first I wanted to say that thank you so much for reading my post and replying to that in
a kind way,I really appreciated it.

And about my mistake of having called your work a TOUGH one instead of calling it
HAVING ALOT TO DO,It must be my mistake there,so I'm terribly sorry about it.

Oh and about our University,well yes I might be a lucky student to be accepted here but
you know what when time passes you just feel that everything that once seemed so great
and surprising about something then becomes really usual.

I hoep you know what I'm talking about,there were some days which I used to live at
home and everything was prepared and it needed some lazy hands just to catch them! But
nowadays if you dont strive there's no such thing for you LOOOOL

Enough of complaining(sorry)LOOL I had to ask you something about the IELTS


classes,as far am I'm conerned you're having a nice time participating in those classes
and here I'm going to ask you one of those stereotypical questions what is so attractive
about your classes?How about your classmates,do you enjoy being with them?Are they
as curious and studious as you are?

Oh and something else,have you got any news from Marina? I think she might be on her
trip, I really don't know! I miss her!

Hope to hear from you so soon,

Take some rest time,don't bother too much :)

Sincerely,

Kamelia

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Bluegreen April 17th 2010
Dear Morteza,

Hi.How are you? How's your family doing? Oh I heard that sweet Negar's ill these days,
I'm really sorry to hear that, but to have a few words of sympathy with you I should say
that there's nothing wrong with her, the weather's changing too fast these days and as
you know in the first days of spring pediatricians are busy dealing with these little sweet
babies! Don't worry,she's going to be great in a few days.

Dear Friends, the matter you wrote about is so familiar to me, I remeber that when my
sister ws going to choose a major for her junior year of highschool(this takes place in a
year ago) we had such kind of problems,so they still exist! You won't believe if I say that
even some of the counselors told her that social sciences is just for people who are not
capable of solving math or physics problems,why would a logical girl like you want to do
that?! LOOL But she really liked to be a lawyer in future! Well at last they changed her
mind!

This was an example of what I had experienced,well you know,these are the
traditionalist's kind of ideas,they believe that whatever was accepted in the past shouldn't
be changed!
Therefor everyone has got two options whether to choose mathematics or the practical
science ! That means you can either become an engineer or a doctor! LOOOL

And about mathematics,you know, I think because there is a variety of what we can do in
mathematics and lots of mysteries unsolved people think that this is difficult to study, and
here's another personal idea:
I;m not sure if you can remeber this or not but in math classes teachers just teach and
most of the times students learn in class and because there's nothing more to do or
teacher cannot ask the next session so the end up closing the books till the exam session!
And mathematics have always been like this! So maybe generation by generation this has
been injected to our bloods LOOL

And there's another matter and that's lack of having strong teachers who can guide
students to learn math by their heart and then to use it as an applicable tool in their daily
life!

Seems like I'm expressing my ideas too much,and as you and our other friend Behnam
are teachers, so this might be a little bit dangerous for me LOOOL Better to leave the
situation :)):))
Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Don't forget to inform us of little Negar,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 17th 2010


Dear Marina,

Hello there. How are you honey? How's everything going on? I hoep that you're happy
and healthy,whereever you are!

Well better to complain a little bit because you're depriving us of your beautiful posts.

Honey, is is that you are on your new training trip? Or no you're just busy doing some
job's works?
Well, I see that all of my friends here are so busy these days and I can't really handle my
missing for them! Dear Behnam's busy with work and English Institue and you then in
another way,

I really wish to read from you so soon,

Please keep in touch,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam April 17th 2010


Hi Marina, Soheila, Andrew, Veronica, Negin, Setayesh, Elham, Cathy, Ahmad,
Mohammad, Minh, and all my friends,

How are you keeping? I hope everything is going well with you. This is just to let you
know that I've missed you terribly, and I've not forgotten you.

Would you please put a message and let me know if all is well with you? I'm waiting for
your messages, please don't keep me waiting.
I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 April 2010

behnam April 17th 2010


Hi Sahand,

How are you? I hope you are happy and healthy.

Thank you so much for the reply. Thank you once more for expressing your opinion about
beauty. It was very kind of you to participate in discussing.

You have praised me and have said many good things about me. That is very optimistic of
you to think of me so positively.

Dear Sahand, please do not hesitate to hold a topic for discussion.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 April 2010

behnam April 17th 2010


Hi Daruosh,

How life is going in your city? How about the spring, birds and flowers in mountains? I
hope you are filled with pleasure.

Thank you for sharing that story with us. I really enjoyed reading it. Please do not
hesitate to share some short stories full of morals. I love them, since they are all
instructive.

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 April 2010

behnam April 17th 2010


Hi professor Mortaza,

How are you? How about your family and your beautiful (touch wood) daughter? I hope
you have happy time with your family.

Thank you so much for posting some interesting posts. Thank you once again for
expressing your opinion about beauty. It was fantastic. I really enjoyed reading it. It was
reasonable, sensible, logical, rational and thoughtful. To be honest, you were expected to
write so, since you are a maths professor. :):):)

Please keep on writing. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 April 2010

behnam April 17th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are things? I hope you are extremely happy. Thank you so much for the story you
have shared with us. That is fascinating.

Please do not lose contact with us. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 April 2010

sami April 17th 2010


Hello Mortaza

How are you? and how aobut your nice daughter??? I hope she is fine now. Babies and
small children are usually ill, when there isnt a cold, it is the stomach...I say this because
my niece is ill many times, mainly in winter; maybe due to the fact that they have got less
defenses than adults, I don't know. The fact is that her doctor knows her very well
because she goes to the doctor at least twice a month! Poor she, last week she had a cold,
and it breaks my heart to see her lovely face when the fever is up! I think children would
never be ill!!! Is it the same with your daughter? Is she usually ill?

About my students ' marks all I can say is that I am very very very happy, because most of
them have passed their exams!!! I was suffering a lot!!! I suffered becaouse I wanted
them to pass it, and so continue their studies or find a job, and also because it was a way
of proving myself as a teacher. If results were negative in general, maybe there was
something wrong with the teacher, that is me! But all of them except two have passed the
exams; so this means that they have studied and also, that the teacher is not so bad at
all!!!! ;))))) I'm very happy!!! Now a new period starts, let's see what happens now!

I have to leave right now my kind friend Mortaza, thank you for writing to me, I enjoy
reading your posts, even those which are not addressed to me!

Have a nice time,


Rosa, 17 April, 2010.

metzean April 18th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Hope you are fine , You are with your classmates from English literature college ,a
powerful team ,thank you.
I don't know about English literature ,but i think the poems are not balance well ,they are
like new method of Farsi poem. How many English poets are you know? I know only
William Shakespeare.

Today is a bit raining and the scent of flowers spread all over there .
It is bit frustrating that fragrances don?t have names of their own. Have you noticed?
When we describe smells, we use similes, (smells like?), or we borrow other words,
because scents have none. Often we use flavors -which have their own definitions- like
?sweet? and ?sour?, or ?spicy? and ?tart?. Sometimes we employ tactile and visual
comparisons, like ?soft?, ?sharp? and ?delicate?, or when we describe a scent, we lean
on other adjectives such as ?fresh?, ?rotten?, ?pungent?, or ?beautiful?. Why are there
so few words to exclusively define scents? I can?t even think of one! Can you? In fact the
more unique a scent is, the harder this task becomes?

B.W
Mohsen

metzean April 18th 2010


Dear Behnam,

From that day you washed your car the weather was change in Iran ,the rain started .you
are a miracle ,I believe you . Wash your car time to time and do your miracle. I present
you a sheer size vase of daffodils to you ,hope you enjoy it.

B.W
Mohsen
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metzean April 18th 2010
Howdy Andrew,

Where are you dude? ......Docs. believe that leeches are useful for headache and many
other diseases. By releasing 200 ml of blood the body could be stabilized.
Please find some leeches, cure your sickness and come back.

B.W
Mohsen

Darioush April 18th 2010


Dear friends,

GHAZAL,BEHNAM,SHANR and all of members of this thread.

motivational sayings & stories - A Box Full of Kisses

The story goes that some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a
roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child
tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl
brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, "This is for you, Daddy."

The man was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when
he found out the box was empty. He yelled at her, stating, "Don't you know, when you
give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside? The little girl looked
up at him with tears in her eyes and cried, "Oh, Daddy, it's not empty at all. I blew kisses
into the box. They're all for you, Daddy."

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her
forgiveness.

Only a short time later, an accident took the life of the child. It is also told that her father
kept that gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was discouraged, he
would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each one of us, as humans beings, have been given a gold container
filled with unconditional love and kisses... from our children, family members, friends,
and God. There is simply no other possession, anyone could hold, more precious than
this.

Sincerely,

Darioush

January April 18th 2010


Dear Mortaza.abtahi, how is everything? Hope you are in good mood
The topic you recently posted is really interesting and some students may really suffer
from that. Excuse me to share my opinion here
Some students find mathematics difficult simply because either they do not like it (can
never enjoy it) or they are affected by bad ideas about it, so they do not see its beauty
although if they tried to like it they may succeed. Nobody can say that students are not
intelligent just because they do not like mathematics! Intelligence could be in other areas
otherwise we will not hear about the famous writers, poets, and lawyer etc.
Unfortunately, these old ideas about social sciences are still exist wherever you go I do
not why? Perhaps the main reason is the ignorance of some people in its essence. For me
although my area is science but I like social sciences and I do read more in social
sciences than in engineering or any other scientific area. This is because I feel that these
sciences are closer to our real life and we can apply them in our daily life. Honestly I do
not find them easier than scientific sciences it is just a matter of tendencies of what you
like and what you wish to be in the future. I have many friends who were intelligent but
they did not want to study medicine, science or engineering instead they preferred
different social sciences. Maybe specialists (like you ; )) can explain more about the core
of these sciences and their branches, so others can get better idea and change his/her
mind about these sciences : )
Wish to read from you : )
Regards, Maya
18/4/2010

ghazal April 18th 2010


Dear Behnam

Hi thanks million for your post

Oh you are enlightened man!!!really you think about make up?


If you didn?t say those things I must be surprise!?!

Now my idea about artificial beauty:


You know, now exist many surgeries for seem beautiful!
I think we can?t say every surgeries are bad and unacceptable
really no, sometimes some person have problem in his or her face and can?t adopt him or
herself with that and when go to society have bad feeling so can?t do their work well
about them I let them to surgery and don?t exist problem.

But about some one who has good and beautiful face but try to change him or her face!

I can?t accept some children in street work because don?t have enough money for living
and some one spend much money for change face and sometimes they lose their
health!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My friend I hope people try to look at society better than past perhaps they chose good
society with out poverty and?. Instead of artificial beauty

Best whishes for you

GHAZAL

ghazal April 18th 2010


Hi mohsen
how are you? I hope you enjoy your life.
Thanks million for your post and that interesting and lovely story

when I read stories like that one you wrote, I experience good feeling .
Really I don?t know what I must say just I repeat {thanks}

best whishes for you

SINCERELY

GHAZAL

ghazal April 18th 2010


Hi mohsen
how are you? I hope you enjoy your life.
Thanks million for your post and that interesting and lovely story

when I read stories like that one you wrote, I experience good feeling .
Really I don?t know what I must say just I repeat {thanks}
best whishes for you

SINCERELY

GHAZAL

mortaza.abtahi April 18th 2010

Dear Kamelia,

Thank you so much for your nice post and thank you very much for expressing your
anxiety about my little daughter. She is now better; the doctor said that it seems like she
is infected with a virus.

Let me continue talking about our current subject. When I was a student at guidance
school, we have a variery of courses: Mathematics, Sciences, Social sciences, Farsi, ... ,
and Art [=Honar!]. I think, still teachers teach these courses in guidance school.

At those days, I was OK in mathematics but not great; I didn't love mathematics but I
didn't hate it either. However, I clearly remember that I loved Art very much. We had a
very good teacher; he was a real artist. He had a very beautuful handwriting and he
could write masterly in Nastaliq style. He was also very good in painting and drawing.

I enjoyed his class very much so that I was getting better and better in art. I was able to
write in Nastaliq style in an acceptable way. I was also improving in drawing.

I am sure that you are familiar with an Iranian art called TAZHIB [in persian]. One day,
I brought one of my drawing in TAZHIB with me into class and I showed it to him. He
was surprised and asked me if I had drawn it myself and if it was my own idea. I replied:
"Yes" and felt proud!! And it was my last sweet image of studying art in my life!

When I went to high school there was not any thing about art in our courses. It was just
mathematics, physics, chemistry, etc., but not art. I cannot imagine what would happen if
I was able to continue study in art.

Thank you very much for reading and hope to hear from you very soon.

Sincerely yours
Mortaza, April 18, 2010.
shanar April 18th 2010
Hiii geniuse man. how are you? I hope you are fine.

ALL OF YOUR STORIES ARE VERY VERY NICE .


And again this story that you wrote was so nice and erudite. You know when i read your
storys, here or on your threat, unaware made me to thinking about them and then i refer
to myself in order to take myself as person's in your storys.

shanar April 18th 2010


Hiii geniuse man. how are you? I hope you are fine.

ALL OF YOUR STORIES ARE VERY VERY NICE .


And again this story that you wrote was so nice and erudite. You know when i read your
storys, here or on your threat, unaware made me to thinking about them and then i refer
to myself in order to take myself as person's in your storys.

shanar April 18th 2010


Hiii geniuse man. how are you? I hope you are fine.

ALL OF YOUR STORIES ARE VERY VERY NICE .


And again this story that you wrote was so nice and erudite. You know when i read your
storys, here or on your threat, unaware made me to thinking about them and then i refer
to myself in order to take myself as person's in your storys.

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shanar April 18th 2010


DEAR dariush
i wrote that post which are above for you .i forgot to read your name at top.sory honey
again thanks for your storys.i waiting for another one from you.

respectfully

shanar

Darioush April 19th 2010


Dear shanar,

How's it going? Are things going well with you?

Don't worry, that you forgot my name. We are friend and in a wolrd of friends, these
matters aren't important. Above all, thanks for your compliment.

With best wishes,

Darioush

mortaza.abtahi April 19th 2010

Hello my friend Rosa,

Your last post to me was very nice and I felt very comfortable while I was reading it.
Thank you very much.

My daughter (Negar) is now getting her health back, the only thing that we are worry
about her is that she has lost a few of her weight.

It is natural if girls are weaker than boys. For example, when my son was 12 months old
he had a significantly better weight in comparing to my daughter when she was 12
months. But, I think Negar does not gain weight as much as she should. Moreover, when
she become sick it causes her to lose weight. And this make us worry about her.

In my opinion, it is crucial for a girl to have a very good growth during her childhood
and teenage age. To be honest, it is very important if a girl has got a healthy body. It
would affect her future life if she is not short and is relatively tall, and if she has a normal
weight. After all, every girl wants to have a successful marriage and healthy children.
***

Finally, I would like to express my happiness that your students have been successful in
their exams and this implies that their teacher is, actually, a very good teacher. You
deserve much more my friend:))

Thanks for reading and I am waiting to hear from you.

Mortaza, April 19, 2010.

behnam April 19th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you doing? I hope you are full of energy and are filled with pleasure and
happiness. How life is going in the dormitory?

Is it easy to get along with other roommates? I am not advising, but if you want to have
the least trouble living in the dormitory with different people, from different cities with
different culture, there is only one way- try to accept them as they are! It is one of the
main rules of the universe-if you try to change the world outside yourself you won't be
successful at all. Acceptance is the key secret of getting relaxation, because it disarms
people! In my opinion, accepting someone/something as it is and don't trying to change
them is the sign of love. In other words, acceptance can be considered as the greatest
definition of love!

Stop Behnam! What are you saying? :):):):) Stop philosophizing. =))=)) lol

I am supposed to write the rest of the story about my journey. As far as I can remember,
the story must be continued from Mashhad; a very crowded city packed with people!

We left Mashhad at noon around 1:00 PM. As you know, there are two ways to Tehran
from Mashhad; from the north and from the west. We went there from the west, and we
left there from the north. Actually, it was my first time to use the north way. Anyway, we
chose it, and it was interesting.

The weather was sunny and beautiful in 'Khorasane shomali' province, but it gradually
became cloudy so that the sky became dark. In Golestand province it was foggy, so that
driving was difficult.

I forgot to say that I overtook a car on a forbidden place of the road, and a policeman,
who was hidden from my sight, stopped me. :):):):) I muffed it! :):):):):
P= the policeman; B=Behnam

My father started nagging. B= Keep calm daddy, keep calm! My mother wanted me to be
careful when I was crossing the road to go to the policeman.

B= Smiling, hello Janabe Sarhang (Colonel). Happy New Year and well down!
P= Hello and happy New Year to you too.

B= Thank you! What is the matter?

We shook hands then I gave my certifications to him.

P= Oh Mr...you are a good driver, but if you tell me what did you do, and why I stopped
you, I won't report this.

B= Well, I overtook dangerously janabe sarhang (colonel). I did it, because it was an old
car at low speed, even lower than speed limit on this road. It was really boring. I
followed the car for about one hour, but finally it made me nervous, and I did it even
though it was forbidden!

P= What an honest young man! He started to fill in a small form, actually to fine me
saying; "I am not going to report it this time. But drive carefully. I am just going to fine
you $20. The fine must be $30, but you are a good boy...":):):):) nice compliments!
=))=))

B= $20! Oh my God! How can I pay for it. That is a big amount of money.

P= You are lucky that I am not going to send you to parking. If I did it, you had to pay
more than this plus wasting a lot of time. By the way, you are not going to pay for it these
days. After holidays you will pay for it with New Year's salary...with a bitter smile. :):):):)

I generally do care about the driving rules, but you cannot imagine how much boring it
was to drive behind an old car. Many times I tried to overtake that car, but it was
impossible because the road was two-way and the other side of the road was full of cars,
bumper-to-bumper!

I was saying that 'Golestan' province was very beautiful. It was green. We were driving
through the forest; my dream place! It was foggy.

It was about 8:00 PM (I'm not sure), I stooped at the junction of your city and Gorgan's
road! We intended to go to Gonbad and stay there one night, but something happened
and we refused!

We arrived at 'Gorgan' and asked for a proper safe place for pitching our tent. People
said that 'bulvare nahar khoran' is the best place for pitching. We went there and pitched
our tent. We ate something and slept. It was raining dog and cat, but inside the tent was
dry. We were tired, so at that night raining, snowing and even stoning, etc. had lost its
meaning! :):):):):):)

In the morning, something terrible happened. I took my glasses to use them, but I found
them covered with dew and vapour. I took a piece of soft cloth to wipe my glasses, but
they got worse! My glasses were coated with an anti reflection layer, but I damaged the
layer. I was lucky to have another pair of glasses on the dashboard of the car.

We left 'Gorgan', while it was cloudy and quite cold. We arrived at Sari at aout 11:30 Am
and went to the beach (Farah abad). It was windy and very cold on the beach.

We ate lunch in Sari and drove to Tehran in the afternoon. I chose 'Firuzkooh' road,
since it is safer than the other road (Haraz) but a liitle bit longer.

About the north of Iran, and all public places in Iran, I can safely say that all were dirty.
I don't know why people throw cans, bottles, tins, pockets, papers, cartons to nature and
drop litter! They spoil the beauty of nature and damage the environment. If we don't think
of solving this problem, by forcing people (fining them for example), the north of the Iran
will be buried under rubbish in few years. This sounds sad! :(:(:(

We arrived at Tehran at about 5:PM. I really enjoyed this journey.

Thank you for reading.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 19 April 2010

Bluegreen April 20th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hello there. How are you? How's life going on with you? I really hope that everything's
ok in these nice days of spring.

Yes our major is English Literture and I don't know why but they say that it is much more
harder than Translation major! I just heard such thing I really don't know why, but
sometimes I see that students in Translation are much more fluent than us in using the
correct collocations and words!

Well you wrote about different scents and I think I've got the same feeling with you
sometimes, but when I think deeper I really find out that when you smell a certain
perfume you subconsciously come to judge about it whether is it a sweet smell or a sour
one or whether it is a sweet and soft one or a sour harsh one! I even heard that
sometimes they say well this fragrance smells like cucumber! LOOOL
Isn't it the same with you? Has it happened to you that sometimes you suddenly say oh
well this isa sweet one!

Anyway, we are in spring season and as days go by I can feel it more and more,like the
Aghaghia's flower scents,singing of little birds oh and here's a more rare scenary !
Walking of little kittens in the streets of our university! LOOOL
Spring seems really nice! I've got a pink imagination of it! :))

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 20th 2010


Dear Morteza,

Hi. How are you? How's little Negar? Oh I really with alot of joy and health for you and
your family.

So glad to hear that this sweet little sugar plump is feeling better now,you said that she's
lost some weigh,I'm sorry to hear that but these are the results of somedays of illness,
don't worry she's gonna be totally okey!

I remeber that when I was a little kid and whenever I got sick I was sent to my granny's
house because she could feed me almost better than the others because she was so patient
and whenever I came back from her house I was like a big roundy ball! LOOOOL(they
say) So with a little bit patience she's going to be as well as before :)

I read your wonderful post and I should say thanks for reading mine ! Honestly I had the
same feeling toward arts and I can't remeber If I've written here or not but I was gonna
continue painting and calligraphy but due to the fact that parents think there's no official
work for an artist so they totally changed my mind but I really miss those days! The
difference between you and I is that when guidance school finished I was going to
continue art but... you know!

Things happen and sometimes it's really out of our controls to manage them,right?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen April 20th 2010
Dear Behnam,

Hiiii. How are you doing? How's everything going on in Tehran? How about the
weather?Here's cloudy these days but as it is spring it's not that much cold!

Wow my god thank you so much for this long wonderful post, actually that was one of
your amazing posts to me I really like the ones which you keep writing about your trip in
them,they are intersting and I really learn alot from them especially from the words and
style of writing!

There's something you've written at the beginning of your post and that's about getting
along with roommates and try to accept them as they are,I absoloutely know what you
say but here's the thing sometimes you are so patience with other people but they keep
misusing or better to say misunderstanding you! And the only thing I hate! They think
that if you are silent and you treat them respectfully so you are a fool! But they don't
know that patience has an expire time right? Everyone can insult and fight that doesn't
need any special art or training!

Oh look at me,what am I saying?LOOOOL

Oh my god so you've been to all these cities that's wonderful I'm really happy that you
liked your trip to north and Mashad that is fascinating.

So you've been to "Nahar Khoran" ? It has a beautiful scenary if you'd got the chance to
look around, even the streets are nice and there's a little village there I wonder if you've
heard of it's name,it is called "Rustaye Ziarat" There's a nice little emamzade there and
the rest is all the picturesque forest around!

Well, about the all those trash and litters I should say that I really suffer from them I
can't really understand that why don't people try to avoide throwing all of them outside!
Why can't they keep them within their car and then throw them aways in trach cans!
What are garbage cans for?:)):))

Well you know what as soon as the population grows somewhere, I mean the amount of
tourists and visitor then the amount of garbage grows! Just compare that "Mantaghe
Azade Anzali" with "Farah Abad" the latter one's known by all people and you can see
the consequences!

You know, I think they should find these crowded and famous places and then provide
tourists and visitors with garbage cans and certain plastics for throwing the wastes in
them!

Oh god It was like I was giving some kind of lecture LOOOL

Oh and you've been fined! LOOOOL Good for you! My father says that the sign of a
good driver is having alot of unpaid fine papers in your dashboard :)):)):))

Dear Behnam, thank you for narrating the reast of your trip story to me that was so nice
of you,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

January April 20th 2010


Dear Behnam,
How are you doing? I hope you are in good health and are full of pleasure

I want to express my problem here and I am sure that you will try to help as possible as
you can. I hope that you will try to understand my situation as well as other friends.

As I mentioned once that I studied chemical and process engineering and as you may
expect the whole subjects were in English. I spent five years in the university reading,
listening, studying and writing in English. Now anyone can say, so you should be
excellent in English.

In fact, yes we were using English a lot but we were at the same time limited to the
scientific and engineering vocabulary, phrases and reports etc.

Even with friends, we were talking in English only when we talk about study otherwise we
prefer to talk in our mother language. Yes I can express my idea and explain something
in this limit only with quite confidence. Unfortunately I did not try to improve my general
English during study that was because the study was too heavy; we were too busy (I know
this is not a good excuse!).

When I started my training for the job, it was really horrible and scaring, everyone talk
in English (different nationalities) and there is lot of words and sentences that I never
heard about.
You cannot imagine my feeling when I want to say something or even say a joke to a
manager or when I attend any meeting. It is difficult to continue with this, I know I am
going to face problems.
I lack confidence : ( I only say things that I am sure about it, so my words become limited
and my sentences are short and do not indicate exactly what I wanted to say.
(DISASTER!!)
I want to improve my general speaking skills so I can talk freely and with confidence. I
know that I will learn with time (enshalla) but I need that confidence as soon as
possible!!

Honestly, I was so happy when you told me that my English is quite good that gave me a
big push forward. I hope you did not change your mind later : ))) I thought to study in an
institute for speaking but I do not know if that is gonna be effective, what do you suggest?

How do you see my English? What do you suggest to improve it from your experiences?
Behnam, please I need your advice and I will be so appreciated. Friends, any suggestions
will be so appreciated.

All the best in your English study and in your whole life

Your Friend, Maya


20/4/2010

January April 20th 2010


Hey Behnam,

I hope to read from you soon

Waiting for your reply

Regards, Maya
20/4/2010

behnam April 20th 2010


Hi Maya,

I am greatly surprised at your post. Thank you very much for sharing it with me.

I read your post a few minutes ago. You really made me happy. Do you know why? You
made me know that I am not the only person it this boat. WE ARE IN THE SAME
BOAT.:):):):):)
As I guess you know, I am taking part in an English course. The course is about
improving our speaking skills. To put it another way, it is a speaking class.

Last session, I spoke to the teacher about the great dependence of my ability, to speak
English fluently, on my mood. The teacher got shocked and said; "Mr...your English is
very good. You will get 8 out of 9. Your main problem is seeking for perfection!"

I didn't believe and surprisingly said; "Thank you for motivating, but isn't it a sort of
paying nice compliments?"

The teacher answered; "No! I am honest with you. You expect too much of yourself!"

Dear Maya, I have been learning English for more than 20 years, but I am not satisfied
with it. To be honest, in terms of English, I was one of the best students in school, high
school, and at university. At university, all my books were original. They were in English.
It was difficult for me to read books, related to Physics in Farsi. However, when it came
to speaking English the result was terrible.

I have started to improve my English skills since 2007. I have been doing it seriously. I
can safely say that all my free time has been spent on improving my English. I have been
writing in this thread, reading a lot of books and articles in English, listening a lot of
audio files in English, speaking to my friends in English, chatting to my friends through
voice-chat in English, etc. I have taken every opportunity to improve my English.
However, the result is not satisfying. At least, I am not satisfied with it.

It seems ridiculous to see some advertisements like 'Speak English in 1o sessions' in


streets. I have spent about 4*4*365=5840 hours on English since 2007 (4 is the average
hours of studying English a day, the other 4 refers to 4 years from 2007, and finally 365
refers to all days in a year).

I can safely say that I have spent at least 5000 hours and $5000 to improve my English,
BUT the result is not satisfying! There are only two possibilities:
1) Behnam is a fool, with a low IQ level.
2) The English language is an endless ocean.

I cannot judge about my IQ level, since everybody considers herself/himself as one the
most intelligent person in the world. Yes, that is funny. A wise man once said wisdom was
the only thing that had been distributed fairly by God, because everybody was satisfied
with his/her share! :):):)

I am neither a fool nor a genius, consider me as a person with an average IQ level, so


consequently the second possibility is likely true. :):):)

All in all, your English is excellent. This is my idea on your English, and I am sure it
won't change at all.
a) I am always looking for some pieces of advice, but as some tips on improving your
speaking I should say good listeners are good speakers. In other words, listening makes
you speak well. Try your best to listen to English. It doesn't matter what you listen to.

b) Try to practise speaking English. For example, speak to yourself. Try to describe what
you see in streets, try to speak about the situations you are in.

c) If you feel shy, try to speak to a mirror. It really helps.

d) record your voice and listen to it. If you find some mistakes, or if there is something
must be corrected, correct it and record your voice again, then listen to it. Try it until you
get satisfied with it.

e) Expose yourself to the English language. Try to put yourself in some situations that
force you to speak English. Make it possible to use your English through chatting on the
internet, in a chat-room for example.

f) I dislike watching television and films. That is a bad habit of me. However, I know it
helps. If you have no problems with watching TV or seeing films, try it. According to my
friends, the result will be wonderful. :):):)

g) Finally, write in this thread regularly and be in contact with Behnam.


:):):):)=))=))=))=)) looool hahahaha hehehehe jejejejeje

I have to leave right now. I have no time to check my post and to correct mistakes.
Forgive me.

I hope that helps.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 April 2010
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metzean April 20th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

How is everything going in Ferdosi university? Some friends of mine told me that in
Esfahan university and also Industrial University of Esfahan all students were supported
by wireless ADSL internet connection, so they are able to connect to internet by their cell
phones and laptops in campus free of charge and download everything in high speed
,lucky they are. How do you connect to internet in the university? Off course I don't know
about internet connection status in other universities of Esfahan.
B.W
Mohsen

January April 21st 2010


Dear Behnam;
How are you doing? I hope that you are in a good mood : )

I do not know how to thank you. From my heart; thank you so much for you post and
advices. Sometimes when you share your problem with someone, you either feel
comfortable or you may regret for that.

After reading your post, you really made me feel more comfortable regarding my
problem. I appreciate sharing your experiences in English field. Be sure that all your
advices will be taken into consideration.

So the way for satisfaction is too long but the good thing is that we are on the way : ) The
more I practice, the more I learn and get satisfied (great wisdom ; ) made by Maya).

I understand your tendency for learning English and becoming a good speaker with high
confidence and actually you did a great job for achieving your goal. You should feel
proud of yourself after your teacher?s compliment that is a big certificate. I had and still
have that tendency but maybe I was little bit lazy but now it is the time for work (very
serious!).

Your teacher is absolutely right; we expect more of ourselves and always seek for
perfection. Off course that is something good but it should affect us positively not
negativity. What do you think?

Talking to yourself and recording your voice are really good ideas to build confidence.
Practicing speaking as much as possible whenever you get chance for that, for example
with friends like here in this thread is really effective. Honestly I did learn from it.

Behnam, I would like to know your opinion;

I always think that if I had chance to be in an English spoken country for couple of
months, I will be able to gain the language easily and in a correct way and accent. When
you try to practice with yourself, you may make some mistakes and you do not know that.
I mean there should be somebody to correct you. I am really interested to know your
opinion, what do you think?

Have a nice day

Best regards,
Maya, 21 April 2010

Bluegreen April 21st 2010


Dear Maya,

Hi. How are you? I hope that everything's going on very well with you.

Dear Friend, it's been a while since I'm reading your posts and I really like them because
your writing is nice.And I'm happy today because I found the chance to write something
to you.

Dear Friend, There's something I wanted to mention and that's I really can't understand
why you keep saying that you're having problems with your English, well I should say
that my major in university is English but there are some of my classmates who can't
write even as half correct as you! Please go on practising English because I see the
talents in your posts,and the most important point is that you write really clear and that
is a positive point in you.

Dear Maya, I just wanted to ask you something, would please talk more about yourself?
Where do you come from? And is Maya a girl's or a boy's name?
You must forgive me for such questions but I really don't know!

Hope to read so soon from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

January April 21st 2010


Dear Kamelia,
How are you friend? How is everything? I hope that you are having nice times

I would like to thank you a lot for your post and motivation ; ). About my posts, it is really
nice to hear that from you. I read some of your posts before and I really liked them.

Dear Kamelia I am not a negative person but I believe that improving my speaking skills
and my English generally will play a big role in my success in terms of work and life.
That is why I am focusing on this issue a lot.

Well Okay I will not say a problem anymore it is just something important I must deal
with by all means available ; )

I am sure you will help me while practicing and stay on contact in this thread ; ) Well,
Maya is a girl?s name and I guess Kamelia is a girl?s name as well or am I wrong?
I do not know what you want to know exactly but I studied chemical & process
engineering in Oman and currently I am under training, I will start my work after several
months. I like reading, travelling and cooking!! I am from Oman.

I would like to know about you, so would you please tell me briefly about yourself?

If you have any recommendations do not hesitate to write to me

Hope to read from you as soon as possible


Have nice times

Regards, Maya
21 Aprl 2010

mar April 22nd 2010


Hi, everyone, I'm Chinese, My name is Ma, If you want to be my penpal,please send me
mail maruguang1@163.com. Waiting for your reply.

Bluegreen April 22nd 2010


Dear Maya,

Hii.How are you? How's Oman? It must be really warm there,isn't it? I hope that you're
doing all fine.
Oh so you are a girl right? Yeah Kamelia's a girl's name and it is a kind of flower's
name, What does Maya mean?
By the way I think that words have some tastes and your name has a great taste dear :)

So you're an engineer and a chemical one, glad to meet you, have you finished your
studies?How much of it has left?
Well I'm from Iran(as you know) and from one the provinces in northern part of Iran
called Golestan but I do study in another city called Mashad,I wonder if you've heard
about it, I study English literture and belive it or not I didn't even know that I'm gonna
fall in with it this much! Because before choosing this major everyone told me that oh
you've got an adventures morale so this major might be a little boring for you but when
time passed I found it really intersting because in every session of our classes we do
different things.

Oh about your hobbies well I kind of like them all,because I really enjoy reading books
but variety of subjects and about travelling,well you're going to learn new things in ever
travel,so it's wonderful.

Dear Maya, I didn't try to flatter you but I really believe that your English is in a nice
level and I really believe that if you keep going on in the right path you're going to
succeed in the same way as you want!

I've gotta leave now and I'm really sorry,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

metzean April 23rd 2010


Dear Kamelia,

How is everything with you ,I hope you are going fine. These days I am inviting for many
wedding ceremonies , I have 4 reletives which have got married during one week ,
(Aghad and Arrosi) 3 days a go, last night , tonight and Sunday night. Bride and grooms
are killing me , killing me ,because I love them ,I don't know why they are going to
overtake , are they rivals.....?, Is this the effect of season? but the most important was the
ceremony we had last week ,My brother 's daughter was received a proposal of marriage
(Khastekari) and she don't know what to do ,she don't know to refuse it or not. She is in
dilemma, she consulted ,she asked me to help her. she is studying software at university
and she has a religious belief and the man who proposed to her is a young 24 years
clergy man. She don't know if she is able to come along with a life of clergy man . She
spoke to him and I can say that their idea are the same. I don't know what to say her , she
like her uncle (me) and my idea effects on her decision . what is your idea , you are a girl
and you may receive a propose of marriage , what is important characters for you , what
is the problem of clergy man to marry him?

B.W
Mohsen

January April 23rd 2010


Dear Kamelia,
How are you friend? How is everything? I hope you are in good health and full of
happiness

Thank you dear for your post. I really missed writing here I was so busy the last two
days. Oman is fine and give her regards for you : ) Oh Kamelia, yes it is hot you can say
that we are in summer season but at night it's little bit better. I guess the weather in Iran
generally is very nice, isn't it?

Maya means many things, but I like one meaning; a dream. Your name also has a nice
taste (sweet), it should be given as a name for a dessert : )) Yes, I have finished my
studies. What about you, how much is left? I had some friends who were studying
English, they were enjoying their studies so much, actually they were having nice times.
How about you? Is it going smoothly or you're facing any problems ; )

You know visiting new places even in the same country has so many benefits. Refresh
yourself, see new places, met new people and off course you will learn something new
during travel. I think the important thing is who is gonna go with you because they can
make the travel either successful or not.

Thank you again for your nice words

Hope to read from you as soon as possible

Regards,
Maya
23/4/2010

Bluegreen April 23rd 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hi there. How are you? how's everything going on?How's the weather? I really hope that
everything's fine with you and your sweet family.

Dear Friend, good for you having too many wedding ceremonies in this beautiful season
of year i wish I were you LOOOL
Joking aside, I really know what you say, there are some times of the year totally vacant
from any kind of ceremonies and then on the contrary there are some times that your
calender is filled with too many parties. Life's always been like this :)):))
well, to tell you the truth your niece has got the right to be confused because before the
proposal you tell yourself that oh come on it's nothing it's just a suiting ceremony you can
say either yes or no, BUT! the real story just begins when the family have visited you and
you're just in the right place to choose that is the hardest pat because for the first time in
your life you are making a huge decision for your OWN LIFE!
I understand her.

But you know what, you're saying that their ideas are really in harmony with each other
so if they've got no problem on money matters,house car or even the boy's salary I think
your niece should think more serious!
For me, his opinion's really important, what he thinks about my appearance, my career,
my way of speaking and so on!

You know they say that you have to take it easy and not think of it that much deep but it's
your life,right? You're gonna start a living with somebody else so how can you avoid
asking him the questions about his ideas of an ideal wife!

I think I wrote too much, besides I think she's lucky to have you as an uncle because you
can talk to her and make her aware of your own opinions about it.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 23rd 2010


Dear Maya,

Hii.How are you? How's everything going on with you?

Actually I'm doing all ok but just ok! well these days I'm alittle bit busy with different
tests that is given to us and it's some sort of making trouble for me to manage my time!
About the weather,oh it's warm but due to the fact that Mashad has a dry climate so you
won't feel that vapour and humidity in the air as much as you did in the northern part of
Iran! But the air's stable, and therefor you can smell the great scents of flowers on trees
and bushes! (a very nice scenary)

As your friends and you said, I'm really enjoying this major which at first didn't think that
I would! I really didn't!

To tell you the truth I'm in the middle of my second semester LOOOL and it's along way
to finish :)):)) besides I'm not thinking of quitting this soon and after four years!

Dear Maya, you talked about travelling and travelling with others, and it happened that
last night my parents called and they said that they're planing for a trip in summer but
they didn't tell me where to! So I'm a little bit confused LOOOL and they know that how
much I enjoy it!
I knid of agree with you about travelling in the cities of our country,there are still lots of
unseen wonderful places, so it's a good idea.

I was thinking of a question dear, is Oman a peninsula? Is it an Island? Well if it is I


really wonder if I could come and visit it one day!

wish you enjoy every moment of your days,

Hope to read from you so soon,

sincerely,

Kamelia

639

January April 24th 2010


Dear Kamelia,
How are you? How is everything going with you? I hope that you are doing well in exams
and have prepared a good schedule for managing your time.

I see why you are having many weddings in Iran this time of year; nice scents and wind :
))

Yes, you should think in that way just enjoy your studies and times and the four years will
pass quickly. You will miss these days with your friends later. So just live every moment
and enjoy it friend.

Dear, Oman is not a peninsula you may have mixed between Oman and Musandam
region which is a peninsula. Musandam is located in the far north of Oman and the
peninsula is like an island but it is connected to the land from one side ( it is half an
island). The Musandam Peninsula is jutting out into the Strait of Hormuz at the entrance
to the Persian Gulf. I have heard a lot about it and the beautiful rocky beaches, birds and
the nice weather there but I didn?t visit it yet.

I don?t know actually how you can get in there but may be Iranian people know better.
You should tell me when you come, we might meet : )) I hope that you will enjoy the trip
that your parents have prepared.

This summer we are planning to visit Egypt, my niece is studying there. I?m so interested
to see pyramids may be I will find my treasure there : ) :) like The Alchemist (joking
aside). By the way The Alchemist is a novel written by Paulo Coelho I wonder if you have
read it, it?s really amazing.

You told me that you like reading too, so would you please tell me what kind of books you
prefer to read? What is your preferred author? What it is the best book you have ever
read? Sorry for all WHATS : )) I know you are busy nowadays, so take your time for
reply ; )

Good luck in your studies and have wonderful times

Hope to read from you soon

Regards, Maya
24 April 2010

January April 24th 2010


Dear Behnam,
How are you? Long time since your last post, I hope everything is going well with you

I have read and heard a lot about the fascinated weather in Iran nowadays, you are
really lucky. I know how nice weather can affect feelings positively and so our
performance. So I hope you are performing well and having nice days.

All the best in all your activities

I hope to read from you very soon

Best regards, Maya


24 April 2010

behnam April 24th 2010


Dear Maya,

Thank you very much for nice posts. How life is going? I hope all is well with you.

Dear Maya, I dislike to upset you, but I don't know why I always think of you as an
Iranian girl. You write like an Iranian girl. To put another way, your style of writing is
very similar to my Iranian friends's styles. Your way of writing is Farsi based! That is
amazing.

In Tehran the weather is excellent. I really love it. Birds are signing, trees are covering
with green leaves and blossoming, flowers are blooming. The life is smiling at us. I am
really enjoying the beautiful scenery of my city. It takes my breath a way. :):):):)

How about your city? Please write me about your likes and dislikes.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 April 2010

behnam April 24th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are things? I hope you are in a very good mood, filled with pleasure and happiness.
Thank you very much for keeping our friendship going. Thank you once again for not
being a fair - weather friend (So far)! (winking :):):):))

It seems you have got many things in common with Maya. How lucky you are! I wish both
of you happiness and success.(Again winking :):):):):)LOOOL)

Thank you so much for praising me for my last post to you. That is very humble of you to
say a lot of positive things about my post. In fact, you have exaggerated me friendly. That
is OK! :):):):)

Please do not lose contact with me. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 April 2010

behnam April 24th 2010


Dear Mohsen, Morteza, Marina, Ghazal, Shanar, Andrew, Cathy, Veronica, Elham,
Nastaran, ROSA, Setayesh, Ahmad, Mohammad, Sahand, Darioush, Tohid, Hossein,
Minh, and all people who visit this thread and have already been here,

This is just to let you know that I've missed you terribly. I won't forget you, even though
you forget me. I even don't expect you to remember me, or to keep my name in your
minds. I also never prevent you from keeping or losing it. It is completely up to you. What
I want you to do is just putting a short message in this thread, and then stop me worrying
about you (Mohsen is an exception, since he is in contact with this thread now).

I am waiting for your messages. Please don't keep me waiting.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 April 2010

behnam April 24th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you? How about your family? I hope all is well with you.

Thank you very much for wonderful emails. Thank you once again for being in this thread
and keeping our friendship going.

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 April 2010

behnam April 24th 2010


Dear Friends,
Recently, a friend of mine asked me to define love. As I guess you know, I've written
about love many times. Therefore, I wanted my friend to refer this thread. However, I
think it must be defined by me again, since it is still unclear for some of my friends.

In my poor opinion, love and acceptance goes hand in hand! When you accept
someone/something you love them/it. If you want to love someone/something, try to
accept them/it as they/it are (is).

Someone says to his partner; "I love you very much. I need you, and I cannot live without
you." However, I believe, that's not love. That's hunger rather than love. We cannot need
someone desperately and love them at the same time. We should also know, if we really
cannot live without someone, we are not human beings, so we have no value! If we have
no value, who needs us then?

Loving people means giving them the freedom to be who they choose to be, and where
they choose to be. Love is allowing people to be in your life out of choice.

If you love someone, don't force them to stay with you, let them go! If you love someone,
and your life is tied to them, this is selfishness not love. Lovers don't care about their
desires, health, needs, death, etc.

In a nutshell, if you give freedom to your friend to choose, you love them. If you accept
someone as they are you love them. This is the greatest sign of love I think.

If you are going to measure the intense of love between you and your partner, focus on
yourself instead of seeking for some criteria on them. Look how much freedom you give
them, how much unconditional care you have about them, AND the level of your
acceptance! If you have accept someone without nagging, complaining, criticising, and
without trying to change you love them undoubtedly. What a nice formula Behnam!
:):):):)

I wish you the best love, happiness, succees and all the best in the world.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 April 2010

behnam April 24th 2010


Love and acceptance go hand in hand with each other....The intensity of love.. How much
care you take to somebody...sorry for many mistakes.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 April 2010
behnam April 24th 2010
Oh my God! How can I forgive myself? I haven't written Roghayeh and Soheila!

Dear Roghayeh and Soheila,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. This is just to let you know that
I've missed you a lot.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 April 2010

Bluegreen April 24th 2010


Dear Maya,

Hi. How's everything going on these days?How's Oman these days? Hope that
everything's fine with you.

Thank you for reading and replyinh to my posts, that is so nice of you.

Thank you so much for telling me about Oman and persian Gulf, well I knew alittle about
the geography fo that places perhaps you should tell me more, about your city and where
you live well you are familiar with the area, aren't you?
I really would like to know more about it,for example about special places that you go to
for holidays and vacation times or about different malls,you know! Girls know these
things better, right? LOOOOL

Honey, that was so nice of you to offer the alchemist book, well yes I've read that and I
had a short talking about that today,so, how come you thought of that book? There are a
whole lot of books related to Egypt, like the Cleopatra, Bond woman of the Egypt's
queen, The goddess of Egypt, Gods of Egyptions, even the tin tin books, you see, we've
got a huge variety in book choosing, would you tell me why you've chosen this book? And
to tell you the truth I really liked the book! but it wasn't much about Egypt, was it? What
do you think?

Oh you reminded me of some other books, like Gone with the wind or the George Orwell
ones, how do you like them?

Dear Maya, as I told you I really like your name and it reminds me of a movie called The
wild things, have you ever seen it? Well I really with that you do, then in this case we can
talk about it.
I think I made you have headache,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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sahand April 24th 2010


Hello Behnam

What's up ?

(Behnam mizashti 1,2 mahe dige javab midadi :D)

Don't worry about us, I was taking care of all visitors when you were gone :D

You seem to be busy these days. What's going on there man ?! Are you busy working
outdoors ?

Some how I felt idle on the board, I've got nothing to do. I'm just hanging around on
these pages without writing to anyone ... never mind.

wish you luck

Sincerely;
Sahand

metzean April 24th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

You are about 20 years old like my niece ,but you have gained experience of 40 years old
one. What did influence on your thought to form such great mind? , what was the things
around that you take influences from ? did you have a turning point in your life?

Thank for sharing your advices to my niece, it was useful and I forwarded your points to
her. I also told her that she should not accept him unless he will be conformed to the
characters he is being evaluated.no matter how many meetings is needed.., she should
continue . what do you thing about times of meeting, and what questions do you suggest
for her to ask him ?

Thanks for your help.


Mohsen

behnam April 25th 2010


Hi Sahand,

How are you? I hope you are enjoying every second of your life.

I'm terribly sorry to keep you waiting, but believe it or not, I haven't got a minute to call
my own! I am buried under a lot of homework, and snowed under a lot of duties! :):):):):)

However, don't worry Behnam is a kind of person, never finishes a task if he starts! I
won't leave this thread unless the number of posts reaches 10000! I'm not sure about
after getting this point, but I'm sure I will stay here and I will try to make the number of
posts 10000.

Writing in English and posting in this thread give me inner satisfaction. It fills me with
happiness and pleasure.

Dear Sahand, I want you to make this thread active. Would you mind introducing some
topics?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 April 2010

behnam April 25th 2010


Dear Friends,

How are you keeping? I hope all is well with you.

I believe, the majority of ladies are unstable. They change their ideas frequently and
suddenly! Today they make some decisions, tomorrow forget them! Today they promise,
tomorrow they break it! I am not nagging or complaining, I am just asking for reasons. In
fact, this behaviour makes life interesting and tolerable.

Would you mind writing about the reasons which make ladies unstable when it comes to
decision making and opinion expressing?
I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Bhenam, 25 April 2010

metzean April 25th 2010


Dear behnam,

Thanks for reminding me, I hope you keep this thread for more than 120 years and then
your child keep it to continue.

Falling in love is like setting a fire ,the flame may rises to the sky, but when the flame
comes down how to keep the fire hot, this is the art of life, if people know about the art
they can make the fire hot for ever.

This is another idea that I read it on internet.

love has different meanings for all. To writers, love is words. To artists, love is color. To
a comic, love is laughter. To a baby, it is mother. To bees, it's nectar. To flowers, it is
sunshine. And to cows, it is a lot of bull.
It all depends on you what love is going to mean. Love is a ladder with many rungs. At
the lowest it is physiology, biology, chemistry. It is nothing but a play of hormones. A
man is attracted towards a woman, a woman is attracted towards a man. They think they
are falling in love, but if hormones could laugh they must be laughing inside you -- you
are befooled. What you are calling love is nothing but attraction between male and
female hormones. It is pure chemistry; at the lowest point it is not more than that. It is
animal, it is lust.

And millions of people know only love at its lowest. Because of these people there has
arisen a great tradition of renouncing love. They are wrong, because they have accepted
the lowest rung as if it is the all. It is not so. If you go a little higher, a man's love for
music is not chemistry, it is not hormonal, it is not physiology; it is psychological. A
man's love for flowers cannot be reduced to sexuality. A man's love for painting... there
have been painters who have sacrificed their whole lives just to paint.

B.W
Mohsen

alne April 25th 2010


Dear Behnam?
I'm a new comer and I am a college student .When I see your letter,I'm so glad.Because I
love English too.So we I hope we can become good friends.My email address is
:xzy19910214@163.com.
I'm looking forward your reply.
Best wish.

January April 25th 2010


Dear Behnam,
How is everything? Hope that everything is going in a perfect way

I really feel happy when I find time for reading and writing posts BUT

You really made me upset : ( I'm surprising, how that strange idea came to your mind!
Anyway, I don't think that I have to prove anything for you. I already illustrated the
purpose of my precipitation in the thread. If you still think that I'm an Iranian lady and
one of your previous friends who is trying to play or deceive you, be sure that all your
thoughts are wrong! Actually I don't like doing such silly things and I get angry with
friends who try to do so with me ( like sending messages from unknown number for
example). To tell you the truth, I have no time for that.

I just wanted to practice English more and you and Kamelia showed very nice
cooperation I do really appreciate that for you both. Before my precipitation in this
thread, I did read many posts for you and your friends and I found that your thoughts and
even your way of discussion is much similar to us. That had encouraged me to be with
you. I don't know why Arabian precipitations in this site is so limited.

I think that is more than enough to make things clear. Oh now I have understood your
hesitation and lateness in reply ; ) By the way I wrote a post to one of the friends and she
didn't reply. I thought firstly that she didn't like my way of writing or something else but
maybe she thought of me like you did.

Ok let us close that page : )) You asked me about likes and dislikes. Lot of things came to
mind but do you mean hobbies or habits or food : )). Would you please be more specific :
)
About my city, I live in a small town in Al Batinah region which is located in northeast of
Oman. Al Batinah region generally is overlooking the sea. It is the Arabian Gulf as we
call it but I think you call it Persian Gulf : )) anyway doesn't matter!! What if we call it
Arabpersian Gulf to be fair (joking aside). So I live in a coastal region and it is famous in
agriculture because of its fertile plain. The weather generally cold in winter (preferable
season for me which is too short) and very hot and humid in summer which continue for
most of the year. To be fair with our weather : )) , I can say roughly that maybe we have
nice weather for two months in the whole year (this is MY opinion). See you are really
lucky for the nice weather you have.

I would like to apologize for any inconvenience

Have wonderful times

Hope to read from you soon

Regards, Maya
25 April 2010

January April 25th 2010


Dear Kamelia, How are you friend? I hope that everything is going smoothly with you

Thank you for your nice posts. So sorry for my lateness for replay. I have lot of issues to
be done this period

Dear friend, seems like you missed understand me; I didn't ask you all that (WHATS) to
evaluate your readings. What I understood from your post is that you are trying to make
the same with me or am I wrong ; )

Dear, I don't read a book before hearing compliments on it from many people. Then I
search for it in the net and try to get better idea about it. After that I make my decision
wither I would like to read it or not. That is because I believe that if you read any book
just because it is important you won't benefit. I mean you should like the subject and the
author thoughts and way of writing, so you enjoy reading and off course you will benefit.
To tell you the truth, I left reading for long time because of the reason of just reading!!
Now thank God I read but only what I like!

I guess you have understood me now ; ) I do the same with friends who like reading.
Maybe there is great books that I never heard about or an author whose writing is so
interesting to read. It is kind of sharing knowledge ; )

About The Alchemist you surprised me; I really don't know how come : )) I liked that
book a lot and it did affect me and my way of thinking so I wanted to know your opinion
about it. Yes actually it does not talk about Egypt mainly, it talks about something much
bigger. It contains lot of great words that I think everybody should always remember,
they are like guidelines to continue our life happy (That was MY opinion).

Yes I liked Gone with Wind but I didn't read the second one I'll try to read it and give you
my opinion ; )

About the movie, in fact I don't like watching movies that much!! I watch sometimes with
my friends. Unfortunately I didn't watch that movie : (

Unfortunately I have to leave right now, I'll talk later about my city and tourism in Oman

Have great times


Hope to read from you very soon

Regards, Maya
25 April 2010

sahand April 25th 2010


Hi Behnam

How's it hanging ?

That's okay, I was just joking ... take your time for answering. I know we're here to learn,
not to discharge our duty.

My busy mind is trying to be still, I've got a question ! I feel like everyone's writing to
their boss !!! all of comments are completely written in a formal way. Why is it like that
?!
And about introducing topics :

1. Single-sex education or co-education


2. Women working out side
3. Which one effects more on our behaviors ? Nature or nurture ?
4. Love marriage or arrange marriage ?

I haven't got enough time to think about more topics. I will post you more at night.

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely;
Sahand

Bluegreen April 25th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hi. How are you dear friend? How's everything with you and with your nice family? I
really wish that you're having nice days.

Dear Friend, i'm so glad that you liked my post and thank you so much for reading and
replying to that, beyond all, you surprised me to a great deal ! Do you really think of me
like that? I mean are you serious or you were just joking?
Well if you ARE serious and then that's the case the i must be really proud of myself
(esfandy chizi dood konam hmm?) LOOL

Dear, that is so nice of you to explain my characteristic like that but really, I'm
complimented LOOL

Turning point? well, um, I really don't know what do you mean by turning point? There
have been a whole lots of different situations which I had to both act as a girl and as a
big woman! I can remeber that they were tough times maybe those made me act like a
mamma right now LOOOOOL

well, to talk about matters serious now, I shall say that there are lots of questions but for
me these are important:

1. what he thinks of my appearance


2.what he thinks of behaviour outside( you should ask this, because then you might
understand that one day he's standing in front of you telling you seriously that I don't like
you to LAUGH! out side, even when near me) Believe it or not but these things happen
3.what he thinks of my education, would he let me continue it till the level that I want

4.what he thinks of my religion and the way I use to pray( based on my opinino religion is
such an inner and personal matter so people have different ways to talk to god and one
shouldn't force the other)

5. what he thinks of a marital life! I mean how does he interpret the word partner? Does
he call his wife as zan! lady! Manzel! or the real Hamsar!

Dear friend, I really didn't want to make you tired by making it too personal, but you
know what I think girl's responsibilty is to observe the boy from different aspects! Not
just asking him what have you got for me?!!!

I really wish happiness, health and success for your sweet niece,

Hope to hear from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. Dear I'm 19 not 20 ! It is not that important but as there are my other friends here so
they might get you wrong LOOOOL just kidding, sorry

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Bluegreen April 25th 2010


Dear Maya,

Hi there. How are you? What's up honey? I really wish you joyful days.

Oh it's quite ok with me, I understand that people might not have time to catch up, so
please take your time,ok?

Honey, you got me totally wrong! I didn't mean to compensate or to take revenge by
those questions LOOOL

Yoy know, actually, after writing all those I suddenly remembered that oh my goodness
that was too much, is she going to misunderstand me? I really didn't mean to do it back!
I'm sorry!
Thank you so much for reading my post and posting your opinion about the books and
movies, and about the movies maybe if I got older and busier like you i didn't have any
time to watch movies either! So that was fair enough, I undertand, but honey tell you
what, movies will help alot with English learning, and I guess Dear Behnam had said
such thing right?

Well about what Dear Behnam mentiones, Maya, please don't get upset for what I'm
going to tell you, well we are friends now right? To be honest with you I had the same
feelings as Behnam did! I am a frank person but at the same time I think of different
solutions to vaporate my suspicion about people and now I think that this similarity in
way of talking might be from the geographical positions! Well you live in Oman and
that's quite near to Iran, right?!

So please don't get the pet, at the beginning of each friendship these things happen

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 25th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiii. How are you doing? How's everything going on with your classes and your
homeworks? Are you managing to do them all? well I really hope that you do, because as
I can see you seem an industrious student.

Dear, thank you for wirting to me, well I really don't know about the thing you mentiones,
actually Maya and I are having some similarities without even knowing each other and
that's even amazing to me too! Like the book I mentioned!!

I'm writing this post to you just because I really need to talk,today was an absoloute
horrible day for me! I had two hard exams, and they were grammar and reading exams
exactly after each other and as you know the class was in such a relax atmospher that
eveyrone could concentrate LOOOOL

Dear Behnam, the first exam was the grammar one I managed to do all the questions
well, and the professor made us all sure that it's going to be an easy one but the last
questions were all kind of suspicious and you could answer them in two different ways!
Well you can't imagine how much frustrated and annoyed I was when I got out because
till the level that I considered my point I had nearly two wrong answers and I don't know
about the rest yet!

Now about the second and the reading one, we had about 20 minutes to read an eight
paragraphed article about the ways how people manage to live longer than usual like the
age 142 ! We had about 10 or 12 multiple choice questions, most of them were easy but
again it had a questions that half part of the class thought the answer's C and the other
thought that the answer's A and both parts had some reasons but the professor acted like
a dictator by saying that I've go tmy own reasons and I won't tell you and the answr's A!
While I was on the C side! :((:((:((

Now the worst part of both exams was the CHEATING of the students! At the beginning
of the class all professors say that we are VIGILANT and we've got eyes at our back part
of the head but that is absoloutely nonesense because there IS no control! EXATLY NO
CONTROL! All of them cheated and some of them even got the 20 mark by this cheating
and all I could do is just watching them with furious face! There was nothing else I could
do!

Oh my god! You can't really imagine how terrible this day was! I wonder if you've
noticed any of your students do such thing, how would you react to them? How would
you talk to them? What would you do generally?

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. I'm so sorry to talk about my problem this fast and sad but I really had to tell you, it
was important for me to discuss the matter with you.

ghazal April 25th 2010


Dear Mohsen
Hi, how are you? I?m really sorry because I send your answer so late!!!

In this week I had 2exam so I was so busy (Lool)

Every things here is good but weather is not good in mashhad ,it is so hot

In Ferdowsi University we have special places that we can connect to internet .


Can I ask you question?
Did you marry?
You know why I ask this question? Because of your picture in your profile!
I hope see your post soon

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

ghazal April 25th 2010


Dear Meya
Hello, I hope you have good time and enjoy your life

[welcome]

I?m 18 years old and I?m studding English literature


I and kamelia and shanar are classmates!
Please you tell some things about your self?

I tender some things interesting about friendship for every one join us
And it is for you:

(Real friends are always helpful and kind.


You can always trust a friend.
A friend will never turn his/her back and walk away.
A friend is always around when help is needed.
I will never be let down by a friend.
My real friends never bully or laugh at me.
My friends never make fun of others but try to make them feel wanted.
My group of friends have genuine fun)

I hope see your post soon

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL.

behnam April 25th 2010


Dear Maya,
How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you very much for the
reply. Thank you once again for giving some explanations.

I didn't mean to upset you, I am terribly sorry. For me it doesn't matter whether you are
an Iranian girl or an Arab. People's personalities matter, which is hidden behind their
words. You've got a strong personality, and I admire you very much.

Your English is excellent. I hope our friendship will hemp me to improve both my
personality and English skills. I hope so.

Please forgive me and forget the matter, as if it hasn't happened!

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 April 2010

behnam April 25th 2010


Dear Maya,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you very much for the
reply. Thank you once again for giving some explanations.

I didn't mean to upset you, I am terribly sorry. For me it doesn't matter whether you are
an Iranian girl or an Arab. People's personalities matter, which are hidden behind their
words. You've got a strong personality, and I admire you very much.

Your English is excellent. I hope our friendship will hemp me to improve both my
personality and English skills. I hope so.

Please forgive me and forget the matter, as if it hasn't happened!

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 April 2010

behnam April 25th 2010


Dear Maya,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you very much for the
reply. Thank you once again for giving some explanations.
I didn't mean to upset you, I am terribly sorry. For me it doesn't matter whether you are
an Iranian girl or an Arab lady. People's personalities matter, which are hidden behind
their words. You've got a strong personality, and I admire you very much.

Your English is excellent. I hope our friendship will hemp me to improve both my
personality and English skills. I hope so.

Please forgive me and forget the matter, as if it hasn't happened!

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 April 2010

behnam April 25th 2010


Dear Maya,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you very much for the
reply. Thank you once again for giving some explanations.

I didn't mean to upset you, I am terribly sorry. For me it doesn't matter whether you are
an Iranian girl or an Arab lady. People's personalities matter, which are hidden behind
their words. You've got a strong personality, and I admire you very much.

Your English is excellent. I hope our friendship will hemp me to improve both my
personality and English skills. I hope so.

Please forgive me and forget the matter, as if it hasn't happened!

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 April 2010

behnam April 26th 2010


Hi Alne,

Thank you so much for putting message in this thread. Welcome!

Love is a powerful motor. If you love English, you will improve your skills easily. I like
English very much(like you).
I am up to my ears in work, so I cannot take time to email. I am so sorry. I promise to
answer your posts (here).

Would you please write a little bit more about yourself?

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 April 2010

behnam April 26th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Thanks a million for trying to keep this thread
active. Thank you once again for paying some nice compliments.

I got surprised and fascinated by love from different people's points of view. It was really
fantastic. However, you didn't say how physicists define love! :):):):):)

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 April 2010
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behnam April 26th 2010


Hi Sahand,

How are things? I hope you are happy and healthy. Thank you for friendly reply. Thank
you once more for producing such great topics. I love them very much. I promise to write
about it as soon as I can take time to do.

I personally write neither formally nor informally. I am not familiar with them. That is
why I write in my own way! :):):):)

Would you mind telling me more about formal and informal language?

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 26 April 2010

behnam April 26th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you keeping? I hope you are fine. Thanks for your nice posts. I really love your
posts. They are instructive. I learn a lot through reading your posts.

I am writing this short message to greet you. I will write a report on my IELTS speaking
class soon.

I will also write about cheating at exams & cheats as soon as I can. (Shame on all
cheats!)

Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 April 2010

Darioush April 26th 2010


Dear Friends,

Casey Jones
retold by
S. E. Schlosser
Casey Jones, that heroic railroad engineer of the Cannonball, was known as the man
who always brought the train in on time. He would blow the whistle so it started off soft
but would increase to a wail louder than a banshee before dying off. Got so as people
would recognize that whistle and know when Casey was driving past.
April 29, 1900, Casey brought the Cannonball into Memphis dead on time. As he was
leaving, he found out one of the other engineers was sick and unable to make his run. So
Casey volunteered to help out his friend. He pulled the train out of the station about
eleven p.m., an hour and thirty-five minutes late. Casey was determined to make up the
time. As soon as he could, he highballed out of Memphis (highballing means to go very
fast and take a lot of risks to get where your headed) and started making up for lost time.
About four a.m., when he had nearly made up all the time on the run, Casey rounded a
corner near Vaughin, Mississippi and saw a stalled freight train on the track. He shouted
for his fireman to jump. The fireman made it out alive, but Casey Jones died in the wreck,
one hand on the brake and one on the whistle chord.
The Ballad of Casey Jones is still sung today.
Sincerely,

Darioush

behnam April 26th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

I have got some free time right now, so let me write something about cheats and cheating.

I really hate cheating and cheats! Cheats make me sick.

I believe cheats are some people with low level of self-esteem. There is no different
between cheating at exam, at a game, at a competition, at with cheating on somebody. All
are the same! There is no difference between cheating to get a good mark, to get one
billion Dollars, or to win an election, or even to get only one Dollar! All are the same!
Do you know why they are all the same? They are the same, because the action
(cheating) comes from the same mind (source). A cheat will cheat, it doesn't matter what
and when. Cheating at an exam shows that they are capable of cheating! They have got
talent for cheating! This is important.

A thief is a thief whether they steal a pen or they rob a bank! Why? Because tendency is
the same. There is a tendency for them to steal! Therefore, in Islam, it is the same if
someone steals a pen or robs a bank. I personally believe this rule can be followed(can
be applied)when it comes to judging about cheat and cheating!

Dear Kamelia, cheats can't be successful, and cheating doesn't work at all. This is one of
the main laws of the entire universe!

I prefer dying to cheating! If a student of mine cheated, I would give him Zero without
any hesitation. If a student of mine found a problem difficult and asked me for help, I
would help them to solve. In many cases, I gave them the answer, BUT God forbid if I
understood, realised, got in any ways that someone wanted to cheat or cheated. In this
case, a big Zero was waiting for them, and I don't care about what was going to happen
to me after that! Some students even threatened me, BUT 'BEHNAM badi nist ke az in
bida belarzad'!:):):):)

There are a lot of negative signals in cheating. A cheat assumes, considers, thinks,
supposes that people can be easily fooled. There are nothing, but their philosophies are
dangerous! Therefore, cheats should be removed from all places, particularly from
universities! :):):):)

I have to leave right now. I have no time to check, forgive me for making many mistakes.
I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 April 2010

Bluegreen April 26th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hellooo there. How are you doing? How's everything with you at work? Oh I read that
you're so busy, take some time for yourself dear, I really wish you luck.

Thank you so much for reading my post and replying to that in such a nice way, I really
appreciate it.

As you may know, writing here to our friends and especially to you makes me feel better,
I was talking to Shanar after class, just some houres before this and she told me that she
had suffered from the yesterday's happenings too, and she told me that she'd gone out
walking alone by herself just for making her mind calm! Well I told her that I did
something better yesterday, I just came here and wrote to Dear Behnam about it so I felt
really better after that because I had ACTUALLY talked about my problem to a friend!

Well, your answer to my questions is quite fair, thanks for stating your opinion, we're
actually on the same track but you know what? When you just see people around
cheating and then getting the best grades and then they're happy about it!(under
ILLUSION) then you just can't help getting furious! Isn't that true?!

Well, I've never cheated, never ever, I had this agreement with myself that even if I was
going to fail a test I don't do that! That was my moto and it still is! But you know,
yesterday I shouted outloud that if that's the case I'M GONNA DO THE SAME!!
LOOOOL

Haha, I know that I won't! But it was just my feeling!

Here's another opinion, I think professors are acting like statues there! Just walking with
high heels and glamorous suits, doing nothing! So what are they there for? I could really
see some students even talking out loud and then the professor was just looking for
something in his pocket !!!!!

Oh god, what am I saying? Maybe I'm complaining much and that's the way it is!

Thank you so much for making time and writing to me, although you've got a lot to do.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,


Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen April 26th 2010


Dear Marina and Dear Rosa,

Hi there. How are you two? How is everything going on aorund you these days? I really
wish you greaking advantage from at days.

This post is just to let you know that I've terribly missed you and your nice posts, and I
really regret not taking advantage from the days we used to write to each other LOOOL

But seriously, please girls, make some time to catch here too, your posts were wonderful
and inspiring and I think your existance is needed here urgently!! :)

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

sahand April 26th 2010


Hi Behnam

What's up ?

Formal and Informal writing has a long long story. I suggest you to ask for help from a
literature teacher cuz' I don't know much about them. I'll give you some easy tasks to
study first, so to break you in gradually to the new kind of works. It will help you to find
out the differences of formal versus informal texts. Leave me your e-mail address to
attach the file.

Sincerely'
Sahand

behnam April 26th 2010


Kamelia,....Behnam bidi nist ka ba in bada belarzad!!! Chi neveshtam man!!!! Oh my
God...:):):):):) Lots of big mistakes! Ashi ke sari pokhte beshe bi maze mishe! Mesle
ghormesabzi ke ja nayoftade bashe. LOOOOL Sorry for mistakes.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 April 2010

behnam April 26th 2010


Hi Sahand,

Thanks for response. It will make me happy if I see your emails at


behrampednam@yahoo.com

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 April 2010

January April 26th 2010


Dear Kamelia, How are you? How is everything going on?

I knew that you had two exams recently, I hope that you will get satisfied results. I just
wanted to say; forget about them and concentrate on the coming tasks. No one can
change what already happened! I am sure you studied hard and did all what you were
able to do, so you did your job and the rest leave it for God.

Dear that was OK I have no problem at all. It was just a misunderstanding and that
usually happens. About movies, you are absolutely right it can improve our English a lot.
For me, watching movies depends to a great extent on my mood : ) , but I like to watch
some shows like Opera and Doctors.

Honey, I'm not upset at all and I understand your both situation. I noticed that you were
trying to make sure that I'm not as I said by different questions till Behnam say it frankly.
I do not see it as a big deal, it doesn't matter at all for me but I have a strong feeling that
you have other strong reasons made you think like that ; ) if there is, is it possible to
know? That is up to you, you don't have to answer.

My friend you really surprised me; your talk is much bigger than you. I read your
recommendations regarding the decision of choosing the life partner. You have quit good
experience in life for your age. What is the average age in Iran for marriage I mean for
ladies?
I hope you successful life

Have great times

Wish to read from you ASAP (as soon as possible )

Regards; Maya
26 April 2010
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January April 26th 2010


Dear Behnam,
How are you? I hope everything is going OK with you

I forgot that all, you don't have to be sorry that's OK. Actually I didn't get upset but I was
just practicing my English in case of becoming angry ;)) : ))

Thank you so much for your post and nice words. If that is your opinion on me, I do
appreciate that a lot.

Correction: I meant Oman Gulf in my talking about my town not Arabian Gulf I always
mix between them, sorry for my poor geographical information.

Have great times

Hope to read from you soon

January April 26th 2010


Dear, Ghazal
How are you? Hope that you are doing well in your studies and having nice times

Thank you very much dear for your post. So you are classmates!! Very nice

Great! we have three students in English literature, we are lucky! We'll benefit a lot ; )

Dear, I'm fresh graduate in chemical & process engineering. I know that seems strange
somehow because usually chemical engineering and process engineering are studied as
different specialism. Anyway that is the case in our university (Sultan Qaboos University)
in Muscat (Oman). I got my job and I'm having some training currently.
I liked your words about friendship so much, I hope we'll become good friends : )

Have nice times

Hope to read from you soon

Regards, Maya
April 26, 2010

behnam April 27th 2010


Hi Maya,

How are you doing? I hope you are in a very good mood. Thanks a million for your
wonderful posts. They have made this thread as a beautiful garden.

Your English is excellent - I'm not exaggerating. Would you please let me how did you
learn the English language? How long have you been learning it?

Another question and a dangerous one, since I'm sure Iranian ladies will kill me if they
get me - but anyway, I have to ask: What is the main reason of the kindness of Arab
ladies?

Dear Maya, I'm not a politician and I dislike speaking about politics, but if you insist on
writing Persian Golf as Arab Golf I will write that when Iran was an an empire there was
no Iraq, no Oman, no Bahrain, no ...(put almost all Arab countries after this no). Thanks
to Islam and of course thanks to the holy Koran there is something about Arab people in
the history of human beings. However, I respect all people in the world. I would like to
repeat my sentence again: If you insist on calling Persian Golf as Arab Golf, I will call
your country as a small city of Iran. I can prove what I'm claiming, but you have nothing
to rely on!

We are brothers and sisters as God has said in the Holy Koran, but if people in the world
speak with another language, we Iranian have to say that: Hey people, the world
completely is for Iran! Yes, it is. However, we are some polite people with a great
civilization. When people in other lands were living on trees, naked and hairy, Iranian
people had cities, governments, law, rule, civilization. Were have they own gone then?
That is another story. Just go and visit western museums and you will see how many
ancient things from Iran were stolen and are kept there!!!

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 27 April 2010

nsl87 April 27th 2010


hi behnam,
I knew this site and you yesterday.I very happy that I could find this site.I always like to
speak english to some body.I hope that I can improve my english with speaking with you
and other frends.
I want to say something about Persian gulf. I think maya calls it Arabic gulf because she
heard it alot in theire tv and news.this gulf is Persian gulf for a long time.It is not for
these days. she can understand it whth a few searchs.Calling it Arabic has just political
reason.

If I have some mistake I will be happy, you say to me.

I am looking forward to hearing from you as soon as possible.

your sincerely,
star

behnam April 27th 2010


Hi Star,

Thank you for coming in. Thank you for putting message in this thread. Thank you once
again for joining us. Your English is very good, but there is still room for improvement.

About the Golf, I should say I am not a politician and I dislike politics. However, it
doesn't mean that I know nothing about the world, the history of human beings, people,
races, and some information about humanities.

I respect all people in the world, IF and only if there is a mutual respect. I personally
believe the Earth belongs to all creatures and human beings as well. The borders
between counties are just because of selfishness and some destructive emotions of human.
God has created all creatures and the closest people to God are who care about his rules
and rights.

Once I wrote something about Rainbow. I wrote name of some Iranian scientists who
have studied on Rainbow hundreds years ago. In particular, I wrote that 'Aboo Ali Sina is
one of the first Iranian scientist who has studied on Rainbow..'. A close friend of mine
who I respect a lot said that he was Arab not Iranian!!! The reason was that they had
read in their history books that Aboo Ali Sina was Arab!
To be honest, I don't care about Aboo Ali Sina and other people. I personally believe
what we have got at the moment counts not what we had got in the past! "Daram daram
hesab ast, dashtam dashtam na!"

However, some people like speaking about some famous heroes, athletes, scientists, etc.
as if speaking about some important people make them important. I hate it.

Some people worry about their culture, civilization, history, etc. they start stealing other
cultures and changing the name of things. That's OK. But reason with me! "Hatoo
borhanakom in kontom sadeghun".

It is crystal clear for me what is going on in the world of politics. There were a very
good, successful family in a village. The member of family used to share duties with each
other. They used to respect each other, and people used to respect them. They were
successful in terms of all factors of success. Everything was OK. There were health,
wealth, happiness, prosperity, and success. Some people felt jealous of this family. They
tried their best to destroy this family. Jealousy is the biggest enemy of human beings,
anyway, they finally spoke to brides: You are so miserable. You work a lot and gain
nothing. You aren't free,etc. In the evening when grooms came home, brides started
nagging: What the hell is this life? We are such miserable couples. Other couples are
happy, but we are sad, etc. Boys couldn't convince them, they went to the father: We must
get separated. We aren't as successful as others. The man couldn't convince the boys and
brides. Finally the family broke up. There were several families, made up them. To make
it short, all became some miserable people in the village.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 April 2010

behnam April 27th 2010


Dear Star, sorry. I couldn't finish the story in a proper way, just because of some
problems.

YES your guess is true. ISLAM is the family in this village. Think of humanity. Forget
borders.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 April 2010

Bluegreen April 27th 2010


Dear Maya,
Hi there. How are you? How's your work going on? I wish you successful days.

Dear Friend, it is so nice of you to read my posts and then answer them as soon as you
can actually that shows your attention toward me and our other friends.

Well yes, I had two exams, had I mentiones them in my posts? Oh god i can't remember,
there must be something wrong with my short-term memory :))

well, they were not bad, actually so-so! Thanks for praying for me, well I did my best in
studying actually I did all I could do the rest is upon god !(we say)

Oh so like Opera Winfery's shows right? That is wonderful girl, I like them too, you get to
know alot of things from them,I like her, I really like the way she retorts and that means
that she's such a smart and knowledgable lady! And ofcourse she's got a good sense of
humor which is really rare among women in her class ! Had you seen the one that she
went to a really underdeveloped community in Texas? I mean the one that all the
memberes were supposed to marry to each other!
That was such a shocking matter, wasn't it?
Unfortunatly I dont get to watch it right here in dormitory but I try to check it out from
other friend's point of views LOOOL

Dear Maya, you asked me about the marriage age in Iran for girls and I should say that I
dn't know much about it but I think the rate's getting higher and nowadays it's 25, 26 !
I think so, I think you'd better ask Dear Behnam he's more aware than me, well he is a
young but sophisticated man and he's information is up to date!

Dear Maya thanks for your compliment, but seriously I'm not the way you described me,
I'm more playful, tomboy, and a little bit studious just this LOOOOL :)):))

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

kamelia

nsl87 April 27th 2010


Hi behnam

Thank you for your comment.I think you are a knowledgeable and open minded person.

I have two questions, I you would like answer them.


What is your field?
Did you go to english class or learn it individully?
I wish I can learn many think from all freinds.

Sincerely
star

nsl87 April 27th 2010


sorry, there is a mistake
I wrote: If you would like, answer the question.

behnam April 27th 2010


Hi Star,

I am afraid today was a bad day for me, so I could not focus on my tasks properly. I did
not reply to your post as I used to did. I hope you will forgive me.

Welcome to this thread. I hope we will help each other to improve our language skills.

My Field is Physics, and I love my career. It is an interesting subject. It concerns the


forces in the universe and laws among them. In other words, physics is the language of
the universe. If you would like to make a conversation with the universe you should learn
this language. :):):)

I love the English language very much. I have been practising it for yours. However, I am
dissatisfied with my English. I am taking part in an English course. I hope to improve my
language skills.

Dear Star, you have not written anything about yourself. Would you mind introducing
yourself to us? Could you possibly give us a little bit more information about yourself?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 April 2010
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January April 27th 2010


Hello Behnam,
How is everything? Hope that everything is going well
Thanks for everything. I wasn't concentrating on English learning that much, I don't
know actually I think some basics from school and in the university for one semester
(foundation). That semester was very intensive we learnt a lot. There were 6 levels, you
do a test firstly to know your level. I started from level 4 where each level takes 2 months
to be passed. Then from my study, we were reading and writing a lot for some small
projects especially in the final year since we were preparing for the final year project.
Now at work as well I have to read so many things related to work till I get boring! I
think reading and listening are the most effective ways.

About the kindness of Arab ladies, are you sure about that? Are they really well-known as
kind ladies or it is just your own opinion? ; ) Well, that's a gift from God and it's only one
among many gifts that make Arab ladies different!! ; ))
I hope that you'll get out of that safely : )) : ))

About the Gulf, Oh my God I never thought that's gonna hurt your feelings. Actually I
didn't insist on anything, that what we have learnt since school days. Honestly, I knew
recently that some call it Persian Gulf as well. I should admit that my knowledge in this
area is not that good and I don't want to talk in something I'm not sure about. What I
know that territorial waters for every country is already specified, so the name will not
change anything it is just a name!!

You were talking about the empire, dear nobody can deny that at all. It was one of the
strongest if not the strongest empire on the earth by all standards. That is well known to
all and we as Arab and Muslims feel proud that such a country is an Islamic country. You
said lot of dangerous sentences but I prefer not to comment on them. Anyway, we'll agree
on that we are brothers and sisters and remember that one day we were all in one
country; the Islamic country. Remember also that there were lot of great civilizations that
had gone!! Nothing remained but memories and some archaeological features.

I have to end this talking right now, have nice times

Hope to read from you

Regards, Maya
27 April 2010

metzean April 28th 2010


Dear Behnam,

How is the IESL class , I think this class in more than an amusment for you. as your
English is more deeper than IESL class.

Dear Behnam ,I don't know what the relation of physic and love is , physic is solid and
love is spiritual ,so you can't get the love through physic , physic speak about cause and
affect ,but love has not any reason . I want to say that cause and affect is a law ,but love
does not observed with any law and is not logic, we have an idiom that say , goat should
be satisfied with his own grass . look at a boy who is crazy fallen in love with a girl ,
what is that girl who is killing that boy , no reason you get when you meet that girl. So
there is not any comment or law for love. So If you want to follow the love ,you should
avoid physic ?!

B.W
Mohsen

metzean April 28th 2010


Dear kamelia,

Hope you are fine and thanks for every things

What I said about your characters is a true, I am serious, If you find a mate who fly with
you, your dreams come true and a successful happy life is waiting for you.
Thank for your help and your comments were really useful. my niece is working on it as a
biggest project, they had 2 meetings till now ,and discussed many things to find the
common point , in first step , I mean the appearance is confirmed with both sides . But for
some terms the boys offered to my niece , I asked her to reply a negative answer to his
proposal.

I should cut it here , the shadow of my boos is on my shoulder . hope to hear from you.

B.W
Mohsen

Bluegreen April 28th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hello there.How are you? How's everything with you? I hope you didn't get into any
trouble while writing here, did you?

Dear Friend, thank you so much for whatever nice thing you told me, well sometimes this
big manner(if we can call it) makes some troubles for me LOOOOL as these days one of
them happened and however I try to make that friend convinced that I really didn't mean
to advise you or to act like a teacher for you the one doesn't believe me! Poor me:(:(:(

Dear Mohsen, I really don't know about the situation but I'm sure that your niece is so
lucky to have you as an uncle because you are a great help to her,

I really wish her luck,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

nsl87 April 28th 2010


Hi Behnam
Thank you for replying.

Iam university student. I finish my education 2 month later. I want to continue education
in business managment. I have been going to english class for two years.

Regards

STAR

January April 28th 2010


Dear Kamelia,
How are you friend? How is the dormitory? I hope everything is going perfectly with you

Thanks a lot for your posts. Yes actually I like her way ( I mean Opera) of conversation
so much. It is really interesting and informative at the same time.

No actually I didn't see that one, I have to. Oh my God it is really a shocking matter!!
Thank God for Islam.
You reminded me about dormitories, I lived in a dormitory and there were lot of stupid
rules. How is it going with you?

Dear, I think being playful or tomboy doesn't conflict at all with being studious,
informative and having good experience in life. That is even much better of being so
serious! Enjoy your life ; )

Have a nice day


Looking forward reading from you ASAP

Regards, Maya
28 April 2010

nsl87 April 29th 2010


hi Behnam

How are you? I have quetions again:)

Are you satisfied with your IELTS class. Is it useful for you?
I want to go to this class.I like to know more things about it.

I hope you are not tired with my questions.


looking forward to hearing from you very soon.

Bluegreen April 29th 2010


Dear Maya,

Hi. How are you? I hope that everything's alright with you.

I was writing to you then suddenly the browser closed all the pages and I totally forgot
what I was saying so I have to begin from the first.

Dear, I think I'm getting along with the university and ofcourse the stupid rules here, well
it is DIFFICULT but I'm just trying!
Thanks for offering sympathy :)

Here, I'm living with 5 other girls from different cities of Khorasan province in a room,
thank god that the roommates are really nice and humorous,well sometimes conflicts
happen! what can we do?! And it is just four years(I'm trying to soothe the pain)
LOOOOL

Let's stop talking about difficulties, Dear Maya, I just checked The Sultan qabous
university on the internet and it was really nice I tired to have access to the E-Library but
it wasn't availible I don't know why!

But all in all, it was really nice to check out the university with different faculties and of
course facilities, but tell you what, most of the universities design their website based on
the ideals, so I wanted to ask you something, is everything in your universty as ideal as it
seemed there on the website?

Dear Maya, here's another question I want you to write about, what kind of dorm's rules
you call stupid? Would you mind writing about them to me?

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

kamelia

Bluegreen April 29th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiii. How are you? Seems like you're having busy days right? I wish you success by all
means :)

Honey, it's been a while since you haven't written to me and I really wonder if you've
forgotten me! Poor Kamelia!

Dear friend, this post is just to let you know what I've missed your nice posts to me and I
really wish to hear from you so soon,

Oh and something else, I heard about the book fair in Tehran, is the beginning day on
15th or Ordibehesht?
And where is the location?
Next week, most of my classmates are planning to check there out and even some
professors advised this!

Now another questions about your classes, how are they going on? How are your
homeworks? Are you managing to do them all?(khoda behet sabr bede manam in doreha
ro gozarundam) LOOOOL

Waiting to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam April 30th 2010


Hi Sahand,

So many thanks for email. It was useful. Thank you very much.

Sahand, you should know I am practising English in order to get IELTS certificate.
Therefore, I have to practise writing formally. However, you are absolutely right, it is
better to learn informal words like slang word and expression to communicate with
people in streets, supermarkets, chat rooms, etc. This is another goal, but I don't think it
is good idea to mix this goal with the other one. Even in texting by using my mobile
phone, I usually try to try formally, although it is more expensive and more difficult than
informal way of texting. I am doing it to make myself avoid confusing and mixing two
ways of writing.

Thank you for producing some interesting topics. I am writing my own opinion about
your interesting topics.

1. Single-sex education or co-education

I believe in primary schools and at universities coeducational system achieve better


results. However, in secondary schools and high schools the result is disappointing.
There are several reasons, but one of the main reasons is different emotional and
physical growth rate between boys and girls.

2. Women working out side.

I have already written about this topic. I personally agree with some jobs and work
places. However, there are some jobs and some work places I strongly disagree with!

3. Which one effects more on our behaviors ? Nature or nurture ?

In the first place, we should know that both of them are important, but if I had to choose
one of them I would say nature is more significant than nurture. It is impossible to make
a knife made of iron cut things like a knife made of steal, since there are some carbons in
the structure of steal which make it capable of being sharp and hard.

4. Love marriage or arrange marriage ?

I believe love marriage is much more successful than arrange marriage provided that
people understand what love is! Every transitory feeling, which is common among young
people, cannot be considered love, although there is a strong feeling of liking someone!
Some people are used to romanticizing their feelings, but they are in danger of
disappointing, because they often see what happened is not as good as they expected.
Therefore, when it comes to marriage, wisdom, tolerance, self-awareness & awareness of
the opposite sex desires, peace in mind and contentment are vitally important.
Thank you for reading. I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 April 2010
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behnam April 30th 2010


Hi Star,

How are you? I hope you are in a good mood. Thank you very much for the reply.

Star, to be honest with you, you came in this thread while I was arguing with Maya from
Oman, so I could ask you some questions I used to did. You are expected to answer these
questions:

1) What is your name?


2) Where are you from?
3) What do you do?
4) How old are you?
5) Your marital status?
6) Gender?

Those questions may make you laugh, but they help people to imagine you and your
personality. I was wondering if you would like to answer them.

My IELTS class is fantastic. The teacher is perfect. He is an inspiring teacher. The


students are highly motivated. I am totally satisfied with the class.

You should know, there are four skills classes; writing, reading, listening, and speaking.
This month, I am taking part in speaking class. It is great! I can safely say that is what I
have always wanted!

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 April 2010

January April 30th 2010


Hi Kamelia,
How are you dear? How is everything? I Hope that you are full of pleasure and
happiness
Thank you so much for you nice posts. It is really nice from you to visit SQU website and
try to get more information about the university.

Dear, the dormitory in SQU wasn't that bad. It was really very nice, I miss it sometimes.
There were lot of facilities for students, we were lucky; every student has its own room
except first year students, like you : )). The rules I meant were related to permissions for
going out and when we have to sign every night at 9 pm (that we are in the dormitory)
and such things.

All what you have read in the website is right. It is very huge university with all modern
facilities and you'll be even more surprised if you visit it one day. Dear, nothing is
perfect; ideality is impossible but we always try to reach it. About the E-Library, I think
most of the services there is available for SQU's staff and students only. Sorry for that.

Looking forward reading from you so soon

Regards, Maya

April 30 2010

behnam April 30th 2010


Ah,...I could not ask you some questions I used to did. Sorry for making some mistakes.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 April 2010

metzean April 30th 2010


Dear Gazal,

Are you living in dormitory ,how many friends do you have ? do you have problems with
other girls from different states?
What do you thing about marriage ,have you made any decision in this case ? My idea is
that after going to the university it is time of marriage.

Yes I am not single ,I popped the question and I got married after I finished military
service proid , now she is my wife and I think she is better than me when I compare her
with myself in all ways. Thanks God.

B.W,
Mohsen
shanar April 30th 2010
Dear darioush

hiiiiii.how are you man ? what's up? I hope you are fine and healthy.

thanks for your nice storys that you share with us. I realy love storys. actually the storys
that you write here. A few day's ago i read a short story that was written by gabriel
garcia marquez.The name was a very old man with enormouse wings. (do you read it
before?? ). but i coudn't get the main lesson of that.
I wanna ask you may i put it in your thread then you explain about it and all the things
that you get from ?plz
because i know that you can help me.

forgive me but i have another request.you know dear i wanna go to tehran(book's


exposition) in order to buy some necessary books and beside them some story
books.please help me and introduce some good and useful books that you read and know
about them.no matter english or persian(or fingilish :)) )but for me english is better.it
could be in different cases and subjects : short storys,novels,poems,etc.

I'm so sorry if i bother you with too much request looooool.

I'm waiting to read from you soon

respectfully

shanar ;)

shanar April 30th 2010


Dear behnam

Hi man.How are you?I hope you are fine and healthy and I wish for you that god gives
you every good things in the world :)

by this post i wanna to say that after a long time i come here to write.

Last month, was a hard , doleful... month for me.because of many things.These days, I
exactly miss my family and i miss my mom very very much. I need to talk with my mOm
because she is the only person that could calm me.

Actualy i'm a strong person and nothing can make me tired and sad but some time ,some
people with their actions and theri treats made me angry and sad.

But at first i have my god and then my family and some good friends like you that help me
forget bad things.(ohhhhhhhhh what i say!!! come on shanar what do you do with these
negative waves???!!!!).

Thanks because of this place that you make it .You and your writing ,all friends are
here,give me assurance and recall me that i must be happy and enjoyed my life and recall
me to FORGET BAD THINGS AND THINK ABOUT GOOD THINGS IN THE WOELD
AND REMEMBER THIS SENTENCE THAT NICE GUYS( BECAUSE OF THEIR NICE
PERSONALITY) JUST RECALL NICE THINGS AND NICE WORK THAT PEOPLE DO
FOR THEM).(che nice to nice shodaa !!!!!!!)come on shanar what a good sentence you
say!! do you ever say such a things in your life ??woooooooooowwwwwwwwww it's clear
girl neverrrrrrrrr:)).

Oh it was near i forget to say it.come oonnn man !!!!!!!! introduce a new subject to
challenge and discuss about it .

Excuse me if my post is not well and full of mistake because i write it fast

I am waiting to read from you soon

*HAVE A NICE TIME*

respectfully

shanar ;)

mahla April 30th 2010


hi
my name is mahla. i am 19 . i am studing civil engineering .

Bluegreen April 30th 2010


Dear Shanar,

Hello there dear strong friend :)):)). How are you? How's everything going on? How
about your anger? Have you overcome that?:)):))
Oh my goodness, believe it or not but I had NEVER EVER senn you like that! I think the
professor and students might have done such a disasterous action that made this big
mountain of calmness like that :)):))=))

Dear Shanar, please be patient and thank god that we weren't decreased till 16 or sth!
Because some of the girls like Laleh, although the paper was corrected by F-word got
nearly 16 ! And that's terrible!

Honey, how was the swimming pool in Azadshar? I couldn't come I was busy, and that's a
real misfortune, I think you'd gone with Fateme and Elham, right? Didn't the first one try
to kill you in that two meters depth?:)):))

Dear shanar, I see that you're busy writing to our other friends like Dear Behnam or
Dear Dariush but unfortunatly not to me! so how come? I should try to firgure out this
friendship foundation one more time :)):)):))

waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

shanar April 30th 2010


Dear friends

hello

Last night i read an article that was about "how to forget the past and bad things".

Because it was useful i wanna share it with you.

There are seven steps.now i write them for you.

1.Accept that it happened. It's not the easiest thing to do, but it will help you get on your
way. The past is a part of your life now, but it is not the most important part. Accept the
fact that it can no longer be changed in anyway.

2.Change your cognition to not feel as bad about what happened, and decrease anxiety
that triggers going back to the past; for example, if you were embarrassed, tell yourself
don't worry, everyone gets embarrassed; various relaxation methods will decrease
anxiety which can trigger bad memories.
3.Live in the present. This one is kind of hard, as well, since the present is easy to take for
granted. Know that by constantly using your present time wisely, you are constantly
making a better past for yourself.

4.Learn from it. Something good always comes out of anything, even if it is a very bad
experience. Find the lesson involved and try not to make the same mistake twice.

5.Forgive yourself or the ones that have hurt you. Cut some slack to others and yourself.
Nobody asks to be given a bad memory. People are not perfect. Everyone is prone to
make mistakes. That's how people are. And the only way to really move on from a bad
experience is to forgive the people involved.

6.If all of the above don't help, then maybe try some journaling in a diary, or journal. But
be specific about what's bothering you.

and the last one:


Just forgive them for what ever they have done and dont ever be sad they are too human
and thus make mistakes just look for hopes because ""fear can hold you as a prisoner
and hope can set you free"""

dear behnam is it okay that i share useful article with you and other and put them here?

All the best

shanar;)

behnam April 30th 2010


Hi Shanar,

How are things? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for writing to me. your posts are
great.

Dear Shanar, thank you for sharing those tips with us. I personally can easily forgive
people who hurt me. I forget the matter and take it easy.

Here is a question for you; I cannot forget sweet memories, and people's kindness
towards me. I feel nostalgic about times in the past. On the one hand, I don't want to
forget these sweet memories. On the other hand, those make me have mixed feelings.
What should I do? What should I do with some happy memories? Oh my God, this is the
first time that Behnam doesn't know how to describe his feeling!

We cannot forget the past. We get used to living! Human beings cannot forget the past,
because the past is a part of their lives!

Anyway, I don't know what to write. I just wanted to thank you for your useful file. It was
interesting.

Being human being means facing with a lot of difficulties! Only God can give us peace in
mind. Nothing else can help us with forgetting the past, either there are some happy
memories or some sad events.

We never can forget happy memories, or people who have affected our lives, the only
thing we can do is getting used to living with these facts.

I dislike to be a human being. It isn't my choice. I dislike understanding the world. I


prefer knowing nothing. Oh, it is difficult. Oh God, how difficult it is!

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 April 2010
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Marina1 April 30th 2010


Dearest friend Behnam,

How are you dear friend??? how is it going???? I've missed all of you so much. Don't
think, even for a moment that Marina doesn't follow this place. Marina always here with
her eyes, mind and heart.

No body can forget sweet memories. They affect on our life , positively so why should we
forget them???

Let's keep them in both minds and hearts, because they will light our ways forever.

I'm here again...... :)

Marina.

May 2010
Bluegreen May 1st 2010
Dear Marina,

Oh my goooood! You're back again!!! I can't believe this! You can't even imagine how
much happy I got when just seeing your post!

Thank god, I though some big troubles might have happened for you and the idea of
losing you just came to my mind :(

Honey, to control my exploding emotions I shall say that I warmly want to welcome you
on my behalf and that is really heartwarming to have you again here,

Oh my god, I think I messed up the whole post I was so surprised I'm sorry :)):))

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

shanar May 1st 2010


Dear kamelia

Hi my friend . How are you ? What are you doing these days? I hope you are fine and full
of energy as much as before.

Oh honey because i see you every day ,so i didn't write here for you but it doesn't mean
that i forget you or the things like that. You are my best friend in this strange city .

You and other friends like hedye, malihe give me assurance, because in this city with this
people , beside you, I feel confortable . Maybe the reason is we are from a same city and
our attitude, our thinking and acting and many things that related to our city is same .So
we can savvy each other.

Dear kamelia , about swimming: samira and i went to azadshahr and after many
investigating we found it . We went inside and guss what happened?? I didn't say it today
when we was together , because i wanted to write it here , then you know about our
swimming.
Oh baby it was very very exciting . we plunged to water and swimming and it was very
funny ;) but the things that i told was in MY MIND AND MY DREAM :( . You know why?
Because when we went inside. There was a women .She said (with a rude tune :( ) this
place is for worker of water and electricity organisation (karmandan va kargarane
mohtarame ab o bargh) . and again poor shanar :((

But, be happy . We found another place that we can go and swimming here.It's for
university students.

It was all the things that i wanted to write for you loooool

*HAVE NICE TIME*

respectfully

shanar ;)

shanar May 1st 2010


The Summer Day

Who made the world?


Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean--
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down

who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.

Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.

Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.


I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is is you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?
Mary Oliver

shanar May 1st 2010


Dear ghazal

Hi honey. How are you? How are you going? I hope you are fine and healthy.

Actualy by this post i just wanted to say that i realy miss you and absolutly i miss your
poems that you put here and share it with us.

Come ooonnnnnnnnnnn !!!!!! . Do you remember that when a new member coming here
you put for h/she a nice and beautiful poem, but you didn't do this fot me, and didn't put
any poem for me :( . Come on girl!!!!!!! I'm waiting for your poems .

*HAVE A NICE TIME*

All the best

shanar ;)

Marina1 May 1st 2010


Hi my dear & great friend Kami,

How are you great friend with golden heart? Let's shake hands then hug each other. Let
me kiss you two kisses on your cheeks. I've really missed all of you a lot!

I'm ashamed because of my absence recently, but there are many hard reasons which
God only know my patience in treating with them. I even tried to be far from lots of
friends, dear Behnam is one of them. I needed to be alone. All in all, please forgive me &
don't take what I did to your heart :-).

Thanks too much for your kindness & affection in welcoming me, it shows your love in
one hand, & how rich I am in the other one! God keep us for each other & keep our
friendship.

I'll be active & write about lots of topics soon. In my writing now I wanted you to know
your value in my heart & how much I'm thankful that you are a friend of mine.

THANK YOU :-)


I hope to read from you soon :-)
Marina.

behnam May 1st 2010


Welcome Marina the great! Oh my God. I can't believe it. Do my eyes deceive me? I don't
know how to describe my feeling right now.

You made me extremely happy. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Will you write
regularly? Really? Oh, this is a great happiness. Thank God!

There are two main elements which make a garden look beautiful and alive; flower and
nightingale! Their lives are tied together secretly. They may don't know themselves, but
as soon as one of them leave the garden the other one will die!

Thank you again for coming back. It was a great gift.

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 May 2010

behnam May 1st 2010


Hi kamelia,

How are things? I hope you are fine. Thank you for posting some interesting posts. I
really love your posts.

I was actually snowed under a lot of duties. So sorry I kept you waiting for the reply. I
was pressed for time. That is very humble of you to praise me for my posts. You are my
teacher, so I am taking exam actually!

You are going to come Tehran! Fantastic! Wonderful. I am surprised. I am waiting here
to welcome you. I am counting down to meet you in Tehran International Book
Exhibition. It will start from 5th May (15 Ordibehesht) and will last 1o days. It will take
place in Mosalla which is a well-known place in Tehran.

I hope to meet you in Tehran. I hope so.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 May 2010
behnam May 1st 2010
Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope you are happy and healthy. Thank you for your great friendship.

My English is not that good. That is very kind of you to give me hope.

Poor Physicists! They know nothing about love! However, I believe love is only
understandable by people who know physics! :):):):):) I am only joking.

Sorry I am late, but I was really busy, and was in no mood for writing. I hope to hear
from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 May 2010

behnam May 1st 2010


Hi Mahla,

Thank you for putting message and welcome to this thread. We are some English learners
and we are practising English trough writing to each other and reading posts. Thank you
for joining us.

Would you possibly tell us a little bit more about yourself?

I am looking forwards to hearing from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 May 2010
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sahand May 1st 2010


Hi Behnam

I can see some misprints in you comment :D You've made a mistake twice.
(Practice*_system achieves or systems achieve*)

And my idea about questions:


1. Co-educational school makes competition between students. We can enclose results of
these two systems for comparison. It's crystal clear. Students in Iran doesn't fall through
anything, but what about students abroad ?

2. I strongly disagree with "women working outdoors" (I don't know the reason :D)

3. Yeah ... both of them are important. Nurture is more !

4. Love itself in Not enough. On the other hand, arrange marriages can't guarantee
anything so ... Somewhere between.

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely;
Sahand

behnam May 2nd 2010


Hi Sahand,

Thank you for both correcting and your post. An 's' is left actually. :):):):), so it must be
'...coeducational system achieve better results.' I frequently make this mistake, because it
is quite difficult for me to notice to the adaptation between subject and verb. I am not
sure about using 'adaptation' for this purpose. I know there is a special phrase which is
very common in grammar, but unfortunately my memory doesn't serve me now. I hope
you will get it.

As a man, I understand why you disagree with women working outdoors. However, you
know the reasons, but you maybe prefer not to speak about them. Come on zealous man!
Are you originally from Azerbaijan? :):):):) LOL

About number 3, I respect your view, but do you think it is possible to make a crow white
by washing? I don't think so! :):):)

Today is Teacher's Day in Iran. I'd like to take this opportunity to say 'Happy Teacher's
Day' to all teachers in the world, in particular to all Iranian teachers, students, experts,
lectures, professors, and all people who respect knowledge and wisdom!

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 April 2010
behnam May 2nd 2010
Oh sorry, as a habit, I wrote '2 April 2010'. It must be '2 May 2010'! :):):) Well, it takes
me a long time to get used to using 'May'! :):):):) So sorry, anyway.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 May 2010

shanar May 2nd 2010


dear behnam

hi . how are you going? i hope ypu are fine and healthy.
thanks for your post. actualy i'm agree tht we couldn't forget our past events either bad
or good.actualy these events make our life and our memorabilia and after while when we
came back and think about them , make us happy and it's mot important that there is
some lesson in each event(bad our good) ,absolutly these experiences which we get .must
be useful for us .

however, by this post i wanna say you just one think and it is :

shanar May 2nd 2010


dear behnam

hi . how are you going? i hope ypu are fine and healthy.
thanks for your post. actualy i'm agree tht we couldn't forget our past events either bad
or good.actualy these events make our life and our memorabilia and after while when we
came back and think about them , make us happy and it's mot important that there is
some lesson in each event(bad our good) ,absolutly these experiences which we get .must
be useful for us .

however, by this post i wanna say you just one think and it is :

shanar May 2nd 2010


dear behnam

hi . how are you going? i hope ypu are fine and healthy.
thanks for your post. actualy i'm agree tht we couldn't forget our past events either bad
or good.actualy these events make our life and our memorabilia and after while when we
came back and think about them , make us happy and it's mot important that there is
some lesson in each event(bad our good) ,absolutly these experiences which we get .must
be useful for us .

however, by this post i wanna say you just one think and it is :

metzean May 2nd 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Do you believe in dream, I had a dream last night, I was with a gangs ,they had a plan ,a
conspiracy and finally they killed a young person . I was accused of murderer , but I was
acquitted . I feel guilty today , I feel I deprived the man who wanted to marry my niece . I
made a sin , to encouraged my niece to reject this proposal.

Dear Kamelia, do you have dream at night? Are they any kind of effect on future?

B.W
Mohsen

shanar May 2nd 2010


*HAPPY TEACHER'S DAY *

RESPECTFULLY

shanar ;)

nsl87 May 2nd 2010


hi behnam
How are you? I hope you have a good day.
Do I have to answer all question?????????????
I am from Iran.I am a 22 years old girl.As I said before I am university student.

regards
star
shanar May 2nd 2010
Dear friends

Hi to all.I wanna put another article.It was realy interesting for me.I hope you enjoy it
too.

What does your sleep position reveal about your personality?

Here are the six common sleeping positions and correlated personality traits and health
implications, according to this study.

Fetus position - A whopping 41% of participants sleep in this curled-up manner. Women
are twice as likely to rest like this and it is listed as the most common position. These
sleepers are said to have a tough exterior but are still sensitive and may appear to be shy
but warm up quickly.

Log position - If you sleep on your side with both arms down, you are a social, easy-
going person who is trusting, sometimes to the point of being gullible. The study showed
15% of people sleep like a log.

Yearner position - A close third is the side-lying position with both arms out in front of
the body, with 13% of partipants sleeping like this. Yearners are noted to be open-minded
and still cynical, suspicious, and stubborn about sticking to decisions once they are
made.

Soldier position - These sleepers lie on their backs with arms down and kept close to the
body. This 8% study is said to be reserved, quiet, without fuss, and hold themselves and
others to a high standard. Soldier sleepers have a higher likelihood for snoring due to the
flat-back position, which may not cause them to wake up often but may result in a less
restful night's sleep.

Freefall position - Those people who lie on their bellies with arms under or wrapped
around a pillow with head turned to the side, make up 7% of the population studied.
Freefallers are brash, outgoing, and are very uncomfortable with criticism.

Starfish position - Sleepers who lie on their backs with arms up near their head or the
pillow account for 5% of participants. These people are good listeners, helpful, and are
uncomfortable being the center of attention. People who sleep in starfish position are
more likely to snore and to suffer from a poor night's sleep more often.

If you think you are one of those people who move through all of these positions, that's
not likely to really be the case. the research reveals most people stay in the same position
all night and only 5% lay differently night by night. Also interesting is that the study
showed only one in ten people cover their bodies entirely with a blanket, with most
people exposing an arm, leg, or both feet.

" HAVE A NICE TIME*

shanar ;)
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setayesh May 2nd 2010


Hello to everybody,

As all of you know today is teacher's day. I'm here after a long time to congratulate this
day to my friends here who are working as a part of educational system somehow like;
Dears Behnam,Mortaza, Rosa&... .

Happy Teacher's day To All Teachers

Setayesh, 2 May 2010

sami May 2nd 2010


Hello Setayesh!

How are you? I hope you are fine. Thank you for wishing a happy day for teachers, but to
tell the truth I didnt know it was teachers day today. In fact, today is Mum's day in Spain,
and yesterday it was Workers' day.

Anyway, thank you so much!


Have a nice day,
Rosa, 2 May, 2010

nsl87 May 2nd 2010


hi shanar
Thank you a lot for your article.It is intersting and enjoyable. I like this kind of article.

I hope that you continue writing this kind of article.

I wish we can be good freinds


Regards
star

nsl87 May 2nd 2010


Hi Sami
I wish a good day for you.Today is teachersday in Iran and mothers day in Spain and
other country.
many yers ago one of iarnian famous teacher and highbrows was kiled so Iranian call
this day, teachers day.
I wish we can be good friends.

Regards
star

shanar May 2nd 2010


Dear star

Hi. How every things is going on with you?

It's very exciting for me that you love this kind of articls and i'm so glad , because the
article was useful and enjoyable for you . I promis you, to put these kind of interesting
things as soon as i can lo0o0o0ol :)

AND other things is that you are one of my friend right now .I wish we could have a good
time ,and help to each other in every cases in order to boost in many cases, like good
friends honey.

I'm waitting to read from you soon

* HAVE A NICE TIME *

shanar ;)

ghazal May 2nd 2010


Dear Behnam
how are you my friend?

HAPPY TEACHER DAY


There is one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who
has donated $31 billion to charity.

Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:


1. He bought his first share of stock at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!

2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.

3. He still lives in the same, small 3-bedroom house in midtown Omaha , that he bought
after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house.
His house does not have a wall or a fence

. 4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people
around him.

5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet
company.

6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies.He writes only one letter each
year to the CEOs of these ompanies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds
meetings or calls them on a regular basis. He has given his CEO's only two rules.

Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1. .

7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His pastimeafter he gets home is to
make himself some popcorn and watch television.

8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man, met him for the first time only 5 years ago. Bill
Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren Buffet. So, he had scheduled
his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours
and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet.

9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a omputer on his desk. His advice
to young people: 'Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself and remember:

A. Money doesn't create man, but it is the man who created money.

B. Live your life as simple as you are.

C. Don't do what others say. Just listen to them, but do what makes you feel good. D.
Don't go on brand name. Wear those things in which you feel comfortable.

E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things. Spend on those who really are in need.
F. After all, it's your life. Why give others the chance to rule your life?'

You are successfull person too so you tell me your rules in your life!!!!!

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

Bluegreen May 2nd 2010


Dear Loveliest Marina on the whole planet,

How are you doing?How's everything with you?I really wish that difficulties faded away
and you're doing all fine.

You can't even imagine how much I've missed you, you can ask Dear Behnam if you can't
believe me LOOOL but I can really feel some kind of inner love threads between me and
this friendship with you because you really mean alot to me! Seriously, I mean there is no
need to compliment!

Sweet Marina, listen, I'm not mad at you and I think I haven't got the right to do that and
I havne't taken it to my heart as you said, well hard things might happen to people and
that's obviou, well because it is a natural rule of life,isn't it?
if there are no difficlties then there are no missings, no love, no friendship,no adventure
and simply no life! Right?

I'm really glad that you're back, actually as you saw I couldn't control my feelings when I
saw your post here, it was really amazing for me and this is forming like a habit in me
whenever I see your post I just scream ! :)):)) (people in the computer's room simply
know me LOOOOL) I was kidding!

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

ghazal May 2nd 2010


Hi Satar
How are you ?welcome
I'm 18 years old and studing english lierature inferdowsi university.
I hope you find good freinds here

I wrote post for behnam,in that one exist interesting text please read and say me you idea
about rules that the man have in his life.

I hope see your post soon my new friend

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

Bluegreen May 2nd 2010


Dear Shanar,

Helloooo there. How are you? well from the point that I'm sitting I can straightly check
you out :)):)) you are on the central row on the chairs writing something! Am I
right?LOOOL

Well, till the point you hadn't written to me this post I thought that you're becoming an
evil bad-tempered gal, but as I read it... Come on girl! Everyone knows that you're one of
the coolest girls I've ever met( mind Ghazal) but hey, I can really understand you because
these days have been the most difficult the high pressured days of our living here,and I
can really understand it!

Oh about that swimming pool, you went with Samir? Oh come on! How could you
tolerate this little sweet chatter box? She just talks all the time,anyways I was just joking
she's sweet,isn't she? But sometimes she just acts like an apple polisher! Well you haven't
perhaps been in any of their reading classes but I have, so in that way you could see how
she keeps talking like that over and over again! well maybe it's uncounsciously!

By the way, Malihe and Hedye are my confidants too! They are really supportive and
helpful in all the times! ofcourse not to mention that you're one of them too!

Honey I read your post about sleeping styles but I really don't know which am I ! I'm just
rying to figure out that one!

Keep in touch,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,
Kamelia

Bluegreen May 2nd 2010


Dear star,

Hello there. How are you doing? I really wish that you're enjoying your time.

This is Kamelia. 19 years old studying English Literture and simply one of Shanar's
classmates,
I just wanted to welcome you,I wish you happy moments in this thread.

Please stay in touch and do not hesitate to write to me.


wish we become good friends,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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ghazal May 2nd 2010


Dear mohsen
thanks for your reply

I?m living in dormitory ,in this place I have many friend

Oh at first living in dormitory was hard for me because in my house I have private room
and when I studied my mother gave me all things that I need but in dormitory I must have
room with 6girls!!!!!And I must do all works!!!!

But now I don?t have problem because I adopt myself and this was new experience for
me and now I have new friends from different city.

About marriage No I'm so young!!!!

I hope you and your wife enjoy your life and have good time

Best whishes for you

GHAZAL
Bluegreen May 2nd 2010
Dear Mahla,

Hello there. How are you? How's everything going on with you?

As I wrote to our new friend star, this is Kamelia and 19 years old just as you are! Maybe
we're both in our first year of university,is it right?
So, you're studying civil engineering, I like that and i wish you the best in your field of
studying.

Would you mind telling me where you study? And telling more about your university?

I really wish that you be active like everyone here, and hope that we can become good
friends.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

ghazal May 2nd 2010


Dear Shanar
I'm fine and hope you enjoy your life (in university with me!!!!)
Oh sorry my friend
Now I write for you poem,this poem is "love story"
because I really love you(LOOOL)

Love Story

Where do i begin
To tell the story
Of how great ful love can be
The sweet love story
That is older than the sea
That sings the truth
about the love she brings to me
Where do i start
With the first hello
She gave the meaning
To this empty world of mine
That never did
Another love another time
She came into my life
And made a living fine
She fills my heart
With very special things
With angel songs
With wild imaginings
She fills my soul
With so much love
That anywhere i go
Im never lonely
With her along
who could be lonely
I reach for her hand
Its always there
How long does it last
Can love be measured
by the hours in a day
I have no answers no
But this much i can say
I know ill need her
till this love song burn away
And she;ll be there
How long does it last
Can love be measured
by the hours in a day
I have no answers no
But this much i can say
I know ill need her
till this love song burn away
And she'll be there

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

Bluegreen May 2nd 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hi there. How are you? How's the family doing? I really wish you lots of joy and
happiness.

Dear Friend, that is so nice of you to write about your dream to me, well to be honest
with you I have dreams all the nights of my life! Or I can say that I've dreamt in all
nights! But this year I'm having much of them because I have such busy days and actually
none of them but a handful of them have proved to be right and affective on my daily life!

But tell you what, you are a rational young man( I don't know your age I just guess so but
you musn't be odl) and if you've done something maybe you had reasons for them!
Actually all of us at a certain time have something in mind and then decide upon them but
then when time goes by we just say: nah! I shoudln;t have done that! But the BLAME in
nonsense!

well, if there are STILL choices and you can make the situation better why not change
it(if it's logical) BUT! if NOT! Then do not blame yourself for what has happened!

This is some sort of a motto in my life and I really believe in it!

Hope to read from you so soon,

sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen May 2nd 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiiii. How are you doing? How's the weather in Tehran? I really wish nice days for you.

Yeah I know, I can understand,people get busy some days and they can't keep in touch
and that's totally ok with me!
But sometimes I miss them! And that is nt ok with me this time:)) As I missed Sweet
Marina and you these days alot!

Dear Behnam, that is so nice of you to welcome me like that! Actually I got surprised by
this warm welcome :)) :)) Sorry I was just kidding.

So, I see! It is being held in Mosalla! Well I've never ever been there I shall tell my uncle
about it! LOOOL
Thanks for mentioning the exact dates and place that is again so kind of you.

Oh honey, how are you doing with your classes? Have you had a quiz recently?
I really wish you the best in them,

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

shanar May 2nd 2010


Dear kamelia

Hi.How are you ? I see you are busy and there are too many girls around you and one of
them is safura!!! (that lovely girl)what are you doing girl? :)

Oh come ooon !!!!!!! I forget it . I could ACCEPT THE HARD SITUATION because this
hard and some time bad situation made us being strong and increase our tolerance.
Forget my anger and sad .I'm okay now honey be relax ;)

Actualy you are right as usual looool.


samira is a good girl but yea she is very talkative and you know that her child inside is
dominated , she is very active. talk like babys ,she change her voice like babys but she is
lovely . But so noisy if she reduce this poin it would be better I guss. ;)

And about your sleeping. one night i will come to your room in order to see how you
sleep all the night :)) and then i will say you about your personality. what do you think ?
is it good loooooool :) :) :) .

thanks for your post honey. I love you and your posts.

all the best

respectfully

shanar ;)

shanar May 2nd 2010


Dear ghazal

Woooooooow . It's fantastic girl. Thank you so ,so, so ... much .

Oh sorry i forget to say hello. So hi honey .How are you ? I hope you are fine and healthy
and fulL of energy and fresh like your poems that you put here and share them with us.

I'm so happy ,because of your post and the poem in it. thanks again honey it was realy
nice and senseful loooool

Thank you ,thank you ,thank you :) :) :)

*have a nice time*

respectfully

shanar ;)

shanar May 2nd 2010


Dear darioush

Hello man. Where are you? :( Are you okay? Why there is no post from you here? :( . I
hope you are fine dear.

why you didn't answer to my post.I realy miss you and your stories. come on man
!!!!!!!!!! please

I need your help and your information about books and stories . I'm waitting for your
posts.

Behnam, behnam, behnam ............

do you know where are darioush? do you have any news about him
man.????????!!!!!!!!!!!

All the best

shanar ;)

sahand May 2nd 2010


Hi Behnam

How is it hanging ?

Yes somehow your'e right ... I don't wanna talk about the reason why ! and I'm not from
Azerbaijan, are you ?! :D
Another point about number 3:

Nature or Nurture ? Both for sure but I personally believe it's the nurturing part that
takes the biggest toll and we're all taking the most effects from our environment. There
have been a few documentaries about this and it always seems it's more nurture.

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely;
Sahand

Bluegreen May 3rd 2010


Dear All Teacher Friends,

A big hello and congratulation to you. Last night I was going to congratulate this
teacher's week to you but unfortunatly one of my friend's dragged me in to something and
It just slipped my mind.

Teachers are the most important and biggest parts of our lives and if we appreciate them
it's like we appreciate the living method! And that's to learn something.

Again a big congratualtion to you all,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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ghazal May 3rd 2010


Dear setayesh
Hi,how are you? Where were you?

perhaps you had many works and didn?t have time for writing here for your friends!!!

I ?m so happy because now you are here .

I hope see your post soon


SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

ghazal May 3rd 2010


Dear Marina
Hi,I Hope you enjoy your life. I and kamelia are classmate and she said me you are very
good friend for her so I?m so sorry because until now don?t write for you.

Now I want to be one of your friends and tender you this poem that I really love it:

Friendship is priceless,
And can never be forgotten,
Friendship is timeless,
And never rotten,

It takes more than hugs and kisses


To be a real friend,
the nature of friendship,
Requires a blend.

The road to a happy life,


May sometimes make us stumble.
But to have a friend to give us a hand,
Teaches us to be humble.

Good friends are hard to find,


Hard to lose,
And impossible to forget,
But when they fly away,
Your anger turns to regret

Sometimes in life, we need a special person


To listen while we talk.
A special person who will not discourage or judge,
But encourage us as we walk.

Friends are there


To help you along,
The journey through friendship,
Is always long.

In life,
There are big ships,
And there are small ships,
But the best ship of all,
Is friendship.

I hope you enjoy

I hope see your post soon

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

behnam May 3rd 2010


Hi Kamelia and other friends,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you and you are filled with pleasure,
joy, and happiness.

Expect for some phone calls and nice short messages that I gave and received; yesterday
I had a terrible day. It was the last session of my speaking class, so we had speaking
exam. The teacher came to the class, after greeting he said, "I am going to give an exam,
actually to interview you for IELTS speaking skill. I will follow IELTS format, so you are
supposed to be very careful. Who is the first person? Is there and volunteer?"

Nobody said anything for a while; finally, I broke the silence and said, "I am going to
sacrifice myself for my friends."

I sat on the chair, which was in the center of classroom to have a face-to-face interview.
First, the teacher asked me some questions concerning holiday and neighborhood. Then
he gave me a card. The topic, which was written on card, was: Describe a memory from
your childhood that you like. You should say when it was, where it was, what it was, why
you like it, and how it has affected you and your life.
I spoke about the topic perfectly, but in somewhere I said, "?I clearly remember it was
winter and our front garden was covered with heavy snow. My sister, who is 5 years
BIGGER than me, made a snowman. She was perfect at making snowman..."

The last questions were serious discussion about child labor and the effect of memories
on people's lives. I gave my opinion, reasoned, set several good examples, and finally
made conclusion in an excellent way.
In the end the teacher said, "Well done to you Behnam. Your fluency was perfect. Your
structures were excellent. I really loved your structures. Your eye contact and body
languages were great. Your accuracy and pronunciation were awesome, but you made a
terrible mistake, which was not your type. I cannot believe it. Anyway, thank you. 7.5, but
if you shouldn't made that mistake I'd given 8."

I hung my head in shame! I do not know why I made that silly mistake; whereas I have
said thousand times that, my sister is 5 years older then me. Such-and -such friend is 4
years older than me. So-and-so person is 10 years younger than me. However, I really do
not know what the reason of such a silly mistake was! I am disappointed.:(:(:(:(

After my interview, there was nobody ready for sitting on the chair to have interview. The
students said, "When Behnam spoke perfectly and got 7.5, we have no hope to get even 5.
Now, we are stressed and nervous!"

The teacher interviewed all the students in turn. They got 6, 6.5, and 7. A boy who has
been learning English since his childhood (for 20 years) got seven. His topic was about
music. Once he said 'music instrumental' rather than ' musical instrument'!

I left the class at about 8pm. It was raining cats and dogs. I got in my car and drove to
home. The traffic was heavy and driving was terrible, because the wide white lines of the
motorway and around my car were not in sight. All mirrors and windows were covered
by water vapour! In somewhere, I guessed there is a car next to me, so closer than
ordinary distance between two cars, which are moving side by side. I had to pull a little
bit out, because we were in danger of having a car crash. I started doing it; suddenly I
heard a police officer said, "The driver of such-and?such car! What are you doing? Are
you driving a car or riding a donkey?"

I stopped the car and came out. He stopped his car too. Then I went to him and greet him
with 'hello' and 'well done'! Then I gave some reasons, for examples the white lines are
difficult to be recognized, and people drive carelessly. They do not care about other cars,
which are moving next to them. I had to pull out, otherwise I had a car crash, and you
know my car is made of layers of onions. It is not a strong car. However, here is my car
and all staff which belong to me take them with yourself, I do not care, but please speak
politely. Here is the capital of Iran, the north of Tehran, and you are a police officer. If
we do not know how to speak, how to signal, how to warn people, who are going to care
about morality and humanity?

He apologized (so strange!) and wanted me to drive carefully. I smiled at him and said,
"Chashm=OK.":):):):)

I was driving on the motorway. Suddenly I saw there are cars stopping in the road. I put
my foot on the brake to stop the car. The road was wet and slippery. The car slipped, but
I managed to control it.

I got home at about 9pm. Then I drank a cup of tea (a mug of tea actually!) and ate
something. I often go for a one-hour walk in the park, which is near my house. First, I
could not go, because it was pouring. I turned my computer on, checked the thread,
mailbox, and chatted with a friend. It was about 11pm I found out that it has stopped
raining! I went to the park for jogging. I really enjoyed it. The weather was nice.

Finally, I have got a question for you? Why do we make some unbelieveable mistakes?

Today I have got writing class. Please pray for me.

Thank you for reading.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 May 2010

shanar May 3rd 2010


Dear marina

Hello dear . How are you? I hope you are fine and healthy.

I'm shanar,19, from iran. my majore is english literatur and i study in ferdowsi university
of mashhad. actualy kamelia, ghazal and i are classmate.

Kamelia said that you are very good and kind friend for her. she realy loves you.so
because she praise you with full of emotion , it made me to come and write for you and
want to be friend with you .I always reading your posts. your writting is great loooool

I wish we could be a good friends if you accept me.

*HAVE A NICE TIME*

shanar ;)

nsl87 May 3rd 2010


Hi Shanar
Iam glad that I have a good freind like you.
I will be happy to read your article.I try to give my idea about them.(if is it useful for you)
I hope you have good days
I wish you do not hesitateto write to me.
sincerely

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behnam May 3rd 2010
Dear friends,

It makes me wonder, have you noticed that the vast majority of ladies have put babies'
pictures there! Are there any psychological or biological reasons? ):):):)

I have put a picture of lovely rose, since I really love roses. It is about blooming, so there
are some hidden points. :):):):) I also love children and babies, because they are like
some angels. Anyway, I love all pictures. Keep on putting them. :):):)

However, we should understand why girls play with dolls and boys play with guns and
cars in their childhood! It seems like a mystery to me! Can you help me to solve this
mystery? :):):):):)

I also like to discuss this topic: Who are mentally fragile; men are women? Contrary to
popular belief, I believe men are much more fragile than women, although women are
considered as delicate and soft creatures!

We also should discuss why women have got higher life expectancy when their average is
compared with men's average!

We should speak about our choice if we had to choose one between job satisfaction and
money. Which one do you prefer; job satisfaction or money when it comes speaking about
a job?

We should also speak about the reason of increasing age of marriage.

There are lots of topics we should write and discuss. I dislike advising people and
sounding like a teacher (although I am a strict teacher :):):)), but surely if someone has
decided to work in this area (the English language), to be successful in it, or to take
IELTS exam, s/he MUST write about different topics, otherwise nobody and nothing can
guarantee them success!

Apart from hard working and studious being, I strongly believe writing in this thread has
made me a relatively successful person in English. I am not boasting-but I feel I am a
successful person, at least when it comes to English skills. :):):):)

We spoke about the wide range of the benefits of this thread, and consequently this site,
but it is unfair and ungrateful to ignore great efforts and attempts of the runner of this
powerful site; Clare the great. I would like to take this ideal opportunity and to say a big
thank you to this great teacher and runner. I am going to be proud of myself, and to be
rude at the same time, and to say that I hope Clare the great and I, will stay shoulder-to-
shoulder to help Behnam and other people with their English. Oh my God, to stay should-
to-shoulder with a lady! Come on Behnam! Mind the gap. :):):):):):):):) looool We do not
need to do anything, just being here is enough! LOOOOL Hahahahahehehehehehe
:):):):):):)):)):)):)):)):))=))=))=)) jejejejejeje

Thank you for reading. I have no time to check the post. Forgive me for making msitakes.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 May 2010

nsl87 May 3rd 2010


Hi Ghazal
How are you?I wish you have a fantastice day.

I read your post for Behnam.I enjoyed alot.I found a lot of new and remarkable things.It
attract me very much.
I don not think a rich man can have such those idea and lifestyle. He gave very benefical
advices.

I wish you continue and write some interesting things

Best wishes
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behnam May 3rd 2010


Who are mentally fragile; men are women? :):):)

Come on Behnam! Do you mean 'emotionally' fragile and 'men or women'?

Yes! Yes! Yes! That was what I meant. Sorryyyyyyyyyyyyyy.

Who are more emotionally fragile; men or women? :):):):)

There are a lot of mistakes, but this one was funnier somehow. LOOOL

All the best,


Behnam, 3 May 2010

Darioush May 3rd 2010


Dear Shanar,

Forgive me about my delay.I'm involved in studying for my mid-term exanations,in these


ays.

Freeway Chase Ends at Newsstand

A 24-year-old Los Angeles man was taken to a hospital and then to county jail after
leading police on a one-hour freeway chase in a stolen SUV. The chase ended in
downtown Los Angeles in front of the Spring Hotel. Most of the chase was uneventful,
except for an empty bottle of whiskey that the driver threw at one police vehicle.
When the driver got into downtown, things started to happen. He ran over a fire hydrant.
The water spewed out of the hydrant, causing a geyser that ruined all the books in
several carts that a vendor had put outside to attract customers into his bookstore. The
driver hurriedly turned west onto Grand Avenue and managed to bang into three parked
cars on one side of that street and two cars on the other side. The driver also tried to run
over a police officer, who was standing in the crosswalk ordering him to halt.
Turning north, the driver caused a bus to slam on its brakes to avoid a collision. The bus
was empty, and the bus driver was uninjured. However, two police cars that were
pursuing the SUV from different directions were not so lucky. One of them ran into the
front of the bus, and the other into the back. Because the drivers had braked early
enough, the damage to their cars was minor. Both officers resumed the chase.
They only went two blocks north to find that the SUV had come to a full stop because it
had plowed into a newspaper stand. The driver, who was not wearing a seatbelt, was
slumped behind the steering wheel. The proprietor of the newsstand was yelling at the
driver and shaking a magazine at him. The police called for the ambulance. They
charged the driver with failure to yield to a police officer and driving under the influence.

nsl87 May 3rd 2010


Hi Behnam
How are you? how is every things.
At first I want to congratulate you ofr passing sreaking exam with a great mark.It makes
me very happy:)) I wish you always will be successful.
There are a lot of subjects and I do not know I should start with what?
personaly I love baby very much. I think women like baby and dall beacause their
nature.God put it in their nature,because they might be mother.On other hand women are
more emotional than men.
The part of men's brain that is related to logical things is more active than another
part.most of men think about every thing in logical way.
I completely agree with you that men are more fragil also scientist assert it.men die more
and sooner than women because of heart attack.men
About job satisfaction,I think every body like to do a work that they like but it is
impossible for all people.many people work just for money because they need it .They
have to acheave money to live. maybe tyey can their favorite job but with low wage. some
people choose some job only for their possition.

Dear Behnam, I believe that one of reasons for increasing age marriage is economical
problem and another is high-expectation. But these reasons are not all.I think some
people afraid of future events.They not sure about their choice.I think a person who want
to marry should know many things about life .Also they learn many things after marrige
and they can not understanding every thing before marriage.
Most of young people like live with any problems, it is impossible and no body live
without any problems especially at begining of a new life.

look forward to hearing from you.

sincerely
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setayesh May 3rd 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Thank you for writing to me. Your writing the same as others' starts with a stereotyped
question : " How are you?" it is not bad at all since it is considered as a greeting. In this
case as English people do, we are supposed to answer with something routine and almost
positive like: " I'm fine","I'm Ok", " It couldna been better" or less energetic like " not
bad".

But today I'd like to break this rule and answer to this question a little bit negatively
although I hate of writing in this way.

Dear Ghazal I'm not Ok at alllllllllll. It doesn't refer to my studies or outdoor activities. I
used to be busy but these days everything has changed. I wish I was busy up to my ears
rather than been in this mood. It's better to say I am terribly bad since I got sick. I have
got chicken pox:(:(:(

You can not imagine how annoying it is . Perhaps you got it as a child and know how
irritating it is. But it becomes more irritating when someone at my age catches.

2 day ago I mean on Saturday morning I felt I was getting a very bad dose of the flu,
when I looked myself into the mirror I saw something looked like mosquito bite above my
eyebrow so I did not pay it much attention and started my life as I did before. But when I
used a mirror at university to arrange my scarf.... I got shocked... Immediately I found
what's going on so I left my class at mid day. Now it's 3 days that I'm suffering from this
terrible sickness.

I hope you can give this right to me not to answer to your greeting positively.

Please pray for me.

Yours,

Setayesh,?3 May 2010?

P.S: Please forgive me if I wouldn't be able to reply to your and other friends' posts in
this period.

January May 3rd 2010


Hello Behnam
Hello Friends

I am surprising of your reaction!! I do not know what the big mistake I did?! I illustrated
my opinion frankly and I think everyone is free to say his/her opinion. You can say your
opinion either, we were discussing. So what I should think of when you did not respond:
you are angry because of what I said or you agree with me and have nothing to say or
what?! I did not want it to go like that. I was expecting more of this thread and
unfortunately we fall in intellectual and civilized conflict instead. I was thinking to
prepare something new to share since I got some free time this week but that was your
choice and I respect it; I will not interrupt you. I would like to thank you all for
everything. I wish all success for you. If I caused any hurt to anyone, believe me I did not
mean it maybe it is my way of talking. So excuse me for any mistake and goodbye

metzean May 3rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

I have anticipated your IELTS mark to be the best as I told ,your ability in English is
higher than IELTS class , thank,s for sharing a part of your daily works also your writing
about man and women , I want to say my idea in a short notice that woman are fragile,as
they show a reflection very soon to the people talks and environment . this is a nature ,
man are born for power and authority and women for delicacy and details in jobs . Men
are thick skinned and women are delicate and tender heart.

Happy teacher's day you, teachers are like candles devote themselves to light others.
They burning the candle at both side with teaching and guiding of students.

B. W
Mohsen

behnam May 4th 2010


Hi Maya,

How are you my kind friend? I hope you are fine and all is well with you.

Who has said that Behnam is angry with you or isn't on speaking term?! Behnam is
supposed to be open-minded and patient. I am neither angry with you nor sad, since
nothing has happened. Why do you think that Behnam is angry with you? Have you done
anything? :):):):) Don't you think that this kind of speaking makes me suspicious? :):):):)
So fishy! :):):):)I am joking.

Oh dear, where are you going? You cannot go out of this thread, since this thread is so
sticky like honey, and on top of that, it is like a river with a lot of water, if you come in,
there is no way to go out, because you have to follow the current of water! :):):):):)
LOOOL

Joking aside, your presence in this thread associates me with lots of excellent memories.
It also gives me opportunity to be connected to the world of Arab, that I admire it very
much.

It was so sad to hear that you are going to leave here. Please don't leave us alone, we all
need you to stay here.

If you feel sad because I haven't written to you, the main cause is lack of time, but your
last post was closed somehow. I mean there were no excuses for writing I hope you will
get what I am saying. By the way, as you can see, recently I rarely address directly to an
individual person, because I am very busy these days.

Don't be sad and don't leave us! If there is something in my posts hurts you and you
cannot say it directly, I apologize, I didn't mean to upset you! I am here in the hope that
make people happy not sad or disappointed.

Please pray for me while you are saying your prayers. I need it.

I hope to hear from you soon. I am waiting for your reply.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 May 2010
Darioush May 4th 2010
Dear friends,

I put this story for my friends:Behnam,Setayesh,Ghazal,Shanar and all of members of this


thread.

A Wicked Woman by Jack London

It was because she had broken with Billy that Loretta had come visiting to Santa Clara.
Billy could not understand. His sister had reported that he had walked the floor and cried
all night. Loretta had not slept all night either, while she had wept most of the night.
Daisy knew this, because it was in her arms that the weeping had been done. And Daisy's
husband, Captain Kitt, knew, too. The tears of Loretta, and the comforting by Daisy, had
lost him some sleep.
Now Captain Kitt did not like to lose sleep. Neither did he want Loretta to marry Billy--
nor anybody else. It was Captain Kitt's belief that Daisy needed the help of her younger
sister in the household. But he did not say this aloud. Instead, he always insisted that
Loretta was too young to think of marriage. So it was Captain Kitt's idea that Loretta
should be packed off on a visit to Mrs. Hemingway. There wouldn't be any Billy there.
Before Loretta had been at Santa Clara a week, she was convinced that Captain Kitt's
idea was a good one. In the first place, though Billy wouldn't believe it, she did not want
to marry Billy. And in the second place, though Captain Kitt wouldn't believe it, she did
not want to leave Daisy. By the time Loretta had been at Santa Clara two weeks, she was
absolutely certain that she did not want to marry Billy. But she was not so sure about not
wanting to leave Daisy. Not that she loved Daisy less, but that she--had doubts.
The day of Loretta's arrival, a nebulous plan began shaping itself in Mrs. Hemingway's
brain. The second day she remarked to Jack Hemingway, her husband, that Loretta was
so innocent a young thing that were it not for her sweet guilelessness she would be
positively stupid. In proof of which, Mrs. Hemingway told her husband several things that
made him chuckle. By the third day Mrs. Hemingway's plan had taken recognizable form.
Then it was that she composed a letter. On the envelope she wrote: "Mr. Edward
Bashford, Athenian Club, San Francisco."
"Dear Ned," the letter began. She had once been violently loved by him for three weeks in
her pre-marital days. But she had covenanted herself to Jack Hemingway, who had prior
claims, and her heart as well; and Ned Bashford had philosophically not broken his heart
over it. He merely added the experience to a large fund of similarly collected data out of
which he manufactured philosophy. Artistically and temperamentally he was a Greek-- a
tired Greek. He was fond of quoting from Nietzsche, in token that he, too, had passed
through the long sickness that follows upon the ardent search for truth; that he too had
emerged, too experienced, too shrewd, too profound, ever again to be afflicted by the
madness of youths in their love of truth. "'To worship appearance,'" he often quoted; "'to
believe in forms, in tones, in words, in the whole Olympus of appearance!'" This
particular excerpt he always concluded with, "'Those Greeks were superficial--OUT OF
PROFUNDITY!'"
He was a fairly young Greek, jaded and worn. Women were faithless and unveracious, he
held--at such times that he had relapses and descended to pessimism from his wonted
high philosophical calm. He did not believe in the truth of women; but, faithful to his
German master, he did not strip from them the airy gauzes that veiled their untruth. He
was content to accept them as appearances and to make the best of it. He was superficial-
-OUT OF PROFUNDITY.
"Jack says to be sure to say to you, 'good swimming,'" Mrs. Hemingway wrote in her
letter; "and also 'to bring your fishing duds along.'" Mrs. Hemingway wrote other things
in the letter. She told him that at last she was prepared to exhibit to him an absolutely
true, unsullied, and innocent woman. "A more guileless, immaculate bud of womanhood
never blushed on the planet," was one of the several ways in which she phrased the
inducement. And to her husband she said triumphantly, "If I don't marry Ned off this
time--" leaving unstated the terrible alternative that she lacked either vocabulary to
express or imagination to conceive.
Contrary to all her forebodings, Loretta found that she was not unhappy at Santa Clara.
Truly, Billy wrote to her every day, but his letters were less distressing than his presence.
Also, the ordeal of being away from Daisy was not so severe as she had expected. For the
first time in her life she was not lost in eclipse in the blaze of Daisy's brilliant and mature
personality. Under such favourable circumstances Loretta came rapidly to the front,
while Mrs. Hemingway modestly and shamelessly retreated into the background.
Loretta began to discover that she was not a pale orb shining by reflection. Quite
unconsciously she became a small centre of things. When she was at the piano, there was
some one to turn the pages for her and to express preferences for certain songs. When
she dropped her handkerchief, there was some one to pick it up. And there was some one
to accompany her in ramblings and flower gatherings. Also, she learned to cast flies in
still pools and below savage riffles, and how not to entangle silk lines and gut-leaders
with the shrubbery.
Jack Hemingway did not care to teach beginners, and fished much by himself, or not at
all, thus giving Ned Bashford ample time in which to consider Loretta as an appearance.
As such, she was all that his philosophy demanded. Her blue eyes had the direct gaze of a
boy, and out of his profundity he delighted in them and forbore to shudder at the duplicity
his philosophy bade him to believe lurked in their depths. She had the grace of a slender
flower, the fragility of colour and line of fine china, in all of which he pleasured greatly,
without thought of the Life Force palpitating beneath and in spite of Bernard Shaw--in
whom he believed.
Loretta burgeoned. She swiftly developed personality. She discovered a will of her own
and wishes of her own that were not everlastingly entwined with the will and the wishes
of Daisy. She was petted by Jack Hemingway, spoiled by Alice Hemingway, and
devotedly attended by Ned Bashford. They encouraged her whims and laughed at her
follies, while she developed the pretty little tyrannies that are latent in all pretty and
delicate women. Her environment acted as a soporific upon her ancient desire always to
live with Daisy. This desire no longer prodded her as in the days of her companionship
with Billy. The more she saw of Billy, the more certain she had been that she could not
live away from Daisy. The more she saw of Ned Bashford, the more she forgot her
pressing need of Daisy.
Ned Bashford likewise did some forgetting. He confused superficiality with profundity,
and entangled appearance with reality until he accounted them one. Loretta was different
from other women. There was no masquerade about her. She was real. He said as much
to Mrs. Hemingway, and more, who agreed with him and at the same time caught her
husband's eyelid drooping down for the moment in an unmistakable wink.
It was at this time that Loretta received a letter from Billy that was somewhat different
from his others. In the main, like all his letters, it was pathological. It was a long recital
of symptoms and sufferings, his nervousness, his sleeplessness, and the state of his heart.
Then followed reproaches, such as he had never made before. They were sharp enough to
make her weep, and true enough to put tragedy into her face. This tragedy she carried
down to the breakfast table. It made Jack and Mrs. Hemingway speculative, and it
worried Ned. They glanced to him for explanation, but he shook his head.
"I'll find out to-night," Mrs. Hemingway said to her husband.
But Ned caught Loretta in the afternoon in the big living-room. She tried to turn away.
He caught her hands, and she faced him with wet lashes and trembling lips. He looked at
her, silently and kindly. The lashes grew wetter.
"There, there, don't cry, little one," he said soothingly.
He put his arm protectingly around her shoulder. And to his shoulder, like a tired child,
she turned her face. He thrilled in ways unusual for a Greek who has recovered from the
long sickness.
"Oh, Ned," she sobbed on his shoulder, "if you only knew how wicked I am!"
He smiled indulgently, and breathed in a great breath freighted with the fragrance of her
hair. He thought of his world-experience of women, and drew another long breath. There
seemed to emanate from her the perfect sweetness of a child--"the aura of a white soul,"
was the way he phrased it to himself.
Then he noticed that her sobs were increasing.
"What's the matter, little one?" he asked pettingly and almost paternally. "Has Jack been
bullying you? Or has your dearly beloved sister failed to write?"
She did not answer, and he felt that he really must kiss her hair, that he could not be
responsible if the situation continued much longer.
"Tell me," he said gently, "and we'll see what I can do."
"I can't. You will despise me.--Oh, Ned, I am so ashamed!"
He laughed incredulously, and lightly touched her hair with his lips--so lightly that she
did not know.
"Dear little one, let us forget all about it, whatever it is. I want to tell you how I love--"
She uttered a sharp cry that was all delight, and then moaned--
"Too late!"
"Too late?" he echoed in surprise.
"Oh, why did I? Why did I?" she was moaning.
He was aware of a swift chill at his heart.
"What?" he asked.
"Oh, I . . . he . . . Billy.
"I am such a wicked woman, Ned. I know you will never speak to me again."
"This--er--this Billy," he began haltingly. "He is your brother?"
"No . . . he . . . I didn't know. I was so young. I could not help it. Oh, I shall go mad! I
shall go mad!"
It was then that Loretta felt his shoulder and the encircling arm become limp. He drew
away from her gently, and gently he deposited her in a big chair, where she buried her
face and sobbed afresh. He twisted his moustache fiercely, then drew up another chair
and sat down.
"I--I do not understand," he said.
"I am so unhappy," she wailed.
"Why unhappy?"
"Because . . . he . . . he wants me to marry him."
His face cleared on the instant, and he placed a hand soothingly on hers.
"That should not make any girl unhappy," he remarked sagely. "Because you don't love
him is no reason--of course, you don't love him?"
Loretta shook her head and shoulders in a vigorous negative.
"What?"
Bashford wanted to make sure.
"No," she asserted explosively. "I don't love Billy! I don't want to love Billy!"
"Because you don't love him," Bashford resumed with confidence, "is no reason that you
should be unhappy just because he has proposed to you."
She sobbed again, and from the midst of her sobs she cried--
"That's the trouble. I wish I did love him. Oh, I wish I were dead!"
"Now, my dear child, you are worrying yourself over trifles." His other hand crossed
over after its mate and rested on hers. "Women do it every day. Because you have
changed your mind or did not know your mind, because you have--to use an
unnecessarily harsh word--jilted a man--"
"Jilted!" She had raised her head and was looking at him with tear-dimmed eyes. "Oh,
Ned, if that were all!"
"All?" he asked in a hollow voice, while his hands slowly retreated from hers. He was
about to speak further, then remained silent.
"But I don't want to marry him," Loretta broke forth protestingly.
"Then I shouldn't," he counselled.
"But I ought to marry him."
"OUGHT to marry him?"
She nodded.
"That is a strong word."
"I know it is," she acquiesced, while she strove to control her trembling lips. Then she
spoke more calmly. "I am a wicked woman, a terribly wicked woman. No one knows how
wicked I am--except Billy."
There was a pause. Ned Bashford's face was grave, and he looked queerly at Loretta.
"He--Billy knows?" he asked finally.
A reluctant nod and flaming cheeks was the reply.
He debated with himself for a while, seeming, like a diver, to be preparing himself for the
plunge.
"Tell me about it." He spoke very firmly. "You must tell me all of it."
"And will you--ever--forgive me?" she asked in a faint, small voice.
He hesitated, drew a long breath, and made the plunge.
"Yes," he said desperately. "I'll forgive you. Go ahead."
"There was no one to tell me," she began. "We were with each other so much. I did not
know anything of the world--then."
She paused to meditate. Bashford was biting his lip impatiently.
"If I had only known--"
She paused again.
"Yes, go on," he urged.
"We were together almost every evening."
"Billy?" he demanded, with a savageness that startled her.
"Yes, of course, Billy. We were with each other so much . . . If I had only known . . . There
was no one to tell me . . . I was so young--"
Her lips parted as though to speak further, and she regarded him anxiously.
"The scoundrel!"
With the explosion Ned Bashford was on his feet, no longer a tired Greek, but a violently
angry young man.
"Billy is not a scoundrel; he is a good man," Loretta defended, with a firmness that
surprised Bashford.
"I suppose you'll be telling me next that it was all your fault," he said sarcastically.
She nodded.
"What?" he shouted.
"It was all my fault," she said steadily. "I should never have let him. I was to blame."
Bashford ceased from his pacing up and down, and when he spoke, his voice was
resigned.
"All right," he said. "I don't blame you in the least, Loretta. And you have been very
honest. But Billy is right, and you are wrong. You must get married."
"To Billy?" she asked, in a dim, far-away voice.
"Yes, to Billy. I'll see to it. Where does he live? I'll make him."
"But I don't want to marry Billy!" she cried out in alarm. "Oh, Ned, you won't do that?"
"I shall," he answered sternly. "You must. And Billy must. Do you understand?"
Loretta buried her face in the cushioned chair back, and broke into a passionate storm of
sobs.
All that Bashford could make out at first, as he listened, was: "But I don't want to leave
Daisy! I don't want to leave Daisy!"
He paced grimly back and forth, then stopped curiously to listen.
"How was I to know?--Boo--hoo," Loretta was crying. "He didn't tell me. Nobody else
ever kissed me. I never dreamed a kiss could be so terrible . . . until, boo-hoo . . . until he
wrote to me. I only got the letter this morning."
His face brightened. It seemed as though light was dawning on him.
"Is that what you're crying about?"
"N--no."
His heart sank.
"Then what are you crying about?" he asked in a hopeless voice.
"Because you said I had to marry Billy. And I don't want to marry Billy. I don't want to
leave Daisy. I don't know what I want. I wish I were dead."
He nerved himself for another effort.
"Now look here, Loretta, be sensible. What is this about kisses. You haven't told me
everything?"
"I--I don't want to tell you everything."
She looked at him beseechingly in the silence that fell.
"Must I?" she quavered finally.
"You must," he said imperatively. "You must tell me everything."
"Well, then . . . must I?"
"You must."
"He . . . I . . . we . . ." she began flounderingly. Then blurted out, "I let him, and he kissed
me."
"Go on," Bashford commanded desperately.
"That's all," she answered.
"All?" There was a vast incredulity in his voice.
"All?" In her voice was an interrogation no less vast.
"I mean--er--nothing worse?" He was overwhelmingly aware of his own awkwardness.
"Worse?" She was frankly puzzled. "As though there could be! Billy said- -"
"When did he say it?" Bashford demanded abruptly.
"In his letter I got this morning. Billy said that my . . . our . . . our kisses were terrible if
we didn't get married."
Bashford's head was swimming.
"What else did Billy say?" he asked.
"He said that when a woman allowed a man to kiss her, she always married him--that it
was terrible if she didn't. It was the custom, he said; and I say it is a bad, wicked custom,
and I don't like it. I know I'm terrible," she added defiantly, "but I can't help it."
Bashford absent-mindedly brought out a cigarette.
"Do you mind if I smoke?" he asked, as he struck a match.
Then he came to himself.
"I beg your pardon," he cried, flinging away match and cigarette. "I don't want to smoke.
I didn't mean that at all. What I mean is--"
He bent over Loretta, caught her hands in his, then sat on the arm of the chair and softly
put one arm around her.
"Loretta, I am a fool. I mean it. And I mean something more. I want you to be my wife."
He waited anxiously in the pause that followed.
"You might answer me," he urged.
"I will . . . if--"
"Yes, go on. If what?"
"If I don't have to marry Billy."
"You can't marry both of us," he almost shouted.
"And it isn't the custom . . . what. . . what Billy said?"
"No, it isn't the custom. Now, Loretta, will you marry me?"
"Don't be angry with me," she pouted demurely.
He gathered her into his arms and kissed her.
"I wish it were the custom," she said in a faint voice, from the midst of the embrace,
"because then I'd have to marry you, Ned dear . . . wouldn't I?"

Sincerely,
Darioush

metzean May 4th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Reading your post about your sickness ,chicken pox, I felt sad and I pray to heal your
deseas very soon and pain take away from your body.

May the following natural medication help you remove the pox sooner

Step 1Relieve the itch with oatmeal, the most common natural medicine for the treatment
of chicken pox. Cook two cups of oatmeal in 64 oz. of water for about 15 minutes. Pour
the entire mixture into a cloth bag, such as an old pillowcase, and tie the top. Allow the
bag to float in the water as you soak in a warm bath.

Step 2Apply a thin layer of all natural honey to the affected areas to help relieve itch and
heal chicken pox blisters. Honey has been used for centuries as a natural medicine for a
variety of ailments. It has natural anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties which will
help speed healing and prevent infection of chicken pox blisters.

Step 3Rub vitamin E oil into the skin after bathing and before bed to help soothe and heal
blistered skin. Vitamin E will not only help to heal chicken pox blisters, this natural
medicine will also help to reduce scarring, so continue use even after the virus has run its
course.

Step 4Eat soup made from carrot and coriander to help shorten a bout of chicken pox.
Cut 1 cup of carrots and 1 tsp. of fresh coriander into small pieces and boil until the
carrot is fully cooked. Eat this healing soup at least once a day until symptoms subside.

Step 5Drink chamomile tea throughout the day as needed to help calm the mind and
body. Chamomile is a very gentle and natural sedative that can help soothe the nerves.
Add lemon and honey to your tea if desired

B.W
mohsen

behnam May 4th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope you are in a very good.


Your city is an exemplary in terms of beauty, particularly in springs its beautiful scenes
take people's breath away. Last year I was in your city in May. I found it extremely
beautiful and clean. I had a long walk along Zayande Rud (a river), but there weren't any
pieces of paper or other rubbish on the ground. It was amazing. I asked people for the
reasons, they gave me many reasons. An elderly couple were walking. They said the
mayor of the city was a lady.

The only negative side was unpleasant smell of the substances which were used to feed
plants. It was a pity! :(

Thank you so much for praising me for my English skills. To be honest, my English is not
that good. However, that is very kind of you.

That's a traditional belief that men are strong, but women are emotional and delicate.
That is a fact that men are physically strong, but it doesn't necessarily mean that they are
emotionally strong as well.

Women often reveal their feelings, but men usually hide them. Men are ashamed of
showing themselves damaged, whereas they are so fragile and vulnerable. However,
women are some easily-cried creatures. They remove their sadness easily.:):):):):)

I believe, women are made of plastic, but men are made of glass. Both are fragile, but it
is quite easy to repair some pieces of broken plastic by heating or using some glue.
However, some pieces of broken glass cannot be repaired easily. You maybe use some
glue or even try recycling, but it won't work!

Being silent, or ashamed and pretending strength does not mean that someone is
emotionally strong!

This topic should be dug more.

I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 May 2010

ketuke May 4th 2010


How does this forum work in here? I would really like to practice my english due to the
fact that I have an exam on Friday :)

nsl87 May 5th 2010


Hi Behnam

How are you? what do you do these days?

you said you are very buzy but I have a request. I wrote to you 2 days ago and answered
your questions. If you will have time please write your ideas about it.

look forward to hearing from you.


Regards
star

behnam May 5th 2010


Dear friends,

How are things? I hope all is well with you.

As I guess you know, I am taking part in an English course. The teacher gave us a topic
and wanted us to write an essay about it. Here is the topic:

"some people believe that children should be allowed to stay at home and play until they
are six or seven old. Others believe that it is important for young children to go to school
as soon as possible. What do you think about the advantages of attending school from a
young age? "

I wrote an essay and gave it to the teacher, since I had to do it as an assignment. After
correction, the teacher will give it back on Saturday. Now, I am going to paste the essay
here. I want you to judge and make comment on it. Please kindly read this essay and
correct it. You are my teachers. I am really honoured.

*****
Have you ever thought at what age should children start schooling? According to some
experts, children have capability to attend to school when there are five years old. I
partly agree with it. Nowadays children have potential to start school early rather than
stay at homes while their parents are at work. Starting school younger gives them chance
to finish school at a younger age. Socializing with people at schools also makes them
improve their basic skills.

In the past, the main source of information for children was their families, but now TV
bombards children them a lot of information. They learn a lot through watching TV. In
particular, they learn a great deal about general knowledge. Because of this fact,
children have enough abilities and talents for schooling early.

Many parents have to work. Some of them employ someone to look after their children at
home. Others send their children to private nurseries. They pay a lot of money for the
nurseries, but the result are not satisfactory. In many cases, the children become spoiled.
However, there are some experienced and well trained teachers at schools. They take
more responsibility for children's future lives.

There is major development in science and technology. It means that students have to
study more than before. They have to spend many years at schools and universities to
become a specialist in their fields. Therefore, starting school younger means finishing
school at a younger age, and as a result, it means having more time to work and earn
money. In addition, beginning school early means socializing with people early, and then
improving communication and social skills.

In conclusion, I personally parly agree with starting school early. It has some positive
effects, although there are also some potential disadvantages. If we take all factors into
consideration, we will find out that it is beneficial to the society.
*****************
I am waiting for your suggestion and correction. Please correct my essay without any
hesitation. I hope Clare will express her idea on it. She is a native English speaker, so
her opinion about this essay will be beneficial to my improvement in writing.

I am looking forwards to hearing from you as soon as possible.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 May 2010
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ketuke May 5th 2010


You brought up very positive ideas why attending school from young age is good. I also
went to school at age of 5, and now I am seventeen and finishing my secondary school
with those who are already 19. Even if i don't go to university this year, I wouldn't lose
anything because I'm so young.

What I really wanted to say, is that it was very nice essay and you have a wide
vocabulary, so it was very interesting to read it. Thank you!

behnam May 5th 2010


Hi Ketuke,

Thank you for joining us. Welcome to this thread. Thank you once again for putting
message and making comment on my essay. Thanks for your email.

Would you mind telling us a little bit more about yourself?


I hope to here from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 May 2010

behnam May 5th 2010


Hi star,

How are you? I hope you are in a extremely good mood. Thank you so much for giving
your opinion about those topics. Would you please write more about them? Please write
about them one by one. Please develop your post and support your ideas by giving some
experience examples and examples.

So sorry to be late, but I am really pressed for time. I have to take part in classes and do
homework. Nowadays, I am not in a good mood as well.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 April 2010

ketuke May 5th 2010


To start with I will tell you about that where I come from. I live in Estonia, If you don't
know, then it is in the northern of Europe, near the Russia. Estonia is a very small
country with about 1,5 million people. We are small, but we are respected members of
European Union and NATO. I really like where I live. There is a bit of everything. Cold
and snowy winters, beautiful springs and autumns and warm, sunny summers.

Right now I am finishing my secondary school. I have already made two exams, which
were Native Speech exam and Society. Now I need to do English on Saturday and History
on 28 may. I hope that I gain good results and I can be pleased with myself. Then I have
to decide what to do next year. Go to university or to work, but I strongly feel that I'm
going to University.

I think that's all, if you have any further questions I would be very glad to answer.

It is really nice to talk here, I look forward to hearing from you :)


metzean May 8th 2010
Dear Clare,

now I can breathe , page through 670 pages , what is it Clare , what kind of front page is
this , please set the thread on the last page when we open it.

B.R
Mohsen

Caimin May 8th 2010


Hi Everyone,

I'm the technical side of english-at-home.com - I've been working to fix a few problems
we've had with the forums. I think we're back to normal now.

Sorry for the problems over the last couple of days.

behnam May 9th 2010


Hi friends,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. I've missed you.

I firmly believe every event has two sides; plus and minus. There was a serious problem
with the thread. This had two sides too. I don't want to write its disadvantages, since you
all know it. However, for me, one of its advantages was that it made me understand I am
nothing without this thread. You can't imagine how difficult it was for me to live without
this thread. I was lost!

I would like to express my special thanks to Clare and Caimin for attempts and efforts
they have taken to fix this thread. Thank you very much from the bottom of my heart.

Dear Clare, it seems the length of the thread causes some problems. I am sorry about it.
Have you got any suggestion? For example, do you think it is time to stop writing in this
thread? Do you suggest establishing a new thread?

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 9 May 2010

behnam May 9th 2010


Hi Ketuke.

Thank you very much for giving some information about your country and your school.
Would you mind telling us how old are you? What about your gender?

By the way, thank you very much for putting comment on my essay. You should know that
the teacher gave me 6 out of 9. She loved my essay. According to the teacher, there were
some spelling mistakes and some incorrect structures in terms of English grammar.
However, she said, "Your essay was awesome!"

Yesterday, I gave her another essay. The topic was 'Happiness and factors contribute in
achieving it'. The teacher will give it back tomorrow. I will write it in this thread, and will
ask you to give your opinion on it.

Tomorrow, I have to give the teacher another essay. The topic is about universities and
their courses. I have to write about the function of universities. Do they have to consider
the need of workplace, or are they free to have any kinds of courses? I am not sure, but
the topic is something like that. At the moment, the book isn't with me to look at and write
the exact title of the topic. I will write it soon.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 9 May 2010

behnam May 9th 2010


Dear friends,

How are you? I hope you are fine.

I have to write an essay as homework. I have to give the essay to my teacher tomorrow.
The topic is this:

"Some people think that universities should provide graduates with the knowledge and
skills needed in the workplace. Others think that the true function of a university should
be to give access to knowledge for its own sake, regardless of whether the course is
useful to employer. What, in your opinion, should be the main function of a university?"
I have to spend 40 minutes and write more than 250 words about it. Would you help me?
Any suggestions? Any ideas? Any help?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 9 May 2010

setayesh May 9th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you my old friend? I hope you are fine.

Thank you very much for writing those useful tips about my disease.Actually they were so
effective, especially using vitamin E oil was so great. It helped the spots heal soon. Now I
am almost recovered. Yesterday I went out after a week being prisoned at home.:):)

All the best


Setayesh, 9 May 2010
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setayesh May 9th 2010


Hi Behnam,

How's it going? I hope all is well with you.

I read your last post about your writing class and your present topic. It's a good and a
tough one at a same time to write about. I've already thought and discussted about it alot.
I have spoken about this issue with some of my masters even.

To tell the truth, there are several different ideas about it. Some people think that
universities should provide graduates with the knowledge and skills needed in the
workplace. they do believe the main reason for those who come to university is gaining
some useful knowledge to fined a job or to be successful at their workplace so it can be
time wasting to be involved with lots of irrelevant subjects.

On the other hands, there are some other people who do believe students don't go to
universities for those mentioned reasons only. University is not a place to provide only
some technical courses. It should also provide some courses which are useful for
students' live although they can not be useful for their employment. In their point of view,
spending some years(at least4) at university just by focusing on technical courses is
losing your time, your youth and energy to be someone who can be only successful at
work.

But it should be also considered that, nowadays there are lots of universities that are not
free of charge. They do whatever they can to gain profit. If they were free to provide
courses they would force a great deal of students to join some useless classes which are
only a source of making money for university.

It was all I knew about your topic. I hope it helps you in your writing.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best


Setayesh,9 may 2010

Darioush May 9th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

How's it going?
I saw your post and learned that you got flu.I'm sorry to hear that.My old friend,I missed
your meaningful stories.I was happy to see you cooperate with me in my thread,but after
a while,I depressed because of losing one of members of my thread.As I said before,pay
attention to poor Darioush.( kidding).

I hope you feel better soon.

Sincerely,

Darioush

metzean May 9th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Very happy to see the thread was established , the thread was threaten with extinction.!!?
, I don?t think so ,I think the establisher never thought a thread kept on writing for long
pages like this. My suggestion is the threat sets on the last page when we open it and
there is an icon for each previous 100 pages, so we have six icons 100, 200, 300,400,
500,600..and numbers start from 601 to 651. Where do you stand with my suggestion?

Regarding to universities and workplace ,I think the priority of industrial courses should
be matched with workplace ,and also the courses which have not workplace should be
limited . for example many graduates in management ,industrial or official . what is is
their job in society / do they want to be manger in one company or sectors . There is no
possibility for such person to find a job . because all jobs vacancy ask for experienced
managers and managers which are not graduated in managing. So what is the use of
1000 people which are graduated annually in managing?

B.W
Mohsen

metzean May 9th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

I am very happy to find you in good health, I hope your absent from university did not
cause you a loss, sometime we have everything ,the most important is health ,but we are
ungrateful ,so when we loss it we come to know it value. The advantage of disease is that
we feel the value of health and after disease removes from our body we appreciate our
life. What do you think about human being the ingratitude?

B.W.
Mohsen

Bluegreen May 9th 2010


Dear Friends,

Hello there. How are you all doing? I'm really sorry that I have to address all the nice
friends just in one post, but I'll promise to write soon(although nobody misses me here
LOOOL)

Anyways, in the absense days of Shanar, Ghazal and Kamelia lots of nice events
happened that I'm going to explain about them but now, I've got to go and study for my
exams because there are two hard tests coming on this week:

1.The vocabulary test which consists of 3 individual books and notebooks

2.The essential skills test which is really ridiculous because you're never going to know
that which part of the book is neccassary to learn for your exam,because all the book is
about some suggestion on how to take a test, or to learn something new!

Dear friends, I've really really missed you, it is so hard to keep away from this wonderful
thread even for some days, but I have to.
Please forgive me,

Hope to read from you so soon,


Sincerely,

Kamelia

ketuke May 9th 2010


Dear Behnam

I am 18 years old, 11th May I will be 19. I think I'm organising a small party with my
closest friends, because I think that 19 is not so important age.

By the way, I'm female

Marina1 May 9th 2010


Hi Behnam , my great friend,

Thanks a million for your great and warm welcoming to your friend, Marina.

Dear, you know me more than I know myself. You know that this place is in my heart I
can't live without it.
Sometimes, some circumstances make me be away , but believe me I always follow all
your writings here.
Let me give you an example. You spoke about a friend of you told you that Ibn Sina is an
Arab scientist..... who is your friend??? ;) :). In fact , I was happy that you mentioned me
indirectly. :)

Dear friend, in our lives, sometimes it's impossible to make what we want. When we face
such difficulties , we just try our best to choose the best from all the choices in front of us.
Sometimes what we want is impossible to get. What we should do then??

Friendship is one of the most important things that we can keep. I'm here because of your
priceless friendship, you and all our friends. :)

If you ( You, Maya and all Iranian friends) don't mind, I'd like to suggest to say " The
Gulf " , just this. Neither Arabian nor Persian :). Can you do it???

Dear friend, I've got a question for you. How can we know the good guy frm the bad
one????

I hope to read from you soon.


Marina.
Marina1 May 9th 2010
Dear Kami, Shanar and Ghazal,

lots of nice Iranian friends! How lucky I'm!


:) :)
Of course I was worried about you Kami but It was a bit difficult to write here because of
some events which make me busy. All what I can say that I always follow this thread. It
was impossible to open it because of Technical reasons. Anyway, Thanks for all powerful
people who are trying to make this place a nice and advanced place to be in.

Thank you all for being so kind with me. I know that all of you are friends who are
studying at the same section at the same university. What can I do when a great girl like
Kami is talking about me in such a positive way????

All what I can say that I hope to be a good friend for her in the first place and for Shanar
and Ghazal in the second one. Please feel free in writing to me. Kami knows that I'm
open minded enough to accept all thoughts.
Please be kind enough and answer my question to Behnam about how can we know that
this guy is a good one or not??? and how can we choose the right guy to be a good
husband????

I hope to read from you soon.


Marina.

Marina1 May 9th 2010


Dear Clare,

Please look at the Syria flag carefully! What has happened??? why does it look like
Zoro??? :))

Please do something with it. It was prettierrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.


(LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL).

It was just a way to say Hi for a great and powerful runner for this site. I've missed you
and your way of ignoring me ;).

I love you..................

Marina.
behnam May 10th 2010
Hi Ketuke,

Tomorrow is your birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!


I wish you all the best in the world. I wish I could buy a present for your birthday. What a
pity!

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 May 2010
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behnam May 10th 2010


Dear Friends,

I am snowed under a lot of duties. Above all of them, writing an essay as homework,
every second day is really difficult. It takes me a lot of time. I am sorry, but I have to do
my homework.

Setayesh, thank you for your help. It was great. You was sick? Oh dear, getting flu is
really bad. Thank God you are well now.

Kamelia, thank you for your post. You were in Tehran last week. Well, how was it? Don't
forget Thursday! :):):):):) Good luck with your exams.

Mohsen, thanks a lot for email and for the post. Have you seen my last post to you?

Marina, many thanks for posting and giving some news about yourself. First of all, you
should let us know who the guy is that you are going to evaluate him. :):):):) By the way,
we cannot give our Golf to other people. What they have stolen in the past is enough.
:):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 May 2010
behnam May 10th 2010
"Some people think that universities should provide graduates with the knowledge and
skills needed in the workplace. Others think that the true function of a university should
be to give access to knowledge for its own sake, regardless of whether the course is
useful to employer. What, in your opinion, should be the main function of a university?"

Hi friends,

How are things? I hope all is well with you.

Here is my essay. Today, I will give it to the teacher. Please make comment on it.

********************************
Have you ever though what should be the important purposes of a university? The main
mission of a university has always been a topic that has sparked off considerable debate.
Some people think universities should support industry by professional training. Others
think that a university should focus on developing science. In my view, a university
should play an important role in developing science, economy, and culture.

Development in science and technology is considered as a sign of big success. Therefore,


a university should support research by smoothing the way for students and lecturers,
who do research. It should grant scholarships to talented students, and advance research
laboratories.

A university should play a crucial role in solving industrial problems. It should


strengthen ties between industry and business. In addition, a university should educate
the skilful labour, in order to satisfy the labour needs of the society. This function will
make the university promote the production of wealth.

Societal function, or social role of a university is a matter of utmost importance. If you


want to build character in the society, you must pay a special attention to morality and
ethics. A university should provide values-based education, and contribute to developing
culture. In fact, education without values may be very dangerous. An educated thief may
steal from the freight car, but an educated one may steal the entire railroad. Hence, a
university should provide graduates with traits such as honesty and responsibility.

To sum it up, universities bear crucial responsibilities in the society. Therefore, they
should play their important role in developing science, technology, and humanities. They
should also prepare people capable of taking responsibility in the society.
********************************

Dear friends, this essay is Persian-based. The structures seem strange. I found this topic
really difficult to write about. Even in Farsi, I cannot write a good essay on it.

Would you please do me a favour and correct this essay? I have some time to change the
structures. I am waiting for your help.
All the best,
Behnam, 10 May 2010

behnam May 10th 2010


Dear Friends,

I read my essay again and again. Some sentences seemed odd, so I changed them. Here is
the second version of the essay. I will give this essay to the teacher (in 1 hour from now).
:):):)

***************************************************
"Some people think that universities should provide graduates with the knowledge and
skills needed in the workplace. Others think that the true function of a university should
be to give access to knowledge for its own sake, regardless of whether the course is
useful to employer. What, in your opinion, should be the main function of a university?"

Have you ever though what should be the important purposes of a university? The main
mission of a university has always been a topic that has sparked off considerable debate.
Some people think universities should support industry by professional training. Others
think that a university should focus on developing science. In my view, a university
should play an important role in developing science, economy, and culture.

Science can give reliable knowledge which we need in the society, so it is extremely
important for a university to orient towards developing science. For this purpose, a
university should support research by smoothing the way for students who do research.
For example, it should grant scholarships to talented students, and advance research
laboratories.

A university should play a crucial role in solving problems in the work place, and
creating wealth in the society. This can be achieved by strengthening ties between
university, industry, and business. In addition, a university should educate skilled labour,
in order to satisfy the labour needs of the society.

Societal function, or social role of a university is of utmost significance. A university


should provide value-based education, and contribute to developing culture. If you want
to build character in the society, you need to give more attention to morality and ethics.
Education without values may be very dangerous. An educated thief may steal from the
freight car, but an educated one may steal the entire railroad. Hence, a university should
provide graduates with traits such as honesty and responsibility.

To sum up, universities bear crucial responsibilities in a society. Therefore, they should
play their role in developing science, technology, and humanities. They should also
prepare people capable of taking responsibilities in the society.
*******************************************************

Please make comment on this essay and correct it.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 May 2010

setayesh May 10th 2010


Hi Behnam,

How are you keeping? I hope your fine, happy and healthy and everything going well
with you.

Yes Behnam, I was sick. But the disease was not flu, it was more difficut, irritating,
frustrating and annoying that flu. I got Chicken Pox. :( It was terrible. I can not find any
expression to define the difficulty of it.

I read your essay about curriculums of universities. To tell the truth it was great. Don't
bother yourself, sometimes topics are difficult to write about. It was one of them. Surly,
the topic is difficult for others too.

I'm so sorry I can not continue writing. Today I took part in my classes after a week
being at home. Now I am exhausted, I think sickness has made me so weak because I feel
tired more than usual.

Hope to see you successful all the time,

All the best,


Setayesh,10 may2010

Clare May 10th 2010


Hi Marina
How's your flag? Is it restored to its pre-Zorro form? We've had a couple of hiccups on
the forums, but if there's still a problem, please let me know.
Sorry if you think I've been ignoring you - it's certainly not intentional!
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
behnam May 11th 2010
Dear Friends,

Mother's Day is celebrated on 13th May in many western countries. Here is my tribute
(extracted from a magazine) to mothers all around the world.

*** Before I was a MOM ***

Before I was a mom, I slept as late as I wanted, and never worried about how late I got
into bed. I brushed my hair and my teeth every day.

Before I was a mom, I cleaned my house each day. I never fell over toys or forget words
to a lullaby. I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never worried
about immunizations.

Before I was a mom, I had never been chewed on. I had complete control of my mind and
my thoughts. I slept all night.

Before I was a mom, I never held down a screaming child so that doctors could do tests,
or give injections. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got overjoyed over a
simple grin. I never sat up late long hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a mom, I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it
down. I never heard my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt. I
never knew that something so small could affect my life so much. I never knew that I
could love someone so much. I never knew I could love being a mom.

Before I was a mom, I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I
didn't know how special it could be to feed a hungry baby. I didn't know about the trust
between a mother and her child. I didn't know that something so small could make me
feel so important and happy.

Before I was a mom, I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every ten minutes to
make sure all was Okay. I had never known the warmth, the joy, the headache, the
surprise, or the satisfaction of being a mom.

I didn't know I was able to feel so much before I was a mom.


***********************************************

Happy Mother's Day to all mothers around the world.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 May 2010
behnam May 11th 2010
Dear Friends,

How are you keeping? I hope you are in a good mood.

Tomorrow I have to give another essay to the teacher. The topic is this:

"In many counties schools have severe problems with student behaviour.
What do you think are the causes of this?"

I hope you will help me.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 May 2010

Bluegreen May 11th 2010


Dear Behnam and other nice friends,

Hiiii there. How are you doing? I really wish you nice easy days not busy ones just like
mine!
You really can't believe how much I've missed this warm place to write in and express my
feelings between the lines and with the help of words.

Dear Friends, actually after today's hard exam I have some days to take a rest and then
there's going to be another hard one on the coming Saturday so I was thinking if you
could pray for me.
Why did I mention that fact on the line above, well because I wanted to state that in these
free days I'm going to have more cooperation and more posts in here and that's really
joyful news for me.

I was supposed to talk about the days which I had been absent and bring up good excuses
LOOOL
Well last week especially from Tuesday 4th of May to Thursday 7th of May was a very
special week and absolutely an awesome one, in order to describe it I'll begin with the
first decision of going to this trip.
There is this "International Book Exhibition" held annually in Tehran and lots of people
go there to find the particular books they were looking for or they just go for browsing to
see if there are any rare cases like the George Orwell ones which didn't have the
permission to be published! Or at least others say like this!

Then when the idea of the exhibition came up Shanar, Ghazal and I decided to go on a 4
days trip to Tehran and then check this place out for any new stuff.
Shanar said that she won't be able to accompany us on the train because she was to come
with her elder sister so it remained just the two of us, not to mention that none of us had
gone to the exhibition before except Shanar and she was not to tag along LOOOL

We started the trip at 6 A.M on a lovely Tuesday morning and again not to mention that
we had to be there for the taxi at 5! But this lovely Ghazal just woke up at 5! Her cool-
tempered manner never ceases to amaze me LOOOOL (Sorry Ghazal :)) )

So we reached the bus station at a quarter to 6, but unfortunately as the time of our
tickets weren't alike so we had to be seated at different saloons and that was a pity
because then after some time I found out that I've got 3 lovely old ladies sitting beside
me, gossiping all around and just advising me not to marry! LOOOL

But it wasn't that bad since one of them was a gynecologist, the other one a retired widow
who used to work for the Tehran's Supreme Court and the last one was a teacher, it might
be rude to say that they were loquacious although they talked a lot and discussed about
all the matters even my nail polish LOOOL.
The interesting thing was that I really thought if I'm going to be old, trembling and
wrinkled just like them that I won't even be able to open my cola's cork?! Well it really
made me think deeply!
Anyways, we reached Tehran in 3 P.M Ghazal's son in law came after her and I (tebghe
mamule hamishe) waited for my sweet uncle to pick me up and that took about an hour
LOOOL
I really want to mention this fact that before we reach Tehran we had Dear Behnam's
support in every aspect!
Honey I really can't forget how you check our times out to see if there's anyone to come
after us or if we've got any place to go to, so in this way I really want to thank you.
There, we had planned that each come separately and then we're going to fix a date and
find each other there, as the first day I asked my uncle to show me the way and how to go
because Tehran?s much bigger than you can imagine I really feel lost when I go there
LOOOL
Here's another fact I remember that at the first minute I set my feet out the train I smsed
Dear Behnam that when is it possible to have a meeting and we fixed a date on Thursday
3 P.M.

My first searching day began at 1 P.M when I bade my uncle goodbye and made him sure
that I can find the way home and in case of having any problems I'm going to give them a
call (they weren't worried at all, even if I hadn't mentioned this LOOOOL now this makes
me wonder that why are some friends even more protective than your first degree
relatives!!
My day began with wandering around in some tiny tents who were selling some cards
and elementary school books plus the advertisements for some entrance exam books and
classes. Then I, in a state of soliloquy said to myself that is this really what the entire
exhibition?s about?! But then I started asking some sort of questions and found out that
there?s this building called ?Shabestan? that on its second floor is the part for original
English books.
Ghazal reached me at 3 P.M and we started checking out the second floor book shelves,
well you can?t even imagine but I felt that my soul was somehow flying between the
clouds LOOOL It was a really nice feeling. As it was our first year we didn?t know how
to buy those books so after undergoing the drudgery of asking lots of questions from
different people, we found that we had to have special bills for buying them so we
decided to do it tomorrow. That day we just quit looking for original books and we went
to the first floor for buying the original Persian books LOOOL
The first sweet day finished and I came home, now let alone all the difficulties I bore to
get home LOOOL
Because I?d lost the way and....
Next day the plan was like this, I started the way at 11 A.M and Ghazal was to come at
noon and at about 2! I started with asking for the bills so I went to the bank which was
responsible for these kinds of works and then I understood that I had to register for a
kind of ATM card used for this kind of buying and it seemed like I had started everything
on the other way around LOOOL
Now here comes the best part LOOOL my date with this Dear Professor Behnam was on
this day (Thursday) and at 3 P.M, so I called him for some kind of arrangements and he
told me that he?s going to be there but it might be a little bit late because of the far
destination from his workplace to exhibitions.
So I had my lunch (this lunch has another story but it really gets too long) I was going
through each part and bought some sort of books which I really liked for example: 1984
by George Orwell, some works of Paulo Coelho like the Devil And Miss Prym, Eleven
Minutes, Valkyrs, and two books from the Chicken soup series and etc.
Then I just checked my cell phone to see if anyone had come and I saw two calls and an
sms from Dear Behnam well the first reaction was I really knew that I was going to meet
this friend which I had never ever found the chance to face with and on the other hand I
was a little bit stressed out I don?t know why!
Then I gave him a call and told him that I?m going to meet him at the metro way on the
Shahid Beheshty station so I started walking toward the door and in 15 minutes I was
there but Behnam wasn?t but the problem was solved with a simple phone call.
I really don?t know how to describe this situation now because my imagination was
rather different from the person I saw.
To be honest with you, I even told Behnam that I thought he might be a person who is
really fat with a big belly and short in height with big moustache and angry face LOOOL
But it wasn?t really like this, well normally I should have some sort of fear when visiting
this friend for the first time because all was some chats and talking and writing posts and
no meeting! But it didn?t go this way AT ALL! Because the first scene was this Behnam
with a happy kind face coming toward me and saying hello and all the fear evaporated
because he seemed really trustworthy and that was obvious from this countenance!
Well, he was a little bit older that I had expected because from his writing style and
morale it seemed that he is really young, because he had always been energetic and
powerful, and like a bomb of positive energy but the man I saw looked like a nice
professor with glasses whose got his PhD for and is teaching for many years :)):))
Anyways, this was the first reaction, Kamelia was surprised and she asked for some kind
of proof and Dear Behnam showed her, her smses in order to believe LOOOL
We walked along and with a special kindness he asked me if he could take my bags and
the books I had bought, now that was really nice of him to offer because I was too tired.
Thanks Dear.
We actually got in to the place and looked for the Jangal Publishers because he needed
some books from there, a series of IELTS exercises.
Then we had to find another Publishers because there was one book which had been left
to buy but it was a little bit hard to look for that publishers place because everyone said a
kind of address but it didn?t match the place, now here comes another good
characteristic of Dear Behnam which I had never paid any attention to and that was his
patience! My friends always call me patient but in that day, with the weather?s heat and
long walks and searching I had totally lost my interest but he was so calm although he
has drove his car for 3 hours and this made me feel interested and calm too! I even told
him that you are more patient so how can you claim that you?re not?!
We found the book and we went to put them in his car, we looked for the place which the
car had been parked but it took a while since Dear Behnam had forgotten the place but it
didn?t matter because I had the chance to take a long walk with him and talk in English,
which was really delightful in that evening, we reached his car and put the books in, he
started cracking some of my books to see what I had bought and then he showed me his
homework page which he had took a copy from, he?s got a nice handwriting which the
words are totally clear and you can read it easily, and he writes in nice separate
paragraphs, while reading his assignment aloud I really felt comfortable near him, well
although he?s a boy and in our society it really doesn?t matter if he?s young or old and
you should keep yourself away from them LOOOL( as they say) but I just felt the
presence of a true friend and nothing more. He talked calmly and to use a technical word
I can say Verbatim (word by word) then he said that he had three books which he
couldn?t make time to read and go through so he had decided to give them to three of us
but unfortunately I had them all, they were the trilogies of the book called ?Select
readings?.
Then he brought out a long little box which I opened and got surprised but he said:
Kami? Hanuz nadidish migi aaaaaa? Khob bebinesh bad begu.
He was right to some extent but as we know people like to hear compliments when they
give gifts to others. But here?s another thing I really didn?t expect a sort of gift because
his friendship is a great gift to me.
So then he explained to me that this was kind of pointer laser which professors use to
point to the board or the projector screen, you know, like a long stick which you can
easily point to whatever you?ve written on the board. I really liked it, actually that was
the first time which I had this kind of scientific gift. Thanks again dear.

We waited for Ghazal and Shanar a little bit, well Shanar had been to that place in the
morning with her sister and then she had to leave in the afternoon with her so she just
apologized and said that she wouldn?t come. But Ghazal said that she?s going to be
there in every minute so we waited a little bit and in that time we wrote some sentences in
each other notebooks so that we?re going to have this memory in the future years.
Again we walked to the exhibition and as we were thirsty he bought two bottles of
mineral water, thank god because I was actually dying of thirst LOOOL
We walked and then sat down under a tree shadow and started talking, I showed him my
old little pocket dictionary with the only notebook that I had with myself and Ghazal
suddenly called she said that she would meet us at the stairs of the second floor, we went
in but unfortunately they were closing the second floor parts and we couldn?t go, but
thanks to the persuasive but respectful Dear Behnam?s tongue we got the permission to
go up there but we couldn?t find her there so we arranged a meeting at ?Cheshme
Publishers? and we met her there. I think she?s going to explain her feelings in another
post because this is getting too much LOOOOL
We searched for some of her books and she said that she wanted some of mine after
buying the whole stuff we went toward Dear Behnam?s car and he came up with the same
question he had asked me: Miss Ghazal? Which one do you think my car will be?
LOOOL
He gave her a ball pen with the Parker trademark on it as a gift and then we started
talking a little bit of Ghaenat and what kind of friends Ghazal and I are and so on...
Finally we took her to the place where she said and two of them said farewells and
wished each other good luck.
I just jokingly told him that if he?s going to drive me with his car to my uncle?s house
and to my surprise he accepted, well with this question I could kill two birds with one
stone first that I had more time to talk to this valuable friend and then I could escape
from the busy streets and all those buses LOOOL
The streets and highways were filled with cars; I felt really embarrassed because I had
made him do this.
Dear Behnam, I really know that driving is really hard especially in those rush hours of
the day so I?m so sorry.
We reached home at about 8:30 we said goodbye and that?s it! The nice night was over. I
don?t think that I?m going to find this awesome chance ever but I?m really happy that I
got to meet such an angel which I had never recognized before.

Now here?s a special thanks to Dear Behnam for his nice support and hosting, I really
appreciate it.

I know that I wrote a novel LOOOL but this was the first trip which I didn?t have my
parents and family along with me and it was all the two of us and then that exciting
Thursday which is really difficult to describe the feeling of!

Waiting to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. I know that dear Clare might omit me from the thread LOOOL but please don?t
honey. I really liked writing about it and besides I was away for more than 4 days and
that?s a pity!
Bluegreen May 11th 2010
Dear Marina,

Hii. How are you? How's everything going on in Lattakia? How about your family? How
about the new member?LOOL

Honey, you can't believe how much I've missed you, I really don't know if you're able to
check your mails and answer them well if you can just tell me because I've got a lot to
talk about to you.

So, tell me, are we going to be invited in the ceremony or not?:D LOOOL I'm just kiddin
honey I really wish you success in every aspect of your life.

To be honest with you, I shall say that men are really complex creatures of the world,
well maybe in their point of view we are like this.
But here's another thing, although their character is written in stealthily code forms but
we can decipher them easily because however they hide their personality there's always
one way out! You can easily bring out the devil side!

Dear Marina, I know that making decisions for life is so hard but I also know that you
are a logical knowledgable person, you can think greatly and then find a solution.
Well I really don't know if I guessed right or not and then I'm making up some stories
:)):)):))

Waiting to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

metzean May 11th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I know a little about writing styles ,but i read your essay ,It was excellent. About your
new topic I write my idea ,I hope it gives you a hint and help you.

Environment which include home, society and people live with us, have direct effect on
our behavior and the students who are an integral part of this society are influenced by
this envirnment.
The structure of each society is build according to beliefs ,ideals and values which
dominate on people atitudes For instance we have read/ heard many times through news
that one student in USA kills his classmate or his teacher. what is the sever problem with
such students? The most important comes from the family structures, beliefs and value
and culture values which have been destroyed in a society. The pattern which students
choose for life ,the patterns which come from Hollywood movies . Also unconditional
freedoms which are given to a society , the democracy which made by human mind and
execute as rules of society .finally the absence of real religion.

B.W
Mohsen
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Bluegreen May 11th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Hello there. How are you? Long time no see. How's the university going on? I wish you
wonderful days ahead.

Honey I heard that you've got chicken pox, I am terribly sorry to here that, to be honest
with you I haven't ever been infected with this disease but I heard that it's too hard even
when you grow older.
But then I got really happy hearing that you got better and now you're free from the virus
right? That is awesome.

Waiting to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

sahand May 11th 2010


Hello Behnam

How is life going on ?

I'm gonna write my idea about new topic.

Reasons:

1- Spend way too much time watching stupid TV shows, games or videos.
2- At school a student may follow others who like to cause problems or the teachers may
not have enough exposure on how to change the attitude of children.

3- Rather than setting clear expectations with their children, parents instead spend a lot
of time defending indefensible behaviours of their kids. (Mostly in Iran)

4- The quality of teachers is coming down. If the guardians and teachers don't know what
the problem of the child is and don't know how to address it, they will knock up against
those manners again ... the students are still going to remain the same.

(I found more on other sites, you can find them by a simple search too)

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely;
Sahand

behnam May 12th 2010


Dear Friends,

I got 'excellent writing' for my last essay. Today I gave another essay to the teacher as
homework. Here is what I have written.
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Why do students create serious problems in schools? Nowadays, schools encountering
difficulties in dealing with student behaviour. There are many causes for bad behaviour
of students. However, I believe some reasons such as bad upbringing, negative effects of
the media, and change of values within community can be considered as the main causes
for bad manner of students in schools.

According to psychologists, children often copy their parents, so the role of parents in
nurturing their children is extremely important. Nowadays, some parents have to work.
They often bring their difficulties and stress from work to home. Therefore, they often
speak about their workplaces, or argue with each other, instead of spending some quality
time with their children. Undoubtedly, their behaviours have a bad effect on the children.
In addition, some children have bad upbringing, because their parents do not nurture
them carefully. As a result, these children are very likely to cause trouble in school.

According to some experts, bad behaviour of some students in school is a reflection on


their childhood. Nowadays, children watch television, and they often copy what see on it.
Clearly, there is a lot of violence on television that affect children's lives. Statistics show
that 53% of programmes on television have negative effects on children. Moreover,
children are the most vulnerable members of society. They are influenced by people. In
particular, they are strongly influenced by their friends. Some children are not properly
taught to be careful with choosing friend. In several cases, they have improper
friendships that have bad influence on them. These children, who are potential students,
will probably cause some problems in school.

Most parents do not care about some values such as responsibility and commitment. They
think that these values have become old. Therefore, they do not nurture their children
towards these values. Consequently, children do not appreciate the significance of these
values, and they behave irresponsibly. in school. According to the newspapers, 40 years
ago, the main problems among students were throwing spitballs in class, not doing
homework, and not respecting properly. Nowadays, schools are facing problems such as
smoking, taking drugs, and caring knives, which are popular among students. This is a
big change, and it represents a big shifting of values for some young people.

To summarize, some students create severe problems in schools, because they are not
well prepared for behaving properly. On the other hand, some values such as
responsibility and commitment are not appreciated anymore. "try to be a man of success
but rather try to be a man of value". This is what Albert Einstein has quoted, but some
young people do not care about values.
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Dear friends, would you please correct my essay? Dear Clare, if you correct only one
essay of me, I will know many useful things. Would you possibly correct this essay? I
hope so.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 May 2010

behnam May 13th 2010


Dear friends,

How are you? I hope you are fine. Where are you? I've missed you. Nothing from you!!!
Is it fair to leave poor Behnam alone in this thread? No need to invent any excuses, but
you know that I am pressed for time. Anyway, I hope you all are in an extremely good
mood.

For Saturday, I am supposed to write an essay on the following topic. This is a


controversial topic, but I am sure we will tackle it. Let's put our heads together (oh, a hill
of big heads :):):) LOL) to discuss this hot topic. Here is the topic:

"Some people believe that there should be fixed punishments for each type of crime.
Others, however, argue that the circumstance of an individual crime, and the motivation
for committing it, should be taken into account when deciding on the punishment.
Discuss both these views and give your own opinion."
Great! A lovely topic! I really love such an important topic. I am sure that you will agree
with me; the topic is worded intelligently.

Anyway, I hope you will help me to give some ideas relevant to this topic.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 May 2010

behnam May 13th 2010


Dear Friends,

Mother's Day is celebrated on 13th May in many western countries. Here is my tribute
(extracted from a magazine) to mothers all around the world.

*** Before I was a MOM ***

Before I was a mom, I slept as late as I wanted, and never worried about how late I got
into bed. I brushed my hair and my teeth every day.

Before I was a mom, I cleaned my house each day. I never fell over toys or forget words
to a lullaby. I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never worried
about immunizations.

Before I was a mom, I had never been chewed on. I had complete control of my mind and
my thoughts. I slept all night.

Before I was a mom, I never held down a screaming child so that doctors could do tests,
or give injections. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got overjoyed over a
simple grin. I never sat up late long hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a mom, I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it
down. I never heard my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt. I
never knew that something so small could affect my life so much. I never knew that I
could love someone so much. I never knew I could love being a mom.

Before I was a mom, I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I
didn't know how special it could be to feed a hungry baby. I didn't know about the trust
between a mother and her child. I didn't know that something so small could make me
feel so important and happy.

Before I was a mom, I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every ten minutes to
make sure all was Okay. I had never known the warmth, the joy, the headache, the
surprise, or the satisfaction of being a mom.

I didn't know I was able to feel so much before I was a mom.


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Happy Mother's Day to all mothers, and who are potential mothers, around the world.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 May 2010

ghazal May 13th 2010


Dear behnam,kamelia,shanar,mohsen,darioush,marina,setayesh and,....

(Interview with god )

I dreamed I had an Interview with god


So you would like to Interview me? "God asked."
If you have the time "I said"

God smiled

My time is eternity
.
What questions do you have in mind for me?
What surprises you most about humankind?

Go answered ?.

That they get bored with childhood.


They rush to grow up and then long to be children again.

That they lose their health to make money


And then lose their money to restore their health.

By thinking anxiously about the future. That


They forget the present.
.
Such that they live in neither the present nor the future.
That they live as if they will never die.
And die as if they had never lived.
.
God's hand took mine and we were silent for a while.
And then I asked ?
As the creator of people what are some of life's lessons you want them to learn?

God replied with a smile.

To learn they cannot make anyone love them.


What they can do is let themselves be loved.
good to compare themselves to others.

To learn that a rich person is not one who has the most.
But is one who needs the least.

To learn that it takes only a few seconds to open profound wounds in persons we love.
And it takes many years to heal them.

To learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness.

To learn that there are persons who love them dearly.


But simply do not know how to express or show their

To learn that two people can look at the same thing and see it differently.
.
To learn that it is not always enough that they are forgiven by others.

They must forgive themselves.

And to learn that I am here.

Always

I hope you enjoy,I really love thos text


if you have idea about this text please tell me

SINCERELLY
GHAZAL

araghii May 13th 2010


Dear Behnam,
How are you ? I hope you are in good mood and good health .
This is Araghi from a big garden and greeting you and your friends in this thread .
Have a nice time,
Best wishes,
Araghi
behnam May 13th 2010
Dear Friends,

I was reading a book entitled 'Paragraph Development'. It was a powerful, down-to-


earth, and useful book. In particular, there was a section about 'cause-effect'. I really
loved it. I would like to share some interesting points with you. I hope they help you with
writing.

Have a look at these two sentences:

1) Children watch too much television.


2) They lose creativity.

How many sentences can we write with those two sentences?

1) Children watch too much television. As a result, they lose creativity.


2) Children watch too much television. Consequently, they lose creativity.
3) Children watch too much television. Therefore, they lose creativity.
4) Children watch too much television. Hence, they lose creativity.
5) Children watch too much television. Because of this, they lose creativity.
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6) Children are so interested in television that they lose creativity.
7) Children watch so much television that they lose creativity.
8)Children watch so many TV programmes that they lose creativity.
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9) Children lose creative ability, since they watch so mach TV programmes.
10) Children lose creative ability, because they watch so much TV programmes.
11) Children lose creative ability, because of the fact that they watch so much TV
programmes.
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12) Watching too much television is the reason for loss of creative ability.
13) Watching too much television is responsible for loss of creative ability.
14) Watching too much television leads to loss of creative ability.
15) Watching too much television contributes to loss of creative ability.
16) Watching too much television results in loss of creative ability.
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17) Loss of creativity results from watching too much television.
18) Loss of creativity follows from watching too much television.
19) Loss of creativity is due to watching too much television.
20) Loss of creativity is a result of watching too much television.
21) Loss of creativity is a consequence of watching too much television.
......
Who said English is not interesting. Do not blame me for liking it, I am crazy about it.
:):):):):)

I hope you will use these structure in your writings.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 May 2010

Bluegreen May 14th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? I hope that everything's fine with your classes and you
yourself LOOOL
Well I think your classes are becoming much important for you right? Even more than
yourself LOOL. Just kidding sorry

Now I'm going to write about the new topic you brought up.
"Some people believe that there should be fixed punishments for each type of crime.
Others, however, argue that the circumstance of an individual crime, and the motivation
for committing it, should be taken into account when deciding on the punishment.
Discuss both these views and give your own opinion."

According to the constitutional law there must be a basic punishment for every certain
crime commitment but most of the times law-men consider certain by-laws for every
individual crime.

In my point of view the first mentioned idea is totally wrong because in this way a kind of
dictatorial judgment would be exercised on criminals. Well I think when someone's
suspected of having committed a crime that doesn't necessarily mean that the one's an old
thug because most of the times we can see that people just unconsciously did something
that is called illegal and that would not be fair if the person's sentenced to death.

But the second idea seems more fair because we are human beings therefore our wrong
doing or making mistakes even illegal ones should be considered. And in case I was
wondering what should a poor citizen do when s/he is being attacked by someone and
s/he have got nothing to do accept hitting the offender by something and defend oneself!
Sometimes it happens that in certain circumstances people are forced to do something
even against the law! Rather than this I believe that our life hasn't got a firm or steady
structure but it's flexible and especially in judgment upon people's lives every aspect of
the criminal's motivation should come into account.

Generally speaking the judge should be completely aware of the verdict that's going to be
issued because not every time punishments are easy and doesn't involve one's health or
life. so I'm totally in favor of the second idea given, because everyone has a special
reason for having done an anti-social action and everyone's reason should be analyzed
carefully, and if not, then the whole court thing and justice would make no sense.

Dear Behnam, I did try my best in order to write it in a way that the IELTS encoding
system can decode it LOOOL
Waiting impatiently for your comments,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam May 14th 2010


Dear Friends,

How are you? I hope you are fine. Here is my essay on the mentioned topic. It is long. It
must contain 250-265 words. I have to delete 100 words, but I love my words. What
should I do? Would you please help me with cutting some words and polishing this
essay?

Oh, dear Kamelia, thank you very much for your lovely essay. You are really an expert at
English. Could you possibly correct my essay?

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What is the philosophy of punishment and why do courts punish criminals? Throughout
history, considerable debate has taken in societies about punishment. Some people
believe that punishment should be fixed for each kind of crime. Others believe that
penalties ought to be flexible and the intension of committing crime ought to be taken into
consideration when deciding on the punishment.

According to psychologists, punishment has deterrent effect against criminals. Fixed


penalty is an effective deterrent, since it prevents potential criminals from committing
crimes. Consequently, it leads to social stability and security. In addition, it guarantees
safety of society, because it minimizes the number of crimes. However, it causes injustice
against criminals who commit crimes unintentionally.

Adaptable punishment has some disadvantages. Firstly, its crime prevention is not
effective, since it gives criminals a chance to convince courts that they are innocent.
Secondly, flexible punishment makes the process of judgment difficult and long, because
it is complicated to find the motivation for committing crime. Finally, it makes crimes
become a subjective issue, so different courts have different definition of crimes.
Consequently, it causes injustice and inequality.
On of the main advantages of flexible punishment is considering the motivation of an
individual for committing crime. Obviously, killing someone intentionally is different
from killing someone in self-defense; a habitual criminal is different from someone who
has done an illegal action once; and stealing some food to satisfy hunger is different from
robbing a bank. Adaptable punishment offers the possibility of taking circumstances-
everything related to crime and criminal- into consideration. The second important
advantage of adaptable punishment is offering court a chance to give criminals penalty
that they deserve. It also represents the sense of justice among mankind.

To summarize, Peace, stability, and security are essential factors in every society.
However, criminals threaten these factors by committing crimes. Therefore, imposing
punishment on guilty people is absolutely necessary for maintaining these factors in
society. Although, fixed penalty acts as an effective deterrent, it sounds unfair. I believe,
adaptable punishment with considering the intention of committing crime is a good
solution for keeping a society stable, safe, and secure.

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I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 May 2010
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behnam May 14th 2010


Dear Friends,

This is a second version of the essay. It is still long. It contains 288 words, whereas it
must contain 250-265 words. Would you please correct it and help me with cutting some
words and polishing? I am waiting for your help.
***************************************************************
What is the philosophy of punishment? Throughout history, considerable debate has
taken in societies about punishment. Some people believe that punishment should be
fixed. Others believe that penalties ought to be flexible. Both ideas have some advantages
and disadvantages.

According to psychologists, punishment has deterrent effect against criminals. Fixed


penalty is an effective deterrent, since it prevents potential criminals from committing
crimes. Consequently, it leads to social stability and security. Moreover, it guarantees
safety of society, because it minimizes the number of crimes. However, it causes injustice
against criminals who commit crimes unintentionally.

Crime prevention of adaptable punishment is not effective, since it gives criminals a


chance to convince courts that they are innocent. Furthermore, flexible punishment
makes judgment difficult, because it is complicated to find the motivation for committing
crime.

One of the main advantages of flexible punishment is considering the motivation of an


individual for committing crime. Obviously, killing someone intentionally is different
from killing someone in self-defense; a habitual criminal is different from someone who
has done an illegal action once; and stealing some food to satisfy hunger is different from
robbing a bank. Adaptable punishment offers the possibility of taking circumstances-
everything related to crime and criminal- into consideration. The second important
advantage of adaptable punishment is offering court a chance to give criminals penalty
that they deserve.

To summarize, Peace, stability, and security are essential factors in every society.
However, criminals threaten these factors by committing crimes. Therefore, imposing
punishment on guilty people is absolutely necessary for maintaining these factors in
society. Although, fixed penalty acts as an effective deterrent, it sounds unfair. I believe,
adaptable punishment with considering the intention of committing crime is necessary for
maintaining a society stable, safe, and secure
****************************************************************
Dear Clare, help me please with correcting this essay. Please, please, please...:):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 May 2010

behnam May 14th 2010


Dear Friend,

Here is the third version of the essay. Now, it contains 273 words, and sounds better
:):):):):)
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What is the philosophy of punishment? Throughout history, considerable debate has
taken in societies about punishment. Some people believe that punishment should be
fixed. Others believe that penalties ought to be flexible. Both ideas have some advantages
and disadvantages.

According to psychologists, punishment has deterrent effect against criminals. Fixed


penalty is an effective deterrent, since it prevents potential criminals from committing
crimes. Consequently, it leads to social stability and security. Moreover, it guarantees
safety of society, because it minimizes the number of crimes. However, it causes injustice
against criminals who commit crimes unintentionally.

Crime prevention of adaptable punishment is not effective, since it gives criminals a


chance to convince courts that they are innocent. Furthermore, flexible punishment
makes judgment difficult, because it is complicated to find the motivation for committing
crime.

One of the main advantages of flexible punishment is considering the motivation of an


individual for committing crime. Obviously, killing someone intentionally is different
from killing someone in self-defense; a habitual criminal is different from someone who
has done an illegal action once; and stealing some food to satisfy hunger is different from
robbing a bank. Adaptable punishment offers the possibility of taking circumstances-
everything related to crime and criminal- into consideration. The second important
advantage of adaptable punishment is offering court a chance to give criminals penalty
that they deserve.

To summarize, stability, Safety, and security are essential factors in every society.
However, criminals threaten these factors with committing crimes. Although, fixed
penalty acts as an effective deterrent, it sounds unfair. I believe, adaptable punishment
with considering the intention of committing crime is necessary for maintaining a society
stable, safe, and secure.
*********************************************

Waiting for your help.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 May 2010

behnam May 14th 2010


Dear friends,

Here is the forth version of the essay. Now, it contains 265 words. :):):):):)

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What is the philosophy of punishment? Throughout history, considerable debate has
taken in societies about punishment. Some people believe that punishment should be
fixed. Others believe that penalties should be flexible. Both ideas have some advantages
and disadvantages.

Punishment has deterrent effect against criminals. Fixed penalty is an effective deterrent,
since it prevents potential criminals from committing crimes. Consequently, it leads to
social stability and security. Moreover, it guarantees safety of society, because it
minimizes the number of crimes. However, it causes injustice against criminals who
commit crimes unintentionally.

Crime prevention of adaptable punishment is not effective, since it gives criminals a


chance to convince courts that they are innocent. Furthermore, flexible punishment
makes judgment difficult, because it is complicated to find the motivation for committing
crime.

The main advantage of flexible punishment is considering the motivation of an individual


for committing crime. Obviously, killing someone intentionally is different from killing
someone in self-defense; a habitual criminal is different from someone who has done an
illegal action once; and stealing some food to satisfy hunger is different from robbing a
bank. Adaptable punishment offers the possibility of taking circumstances-everything
related to crime and criminal- into consideration. Another advantage of adaptable
punishment is offering court a chance to give criminals penalty that they deserve.

To summarize, stability, Safety, and security are essential factors in every society.
However, criminals threaten these factors with committing crimes. Although, fixed
penalty acts as an effective deterrent, it sounds unfair. I believe, adaptable punishment
with considering the intention of committing crime is necessary for maintaining a society
stable, safe, and secure.
*************************************************************

Thank you for your help. :):):):):) LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

All the best,


Behnam, 14 May 2010

behnam May 14th 2010


Dear Friends,

Fourth version of the essay sounds nice, doesn't it? :):):):) You know it is like a cute pet. I
love it. Nazi enshaye man. :):):):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 14 May 2010

setayesh May 14th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Thanks a lot for your post to me. I can't agree with you more about being ungrateful.
Human being is too ingratitude of the things which he can have without any effort.

Health and Time are 2 kinds of them. We will know their value after losing them. In my
mind, nothing in the world equals with health. It is the most invaluable gift of God to us.

There is a quotation by William Goerge Jordan about being ingratitude:


"Ingratitude is a crime more despicable than revenge, which is only returning evil for
evil, while ingratitude returns evil from good."

Hope to hear from you again,

All the best,


Setayesh,14 May2010

setayesh May 14th 2010


Hi Behnam,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. It's so great that you put your essays on this
thread. They really help me in developing my english writing.

Actually I read your essays more than 2 times, they are excellent. It shows that you have
a great, knowledgeable teacher she has deeply affected on your way of writing:):)You are
so lucky for having such a good teacher.LOOOOOL

I hope to see your other writings.

All the Best,


Setayesh,14may 2010

setayesh May 14th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

How are you my lovely friend? I hope all is well with you. As far as I know you are
involving with lots of exams. I suppose they are your mid-term ones. I wish you success in
all of them.

Dear Kami, thanks for caring about my health. that's very kind of you. Thank God I'm ok
right now. I had to stay a week resting at home. It was awful...

I've heard that you had been in our city. How was it? Did you find here interesting?
Which aspect of Tehran did attract you more?

Unfortunately, all through the time that you were in Tehran I was sick, otherwise I could
invite you to our house. :):)

Hope to hear from you more.


best wishes,
Setayesh,14 May2010

setayesh May 14th 2010


Hi Darioush,

Thanks a lot for your post to me. That's really kind of you asking about my health.

Dear friend, I have been so busy for a while so I could not write anything in this site,
even in this thread. Your thread is one of the best ones in this site. I often visit it. Don't
worry, you haven't still lose me as a member of your thread:):) LOOOOOOOOL

Best Wishes,
Setayesh

Bluegreen May 15th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Hello there. How are you honey? How's everything going on in Tehran? I wish the best
for you.

Thank you so much for writing to me, it is really nice that we again have you here, well I
really wish that I could have a chance to see you there but unfortuantly I wasn't lucky
enough but I really appreciate your being a host with this warm welcome :)

Well actually our main purpose was to browse that phenomenon called the exhibition
LOOOOL I really didn't find any time to check the city out but I actually found it really
busy, lots of cars driving around, heavy traffics, long-timed traffic lights, a little bit
polution, because while breathing I could feel some kind of irritation or sting better to
say.But not that much.

I really wondered how people could manage their lives when all the time you have to be
on bus, in metroways, or just sitting and driving.
And another thing was that I really wondered how dormitory life could be handled while
the time for shutting the doors is 9 and you can't just predict when are you going to reach
the dorm with these distances! I really wish the students luck.

Dear Setayesh, tell me about yourself, did you go to buy any book? How did you find the
place? What sort of books attracted you?
Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Darioush May 15th 2010


Dear GHAZAL,

I read interview with God.To tell the truth,I read it before.I have somthing special for
you.Please wit.

Sincerely,

Darioush
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Bluegreen May 15th 2010


Dear Friends especially Behnam,

Hi there. How are you? I really wish lovely days for you.

I know that these days because of the mild delightful weather of the spring days lots
people try walking outdoors as a light exercise. Now I really know that some of you
actually keep doing this so I thought that this article might be useful to go through and
find out some tips for a better walking workout.

Here's how to get more out of your walking workouts and to vary your routine:

-Try to walking briskly for at least half an hour every day, or one hour four times a week.
If you weigh 150 pounds(about 68 kg), walking at 3.5 miles(about 5600 m)an hour on flat
terrain burns about 300 calories per hour. So this schedule would burn about 1100
calories a week. But if you can't work that into your schedule , try more frequent, shorter
walks.

- Make an effort to walk as much as possible. Skip elevators and escalators and take the
stairs( in case of not suffering from any swollen joints or arthritis). Leave the car at home
if you can walk the mile or two to a friend's house. Walk to work at least part of the way.

- If you want to get faster, instead of taking longer steps, take faster steps. Lengthening
your stride can increase strain on your legs and feet.

- Swing your arms. One good option: bend them at 90 degree and pump from the
shoulder, like race walkers do. Swing them naturally, as if you're reaching for your
wallet in your back pocket. On the swing forward, your waist should be near the center of
your chest. Move your arms in opposition to your legs-swing your right arm forward with
your left leg. Keep your wrists straight, your hands unclenched, and elbows close to your
sides. The vigorous arm pumping allows for a quicker pace, and provides a good work-
out for your upper body. And you'll burn 5 to 10% more calories.

- Add some interval training. For example, speed up for a minute or two every five
minutes. Or alternate one fast mile with two slower miles.

- Choose varied terrains. walking on grass or gravel burns more calories than walking
on a track. And walking on soft sand increases caloric expenditure by almost 50%, if you
can keep up the pace.

- Use hand weights, but carefully. Hand weights can boost your caloric expenditure, but
they may alter your arm swing and thus lead to muscle soreness or even injury. They're
generally not recommended for people with high blood pressure or heart disease. If you
want to use them start with one-pound(400 g) weights and increase the weight gradually.
The weights shouldn't add up to more than 10% of your body weights. Ankle weights are
not recommended, as they increase the chance of injury.

- Choose the right shoes. Avoid stiff-soled shoes that don't bend. "walking shoes" have
flexible soles and stiff heel counters to prevent side-to-side motion. But for normal
terrain, any comfortable, cushioned, lightweight, low-heeled shoes will do.

That's it. I hope you enjoy the tips, they were easy and applicable if one has got the
tendency to change the way they used to walked and improve it.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

ghazal May 15th 2010


Dear Behnam

Hi,how are you my friend?


Oh I?m so sorry I didn?t have time and I can?t write here and welsh!!!!!!!
Wow my teacher your essay is very good and really complete, I wish prosperity for you.

And I hope some punishment for some crimes change in Iran and government care about
woman?s right

SINCERELLY

GHAZAL

ghazal May 15th 2010


Dear setayesh

Hi ,how are you? I?m so sorry I write post for you so late please forgive me
but really I think about you always and I wish you become better

My friend two days ago I read text about health now I write that for you :

Health is our most precious wealth, I hope you agree

No doubt, health is the sweetest fruit of our life?s tree.

Money is certainly important, and so is social prestige

But it is a good health that is the source of a constant bliss.

You may have the money to tour the world, but can?t if your health does not permit

You can buy all the food of the world, but your bad health will not let you eat.

You might have huge honor in the city, with everybody bowing before you

But you will fail to enjoy it, if you regularly develop health problems new.

In this way the bad health will always play a serious bar

In the way of your enjoying what you have, wealth, house or car.

On the other hand the good health is a source of constant happiness

That will automatically turn your life into one of charm, pleasure and grace.
Take good care of your health, and develop a body that is sound and strong

And ensure a life that is happy and charming, besides being long.

(health is gift that God give us so take care of this gift)

HAVE GOOD TIME

GHAZAL

ghazal May 15th 2010


Dear darioush
Hi,are you ok?
I really miss you
thanks million for reading my text ,I knew many people read that befor but I dicide to
write because I think it is really lovely

I hope see your post soooooon

sincerely

ghazal

ghazal May 15th 2010


Dear Kamelia
Hi my friend and my outfit

As you wrote in your post we had really good time in Tehran

you know when you want to have tripe it is really important that you have good outfit and
I had

Today we have good day specially about essential study skill class!!!

In holiday have good time

sincerely

ghazal
metzean May 16th 2010
Dear kamelia,

Congratulate on your nice writing , the novel of exhibition. In fact it was one the well
written novel I 'v read recently, the felicities of language you used for describing your
trip, visiting exhibition was awesome. I felt the exhibition space through your writing.
You had a chance to visit Behnam , tell me how was his accent , do you want to say a
man from London downtown , Newcastle or Scotland !!!?
I have friends who were graduated from Esfahan University ,but their writing compare to
students of Ferdosi Mashad ,they have nothing to show off, so I should congratulate to
Ferdosi University for training of such a students who write so well.

B.W
Mohsen

metzean May 16th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

I hope you are well enough to make up what was left behind during your sickness. Thanks
for your post, what you have written is exactly my idea.
Nowadays in every lines and streets ,there are ceremonies because of Fatima,the great.
Tomorrow is holiday in Iran ,because of martyrdom of Lady Fatima (AS), the daughter of
our prophet Mohamad , wife of Ali (SA) the mountain of patience and resistance .the
brave leaders ,the best followers of Mohammad (PBUH) and the cultural ambassador of
Islamic belief
If time travel exist it would a privilege to meet this two powerful paragon (Ali and
Fatima)and spend sometime in their company, ask lots of questions an visiting their
family closely .
Ask some questions about the night which Ali slept in prophet bed , when enemies had a
plan to kill prophet in his bed , how Ali destroyed a magnitude gate of Khaibar fortes in
Khaibar war and how Ali delivered such a thoughtful speech ,address to people which
gathered in a book called Nahjolballagheh., and for Fatima and it was only Fatima ,the
unique ,as Shariaty wrote in his book. Shame on people (was called Khalifeh) who
attacked to her house and wounded her and how she resisted not showed the sores place
of her body even to her husband until her death ,at that midnight when Ali was washing
her death body to bury her holy body in hidden ,Ali understood she was turtured

B.W
Mohsen
Today my life is very different in comparison to them and I wonder if I have anything in
common with them!?

Darioush May 16th 2010


Dear friends,

Setayesh,Ghazal,Shanar and founder of this thread Behnam.

World is cruel, love is blind, lost in sadness, blur in mind, heart is broken, flame had
died, time is passed, but why is he still not mine.
Birth is: start of life,
Beauty is: art of life,
Love is: part of life,
Death is: end of life,
Friendship: is heart of life.
The one who takes your hand, but touches your heart is a true friend.
In difficult occasions, true friends demonstrate themselves.

Sincerely,

Darioush

Bluegreen May 16th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hiii there. How are you dear friend? How's your lovely wife doing? I wish bunch of
joyful spring days for you.

Thank you so much for making time and reading my trip's story, that was a kind of
memory writing, and because I loved the trip and the event so much so I decided to write
about it, not to forget that Dear Behnam encouraged me to write about it too. :)

Dear Friend, Behnam I saw there is sort of an angel, helpful, kind, considerate, happy,
patient, honest and above all a real human being, the one whom you can easily trust on.
Believe it or not I didn't even think that I'm walking near a stranger, he acts as he knows
you for ages and if you're a family member of him.
And about his English, he is too humble not to call his accent perfect or awesome, his
accent is really perfect, he knows how talk, he knows how to put sentences together, he's
got nice gestures, and according to what I saw he's gonna get the 9 in IELTS!

Maybe a man of London, or Wales, LOOL if we can say.


All in all, I bet he's put much effort into this and he deserves having an accent of a native
English man.

Dear Mohsen, you should pardon me for asking such a question after these months of
writing to each other but, have you studied in Isfahan university? What was your major?
And did you continue it to Doctorate?
If you have studied there please tell me about the university, I've got a little sister that
two years from now on she's gonna have Konkur and we can'[t stop her from choosing
Isfahan as her city of studying place, I can understand her, because your city is such a
heavenly like place, so neat and beautiful, you feel like you've got some inner
interconnections with it,you know, feeling like you're setting your foot where your
ancestors did ! Do you sometimes feel like it?
But my mom's worried because the distance is too much and...you know!

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Thank you again for reading the memory,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen May 16th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Hi there. How are you honey?

Did you read thetrip's memory which I put too much efforts in?LOOL perhaps you didn't,
well did you know that god won't forgive lazy girls? LOOOOOL

I didn't mean to be rude, but it's just so much fun pulling a best friend's leg, isn't it?
So, how are you doing? I heard that you're going to go to Ghaenat today, right? Shanar
and I are going to Gonbad too, wish us health and we'll wish the same back LOOOL

Honey, we had essentianl skills, my joyful little book, but unfortunatly she wont take the
test till next Monday, what a pity? How am I going to do without this course? I'm going
to miss it LOOOOL
Anyways, I mean joking aside, it's really hard to read the whole book by heart as you saw
some of the best students of our class were going to omit this unit from their term paper, I
really wonder why!

Anyways, wish you nice days at home,


Don't forget to write in here,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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metzean May 18th 2010
Dear Kamelia,

Hope you life be colorful and rosy.


I have not studied in Isfahan university , my major is commercial and I am busy in a
company for commercial affairs, I have no time to continue studying my major for
supreme levels.
You are interested in Isfahan ,ok !! have you ever come to Isfahan or you heard about
this so called heavenly place. Some tourists regrets when they come back from Isfahan ,
There are some ancient places which they have visited many times and a river which
there are in many cities and shopkeepers of handicraft which are in ambush for tourists,
not anything more than that.
Isfahan is half of the world if there is n't Tabriz , yes what is once Behnam said is true
,can you defy an angle idea? No..I can't either . what I feel under my foot is the ancestors
of Behnam who governed in Isfahan for more than 300 years.

So..so don't worry once you bring your sister to Isfahan ,she change her idea. But if she
insist on it ,please tell your mom not to worry because you rarely finding a security place
for living like living in Isfahan , of course compare Isfahan to the other half of the world,
also the other advantages of it, is the stuff cheapness , easy accommodation and food
redundancy. Isfahan are wiating for two years..?

B.W
Mohsen

Clare May 18th 2010


I'm so sorry Behnam - haven't been here for a couple of days, so didn't see your question
to me. Here are some of the changes I'd make in your essay (if it isn't too late!) I've
written the correct sentences, not the incorrect ones.
Before, though, can I just say it's a fantastic essay! Well-argued, well-written, great
linking words... Top marks from me!

-----------------------------------------
Both ideas have advantages and disadvantages.

Punishment has A deterrent effect against criminals.

Moreover, it guarantees THE safety of society, because it minimizes the number of


crimes.

Crime prevention of adaptable punishment is not effective, (I don't understand this


sentence.)

a habitual criminal is different from someone who has COMMITTED an illegal action
once.

Adaptable punishment offers the possibility of taking circumstances into consideration.


Another advantage of adaptable punishment is offering THE court a chance to give
criminals THE penalty that they deserve.

To summarize, stability, safety, and security are essential factors in every society.
However, criminals threaten these factors BY committing crimes.

I believe, adaptable punishment WHILE considering the intention BEHIND THE crime is
necessary for maintaining a stable, safe, and secure SOCIETY.
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

kinga1234 May 19th 2010


Hi everyone. My name is Kinga.
I'm from Poland :) I've just read your letter and I'm glad I'm here.
I would like to improve my english :)
I hope it is good way to learn english.
xD

behnam May 19th 2010


Hi Clare,

You cannot imagine how happy I was when a friend of mine called me and said;
"Congratulations! Clare has written many good things about your essay."
Thank you very much for correcting my essay. That was also very kind of you to praise
me.

Your sentences are great. I learned a lot from them. Thank you very much for teaching
me.

I should say that the teacher has written ;"I think you write awesome" at the bottom of
the essay. She although asked, "Behnam, really, how could you manage to write such a
perfect essay? It is unbelievable."

For the next session, I am supposed to write two essays:

1) More and more people has started to wear fashionable clothes. Is this a positive or
negative development? Give your reasons.

2) Some people say that international travel should be reduced. Others believe that
international travel has many advantages. Discuss both points of view and say which you
agree with.

Dear Clare, your correction was a shot in the arm. Thank you very much indeed.

I will write two essays, and paste them here.

All the best,


Behnam, 19 May 2010

metzean May 19th 2010


Dear Behnam

you have laden with glories as Clare confirmed your essays ,glories that gave you the self
confidence and you believe that your thought are prone to more complicated writings.

Thanks for your emails to me ,all of them are precious and worth to read.

All the best

Mohsen

metzean May 19th 2010


Dear Marina,

What has happen for you in Halab , you were suppose to had week time course there ,
have you split up by going to Halab, finding new friends and forget us . at least say a
goodbye , I have not value of two words. How do you want to explain it? I entitled you
Marina the great ,it was because of my imagination , what I got through your writings
,your personality and I didn't make a mistake ,I am sure .

Waiting for your writing.

all the best


Mohsen
mohbon@gmail.com

metzean May 19th 2010


Dear Kinga,

I am Mohsen from Iran , I like your country ,we call it Lahestan in our language (
Persian) ,What do you call your country in your language? I tell you a surprising event ,
In my country some people live which are originally from Poland . some of them have
relatives who are living in Poland now , these people came to Iran in second world war.
It is 24 and I am at the end of my rope regarding writing.

Hope to hear from you.


Mohsen

behnam May 20th 2010


Hi Kinga,

Thank you so much for putting message in this thread. Welcome!

Would you please give us more information about yourself? For example, I would like to
know if you are a man or a woman.:):):):)

Thank you for joining us. Your English is very good. hope we will help each other to
develop our skills.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 May 2010
behnam May 20th 2010
Hi Mohsen,

How are you my reliable friend? I hope all is well with you. Thank you very much for
being my friend.

Many thanks for saying some good things about my English. That is very kind of you.

About Marina I should say that she was a beautiful bird from heaven; came and sat on
the tree (in our garden) for a while; and sang us some lovely songs; finally flew to sky!
Nothing is left for us; unless crying and hoping to meet her in heaven.

If you ask "why did she fly?"' I will say she was a bird and it is birds' nature to fly.
However, she flow from our tree to a home! :):):):):):):) LOOOL Now, she is singing in
kitchen and
...:):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL=))
=))=))=))

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 May 2010

Wendy Zhou May 20th 2010


Dear All,
I have ever been here and know some of you. Now I come here again because I want to
know more of you.
Another reason I am here is that, I try to figure out why a few of people can do what they
dont want to do to get what they want.
Below is my story:
My previous boss had a new assistant after he transfered to a new department. The
assistant transfer to the purchasing department which is very attractive at least in China.
Just when I was confused by that, my colleague told me that she has a abnormal
relationship with her boss( that means she is his girlfriend). I am really shooked by this
because he was a good boss and I respected him very much. I coundnt believe it but truth
is the truth which is not changed by your mind.
It seems I calm down a little when I write here.
Dear friends, I know the suition is common in every country. What I can't accept is that
he is the person I respect very much. wuuuuuuu....
Thanu you very much for reading my story in advance!
Best regards
Wendy
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behnam May 20th 2010
Hi Wendy,

Welcome! How are you? I hope all is well with you.

Thank you for sharing it with us. Respecting someone can not prevent them from having
girlfriend or boyfriend! It is like seeing your parents in a good relationship and getting
confused and then saying: Oh my God. I respect my parents. Why do they love each
other?!
:):):):)

To be frank, I think you feel jealous of them, but you are hiding this emotion behind
something like respect.

Take life as it comes, and forget what makes you feel sad. Enjoy your life, and don't
expect anything from other people. Write your equations according to give and receive.
What we give and receive should be balanced. Otherwise, disappointing is waiting for us.

Thank you for putting message in this thread. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 May 2010

behnam May 20th 2010


It is better to say...Otherwise, disappointment is waiting for us. It means we will be
disappointed sooner or later. :):):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 20 May 2010

Wendy Zhou May 20th 2010


Dear Behnam,

You are right. But the fact is that my previous boss has been married for years and he has
two kids and his wife is beautiful and capable in her job. He looks so happy about his
family. Why did he want to have an affair? I cant believe it.

He was perfect and did the good job and acted like a gentleman. Even such a person
could betray
his wife. Why not others?

I cant believe anyone any more.


Anyway please dont be influenced by me.
Best regards

Wendy

behnam May 20th 2010


Hi Wendy,

Thank you for the reply. Some points should be made. First, we cannot judge about the
beauty of someone, since beauty is subjective. The guy's wife is beautiful, this is your
judgment on her appearance. Secondly, that lady may not care about her husband as she
used to do, since she has got two kids and maybe is always busy with them. Thirdly, It
isn't wrong to have wife, and love affairs or mistresses at the same time. We are here (in
the world) to enjoy our lives. Finally, we should know it is possible to be a gentleman and
to have dozen love affairs. Don't you think that gentlemen have hearts like other people?
:):):):):):):)

I am a man, and I am free to enjoy my life. Nothing can restrict my freedom to have good
relationships with ladies. When I can make some ladies feel happy, it is not fair to waste
opportunity. :):):):)

In addition, a man is capable of making dozens of women happy and lucky, but the
reverse isn't true. :):):):

Nowadays, the more mistresses someone has, the more nicer gentleman he is. I believe
so! LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL =))=))=))

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 May 2010

behnam May 20th 2010


Oh, sorry, ...the more mistresses someone has, the nicer gentleman he is. I don't know
what 'more' is doing there! You know, first I wrote...the more mistresses someone has, the
more perfect gentleman he is. However, I found it strange, then I deleted 'perfect' and
wrote 'nicer'. I forgot to delete 'more'. I am sorry.
All the best,
Behnam, 20 May 2010

Wendy Zhou May 21st 2010


Dear Behnam,

Thank you for your comments.

If you said that, I have nothing. We are totally different on this subject. I cant agree with
you " the more mistresses you have, nicer you are". Dont you believe marriage is holy?
Dont you believe the couple should be loyal to each other?
When you say"yes, I 'd like to marry you", it means a lot of commitments come to you,
taking care of you family, of coures including not touching other women. Even though
there are lots of attractions, you should resist them. To be a man is not so easy. Sometime
you feel that I cant do what I like to do freely. You have to think of how people look at me
from moral view. That's life.

Have a good day!


Wendy

metzean May 21st 2010

Dear Wendy,

I hope you are fine .you have disappeared since last year, I was in a ship at that time and
I wanted to have a trip to Shanghai. why didn't you say goodbye to me , I need a good bye
when a friend leave meLOL.but I want to say Nice to see you again.

I agree with you about that gentleman ,for that offence he has committed . Life has both
its own enjoyments and rules ,it is not only base on enjoyment , you see some people
marry each other when they are in love and when they find someone better they divorce .
I agree with the first step ,to be in love and marry ,but when we find a better one in future
( something that surly happen for all people) we are not allowed to leave the first one
,because of more enjoyment , we should consider the rules, because if this process repeat
and repeat what has happen for family , what has happen for children? You see in some
countries they have gone more than it , some people find enjoyment to marry with
someone in same gender (homosexuality) and they have legalized it. What has happen if
they find enjoyment when a father marry his daughter , a boy marry her mother or her
sister. According to today human thought which called themselves open minded ,nothing
happen ,they say we did it and nothing happen. They sign some rules for it and called it
human rights.
Someone who love people , someone who created people and knows about their needs ,
has informed us about enjoyment rules and if people listen to it , we create a small
heaven in this world.

How is going your life, are you living alone in Shanghai ?

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean May 21st 2010


Dear Behnam,

The beautiful bird didn't understand that we love her, if she understood she never flew to
the sky , the reason that people catch the birds and put them in cage is that birds don't get
their love. but some one who love our bird shot her and put her in the kitchen ,tied one
her legs to the kitchen pip line ,and no more let her fly.even to come by our tree for a
minute and say goodbye, It is rather unfair ,no no very unfair ,extremely unfair
,absolutely unfair ..

All the best,


Mohsen

behnam May 21st 2010


Hi Wendy,

Thank you for the response. Marriage is holy! Who has said this sentence? Marriage is
like eating or drinking something. When we feel hungry we often go to a restaurant and
eat something to satisfy our hunger. Marriage is the same somehow. The only difference
is that when we need for the opposite sex we don't go to a restaurant! :):):):)

Marriage is a magic trick of nature to keep the human race going.

There is a good biological reason for us to be possessed by intense romantic desire in the
first two or three years of a relationship. Being obsessed with our partner is the best way
to keep us locked together long enough to make a couple of children to keep the human
race going. That is why this 'in love' feeling is so intense and powerful. After the
obsession of 'being in love' wears off , it is replaced by deeper, more satisfying love that
includes such things as friendship, respect, understanding, commitment, care, and
comfort.
It is quite unfair to judge about someone's actions and reactions without knowing some
details.

There is only and only one rule in the world: necessity is the mother of every movement
(action and reaction). There are many married men who are still kept hungry. There are
also many married women who are still hungry. What does it mean? It means that
sometimes we are hungry, we go to a restaurant to eat something. For example, we eat
chicken, but we are not aware of the reaction of our stomachs to the chicken, or we don't
know the chicken has been poisonous.

Ladies should know that men and women are different and have different worlds. A
woman may feel jealous of herself to be loyal to her partner, but a man often feel jealous
of himself when he makes some women feel satisfied! The more women he makes happy,
the more powerful man he is. This is the philosophy of all men. This is not a thing to
chose. In other words, men have not chosen this attitude, they are given by nature or
their creature.

However, nowadays, some men are not brave enough to show themselves. they hide this
feeling, because they are afraid of being called as uncivilized, uncultured, etc. They have
to pretend that they firmly believe 'a man must have one partner, or a wife without any
mistresses'. Believe me, they are only pretending. You cannot open their hearts to see
what is going on them. Men are good swimmers, if some of them don't swim, it is because
of the lack of water, pool, or something like that. :):):):) Oh women, you cannot
understand this fact at all. :):):):):)

The simple fact of the matter is that equality, commitment, loyalty are some beautiful
words. These words are like some beautiful snakes, but there is no doubt that they are
poisonous. These words are some modern tricks to completely destroy the foundation of
families in all societies. It (
destruction) will happen, sooner or later, since they are against the law of the universe. I
have no doubt about this
destruction.

We have already written about this topic. That's all for now.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 21 May 2010

Wendy Zhou May 21st 2010


Dear Mohson,
Good to see you again!
The reason I leave English-at-home is that I have many difficulties in communication
with all of you. Your English lever is much higer than me. So I think the most important
thing for that moment is to improve my english in order that I can express myself well. A
little sorry for that. ~~~

I like you sentence of life is not only base on enjoyment but rules. Life is like a game. A
good player must be a person who obeys rules. Those people who abuse their emotion
can
only get short-time enjoyment. for the long time, they are losers. They lose their true love
from family.I say that is not because I am a women, who tries to protect women's
rights,but a view from average people.

back to the story I told, apart from why a gentleman want to have an affair, what I truly
shocked is why a girl can sacrifice the most precious thing to get her goals,such as
promotion, good position and high salary. The reason can be explained by" one man's
meat is another's poison". The story is old and many people told the similar one. When it
happened in my life, I am astonished. HAHAHA....

Hope to see you soon!

Best regards
Wendy

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behnam May 21st 2010


Hey Mohsen,

The bird didn't say 'goodbye' because she still feels nostalgic about the tree. Besides, the
bird knew that we loved her songs. The bird had no choice, she had to fly. And, you
should know nothing is wrong with the hunter, because he needed a beautiful birds with
nice songs for his home.

Finally, Mohsen, come on man! You have a bird for yourself, haven't you?. :):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 21 May 2010

behnam May 21st 2010


Dear Friends,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. I have promised to write an essay
on the advantages and disadvantages of travel. I finished it right now. It contains 265
words. That's OK.
*************************************************************
Does travel expand our horizons? Some people believe that traveling from one country to
other countries should be lessened. Others, however, disagree. Everything has two sides
and travel is not an exception.

Travelling from one place to another, especially long distant trips cause air pollution.
People often make outward journeys by airplanes, and airplanes use more fuel, therefore
they contribute more pollution. Calculation shows that a flight from London to New York
produces much more pollutants than the amount of pollutions that a car produces in a
year. Despite this harmful effect of travel on the environment, its advantages cannot be
overlooked.

The travel industry is the first largest employer in the world. According to recent report
released by the United Nations, travel provides jobs for more than half a billion people in
the world. Besides, some countries rely on tourism. For example, tourism is an important
part of Greece's economy. Therefore, the beneficial effect of traveling cannot be denied.

Travel broadens the mind. It helps people to understand and accept other people's
beliefs, custom, culture, etc. Moreover, trip provides opportunities for learning
geography and map reading. It also gives opportunities for people to experience
difficulties. Furthermore, it is good for people's health. According to some physicians,
people who go on trips have greater longevity compared with others.

In conclusion, journeys do expand our horizons, and help us to develop our personalities.
Although, travel has some drawbacks, it is not good to close our eyes to its positive
effects on economy and health. I believe, taking a trip once a year is a basic need.
*************************************************************
I am waiting for your correction.

Dear Clare, I learn a lot of things from your correction. If you have time, please
proofread this essay.

All the best,


Behnam, 21 May 2010

behnam May 21st 2010


Dear Friends,

A friend of mine has emailed me and asked, "Behnam, what is your reason for destroying
the foundation of families by some thoughts like commitment, loyalty, equality? What
makes you be so sure?"

That's a very good question. It is a tricky question as well.

There are many reasons why some thoughts will destroy the foundation of families, but it
is late and I am sleepy. I just give one of them now. :):):)

Some thoughts like commitment to families, husband's loyalty to wives, equality between
men and women have negative effects on the families, because such things don't exist in
the real world. However, they (strange thoughts like equality and loyalty) make women
always search for them. Women are always searching for them, but they cannot find! The
more they search, the more disappointed they feel.

Let me give you an example. Imagine we define a real man as a three-eyed creatures: A
real man is someone who has got three eyes! What is the effect of this statement?

Obviously, women will check their husbands' eyes. They will find out that their husbands
have two eyes. As a result, they will feel miserable and will start searching for three-eyed
men. This will cause the destruction of the families, because women will spend their time
on searching three-eyed men instead of caring about their two-eyed husbands. :):):):):)

It is the same in the world of men. Some philosophies say that women are kind and
sorrow removers. Poor men are always searching for such creatures. The more they
search, the less they find.:):):):):) What will happen? Well, it is crystal clear that
nowadays both men and women are searching. They are thirsty and have mugs in their
hands. Philosophers give them some salty water. They drink, but it does not quench their
thirst.

There is no way to stop this great destruction of families, unless we learn how to find real
contentment. However, we are not searching for real contentment, so we won't find it.
Consequently, destruction is waiting for our families.

I am sure, in the future people will have an imaginary definition of marriage. They will
look it up in dictionaries but won't understand its meaning. Why? Because, marriage will
be removed from our societies. Marriage will fly to heaven. :):):):):) Oh Behnam, shut up
man. OK. OK.OK.

All the best,


Behnam, 22 May 2010(It is 00:01 in Iran now)

Bluegreen May 22nd 2010


Dear Friends,
Hello there. How are you all?

I've just come back from a short trip to my hometown, good to see that people ar emore
active around here and maybe that's because of the nice topic of Dear Wendy. Thank you
Wendy.

I read all that was written except the two last posts ob Dear Behnam, I really wished that
I could read them tonight but unfortunatly I have a grammar exam tomorrow and here
goes the same story LOOOL

Now, seems like the topic's so controvertial and friends here have totally different
opinions, I think I'm confused, I can't state mine LOOOL

But here's the first opinion that came in my mind, life's a process which druing that we
might experience lots of happenings, no matter good or bad but we learn so many things
from that.

For instance, when I read Wendy's post and thought deeper I kind of felt her emotions
and saw what she means but when I approached Behnam's post I thought that, maybe this
might be nearer to what reality is!

Well friends, do not confront me ok? But what I say is that, maybe we haven't
experienced the real situation, we just SAY that life is beautiful, love needs loyalthy,
marriage is sacrd and have some rules but maybe these are mottos for someone who's
just faced it!
Wendy's idea seems nice, and it really meets the rules of what an ideal life should be but!
even the word ideal is made by ourselves and who knows if there are any barriers to
marriage !

I know I made it too complex LOOL maybe that's because I'm in a hurry but I wanted to
write something inorder to let you know that I'm still present !

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam May 22nd 2010


Dear Friends,

I gave this essay to the teacher.


TOPIC:
"Some people say that international travel should be reduces. Others believe that
international travel has many disadvantages. Discuss both points of view and say which
of them you agree with."

MY ESSAY:

Does travel expand our horizons? Some people believe that travelling from one country
to another should be lessened. Others have a different point of view and disagree with
this matter. For everything there are two sides, and travel is not an exception.

Travelling from one place to another, especially a long distant trip, causes air pollution.
People often make outward journeys by airplanes, and airplanes use more fuel, therefore,
they lead to more pollution. Calculations show that every year an airplane produces
almost as much pollution as does the entire African continent. Despite this harmful effect
of travelling on the environment, its advantages cannot be overlooked.

The travel industry, tourism, is the first major employer in the world. According to a
recent report released by the United Nations, travel provides jobs for a half of billion
people in the world. Besides, some countries, such as Egypt and Greece, rely heavily on
tourism, and it is an important part of their economy. Therefore, the economic benefits of
travelling cannot be denied.

Travel broadens the mind. It helps people understand and accept other people's beliefs,
culture, custom,etc. Moreover, trips provide opportunities for learning geography. It also
gives chances for people to experience different situations and difficulties. Consequently,
it makes travellers seasoned. Furthermore, travel is good for people's health. A recent
survey has revealed that people who go on trips have good health and greater longevity
compared with others.

In conclusion, although travelling has some drawbacks, the economic and health benefits
of it outweigh the disadvantages. Journeys do expand our horizons, and help us develop
our personalities. I believe, taking a trip once a year is a basic need.
***************************************************************

Please correct my essay.

All the best,


Behnam, 22 May 2010

metzean May 22nd 2010


Dear Wendy,
Thanks for your post , Your English is well and you can express yourself well, I hope my
English will be better , I always consult a friend , a dictionary to write here and
sometimes I don't understand what I have written after one day when I read it again.So
please pardon me if I write something wrong.

Regarding that man there is theory that people are wrongdoers while break the law or
violate the agreement ,mostly wrongdoing take happen when the reason overwhelmed by
passion and brain doesn't work well ,Wrongdoers always have something to defend and
justify their sins .betray ,rubbery, murdering, kidnapping are justify by Love or love
deficiency , poverty ,jealousy, dislike, parents training insanity and many other
experiences which are unacceptable.
So that man can justify his betray by one of the reasons and it is not acceptable, what do
you think?
All the best,
mohsen

metzean May 23rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

If the hunter shot his arrow right through the bird's heart ,the bird can't feel anything
except the pain ,she was singing for years to attract a hunter and now she is happy and
enjoys the pain.
A voice through the wood came to me later "If you don't stop singing, I'm going to shoot
your mind with my bow and arrow!" a haunter was angry as the birds decided to fly over
the wood and sing on another tree??

The bird of mine sing for me ,she is busy with gathering sticks?

all the best,


Mohsen

Wendy Zhou May 24th 2010


Dear Behnam, Mohson and Kamelia,

Thank you all for your contribution to my topic.

I am here to say let's stop it here. It's other people's matter not ours. We are individuals
and have the different life values and beliefs. Just lead our own lives, trust what we trust
and don't care about others'. Let our lives left out of messed things.
Thank you again.

Best regards,
Wendy

metzean May 24th 2010

Dear Wendy,

Yes ,I agree to leave that man to his own device and live our life in our own way.

It is dusty today in my city ?Isfahan. I was sneezing all day ,the sensitivity to dust and
some flowers may cause my illness, that is my doctor 's diagnose. The doctor in my friend
and I told him "you doctor can't make diagnose the illness and always you tell it is
sensitivity". He laugheed and said nothing ,showing he confirmed my idea

How you come along with sensitivities if you have any ?

All the best,


Mohsen

Wendy Zhou May 25th 2010


Dear Mohson,

Thank you for your reply.

I am allergic nothing,but one of my friends is almost sensitive anything,such as dust,


powder of flower and some yellow fruits. One day she was sneezing all the time like you.
She thought she didn't touch anything that made her sensitive, so she went to see a doctor
with me. The doctor told her she must touch animals' fur. We though carefully and
remembed that there was a poor homeless cat in the street and she hugged it to the
annimal shelter. That's why she was sneezing all the day.

Hope you recover soon.

Best regards,
Wendy

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metzean May 25th 2010
Dear Wendy,

So that is my block cat that caused my illness, it is right the fur of cat is very
dangerous.your doctor diagnosed it well.If you remember there was a friend in this
thread called Andrew ,he had a Cat ,Pusy. He has come here no more for months . God
bless him , sneezing killed him, I think so. Once I was determined to kill my block cat ,
Andrew asked me to stop it , poor Andrew he was victim of his cat , He truly did love
animals and he showed it to the world.

What kind of animal do you have in house.

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

behnam May 25th 2010


Dear friends,

How life is going? I hope all is well with you, and you are filled with happiness and joy.

Yesterday, I took a writing exam. The topic was:

"The housing shortage is one of the main problems of big cities. Some people believe that
governments should solve this problem. To what extent do you agree with them? Discuss
and give reasons."

There are two ways of dealing with such topics; to agree or disagree with. Yesterday, I
disagreed, but today I wrote an essay on agreement. This is a different approach to this
matter. Now, I am pasting my essays about this topic. Please read them carefully and
correct them as well. Your corrections do help me, so I am waiting for your help. :):):)

***********************************************
Agree with those people:

Why do people try to have a roof over their heads? The housing shortage in big cities is a
serious problem. Some people believe that governments should provide houses for people
to live. I agree with them. Governments should pursue policies to solve this problem.
They should build houses, collect tax, and develop small cities.
Governments should build new flats in big cities. They should sell the flats to the
homeless and take the money in monthly payments of $100. They also should lease the
flats for the homeless. Concisely, governments ought to make a glut of houses on the
housing market.

Governments should develop small cities to reduce immigration from small cities into big
ones. When people immigrate to big cities, they need to buy houses. This leads to the
housing shortage in big cities. A recent survey has shown that the main reason for
immigration is the low quality of life in small cities and villages. Hence, governments
should pay particular attention to the minimization of the immigration. This can be done
by developing small cities and villages.

Governments should collect high tax from people who own empty houses. It is said in the
newspapers that one-tenth of houses in big cities are empty, since the owners do not lease
their houses for homeless people. They keep the houses empty to control the prices.
Obviously, governments should pursue policies that prevent people from keeping their
houses unused. It seems that ruling a proper tax policy can be an effective way of solving
the housing shortage in big cities.

In conclusion, human beings are not strong enough to live in forests or in mountains.
They need shelters for protecting themselves against dangers. Therefore, a shelter is
considered as a basic need for life. In big cities, it is difficult for some people to buy
house, so governments have responsibilities for resolving this problem.
********************************************************

Disagree with those people::):):):)

What is the difference between sleeping in a carton, and sleeping in a soft bed? The
housing shortage is a serious problem in big cities. Some people believe that
governments should provide shelters for the homeless. I disagree with them. People
should take their responsibility for solving this problem. They ought to pay tax, change
their attitudes and beliefs, and participate actively in controlling the population.

People should stand shoulder to shoulder with governments to overcome the housing
shortage in big cities. They have to pay tax. Besides, governments should collect tax and
spend it on building new houses for people.

People like large houses. This seems reasonable, since everyone prefers a spacious house
to a cramped flat. However, people should know that there is a shortage of housing land
almost in all societies. Therefore, people are supposed to change their attitudes towards
house. They should convert large houses into small flats.

Big cities are overpopulated, so that there are not enough houses for the population.
Undoubtedly, it is necessary to control the population of big cities. For this purpose,
couples should participate actively in controlling the population of big cities. They
should believe that a child is sufficient; it is either a son or a daughter. Briefly, people
should believe that there is no difference between a son and a daughter. This belief leads
to convince women to stop more childbearing. Consequently, the population will be
reduced, and it results in overcoming the shortage of housing.

In conclusion, sleeping in a carton is unsafe and difficult, but a bed is safe and
comfortable. Human beings always seek for relief, so house offers much relief to them.
However, in big cities, the homeless are suffering from discomfort and unease. People
should take their responsibilities for solving this problem.
**************************************************************

Dear friend, you should know that it was difficult for me to support my ideas, since I
personally think that all people and governments have to try their best to solve this
problem. However, when we are siting for IELTS writing exam, we have to either agree
or disagree. Otherwise, we will lose score. We are allowed to lie, since they do not care
about the accuracy of information. They also do not judge about our character or
personalities. They only judge on our abilities in writing.

Please correct them. I love your correction.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 May, 2010

Bluegreen May 25th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hi there. How are you? How's your bird? I hope that everything's alright with you.

Thank you for reading my post and answering to that, it's so nice of you to explain
Isfahan in that way for me.
Well, actually I've been there twice and everytime we had fun even more than before. It is
SUCH a heavenly place as you call it. They told me that the mayor is a woman, is it?!
Oh so that's why it is so beautifully decorated and arranged.LOOOL

Now about the bird you were talking, Dear friend please take it easy, I'm sure that
Marina must have been so busy somewhere and so up to her ears that she can't reach
here because either way she would absolutely do it.

Thank you one more time for the describtion of Isfahan, It made me remember all those
cute travellings.
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. I am terribly sorry to answer you this late, but I was too busy with the exams and you
know!

Bluegreen May 25th 2010


Dear Wendy,

Hello there. How are you? Welcome back to thread honey(as others say)

Well our friends here say that you haven't been here for a year and at the time you've left
there was no me ofcourse LOOOL
So I didn't have the chance to meet you and write to you but now it's an honor for me to
have a new friend like you.

Honey, others know you but I don't, so would you mind letting me know a little bit of
yourself,your age,your studyings and work, your family, and your hobbies, please :)

By the way, I'm Kamelia, 19 from Iran, and one of the northern cities of Iran, I do study
english literture In university and it's my freshment year here LOOL

I'd be waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen May 25th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiii there. How are you? Oh my god, this nice friend of mine has forgotten me, what a
pity ! :((:((

No posts for me :(, actually not a single thing oh my god! It's all articles, essays and
essays again ! And then a little request to be corrected althought he knows that his
writing is awesome ! LOOOL
I read the two last articles and I found them really nice and well structured but I haven't
found any time to correct any of them yet, but I'll promise to take a carefull and vigilant
look at them LOOOL

I don't know whether I've told you or not but I really find it intersting to read your essays,
I actually learn a lot from them because althought they are easy to understand, they teach
you lots of things about writing and structures.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Andrew May 25th 2010


Don't make a Great Cat Defender from Andrew, dear Mohsen. Andrew was different in
the past. E.g. he declared his similarity with a Man from "The Cat Who Walked By
Himself" of Kipling. As everybody know that man used to throw a boot, a little axe and
some more unpleasant things to his cat. The same about Andrew, however there was no
axe in his home, as to the slippers...
Of course Andrew has changed a lot since that. He feeds his cat by expensive food, gives
her freshest milk and respect her rights to miaow at nights. Sometimes they even sniff
each other [Wikipedia]

Andrew May 25th 2010


However, the biggest disadvantage of my cat is that she can't speak...

Wendy Zhou May 26th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

There are no pets in my house. I am thinking about to have one, but my husband don't
agree with me. Having a pet both has advantage and disadvantage. The reason I don't
have one is that I don't know how to deal with its hygiene. For example, how to handle its
shit and pee and how to bath for it. If these things cannot be sloved, the house must have
terrible smell, which I can't bear. On the other hand, if I have a pet, it will bring me a lot
of happiness, just like my kids will. Animals have the same emotion as humanbeings.
They know what you think. They can confort you when you are sad and be happy when
you are happy like a friend indeed. From this side I do like to have one.
Dear Mohsen, when I make a dicision, I will let you know.

Best regard,
Wendy

Andrew May 26th 2010


Dear Wendy,

As far as you're in habbit to keep your house clean and tidy there would be no problem
with a cat (dog or, say, sheep may cause more problems but I think it has a salvation
too).
Well trained pet makes it's unpeasant deliverings in the same place (e.g.tray), you need
just utilize it in time. There are some fillers for a cat's toilet, it prevents smell spreading.

Remember that animal produce exceedingly bad smell while being in fever (I mean
period). Salvations are:
1) sterilization,
2) giving some contra-sex preparations to your pet in time (or, exactly, before a time),
3) giving your pet opportunity to have sex when it's in need.

The last way is obviously preferrable (from the point of view of a pet:)

I'd like to be useful.

Best wishes,
Andrew

behnam May 27th 2010


Hi Andrew,

Welcome back! How are you? I hope you are fine.

Dear Andrew, how do you know cats' opinion about s...? :):):):):) Come on man, don't
you think that writing about such things is a little bit rude and considered impolite?

A pet needs many things. For example, it needs a lot of care and attention. Don't you
think that giving some general advice is sufficient, and discussing the details of keeping
pets may offend some people?

Anyway, thank you very much for your lovely posts. I personally love them, but I am not
sure about other friends. :):):):):):)
Hope to hear from you soon.

All the bets,


Behnam, 27 May 2010
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metzean May 27th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Thanks for your attending here on your busy days ,that is you which generate a positive
energy ,thanks you concern about my bird ,she flys like a butterfly over me ,keep me
immunize from the harms and I try to be a candle give her enough light and energy.
You and other friends welcome to Isfahan ,you are all particular ,but my policy is anti
propaganda ,I never write any positive point about Isfahan , I don't know where is city
you have travelled 2 times ,the heavenly city with a femal mayor!!!!!!. Of course I have
seen many female engineers who were working in green area under Mayer's
administration. But I got used to speak the engineers whenever I went to the parks , I
spoke to this engineers , the point was that they had a good taste to decorate the flowers
and garden ,but they always took my advise and use my offered design in decorating of
parks.

All the best


Mohsen

Wendy Zhou May 27th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

It's my honor to have you as a friend. I'm pleased to intruduce myself to you here. I, from
China , work as a assistant. Please excause me that I don't remember how old I am. when
I was 30, I stopped counting my age.( Hehe...). I like dancing, especially pole dancing. It
makes me keep fit, full of energy and passion. It also make me have a good body curve.
Sometimes I like to play table tennis with my family. Now I am doing my best to study
English.

To be honest, I miss the time when I was in school. So please cherish it and enjoy it fully.

Best regards,
Wendy
metzean May 27th 2010
Dear Andrew,

Welcome back Andrew , very happy to see that you tolerated the heavy snow of S. peter
also you touched the fur cat many times ,but you are still safe and sound. Good lucky one
is your cat to eat expensive food ,but she has no attention of disclosing that sometimes
she had to lick the wall of empty small yogurt bucket to fill a part of her empty gut ,that is
why she can't speak now ,she is loyal to her owner and never has been blackmailed by
him For me you are seemingly an animal defender as I know you since the time your
mind had been colored about animals .the reason is when I decided to abandon my black
cat, you changed my mind and this little plague is living with me .

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean May 27th 2010


Dear Wendy,

Having Andrew, the expert, here we are able to correct the pet behavior and have a
trained animal ,also he is a veterinarian he know what animal needs in time ,so don't
worry and but a little one .but I suggest you start with having a couple of finch for begin,
it is not bad ,latter have small cat in a way that your husband not argue and also if you
are not allergic to fur ,but if you live in a flat ,it is very difficult to instruct a cat go to
stool in a define place, let Andrew give you the approach manual and then buy a cat .

all the best


Mohsen

Wendy Zhou May 27th 2010


Dear Adrew and Mohson,
Thank you for your advice! It?s really useful.

I feel guilty if I say that I prefer to having a dog. But I think A Cat is too independent
comparing to a dog. A dog is more loyal to its owner.

I have been tried to feed three pieces of goldfish. They were dead very soon. I asked the
experts why they have so short life-span. They studied my daily work to fish and found
that I feed too much food to them every time. It?s not because goldfish has short life itself
but I murdered them.

That's all for now.


Best regards,
Wendy

Andrew May 27th 2010


Ohh Behnam, thank you for your remark.
One more piece of misbehavior on my account. Okay, I shall keep this cat tray out of
here.
By the way, could I get acquainted to the full list of themes forbidden to discuss on this
thread?

As to my cat`s opinion about s..., she has told me a lot about that matter, believe me.

Andrew May 27th 2010


Dear Wendy,

How I understand you! Once I've incidentally ruined a life of my beloved white mouse by
giving him a piece of bacon. Poor soul!

People generally divide to cat lovers and dog lovers. Well, so you seem to be a dog lover.

I think you shouldn't hesitate to bring a pet to your home.


Animals have ecpesial ability to make people love them, care of them, to reconcile with
some disadvantages bound to joint residence. The question is to take a right character.
And it is a question of luck!
So good luck in persuading your husband and in chosing your future pet.

Andrew

Andrew May 27th 2010


Hello Mohsen,

Thank you, I am safe and sound indeed and I wish you to be the same. Sure, your little
plague black cat came to be a respectable matron and has eated none more parrot.
Andrew
P.S. Look at Mrs. Darcy thread:))

metzean May 27th 2010


Hi Andrew,

Yes she became a real matron laying on edge of wall under the fig tree shadow, where is
Kathy, is she going school and have to read her lessons? How is the circus ,do you have
performance these days. Concerning the high cast of living do people pay fro circus?

Have a great days


Mohsen
I had a glance at Mrs Darcy thread

metzean May 27th 2010

Dear Wendy ,

The goldfishes were greedy for food , and greed killed them , that is what human beings
do ,they have greedy guts ,eat and eat ,end in obesity and they die ,so the cook are not
murderer.
People are use to eat French fry every day and snacks ,fat foods, fried food ,they know
enough to do ,but when they stop it, they have a pain ,it is late. They believe that we are
living one time ,so let us eat ,smoke and drink alcohol. What do you think?

All the best,


Mohsen
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behnam May 28th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you? How life is going in Gonbad, or in Mashad? I guess it is final exams time,
and you are stressed. But, I know you are a studious student, so you have already studied
your books. You aren't a 'last-night-reader' (this is a new word, invented by professor
Behnam, an expert on making new words in the English language, in the academy of 'let's
learn together!'). Therefore, don't panic!

A nice friend of mine asked me why I didn't post any new posts. The friend also wanted
me to write regularly. There are several reasons why I didn't post to my friends
individually.

First of all, I was pressed for time during last three weeks. I was snowed under a lot of
duties; lecturing, working in the office, taking part in the writing class, doing homework,
etc. It was very difficult to write an essay every second day. I spent almost all the spare
time on writing essays, and reading some books about writing. Believe it or not, during
last three weeks, I read more than twenty books about writing. This is why Behnam was
pressed for time.

Secondly, I was in no mood for writing in the thread. There isn't any hot topic to discuss,
and my friends aren't as active as they used to. This makes the thread boring, and
obviously affects mood.

Finally, I didn't write because I was preparing for a turning point in the thread. I have
decided to change the policy of the thread from writing some repetitive sentences to five-
paragraph essays. I want to make this thread the center of different essays in the world.
As you know, we need some tools to achieve our goals, so I was providing, and I am still
preparing, some tools.

In conclusion, during last three weeks, I was very busy, so I couldn't write to you.
However, it doesn't mean that Behnam has forgotten you. NO, how can I forget my
friends? Do you think that my mind is like a cassette or a CD; easily filled and removed?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 May 2010

ghazal May 28th 2010


Hi wendy

How are you? Welcome my new friend


I hope you have good time here and find many friends

I?m 18 years old and I?m studying English literature


I don?t know that you love poem or not?
But I write for every person who comes here a good poem so write for you very lovely
sentensrs about friend:
Friendship is the bread of life. It is essential to our well being. We could not survive
without it.
Ever since the beginning of time we have been extending the hand of friendship to each
other.
In very primitive communities, having the help of others in a crisis is a matter of survival.
However, even in today's world where it seems as if we could survive without ever talking
to another human being, friendship is important.
Friendship is a prerequisite to sanity. We are social human beings and we need friends to
survive

sincerely
ghazal

behnam May 28th 2010


Hi Andrew,

How are you funny man? I hope all is well with you.

In answer to your question I should say nothing is forbidden and nobody can restrict we.
However, it dosn't mean that we can say and write whatever we like! Everybody, with the
exception of deaf and dumb people, has ability to speak. Speaking is easy, but what
confine us? Surely, in every culture there is something which confines us to speaking or
writing only acceptable things. For example, people often concern for conventional
morality, so conventional morality is one of the limits on what we should say or write.

I personally believe that we should write something which other people may not know.
There are five senses which are common among human beings. There are also some
basic needs, and people instinctively are aware of them. For example, everyone needs
something to eat. Surely, people, who live in the farthest parts of the world, eat something
to survive. Everyone instinctively knows what s...is. Therefore, there is no need to speak
about such well-known matters. At least, we don't need to speak about them. However,
politicians, manufacturers, producers, etc. often speak about our feelings to cheat us, but
we are not hear to cheat people.

In this thread, we should forget everything unless wisdom! The only criterion is wisdom.

I have written many time that I am one of the naughtiest men in the world. people who
have chatted to me are familiar with this fact. However, I am naughty in my private life.
It is not OK to do everything in every place! :):):):):)

I really love your posts. I am not exaggerating, I love your posts very much. Nevertheless,
there are some people who get offended when they read something about a cat which is in
need of having s...They may think: How does Andrew know that the cat is in need of
having s...? What does he do then? there are a lot of offensive and creative imaginations.

It is alright to write about cats, and give some tips on keeping them as pets, but we should
stay silent about their needs to have s...

I have written this post clearly in order to let you know that there are several reasons
why people visit this thread regularly. One of the chief reasons is our concern for
conventional morality. If we lack this concern, the thread will lose popularity.

You are one of my close friends. I have great respect for you and your views. I hope this
post won't upset you. I have no doubt that you are an understanding person.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 May 2010

Andrew May 28th 2010


Hi Behnam,

But they do want sex! Our beloved white, black, red and fluffy pets need it as much as
men and women. And sorry, but I see nothing offensive (exactly from the point of view of
coventional morale) in mentioning this fact in public..

By the way, is not love (and sex too!) one of the main topic of all the arts at all times?
Why should one avoid speaking about it when classics of world literature did it freely?

No, you haven't made me upset. And you haven't persuaded me as well. Try harder next
time:)

Best wishes,
Andrew

behnam May 28th 2010


Hi Andrew,

That's OK! Go on! You know, I've got a strong male cat. Can he help yours? If the
answer is yes, my cat will be one of the luckiest cats in the world, since I am going to put
him in a box and post the box to you. By doing so, two birds will be killed by one stone.
First, I will get rid of this messy pet. Second, your cat won't suffer from....anymore.:):):):)
Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 May 2010

behnam May 28th 2010


Dear friends,

How are things with you? I hope everything is going well.

As I guess you know, I have decided to write at least three five-paragraph essays a week.
I am sure, this will help me improve my writing skills. I hope you will help me with this
decision. Now, I am introducing the first topic. Please think about it and write express
your opinions. I will post my own essay tomorrow.

*In disasters like sinking of the Titanic, who should be saved first? Some people say, in
emergencies women and children should be saved first? Do you agree or disagree? Give
reasons.*

I am looking to hearing from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 May 2010

Andrew May 28th 2010


No male cats, Behnam, thank you,

let's Busya satisfy with contra-s...

dentistebru May 29th 2010


Hello Behnam. How are you?
I decided to learn english. I know it is not too hard while writing or reading with a
dictionary. But I can t speak fluently in english and I can t understand while somebody
speaking me.Because words pronounciation are similar each other. I dont know what I
must.

On another note, I think you meaned G�nel who sings "kimlara ghaldi donya".I
remembered G�nel had famed in ibrahim tatl?ses' tv programme. And she is from
Azerbaijan
best wishes
Ebru

lady May 29th 2010


Hello everybody! First of all, I'd like to thank Benham for contacting me and become my
first friend or penpal here. I'm from Argentina, and I love languages. The one I speak
best is English, I love meeting people from all over the world or just becoming penpals or
chat friends. I had the pleasure of meeting people from England, US, Italy, Ireland,
Indonesia, Germany or Turkey and I was very lucky that they all taught me a little bit of
their languages. Imagine Indonesian or Tagalog! So I'm very happy of being here and I
hope we will become friends so we can share language knowledge and some culture from
our own countries.

Cheers :)
Lady

PS: my msn is thepuppiesbox@hotmail.com

behnam May 29th 2010


Hi Ebru,

How are you? I hope all is well with you.

Thank you for putting massage in this thread, and thank you once again for joining us.
Welcome to this thread!

Writing helps us with speaking as well. According to the English language experts, all
four skills- listening, speaking, reading, and writing are related to each other.

In many cases, we know nothing about something, so we cannot speak about it. Writing
about a topic makes our minds ready to speak about it, whenever we are asked, or we
need to.

I'd like not to discuss the advantages of writing, since I'm sure you know them better than
me.

Please write an essay about the topic which I've mentioned above-in my last post to dear
friends. That is an interesting and challenging topic.
My friends may got confused, because they didn't know that you are a friend of mine on
WWW.english-at-home.com/members. Therefore, I'd like to take this opportunity and tell
them that Ebru is from Turkey, and I got to know his or her since last Wednesday or
Thursday.

Dear Ebru, would you please give us some information about yourself?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 May 2010
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behnam May 29th 2010


Hi Lady,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for putting message, and for joining us.

Would you please tell us a little bit more about yourself? I seems you are familiar with a
lot of languages. Good for you. Do you know anything about Farsi or Azerbaijani?

I'm looking forwards to hearing from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 May 2010

dentistebru May 29th 2010


Hello friends I m Ebru , female , from Turkey. I m 19 years old. I m a student at dentistry.
I know to be a good dentist I must learn english. Because I want to get across with people
easily.Also I want to watch scientific developments without interpreters. So I have to
develop my skills especially listening and speaking.
Also making new friends, learn new cultures make me happy
I hope we will develop our skills ,make good dialogues and make good friendships

best wishes
Ebru
hayley May 29th 2010
Hello Behnam! And evreyone else too!
Thank you for inviting me to this thread, it is wonderful to read all these creative and
funny posts. I had no idea that so many people from all around the world loved language
as much as I do! It really is a pleasure to meet you all. I am a 33 year old female and my
native language is english born and raised right here in the good old USA. I myself am
trying to learn Russian on my own and know how difficult it is to try to learn another
language. I am amazed at how well you all communicate in english, very well done! I
guess if anyone would like any specific help with certain phrases or nuances I would be
more than happy to help.
For my own part on here, I was wondering if anyone would like to share their favorite
recipies? Besides language I love culture, and food is a big part of family life and social
gatherings. I love to cook to make my friends and family feel welcome in my home and
letting them experience true, (not internet watered down) cuisine from around the world
would be a pleasure for me. It also might be a way to get newer learners to communicate
because of the more limited vocabulary associated with cooking. Please friend request
me so you can send them right to me, so we don't ruin Benham's beautiful tread!
Thank you very much for letting me speak with you, hope to hear from you all! Hayley
May 29th, 2010

lady May 29th 2010


Dear Benham and everyone!
I love languages because they are a means of getting to know people from all over the
world and their everyday life without travelling. I have studied to become an English
teacher, unfortunately I could not finish my studies. My love for languages goes beyond a
language as a means of communication, I love linguistics too! So I think that if you learn,
say English for instance as a second language you will understand your own language
more deeply and you will be able to compare any language that you try to learn. It is
comparing them that you understand the way they "work" so it becomes easier for you to
learn any language.Any time I have the chance of getting in contact with someone from
another country I try to learn their language, and I feel I treasure it, and it gives me the
opportunity of learning about the country itself. That's how by reading a book, maybe you
heard about it, Angela's Ashes by Frank McCourt, I started getting interested in Ireland
and then I started teaching Irish Gaelic myself. Just a little bit, but believe me, it's
another treasure I have. I haven't had the chance of learning languages whose writing is
different from the Latin alphabet, I tried Hindi some time ago, with a friend of mine from
India, but it was kind of difficult. But maybe you can teach me some words from Iran.
And what about you? Do you speak any other languages apart from English?

Cheers

metzean May 29th 2010


Hi dentist Ebru

Welcome to this thread,Hope you are doing well,My problem is that when I eat cold
things I feel a pain in my teeth ,so in summer, the season of icecreams my problem
exceeded the normal pain ,a sharp pain, so I eat my ice cream slowly ,very slowly ,a
couple of time I need to eat my ice cream compare to my friend. So I feel I lose my
confidence.What can I do to recover my teeth pain
All the best
Mohsen

metzean May 29th 2010


Hi Lady,

It is my pleasure to meet and welcome here. How is the weather in Argentina, Is it winter
in your country? here in Esfahan the weather in increasingly hot ,If I melt till the next
month don't surprise. Why you don't choose a name? Lady is your name? I don't think so,
the name I know about is Maradona? Which city do you live in?
All the best,
Mohsen

metzean May 29th 2010


Hi Hayley,

Thanks for your post, very happy to have a native language friend here in this thread
,and I surly have a lot of question to ask you on time. From your writing I fond that you
are a great cook at home, How often do you cook at home? , I like cooking and culturally
It is a bad in my city that a man help his wife in cooking or washing dishes,it is called
henpecked ,do you have such a culture ?

I have a the following questions and thanks for reply

what is different between wall street and main street in economic


What is the time of Great depression in American history , economically
What is golden parachute?
All the best,
Mohsen
behnam May 30th 2010
Dear Friends,

How are you? I hope you are having a nice time.

Here is my long essay about 'who should be saved first, in emergencies, women or men?'
The essay contains about 370 words. It is long, so it must be shortened. I have to delet2e
at least 110 words. Next time I will do it. I am pasting the essay here, to ask you
proofread and correct it.

***************************************************************
Some people believe that men and women are equal, and none of them has especial
privilege. Therefore, in emergencies, they should be treated equally. Those people,
however, are wrong. As far as I am concerned, in unexpected and dangerous situations,
women should be saved first, because they make men lose their concentration, they can
take care of children, and they are capable of keeping the human race going.

In emergencies, women should be saved first, because they scream, and make men lose
their concentration. Consequently, men cannot focus on handling the situation very well.
For example, once there was a mouse in the kitchen. My mother screamed very loudly
and asked for help. I tried to catch the mouse, but my mother's shriek hindered rather
than help. I asked her to leave the kitchen. Finally, I could manage to catch the mouse
successfully. No wonder, when women are saved first, men have a good chance to
concentrate on dealing with dangerous situations and finding the solution.

In dangerous situations, women should be saved first, because they can take care of
children, who are the younger generation. According to experts, women have especial
talents for upbringing and nurturing children; and children are emotionally dependent
on their mothers rather than their fathers. Therefore, rescuing women first gives a
chance for children to survive.

My chief reason why women should be saved first, in emergencies, is that they are
capable of childbearing and keeping the human race going. Women who survive have
chances to remarry and give birth to babies. According to Islam's law, it is possible for a
single woman to marry a married man, but the reverse is not possible at all. In addition,
men instinctively like sacrificing themselves to their wives. It seems that the main
philosophy of life is keeping the race of human survival. Therefore, rescuing women first,
in dangerous situations, leads to give a chance of survival to the race of human.

In conclusion, women should be saved first, in emergencies, and 'women first' is a


meaningful motto. People should know that women play a crucial role in keeping the
race of human going. Women are not equal with men, since their roles in life are much
more important than men's roles.
********************************************************************

I am sure that there are a lot of mistakes in this essay. Please help me correct them and
shorten it as well.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 May 2010

behnam May 30th 2010


Hi Hayley,

Thank you so much for putting message in this thread. Welcome!

As my friend Mohsen has mentioned, we need a native English speaker to correct us.
Undoubtedly, we make many mistakes, since English isn't our mother tongue. That is OK
to make mistakes, but it is important to learn from mistakes. However, we don't learn
from our mistakes, because we don't know when and where we make them. Therefore, we
should appreciate it if you would correct us. I know correcting people is a boring thing,
but you should know that we, in particular Behnam, need to be corrected.

I know how to cook, because most of the time I am alone at home. Both my parents are
teacher. Therefore, I have to buy fast food or cook something, since it is difficult to stay
hungry for hours until mummy comes and feeds me! :):):):) I have self-confidence about
my cooking, but I have no self-confidence about its taste. :):):):)

Would you please correct my posted essay? Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 May 2010

behnam May 30th 2010


Hi Lady,

So many thanks for the reply. It seems that you are an expert in the different languages.
How lucky we are! Thank you for being our friend. I am sure, you will help us improve
our language skills.

I speak Azerbaijani very well, since it is my mother tongue. I also speak Farsi perfectly,
because it is the official language of Iran. I know a few words in English and Arabic. I
also know a few words in Turkish (Istanbul).

Learning a new language is a long process. It needs a lot of efforts and attempts. It also
needs talent, but I am not a talented person.

Would you please correct my essay? I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 May 2010
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behnam May 30th 2010


Hi Ebru,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for joining us. We need someone to
help us with the medicine science. There is no doubt that health is at least 50% of the life,
so good for you, since you are studying on 50% of the life. :):):)

Some people have beautiful teeth, but others don't care about their teeth. I do care about
my teeth. I never smoke, and I brush them regularly.

Oh Ebru, be careful when working on people's teeth. Some dentists forget mouth when
they work on teeth, then they tear it. After damaging the mouth and tearing the lips they
often say: Oh, you have got a small mouth! :)):):):) What a great cheat! Damage the
mouth, and make excuses! How naughty they are! :):):):)

I am sure, you are a careful dentists, and you won't hurt people's mouth, since you have
small hands. :):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 May 2010

dentistebru May 30th 2010


Hi Mohsen how are you? I hope you are fine
You can call me only Ebru. You dont have to say dentist. May you recover soon, I have
this problem, too:) I guess so you have tooth sensitivity. A lot of things may cause tooth
sensitivity. For example: Hard (corrosive) brushing, Fragile teeth, Grind tooth ,
Accruing plaque,etc. Decayed or filled teeth are more sensitive than others. In which
case you must be carreful about your mouth hygiene , you must not brush your theeth
corrosively. You must decrease acidic foods. Also you can use special tooth paste for
this.(I think special tooth paste really prove useful sometimes) In profession, dentists can
make restorations with filling materials to weak chapter of your tooth.But I think you
must not pass over go a dentist.Dentist can solve your problem definitely.Because I m just
a student for now and s/he give you more useful knowledges about this.

If I could help you a bit, I will be happy


healthy days :)
Ebru

dentistebru May 30th 2010


Hi Behnam
I m fine but I m in a big stress. Anatomy final exam is wating for me on tuesday.It is too
hard to memorize a lot of names of bones, ligaments and muscles and formations on
these.
You are absolutely right health is very important so we must keep healthy our body, our
social life and our psychology.

You say you dont smoking. Congratulation! This is very nice for your theeth and your
whole body.Smoking is really very hurtful for health.It damage everything your lungs,
your theeth, your brain and even economy

As your says some dentist forget that they are studying a human mouth. I had an
experience like that when I was at high school.I had a decayed tooth and while my doctor
was opening a cavity on it she damaged my cheek. She had make excuses but finally I had
pain.I could not get angry her because she was inexpert and she was sad for this.

I m learning theoretical now But I promise you I m going to be carreful too much.:):):)
Unfourtunately my hands are not small but they are not incapable:)

I think psychologic health as important as body health. What do you think about this?

I m looking for hearing from you


Best wishes
Ebru

Bluegreen May 30th 2010


Dear Andrew,

Hello there. Look whom we?ve got here, how?ve you been? I missed this only element of
hilarious sentence making terribly.
And now, right at the spot of coming you?re being asked with a bunch of questionnaires
of how to treat cats and dogs and lots of comments on that made by our other friends.
I just wanted to warmly welcome you and say that I?m glad you?re back, hope that
you?re going to be as active as before and even more than that.
Dear Mr. Vet. I have a question, how many cats and dogs have you got all in all? Have
you got any experience in taking care of Hamsters?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen May 30th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hi there. How are dear new friend? So now I found a new friend who?s at my age, it?s a
great pleasure for me since I invited two of my best friends who were in my age here and
they barely write in here and that makes me feel alone ! Because ideas of different
generations are totally different, you know!
I wanted to warmly welcome you on my behalf, it?s nice that we have a dentist here and
as you can see, just at the spot of coming here a lot of questions have been asked and I
wonder how could we go on without having you LOOOL I was just kidding.
Now I?ve got a question, here in Iran, you have to undergo a drudgery to get in to
medical sciences major especially dentistry, I wanted to know that how is it in your
country? How do you get in to University? Are there any special entrance exams? How
many years would it take to finish?
My questions might seem a little odd to you, well If they are, then I?m sorry! But I always
want to find out about how the colleges go on in other countries around?
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Bluegreen May 30th 2010


Dear Lady,
Hi there. How are you? It?s really nice to have an Argentinean friend in here. I got
familiar with your country through a movie I?d seen but still I don?t know much about it
but I think that people there do speak Spanish and that makes me like it even more.
So, you almost know a bit of all the languages, how about Farsi language?
Well, here?s another warm welcome for you, hope that you?re going to make a lot of new
friends here and have fun.
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen May 30th 2010


Dear Hayley,

Hi there. How are you? Like the other two friends I?d really like to say that here in this
thread we really need a native speaker but I?m afraid that we?re going to make you mad
with asking too many questions LOOOL
I was just kidding but seriously I?d really like to warmly welcome you to here and hope
that you?re going to have a nice time here.
Dear Hayley, so you like cooking, well you know what, as you keep watching American
movies you really come to think that their housewives never do cook at all, and it was
really amazing to me that you said you love cooking. I like it too, it really sounds fun and
it really helps you out whenever no one?s at home to even cook a little meal for you. Like
Dear Behnam mentioned my mom works out and during this time I had to cook for daddy,
my sister and myself LOOOOL
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen May 30th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. Long time no see. Good to see that you?re writing here again and much gladder
that you wrote no me and your memory hasn?t removed me LOOOOL.
Dear Behnam, I actually read all your posts and essays here and I really like them
because you think really innovative. Believe me your ideas are really unique. For
example I never saw that anyone would look at the Titanic or saving matter in this way, I
mean if you give the topic to a person even at your level of English they would absolutely
say that we have to save women and elderly first because they are vulnerable and just
this idea matters for them but your outlook is totally different you say that we have to
save women first because they might scream and disturb the men from saving others. This
is really interesting.

Dear Behnam, I?m going to give you a big WOW mark on it because it was really
awesome not just because of the ideas but because of the nice words you used and the
correct grammatical structure.
But here?s the thing, I?m not an expert and since we?ve got a new native friend I think
we have to wait for her point of view too.
Now a bit about myself, as you know it?s my exams? time and I?m busy with studying and
all that stuff so I don?t get much time to write in here, but I really desire for it. I really
wish if you could cross your fingers for me because as the number of the semesters go up
my stress increases LOOOL
Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. Oh I forgot to add that you?ve got a really creative mind, ideas explode out of it like
a volcano LOOL

behnam May 30th 2010


Hi Ebru,

How are you doing? I hope you are happy and healthy. Thank you for your response.

Don't worry about the exam, you will pass it successfully. Yes, it is very difficult to
memorize a lot of names which are often irrelevant. I am terrible at memorizing, so I
have studied physics. My English learning progress is painfully slow because learning a
new language needs talents and a good memory. Unfortunately, I forget what I learn
rapidly.

There are two words which are well-known in all cultures; wealth and health. When we
say health, we mean both physical and mental health. According to experts, there is a
subtle connection between physical body and mental part. They affect each other,
because they are not separate. Some people believe that mental health is even much more
important than physical health. I agree with them. :):):) Do you agree? Why?

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 30 May 2010

behnam May 30th 2010


Hi Kami,

How are you? I hope you are fine.

Thank you very much for lovely posts. Many thanks for support, encouragement,
motivation, praising, and making comment. You are a great teacher.

I am in a hurry, I have to leave. Sorry to write a short message. Quality counts not
quantity. What we say is much more important than how much we say. :):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 May 2010
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metzean May 30th 2010


Hi Ebru,

Thanks for your help, I care what paste use for my tooth ,also use tooth thread at night
,that is tooth sensitivity you are right ,but I don't know what is the cause , if I have dare I
'll go to dentist.
These days we can find green sour plum in many shops and when I eat green sour plum ,I
feel a pain in my teeth, I like the plum .how about you? When it is very sour I salt it .it
reduce the sour taste as well as pain tooth ? I remember when I was child ,I always had a
bag of green plum at school , but nowadays children have chip and snacks at schools ,
How is the food system at your city?.

B. wishes,
Mohsen

behnam May 30th 2010


Dear Friends,

How are you doing? I hope you are in a good mood. My next essay will be on:

"Fatherhood ought to be emphasised as much as motherhood. The idea that women are
solely responsible for deciding whether or not to have babies leads on to the idea that
they are also responsible for bringing the children up." To what extent do you agree or
disagree?

You should write at least 250 words. You should use your own ideas, knowledge and
experience an support your arguments with example and relevant evidence.

This has been the topic of IELTS- writing exam- two years ago.

Have you got any ideas about this topic? I hope you will help me.

I will post my essay as soon as I finish it off.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 May 2010

lady May 30th 2010


Hello Ebru, Hayley, Metzean, Benham and all the good friends that come to this thread
with interesting posts.
To Metzean, we are in autumn now, and today it is cold but sunny. So you are about to
melt and I'm freezing! As for my nickname, Lady, well it's not my name...heehee, my real
name is Nilda. I chose that nickname because I used to work as a tech support agent and
when people were mad at me they used to say "hold on hold on lady!" that was funny, I
mean the way they said that, the intonation when they were mad...you know I could say
by there intonation and the way they pronounced vowels and some words where they
were from inside the US. So although they were mad at me I enjoyed listening to them
and picturing their faces and guessing where they were from. I live in Buenos Aires. I
don't fully understand your question about Maradona (now he is in Pretoria with our
football team).

Benham, a question for you, if a man is a widower can't he marry a single woman? He
stays alone? why did you write it? Is it an assignment or something?

I hope everybody is well


Bye for now
Nilda :)
behnam May 30th 2010
Hi Nilda,

Thank you for the questions.

A widower can marry to a single woman. However, I think you didn't get the point.
Imagine all the population of the earth, except a couple, are travelling by a ship.
Therefore, there are only two people ( a couple=a man and a woman) on the earth,
others are travelling. In emergencies, we should save women first, because women can
marry to the only man (how lucky he is!:):):)) left on the earth and give birth to babies. If
we rescue men, they cannot marry to the only woman left on the earth because there is
only one woman who is married and her husband is alive (her husband is the only man
who is left on the earth).

One man can have s... with billions single women and make them mothers, but one
woman is allowed to marry and have s...with one man and make him father. Of course,
the woman can have s... with billions of men, but it doesn't mean marriage! I hope you
get it.

I have intended to take IELTS exam. I am practising writing. I often post my essays and
ask my friends correct them. I also hope you will help me improve my writing skills. I
should appreciate it if you would give me some tips on five-paragragh essay writing.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 May 2010

Andrew May 30th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

No more hamsters. There was couple of them in possession of malicious little devil
Andrew....about forty years ago. They could hardly survive in his tenacious hands and
once they just made a hole in the cage and escaped. Since that Andrew had no any pets
for a long. During the last decade Andrew has banished a cat from his home unit, let out
a parrot to fly outside (and the parrot has never been back) and poisoned his little white
mouse. Now he terrorize that red beast Busya, (cat # two) making her to say "miaow" in
English.
And Andrew has never had deal with dogs (good for them).

Best wishes from Andrew. He says as far as he's still welcome he promise to visit this
friendly place from time to time.
dentistebru May 31st 2010
Hi Kamelia , I m fine thanks , I hope you are fine,too.I m very glad to meet you,too.Taht
is good we are at the same age.Ideas of different generations are different you are
absolutely right but I think this differences make us rich about ideas. Each different
idea(if is is not harmful) a new colour in our world according to me.

In my country graduating university is very hard.This question is a bit difficult to me


because exam's system has changed a few times in last a few years.I will try to give yu
information.Yes we have a difficult entrance exam to university

In this exam there is 4 test : Tukish(grammar and literatur) , social sciences (history,
geography and philosophy) , maths , science (physic,chemist and biology)

Before 2005 each test had 45 question.After 2005 system had changed and in new system
has 2 part. First part must be done by every student.in this part there are 4 test again but
each test has 30 question.In second part of exam there are 4 test again but student choose
2 test according to their area.first part's tests: turkish, social , maths and science. Second
part:Literatur, social-2, maths-2 and science-2. Second part more difficult and need more
knowledge than part 1.for example maths-1 include common maths questions, maths2
include integral calculus,analytic geometry etc.Despite of two part exam was in a
session.It take 3 hour and 15 minute.

Generally medical, dentistry and pharmacy need high points. Also some enginnerings
need high points.To be medical doctor you need 6 year, dentistry 5 yaer , pharmacy 5
year. I guess these the same in other countries.

By the way, system has changed in 2010 one more time. I dont know details but now there
are two exams. If you pass first, you can qualify to other exam

As you can see a little complex.I hope I could introduce. As you can see our life is an
exam:)And what about your country, are exams similar?

best wishes
Ebru

Andrew May 31st 2010


Hello Behnam,

According to your request let me to correct (or maybe to object) your idea about:

If a man can marry to billion women, a woman can marry to billion men as well. It's just
a question of dominant views on the subject.
Another matter that from the point of view of birthrate there is no difference has that
hypothetical woman one billion or just one hypothetical husband.
Best wishes,
Andrew
P.S. Best wishes to your cat from my cat. What's a pity that we can't arrange a session of
s..by phone for them!

behnam May 31st 2010


Hi Andrew,

How are you doing? I hope you are having a happy day.

About your last post and suggestion, I cannot say anything, unless a big 'OH MY GOD!'.
I am really ashamed!

There is no limitation, if a man can marry to billions women, a woman can marry to
billions men. However, you have not gotten the point. The point is this:

If a man can marry to billions women (at the same time), a woman cannot marry more
than one man (at the same time)!

This is what ISLAM says and I am a real Muslim, I think. I do not know what is going on
other societies, religions, and countries, but I do know what ISLAM says and why.

I never judge on other societies, since it is not fair to make assumption about others, and
then judge about them based on those assumptions.

I think, the forth paragraph in my last essay is a little bit complicated. I am terribly sorry,
but I didn't mean to make my friends get confused.

In order to make the forth paragraph clear I should say I have supposed that all people
(who are not in danger) are married. Therefore, if we add some single women (widows)
to such a society, the women can marry to married men, because ISLAM (Under some
circumstances) allows men to have more than one wife (at the same time), but it NEVER
allows women to have more than one husband (at the same time). Therefore, if we add
some single men (widowers) to such a society-a society in which all people are married,
these men cannot marry, because all women are married.

This law seems unfair, but I am not responsible for it. This is what ISLAM says.

I personally believe that this law is great, and GOD has given a careful consideration to
make it. I have noticed that this rule is obeying among almost all animals-I am not sure
about pigs. :):):):) A male instinctively never lets other males threaten his domain.
Sometimes, human beings like fighting with God-like children who often like arguing
their parents. Some people hate some words like instinctively, instinctive, subconsciously,
etc. Therefore, they start changing the nature of men by injecting some hormones into
them! In this case, a man may share his wife with other men- Sobhan Allah. We shouldn't
rely on such artificial games.

Caring about wives and protecting them from dangers is men's duty. This is in men's
blood, or men are given this characteristic by God. This is why women often like strong
men with broad shoulders to rely on them! :):):):):) However, if someone lacks this
characteristic, he shouldn't change the whole idea. :):):):):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 31 May 2010

lady May 31st 2010


Hi Behnam, thanks for your explanation. I did get your point about saving women first
but I wanted to ask you about a widower and the marrying, just curiosity. Then as
regards your essay, I think that you can avoid repeating the main idea at the beginning of
mostly all your paragraphs, just for the sake of style. Think about how to rephrase the
idea of "saving women first" try to use other words to convey the same point.

Everybody, have a nice day!

Nilda

:)

behnam May 31st 2010


Hi Nilda,

Thank you so much for advising. Yes, I agree. I should try other phrases. I should
rephrase the thesis statement. I know, but it is difficult to do. Well, there is a world
difference between knowing something, and being able to do that.:):):)

You know, there are five paragraphs. The thesis statement is in the first paragraph.
Regardless of the introduction, I have to write four paragraphs; three paragraphs as
body of essay, and conclusion. I have to mention and address the thesis statement in all
paragraphs. It is quite difficult for me. How many times a beginner like Behnam can
rephrases a sentence? :):):):):) Have you got any suggestions? I hope you will help me.

All the best,


Behnam, 31 May 2010
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metzean May 31st 2010


Dear Nilda,

Hold on lady !! you mean that people around you say hold on lady and their intonation is
like people of US and they are mad at you and why?? They are mad at you when you
support them , I didn't understand it !!!? ,elaborate it please.
I like freezing rather than melting , my skin became red ,it is very sensitive to hot weather
and I always ask somebody to scratch my back.I wish I was freezing..
Thank you for writing your name, Nilda ,what is the meaning of your name ?In Farsi ,my
language, we have a name ,Neda, which close to your name's pronunciation and it means
a voice which comes to somebody from invisible world. Neda is a female name. we have
different name for girls and boys , but some rare names are common between girls and
boys for example Ezzat use for girls and boys , what about the names in your country?
,
Mohsen
All the best

metzean May 31st 2010


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Clare May 31st 2010


No politics on this forum, please.

Thanks
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Andrew May 31st 2010


Why Behnam, dear?

Why do you explain me things which are obvious? Don't I know that you are Muslim?
Did I never hear that Islam allow polygamy for a man and forbid it for a woman?

You offered a speculative question, I gave a speculative answer.


So your question (as I understood it) was not about morale, ethics, religion. It was about
logic and common sense. Your argumentation was simple and clear and I agreed with it
completely (including the point that it is resonable to evacuate women first because they
shriek:)))))

But when you wrote (in your previous letter to Nilda) "If we rescue men, they cannot
marry to the only woman left on the earth because there is only one woman who is
married and her husband is alive" you did logical mistake (and, maybe, commit an
element of tautology as well). JUST a logical mistake. I meant that.

Survived woman CAN warry to many survived men in offered SPECULATIVE situation.

Another matter that:


1) she's NOT ALLOWED to do so being a Muslim
2) it is very hardly that any real woman in such situation WANTED to become a wife to
all those man (of course if she's not a slut)
3) there is no any reason for a woman to have many husbands in the most of societies
NOWADAYS ( maybe, ages ago, in the time of matriarchy people considered poligamy
for a woman more reasonable).

By the way, for me (as not Muslim) poligamy to either a man or a woman is equally
absurd thing.

It seems that most of our disputes is a consequence of mutual misunderstanding. Hence,


we both still have stimulation to polish our writing skills else and else more. So we do:))

Best wishes,
Andrew

Marina1 May 31st 2010


Dear Andrew,

How are you? I hope you are ok & in a good mood.


With an eagle eye I read your answers to Behnam. I'm a bit shocked because of them. I
really appreciate meeting an old Russian man with this free thoughts, but on the other
hand I'm very surprised because of some ideas u give, speaking about sex in this way is
one of them.
Behnam, Rosa.... Mohsen & me wrote about it before but we never mentioned it in this
way..
Anyway, it's your own choice to consedirate your thoughts with your own mind.
To speak in general, without thinking of religions, i think you as a man should refuse the
idea that a woman can have s... With lots of men at the same time especially that
Behnam's idea that a man can do it in order to keep life going by producing children. I'm
sure a real man is interested to be sure that those children are his children, isn't he?
Please think positively about the new generations, we don't want to make children
confused and stand in lines in front of labs' doors in order to make tests for DNA in order
to know who are fathers!
We need a healthy society, don't we?

Thanks for reading & so many thanks for Behnam who writes great essays by using new
expressios & words, but above of then his great thoughts. Thanks! :-)

Don't get upset old man, write whatever you like ;-)

Marina.

Marina1 May 31st 2010


Dear Andrew,

How are you? I hope you are ok & in a good mood.


With an eagle eye I read your answers to Behnam. I'm a bit shocked because of them. I
really appreciate meeting an old Russian man with this free thoughts, but on the other
hand I'm very surprised because of some ideas u give, speaking about sex in this way is
one of them.
Behnam, Rosa.... Mohsen & me wrote about it before but we never mentioned it in this
way..
Anyway, it's your own choice to consedirate your thoughts with your own mind.

To speak in general, without thinking of religions, i think you as a man should refuse the
idea that a woman can have s... With lots of men at the same time especially that
Behnam's idea that a man can do it in order to keep life going by producing children. I'm
sure a real man is interested to be sure that those children are his children, isn't he?
Please think positively about the new generations, we don't want to make children
confused and stand in lines in front of labs' doors in order to make tests for DNA in order
to know who are fathers!
We need a healthy society, don't we?

Thanks for reading & so many thanks for Behnam who writes great essays by using new
expressios & words, but above of then his great thoughts. Thanks! :-)

Don't get upset old man, write whatever you like ;-)

Marina.
Marina1 May 31st 2010
Dear Andrew,

How are you? I hope you are ok & in a good mood.


With an eagle eye I read your answers to Behnam. I'm a bit shocked because of them. I
really appreciate meeting an old Russian man with this free thoughts, but on the other
hand I'm very surprised because of some ideas u give, speaking about sex in this way is
one of them.
Behnam, Rosa.... Mohsen & me wrote about it before but we never mentioned it in this
way..
Anyway, it's your own choice to consedirate your thoughts with your own mind.

To speak in general, without thinking of religions, i think you as a man should refuse the
idea that a woman can have s... With lots of men at the same time especially that
Behnam's idea that a man can do it in order to keep life going by producing children. I'm
sure a real man is interested to be sure that those children are his children, isn't he?
Please think positively about the new generations, we don't want to make children
confused and stand in lines in front of labs' doors in order to make tests for DNA in order
to know who are fathers!
We need a healthy society, don't we?

Thanks for reading & so many thanks for Behnam who writes great essays by using new
expressios & words, but above of then his great thoughts. Thanks! :-)

Don't get upset old man, write whatever you like ;-)

Marina.

Marina1 May 31st 2010


Dear Andrew,

How are you? I hope you are ok & in a good mood.


With an eagle eye I read your answers to Behnam. I'm a bit shocked because of them. I
really appreciate meeting an old Russian man with this free thoughts, but on the other
hand I'm very surprised because of some ideas u give, speaking about sex in this way is
one of them.
Behnam, Rosa.... Mohsen & me wrote about it before but we never mentioned it in this
way..
Anyway, it's your own choice to consedirate your thoughts with your own mind.

To speak in general, without thinking of religions, i think you as a man should refuse the
idea that a woman can have s... With lots of men at the same time especially that
Behnam's idea that a man can do it in order to keep life going by producing children. I'm
sure a real man is interested to be sure that those children are his children, isn't he?
Please think positively about the new generations, we don't want to make children
confused and stand in lines in front of labs' doors in order to make tests for DNA in order
to know who are fathers!
We need a healthy society, don't we?

Thanks for reading & so many thanks for Behnam who writes great essays by using new
expressios & words, but above of then his great thoughts. Thanks! :-)

Don't get upset old man, write whatever you like ;-)

Marina.

metzean May 31st 2010


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metzean May 31st 2010


Dear Marina,

Welcome back to your garden, You came with a lot of energy ,you click the botten firmly
and your post printede 4 time .
Congratulation on your new life , I am sincerelly happy to hear that....I looking forward
to hearing from your mouth.

Good luck,
Mohsen
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Marina1 May 31st 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Thanks for your asking about me before & welcoming me now:-). It's not strange because
you are Iranian:-).
Yes, I have a lot of energy but with little time..
All what i know that i can't leave this place:-)
Thanks for your wishes. I'll be happy as long as my friends beside me.
Read from U soon.
Marina.

June 2010

Marina1 June 1st 2010


Good morning Behnam,

I don't know how to explain my feeling , I'm really very proud of you. Your English was
great but now it's perfect. You write in academic way, you know how to explain your
thoughts by using new words & supporting it by using new expressions. You know how to
write a complete essay. Well done dear! :-)

As I told Mohsen , I can't leave this place because of all of you. I always follow your
writings and smile while i'm reading them. Some people do something because they have
to, but when we love what we do the results would be greater, and Behnam loves writing
in English so I'm watching what an arty man can do :-).

Write to me soon, and keep going dear no body can be like you!:-)

Marina.

Marina1 June 1st 2010


Good morning Behnam,

I don't know how to explain my feeling , I'm really very proud of you. Your English was
great but now it's perfect. You write in academic way, you know how to explain your
thoughts by using new words & supporting it by using new expressions. You know how to
write a complete essay. Well done dear! :-)

As I told Mohsen , I can't leave this place because of all of you. I always follow your
writings and smile while i'm reading them. Some people do something because they have
to, but when we love what we do the results would be greater, and Behnam loves writing
in English so I'm watching what an arty man can do :-).

Write to me soon, and keep going dear no body can be like you!:-)

Marina.
Bluegreen June 1st 2010
Dear Marina,

Hiiiiiii there. How are you honey? So glad that you're back, I thought we'd never meet
you here again dear.
So how's everything going on with you? I know that you're a little bit busy Ms.Bird
LOOOL
Well, it hasn't been such a long time since everyone keeps calling you a heavenly bird
and I like the term very much because your presence and absence here is a sweet
BIRDLY action (talking with Behnam the dictionary made me create some new words like
him LOOOOL).
Dear Marina, I really wish to see you here often, because I really miss your beautiful
posts and I really regret having argued about the tough questions you used to ask
LOOOL, now I really wish for one of those days to come back again!

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen June 1st 2010


Dear Andrew,

Hello to dear Dr. Jykil. How are you? Oh I read your post and thanks for reading mine
and answering to it this accurately!
So, Dear Andrew, you really made her say Miaow in English? Oh god LOOOL. How
cruel of you?
You suddenly reminded me of those doctors who test on poor animals and force them to
do horrible things, but I really don?t think that you?re one of them. You had lots of
experiences with animals, good for you, and I think none of them survived, based on what
you said, but I?m sure you didn?t mean anything, did you? LOOOL
It really shocked me when I read your post and I really wondered if they were really true.
Now have you seen Nemo? The cartoon I mean, I remembered the dentist?s girl in it
LOOOL she used to shake the pocket of fish till they die!
Please be more careful with animals because you?re never going to know! One of them
might eat a chemical substance and turn into a huge monster then you?re the one who
runs! LOOOL
Well, I didn?t mean to hurt your feelings, I was just kidding :)
Hope to read from you so soon,

Bluegreen June 1st 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hello dear Ms. Dentist. How is everything with you? I heard that you?re going to have
an exam and I really wish that you pass it successfully because I?m going to have one
next week on Monday!
Thank you for reading my post and answering my questions, it was so nice of you. I read
your whole explanation of the entrance exam and I?m going to explain ours.
Well, here in Iran, as soon as you get in second grade of high school you?ve got to
choose a major for yourself among three basic majors which are: Mathematics,
applicable sciences and humanity sciences( I?m not sure about the term in English but
I?m going to explain about each of them a bit)
Well, in mathematics, as the term reveals, you deal with Differential Calculus, Integral
Calculus, Discrete Mathematics, Analytic Geometry and Linear Algebra, physics,
chemistry, statistics, geography, history, social sciences and other courses like Farsi
literature, English language, a kind of religious book called Religion and life and you
learn these through 3 years.
In applicable Sciences, people deal with biology books mostly, and chemistry, physics,
statistics, geometry, English and Farsi literature, religious book, history, geography and
social sciences as well.
And in the third major, they mostly deal with Farsi literature, geography, history,
philosophy, and statistics.
Well, enough of the three majors, then in the entrance exam which is called Konkoor!
Each major is testes based on what they learned through these 4 years of studying. So
based on what I wrote we have three different entrance exams which are held in three
different days, but in addition to these three important tests we have two other entrance
exams which are called language, and the next one?s art and everyone has got the right
to choose one, it?s optional.

Oh dear, I wrote too much of the exams, it increased my stress and heart beat rate
LOOOL because I remembered the good old days.

I really wish you success in your tests again, oh come to think of it; you?d written about
the old generation and the new one, I just want to say that I couldn?t agree with the idea
more :)

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,
Kamelia

Cathy Li June 1st 2010


Dear Behnam (dear brother),

How is everything going? I read several pages above and got the idea that you are a
immortal bird, unceasingly singing the best song to all friends.

Well, nothing changed here, but everything changed for me. Hehe...It's a long long way
for me to go here, the page 688. Each page, I can feel your words and emotion, but Cathy
has missed so many beautiful things around here. Yet, it's a great pity that I didn't walk
on each side of this beautiful garden.

Ir's so warm and ease staying here and hear some words from you. Each word could be a
bell for me.

Well, brother, I'm just home, will you make a cup of tea for me and make some cake? I'm
thirsty and hungry.

Cathy

Back home on Children's Day.

June 1, 2010

Andrew June 1st 2010


Hello Marina,

Thank you for your letter.


Yes, you make me if not upset then sad. I, like any other people, want to be understood. I
want to be understood completely and adequately. And you deprive me a satisfaction of
being understood. Why? I do my best to speak clear and simple. I never mean to shock
anybody.
What I usually say are (most likely) just common truths and absolutely innocent jokes.
Andrew is actually modest and polite man having rather moderate and conservative
views. Why on earth don't you see that? Because there is some differences in mentality of
muslim and non muslim? But unless we came to this place to communicate, to mix, not to
separate, we should make some efforts to understand people having different views (or,
maybe, just another manner of speaking). Please read my words carefully and I'm sure
you'll see another side of coin.

Best wishes,
Andrew

dentistebru June 1st 2010


Hello Behnam How are you?I hope you re fine.I want to say that you have excellent
english really.

Some people believe there is a connection between mental and body health. I absolutely
agree with them because our psychological state affect our whole life especially body
health. There is a perfect balance in everything such as microworld ( I dont know is there
this word in english, I meaned atoms molekules...) and macroworld (I meaned total field
under survey, cosmos). And I think human body is like a revelation of this balance. I
admire...What do you think about I am sure you know these better than me because I
think in physic there are a lot of wonderful happenings that can makes us amazed.

I got out anatomy for this year today. I like it but I hate this exam. Thanks for your good
wishes

Best wishes

dentistebru June 1st 2010


Hi Kamelia, How are you today my friend?

Thanks for your reply.It seems there is an exam everywhere in world.I want to ask a
question to you what are themes of history, what are you learning? Are you learning
anything about Ottoman Empire?This may be a bit odd looking but I am corius about it

I hope and believe you will get success in your exam. Please be calm and trust you.

I want to one more last thing. Can you introduce yourself to me because unfourtunately I
know nothing about you except your name

Hope to hearing from you soon


Best wishes
Ebru
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dentistebru June 1st 2010
Hello Mohsen how are you?I hope you are fine and healty.

You like plum but you cant eat because of your theeth.Oh what a pitty to you:( I am not
fond of plums but I liked sometimes

You are right dear friend nowadays children nourished with deleterious foods.When I
was a child, before going school, my mother was preparing to me a nutrition bag.It was
healty.Unfourtunately my sister is eating from canteen.This generation is unlucky for this.

In my city people like eating meat.Especially in Ramadan month there is meat on dinner
table.I dont know why:) I like eating meat, too:))We have some traditional foods.they are
more healtier and more delicious than fast foods.But some of these are cause putting on
weight.What about your city?

Hope to hearing from you soon


Best wishes
Ebru

dentistebru June 1st 2010


Hello Mohsen how are you?I hope you are fine and healty.

You like plum but you cant eat because of your theeth.Oh what a pitty to you:( I am not
fond of plums but I liked sometimes

You are right dear friend nowadays children nourished with deleterious foods.When I
was a child, before going school, my mother was preparing to me a nutrition bag.It was
healty.Unfourtunately my sister is eating from canteen.This generation is unlucky for this.

In my city people like eating meat.Especially in Ramadan month there is meat on dinner
table.I dont know why:) I like eating meat, too:))We have some traditional foods.they are
more healtier and more delicious than fast foods.But some of these are cause putting on
weight.What about your city?

Hope to hearing from you soon


Best wishes
Ebru

dentistebru June 1st 2010


Hello Nilda
How are you I hope you are fine. I am pleased to meet a friend who is interested in
different languages,as you.
You said it is winter and very cold in Argentina.What a pity to you because ? dont like
cold weather and unfourtunately in my city winters are really freezing cold.

If you interested in learning different languages,I can help you about Turkish gladly

Best wishes
Ebru

lady June 1st 2010


Hi Ebru! (merhaba!) haha! Yes today it is very cold here, but I think not as cold as it
could be in Turkey ( I think you have snow, don't you?). Here in Buenos Aires we don't
have snow but today it is as cold as 9�C! We have snow in the south of my country, what
we call Patagonia, close to the mountains (Andes). Where do you live? What city?

Cheers
Nilda :)

Andrew June 1st 2010


Hello Kamelia,

Of course I'm not Dr. Jakil:))


The cat #1 was just banished frome my home. We've given him back to my mother-in-law
because we couldn't more bear the smell of him.
The fate of a parrot is unknown. It was a nice guy and I missed him a lot.
As to the mouse, well, it was my fault - I've fed him by bacon, what was wrong.
The life of a cat#2 Busya, was not rosy for all the time. She dropped out from the window
four times and we had to arrange a search using help of boys and yard keepers. Now she
seems to become wiser and refuse from the flights, though the birds outside the window
still stay to be a temptation:))))

All the best,


Andrew

Marina1 June 1st 2010


Dear Kami :-),
How are you dear lovely energetic girl? How is it going? How is your exam? How is the
weather in your city? Here it's too hot, God bless us in judgement day:-).

I've missed you so much, believe me. And if I were a bird from heaven, Kami would be a
red and big flower from heaven that all people love it. I personally appreciate your
patience with me. Let me tell all friends here that KAMI IS THE MOST SWEET GIRL
THAT I'VE EVER MET. God keep our friendship going forever :-).

I'll try to be here as much as i can. In fact I don't know how I let lots of hot topics passes
without writing about them ;-). Andrew gave me a good one, I'll write and ask about it
soon, God willing.

Thank you dear, write to me soon.

Marina.

Marina1 June 1st 2010


Dear Kami :-),

How are you dear lovely energetic girl? How is it going? How is your exam? How is the
weather in your city? Here it's too hot, God bless us in judgement day:-).

I've missed you so much, believe me. And if I were a bird from heaven, Kami would be a
red and big flower from heaven that all people love it. I personally appreciate your
patience with me. Let me tell all friends here that KAMI IS THE MOST SWEET GIRL
THAT I'VE EVER MET. God keep our friendship going forever :-).

I'll try to be here as much as i can. In fact I don't know how I let lots of hot topics passes
without writing about them ;-). Andrew gave me a good one, I'll write and ask about it
soon, God willing.

Thank you dear, write to me soon.

Marina.

behnam June 1st 2010


Hi Marina the great,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you.

Many people called me, sent short messages, emailed me, and put off message to
congratulate me for your presence in the thread. One of them has texted; "Behnam, feel
proud of yourself, because you have got such a supportive friend."

Another friend has written "Behnam, come on! Have you asked Marina to support your
idea?"

One of them has written; "Good for you Behnam." Another friend called me and asked;
"Have you seen Marina's new post?"

Today, I was very busy, so that I couldn't reply to their emails and short messages. I am
terribly sorry. I'd like to take this opportunity to thank them for what they have done to
make me happy.

I should say-without any exaggerating- that Marina wasn't absent from this thread,
because I really feel her presence, as if the thread is filled by her smell. Certainly reading
her great posts and hearing from her makes me happier, but my heart is saturated with
her kindness, affection, and friendship.

Some people blame me for showing great respect for a girl. They should know, I have
great respect for her views actually. Her views are mine; my views are hers, and our
views are extracted from the holy Koran. We have got many things in common, but the
Holy Koran is what connects our hearts with each other.

Believe me or not, if you ask me a question, I know what Marina's answer is to that
question. The reverses is true too.

My friend should know that Marina is engaged now. Therefore, I am not writing to
attract her attention. I am not flattering at all, since I hate to flatter people. I mean what I
said.

Another point should be made that Marina is a heavenly bird, and what she write is a
beautiful song from her to people who respect facts and realities.

Dear Marina, I don't know what to write. THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY
HEART. Thank you for being Behnam's friend. You are always in my mind and heart. I
won't forget you and your great friendship.

I am satisfied with my English, since it leaded me to meet a human being like marina.

Stay happy and healthy. May God bless you.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 June 2010

behnam June 1st 2010


Dear friends (Ebru, Cathy, Lady, Andrew),

How are you doing? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for your posts. Today I am
really tired. I am going to have a walk in the park near my house. I will try to complete
my essay on fatherhood. I will try, but i don't promise. Believe it or not, my mind doesn't
help me write! I hope get better soon. Please pray for me.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 June 2010

behnam June 1st 2010


What a terrible mistake! ...I am satisfied with my English, because it LED me to meet a
human being like Marina. Or better to write...an angel like Marina.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 June 2010
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behnam June 1st 2010


Hi Friends,

How are you? I hope you are happy and healthy. I am pasting my easy here in the hope
that you will proofread and correct it. To be honest, i am not satisfied with this easy. I
found the topic very hard, since I am not a father yet. :):):):):) However, I tried to write
some sentences. I am a beginner. I am sure, you will help me improve my writing skills.

Behnam awaits your help.

All the bets,


Behnam, 1 June 2010

***********************************************************

Throughout history, considerable debate has taken place in societies about the role of
parents in families. Some people stress the importance of mothers' roles and ignore
fathers' roles. However, those people are wrong. I believe both men and women play
crucial roles in families, and fatherhood should be emphasized as much as motherhood.
Ignoring fathers' roles in family results in irresponsible men, vulnerable children, and
miserable women.

Obviously, lowering fathers' roles in families leads to make men become irresponsible.
As a result, they undervalue marriage, and do not take responsibilities of fatherhood very
seriously. A recent survey has shown that 47% of married men, who are not obliged to
manage their families, do not show commitments to them. They also do not support their
families emotionally and financially. The survey has also suggested that women should
let men participate in deciding to have children, because this makes men have a sense of
duty to their wives and children.

Ignoring fathers' roles in families also causes children problems. According to experts,
children require care and attention from their parents. When their fathers do not take
responsibilities of fatherhood, they grow up with complexes, and dangerous obsession.
Consequently, they become the most vulnerable members of society, and suffer from
different abuse.

Finally, undervaluing fatherhood duties gives rise to miserable women. When the father
of a family does not play his role properly, the mother of the family has to play two roles,
fatherhood and motherhood, to compensate. Sometimes, the mother has to bring the
children up alone. According to the newspapers, the number of single parent families has
risen from 11% in 2000 to 26% percent in 2009. This threatens the health of the whole
society.

In conclusion, both the states of being a mother and a father ought to be emphasized.
Otherwise, fathers will not fulfill their crucial roles. Consequently, children will become
more vulnerable, and women will suffer from loneliness in upbringing their children.
Fathers and mothers have vital roles in families, and these roles cannot be replaced with
each other.
**************************************************************

enokenosh June 1st 2010


Dear Behnam and all other friends,

This is Rajesh. I am new to this forum. I am very happy to see all of you in this forum who
belongs to different places assembled here for one common goal under one roof. It is so
fantastic to see many people holding the same interest sharing experiences via the
medium of internet. I thank the founder of this website wholeheartedly for providing
many valuable tips and information.

I would like to improve my accent and grammar. I hope you people would help me with
that. It would be highly greatful if we could have a voice conversation. If somebody is
interested or already formed some group, please let me know and give me an opportunity
to be a part of your group. My Id is jeet515@yahoo.com

Regards,
Rajesh
behnam June 2nd 2010
Hi Rajesh,

Welcome to this thread, and thank you very much for putting message. Thank you once
again for joining us. We are some English learners, gathered here to improve our
English skills. Our main goal is learning English. Your English is very well, since you
communicate effectively.

Would you please give us a little bit more information about yourself?

I am looking forwards to hearing from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 June 2010

behnam June 2nd 2010


Dear friends,

How are you today? I hope you are doing well. Thank you so much for reading my boring
essays.

The next essay will be about capital punishment. here is the topic:

"Without capital punishment (the death penalty) our lives are less secure and crimes of
violence increase. Capital punishment is essential to control vilolence in society."

To What extent do you agree with this opinion?

This topic has been asked candidates to write about in an ELTS exam.

I will try to post my essay in two days from now.

Please help me with writing. Behnam always awaits your help.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 June 2010

metzean June 2nd 2010


Dear Ebru ,

For me the best food is Dairies ,but generaly there is a gap generation regarding the
youngest and the olds for food taste ,the olds prefer to eat traditional foods and the
youngest prefer to eat fast foods , but some foods are common interest between 2
generation, for example pizza is the interesting food for both generation. I had a
grandmother who was interested in crispy puffs ,she was an exceptional and she died at
the age of 95.

The main Iranian dish is meat and rice, we can say every day they cook meat and rice
and in all homes,canteens ,universities ,factories, organization . they cook meat in
different type ,meat with vegetable ( called Ghorme sabzi which is very famous) , meat
with Lentil -Vetch -pea -beans - green beans? , meat like steak and Kabab and also
different birds and beast meats, which the most used meat are ship and hen. what is the
popular food in your city?

all the best,


Mohsen

Andrew June 2nd 2010


Hello Behnam,

Being a member of society of this thread (and also this forum and the site) I think it's not
right for me to avoid a discussion of subjects you offer. On the other hand I can't manage
this task because of some simple reasons. So I feel obliged to give some explanations.
Please forgive me in advance so far as reading them may occur a waste of time for you.

I consider your essays as very useful material for discussion. It gives an opportunity for
advanced learners to cerebrate and, as result, to advance further away.

But, you know, to cerebrate is exactly the action I have never could manage with. I felt
seek everytime I had to write "A composition on the required subject" during my school
days. In addition your last topics as "Fatherhood" and "Capital Punishment" are so
complicated itself that I just don't know what is my own opinion about that! Or maybe my
opinion about that changed so many times that I just have got finally confused.

Okay, it was about the essense of problem.

Another part of your request (as I understand) is to talk about how you have done your
job, to analize your text itself.
And again, I can't do it. I can't judge about the essense of your essays because my own
thoughts are too vague and I can't judge about your English because I am not native so I
will mistake almost for sure if I ever risk to give advices.
In my opinion your speech is very good, almost immaculate but, I repeat, I can not judge
about it.
And I repeat one more thing that I already said before: even speaking (and especially
writing!) native language people do a lot of mistakes so I'm sure that

1) people should be very discreet in making corrections as far as they have some doubts
about their own correctness

2) people should be very cautious in accepting advices about Grammar, sentence


structure and style as far as they are not aware that an advice is given by professional
(saying "professional" I mean an experianced translator or well-educated native)

Uffff! Looks like I finished:))))

All the best,


Andrew

dentistebru June 2nd 2010


Dear Marina
I m Ebru from neighbour country, Turkey

How are you, I hope you are fine.I have no friend from Syria and it will be big pleasure
get a friend from there like you.

Looking forward to hearing from you soon


Best wishes
Ebru

Andrew June 2nd 2010


P.S. Andrew is good as always in saying right things, but in real life he does awful
mistakes:

My wife has brought me to the banquet that was arranged for the partcipants of scientific
conference. Though the society was international and everybody spoke English a part of
quorum spoke Russian as well (and some of people were just Russians). At the table next
to me sat Russian lady who has lived in Europe for a long (about 12 years if I don't
mistake) and had a lot of experiance in speaking English at international meetings.
And I had a sillyness to correct her while she said some thing (the talk was going in both
Russian and English and the current turn was about berries). She said: "I don't
remember what is this berry in English" - "It's cranberry", I said. - "No, no, cranberry is
not that but THAT" she disagreed. And I said "No, you are wrong. It's cranberry. I
KNOW IT FOR SURE".
Later, at home I opened a dictionary and discovered that she was right, not me. What a
shame:(((

dentistebru June 2nd 2010


Hello Mohsen how are you?I hope you are in best mood.

In my city there are a few popular food.Firstly most popular one is a kebap called "Cag
kebap".It cooked on wood fire and it serving with sticks.In soups there is a soup
preparing with yoghurt called "Ayran �orbas?".I really like it.

In desserts Kaday?f and baklava are very popular.But I think you would like
"tavukg�gs�" and "kazandibi" if you like diaries.

I want to ask a question to you why do you want to learn english, I meaned what is your
reason : travelling or do you have an exam etc..

looking for hearing from you


Best wishes

behnam June 2nd 2010


Hi my old friend Andrew,

How are things? I hope you are enjoying these last days of heavenly spring. Thank you
very, very, very much for your lovely and sincere post.

Dear Andrew, you always help me a lot, but you don't know how! I found 'fatherhood'
very difficult to write about. When you say that it was difficult for you too, it rises my self-
confidence. It increases my self-confidence, because I feel I am not alone. I justify my
disability in writing. I tell myself like this: Behnam, don't feel disappointed in yourself.
When someone like Andrew, who is close to the center of the English language, who has
met many native speakers, whose mother tongue has got many similarities with English,
finds such-and-such topic difficult, that is OK if you find it difficult too. This way of
thinking motivates me to go on learning. :):):):):):)

Dear Andrew, you are one of the main columns of this thread. You aren't an ordinary
member of this community. You are a decision maker in this thread. You are the boss.
:):):)

However, I intend to take IELTS exam. I need to practise five-paragraph essay writing.
Many people read my essays and advise me. They often email me, call me, or chat with
me and give their suggestions. I do believe that posting essays in this thread are
beneficial to me and to the humanity as well. :):):):):):):):)

Dear Andrew, if you read my essays and give your idea, you will make me extremely
happy. If you haven't got enough time and--or for any reasons which are logical for you--
think that reading Behnam's essays is a total waste of time, I respect your belief. Please
do not waste your time, since nobody is forced to read my essays. :):):):):)

I won't stop writing and posting essays in this thread, unless the founder of the site asks
me to stop. You should know, if she asks me to stop, I will stop posting, but I will never
stop writing essays and trying other sites. Behnam often finishes what he starts to do!
This is my policy, although it is so rough and unbearable.:):):):):)

AND, you should know, my main goal of posting essays is helping people rather than
getting benefits. However, I do benefit from posting essays, since it is the result of good
deeds. 'What goes around, comes around. We reap what we sow.' Therefore, I don't care
about the benefit, it will come sooner or later. :):):):):):)

My funny and happy friend, Andrew, I love you and your posts. I always read all your
posts. I believe everybody has got something to say. This is my strategy in learning, and
that is why Behnam welcomes any kinds of topics and challenges.

The process of learning--regardless of its kinds--is very time-consuming and


backbreaking. It is like digging a deep hole with a needle. Some people love to learn, but
they never try to learn. They aren't patient as well. Learning is a matter of taking efforts
and attempts. Knowledge cannot be injected into someone's head by syringe or something
like that.

Thank you for giving me a chance to advise a friend of mine who pays me some nice
compliments, saying over and over again; "How can I be a knowledgeable person?" She
sometimes asks; "How can I be like Behnam?" I often answer her humorously and say;
"come on! You cannot become like Behnam, since Behnam has a moustache and bread,
but your face is hairless!".:):):):):):)

She often adds; "Well, that is easy to have hair on face, isn't it?" :):):):)
.....
I often end with this famous statement; "I am nothing, so don't try to be nothing.":):):):)

Joking aside, I'd like to say that people, who have done big things and make a difference
in the world, take a lot of efforts and attempts. Trying hard is the key factor of all
success. My father once said; "Behnam, when a bird sings, listen to it carefully. When a
shepherd sings, listen to him carefully and don't ignore him saying 'ah, he is a shepherd!',
because there is maybe a point!"
This advice is like earrings on my ears. They are always with me.
Anyway, thank you very much for your lovely comment. I apologize to you for causing
any trouble.

I have no time to check this post. Sorry for many mistakes.

I am waiting for your posts.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 June 2010
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behnam June 2nd 2010


I saw the number of thread was 6699. It is funny, isn't it?

Andrew June 2nd 2010


Hello Behnam,

one of the main columns, a decision maker, the boss - isn't it little bit too much? No, of
course I'm purring like a cat who was stroked behind the ears...despite of strong feeling
that my old friend (and sly fox:) Behnam just was kidding me.
Ok, jokes aside....by the way, a joke:

Friends meet. One says: "Hi! How are you? I heard you're just back from the tour trip.
So how was it?". "Ok" - his mate answers. "Well, can you extend your story little bit?" -
"O`kay"

So, about your ideas regarding to man's role in familty, well, it hardly can be disputed.
Your ideal man is just real man, good father and careful husband. I would be happy if the
majority of men (including myself) meet these expectations.
In reality too many of us try to shift responsibility about family and upbringing children
to women's shoulders.

So you, possessing such right views and having your fatherhood ahead of you get very
high chance to become a good husband and father. Trick is that most of people have
good intentions about everything, but not many of them can embody all that good in real
life. Human's weakness is a very strong thing:)))))

Bye for now,


Andrew
behnam June 2nd 2010
Mother's Day is celebrated on 3rd June in Iran. Here is my tribute (extracted from a
magazine) to mothers in my country.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

*** Before I was a MOM ***

Before I was a mom, I slept as late as I wanted, and never worried about how late I got
into bed. I brushed my hair and my teeth every day.

Before I was a mom, I cleaned my house each day. I never fell over toys or forget words
to a lullaby. I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never worried
about immunizations.

Before I was a mom, I had never been chewed on. I had complete control of my mind and
my thoughts. I slept all night.

Before I was a mom, I never held down a screaming child so that doctors could do tests,
or give injections. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got overjoyed over a
simple grin. I never sat up late long hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a mom, I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it
down. I never heard my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt. I
never knew that something so small could affect my life so much. I never knew that I
could love someone so much. I never knew I could love being a mom.

Before I was a mom, I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I
didn't know how special it could be to feed a hungry baby. I didn't know about the trust
between a mother and her child. I didn't know that something so small could make me
feel so important and happy.

Before I was a mom, I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every ten minutes to
make sure all was Okay. I had never known the warmth, the joy, the headache, the
surprise, or the satisfaction of being a mom.

I didn't know I was able to feel so much before I was a mom.


***********************************************

Happy Mother's Day to all mothers, and who are potential mothers--girls(=mothers of
the future).
All the best,
Behnam, 2 June 2010

Andrew June 2nd 2010


Before I was a dad....

Veronicaho June 2nd 2010


Hi everybody!

I'm a bit afraid to come back...maybe you will kill me :) I'm sorry for not being here for a
long time but I don't have enough time! I have work a lot and studying in the same time. I
know there is no reason to be absence...but here I am again!

I hope all of you are fine and I have missed all of you and I have thought about you many
days.

Please can you give me a summary of what has happened last weeks?

Im fine but (too busy as always). The summer has arrived and I'm happy for that. We
have been a lot at our summerhouse where we also are buiding a new small house, a
guesthouse, so you are welcome if you want!
Thursday next week me, my youngest daughter, a friend of mine and her son going to
London five days and I really waiting.

Hope to hear from all of you soon,

Veronica

Bluegreen June 2nd 2010


Dear Veronica,

Oh my god. Hello there. How are you? Long time no see. How've you been? How about
your family?

Oh yes, at least I understand, long busy days of spring, but I kind of like them, how about
you?
Dear friend, as I've always told others I think friends here can understand you :) so don't
worry, at least I wont kill you LOOOL

So, you're going to London? What a nice travel it's going to be! I haven't ever been there,
but there are a lot of documentary movies, movies, and pictures being taken by others
which really worth watching and I did took a look at them, I really wish that you have a
lotf of fun with family and friends there :)
But when you came back, don't forget to write about your whole trip to us, we'd be really
glad to have your memory post here :)

Hope to read from you so soon,

SIncerely,

Kamelia

behnam June 3rd 2010


Hi friends,

How are you today? I hope you are enjoying every minute of your life.

I wrote an essay on capital punishment. Before posting the essay I should say that in
EILTS writing and speaking exams, the examiners do not give you points because of
being a good person. They do not say; "WOW! What a good person! Here is a 9!" :):):):)
They just focus on candidates' abilities in speaking and writings. They also do not care
about the accuracy of data and information. Therefore, candidates are allowed to lie in
speaking and writing. In short, honesty is not counted, but the ability in writing and
speaking does count.

Sometimes, you notice that it is difficult to agree with something, because it is difficult to
support your idea. In such cases, forget to agree--change you idea and disagree--
although it is against your personality and character.

However, unfortunately, I have enough reasons to support my idea. Therefore, I often


prefer to give my sincere opinions, since I have no difficulties in supporting them.

I treated capital punishment with this strategy. I mean, I wrote what I believe. I believe,
capital punishment is like cutting the dry branches of a tree. If we consider a society as a
tree, dangerous criminals are its dry and ill branches. We should cut and remove them, if
we want to keep the tree alive.

Anyway, here is my five-paragraph essay on capital punishment. I hope it helps people


who intend to take IELTS exam.
***************************************************************
Some people cannot understand the mentality of the death penalty. They believe that it is
uncivilized and it dehumanizes the world. They are, however, wrong. I believe death
sentence should be given to criminals who are guilty of serious crimes, because it
consoles victims' families, deters criminals from committing capital offenses, and benefits
the society.

Capital punishment, in one way, makes victims' families feel better. Five years ago, in my
neighborhood, a boy was killed in a fight by someone. The police arrested the killer and
charged him with murder. The murderer was put in prison for two years, but it was not
satisfying, because the family of the murder victim, especially his mother, was usually
weeping bitterly. Finally, the court gave death sentence to the murder, and comfort to the
family.

The death penalty has also deterrent effect on offenders. According to some
psychologists, capital punishment prevents criminals from committing serious crimes. As
a result, it deters crimes. In addition, death sentence provides security for people,
because it minimizes the capital offenses in the society.

Finally, capital punishment has beneficial effect on the economy. It is a total waste of
money to put some killers in prisons, and look after them until the day they die.
According to the newspapers, about $150,000 is spent yearly on looking after a murderer
in prison. Therefore, Prison is an expensive and inefficient way to deal with serious
crimes.

In conclusion, the death penalty is, sometimes, necessary, because it gives comfort to the
victims' families. It is also an effective and inexpensive crime prevention. Those people
who disagree should know that the main philosophy of capital punishment is providing
security for them.

*******************************************************************

I am keeping my arms open to welcome your help, suggestions, corrections, and


constructive criticism.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 June 2010

behnam June 3rd 2010


Hi Veronica,

Welcome back my dear friend. How are you? I hope all is well with you.

This thread was waiting for you. Thank you for joining us again.
Nothing has happened. There are some new members, and some friends have left the
thread.

Give my best regards to your family. I hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 June 2010

behnam June 3rd 2010


dear friends,

Thank you for reading my boring essays, and making comments. My next essay will be
on:

"The position of women in society has changed markedly in the last twenty years. Many
of the problems young people now experience, such as juvenile delinquency, arise from
the fact that many married women now work and are not at home to care for their
children. To what extent do you agree or disagree with this opinion?"

Please do not hesitate to write about this topic. I will post my own essay when I finish it
off.

Hope to hear from you.

Behnam, 3 June 2010

Bluegreen June 3rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? How?s everything going on with your English IELTS test?
Are you attending any new classes? Listening or reading one? I wish you success
anyway.
Dar Friend, as you know I always read your posts and try to pay attention to the ones
which have a purpose inside for example the new ones that you me keep writing, the 5
paragraph ones !
But here?s the thing, today I was reading Andrew?s post and I felt the same problem,
sometimes this really is the major problem in me, I wonder if you?ve experienced it or
not but it really happens that there are some sort of hard topics to write about and when
it comes to think of them you really don?t know when, where and how to start them
because there are some reasons as Andrew mentioned, and those were really true
because I remember in our conversation class, last semester, it happened that folks were
talking about the topic which was ?whether lying is right or not? everyone stated her /his
idea and when it came to me( I decided to be the last person who talks in general) as a
result of having heard too many opinions I said ? I?m sorry, but I?m confused now, I
don?t know what to say? and some agreed with me.
Our professor said that sometimes, because there are too many opinions and you?ve
heard much, you really can?t decide which is yours and which one you?re going to talk
of!
Enough of digressions LOOOL I actually wanted to say that your topics are getting too
difficult and I really fall short in writing about them because there is shortage of
information and sometimes ideas in me LOOL
But as I?m an English student, seems like I have to have some opinions because these
topics are going to come up for me right after you.
About your first topic, as a beginner I have something to say LOOL, I liked how you first
came up with discussing it and then bringing reasons but I think you didn?t mention how
WOMEN will be miserable if husbands? role in life is not considered important ! I think
you didn?t provide enough reasons, now I wonder if you agree with me or not! Because
based on the reasons you wrote women who degrade their husbands and have to play two
rules will be more powerful so what kind of misery you see in them?!

And finally about your new essay on Capital Punishment, I bet it is such a wonderful
essay, very well organized, nice words but again a little bit repetition of the words in
paragraphs, nice statistics which strongly embellishes your essay. I quite liked your essay
this time.
I mean sometimes when I went through them I really thought that for example there may
be some problems with this part, or that part should be stronger, or in this section you
didn?t provide good examples but here in this last one I see less mistakes( In my
opinion). So here?s again a WOW mark!

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

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Bluegreen June 3rd 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hi there. How are you honey? How was your exam? Hope you passed it really well.
Honey, you are right I should have introduced myself before all these LOOOL
Well, here I am, this is Kamelia, 19 years old from Iran. I?m in the freshmen stance yet,
second semester of English literature. I live in dormitory right now because my university
is so far from my hometown.
I really don?t know how to introduce myself more LOOOL but if there were any other
questions I?d be really glad to answer , no matter how many because I?m quite patient
with questions LOOL

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam June 3rd 2010


Hi kamelia,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you very much for making
comment. It was very kind of you.

The topics are difficult. I do agree with you, but what is my fault? :):):):):) What is wrong
with poor Behnam? :):):):)

These topics are extracted from 'Cambridge IELTS 2'. If they are difficult for you--as an
English student--they are difficult for poor candidates like Behnam too.:):):):):):)

About 'miserable women' you are right, although I haven't written that women who play
two rules are powerful! Women who have to play two rules are not happy, since it is very
difficult to take two responsibilities.

However, I should admit that 'miserable' is not a proper world. I think 'unhappy' is better
than 'miserable'.

About the repetition, I should say that the lack of vocabulary and structure makes me
repeat some words. However, you should know that it is the rule of five-paragraph essay
to write a thesis statement with blueprints in introduction, and to write a paragraph
about each blueprint, and to mention blueprints in conclusion again. I have tried to do it.
It is a rule.

Thank you very much for putting message. You made me extremely happy.

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 3 June 2010

sun490503054 June 3rd 2010


Hi, Behnam.
I'm sunney,very glad to meet you.English is very important to everyone.Esepcially in this
all-world times.I like english,and I have learned it for 4 years.,but I have little
practice.So my english is not very well.Now I am insure learn english at least one hour
every day.However, the progress of my english is not obvious. It let me feel dispirited.I
don't know why is this.But I still insist on read english article everyday.
I'm very happy I can learn english with you.Glad to you can give me some advice to my
english.I hopefully you will point to my english article.
Thank you!

Please reply to me!


Yours sunney.

metzean June 3rd 2010


Dear Andrew,

I stopped sleeping ,I am afraid of going on sleeping ,the dreams kill me at the end.

The mortuary door was too small, so they couldn't take my casket into mortuary,tipped
my casket on the side, my casket was a bespoke and it was made in sheer size, people
were waiting for funeral , and saw my casket was a jumbo ,they knew it is not possible to
carry the casket by hearse, then a fork lift closed to my casket ,lifted it,put it on a van, My
father took issue with the idea to cremate my body, I got up in middle of ceremony in the
cemetery ,opened my casket door , yelled " enough is enough"`
what was your dream and do you think the the dreams come ture

Have a great night,


Mohsen

Andrew June 3rd 2010


My dear friends Behnam and Kamelia,

****************************************************
In my opinion there are no easy and difficult topics as far as a TASK of discussion is just
demonstration of skills in writing (or in speaking). This task is not easy in itself and it
might be a serious problem to someone who is not advanced in speaking a language and
not good in speaking at all.

When I (and I think it's the same about Kamelia) call those topics difficult I mean that it
is really so unless we aim to say out OUR OWN ideas.That to do it we must either to have
ideas or to generate them. To generate ideas, in turn, is a serious task in any case.

And in case of IELTS examinatios there is no difference do we say out our own ideas or
just common truths, isn't it?
It's not important to a teacher are we good and clever or not, are we frank or not in our
answers (I re-phrase your own words Behnam).
It's important that we were able to dispute any subject following the definite form and
demonstrating good literacy.

And hence from the point of view of IELTS course attendee his (or her) task turn to be
little bit easier and there is no any difference what a topic to discuss. Someone is just to
exploit definit skill and spend definite time to get success.

However I can see one little complication in doing such a job. Someone can't be lazy
because all that stuff demands to make real efforts and sometimes your brains just refuse
to serve you at the moment when you are to fill in the last line of the fifth paragraph. In
addition you have no more option to fill in that bloody line with a good portion of smilics,
which is especially annoing:(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((
***********************************************************

Best wishes,
Andrew

Andrew June 3rd 2010


My dear friend Mohsen,

Dreams don't come true all the times. To say in general, dreams usually play tricks to our
own subconsciousness. Hmm..or maybe our subconsciousness plays dirty tricks to our
dreams.
So relax and try to tune your subconsciousness to some more pleasant frequence, e.g. the
next trip:)

All the best,


Andrew
P.S. Why a hell don't you call me on Skype?

behnam June 4th 2010


Hi Andrew,

How are you doing? I hope all is well with you, and you are filled with joy and pleasure.

Thank you very much my old friend. I completely agree with you. You are absolutely
right.

Thank you so much for reading the essays.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 June 2010

behnam June 4th 2010


Hi Cathy(Hi my sister),

How are things? I hope everything is going well with you, and you are enjoying every
minute of your life.

Welcome back! I was waiting for you. Don't you think that your brother may die because
of your long absence?

Again the wind blows from the east, and brings the message of love and happiness. Sweet
and pleasant smells in the air caress my nose. Thank you very much for coming back.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 June 2010

Veronicaho June 4th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Thanks a lot for your replay. I really hope that all is well with you. I have got some cold,
I'v been home from work for two days and I feel better now.
I do my best to improve my english and I styding an english course right now. Today I
have to do some homework. But I'm not sure I learn so much :( I feel I am at same stage
....

Of course I will tell you about my London trip ...me too...I'm really excited, and I love to
go there with my daughter, to show her this city.
How do you spend your summer? Do you have some plans?

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

behnam June 4th 2010


Hi Sunney,

Thank you so much for putting message. Welcome to this thread. Thank you once again
for joining us.

Your English is very good, because you are an effective communicator.

The main reason of gathering here is learning English and enjoying our time together!

I hope we will help each other improve our language skills.

Would you please write a little bit more about yourself?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 June 2010
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Cathy Li June 4th 2010


Dear Brother (Behnam),

After an absence of monthes, it seems enough to be far from a close relationship. Nothing
changed, it was a liar. How could time so unkind? Well, I perfer your tone of special
welcoming. It once again tells me that life is unexpected gift to someone and sometimes
life might be cruel without close friends to be with.

It's so vague to say how I missed you during this period, I was so tired from long journey.
I'd never doubt your strong capacity. You are just like a magnet to attract people and
things. Nothing can eclipse your shining power.

If the brotherhood relationship easily faded away gradually, I would rather it died.
Brother, how do you think of my point?

Cathy

June 4, 2010

behnam June 4th 2010


Hi my sister (Cathy),

How are you doing? I hope you are happy and healthy.

Many thanks for the lovely post. However, some sentences are too complicated to
understand. For example "Nothing changed, it was a liar." What does it mean? Please
make it clear, if you don't mind.

If brotherhood could fade away easily, I would prefer to die! Or, if brotherhood could
fade away easily, it shouldn't start!

Anyway, my dear sister Cathy, just focus on the attraction and affection which are
flowing through human beings hearts. Who has put such feelings there? What makes us
connect with each other? This is mysterious. It shows that the universe has got a powerful
owner, and this attraction is a great sign of his power. Nobody and nothing can put love,
kindness, and affection in our hearts, unless our creator!

Thank you for being my sister. I really feel proud of you.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 June 2010

alukard June 4th 2010


Hello to everybody.

This is my second post in this forum, the other was simply for giving my skype id.

I only want to greet all of you and to introduce myself.

My name is Andr�s and I'll try to write some days to your posts, in order to know new
people and like you to practise english.

I am from Spain and I work as a developer so if you have any question about something I
can help you, don't heasitate and ask me ok?

Best wishes and enjoy the weekend!

sahand June 4th 2010


Dear friends

Miss You All : )

Just letting you know that I am still around, check on here from time to time but never
getting around saying anything.

I just thought I'd drop by and let you guys know that I was too busy to think about my life.
I was supposed to study for exams which were happening in 6 days in a row. I?m still
tired from my busy month.

It was terrible to lose contact with you all on the thread. I feel that my friends have
forgotten me or something ? still, No Posts For Me !

Waiting to read from you all !

Sincerely;
Sahand

sxzyn June 5th 2010


Dear Behnam?

Wish you a happy weekend!

After riciving your letter, I decided to read every massages to you carefully. Although it
is some difficult to me, I will try my best to do it.From the massage I learned something
new and know that lots of people are trying hard to learn English, I can learn from
everybody.Thank you!
Wish everyone have a best weekend.
Anna

metzean June 5th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hope you are fine and doing your lessens well , you asked me about the purpose of
studying English, yes when I want to run an international business ,I need it ?when I
want write something against us policy ,I need it ,when I want to study knowledge ,I need
it, when I want to go abroad ,I need it and when I want to have friends from other
countries ,I need it . but generally I dislike to spend my time for studying English , but
there is not another mean , I inevitably accept it.

B.Wished
Mohsen

metzean June 5th 2010


Dear Andrew ,

I like to speak through skyp ,but nowadays the speed of common internet speed is very
low and I will disconnected whenever I connect to skyp . I am going to apply an ADSL
line as soon as my busy days fade away. For subject of dreaming I think it comes ture
because when I dream about mortuary, the day after it my cousin 's wife passed away and
I went to cemetery and after the corpse was washed in mortuary ,people did a special
prayer and took him in block where she was supposed to buried .but she was very thin vis
a vis the jumbo coffin that I had in my dreams.
Is it legal to kill an old person who is ill and doctors lose their hope to recover him.

Have anice day


Mohsen

metzean June 5th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Nice to visit you again,We missed you a lot ,but you are right, you had busy days after
long trip to Malaysia, you were behind in many of works and you are being prepared to
take a trip to London as well, you have the best luck ,I hope you have time to write here
time to time.I always remind you with pleasure.

Have a nice day,


Mohsen

metzean June 5th 2010


Dear Rosa,

Hey Where are !!!!!!!? , you have left your garden without any notice , We suffer your
absence bravely but slowly We frown if you don't put a massage . I hope you have happy
time and start your summer as you wish it.

Waiting for you


Mohsen

metzean June 5th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I am writing you to say thank you, Thank you for you s, they are written very good as
your paragraph supporting the main idea very well, I copy them when I need unless you
limit them by copy rights law.
You have a long way to go , I mean when you want to support main idea with 50
paragraphs which is a book not an essay , I am here to read that book whenever you
publish it.

Have a geart days


Mohsen

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metzean June 5th 2010
Dear Cathy,

I hope you are fine and have happy days, I really miss you ,you always whistle a lively
tune and make the thread difference .where did you go during your absent days , I hope
you gratified by your wishes.

Waiting for you,


Mohsen

metzean June 5th 2010


Dear Sahand,

Many friends are absent ,because they are busy with their final exams , I read all the
posts which appear in thread and yours were always excellent ,your mastery in English
writing is obvious. How much time do you put for learning English and how you organize
it.

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

sahand June 5th 2010


Dear Mohsen

I'm glad to see that you are being so nice during this so far. I don't think that I'm matured
enough in English, that's why I need you and everyone here to help me learn more.

As I mentioned before, I moved to London at the time I was born so I learned English
from my friends there ! :D

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely;
Sahand

behnam June 5th 2010


Dear friends,

How are you? I hope you are happy and healthy.

As I guess you know, the last topic was:

"The position of women in society has changed markedly in the last twenty years. Many
of the problems young people now experience, such as juvenile delinquency, arise from
the fact that many married women now work and are not at home to care for their
children. To what extent do you agree or disagree with this opinion?"

I have been writing an essay on this topic since the beginning of the day. I found it very
hard to write about. I have written something, but I dislike what I've done. I am not
satisfied with this essay. However, I do not know what to do! My mind does not work
anymore. I hope you help me.
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Some people believe that, nowadays, it is necessary for a woman to work and bring
money to home, because the cost of living, in comparison with the last twenty years, has
increased. However, those people are wrong, because they only consider the plus sides of
the situation. I believe some of the problems young people experience now, result from
absence of mothers from home. Mothers, whose works involve absence from home, do not
nurture their children properly. As a result, their children may experience problems
because they have emotional disturbances, personal shortcomings, and a bad upbringing.

In one way, babies, whose mothers work, have some emotional disturbances. According
to some psychologists, children require a lot of attention and care. They need to be
cuddled and caressed regularly by their mothers. These actions build up their
personalities. However, mothers often get tired at work, and bring stress from
workplaces to homes. Therefore, they cannot spend quality time with their children. As a
result, those children are emotionally fragile. This fact may cause them some problems in
the future.

In addition, young people, whose mothers work, have more personal weaknesses than
others. They are suffering from different personal shortcomings; such as lack of self-
confidence and self-esteem. In many cases, they commit crimes to make people admire
their abilities. Furthermore, those children are more vulnerable than others. They are
easy targets for dangerous criminals, because dangerous criminals abuse them easily.

Finally, Children, whose mothers work outside, have a bad upbringing. When mothers
are at work, their children often are taken care in private nurseries, or are kept by baby
sisters. In both cases, children are not brought up properly, because nurseries and baby
sisters do not take responsibilities for nurturing them. Those children do not learn what
they need; therefore, they may become some juvenile offenders.

To sum up, when mothers work outside, they do not take responsibilities for nurturing
children. As a result, those children are not brought up carefully. They have some
emotional and personal problems. Consequently, they may experience problems and
commit some crimes. People should know that although, mothers who work and earn
money, financially support the families, they do not fulfill their duties to the children.
*******************************************************************

Please help me with this topic. Please give me some blueprints. Give me blueprints, I will
give you a nice essay! :):):):)

Looking forwards to hearing from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 June 2010

behnam June 5th 2010


Hi Andr?s,

Thank you so much for putting message. Welcome to this thread.

I copied and pasted your name from the post. I am sorry, but I couldn't recognize what
that letter is after 'r', before 's'.

You are a developer; that's great; but what do you develop? :):):):)

Would you please give us a little bit more information about yourself?

You should know that we have a very good friend from Spain. Although she has been
absent for a quite long time, we still feel her smell. We have great respect for you,
because you live in her country. :):):):)

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 June 2010

behnam June 5th 2010


Hi Sahand,

How are things? I hope all is well with you.

Who has forgotten you? If you forget your friends, they will forget you too. If you don't
forget them, they won't forget too. It is a mutual feeling. :):):):)):)):))
Where are you? Long time now see! Please write regularly and make thread active.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the bets,


Behnam, 5 June 2010

behnam June 5th 2010


Hi Anna,

Thank you very much for joining us and putting message in this thread.

Your English is excellent. However, there is room for improvement. I hope we will help
each other improve our English skills.

I am terribly sorry, I am pressed for time, so that I couldn't reply emails. I have to
practise writing five-paragraph essays. It takes me a lot of time. However, I often reply to
all people who put comment in this thread. Please try to write regularly. Writing does
help us with learning a new language.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 June 2010

behnam June 5th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

Nobody can deny your full support of this thread. Thank you so much for being
supportive.

How life is going in Esfahan? What about the Zayande Rood? Is it full of water? I hope
so.

Mohsen, what do you think about Najaf abad? What is the distance from Esfahan to
Najaf abad? Describe Najaf abad and its people in some sentences.

Thank you once again for reading my essays. They are not worth coping. I am a
beginner, and it is difficult for a beginner to write good essays. I make a lot of mistakes.
The main problem is that nobody corrects my mistakes. Therefore, I never learn from my
mistakes.
You are a loyal friend, and I respect you for loyalty.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 June 2010

sahand June 5th 2010


Dear Behnam

Overall your article has a lot of good points. I think this is common sense and you are
correct somehow. There is nothing worse for a child than going home to an empty house
or having to go to a daycare after school. It makes a very long hard day for them. (I
experienced it myself!)

Women can bring money home by working but NOTHING is more valuable than a "Stay
At Home Mum" ! cause their money can't buy the lost nurture of children.

BUT ... Seriously, you should reconsider some other points. One of the most important
women dreams are to use their expert knowledge as a job and nobody can stop them
working ! they can have part time jobs so they have a lot of time to spend on taking care
of household duties ... she can do all the chores, huh ?!

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely;
Sahand

sun490503054 June 5th 2010


Dear Behnam.
Thank you for your apply.I'm from china.I just work for half of a year.I would like to
learn english well when I was at the school.It's regretful that I didn't do it well.I feel I live
on the dream ,because I have many dreams,But many of them don't come true.Sometimes
I even feel it's unrealistic.Lear english well is one of my dreams.Now I was hard towards
my every dream.
I don't know whether you have come to china.But I was very expect you can come to
china one day.I am very happy to be your guide.

May you have a nice day!


yours sunney!
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behnam June 5th 2010


Hi friends,

How are you doing? I wish you a happy life, full of enjoyment and happiness.

Thank you very much for reading my essays. The next topic is chosen from Cambridge
IELTS 3. The topic is this:

"Popular events like the football World Cup and other international sports occasions are
essential in easing international tensions and releasing patriotic emotions in a safe way.
To what extent do you age or disagree with this opinion?"

I will post my essay about this topic as soon as I finish it off.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the bets,


Behnam, 5 June 2010

metzean June 7th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Zayandehrood in going to be a lagoon, because the river has been directed to the rice
farms ,and only a little stream runs to the city, I think a new tunnel in Kohrang mountain
will be opened soon to solve the problem. I hope..
You asked me about NajafAbad, It takes 20 minutes to go there from Isfahan, the town is
rich and green ,there are a lot of fruit gardens and farming lands surrounded the town.
The largest Azad university of Iran located in the town ,so it is now a cosmopolitan
city.Food ,home ,transportation easily available and cheaper. These are the news I got
from a friend , but Elham who live in Najafabad can credibly explain it .Do you want to
teach in Najafabad !!? I don't know if people with special accent of Najafabadi
understand the accent of Turkish one!!?

Have a nice day,


Mohsen
behnam June 7th 2010
Hi friends,

How are you doing? I hope everything is going well with you.

Here is my essay on the mentioned topic:

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"Popular events like the football World Cup and other international sports occasions are
essential in easing international tensions and releasing patriotic emotions in a safe way.
To what extent do you age or disagree with this opinion?"

Some people say it is ridiculous that twenty-two men follow a round thing--a ball--at a
football ground. They believe the football World Cup is a total waste of time and money.
They are, however, wrong. In my opinion, the football World Cup and other international
sports occasions, result in strengthening friendship, in establishing diplomatic relations,
in reducing political tensions between countries.

International games provide opportunities for making friendship between countries


stronger. Obviously, at a large organized sports event, players are representative of their
nations. At a game, when players shake hands with each other and give flowers--while
photographers take pictures of them-- it is, as thought, the whole population of two
countries is meeting with each other. Consequently, it creates the impression that
ordinary people of two countries are friends.

International matches also give a chance to countries to establish diplomatic relations


with each other. When there is an organized game between two teams, from two different
countries, before the game, people and governments often study on the history and
culture of two countries. Sometimes, they show an interest in establishing relations. In
addition, some parliamentarians and famous people of both countries often go to the
stadium to watch the match. They have an opportunity to visit each other in a friendly
atmosphere. This fact may lead to start a relation.

International competitions also decrease diplomatic tensions between nations. Most


people are patriotic and have great love of their countries. They often search for an
occasion to express their patriotic emotions. Sometimes, those people encourage the
governments to compete in weaponry and armaments. In many cases, this fact causes
political tension between countries. However, an international occasion is an ideal
opportunity for people to express their patriotic emotions in a safe way. As a result, it
reduces political tensions between nations.

In conclusion, an international sports event leads to a closer friendship between people,


and is a perfect opportunity for nations to establish diplomatic relations. It is also a great
chance for patriotic people to express their emotions in a peaceful way. I wish those
people were optimistic enough to consider the plus sides of the football World Cup.
*************************************************************
This essay is not powerful. I personally dislike it. However, I don't know what to write.
Thank you for reading.

I am looking forwards to hearing from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 7 June 2010

behnam June 7th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you today? I hope you are having a good day. Thank you for the useful
information.

So sorry to hear that the Zayanderood river is going to get dry. I hope the government
takes responsibility for solving this serious problem.

Dear Mohsen, although my mother tongue is Azerbaijani and I love it, I speak Farsi very
well. My accent is not Azerbaijani at all. It will be difficult for you to realize if I am an
Azerbaijani or someone from Tehran! :):):):) You should notice carefully to realize. :):):)
When I get angry it will be easy for people to recognize my real nationality. :):):):)

Elham is from Najaf Abad, I know, but I prefer to ask my questions from men.
:):):):)LOOOL

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 7 June 2010

behnam June 7th 2010


Hi Anna,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for the reply.

It is essential to have some dreams in childhoods, because dreams show us the directions
we should follow. They are like guidelines. They energize us, because we always try to
achieve them. However, sometimes, we try our bets, but we don't achieve them. In other
words, our dreams don't come true. Maybe, the dreams are not realistic. In such cases,
we should not feel disappointed in ourselves. It happens to everybody.
The important matter is trying hard to achieve our goals. It doesn't matter if a goal is too
big to achieve. Goals and dreams give us a sense of direction. This is very important.

Unfortunately, I have not been to the country of inventions yet. I hope to visit China in
the future. This is one of my biggest dreams. Surely, it will be an honour to meet you and
other Chinese friends like Cathy.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 7 June 2010

Wendy Zhou June 7th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Wellcome back!!!!!. So nice to see you again, my tutor.


Thank you for your invitation. I have accepted it to be a friend of yours.

How was your life during your absence? Were there any interseting things happened?
Would you please tell us if you have any time?

How jealous I am when I know you will have a long holiday in London! I dream to go to
european countries to experience different life and culture, but there is no opportunity for
me.

A little luck for me, we will have a trip in Inner Mongolia for six days. I am so excited
and can't wait for it. I have dreamt that I
rode a horse, runing on the large grassland. I looked powerful and heroic. :))))

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best wishes to you


Wendy

Wendy Zhou June 7th 2010


Dear Andrew,

How are you? I hope everything is well with you.

As I have told Verinoca, I will go to Inner Mongolia for a pleasant trip. A part of this trip
is to have a look at ???????????, (a Russian town very near to China) from a long
distance. (Please forgive me if I write wrong name of the town in Russian). So I think it
will be the moment we are in very short distance. I would like to know which city you live
in. :)))
Have a good day.
Best regards
Wendy

Wendy Zhou June 7th 2010


Dear Andrew,

I an sorry it cannot show Russian words on this website. I try to write it in English. It
looks like 3ABAHKAJIbCK. Please don't care about it if it brings you a little bit of
trouble.
Sorry for that again.
Wendy

Andrew June 7th 2010


Hello Behnam,

In my opinion the Grammar and sentence structure part of your text is good as always. I
repeat that I can't judge about it because I am sure that editor job is a field of
professionals.

To understand why you are not satsfied by your essay ask yourself, do you really believe
in what you have written. Sometimes people can't be frank because they just have an
obligation do speak on the subject which is not actually related to them.
And let me ask you are you a football fan yourself? I am not, and I have never been at a
single match.
However, I watch them by chance on TV and sometimes I see some headlines like "Ten
Were Hospitalized After Mass Fight Between Football Fans Yesterday". Thanks God I
don't live near the stadium.

But we don't chose what to write about when we study. We are just given a subject and
have to do our job as good as possible. Come on, you do it all right!

Just let me give you an advice: nobody can make you to write things that MUST be
written. Don't afraid to revolt against a routine.

All the best,


Andrew
Andrew June 7th 2010
Dear Wendy, I see your post, just must be off. I'll be back soon and promise to respond at
once:)

Andrew
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behnam June 7th 2010


Hi my old friend Andrew,

Thank you very much for reading my essay. You are absolutely right.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 7 June 2010

Andrew June 7th 2010


Hello Wendy,

You are very inventive:) It wasn't easy to guess how to write that name
(3ABAHKAJIbCK) that it almost looked like been written in Cyrillic. Especially good is
'JIb' which is very similar (by the form) with Russian 'soft L'. I wonder if such carefulness
doesn't go back to a peculiarity of Chinese writing!:))
I would personally put I in spite of H in order to avoid confusion because English letter
H is Russian N and " I " would be good because it is in use in Ukranian.
And of course there is no way to chose right image for Russian B - there is no equivalent
for it in Latin.

From the point of view of a distance, for you it would be no much difference either to go
to my place (which is Saint-Petersburg) from Zabaikalsk or, say, from Beijin - in both
cases it is about 5200 kilometers:))

I must say that I have no idea is there, in Zabaikalsk something interesting to look at. All
that I know that it is a small town or rather urban settlement and railway junction.
So maybe it will be you who tell me about that place some time?:)

Best wishes,
Andrew
dentistebru June 7th 2010
Hello Behnam how are you? I hope you are fine.

I read your essay you are really good at writing.I liked it.But unfourtunately sometimes
international games raise political tension instead of reducing it. And sometimes matches
cause fights as Andrew says

But finally I think it was successful

Hope to hearing from you soon


Ebru

dentistebru June 7th 2010


Hi Kamelia, how are you lovely girl? I hope you are fine

I had an exam today again and I have 7 more but these 7 exams are not difficult as olds. I
hope I could pass it they have not declared yet.Thanks for your good wishes.

Thanks for your introducing yourself. To know you made me happy;):)

Hope to hearing from you soon.


Best wishes..
Ebru

behnam June 8th 2010


Hi Ebru,

How are you? I hope you are enjoying every minute of your life. Thank you so much for
reading my essays.

What you have said about the last essay is absolutely right. However, as a rule, when it
comes to writing an essay, an individual should not agree and disagree with something.
She or he should only agree or disagree. If she or he agrees, she or he has to give
reasons and support her or his ideas. The same is true for the case if she or he disagrees.

In the last essay, I have agreed with international sport events. Therefore, I had to give
reasons and support my idea. It is not acceptable to agree with something and to write
something negative about it. Every body knows that international games sometimes
create violence and tension rather than peace and friendship, but these are on the minus
side of the subject.

In writing a good essay, you are free to agree or to disagree. The examiners won't say;
"What a bad candidate! What a negative person! What an unfair person! What a stupid
candidate!" They are trained to judge on our abilities in writing. They do not judge about
our personalities. They mark our essays in terms of technical factors.

However, as dear Andrew has pointed out, it is very important to have a strong belief and
a deep faith in our judgment, because it helps us write powerfully.

Thank you once again for reading my essays and putting comments.

I hope to here from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 June 2010

behnam June 8th 2010


Dear Friends,

I am writing to inform you that I am taking part in a 'reading course'. It has started since
Monday (yesterday), and It will continued for 3 weeks. I have to do some homework, so
unfortunately I won't take time to write essays as regularly as I did in the last week. I love
writing, and I will write again. I have promised to make this thread the center of five-
paragraph-essays in the world. I will keep my promise.

However, this month I will be busy with the reading course and its homework. Next
month I will take part in a 'listening course'. It seems that I will be involved in the
courses. However, it doesn't mean that Behnam will stop writing essays. Never! I will
write, but the rate of posts will be lower than before.

Thank you for reading, encouraging, and motivating.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 June 2010

Andrew June 8th 2010


Hello Behnam,

Just before you dive into your reading course, may I ask you to describe in short how it
will be going?
What will it be you are to read, papers, books, texts?
How much pages will you have to read, say, a day?
And of course, how you'll be examed?

Thanks in advance,
Andrew

sahand June 8th 2010


Dear Behnam

You've got a busy life man ... seems like we are all taking turns for having a messy month.

May I ask you a question ? Are you going to migrate or something ?!

Sincerely;
Sahand

behnam June 8th 2010


Dear friends,

How life is going? I hope you are happy and healthy.


***************************************************************
"Many young people nowadays graduate from schools with negative attitude. Why do you
think this happens? What can be done to solve or reduce this problem?"
********************************************************************
This topic has been asked candidates to write an essay about in IELTS tests in Australia,
Malaysia and Brunei ? May 2010 (Academic Module).

I will write about it very soon.

Would you please help me with it? The majority of people in this thread are students.
Therefore, they can you give me a clue?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 June 2010
behnam June 8th 2010
Hi Andrew,

How are you? I hope you are fine. Thank you for the question.

Picture this: Andrew is jogging in a park. He gets tired and decides to get some rest.
There is a bench in the park. A beautiful lady is sitting on the bench and reading
newspaper. Andrew sits beside her. He is curious about the news in the newspaper. In
particular, he peeps and sees something about the price of oil. He requests the lady to
give the newspaper to have a quick look at it. After looking at the newspaper for a few
seconds, he gives it back to her! The lady surprisingly asks;" Did you read the
newspaper?" Andrew answers;" No. There is no need to read the newspapers word for
word. A quick look was enough for me to get what you need!"

What is it? It is a reading skill. Reading is an art, it requires some skills . I am taking
part in this course to learn those skills.

I hope that helps.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 June 2010
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behnam June 8th 2010
Dear Andrew,

What a nice expression! 'To dive into something'. Thank you!


It must be:...A quick look was enough for me to get what I need. Sorry.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 June 2010

metzean June 8th 2010

Shove up Andrew, let me sit here for a minute ,I was joggling , what are reading ? what
!!!!Why cats never brush their teeth ,but have no decayed tooth?

behnam June 8th 2010


Hi Sahand,

How are things? I hope all is well with you.

Thank you for the question. Your question is exactly what the teacher asked me
yesterday! I answered; "I love the English language. I am learning it for fun!" This
answer didn't satisfy his curiosity, so I had to add; "I haven't got any plans to immigrate.
I'd rather not speak about it." I said this sentence and smiled while my eye contact was
complete. It is a good policy to answer people seriously with a smile, since a smile has
good impression. It disarms people! :):):):):):):):) LOOOL

Joking aside, the main reason is love for the English language. It is like sowing wheat.
We often sow wheat in order to obtain food(bread) for ourselves, but chaff, which is
animals' food, will be obtained automatically.

Don't worry. Nothing will happen. This thread will be shining as always.

Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 June 2010

Bluegreen June 8th 2010


Dear Behnam, Ebru and all the other lovely friends here,

Hello there. How are you all doing? I really wish that you're not having busy days as I
do! I've really missed you all but unfortunatly there's no time for me to catch here up!

I really cannot keep in touch these days because I've been snowed under a whole bunch
of tests. Most of them are hard. Actually the content is not hard but the book is as thick as
a tree bough!
For example there is this vocabulary test which I to study about three books for passing
it!
Dear Behnam, I really wish to make some time to read your beautiful essays but all in all
I know that they are as organized and well-structured as before.

Dear Ebru,thank you for reading my post, wish me luck in my tests and expect me to wish
it back for you LOOOL

Dear Friends, I'll be finishing my exams non 29th of Khordad. I haven't got any calender
to turn the date to the foreign one. I wish that Dear Behnam could do it for me.

Hope to see you all soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
sahand June 8th 2010
Dear Behnam

How is it hanging out there ?

I wonder why I'm always making questions that were asked before !

Ooh ... you don't wanna talk about it, sorry for asking ! :D

I wish you success in your courses. (yekam az in chizaii ke yad migirio be man ham yad
bede :D)

Sincerely;
Sahand

Veronicaho June 8th 2010


Hi Wendy,

I saying the same as you....so nice to see you again!!! Long time ago.
I really hope you are fine.

I have been busy with work and study, thats why I'm not being here for a long time but I
have missed all of you.

Whole february me and my family spend in Thailand and Malaysia and it was really nice.
In that time it was Chines New Year and many chines was there and we celebrate it with
them. Was nice and not as we are used with.

In mars, april and may I had a lot of new work. I have been a teacher at University here
and teaching students who are going to be nurses. It was very nice and I liked it a
lot,...but, Oh my God how much work it was before.

Here we have summer now and it is around 15 - 20 degrese. I like it much. It is so


beautiful and light outside. We have no nights at all :) Sun going up at 04 in the morning
and down 22 in the evening. I really feel how much energy I get every day...and I need it!

Today my youngest daughter Hanna got summer holiday from shool and she start again
in the middle of august.

I'm jealous on you! You have to visit Mongolia.......that is a dream for me. I should really
want to visit that country. I hope you will tell me about it. When are you going there?
What more have happened in your life?

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Wendy Zhou June 9th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Thank you for your reply!

I have to say that Inner Mongolia is one part of China. It's different from Mongolia, but
anyway they are beside each other and must have the same scenery. :)))
My trip will begin from 24th to 29th of July. It will be a nice season there because it
won't be very hot in the summer. I will let you know everything about the trip as soon as I
can.

Here I am waiting for summer coming earlier. You know, all the french people working
in Shanghai will take their holidays, so we can relax in the office. How joyful it is! Now
life is as usual, to and from work, catching a metro in a hurry, hoping to match with boss
more and more closly, boring but sometimes exciting. For example, last month, my
grandmother came to visit me and stay at my home now, so she can help me to do some
cleaning and cook for me. I am happy with that.

I am impatient for your writing.

Best regards,
Wendy

Andrew June 9th 2010


Thank you Behnam,

for your so metaphoric explanation:)


So the second part of your course is fast reading?
It is exactly the thing I'm not good at (though the speed of my typing is even worse). Well,
it comes to be interesting. I believe we can hope you to share all the secrets about that
subject in the future?

All the best,


Andrew
Andrew June 9th 2010
Nice glasses Mohsen!

Cats never brush their teeth because the structure of their fore limbs makes that option
unavailable for them.
Unfortunately, the uniqueness of human hand has played bad trick to it's owner - A Man
must do a lot of things like brushing teeth, having a work, driving a car, buying
monstrous amount of various unnecessary devices that is a TV, a PC, a blowtorch and a
saxophone (and therefore, to waste his life time to obtain that stuff, to learn playing it
and eventually to throw it out as a garbage.

No, cats are much more happy than we are. Maybe they secretely suffer from inability to
use toothbrush but they definitely have never said me about it.
I'm not sure do they care or not but I personally think that they like milk so much because
it helps to keep their teeth white and clean. It's a kind of compensatory facility.
I'd like to be a cat...having a good SLAVE (we mistakingly call ourselves masters of our
pets and it is wrong! Have hands? So work for your cat!)

Andrew
P.S. as to GPS, a cab driver has told me recently that he use car navigator while
gathering mushrooms at the forest and even marks some points on the map in order to get
more mushrooms next time:))))))))

behnam June 10th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you? I hope all is well with you.

Thank you for the post. It seems you are busy with the final exams. I wish you success.

Good luck with exams.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 9 June 2010
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behnam June 10th 2010
Hi Sahand,

Many thanks for the reply. How are things? I hope you are in a good mood.

Come on humble man! Your English is excellent. I have nothing to teach you. In fact, I
am learning from you. Please be generous to teach me. My English is not good. I am
trying hard, but the results are disappointing. I have forgotten my spoken English
completely, because I didn't speak to anybody for a long time.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 June 2010

behnam June 10th 2010


Hi Andrew,

Thanks a million for the posts. How life is going? What about the weather in your city?
How about the daytime? How long is it in spring and summer?

OK. I will write whatever I learn from the class.

Hope to read your love;y posts soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 June 2010

metzean June 10th 2010


you welcome Andrew,

I have lack of very stuff like my black cat playing a saxophone when she is sitting on the
wall, or when she is going to eat a piece of meat ,she come to kitchen ,curve the meat into
small pieces ,coated them in flour and season them with spices ,and put in hot olive oiled
pan, thanks God for giving her the disability of using her mind and hands to do this.

But Mashghazanfar ,a person from a village ,I know him well, has an old dog who has
lost all of its teeth ,so he decided to kill the poor dog, because the dog couldn't care about
his farm animal.but the old dog has been lucked out till now ,as Mashghazanfar 's wife
deter him from his decision?.. she told him "I like the old dog ,it is a safe non teeth -lived
toy that our child play with " ,so Mashghazanfar surrendered to his master!!
Human being use the device for his purpose, now if Mashghazanfar marked the point on
the map when he buried a treasure many years ago and used GPS ,he would not have to
dig 100 holes in his area and being a frustrated treasure haunter ..

have a good day


Mohsen

behnam June 10th 2010


Dear friends,

How are you doing? I hope you are fine.

Here is my essay. Please read it and make comments. Thanks.


********************************************************************
"Many young people nowadays graduate from schools with negative attitude. Why do you
think this happens? What can be done to solve or reduce this problem?"

Today is the first day of school, and Gorge is standing in the first queue in the
schoolyard. There are many parallel lines of students in the schoolyard. Gorge counts the
lines, and thinks about years that he has to come to the school. He asks himself; 'when
will I graduate and what will I do after graduating?' He does not know the answers. The
uncertain future makes him worried and disappointed. Many school graduates have
negative feelings and opinions about education. People give different reasons for this
fact. It seems some major reasons are unemployment in the society, long duration of
education, and indolence of new generation.

For one thing, the rising unemployment rate makes young people have negative attitude
towards education. Statistics show that, in 1994, the unemployment rate for high school
graduates not enrolled in college was 36 percent, but in 2004, it was 43 percent. This fact
results in an uncertain future, and it makes students disappointed. They give up hope of
finding a job in the future. They often blame education system, and think it has been a
waste of time to study at school.

Secondly, because of rapid developments in science and technology, the length of time it
takes for a student to graduate is too long. It is very laborious and time-consuming,
studying to get a degree--which is a sheet of paper. For example, it, nowadays, takes
about 25 years to study and become a lecturer, or a specialist. It means that an individual
has to spend one-third of his or her life on studying at schools and universities to get a
doctorate. Therefore, many young people believe that it is not worth wasting their time on
studying.

Finally, new generations are lazy. In the past people were hard working, but, nowadays,
people are indolent. Besides, they are impatient as well. They have no patience with
studying and trying hard. Nowadays, people want an instant success, without making
enough efforts and attempts. For example, they want to have a Mercedes immediately.
These unrealistic expectations make them have negative attitude.

In conclusion, because of less success in finding a job, spending too much time at schools
and universities to get a degree, and being indolent, young people have negative attitudes
towards education. This problem can be resolved by providing different job opportunities
for graduates, by giving great recognition and respect to people who have spend their
lives on developing science and technology. However, the boy of the story, Gorge, should
learn to be patient, because everything comes to those who wait.
********************************************************************

Thank you for reading. I am waiting for your comments.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 June 2010

reena June 10th 2010


Hello Behnam

This is reena from India. You might have forgotten me. But some time back I was a
member of your awesome thread. It's great to read the posts of your thread. All the
friends write here are really very good in English and I find myself weaker to write
something in English.

But to be honest, I never miss a single day to read all the post from your thread. Infect I
think I am addicted to your thread .I learn a lot from all the post that are being posted
here everyday. Of late, your five paragraph essays are rocking. They are simple to
understand even for a weak and new learner like me. Congratulations.

Though most of the friends don't know me here but I know all of you as I read
all your post . I enjoy all your post and would be happy to be the part of your circle.

Thanks for reading


Reena
10 June 2010

sahand June 10th 2010


Dear Behnam

Ooooh No ! Don't say that ...


You know Behanm, in my very own opinion; you struggle with a problem everyday. It
takes you a long time to finish your posts, essays or whatever ... . (chon vaghti esmet too
recent visits dide mishe, taghriban 3,4 saat bad matneto post mikoni, maybe it's not a
good reson) Honestly, you have the ability to write down a super sophisticated essay in
half an hour. But why don't you try to make it, for example 10 minutes ?! It may be hard
for the first time but once you find your voice, it's as easy as chewing gum. Just move
your fingers while you think.

And another point, you work on different parts one after the other. That's the only reason
you've forgotten how to speak ! Try them all at once. Trust Me and do it ! :D

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely;
Sahand

Bluegreen June 10th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you? Thank you for understanding me. That is really nice of you.

Before this busy houres happen to me I really didn't know what it literally means to be
busy ! Or being snowed under some sort of things LOOOL
But now I somehow understand it by all means!
Today (Thursday) I had an absolutely hard exam called " Essentian Skill". Oh dear, this
little joyful book just irks me.
I'm really happy that it passed, but here's my feeling; Just before the exam I thought of
passing the test and then feeling relieved but NOW I am just thinking of my grade
LOOOL
Because the professor hadn't told us how the exam will be. I mean she didn't mention that
whther it would be objective or subjective and I had spent 3 days and nights to just
memorize some contents and then the test was objective and OH GOD!

You know, the book is a sort which you're never gonna kno which parts are of any value
or are more important than others because it is a kind of hand book to help you around
the university. But they take tests out of it and it's miserable in my point of view!

Oh I just paseted some of your essays to my word pad document here so I'm going to read
them tonight.
Actually tonight is a kind of resting night for me because my next exam is on Monday and
I still I have three days a head.By the way it's grammar exam! And I'm sure you're quite
familiar with the book called Modern english! Parts of speech!
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

alukard June 10th 2010


Hello to everybody and specially to behnam who is the person who write more often here.

I find very interesting the topics which you write about. Is a good way to promote us to
comment your post and continue writting continuously.

I am new here and I would like to answer your post more often and I'll try to improve it.
But thats for sure that I can't follow the same rhythm than you. Other problem I found is
that like there are some many people writting at the same time, if someone can't enter in
2 o 3 days it's difficult to can answer all of them. But on the other hand is good a high
participation.

Some days ago behnam asked me what I develop. I think that just saying that I work as a
developer It would be clear but maybe it is a too general word, so I would try to make it
clear. I work as a computer ingenier developing applications, so If you need some help
with this field ask me ;)

Behnam also asked my about my name, it is Andres, but in Spain we write it with an
accent on the e but you can callme Andres or maybe better for my nick alukard in order
distinghish with Andrew.

Have a nice day!!!!

behnam June 10th 2010


Hi friends,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for reading my essays. The next
topic is this:

"Some people think that modern inventions have brought more problems that benefits. Do
you agree or disagree? Explain."

This topic has been asked candidates to write about in IELTS test in Latvia and Albania-
June 2010 (General Training).
I hope to hear from you soon.

All the bets,


Behnam, 10 June 2010

behnam June 11th 2010


Hi Reena,

How are you? Long time no see! I hope you are happy and healthy. Thank you very much
for reading the posts in this thread. I know you very well, and I am sure other friends
know you well too.

I have heard that Indian people can speak English very well. Is it true? Can you speak
English fluently? How did you learn it?

Please take time to write regularly. I really love reading your posts. I hope to hear from
you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 June 2010
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behnam June 11th 2010


Hi Sahand,

How are you doing? I hope you are in a good mood. Thank you so much for putting
comment.

You are right and wrong.

You are right, because I often struggle to write an essay. It is very hard for me to write it.
Sometimes, I have no ideas. Sometimes, I have no words and sentence. Writing is very
difficult.

You are wrong, because I often write essays in Microsoft word, then copy and paste them
to the thread. I often don't stay in the thread, for a long time. You are also wrong,
because it takes me two days to finish writing an essay, not four hours, or something like
that.:):):):):):):):):)

In a real IELTS exam, candidates are given 40 minutes to write an essay. I am improving
on essay writing, because in the past, it took me one week to write an essay. These days,
it takes two days, and I hope in the future, it will take 40 minutes. :):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 June 2010

behnam June 11th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Many thanks for the post. It made me happy.

I am familiar with exams, worries about the results, and its happiness and sadness. I wish
you success. I hope you will post at least 10 posts a day, after finishing the final exams.
:):):)

In Tehran, the capital of Iran, the weather is very hot now. It was really boiling
yesterday. Today, I have to fix the air conditioner.

Good luck with the Grammar exam. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 June 2010

behnam June 11th 2010


Hi Andres,

How are things? I hope everything is going well with you. Thanks a million for the post
and the information.

Andres, your English is excellent. How did you learn it? Have you ever been to England?

What does 'computer developer' mean? Could you make it clearer?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 June 2010

Andrew June 11th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I suspect that some commas in your texts don't take the right position. Maybe there are
too much of them. You know, English is very cautious about commas:) Of course I can't
say that for sure. Did somebody else say you about it?

Best wishes,
Andrew

behnam June 11th 2010


Hi Andrew,

How are you my old friend? I hope all is well with you.

Thank you very much for the question. No! Nobody has objected. However, I am quite
familiar with the usage of comma in the English language. There are some rules, and I
often try to observe them. If there is something wrong, or even confusing, please address
the places completely and clearly (the places that using comma has made the sentences
complicated). Using comma, generally, gives a chance to the reader to stop and take a
rest. Wherever and whenever you doubt if you should use comma or not, use it! :):):):)

Dear Andrew, please answer the questions which I have asked in my previous post to
you.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 June 2010

alukard June 11th 2010


Hi to everybody!

No, i have never live in a country different from mine. But it would be a dream for me,
but I think it is a dream that never would come true.

But who knows maybe for work I will have to travel to other countries.

No no my english is not good, I can comunicate with others about whatever topic, but I
still make many mistakes. I have learn in academy and with material from internet.
specially from the webpage of the bbc, from the web of two american brothers
(china232), from vaughan systems...and some more resources. If someone is interested I
can send him the info. I don't want to become an spammer XD

About the topic of the comas, I usually put the comas in the same way that I use it in
spanish. But maybe I am also wrong putting them in the correct place. But behnam don't
worry to much about it. Your essays are quite clear.

Take care!

Andrew June 11th 2010


Hello Behnam,

To answer your questions:

My life is messy. The weather is fine in S-Petersburg.


The daylight duration is 18h39min for today.
It was 16h48m at May,11, 14h11m at April,11 and 11h23 at March,11.

So, your goal is to torture me to death asking about the daylight time and making me to
do a research on the subject once and once again??

Ok, I believe you know what you do while putting so many commas in your posts.
Nevertheles, I'd write "For example, NOWADAYS IT takes about 25 years to study and
become a lecturer, or a specialist." (two commas less- economy of signs promotes fluence
of speech:))

All the best,


Andrew

reena June 11th 2010


Hi Behnam,

I am fine, thanks. And thanks too for recognizing me.


Yes, you are right that Indian people are good in English but I am not one of them. I am
still learning and I suppose, it's a continuous process. When you are not a native speaker
you try to learn without a single mistake and that's what happening with me too. I always
think if I am learning something I should try my level best to learn with for most
perfection, though it is not possible. Some or other time you make a mistake.

Anyways I can speak English but I can't say that I am fluent in it. I am still learning and
everyday I find something new to learn.

And how I learn it? To be frank I did all my schooling in our national language but when
I was in 10 th standard , someone asked me something in English, at that time I
understood what he asked me but I couldn't answer. That day onwards I decided to learn
this beautiful language. And I try to learn it with whatever sources available to me like
English institutions, newspaper, television and now computer.

But honestly you are great in your writings. I think it's a god gift to you and I am not
exaggerating. I can say that because I have read some of your older post when you
started writing here, they are as good as your today's post. Have you taken some kind of
classes for writing or do you write professionally? How do you find yourself in spoken
English? I know that I am asking a stupid question if you write well so you must be good
in spoken English but I want to hear from you. At least it made you write something for
me and I would be pleased to hear from you.

Thanking you for reading my post and made you a little bore.

Reena
11June, 2010

p.s. please ignore my commas and other punctuation as I am too weak in that.

metzean June 11th 2010


Hi alukard,

Your picture is Subasa, a famous football player ,do you like playing football , it is 15
past 7 and it is half time between South Africa and Mexico ,do you follow world football
soccer championship, how is the Spain national team ,what do you think about Spain
ranking position in this rally ?

Have a good day,


mohsen

behnam June 11th 2010


Hi Andrew,

How are you? I hope you are fine. Thanks for the answers.

Your life is messy! What exactly do you mean by saying that? Why did you describe your
life with this word, messy?

About 19 hours the daytime duration! That's really terrible. I prefer equality--12 hours
nighttime, and 12 hours daytime. That's better and fair.
I rarely speak English, so I don't care about fluency in speaking. :):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 June 2010
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behnam June 11th 2010


Hi Andres,

How are you? I hope you are fine. Thanks for the post.

That's easy for you to take travel to other countries, because they are close to Spain, and
your country is a member of the European Union. Therefore, by spending some money
you can easily make your dreams come true. Why don't you try to make a journey to other
counties?

Your English is excellent. It doesn't mean that you are in the end of learning process.
There is always room for improvement. You communicate effectively.

There is a Spanish lady in this thread. Her name is Rosa. She is an English teacher. You
can ask her to help you with English.

Thank you for giving some information about the websites. I often visit
www.bbclearningenglish.com. That's a powerful site.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 June 2010

behnam June 11th 2010


Hi Reena,

How are you? I hope you are fine. Thanks for the lovely post.

Thank you very much for praising me. That is very kind of you.

To tell you the truth, I love the English language. I have always been one of the top
students in all classes. I clearly remember when I was in high school, my friends used to
give me chocolates or postcards to translate their letters from Farsi into English. At that
time, it was common for young people to have some pen friends from other countries.
They used to write to each other in English.

I was a student in the first grade of high school that I wrote the first letter to the Football
federation of Germany, and asked for the photos of German Football players. I still have
those photos in my photo album. Some famous football players, such as Shomakher,
Mattias, Fuler, etc. have signed at the back of the photos.

At that time, I also wrote a letter to NASA and asked for the pictures of the solar system.
They sent some good pictures of the solar system. I have written many letters to different
universities, companies, etc. and asked for information and catalog. Nowadays, we often
use email, but in the past, we used to put pen to paper! :):):):)

I hate boasting, but I am good at writing letters in Farsi too. People often ask me for
some advice on writing different letters.

I was a self-learner, but last month I took part in a writing course. It was great. Last
month, I also studied at least 20 books about writing. My ultimate goal is getting a good
mark in IELTS exam. After taking the exam, I will continue writing, but in a different way
with different policy.

My spoken English is not satisfying. At least, I am not satisfied with it. My friends often
tell me that my spoken English is very good, but I don't believe them, because I don't have
belief in myself. I often speak without hesitation, and can understand people. I also can
easily make myself understood . However, I am dissatisfied with it.

I took part in a speaking course two months ago. I was the best student in the class.
Once, I was complaining about my spoken English. The teacher said, "Your English is
very good, but you are looking for perfection. Being a perfectionism is not good." The
teacher was wrong. I know what I am doing. :):):):):):)

Thank you very much for reading. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 June 2010

behnam June 12th 2010


Hi friends,

How are you today? I hope you are having a good day. Here is my essay on modern
inventions:
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"Some people think that modern inventions have brought more problems than benefits.
Do you agree or disagree? Explain."

Some people are pessimistic about modern inventions. They believe the disadvantages of
modern inventions outweigh their advantages. However, they are wrong. As far as I am
concerned, modern inventions have brought some great benefits. They have
revolutionised communications, lengthened the life expectancy, and improved the quality
of life.

For one thing, what has happened in communications is extremely exciting. Modern
inventions have changed the ways of sending and receiving information. For example,
nowadays, people use computers and the Internet to send emails, to chat with friends,
and to work from home. They have also enabled people to use railways and airplanes to
travel safely and carry goods easily. Obviously, these facilities have brought people some
comfort.

Modern inventions have also made life expectancy longer. A recent study has shown that
the length of time that a person is expected to live is 80 years. However, fifty years ago, it
was 70 years. The study has said that a 14% increase in the life expectancy is because of
healthy and comfortable lifestyle that modern inventions have brought people.

Finally, modern inventions have improved the quality of life. Last year, I had terrible
toothache. My wisdom tooth was decayed; therefore, I went to visit a dentist. The dentist
said I had to have that tooth extracted. The tooth was destroyed, so I wanted the dentist
to extract it. He injected some drug into the tooth. After a few minutes, he wanted me to
open my mouth widely and keep it open. A few seconds later, he told me to leave the
surgery. I could not believe, because I did not feel any pain. I came home and told the
story to my parents. They said in the past, while the dentist was extracting a tooth,
someone had to keep the patient steady, because it was very painful to have a tooth
extracted, without using any painkillers!

To sum up, modern inventions have significantly affected our lives. Revolution in
communications, increase in life expectancy, and improvement in the quality of life are
only a few simple examples. People should know that modern inventions have brought
more benefits than problems.
********************************************************************

Thank you for reading. You should know, your criticism, praise, and comment do help me
with improvement in writing. Therefore, never stop criticising, praising, and making
comment. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 June 2010
reena June 12th 2010
Hi Behnam,

How are you doing? I am in my best mood, thanks.

And if I am praising you, so you definitely deserve that. I don't praise people easily.

So you were the best student of your class. And even at that time you were good in
English means you got a good atmosphere at home and at school that I suppose to be a
reason of your excellent grip and command over English.

Did you also have pen friends at that time? And if you had, are you still in their contacts?

If I am not mistaken, you are a football fan right. So you are going to watch all football
matches. By the way, which is your favorite team or whom do you want to win?

. My goodness, you go through 20 books on English writing in a month. That's great; I


can't complete even a single book in 20 days. I know that you are going to get good
marks in IELTS exam and I can say that without a second thought. All the luck for that.
My best wishes for you.

It's good that you are not satisfied with your spoken English because once you are
satisfied you prevent or stop yourself from progressing. I do believe in the same policy.
And I always say to me, Reena Don't say that you are perfect in this or that because once
you said that the other moment you'll find someone better than you.

Thanks for reading

Reena
12 June 2010

behnam June 12th 2010


Hi friends,

How are you doing? I hope all is well with you. The next topic will be:

"When a country develops its technology, the traditional skills and ways of life die out. It
is pointless to try and keep them alive. To what extent do you agree or disagree with this
opinion?"
I will write and post my essay about this topic very soon.

I hope to hear some clues from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 June 2010

behnam June 12th 2010


Hi Reena,

How are things? I hope everything is going well with you. Many thanks for the friendly
post.

I feel honoured to be praised by you. That's very kind of you.

To be honest, I had three pen friends from three different countries. At the moment, I'm
not in contact with them.

I am not interested in football anymore. I don't watch football games. I believe football is
a total waste of time and money.

I'm a bookworm. I love reading books. I often read books which are related to the subject
I am working on.

What you have written about being satisfied is absolutely right. To be satisfied with
something means to give up doing it. Your point was nice.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 June 2010

frankstern June 13th 2010


Hi Behman:
I'm interested in your subject about the sides effects of technology. You say that:
"When a country develops its technology, the traditional skills and ways of life die out"
Is it really true? Could you give explain a little more your point?
Regards
behnam June 13th 2010
Dear friends,

How life is going? I hope you are happy and healthy. Here is my essay about the
mentioned topic:
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"When a country develops its technology, the traditional skills and ways of life die out. It
is pointless to try and keep them alive. To what extent do you agree or disagree with this
opinion?"

Some people believe that modern technology has a bad effect on culture and traditional
skills. They are against new technology, and they often say that it spoils conventional
ways of life. Those people strongly believe that traditional skills and ways of life should
be kept alive. They are, however, wrong. As far as I am concerned, it is worthless to keep
conventional ways of life and conservative skills alive, because they are not useful,
efficient, and dynamic.

For one thing, conventional skills and ways of life are not useful. They do not fulfill our
needs. For instance, In the Neolithic, human beings used to live in caves and hunt
animals with stones. They were very skillful at making tools and weapons from stones.
Although those skills and ways of life are traditional, they are not suitable for modern
life; because we are not living in caves. Briefly, those old skills do not match modernity.
Therefore, we should not keep them alive.

For another, people who rely on conventional skills have low levels of efficiency and
productivity. They are not productive, because those skills are not economical and
efficient. Once, I wanted a famous and skillful shoemaker to make a pair of shoes for me.
After measuring my feet, he said the shoes would be ready in two weeks! After two weeks,
I went to the shoe shop to pay money and take the shoes. I worn the shoes to check if they
fitted me or not. The shoes were not the right size for my feet. In fact, one shoe-- the right
one--was smaller than my foot. I complained about it, but the shoemaker said my foot
would loosen the shoe! He charged me a big amount of money. However, I could not
wear the shoes, because they were too tight. It seems that making shoes by relying on old
skills results in tightness or looseness!

Finally, conventional skills and methods of life are static. According to science, the
change and evolution of nature is inevitable. However, traditional skills and methods of
life are not in harmony with the universe. They are not dynamic; therefore, they do not
lead to any developments.

In conclusion, it is pointless to keep old methods and skills alive, because they are
useless, inefficient, and static. They do not result in progression and improvement. Those
pessimistic people should know that by sticking to some traditional skills, it is quite
impossible to fulfil basic needs for community.
*********************************************************************
Thank you for the time you spent on reading this essay. I would welcome your
corrections, comments, suggestions, and criticisms with open arms.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 June 2010

behnam June 13th 2010


Hi Frankstern,

Thank you so much for joining us. Welcome to this thread.

I am terribly sorry, but it wasn't my topic. In an IELTS exam, that topic has been give
candidates to write about. However, it was easy for me to disagree, and to support my
idea. I did it. Please read the essay and make a comment.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 June 2010

behnam June 13th 2010


Hi friends,

The next topic is this:

"In many countries children are engaged in some kind of paid work. Some people regard
this as completely wrong, while others consider it as valuable work experience, important
for learning and taking responsibility. What are your opinions on this?"

I will write an essay on this topic very soon.

Looking forwards to your clues.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 June 2010
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Andrew June 13th 2010
Dear Behnam,

so you believe that any civilization with all it's efficiency and ugly gadgets hit the row to
Paradise, not opposite side?:)

rahaa110 June 13th 2010


Hi Behnam
I'm rahaa.30 years old and new member of this site.
I graduated in english translation. my reading and writing is good , my listening isn't bad
but my speaking .... . I'm here for it. I read all of your new post. your english is excellent.

behnam June 13th 2010


Hi Andrew,

How are things? I hope all is well with you. Thanks for the post, but unfortunately I didn't
get your point. Would you mind writing it in a simple way?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 June 2010

behnam June 13th 2010


Hi Rahaa,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you very much for joining
us. Welcome to this thread. Thank you once again for praising me.

My spoken English is not good. I have to practise speaking, because I need it. However, it
is not easy to find someone who is interested in speaking English.

I hope we will help each other improve our language skills. In fact, I hope you will help
me with the English language. :):):):)

Would you please give us a little bit more information about yourself?

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 13 June 2010

Andrew June 13th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Do you believe that any civilization develop and never degrade?


I can hardly say it even more simple :):):):):):):):)

metzean June 13th 2010


Dear Behnam,

In the past when there were no phone or internet ,people met each other face to face, at
that time families met each other at their houses ,so there was more compassionate and
intimacy between people ,but nowadays families are become like stranger to each other.
There was also less engines working and less air pollution in past, but nowadays we are
living in the sea of pollution. We are also surrendered by dangerous waves and rays. Our
foods are being produced by hormonal systems,and many many other reasons that the
modren technologys are being manipulated in a wrong way.

These are some idea for negative pionts of modern technology.


B.Wishes,
Mohsen

metzean June 13th 2010


Dear Behnam,

In the past when there were no phone or internet ,people met each other face to face, at
that time families met each other at their houses ,so there was more compassionate and
intimacy between people ,but nowadays families are become like stranger to each other.
There was also less engines working and less air pollution in past, but nowadays we are
living in the sea of pollution. We are also surrendered by dangerous waves and rays. Our
foods are being produced by hormonal systems,and many many other reasons that the
modren technologys are being manipulated in a wrong way.
These are some idea for negative pionts of modern technology.
B.Wishes,
Mohsen

Andrew June 13th 2010


Yes, I meant something like that, cap:) And after all, imagine how that "Homo
Technological" will survive after some global enegety failure. My guess is that THAT
'homo' will not survive.

thell June 13th 2010


Hi everyone?

Here I am again finally. I?m stella an old member of this thread, hoping that you still
remember me my dear friend Behnam. I was unable to send messages in this thread in a
long time due to low internet connection to the place I used to live before. I really missed
everyone in here, all your writings guys are really fantastic and the topics are very
interesting. I?d like to congratulate you Behnam for the successful thread that you?ve
founded in this site?you are absolutely amazing and brilliant man. By the way I?m not
staying in Dubai anymore. I moved here in UK last February to study and at the same
time to work as well. Honestly its hard to stay in here coz the cost of living is high, apart
from that I?ve got lots of difficulties in speaking with the locals here, I find their accent
more difficult to understand. They are talking too fast that I get lost most of the time. I?m
really trying to get used to it and wishing that someday I could speak with them fluently
and confidently. Would you please help me to sort this out, give me some tips, links, name
of a books that can help me to improve my English language. I would be so grateful for
all the help that you can provide me. Thanks a lot.

All the best,


Stella

wylivan June 14th 2010


Hi, I'm Ivan, a 23-years -old boy, coming from China. I'm a college student, majoring in
english. I come here in hopes of making friends with you and improving my english. I
hope we can make progress together and have fun together. Looking forward to being
your friend. My e-mail: ivan0524@yahoo.cn
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metzean June 14th 2010
Dear Andrew,

I was working with me spade under the sun, ploughing the small garden in the yard , the
garden always is a tinderbox area ,my wife and I have different ideas over it ,after a
discussion we reached to uneasy truce for hour . She insisted that I have to plant a new
series of flowers ,but I am going to plant tomato. Finally I pretended that I was ailing
and my condition was worsening, "Look at my frail body and have a mercy on me" I told
her .. she said nothing.. maybe she would recoil from her idea..!!
Mohsen

behnam June 14th 2010


Dear Andrew,

How are you today? I hope you are extremely happy. I hope your happiness is greater
than yesterday, and everyday it increases.:):):):) How much happy will you be after one
year? Nobody knows! It's mind-blowing. :):):):)

Thank you very much for the tricky question. Yes, exactly! I believe human beings are
improving their skills. It is obvious if we notice the history carefully.

Hope to hear from you more.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 June 2010

behnam June 14th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope you are having a good day. Many thanks for the comment.

You are absolutely right. However, I preferred to agree with skills development. I tried to
look at the issue from this angle, although this angle is narrow. If we look at it from a
wider angle, we will observe many facts.

As I have mentioned before, in writing exam, we are allowed to lie! :):):):) It is better to
be on the safe side, and a safe side is the side that you can support it. :):):):):)
Hope to hear from you more.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 June 2010

behnam June 14th 2010


Hi Stella,

Welcome back! You have got a special place in my heart and mind. I will never forget
you.

How life is going? I hope you are happy and healthy. Congratulations on living in the
UK. Where exactly are you living? I mean which city in the UK.

In answer to your request, I should say that there is a nice proverb in Azerbaijani
language and culture. When a famous person ask for respect, or when a rich person ask
for help, etc. they say 'Rains come down from sky to the Earth.' Now, you are living in the
center of the English language. Therefore, you are supposed to help us. :):):):):)

I am in a hurry, so I have to dash quickly. I think making friends with different people,
being involved in their culture, and taking part in social activities will help you with the
English language. Don't be shy! Don't be shy! Don't be shy! Try to be exposed to different
situations.

We will write again, won't we?:):):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 14 June 2010

Clare June 14th 2010


Hi Stella

Welcome back! I agree - it's sometimes difficult to understand English people because
they can have strong accents.

You can say something like "Sorry, can you say that again, please" to ask the person to
repeat what they just said, but don't worry about it too much. The longer you stay there,
the easier it will become to understand the local accent. Whereabouts are you in the UK?

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam June 14th 2010


Hi Ivan,

Thank you so much for joining us. Welcome to this thread. We are all here to improve
our language skills. Please do not hesitate to write in this thread. I am sure, you will
make the atmosphere of the thread lovelier.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 June 2010

Bluegreen June 14th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? I wish you the best in everything you do.

How's Tehran these days? Quite busy huh? How about the weather? Is it hot there too?

Dear Friend, today we had a grammar exam and that was some sort of hard. I really
don't know if it was like this for other people or no but I really felt like I was depressed
after this exam.
After this one we have a reading exam on saturday which is going to be taken by a
professor who has been studying for 10 years in Edinburg college and ...Oh god, I can
predict what sort of exam this last one's gonna be!
Please pray for me.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen June 14th 2010


Dear All Newcomers,

Hello to all the newcomers. How are you? I really wish lovely days for you in this
upcoming summer.

I wanted to warmly welcome you. I've been writing in here for a while but these days I'm
in my examination period and it's really hard to write in here and to you all.

This is Kamelia. 19 years old. I'm in the freshment year of English Literture. Please do
not hesitate to write to me.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

thell June 14th 2010


Good day Behnam and Clare,

Im doing good...thank you. how are you there? Thanks for a very nice piece of advise,
however I can?t stop the feelings of shyness while speaking. I?m afraid to commit any
mistakes or saying improper terms during the conversation. I?m really trying to
overcome this but still it comes up when I started talking(poor stella). And the fact that
some English language here are different from what I?ve known even some of the
spellings are changed. What shall I do to know everything about it. Another thing which
really kills my brain is their expressions, coz I find them hard to understand. In this case,
everytime the conversation ends, I used to asked my friend over the phone about the
meaning of those expressions they have mentioned. Then I would found out that it has just
a simple meaning. In this moment I?m trying to look any kinds of books that will help me
understand English easily and speak automatically with no hesitation at all. Hoping that
I can successfully achieve this goal.

By the way I?m staying here in London near to the place of our school and work.

Cheers,
Stella

behnam June 15th 2010


Hi Stella,

How are you today? I hope you are fine. Thanks for the post.

Could you please give me an example of expressions? If you give me an example, I will
tell you what you can do. There are many books, just let me know what exactly you mean.

Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 June 2010
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rahaa110 June 15th 2010


Hi freinds and Behnam
I work at a office in Tehran. usually we invite foreign guests twice in a year . I know this
is a best chance for speaking but my problem is this that I can't communicate with them. I
understand them but I can't continue speaking. I really want to learn speaking. in fact I'm
afraid speaking. every night I see a film just for improve my language But I can't
overpower my fear of speaking.
what can I do?

behnam June 15th 2010


Dear friends,

How are things? I hope everything is going well with you. Here is my essay:

*********************************************************************
"In many countries children are engaged in some kind of paid work. Some people regard
this as completely wrong, while others consider it as valuable work experience, important
for learning and taking responsibility. What are your opinions on this?"
Some people say children should work to gain some experience of the world of work.
They believe work experience is important for learning and taking responsibility.
However, they are too optimistic about the positive effects of work on kids' lives. In my
opinion, it is wrong to make children become involved in paid work, because it
contributes to privation, leads to cruelty, and results in child abuse.

Involvement in work, in a way, prevents kids from developing personality, because they
spend less time playing. According to some biologists, playing with peers evolves into
build big brains; therefore, it makes children intelligent. In addition, it makes kids
develop the skills they will need in the future. However, becoming involved in paid work
ends to privation for children.
Engagement in work also makes children suffer from inequality of opportunity. Children,
who work, often lose the chance of receiving high education. They may become skilled
workers, but there is little chance of them becoming specialist in a particular subject.
There were two boys in our neighbourhood. For some reasons, one of them was working.
Therefore, he had to go to evening classes. He could not go to university, because it was
hard for him to deal with problems. The other one spent his time in studying. Finally, he
could go to university, and became a lawyer. Obviously, one of the biggest cruelties is
giving unequal opportunity to children.

Finally, participation in work makes kids suffer from verbal and physical abuse.
Children, who work, encounter serious problems in workplaces. According to a recent
reports released by Children Rights Agency (CRA), about 85% of children suffer from
child abuse in workplaces. The report also says that more than 40% of children are
sexually abused in workplaces. Those children should be called 'victims of work'.

To sum up, work is considered a sacred activity, which benefits the whole community.
However, engagement in work causes some problems for children. It stops children from
developing their personalities. It is also cruel to them, and leads to child abuse. People
should know that children need to gain some skills and knowledge from educating rather
than work.
*******************************************************************

Thank you for reading. I dislike this essay! I tried to make it better, but I couldn't.

As always, your suggestions, comments, and criticisms will shed light on the path. Please
do not hesitate to make comments.

Looking frowards to hearing from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 June 2010

behnam June 15th 2010


Dear Rahaa,

How are you? I hope you are fine.

There is only one solution for your problem: Try to speak to Behnam! :):):):):):):):)
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL Hahahahaha heheheheheheheeh jejejejejejeje

You haven't got enough self-confidence, so you should try your best to gain some self-
confidence. Unfortunately, self-confidence cannot be bought from the market. You need
someone to encourage and motivate you, in a way, to make you have belief and faith in
your ability and capability.

Do not speak to women, because they often feel jealous of each other. They will
discourage you from practising speaking. Try to speak to the opposite sex. According to
my experience, there is always a hidden attraction between opposite sexes. This
attraction results in encouragement and positive effects. It is like a powerful motor. Don't
you believe it? Well, have a go! :):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 June 2010

behnam June 15th 2010


Hi Stella,

Come on! I didn't notice carefully, because it was early morning! Even Winston
Churchill, the greatest lover of the English language, had some difficulties in making
himself understood, or in understanding people on phone. :):):):):)

Try to use facial expressions and body language. It means you should expose yourself to
different situations in the real life. One of the best ways is making friends with native
speakers. In particular, making friends with the opposite sex does help! :):):):):)

Today, the solution of any problems is the opposite sex! :):):):):) I am, maybe, in my
naughty mood. Please forgive me.:):):):)

Have fun!

All the best,


Behnam, 15 June 2010

behnam June 15th 2010


Dear friends,

Here is the next topic:

"Not many young people living in rural areas have access to university education.
Universities should make it easier for people from rural areas. To what extent do you
agree or disagree with this statement?"

This topic has been asked candidates to write about in IELTS test in Singapore and
Thailand -- July 2010 (Academic Module).

Hope to hear some clues from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 June 2010

rahaa110 June 15th 2010


Hi Behnam
thanks alot. you solved my problem completely.:)))) yes I need must speak with Behnam.
of course if he accept me as a friend.
"Do not speak to women, because they often feel jealous of each other". it was very
interesting. unfortunately you're right.

and about your topic. Is it for discussion?

behnam June 15th 2010


Hi Rahaa,

Because of being very famous for his sense of humour, you should stand in a long line to
speak to Behnam! :):):):):):)

Yes, mysteriously the opposite sex helps his or her partner to improve, but the same sex
causes problems! It is a tricky way of creating the universe! How intelligent God is!

The topic is for discussion. I often write a five-paragraph essay about every topic. I will
post the essay on this topic very soon.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 June 2010

P.S. Do not hesitate to speak to me at: you.believeme@yahoo.com

P.P.S. I was joking. Ladies often give me the cold shoulder.(Yani, kasi Behnam ra tahvil
nemigirad! :):):):):))

metzean June 15th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I have been told to go out on a limb to have a job when I was a child ,so I was a shop boy
all my summer times and work in different shops, the owner of the shops were different
,some of them rendered me the self confidence but the others were libertine and their
behavior and words could kill my life terribly stone dead.It was my fortune that I left
them very soon before I was saturate by abusive words and was not abused as well. I
generally confirm your idea about paid work children.

All the best,


Mohsen

behnam June 16th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you today? I hope you are in a good mood. Many thanks for the post.

You have judged about my idea. That's OK. How about my English? Mohsen, please
correct my essays, and judge about them in terms of the English language.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 June 2010

rahaa110 June 16th 2010


Hi
Your topic about children work was very good. Why you don't like it?
I read it. Your writing is very well and you do all rule of writing. well done.
My brothers always work in summer. It was good for their future. Now they are very
successful in their job, social communication and every aspects of their life.
I think it directly depended on one's family.
I will back again to talk about your next topic. Now I must back to my work. Actually I
am at office now.:)))
have a good time.
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behnam June 16th 2010


Dear friends,

How are you keeping? I hope you are fine. Here is my essay:
********************************************************************
"Not many young people living in rural areas have access to university education.
Universities should make it easier for people from rural areas. To what extent do you
agree or disagree with this statement?"

Some people believe that universities are not responsible for difficult access to university
education. Those people, however, are wrong. Many young people, who live in the
countryside and villages, have not easy access to university education. As far as I am
concerned, universities should make it easier for people from the country, by online
training through the Internet, teaching through television, and opening new branches.

Universities should use the Internet to teach students. Nowadays, almost all people have
easy access to the Net. Therefore, universities can upload lessons and programs, and
students can download them from the Internet. The students can email in case they have
questions. By doing so, people who have difficulty in access to high education centers,
have the chance of studying without attending colleges.

Universities should also use television for teaching students. In this case, a professor
lectures; television broadcasts the program, and students watch television when their
lessons are broadcasting. The students can use telephone in case they have questions. By
using television, they do not have to attend classes and obey their rules.

Finally, universities should open new branches in different places. Old and famous
universities are often in the centre of big cities. Because of heavy traffic and long
distance, students often have difficulty in attending their classes. Universities ought to
establish new centers in rural areas. This will bring students some comfort.

In conclusion, it is difficult for young people, who are living in the country, to go to
colleges and receive higher education. Besides opining new branches in small cities,
universities should make use of television and the Internet to facilitate education. When it
is difficult for students to access to university education, universities should pursue new
policies to overcome the difficulty.
********************************************************************

Thank you for reading. Looking forwards to correction and comment.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 June 2010

behnam June 16th 2010


Hi friends,

The next topic is;

"Improvements in health, education, and trade are essential for the development of
poorer nations. However, the governments of richer nations should take more
responsibility for helping the poorer nations in such areas. To what extant do you agree
or disagree with this opinion?"

I think this is a good topic. I will post my essay soon.

Hope to receive some clues from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 June 2010

behnam June 16th 2010


Hi Rahaa,

How are you? I hope you have fun.

Thanks a million for the post. You are absolutely right.

My last two essays are not satisfying. I am not satisfied with them. In particular, the last
one (University education) is boring. First, I decided to disagree with that opinion. I
found it difficult to give reasons. Finally, I agreed. I gave three reasons, but both reasons
and my supports are not powerful. However, communication has been done. I think
people have understood what I have been saying in the essay. That's important. Although
the reasons were 'abdugh khiyari'(very simple and weak), communication was not broken
down. It is crucially important to keep communication going. Thankfully, I have done it.
:):):):):):)

Awaiting your posts.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 June 2010

gongyeboa June 16th 2010


hi ,behnam
I am boa ,from China .I don't agree with you .I think that things will not happen in my
country ,I am very young .but I have many work experience ,and I also learn english .I
love english .I feel your essay's point are not very important ,not very useful in my views
.sorry .my english are not good as well.so I want to improve ,I am the beginner in the
forum .here nice yo meet you !

behnam June 16th 2010


Hi Boa,

Thank you very much for criticising. Welcome to this thread.

You are absolutely right. My ideas were not useful. They are not important at all. Take it
easy.

Your English is very good. I hope we will help each other to improve our language skills.

Would you please let us know a little bit more about you?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 June 2010

thell June 16th 2010


Dear Behnam,

How are you doing? I Hope you?re always in good health and in a happy mood.
Regarding to your question, some British expressions I?ve recalled are ?going for a ball
of chalk down the frog and toad.{going for a walk down the road}the bees knees( the
best), when I get back I'll make a nice cup of Rosie lee {tea}. Isn?t it hard to understand
those terms in conversation, is it. They are very conditioned to use those terms in talking
with somebody even it could bring some confusions to their receipients. Anyway I know
that it?s me who needs to make an adjustment. I have to discover many unfamiliar
terminologies from the native speakers through involving myself with them. That's what
my friend Behnam told me making friends particularly with my opposite sex coz they?re
giving more solutions to the problems. Well lucky me coz the first opposite sex of mine
I?ve been approached so far about my problem was Behnam so I?m expecting to
receiving loads of solutions from him till I sort these out :) And I?ll try to mingled with
the locals here to continuously improve my speaking ability.

Thank you.
Stella
behnam June 17th 2010
Hi Stella,

How are things? I hope all is well with you. Thanks for the post.

I don't know why those people say 'toad' instead of 'road', 'chalk' instead of 'walk', 'lee'
instead of 'tea', etc. It seems that they aren't neither slang, nor idioms! I have nothing to
say just 'God bless'!:):):):):)

Sometimes, I think the British are playing chess, and all people in the world are its pieces
(the elements).

It seems there is no book about such unusual things. Listen to radio and watch television!
Don't be sad, because what you don't know isn't because of your shortcomings or
something like that. It is because of lack of rule. 'There is always an exception for every
rule', but when it comes to the English language exceptions are much more than rules!

There is a lot of freedom, when there is no rules! Change the spelling and the
pronunciation of words in a way that you like. If people don't understand you, laugh at
them and confidently say, "Excuse me. Why aren't you familiar with your own
language?" :):):):):)

Enjoy speaking! Have fun. Take it easy.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 June 2010

gongyeboa June 17th 2010


HI ,behnam
I am still a student ,I have an english exam on June 20,but I ever worked before ,I know a
lot of things ,I like Japanese ,because my sister 's major is Japanese ,and my best friend
.so somethimes I will learn the Japanese too.I know a couple of words ,if my english is
completely good ,I will learn Japanese after.The finally exam will begin July ,oh ,I think I
have a lot of things to do .I need to improve my english ,then pass the PEST.little by little
.I must succeed.but really hard ,you know learn english is hard ?

gongyeboa June 17th 2010


hi ,behnam
It's me agian ,yes ,I read some your essay in your past just now,to be honestly ,I want to
tell that I feel your english is right not very good ,and you also said your english are not
good ,i agree with you .why I say that.because I used to read the english novel ,I find that
there are something different in your essay.I mean the structure, just a first feeling
,Andrew was right ,yeah ,there are some comma in your essays.I tell you that my english
also not good ,I'm honest.I can imagine if it is a good article there must a lot of
understanding you don't know .and maybe a lot of people don't know where they should
stop ,then comma.because they don't know the structure of a sentence .you know native
speakers don't learn the grammar .they don't know why everyone say that .and they use
slang .just take easy ,don't very serious.write what you want to say .Even there are the
mistakes .as long as we can understand .It's okay .I just to tell you that there are really
something mistake in your essays.I remember there are about two essays I can't
understand clearly.but I forget where two essay are now .I suggest you could read some
english novels .That very useful.I read the word with all the sentence .if I don't know that
word ,you can guess first .It is very helpful .thank you for read my post .

behnam June 17th 2010


Hi Boa,

How are you? I hope you are fine. Thank you for giving your opinion about my essays.

Only a real friend will tell you that your face is dirty! You are my real friend. My English
is not good. I cannot deny it. Thank you for informing me. However, your English is
rather good. How did you learn it? It seems you have been learning English for many
years.

I am terribly sorry, but I didn't mean to write in a confusing way. Actually, I have tried
my best to write as simple and easy as possible. Sorry for making many mistakes.

You have exams in July. Good luck with the exams.

Thank you once again for telling me the truth.I will try to follow your advice. I really love
your frankness.

Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 June 2010
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dentistebru June 17th 2010
Hi Kamelia
How are you my sweet friend ? I hope you are fine.

Have your exams finished? I hope you will passed them successfully. I think it is very
hard to study lesson in this hot weathers, isnt it?What is the weather like in Iran?

hope to hearing from you soon


Ebru

dentistebru June 17th 2010


Hello Behnam
How are you? I hope you are fine
You were studying IELTS , werent you? When is it? Good luck in your exam I believe you
will pass easily and successfully because I see you are studying hard for this.

Best wishes
Ebru

Natiq June 17th 2010


Salam..hello..my name is Natiq..I'm from Azerbaijan and i want to learn english.i'm
going to give exam in august from IELTS ,but i'm not sure from my knowledge.i hope this
site will help me

Bluegreen June 17th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? How's everything with you? I hope all is well.
These days the pressure's decreasing a bit and I'm feeling more comfortable now so I can
get to read these pages more often.
As a habit of mine, I usually go through every piece of post and try to catch them all
because all of them are unique in style and innovation. It has always been a favorite
hobby of mine to read all the comments posted for a certain weblog or site. I wonder if
you know the reason. Well In my opinion every single person is life log of a whole lot of
experiences and I think these creatures when start to talk, they pour out their minds on
the paper; therefore, there are always new and interesting things you witness. Now I
wonderful if you agree with me or not!
Today I was reading your posts and I came across amazingly funny suggestions
LOOOOL. Like the one you had given to Dear Friend, Raha, I'd never ever seen you
offering these suggestions. Now I'm not saying whether it was true or false but i suddenly
got shocked while I was laughing my heart out. It was really interesting because I
suddenly recalled those young boys who ironically say something and...
This was just my opinion and nothing more than that.
Dear Behnam, we actually passed 4 exams and there's still one left. I'm really not so sure
about the results but I really wish to have higher grades because I've tried my best this
semester; however, there were some times which I really felt tired and wanted to do
nothing except sit back and relax!
All in all I really wish that you pray for me because I need it.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Clare June 17th 2010


Stella and Behnam
The strange ways of saying things (frog and toad = road; Rosie Lee = tea) are examples
of Cockney rhyming slang. Pretty soon you get the hang of it as there aren't too many of
them. The idea is to work out what rhymes with the last word. The problem is that the
phrase is often abbreviated to the first (non-rhyming) word, so you have no idea what the
person means - i.e. the person says "a nice cup of Rosie". Just ask - the person will
probably be delighted to tell you what the expression is!

Behnam: I love your image of English being like the game of chess!
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Bluegreen June 17th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hello there. How are you my nice dentist friend? Long time no see. Where you busy with
exams like me?

I missed you so much.I wish to see you more often.

Honey, about your last question, I shall say that I have still one more exam waiting for
me and that's the Reading and Comprehension exam! I really wonder if you could pray
for me.

The reading exam doesn't seem that much hard because you always think of some
readings and then the multiple choice questions and then over! But that's not it ! As long
as you have the comprehension questions you won't survive. LOOOL

Well, let's hope that I will pass this one better then before.

Oh by the way, how about you? have you finished exams? How were they?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Veronicaho June 17th 2010


Hi All of you,

Back from London! We had a lovely travel 5 days and we saw a lot.

We saw Big Ben, Buckingham Palace, Trefalgar, Picadilly Circus. We walk through
Hyde Park which was full of plants and flowers...so beautiful. Nobody can understand
that you are in a big city when you walking here. You think you are on the country. It's
guite and people sitting in the grass with coffe, children play and birds singing...

One day we visited Harrod's whitch is a very nice and expensive department store. We
bought just different tea there but it's nice to see it.

An other day we visited London Dungeon which is a scary, historical, educational


attraction about London. From 1600 when London burned, diseases like plaque
came...Our children really liked it!

We have eaten a lot of delicious food from Lebanon, Italian, Thai and England and drank
wine in the English pubs. What feeling it was at the pub when England and USA play
football..Everybody look at the match, spoke to each other, drank bear and the whole
athmosphere was wonderful!

Our children was going with the big London Eye, 130 meters high...but me and my friend
was waiting down.
In the evening we was shopping. Oh my God to go with my daughter Hanna for shopping
in London..:))) She found a lot for her and I find just a dress and shoes...But we had fun!

I have an old friend in London and he was picked up us the day we was going home to the
airport. Before we went to airport we visited Windsor and the old castle there. What nice
city. Old and small city with real English houses and Themsen floating through the city.
Here I caming next. It's just 30 minutes from London by train. Clare, I'm sure you have
been here and know exactly what I meaning..

Today I'm free from my work and I just sitting on my stairs and a little sunbathing, with a
cup of coffee in my hand...dreaming me back to London...

I really hope all of you are fine and enjoying your time!

All the best Veronica

Veronicaho June 17th 2010


Oh I forgot, we was at the musical of Mamma Mia too...I have never seen something like
this. It was so good and the music wonderful!

Veronica

behnam June 18th 2010


Hi Ebru,

How are you doing? I hope you are healthy and happy. I intend to take exam in
December, but I am not sure. I have to study more, because I need to score more than 7
out of 9.

How about you? Did you finish exams? Have you made any plans for summer?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 June 2010

behnam June 18th 2010


Hi Natiq,

Khoshgalmisiz! Welcome to this thread. Thank you very much for putting message. Your
English is very good. I am sure you will pass the exam successfully, and will score highly.

Would you please give us a little bit more information about yourself?
Please do not hesitate to write in this thread, because it will help you to improve writing
skills.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the bets,


Behnam, 18 June 2010
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behnam June 18th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Long time no see! How are you keeping? I hope all is well with you. Thank you so much
for the lovely post. I really enjoyed reading it.

The weather is scorching. The sky is not blue. The air is not clean. The traffic is heavy.

I'm not pessimistic, but they are some facts in Tehran.

Dear Kamelia, you are young girl, therefore, you don't know that men are like children,
no matter how old they are. They never grow up emotionally. Do not blame me! :):):):)

I do agree with you. There is a canal from our minds to paper. What we write flow
through this canal.:):):)

You have passed four exams successfully. I am sure you will pass the last one too. You
are gradually becoming a specialist in the English language. It means we have to change
our way of speaking to you! :):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 June 2010

behnam June 18th 2010


Hi Clare,

How are things? I hope all is well with you. Thanks for explanation.

I love your love for my analogies!:):):):):)


Hope to hear from you more.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 June 2010

behnam June 18th 2010


Hi Veronica,

Long time no see! How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. How about
your family? Give my best regards to them.

The report about your trip to London was fantastic. I really enjoyed reading it. You have
made significant progress in writing. You have improved your skills. Good for you. It
seems that being five days in London is much more important and effective than studying
continuously for five years!

Please take time to write regularly in the thread. I really love your posts. Apart from
learning, they make me happy.

I hope to hear more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 June 2010

behnam June 18th 2010


Dear friends,

I clearly remember the first time I saw two people were playing chess. Thinking what
were those silly men doing, I stared at them and at the chessboard for a long time. I
started searching for the reasons of those silly men's actions. I realised there were some
rules, and those men had been following them. After a while, I found it fascinating,
therefore, I became interested in playing chess.

Without knowing the rules of a game, we will not enjoy watching or playing it. Writing is
not an exception. In the first place, we should learn the rules of writing. Otherwise, we
will not enjoy reading or writing.

Last month, I read at least twenty books about writing. Each book was focused on
particular things, because the interests of the writers were different. I would like to write
chapter 26, extracted from 'The Practical Writer With Readings' by Edward P. Bailey
and Philip A. Powell.
It should be mentioned that this chapter is telling us where 'commas' should be used.It is
a text book. This chapter is very weak, If we consider the rules of five--paragraph--essay
writing. However, it is not an essay. It is only a chapter of a text book.

Anyway, here is chapter 26, Comma:


********************************************************
Chapter 26
Comma

This chapter presents the nine most important uses of the comma (,).

1- Use comma after every item in a series except the last one.
Example: The ethics of contemporary surgery are often a problem for the patient, the
doctor, and the patient's family.

You probably already knew to put comma after the first item (patient in this case), but
why do you need one after the next--to--last item (doctor)? Consider this example:

Example: The ethics of contemporary surgery are often a problem for the patient, the
doctor and the hospital board, and the patient's family.

Commas tell your readers that you are moving to the next item in a series. When you omit
a comma, you are telling them you are still in that same item--a compound item--so they
will not have to reread your sentence.

2- Use comma before a coordinating conjunction that joins two independent clauses.
Examples: I never liked parsnips, but my mother made me eat them.
She thought they were great, and she thought they would make me grow taller.

Note: Do not confuse a coordinating conjunction that joins two verbs with a coordinating
conjunction that joins two independent clauses:
The parsnips tasted awful and looked like paste.

The coordinating conjunction above is not preceded by a comma because it connects only
the two verbs (tasted and looked).

3- Use a comma after a dependent clause that begins a sentence.


Examples: Although Harriet tried as hard as she could, she could not win even a fun-run.
Because she could not run fast enough, she could not have the free T--shirt we awarded
to the first 200 runners to cross the finish line.

4- Use a comma after a long phrase that begins a sentence. The word 'long' is rather
vague, of course, but usually you will wish to place a comma after an introductory phrase
of three or more words.
Examples: Even after a grueling night of writing, I did not get the paper entirely finished.
Running to my next class, I tried to think of an excuse to give my professor.
5- Use a comma to set off any word, phrase, or clause that interrupts the flow of the
sentence. In other words, if you could set off a word or group of words with parentheses
but do not wish to, then set off that word or group of words with commas.
Examples: My excuse, wild as it was, did not sound convincing.
The class, together with the professor, turned their heads as I plowed into the classroom.
John, who has the seat next to mine, laughed at me as I sat.
The professor ignored me as he finished the course, "Freshman English for
Nonconformists."

Notice that interrupters in the middle of sentences have commas on both sides.

6- Use commas to set off nonrestrictive clauses. This rule is actually an expansion of rule
5, because all nonrestrictive clauses are interrupters. You may wonder, though, just what
restrictive and nonrestrictive clauses are.
A restrictive clause is essential to defining whatever it modifies. In the following example,
let's assume you have several brothers:

My brother who is wearing a red motorcycle helmet is meaner than I am.

The restrictive clause (who is wearing a red motorcycle helmet) is essential because it
tells us which of your several brothers is meaner than you are. It restricts the word
'brother' from any one of your brothers to the one wearing the helmet. If you left out the
restrictive clause, we would not know which brother you meant. You probably noticed
that these restrictive clauses are not interrupters and, therefore, are not set off with
commas.

A nonrestrictive clause is not essential in defining whatever it modifies. Since it is not


essential, you could omit it and everybody would still know who (or what) you are talking
about. Now let's assume that you have only one brother:

My brother, who is wearing a red motorcycle helmet, is meaner than I am.

Because you have only one brother, you could omit the nonrestrictive clause and still
make sense. The word modified--brother--is not limited in any way by the clause; it is
only described in more detail. In other words, without the clause we still know which
brother you are talking about. Set off these nonrestrictive clauses with commas.

7- Use a comma after a conjunctive adverb unless it is the last word in the sentence. This
rule applies no matter where the conjunctive adverb appears within the sentence.
Examples: The beautiful young princess kissed the frog. However, his lily pad started
sinking when she stepped on it.
The beautiful young princess kissed the frog; however, his lily pad started sinking when
she stepped on it.
The beautiful young princess kissed the frog; his lily pad, however, started sinking when
she stepped on it.
Note: If, as in the last example, the conjunctive adverb is in the middle of the independent
clause, it will have commas on both sides of it.

8- Use comma between coordinate adjectives unless they are joined by 'and'. Coordinate
adjectives are sets of adjectives that independently modify a noun.
Example: The bulldog is noted for its wrinkled, flattened face.

Both 'wrinkled' and 'flattened' modify face independently. That is not the case with
cumulative adjectives. When an adjective's modification is cumulative, it modifies not
only the noun but also the whole adjective--noun phrase it precedes.

Example: Alicia wore a red felt hat.

Here 'red' modifies not just 'hat' but the phrase 'felt hat'. Notice that no comma is used
with cumulative adjectives.

Distinguishing between coordinate and cumulative adjectives is not always simple.


However, because of the independence of coordinate adjectives, you can check for two
characteristics that help identify them.

a) Coordinate adjectives are reversible, whereas cumulative adjectives are not. That is,
'flattened, wrinkled face' works as well as 'wrinkled, flattened face'. On the other hand,
'felt red hat' just sounds foolish.
b) 'And' fits naturally between coordinate adjectives, but not between cumulative
adjectives. Thus, you could write 'wrinkled and flattened face' but not 'red and felt hat'.

Of course, modifier chains can include both coordinate and cumulative adjectives.
Example: The stands were full for the homecoming game even though it was a cold, rainy
autumn day.

'Cold' and 'rainy' are coordinate and are separated by a comma. However, both modify
'autumn day' rather than just 'day', so there is no comma after 'rainy'.

9- Use a comma to set off words in direct address. Words in direct address normally are
names but can be phrases used in place of names.
Examples: Kristina, have you washed the dishes?
Where are you going now, little sister?
You look charming, Alicia, wearing that red felt hat.

Notice that the word in direct address in the last example has commas on both sides
because it occurs in the middle of the sentence.
*****************************************************************

I hope that helps.


All the best,
Behnam, 18 June 2010

Natiq June 18th 2010


i'm 18 year old. i live in Baku. Although we were studying english from 5th class, it is
about 6 month that i started to work hardly on my English. In Azerbaijan i study in
Tourism Institute which demands excellent knowledge of different languages. It makes
this language important in my life as well. I also eager to visit different countries and
meet various cultures.I see here are a lot of people from all over the world. It is rather
interesting to read their messages an to see how does they feelling about different things.
i want point out that i am not sure on my english. that's wy if i have mistakes pleace tell
me (*.*)

metzean June 18th 2010


Dear Behnam,

The greatest disaster was happened in the Mexico Gulf and since one month ago the
amount of 40000 barrels of oil are pouring into the sea perday ,the biggest water
contamination in the history of discoveries , where are the UN and the organizations who
are responsible for protection of environment eco .they should held a meeting and clear it
that who is responsible of this criminal, although the damages are not irreparable .but
we should thanks God that these criminal or carelessness has not happen in one their
atomic sites. It is obvious that when they are not able to control a well ,what they do with
their reactors or atomic site if something happen there !!!!?
What do you think if he( the owner of BP) finally said " excuse me ,sorry!! the operator
was drunk and forget to put off the drill machine "

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

Veronicaho June 18th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

Long time since I heard from you :) How are you? I hope you are fine.
As you know I have been in London but what has you done? Would you please tell me
about it? No sailings with the ship :)))
Hope to hear from you soon...

Veronica

Veronicaho June 18th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Thanks a lot for what you wrote about my language skills. It gave me energy to continue
to learn!

Have I told you before that I would like to go to England for work? Yes... Yesterday I was
spoken to a women in England who hires nurses and she could give me job when I
wanted! I have to post my "paper" for registration and English Nurse licens s soon as
possible. Then it will take 3-6 months to get it and then . Yippie!!! :)))

She wanted me to go to one of Londons biggest hospital, St Thomas Hospital or Guy's


Hospital. I really like it. The shortest contract to stay was 3 months and thats great for
me.
So now I have a real reason to learn english really good. I will try to find people to speak
with at skype and maybe I ad in a newspaper that I search for a english friend to meet
and speak with.
I have also found online courses at University of Oregon that I will take.

What about you? I have seen that you too study english, tell me...what are your plans?
I hope you are fine and healty.

Let me hear from you soon,

Veronica

metzean June 19th 2010


Hi Veronica,

Thank you that you share us your travel log , I read it and enjoy it, you had an experience
in London before with cap and cook and every thing was easy for you. LOL

We have almost began our summer holiday , as all students are finishing their jobs and
many people start traveling to north of Iran ,the seaside and many beautiful mountainous
,jangle areas that we immerse in nature. I am ready to take my trip next week to the
seaside and then to the holy city of Mashad.
These days I am sick of watching football world cup, it is 11 pm that the last match starts
every day .( I think it starts at morning in Finland.) "watching the football match till the
late at night effects to your efficiency at work the next day" This is my boss's statement
,very day he told me. I don't know maybe I have some reduction in my next month salary
as I have a fix salary and some extra payment according to the efficiency which add to
our salary , this extra payment is paid exactly upon to my direct manager idea. Do you
have such a system in your payment?

B.W,
Mohsen

Clare June 19th 2010


Hi Veronica - great to see you back!

I know Windsor (it's not too far from my home town) but I prefer London! It sounds like
you had a great time there. I was also in London for the England-USA match. I couldn't
get over all the England flags on the houses and taxis. Unfortunately, England aren't
playing their best... But there's no better place than the pub for when you want to watch a
football match.

Good luck with your plans to work in London. I was staying with a friend who lives close
to Guy's Hospital - it's a wonderful area of London, though it can be a bit dangerous at
night.

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
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behnam June 19th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

Many thanks for sharing your concern with me. I don't know what to say, because I
rarely think about such issues. There are many imaginary events in the world with
disastrous effects on the whole lives on the earth. However, what can we do? We are not
decision makers in many cases.

Human beings will destroy the earth, and will make the life of mankind and other
creatures end. There is no doubt about it.
Once, someone asked Albert Einstein for the kind of weapons people will use to fight in
the Third World War. He answered, "I am not sure about the Third World War, but I am
sure the Forth World War will be fought with stone and arrow."

Dear Mohsen, do not worry, the entire universe has got a very powerful owner. He is
staring at people's actions carefully. He is very patient, and patience does not mean
absence. He will give us a good lesson by punishment. If he decides to punish, as he has
done according to what he has said in the holy Koran, nobody can get rid of his
punishment. "Sonnata man ghad arsalna men ghableka ala rosolena, va la tajedo
lesonnatena tahvila."

Hope to hear from you more.

All the best,


Behnam, 19 June 2010

behnam June 20th 2010


Dear friends,

How are you doing? I hope you are in good health and in a good mood.

Here is my essay on responsibility of rich countries:

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"Improvements in health, education, and trade are essential for the development of
poorer nations. However, the governments of richer nations should take more
responsibility for helping the poorer nations in such areas. To what extant do you agree
or disagree with this opinion?"

Some people ignore the fact that one creator has created all human beings. They do not
consider the human race together as a group, and often say richer countries have no
responsibility for development of poorer countries. Those people, however, are wrong. In
my opinion, richer nations should help the poorer nations to increase international trade,
provide education for children and adults, and improve health care.

Rich nations should not be mean. They ought to trade goods fairly with poor nations. For
example, they should buy row materials from poor countries at high price and sell them
machinery at cheaper price. In addition, they should invest money in poor countries'
economy, and appreciate the mutual exchange of benefits.

Wealthy countries should also contribute towards the provision of children and adults
education in needy countries. A recent report released by an agency has shown that
about 37% of children in poor nations cannot receive education. The report has said that
the lack of school in some villages is one of the main reasons for this high percentage. It
seems that school building in villages is a good strategy to reduce the level of illiteracy.

Finally, wealthy nations should help poor nations improve health care. Reliable statistics
show that 64% of people in needy countries are in poor health. According to some
experts, poor sanitation is a common problem in those nations. This problem is not only a
danger to those needy nations, but also threatens the life of all people in the world. It is a
global problem which needs a global response. Rich countries should play their roles in
improving standard of hygiene in poor countries.

To sum up, richer countries should contribute to development of life quality and standard
in poorer countries. They should try to narrow the gap between themselves and poor
nations. Those selfish people should know that all sons of Adam are created of one
essence.

**********************************************************************

Thank you for reading. I'd welcome your suggestions, criticisms, and corrections with
open arms.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 June 2010

rahaa110 June 20th 2010


Hi Behnam
the subject was interesting. you wrote about it very well. I think your opinion was
effective.
I think if rich countries don't help the poorer nations, it makes more emigration and it
will not be good for themselves. in fact their economy will be damaged.

juanca June 20th 2010


Great essay Behnam,

I think you are right, the ideal situation should be this.

But, sadly the richest countries aren't very interested in help the poorest ones. I think it's
simple: in this way, they ensure their own wealth...

In the other hand, a percentage of the poorest countrie's governments are corrupt. I think
this situation is a reality in a large number of countries, but it is more harmful in the
poorest countries. With this kind of government is very difficult increase all the social
indicators in the country: health, education...

Finally, I must say that I agree with you Behnam, rich countries have the key to improve
the level of the poorest ones.

Interesnting topic.

See you.

behnam June 20th 2010


Dear friends,

How life is going? Are you enjoying it? I hope so. I hope you are happy, wherever and
with whoever you are. I wish you inner peace and great happiness.

Thank you very much for reading my essays and making comments on them. Your
attention to my essays does motivate me to continue to write essays about different topics.
It really helps me improve my English. You are helping me directly and indirectly. Thank
you very much for all help and support.

The next topic is:

"Some people believe that children's leisure activities must be educational, otherwise
they are a complete waste of time. Do you agree or disagree? Give reasons for your
answer and include any relevant examples from your experience."

Please, as always, help me with posting some clues. I am looking forwards to receiving
your clues.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 June 2010

behnam June 20th 2010


Hi Raha,

Thank you very much for the point. It was very nice. It is another aspect of ignoring the
fact and widening the gap. When you are rich and your neighbour is poor, you can't sleep
well, because there are a lot of direct and indirect threats against your security and
safety. Indirect threat is like what you feel. If you are a human being, you will have
empathy and sympathy for a poor neighbour, otherwise, you don't belong to the human
race.
One direct threat can be considered jumping over the gate of your house and stealing
things. When your neighbour is hungry, he or she does not care about any rules. He or
she even does not care about the result of his or her action!

The world should be balanced, otherwise, it can't be a safe place to live! Some people
believe when there is gap, there is motivation, trying, movement, etc. In other words, they
say when there is gap, there is life. That is partly true, but we should always think of
narrowing the gap. Narrowing something does not necessarily mean omitting it.

If you want to enjoy speaking to your partner, try to make your partner as skillful (a
skillful speaker) as yourself, otherwise, you will widen the gap, and this will result in
bitterness. Do you know why? Well, let me tell you a story. Many years ago, I used to
play chess with a cousin of mine. We both used to enjoy playing it. Some time I won, and
other time I lost. Our abilities were balanced (=with a little difference). Once, I decided
to improve it. I read some books about playing chess, and I became a professional chess
player. One day, my cousin came to my home. As always, we took the chessboard and
flattened it on the floor. We also took two cushions and put them under our chests and lay
on the floor. We played chess, and I won, and won, and won. Finally, my cousin didn't
play chess with me anymore! I lost him and my enjoyment! Why? The reason is clear.
:):):):):)

Dear Raha, you should know, YOU is an imaginary person. I am speaking generally.
:):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 June 2010

hyj20042003 June 20th 2010


Dear behnam :
:)
I am from China. To be honest , I'd never heard this website before. Acutally , I just
enrolled my new account several hours ago. I am glad to be your new friend.

I have to say it's amazing that you have responded tremendous number of letters since
2007 to now. How can you do that ? Excellent work !!

I am preparing for my IELTS exam now. Bad word spelling, grammar and especially
speaking are all my weakness. Anyway I am working hard on it. But you may give some
advices, your helps are highly appreciated .
Best wishes
Sincerely yours

behnam June 20th 2010


Hi Juanca,

How is it going? I hope you are fine. thank you for the post. Thank you for the agreement.
:):):)

Spanish people are very kind. One of my best friends is Spanish.

There is a saying, or a proverb in the English language, 'One swallow does not make a
summer.' In Azerbaijani and Farsi languages, there are proverbs which mean the same.
Human beings are the same. They have got the same feelings.

Thank you for making comment.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 June 2010

behnam June 20th 2010


Hi Hyj,

Thank you very much for joining us. Welcome to this thread. I have intended to take
IELTS exam too. Have strong belief and deep faith in your ability. Practise regularly. I
am practising. Try to write in this thread. Writing will help you improve your skills.

Your English is excellent. I'm sure you will get a good mark, maybe 7 out of 9. For a
higher band, you should practise more.

If you have got any specific question, please specify it more. I hope to hear from you
soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 June 2010

metzean June 20th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Today morning I had a mission as my boss ordered me to go to a company to do some


affair, and on the way I took opportunity to read your essay on responsibility of rich
countries. It was excellent ,I read it two times and I couldn't find a mistake ,you get 9
from 9. But the text itself was funny ,how can you imagine that rich country help poor
country ,what an implausible expectation, you know the sentence that say when you see
the rich, there should be the poor beside it , it means that the rich was became rich by
exploitation of the poor. It is a clear example " what some rich countries are doing in our
neighbor poor countries". even if we look back to our history about 60 years ago A
British company which is called now PB ,loading per dayabout thousand of oil barrels
from oil wells in the south of Iran without giving us a penny in return.

You also mentioned in your post to me that God is patient ,but one day God will give a
lesson to the cruel people by punishment ,but I want add something that God will punish
the oppressed people as well if they don't fight against tyranny and oppression.Do you
believe it?

all the best,


Mohsen

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behnam June 23rd 2010


Fear Aphuong,

Welcome! Thank you for putting message in this thread. We all are learning English;
thank you once again for joining us.

Your English is very good; however, there is still room for improvement.

Unfortunately, I cannot take time to reply emails. I often receive about 20 emails a day
from different people. I have no time to answer them. However, I promise to answer your
posts on this site, in this thread.

Would you mind introducing yourself as completely as possible/

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010
behnam June 23rd 2010
Hi Aseman,

Welcome! Thank you for the message.

Dear Aseman, who is 25 from Iran, and who is happy to join us; thank you for being
happy to join us. Thank you so much for joining us. It seems that you are learning
English for PhD exam. Before taking PhD exam, you are supposed to have TOFEL or
IELTS certificate! Have you ever tried them?

Would you please let us know if you are a male or a female. I guess Aseman is a girl
name, although I haven't seen such a name yet. :):):):):) However, it is a nice name.
Besides, whereabouts in Iran?

Your English is rather good. I hope you pass the exam successfully.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010

behnam June 23rd 2010


Hi Reena,

How are things? I hope you are in a good mood, and good health. Thanks a million for
the post about families. It was fantastic. I love it. I love your reasons. You are right.

Your post helped me a lot. Thank you very much indeed. I will write my essay on the topic
very soon.

Hope to hear more about you.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010

behnam June 23rd 2010


Dear Veronica & Clare,

How are you doing? I hope everything is going well with you.
Dear Veronica, thank you for the question concerning propositions. I couldn't help you,
because I saw your post too late. I am terribly sorry.

Dear Clare, thank you for the answer. It was very helpful.

Hope to hear more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010

behnam June 23rd 2010


Dear Elham,

As far as I know, the summer came and the exam time finished.

The thread is like a garden and some people are like flowers in the garden, others are
gardeners. People who come and stay for a short time are like flowers; people who keep
this thread alive are gardeners.

Dear Elham, you are one of the biggest gardeners of this garden. You know how to grow
flowers. Apart from this fact, you have promised to write regularly in the thread, after
exam time. Don't you want to keep your promise?

I really have missed your thoughtful posts. I really loved your posts. Would you mind
spending some of your free time in this garden?

Is it possible for you to write something about the last topic 'family..."?

I am waiting for your post.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010

behnam June 23rd 2010


Dear Setayesh,

What I have written to Elham is correct about you too. :):):) I don't like to copy that post
and paste here.

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 23 June 2010

behnam June 23rd 2010


Dear Kamelia, Ghazal & Shanar,

A little bird flying in the grey sky of Tehran; out of breath, told me the exam time has
finished in Ferdowsi university. The bird also said students have gone to their
hometowns, so that the dormitory is empty! I love birds, and I trust them. I know that
what the bird has said is absolutely right.:):):):)

What are you doing on these long days? Would you mind spending some time with us?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010

rahaa110 June 23rd 2010


Hi Behnam and friends

Our long weekend will be start tommarrow :)))

about Behnam's topic:


I think technology is major reason in this problem. Computer, internet, kinds of computer
games? . these make a virtual world. At home,We prefer sit behind the computer desk and
enter the virtual world instead of speaking our family. Over time we take away from
eachother. Another reason is "women working". I think a housewife can manage a
family. If a woman is happy her family is happy too. But a tiered woman has not enough
energy to be happy. at the morning my husband , my son and I leave home. During the
day we don't see each other. when I come back home after 8 hour, I haven't enough
energy for my family. Usully my son have dinner very soon (and alone) because he must
wake up early in the morning then he must go to bed before 9 o'clock. Really I want to be
closer together. I try to play and read some book every night for my son but do you think
it is enough? IT IS REALITY OF OUR CENTURY WE HAVE NOT ENOUGH TIME.
Ali, my little boy, mam is sorry about it. forgive me please.

Rahaa
shokoufeh June 23rd 2010
hi
i'm shokoufeh.I recently met with this site.
and.......nothings.....
see you later ....
bye

gongyeboa June 23rd 2010


dear behnam,
Thank you I 'll be fine.About the weather here are not very hot in these days .because it
always cloudy.I know if the weather hot ,I think that will make you unhappy .so I hate go
out if it is hot .Thank god here is cool now .because he must move for me asking him
don't hot everyday .you can sign up in the effortless english club .Then you will receive
the email ,he send the video from email.
690

Veronicaho June 23rd 2010


Hi Clare,

Thank you very much!


You can not imagine what your help was worth :)
Hope you will have a nice day

Veronica

behnam June 23rd 2010


Hi Rahaa,

It was nice reading your post. Thank you very much for sharing your opinion about
families.

You are married, and you've got a son; Ali. Am I right? Nice name. What you have
written about modern life is right.

Your long weekend will start tomorrow. I understand what makes it long. Don't you want
to make it clear for people who are from other countries? :):):):)

Could you tell us what you are going to give your man (husband) as a 'Fathers' Day'
present? :)
Hope to hear more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010

behnam June 23rd 2010


Hi Shokufeh,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for putting message.

Your name means 'bud', when are you going to bloom? :):):) I'm only joking.

Would you give us a little bit more information about yourself?

Would you please write something instead of '....nothings....'? :):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010

behnam June 23rd 2010


Dear Boa,

Thanks for the reply. Would you let me know what the address of the site is?

All the best,


Behnam, 23 June 2010

gongyeboa June 23rd 2010


dear behnam.
www.effortlessenglishclub.com

shokoufeh June 23rd 2010


hi
i'm shokoufeh pourmohammad!!!!
Clare June 23rd 2010
Hi Behnam

Hmmm, don't be fooled! If you go to that site, and scroll down through all the promises
that you can learn to speak English without any effort, you get "when you buy my
effortless English program"... i.e. you need to spend money on it.

I think it's insulting to people's intelligence to say that all these years they've been
learning it wrong. Learning to use a language (whether you speak, write, read or listen to
it) takes time, effort, and practice. There's no magic bullet, and people who tell you
otherwise so that you buy something from them are what we call "snake oil salesmen".
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

aseman7 June 23rd 2010


hi behnam

I thank you message


Your guess is correct.aseman is female name. I read Masters. I have not tried for IELTS
or TOFEL. Because each university has own English exam for Phd.
the best wishes

dentistebru June 23rd 2010


Hello Behnam how are you? I hope you are fine

I read your essay.I completely agree with you. Children s leisure activities provide their
mental, physical, social and physicological progress.If we want to bring up a healty
child, we must give him/her in a balance.A child who had only educational activities, will
have a lot of problems such as making healty dialogues, working together with other
people etc...

Also children feels happy in leisure activity.I think this is the most important point
because if we want to bring up successful and healty person, firstly we must make him
/her happy. Happiness bring success together

your essay is really good.


sorry for mistakes in my post and making repetitions and being late
hope to hearing from you soon
Ebru

dentistebru June 23rd 2010


Hi Kamelia my lovely friend. How are you I hope you are in your best mood.

Thank you for your friendship Kamelia you are really energetic, sweet girl. When I came
across a post from you to me here, I really happy. I think this is really your special
energy.

I was in trouble with my exams along last 1-2 weeks.Thank God this friday I will have my
last exam from genetic. I passed my hard exams.I feel relax:)) After working, having
good results makes happy.

What about you? I hope you have passed your exams easily. I hope we will have enough
time to chating.

hope to hearing from you soon


All the best.....
Ebru
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Andrew June 23rd 2010


Dear Clare,

I just can't refrain from making comment-to-comment about 'learning English without
effort'.

Yes, studying languages demands doing great efforts.


No adult would ever succeed with the task being idle and unconcerned. (Babies occupy
an exceptional position concerning studying anything. They really improve much faster
that we and with no so big input of work).

Yes, I agree that it is not fair when someone cheat you, promising some magic speed-up
of your study, which 'inevitably occur' just after the taking some 'great method' (e.g.
buying a product) in possession.

On the other hand it doesn't mean that we must shut our doors down before any
salesmen. Some of them have ideas.
So why shouldn't we get acquainted to those ideas so far as we can do it just for free?
I know the mentioned site. It was just after visiting it about a year ago that I started
watching movies, bought an MP3 player and became 'a headphone guy' (who, however,
listened not pop-music but sound tracks from those very movies).
And I, in my turn, could recommend this way of studying, and these movies to anyone.

I have shifted the accent of my efforts from reading books and writing 'on my own' to
listening for casual speech of natives.
'An educational process' turned to be more interesting and as a result, accelerated.

And I think that I'm obliged that advance to the fact that I try to listen people, even if they
are salesmen:)))

Just wanted to share.

Andrew

setayesh June 23rd 2010


Hi Behnam,

Thanks for writing to me. It's very kind of you considering me as a gardener of this
thread beside other friends whose English are much much better than me. To be honest,
I'm still taking exam. There is just one left then I can take a deep breath. this semester
was so tiring for me,shortest and hardest one at a same time. My extra activities beside
studying obliged lessons made it more and more difficult. The most terrible fact is that
I'm not satisfied with my performance at exams although the results haven't been
declared yet.I hope they don't be as awful as I feel.

Dear Behnam, despite of my interest in writing about family... I'd like to take this
opportunity to write about another matter which is closely tied to family either. You and
our new friend Rahaa mentioned indirectly about the special coming holiday;Father's
day. I would really like to state some words about it.

If you're a father, you will appreciate the joys of being of both a son and a father.If you
are a son, I'm sure you already know how special fathers are. they play the most
important role in families,in better words they are the main pillar of every families.

A father is one of the two most important people in child's life. He is looked up and
respected, but sometimes he doesn't receive the recognition they deserve. this make
father's day the perfect opportunity to say thank you.

Fathers are the ones who are there all the times. When you are sick or not you are loved.
you might not even be this but a true father is there to take care of you whether your is
there or not! you should be very grateful for the father have taking care of you because
he does not have to but wants to do.
When I think back to my childhood, I remember the special moments I spent with my
father. He spent quality time with me, showed me the loving image of what a dad should
be.I don't know how I can appreciate him because what he has done for me.

Dearest dad I'm not sure that you will read this post of mine of not but I wanna thank you
for everything. I won't be where I am today without you. Thanks for all you have done for
me. You have been a great hero in my life, because of you I've been bless in so many
ways. you are the greatest dad in the whole world. I always see a friend in you and
consider myself to be the luckiest daughter. I love you alot. You are only inspiration in
my life. I appreciate everything you did for me.
Wishing you and other men a very great Father's day.

All the best,


Yous Setayesh

ribon100 June 23rd 2010


Hi~Behnam, I'm ribon100(My real name is Na yeon, and English name is
Laura...)Choose 1and call me friendly~~
Bye~~

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Shokufeh,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you so much for the short
answer!

Dear Shokufeh, your name, and also your family name reminds me my lovely cousin who
lives in Marand! She is a very beautiful girl with sweet smiles. I really have missed her
smiles. I have great respect for her and her family.

Would you mind writing a little bit more about yourself?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Boa,

How life is going in the most populated country in the world? I hope all is going well.

Have you ever had a walk on the world's longest wall? Once, I have done! Could you
guess how?

Thanks a million for the address. It was very kind of you.

Hope to hear more from you.

Behnam, 24 June 2010

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Clare,

How are things? I hope all is well with you.

Many thanks for the advice. I do agree with you. If learning process is that easy, why
haven't I learned English, whereas I have been learning it for more than 20 years?
Believe it or not, since 2006, I have been practising English (all four skills), at least four
hours a day! Why Haven't I made a big progress? Why am I dissatisfied with my English?

People really joke when they say there is an easy way to learn a new language. Some
advertisements, attached on billboards in the streets (in Tehran) say 'learn English in 10
sessions'! They are really funny. :):):)

I believe, The love of money is the root of all evil. What do you think? I hope you will
answer my question next year! :):):):):):):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Aseman,

Thanks for the reply. Would you mind telling us what and where are you studying?

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 24 June 2010

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Ebru,

Thank you so much for the lovely post. It was great. I really enjoyed reading it. Your
English is excellent, and you write excellently.

Would you please write something about the last topic 'family'?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Welcome back! How are you? I hope you are fine. Many thanks for your lovely post
about Father's Day. Fathers aren't that important, are they?:):):):):):):):)

Don't worry you will pass the exams successfully.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Na,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you very much for putting message in this thread.

I'd rather call you 'Na', is it OK? I hope so.

Would you please introduce yourself as completely as possible?

I hope to hear more from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 24 June 2010
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gongyeboa June 24th 2010


Hi behnam.
longest wall ?no ,I haven't go there before .could you help me ,I have a question .I have a
friend from Bangladesh.he will go to China for business soon.then I helped him to
connect the company which he want .but the problem is that he want me help him to the
business .but I think I don't know him much ,we never meet before ,I think I can't trust
.and the company also invite me to come to his company for business.he really want me
go with him ,because I can help him.but ??should I go ?should trust him.no .could you
help me what can I do ?

Clare June 24th 2010


Hi Andrew
Don't get me wrong - watching films and TV / listening to music are fantastic ways to
learn a language. They're fun, entertaining etc, but on their own, they aren't the "be all
and end all" of learning a language. Listening is a very good way to improve speaking,
but you also need some grammatical base to ensure that what you say is accurate enough
to be understood, for example.

What irritates me the most about this other site is the way in which it is written -
promising all but actually delivering nothing (unless you pay).

It's a good idea (as you say) to be open to suggestions. But in my years of teaching, I can
say from my observation, nobody learns a language effortlessly in such a short period of
time! Some people learn quickly - others slowly; and some learn better engaging different
"learning intelligences".But overall, it takes patience, effort - and a fair amount of
motivation to keep going and to get over the slower periods. Actually, I could write pages
on the subject, so I think I'll stop here for now!

Behnam - I'm answering you this week! How about that!!

Interesting question: is it money that's the root of all evil, or ambition... or power...
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
ghazal June 24th 2010
Dear Behnam
how are you my teacher,my friend ?
I hope you enjoy your life

oh I have missed you ,I didn?t have time to write here but some times I came and saw my
friend?s post and I searched for your post for me but after many days I could?t find your
post !!???!!!!

your essay was really interesting

and now my idea about your topic:


you said that families are not as close as they used to be.

it?s true but not about all families,I think it happens in those families that can not
understand the meaning of families.
I think family means some one live with gether and part of her/his life is another person?s
life so they can share their happiness and their problem with gether

we have another reasons for not being closer in families like work ,I think some people
can not understand that their work is part of their life not whole!!!!

they spend their time from 6 o?clock in morning until 9 at night!!!!and when they come
back to their house ,they are so tired and don?t have patience for spending time for
family.

exist many reasons therefor we must just understand that our life is not so long so we
must spend our time in best way and with those person whom we love them

thanks for reading my post

sincerely

ghazal

dentistebru June 24th 2010


Hi friends, I wrote an essay but I guess so it has a lot of mistake because ? write it in a
hurry but I want to share you. it is short and I couldnt write wide raching.

Families are not as close as they used to be.Unfourtunately that is right. I think this is a
result of changing world.

Today world is not the same as 50-60 years ago.Today we have a lot of advantages and
disavantages in a lot of thing with developing technology.Nevermore our interesteds are
changing rapidly.
Today people prefer freedom in their activities.Surely I dont mean being together makes
us dependent.For example people have more time on net or TV instread of came together
their friends and families.This new life style makes us a bit self sufficent.And this pass
through to our relations between families.

With new life style we have more responsibilities, we are working than before.Our wokrs
are more stressed more crowded and harder. So when we finished our works, performed
our tasks, we spared time ourselves.I guess so we need rest and be alone.

Also telephone, net, TV etc. communicate people too fast and easily. But tey makes us
more alone.Perhaps, people receieve from each other easily and they dont need visit
other families

this was my first trying to writing essay.I know there are a lot of mistakes, but if you help
me we can correct them.

Thank you for reading.Thanks Behnam to encouraging me.

EBRU

shokoufeh June 24th 2010


hi behnam
mmmm.....thank you very much
we have very nice remembrance with you and family's too.....
I read for biology olympiad most of the time....
my pattern is Mr Madjid Samii.
I love Mr Madjid Samii very much. because I like become similar Mr Madjid Samii.
Best thoughts
shokoufeh

Andrew June 24th 2010


Clare,

Don't get ME wrong! Have I ever said that watching movies and listening audio are only
effective ways of learning languages, in spite of studying Grammar rules, reading,
writing and passing tests? Nooo.
I meant that that part of studying, i.e. watching and listening, seemed to be very valuable
to me. I just was in lack of that from the very beginning. I had no option to hear speech of
natives in the past.
I still have no TV channels transmiting programs in English, do you believe me?

To sum up, I don't think that you and me have some significant divergences on the
subject. I, for example, could sign up under your every word. Well, if you ever say
something I'll can't agree......:)))))))

All the best,


Andrew

By the way, what do you thing about livemocha.com?

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks, but it is unusual of you to answer me that fast. :):):):):):):):):) How can I believe
it? Let's wait and see!

By the way, there is nothing wrong with money. The love of money is the root of all evil,
not the money itself! :):):) Money is like ladies. When you are not in love with them, you
are secure and safe. As soon as you fall in love with one of them, problems bombard you!
:):):):)

Hope to hear from you next week. :)

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks, but it is unusual of you to answer me that fast. :):):):):):):):):) How can I believe
it? Let's wait and see!

By the way, there is nothing wrong with money. The love of money is the root of all evil,
not the money itself! :):):) Money is like ladies. When you are not in love with them, you
are secure and safe. As soon as you fall in love with one of them, problems bombard you!
:):):):)

Hope to hear from you next week. :)

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010
behnam June 24th 2010
Hi Boa,

Thanks for the reply. I am terribly sorry, I'd rather not speak about decision making or
something like that. It is your choice.

However, I personally do not trust such people.

Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Ghazal,

Welcome back. I had missed you. Thank you for writing about the topic. It was very
useful. I really enjoyed reading it.

How were exams? Are you satisfied with marks and the average?

These days, people speak too much about the weather. I don't know why we are always
nagging about the weather; the winters are freezing, the summers are boiling. :):):):):)
How weak human beings are!

How about your city and its weather? Have you made any plans for your holidays?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010
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behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Ebru,

Well down to you! It is a great essay. Thank you very much for sharing it with us. I really
enjoyed reading it. That's fantastic, excellent, fascinating, fabulous, and all positive
adjective in the world. :):):):):)
Please try to write about other topics too. You write very well.

Did you finished the exams? Are you satisfied with the marks? I hope so.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010

setayesh June 24th 2010


Hi Behnam,

So many thanks for welcoming. I'm fine thank you. I hope you are fine too.

Dear Behnam, I guarantee that fathers are much more important than what I described.
What I wrote was just a little part of their importance.Happy men's day to you too.

I should leave my pc to study the rest of my lesson.

Hope to here from you again.

All the best

Setayesh, 24 June 2010

aseman7 June 24th 2010


hi

I'm studying Biotechnology Tarbiat Modarres University.


Biotechnology (Talk about gene transfer)
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my opinion Father's Day the best reason is that all family members can be together.

the best wishes

Clare June 24th 2010


Hi Andrew

I haven't seen much of that site. If I remember well, it's a place where you can find others
to chat with - right? I think it's also free, which is great!!

(Glad we agree, btw...)

Hi Behnam
Have you recovered from the shock yet? Two replies in ONE DAY - not even next week!
You have to forgive me for not always replying on time, but it's not because I don't want
to. I'm very happy to see you continue the thread though, and keeping posting,
encouraging new visitors... you're fabulous!

Not sure about the comparison between women and money. What I can tell you, though,
that married men live longer, healthier lives than single men. By contrast, married
women are less likely to live long, happy lives compared to unmarried women... See the
sacrifices we women make for you men...
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam June 24th 2010


Hi Shokufeh,

How are you doing? I hope everything is going well with you. I am so happy to hear that
you are trying to participate in the National Biology Olympiad. That's a golden
opportunity for you to show your talents, ability, and capability. I wish you success.

The weather is hot and dusty in Tehran. How about your city?

Your English is very good. Please try your best to write regularly. Writing does help us
with improvement in English.

I hope to hear more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 June 2010

Andrew June 24th 2010


Well, Clare, that 'coffe' is not quite for free. However, you can sign up, chose a language
to study, take some course, make homework and send it to other members (natives) for
checking. But as soon as you wish to obtain more essential help you have to pay for it. A
cunning trap for a Heffalump.

I get dissapointed with that site. As they say, all janres are good except for the boring.
And I find the offered lessons and, especially, an endless correction mistakes procedure
somewhot boring. Nevertheless, I will probably stay there for a while.

Al the best,
Andrew
P.S. Busya sends her greets to Micia

gongyeboa June 25th 2010


Hi behnam,
Thank you all the same !how are things going ?I hope you well.Today I am very happy
.because I can blow out a flute.maybe you don't know the flute can't blow out for a
beginner .about half year ago ,a friend sent me this gift .I like flute when I was a child .I
learned it by myself .now I can blow it .maybe I can find one expert ,then i can learn it
fast.I love nature beauty.Today it is still rain .

behnam June 25th 2010


Dear Friends,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Here is my essay on families:
******************************************************************
"It is generally accepted that families are not as close as they used to be. Give some
reasons why this change has happened and suggest how families could be brought closer
together. Include any relevant examples from your experience."

What makes relationship between members of families weak? Compared to the past,
nowadays, families are not close. There are several reasons why families are not as close
as they used to be. It seems busy schedules, stressful lifestyles, and radical values change
result in coldness between the members of a family.

Nowadays parents are often pressed for time. They do not spend quality time with their
children, because they do not have enough time to carry out their duties. They have very
busy schedules. They often leave home in the early morning, and come back tired late at
night. Most of the time, their children are asleep when they leave home and come back.

Another reason for unfriendly relationship between members of families is stressful


lifestyle. Nowadays both fathers and mothers have to work, because the cost of living is
high. Undoubtedly, they are under many stresses. For example, they worry about the
future and their jobs. They often bring stress from workplace to home. When they are at
home, they often argue with each other instead of spending enough quality time with their
children.

Finally, in comparison with the past, values have changed considerably. For example, in
the past families used to sit around for hours, chatting. These days, time is money.
Therefore, people believe they waste money when spending time with each other. In
addition, in the past the members of a family often had the same hobbies. However,
nowadays, the members of a family have different hobbies. For example, the boy takes
part in an English course; the girl goes swimming; the mother does exercises to keep fit;
and the father goes hiking.

To sum up, due to busy schedules, stressful lifestyles, and remarkable change in values,
the relationship between families are not as close as before. There is no easy solution to
this problem. However, lowering the speed of life and returning to traditional values may
help. Spending quality time with each other strengthens friendship and closeness. People
should try to take time to be with each other.
**********************************************************************

This is not a good essay. I am sorry. I had no ideas about the topic. Thank you for
reading, anyway.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 June 2010

Clare June 25th 2010


Thanks for the info, Andrew.

How is Busya? Still causing you sleepless nights? Because it's summer, Micia spends
most of her time outside - including at night. She only comes in to eat, sit on our laps as
we watch the World Cup matches, and occasionally beat up the "babies" (our three
younger cats) if they're in at the same time.

Other than that, Micia's main occupation at the moment is cleaning off the motor oil that
she covered herself in a week or so ago. She must have sat in it - all four legs, and her
stomach were completely black. She's now a shade of dirty grey - some way to go yet.
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam June 25th 2010


Hi Clare,

Have you ever been as a guest in somewhere when there was no host? :):):):):):) LOL
Frankly speaking, this is what I feel on this site. Do you know why? Well, the reason is
rather obvious. I am always here to welcome people, but nobody welcomes me!
:):):):):):):) Poor Behnam, nobody offers hospitality to him. :):):):):) LOL

Thank you for answering an irrelevant question.:):):)=))=))=)) The question was about
'money or the love of money...', but you have written something about women's sacrifices
for men!!!

Reliable statistics show that women have longer longevity than men. This is a proven
fact. However, if married men live longer, and have healthier lives, compared to
unmarried men, it can show men's positive attitudes towards marriage and women. It is
not a matter of sacrificing.

Let's assume that married men live longer, and married women live shorter, compared to
unmarried people. It means something like this: A woman will live 90 years if she is
single, but she will live 80 years if she gets married. Let's accept this assumption. My
question is this: How does she transfer 10 years of her longevity to the man's--her
husband--longevity? :):):):):):)

If a man's life is tied to his wife, it shows the man's highness and his positive thoughts
about the importance of the wife. It makes me wonder, how a widow can live for a very
long time after her husband's death, but a widower dies soon from loneliness and
sorrow.:):):):)

If we look at the issue from a different angle, we will find out that the reason for what you
have mentioned is men's greatness and positive attitudes towards women. It shows their
strengths not weaknesses. That is a great sign of humility to tie your life to another
human being's life! On the other hand, it is a sign of selfishness and being carefree to live
longer--spending time with dogs and cats--as a single woman or a widow. :):):) LOL

I don't know when you will recover from the shock of Behnam's answer! I even don't
know if there is a quick recovery from this shock or not! :):):) LOOOOL

Bad Behnam! Be kind to women, in particular to the runner of this powerful site.
Behnam, stop giving them shock, they are fragile! OK. I am terribly sorry. =))=))=))

Hope to hear more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 June 2010
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behnam June 25th 2010
Hi Aseman,

You are studying Biotechnology at Tarbiat Modarres University. That's great.


Biotechnology talks about genes.

Dear Aseman, I believe if people get into habit of doing an action--for example they lie--
the action will become a gene, and then next generations will have this gene. Is it true?

In your opinion, 'Father's Day' is one of the best opportunities for families to spend some
quality time with each other. That sounds like a good opinion.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 June 2010

dentistebru June 25th 2010


Hello Behnam, how are you? I hope yu are fine.

I read your essay. It is really good.I hope you will write your best essay in exam and you
will fascinate people

I think you are kidding me about my essay. I really wrote bad. I hope, one day, I will
write good essays as yours.

Oh Thanks God, I get rid of my exams today.my last exam was genetic. It was not hard as
others. I was afraid of my anatomy score but Thanks God again I get high point.

Now a happy holiday is waiting to me. I like reading books and I planned some books to
read this summer. Can you suggest some book names to me? what kind of books do you
like?

hope to hearing from you soon


Ebru

Clare June 25th 2010


Hi Behnam

I think you can argue it another way. Women give up ten years of their life (when they
are married) so that their husbands get an extra ten years. That's the sacrifice.

And I don't think women are particularly fragile. Unmarried men are more likely to
commit suicide, get a serious illness than married men.

My advice to women: marry if you want, but make sure you have a "single" attitude to life
to live an extra ten years!
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

zizoo10 June 25th 2010


nice to meet you behnam.
im JK shim from korea and 24years old.
just call me JK. thanks for add me.
you are so popular in this website.
my major is international trade.
actually, i think persian will be my third brother in law.
that's why im interest in IRAN and persian culture.
teach for me persian culture please. ^.^

Andrew June 25th 2010


Dear Clare,

Poor Micia! I can imagine how such a lovely cat gets upset because of an incident with a
motor-oil. Did she try Fairy?

No, Busya behave pretty good now. However, she loves to walk and make noise at nights
(I mean - at home. We never let her out, except for the cases when she does it on her
own).
But at least we have not heard that horrible miaowing of hers for a long.

As to the sacrifice.
I think you mistake: a man gives back his own ten years to a woman each time he gets
married. That is why men live less.

I hope we continue the discussion soon, don't we?


Andrew

behnam June 25th 2010


Dear Friends,

I was reading a magazine. There was a nice poem. I'd like to write the poem in the
thread. Here it is:

I believe in a second chance

I believe that the Sun shines after the rain


I believe if you don't get hurt you'll never gain
I believe in not doing things the easy way
I believe that being selfish doesn't pay

I believe in a second chance


I believe in a life long romance
I believe there is life after death
And standing up to a life of mess

I believe that dreams do come true


I believe there's destiny for me and you
I believe that good things come to those who wait
I believe love never arrives too late

I believe something good comes from something bad


I believe that for tears of happiness there are tears of sad
I believe everyone has a guardian angel
And the good you do will be rewarded well

I believe sometimes there is no explanation


I believe money can't buy people's affection
I believe YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU'VE GOT UNTIL IT'S GONE
I believe a new day arrives with every dawn
********************************************************************

I really enjoyed reading this poem. I hope you enjoy it too.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 June 2010
Clare June 25th 2010
Hi Andrew

Nothing as cheap as Fairy Liquid, but my expensive scented shower gel to clean Micia.
She complained all the way through her "bath" then wouldn't talk to me for hours...

About the sacrifice


Men live longer when they're married than single men. Married women live less long
than single women- Married women sacrifice the difference between being single and
being married to allow their husbands to live longer... See how generous we are?

--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

aseman7 June 25th 2010


hi behnam
how are you?
You asked Very interesting question!!!!!!!!

Genes in the human body influenced by internal factors and environmental factors are.
By these agents are active on or off. Some of these factors can cause genes to be
modified. A result of gene activity will change (mutation)

But in a lie: 1) May lying gene in the human body but could be influenced by the
environment (active or inactive)

2) the lying is not a genetic feature but that it is a learned behavior while growing up. So
the person may have observed lying as acceptable as a child or may have had the need to
hide things and lie to get through childhood.

What is the correct theory in your opinion????????????????????????

the best wishes:):):)

Andrew June 25th 2010


Dear Clare,

Significance of a marriage for a man's health can hardly be overestimated. That's for
sure.
The problem is that women too much like to point out their own sacrifice and selfishness
of their husbonds.
You see, married men would live actually twenty years longer than single men. They lose
those very twenty years of life time because of feeling guilt, and just some of them recover
about ten years due to the sense of humour.

Andrew
So, Micia doesn't like bathing? Really?

behnam June 26th 2010


Hi Ebru,

Congratulations! You have passed the exams successfully. Well down!

Your English is excellent, and I am not kidding at all.

Although I have been writing different texts, articles, papers in English for many years, It
was last month that I realized how to write a five-paragraph essay. Last month, I took
part in a writing course. I learned rules. You may not know the rules. If you knew the
rules and obeyed them, you could write much more better than me.

I am a bookworm, and I love reading books. I often choose books related to subjects that
I am involved in. For example, when I am involved in essay writing, I try to read some
books about it. When I am involved in a scientific issue, I study books about it.
Sometimes, the world of hormones catches my attention, so I study Gayton's Physiology.
Therefore, it depends on my involvement. Sometimes, there is a complicated issue about
Islam, I try to study about it. In short, what I read depends on my need and involvement.

If you need more help with essay writing, please let me know.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the bets,


Behnam, 26 June 2010
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behnam June 26th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks for following the discussion.


First of all, you must prove your claim to us. What you have said is a dubious claim. You
should know your claim cannot be proven, because it is not possible to take a sample--a
lady who is married and single at the same time--and to test for longevity.

Did you get it? Let me explain it further: A lady is either single or married. It is not
possible to judge about her longevity in both situations, because she can only experience
one of them--single or married.

Your claim is maybe a general assumption. Some people may study the negative effects of
pregnancy on women's longevity. They may assume that pregnancy shortens women's
longevity. In this case, I should say everything has got a price and becoming a mother is
not an exception. Women should pay for it. :):):):):)

In a nutshell, what people say about longevity is an assumption. Nobody can say to a lady
something like this: If you want to live longer, be single! This lady may follow this advice
and die after one month, so her family will put that person in prison. :):):):)

Why do some people say such beautiful sentences about women? Some politicians say
those sugar coated sentences to show themselves feminist in order to win an election!
Some young scientists say those beautiful sentences to become famous! Some dissenters
say those sentences to fight with religions and with sacred subjects like marriage!

What about the result? In the future, people will refer to dictionaries to look the meaning
of marriage up, because people won't be interested in getting marriage. It will happen,
and there is no doubt about it.

Who will lose? Women will lose, because marriage is a serious limitation to men. Men
will fulfill their desires easily. Girlfriends will make men get rid of taking responsibility
for marriage!

Some people may say it is beneficial to both sexes. They are absolutely wrong, because a
boy will be able to have a new girlfriend once a month, but this chance is rather low for
girls.

Finally, women do not benefit from those kinds of claims and advice. Those pieces of
advice give men the freedom of fulfilling their desires without taking any responsibilities.
This is what men wish! :):):):):):)

Dear Clare, please do a research on the number of depressed women and men, the
number of women and men who commit suicide. After getting some information, put them
in four groups: single men, single women, married men, and married women. Finally,
compared the data. I am sure you will find interesting result. :):):):):):):):)

My advice to men: Women are like butterfly, if you decide to catch them, they will fly. Be
silent and ignore them. They will come and sit on your
shoulders.:):):):):):):)=))=))=))=)) LOL LOL

It is better for you to surrender yourself to Behnam, because he is an uncompromising


man. :):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you more.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 June 2010

behnam June 26th 2010


Hi JK,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for putting message.

I am glad to hear that you are interested in Persian culture. However, cultures should be
experienced rather than learned It is not a matter of teaching and learning. You should
expose yourself to different situations in the real life.

I hope you will come here--Iran--to experience our old culture.

I hope to hear more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 June 2010

behnam June 26th 2010


Hi Aseman,

Thanks for the reply.

I believe in the first theory, although it sounds odd. :):):):) At least, this theory works
when it comes to considering some two-faced nations. :):):):) Some nations are perfect at
buttering up, because they have had kingdom and many kings in the past. As a rule, the
more someone butters up, the closer s/he becomes to the king, and then the more benefits
s/he gains! After a while, this action becomes a gene, then it transfers from one
generation to another. As a result nowadays, children are instinctively good at flattering!
:):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 26 June 2010

behnam June 26th 2010


Hi Aseman,

Thanks for the reply.

I believe in the first theory, although it sounds odd. :):):):) At least, this theory works
when it comes to considering some two-faced nations. :):):):) Some nations are perfect at
buttering up, because they have had kingdom and many kings in the past. As a rule, the
more someone butters up, the closer s/he becomes to the king, and then the more benefits
s/he gains! After a while, this action becomes a gene, then it transfers from one
generation to another. As a result nowadays, children are instinctively good at flattering!
:):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 June 2010

Clare June 26th 2010


Hi Behnam

The "evidence" is in research into longevity, where married / single men and women are
compared for life expectancy.

Here's a very interesting article about marriage:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/jun/20/the-myth-of-wedded-bliss

Best wishes
Clare

--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Bluegreen June 26th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiiiiii there. Such a long time no see. How are you doing? How've you been? I really
wish that you're having fun with these boiling days of summer.
This is a nice day to write because it's father and men's day in Iran. So at first I really
would like to start this post with a huge congratulation. Happy men's day to you.
After all this, I have to say that it's been a long time since I wrote in here and I've really
missed it. It was my examination time and then after that I had to empty the dorm's room
because we couldn't stay any longer LOOOOL
Sometimes not being present here is a treasure because after a long time you come and
face so many new and interesting topics. Like the ones Dear Clare, Dear Andrew and you
brought up or the one you were discussing with our dear friend Aseman. They were
wonderful to involve. Unfortunately I wasn't there at the right time LOOOL
But I'll keep on reading them because I love such discussions. Sometimes I think why
topics just at the brink of coming up in here get so hot and debatable. In my opinion
friends here are so devoted. I mean they do not answer just to get rid of the problems and
they never say: Nah, it's not my dog so let me skip it with some dangling words and
solutions.
The other answer's that I think we have powerful and also thoughtful quick-witted friends
here. You are all able to discuss in the smartest way and that really amazes me.

I also read some of your essays, they were nice like always but I didn't find any time to
comment on them. I really wish to do it in near future.

Thank you for asking about me of that little bird flying in the dusty sky. She was right, all
exams had finished but i had to stay in Mashad for some more days.

Hope to hear from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen June 26th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Helloooo there. How's this dear doctor friend? I really wish you are having fun in this
summer. I can really understand what this summer means after a long period of
examinations. LOOOOL
So glad to hear that you've passed your exams nicely. Mine weren't bad but I don't think
they were as nice as yours. Doctors always have cute grades, I have some friends in the
medical college of our university who always say: 20 ! 20! nothing less than that
LOOOOL
I am mostly satisfied with the exams except one of them and I bet all friends here have
understood which course it is! It is that little joyful book called : Essential skills !
I have always nagged about this horrible course because there is no special rule for
taking the test or reading the book. All depends on you. At last the grade was some sort of
terrible I had never ever had a grade like that LOOOOL
Anyways, I have this sweet summer before me and I'm going to study books on all 4 skills
of English learning ; moreover, there are these novels and short stories which i bought
from the national book exhibition in Tehran and I can't wait starting them.
By the way, I was thinking of aerobic classes, swimming ones, and all these. What about
you honey? What are your planes for the summer?

Hope to read from you so soon,

sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen June 26th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Hey there. How are youuu? It's been so long since you haven't written here. You really
don't know how much I've missed your writings.please be more active.( There's no one to
tell ME this LOOL)
Dear Ghazal, it's summer and all of my room mates talked about their plans but I really
don't know yours. would you mind telling me abit of what you're going to do and how are
you going to spend your holidays?

I really wish to read from you so soon, because I was used to see you everyday and it was
like a habit of mine but now, it's hard to get far from friends but there's this optimistic
view that we're going to room mates in this coming semester.( Poor me LOOOL)

Honey, how about your grades? Have you checked them? Are you satisfied? I really wish
that you are.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
elham_z June 26th 2010
Dear lovely the * Let's Learn Together * ,

Before anyone else Hello to you my dear thread. Yes, it is me , Elham , your big fan and
yes your right, the voice your hearing is my heart?s , beating so strongly having come
back to write in you again. Wow, you don't believe how excited Elham is, pressing these
keys in order to write for you.

Well let me have a heart to heart talk to you, ok?


Can you remember the day when I last wrote in you? It was exactly 85 days ago. When I
said Im going to be absent for a while and Im due to doing something hard .Well dear
thread unfortunately I have to say ,except for about tow weeks, nothing went that way it
was supposed to . This semester I messed it up, it was a complete failure. It was a huge
disappointment to me. I had a lot of challenging, difficult, bitter days.

But any way this term is finished and I am still alive and I want you to know I didn't write
here during this time but I never missed reading you even one day. You tell me yourself,
is it possible that some one comes across you , get involved with you , write in you, live
with you , and be able to leave you? No , never ever ever. Maybe they don't write in you
but they can never stop reading you.

You are the place where I really feel at home, and experience myself truly as I am. So say
to your lovely beginner, Behnam, that it is no need to ask me for writing here. It is my
own home here. How can I expect to being asked for spending time with you honey?

During those bitter absence days how ever, I experienced a lot of sweet times as well .the
fact is that the only reason why I could tolerate those hard days was having such lovely
moments in a day. Emmm , but it's a secret why and how they have been so pleasant and
precious !!!

So dear Thread , know that I love you and I experience one of the most enjoyable times of
my life with you. I am so happy having found you not only for I can evaluate my English
and my personality here but also cause you have brought me about to meet a lot of nice
people and make friends with them.

Love you,
Elham

elham_z June 26th 2010


Hi all my dear friends,

Hi my popular, really talented owner of my favorite thread, friend : Behnam

Hi my nice, active, powerful runner of this wonderful site, friend : Clare

Hi my good natured , interesting friend : Mohsen

Hi my energetic, friendly, having a special place in my heart friend : Kamelia

Hi my engaged, having a heart of gold, famous Behnam supporter friend : Marina

Hi my nice , positive friend : Setayesh

Hi my funny, easy-going friend : Andrew

Hi my lovely, kind hearted friend : Rosa

Hi my lively, full of life friend : Veronica

Hi my likable, owning a really beautiful musical name friend : Ghazal

How are you my nice friends? I hope you are all healthy, happy and enjoying your lives. I
have read all your posts during my absence, enjoying them a lot. You are my very friends.
I have learned a lot through your writings and I appreciate your precious friendship with
me.

Hope to spend a happy, nice, fruitful summer all together,

Warmest wishes,
Elham
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elham_z June 26th 2010

And finally a special Hello to dear Behnam,

I was thinking where to start my post to you with. Well Behnam Let me just start typing
whatever comes to my mind without thinking too much about it. Boy , you may not believe
it , but during this time , I have followed all your posts and really awesome writings
carefully not to miss even one, and the important point is how they makes me admire
conceptions of hardworking, determination , knowledge, putting hard efforts to doing
something, and having a good schedule for achieving our objectives.
Dear Behnam , now if someone wants me to describe you, I would say he is the one who
can write and give opinion on any subject matter under the sun. You have strong opinions
on most of subjects. How can some one be like this? Emmmmm, so I want to ask you a
favor, would you accept to company me to every English class or test, so the idea is
yours, making nice English sentences with me. Is it a deal? Ok, don't worry; I will pay
you well for it. and we say to the teacher that we are twins, pasted to each other twins
actually. And if he asks how, we reply it's a totally new kind of being twins, in this kind
the common part is actually the brains. :):):):)

Any way, Behnam you are doing a great job. Congratulation. And don't forget about our
sweet after being accepted in IELTS.:):):)

What a nice description of garden, flowers and gardeners you had made. So Behnam if
we are flowers and gardeners what is your own role? Ummmmm, in my idea the relation
between Behnam and his gardeners is the same as relation between a chef and their
cooks. However there is a fine line between being a usual chef and cooks and a famous
one as there is a fine line between usual threads and Lets Learn Together. We go to
different restaurants during our lifetime but there are a few ones which we never forget
because of the joy we experience tasting their delicious food or unforgettable time we
spend with our beloved one there. The same goes with our thread; we visit different
threads on the net but here is a complete difference. Here becomes home of hope for all
those involved.

As I see , we have a lot of guests this summer, various wonderful flowers have covered all
over the garden. So ( Khoda ghovat our sargardener). I hope we, the gardeners, can do
our best to help you welcoming them.

Hope to hear from you so soon,

All the best,


Elham

Clare June 26th 2010


Hi Elham

Great to see you back, and sorry your semester didn't go as planned. What are your next
steps?

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
setayesh June 26th 2010
Dear Elham,

Long Time No See! How are you knowdgable girl??? I hope all is well with you.

Dear Eli, you can't imagine how much I missed you and your posts. Where were you
honey? Over your books? I am so happy to see you here again energetic and ready to
write as before.

I understand what you said about your absence since it was the same for me. I preferred
not to write in this powerful nice and friendly threat which has a special place in all
hearts of ours-- to devote more time to my lessons more. But what happened at last???
Uncertain results.

It was the hardest semester I've ever had.I have never been busy as much as I was during
last semester. Involving with different projects and being obliged to be in different classes
at different universities which are located in far distances even sometimes in near by
cities :(

At last my exams finished. I took the last exam today although it was holiday today. You
can see even calendar doesn't want to get on well with me:(

Dear Elham, did I tell you that 2 of my best friends' name are Elham. They are very
amazing nice and lovely girls. one of them is my classmate who I normally call her Eli, if
it doesn't bother you I'd like to call you the same of course with your permition.And about
the other Elham, she was my high school friend and now is living in Germany. It would
be interesting to say that she is going come back Tehran in 10 days from now. I'm
impatiently waiting to see her after 4 years.All in all your name is so nice to me.

Honey don't be worry or unhappy because of your exams, it is the same for all of us. Be
happy and wirte again especially to Setayesh:):):)

All the Best,


Setayesh, 26 June 2010

sahand June 26th 2010


Dear Clare

I hope everything is going well with you.


In my opinion, our friends here are struggling with some problems now and again.

1. Forum should be set to last page.


2. Profile pictures? resolution is low.
3. Usernames are shown in the posts, don't you think it's better to replace it with Names ?

I suggest you these amendments.

Sincerely;
Sahand

rahaa110 June 27th 2010


Hi Behnam

Yes I'm married and I have a son (4 years old ). Didn't I say it before? :)
Yesterday was "Father's Day" in Iran. Happy Men's day to you :)
I was given my husband a "Laptop Cooling Base " as a gift. I think it's better than socks'
isn't it? :)
I read your essay. Did I speak my (???? ??? ?? ???? ?? ?? ????)
It was really good.

All the best


Rahaa

rahaa110 June 27th 2010


Jana sokhan az zabane maa migoiee!!!
instead of questions' mark :)))

Bluegreen June 27th 2010


Dear Elham,

Wow my god. Hii there. How's everything with you? It's really nice that we have you here
again.
Our discussions really needed you, your nice explanations, words and certain kind of
solving matters that is just your type.
I am really sorry to hear that you had a bad semester. Mine was kind of yours but not
totally. But I understand your feelings. Honey, you are a smart girl, I?m sure you know
when and how to start again. And as you know it?s never late for a new start.
Honey, I really wish to read more posts from you. I had terribly missed you. Sometimes I
thought that she started with energetic posts so she can?t be leaving us this easy. So
please write more often.
Oh and I was reading your post carefully I just didn?t get some parts relating to twins,
IELTS, same brains. Would you mind explaining a bit more? I?d really appreciate it.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam June 27th 2010


Hi Clare,

I read that article, done by some ladies, who are seeking for fame. Their idea will change
next year, I bet! :):):):):)

I have studied many books about men and women. I have heard many beautiful sentences
about women's rights. I have thought about the finish point of this philosophy--material
based philosophy--for thousands hours. Nothing has made me calm and nothing has
given me peace of mind, unless a sentence from the holy Koran where says, "Men are
women's clothes, and women are men's clothes". If someones wants to understand this
sentence, s/he should just know why people wear clothes and what clothes do with human
beings' bodies. It is easy, isn't it?

This is what God--our creator-- has said about us. What God has said is valid and
reliable forever, but what those people has said in that article will change soon. Do you
know why? Because they have only focused on one angle and have looked through it,
wearing tinted-glasses, or maybe even blind.

I don't believe in those ideas at all, because Jesus (PBUH) has said in the holy Bible 'If
you want to judge about a tree, pay attention to its fruit. If its fruit is good, so the tree is
good. Otherwise, the tree is bad."(I am not sure about the exact words, but the meaning
is something like that.) The fruit of that kind of thinking has bitter taste, and it is harmful
to humanity, therefore, the tree (idea) is bad.

Bad is bad; decorating with beautiful things never makes it good. Sugar coated sentences
do not make an idea look nice. The result of an idea counts.

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 27 June 2010

behnam June 27th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

People often call you a kind, energetic, friendly, and easy-going girl. I agree with them
up to a point. :):):):):) There is no doubt about your kindness, but I don't believe in your
energy.:):):):) It seems you are energetic, but you don't use it. In other words, your
energy is potential. I wish we could change your potential energy into kinetic one!
:):):):):):):):):):)

Today, I have decided to be cruel to ladies (Although I have always been cruel to them
somehow :):):):):)) My mood maybe changes in the afternoon, so I will answer to Elham
in the afternoon. You know, I don't want to make Elham sad. :):):):):):)

Thank you for reading my essays (vaghean honar kardi ostad) That is very kind of you to
post some posts once a month. :):):):):):)

Last month, you had a good excuse, but I don't know what your excuse is in summer.
:):):):) Why don't you write regularly?

I am only joking (vali adama mamulan ba shukhi harfashono mizanand:):):):)). Thank


you for everything. You are a very good friend. I really take pride in being your friend.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 June 2010

behnam June 27th 2010


Dear Friends,

How are you? I hope all is well with you.

The next topic is this:

"Some people feel that entertainers (e.g. film stars, pop musicians or sports stars) are
paid too much money. Do you agree or disagree? Which other types of jobs should be
highly paid?"

I am looking forwards to reading your clues.


All the best,
Behnam, 27 June 2010
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behnam June 27th 2010
Hi Mohsen,

This is just to let you know that Behnam has missed you terribly.

I hope to hear from you very soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 June 2010

elham_z June 27th 2010


Dear nice Clare,

Thank you so much for your welcome. Have you ever known what a valuable thing you
have done by having such a nice site? Thank you so much dear Clare, I need to repeat
how much I enjoy spending time here, having a lot of nice friends.

Well, the next step is actually enjoying my summer as much as I can and to be happy and
active. And the certain program is working on my English with the purpose of improving
my skills in a way that I could be able to get my massage across , make myself
understood easily , getting ready little by little for international English tests , and above
all enjoying myself knowing English.

Best of luck,
Elham

elham_z June 27th 2010


Hi dear Setayesh,

Thank you so much for your kind reply to me. How are you doing today, first day after
your last exam? Oh, it should be such a relaxing, in peace day, is'nt it?

I liked it calling me Eli. This is what my close friends usually do too. Some people do
shorten some special names or the other way around, they might add a letter to the end of
a name in a rude disturbing way which I do hate and always disapprove of them,
however sweet use of changing names for sure is a nice sign of strong intimacy between
tow friends. So, dear Setayesh be convenient to call me Eli and make our friendship grow
this way.

Emmm, Setayesh I'm interested in knowing about your major and university and city
where you study. Would you please let me know of this information? And which semester
are you at?

Dear gardener, Setayesh, I am back to help each other protecting our nice garden more
than any time else. So let's try our best to write as much as we can, with the help of other
gardeners as well.

Hope to hear from you so soon,


Elham

elham_z June 27th 2010


Dear cruel to ladies, Behnam,

I just want to write a little part of a poem by my favorite poet, Saadi ( The Poet of Life,
Love and Compassion), to you and I do believe in what he has nicely and wisely said:

*** Sadi as akhlaghe dust, harche bar ayad nekust


*** Go hame doshnam gu , kaz labe shirin doast

So considering this fact, feel free to write to me when ever you feel like and never forget
this word of wisdom by dear Shekhe Ajal Sadi.

Hope to hear from you sooo soon,


Elham

Clare June 27th 2010


Hi Sahand

Many thanks for your suggestions.

We don't have plans to increase the size of the photos (is that what you mean by
resolution?) as that would make downloads much heavier and slower.

The username / name question is to respect people's choice. If you make your "username"
your "name" (i.e both your real name and your username is Sahand) then there's no
problem. Most websites offer their visitors the option to choose a username to respect
privacy.
Best wishes

Clare

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english-at-home.com

Clare June 27th 2010


Hi Elham

Sounds like a good plan to me! What sort of things do you do in summer to relax and
have fun?

Best wishes
Clare
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english-at-home.com

Clare June 27th 2010


Hi Behnam

In my view, it's too convenient to just fall back on prejudice and stereotypes. "We can't
believe the research because it was carried out by women, and we all (who, men?) know
that women change their minds." Really? You only have to look at most (male) politicians
who change their mind every month to appeal to the voters!

I don't think you can argue with the cold, hard figures of the research. Stressful
marriages make people ill. What's to argue with that? Successful marriages are
successful because of the commitment people bring to the relationship - not the fact that
they are married. Surely nothing too difficult to imagine either.

Perhaps what's difficult is that the research doesn't support your religious or social
beliefs. Suppose, rather than denying the research because it doesn't support your beliefs,
you looked at it from another angle, and for a moment, you put your beliefs under the
microscope? The world would look very different - scary, but full of different
possibilities.
Best wishes
Clare
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english-at-home.com

aseman7 June 27th 2010


hi behnam
how are you
tatilat khosh gozasht??????????????

I have a suggestion
we should have any penpal is a particular subject. All is not considered a penpal
Each has a clear penpal. Any personal interest in any matter to be referred there. For
example, examinations and discussions * Marriage * Family * Social Behavior * Poetry
* holidays * etc. will be discussed separately. Because this method can be better
participate in discussions.

Comments?

the best wishes

setayesh June 27th 2010


Dear Clare and Behnam,

I read all your discussions about men and women constant rights' struggle. To be honest
I ?should say I couldn't control myself not to write anything about it since it's a very
?challenging matter.?

What Clare has claimed and written about are based on new researches and what you,
Behnam are talking about has special religious and philosophical background. What I
?meant to say was; when we consider scientists and experts' opinion about a matter their
?ideas can be either true or false since they prove their claim by humanity sciences. But
it ?is not true that their points of view are totally wrong . On the other hand when we
look at ?something from religious angle, considering whatever God has said is true we
should be ?able to prove some aspects of it by logic. I think it is what Behnam is trying to
do.?
About single and married women longevity there has been lots of studies. Surely These
?studies have had an distinctive base. It doesn't matter for me what base it had. What I'd
?like to mention is that there is no need to put an especial person in both situation then
?compare the result because everybody knows it is impossible. But what should we do
?with such objects? Put them aside and not study them? Or find a new way with less
?coefficient of slip to study them?

I'm not sure but I guess in these kinds of researches, people with nearly equal position, I
?mean in terms of age, life condition and other points are experienced in two groups.
?Examining group and controlling one. It is the way that they can examine what they
?guess.

When we read an article about the result of studying such issues, we can not generalize it
?since the study may has been take place in limited area or on limited people. I do
believe ?the attitude of people toward the life will also affect the result of these
experiences.?

Let me give you an example; my mother has got 2 sisters. One is 2 years younger than
?her and single and the other 7 years younger than my mum and married. They all are
?from a same family and genetically the same. Although they both are younger than my
?mother, she(mum) looks very younger than them and even happier and healthier. What
?differentiate among them? Many things...

? When you get married you will receive something and give another thing. It is the same
?for both sexes. Pregnancy may affect on women's life but they will receive another
things ?instead. Loving your child, bringing them up, seeing their growth and success are
just 2 ?or 3 joyful things that unmarried ladies can not experience. I agree with behnam
in ?this case. All through the life we are paying and receiving. It's a rule. ?

I believe these types of researches are only to inform society about the average changes
?not to attract my attention as a woman. They are for letting us know how life's new
?changes affected our life. I should say that I'm not disagree with the idea of shortening
?life after marriage since it is reasonable by considering new life changes. Nowadays
?women work outside the house to earn money. They have to do chores and are also
?responsible for their children's nurturing. When a lady is single she is just responsible
for ?herself but when she gets married everything will change. With a same strategy men
get ?more benefit when ladies work more and bear the burden of cost of living. What is
better ?than this! Their longevity increase day after day:):):)

Dear Clare and Behnam I know what I've written is full of mistakes, please ignore them.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the Best,


Setaresh, 27 June 2010
setayesh June 27th 2010
Oh my God! what a shame! I still have the question mark problem. :(:(:( Maybe "let's
learn together" wants me give up writing by showing me such sings:(:(:(
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Clare June 27th 2010
Hi Setayash

Many thanks for your comments!

I'm not sure why you get question marks showing up. Are you using another key instead
(i.e. a comma) which then shows up as a question mark? It may be a problem of your
keyboard settings, but I'm not sure how to fix that.

Best wishes

Clare
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english-at-home.com

shokoufeh June 27th 2010


hi
thank you behnam
the weather in M at night is mild and the weather at daytime is hot.....and the air is very
very claen.....

Bluegreen June 27th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. what's up buddy? How are your days going on? I really wish you happiness.
Oh yeah, happy, energetic, kind, etc ! That's what they call me and you have perhaps
seen none of them in me LOOOOL. Well I don't like to change your views toward me
because that's what you think of me.
But here's the thing, you told me my energy's potential and it should be changed in to a
kinetic one and what's better for me than asking a Physics professor to give me some
ways for this WHOLE-NEW process? I'm not kidding, I really think I need it !
So please tell me what you really mean by energy? What are the ways to flow it out? Do
you really think that not having time for writing in here is just a potential way of keeping
my energy? And preserving it? LOOOOL
Anyways, yeah, you might be right about excuses, but believe me, in summer lots of new
things happen for me. I have been too far from the family and it's really hard to avoid
them while they really demand. I know, thread's like a second new family for me but for
god's sake, would you give me some time before bombarding me with these words?!

I really hope that you be more merciful honey. well I mean, none of us here have the guts
to say that we don't like writing in here. I mean it's absolutely out of our minds, and who
am I? One the members here and there's no difference between them and me. You see
what I mean?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

setayesh June 27th 2010


Hi dear Eli,

How are you dear? I hope everything going well with you.

At first let me thank you for your great favor letting me call you in the way that I like.
Honey I'm at 6th semester, studying accounting in one of the state universities in Tehran.
I'm so sorry that I can not mention my university name here since I got into trouble my
mentioning it last year.

Dear Eli, it is sad that the majority of people in Iran think that accounting is boring,
whereas it is so flexible. Unfortunately there is another wrong though that if you like to
find a certain job it's better to study accounting(LOoOoOoOoL) What a ridicules
guidance! :)

Dear Eli, from this semester on, I should start studying seriously for M.A entrance exam.
My main target is Tehran university. I guess we are at same semester, aren't we? if so,
could you please let me know what's your plans for your education? Are you going to
countinue it?If so, where?

I'm waiting to hearing from you soon

All the best


Setayesh,27 June
setayesh June 27th 2010
Dear kind Clare,

Thanks a million for your quick reply!

I read your comment while I was fallowing the match between England and Germany. I
am terribly sorry about the result. I really wished England to be the winner. It was the
first world cup match that I fallowed. Anyway, this is football! everything is possible in it.

Dear Clare, I don't use any other keys instead of what you mentioned in my posts.
Question marks appears in my posts whenever I transfer my writing from Microsoft Word
to the reply box of thread. It's so funny that those ugly (?) apear in places that I haven't
used any punctuations.

Yes you are right, the problem arise from my poor computer. sorry my nice computer
whenever there is any solution you are responsible:)

Hope to hear from you more.

All the best,


Setayesh,27 June

ghazal June 27th 2010


Hi Raaha
How are you?welcome to this theard

I want to write for you as your new friend here

I read your post about behnam?s topic


that was good but you wrote one of the reason is (woman working)!!!!
I agree with you but not just for woman, for man too.

As I said in my post people must learn how to manage their time,I maen both man and
weman.

I can?t accept to stay in house ?

Can I ask you about your picture in your profile?


that?s you?

sincerely
Ghazal

setayesh June 27th 2010


Dear Kamelia and Ghazal,

How are you ??? I can see that you are online right now. this is just to say a big hello to
you. any say that Setayesh missd you aloooooooot.

Hope to here from you soon.


All the best
Setayesh,27 June

ghazal June 27th 2010


Dear aseman
Hi,my new friend ASEMAN at first I must tell you that you have really nice name.

Oh you are studing Biotechnology!!!wonderful I love this field.

I really hope see your post for me sooooon.

ghazal

ghazal June 27th 2010

Dear Marina
How are you keeping?

I had exams so I couldn?t write here ans I think I lost very enteresting topics like
polygamy and heijab.

I read your post for mr motaza,I?m was happy because I think we have same idea.

About heijab,I love it but I?m not severe and when I see person with out heijab ,I don?t
like to judge about that person and don?t reproach her.

And widows and divorced ladies have right for life and they have spicial situation in their
life and we can?t understand that so it?s very good to learn that we must not judge about
others.
And about koran,that is best way to speak with God and learn ways for living.

I hope see your post soon

Sincerely

GHAZAL

ghazal June 27th 2010


Dear Behnam
thanks million for reding my essay.
Wow exams!!!please don't ask about mark ( he he he be ghole 90'/.daneshjoha az terme
bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

and about weather,it's too hat come on, we can just nag about the weather.

about my plan in summer,I have trip in 15 Tir that is very im portant for me and I try to
ready my self for this trip.I will write post soon and will explan my trip.

and I have many book that I want to read them.


and I want to learn spanish too.

also I try to plan time for different classes like pottery and writing and calligraphy

Oh God help me!

sincerely

GHAZAL
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behnam June 27th 2010


Hi Elham,

Welcome back! I was waiting for you. I have missed your presence and posts. You cannot
imagine how happy I became when I saw your posts. It was unbelievable. At first, I
thought my eyes were deceiving me. Therefore, I rubbed them and looked at the posts
closely. Oh my God! Elham has come back to the garden! I became really happy. Thank
you very much for coming back.
I agree, whenever you need ideas for essays writing just let me know.:):):) However, you
write much more better than me. Don't be so humble about your talents and abilities.
:):):)

It was very sad to hear that you have had an unsatisfying semester. I wish I could help
you. :(:(:(

You are a great gardener, and you know how to grow up beautiful flowers. Actually, you
are perfect at growing up flowers. Your presence ensures the beauty of this garden. You
are famous for writing thoughtful posts. I really feel honoured to be a friend of you.

I am so sorry for being late, but today I was in no mood for writing. My mind is still busy
with some unknown things.

I don't know what to write. Please forgive me. You made me very happy and your
presence added credibility to this thread. Thank you very much indeed.

I am looking forwards to hearing from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 June 2010

Bluegreen June 27th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Helloooo there. How are you honey? Hope you're having wonderful days in this summer.

Honey, to let you know of my true feelings I had missed you terribly too. But as you were
busy writing to Dear Behnam, Dear Clare and Dear Elham so I just let you express your
opinions freely without any concern for writing to me. LOOOL

Because when I talk to girls it lasts for houres, expressing myself and asking them about
everything. I like to make new friends here and there. And of course to know if they do
think like me or the other way around. In both cases I'd be really happy to listen to them.
And especially girls here are of a great value to me because they know how to write and
how to state their opinions in right ways. In my opinion nothing's better than a place like
here to flow your thinking on the net papers and let everyone know who you are without
any fear of embarressment or sth.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,
Kamelia

ghazal June 27th 2010


Dear kamelia
how are you my room mate!!!(albate bad az in!!)
I really miss you.

please please please don't say any things about marks.

about my plan I wrote for behnam please read that post.


Wow you are poor,no I'm poor because of you and safa and being in same room!!!!

God please help me,HELP!

have good time

GHAZAL

Bluegreen June 27th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Oh please come !!! poor little Safa and me who have to...LOOL

I was just kidding. I really wish you a hppy summer. Honey I read your programs for the
summer, they were nice. And about the Spanish language, are you going to learn it based
on the cd's you had bought? I mean the ones which Homad had too?

How about your trip, where to ?(koja nagholaa taze umade budi ke) LOOOL

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

ghazal June 27th 2010


Dear Elham
how are you?

I just write this post to say:


I'm really happy ,after this time we have you and your lovely
post.

I hope see your post soon

sincerely

GHAZAL

behnam June 27th 2010


Hi Raha,

Thanks for the reply. No, you haven't said anything about your marital status.

You have bought an expensive present for your husband. That is very generous of you.
Would you please frankly tell me if you have given your own money for buying it, or you
have spent your husband's money? :):):):) If you have given your own money, you are a
generous lady, if you have spent your husband's money, you are a clever lady! In both
cases, good for your husband. :):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 June 2010

ghazal June 27th 2010


Dear Behnam
OH MY GOD
YOU WRITE POEM,NO IT'S NOT POSSIBLE(LOOL)
that was really good thanks the most.

Dear setayesh
Hi you are here now my friend

have good time ,best wishes for you,all the stars in sky is my gift for you

Dear sahand
how are you?what are you doing now in this hot weather?
long time that I don't see your post for me!!!
oh thanks for thinking about problem in this theard!!!!!(harchi bashe mohandesin dige
onam narmi!!!!!)

Dear kamelia
yes whith that cd and books
and you plesae tell me about your plan in summer?

SINCERELY
GHAZAL

ghazal June 27th 2010


Dear shokofeh and clare

Hi there,I hope you enjoy your life,I want to be your friend so I write for you nice poem:

True Friend

Friend gives you smile


But true friend gives you happiness

Friend will lie about you


But true friend won?t tell your weakness

Friend knives your back


But true friend will slog your face

Thousands friends come when you?re happy


But only one true friend comes when you cry

Friend comes when he needs you


But true friend comes when you need him

Friend leaves when everybody does


But true friend comes when everybody leaves

Friend comes and leaves


But true friend is yours forever

please write me somthings about yourself

SINCERELY
GHAZAL

shokoufeh June 27th 2010


thank you very much dear ghazal....

rahaa110 June 28th 2010


Hi dear ghazal
You're right about my reason on "family topic". In fact it was true only in my life. Unlike
other women, I like to stay at home. I'm really tired for all of these stresses in my work.
women, in contrast with men, have a sensitive spirit. Don't you accept it? I graduated in
english translation. I love my education field but my job don't relate to my educatin
directly .
My dear friend, it's not my picture :)))
It's an Iranian girl but not me. :))

best
Rahaa

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rahaa110 June 28th 2010


Hi Behnam
My present for my husband was very inexpensive. I swear that I have given my own
money for buying it :)))))
I didn't buy a laptop for him I bought a Laptop Cooling Base :))))

http://accessories.us.dell.com/sna/productdetail.aspx?sku=A2852138&cs=04&c=us&l=
en&dgc=SS&cid=27722&lid=628335
have a nice day today Behnam

Rahaa

Clare June 28th 2010


Hi Ghazal

Many thanks for your poem! I completely agree with the ideas in the poem too.

What would you like to know about me?

Best wishes
Clare
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english-at-home.com

Clare June 28th 2010


Hi Setayesh

The football match was a disaster! I didn't see it live, but I followed the updates online.
The comments were funny - it appears that the English defence were all off on holiday!
This World Cup has seen a lot of surprises, and I'm sure we'll see more. Who do you want
to win?

About the question marks, the problem may be that you're transferring from Microsoft
Word. Can you try either writing directly into the box, or transferring from something
else, like Notepad? Let me know how you get on, and we'll also have a look from here
and see if there's anything we can do.

Best wishes
Clare
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english-at-home.com

behnam June 28th 2010


Dear Clare,

Thank you very much for criticising.

Calm down! Don't draw your sword! Hold your horses! :):):) Use some signs like :), :)),
=)), etc. to reveal your feelings. I often use them to show that I am teasing. :):):):)

In the article, there are some clear statements like "Whenever marriage is talked about, it
is always in sentiments of gravity, happiness, certainty and long-term commitment.
Research also suggests it makes you richer, healthier and your children more
successful."

These sentences are clear. Even people with the lowest intelligence have no difficulty in
understanding them.

However, there are also some confusing statements like "Elizabeth Gilbert tries to
answer why we make such a hash of it. She uncovers sobering facts about what
sociologists call the "marriage benefit imbalance", showing that marriage is an
institution that greatly benefits men, not women. A partial list: married men live longer
than single men; married men accumulate more wealth than single men; married men
are far less likely to die a violent death than single men; married men report themselves
to be much happier than single men, and married men suffer less alcoholism, drug
addiction and depression than single men. So David Cameron is doing well for a reason.
But married women versus single? There's more depression, less career success and less
good health in married women and, until recently, a greater chance of dying a violent
death ? usually at the hands of the men they love."

What is the result of this statement? I disagree with Elizabeth Gilbert and those
psychologists! Do you know why? Because this statement encourages women to be
single. Well, what is wrong with being single? It is opposed to the philosophy of life.

Women and men are made of the same elements, but there is a strong attraction between
them. Who has put the attraction between them? Why the attraction is there? What is the
ultimate aim of the attraction? If we focus on it and look at it closely, we will find out that
the main purpose of the mysterious attraction is keeping the human race going. We
should know sex, love, and the mysterious attraction between women and men all are
some tools rather than aims. They are tools for encouraging women and men to follow
the main philosophy of life; to keep the human race going.

If we notice, when we are in our teens, we have got intense romance desires. Why? It is
the trick of nature; to make us more obsessed with our partners; to make us locked
together to make a couple of children to keep the human race going.

I strongly believe in the philosophy of life. Consequently, I agree with what supports it,
and disagree with what opposes it.

I have learned from physics neither to be prejudiced, nor to believe easily what I hear
and read. What you have written (copied and pasted actually) does not support my mind.
It is not a matter of social belief or religion. It is a matter of wisdom.

I am not scared of putting my beliefs under the microscope. I have done it many times.
Actually, I put my beliefs under the microscope every day. However, you should know,
parents often tell their children not to drink poisonous liquid; or not to touch the
electricity, etc. In order to show their bravery, the children may decide to experience
those actions (to put them under the microscope). Guess what will happen! Will they see
different possibilities? No, they will hurt themselves.
Marriage is sacred in all societies and religions. Putting this belief under the microscope
is like drinking poison. After drinking it, there is no chance to see any possibilities.

It seems that some people have drunk the poisonous liquid. Now, they are suffering from
the disastrous consequences. What the psychologists and other researchers say is
ineffective treatment for the serious injuries, which the poison has caused.

According to Werner Heisenberg, one of the greatest physicists, the creator of


uncertainly principal, when you doubt if your action is right or wrong, just think of the
result. Imagine, at one moment all people in the world do the same action. Think about
the consequence. If it is right, your action is right too. Otherwise, your action is wrong.

In a nutshell, encouraging women to be single, in the hope of living longer and healthier
results in some distortions effects on morality and ethics. Women's life is tied to men's
life, and vice versa. They are inseparable. It is not possible to live on the Earth without
considering their connection to each other.

There is no need to put this belief under the microscope, because there is no need to
experience everything. Wise people often learn from other people's experience.

Thank you for reading.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 June 2010

behnam June 28th 2010


Hi Aseman,

How are you? I hope you are fine.

I stayed at home at the weekend. I chatted with my friends, read and wrote posts. It was
not bad. I enjoyed it. How about you? How did you spend your holidays--last weekend I
mean?

About your suggestion, I agree. Go on! Write about whatever you like. You should know
there is only one professor Behnam in the world. He is ready to discuss all sorts of topics.
:):):):):) I am not boasting, you can check it! :):):):):):)

Only kidding.

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 28 June 2010

behnam June 28th 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Thank you very much for mediating between me and Clare. I agree with you. Your post
was great. I really enjoyed reading it. Thank you once again for following our discussion.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 June 2010

aseman7 June 28th 2010


hi behnam
how are you????

We got to celebrate Father's Day. It was also Father's Day and the day my father was
born. I bought a perfume for my father. Right say: there is only one professor Behnam in
the world
Because you have to prove yourself
the best wishes

aseman7 June 28th 2010


hi

for my friend:):):)

In my cottage
I don't say to you to be my butterfly
Be the light of my house like a candle
If there is no briskness in my cottage,
There is serenity instead
Be the briskness of my cottage and house
Oh idol, now I pray your memory
Get up and be the idol of my pagoda
Oh friend you know, I am really fond of you
Now flourish my ruin
Oh friend, do me a favor
Soothe my mad heart in my sad privacy
In drinking wine with your cup that in my sad privacy
In drinking wine with your cup that is like a rose leaf
Oh your mouth like a bud, be my cup and goblet
When I got drunk, my canary,
Harmonious musical instrument
Be the deep and bass voice of my drunken groan
I brush your tress and by that
Be the makeup of my hug and my comb
It will be nice if you say some day
Oh wish! Come with me and be my butterfly

the best wishes

aseman7 June 28th 2010


hi ghazal
thank you for your message.
I hope you like come from a poem that I put
Because, I know :you love poetry:):):)

the best wishes

Clare June 28th 2010


Hi Behnam

Thanks for replying! I'm sorry if you thought I wasn't calm - and you're right, I rarely use
emoticons to show how I feel.

But I still don't agree with your conclusions. Firstly, the point is that marriage can have
negative effects on women. (As you highlighted from the article.) And secondly, some
marriages have bad effects on both partners - especially if the marriage is stressful.

In the UK, marriage as an institution is falling out of favour, and cohabitation is much
more common. Secondly, many women have children without being married (there's no
stigma attached to this in the UK, by the way.) Thirdly, many marriages end in divorce,
and there are increasing numbers of single-parent families (usually where the mother has
charge of the children). So I disagree that marriage is sacred - it certainly isn't in the
UK. Both men and women are free to decide whether they want to live together, get
married, or just be boyfriend/girlfriend. You don't need to be married to have children -
and nobody cares if you have children without being married, or whether or not you even
have children!

What I think is important is to recognise that not every marriage starts happily and stays
that way. The vast majority of people marry for love (or rather, cohabit because they are
in love). But if a relationship starts to go wrong, neither party (the man or the woman) is
locked into it. I would imagine it's rarely an easy decision to leave someone (especially if
you have a house together, kids etc) but it's much worse to be forced to stay together if
you can no longer stand the sight of someone!

Perhaps I should also add that women have the same legal rights as men in the UK. A
woman will retain her property, and generally custody of children in the case of
separation or divorce. Courts often decide how often a father can see the children and
who should pay what for "maintenance".

I know that customs and beliefs are very different in other countries. For a start, our laws
and customs tend not to be based on religion, but rather on the rights and responsibilities
of the individual. The Bible (or any other religious work) is not used in law-making.

And maybe because of this, it's our civic life which is more important. Women are
expected to play a full part in society, to work, to vote, to decide their own destiny. There
are no particular expectations that women will want to get married or to have children,
for example. Of course, many do, but you're not seen as strange if you decide that
motherhood isn't for you!

This risks getting very long, so I'm going to finish writing here. Many thanks for your
patience iin getting to the end!

Best wishes
Clare

--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
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Andrew June 28th 2010


Dear Clare and Behnam,
I think that people's attitude to a marriage as an institution in Russia is more or less the
same as in UK. Young couples feel free to live together without of stamps in passport if
they don't like to marry. Nobody denounce a woman for having a child with no having a
husbond.
The difference is that we Russians are still not in habit to solve our problems with a
marriage in a court. Well, maybe it's a question of time.

Best wishes,
Andrew

behnam June 29th 2010


Hi Shokufeh,

Thanks a million for replying. How are you? I hope you are happy and healthy, enjoying
your holidays.

Would you please do me a favour and write longer posts? Don't tell me you have got no
topics! For example, you can write about your plans in the summer; you can write about
your favourite season, etc.

You are free to write about whatever you like, but please write longer posts. Your English
is very good. I am sure, it is easy for you to write long posts. If you have got any
difficulties in writing, please let me know.

Thank you for showing interest in this thread. Have you read all posts? Do you read
posts regularly? How and when did you find this site?

Looking forwards to your response.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 June 2010

behnam June 29th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are things? I hope everything is going well with you.

So many thanks for the interesting posts.

As a habit, we often nag about time! It is a common phrases for people to say, 'Bekhoda
saram shologhe, forsate sar kharundan nadaram!' (Swear to God, I'm very busy, I have
got lots of things to do, I haven't got a minute to call my own!). I think, it is a matter of
time managing rather than the lack of time itself! :):):) It might be better to sleep one
hour later, and then to make time to share something with your friends, who are looking
forwards to hearing from you. :):):)

How to convert potential energy into kinetic one? It is quite difficult! For some people, it
is even impossible. :):):):):)

You should know, you are not an ordinary member of this thread. You are a skillful
gardener, and people count on you. You should also know, your credibility is much
higher than mine, since you are potential professor in the English language. You have
ability in teaching, and capability of being a leader in this thread. :):):):)

Your answer, in particular your last paragraph was rather cold. This is my feeling. I
hope I am wrong with my feeling. Don't take my words into your hearts. I am trying to
make you react! :):):)(excite).

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 June 2010

P.S. It seems this is the 7000th post, or this post will make the number become 7000. You
see, how lucky you are! :):):):):):):)

Bluegreen June 29th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there.How are you doing? Thanks a million for reading my post and answering to
that. It is so nice of you to tell me how to get this energy work. LOOOL I'm just kidding.

Look I know it sounded a bit cold but I really can't be cold with you. I mean as it is
impossible for some people to change this potential in to kinetic energy, it's hard for me
to be cold to you! Whether you believe it or not but you're my only friend who I learn a
lot from! You are exactly a real professor as you mentioned. Oh and here's the thing I'm
really sorry if I sounded rude. My bad!

Honey, about that energy, and about the thread (if by energy you mean writing in the
thread more often)I really agree. Sometimes I'm in no mood for writing due to some
reasons, and again if I want to explain the reasons you're going to call them EXCUSES!
LOOL But anyways, I'll try the best I can.

Oh and about those flattering. Look ostad, I am just (JUST) a freshman student and
nothing in English! I just can try my best, and most of the times my failure teaches me
how to go on. And now these days I really am nothing comparing to you. You've gained a
lot of knowledge and I'm really proud of you in this way. I really wish that you go on
further more and do better than this.
And about the excitement, LOOOL, yeah I figured out the trick after I read your post.
Thanks: D

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

elham_z June 29th 2010


My dearest Grandpa,

It is the second day after your death and I don't know if I can write to you here, trying to
calm myself down.

Dear Grandpa, I had no time to say Goodbye to you last day, when you were suffering so
terribly from pain that you didn't even hear me saying hello to you. I was happily writing
to my friend Kamelia at home that my aunt called and asked me to want my dad going
there( your home), cause you had wanted my dad to come to you thinking of a solution
for your pain. I entered your room hearing you saying to my dad: Haj Hoseyain Im dying
in a moment from pain. After a while I sat beside you I touched your head and said:
Helloooooo dear grandpa, it is me Elham; but you didn't hear and I never forget that
Aghajunam even at that terrible moment of having pain your lips were moving repeating
Allah's name.

Dear Grandpa, it is my first experience of loss of a beloved one. You are the first
grandparent I've ever lost. It may seem cruel but believe me if one of the other three
grandparents passed away, I would just say my grandpa or my grandma passed away, I
got so sad but I would thought with myself that he/she was old and sick. But my dear
Grandpa you were something. ( I can't believe myself using past tense for you).Although
you had cancer and you were hardly sick but we never thought of you as you are in your
passing away process , we couldn't even hardly think about your death. Do you
remember our last meeting before your surgery when you told me: ( Man mikham zende
bemunam saro samun greftane shoma dokhtara ro bebinam) I want to live enough so that
I can see your marriages ? Can you remember what I told you in response: ( malume,
aghajun miyay sare sofre aghde khodam, khodet bayad ejaze bedi bale begam) you have
to be present at my engagement ceremony to allow me to say Yes. Then we laughed a lot.
From that moment on I was sure that you stay alive hopefully. But , Emmmm, Ok , when
you are not still alive , it means Im never going to get married ;if I was supposed to , you
should have stayed alive.
Dear Grandpa, do you know how I spent last night before sleeping? I tell you. After
seeing all those screams and cries by your children, after meeting you for last time with
your eyes closed for ever, after seeing how they put you in the grave and purred soil on
you, after sitting by your grave side kissing soils on your grave, after having the dinner of
your death, after coming back home in tears when I was laying in my bed looking at
complete moon in the sky, I thought of my own death. Let me tell you what I thought
about exactly. I told myself:
( good for my Grandfather. He spent all his life hardworking, praying God, always
keeping his lips moving saying God's name. at that last meeting of us ,he told me
dear Elham I have harshly lived, I at times ask God why I should have had such a
difficult life, why so much hardships, why all that hard workings for all my family
members . After having heard such claim by you and after seeing all those terrible pain
before your death, I remembered this: ( Harke dar in bazm mogharab tar ast , jame bala
bishtarash midehand ) the more dear you are, the more pain you have to suffer from.
My grandfather never sat aside like me thinking where I am , what I am doing, where I go
after life in this world, who is God, who I am , what I should do . HE LIVED HIS LIFE.
He did what ever he could. He was a right man. And he died in a way that I am sure he is
going to be relaxed and in peace. But how about me? I was so scared last night, thinking
Im going to die someday. I hated this world. It is a really ugly (puch) place. And I felt this
sentence from Koran with all my heart and soul: Ya ayyohanase, antomol fogharaa
elallah . (All people in the world, you are poor to God). Some times we feel what we have
heard differently. Last night I was so scared truely feeling my need and being nothing.
And what calmed me was another sentence. This one is in my idea king of sentences of
Koran , it makes me shaking repeating it: Ya ayatohannafsol motmaena , erjeiee ela
rabbeka razziyatan marzziya .( The relieved soul , come back to your God while he is
satisfied with you and you are satisfied too.). This is what makes me hopeful to life when I
see there is a probability of getting satisfied and being accepted satisfyingly.

My loving Grandpa, I never believe that you are dead; you are alive always in all our
minds and hearts. Aghajunam never forget to pray for us, sometimes I just came to you to
ask you pray for me. I am not exaggerating, I am not either flattering, all we had was
because of your presence and prayers.
It's a pity that while all family members came to hospital to visit you, I stayed at home to
write for thread and I missed hearing your talking and good bye once more, But dear
lovely Grandpa, I never ever ever forget what you advised me at that last meeting of us
when you called me near you and seriously told me: Elham baba, take everything you
want in your life from your mother's prayers for you. You repeated firmly: Mother,
Mother, Mother. You advised me to respect her and serve her more than anything else in
the world. So dear Grandpa pray for me having this chance to take your advice.

Loveliest Grandpa, I know time will hill and pain will fade, but the memories never will.
We will always keep your name alive , we will say to our children to know you and keep
your name alive and we will firmly order them to say to their children to know you and
keep your name alive.

* Kojast anke be anduhe raftanash nagah, hezar ghafele eshgh ra parishan kard
* Kojast anke payam avare shekoftan bud, che kas bahare ma ra zire khak penhan kard

Love you dearly;


elham

Bluegreen June 29th 2010


Dear Aseman,

Hi there. How are you? I really hope that everything?s going on totally fine with you.

I wanted to welcome you sooner but I couldn?t and am sorry for that. But your poem
brought me an awesome excuse. I really liked it. It was inspiring. Thanks for that.
Oh and I was reading your posts and I found out that you?re studying Biotechnology. I?d
heard about your major and found out that it must be really interesting. But you know
what? I thought it might be about using microbes in order to produce new things. There
was this professor called Nasrin e Moazzemi and she had an article in the newspaper
about how to use microbes in new works and products. I can?t remember the details but
there was an interesting fact there. She said that she owned a big collection of microbes!
And that was really amazing to me.
So we have another big scientist here. Good for us :)

Anyways, I really wish to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

setayesh June 29th 2010


Hi Clare,

Many thanks for pursuing my problem. You're a kind and supportive lady.I'm writing this
post into notepad then I'm going to past it on thread's box. I really don't know what will
happen when I push the send botton. To be honest I don't face any problem whenever I
write directly on thread. As you can see most of my posts have no problem since I write
the directly on reply box. But sometimes while I'm writing, some emergency happens that
make me leave my PC so I have to save my writing somewhere in order to complete it
later. Rewriting all I have written already is a laborious work. So I must find a solution
for this matter.
And about World Cup matches, I like Brazilian football more than others, but I haven't
watched its games during this period. I've heard that Argentina plays much better than
Brazil. There are lots of people who think Argentina will be the winner. What about you?
Who do you predict to be winner? And who do you like most to wine?

To tell the truth, I'm not a football fan but there are some football teams which I like to
fallow their games, one of them was England which has some great footballer who I do
admire.

Hope to hear from you soon,

All the Best,

Setayesh,29 June 2010

P.S: Dear Clare, don't put yourself in trouble alot to solve the problem, since this
problem just happens in my posts it's probably related to the soft ware that I use.

setayesh June 29th 2010


Wow! No question mark! That's it! Finally it worked.

Thank you dear Clare,

setayesh June 29th 2010


Dear Elham,

I've just read your post. It was with a great sense of loss when I heard of your grandpa's
death.

I wanted to let you know that you have our greatest sympathy, and our hearts are truly
saddened.

It seems that your grandpa was more than just a nice grandpa to you.May God give you
strength.

If there is anything that we can do to help you, please do not hesitate to write us at
anytime, even if it is only to talk.

My sincere thoughts and prayers are with you.

With my deepest sympathy,


Setayesh,29 June 2010

setayesh June 29th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Thank a lot for your post to me. It's very nice when you start speaking with girls it lasts
for hours, feel free honey! Setayesh is a good listener :):);)

I do agree with you about the environment of this nice thread. Dear kamelia, it is about 2
weeks that my new english course has stared, there are just 9 of us in a class. Our
teacher is a very nice lady, she is Indian.

Although everything is ok there but I do not feel relax. There is a problem.:(:( To be


honest, I have done my best to get on well with one of my classmates who is a very good
student, but it doesn't work. She is a very talented girl, I was so happy to find finally
someone like her in my class as she is so active and knowledgeable.

But unfortunately it seems that she thinks I am her opponent.:( :(


I have nothing! I was away from English class for 3 months, you can see its awful affects
on my writings as well. I even have forgotten some simple rules. I don't know why she
treats in this way. At first I thought it is just a wrong feeling of mine so I tried to ignore
and pretend as if I don't understand. But these days I've found it annoying. She is really
on my nerve.:(:( I did all I could do to make this friendship a bit friendly. But it seems the
more I try the less I gain.

I really don't know how to mange this situation, if you have any tips that can help me I
would be so glad to know them.

Hope to hear from you as soon as possible.

All the best,

Setayesh,29 June 2010


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Andrew June 29th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

People generally have enough troubles inside of their restricted circle of contacts: it is
not easy to be always good for your children, parents, spouse or a friend.
Don't waste your time that to gain confidence with a person who just doesn't like you or,
maybe, who is scared of a fair competition. Trust me, we should neither escape problems
nor look for them.

My teacher said me long ago: "Andrew, don't avoid to become a friend of some
poisonous people. You can learn many things from them, things that you hardly ever
learn from the sweetest and nicest people. Take it easy if they treat you as if you are
nothing. And for God's sake, don't copy them!"

So I re-address this advice to you. Just remember, some sort of people is really hard to
tame. Sometimes it would be better just to let them alone.

Yours sincerely,
Andrew

Clare June 29th 2010


Hi Elham

I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandpa. You are in my thoughts.

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Bluegreen June 29th 2010


Dear Elham,

Oh dear lovely friend. I just read your post and you can't imagine how sad I got hearing
that you've lost your dearest grandpa. Honey I know how you feel and I know that how
much hard it is for you.

Well it is the first time for you that you're suffering from this pain but it isn't for me. I've
seen two before and now there's just one of my grandma's alive and every time I wish her
longevity, health and happiness by all means.
Honey I was about 8 years old when I lost my grandpa on my mother's side. You can't
even imagine how much I suffered. Crying every time and wanting God to bring him back
to me. I even used to trick others and wake up in the middle of the night then went to his
room and sleep on his bed. I thought that one night he might come back and be right
there near the window which he always used to watch me out while playing in the yard.
I really wish that you accept my honest condolences, and please do not hesitate to write
to any of us if you feel calmer talking about this painful event.
All my sympathy to you in this trying time. Please let me know if there's anything I can do
to help.
May he rest in peace

Sincerely,

Kamelia
P.S. Shayad vaghean rahat nabashe be englisi bekham begam cheghadr motassefam.
Ama Elham joon midunam ke barat sakhte.Bayad bahash kenar biai azizam. Maham inja
hastim komaket mikonim.

behnam June 29th 2010


Dear Elham,

I was so sorry and sad to hear about the death of your grandfather; please accept my
condolences. I wish to express my heartfelt sympathy for the death of
him.:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(

Behnam, 29 June 2010

setayesh June 29th 2010


Dear Behnam,

How are you my dear brother? I hope all is well with you. Could you please do me a
favor and read my post to dear Kamelia? I really need you guidance about that matter.

I'm impatiently waiting to hear from you.

All the best,


Setayesh, 29 June 2010

aseman7 June 29th 2010


Dear elham

I was really sorry to hear about.I remember my grandfather's death.


God's mercy to the your grandfather
behnam June 29th 2010
Hi Setayesh,

In answer to your question, I should say in such situation I often completely ignore him
or her. The best answer to proud people is ignoring them. It should be kept in mind that
humility is a virtue, but sometimes being humble is considered naivety and stupidity. You
have tried to show her your friendship and kindness. It seems that she cannot detect those
signal. Do not try to repair her detector, ignore her. If she is a respectable person, she
will get the point of the ignorance. Otherwise, she doesn't deserve to be your friend.

Ignore her, it will work! Keep in mind the golden role which is about catching a butterfly.
If you try to catch a butterfly, it will fly. Ignore it and be silent, it will come and sit on
your shoulder.

As a role, at first try to extended the hand of friendship, if s/he clenches her/his fits, you
should clench your fist too. Otherwise, you will lose the battle. I am sure about it.

Why are you that eager to make friends with her? Don't you think that it may sound
strange?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 June 2010

behnam June 29th 2010


Hi Ghazal,

Thank you very much for the lovely posts. I have missed you terribly. You made me very
happy by coming back.

I love poems, but I just copied it from a magazine, and pasted it here.:):):)

Your poems about real friends were wonderful. I do agree with you.

You are going to take a trip. Would you mind telling us where? I hope you will enjoy your
holidays. Have a nice trip.
Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 June 2010

ghazal June 29th 2010


Dear friends

Hi,I hope you enjoy your life.there is my opinion about last topic:

Some people feel that entertainers are paid too much money. perhaps some entertainers
have difficult position in their life and they really work hard so pay much money is their
rights

but it?s not true for every persons.some footballer are paid TOO MUCH
MONEY,why?their work is hard!

many persons have hard work and I think this destroy equilibrium in society.

police and doctor and nurse and,??must have high salary and some entertainers that
work hard too.

THANKS for reading

sincerely

ghazal

ghazal June 29th 2010


Dear Aseman

hi,thanks million for your nice poem.

sincerely
ghazal
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ghazal June 29th 2010


Dear Elham
Oh honey.I'm really sorry .
I lost my grandfather and grandmother many years ago and I couldn't see them.

I think about them and I can just go and visit them in cemetery.

but I have another grandfather and grandmother.you know I think they are big gift that
God gave us and they are really talent from God.

two years ago I lost my uncle,last night for his life.I and myfather went to see him in his
house.when he saw us with low voice said:welcome come and sit near me.
he couldn't move and slept in bed and for long time he didn't trim so my father did and
washed his face .

we came back to home and next night I lost him he didn't have childeren so loved us to
much and we loved him too.

You know after that even when I thougth that face those eyes and those hands were under
soil ..................

Oh my God just God helped me and after some days I saw him in my dream when I
slept.he was good and healthy with out pain .

so I hope God help you too and I'm sure it happen

(elham azizam hata fekr kardan be az dast dadane pedarbozorg shadidan azaram mide
mitonam darket konam ama motmaen bash jaye hameye pedarbozorgha beheshte pas say
kon kenar biyay ba in vagheiyate talkhe zendegi)

sincerely

ghazal

metzean June 30th 2010


Dear Behnam

Hoping you are doing fine and healthy .


I took a 7 days trip toward Mashad through north beach beside the Caspian sea, it is said
that traveling to Mashad is the pilgrimage for poor people who desire to visit Mecca,
people who have lack of money .Also there is another problem for going to Mecca. It was
said to me that if I enroll in Hajj Organization for going to Mecca , my turn will be the
next 17 years, so it is supposed that I never meet God at his house since I can't be enough
patience to wait for 17 years .
As I returned home, I opened the thread and got happy to see how much it was active
,how many pages have been covered and all friends are here again around professor
Behnam . I read some parts of writings ,the subject that was discussed between you and
Clare and I should cry for the people of England as I read the Clare's post that explianed
what system of marriage and having children is now dominated in England. The system
that strongly against Islamic belief and also Christianity and this is a disaster which has
made by that people If they think what is the result of having such a system for next
generation, people of next generation who don't know who is their father or mother or
both of them, people who grow up without feeling of having parents-the lack of deep
affection which is given by parents ,so when they grow up they will be nothing more than
a robot in from of human, because their feelings was killed by their predecessors and this
is the last era that they have something which is called Family, as you always say ,they
should look it up ,this word, from dictionary.

What you mentioned about that article about marriage and longevity of women life , I
can't believe it either. I think some cognoscenti who should help their society. They
conversely write to encourage people to refrain from marriage by bringing some funny
reason and statistics ,but why they write in this way ,because the never think about the
result of their writing but only the money ,they don't think about the affection of their
writing to the future of their society ,they only think about the mony they receive and they
write in away that attract more customer.

We should appricaite the societies in which children still lie on their parent arms and on
father's day they have father who pay homage to them even by giving them a branch of
flower or a pair of socks. The most enjoyable time for child is when he/she lie beside his
father ,put his head on his arm and smell him, also how we can forgot when we embraced
by our mothers or sometimes that we spoil ourselves like a child and demur to eat and
drink , but our mother cares us with love. Some parents care about their children even
when the childern grow up to the age of 40 , and this is what Islam has advised.

What do you think about new system of having childern in England?


All the best
Mohsen

shanar June 30th 2010


Dear behnam

(naje san? Oshakhlar , ana ova yakhshide? Oh no I'm not good in this lovely language I
must work on it if my father has time .i'm sorry).

Hiiiiiii honey. How are you? what's up? I hope you are fine as always.
After a long time I come back again because I really miss you and other friends.

I was busy so I couldn't came here cause of my exams and even after that ,when I come
back home I found that my uncle and his wife with their little and lovely son was coming
back from mecca and ohhhhhhhh again I must help in order to clean their house and do
some work and again I couldn't come here .

after that for 3 days I went to my grandfather and grandmother house and live with them
because I really miss them and I love them so much. They are very kindly especially my
grandfather.

So after a long time I get a chance to come here and write for you .actually each day
when I had a time even a little time I was coming here and reading your posts and your
excellent essays. You are very great in eng. It's wonderful man!!!

I have many things to do in summer and I wish I could come here as soon as possible to
write here.

* Have a nice time *

Respectfully

Shanar ;)

shanar June 30th 2010


Dear kamelia

Hiiiiiiiiiiiii myyyyyyyy beeeeeeeeeeesssssssssttt frieeeend

How are you honey? I miss you a lot. What are you doing these days? How are sadaf ,
your father and mother? Say my hello to them.

Yesterday my sister and I went to pool and I wanted to say you and sadaf coming with us
but because our going was without any befor-planning so I couldn't call you.

But come on when you have free time?

Oh and even shahrzad ,she has konkur this week yea? I wish she get a high and good
result. Come on girl!! Shahrzad,sadaf,you and me wooooow we can have a wonderful
day in a pool. Talk with her and planning for pool if you agree?

I really miss you looool

* Have a nice time *

respectfully

Shanar ;)

metzean June 30th 2010


Dear Elham,
I have not read your post yet ,but I know that you lost your grandpa, I want to express my
deep sorrow and pray for him , I am sure God bless his soul.
The elders in Iranian family are very important and they are respected till the time of
death,

May God gives you enough pateince to talorate your great loss

Mohsen

behnam June 30th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thank you for the time you spent on following the discussion. It was a great honour for
me to discuss a serious social problem with you. I won't interrupt you anymore, just
answer to a few questions which always are in my mind. Before asking the questions, I
would like to say that there are just some questions, I am not criticising by asking them.

Please kindly answer to the following questions:

1) What do women think about the relationship between families? Are they satisfied with
the situations?

2) When men and women can cohabit, live together without getting married, can have
children without getting married, can be boyfriends and girlfriends, can get whatever
they expect from the opposite sex; what makes them get married? It is really confusing.
3) When a man can live with his girlfriend, with his love, forever, without getting
married; when he can cohabit, can have children that his partner looks after them.
Finally, when a man can have whatever he expects from the opposite sex without getting
married, what else does he need? What makes him marry to someone? What is his
responsibility?

4) Don't you think that it is against women's rights rather than for? Don't you think that
women are fooled by men? Oh my God, a man can have love with his love, then she gives
birth to a baby, then the man can go because the baby is for his/her mother. The man just
may pay some money from time to time! Don't you think that the UK is like heaven for
men?

5) I wish I could meet some of those men who think of marriage in the UK. I wish I could
ask them this question: Why do you marry? For making love? You can do it. For
children? You can have them. For love? You can have it. For...? Honestly tell me, what
makes you be married?

It is really confusing. I would appreciate it if someone could answer to those questions.

Do you know what more confusing is? It is much more confusing when I notice women
are satisfied with such laws. They think they have freedom. They think they have received
their rights!!!!!!!

Crafty men! You have made the earth like heaven for yourself. Crafty foxes, your action
is like killing someone while s/he thanks you for killing. How intelligent you are! I wish I
were in the UK. :):):):):):):):):):)

Waiting impatiently for the answers.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 June 2010

sahand June 30th 2010


Dear Elham

I'm writing this post to express my deep sorrow and sincere sympathy for your loss. A
shock it was, to read the post about your grandpa yet we joy knowing he has gone to a
better land.

May the lord bless him the peace in heaven.

Please, accept my condolence.

Sincerely;
Sahand

Bluegreen June 30th 2010


Dear setayesh,

Hi honey. How are you? I hope everything's going on very well with you.
About your problem. I know it might be hard to believe but, to tell you the truth. I've been
studying in these institutes for seven years. There's nothing that I haven't seen from these
girls. When you really get down to business, then you know that who are your friends and
who are exactly the vice versa LOOOL
You keep going and then suddenly here comes this girl who seems much higher, better,
and she's kind and humble in appearance but nothing inside! She's jealous, dark, hard to
get along and so on. I know, I understand. One of my friends once said that these kind of
students are really attractive as sins are LOOOL. Maybe she was right. and maybe that's
the answer to Dear Behnam's last question.

Dear Setayesh, actually I totally believe in what Behnam said. I really couldn't agree
more with that. Because that is the only way it works. You just do your best and NEVER
EVER leave what you like just for the sake of not having the ability to compete or being
hurt by others. Don't let her hurt your feelings or pride. Your English is really nice;
however, you can try even better than this and be the first person in your class.
Look even now in the university I have problems with such kind of people. But now on it
doesn't hurt me much as it did before. Why? well just because I've tried my best to build
the ground work for this self-confidence!
Just avoid her, never think of her. It's just the way all classes are. And not only in classes
but wherever you go you find these people around.
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen June 30th 2010


Dear shanar,

Oh my god. You're back. Hiiiiiiiiiiiii there. How's everything going on? Where've you
been girl? It seems like you were even busier than me. But so glad that you were busy
with fun actions. Visiting grannies, going to parties, etc. Good for you.
So I hope you're having fun these days. So you and your sister went to the swimming pool
the very last day, huh? Good for you. Believe it or not but we two here were seeking
partners LOOOL. I wish I had called you. I really wish I did! But hey, that sounds fun.
Maybe we did it next time.

Honey due to upcoming trip to Mazandaran and Guilan I don't think I'll be able to do it.
At least two weeks from now on. But that was a nice offer. Thanks for that sweetie.
Oh and about shahrzad. Yes you're right. Her Konkoor would be on 11th Of Tir. That is
July the second. Actually I called her last night. I think she's lost her self confidence.
How much I try to tell her that you're the best and you can. She just says, maybe, ok,
thanks, and these sorts of things. Well On Thursday I'm going to go to library to check
how she's doing. Maybe I could do something with the self confidence. LOOOOL

Honey, I'll be waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

shokoufeh June 30th 2010


hi behnam
thank you very much...
how are you , too?
my plan for this summer is very very very squeezed and i cancel all travel because this
summer is very very very important for me and......i and my school friends to organize
Olympiad class for this summer and inevitablly i should go. this is my all plan and i don't
have any special plan for this summer and.....and ....
i read some posts and i quite understand some posts .....
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behnam June 30th 2010


Hi Shanard,

*Baharin bu gena hejran chaghinda,


khosh galmisiz sizda boraya ghizlar,
Gol narges darmisiz golashan baghinan,
khosh galmisiz sizda boraya ghizlar.

Tohlariz chin chindi galmiri sana,


bolot tak chalkhanib yol vermer aya,
banzarsiz tavusa golda sonaya,
khosh galmisiz sizda boraya ghizlar.

Bakhanda deisan gorsanir bir ay,


khodam gozalighi siza verib pay,
bazanip galmisiz hamiz tay ba tay,
khosh galmisisiiiiiiiiiiiz Siiiiiiiiiiizdaaaaaaaaaa Boraaaaaaaaaaaayaaaaaaaaaaaa
Ghizzzzzzzzzzlarrrrrrrrrrrrr."

What I have written is a nice poem for 'girls'. It is in Azerbaijani. You may know, I love
the Azerbaijani language very much. If someone asks me whether I am Persian or
Azerbaijani, I will say I am Azerbaijani. :):):):)

Your words in Azerbaijani made me write this poem for all girls and, of course for all
ladies, in this thread.

Since there are many girls in the thread, who are Persian, and also are from other parts
of the earth, I have to translate the poem into English, although it is impossible to
translate it word for word. I will try to transfer the meaning.

Girls

It is late spring (Last days of spring, or spring has gone),


girls, you have welcome to this place,
You have picked up flowers from a beautiful garden( and the flowers are still in your
hands, bunched),
girls, you have welcome to this place.

Your heads are hairy so that it is difficult to count the hairs,


It is like some dense clouds do not let the Moon show itself among them (=As if hairs do
not let your faces which are as bright as the moon show their beauty),
you are like a peacock in a garden, or a beautiful bird in a lake(pool),
girls, you have welcome to this place.

When we look at you, as if we see the moon,


my God has given beauty to you(beauty is your share from the creation),
everybody has put her make up, and has came here with her beauty,
girls, you have welcome to this place.

Shanard, actually I was in a very good mood when posting to you. I rarely write such
things. People know it.You are a lucky girl. :):):):) I hope you enjoy reading this poem.

I have no time to correct mistakes. So sorry. Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 June 2010
behnam June 30th 2010
Your hair does what dense clouds do with the Moon. Dense Clouds do not let the Moon
show himself through them, and in similarly, the dense hairs on you heads which have
covered your beautiful faces, as if they do not let your beautiful faces become appear.

Oh my God. It is very difficult. How can I transfer the meaning.

Thank you for reading.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 June 2010

Bluegreen June 30th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? so from the poem we can understand that you are in such a
good mood this afternoon. Good for us who are reading your lovely posts.

Honey I just wrote this to let you know that I read the poem and the meaning. Well the
poem was musical, and the meanings were aswesome. Thanks for putting such a
wonderful post in here.
At last somebody cares for girls LOOOL

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

arejo June 30th 2010


OMG.
It must have took lot of time to bulid such a talking mansion.haha.
I am Arejo,A new comer.and wish to be a one of your friend.
Good luck.

arejo June 30th 2010


OMG.
It must have took lot of time to bulid such a talking mansion.haha.
I am Arejo,A new comer.and wish to be a one of your friends.
Good luck.

dentistebru June 30th 2010


Hi Kamelia, How are you my friend ? I hope you are fine..

You are right honey medical students always have high points. I m not as good as some of
my friend but I think I dont have to be like that. I m happy with my marks because they
are not very low and I dont have to be most successful student. Because when you aim to
be most successful, you can envy your friends. So people must aim their best score, I
think.

I m happy to hear that you are satisfied your exams. Congratulations.. I hope you will get
succes in "Essential skills". I have never heared that lesson. It is strange to there isn t
special rule to taking test. You are looking busy this summer. I hope you are succed them.

I was planning pilates (I dont know translation of pilates and I think the same in english),
reading a lot of book (also I have made a book list), develop my english... etc.
Unfourtunately it seems I cant do. I m very bored, I want to making nothing these days. I
hope this boring times pass quickly and I do my plans. Good holidays to you..

I hope all your wishes come true..


All the best
Ebru

dentistebru June 30th 2010


Hello Behnam how are you?

Thank you for your kind sentences.

Do you interested in physiology? I like physiology too much. I will be very happy if you
share with me when you came across an interewsting thing in physiology.

I want to learn how to write long and successful essays. But I dont want to employ you
with this.

All the best


Ebru
setayesh June 30th 2010
Hi dear Behnam,

How are you my kind brother ,old friend and my new patient consultant? I hope you
enjoy every moment of your life. It was very hot day today, What do you do with these hot
days? I'll have a very special guest in some days from now so I have lots of
resposibilities, so in these hot days I should go out alot :( I hope I can manage everything
well. Thanks for your quick reply to my post.

I understand you really well. Ignorance is a good solution but believe me it doesn't work
everywhere since I tried it as a first solution. you know, for the frist 8 seions I just
ignored her. Do you know what happened? the situation went form bad to worse.it came
to the point that my other classmates tried to make me aware of this matter by their way
of looking, words and etc. I used to respond them just by smiling, noting more. this
problem was not this much complicated, the more I ignored her,the more her reactions
strength. These days she is ready to hear my opinion about a subject to give a complete
different idea. when I stop speaking my other classmates and even my teacher are all
waiting to hear how she is going to disagree with me since it's become routine. Behnam,
it doesn't bother me at alllllllll. the only thing that bothers me more than any other things
and can be the answer of your questions is that, when she speaks with me her hands
constantly shakes. I can obviously see it. sometimes I must look at another side of the
class to let her be calm enough. She ignores me and panics me at a same time. this is why
I tried to make friend with her. I used to think it can help her to change her idea about me
and find me as her other friends.

Although her spoken English is satisfying, she can't support her Ideas well. For
disagreeing with me she goes through some odd things and emphasizes on some
unbelievable points that make me really laugh.

For example today I was talking about God and his power. You can not imagine what she
said as oppose to me. As I mentioned some phrases of holy Koran while I was speaking,
She tried to convince the class that there are some frases in holy books which is in
contract with physics.:) (Akhe man chi begam behesh jejejeje) I couldn't do anything
unless smiling.

I believe I don't have the commission of convincing others. I never say my words twice. If
the listener wants to know something s/he will get it straightaway so there is no need to
repeat.

Thank you again for your great quidance.

I'm looking forward to hearing from you soon.


All the best,
Setayesh,30 June 2010

setayesh June 30th 2010


Dear Andrew,

Very nice to see a post of you to me. You really made me happy by that. Good for you for
having such a wise teacher. Thanks a million for writing his adavice to me. I promise to
take your advaice and don't forget that.

By the way Andrew, what are you doing these days? How is life in St.peter ?

I hope to hear from you soon

All the best,


Setayesh, 30June 2010

setayesh June 30th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Thank you honey for your friendly reply to me. I have faced such problem alot but this
one is one is masterpiece. But one the whole, thanks again for your tip.

All the best


Setayesh,30 June2010
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setayesh June 30th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

How are you dear? I hope all is well with you.

Thanks for your nice gift to me. I do like stary nights.

Hope to see you active here all the time

All the Best,


Setayesh,30 June 2010
July 2010

behnam July 1st 2010


Hi Setayesh,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for the long post to me, but I didn't
get you!!! What do you mean?

Two men were going to a village. One of them had a donkey. The other one wanted to
praise him for having it; he said, "What a good donkey! It is a powerful donkey."

The owner of the donkey answered, "No, it isn't a good donkey at all. It is lazy."

After a couple of minutes, the first man said, "What a bad donkey! It is very lazy."

This time the owner answered, "Don't say so. It is a very good donkey. You cannot find
such a powerful donkey in this area."

After a few minutes, the first man again said, "You have a very good donkey. Where did
you buy it?"

The owner again started saying negative things about the donkey, "Oh no. I hate this
donkey. It eats a lot."

This time the first man got angry and took his stick angrily and put it up close to hit the
owner and said, "Tell me honesty and finish it if this donkey is good or bad?":):):):):):)

Now dear Setayesh, tell us honesty, if the girl in the class is positive or negative?
:):):):):):) Taklife ma ra roshan kon! (Make it clear what we should do! :):):):):))

Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 July 2010

behnam July 1st 2010


Hi my dear friend Mohsen,

How are things? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you VERY much for
posting a post after a couple of days! I was really worried about you. You made a long
journey, but you didn't tell us anything about it!

Anyway, now it is so nice hearing about you. I am very glad to see you among us again.
Thank you for coming back.

Dear Mohsen, I know what you are saying. I understand you very much. We are both in
the same boat. :):):) How can we say to Iranian women 'try to get your rights like other
women in the world! Make the world heaven for us! Swear to God, try to get your rights.
See what the women in the UK have done! Follow them...' :):):):):)

It reminds me the story of 'the Parrot and the Merchant' in the Masnavi. Swear to God,
someone shows mercy on us, and tells other men in the world the sad story of miserable
men in Iran. :):):):) What should we do to get rid of the cruel women in Iran? How can
we, men, get our rights? :):):):):) What mistakes have we, men, made and now we are
suffering from the consequences? :):):):)

Joking aside, Mohsen, what will happen in the future? Where is this goat--the earthy
world--going?

Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 July 2010

behnam July 1st 2010


Hi Arejo,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for joining us. Your English is very good. We all are
hear to improve our English skills. Please try your best to read and write posts in this
thread.

Would you please let us know a little bit more about you?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 July 2010

behnam July 1st 2010


Hi Shokufe,
Thanks for the reply. What are you saying? Don't you want to go to the north? :(:(:(:(:(:
Very sad to hear it. Don't you like to go to Av...? Again, very sad to hear it. It is very
strange of you.

Yes, you are right about the importance of the exams, but you have to take some rest as
well as some relaxation. You really need it.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 July 2010

behnam July 1st 2010


Hi Ebru,

How are you? I hope you are in a good mood, enjoying your holidays.

Thank you very much for replying. Physiology is an interesting subject, but I know almost
nothing about it.

Dear Ebru, poor physicists have to study the entire universe--whatever is in the world.
However, dentists just focus on 32 teeth--a very small area. Physicists are paid much less
than dentists. In addition, physicists spend their time with rough things, whereas dentists
meet different people. On top of them, people often do not give physicists any recognition
for their work! Don't you think that it is cruel to poor physicists? :):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 July 2010

araghii July 1st 2010


Dear friends,
Salaam to you all,
How are you ? this is Araghi, and greeting all of you and hoping all of you are in good
health and wishing best times and moments for you. I wanted to present you a sprout of
rose , I saw it is very little , I wanted to bring a bunch of flower for you , I felt it is scant,
so I present you a big garden with thousands of flowers, please accept my gift and accept
my apologize for being absent for long time. I was absent for writing but read your lovely
writings everyday. I love this thread as a figurative friendship world and I count myself a
member of this sweet club. I try never abandon my old friends because they are hard to
replace, as you know friendship is like wine, it get better as it grows older, just like this
thread members.
Have a good time,
Best wishes,
Araghi,
July,1,2010

aseman7 July 1st 2010


Hi honey kamelia

How are you?

Thank you for your message and the grace

I wanted to answer much sooner than this but these days I'm busy getting a driver's
license. I was so happy that your information is high about biotechnology . Can I ask
what your field???????????????

the best wishes

setayesh July 1st 2010


Hi Behnam,

How's it going? I hope all is well with you in these boiling days:):)

To be completely HONEST with you I described almost all the things; positive and
negative points of her in my previous posts. I prefer not to classify people in to good and
bad categories, because people are not pure negative or positive. As negative aspect can
be found in a good and positive person, positive aspects can also be found in a person
who seems negative. I hope it would be clear.

Although I receive some negative signal in contact with her, I think there are many things
for me to learn. Dear Behnam, as I said before her spoken English is much better than
my other classmates therefore I welcome all her disagreements with open arms since
speaking with her is more beneficial than speaking with others. It can be a good chance
for me to involve with a good student(in terms of speaking) and practice more. But the
uneasy atmosphere which is created as a result irritates me. I'm searching to find a way
to make this situation milder. Perhaps I am wrong and it is useless.

I was thinking that maybe this problem the same as question marks' problem just belongs
to me. And no body else experienced such a feeling. You can see even my problems are
unique :):):)

Hope to hear from you again

All the best,


Setayesh,1 July 2010

Clare July 1st 2010


Hi Behnam

In reply to your questions:

1) What do women think about the relationship between families? Are they satisfied with
the situations?

Sorry, but I don't really understand your question. Do you mean "Are women happy
about their choice to get married or not?" If so, yes, of course!

2) When men and women can cohabit, live together without getting married, can have
children without getting married, can be boyfriends and girlfriends, can get whatever
they expect from the opposite sex; what makes them get married? It is really confusing.

In fact, fewer and fewer people decide to get married. Marriage for some people is
considered the ultimate commitment, but for many others, it's considered a piece of
paper. Getting married tends to be very expensive as well, so it's a big decision you take
only when you're very, very sure that you really want to be with that person.

3) When a man can live with his girlfriend, with his love, forever, without getting
married; when he can cohabit, can have children that his partner looks after them.
Finally, when a man can have whatever he expects from the opposite sex without getting
married, what else does he need? What makes him marry to someone? What is his
responsibility?

These are exactly the same questions that women would ask themselves. What do they
stand to gain from marriage? As before, marriage is often considered the ultimate
commitment - generally something you do only after you've already lived with someone
so know that you get on, are compatible etc.

But men are supposed to look after their children as well, you know! Very few women
would want to have children with a man who then can't be bothered to take care of the
children. And by that, I mean feed, dress, change nappies, play, teach etc etc.

4) Don't you think that it is against women's rights rather than for? Don't you think that
women are fooled by men? Oh my God, a man can have love with his love, then she gives
birth to a baby, then the man can go because the baby is for his/her mother. The man just
may pay some money from time to time! Don't you think that the UK is like heaven for
men?

A woman can do all these things too! But I think you're underestimating men. Just
because men (or women) can leave a marriage doesn't mean that they will! Don't forget:
we generally become involved with someone else because of love. Sure, love can turn to
hate, but we tend to start relationships with others, or decide to have children only with
someone we're reasonably sure of.

If a man leaves his wife and children, the courts will often make sure that they are
provided for.

5) I wish I could meet some of those men who think of marriage in the UK. I wish I could
ask them this question: Why do you marry? For making love? You can do it. For
children? You can have them. For love? You can have it. For...? Honestly tell me, what
makes you be married?

And these are exactly the same questions you could ask women - no difference.

Do you know what more confusing is? It is much more confusing when I notice women
are satisfied with such laws. They think they have freedom. They think they have received
their rights!!!!!!!

I don't understand this point. Women don't "need" men for financial stability or for a
house. Women go out to work, get mortgages, buy cars and houses, vote, have children -
all without needing a man's signature or assistance.

Most men and women believe children are better off if they have two parents, and most
men and women jointly take responsibility for their children. There's even a law allowing
men to take paternity leave when their children are born. Just because the man and
woman might not be married does not mean that they don't love each other - or their
children!

Few women (or men) take the decision to separate lightly. So it's not as if they get
married thinking "oh, in five years' time I'll get her pregnant and then leave." Why would
they do that?? I think you have to assume good intentions from the beginning - especially
as nobody can force a woman to marry any particular man. And if I didn't trust a man to
begin with, I'm unlikely to either want to marry him or have his children!

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
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behnam July 1st 2010
Hi Setayesh,

Thanks for the reply. You are wrong, because many people have had that problem writing
in Microsoft Word, then copying and pasting in here. People know that they have to re-
write punctuation marks after copying in this place. We have spoken about it many times.
I also clearly remember you asked us this problem and people answered you.

Some people often write here (in the box below). In this case, they won't face any
problems with punctuation marks.

Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that your problem is not unique, and was not unique
too.

By the way, about your friend, when you know the answer what is the point in asking?
(Cho dani o porsi soalet khatast).

'Nobody is perfect' is an old cliche. Everybody has positive and negative sides is a clear
phrases. Tell me some new points.

What I have written about your question is a wise answer. This answer is not mine. It is a
quotation from Imam Ali (PBUH).

Anyway, I am happy that you have solved your problem. Your problems are not unique at
all, but your solutions ARE!

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 July 2010

setayesh July 1st 2010


Hi Behnam

Thanks for your quick reply. It is too late now, I just wanted to tell you I've read your
post.Thank you for being patient in answering to my posts.

I hope tomorrow will be a good day for everybody.


All the best,
Setayesh,1 July 2010

behnam July 1st 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks for the answers.

In my country, women can go out to work, can buy cars and houses, can vote, etc. They
haven't got to spend the salary on the living cost. I guess your assumption about Iran is
wrong. Not only in Iran, but also in Islam women are allowed to work and save their
money. Our prophets Mohammad (PBUH) was a woman's employee. The woman
(Khadije PBUH) was a merchant. She was an old widow and Mohammad was 25. You
should know, Mohammad got married to her. Therefore, about 1450 years ago, women
were allowed to work and earn money. It is not a new thing.

In Iran, the vast majority of students at universities are female. Women are free to agree
or disagree with a marriage. They are completely free to vote. Their husbands cannot
force them to cook, to clean up, to look after children, etc. According to Islam, a woman
can demand money from her husband for giving breast milk to her child. Can you believe
it?

Briefly speaking, women have got as much freedom as other women have got. However,
when it comes to cohabiting, women often do not agree with it. They may fall in love, but
they often do not cohabit. For a girl, living with a boy is meaningless unless she gets
married to him. This is what girls choose themselves. They often do not accept to fulfill a
boy's desires without getting married to him. How can I make it clear? Women
disapprove of sex before marriage themselves.

In a nutshell, when it comes to voting, working, buying things, etc.women have complete
freedom. However, when it comes to cohabitation, they do not agree with it. For our
women, sex without being married is unacceptable. I personally believe our women are
very proud and selfish. They do not care about their husbands' rights. It might be better
to say that the vast majority of women do not know how to fulfill their husbands' desires.
Women often have negative attitudes towards the opposite sex. That is why I wish I were
in the UK.:):):)

Now, who has got much freedom, you or our women? :):):):)

Did you get? I hope so.:):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 1 July 2010
arejo July 2nd 2010
Hi Beham:
Thanks for your kind words.I am gonna practise hard with your guys in this place and
chase the dream of being a native speaker.
I am now study at the university in Xi'an,one of the oldest cities in China or even in the
world.People here are welcome and warm-hearted to the global visitors.and the most
famous veiw that located in Xi'an is the 8th mircle in the world:Emperor Qin's Terracotta
Warriors.(I am not working commercial,haha).The major I study is the Measurement and
Control Technology and Instrumentation Program which is mainly related to he petro
industry.and usually we are going to be dispatched to the oilfield after the
gradulation.Do iran hold the abundant petro resource?Maybe i ma be there someday :p.
Best wishes
Arejo.

behnam July 2nd 2010


Dear friends,

How life is going? I hope all is well with you. How about the weather? Here in Tehran, it
is boiling.

Please read my essay on the last topic. Here it is:


*****************************************************************
"Some people feel that entertainers (e.g. film stars, pop musicians or sports stars) are
paid too much money. Do you agree or disagree? Which other types of jobs should be
highly paid?"

Some people believe that stars should be paid highly, because they entertain people.
However, I disagree with them. Although they amuse people and give them pleasure, high
salaries create some serious problems in a society. For High salaries widen the gap
between poor and rich, unbalance the proportion of work to salary, and discourage
young people from educating.

The difference between people's income widens the gap between rich and poor people in
a society. It seriously threats the safety and security of the society. While three--forth of
population live below the poverty level, it is illogical to give some people a large sum of
money for playing football or performing in plays. It is also a total waste of money,
because the money should be spent on improving the life quality in the society.

In addition, the salary people get in their jobs should be in direct proportion to the effort
they put in. Otherwise, the proportion of income to effort will be unbalanced. Stars are
often some lucky people. They do not gain fame and money because of their efforts. In
many cases, they are paid a big amount of money for physical appearance rather than
attempts and efforts. This damages the economic equilibrium between people.

Finally, paying high salaries to stars discourages young people from educating. There
were two boys in our neighbourhood. One of them was a studious student, but the other
one was a lazy boy. While the studious boy was studying hard, the lazy boy was playing
football and enjoying his time. After some years, the first boy entered university, but the
second boy's parents secretly used their influence with important people to provide
opportunity for him to go to a famous football club. Now, the first boy works as an
engineer for a company. He is really struggling for survival. However, the lazy boy is a
famous billionaire. Once, I met the first boy in the street. He deeply sighed and said, "I
wish I were a lazy person."

In conclusion, salary should be directly proportional to efforts and attempts people take
to do something. Otherwise, it will cause some serious problems in the society. It is not
fair to pay a huge amount of money for physical appearance of some people while the
majority of population is struggling with many financial problems.
********************************************************************

It was very easy for me to agree with paying high salaries to stars, because I had many
ideas (bluepoints). However, I prefer to write my own belief, although it is sometimes
difficult to support your idea. In a real IELTS exam, I may agree with easy sides rather
than giving my exact opinion. :):):)

Anyway, thank you for reading. I'd welcome your criticism and suggestion with open
arms. Please do not make me keep my arms open for a long time, since it hurts. :):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 July 2010

behnam July 2nd 2010


It was very easy for me to agree with paying high salaries to stars, because I had many
ideas (blueprints). However, I prefer to write my own belief, although it is sometimes
difficult to support your idea. In a real IELTS exam, I may agree with easy side rather
than giving my exact opinion. :):):)

sorry for making mistakes. :):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 2 July 2010
Clare July 2nd 2010
Hi Behnam

Actually, I wasn't making any assumptions about Iran, but I was saying what it's like in
the UK. However, I do remember you telling me that you wouldn't want your wife to work
in a place where there were men! Do you remember??

As to who has the most freedom, I would still have to say - based on my conversations
with you - that it's women in the UK. Perhaps that's because there are no expectations
that a woman should get married, and no restrictions on where people think she can
work.

In answer to your comment about wives not knowing how to satisfy their husbands, our
"agony aunts" (people giving personal advice in newspapers) often say that
communication is the best way to solve problems. If a man doesn't know how to satisfy
his wife, or a wife doesn't know how to satisfy her husband, you need to talk about it!
Don't blame your wife for not magically knowing what you like best - instead, talk to her
or show her... It's as much your responsability as it is hers.

Anyway, back to freedom. I'll tell you one thing. Women's "liberation" - freedom to
choose, freedom to vote etc has not occured in the UK because the otherwise ruling
powers (governments mostly made up of men) have ruled it so. Not at all. Women's
liberation came about because women fought for it and demanded it.

Women only got the right to vote after World War 1, when, by that time, women were
working in the factories to make weapons etc. In fact, before World War 1 my great-
grandmother went to prison because she was a suffragette - a woman fighting for the
right to vote. I'm not sure exactly what she did (probably broke some windows or
something) but it was a scandal at the time!

Even now, there are fewer women on the boards of companies than men. Fewer women
MPs than male MPs. (MP = politician, Member of Parliament). It can be more difficult
for a woman to get a job or promotion because the employer thinks that if she's of child-
bearing age she's a greater "risk" because she might leave the company. There are laws
against asking these sorts of question at interview (you can't ask anyone about their
marital status, children, religion etc.) I think it was even the case that 60 years or so, a
woman would automatically lose her job when she got married, but this no longer
happens. In fact, the assumption is that a woman will be independent of men, and that she
will want to work - and continue working.

Attitudes are slowly changing. We've seen it with the assumption that women can only
find fulfilment in marriage, for example. We've had Equal Opportunities legislation,
which ensures and defends the same rights for all - regardless of gender, race or colour.
Even the Church of England ordains women priests!

As I said before, religion plays a tiny part in most people's lives, and our legislation is
based on civic ideas, rather than religious ones. Only a very small % of people go to
church, and religion doesn't affect what people think, what they wear, or even what they
eat.

I think the biggest belief for many people is that we have free choice within the confines
of the law. It would be anathema for many of us to be told we couldn't do something
because of a religious belief, for example. We consider religious belief to be a very
personal thing, not something that can be enforced by others.

And that also means that along with choice and rights, we have responsibilities. If you
commit a crime, you have to answer for it - in a civil rather than relgious court. You go
to prison if the crime is serious enough, for example. There's no capital punishment or
any sort of physical punishment, but the general idea is that prison exists to protect the
rest of society, punish the criminal, and rehabilitate him/her for re-entry back into
society. Of course, that doesn't always happen, but that's the basic idea.

By the way, we used to have capital punishment, but this ended in the 1960s. And you
know what happened after this supposed "deterrent" ended? Nothing. The murder rate
stayed the same. In fact, the UK is still, statistically speaking, one of the safest places to
live in the world.

Anyway, I have now drifted on to a completely different topic, but I was trying to paint a
picture for you of what life is like in the UK, and why people think and behave as they do.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

blg July 2nd 2010


Hello all,
I fully agree what Clare wrote here about the relationship between men/husband and
women/wife. I think only the way to get what people think and want is speaking
out/expessing their thoughts, making people understand what you think. Off course, for
this purpose, we have a month. I allways try to talk to my husband to make me
understand and get what he want and prefer. for some people it may not that easy to
express their ideas (especially in terms of sexual relationship/life) but if you try,
eventually it gets easy and very enjoyable because you don't need to guess what your
partner think and bother your head on things/problems that can be easily solved by
talking. in my opinion, trust is based on the in-depth understading of each other and then
that understanding is created on the basis of good communication. So it is truly correct
that communication is the best way to solve problems and to satisfy your partner.
Good luck all :)

Veronicaho July 2nd 2010


Dear Elham,

I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your Grandpa. I read your letter to/about him and it
touched (?) me a lot. You wrote so nice and I could feel that he meant a lot to you.

When we are in this situations like this and feel a big sadness, it is a good idea to write
what we feeling or to speak "in our head" to the person we lost. The brain needs to
process what has happened and we have a need to say what we think and feel.

I read about your sadness and desperation to not be with your Grandpa while he was
conscious... Do not accuse yourself. I'm sure that your Grandpa don't want that. And as
you know, I'm a Nurse and I have been currently(?) / together with people just before
they dying many times and I will tell you that all reseacher show that your hearing is the
last to disappear, and I have seen it many times. I'm absolute sure that you Grandpa felt
that you was there to say goodbye and that he heard what you said. But he was so tired
and "on the way to move on" so he couldn't answer. This is so normal.
I'm sure your Granpa was proud of you and that he felt calm to feel that you was there.

There is a lot we don't know about. What happen when we dying? My Dad died 2,5 years
when I was at holiday in Thailand. He was acute ill and I had no chance to came home to
stay with him his last hours and to say goodbye. In this hard time I was lucky to have my
daughter home, and of course my mam, brother and sister. I spoke with my daughter all
the time in phone and she gave me reports about his permissions(?). My family and I in
Thailand was sitting at our house terrace and lit a candle for him on the table. After few
minutes the candle went out and next minute my daughter called me and said he died.
For me I felt that my Dad came to me in Thailand to say goodbye. Do you understand?

I do not blame me that I wasn't home. I know he knew that he meant a lot for me and my
children. I was happy and felt good because he got a good dead without pain or anxiety. I
was with him in his mind and my daughter spoke to him from me. He couldn't answer but
I know he heard and he felt my presence. Then he came to Thailand to turned out the
candle and to took farewell.

This is the life, we can't do nothing. Life going on but it is a sadness and hard time. Try to
think positive and all good thing he learn you, what he meant for you and so on. And
when you will get children, tell them about him so they learn to know him as thems
Grand-Grandpa. In this way he lives on...Slowly you will feel more comfortable and in a
better mood.
You are in my thoughts. Take care and I hope to hear from you soon...

A big hug from Veronica

Veronicaho July 2nd 2010


Hi Clare,

Your post was excellent..how you described life in UK. I really agree with you but I also
know there is big differences between how to live in Europe and Iran.
I really try to learn more about the life and culture in Middle East and I have learn a lot
here. I want to respect all for who they are and not from thems religion. I usually
understand but sometimes not...and of course it is the same for people who are not from
Europe to understand us... Then, when I don't understand I thinking: I don't have to
understand, just know that I can't understand all...

Have a nice day,

Veronica
707

Clare July 2nd 2010


Hi Veronica

You're absolutely right - it's sometimes enough to realise you can't understand
everything.

I think it's also enough to realise you can't change someone else! You can try and explain
your way of thinking, your beliefs and culture, and why you have them (why you're a
product of whichever society you were brought up in) but that's as far as you can go.

I don't want to "persuade" anyone why one way of life is "better" than another - just to
try and explain why I think like I do. Because sometimes what I think might appear
completely unacceptable or morally wrong to other people!

Best wishes
Clare

--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam July 3rd 2010


Hi Friends,

How are you today? I hope you are fine.

Here is the next topic:

"It is often said that people over 60 should not work any more because of the problems
they create, the employers should make them retire. Do you agree or disagree? Give
reasons for your opinion."

This topic has been asked candidates to write about in IELTS test in Australia - June
2010 (General Training).

I hope to receive some clues from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 July 2010

behnam July 3rd 2010


Hi Clare,

I don't know how to thank you for the post. The explanation was clear. Thank you very
much indeed.

This is just to let you know that I have read the post. I will write something in answer. At
the moment, I am in a hurry. I have to dash quickly.

Thank you once again for your patience.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 July 2010

Veronicaho July 3rd 2010


Hi Behnam,

I hope you are fine and healty and that you and your family are well.
Here we have summer time and very brightly (?). No nights at all. It's light outside untill
24.00 (the sun going down 23.30) and it going up at 03.00 again. I really like it.

I havn't get holiday yet but last week I was free from job for 5 days. We been with my
daughter's family and her mother in law with our boat to the archipelago for few days. It
was very nice weather and the sea was perfectly still. We swam, cocking meat on the
rocks and saw the sunset going down to the sea. Wonderful!

I have seen and read many of your essays. What are you doing do do? Take an ILTSL
exam? When? What is your plans?

About your next essay. Companies should have more older people at work. Older people
have experience, they are calm and stable, they are not home with ill children and they
are not pregnant and home from work with new born baby. As a customer/patient...I'm
more interesting to speak to an older employee, than to an younger. It provides security
in the company to have experienced staff.
Of course all companies need younger people with new knowledge and new thinking but
it must be a balanse.

Hope to hear from you soon and I waiting to read your essey.

Have a nice day,

Veronica

Bluegreen July 3rd 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hello there Ms. Dentist. How's everything going on with you? Hope you?re having fun
these days.

Thanks about the description of medical students. Oh and I really loved your attitude
toward studying. It's a nice outlook not to force yourself to be always the perfect unique
one, but to just be satisfied with your own deeds. This is what most of us don't know while
moving through all these studying years.
Oh and about that Pilates, yeah I know about it. And the word either in English or
Persian is the same. And it's going to be wonderful if you've chosen to be on the team.
Good for you.

Honey about the boredom, I know what you say. It has happened to me a lot that
although I had lots of chores to do but I was bored. I felt like I couldn't do any of them.

Wish you a nice holiday,


Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 3rd 2010


Dear Aseman,

Hello there Ms. Driver. Now I call everyone with a nick name and this time I chose this
one. Hope you don't get mad at me because driving is such an exciting action. Don't you
think so?

Thank you so much for reading my post. And thanks for asking. To be honest with you I
know nothing of your major but a little. Well that is nothing actually. LOOOL
It was about a year ago when my Physics teacher wanted me to go and research about a
new interesting major which is called Biotechnology. I didn't have time for it so I said:
Oh please! Could you do it for me if you don't mind? And that was it! He was more
curious than me LOOOL. Then he talked to me about it a bit, actually I've forgotten the
most part but half is left in my memory part of the brain. Oh and his reason for such
entreaty was to make sure that I'm choosing this major in my Konkoor list!
Anyways, now my major is totally different from yours. It?s English Literature!

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam July 3rd 2010


Hi Clare,

So many thanks for trying to give me a clear picture of the life in the UK. It was
interesting.

It should be said that what I have written are my personal beliefs, opinions, ideas, way of
thinking, thoughts, attitudes, etc. It doesn't necessarily mean that all Iranian men are like
Behnam. Iranian men are open-minded.

I personally disagree with mixed workplaces. I never let my wife work with men. This is
my own idea. It sounds strange, but I do mean it. You can ask for the reasons, but
speaking about the reasons is another story. :):):)

However, the majority of men have no problem with workplaces. They do not impose any
limitation on their wives. A friend of mine is married. His wife works for a company.
Once I was with them. My friend's wife was speaking about some problems in her
workplace. He gave his wife some pieces of advice. He said, "You know, you should fool
your boss. He is a man. You can butter him up easily. You should know, you can do lots
of things with your smiles. You should try to get his attention. Wear make-up and your
sexy clothes! ..."
My friend believes money is much more important than everything. I strongly criticised
him for his silly advice. He got angry with me and said, "Behnam, don't be stupid. What
can the boss do with my wife? My wife's heart is with me, or she loves me. That's
enough."

This story was only one from thousands. Well, the vast majority of men are open-minded.
However, I am the black sheep of country.

Please do not judge about my country by reading my personal beliefs. I cannot be a


representative sample of Iran.It is unfair to judge about a nation without studying on it
carefully.

We have got different lifestyles, but the simple fact of the matter is this; We are both
human. Clare and Behnam are human. We have got many features in common. We have
got a lot of similarities.

It's a proven fact that people's beliefs and attitudes are strongly affected and influenced
by the culture (situation, place, environment, etc.) they are living in. Therefore,
differences are often because of different geographies and places. They cannot be
important at all. The most important thing is understanding each other. We often use our
feelings to understand someone, and to make ourselves understood. All human beings
have got five common senses, and the same feelings.

I have to leave. I am in a hurry again. I have no time to check for mistakes. So sorry for
mistakes.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 July 2010
Clare July 3rd 2010
Hi Behnam

I can't talk for men, but something I found when I was travelling around different
countries is that women always find something in common, something to share. I'll never
forget travelling in places like India, where a woman would come and sit next to me on a
long bus journey, and regardless of us not speaking each other's language, within a few
minutes we'd established name, family info, talked about clothes etc etc. I don't know if
men find it as easy to build rapport with men from other countries, but you're definitely
right in that as humans, we have a lot more in common than we have not in common.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

aseman7 July 3rd 2010


hi professor behnam

how are you???????

About the story that you defines. "This issue is discussed both universities. When a girl
goes to his teacher for get extra score if s he go with too much makeup and she was
flattery a professor more attention to him. In other places exists the same problem. The
rest of the students are spoiled. What is your opinion on this item? Do you think the work
is correct?

The behavior of professors or men for me is not justified. Why do they do?

the best wishes


3 July 2010

metzean July 3rd 2010


Dear Clare,

Thank you for your writing about marriage in England , I can understand what you
explain in your post. I know that your people choose their life way themselves ,not what
religion ( Christianity) says, and this is because Christianity not covered all your life
affairs , it speaks about some parts of life. But Muslims believe the Christ and they think
Christianity is a prelude to Islam which a comprehensive religion.

People who live according to the instructions of Islam they don't allow themselves to
claim that "we know better than what messenger of God orders." The Islamic instructions
teach us how to live and it is a comprehensible law ,we have Islamic orders from a trivial
affairs to very important one ,for example we have instruction for drinking of a glass of
water, which way sleep at night , how to have baby , how to walk , how to eat, how to
bath ,wearing and a Muslim who care about tiny affairs even choose the direction of their
table toward the Mecca in his office. And also Islam have orders about important affair
like economic ,social and government .

We have different instructions in Islam.

Some of them are indispensible ,it mean that if a Muslim refuse to do them ,he commits a
sin, for examplea Muslim says his payers 5 times per day is an indispensible instruction
and if a Muslim refuse to do it ,he commits a sin ,we have many indispensible instruction
, if a Muslim have relation like cohabit ,he commit a sin.

Some of them are recommended ,it means that if a muslin refuse to do it ,he doesn't
commit a sin but if he does it ,he will be more close to God and also receive his reward.
For example Being clean and neat ,having a good smell , respect children ,respect elders
and many many instruction which are recommended .

Some of instructions are abominable, it mean that if a Muslim does something that is
abominable it is not a sin ,but somehow cause him to go far from God .for example
speaking with full mouth ,sleeping in the mosque, nonsensical talks and many other
things that is difficult for me to write.

I write it to more clarify the difference between societies , hope to receive your explain.
Wherever I wrote HE , I mean he/she

All the best ,


Mohsen
708

sahand July 3rd 2010


Dear Kamelia

I was looking forward to write to you.


I always read your posts. Your writing style is super sophisticated, you certainly have an
enchanting style ... the sort of thing that grab the readers attention from the simply an
initial scan-read. You write, honestly, the way I wish !

In my very own opinion the introverts make the best writers. It's like they have to unleash
all the thoughts that have thus far gone unspoken. This is exactly the way you write. You
can easily express your thoughts with simple sentences and you don't use complex
technical words. I'm always dreaming about having a unique style but ... you know, it
never happened :d

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely;
Sahand

li125085149 July 4th 2010


Hello friends,

I'm new,but I am honoured to join you very much.After reading your esseys I learn a lot
about your countries,culture and your opinions about things which have opened up new
ken for me.

For women study or work with men,as for me,I think is a happy thing for both,and it just
a happy thing.There is also a saying in our country goes:"Men and women is arranged in
groups , labours will be not tired out!"

In our country girl's schools are very few,and there's not boy's school at all.We say it's
equal for men and women, but in fact,women think they are better than men,and as a
result,they want to do all things with men and better than men.

This is my standpoint.

Best wishes
4 July 2010

Clare July 4th 2010


Hi Mohsen

Many thanks for writing about Islam and people's lives. I knew that Islam governs the
most important areas (such as laws and government, for example) but didn't know that
there were also guidelines for how to drink a glass of water! Do most people obey even
these sorts of instructions, or do most people pick and choose which instructions they'll
agree with, and which not?

Among people who say they are Christian (or say, Church of England) there are varying
degrees of devoutness. For example, my mother goes to church every Sunday, sings in the
church choir, and habitually wears a crucifix. That's considered pretty religious. Most
people would go to church only for weddings, christenings and funerals, never say
prayers at home, and probably not observe religious festivals like Easter or Christmas in
religious ways. I mean, you get families together, eating a traditional meal, but that's
about it.

I think that one of the main differences between life in the UK and life in Iran, for
example, is that people in the UK resist what they think is interference in their personal
lives - whether that interference comes from a government, or from a religion.

If you are a religious person, that's considered your personal choice, but as soon as you
start to try and convince others to be religious like you, then that's seen as a very
negative thing to do.

It's important for us to be left alone to do what we want. At the same time, we think it's
important for everyone to be able to do what they want - and this is crucial when there
are so many nationalities and religions living side by side in a small country, like the UK.
British people are, generally speaking, very tolerant people. Not in the negative sense of
the word, where you just about tolerate others, but in a much more welcoming sense of
the word, where we enjoy the variety of people, customs, food etc where we live. And
because we live in large, multiethnic cities, being comfortable with difference is really
important, otherwise we'd end up forever arguing and fighting.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam July 4th 2010


Hi Veroniva,

Many thanks for the post. Thankfully you are enjoying your life. It seems you are a happy
lady with positive thoughts. You are an optimistic person, because you always speak
about positive things in the world. That is great. Thank you for sharing positive energy
with us.

It is summer and very hot. It is +40 centigrade in Tehran. However, I can easily tolerate
the temperature. I rarely nag about hotness and coldness. I think every season has got its
beauty.

Thank you very much for reading my essays. Thank you once again for writing about the
topic. I will post my essay on it as soon as I finish off.

To be honest, your detailed description of Finland has caught my attention. I am very


interested in it. I love your country. In the future, I may marry to a Finish girl and live in
Finland. Who knows!:):):):):) Tell me frankly do Finish girls marry to eastern men?
Please give me reasons in case the answer is yes or no! :)

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 July 2010

behnam July 4th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks for the response. It is easy for women to speak with other women when they meet
for the first time. As you said, women can easily find a way to make conversation with
each other. They talk about their feelings. However, men often talk when they need help.
They rarely speak about their feelings. Speaking about feelings is considered bad among
men. When a man feels stressed, he usually thinks about finding a way to cope with it.

Men are not interested in talking about their private lives. Talking about private things is
a sign of weakness in the world of men. When a man is in a good mood, he tells jokes.
When he is worried he keeps silent.

Speaking about some serious matters mean looking for solution in men's books. This is
why men often offer solution when speaking to their wives. Ladies often expect men to
listen carefully to them without offering solutions, but suggesting a solution for a problem
is a sign of great respect and love in the world of men.

The worlds of men and women are different and complicated. They speak in different
languages. Therefore, they should;d use dictionaries to understand, and interpret for
each other. They should tolerate and talk to each other as you have already mentioned.

I believe women should speak. When they speak, they feel happy. In addition, when a
woman speaks to someone, she loves or respects him/her. By speaking and smiling,
women make life become much beautiful and bearable.

Thank you for reading.


All the best,
Behnam, 4 July 2010

behnam July 4th 2010


Hi Aseman,

Thanks for the post. I know what you mean. I understand it very well. It is not fair to
blame male professors, since they have weaknesses as all human beings. It is in men's
nature to be interested in women. However, some men can control themselves, others
cannot. Some men care about morality and ethics, but others do not. A female student
wears make-up, it's not against the law. She attracts his (the professor's) attention, it is
not against the law too. The professor gives her good marks, it is not against the law.
They (the student and the professor) like to enjoy their lives. Then they decide to have
some happy time, it is not against the law. What is going to limit them? Nothing! They
are free to do whatever they want. People are free to do whatever they want, as long as
they do not do something against the law. Why do you think it is bad? :):):) What is bad
and what is good? There isn't any good and bad things in the world. We should just care
about the laws! :):):):) That's enough. :):):):):)

Hope to here from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 July, 2010

behnam July 4th 2010


Hi Li,

Welcome to this thread, and thank you for joining us. Your English is very good. How did
you learn it?

Thank you for reading our posts. That is very kind of you. When men and women work
together miracle occurs. That's undeniable fact. Women are capable of doing some
things, but men are incapable of doing them. For example, women can cry immediately,
but it is quite difficult for men to cry. Women love cats and dogs, but men may like them.
:):):):) On top of that, women can become mother, but men can't. We, men, shouldn't be
sad about this incapability. :):):):) Women spend a lot of time on shopping, but they come
home with empty hands. :):):):) Women get up at midnight and feed children, but men
often snore loudly all the night. A female model is paid much more than a male model.
Well, women have the capability to fool poor men and take they money.:):):):) Women
are clever, but men aren't as clever as them. Do you know why? It is clear, men earn
money and give it to women. Therefore, men are slaves women are bosses. :):):):):) LOL
Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 July, 2010

metzean July 4th 2010


Hi Clare ,

Thanks for your post, regarding people, yes there are varying degrees of devoutness ,
many people ignore many things that are recommended in Islam , but not integral part of
Islam, for example for water it is recommended to sip it , for eating food ,it is
recommended washing your hand before start eating ,start eating with the name of God
,also start and finish your food with very small amount of salt ,finish your eating before
you completely full. Finish your food with thanking God , if you are hostess/host of guest
at your home it is recommended not to finish your food sooner than your guests , I want
to say that Islam is not only belong to the mosques and reading some verses, it is
practical and covers all aspects of life. what I call recommendation,is not indispensible
,many people forget to do them and it doesn't mean that they are not Muslem ,but some
people try to keep themselves in right truck with considering all instructions.

Some of laws in Islam is integral part of it,indispensible ,for example not tell a lie ,no
slander ,adultery ,rape,?. .
Having some behaviors with people , good behavior with family are ordred.
some personal affairs likewashing body after having sex (a marriage couple) ,fast and
prayers ? and many other things

So a person who lives with transcendendent belief and practise it always is in cheer and
enjoy his/her life.

B.Regards,
Mohsen

metzean July 4th 2010


Dear Clare,

I am reading an English book ,it is about advertising. I write here a part of it .would you
please tell me the meaning.
A noun-stop visit from big brother Aaron and his maverick Louisiana rock-soul
quaverers. Amusing trousers guaranteed.
What is trousers here?
What is quaverers?

Thanks,
Mohsen

behnam July 4th 2010


Hi Arejo,

Thanks for the response. It is so nice to know that your field is related to oil industry.
Iran is one of the famous countries in exporting oil and gas. Iran has got many engineers.
However, you can be hopeful about working as an engineer in Iran. I hope to meet you in
my country.

Your field is interesting. I wish you success.

China is a very vast and wide country, with 1,300,000,000 population. It is extremely
difficult to govern such a big country. How does the government manage to govern it?
What do you like more about your country? What do you dislike about your country?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 July 2010
709

ghazal July 4th 2010


?MY GOD?

Hi my creator

Yes I?m ghazal your slave

my God give me that power to remember ALAST,you asked me question and I


answered:YES

my God help me to be slave who see every where and say:(fatabarek allah o ahsanol
khaleghin)
My God embrace me

And now I?m coming to visit your prophet and YOU

Oh I know everytime,every where I can see you and feel you in my heart but in Madine
and Make ??

Maybe I can find you in those place esaier than everywhere.

I don?t know how I must thank,what I must say to you

I?m sure you love every person and I love you too and you are my best asylum .

It will be my opprtunity to change,I have good life now but I want to have better life,just
help me.

my friend I will go (tuesday),and I hope all of you enjoy your life.

SINCERELY

GHAZAL

Clare July 4th 2010


Hi Mohsen

Some of what you call indispensable laws are also laws in the UK. For example, slander
and rape are punishable by fines or prison. But telling lies and adultery are not
considered crimes. (Unless you tell a lie in court, and then that's considered a crime.) It
might amuse you to hear that bigamy (being married to more than one person at the same
time) is a crime!

I don't really understand the passage that you quoted me.

"A noun-stop visit from big brother Aaron and his maverick Louisiana rock-soul
quaverers. Amusing trousers guaranteed."
What is trousers here? Good question. Maybe the author is saying that they wear funny-
looking trousers?
What is quaverers? Again, a good question. A quaver is a period of time in music. A
quaverer is - not sure... Someone who keeps time? Your guess is as good as mine,
Mohsen.
Sorry, I always meant to ask you. Is your first name Mohsen or Metzean? How should I
address you? I have a horrible feeling I've been calling you by your surname, or some
other impolite form. Many apologies if this is the case.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Veronicaho July 5th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Thank you for your fast replay.


Good if my post giving positive energy. I like to think in a positive way about all thing
and I really trying, but to be honest....I'm not all the time like this:))
I'm a person who can be very angry, stubborn and childish. To think positiv I thinking
that everybody needs to be/feel angry, sad, childish...because it helps us to estimate when
we are happy, lucky, love everybody and feel well.

About Finland.... Yes it is a very nice, safe, democratic and clean country. People are
friendly. Our climate is different to many other countries because of the large differences
between the years seasons. I think you should like it :) Add me on facebook and you can
see many nice pictures from my country..I waiting :))

About to merry with a Finish girl :)))) ...... Of course it should be possible for a Finnish
girl....but what about you...how should you manage it? I just wondering and I can't find
an answer.... I waiting for the answer :))

In Finland are many marriage between Finish girls and Estern men. Sometime the girls
convert to Islam and then there is no problem at all.
Sometimes both have thems own religion and living together as they want and as what
they feel important in the Finish society. Then I thinking the religion hasn't so "big
place/space" in their life. I think their religion is important for them self but they are not
living out from it. (hope you understand) I know few couples who living like this and what
I know they are very happy.

You havn't answer to my question Behnam...What is your plans...why all essay,


courses....Are you planning for to move to Finland?

To the last...Where is Marina?

Hope to hear from you soon,


Veronica

elham_z July 5th 2010


My dear friends ( Clare, Setayesh, Behnam, Kamelia, Ghazal, Mohsen, Veronica,
Aseman, Sahand) ,

I don't know how to express my deep thanks to you for your really heartfelt sympathy for
me. I am really proud of having such kind and supportive friends.

Well it is a week after that truly sad happening and I am going to share some of my
thoughts during this time with you.

As you know it was my first experience of loss, at first it was so hard for me to accept it.
But what I came to as conclusion is this definite fact that DEATH IS A NATURAL PART
OF LIFE. It came with out any voice and occurred as normal as all other parts of our
life. As if really this life is just a period of trials and tests as God says in holy Koran : He
(Allah) has created death and life, that He may test which of you is the best in deed. He is
the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving.

And as I truly saw in my grandfather's life, all we have to do is to try our best to be a
right human being and be hopeful to God's kindness through us to direct us to the
straight path as again we have in Koran: Whoever works righteousness whether male or
female, while he (or she) is a true believer (in the Oneness of Allah), verily to him (or to
her) We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful
provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what
they used to do (i.e. Paradise).

Another thing I'd like to mention is this repetitive fact that we take a lot of things for
granted. We don't value what we have the way it deserves and we start to review it's
positive things after losing it. So Elham be careful with what you posses right now not to
take them for granted!!!

No I don't say nothing has happened and everything is going to be like the past. For sure
we missed a really precious property who we will never find a substitute. But Elham don't
ever forget that only thing you can do is to accept all that has happened!

Thank you once again from bottom of my heart,


Elham

elham_z July 5th 2010


Hello daer Kamelia,(this is my unfinished post to you last week, I have completed it)

How is my young, energetic, friendly, having a special place in my heart, friend?


Khastegiye emtehana ishala as tano ruhet birun rafte golam? Bebin Kami, harchi ham
khastegi bud ddigge ba didane man birune birun raftha, mage na? Elham yekam khodeto
tahvil begir to ro khoda.:):):):)

Oh Kamelia , your coming from Mashhad, goooood for you. Look, here we are killing
ourselves to make someone take us there while you live there. It's just not fair. Is it? Last
year exactly this time we were in Mashhad, we went there by train, without my father. It
was our first trip experience without our own car and without our father. Last year we
accepted to take a trip without him, since we saw if we want to wait for him feeling like
taking a trip, we have to wait, Emmm, I really don't know how many years. You know last
time when we waited for him; it took us ten years time. Also our trip was a good new
experience, but finally I said to my mother: I will NEVER want to have such experience
again, a trip without a man? Oh, this is a disaster. But guess what happened to us there?
We had our tickets for train for 6 pm, at noon we packed our entire luggage ready and
went to Holy shrine for the last time. As each of us wanted to have her own place to be
alone, we separated and we planned to meet each other at 5 in a really well known place
in Haram. It would just take us several minutes to go back, take our bags and it would
take us 15 minutes to get to train station. Every thing was supposed to go rightly but you
don't believe what happened. At 5 my two sisters and I were present at the mentioned
place, but my mom? , guess yourself. It's a long story what had happened and how much
we walked and cried to find my mom. And yes we found her exactly at 6. And you for sure
know that the train moves exactly in time. Let me bring it to end, we missed the train. And
wish not to see a mom and her three daughters in such miserable mood we were. We
spent a terrible night, but it was worth experiencing another presence in Haram again.
We took plain tickets and were at home exactly at the certain time we were supposed to
be if we had our trip with train. You know Kami, we still ask ourselves: WHY?

Anyway I think I have to just dream of a trip this summer cause in addition to my father's
reasons for not having time for trip, now with the recent issue having come up ( my
Grandpa's death) I guess my family hardly would think of it, I am not sure if my mom
would feel like taking trip!!! You know in summers my father cultivates rice. So whole
summer he is busy with his lands under rice. Having observed my dad's hard endeavor
for it, now I understand why some people call rice berAnj instead of berEnj. Ok, no no, I
am not nagging at all. I prefer enjoying seeing that part of our garden specific to rice
green in summers with that pleasant smell at times and bad smell at other times, to
having a trip. Last year we had no rice planted, and I was so sad. Ok, it's a deal.

Oh, Kami as we say in Farsi I'm eating your head being so talkative. Sorry. Please write
as long posts as you can to me too. And Kami I hope you don't mind my asking , but I am
curious to know if your actual name is Kamelia or it is your name on the net?

Hope to hear from you so soon,


Elham
elham_z July 5th 2010
Daer Veronica,

I got so happy to see your post to me. Thank you so much for saying that fact to me about
my Grandfather's ability to hear me at those last moments. It really helped me feel
relieved.

So my dear kind lovely nurse, you're enjoying your summer. You know dear Veronica,
your description about your trips and having fun with your family is really
mouthwatering. I am not sure about the right use of the word mouthwatering here in
English, but we use it in Farsi to say how tempting your act is. I really really really wish
I could travel to your country, being welcomed by you there, coming to your home and
company you in your trips. Actually I profoundly feel I need to be away from my own
country and culture for a while. Sometimes I feel I am created to live somewhere else, at
least for awhile. Let me tell you something about myself: I am used to lying down in my
bed dreaming about what I desire to happen for me, Picturing myself in situations I love
to experience. So tonight I will dream of having come to you in Finland, having a
delicious food beside you and your family, and enjoying myself spending time in places
you choose to take me to. Oh, I wish it could happened.))))

I really want to congratulate to you for having such nice job. I hope you always be at
healthy happy mood enjoying your life beside your family members.

Best wishes,
Elham

elham_z July 5th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Oh, you are going to have a really special trip. Good for you.
This would be for sure an unforgettable trip. Of course we can feel God everywhere
praying to him, but I believe sometimes we need to have this experience differently, in a
way that makes us sense ourselves more closely to each other and reenergize us for
continuing our life.

Dear Ghazal I'd love to seriously ask you not to forget your friends here, praying for
them deeply specially Elham that these days really need God's special notice to her.

** Ghazal jan azizam, behet tabrik migam ke in sasadate bozorg nasibet shode lebase
pako sefide ehram bepushi va tajrobeye binahayat zibaye tavafe kabe ro dashte bashi .
safari por az zibayi, nur va dark ro barat arezumandam, yek donya eltemase doaa**

Hope you a very safe and nice trip,


Elham

naseh5 July 5th 2010


Dear Behnam,
Thanks a branch for yours writings.It really unique for u as a Muslem.I am very prude to
read any person on this website which his/her religion is Islam.I am going to be practice
my writing after my exam if my God willing.

---Naseh

behnam July 5th 2010


Hi Veronica,

Many thanks for the reply. My question was clear. Let me ask it again: Does a Finish girl
is interested in getting married to Behnam? :):):)

What do you mean by saying 'how to manage'? Is it a matter of management or


something like that?

I haven't made any plans yet, but I will make some plans soon. :):):)

You are the first person who asked about Marina. Actually, I don't know where exactly
Marina is right now. :):):) I just can say that she has got engaged. You can guess where
she is and what she does, because you are a lady and ladies understand each other very
well.

I am sure she is very happy, because she has left this thread without saying goodbye, and
has forgotten us. Well, it is not strange. She is a lady, ladies often are perfect at sharing
their sadness. When they feel stressed. they want someone to listen to them Whenever
they are happy, they forget old friends. I am not complaining, because it is ladies nature.

I guess Finland ranks highly in many factors like of the quality of life, human
development, health and care, life expectancy, and public education. I am quite sure you
are the happiest people in the world.

I hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 5 July, 2010

behnam July 5th 2010


What a big mistakes Veronica...Does a Finish girl like to marry, or is she interested in
getting married to an Iranian man? :):):):)

Sorry.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 July, 2010
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behnam July 5th 2010


a big mistakes!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOOOL if it is a mistake, why has it got 's'? =))=))=))

Veronicaho July 5th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Yes, a Finish girl can be interested in a Iranian men. Why not? She doesn't has any
problem with that if she love you. My question was if it could be possible for you. Should
it be possible for you to live in Finland and take our "culture" to you? I'm not sure that
you should accept it. What do you think?

Veronica

metzean July 6th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thank you for your help ,your idea is always useful and give me the incentive to make my
English developed, Also I appreciate your politeness , Metzean is only a meaningful
name as it remind me some memories ,so I use it fro my ID ,but it is not my surname ,So
you can always call me Mohsen unless I change my name :) .

Regarding bigamy I have a question. As you know bigamy is the crime of legally marry
for the second time when the man keep his first wife. My question is that if a man in your
country have sex with another woman while he is already married to some one else , Is it
a crime or not?

In Islamic laws bigamy is not a crime ,but it has many terms and condition which should
be observed. The main important term is the first wife's consent, and when a woman is
consent and let his husband have a second wife.
Some women can't produce child ,and because they love their husbands they allow him to
choose a second wife and have a baby.
Some of the women can't tolerate their husband because he desire her too much ,so they
allow him for the second wife.
A man who have tow wife ,she should behave to both of them equally

So in Islamic laws a man who has already married ,is allowed to have sex with another
woman ,but it should be legally. But in European country ,a man who has already
married , can have sex with another woman but it should be illegally.

I was with a European married man for few months who came to Iran lonely. He
complained about Iran conditions, because he couldn't find a place to be with women and
a place for drinking alcohol. I recommended him to have bigamy, but he didn't accept it.

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean July 6th 2010


sorry for mistake "she should behave to both of them equally"

he should behave to both of them equally

shanar July 6th 2010


Dear ghazal

Hiiiii there . how are you ? what are you doing in this warm but lovely season ? I hope
you and your family have a nice and great holiday in this summer. Oh honey what about
your lovely niece. How is she ? I love kids very much but unfortunately I have not niece
or nephew right now. Good for you lucky girl.

What are you doing with Spanish ? did work on it ? is it fantastic and do you love it ?
I wish you learn it as well as possible . I really miss you so I write this post in order to
tell you that I never forget you and I always remember you as a good friend loooool

I hope see you soon


* have a good time *

Respectfully

Shanar ;)

shanar July 6th 2010


Dear behnam

Hi . how are you ? what are you doing my good teacher?

Woooow the poem was great and very very very nice . I really joy. Thanks for your
beautiful post ? . I completely understand that and I read it for my family and all of them
enjoy especially my father. Thanks again honey.

Have a good time * *

Shanar ;)

Clare July 6th 2010


Hi Mohsen

No, no crime to have sex in the UK outside marriage. But marriage is a legal institution -
you can only be married to one person at the same time. It's not illegal to have an affair
with another person, or to commit adultery - it's only illegal if you marry another person
while you're still legally married to someone else.

Drinking alcohol is a big part of our culture. Many people go to the pub after work, or
meet their friends in the pub at the weekend. So I can understand why your European
friend missed drinking! But it hasn't always been illegal to drink alcohol in Iran, has it? I
thought that Iran was famous for a grape variety called Shiraz - which makes a very nice
red wine.

Where I live in Italy, many people have a glass of wine with their lunch, and a shot of
alcohol (like grappa) in their coffee afterwards. After that, they usually have a siesta for
a couple of hours, and go back to work late afternoon, so avoiding working in the hottest
part of the day.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Bluegreen July 6th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Hiii there. How are you? I hope you're having nice days.
Well, of course you are! How can someone et ready for such a nice trip and not have
beautiful days, right? Well, I'm so glad you're going to have another chance of going to
Mecca. Good for you girl.

Dear Ghazal, so at last you betrayed your secret, huh? Oh you killed me on that night.
Remember how much I entreated you to tell me which country it was? LOOOL Oh that
was because of my idle curiosity ! Right? Because you WOULD tell me at last! LOOOL

Anyways, honey, I can't express how much I'm glad for you. I really hope that you have
awesome days. Oh but not please do remind me there! Deal?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 6th 2010


Dear Sahand,

Hi there. How are you? I?m so glad to read something from you dear friend. It's MY
pleasure actually. So am I supposed to write as SUPER SOPHISTICATED (as you say)
as you said? LOOL I'll begin with my words first.
Dear Sahand, are we to be pen pals from now on and write posts? So there mustn?t be
these flattering patterns here LOOOL if so, then I'm afraid I can't go on writing!

Look, everyone knows that Your English plus our other friends' here are much better than
me. And each of you has your OWN STYLE! Usage of unique, creative words, nice
grammatical structure and so on! You see what I mean? There's nothing different about
me. But thanks for the compliments!

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 6th 2010


Dear Elham,

Aaaaalrigh! Now Listen to these adjectives,( I'm going to express my deeper part of heart
out LOOL)

Hello to this kind-hearted, magnanimous, scintillating and in one word awesome friend!
Oh come on, let's put away all these words because just the word Elham remind me of all
the nicest posts we've written to each other. Just the fact that I open this Forum and see a
post of yours revives me because I really see this optimistic energy in you. You really
make me happy with your nice explanatory posts. And of course every time I read them
with more eagerness than before.

Dear Elham, I know about train trips, actually my first trip with train happened this year
when Ghazal and I were going to go to Tehran together. I know, they just move at sharp
time!
Oh and about the thing happened to you last year, I'm so sorry. I know how loss feels but
thank god you found your mother and it just took you an hour unless it would be
excruciating for you to check all those places and ask those people to help you out.

Your story just reminded me of a mom and a daughter I met on the train, they were
actually going back to Tehran. They had a three days trip to Mashhad for visiting the
Holy Shrine. Exactly such a thing had happened to her mother. But she said that she had
found her while she was praying to find her. Thank god nothing happened to both of you.
Honey I've got a question before answering yours, LOOL; you said that your father owns
farm lands, right? And they cultivate rice. I thought that cultivating rice is the particular
job of north part of Iran. So, where's the city you live in? I'm sorry if I put my question in
odd words! I just wanted to ask you about the city.

Oh and about your questions. Of course I won?t mind. It's my pleasure to answer
whichever question you have. The answer's positive. Yes it's my real name. But it brings
another question to my mind. What's wrong with Kamelia? LOOL everyone keeps asking
me if it is LITERALLY my real name or not .LOOOOL

waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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Bluegreen July 6th 2010


Dear Shanar,

Hiii there. How's everything? How's pool going on these days dear Ms. Swimmer?

Dear Shanar, it just aroused my curiosity for one more time. So you love children,
hmmm? How come? What if you had one of those always-throwing-tantrums kids? Or
what if you had to take care of a child like my cousin's that I told you about? You'll never
guess that where is she going to jump from this time! LOOOOL

Oh and don't worry about nieces or nephews! You?re going to have one as soon. :D

And here's a tip: Umm I really have no idea of what happened to my SIM card but it's out
of order right now. So if you happened to call me or give me a text message me and it
didn't reach me then you must know that...! And unfortunately I haven't got your house's
number. So please if there was something important happening in the university mail me
your phone number and I'll give you a call. Ok?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,
Kamelia

Bluegreen July 6th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hiii there. How are you doing? How are your classes going on these days? I hope you're
getting on perfectly well with Listening courses. Because you're going to need the
techniques sooner or later.

Dear friend, so you're getting serious about this Finland matter, huh? LOOL Bingo! So
that was the country ! LOOL

Dear Behnam, there were some sort of things I really would like to tell you but I didn't
find time to.( Come on don't say excuses again) I actually preferred to read our other
friend's posts here for some days. I really feel happy when the thread's full of new posts
and new ideas. It's like a live brainstorming! LOOL

Honey, actually I wanted to tell you that I've never ever enjoyed a discussion such as
yours and Dear Clare's. The answer's were proper and it one direction. You didn't escape
any question and both of you were answering with total respect to each other's ideas and
cultural rules.

I really wanted to thank you both ( if dear Clare's reading this post).

Oh and here's another question. are you working on any special book in listening class?
Or it's just another version of those seven IELTS books which you bought?

LOOL and one more thing, you remember telling me about my driving? I've started
driving seriously in streets, so..!

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
dentistebru July 6th 2010
Hi Behnam,
how are you? I hope you are fine.

Behnam you are right, there is inequality of income on a lot of area but I think your
comparison is not true:):):) Yes dentists focus 32 teeth. But I dont think learning them is
easy. Moreover they dont learn only teeth, they have to know a lot of thing from
medicine. Everybody care about their health first. So people who work on health field,
earn more money:):) Physic is very important of course and they are, surely, working a
lot but being a dentist as hard as being a physicist.

Therefore singers earn too much but they are only singing, arent they? So there is no
proportion like that:) what will you say for this:)?

Sorry for being late.


Hope to hearing from you soon
Ebru

dentistebru July 6th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

How are you I hope you are fine always.


How is going your holiday? Have you started for Essential skills? More power to your
elbow..

How is the weather in Iran ? Is it too hot. Today it is raining here.

Can I ask you a question? What is the meaning of "Taghtam Deh". I listen a perfect
melody and I learn song's name. But I dont know what is meaning. I think it is Farsian.So
I wanted to ask you.

sorry for being late:)


Hope to hearing from you soon
Ebru

Clare July 6th 2010


Hi Kamelia

I'm glad you enjoyed the discussion! Do you have an opinion about marriage / men and
women etc?? Am I right in thinking that you're Iranian? In which case, it would be
interesting to have the perspective of an Iranian woman (that is, if you wanted to share it
- please don't feel under any obligation if the subject is uncomfortable for you.)

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam July 6th 2010


Hi Naseh,

Welcome to this thread, and thank you for praising me. Thank you once again for joining
us. Your English is very good.

Your name implies that you often give advice (Naseh). Would you please advise me?

I have great respect for you. My Muslim brother. Would you please tell us a little bit
more about yourselves?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 6 July, 2010

behnam July 6th 2010


Hi Veronica,

Thanks for the friendly reply. Yes, for me that's easy to get adapted to your culture. I can
manage it easily.

How can I make a finish girl loves me? Do you think I can be a good husband for her?
:):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 6 July, 2010
behnam July 6th 2010
Hi Ghazal,

How lucky you are! Have a nice trip. Please pray for me when you are in Mecca. Don't
forget us. I will miss you.

Hope you come back soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 6 July, 2010

behnam July 6th 2010


Hi kamelia,

Thank you very much for the lovely posts. I love them.

I am taking part in a listening course. That is not interesting. At least, I didn't satisfied
with the first two sessions. It was like a total waste of time.

You know, there is a small shop in the institute. A man sells English books. It seems that
teachers get some money if they persuade students to buy more books, because teachers
often advertise different kind of books. For listenting course, we have to have four books.
Two of Cambridge series (3&4), 'IELTS based listening, and 'IELTS practice tests Plus'.
Today, in the afternoon, I went to Enghelab square and bought some books--Mosaic
reading 1& 2 included. I won't buy any sort of books anymore, because I have got
enough books. :):):):):)

Congratulations on driving the car in the streets. That's brave of you!

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 6 July, 2010

behnam July 7th 2010


Hi Ebru,

How are you doing? I hope you are happy and healthy. I was joking. It was just an
excuse to write to you. I love medical science very much. In fact, all subjects are
important for human beings. Some of them are much more important than others. For
example, we cannot live in a healthy way without doctors, but we can live without
singers.

Singers are necessary, when the stomachs are full, there are enough shelters over heads,
pockets are full of money, everything is OK. Otherwise, nobody will enjoy listening to
voice of singers. :):):):):) People give singers money when they have no problems in life,
this is why singing is a money-making job. :):):):)

Can you sing? I can sign in Azerbaijani and Persian, but nobody pays for it.
:):):):):):):):) LOL =))=))

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 7 July, 2010
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metzean July 7th 2010
Hi Clare,

Drinking alcohol in Iran is a crime .but some people Christians and Jewish make the
alcohol at home and drink it and according to law nobody can inter a house unless have
a court permission. Some people produce vinegar at home , it is very easy , put the grape
in the cask and leave the cask in a cool place ,after 40 days it is converted to vinegar ,
but according to Islam , before 40 days you are not allowed to open the cask lead.
Because before 40 days, there is a kind of alcohol in the cask and drinking of vinegar
before 40 days is considered a sin and it is illegal. But people are free at home they can
drink or immerse in it ,there is no hawk to watch them.
There are only tea and coffee , different juices and severed in Iranian pub, but in Iran
nobody spend his time in pub except jobless people ,most people ,study in libraries, going
to club ,Walking the park ,watching TV ,going to visit their relatives, going to the mosque
,or do shopping in their spare time. Birds of a feather flock together .

All the best,


Mohsen

naseh5 July 7th 2010


Hey,I am from Yemen.I would like to ask any one about Qat Market in Yemen.Peopel at
yemen they do not spend their time to walk,shopping,pecnic,or play football or watch
TV.It is rare for whome do not chew qat.People at Yemen whome chew qat are above of a
verage 80%.Most of student who studying at University can not doing his task or
momorize any title for his teste or ,but I can say many but most student at secondery and
elementry school they chew qat and smoking.I am one of them who chew qat twice in
Aday,one at afternoon and the anther at evening.I do that to doing my homework.Some
Skeikh of Islam Forbid it and count it from alcahol,because he is made the chewer very
nervious.For me,I donot agree them and some Sheikh of Islam also they chew qat.For
example Skeikh Abdalaziz Al_Zendany who was
accused of being the second man in terrorism after Osama bin Laden after the events of
September atheist, but God Abe only be averse propagated acquitted him of all these
false suspicions that are false and have no place of health.Please if you know any idea
about this plant or you have seen it or chew it do not hestite to write ur opinion about it.It
will be welcomed as how it was?
---Naseh.

naseh5 July 7th 2010


Hi,Behnam.You are welcome.
I am terribly glad for ur sentence?My brother Muslim,.It really made me very proud that
there are many muslims all over the world.I hope you are the best.
My name is Naseh.And as u have told me it is from advice.This mean your excellent in
Arabic Language and this is with out any doubt.For you question.I am Naseh Ahmed
Shaker.I am astudent at University Of Amran.I am Muslim and thanks Allah.It is the
greatest blessing is the blessing of Islam. Islam is a religion one, regardless of doctrinal
differences. Pardoned this talk about doctrinal differences.Moreover,how I can advice
my brother who is higher than me in knowledge.Many thanks for encourage me to
write.God bless you.
Best regads
Naseh Shaker
---Naseh.

Clare July 7th 2010


Hi Mohsen
Thanks for your explanation. Some people also make vinegar at home, but vinegar has a
sharp taste - not like wine at all. Other people also make wine at home that ends up
tasting like vinegar, but that's anothe story! Many people in this region of Italy grow
grapes - for eating and for using for wine. I also have a few vines, but only for eating
grapes.

Hi Naseh
I've heard of qat. Isn't it a very mild sort of (legal) drug? What effect does it have when
you chew it?

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

aseman7 July 7th 2010


INTERVIEW WITH GOD

I dreamed , I had an interview with god .

God asked:

So you would like to interview me!

I said:If you have the time..

God smiled,

My time is eternity.

What questions do you have in mind for me?

What surprises you most about human kind?

God answered:

That they get bored with child hood.

They rush to grow up and then,

long to be children again.

That they lose their health to make money.

and then,

lose their money to restore their health.

That by thinking anxiously about the future,

They forget the present?

such that they live in nether the present,


And not the future.

That they live as if they will never die,

and die as if they had never lived.

God's hand took mine and

we were silent for a while.

And then I asked:

As the creator of people,

What are some of life lessons you want them to learn?

God replied , with a smile:

To learn they can not make any one love them.

but they can do is let themselves be loved.

T o learn that it is not good to compare themselves


to others.

To learn that a rich person is not one who has the


most,

but is one who needs the least.

To learn that it takes only a few seconds to open


profound wounds in persons we love,

and it takes many years to heal them.

To learn to forgive by practicing for giveness.

T o learn that there are persons who love them


dearly.

But simly do not know how to express or show


their feelings.

T o learn that two people can look at the same


thing,
and see it differently.

To learn that it is not always enough that they be


forgiven by others.

The must forgive themselves.

And to learn that I am here.

ALWAYS

elham_z July 7th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Thank you so much for your kind reply. I like you to know that now I came to computer to
write to you in order to empty my mind from all these getting on my nerve thoughts that
have made me so angry and are driving me crazy. So happy to write to you.

Let me answer your questions first. I live in Najafabad of Esfahan. I am not sure if you
have ever heard of there. Yes, we cultivate rice here. Although we are gradually losing
our gardens, turning them to constructions, but well we have still enough lands to claim
they are one of the main parts of our city. My father has been busy with his garden's
affairs as long as I remember, beside all other things he does as the major job. Our
garden is not a big one, but it is our most worthy thing we have. We really enjoy our time
spending in it. Starting from spring till the weather gets so cold in a way that we can't
tolerate it, we spend all Fridays there. We have various fruit trees like: cherry, apple,
grapes, pear, berry, fig, peach, ( zardalu, alu , albalu , goje sabz , zalzalak, I don't know
the English equivalents) and trees of walnut, hazelnut and almond. They are not too
much; we just gain as much product as to supply our own need. All the spring, the first
month of summer and first month of outman we are busy picking fruits. Now is the time
for picking Albalu and of course it is getting late, since last week we were involved in my
Grandpa's death issue.
Also we are really grateful for having our garden sometimes having garden makes me
and my sisters angry, for hearing this repetitive sentence from my father when we ask him
for having a short trip to other green places as well: Why should we go to some places
while we have our own garden? Of course he is some how right, but we need variety too.
Oh Kamelia last night we had a sweet experience. We went there with my sister and her
husband. He left the garden sooner than us, so we had this chance to be altogether once
again without his presence like all those old days. we reviewed all our memories with
crandpa and cried together.The interesting part for us was returning to home while we
all came back with one car, and that car was my dad's old one which we were used to use
before my sister gets married and I start driving. We laughed a lot and made joke on our
oldest sister that she has done a really good thing to marry since it is not a very
interesting scene to be seen by people, I mean a car full of these grown up girls.:):):):) (
we are just four sisters ). But on the way back we saw a lot of people just sitting by the
road side in green places, and we truly thanked God for having a garden to spend time in
privetly.

After all these irrelevant explanations for the first question it's second one's turn. Are you
ready? Wow, I know Kami now says: Oh no pleas that's enough Elham.:):):):)

So your actual name is nice Kamelia. You know since it is a rarely heard name for an
Iranian girl it made me curious to ask. Is this a typical name in your own province or
city? Has it any special meaning?

Dear Kami I like to ask you to ask me a lot of questions (easy ones) to give me more
excuses to right, would you pleas? Vay, it is the time when Kamelia shouts at me and says
: No please thats enough.:):):) Emmm, ok, you ask me and I will answer, then you read
just some part of it not all to make you bored. Is it a deal?

Waiting eagerly to read from you,


Elham

Veronicaho July 7th 2010


Hi Elham,

Thanks a lot for your post to me. I'm happy if I could help you with my knowledge about
nursing.
I hope you feel a bit better and that you can see moment from your last hours with your
Grandpa from an other view.

Yes I understood mouthwatering...I think this is a word which uses all over the world.

As you dreaming about Finland...I am dreaming about Iran. You can't understand how
much I would go there to see and get experience from your country.

Exactly as you I believe it's importent to be away sometimes. It gives so much and you get
knowledge about other people makes it easier to understand/respect others.

Elham...I really tell you from my heart. If you coming here you are so welcome in my
family and I will show you my country! In the evening we can make delicious food from
our countries and tast it. Tell me when you are coming :)

Now I have to make dinner to my family...


Hope to hear from you soon,
Veronica

Andrew July 7th 2010


Dear Mohsen and Clare!

I scanned the thread and discovered the question (pages 708 and 709) which is not
answered yet, if I didn't mistake.

"A noun-stop visit from big brother Aaron and his maverick Louisiana rock-soul
quaverers. Amusing trousers guaranteed.
What is trousers here?
What is quaverers?"

'A noun-stop visit' is obviously a misprint, needs to be read 'A non-stop visit'.
Clare has already interpreted the part about 'amusing trousers'.
So, what about 'quavers'?

The word 'quever' has rwo meanings in English, namely,


'1/8 time period in music' (1/8 note) and
'voice quevering' (vibration).
The first one gives not much for understanding the passage.
But the second one goes much better!
I think an interpretation of the sentence must be 'big brother Aaron and his maverick
Louisiana rock-soul singers, singers who sing in that exlusive 'black soul' manner, with
strong voice vibration.

I repeat, it is just my guess, but I hope, the right one.

Best wishes,
Andrew
P.S. Please, visit me on Livemocha.com:)

elham_z July 7th 2010


Hi dear Behnam,

I really felt like writing to you. I just know that I need to write to you, but I don't know
what. I can start speaking my mind and heart out in this post as I did to Kamelia but I
prefer not to do so, since she is a girl and we girls can bear each other better being so
talkative. I know that a man doesn't like to be exposed to all that ??? words by a woman
while coming back home tiredly at night. It is better for women to consider a proper time
for this aim. So wait for such long posts by me to you and I would eagerly wait to find a
suitable time to jump into being sooo talkative to you. :):):):)

No no , Elham control yourself . You have promised not to talk your head out now to
Behnam, so why are you thinking to what to write to him next. Let him just know that you
love writing to him and more than that you love to see a post to you posted by
Behnam.))))

Dear Behnam how lucky you are to see such a huge number of posts written to you daily ,
so make this girl ( Elham ) happy by writing to her a as long post as you can.I have been
absent for a long time and I really miss your posts titled dear Elham. Of course you are
not forced if you don't like.

Waiting sooo impatiently to read your post,


Elham

behnam July 7th 2010


Hi Shanar,

Thanks for the response. I am glad that you liked the poem. I know a lot of poems in
Azerbaijani. If you or any members of your family like Azerbaijani poems just let me
know. :):):):)

"Aziz doslar galin siza soileim,


bolagh osta bir marali gormisham,
istiyasiz halib bayan eiliam,
agh sinada ggosha narin gormisham. Shy, shy, shy, ....:):):):)"

Oh my close friends come and listen to me (I'd like to tell you something),
I've seen a beautiful girl in spring (a place where water comes up naturally from the
ground. It seems that the girl has been there to take water),
If you want me to describe her more,
I've seen her two pomegranates on a white chest. :">:">:">

It was a little bit sexy. I hope it does not upset you and other friends.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 7 July, 2010
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behnam July 7th 2010


Oh yes, it might be better to write 'I've seen two pomegranates on her white chest' rather
than 'I've seen her two pomegranates on a white chest'. Actually, the second sentence is
literally wrong. :):):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 7 July, 2010

behnam July 7th 2010


Hi Elham,

It was very nice reading your lovely posts. Thank you very much for writing something to
Behnam.

There days people rarely write to Behnam, because his posts are repetitive and boring.
However, that's very kind of you to show an interest in reading my posts.

In fact, I'd like writing long posts, but I've got no ideas. Please give me some excuses to
write.

I'm not exaggerating, but you write perfectly. Your English WAS very good. Now, it is
extremely good. You have made a big progress in writing.

'Four fully grown girls in an old car', was a nice way of describing the situation. To be
honest with you, the sentence made me laugh, and imagining the situation made me ...
(fill in the blank=put a word in the blank to make the sentence has meaning.:):):))

Oh, be careful with eating too much sour fruits, although as all ladies ladies you love
sour things (I just guess) :):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 7 July, 2010

behnam July 8th 2010


Hi Elham,

Last night I maybe was sleepy so that I made many mistakes. As you know, making
mistakes is good because it helps us to learn. However, sometimes we make unwanted
mistakes. For instance, writing 'ladies' twice in my last posts, or writing 'there days'
rather than 'these days'. In many cases, mistakes do not break conversation because the
leader can keep conversation going. However, in some cases, mistakes break
conversation.

I didn't check the post for correcting mistakes. I'm so sorry.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 July, 2010

behnam July 8th 2010


Hi Setayesh,

I received your email--your great essay included. Thank you very much indeed. Without
any exaggerating, your essay was excellent. Please paste it in the thread, and let people
enjoy reading it. You should also help people write standard essays. For doing so, just
write how could you write such a great essay? Which book did you probably study? What
did you totally do?

Your essay was awesome. Please write about your achievement. It can be as a good road
map to standard essay writing.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 July, 2010

elham_z July 8th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Where are you girl? How is my likable accountant friend? Oh Elham be careful with the
number of posts you write to Setayesh , maybe she dose consider how many posts you
write to her and the number of words you apply in them while writing back to you !!!

Come on bad Eli ! who cares about such matters in friendship world? It is not the
number of words that matters but the amount of kindness , care, affection and support
you try to convey by your letters is important to a true friend like Setayesh. Is'nt it?
So you are going to study in Tehran University? Don't make me feel jealous of you from
now Setayesh. You know, there was my favorite university while in high school. I had a
skillful drawer friend sitting beside me at that time. I never forget a day when she draw
the entrance door of Tehran University and me holding a backpack and gave it to me in
the math class. Then she wrote at the bottom of paper: This is Elham who is going to
study physics in Tehran University. At that time all I desired was to study physics in
Tehran University. But although I could be accepted that major in that university while
choosing my major I changed my mind. I still sometimes regret not having chosen that.
Any way, I hope you meet all you desire for in a near future.

Dear Setayesh, tell me about how you are spending your summer. Any special class or
activity? However, may I know which city you are living at? Tehran?

Don't hesitate to write to me. I'm waiting.


Elham

P.S. ( From Irainian girls sopport center): (LOOOOOOOOOL)


Oh Setayesh I want to complain about Behnam to you and all other Iranian girls present
in this thread!!! Do you see what he is doing? And I am wondered why we decently and
patiently keep silent about this matter. What would foreigners think with themselves
about us Iranian girls when he clearly claims he wants to get married to a non Iranian
girl? Other people may think we lack something or there isn't even one qualified girl
deserving to be his wife in Iran, ALTHOUGH we all know not every girl deserves him
and with considering those defects I am awared of, in some girls while considering the
features who a girl has to have in order to keep his man happy and satisfied with her. Is it
fair? (Aberuye ma dar khatare, Akhe hala in kharejiya ba khodeshun che fekri mikonan?)
:):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

elham_z July 8th 2010


Sorry for mistakes.For example:

Which city are you living IN?( not at)


Features WHICH ( not who).......
In THE ( not a) future
.......

naseh5 July 8th 2010


Hi,Clare.
I would like to say that the plant of qat is a plant ranging in length from 5 to 10Meter or
more.So,scholars of religion and Muftie UKS,count it from kind of drug or grass.Some of
scholars of religion at Yemen,sometime they forbid it for some people who can fall his
mind and feeling as he was drinking wine.In economic terms,it is very bad for some
people who is daily income is very limited,so I can say it forbid for him,because he does
not income is not over 5$ and he may pay it to buy qat.In the anther hands,the social
aspect of,what he can give to his son or family.But I can say this plant give chance of job
for many of young who didnot get work.

For me,If I want to do abig task,I would rather to chew qat.Sometime I can not doing my
homework or prepare my self to enter for the exam with out chewing qat.I admit that it
contains caffeine which is give addiction leading to the that you can by happy with out
chewing it.I sometimes I can not get sleep all night if I chew it at afternoon.Because
people chew it after they have dinner.These day,I have taste at Univ and I chew it at
afternoon and at night to make me active to escape the sleeping away.Now after I
complete writing this an message I am going to market qat to buy it and goback to my
house to chew it.I can count it it is really social custom to make you meet a lot of new
people

behnam July 8th 2010


Hi Naseh Shaker,

Thanks for the reply. Your name and your family name are meaningful.

What are you studying at university? What is the subject? Do you like Physics? Are you
good at it?

Well, the Holy Koran is in Arabic. I love it. I understand it quite well. That is why I know
some words in Arabic. By the way, because of surrounding by the world of Arab (having
borders with Arabic countries), Iran has many features in common with the world of
Arab. In particular, many Arabic words are in Persian. In fact, we speak in Arabic rather
than Persian! In a ten-word sentence for instance, there are at least six words in Arabic!

Thank you for reading. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 July, 2010

behnam July 8th 2010


Hi Aseman,

How are you? I hope you are fine.


When someone's name is Aseman (the sky), she'll prefer to interview God rather than
human beings! :):):):) It was fantastic. Thank you for sharing it with us. I really enjoyed
reading it.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 July, 2010

behnam July 8th 2010


Where are Rahaa and Rinaa?

This is just to let you know I've missed you terribly. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 July, 2010

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behnam July 8th 2010


Where is my kind sister Cathy?

This is just to let you know I've missed you terribly. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 July, 2010

behnam July 8th 2010


Where is professor Mortaza?

I have missed him very much. I hope he will share something with us very soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 8 July, 2010

metzean July 8th 2010


Dear Andrew,

Thank you that you expounded your view on this sentence. I am sure you are right as you
are a musician and also for understanding some special words we should live in a land to
know what the indigenous people think I don't know about music and notes,also I don't
know about black soul manner. Do you mean strong voice vibration like what vibration
that Pavarotti used to use in his voice?

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean July 8th 2010


Dear Rosa,

Congratulation, It was that best soccer that I have seen in my life ,I know that all Spain
sunken in happiness.

Cheers,
Mohsen

naseh5 July 8th 2010


Hello,Behnam
It shamed to say to you what I am studying.You can descide what am I studying?At
Yemen,people is not interesting in studying English as the people in Iran.Hence,I can say
why Iran is industrislized country.So I do not say there is no people are in love with
English.There are many people studying English.So,what I meant to say at the Univ
students who studying physics studying it in Arabic except the Law or Title.So,When you
are going to ask him to write one sentece in English,he will thinking that you want to
shamed him.I think so.Moreover,I would like to say to you only what I am studying or you
can guess.If am going to say to you , I am shy to know what I am studying,because my
writing is unuseful.I admit!This is fact and I would like to say the fact.My apologiez for
do not tell you.I am going to make on line conversation If you like .So sorry for that.I
have sent to you one message on yahoo.You can open to read it.Last but not least,as I
always say it ,thanks for ur unique writing.More progress and more tender for the benefit
of every one and especially for service Islam to make people in all over the world the
Islam is the religion of peace.To answer ur question,I like more ur subject untill if I do
not study it at University.
Your brother in Islam,
Naseh Shaker.
---NAseh.

Clare July 8th 2010


Hi Naseh

Thanks for your explanation. It sounds like qat has a similar effect to caffeine - no
wonder you can't sleep well at night! Perhaps you ought only to chew it after breakfast...

Hi Andrew

Thanks for your explanation about quavers - it makes sense.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam July 9th 2010


Hi friends,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Where are you? I have missed you.

Today, we went on a picnic. We had a barbecue. I cooked it. I'm perfect at cooking food
on outdoors. Today we really enjoyed the picnic. We went to 'Darabad'. people who live
in Tehran likely know there. The place is cool. Young people often go there to enjoy their
friendship!!!:):):):):) There is a river. I love sitting and putting my feet in cold water.
That's enjoyable. :):):):)

Oh, don't be silent. Will you forget the thread if Behnam cannot write for a while?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 9 July, 2010

elham_z July 9th 2010


Dear friends,
Tonight I really like to write something about my dear profit, Mohammad (peace be upon
).

Always when I come here to write something I can clearly think of a lot of ideas about the
topic I'm going to write about, But tonight I really don't know how to start and point out
to what I deeply feel in my heart. At first I thought it is easy for me writing about this
topic, But no, I was wrong. I don't know how to express my feelings and thoughts about
my dear profit in English. Today is the anniversary of the time he was chosen by God to
be his messenger and profit. Even thinking just about that nice night and moment when
he received his first revelation from God while praying in that dark cave, makes me
shake.

My dear profit ( Mohammad) , the best mankind ever , the profit of compassion and love,
I just want to say one thing tonight to you :

Forgive us for introducing ourselves as Muslims while we ???.. .


Let me not continue, we are not at all good and true representatives of your wonderful
faith. You suffered a loooooooot to make Islam known to the world but how shamefully
we are spoiling your hard attempts. Once I decided not to name myself as a Muslim any
more, because I am so ashamed of being a Muslim this way, but I can't. No. As you are
terribly kind , you allow me to just be honored by only carrying the name of Muslim. And
I know it is not a good excuse to stop trying to know Islam and doing my best to be a true
follower of your way.

All I want to say by all my heart and soul is:

* I love you my lovely profit, Mohammad *

All the best,


Elham

behnam July 10th 2010


Hi Elham,

How are you doing? I hope you are enjoying every second of your life. Thank you very
much for writing your feeling about Mohammad (PBUH). I really enjoyed reading it.
However, wherever I saw 'my profit' or 'my dear profit', I smiled for two reasons. First, I
smiled at the funny English language. 'Prophet' and 'profit' have got the same
pronunciation. You made the same mistake that I usually make. :):):):):):)

Secondly, Mohammad (PBUH) isn't your prophet, since obviously you are not God.
:):):):):):):) =))=))=)).

Anyway, thank you for sharing your feelings with us.

Happy Eid-e-Mabas to you and your family.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 July, 2010

setayesh July 10th 2010


My dear Eli,?

How's it going? I hope all is well with you. Thanks for your affectionate long post to me.
?I did enjoy reading it. Please waite for me, I'll reply to you very soon. ?

All the best


Setayesh,10 July 2010
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behnam July 10th 2010


Oh noooooooooooooo! A few seconds ago I heard that because of hot weather (high
temperature) on Sunday and Monday offices are closed. Oh my God! Two days unwanted
holiday! What should I do? How can I spend my time? How many hours can I sit at my
desk and stare at the screen of the computer? I haven't made any plan for those two days,
what should I do? That's a total waste of time! :(:(:(:(:(

There is no dog to take a long walk with; nobody to speak with; nowhere to go; nothing
to do! Very boring. Whenever I am at home, I eat too much and get stomachache. The
only thing to spend time with is English, but how many hours a day can a person study
the English language? Ah, everything is boring. :(:(:(:(:(

I used to chat with people, but these days Yahoo Messenger doesn't work! All in all, it
seems that I cannot live without my computer. You know, once a friend of mine asked me
about one thing that I cannot live without. At that time, I had no answer to this question.
Now, I realized that the most important thing that I cannot live without is my computer.
:):):):)
Thanks to holidays I found the answer of that important question. :):):):):) Who said the
holiday is bad!:):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 July, 2010

setayesh July 10th 2010


Dear Behnam,

How are you my dear brother? I wish you very pleasant moments in this nice day, Eide
mabas.

It seems that you had a very nice picnic in Darband yesterday. Darband is one of the
most enjoyable place for having a pleasure outing and eating outdoors. I have lots of
great memories of this recreative place.

There is a huge statue which is called Kuhnavard(climer) at the bigining of Darband


route. It is so nostalgic for most of the people who goes there. How about you?Do you
have any special feeling toward it?

Thanks for writing those nice words about my essay. I will write it here soon.

Hope to hear from you

All the best


Setayesh,10 July 2010

reena July 10th 2010


Hi behnam

How are things at your end? This is just to let you know that I regularly visit your thread
but these days I am a bit busy as my sister has come to our place as she was conceiving
and some two days back she delivered a baby boy. So congratulate me as my designation
has upgraded, ok I take it on your behalf. Now I have become aunt. Well thanks in
advance.

I want to know that PBHU stands for what? I have read it a number of times when you
wrote something about your God.
Thanks for reading.

10 July 2010

Bluegreen July 10th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hi there. How are you honey? I wish you happiness and health.

Oh about Iran's weather, I really don't know about the whole country these days because
I don't watch weather news LOOOL. But about our city I've got to tell you that it's
horribly boiling in here! You can't even imagine this situation. You really don't want to
get out for shopping or sth. You just want to sit by the air conditioner and cooling system
or go to pools and that's it! What about your weather? You live in Turkey right?
I think you must have a fine climate there.

Oh honey about the song you asked, I wonder if you could tell me the singer's name. I
think the phrase you heard was "Taghatam Deh" that means "give me patience" !
It might be one of those old love songs.
Honey I really wouldn't mind if you ask me about the lyrics, or if you really want to know
more about it's meaning, you can just give me the name of the song or the singer so I'd
find it and listen to it and so on!

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 10th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hi there. How are you doing honey? I really missed you. Hope you're having easy days
than before.
Oh I really can empathize with you. I know how it feels to get up from sorrow and again
stand up on your knees and everyone wants you to forget about the matter, but please be
patient. Your strength can heal every pain. So please be happy, you have your family and
your friends, (to give a new air to these serious sentences let me make a joke) you have
KAMELIA beside you LOOL No need to worry!

Wow, about your garden, I really can't wait to see it! I wish I could come and take a
stroll about the garden. You can't even imagine how much I go for summer fruits! I
couldn't stop myself drooling when I was reading about them LOOOL. Don't get me
wrong, I'm not that greedy, but just the idea of watching all those colorful, nicely shaped
little goodies won't leave me alone LOOL.

Enough of that :)) Oh about Najaf Abad, of course I've heard of that before. I mean, how
couldn't I? We're living in the same country. You know!

And here's a warning, please don't tell me that you're talkative because you're not. I
really enjoy when I read your happy positive posts. I haven't seen your style of writing
anywhere.

Now about Kamelia! Yes it is rarely heard. Well I live in Gonbad, it is a city of Torkman
people so nobody chooses these kind of names for girls. Actually half the citizens are
Torkmens, and other Fars people, for most part, have migrated from different cities to
here. So the names are mostly chosen from the regular names that are popular in Iran.
There is no special type of name particular for this region. Torkmanish names are also
wonderful to hear, they might seems strange to other people who haven't even heard of
them but to us it?s not like that: Some of them are like: Oghol bakht, Alten, yaztakin,
Baltakin,etc! They are more musical, like their own special type of music.Now about my
name; my mom chose this name for me. She's from Rasht, and these kinds of names are
typical there. Now about its meaning, Kamelia is a flower?s name. Actually it is written
like Camellia!
But I like to write it with my own style.LOL Camellia?s flower family has lots of other
flowers in like: Gardenia, Japonica, Azalea, Magnolia, etc!

Now it?s time to talk about our deal. LOL I?d really love to ask you a lot of questions!
Now for the first I?d like to begin with your favorite places on vacations. Where would
you mostly like to go? I mean you live in Isfahan, and I?ve always wondered that people
in Isfahan are living in a part of heaven which has been transferred from skies to here (as
once I told Dear Mohsen about it). I think in the Eid Noruz you couldn?t go on a trip
because of your father?s job. So where are you planning to go in this summer? And if it
was up to you, where would you like to take your family to?

Hope I didn?t make you bored with so many digressions I made.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,


Sincerely,

Kamelia

aminsb July 10th 2010


4 days off.Friday,Saturday,Sunday,Monday.That is so awful.
In our country everything get done without planing.where are we going to?:D
Dear Behnam.
Hi.how R U holding up.
I hope everything be cool with u and all of the guys.
I do apologies for my English.I'm not good at English.This is my first writing in this
Thread.
I'm eye to eye with u about this whole spending time with PC things.
I can't leave without my computer too.I know become addicted to something or somebody
is such a bondage though.
Once we had heard the water is staff of life,and now Technology is too important for
human.
how about the Net!
when it comes to seating at PC I don't know why but the Internet and it's utility comes to
my mind.computer without Internet can be a cool hobby but not for a long time in a day.
what about cellular networks.Mobiles.satellites,.......
we can't break this habits anymore.
this subject arouse my curiosity that what do u think about these habits?
In my money We should cut down on these habits.
I'll be glad hear from u.
yours sincerely.
Amin

Bluegreen July 10th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? I hope you're having nice days. Hope you're not too busy
these days and enjoying your holidays.

Wow, congratulations, so you bought the books? Mosaic has been teaching me alot. I
really am crazy about these 4 books. I wonder if you've started reading them.
Honey, I'm not that professional to teach a big professor like you but I'm telling you that
if you happened to have any questions then you can easily ask me. I read them about a
year ago and I'm a bit familiar with the style of the book.

So, the last sentence of your second paragraph wants to warn me! LOOOL Alright! I give
up!

Thanks, I'm getting brave, but not brave enouuugh! LOOL

I read that you had gone to Darabad the day before. I haven?t ever been there, but ad
you explained to me it seems such a wonderful place to hang on sometimes. Just at time
you were enjoying that joyful barbecue LOOL we were heading to a beautiful waterfall in
Aliabad called Kabudval, wow! Isn?t it amazing! The beautiful natural waterfall is just
beyond the imagination. And of course the picturesque forest around. You should just
come and see.

Oh and about the days off, are you serious? Is it that much hot there? I just thought that
we?re suffering from this heat! So have fun in these two days.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 10th 2010


Dear Clare,

Hi there. This is just to let you know that I will write about my opinion. But it might take
a day for me because I'm a little bit busy.

Thank you so much for the offer. Oh and yes I am Iranian.

Sincerely,

Kamelia

setayesh July 10th 2010


Dear Behnam and other friends,

This is my essay about last mentioned topic.Please consider me as an amator because


this is my first experience on essay writing. It's good to know that my knowledge about
such writings is so limitied. This essay is prepared according to some basic rules of essay
writing which I've studied on the net.

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"It is often said that people over 60 should not work anymore because of the problem
they create, the employers should make them retired. Do you agree or disagree? Give
reasons for your opinion."

Should people over 60 be retired because of probable problems they may create?
Although some people think it is true, I disagree. In my opinion there are many factors
that affect on retirement age such as; standards of workplace, difficulty of job and the
proportion of net income to effort. I do believe these items distinguish retirement age
from one part of the world to the other.

Nowadays standards of workplace are different in countries. Compared with developed


countries, people in developing countries suffer from lack of qualified equipments and
facilities at their workplaces. This difference highly affect on the age of retirement.
People who work in more difficult situations consume more and faster, rather than
people having better conditions. In a good condition working for 60 or in some cases
upper than 60 may can not cause any problem since at those ages they still have good
efficiency for their companies.

Difficulty of job is the other issue. For instance, miners and nurses who have difficult
long time working and also workers at Oil or nuclear areas who exposed to danger of
unacceptable pollution in comparison to the others should be retired at lower ages,
although their knowledge can be still useful for their employers.

Moreover, the proportion of income to effort can influence on the age of retirement,
sometimes people work a lot, but they don't earn proportionate to what they do.
According to statistics, three forth of people are living below the poverty line. It means
that their salaries are not even sufficient to cover their primer expenses. In this case,
people with lower earning can not afford for a satisfactory life. There for, they have to
work for longer hours to earn more which make the consumed, whereas, if employees to
be paid property it can give them the chance of improvement and promotion. Having a
good salary helps them to prevent probable problems-- which may come from lack of
knowledge-- by devoting a part of their salaries on improving their skills.

In conclusion, determining an exact retirement age for people generally, only because of
problems they may cause is not reasonable. I think,such wrong estimation in wealthy
countries which are correspondently suffering from lack of management for retirees has
increased the number death as a result of retirement.So each people's physical health,
financial and social circumstances should be considered when deciding whether to retire
or remain in the workforce.
*****************************************************
It's a bit clear that I've shifted the discussion into another direction and in some cases
digressed from the main question.:(:(:(:(:(

Thanks a lot for reading.

Hope to hear from you soon.

Best wishes,
Setayesh,10 July 2010

behnam July 10th 2010


Dear friends,

How are you? I hope you are fine. Here is my essay on the last topic:

*********************************************************************
"It is often said that people over 60 should not work any more because of the problems
they create, the employers should make them retire. Do you agree or disagree? Give
reasons for your opinion."

In the last century, considerable debate has taken place in different societies about the
retirement age. Some people believe that age does not affect on employees' performance;
therefore, people should work as long as they are able to work. Those people are,
however wrong. As far as I am concerned, people over 60 should stop working because
their efficiency has decreased, their accuracy is low, and their performance is poor.

For one thing, people over 60 should not work, because their efficiency has decreased, so
they cannot do their tasks well and effectively. My mother is an old teacher. She often
gives exams to her students and brings home their written work to correct. In the past,
she used to correct and gave marks one day after the exams, but theses days it takes her
about one week to correct and write marks on students' written work. She is usually busy
with correction. Once I nagged her about spending the huge amount of time with exams
paper. She said she was too old to correct them effectively.

In addition, old people's accuracy is not high enough to do tasks accurately. They often
make mistakes and create some problems in workplaces. My father had a very good
student. He was one of the best students in the class. Once I was looking at the list of
students and their mathematics final exam marks. The marks shocked me; in particular,
the best student's mark was 12 out of 20. I had doubt about the marks, so I wanted my
father to give me the written work to have a quick look at them. After doing it, I realized
that my father had made mistake in the summation.
Finally, old people have poor performance. Despite having previous experience,
sometimes they find it difficult to do new tasks in the workplaces. It seems that
developments in science and technology have changed the features of workplaces. For
instance, there are computers in almost all offices. Nowadays, it is quite impossible to
work without knowing anything about them. Briefly, old people often have difficulty in
using modern things. They should retire and provide opportunity for young people.

In conclusion, it is obvious that people over 60 have low efficiently, accuracy, and
performance. Employers should replace them with young people. Those People should
come to terms with the fact that age does affect negatively on people's abilities and
capabilities.
**********************************************************************

Thank you for reading.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 July 2010
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behnam July 10th 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Thanks a million for posting your essay in the thread. You cannot imagine how happy I
became when I saw it here.

To tell you the truth, I have decided to disagree with getting retirement after becoming
60. I knew that you have disagreed, so I changed my idea. Your reasons were very good.
You have strongly;y supported them.

To be honest with you, it is difficult for me to believe that Setayesh has written such a
nice five-paragraph essay. You have done a great job. Well done to you! Well done to
such a clever lady!

I have promised you to write my opinion on it. At the first glance, it is excellent. You have
followed the rules completely. However, in my poor opinion, there is something wrong
with the blueprints. When you agree or disagree with something, you should ask yourself
a 'wh' question such as 'why do I agree/disagree?' Then you should give three reasons.
Three reasons will be your blueprints. After giving three reasons, you should write a
thesis statement with blueprints. It is vitally important to use each blueprint in an
individual sentence with the same structure.

In order to make it clear, let me look at your essay a little bit closely. As you have
written, you disagreed with the idea of making people over 60 retired. That is O.K.
Imagine someone asks you for the reasons. You have to give him/her three related
reasons. No matter if the reasons are rational or not, but it does matter to support your
idea with them.

If you disagreed with it, you should confine yourself to 60-year old people and their
retirement. When you speak about miners it means that you believe in earlier retirement
for them. When you speak about the effect of job difficulty on the retirement age, again
you are comparing jobs rather than giving reasons for your opinion.

I think, it was better to write a thesis statement like: I disagree with making people over
60 retired, because they are experienced in their fields, they are more capable than
young people, and they are reliable employees. We can even delete unnecessary words
and write...because they are experienced, reliable, and capable.

When writing one paragraph about their experience it is good to compare their abilities
with a young person's. When writing one paragraph about reliability, it is alright to say
that old people have children and wife, so they work responsibly, etc.

Dear Setayesh, we should write in a way that people can understand us easily. This is the
main strategy in writing.

Your essay was wonderful. Keep on writing. There is still room for improvement.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 July, 2010

behnam July 10th 2010


Hi Reena,

Thanks for the post. I've missed you.

Congratulations on becoming aunt. I wish the child and its mother health and safe.

PBUH stands for 'peace be upon him'. We often use it after mentioning the name of some
religious leaders, for example prophet Mohammad, and others Iamas. We do not use it to
describe God, because God is always alive. It is used as a short prayer for died people.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 July, 2010
behnam July 10th 2010
Hi Amin,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for putting message. Your English is excellent. You
have used some nice phrases in your writing. It sounds like you are studying English at
upper-intermediate level. I guess you are studying in Kish institute, since your style of
writing was kishy( kish guneh bud) :):):):):):):)

It is quite difficult (even impossible) to break bad habits. I agree with you. People are
addicted to using mobiles, computers, and the Internet. They spend a lot of time with
them rather than with their friends and families. That is why the foundation of friendships
is not strong.

Would you mind writing a little bit more about yourself?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


behnam, 10 July, 2010

behnam July 10th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Thanks for the friendly posts. Yes, I was serious. Cross my heart. :):):):) Yes, Tehran is
that much hot. By the way, it is the Capital of Iran. When people in other cities are
enjoying their hot holidays, the government can't dare to keep the offices open in Tehran.
That's OK if people in other cities struggling for survival, whereas Tehranian live in
peace and safe, but the reverse isn't bearable. :):):):):) Did you get the point? I hope so!

The best fruits and productions are used in Tehran. For example, People in Azerbaijan
take a lot of efforts to produce wheat and nuts that selfish Tehranian need! Tea from
Lahijan, date from the south, etc. I have thought about it a lot, but I couldn't find any
answer.

Down with the Agha Mohammad khane Ghajar (Don't know gur be gur shode in English,
by the way 'gh' in 'agha' was 'gh' as in 'bagh'=garden:):):):)) who for the first time made
this destroyed village the capital city of his kingdom:):):):):)

If someones forced me to describe Tehran only in one sentence, I would say 'Tehran is
center of sins'! If s/he forced me to describe its people's jobs in one sentence I would say
'They are sinecures'! :):):):):):):):)

I have read some units from Mosaic reading 1. I found them interesting. Thank you for
advice and recommendation.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 July, 2010

metzean July 10th 2010


Hi Elham,

Happy the Mabas Eid to you, thanks for your writing ,I read it but I think different. I
don't accept the idea of being black or white. If you see that somebody is doing a mistake
,don't delete her/ him by the mistake and If a person doing a right things don't accept him
/her by this reason. People who have positive intention and they try to be on the right
track , can walk behind Prophet Mohammad (PBUH).

How you consider a person as a Muslim ,the signals

People be hopeful to his/her kindness and benevolence;


People feel secure from his/her enmity and wickedness;
Even slight kindnesses of people to be considered as important ones by him/her;
S/He may underscore his/her own kindness and good works;
Never feels or expresses tired or unhappy upon needs and requests of the people;
Never, in his/her whole life, he/she leaves education and knowledge;

I believe that you have all the characters mentioned above. So why you should be
ashamed, why you are disappointed . You know that the biggest sin is being disappointed.

All the Best,


Mohsen

aminsb July 10th 2010


Hi Behnam,
thanks for your favor.it's my pleasure you gave compliment on my English.
you have wanted I introduce myself more.
while on the subject of my English I should say I've never been in that institute that you
said :):)
I've been living in Isfahan and I was born in 1983.I have BS degree in
telecommunication.
that was too hard but very attractive major for me.It's not so practical in our country
though.
our technology is too awful.
Now I'm going to improve my English and gain an admission from USA or CANADA
university.I'm sick and tired of our university.sorry but I think few of them are good.most
of the teachers at university are green and beginner particularly in Azad universities.I
don't know, how you find it but don't take it personality :)
I don't mean that the green professor can't be good at his/her post but the thing that I saw
it was the young professors who are playing the role of their professors only about their
treats not knowledge :D haha!
I don't want take your time more my friend.
have a total blast.
Best regards.
Amin,10 July,2010

behnam July 10th 2010


Hi Elham,

This is just to let you know that I understand you very well, and I do agree with you on
feeling ashamed of calling ourselves Muslim, but not acting according to what God--our
creator--expects us to do. On the judgment day, I will bow my head in shame when God
starts seeing my file; full of sins.

I do believe what I am doing is against the holy Koran. Some people may say, "Behnam.
That's funny. If you know your actions are wrong, why don't you try to stop doing them?'
In answer to this question I should say that I am always trying, but in many cases, I have
to commit sins. Otherwise, I won't be able to live.'

I can safely say that there is a world difference between me and what God describes good
people in the holy Koran.

Some people may call me a perfectionist, but they are wrong. When I compare myself
with a non believer in Islam, I really feel ashamed at carrying the name of Islam without
enough good deeds.

'Actions speak louder than words', but I have gotten into habit of saying some things as
mottoes without actions. I am sure, I will hang my head in shame when Mohammad
(PBUH) and Ali (PBUH) look at me in the face.

The liars are the enemy of God. This is a part of an aye in the holy Koran. How many lies
do I tell on a typical day? I tell many lies, but I justify telling them by using some phrases
like 'they are white lies.!', and so on.

Imam Ali (PBUH) has said, 'It is impossible to enter heaven if you commit three sins;
greed; jealousy, and vanity, because God has sent the devil out of there for committing
those sins.'

When I compare myself with the devil, I realise that in some ways, he is much better than
me. However, I'm not disappointed, because God is very kind. He forgives easily.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the bets,


Behnam, 10 July, 2010

setayesh July 11th 2010


Hi Dear Eli,

How's your life going? I hope you are happy and healthy. Your posts are great I always
enjoy reading them.

Dear Eli, my plans for summer is somehow complicated, up to now it was not in my
control.:) you may laugh by reading this sentence. As a routine going to english class is
at the top of the list. then reviewing some text books is the other part of the holidays, it's
just 10 days that I've accepted one of my greatest masters suggestion for cooperating on
an project. Apart from them all, as I said to you before I was waiting for my friend Eli(my
former close friend=she is still close too;) to come back from abroad. From the point my
exam finished,I have been doing lots of preparation to make this journey more enjoyable
for her. Finally waiting for her coming last on tuesday It is just 4 days that she has
arrived, after being far a part for some years it is so exciting for both of us to spend a lot
together. So you can see all of plane up to know were somehow predetermined by others.

Anyway, it was so nice to know you were interested in Tehran University. As a matter of
fact, Tehran management and accounting faculty is not located in the headquarter which
we call it Pardise Asli that has the famous entrance door. That place is in Enghelab
square which I usually have to pass. while the management faculty is in Gisha exactly
beside Tarbiat modares university. I was about to forget to say about my city, yes I'm
living in Tehran itself, the most polluted city of Iran.

Oh my God Setayesh, come on girl! you're answering all Eli's questions by detail you
may make her bored by details.:):):):):)

Dear Eli, the lovely headmaster of Irainian girls sopport center:)LOOOOOOL

I read your complain about Behnam's action. Yes, you are totally right. Indeed, why it
should be in this way? I am surprised by his manner either.Apparently, we can't do
anything.But dear, you know, as elders usually say and I'm sure you have heard it too,
"The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence." sometimes the dream and
the disire for something are much more appealing than actually getting the thing that you
want. It just not happen in this case, everyday we are witness of such manner in people or
even in ourselves. I was wondering ; what should be done that the grass can be greener
on YOUR side of the fence?How you think?

I'm looking forward to hear from you soon

Best Wishes,

Setayesh,11 July2010

setayesh July 11th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Thanks a milion for your comment on my essay. It was so useful. You really encouraged
me by your words to study more.

Thanks for everything again.

All the best,


Setayesh,11 July2010

metzean July 11th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hope you are doing fine and enjoy your holiday, I wonder about your behavior , you
should commit a sin otherwise you can't live, as far I know you are a teacher not a dealer
,would you please tell me how sin ties to your life. As far as I care about your deed at
least in this virtual place ,you are better than all of us ,because you share all of your
knowledge to this thread if people need you. You are generous like your creator .
Piety dose not mean to live far from people ,only chanting and versify poem in a secluded
corner. Real pious person live among the people and some time pious people tell a lie
and if they tell the true ,it is a sin ,when something refers to their security and their life
and their homelands.

Imam Ali (AS) and majesty Mohammad(PBUH),sometimes when sending someone to a


confidentional mission they never reveal it to the people and if some asked them where
did you send him, they had to tell a white lie in reply.
All the best
Mohsen
717

behnam July 11th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you my old friend? I hope everything is going well with you. Many thanks for
the comment.

Dear Mohsen, you are optimistic about me. Thank you for saying some positive things
about me. That's very kind of you.

dear Mohsen, 'enna al-ensano lenafseka lekhabir'. I am not sure about the exact words,
but it means human beings do know what they are.

This is just to let you know that I have read your post. Now I have to leave and watch
football. I'm sure you will watch it too.

Mohsen, it is not fair to compare ourselves with Imam Ali (PBUH), because we aren't
comparable with such a great man. We must try to learn from him. In fact, we will be
very lucky if we learn something from him.

Don't compare a crow with a parrot, although they both are birds.

Dear Mohsen, as far as I know, Islam and I make a 180-degree angle.

Hope you enjoy the match.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 July 2010

Bluegreen July 11th 2010


Dear Clare,

Hi there. How are you? Thank you for reading my post and giving me the opportunity to
write about you and Dear Behnam's topic.
Actually I really wanted to write about it while I was reading your mutual posts and
before you offer me to do so because sometimes I agreed with the lines and sometimes the
vice versa. There was this matter that really irked me and that was ?In which country
women are freer? ? Well, in this case, I'm afraid I think totally different from Dear
Behnam, because he's not a woman and I bet he can't understand what kinds of things
we're suffering from! (Dear Behnam, if you're reading this, then I must say I'm writing it
with great respect to your ideas, but these are mine)

Well, some men here say Iran's the only country where women feel really free!! Oh my
god! Just tell me where?d you get this idea from?!!! Oh dear! Just get around this
country, ask young girls, ask house wives, and see what they say about their problems?
Dear Clare, I mean that one really have to empathize with women in order to literally
understand how do we live and what are our problems.
Well, in order to express my own ideas and defend them, I have to say that what do they
really mean by the term FREEDOM FOR WOMEN?! Is that the definition of the Islamic
rule that we have the ability not to cook for the family, or we can receive money for
breast feeding our children or is it because of the Mahrie? (An amount of money which
the husband has to pay whenever the wife wants and the amount is based on both
families? decision before the marriage)
None of the above is called freedom, freedom means the ability TO CHOOSE and others
have to respect your ideas not just to blame you!
This is to men who think we?re free:
I really don?t mean to offend any special religion, because this is not about them but it?s
about social problems which really have turned to huge problems!
Now I want you to imagine this situation, just imagine that you are a woman in this
society, look, let?s be frank with each other! All of us know that rules are just rules! And
none of them has been practiced properly!
You go out in the streets while all the time you have to watch yourself, your kind of
clothing, your behavior, now why? Because you?re a woman and women have to walk,
talk and act graceful! Unless everybody would be staring at you!
When it comes to driving, you can see that all would say ?Huh you?re a woman, what do
YOU know of driving?? But now let me tell you this, most of men here, don?t pay
attention to any rules while driving, they turn; drive speedy, curve and do whatever
without even considering others! But when it comes to judgment, oh yes! They claim that
women?s driving SUCKS! Is it fair?!
Now about jobs, you men say that women are SENSATIONAL, SENSETIVE, whatever!
Just to push us back from having the governmental or important positions! You say
women can?t be judges, they can?t be pilots! Men just say that women are made for
teaching! Isn?t this one of the points of lacking freedom?
You see, even men have changed the mentality of some women, some women really don?t
know their rights, their worth, they just think that they are created to be housewives, to
cook, to bear and then take care of children!
Now about the thing that they always say, you can stop cooking if you want! But just
imagine what will happen if we let go of cooking just for one day?!!! They will get home,
nagging, shouting and claiming that I go out to work and you just sit back and relax
without doing anything! You?re not a suitable wife! Now you men who say that it?s our
right not to cook based on Islamic rules, do you yourself respect this law?! Don?t tell me
that you do!
Another thing is this special kind of clothing thing! I really don?t know what to say about
this one!!! It is plain obvious. Even in universities of some cities you can?t wear bright
colors!
Now, women can?t drive, they don?t have the ability to choose their own clothing, they
can?t have higher positions of a job, etc!
I really had lots of things in my mind to write but now it just slipped my mind. These were
the obvious parts.
Dear Clare, I really agree with the idea of women taking these rights themselves. But it?s
a little hard to go against all these rules. We are trying but every time we are ignored,
rejected, and etc!
Anyways, you really can?t understand all the problems unless you really experience
being a woman here!
I didn?t want to get in to political matters, because it?s not the place for it. But these
were some general problems which were tangible.
Hope I wrote them clearly,
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam July 12th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Ohohohohohohoho! Dada vay! Thanks a billion ( million is not big enough:):):):):):)) for
your most thoughtful post I have ever seen and read. That is very brave of you.
:):):):):):):):) How sly (fox) you are! All the matters, comments, and criticism are directly
or indirectly addressed to poor Behnam, but the post is written to Clare! :):):):):):):)
That's OK. That is Shomalian (northern) way of speaking. :):):):) In the Shomalian
culture, this behaviour is considered politeness, consideration, and tact. =))=))=))

Well, Clare surely will agree with you. Congratulations on being in the same boat as
Clare. However, I am not sure about safe destination of this boat! :):):):):):):)

Joking aside, dear kamelia, I understand you very well. I know what you are speaking
about. Although I am a man, I am living in this society, at least I can imagine it or can
guess something about the level of misery. :(:(:(:(:(:(:( In my opinion, there is an unfair
discrimination against women in some areas, for example in the job market.

Thank you very much indeed. In the first paragraphs, I was joking. I am sure you won't
get upset, since you are familiar with my style. However, I do apologies for any
inconsideration.

Since I am not in Tehran right now (I am in Karaj), I cannot concentrate on the subject
properly, as though my thoughts and knowledge are left at home; in Tehran. I promise to
dig this topic as deep as I can, in order to show you deeper layers of facts.

My field of study is physics. I will tackle with this challenging topic by using our methods
we often use in physics. I mean, I won't make a scene to win the battle. I am not thinking
of winning or losing. I will speak to you with the language of wisdom and thought. Did
you get it? Janjal be pa nakhaham kard ta mohegh jelve bedam, aslan negaran nabash.

I have to leave right now. Before leaving, I should make a point that last night I was
watching football match between Spain and Netherlander. I rarely watch football
matches, since I believe that is fooling around to stare at the screen of TV to see what
some silly people do with a round thing--ball. This time, I had to do, since I was with my
cousins in Karaj.

Anyway, what I wanted to mention is the last minutes of the match when it was the time to
give medals and the golden cup. Some beautiful ladies standing in a queue holding the
medals; with the same clothes, the same smile, the same, height, the same hair colour and
style, etc. Why? Why women are used in this way? Is it freedom? Are you looking for it?
You are not familiar with the men's worlds and their attitudes, therefore, it is necessary
for us to choose a proper language--understandable to both sexes. WE WILL, but now I
am in a hurry.

We will speak about this subject a lot. Now I have to dash quickly.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting such a thoughtful post. I really love it.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 July, 2010

elham_z July 12th 2010


Oh, Elham come on.why are you that lazy. A lot of nice toppics are under disscussion,
there are a lot of posts to you you love to answer but you are still hesitating. What's
wrong with you girl?

This is just to let my friends know that I'm dying to write , But as if ........ . Ok, I just want
to focus on writing here.Thats all I want to do today. But I feel as if I'm in a running race
and I am the last one. Ohhh, come on lazy Elhammmmmmmm.

elham_z July 12th 2010


Hi dear Behnam,

Ok, I start my posts with writing to you. Thank you so much for giving your idea and
stating your confirmation on what I had wrote about Islam. Oh, what a ridiculous
mistake I had done about writing prophet. I got so ashamed to notice it. And about MY
prophet, I have to say his own GREAT compassion and kindness makes me to write in
this way. I feel he is the prophet of all the people AND every single individual .He is my
awesome prophet. I enjoy my special kind of calling him.

Dear Behnam, I'd love to say not only I'm interested in such discussions about Islam, a
true Muslim and his duties and Koran, but also I strongly believe it is our responsibility
to do something about it seriously. As I have mentioned, once I seriously decided not to
introduce myself as a Muslim since I asked myself what I can offer as Islam, clear in my
way of thinking, personality and manner to non Muslim people. Do you know why? No, I
don't make such a claim to show myself as good modest girl or on the other hand a lazy
Muslim girl who is trying to remove all responsibilities only by a simple claim and make
herself free of them.

*** It is a very delicate and vitally important matter that I am not worried about what
people may think of me as an individual Muslim but about the judgment they make, based
on my behavior, generally about Islam.
The crux of the matter lies in the need for the distinction between Islam and the behavior
of the Muslims. And the sad fact is that unfortunately currently we're cruelly spoiling
poor Islam by what we represent as our faith to world. ***

From the time we've had satellite at home, I've terribly noticed Islam's misery. When I see
this great deal of channels about Christianity; all introducing, approving, supporting and
inviting to their respectable faith; and on the other side just a few boring channels for
Islam I want to beat my head to the wall. Little by little I am turning to a Christian by
watching all these really nice , motivating , positive programs .As if I am forgetting about
Mohmmad (PBUH) name, replacing it with Jesus Christ . Believe me, I have enjoyed
their programs and how they represent God and his prophet to people in a really
impressive way. Ahhhh, and what about Islam? Oh my God, it is terribly disappointing.

There are still some points I am eager to share here but let me organize them in a proper
way.
All in all, what I know is that we severely need to do some serious efforts in this field.
Islam is in danger. But I'm still in doubt what we should do. What is your opinion?

I hope you spend an enjoyable time beside your cousins in Kraj on this hot holiday,

All the best,


Elham

elham_z July 12th 2010


Hi dear Kind Kamelia,

Oh, how scatter-minded Elham is. I had read about your beautiful name which is a
flower's name. I wonder why I had forgetton that easily. Any way, thank you for your
helpful explanation. Give thanks to your mother for her nice choice on your name, as I
often do to my parents for choosing Elham .

Dear Kamelia you can't believe how much I get happy to welcome you coming to our
garden. Don't hesitate to take a trip to Esfahan and then to our city. It only takes less
than half an hour from Esfahan to Najafabad. Our garden is not of those big luxurious
ones, but many people have enjoyed themselves there with their families. I have a VERY
simple family welcoming every friend with open arms.
So my description was mouthwatering to you, Oh sorry for bothering you that way but
you are not going to believe how enjoyable it is seeking for cucumbers, eggplants and
tomatoes among dense bushes , although after that you are left with scratched harsh
hands which is of course a little sad for a girl to have such hands. But all in all it is
worth.

Now it is time for answering your really good question. Thank you for this
mouthwatering question. (I don't know why these days I enjoy using this adjective:
mouthwatering !)
Except for Mashhad that I can't wait to go to, this summer there are tow places I'd love to
go. First, Tabriz .I've been recommended to have a trip there and heard a lot about it's
beauties and the picturesque paths we pass through to go there. You know, the latter
factor, condition of paths, however, is a very important one for me while deciding about
where to travel, cause I can safely say I enjoy all way long, (chain of mountains, the
grassy plains, rows of lovely trees, wow, those really awesome water streams which my
mom calls them traveling companion, scaring inclines and labyrinthine path ways) much
more better than the destination itself.
My father has got a friend there, every now and then he calls and persistently asks him to
take us there, but what should we do with our busy dad?

The second place is Rasht.I love green nature. Last month we had another friend of him
with his wife from Rasht as guest. The man begged my dad to take us there and promised
to take us to lovely places. But again what should we do with our busy dad who repeats
all the time: I can't, I can't.

Oh Kamelia how did you know I love fantasizing? Thank you once again for making me
take a trip in my mind. What about you? Any plan for another trip after that in Noruz?
Any way, with this hot weather I see, it's better for us preferring those types of trips in
mind. Isn't it?

*** I read your post to Clare.I agree with you up to some point, and disagree with some
points as well. All in all I believe women are not free in either Iran or out of Iran.
* In one hand I see some definitions of freedom for women defined by West disgusting, on
the other hand I wish to live in western countries for special respect and special freedom
they have for women that I like about living there.
* In one hand I terribly suffer from a lot of incorrect behaviors through women in Iran,
on the other hand, I approve of some rules and restrictions about women since a woman
has it's own definition.

Hope to hear from you sooon,


Elham

Bluegreen July 12th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? I hope you're having fun in these hot days of summer.
I want you to know that I read your article about the retirement age and it was really
clever.
I was just wondering if there are any mistakes one can find and blame you for them.
Congratulations dear.
Here's my idea about a weak point, of course if we can consider it a weak one, you see
Behnam I think the general ideas and the key words mentioned in the three paragraphs
which consist the article?s body, are really strong, but I just think that the supporting
examples are not in this way!
Now here's a strong point about your essay, you remember me and of our dear friends
telling you that you keep using the same words in paragraphs? but now, thanks to your
taking it into consideration, you've totally obviated the matter. Well done.
Dear Behnam, I've always said that I'm just a simple student so if I disagree with you
somewhere that doesn't mean that I want to teach you something, no! I just express my
own idea about it based on what I know or read on books.
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. In case you?re wondering the relationship between your last post to me and this one,
I should say that I wrote this one last night and just before your nice post to me. I?ll write
my answer to you soon.

Clare July 12th 2010


Hi Kamelia
Many thanks for your post - it was fascinating!

It's very interesting to see things from your perspective as an Iranian woman. I don't have
any answers though as to how you can change things. On one hand, maybe things will
change when the conditions are right for change. For example, when "society" (or those
iin charge) realise that women have a greater role to play than the one they currently
play.

Or you can take another route and change what you can change in your daily life. I don't
know if you've seen the film "Bend it like Beckham" but this is the sort of thing I'm talking
about...

But I believe in something very strongly: if you have talents and something to offer back
to society (whether that's your own country, or a more global society) it's not right that
you are prevented from doing this.

I personally don't care whether people judge me for not being feminine enough, or
wearing the wrong clothes - who are they to judge? They're not the ones living my life,
and they're not the ones to whom I am ultimately accountable.

When it's time for me to die, I want to know that I've left the world a better place - that
I've done something of value. For some women, that could be that they've educated their
children well. For me (I don't have children, through my own choice!) it's that I've done
something to help other people, that I've "put something back" into society. For other
women, it could be they've achieved something great at work... It doesn't much matter
what these things are, but it's the fact that we can realise our potential as human beings
that's so important. And that we have the freedom to be able to do this - that we're not
locked into one idea of what it means to be a woman - or a man, for that matter either.

I'm not saying that in the west things are perfect for women and for men. (I include both
because I think that if women are forced to be one thing or another, this is also limiting
for men!) But that it's generally easier in a more secular society to achieve potential
regardless of your gender.

Yes, of course women are treated as objects by some men. But I'd also say that's true in
more religious societies, too. Pornography (though it might be illegal) still exists, for
example. Men look at women everywhere, but I don't think the answer is in making
women look invisible or by forcing them to wear certain clothes to hide their beauty or
appeal. I think the answer is in educating men not to stare at women!! Make men feel
embarrassed by their behaviour rather than criminalising women!

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
elham_z July 12th 2010
Hi dear Setayesh,

So you are enjoying your summer spending time with your recently having come back
from abroad friend. That's great. I can guess how much Eli and Setayesh have spoken till
now and how much fun they are going to have in coming days as well. It is a excellent
opportunity for you to enjoy yourself. How ever may I know which country has Eli come
from? And what has he described for you about the life style there or advantages and
disadvantages of living there?

Oh and dear Setayesh congratulation on the offer you have received from that great
master of yours about the project. Paste to it and hold it so firmly not to miss such terrific
opportunity. Every student dreams for such chances. And I am sure about your master's
correct choice and your qualification.

Thank you so much for your description about Tehran University. So you are living there.
I don't no to say good for you or bad for you.:):):):) Emmm, But I think ..... , well, good
for you. Despite of all disadvantages of living there, I think all in all it is worth. What is
your own idea? Do you like it or you prefer living in other cities?
I'd like to say that maybe maybe maybe I will come to Tehran next month. I am not sure
yet. But how nice it would be if I can meet you there. Why not?

Thank you for approving me on my complaint about dear Behnam. You had wisely
applied that old saying in the right place. It made me thinking deeply about my own
ambitions and the way I exaggerate about them personally. Once when I asked a friend of
mine to give me a second name based on my most distinct characteristic. She answered:
Ambitious. Well I think she was right. I have to be more careful with what is going on in
my mind. What about your idea? What would you name me on this base? Another friend
of mine said she would call me kind and intimate. Another one said wise but you
underestimate your abilities. And the interesting answer was: brave. But I still haven't
understood her justification to choose that name for me.

So we come to this conclusion that we have to punish Behnam for putting Irainian girl's
worth in danger. (LOOOOOOOOOL). What is your opinion? What can we do with
him?:):):):)

Don't hesitate to write for me in as much details as you like. I will enjoy it.Sorry, I have
maid a lot of questions for you to answer. please take enough time to answer them all
patiently. You don't have to place them all in one post. I will also patiently wait to read
them.

All the best,


Elham
behnam July 13th 2010
Hi Elham,

Your posts smell pleasant. They sound like summer, hot and useful. Thank you very much
for trying to keep this thread active and alive. That's very kind of you.

I understand your concerns very well, however, I don't believe that Islam is in danger. On
the contrary, I believe humanity is in danger. Morality and ethics are in danger.

Islam is like a specialist doctor, and we are like some patients. We have to go to visit the
doctor (Islam) in order to get well. Otherwise, we will die from serious illness.

Islam is actually instructions on how to live. It is always there; we are in danger. There is
no need to help it, because it doesn't need any help. The only thing an individual should
do is just following the instructions. They should follow the instructions in order to get
benefit from it.

I believe, Islam isn't comparable with Christianity, because Islam is thought-oriented.


Christianity is like some injection (liquid). Responsible people have to inject it into body
to may be absorbed in minds, but Islam is like light (made of electromagnetic waves). It
enters hearts and minds easily.

Unfortunately, the problem is with Muslims not with Islam. Let me finish this long story
by saying one sentence: Christians, Buddhisms, Judaisms, and even non believers follow
the instructions of Islam, BUT Muslims just carry a name. There is no need to be named
Mohammad or Ali to be Muslim. It may happen someone is named John, Jack, or Kun
Chon Tank, but s/he instinctively follows the Islamic laws. That counts. Never forget
'actions speak louder than words'.

Thank you for reading. Thank you once again to show an interest in reading my posts,
and following the discussion. Please keep on writing. I really love your thoughtful posts.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 July 2010
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metzean July 13th 2010
Dear Behnam,

I hope you are in good humor, I am optimistic about you and you should not belittle
yourself, you have been learning physic for many years and now you are teaching it.
There is quote "teaching is the prophet's job" and this is what I now about you, you are a
teacher. Also about your writing in this thread in which there is always a connection
between thought and your writings, a sensible one. You know this narration " one hour
thinking is better than 70 years worship" so you know how many hours you have been
worshiping God. For 20 years thinking (20 x 365 x 10 h/think per day =146000/h)
(146000 x70 = 1022000 h/worship ). It is enough to grant yourself at least 90 degree
angle discount (as you write in your post- Islam and I have 180 degree angle).

They are few reputations for eloquence writing in this thread and you are one. You are
deserved . your writing are organized ,come out in phrase and paragraphs in correct
style and proceed in an orderly logical way ,premeditated well. Your writing also is
humorous in some parts and often has an idea that people seek to communicate , not
ponderous, genuinely engaged in persuasion. I want to say your works is tour de force,
the reason that persuades me to be optimistic about you. Nobody would belittle Behnam.
Your accent is English, so your speech is imposing as well . Do you know that many
Americans feel themselves inferior in presence of anyone with English accent, because
English accent sounds authoritative:):) LOL.
What encapsulate an efficient person is the ability to think in right track and act
accordingly, he can compare himself with prophet Mohammad (PBUH) and Imam
Ali(AS) ,not compare with devil..

B.W
Mohsen

behnam July 14th 2010


Hi Kamelia (All friends),

This post is addressed to you, because the discussion topic (Women& men's freedom) is
introduced by you. However, I am speaking to all people who will read this post. In
particular, I am speaking to Kamelia; the chooser of this topic', and to Clare, the great
supporter of it.

Kamelia has mentioned the lack of freedom--in Iran--to wear our favourite clothes.
That's true, but why do they--for example the governments--impose this limitation on us?
Are we free to wear whatever we like? Is there any rules of choosing and wearing?
Which parts of body must be covered; and WHY? Why do human beings should wear
clothes? What does our style of wearing mean? Does it mean something or not?

What is the philosophy(philosophies) of wearing?

Last night I went to a pool to swim. There were about fifty men in the different parts of
the pool (n the sauna, Jacuzzi, ...). All the men had worn pants. I sat on a chair to take
some rest. I looked at the partly naked bodies a little bit more closely. Suddenly, I
remembered the topic and wearing.
Why do we wear clothes? Is it alright to be completely naked in the streets? Why? I like
being naked. I hate wearing clothes. Why should we care about fashions, clothes, styles?
Why do we have to waste vast sums of money on clothes? What does force me to dress? I
think it is obviously against human beings' rights to force someone to cover his/her body.
People are free. It is ludicrous to put on clothes. If we had to wear clothes, why were we
born naked?

Therefore, dear Kamelia, this is the first step. You are supposed to answer to this
question: Why do we wear clothes? The sun doesn't bother my body, and the winters
aren't cold. I love all seasons, because they don't bother me. I love being completely
naked. Why doesn't anybody care about my rights?

I've promised to discuss this topic scientifically. For this purpose, we should start from
the first step. What is (are) the philosophy (philosophies) of covering our bodies?
Speaking about those philosophies will let us choose a common language. We will
continue discussing. I hope so.

I have to leave. I am in a hurry. So sorry for probable mistakes.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 July 2010

shanar July 14th 2010


Dear friends : behnam, ghazal, kamelia, darioush, ...

Hello. How are you these days? Are you enjoy of your holiday?

Please help me!!!!!!!!

Tree days ago i went to tehran with my family in order to see one of my father's friend
because he invited us and we accept it. My father's friend has just tree boy: reza , hamed
and ramin.

Reza and hamed has wife and child but ramin is single. I need your help because of some
things that happened between ramin and i .perhaps something wrong!! I don't know
perhaps i made a mistake . any way i have a kind of breast-anguish. Let me first explain
it.

Ramin is not a normal boy(but its not my opinion it's just as people think ) because he has
some physical problem .he is very short , her hands and her legs . i mean he is 26 but his
length is like a child who is 11 or 12 years old. but as i said he has just physical problem
and kind of malady. he is educated . we are very close friend .i love him as i love my
brother.

He is very genius, but he come to public rarely and always try to deny. So one day i
wanted to go for shopping and i force him to come with me . I insist strongly and he
ignore , finally he capitulate and we went.

(oh my god) why somebody are so rude ? Why some of us let ourself to do this kind of
ugly action? Why we think we are perfect when we saw some people who are not maybe
normal and then we mock that person?

Yup! Maybe you guess what happen?!! When we get out i notice that all people look at us
and.... you know the rest :( :(. and even there was a girl with her boyfriend .when he saw
us he nutation to his girl friend and he said do you think she is his girl friend ? and she
said not at all maybe she is his sister or one of his family .

Ramin some time decided to kill himself but fortunately his family salvaged him. I wanted
to help him but i broken his heart . I need your help please guide me to give him to
understand that he is perfect and the things that people say is not important at all. I speak
many time with him.

I always say that if you are like this it mean that god love you very much and want to test
you .

So how can I support him and how i apology? Am i wrong?

Help me. I really need it

forgive me because of too many mistake that i have in this post because i am busy and
write it as fast as i can .

All the best

Shanar

shanar July 14th 2010


Dear friends

i like this article so i invite you to read this

Color Psychology

Do different colors affect your mood?

Colors often have different meanings in various cultures. And even in Western societies,
the meanings of various colors have changed over the years. But today in the U.S.,
researchers have generally found the following to be accurate.

Black

Black is the color of authority and power. It is popular in fashion because it makes
people appear thinner. It is also stylish and timeless. Black also implies submission.
Priests wear black to signify submission to God. Some fashion experts say a woman
wearing black implies submission to men. Black outfits can also be overpowering, or
make the wearer seem aloof or evil. Villains, such as Dracula, often wear black.

White

Brides wear white to symbolize innocence and purity. White reflects light and is
considered a summer color. White is popular in decorating and in fashion because it is
light, neutral, and goes with everything. However, white shows dirt and is therefore more
difficult to keep clean than other colors. Doctors and nurses wear white to imply sterility.

Red

The most emotionally intense color, red stimulates a faster heartbeat and breathing. It is
also the color of love. Red clothing gets noticed and makes the wearer appear heavier.
Since it is an extreme color, red clothing might not help people in negotiations or
confrontations. Red cars are popular targets for thieves. In decorating, red is usually
used as an accent. Decorators say that red furniture should be perfect since it will attract
attention.

The most romantic color, pink, is more tranquilizing. Sports teams sometimes paint the
locker rooms used by opposing teams bright pink so their opponents will lose energy.

Blue

The color of the sky and the ocean, blue is one of the most popular colors. It causes the
opposite reaction as red. Peaceful, tranquil blue causes the body to produce calming
chemicals, so it is often used in bedrooms. Blue can also be cold and depressing. Fashion
consultants recommend wearing blue to job interviews because it symbolizes loyalty.
People are more productive in blue rooms. Studies show weightlifters are able to handle
heavier weights in blue gyms.

Green

Currently the most popular decorating color, green symbolizes nature. It is the easiest
color on the eye and can improve vision. It is a calming, refreshing color. People waiting
to appear on TV sit in "green rooms" to relax. Hospitals often use green because it
relaxes patients. Brides in the Middle Ages wore green to symbolize fertility. Dark green
is masculine, conservative, and implies wealth. However, seamstresses often refuse to use
green thread on the eve of a fashion show for fear it will bring bad luck.

Yellow

Cheerful sunny yellow is an attention getter. While it is considered an optimistic color,


people lose their tempers more often in yellow rooms, and babies will cry more. It is the
most difficult color for the eye to take in, so it can be overpowering if overused. Yellow
enhances concentration, hence its use for legal pads. It also speeds metabolism.

Purple

The color of royalty, purple connotes luxury, wealth, and sophistication. It is also
feminine and romantic. However, because it is rare in nature, purple can appear
artificial.

Brown

Solid, reliable brown is the color of earth and is abundant in nature. Light brown implies
genuineness while dark brown is similar to wood or leather. Brown can also be sad and
wistful. Men are more apt to say brown is one of their favorite colors.

all the best

shanar ;)

Bluegreen July 14th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hi there. How is my sweet thoughtful friend doing? I really wish that you're having fun in
Najaf abad.
By the way, did I ever ask you of your city's climate? How is it? Is it this much hot there?
I wish that your answer be negative to all these.

Honey, by your description I really can't wait to visit there. But here's the thing, my
parents think that visiting cities Like, Isfahan, Shiraz and Najaf Abad as well should be
done while we're in spring, or in the holidays of Now Rouz. They say that weather's so
gorgeous in those days.

Now let's skip the weather, fantasizing, you really like it? Dear, I'm some sort of you. I
like to think and plan for these future events. Especially about trips, and believe it or not
but it helps me a lot sometimes.
Well, has it ever happened that you're going to take a trip to somewhere that you've got
no information about it, and you really think that there's going to be a lot for you to
explore and find out in that trip, and just at that moment, when you fantasize about it, you
get some sort of back ground, and if THIS FANTASIZING is positive then it makes you
feel warmer, not to be afraid of that new place. You know?

Honey, from your lines, I'm sure that you've got a lovely family and a much generous
mother. You must be proud of her.

Dear Elham, you asked me about our trip planning, I shall say that god willing we will
take a trip to Mazandaran this time. And again god willing it'll begin on this Saturday,
maybe for a week or just five days. And it will be just four of us on this trip, as it always.

Now to tell you some resemblance between your nice father and mine, honey, tell you
what, all fathers are alike! Mine just keeps saying: I can't, Kami, you'd better stop, girl,
why are you in such a hurry? Your dad hasn't run away LOOOL
And this is his famous sentence, I am a man of business, and there's nothing like a
holiday paraphrased for us. LOOOL

So we just have to wait and tolerate. It's a little bit hard Elham, but you know what? Just
wait until he's finished with everything. We have to understand that all the drudgery they
are undergoing is just for the sake of us. Do you agree with me?

And the last thing of Kamelia's chatter box manner, LOOL, I LOVE your name, it
reminds me of angels and heavens. I don't know why but I was like this from childhood.
Some names reminded me of some sort of things. Now with Elham or Eli, I remember
those heavenly voices that inspire you and catch your sincere self out of your physical
body.
By the way, one of my favorite cousin?s name is Elham.

Honey, may I ask your opinion about my essay? I really understand that when somebody,
especially someone of little knowledge like me states an opinion then there might be lots
of disagreements upon that. I want to know what you think of women here. Please let us
know what you think of it.
I'd be waiting impatiently to read from you,
Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 14th 2010


Dear Clare,

Hi there. How are you? Thank you for making time and reading my post and thanks for
putting comments on that. That is absolutely nice of you.

Now about your post to me, I really don't know what to say, but most of the things you
wrote were what I wanted to state but the words couldn't just come out. I don't know why.
I know that most will disagree with me by the post, but they were just my ideas.
Dear, your words just reminded me of one of my professors this year. Well, actually it's
been a year that I have the pleasure to be her student, but you won't believe me if I say
your ideas are exactly alike! I like most of the outlooks.
You stated that you don't care about what others are thinking of your kind of clothing,
she exactly was trying to teach us not to care about others and just be yourself. This is
wonderful.
Now you know, when I insist on clothing, I really don't mean that this is the only thing
that we're having problems with. This is just one aspect, and this reflects upon other
aspects of women's troubles here.
Now about talents, I know what you say, some keep telling me just go on do your work
without asking for permission or without fighting with others. In this way you'll get the
most and what you really want! I don't know if it works.
Some say that girls here just nag about the troubles but don't really try hard, now they
say that solution's just to go on and offer something important to the society so that
they're going to need you and... That's it! You've proved yourself and your womanhood
(not sure about the word) to the society! I don't know!
Anyways, thanks for stating your opinions, I like the way you prove things.

Hope to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
marinaa July 14th 2010
Dear all friends specially Behnam, Kamelia and Clare,

At first let me say that I'm the same Marina that you know:). Please forgive me if I was
absent for some weeks, it was because of some circumstances which are related to my
private life. Anyway, I've missed you so much and writing here too. It was a very long
time, but you still in both my heart and mind. God kept this thread going because of all
kinds of flowers, with different smells and colors in this place. Whether we have the same
thoughts or not, we are friends. Thanks for both Clare the runner of this powerful site
who is Italian and living in UK besides of being Christian , and Behnam who created this
great thread and who is a real Muslim lives in one of the biggest and most important
countries in Islamic world, Iran. Thanks for both of you. I know that I have spoken in a
way , maybe not excepted in some places even for me, but my aim was to let you know
that whatever our origin is , our deeds tell about us. Two persons from different places(
Clare and Behnam) could make this thread , THANK YOU BOTH!.

Dear friends, Recently you are discussing a very nice topic, but after reading your posts
I've got one feeling that each one of you is singing in different direction. Maybe all what
you wrote about is connected to each other, but I think there are some main points in this
topic.

As I see, Clare has written something about life in UK. I'm sure that lots of people have
ideas about it. on the other hand, life in Islamic world specially Iran is different from
what foreign people think of.

Dear Kami, I'm a Muslim girl, so I know how do you think. But you have made me
surprised when you talked about small things like cooking. As I know all women in the
world do this task whether they are in UK, Syria or Iran.

Kami, if you want to know the advantages of your society just see Dr. Phil program
which is a very famous TV show. Sometimes the main reason of problems is more simple
than cooking.

For me I think God have created us men and women because each one of us has his/her
responsibilities . If women started nagging about cooking, men about make living,
children about learning, army about saving the country , what would happen in this
world????

A smart woman ---whether she was Muslim , Christian or Jewish, living in UK, USA ,
KSA or Iran --- should know her responsibilities and try to make them in the best way
with PLEASURE. I'm as Marina I'll never make my husband cook , I'll never nag about
cooking. I'll do it with my all pleasure that I can make delicious food that my husband or
maybe children will enjoy it which will make a nice atmosphere in the home. The same
for a smart man, he shouldn't nag about extra job or even buy things, vegetables and so
on for his home. In doing so he will make a nice atmosphere too. Now both the man and
woman know what should they do, the children will do the same.
Kami and I still not married, but Clare is a kind married lady so I'm sure that she knows
what I'm speaking about which is a simple example about life and separate tasks between
partners. I'm sure she is a happy lady when she will see her children grow up in a nice
home , full of warm feelings.

Dear Behnam wrote a very nice point, that Islam ( and all religions) are connected to the
humanity. Why do we celebrate Eid ALfitr if we don't fast???? What is the meaning of
Easter day if we were far from Jesus' ( PBUH) instructions and thoughts??? Why do
some people celebrate the birth of Jesus(PBUH) with naked bodies , dancing in a very
bad way, drinking wine to be out of control or maybe have sex out of marriage which is a
big sin in Christians religion??? Is Jesus (PBUH)happy in his birthday when those
people make so???? Is it the FREEDOM??

All what I want to say that what some people do as rules in their society is very
dangerous. We should be smart enough to know what is bad or good for us. We shouldn't
copy and paste what is happening around, just let's think about the beginning of this
universe , why God have created us, and why God have created two genders. We should
enjoy our responsibilities in order to make this world better, whether we were living in
UK, Syria or Iran.

I'd like to thank all of you for reading my post which is full of mistakes :). All your
comments are welcomed with open arms. Don't let my arms open for long time ( as dear
Behnam says) :)

Marina.

Bluegreen July 14th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Oh god, professor? Are we going to have a fight? Are all those odd adjectives for me? Do
they really describe me? Oh come on! That's so unfair of you. Bombarding me with those
words! I can tolerate them from almost anyone but not of you because you're one of my
best friends. You said that you're cruel to women, but not like this LOOOOL
Now mind you, half of them related to you, but not all. Have I offended you? Or did I say
something to make you get mad at me? Oh come on Behnam, aren't we friends? I was just
trying to cry out my ideas somewhere. Now this is the place for practicing English
through discussions, and we're just talking. We're not going to weed out each other.
About that first adjective, if I wanted to do things slyly then I wouldn't obviously state this
sentence ?I?m afraid I think totally different from Dear Behnam" Now, Isn?t that my
exact sentence?
But anyway, I think I'll have to apologize to my dearest friend, if I made him get mad at
me. You must excuse Kamelia for her mistake. (Shy)

Behnam, you asked me of those cute cheerleaders holding medals and flowers, and I bet
you wanted to say that this isn't happening in our country, was that the case? Then don't
we have beautiful women as flight attendants?

Now about your last post to me, yes I know why do we wear clothes, at first to protect
ourselves and then to look nice.
Dear Behnam, by that ?no freedom to choose clothes" I bet you're misunderstanding me.
I just meant that don't we have any right on our clothing?

Now, I'd be waiting impatiently to read your ideas as you said you're going to discuss
this matter scientifically,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Clare July 14th 2010


Hi Marinaa!

You're back! What a fabulous surprise! You are going to make so many people happy to
see your posts...

In reply to your post: I love cooking, but not all English women like to cook. I also love
cooking different types of food. The food you eat in Syria, Iran and the rest of the Middle
East is, in my opinion, some of the best food you can eat in the world. You know my
opinion on mezze, sambusak, ma'alubeh and mansaf... Chicken with walnuts and
pomegranete (help me with the Iranian name, please Behnam) ... And I also love Thai,
Vietnamese and Khmer food; Italian dishes and my English home-cooking. No wonder I
love to eat! (And I really should go on a diet!!!)

But, the important thing is that we are free to decide whether we will cook or not. I'm
happy if my husband decides to cook a meal (although his repertoire of dishes is rather
limited) and I'm also happy if he does the house cleaning. (Most Italian women do all the
cooking and all the cleaning, but English men generally share the housework with their
partners.)

Men are no less men if they do the housework! Most women are happy to see their
husbands help around the house! And most women would be happy to train their
husbands to dust, hoover, clean floors etc. Tell me if this isn't the case, please, ladies!
How many of you women would not help a man to see dust and dirt and then clean it up?
(Maybe this is just an English / Italian problem, but in my experience, men are blind
when it comes to dirt -they just don't see it!)

As Marina says, it comes down to your heart. What are you happy to do? It's difficult,
however, when what you want to do contradicts with what others want you to do. What
can you do in these circumstances? I'm an argumentative sort of person (pity my
husband!) and I've never obeyed rules, just because that's what society tells me to do. In
large part, the society I grew up in is OK with that, because there aren't many religious
or political laws.

But I fully understand that, perhaps in other cultures, it's difficult to go against societal
expectations. Kamelia's post was very clear about this. What can you do if you don't want
to accept what others tell you to do?

Behnam added that perhaps he doesn't want to wear clothes. (Were you trying to say,
Behnam, that although you don't want to wear clothes, society means you have to?) I can
sympathise with you. When I first moved here, I was happy that because it was so remote,
I could do my gardening totally naked! (Except for rubber boots - after all, we have
snakes here.) My husband was also totally cool about it. Nobody around, no problem.

So what happened to my naked gardening? About a week after moving in, I realised that
the Italian countryside is teeming with people! Farmers on their tractors, corpo forestale
(a type of Italian country police force) in their jeeps, neighbours passing by... it was
impossible to do my own thing.

This was a great draw-back to me. After all, my great-grandparents met in a nudist
colony in Germany, and I've never been ashamed of my body. This is perhaps a difficult
concept for more religious people to understand, but we have the whole fig-leaf concept
of nudity, Adam and Eve story, as our cultural heritage. The naked body, for us, is a
beautiful, rather than shameful idea. Religious Christian paintings are full of semi-naked
Christs and Madonnas. I'm not an expert on religious art and symbolism, but I think it's
about the fact that there's a bit of God in all of us - that the human is also related to the
divine. So there's nothing wrong with the human body... but as I said, I'm not a Catholic,
so I could be wrong here.

Anyway, back to what you can / can't do; what you can do when society expects
something different. I made a compromise. I don't indulge in naked gardening (OK, only
after dark - joke!!) and I try not to offend the neighbours. I don't give them anything to
talk about, but in my own house, I do what I please. That's my freedom. Already I'm a
strange person to them (I don't have children, I don't go gossiping in the local shops and
bars) but I don't give them any reason to say bad things about me or my husband.

In my own house I'm completely free. If I wanted to, I can sleep or read, or work on the
computer when I want. I can cook or not cook when I want. I can do whatever job I want,
wear what I want, eat what I want, and say what I want. My husband can do the same.
That's my freedom and his. But it wouldn't work if he told me what I had to do. Or if I
told him what he had to do. That's why freedom (in my opinion) carries both rights and
responsibilities.

But perhaps the most important thing for me is that this freedom didn't just come about
because my husband (or any other man) said I was free to do this. It came about because
my female ancestors, and countless other brave women, were prepared to give up their
freedom, go to jail, and be ridiculed by the powers of the time (i.e. men) to gain these
freedoms.

The fact that I can run a business, own a home, take out a mortgage, decide who to marry
etc etc is not an accident. It's because my great-grandmother and others like her battled
for these rights for future generations. I owe my freedom to her and to countless others
like her. To all those women who said they wouldn't be cooks and cleaners for their
husbands; who went out to work even if they were told they couldn't or shouldn't; who
said they had other expectations from their lives than to have children (not that there's
anything wrong with having children, just to say there are other possibilities for
women...)

I don't want to insult anyone out there, but as I said in a previous post, I strongly believe
we have to do what we can best do - not just for ourselves, but for others. In many cases,
it's women doing things for other women. Women who set up micro-financing projects in
the developing world; women who provide ways for children to access education.

There's tons I could write about this, but won't. It's perhaps boring for you, and I don't
want to take up all your time. But perhaps it also shows how strongly I feel about
people's individual potential, and how strongly I feel that we have a responsibility for
using our education and skills to help others achieve their potential. Learing English, for
example, is one way of sharing skills. But not the only way!

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam July 15th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

Thank you so much for parsing me. I understand what you are saying. That's very kind of
you to think positively about me.

Dear Mohsen, you don't post as much as you used to do! What's the matter? I've terribly
missed your posts. Please join us in discussing topics.
Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 July 2010

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behnam July 15th 2010


Hi Shanar,

Thank you for sharing your concern with us. Thank you once again for sharing the
interesting text about colours.

In answer to your question, there is no need to apology, because you have done a right
action. However, it is not clear for me what your intention of walking with Ramin was.
Maybe, you have got a guilty conscience because of a bad intention. Anyway, I hope you
feel OK soon.

About Ramin's problem many things can be said. However, I'd rather say that there are
many fields in the world. For example, If someone is ugly, although one door (beautiful
face and attraction) is closed for him/her, there are many doors open for them. Ramin
isn't tall and hasn't got a good physical body, but he can be a famous physician, a famous
writer, a famous painter, etc. If girls, for example, are not interested in making friends
with him, or if his physical body doesn't catch people's attention, he can change the
situation easily by becoming famous in a field. After a while, people will stand in a long
queue to meet him, or will feel honoured to say 'hello' to him. Ramin is what he thinks. If
he hasn't got big thoughts, nobody and nothing can help him.

I hope that helps.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 July, 2010

behnam July 15th 2010


Hi Marina the great,

Welcome back! Although it is a hot summer, you brought spring to this thread. You made
me and other people extremely happy. Thank you for following actively and passively the
discussion,

Females students often carry thick books to make people understand that they are
studying at universities. Some students start speaking beautifully, saying some sugar
coated sentences to impress other people, or to show that they are open-minded, and they
understand a lot. The more narrow view someone has, the more beautifully s/he speaks!

People in this thread don't know Marina the great. I'd like to introduce her, although she
will argue with me.

Marina is an engineer. Her field of study is communication(a branch in electronic


engineering). She is working for a famous company in Syria. In terms of physical
appearance, she is really beautiful. Therefore, we should know who we are talking to.
When Marina says something, it means that she has thought about it for many hours, in
some cases, for months and even years. On top of them, Marina is perfect at
understanding the holy Koran.

Almost everyone has got a tongue, so speaking is the easiest thing. It is easy to move a
one-hundred-grams meat! Just open your mouth and move your tongue. You will say
something. However, sayings are different from each other in that some people say
thoughtfully, whereas others just speak and make sentences.

Marina thinks a lot, but speaks little. She never memorizes some beautiful sentences in
her mind, because she herself produces proper sentences. There is a big difference
between memorizing some information and producing information. Marina is a producer.

Why am I introducing her? I am introducing her to make you know who you are speaking
to.

Some people haven't got enough self confidence. For example, they watch a film and see
a film star. They try to copy her/his styles in the hope of becoming like him/her. It doesn't
work at all. In order to be important, we should do important things. Copying someone's
styles never makes us important at all.

Some stupid people think that speaking about western countries and accepting their
beliefs and thoughts blindly make them like westerners. Those stupid people don't know
that development in science and technology is the result of trying hard at universities and
labs not at getting naked, dancing well, dying their hair, or chewing gum.

Dear Marina, I completely agree with you. I won't add anything to your post, since it is
complete itself. Thank you for taking part in discussion.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 July 2010
behnam July 15th 2010
Hi Kamelia,

According to Immanuel Kant; a famous philosopher, if you ignore God whatever you do
is right. I think, asking that question didn't make you start from the first step. DO YOU
BELIEVE IN GOD?

We cannot wear whatever we like. What would happen if we could wear whatever we
like? Think about it deeply.

I sarcastically said that I'd like to be naked in the streets. I wanted to make you
understand if people could be completely free in choosing their clothes, some people like
Behnam would become naked.

Your father, and other men in your neighbourhoods and relatives may not help their
wives. However, the majority of men do housework in Tehran. It is not good to
generalize.

I was in the pool the other night. I looked at the men. Oh my God! How disgusting and
ugly human beings' body is. Without wearing clothes, human beings look the most
dangerous and the ugliest animal in the world. I am sure, even wild animals afraid of a
naked human being.:):):):)

The main philosophy of wearing clothes is covering our weaknesses and ugliness.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 July 2010

behnam July 15th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks for posting in the thread and taking part actively in discussions.

In a very simple way, please let me know, if my freedom causes troubles or threatens your
freedom, how will you cope with it?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 July 2010
behnam July 15th 2010
Hi Clare,

An important point has forgotten yet. In your previous post to Kamelia you have written "
...Men look at women everywhere, but I don't think the answer is in making women look
invisible or by forcing them to wear certain clothes to hide their beauty or appeal. I think
the answer is in educating men not to stare at women!!"

I sent my stomach to a famous university. It educated and received PhD, however it still
feels hungry! I wanted my stomach to learn how to stay full, but it didn't learn anything.
The same goes for my eyes. My eyes have got PhD too, but they cannot stop staring at
ladies. I can bravely say that whenever I see a lady in the street, my eyes don't leave some
parts of her body unseen.

What should I do with those educated eyes? :):):):) The more educated they are, the more
pleasure they get from staring at women's sex appeal.

By the way, amazingly, the more stare they give, the more thirst they feel.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 July 2010

marinaa July 15th 2010


Dear Clare,

Thanks a lot for your warm welcome, it was really because of your kindness. We here
used to feel your care about us. Thanks very much indeed!

I really enjoyed your writing, it was about you somehow, it makes us know you more,
how do you think or maybe your way of living. Good for you that you have a garden! I
wish I had a garden with lots of flowers , then I would be able to take care of it but for
sorry I'm living in the fourth floor of a building , so there is no even a flower that I can
take care of(LOL).

Dear Clare, a friend of mine who is an engineer too is working in one of the most famous
banks in Syria. One of the rules of that bank that she should wear black ( pants or middle
height narrow skirt) with white blouse or shirt above. She can't wear other kind of clothes
or maybe colors, if she did so, they would make something against her or maybe prevent
her of working there.
But she does as they want , as the manager wants , as the rules of this bank which are
made by the manager even though she is a real follower to the fashion and clothes style,
she even change her hair's color (she doesn't wear heijab) almost every month and like to
make different shapes with it, but now she makes it in one pretty way.

In any place , there is always someone who is more powerful than other people. He /she
makes rules and other people follow them. let's think about this universe, all of us are
followers to God's instructions whatever our religion is. If you think dear Clare that God
is our creator , our manager, you should do what he says. If you made a comparison
between my friend and any human being , you should realize that you should know your
creator's rules, if not you would be punished!

My friend is following the rules of her manager , but when she go out of the bank she
doesn't follow the rules of our creator who is the only manager for the world! She is
following some rules which are made by a human being like her, but she doesn't do it
with God who is higher and bigger than all of us. I think this way of living is making us
weak!
I'll follow all rules in my work place because I'm an organized lady , but at first I'll do it
with my creator. God's rules are more important than others , if I want to be a strong
lady, I should be afraid of someone who is bigger than me ( God can't be compared with
a human being) before being afraid of taking a punishment from a person who is equal
with me in front of God.

We can do whatever we want, no one can prevent us , but we shouldn't be weak to follow
human beings and leave God who is higher and bigger than both of us.

On the other hand, my friend's example works for men and women too. Why a woman can
accept the rules of her manger , and do as his/her rules( almost jobs have men as
managers :)) , take his/her permission or maybe try her best to make him/her happy
whereas she can't tolerate an order from the man who is sharing her life, home, private
feelings and activities.

At first we shouldn't as women make comments about small things. Of course when my
husband would be an understanding man, maybe offer his help in some chores when I'm
tired. In fact it would be from his kindness, but of course he is not supposed to do them. I
prefer to do them by my own.

Anyway, sharing cooking sometimes would be a nice and kind of changing. There is no
wrong with it. The wrong is when a woman thinks that her husband should cook, clean or
maybe wash dishes! This is what I mean.

Thanks for reading again. It was nice to return back with this hot discussion.

Hope to read from you soon.

Marina.
sami July 15th 2010
Hello Mohsen!

How are you?? thank you so much for congratulating!! All Spanish people are very
happy with the winning of the football world cup. I dont like football, however I watched
the match "infected" by the euphoria feeling that was in the spanish air!

So, again, thank you!

How is it going for you??? I am enjoying one of my best summers! it is my first holiday
as a worker which will last till the end of August. I'm some days at home and some others
at the beach...

I hope you are having a very good time!


Rosa, 15th July, 2010.

sami July 15th 2010


Hello Behnam, Kamelia and other friends!

How are you??? I hope you are fine; I am very well, on holidays :)) and I came here just
to say a big HELLO to all you, to let you know that i visit this site from time to time to
know from you!

I have to leave now, I hope you all have a good time.


Sweet kisses,
Rosa, 15 July, 2010.

behnam July 15th 2010


Hi Shanar,

I was jogging in the park near my house. Another point came into my mind.

At the moment, the most famous scientists in the world is Stephen Hawking.He suffers
from a serious disease of the nervous system, and he uses a special computer system in
order to talk. However, it is a great honour for a physicist to meet him, or to be taught by
him.

I know the situation is frustrating, but it's not the end of the world.
All the best,
Behnam, 15 July 2010

metzean July 15th 2010


Hi Rosa

Nice to see you, Lucky you and Spanish people , I like to play football not to watch
football , but I saw most of the matches, I am spending my summer with eating its tasty
fruits , swimming and going picnic .
Also drinking 4 litters water per day and 2 litter drops of sweat.
I don't know why in summer my stomach grow up, may by 4 litter water is too much for a
day ,I don't know.

Good night
Mohsen

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metzean July 15th 2010
Dear Behanm, Kamelia, Marina,Clare,

At first when Adam and Eve descended on earth, they were nude ,nobody was on the
earth to look at them .little by little they evolved from primitive feature and wore some
part of their body , the civilization on the earth started with wearing when people learned
to weave and spin. Prophets of God came to the stage and guided people how to wear
their body.
Apparently all kinds of laws restrict people ,specially religious one ,the same as when we
don't let our child to eat whatever he want /wherever he goes ., he objects because we
restricted him ,but we think about his prosperity .about religion it is different. we choose
it optionally with awareness and we love its restrictions ,because doing its restriction we
feel closer to our real love. We also feel the real freedom, this freedom is different a
materialistic one. Once a person from Netherland told me if you do not drink alcohol ,if
you are not free to have sex ,you better kill yourself. I told him what a small world do you
have !!! eating ,drinking and having sex are maximum things that epitomize your world ?
but the laws we obey has come to us from one (God) beyond the world , so we have
connection we the universe, we feel that we are important ,more than eating ,drinking
and ?., in our world we never depressed ,we never getting old ..so the God's laws which
have been transferred by prophet has many reasons, some of them are clear for us and
some of them have its own reason ,but we can't understand it, if we accepted Islam ,we
should accept all of its rules, Islam is not a religion that we have reverse engineering on
it and separate its law according to our tastes .
B.Wishes,
Mohsen

marinaa July 16th 2010


Dearest friend Behnam,

Thank you for saying welcome to Marina, Marina has never forgotten you. I used to read
in this thread many times a day. I follow your fabulous essays as well, I really love them.

Thank you for saying lots of positive things about me, in fact you made me proud that an
educated man like you who is a real friend and gentelman said so about me. I enjoy this
feeling that you made me feel :) . Thank you Behnam, thank you from the bottom of my
heart kind man.

Please comment on my post to Clare. I'm waiting to read from you soon.

Marina.

elham_z July 16th 2010


Hi dear Behnam,

I hope you are well and enjoying your time. Thank you so much for showing interest in
our discussion about Islam. I really enjoyed your last post to me. It was truly of those
really nice thoughtful posts of Behnam. I really loved your description about if Islam is in
danger or humanity and your comparison between Islam and other religions. This post
actually was one of those Behnamwise writings that one can truly smell Behnam's
thoughts from, since as you have described about dear Marina, it also goes for you that
the source is just your mind.

Thank you once again for stating your opinions this way since it helps our discussion to
be directed to right path. But I am still thinking about a lot of aspects and of course dear
Mohsen?s posts are helpful developing my questions as well. I will continue our
discussion as soon as I can organize my thoughts.

Ahan, and another thank you for your kind description about my, in my own idea, poor
writings.

Looking forward to reading your lovely posts and as I am used to write at the end of my
Farsi letters,
Hope you keep being green, ( I mean as lively and youghful as green plants)
Elham

Clare July 16th 2010


Hi Behnam
You asked me "In a very simple way, please let me know, if my freedom causes troubles
or threatens your freedom, how will you cope with it?"

Could you give me an example of what you mean? For example, you have freedom to
stare at me (as I'm a woman) but I have freedom to ask you not to stare!! Joking aside,
you need to be careful about that sort of thing if you ever visit an Anglo-Saxon country.
Women are not used to being stared at for long periods of time. Of course, men look at
women (and vice versa) but it's not supposed to be an aggressive sort of thing. It could
get you into trouble - seriously.

For Marina and Rosa:


It's so lovely to have you back here! Glad you're enjoying your summer, Rosa.

Marina: I like your example of your bank teller friend. In the UK, too, some companies
have dress codes. But companies can't ask employees to do things which contravene state
laws (which are not based on religion). So you could say that in the UK, it's not God /
religion who sets the higher laws, but our legislation-making bodies.

That's not to say that individuals don't have a conscience, or a moral code that informs
them of what is right or wrong. I'm not a religious person, but I know that stealing is
wrong, not right. For some people, their conscience is informed by their religious beliefs
and teachings: for others (like me) conscience is informed by respect for other people as
human beings with dignity.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Clare July 16th 2010


Hi Mohsen

I just wanted to say that I really enjoyed your post. I think you are absolutely right -
there's so much more to life than just drinking, etc. You are completely right in what you
told your Dutch friend. And can I say, just for the record, junk culture (reality TV,
celebrity adoration, the "bread and circus" politics of some countries - i.e. keep the
population happy with non-issues such as rubbish tv) seem to be increasingly popular.
Where's all the discussion of issues that we, as a world face? Why does TV (at least in the
west) serve up an endless diet of celebrity lifestyles and voyeurism? I'm not saying that
we should have countless sermons beamed live from the Vatican, but that we should be
promoting greater awareness of what's happening around us... (Sorry, this is an
argument against Italian TV and media - for all I know it's a bit more informative in
other countries.)

Your sentence "so the God's laws which have been transferred by prophet has many
reasons, some of them are clear for us and some of them have its own reason ,but we
can't understand it, if we accepted Islam ,we should accept all of its rules, Islam is not a
religion that we have reverse engineering on it and separate its law according to our
tastes" for me completely sums up the idea of religious faith. I think you can apply this to
all religions - they all ask you to have faith - even when you don't understand.

Mohsen, I respect you 100% for your faith and your obvious humility and acceptance.
You'd probably be able to have the same conversation with people from all different
faiths - whatever they might be. You have more in common with a Catholic priest or
Jewish rabbi than you probably think!

Thanks again for your post

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

elham_z July 16th 2010


Hi dear Kamelia,

How are you? Is everything ok with your trip plans? I hope so.

Honey you had asked about my city's climate. Well, actually we have a DRY and warm
weather here. I emphasize on dry because here if the weather is cold it is in a terribly dry
way cold, and in case of being hot it is in a same way terribly dry hot. Although I
described the gardens as one of the main parts of our city, Najafabad , in my idea is not a
green town.

Oh and having mentioned my mom as a generous woman motivated me to write about


this lovely mother. She is extremely simple, kind, CARING and hardworking. Some times
I think with myself that she is my every thing and I wonder of any meaning for me without
her. But shamefully I am not at all a good girl for her. I bother her a lot. Now I remember
once again my Grandfather's last serious advice to me on having special respect for my
mother if I want to be successful in my life.
Dear Kamelia, you had asked me about my opinion on your essay. Actually my general
idea is those sentences at the bottom of my last post to you, but I am going to write more
about it soon.

* I hope you will read my post before taking your trip tomorrow. I like to ask you to
remember poor Elham whenever enjoying green lovely paths of North. Elham loves them.
I wish you a very enjoyable safe trip beside your parents and your sister if I am right that
you have a younger sister of yours.*

Best wishes,
Elham

Bluegreen July 17th 2010


Dear Shanar,

Hi honey. How are you? How's everything with you? How are you getting along with this
strange weather condition? I really wish you health and happiness.

It was about two days ago when I was talking with a mutual friend of ours and I said I've
really missed Shanar, while I was in university I used to see her everyday, and sometimes
every time but now, it's just none! Honey I want you to know that I've missed you terribly.

Dear shanar, I read that beautiful article of yours about colors, actually my favorite
colors are blue, green and purple but the light version of all of them. They make me feel
happy. Thanks for the lovely information.

Now about Ramin, well, I read your ideas about him and especially his physical
appearance, and unconsciously ( as dear Behnam did) I remembered professor Stephan
Hawking! I'm sure you've heard of him.
Now I want to ask you something. I really didn't get that why do YOU feel regretful and
sorry? Because you haven't done anything to do him harm and if you think that your
proposal to take him out with you was a wrong thing to do, then I shall if you really think
so, you're wrong!
You did a nice thing, it will give him even more self-confidence that he's still too
important and lovely before the eyes of his friends and family members.
I don't think you should be sorry. But about the youn couple, well you know honey, I think
there's nothing that one can do about other people because you can never keep them
quite. whatever you do they'll find a mistake in it and would blame you. So it's better to
boost up your own self-esteem. Do you agree with me?
Perhaps physical appearance is not that much important, what you do and what you
think you are will make you achieve higher ranks of society. As you see there are lots of
people even having difficulties in walking, as there is this french professor in our own
university, who is a perfect scientis that everyone adores, but he's the best!

I am in a hurry, so please excuse me if you're having difficulties in reading my post due


to my mistakes,

Hope to read from you so soon,

SIncerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 17th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hi there. How's everything with you? Thank you so much for reading my post and
answering to that nicely.

Honey, sure I'll be reading your post before I got there. Actually before any trip I use to
write to anyone whose written to me. Because I believe that they've consumed some time
to write and do the whole process to post their article so it's not a proper action to let go
of the whole nice work.
Thank you for writing about my mom, it made wishing longevity and health for her even
more. Oh and please don't say so about yourself. you are a wonderful girl, as your
attitude towards us all shows such a thing. You look so kind and generous, happy and
convivial. So you can't ever been doing her any harm. Well if you were talking about me,
then we could say such a thing.
Because I sometimes really walk on my mom's nerves, LOOOL, I don't mean to make her
get mad at me but I love playing jokes on people. Oh well maybe I shall find someone at
my own age. LOOOOL
Again thank you for reading my posts,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 17th 2010


Dear Rosa,

Hellooo there. How's everything going on with you dear English teacher? I've missed
you. How've you been?
So you're on vacation, are you enjoying? How's the weather? and may I ask where've you
chosen for your holidays? I really wish you happiness and health.
Dear Rosa, I really don't know if you're interested in soccer or not or have you been
watching the FIFA world cup games lately but I'm sure that you've heard about Spain's
championship. So a big congratulations to you for the wonderful event.
Wish you the best on your holidays,
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 17th 2010


Dear Behnam, Clare, Marina, Mohsen,

Hi there. How are you all doing? I really wish that you're having wonderful days, full of
joy and happiness.

Dear Behnam, thank you for reading my posts and commenting on them. Again thank you
for stating your opinions, this was just supposed to be about women problems but now it
happened to check whether I do believe in God or not. Honey, for sure I do! Have you
seen any point in me denying the fact?!
Now I know you never mean to offend anyone, you always write your ideas in a scientific
tone, so I'd better not to pick up those bones LOOOOOL
But anyways, thanks for the thoughtful and scientific posts. I really learn from them. I
love the way you use to prove things, and the back ground you give with the examples
mentioned. It's like I'm reading a book written by a scientist. Oh and in case you're
wondering I'm not flattering you, I am dead serious about what I said. (Your amazingly
wonderful post to Dear Elham cries this out)

Dear Clare, I read your post which you had written some things about your beautiful
garden, as Dear Marina said, I really wish that I could have one. My mom does, but she
doesn't let me do the gardening, just watering them LOOL. She's got her own style in
gardening. I just own some joyful little cacti, oh and I cannot stop loving them because I
really am crazy about their wonderful circular shape. LOOL Thank you for telling us
about your country, religions and culture there. That was interesting for me to read about
it from a native.

Dear Marina, welcome back dear friend, you made us, especially me so happy to see you
back. I read your post, I thought about the things you mentioned. I really don't know what
to say, well perhaps I might have disappointed you that you mentioned it is such a tone.
Then I apologize, but here's the thing, I really didn't mean to say that JUST COOKING is
the main problem here, was that really the case in my post? I wanted to mention some
tangible examples women sometimes argue about, and at that time I just remembered
some simple ones like the cooking! I know you're a perfect lady yourself. Oh and about
Dr. Phil, honey has Dear Behnam told you that we're not allowed to watch those
programs? Some people do, but the programs shown on satellite TVs are illegal. But I've
heard of him. I know about some problems mentions there. Yes they are horrible!

Dear Mohsen, a nice post from you, thank you for sharing your ideas, I got so glad
reading your post. Actually I'd missed your posts to me, it was nice to write about Adam
and Eve, and then about God above. But I have one questions, what did you mean when
you said we never get old? You mean due to the Holy Koran's sayings? Would you mind
explain about it a bit? I'd be really appreciating that.

Dear Friends, this topic was challenging, it made me think a lot, don't know what to say
more, it was not supposed to be in this way, but it got as vast as an ocean. LOOL Now it's
hard for me to gather the ideas together. I got a little confused. Now I want you to know
that in my opinion, none of you are wrong, I believe that everyone has got the right to
state her/his opinions.
In case, the more the discussion widens the better I learn and my outlook toward different
ideas will be widened.

Now friends, I'm going on a holiday (God willing) for some days. I'm both excited and
sad, excited for the vacation, and all that getting free of your routine chores, and finding
out new things. Sad because I can't get to read the posts here. I?ll promise to check them
out when I got back.

Oh God, I'm gonna have to miss your posts all, please wish me the best

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

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Clare July 17th 2010


Happy holidays Kamelia! Looking forward to seeing you back here in a few days!

Clare xx
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
elham_z July 17th 2010
Dear Behnam, Kamelia, Clare, Marina, Mohsen,

Giving a big thanks to you all for your nice serious discussions, Elham is going to state
some of her thoughts about Hijab.I really enjoyed your writings and I asked myself:
Elham how much do you think these people can affect one another's attitudes?

Elham was born and has been grown up in a fairly religious family. From when she
reached the age of 9 , she has been thought to cover herself while in presence of any man
except her father, brothers, grandfathers, uncles, her future husband, father-in-law and
her boys. At that age I never asked why, I just did what they told me to do. But little by
little Elham would grow up and learned how to ask this why question in a terribly serious
way for every action she did. This why questions however, led her to serious
philosophical problems. For ages I even had no God in my life. And how horrible days I
spent at that time. The best description for those times is, truly breathing in complete
vacuum. I got so perfectionist in a terrible way that I started having serious doubts about
every religion or even the reality of mankind and whole universe. Actually I am just 21,
But I have thought as much as a at least 40 year old person. Well, thanks to God, I
gradually found him again (as if he was lost:):):):) ) and although I still have a lot of
unanswered questions about Islam's instructions and even once I decided not to call
myself Muslim any more, since I am not able to be a real one , I found out that I can't be
apart from Islam.I can't neglect Koran despite of all dark points I still don't get.

* The fact is that acting to Islam's instructions while you are not sure about God's
justification having chosen them, is just like drinking water by a child when he feels
thirsty. He actually doesn't know scientifically what has exactly happened in his body
making him feel thirsty, he doesn't know about the chemistry of the structure of water and
how this liquid is going to help him remove his thirstiness, but for sure the first choice at
the moment of feeling such a need is drinking water. If he decides to go for searching all
the reasons before drinking water, he will die before he can convince himself. And this is
a very little example, most of the things we do daily work just like this. This is my feeling.

Ok, let me go back to my main point here, Hijab. This is the matter I've also had issues
with too. I don't claim that I love it , I don't have any problem with, I have accepted it
completely and I always enjoy having it. Let me share some of my concerns about it and
then I will tell you my general attitude toward it.
I used to ask my mom why I should cover myself for my younger than me cousin that we
have spent all our childhood playing together. Or I always ask for the necessity of
covering our hair, I sometimes say to my mom that I would take this scarf off in case
going abroad cause I don't think even hair should cause problems. Or listen to this one, I
really feel miserable when starting from spring our male classmates wear those bright-
colored fine shirts, while we have to get completely baked in these uniforms and scarves
all day long. Or believe me, this Friday I seriously told my mom, I won't wear this scarf
today in presence of my brother-in-law. In this hot weather we go to garden to have
sometime free and again we should cover ourselves in these clothes while I really like to
just wear a shirt. Or when we go to nature, I die for water and I can't wait to put my feet
in the cold water, but again we can't enjoy ourselves or can't laugh as loudly as we feel
like just because we are girls. I think with myself that we are human beings as well. These
things may seem unimportant but believe me, THEY ARE IMPORTANT. We have this
right to enjoy ourselves the way we like. In such situations I wonder if really we have to
take Hijab that serious.

*** I want to say talking about Hijab is easy especially for men, but having it is not that
easy. I mentioned all above examples to come to this important point: Disagreement can
starts from these minor concerns and little by little be extended to wider arias. I didn't
say such examples to say so we decide Hijab is not good, no , I mentioned all to say even
Elham would forget about all the whole matter, Hijab, if she starts looking for excuses
not having it, as happens a lot these days with young people at least in our society. We
start with such naggings, we see Western countries and their women, and we have not
enough STRONG MOTIVATIONS to persuade us, so we decide we want to be as free as
Western women.

I said all those stories to reach this part of my writing. Ok, now Elham asks herself about
her own motivation on having Hijab. Before considering any other thing, at least there is
one reason and that is acting to what we are offered to by God in Koran, as I mentioned
the water story and as dear Mohsen has pointed out to. And of course it can just remain
as a claim until we truly act what we believe in. But my own major reason is:

Thanks to dear Behnam who has said honestly, men never get tired of looking at naked
bodies. The more they see, the more they want to see. I am not a man but I have heard a
lot about his nature and what happens to him naturally. Now all that matters depends on
me as woman to consider the results of such enjoyment by men.( The last sentence is
actually my key and highlighted sentence, so pay a careful attention to it). At the very
first glance it may just seem to be the matter of women's personal tasts whether they tend
to be the focus of attention and enjoyment or not. Such a girl like Elham prefers to be just
the focus of his husband's attention and enjoyment. I hate it when I pass before a boy's
eyes and I notice his wildly- opened eyes staring at me.

But I wish the file could be closed at this point. The issue is not just me as a woman to
like or dislike these wildly-opened eyes. The issue is much more delicate and important.
The matter is a whole family; the matter is a whole society. The matter is the foundation
of families, families which are the most impressive and important part of a society. I don't
want to scientifically discuss this point, and I am sure you all know better than me how
trouble-making this issue can be. We all can obviously take a look at our cities and see
what catastrophic happenings are occurring. And who can believe the reason behind all
these are just this simple fact of man's nature and women's naked bodies ?
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Let me bring this long story to end, When Elham claims that she is proud of having
Hijab, it is because she is doing her part on preventing such troubles.Some times we have
to overlook our own desires for more vital values. And you men should be thankful to
women like me who don't cause you such problems of having car crashes while driving or
going straight to wall in the street harming your bodies , while staring at some parts of
women's bodies:):):):):):):):)

Ahan and just one thing else, I always make joke and say to my sisters that what a
heaven, earth could be if every man could just and just see one woman's body (his wife),
so he wasn't aware of other beauties and he didn't expect his poor wife to look this way
or that way or wear like this or like that or wear this or that hair color ooooooooor
?????.. :):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Thank you so much for reading my longest writing ever, and please let me know of your
ideas having come to your mind while reading.

All the best,


Elham

metzean July 17th 2010


Hi Clare,

Islamic science is teaching in many universities of Iran ,and some people have PHD in
Islamic science, so Islam is not religion in which all of its laws and the reasons be
understood only by going to the masque or listening to a sermon . According to Islam
people should be in two group , first group are people how study on Islamic science for
many years and they have high ranking expertise in Islamic theology ,they know all the
reasons of Islamic laws ,they can be a leader ( we call them Ayattolloh) and the second
group are people who are followers , the second group are people who are studying other
courses ,they have not enough time to study Islamic course in details , and become an
expert, so they should choose a leader(Ayatollah) and follow him. Muslim in Iran are
follower of different leaders , and according to Islamic rules if a person (who is not an
Islamic expert ) doesn't choose his leader ,his/her prayers are not accepted by God ( This
law is for Shiite Sect)and you see when an leader aske people for doing something
,millions of people obey him ,because they believe that this is a part of Islamic duties, so
you see that Islamic laws are very firm , a person should have enough knowledge about
the reason of Islamic laws or he/she should be the follower of knowledgeable person and
accept all Islamic law although don't understand the detail reason of some laws.
For example ,you don't know that how the injector pump in car's engine works , but you
accept it ,you buy a car and you drive it , for example you visit a doctor and use all of the
medicines he prescribed for although you don't know how these medicine cure you .
Islam is similar in some part with Christianity and Jewish, but it is very different in whole
and details, Christianity in Europe has not anything to affirm a complete way for all
aspects life, and it was rejected by intellectuals and scientist and they consider it as a
petrifaction ,that is people like you declare that you are not religious, but Islam is day by
day attracted by many intellectual and scientist in Iran and other countries.

Hope you are not bored by some serious, and enjoy picking your apple in your nice
Garden.

all the best,


Mohsen

aminsb July 17th 2010


Hi friends. How is every thing with you.
I wish success and joy.
speaking of the Islam and other religions can take a long time and at the end non of us
can be agree with others .we have personal ideas about this subject as you know.
In my opinion in the past people of the world need to something that forced them to do
something right .most of them were illiteracy they hadn?t enough awareness and
knowledge about the life and their relatives .
More over they didn?t believe anything .there was only rules that the king of each land
wanted people to conformed them.
Because of these, from time to time one of the humans who were the intelligent and
resourceful , guided the people of his era as a Prophet.
As far as religion is concerned I don?t think thoughts and directions of the past can do
wonder for our generation .I?m sure these days on the contrary of the past centuries we
don?t need to that old suggestions because now most of people even kids know what the
prophets said .We have evolved over many years.
With these improving and complicated inventions we shouldn?t waste our time by this
subjects .
I remember the God in whole of the my life and I am thankful for everything that I have .I
act what should I do as a human . I try to be a saint person but I believe the Islam and
it?s legal laws such as Hijaband,and ?.and other religions mustn?t be important for us .
as I said we are wasting our time like writing this essay . haha.
Thanks for your patience.
Your friend,
Amin

jiulia78 July 17th 2010


hello everybody! may I join your nice company? my name is Julia.
Hi, Amir, your poin of view is very alike with mine. it's not traditional, but I see in it the
faith of the future.
does the reality correlate with what we think of it? we live with the ready descriptions
and interpretations of everything that we have in our lives. from the very childhood our
teachers steadily describe us the world until we take it for granted precisely as it has
been described. but from this moment the child forgets how to SEE, becomes the Member
of the society. he uses the ready interpretations because everybody around does in the
same way. and it will be considered the only one right behavior until the new epoch or
the king or new president will come and change the rules, will permit smth that was
forbidden, will abolish the law, will discover smth new. there's a big difference between
LOOKING and SEEING. we're deprived of the freshness of outlook of the child at our
world.
so, we are sure to use the whole potential that we possess, if our minds have been
smoked?

behnam July 18th 2010


Hi Marina the great,

How are you today? I hope you are doing well. What I've written about you are some
facts; at least they are facts in my opinion.

Dear Marina, I completely agree with you and with the points mentioned in your last
post. My comment was what I've already written to you.

What you have written are my words, it seems as though Behnam's words come out from
Marina's mind and mouth. :):):):) Do you need any comments better than this one?
:):):):):):)

Thank you very much for being my friend. I really feel honoured to have you as a real
friend.

Hope to hear from you more,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

behnam July 18th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for interesting posts. I follow your
thoughtful posts regularly.

Keep on writing, because you write effectively.


Hope to hear more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

behnam July 18th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Have a fantastic trip. I will be waiting for you.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

behnam July 18th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks. There are many examples, but your example is a good one. I love staring at
women's sex appeal. God has created my eyes to see things, and those attractive things
are created to be seen! Why do you limit my freedom? If I don't stare at attractive things,
why are my eyes and those attractive things created? Don't limit people. I am free! I
should enjoy my life. :):):):):)

By the way, when I decide to stare at a woman's body, I don't care where is she from. I
only care about God and his rights. My beliefs and faith can control and limit me. I don't
care about human beings and those artificial rights.

You should know, God does not let me stare at your body. Therefore, if someone cares
about God, s/he will automatically care about human rights.

Surly you won't agree with me, and even the majority of people won't agree with me, do
you know why? Well, people often think in this way: Behnam belongs to a third world
country, whereas Clare belongs to the UK. Therefore, obviously Clare is right, because
her country is developed in science and technology. This seems rational and logical to
young people, but wise people know what has happened to
natural sources of Behnam's country. Wise people know what westerners have done and
are doing in the middle east. Wise people often guess what will happen in the future.
Alas, there are a few wise people in the world!

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 18 July, 2010

behnam July 18th 2010


Hi Elham,

When I named you 'thoughtful Elham' some people blamed me for calling you thoughtful.
Now you proved it yourself. Well done.

Hope to read more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

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behnam July 18th 2010


Hi Julia,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for putting comments. Thank you for joining us.

Would you please give us a little bit more information about yourself?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

sumsul July 18th 2010


Would you please tell me what is the meanig of the word and it can be use in sentence by
giving example "intonation"?
I want to have good command over english as it is important to get a job from the
perpective of Bangladesh. I would be greatful to u if you tell me the ways and how you
are dealing activity at english at home .com to improve english because it seems to me
tha t the way all of you are dealing its not a palliative measure rather a giant solution of
learning english.
Thanking uoy,
alam
sumsul July 18th 2010

I am from bangladesh. I have to walk a very little to complete my graduation from


business administration. undoutedly its a pleasure for me but I am fear about my spoken
english wether
I wiil be able to get any job to earn my fortune.

sumsul July 18th 2010


hi Behnam,
I am happy to find u in this thread.
so far I know you are a teacher trying to have admission in university for higer study.
what about that matter. wht are you doing rigt now.
I wiil be waaiting for your response.
wishing you all the best,
sumsul.

Clare July 18th 2010


Behnam

I find your reply to me a little defensive. When did I ever say the UK was superior to
Iran? I'm trying to explain how life is different in my country, and how men and women
behave differently.

In my society (and pretty much all Western countries) staring for a long time at
someone's body is considered at the minimum, rude, and at worst, aggressive. You are
very likely to get an aggressive response if you do it to someone. Quite possibly, you'd get
cautioned - or even arrested - for "intimidating behaviour" by the police if someone
complained about your staring at them. And if you were to stare at a woman who was
with her male partner, then you might even get a punch on the nose!

We also believe (again, in most western countries) that not being able to control your
sexual urges (and expressing these in the way that you describe - by staring at women,
for example) is disrespectful, immature, and ignorant. Neither do you touch, verbally
harrass or insult, or whistle. Small boys or teenage boys might do this sort of thing, but
their parents will practically always tell them off for it if they see it - it's not polite or
socially acceptable. If an adult male does it, he might be forgiven (once) if his defence is
that he comes from another country where such behaviour is acceptable, but not a second
time...
Part of learning a language is also learning about the culture. As you're learning
English, I think it's also important for me to tell you about life and culture in the UK. I
definitely feel it's my responsibility to encourage you not to do certain things that would
get you into trouble if you were ever to visit my country!

English people aren't normally very religious people. There are lots of different
nationalities with different religious beliefs who have learnt to get along without fighting
each other. As I said before, tolerance and acceptance is a big part of our culture - and
reasons why so many people from around the world are attracted to living in the UK.
Our culture - and laws - are built on the basis of individual rights, freedom and
responsibilities. We don't need a religious book or faith to tell us how to act and what we
have to do. Rather, it's a "live and let live" attitude - respect for other people coupled
with respect for the secular laws. You can't go around staring at people, making personal
comments, etc as this is insulting! As I said before, you might look (especially if a person
is particularly striking or is wearing unusual clothes) but not stare.

That's why in my culture, rather than saying a woman has to cover up because it stops
men from staring at her, we believe it should be the man who needs to control his anti-
social behaviour in the first place - or he (and not the woman he's staring at) has to face
the consequences.

Anyway, this is a really long reply, but I hope I've been able to explain why we act as we
do. It's hard to explain our ways of life if you've never been to the country to experience
first-hand.

Best wishes
Clare

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

metzean July 18th 2010


Hi Amin,

How are you , your name is nickname of our prophet, Good luck.

Dear Amin,some cases in our life are more important than complicate inventions.
Everybody has some questions about his/her life; the questions are "where I have come
from- for what I have come here and where will I go at the end?" These questions stuck
in the mind of human being for ages, it is not related to the specific time, and from ages
till now people are looking for the answer. Invention could not help to find the answer,
and Invention could not help stop people to die, inventions only extend the facilities of
life.

When we speak about religion, we can find the answer of these questions , so we could
not tell that Islam is belong to the people of past and people who where illiterate .
The key of these question in our prophet hands, he was a gift from God for people. His
massage is the massage of love, a massage of behavior, a massage of kindness. a
massage of peace.
If people listen to his massage, we have world full of flowers ,we do not have any war in
the world?

Islam support progress and invention in all of instructions, it is not something against
science in it ,you may heard this Islamic quote from our prophet. "have effort to achieve
knowledge from your childhood to the time of your death ? Otlobol alm men al mahde
ella lahd"

Nowadays there is thought who supported from West that religion is something in
opposite side of human progress ,it is symbol of petrifaction, this is what westerner did
with Christianity at first ,and now they have put Islam in one raw with Christianity , they
are bombarding our people thought through their movies , satellite and their programs.
They hope to reach their goal in Islamic countries , Is there anyone influence by this
propaganda , they are now evaluating !!!?

Have a great day,


Mohsen

behnam July 18th 2010


Dear friends,

Whenever you see an old film, even one made as little as ten years ago, you cannot help
being struck by the appearance of the women taking part. Their hairstyles and make-up
look dated; their skirts look either too long or too short; their general appearance is, in
fact, slightly ludicrous. The men taking part in the film, on the other hand, are clearly
recognisable. There is nothing about their appearance to suggest that they belong to an
entirely different age.

This illusion created by changing fashions. Over the years, the great majority of men
have successfully resisted all attempts to make them change their style of dress. The same
cannot be said for women. Each year a few so-called 'top designers' in Paris or London
lay down the law and women the whole world over rush to obey. The decrees of the
designers are unpredictable and dictatorial. This year, they decide in their arbitrary
fashion, skirts will be short and waists will be high; zips are in and buttons are out. Next
year the law is reversed and far from taking exception, no one is even mildly surprised.

If women are mercilessly EXPLOITED year after, they have only themselves to blame.
Because they shudder at the thought of being seen in public in clothes that are out of
fashion, they are annually blackmailed by the designers and the big stores. Clothes which
have been worn only a few times have to be discarded because of the dictates of fashion.
When you come to think of it, only a woman is capable of standing in front of a wardrobe
packed full of clothes and announcing sadly that she has nothing to wear.

Changing fashions are nothing more than the deliberate creation of waste. Many women
squander vast sums of money each year to replace clothes that have hardly been worn.
Women, who cannot afford to discard clothing in this way, waste hours of their time
altering the dresses they have. Hem-lines are taken up or let down; waist-lines are taken
in or let out; neck-lines are lowered or raised, and so on.

No one can claim that the fashion industry contributes anything really important to
society. Fashion designers are rarely concerned with vital things like warmth, comfort
and durability. They are only interested in outward appearance and they take advantage
of the fact that women will put up with any amount of uncomfortable, providing they look
right. There can hardly be a man who hasn't at some time in his life smiled at the sight of
a woman shivering in a flimsy dress on a wintry day, or delicately picking her way
through deep snow in dainty shoes.

When comparing men and women in the matter of fashion, the conclusions to be drawn
are obvious. Do the constantly changing fashions of women's clothes, one wonders,
reflect basic qualities of fickleness and instability? Men are too sensible to let themselves
be bullied by fashion designers. Do their unchanging styles of dress reflect basic qualities
of stability and reliability? That is for you to decide.

Oh women, designers in Paris and London treat you as playthings, how do you consider
yourself free? Oh women, you are economically, commercially, and sexually exploited by
materialist philosophy, why don't you balance what you have given against what you
have received? Islam wants you to cover your physical body with a piece of cloth, so that
do not let men treat you as playthings. Islam wants you to be more active than men in the
society just by covering your body that makes you different from men. Islam gives you
real freedom, but alas, you are not aware of it.

Oh women, if you don't be aware of your value and importance men will treat you as
playthings. How can you be free when some sly people make decision for you? Have you
ever though about the reasons why factories advertise their products and service by using
a picture of a beautiful woman with an artificial smile? Cover your body, keep your
attractive parts for your partner at home, and abolish slavery! How many hours should
you spend in front of a mirror to make yourself look right in the public eye? Get rid of
this slavery! You can be much more effective than men, provided that you take the
importance and value of yourself. Your real freedom would be given if you were rid of
economical, commercial, and SEXUAL exploitation. Alas, you are satisfied with the
illusion of freedom.

Some parts of this text are extracted from a book. Thank you for reading.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

behnam July 18th 2010


Hi Clare,

I didn't mean that you have said such a sentence. You never compared Iran with your
country. I mean people will agree with you, because you are richer than me! People
easily agree with you, because you live in a developed country. They may say: What
Clare says is right, and what Behnam says is wrong, because Clare's country belongs to
the first world, whereas Behnam's country belongs to the third world. People will agree
with you, because money talks! Did you get it? I hope so.

You are absolutely wrong, because I am intelligent enough to stare at some parts of your
body secretly. Imagine, a woman is walking. She makes her hips up and down. Actually,
she vibrates her hips. I stare at the enjoyable vibration, and she is not aware of this
action. You may say; "Well Behnam, you stare at it, but what do you get? It is as if a cat
looks at a piece of meat. When the cat is not able to eat the meat, what is the use of
looking?" However, I'm not a cat. I really enjoy staring at some parts. In some cases,
staring at some parts tempts me to make plan for...

I am not too stupid to stare at someone when she is walking with her partner, then to may
be get a punch in the nose. I know how to do that without getting into trouble.

Thank you for writing about your culture, but I am quite familiar with it. :):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

behnam July 18th 2010


Hi Sumsul,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for putting message here. I didn't get your question.
Did you mean making sentences with 'intonation'? Did you mean simply to put this word-
-intonation-- in some sentences? You can easily look it up in dictionaries. If you meant
intonation in saying a particular sentence, it depends on lots of things. Please make your
question clear to me.

Your English is very good, but there is still room for improvement.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

behnam July 18th 2010


Dear friends,

Here is a new topic:

"As most people spend a major part of their life at work, job satisfaction is an important
element of individual wellbeing. What factors contribute to job satisfaction? How
realistic is the expectation of job satisfaction for all workers?"

Give reasons for your answer and include any relevant examples from your own
knowledge and experience.

I am looking forward to receiving some clues.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 July, 2010

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dentistebru July 19th 2010


Hi Kamelia

How are you my lovely friend? I hope you are fine, in your best mood.

I am sad these days. My computer went out of order nearly twelve days ago.First I heard
a small voice like "bum" :):):)
Then it smells like burned elastic bands. It undergo repair.It took nearly a week to
repairing.
Yesterday I reached my computer. When I switch on it, I turned out a frost. Because all
my informations, my photographs, my musics, my lecture notes, in a phrase all things has
been deleted. I am really disappointed because I lost everything, even my backed up
informations. I am sad about especially my photographs from last years,from my
birthdays, from high school days.It was full of my memoirs.

About song, thank you for spare time to it. It has no lyrics because it is instrumental, only
violin voice.I research and I found composer name. He is Farid Farjad, violin virtuoso.

The weather is hot in Turkey, too. But in my city it is rainy for two days. It is cool to me
nowadays.

Hope to hearing from you soon.


Best wishes
Ebru

gracegaolei July 19th 2010


Hi, behnam!
We've got the same interests, that is English!
My name is Grace, I come from China! I am now working as an English translator,
anxiously to improve my English skills. To be honest, I am weak in English writing. While
practise makes perfect! I hope that we will learn english together trough wrting to each
other!
Many thanks and Best wishes!

dentistebru July 19th 2010


Hello Behnam
How are you doing? I hope you are fine.

I could not write you because my computer go out of order, it was repearing .
Unfourtunately I lost all my informations, pictures, musics etc. I am very sad now
because they were full of my memoirs.

And what about you? What are you doing?

Can I desire you to make a short criticism about me, especially my english? What do you
think about that?

Hope to hearing from you soon..


Best wishes
Ebru
behnam July 19th 2010
Hi Grace,

Welcome to this friendly place; a beautiful garden full of beautiful flowers especially red
roses. Thank you for joining us and putting message in this thread.

Your English is excellent. Your writing is very good. However, if you want to improve it,
please take part in discussing. Please write your opinion on different topics. You should
read and write. Reading is very useful.

Please feel free to write about whatever you like to. I am looking forward to hearing from
you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 19 July, 2010

behnam July 19th 2010


Hi Ebru,

Long time no see! I was worrying about you.

That's so sad to hear that your computer was broken down and your files were damaged.
It is one of the drawbacks of computers. I have heard that there are some software in
market that helps people recovery their files. Have you tried any software to recover your
files?

You should know, some people say that only burning the hardware in the fire makes files
completely damaged. Otherwise, the information can be recovered easily.

However, don't be sad. Although that is a horrible event, sadness doesn't help you. Once
I lost all my files. It was terrible, but could manage it.

Your English is excellent. As a rule, there is no need to criticise an excellent thing. If I


criticise your excellent English, I will lose my fairness.

However, if you like to be criticised by Behnam, that's OK. because Behnam is perfect at
criticising! Why don't you take part in discussing women's rights? Why don't you write
regularly? Why the weather is boiling in Tehran? :):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 19 July, 2010

metzean July 19th 2010


Dear Behanm,

Your article about fashion was very interesting , I read it two times , I always have a
question in my mind , why people say that something is fashion ,why should a person
follow other's taste? A person who hate the pink ,wear a dress in pink color because
people say it is fashion , how they let others decide for them .

Some people do cosmetic surgery ,they open the nose album and choose the shape to
refine their nose , some people remove a part of their fats by surgery , draw their
wrinkles to cover their age ,what will happen in future if they completely change the
shape of face. There is money which cosmetic surgeons gain, and women who enjoy their
nose. But it is right for ant eater- nose- like to cut it ,what do you think?

All the best,


Mohsen

elham_z July 19th 2010

It is 5:40 pm on a VERY hot summer day when I decided to write something in English
for thread and keep practicing my English this way.
I woke up at 4 from my sleep after lunch. I purred a cup of tea and came here sitting at
my computer, checked posts here and searched some sites for more information on Islam
on the net. I found some articles, saved them but I didn't feel like reading them. Again I
searched for some words like happy life and such stuffs. I skimmed through some articles
and like always immersed in such Elhamish thoughts. I remembered one of our
conversations with my sisters about life in this world, afterlife, and the quality of our
existence when before coming here in our mother's stomach and even more before that. I
asked my sisters about what happens to us, (ok, I have to go to grandma's house to take
her some yogurt, oh grandma, is it time of asking for yogurt?)...........I am back, let's
continue.

I asked them about how we feel and how we continue our being after death. Are we able
to see our families and hear what they say to us after death? Do we sense time there?
What do we do? Where do we go? And most importantly, can we still have effects on life
of others? For example, I have terribly missed my Grandpa's prayers for me. I oftentimes
make wishes in my heart and I want from his soul to continue praying for me in hereafter.
So the question is can he hear that and can he do prayers and does it affect my life? ( I
think the answer is yes , however.)
Then my sister mentioned this world is said to be like a small ring fallen in a huge desert
in terms of greatness. It means this world and what we call universe is supposed to be so
small comparing to other worlds. (I am thinking about some theories in Physics about
such subjects.) you know after that bitter loss experience I truly came to this point that
the time we spend in this world is so short as God has pointed out to in Koran, and so
worthless. It is a place that we just spend some short time in and the point is how serious
we take the life here. As again God has persistently told us, we shouldn't rely on what we
experience as happiness and sadness here.

Anyway, I am wondering if we have to be sad or happy. At the very first moment I answer
myself ,come on Elham, go and enjoy yourself, just laugh and make others laugh and be
so hopeful and just enjoy everything. But then I think if this policy probably makes me far
from some facts and cause me look over what my MAJOR DUTY is. On the other hand
the more you are wise and understand the more you feel unhappy and somewhat you feel
as if you are far from your main place.

I think with myself why we as human beings don't have more important issues. Why are
we amusing ourselves with such unimportant issues nowadays? What is happening to us
and where are we leading ourselves?

I don't know. Let me stop it here.

Elham

elham_z July 20th 2010


Hi my dear lovely childhood,

Let others call me whatever but today I love to write to you. There are reasons why I
decided to title my post with you and write my deepest inner thoughts to you. I love
expressing my feelings in English and since these days here is the only reliable place I
know and I have mentioned that I feel at home here, I would write it here. I know I have
my diary too, but I am afraid of opening it these days, on the other hand I don't like to
place this sweet letter beside all those pages that smell of this grown up Elham. Oh, I
wish I had a personal Blog , maybe it would be a more suitable place for this purpose.
Any way, now I prefer to do this in this thread unless people here want me to stop it.

Dearest childhood, today I wish I could go back to you from the bottom of my heart.
Cause the only way I can think of as the best to escape from all these suffering
experiences of being a grown up is returning to you. Can you remember those happy
days? We had the happiest happiness we can ever have. Do you remember all those free
of every every every serious issue? When we were truly living at the moment, no concerns
at all, no regret for the past at all, no worry for what is going to happen in the future at
all. What I desire to experience just for a little second now !
Do you remember the night which my dad bought that really nice doll for me? Or the day
when my mom bought me my favorite storybook for the first time? Do you remember all
those funny, amusing games we would play with my sister and cousins? Do you
remember that bad night when dad punished me and hit me for taking my sister's best-
loved notebook for not having taken permission? Do you remember those nice nights
when we went to mosque with mom praying while wearing that white chador?
Do you remember those sweetest moment ever I had which I walked beside my mom on
the street while she had my hand in her warm kind hands? I wish I could experience that
again just once more.

I am so afraid. I am so tired of thinking about life and what I have to do. I miss you so
terribly. I wish I could at least dream you at nights. Why not? I dream a bout a lot of
meaningless things every night, why not once dreaming of you? Those days when I was
just Elham, not supposed to be a successful or beautiful or educated or decent or
whatever girl. When the whole world was just me, my family, my friends and toys and our
home!

Tell this grown up Elham to be silent while Im talking to you. She is whispering that
Elham be logical, not that childish and sensitive. She says this is what life is all about.
But I don't want to listen to her. She deceives me this way and again takes my hand and
takes me to that ugly world.

I am so happy having recalled you and having this heart to heart talk to you. I love you. I
love you dearly, I am thankful to God for letting us experience childhood and I wish with
all my heart and soul that I can some day experience you once again beside my own child
while s/he would be growing up and try my best to help her/him have the happiest
childhood.

In the hope that every child in the world enjoys his/her childhood the best,

Elham

metzean July 21st 2010

Dear Elham,

How are you.? I hope you enjoy every minute of your life . I saw a big sorrow hiding in
your sentence ,shows that you steel suffer from the sadness which influenced on your
soul, but you should know that all people loss their grand father and this is fatalism. I
hope happiness come back to your life as soon as possible.

I read your nice posts ,thank you for sharing parts of your diary for us ,well..did you
remember when you came with your mother to Melli park,a boy was in the corner of park
,selling balloons, that was me. I offered you a small balloon and you got happy , I heard
that your mother told you Elham one balloon is enough ,but you keep crying until she
bought another one for you.LOL : )).

How is it the walnut status in your city , Is it ripe? when did you pick it? I bought 10000
pcs from Samoon last year,and the quality was 100% confirmed ,the quality of crust was
like paper ,so this year I am waiting for Sumoon Walnut to ripe. It was the best walnut I
have eaten in my life, how is the quality of walnut in your city? Do you have it in your
garden?

All the best,


Mohsen

elham_z July 21st 2010


Oh dear Mohsen,

Before anything else I have to express how happy I am to see your post to me. Actually a
minute ago I was going to write a post on this topic that as if these days I am the only
person who tends to write here. I was somehow sad that how come no one has written
anything and even dear Behnam has not put any comment on my recent weird posts here.
I thought that maybe he has disliked them and I was wondered why he hasn't told me to
stop or continue this thread of writings by me, since I had mentioned my worry about
whether I am doing a right thing or no. Any way I wrote first sentences when an inner
sound made me check thread once again before finishing it in the hope of seeing a new
post, and yes I saw yours. Thanks dear Mohsen.

As a matter of fact I owe you an apology, you ask why? Well you had made a comment on
my writings about being a real Muslim, I really liked to answer it but this thoughtful
Elham as Behnam has called ( And I wonder who had disagreed with him), wanted me to
think more, study more and be more patient to find more clues continuing my writings on
this topic. So count this delay on my need for more consideration not neglect. But let me
discuss this topic later.

Well you had written about my sorrow yet, you are right but actually although I terribly
miss my lovely Grandpa and his nice voice it is not the main reason for it. It is a little bit
hard to understand Elham and his strange world even for me myself.

As it comes from your sentences you are well familiar with our city. The most highlighted
childhood memory of Melli park ( baghmelli, of course) for me is going there in Tasua
?Ashura days while the only thing I could do was to hold my mom's hand firmly not to
lose her in that huge crowd .
Yes , we have several walnut trees in our garden .But in recent years the quality hasn't
been good at all specially last year. Oh Mohsen you made me think of soon-coming
Ramadan .you know why? Because as far as I remember for three or two years we have
been busy removing Walnut's skins ( Gerdu pust kandan), in Ramadan. Of course it is a
good entertaining activity to make us forget about fasting. I am really worried about how
we are going to fast in this hot weather this year. Last year I started it well and energetic
but at the end it was so hard .God helps us !

Mohsen as a matter of fact I'm enjoying myself writing this post, I don't know why. And I
am enjoying my English as well. Tomorrow I'm going to go to Esfahan for shopping, pray
for me to find my favorites soon.

Write for me and help me with giving me excuses to write more.


Hope you an enjoyable weekend,

Elham
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elham_z July 21st 2010


Dear Mohsen, I am surprisingly wondering howcome I decided to write Puste Gerdu in
that way in English using skin:):):):):):):):)

I have no idea what equivalent I can use instead! can you help me?
* VAY, VAY , che amale ghabihi anjam dadam man !!!!!!!!!!!!

Darioush July 22nd 2010


Hi Shanar,

These days I'm very busy and I'm working on our weblog.

About your problem, at first, you should learn him that there are some people like
him.and he has some other good feathers.At first,I was like him,but I decided to change
my opinion. we shouldn't live based on people's sayings.

Sincerely,

Darioush
Bluegreen July 22nd 2010
Dear Elham,

Hi there. How are you honey? I guess while I'm writing this post to you, you're having a
walk in the shopping centers of Isafahan to look out for your favorites. Now I really wish
I could be there with you,( oh if you accept me as friend to tag along LOL ). I don't know
why but whenever somebody says Isfahan I can't stop dreaming about all those lovely
days we had there. I've been there twice but I'm not getting tired of it. Anyways, I wish
you enjoy your shopping there while Kami's writing here LOL

Dear Elham, I just don't know why, but I suddenly started reading your post about your
dear childhood out loud, I felt like every word was coming out from my own mouth. I
really remembered 10 years ago when I used to play in the gardens we had, with my little
sister, and the only cousin (Dokhtar khale). You managed to write about childhood
perfectly well. And there's no wonder why no one asked you to stop it. It was a really
enjoyable piece of memory.

Dear Elham, this post is going to be a kind of expressive one. First to express my feelings
toward your lovely posts, the to say that I'm back from my trip. I really wish that you go
to one too.

By the way, how's the weather there? Here's it's cloudy now.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

P.S. I think we use the word peeling instead of removing the skin. Sorry if I snooped
about your post to Dear Mohsen :))

Bluegreen July 22nd 2010


Dear Dentist Friend,
Well, well, well let's see who we've got here. It's dear Ebru. How've you been? Such a
long time no sees; moreover, as Dear Behnam said, I was getting worried about you.
So the problem was about your computer. I'm so sorry to hear that you lost those
pictures. Last night when I read your post to me, it really made me think what's the best
solution for you, or is there any way to recover all the memory. But I came in to no
conclusion. I just can say that I'm sorry. But please, you'll have to remember that this is
the cyber world and your computer can get infected everyone and again. You'll have no
idea of its being broken anytime so PLEASE always keep a back up of your important
files somewhere more safe. This is just a friendly advice honey, because such a thing
happened to me once and I couldn't stop blaming my self why didn't I have any back up
files.

But then I understood that sadness or even blaming wouldn't do any good to do. I started
to soothe myself with saying that everything's safe here in my memory. Right? :) So don't
worry. It doesn't worth making your self sad.

Oh about the weather, Dear Ebru, I'm just coming back from a trip to northern part of
Iran where it's pretty cool and the temperature?s not that high. I heartily wished that
here could be a little like there but it isn't. What a pity! It's cloudy now, but you can feel
the heat and moist on your skin.

Oh about the musician, yup I've heard of him. He becomes a miracle worker when just
touches that violin. By the way, do you love violin? Can you play any musical
instrument? What is you favorite instrument?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

elham_z July 22nd 2010


Hi dear Kamelia ,

Oh, I was waiting for you and I wished to meet you here so soon. I got so happy to see
you back.

It's 3:30 and I just have came back home at 3, showed my purchases to mom so excitedly,
had my lunch and jumped to Let's learn together.:):):):)
Kami I made nice purchases today from both Chaharbaghe bala and pain . I found my
favorites and I love what I have bought. Also it was too hot but I love walking in Esfahan
streets specially Charbagh. I made my sister laugh a lot of times and we enjoyed
ourselves a lot.
Kami please explain more about your trip, I am really eager to know. Oh I really feel
jealous of you, I can't wait to have a trip ,but no one here thinks about it now. Don't
hesitate to write to me about it.

Ahan, and one thing else, did you read my long post about Hijab ? What's your opinion?
Please tell me what ever come to your mind with out any special considerations. Ok?

I am so happy to see you back.


Elham

elham_z July 22nd 2010


Dear Kamelia,
Oh Thank you so much for your help on the word peeling. After sending my post I wished
I had asked for your idea about it as I had forgotten. But oppening the page again I saw
you have done this favor to me kindly and I had missed this part of your post to me.

Thank you so much.

shanar July 22nd 2010


Dear behnam

Hello there. What are you doing in this warm and lovely season? I hope you are fine and
healthy and full of energy like always(i mean positive energy) lo0o0o0l ;)

Thanks for your help . you are right honey i hope he find himself and his power and try to
prove himself.
Writing here , especially when i'm sad and need to speak with some friends. Make me feel
better. Again thanks for your reading and your positive , beautiful ... helping.

Forgive me cause of my late post

All the best

Shanar ;)

shanar July 22nd 2010


Dear kamelia

Hiii my kind friend . where are you man? ;) how is your trip? Did you come back or not
yet? How are you and your family? Do you enjoy of these wheather or you are boiling
like me? ;)

Honey thanks for your helping and your answer to my post. It was really usefull and
efficient.
I'm busy these days .we have 5 guests from shiraz. Oh you can not believe it they are very
kind and lovely.{ like samira : ) . you know , yup?;) }

I think all the shirazian are lovely , fun .active. full of energy.... . i really enjoy to spend
all the time with them.
So , after a week they will go to shiraz and again i will get a chance to come here and
write .

All the best

Shanar ;)

shanar July 22nd 2010


dear darioush
hii . how are you ? i hope you are fine ?

thanks for your post and your helping my friend

all the best

shanar ;)

shanar July 22nd 2010


Dear friends

A tear and a smile

I would not exchange the sorrows of my heart for the joys of the multitude.
And i would not have the tears that sadness makes
To flow from my every part turn in to laughter.

I would that my life remain a tear and smile .

A tear to purify my heart and give me understanding


Of life's secrets and hidden things.

A smile to draw me night to the sons of my kind

And

To be a symbol of my glorification of the gods.

A tear to unite me with those of broken heart;


A smile to be a sign of my joy in existence.

I would rather that i died in yearning and longing than


That i live weary and despairing
I want the hunger for love and beauty to be in the
Depths of my spirit, for i have seen those who are satisfied the most wretched of people
I have heard the sigh of those in yearni ng and longing
And its sweeter than the sweetest melody.

Gibran khalil gibran

All the best

shanar;)

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elham_z July 23rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

Emmmmm, Let me know if I am wrong that this is Behnam who always writes a " I have
terribly missed you " note , for all of us after some while of being absent???

Don't you think that more than three and half days is too much long for Behnam to be
absent without informing us and even putting a short comment that I'm going to be absent
?

So accept this post from me. I am sure the thread itself has missed your posts terribly. Is
this absence fare ? Emmm, I don't think so. For sure you are a lot kind to let us know
about yourself. I hope you are busy doing good things and this delay in writing is not for
any special problem.

Best wishes,
Elham

metzean July 23rd 2010


Dear Elham,

You are a rich girl to buy your favorites from Chaharbagh balla ,hope you have savoured
and enjoyed of your trip to Esfahan as well as your favorites. I am not a provident ,not
belong to elite group, but a moderate person ,and also a radical anti advertisement
buyer.

The non-stop barrage of advertisement always making people to buy something that is
very expensive or maybe they don't need it, I am one the foes of advertisement ,and try
not to be impacted by some video screens or billboards.

My reservation about this advertisement is about its expenditures, Are the manufacturers
decrease the quality of their goods to make up their expenditures, they pay a lot of many
for their ads, Does ads effect on your purchasing ?

You told that all Ramazan month you were busy picking and peeling walnut ,it means that
you have a lot of walnut in your garden , and your father is a walnut trader , if you want
a reliable customer ,please inform me.

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean July 23rd 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Hope you are in good health and enjoy your trip , you ask me a question about my post in
which I wrote that real Muslim does not getting old .
According to Islamic philosophy human being is consist of two parts ,soul and body. Our
body is changing and according to the natural law, gradually become old. Our body is
the place that our soul kept in it and when our soul leaves our body ,our body dies ,our
body is buried under the soil until the doomsday ,when our body again will be recycled
and our soul return to it. So our soul never get old and what keep people happy is their
soul not body, do you watch Dr. Qumshe-e in Channel 4, he always says" we are in such
a cheerful and gaiety that no one understand it ,that is we never get old" ,

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

behnam July 23rd 2010


Hi Friends,

How are you doing? I hope all is well with you. At the moment, I'm sitting on a chair, a
laptop on my lap. This is just to let you know that I am fine and happy. I'm in the north;
in a very beautiful city in the north of Iran--Tonekabon. Now, I hear the sound of waves
in the Caspian sea. That's really wonderful; as though the sea is talking to me. Today, the
sea was angry; there were a lot of powerful waves in the sea, so that we couldn't swim.

So sorry I couldn't inform you, but I hadn't made any plans for these holidays.

Dear Elham, don't worry, bad things never die! :):):):):)

I have to leave, because we are going to have dinner. Some people are waiting for me.
Tomorrow I'll be in Tehran.

Thank you for keeping the thread active and alive. Thank you for all you have down for
this thread.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 July, 2010

elham_z July 23rd 2010


Dear Mohsen,

I am not a rich girl. Although I wear so simply, some times I really bye expensive things.
Actually in the family I am known as a difficult person in decision making. It always
results in having nothing considerable to wear. I know girls often state that they have
nothing to wear despite of having a lot in their wardrobes but I am the one who delay
shopping to find my favorites and I often lack clothes. You know oftentimes I consider
some special features in mind and I want to find them, when I fail to find, I quit buying.

You know the problem is that all these stuffs in the market are just useless ( Bonjol) and
really bad. I often look for simple but nice and with good quality purchases but I don't
find them easily and when finally I find one they are expensive. Last year we went to
Tehran. My cousin took us to some shopping malls in Vanak , I really found some of my
favorites and I repeatedly told my sister: this is just what I always look for, see .But they
were too expensive for me to bye. Maybe if I was the only girl of the family, I had fewer
issues. Anyway we were five girls and they all were worried about me being that
indecisive, but I finally found my favorite jean in Tandis mall in Tajrish if I remember
well, which even my rich cousins just looked at things. Of course it was on sale and I
bought it.Recently I find some good things in Park shopping center in Charbagh.
Actually thanks to my sister who is dressmaker we don't need to spend much time in
clothing stores. I am really worried of the probable day of not being close to my sister.

I often times wish I had a large amount of money sent to me from sky, then I could travel
abroad and bye as much clothes as I enjoy. To answer your question I should say I have
to find what I like, I don't pay much attention to advertisements.

All in all, I really prefer to spend time in superstores instead. I terribly love food
shopping or buying various beautiful kitchen tools or house decorations. Wow Mohsen, I
really wish I had a lot of money and I just could spend a whole day shopping in Emam
square. I die for having a home full of traditional stuffs.

Having writtten about this really mouthwatering topic I desire I had my own job and
salary. Oh, what a pity!

Dear Mohsen, I just said we have several walnut trees and I didn't say we spend whole
Ramadan on walnut peeling. But any way don't ever think that we SELL our product to
you.You go and buy from Samoon. :(
We GIFT all our walnut product to such a nice friend like Mohsen . ( asan tu alame dusti
in harfa chiye, ghabele shoma ro nadare) *

Hope to read from you more,


Elham

dentistebru July 23rd 2010


Hello Behnam,
How are you? I hope you are fine and healty.

Thank you for your care about my files. Unfourtunately I have no technical knowledges
about it. I will consider your advices.The repairman had changed a pieces of harddisc. I
will save this piece. My files are not very important. They made me sad because of only
my memoirs especially pictures. Others dont made me sad. Maybe I can save that piece
for my grandchildren and they will recover files and find their young grandmother:D
LOLLLL

I know you are very kind Behnam, you did not say but I know I m bad at grammar so
nowadays I m glance at grammar topics to remember.

About taking part in discussion, I will be very pleasant but I think unfourtunately I missed
topic. This topic is very wide-rancing. Still, if you ask me a specific part of this topic, I
can write about it pleasantly.

Lastly, the weather is very hot in Iran. I dont know, maybe warm people as you and
Kamelia make the weather warmer:):))

Hope to hearing from you soon


Ebru

elham_z July 23rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

That's it dear friend. Thank you so much for informing.

So again you and Kamelia took your summer trips to nice cities of North this time and
just make me envy you
.
So you're enjoying yourself on the beach! (Del misuzuni? ). Wait for the day when Elham
is reporting her trip to Kanari Islands make you envy her.:):):):) ( Yehamchin vaghtayi
babam mige : geda ro to deh rah nemidadan , soraghe khune kadkhoda ro migereft
(LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL) ).

Hope you the best,


Elham

dentistebru July 23rd 2010


Hi Kamelia,
How are you my friend?I hope you are fine

My dear friend thank you for your advices and consolations.I will be carefull about them.
I love listening music too much.Music can effect me easily.I think music is a wonderful
international area to say our feelings. I wish I could play an instrument. Unfourtunately I
dont. But I still want to learn.I think learning some of instruments need to start at
childhood such as violin, piano... But I think I m not too late. Maybe I will play a guitar.

I like violin but I m not fond of especially violin. But that song, Taghtam Deh, I really like
it. Now I m more interested in violin than before. I m not fond of especially, only an
instrument. I like good combinations of them.

What about you? What kind of music do you like? Can you play an instrument?

Hope to hearing from you soon


Ebru

Bluegreen July 24th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hi honey. How's everything going on? How did your shopping go? On account of all that
nice things you told about your shopping with your sister I surly know that you really had
a great deal of fun out there. Hope that all your times go on as happy as that.
Oh and you talked of Chahar Bagh, I had the pleasure of strolling about there just once.
How lucky you are that you can go there whenever you want to. I really wished that I
could be there once more. It is absolutely beautiful. Oh and I heard that they were
making a metro station just below the Chahar Bagh. All the taxi drivers were worried
about the old trees which were about a thousand years old. They said that they're going
to ruin the routes. Is that true? Is it as beautiful as past? Oh please don't tell me that they
ruined it. :( :(

Oh honey, I'm not really sure if talking about my trip would be any interesting to you but
it really would worth talking about it to somebody of good spirits like you.
Well, at first I'd like to begin with listing the cities and country sides we went to. Well at
first it was Nowshahr. We had planned to stay there for two days. There was this little
cozy villa which we go there every year and the woman who holds the place is an
acquaintance. We reached Nowshahr at night, and as you can guess, dad, due to being
tired of driving the whole day, immediately drove to the house and we stayed the whole
night in. We checked the TV and figured out a soup opera called "Faseleha". Have you
been watching that lately? It was some sort of fun. Oh but it's all about the old clich�s,
you know!
The very next day, we woke up at 10. Because my sister and I were listening to music till
1 in the night and we talked of all the things happened in the road and about the trip
plans so..! LOOL
Then we packed some things up with my mom in order to go swimming that day. Dad said
he'd be waiting for us till we come back. So he just stayed at the beach checking out the
sea tides while we were swimming. Oh actually not swimming just walking in the water
LOOOL. Because the women's side's been limited by a rope and you can't go further than
that and if you do you're going to get a warning. The rope has been tied too near the
beach. I could feel that water just comes by my knees. LOOOL Anyways, it just is a lot of
fun to let go of the swimming and get sun tanning.
In the afternoon, we went out the city. Chalous and Namak Abroud are really near.
Actually it's one KM to Chalous and then a little bit more to Namak Abroud. We visited
the Namak Abroud Telecabins and the big forest up there. You can't imagine how
amazing that it. The weather was awesome with all that little drops of water and feeling
that you're up there in the sky. I really wished that there wasn't any cabin and I could fly
just for once. LOOOL Now this might sound crazy but it was my true feeling at that
moment. it might make you think I'm suffering claustrophobia, but it's not that. When
you're on the top of that big green mountain while the sea's before your eyes, oh God, it
was fabulous. Why didn't God give us any wings? :))
Then on the way back we visited these big shops. They are sort of fun. I'm sure you're
going to like them. Big enough to wander around for an hour and besides there's no one
to interrupt and every minute tell you: Oh mam, what can I do for you?
The next day we went to this rural area called ?Javaher Deh". It's in Ramsar but it takes
about an hour to go up the mountain and explore the country. Well, I really don't know
what to tell of this one. It really looks like the end of the world. The way up the mountain
is twisting and it's all foggy. The weather gets colder as you go upper. And you really feel
like you're heavens. It's up there in the sky and you can feel the clouds on your cheeks
even. This might sound funny. But in the middle of the summer all the people in the
country had worn warm clothes because of the rain. Let me give you an example, have
you seen Masule? The country after Fouman I mean. It's almost like that. But it is much
more beautiful and silent. Oh I talked of silence, I remembered of the natural springs and
waterfalls there. The only sounds that interrupt you there are the sound of waterfalls
coming all the way down from the huge silent hills. You can see them almost everywhere.
Oh my God, I really wish there was a place here where i could put the pictures in. You
can search about Javaher Deh on the net. I'm sure you're going to love the view. Trust
me on that.
The next day again we went for swimming and in the afternoon we visited Chalous and
the shopping malls. That was fun too.
Dear Elham, there were these times when I really wished that our friends on thread were
there and could check all those places out.
Well, that's it. It was all about my trip. Now I wish you a happy summer too.
Oh and here's a questions, you said you loved to visit Rasht. Is that true? What is so
special to you about Rasht? Do you want to visit any special place there? Tell me about
it.
Oh you asked my sincere opinion about your post on the Hejab's topic. Honey, I never
disagree with these ideas because I believe that everyone has got the right to choose. And
I believe that I have no right to say you're wrong. But if you want to have my personal
opinion I'll have to call you the same as our other friend did, YOU ARE A
THOUGHTFUL GIRL. Believe me. The things happened to you just happened to me
once, I was totally frantic and nervous. I didn't know what I was doing. But the help of
one my friends I got better. I could gather all my thoughts up and could calm myself
down. I know getting in to these matters will make you feel like out of this world and
anxious.
I want to thank you for putting your opinion here. It is really nice for me to read about
other's opinions and get to know them more. Especially nice friends like you. It shows
that you believe in God. And you trust him for your life.

Oh and about that phrase, it really was nothing. (Winking)

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

mtvakil July 24th 2010


Hello friends
I want to join you by learning english with you.Pls help me to move ahead.

Mohammed
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elham_z July 24th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

I am wondering how to express my feelings right now after finishing reading your
REALLY FANTASTIC description of your trip. Elham almost often has no problem
expressing herself but this time I really don't know how to apply words. Girl, I sensed
every word and sentence and I truly felt myself in every place you had pointed out to.
Wow, Nowshahr, Namakabrud, Chalus, the cities I have heard a lot about and I wish I
can travel to, with all my heart and soul.

Come on girl , why have you talked about claustrophobia ? Haven't you known Elham
yet? She is worse than you in these situations? Do you remember once I told I have such
a crazy feeling about nature that I immerse in that and I wish I could eat it? If I were in
places you have mentioned I am sure some one should take the control of me in her/his
hands, otherwise I lose myself. Oh, good for you Kamiiiiiiiii )))))))))

Actually I love to travel to north while we go from city to city , not just staying in one
.You know my father always takes us to Babolsar , just one area of it. He is not enough
patient to take us to different ones. I die for going to country sides and such rural areas
Like Javaherdasht that you have said. Dear Kamelia I am trying so hard to control
myself not to get more emotoinal than this .

This post was just to inform you of my feeling while reading your nice one and I will
write to you soon. Please don't hesitate to send your pictures to my mail:
ezonoubi@yahoo.com.
I am impatiently waiting to see them.

All the best,


Elham

Veronicaho July 24th 2010


Hi All of You,

I hope all of you are fine and enjoying your time. I have holiday from my work now...5�
weeks...and I feel happy for that. I'm at our summer house and the weather is hot and the
sun shining. I love it:)

I'm not without work...I taking an english course online in Finland and one in Oregon in
US. The last one will learn me about grammar...I hope so. But it's so difficult! I can't
understand why it's so difficult for me! Sometimes I thinking I'm stupied... Maybe some
defekt in my brain...:((
If someone have some "rules" to remember and understand grammar...please let me
know. How did you learned?

Hope to hear from all of you,

Veronica

Bluegreen July 24th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Hi there. How are you? I hope all is well with you. How's isfahan these days? How about
the weather? How about that huge Zayande rud?
Dear Friend, I want to thank you a lot for the nice explanation. I really appreciate that.
Well about your description of the young soul I shall say I'd heard of it but I didn't know
that you meant this subject.
Oh about Qomsheyee, I've seen just some of his programs but it's been a year since I left
watching TV. So I cannot remember that in details.
Thank again,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 24th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hi honey. How are things going on with you? How?s this dentist doing in the summer?:))

Oh I shall say that I couldn't agree with you more on the music's topic. In my opinion
music is a universal language. Everyone understands music; moreover, they can feel it by
all means.
Oh about playing, we're the same I can't play any musical instrument too. Actually i
started thinking of it too late. Well there was this time in my childhood when everyone
wanted me to learn at least one instrument but I insisted that I hated mastering this kind
of art. Well I loved painting and they didn't! So time passed, and I forgot about it till my
first year of university. I really felt that I like to learn something new. But there was this
lack of time problem which deprived me of taking part in these classes. To make the long
story short, I'm thinking of it but I'm not quite sure.
Well, I love piano the most and there's this Persian instrument called "Daf". I'm crazy
about these two.
And here we come to the type of music. I actually have listened to all types. But you know
what? I really have to LOVE the music. For example of each type I love some songs. It
really doesn't matter if it's traditional Iranian, pop, blues, rock, metal, etc. Now if I tell
you my favorite singers it?ll take a long post. You will get headache. LOOOOL

How about your favorite type? Which do you like most?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 24th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? How's everything going on with you? You're perhaps back
from the trip. I actually waited till you come back and then write to you. But it seems like
you haven't found access to internet yet. Hope you do as soon, because I've missed your
posts terribly.

Dear Friend, you shall tell me all about your trip. How did it go? Did you have fun
there? Which places you visited? How was Tonekabon? It's such a nice city.
Well ours was awesome. I wrote all about it to Dear Elham. I wonder if you like to read
it.
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

osamakhan77 July 25th 2010


Dear Behnam

I'm so glad to see your writing . First i want to introduce me..


I osama khan from India and working with PROMETRIC. As english is not my first
language but i love to speak and write due to globalization.

I am too interested to making friends.

Thanks
Osama

elham_z July 25th 2010


Dear Veronica,

You are going to have some days off, enjoying your holiday, good for you and more than
that good for the people who are going to be with you. I am sure they are going to have
the best times beside such a nice Veronica.

Dear Veronica, while reading your writings I really feel life. You are full of life, kind, and
lively. Look , these days most of the members are busy taking trips except poor Elham. I
can't wait to have a trip too especially after recent hard, depressing months.
So you are taking English class on the net. That's great. Don't worry about grammar,
enjoy it and try your best to learn it well. As dear Behnam often says, practice makes
perfect. I am sure you are enough intelligent to pick them up.

I hope you a lot of fun,


Elham

elham_z July 25th 2010


Dear Mohammad from India,

Welcome to this nice and friendly thread. Don't have even the least doubt that here you
can improve your English. The only thing you have to do is to write as much as you can.
So don't hesitate to write about anything you like. You can start with giving more
information about yourself.

Hope to read from you so soon,


Elham

Veronicaho July 25th 2010


Hi Elham,

Thanks a lot for your kind writings to/about me! I hope you feel better in this time even if
you do not has got a trip. Came to Finland for a visit :)) (I don't think you have seen my
post to you 7 july).

Yes you have right. I shouldn't think so much about the grammar, just practice but I need
to know when I make misstakes so I can learn...

As I told you before I am at my summer house. It is at the sea in wood next to, so here are
many animals like birds, hares, squirrels, foxes... Now I have a bird nest (house) at the
nock of the roof. We have followed the bird parents from that day when they builded the
nest, got eggs and the day when the eggs hatched and young chicks looked out! You can't
imagin how sweet they are. And today I saw the mum learning her chicks to fly. It is
really nice to see them. My husband didn't like them because they "shit" everywhere at
our terrace :)) Doesn't matter for me...I clean up..this is just a short time.

Have a nice day and I hope to hear from you soon again,

Veronica
behnam July 25th 2010
Hi friends,

Mohammad and Osamakhan: Welcome to this thread. Thank you fro joining us. Your
English is very good, but there is still room for improvement.

Please do not hesitate to share something with us. I hope to read more from you.

Kamelia: Thanks for the post. I'll write about the fantastic trip very soon. Thank you for
keeping the thread active. Your posts are wonderful. I really love reading them, since I
learn a lot through reading your thoughtful posts.

ELham: Thank you so much for being active and writing effectively in this thread. Your
presence gives people positive energy. You are such an inspiring girl in this thread.

To other friends: Yesterday I got home at about 12:10 After taking a shower, I switched
my computer on. I checked the thread and my mailbox. Then I ate something (Fast food)
and took a nap--but it was much longer than a nap, because I slept for 4 hours. I had
listening class, so I had to leave home at 17:30. I went to my class. It was excellent. The
teacher said, "Oh, you were absent, so other students were boasting about their ability in
answering the questions, but the average of the class was low. The average was 6 out of
10, whereas it was 8 or 7 out of ten when you were present." I thanked him for admiring
me.

I got home at about 21:00 and ate something for dinner. After dinner, as always I went to
the park to have a one-hour walk. Then I came back to the home, I pressed on the power
button of the computer to switch it on. I did it, but it didn't work. I felt the smell of smoke
or something like that. It means that my computer was broken down. It didn't work!

My computer doesn't work. I have to check it, and think of fixing. At the moment, I am
writing this post at my office just to inform you. I promise to fix the computer soon,
because I cannot live without it. I can live without bread--barbary--but I cannot live
without my computer. :):):):)

Dear Kamelia, I will write about the trip. I really enjoyed it, because my lovely cousins
were with me. We really enjoyed it. We had a happy time in Tonekabon, Ramsar, and in
our Villa. I will write in detail soon.

Dear Elham, I will be less active than before because of the computer and lots of
homework. You are my representative in this thread. :):):):):) Please try your best to
manage the thread. As a piece of advice on managing; please avoid discussing political
issues. This is very important.

I will be as active as before. I promise.

Hope to see you active and effective.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 July, 2010
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elham_z July 25th 2010


Hi dear Kamelia,

How are you doing? I guess you are still dreaming about those dreamy places you were
in, on your trip. I guess like me you review your pictures every night, as I don't stop
seeing taken pictures by my cell phone after taking every new series. How ever, I am still
waiting for your Pictures.

Let me tell this very important point before anything else which I always want to mention
but I forget about it thinking about all other things. Kamelia you are truly a true
representative of an English student. With out any exaggerating, you write very well.
Your writings are always rich and full of new words and expressions for me. I learn a lot
through them. There are only some minor mistakes which in case of being more careful
while writing, your writings would be the bests and perfect. You are going to be very
successful in your major. Good luck.

Now let me answer your questions in your really nice last post. Fortunately I don't watch
that mentioned soup opera and not any other else. I used to watch such programs a lot, I
was really a coach potato but recently I prefer to watch English programs and dance
instead. Of course if sitting at the computer lets me!!!

About cutting the Chaharbagh trees I have to sadly say that yes they have done this in
some parts especially in Charbaghe Bala. Emmmm, well you know while reading last
part of Behnam's recent post I asked myself if I have written about any political matter or
I am supposed to do so. Now I understand, as if he had predicted this part of my post to
you. :):):):) Ok so I don't continue this paragraph, and you can guess about all the rest!

About my tendency for taking trip to Rasht I have to say the main motivation actually was
my father's mentioned friend who firmly asks us to go there and he will makes us have a
lot of fun. As a matter of fact, you know, I am not very sure about his kind statement.
(LOOOOOOOOOOOL). (Winking)
And finally about that kind last part of your post, I have to give you a big thanks for your
generous compliment and also friendly sympathy for me.

Actually I wanted to think about a new good topic to start discussing about together but
my mom has guest and I have to go serving them . Pleas you do me this favor and find
something to write about.

Hope to hear from you so soon, my nice and successful English student friend ,

Elham

jiulia78 July 25th 2010


Hi, Veronica! hello everybody here!!!
how vividly you are writing about the country life...it may become infectious between us
and with all our forum we shall follow your advise;)))..the holiday in the fairy-like nook
far from city rush breeding baby- animals and birds may be the source of positive
emotions better than the cruise on the board of the ship with all snobs around you, isn't
it? this summer I have bought a baby - duck too for my children, despite of the fact that
we are living in the flat...I could not stand any more that my elder son is so captured by
television and virtual world. as for me it's very useful for a child to bring up some
animal, to look after him...we have resisted only one month with him on the balcony. than
he tried to fly away.. so we have given him in good hands to the village...
Veronica, I have read that you have got down to study English seriously. so I wanted to
share one site with you and with all who wants to study entertaining. there are jokes and
anecdotes on all the topics, so it will lighten your study and will be not only useful but
pleasant too. grammar is very boring. so you will mix it with humor. the site is:
http://www.joke-around.com/
excuse me, I haven't introduced myself. My name is Julia, I live in Italy, I'm 32, have been
working as an receptionist at the hotel, now staying at the maternity leave. have two sons.
very naughty;)))..
Enjoy your holiday. hope to see you later here.
Jiulia

elham_z July 26th 2010


Dear friends,

I hope you all are enjoying your summer. I am eager to share you this really thought -
provoking happening to me I had the other day.
I don't actually want to say my feeling about it and what challenging thoughts it resulted
in, in my mind. I just want to share it with you and I am sure you will get my point.

I was waiting for my turn in dentist's when I had a conversation with the woman sitting
beside me. I asked for her work there and she said she is going to meet the orthodontist to
help her do some treatment on her jaw which was broken in an accident. Gradually we
became more intimate and I asked about the accident more. She said she had started
treatment from her legs , arms, back, face and after 6 years now she has reached to her
jaw. Listen to this part, the main part I want to focus on. She said she had lost her
MOTHER, HUSBAND, and TOW SONS 14 and 8 year old in the accident. Can you
picture my face expression in that horrible moment of hearing this?

I have promised not to explain more about what has been going on in my mind from that
moment. But just one sentence I want to write and this is the one I am repeatedly
repeating with myself :

* She was still alive and she was living.

I am still figuring this word in my mind: * HOPE *

I will be happy to hear about you in case having any special idea on this post.

All the best,


Elham

elham_z July 26th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Actually I am forced to rewrite my post to you because an hour past I lost all I had
written to you when electricity went off. But as I am so interested in writing to you, I'm
going to do it again happily.

Do you know how happy I become while seeing your posts to me? Thank you so much for
your kindness toward me.
Sure I have read your last post to me. The night when I did, I took it seriously in a way
that I told my father a really lovely kind friend of mine has invited me and I really like to
go to her. It would be my pleasure in case I really could come there, then you could share
some of those enjoyable times you have in your summer house with me. What a pity!
You know Veronica? Taking trips abroad is not that easy here, I wonder how come you
talk about traveling to foreign countries that easily. Especially for us girls it is a little
challenging. Last year my father did everything needed to send my older sister to
Germany with my cousins. But after interviewing with her in German legationthe reply
was negative. And they didn't even give us a reasonable response on the reason. I think
actually taking visa for Germany is particularly much more difficult. My cousin however,
went to some European countries such as Germany, Check, France and so on in the
spring on a tour. She had had a lot of fun especially in France. Oh you know, I like
France and French language a lot. I really enjoy listening to French music. I also love to
learn French language and I think I can have a nice French accent. I think it's the
language of love. It is my personal feeling. What about you? What is your favorite
country? What other languages are you interested in?

Any way Thanks a million for your hospitality. Even picturing those sweet cute chicks
cheers me up. I love duck chicks and last night I saw tow of them in my grandmother's
house. They were so sweet and were sleeping in one another's embrace in a romantic
way. I also love swans a lot, I wish I could have a large house containing a lake so I
could keep tow of them in.
Dear Veronica I would be so happy if you do me this favor and send me some pictures of
your summer house or even those cute chicks. My mail is : ezonoubi@yahoo.com.

So happy having written to you , I want to ask about the number of your children, their
ages or more information about them, if you don't mind my asking.

Hope to read from you so soon,


Elham

behnam July 26th 2010


Itinerary

Now it is time to write about my trip to the north of Iran.

We left our home--Tehran--at about 5:00am on Wednesday. It was still dark, but the
weather was very good. It was cool. There are three main roads from Tehran to the
north; 'Haraz', 'Firuzkooh', and 'Chalus'. We decided to go from 'Chalus' and come back
from 'Haraz'.

At about 6:30am we reached 'Amirkabir dam'. I stopped the car for breakfast. After
having breakfast, traveling continued. We reached 'Chalus' at about 9:30am. Then we
went to 'Namakabrood'. We took some rest in 'Namakabrood', and went to the beach. The
beach was incredibly clean, but two men--hamyar police--did not allow people to swim. I
asked for the reason of unbelievable cleanness and not allow. They said the beach was
closed for one week, and there were huge waves in the sea, so swimming was dangerous.
However, I took off my clothes and swam in the sea.

We ate something at noon and drove to our villa in 'Tonekabon'. We arrived at villa at
about 14:00.
The north of Iran is very humid. I hate humid weather. You should know that I prefer
Azerbaijan to the north, but unfortunately, the Caspian Sea is in the north of Iran.
Therefore, people often go there to see the sea and enjoy swimming in it.

Fortunately, at the villa air conditioning was very good. The weather was pleasant inside
the villa.

My cousins, who live in Marand, were supposed to join us in Tonekabon. They were late,
because it had taken them about 12 hours to drive from Marand to Tonekabon. They
tiredly arrived at the villa at about 20:00. After speaking about different things, we had a
barbecue on the beach.

On Thursday, we got up late. We had breakfast at about 9:00am. The weather was
extremely hot, so we decided to stay at the villa until afternoon. In the afternoon, we went
to Ramsar. It is said that Ramsar is the most beautiful city in the north of Iran. I don't
think so! As a rule, a beautiful thing or person has got many devotees. Those lovers will
spoil its beauty. That is what has happened to Ramsar. Beauty is one of the greatest
enemies of a beautiful person or a beautiful thing.

We went to the beach in Ramsar. We enjoyed swimming there. We also took a motorboat
and went to a long distance from the beach. It was very interesting, but ladies were
frightened of the sea.

After getting off the motorboat, we went to take a tele cabin--a vehicle with a small house
hung from a strong wire and move on it to the top of a mountain. Before taking tele
cabin, we parked the cars in the parking, and sat on benches to take some rest. We
wanted to eat some watermelon, but there were no knives with us. In order to be funny, I
took the axe from my cars' boot and cut the watermelon with it.

After eating some watermelon, we wanted to take a tele cabin, but ladies were afraid of
height, so we didn't go to the top of mountain.

There was a festival called 'Sea Festival' on the beach in Ramsar. We attended the
festival and enjoyed listening to some local music. In the end, there was a competition.
They wanted some volunteers to sing. I was one of them. I went to the scene. They wanted
me to introduce myself. I said; "I'm Behnam from Tehran." They asked me for
introducing what I was going to sing. I said; "Although I live in Tehran, I'm originally
from Azerbaijan, so I prefer to sing in Azerbaijani." Then I sang something in
Azerbaijani. The competition was between four people; two people from Tehran, one
person from Shiraz and me. I did not win; in fact, I was the first person after the winner.
The winner sang some well-known Farsi poems, so that all people understood it, but a
few people understood my Azerbaijani poems. I sang in Azerbaijani just to make my
cousins happy.

We came back to the villa and enjoyed speaking, eating, playing chess, watching the film
of the festival, etc.
On Friday, we went to the beach of our own villa. Although the sea was angry--there
were many powerful and dangerous waves in the sea--we really enjoyed swimming for
hours. We created many funny actions. For example, I lay back on the beach and my
cousins buried me under a pile of sands. It was great fun.

On Saturday, in the early morning, we left the villa and Tonekabon. My cousins drove to
Marand, and we drove to Tehran. We got home at about 12:15 at noon. I took a shower
and ate something for dinner, and then slept for 4 hours. In the afternoon, I had listening
class, so I had to leave home at about 17:30.

Thank you for reading.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 July, 2010

P.S. Ramsar, Chalus, and Tonekabon are three famous cities in the north of Iran.
Marand is a city in east-Azerbaijan province. Hamyar police are some people who help
the police control a place. Telecabin is something that moves on a strong wire to the top
of a mountain.

I do apologize for any inconvenience.

behnam July 26th 2010


Dear Friends,

Amirkabir dam is a dam name. Namakabrood is a small place in the north of Iran.

...we arraived at tehran at about 12:15 at noon. ...I ate something for lunch...

So sorry for making many mistakes.

metzean July 27th 2010


HAPPY ANNIVERSARY OF IMAM MAHDI?S LEADERSHIP

I am writing to you to present my deep heart congratulations to all Shia for the 1172nd
anniversary of Imam Mahdi?s (may Allah hasten his return) leadership (imamat) which
is the most invaluable wealth that Shia currently owns. Let?s keep reciting Dua Faraj, as
advised, so that the Almighty Allah may hasten his return and advent.

O Allah, be, for Your representative, the hujjat (proof), son of al-Hasan, Your blessings
be on him and his forefathers, in this hour and in every hour, a guardian, a protector, a
leader, a helper, a proof, and an eye. until You make him live on the earth, in obedience
(to You), and cause him to live in it for a long time.

All the best,


Mohsen

aseman7 July 27th 2010


hi friends

A question:

Reasons to prove God's existence???????????

27 July 2010

Bluegreen July 27th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hi honey. How's everything going on with you? Are you enjoying your summer holidays
lovely girl? I really wish that you do.
I read your post carefully and thank you for reading mine and answering to that in this
perfect way. Your posts are full of beauties, you might not notice that but your readers
can clearly recognize it. Now here's one thing, thank you for the compliments, you know
that I'm just a simple student as I've always said. My posts aren't that much surprising
LOOOOL About the new words, dear Eli, would you mind being honest with me? I don't
think that I'm using new words and expressions these days. Well I used to use them before
summer because I read a lot. But now, I just feel that they're decreasing; however, you're
really kind to say all those things about me.
Oh and about those minor mistakes, I agree with you and I do apologize from you and
our other friends here. I've got to be more careful about the grammatical structures.
Sometimes I write too informal and then my writing might seem a little bit odd. I'll take it
into careful consideration. Thank you anyway.
Oh about your taste in trips and the places you choose and oh absolutely your adventures
description of the places I shall say that you've got a wonderful attitude toward the
nature. You are totally unique in this characteristic. It's a pleasure that I have a friend
like you.

Oh and about your email address, honey I was a little bit busy to go online and attach the
pictures. Internet speed is too low here for those high resolution pictures. I shall find a
safe cyber cafe and then email them for you. I'll do it as soon as possible.
Dear Elham, you asked me to bring up a good topic and I thought of one. Honey, some
days ago I asked Dear Ebru to write about her own taste in music. What type of music
she like? And what's her favorite instrument? Now I wonder if you would like to talk
about it. Tell me what kind of music you listen to. And whether you play an instrument or
not. You said you'd like to watch dance. Dancing doesn't go on without music, does it? So
please let me know what kind of dance you prefer to watch mostly.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 27th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? I hope all is going on very well with you. How's your
listening class? Going on perfectly well? As always I'm sure you're still the top student
among all your classmates. That's a great achievement, you know. But isn't it a bit hard
to always be the best? Others will expect more from you every time. Right?

Thank you so much for the wonderful description of your trip. I think a good point in the
travel descriptions should be the writer's clearly mentioning every place as readers are
actually there now. The writer should name the places, while explaining how they look
like, what are the fun points, what are the negative points, etc. Oh and above all he
should say what his own judgment of the place was. I think you perfectly managed to
describe a new place to others through writing. I really enjoyed it as if I were in your
place.
Dear Behnam, there's this question I first asked of Dear Ebru, and now simultaneously
asking you and Dear Elham. What kind of music you mostly like? What types you prefer
to listen to the most? And what are the instruments you like the best? Do you like
watching dancing programs? What kinds?
Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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sahand July 27th 2010
Dear Kamelia

I'm REALLY sorry about losing contact with you. I know you replied long long time ago.
Honesty, I was away from my home on a business trip.

I realized many of us don't know each other very well and that takes some of the fun out
of it, doesn't it ?! (specially for me ke gharibam inja :D) Please, reply to this and tell me
about your professional and your educational background.

Thanks for you friendly reply

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely,
Sahand

elham_z July 28th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Look what a good friend I am, I don't miss even one minute to write to you back right
after reading your posts.

Do you know something? I really excitedly and happily read your posts to me. You are so
good at answering in detail in a way that I really like. You know, boys actually are not
that patient to write back about most of the subjects discussed in other posts. But it is in
our natures as girls to carefully answer to each other in detail. Of course we don't expect
them to be like us.

Oh Kami you made me upset to apology for your minor mistakes. Why girl? Let me tell
you a fact. I usually search for Blogs and forums written by natives. Sometimes your
posts really remind me of such writings. They are not careful with grammatical points in
informal writings. And what's a big deal? Of course they make sense. Your writings, at
least for me, are full of such informal expressions. This is why I like them. If we notice
each other's mistakes here it is because of the main reason of our gathering here:
improving our English. So you study a lot. Oh, please offer me some books. I really need
to study but I have no idea what. I believe my English is in danger. I haven't been in any
English class since last summer and my main source of English actually has been here. I
think I have to seriously do something about my English. I love it and I believe I can be
successful in.
Thanks for your good suggested topic. Let me start with the instrument I play myself. I
have taken a short period of Daf learning class. When I reached the main and most
difficult part I left it bringing excuses of being busy with university or such stuffs. Any
way I can play it in a way that makes sense now. Once we did something interesting with
my sisters. As we also love singing, we gathered in a room and enjoyed our self a lot
calling our gathering as Majlese Raghso Sama. I would play Daf for some minutes and
they listened, then my older sister started singing while Divan of Hafez opened in her
front, and I repeated after her( ba avaz). The youngest sister was actually busy doing
some weird movements. After a while singing again I would play Daf and we continued
this way. It was fun. I think I have to offer them having such gatherings weekly. Or
sometimes I take my Daf with me to garden and play it while sitting by water side. I enjoy
those moments of loneliness, just me and my Daf, when I just move my hands on it not
professionally but just making some noises.

Now you can guess my taste. I mostly prefer traditional and old music. This is my
favorite. Wow you can't imagine how excited I get looking at fingers moving on skin of
Tombak. I don't know myself what the secret is behind this enjoyment, just staring at
finger movements. Or about Tar and Dotar , I am crazy about them. I know I can't be that
successful in playing them but I really enjoy listening to them. * But I have to mention
that everything has it's own place and time ! *

About dancing, actually I said I myself spend time dancing not watching dance programs.
I am not a skillful dancer but I just make myself happy doing some weird and ridiculous
movements.:):):):) But I like to learn it professionally. Why not? There are tow things
actually, oh no three things actually, that make me forget about thinking: Swimming,
dancing and playing Daf. So cause dancing is much easier than tow others and more
available, I spend more time dancing, especially in these summer days. I start with doing
exercises but it ends to dancing. Have you ever seen such dancing while skating? I don't
know the exact name but I really have loved such dancing because of it's in my idea
meaningful movements. I love it because I think this kind of dancing matches with my
personality. I think I can truly immerse in nature with doing those special movements or
something like that in deep silence, while I can truly get unique with nature. Oh, I am
getting sentimental in a not very logical way. What a sentence I made! So in my idea
getting sentimental, even, should be done in a logical way. Logically sentimental ! It
makes sense. :):):):):):):):):):)

Any way despite having my own favorites these days we are exposed to very different
kinds of music and so I can't deny that I enjoy Pop music as well and I dance on them.
But I hate Rap or Rock or those kinds.

All in all, after my complete answer to your question, I am thinking that how important
music is and how impressive it could be. There are so many of special ones for me that
every one reminds me of a particular person or particular period of my life. As if we live
with them.* And since they can strongly affect our moods, we have to be careful what we
choose to listen too.*
So sorry for my boring post, ( for sure full of mistakes)
Hope you a life full of nice and happy music,

Elham

elham_z July 28th 2010


Hi dear Behnam,

Emmmm, if the computer of our house had gone out of order, it wouldn't be that strange
if it even took months to see it repaired again back in home. But I don't think it should
take that long for you to have it repaired. Tell me if I am wrong that it was Behnam who
wrote several weeks ago that he can't live without his copmuter? Am I?

I think I am not such a lucky girl. Now that I like to write energetically and discuss nice
topics, Behnam is not that active. Emmm, does this active presence of me bother you?

Any way, managing this thread is just your job. Come back SOON, ACTIVE,
ENERGETIC and WITH HOT TOPICS. Don't also forget about the essay you are
supposed to write.

And also don't forget that for first thing after repairing your computer you have to write
to me and put comment on my posts showing that you have read them.Now you may say
what comment? I tell you. Although I am sure your head is full enough to find something
to write to me, in case you found nothing, just prepare a paper and pen and look for my
mistakes, take a note of them and report them to me. Do what ever, just write.

Hope to read from you soon,

Elham

dentistebru July 28th 2010


Hi Kamelia,
How are you? How is going your holiday? Do you enjoy? I hope you are fine and healty.

My friend, I agree with you on music topic.But I think so, I couldnt explain, chose wrong
sentences. I said music is an international area to share our feelings, I meaned music is a
universal language and even peopledoes not understand lyrics, they can feel by rhythm as
you said. Sorry for mistakes:)you know I m not completely ready to convey myself orderly
in english yet.:))
I think interested in artis very developer thing in university. This makes peoplemore
sociable and a man of parts. For example one of my friend took marbling course this
year( in turkish, marbling is ebru, as my name:)) She learned a lot of thing. She made
new friends. End of course they made an exhibition of their performances. We went to
exhibition and saw her performance. I understand that making this type good things and
sharing successful results makes peopole really happy and feel proud.

You loved painting. how a nice new! Dont you interested anymore hun? Drawing is
wonderful hobby I think. Sometimes I m trying to draw. I like especially chorcoal
drawing. I m crazy about chorcoal full-face portraits. What about you? Do you love
chorcoal?

About my favourite music type, in each type, there are some songs, I love. There are
especially a few singers in Turkey I like almost their all songs and a few foreign groups
like this. I like their style.But I cant say " I never listen this type" etc. Because each type
of music has got some songs which I like.

Sorry for mistakes:))

Hope to hearing from you soon


All the best
Ebru..

Bluegreen July 28th 2010


Dear Sahand,

Hi there. How are you? How's everything going on? You've been out on a trip, so that
must mean that you had a really good time there. I wish you health and happiness.

Dear Friend, no need to apologize, I know people have works to do and it's not really
appropriate to insist them t write as soon, at least it's my own opinion about it. Anyway,
thank you for writing to me. By the way, who said that you're a stranger here? I think
everyone adores you because of your knowledge. But here's the thing, actually a little
piece of advice. I think being a little bit more active and taking part in discussions will
make you feel less alone here. You see my point?

Oh about backgrounds, actually I'm too young to have a back ground LOOOOL. There's
nothing special about me. Well, I?d begin with this. This is Kamelia. Nineteen years old. I
study English Literature in Mashhad University. What do you mean by professional back
ground? Do you mean any job experiences? I'm afraid I haven't ever been working
anywhere.

Dear Sahand, I asked this question of Dear Ebru, then Dear Elham and then Dear
Behnam, now I want to ask you the same thing. Would you mind talking about music?
Based on your previous posts I can recall that you're a big fan of music and you actually
play some sort of things. So do you like to tell us more about your favorite type of music?
Your favorite musical instrument? And if you like watching dancing programs? What sort
of them?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 28th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hiii honey. How are you? How's everything going on with you? I wish you great
happiness and health.

Honey, this is really kind of you to answer me so soon. I like your punctuality in this
matter. Besides, you can never think of my great enjoyment when I read through your
joyful posts. I wonder if you believe this, but while reading ever line there's smile on my
lips. You really make me happy.

Honey, about my apology, first I shall say something so important. One of my really best
friends was had read my post to you and said if I was sure about using the word "after"
after apologize? I'm sorry I should have omitted "after". Ok I feel better now. I felt guilty
till mentioning that to you.
Now about the apology, I should have done that sooner because you were right. Mistakes
happen and sometimes I get as careless as a seven years old girl. Better watch my steps
more! LOL
Now something else, you like compliments, huh? :)):)) Come on! Do you really see any
resemblance between my posts and American articles? I actually don't see it myself.
There are some sites which have really wonderful articles, whenever I read them I really
wish that I can write just like them or maybe better than them. :))

About the books, well I don't know if you're taste is just like mine in English reading but
nowadays I've totally quit educational books. I use to read them the whole year and I just
don't want to ruin my summer pushing tough things in my mind and doing all those
exercises. I've started reading classics and some of best sellers. I'll email the books if you
like. By the way, who said your English is in danger? I think its good already; however,
there's room for improvement. LOOL (This is Dear Behnam's famous quote, sorry Dear
Behnam if I didn't consider the copy right protections) LOOOOL
Now, here's the best part. LOOL. Your music taste is just like mine! Girl have you really
been playing Daf? I can't believe that. I see just a handful of number of girls having a
crush on Daf. :)) And I've recently joined them.
To be honest with you, I was crazy about piano; I couldn't let my mind go anywhere but
that way. Due to some reasons, I couldn't take part in those classes, so I chose daf. I
really love the sound. Some blamed me for having chosen such an instrument but I don't
see any problem in that. So again you gave me a point to love your characteristic even
more than before.
Dear Elham, would you mind telling me more about? Actually I took my instructor?s
notebook and saw all those notes and I just wondered are they all needed? How do you
perform them on the instrument? LOOL It was a little bit scary. Do you practice it every
day? How much? And how long has it been since you go to classes?
Oh and about dancing, I?m so sorry I misunderstood you. I thought you like watching
dancing programs. Well maybe that?s because I enjoy watching them. I love Ballet oh
and the kind of dancing you mentioned. It?s a kind of skating on ice. It?s wonderful. It?s
called Patinaj! In farsi actually we call it this way. I don?t know about the exact word in
English. I?m a real fan of that. I always watch the winter Olympics especially for the
sake of this dance.

Dear Eli, I'm trying to be more punctual than before LOOOL actually your post to me
right after mine made me think that what a bad friend I was to make my pen pals wait a
lot LOL
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 28th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hi there. How's everything going on? Are you enjoying your holidays? How are your
days going on? I wish you joyful days and health.

Dear Friend, you know what? I didn't mean to say that you had mistakes in expressing
your inner ideas of what music mean to you. I actually said my own idea. Tell you what?
I love the way you get to explain things. They're simple and I can understand each of
them as if I've had the same feeling always.

About painting, I like your taste, coal work's a nice art. I like it but not on white sheets. I
like it on yellow old sheets. You know! Oh and water colors nice. these days I'm more
into colorful works because they make me feel rejuvenated.
Thank you for writing to me, you really made me happy.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 28th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hi there. How's everything going on? Are you enjoying your holidays? How are your
days going on? I wish you joyful days and health.

Dear Friend, you know what? I didn't mean to say that you had mistakes in expressing
your inner ideas of what music mean to you. I actually said my own idea. Tell you what?
I love the way you get to explain things. They're simple and I can understand each of
them as if I've had the same feeling always.

About painting, I like your taste, coal work's a nice art. I like it but not on white sheets. I
like it on yellow old sheets. You know! Oh and water colors nice. these days I'm more
into colorful works because they make me feel rejuvenated.
Thank you for writing to me, you really made me happy.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

elham_z July 28th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Where are you girl?

Emmm, I can guess. It is quiet probable that you are taking a trip like all others. But you
are so kind, because you haven't announced you're going to take one, because your heart
bleeds for Elham, poor Elham actually, who the only thing she can do is fantasizing
about it at bed before falling asleep.:):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)
Wow, I think I seem such miserable in this case that probably the manager of this site or
a compassionate person may feel sympathy for me so strongly that decides to make it
possible for me to have a trip. :):):):):):):):):) Come on Elham, you are just making jokes,
But you talk in a very miserable way that may cause others to think you have never been
on any trip.(LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL)

Any way this is just to let you know that I am still waiting for your reply to my last long
post to you full of questions. Emmm, another probability is that you are that busy
enjoying yourself with that Eli in Tehran that you have forgotten this one !!!

Hope to read from you soon,


Elham

elham_z July 28th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Thank you so much for your fast kind reply.


You maid me extremely happy this time, do you know why? By pointing to that smile on
your lips while reading my posts. Nothing can make me happy and satisfied with myself
more than knowing I can cause happiness for someone else. Actually not every happiness
and not for anybody who asks for my kindness, as one of myn ice friends reminded me
once. But you know, I thought with myself that what an awesome girl I can be in case I
can truly bring a true satisfying smile on Elham's lips as well !!! ( Let me speak my heart
out loudly, after writing this sentence, my eyes are filled with tears and my heart is
begging me and says: Elham, please make yourself happy too.)

So, Kami, you like Daf too. That's great. It is not difficult at all. I started it due to one of
my friend's offer who wanted to take classes in university while in my second semester. I
started it very well, the trainers actually told me that I am enough talented to learn it very
well. But from last summer I stopped continuing my classes after reaching to lesson of
Riz playing. I think my hands are not strong enough. They get tiered so soon. But don't be
afraid of that notes. My book is written by Siyamak Azizzade. It is a very good book. You
should be taking class on it, yes? Enjoy learning and playing Daf.
Do you know how to play Piano? Oh, we have a lot in common. I like it too much too. I
think it doesn't need strong arms, so I can give it a try.

About dancing, I have to say I have no idea of Ballet dancing yet. Maybe I have seen the
dance itself but I haven't heard about the name yet. And thank you for letting me know of
the name of my favorite dance, Patinaj.

And about your apology, you again maid me more upset. Come on girl. We are here to
make as much as mistakes in order to learn as much as possible.
Kami I didn't mean English articles, formal ones. As I had mentioned I meant informal
writings in threads and web logs by natives. It was not a compliment, it was my real
feeling.

Thank you once again for your kind post, I will write to you more and I always look
forward to hearing from you too,

I am going to write to Aseman about her challanging and difficalt question, please share
something about it with us.

Best wishes,
Elham
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Veronicaho July 28th 2010


Hi Julia,

Thanks for your post and nice to meet you here. Have you been here at the thread for a
long or are you new here. Sorry, but I haven't seen you here before. I have been here last
year, sometimes often and sometimes less.
I like this thread a lot because I meet many different persons from many different cultures
and that I improve my english a bit.
I'm a Nurse practitioner who work at hospital in a medical unit since many years. Now I
want to do someting new and my goal is to go to England for work...but before I have to
be better in english.
As you said we can get better positive emotions from other things than from the "jet set
life" many of us are living.
I am a person who want to discover and "be on the move" but sometimes it will be too
much. I decided this year that I should take it very easy at my holiday, just for to get new
emotions and to fill on my battery. This is exactly what I doing this holiday weeks and I
feel very well... What about you, how do you doing to get energy. You have two small
children and I know it's a hard work and it takes much from a mother.

Thank you a lot for the web adress, I have been there and found funny things.

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Veronicaho July 28th 2010


Hi Elham,

Thanks for your fast replay. I hope you are fine and healty. Of course I will send you
picture from my summer house and at the birds :)) Tomorrow I going there again and I
will take new pictures for you.

Im sorry that you have difficult to get visa for travel therefrom. I can't understand it
because we have so easy to get it and go where ever we want...but I dont know if I could
have it for a travel to Iran, maybe not :) But I really promise that if you are coming here
for a visit you are so welcom to my home. It would be a pleasure for me!
Once, many years ago when me and my family travelled in Africa we meet a guy there
and he came here for a visit :)) We met him at the airport in Stockholm and he stayed 2
weeks before he went to Sweden. Today he live in Sweden. So nothing is impossible :))

You asked me about my children. Of course you can ask me about that. Feel free and ask
me what you want!
I have a 28 years old daughter who are also a Nurse. She work with children healt care.
She is married with a captain who work in a big cruise and he is away at work 2 weeks
and then 2 weeks home. They have two kids. A boy who is 3 years, a daughter who is 1
year and now they waiting for the new baby which coming in november! When her
husband is at work she is quite much here and I love the kids!

Then I have a son who is 24 years and have a girlfriend. They have an own apartment
where they live. They don't have any kids but they have a dog. The dog is like thems child
:)) My son works as truckdriver and he works one week and then free one week. He is not
sure about what he will do but in a near future he will study. Sometimes he thinking about
to be a polis.
My third children is Hanna who is 13 years old and still live home with us. She begins to
be a little lady....oh my God...it is not easy to grow up as a teenager but it's not easy for
me either:))) She is very nice and we have a lot of fun but sometimes we arguee about
many things....

Please tell me about your family. Parents and siblings.


Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Veronicaho July 28th 2010


Hi Behnam,

I hope you are fine and healty. I haven't heard from you for a long time :(
Few days ago I saw a movie, The stoning of Soraya M, and I was chocked! Immediately I
thought I must ask you about this movie. Have you seen it or heard about it? It is a real
story about a women from Iran who been stoned to death. I just wondering if that if
allowed in Iran yet? I really hope you do not take offense (?) or feel uncomfortable when
I ask you about this.

I think the weather is very hot there, am I right? How do you manage it? Here is a very
hot summer, hotter than normal and we haven't got rain for 6 weeks. But I'm not
complaining :)) I like it!

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Veronicaho July 28th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope you are fine and healty too. What happen in your life? Maybe some
tour at the ship :)))

I have holiday 5 weeks and my vision is to do as little as possible. Just relax with
sunbathing, reading books, sleeping in the morning.. I need to fill my batteries :)) Do you
have/have had holiday?
I have asked Behnam about a movie...if you want, read it and tell me about this issue.

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

jiulia78 July 28th 2010


Hi, Veronica,
thank you for your reply! you are capable to transmit your holiday mood through the
screen! take my compliments to your numerous and friendly family ... with ducklings and
dogs including.
I live in Calabria, it's the south of Italy, just before the Sicily... may be you have heard
about it. now we have touristic season in a full swing, the beaches are overfilled, the
shops until the evenings become empty, the tourists like locusts sweep away everything.
but the atmosphere is always semi- festive in the air and I like this.
how lucky is your daughter to have a mother by her side! I affront my boys by my own.
my husband works from the morning until the late evening. he is a sound producer and
technician by profession, but can't find the work here, so he makes repairs of apartments.
my mother is in the northern capital - Milan, I hope that we shall join her soon there. we
are going to move, for work, we too. my elder son is 11, and the younger is 21 months.
every day I try to take them to the sea , they have become mulattoes already. sometimes
they drive me crazy, I'm looking forward for returning to my work. but then I speak to
myself: look and remember how they are small and funny, the time is so galloping... and I
begin to appreciate every moment now when I have the possibility to stay with them 24
hours a day... then I feel happy and satisfied when all my dears are at their beds and are
snuffling while sleeping... and I can dedicate a couple of hours to myself. sitting on this
site for example. it's a pleasure both the communication with people from different
counties, and practicing English.( I have an ambition in the working sphere. )
this is my life in brief. I hope to hear from you soon with news about all your dears.
wish you luck, sincerely, Jiulia.

behnam July 29th 2010


Dear Friends,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. I've missed you terribly.

Two weeks ago, I introduced a topic concerning job satisfaction. Although it is late, I've
never forgotten the topic and writing about it.

During last month, I was taking part in a listening course. Therefore, my homework was
about listening, and I practised listening as well. I couldn't write and read. As a result,
my writing is rusty. It seems that English language is like driving a car for the first time.
You focus on controlling the car and keeping the steering wheel correctly, but you forget
the gear. When turning the gear, you forget the steering wheel. For me the English
language is like that. When I focus on listening, I forget writing, vice versa!:):):):):)

My computer has stopped working and is still tired. It seems that I will forget all skills--
the steering wheel, the gear, etc. Therefore, the car will be fallen into a valley finally!
:):):):)

Anyway, I've written an essay on 'job satisfaction'. To be honest, I myself couldn't


understand what I've written. I hope you will read it and understand the points. Please let
me know if you understand it or not. :):):):):):)

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As most people spend a major part of their life at work, job satisfaction is an important
element of individual wellbeing. What factors contribute to job satisfaction?

What is the proportion of working life to whole life? The majority of people spend a very
large amount of their life at work, so job satisfaction and finding fulfillment in what we
are doing at work make life worthwhile. Several factors affect job satisfaction. In my
opinion, some key contributing factors for job satisfaction are fringe benefits, friendly
atmosphere, and good prospects for promotion.
Undoubtedly, fringe benefits such as free health insurance and free food are extremely
important for workers. Nowadays, people care about their health much more than before.
On the other hand, the expense of medical treatment is enormous. Therefore, most
workers seek job satisfaction in free health insurance. Moreover, taking food to the
workplace is a difficult task for some people. Consequently, free food also creates much
job satisfaction for some workers.

In addition, friendly atmosphere and good colleagues are vitally important when it comes
to speaking about job satisfaction. In fact, aside from working, workforces are living at
the workplaces. Therefore, there is no denying that the characteristics of a workplace
such as warm and friendly atmosphere, reliable and supportive workmates, beautiful and
artistic building play an extremely important role in creating job satisfaction.

Finally, progress and advancement in a job is an essential factor. Some jobs are just
doing an action repeatedly. For example, a doorkeeper usually sits on a chair and checks
who comes in and goes out. That is a routine task without any progress and promotion.
Obviously, for most people doing some routine tasks is boring. They think that doing
something repeatedly stifle creativity. However, when a job has good prospects for
promotion and advancement, it encourages personnel's creativity and innovation. As a
result, it leads to greater job satisfaction.

In conclusion, most people spend more than one-third of their life at the workplace.
Therefore, workplaces should have some characteristic and qualities to fulfill workers'
needs, and then to make them obtain job satisfaction. Among many factors, it seems
additional services besides wages, the atmosphere of offices, and careers advancement
contribute to more job satisfaction.
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Thank you for reading. I'd welcome any suggestion, recommendation, opinion, criticism,
with open arms. My arms are always open to those things, but please do not keep them
open for a long time, since they may get tired--like my computer-- so I may close them.
:):):):) Oh, if I close my arms they will be out of them, so they won't get rest in my hug.
:):):):)

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 July, 2010

behnam July 29th 2010


Hi Elham,

How are you doing? I hope you are happy, healthy, dancing, swimming, and playing Daf.
The last one is a little bit odd. :):):):)
I do read all your posts. They are lovely. I really love your style of writing.

I've written that I cannot live without my computer. That is true, because I am not living
now. I am struggling for survival actually.:):):):):)

I have found what is wrong with the computer. I have to go to the market and buy a
power supply for it. Due to hot weather, the power supply of the computer has broken
down. Well, it takes time to go to the market-in the center of Tehran--and buy that device.
:):):):):)

Behnam never forgets what he has said. He rarely makes promise, but if he makes a
promise, he keeps it. :):):):)

As I said, your writing is excellent. I cannot find any mistakes. Do not worry about
making mistakes. Making mistakes is a sign of improvement. If you want not to make any
mistakes, you should stop doing anything.

Oh you practise dancing. That is wonderful. How do you dance? Which part of body do
you move and vibrate? What do you mean by vibrating them? :):):):):):) Dangerous
questions!!! :):):):):):)

Thank you very much for managing the thread. You are a great manager.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 July, 2010

behnam July 29th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are you keeping? I hope you are enjoying every second of your beautiful life.

Thank you for posting some lovely posts. You are a great teacher. I've learned many
things from you. Thank you for teaching us.

Dear Kamelia, I've got no idea about the music. When I was a teenager, I used to listen
to different kinds of music. However, nowadays, I rarely listen to music. I only listen to
some audio files in English.

I love Azerbaijani music--Tar, Setar, etc.--very much. I used to love lsitening to Hayde,
Habib, Marjan, Aref, etc. I can sing in both Farsi and Azerbaijani. I also can play Tar,
not professionally.:):):):):)
That's a famous saying--music is our spirits' food. I do agree with it. Our bodies need
food to survive, our spirits also need food.

In my opinion, if a lady doesn't listen to some happy music and doesn't dance, she has to
visit a doctor very soon, because she is in danger of depression and getting mentally ill.
AND, if a lady is not happy, she cannot be a good wife at all. She cannot be a good
citizen as well. :):):):):):)

Don't ask me difficult questions, girl! :):):):) I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 July, 2010

behnam July 29th 2010


Hi Veronica,

How are you? I hope you are happy and healthy.

Thank you very much for being in this thread. You write very well. Your English has
improved a lot.

About Soraya, I have heard the story from some foreign people. That doesn't sound
strange to me. It may happen. I'm not a professional person in this area. Our friend
Mohsen may know about such issues much better than me. Please ask him. :):):):)
However, in Islamic rules, there are some serious crimes that if someone commits any of
them, s/he must be get capital punishment. One of the ways for killing those criminals is
stoning. However, these days, criminals often live in prisons which are much more
beautiful than palaces. :):):)

It should be kept in mind that Islam thinks of the whole society as a tree. Criminals are
some dry branches of this tree, They threaten the health of the tree, so they must be cut
down. Soraya maybe has been a dry branch. I don't know.

Veronica, I have seen a film about the danger of nuclear and other weapons and their
history. It was said that every day more than 1000 people are killed by some weapons
made in Western countries. Is that true? I can't believe it! In particular, hundreds
thousand people were killed in two cities in Japan by using atomic bombs. Is that true? I
don't believe it. Why? What was wrong with them?

Oh you may think that stoning some dirty and dangerous criminals who threaten the
safety and security of the society is bloodthirsty, but killing people with atomic bombs,
guns, and other weapons is alright. No, it seems that some people are being brainwashed
by this fake stories. They are some political propaganda rather than some facts.
I hope you have gotten the answer.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 July, 2010

behnam July 29th 2010


hi Aseman,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you.

Your question is difficult. Is it possible for you to study about the question by using some
religious books? There are many books concerning God and his signs.

In a nutshell, you should feel him in your heart. That is what I believe, aside from
knowing some rational and logical reasons.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 July, 2010
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elham_z July 29th 2010


Hi Behnam,

* Sooo, you are still alive. That's it. See, if you want, you can write !!!

Ahan, you just need Elham"s request. You enjoy being asked to show up by Elham. Come
on, here is your own home; Elham is just your guest here. Although I am such a
wonderful and kind girl that enjoys serving people even in their home and even she is
herself a guest, but she shouldn't forget that a guest is always a guest , not
more.:):):):):):):):)

Behnam did you get what I have written? I think I just wanted to make some jokes or
something like that, or maybe I have been serious too. I don't
know.(LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL).

* Emmm. What is odd about me playing Daf?


* I dance, of course let's not name it dance just some happy ridiculous movements, but I
dislike vibrating. Sometimes I just do some gentle quiet movements, sometimes I am very
angry or very happy, so I just jump up and down .Ok, Elham a decent girl doesn't write
such things in such a poblic place.
( haya kon dokhtar).

* Ahan, and would you please define manager and management for me? I wonder if just
writing some posts is called management !!!
Any way, dear Behnam I hope your computer the best, maybe it has gotten tired from
you, spending that huge amount of time at it. If it is right for sure my computer is going to
be out of order by at least next week, learning from yours. Ok, let him rest.:):):):):):):):):)

Thank you for your kindness towards me. We patiently wait till your pc is healthy again
to see you active as today again.

All the best,


Elham

behnam July 29th 2010


Hi Elham,

thanks for the reply. You are a perfect manager, and what you are doing is management.
:):):):) Did you get it? I hope so.:):):):)

Hope to hear from you more.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 July, 2010

elham_z July 29th 2010


Dear Behnamn,

Thank you so much for your complete defenition for managment and manager. It was too
much and boring,it took me an hour to read it.:):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

* Emmm, come on.


It was the only serious sentence I could write.

All the best,


Elham
Veronicaho July 29th 2010
Hi Behnam,

Thank you for fast replay. Your answer was objective from the Islamic side but no
opinions about your own views:)
I understand your answer.

My question wasn't to compare Sorayas stoning with some weapons and atomic bombs!
I'm a person who really respect all people in this world and I will never understand how
religions, different cultures, malice and envy can stay behind war, terrorism attacks,
bombs... I'm also shocked about all those horrible things what happening all the times in
the world! !!

About if the story was faked or not..I can't say that... and it doesn't matter because
everybody know that this action has been tolerated all over the world before. Also in
Nordic areas 100 years ago...

I can never get in my mind that a death penalty is right, doesn't matter what a person has
done. Thats my philosophy.
It is inconceivable to compare different criminals but for me is stoning a very, very low
actions. To put down, very often a women, at the grown with tied (?) hands and then
throw stones to her head until she dying. At the movie they also had this womens children
to throw stones on her! Children are always baised (?) with thems parents and they
always love thems parents, doesn't matter what they have done. An action like this makes
terrible wounds of the soul for the rest of the childrens life.
I have seen many movies and I'm used to see terrible and suffering patients in my work
but this movie made me to feel very bad inside and many days after I saw this women in
front of my eyes...

If you want I can copy this movie and send it to you :)) The film was from the other side
very beautiful with beautiful and proud Iranian actors and they spoke some Iranian
language. I recognize that womens are very female and male are male. (hope you
understand my meaning, I know I have wrote wrong)

Now to something else! Your essay about job satisfaction was interested and I agree with
all what you have wrote. For me is also to have possibility to develop at my work very
important and to feel that I'm one in the team which makes a whole. To get responsibility
to different areas in your work also doing that you will do a better work I think.

Have a nice day and I hope to read from you very soon again...

Veronica
Veronicaho July 29th 2010
Hi Behnam,

Sorry for all my mistakes...I found one...grown should be ground...

Veronica

nitink12 July 29th 2010


The best way to improve communication skill is to speak as much as possible. Without
speaking in an environment it is impossible to build command over the language. Do
anybody have any idea how to improve this capability.

Nitin

Veronicaho July 29th 2010


Hi Nitin,

Nice to meet you here. You have absolute right, the best way to learn is to speaking. An
alternative is to use Skype. Have you tried it?

Veronica

elham_z July 29th 2010


Dear Aseman,

How are you dear friend? after not having shown up for a long time now you have
suddenly come asking about the most difficult and at the same time the easiest question
ever.

I am not going to explain a lot about my feeling about this matter, since Elham herself is
such a difficult person in discussing about such matters.

I have to say, as I have said before too, that for ages in my life I had no God. I just
wanted someone to prove me his existence and I was whole doubt. Those were the worst
times in my life. I like this description by Doctor Sheryati that says life without God is
breathing in complete vacuum. Actually this period of my life now, is like being in
recovery room after surgery. But you have to know something, the CONFIDENT that
comes after that really dark DOUBT is way sweet and much more trustworthy. I believe
so.

There are a lot of arguments offering reasons for his existence but none of them really
helps unless we FEEL him in our heart. I personally after those terrible days came to this
conclusion that HE MUST EXSIST !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Today I was just falling asleep that suddenly a loud voice made me jump up in my bed.
Oh it was the voice of saying Laelaha elalah by people in our alley who were taking a
dead person to graveyard . Believe me I'm still shaking in fear. I had heard that voice a
lot before too, but this time it really touched me. Especially after my grandfather's death I
get easily frightened by hearing about death.Death itself is a complete answer to whether
God exists or not. Now I am sure that lovely God exists and he has to exist but I am
worried about my own relationship with him and what he likes about me to do. My
grandpa was a true man and so he was not that frightened of death, but I am really
stressed out and worried for the moment when I am going to leave this ugly world. Not
because I fear from death itself, no, I love to leave here happily, I am worried about
HOW it is going to happen.

*** Dear lovely God, you are enough kind to direct me to the straight way, aren't you?

All the best,


Elham

nitink12 July 29th 2010


Yes Veronica,

I have just browsed a website called www.theenglishforum.com. These people conduct


online discussions on Skype, and provide instant feedback to the participants. All of the
participants in the discussions are there to improve, so at the end of the day everybody
will have something to to learn.

Veronicaho July 29th 2010


Hi Nitin,
I were to the site but there was things I didn't understood. Can you explain for me?
Can you go online just that time when a topic will discussion? Or can you go online
whenever you want and find people to talk with?
What time is it? UK or USA? Should I add the people who have register them self?
Please help me :))

Veronica
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nitink12 July 30th 2010


Hi Veronica ,

I think the timing is according to India. I joined a discussion based on that timing only.
Other than that I feel it is a good suggestion to these people as well. I think they are in
their initial phase, as in the discussion that I joined, it was mentioned somewhere. It can
be helpful for many people who belong to ESL countries like me. What I understand is
that you can register in already scheduled discussions and you can create fresh
discussions as well, in which people will be able to join, you can send fresh invitations as
well.
Nitin.

Veronicaho July 30th 2010


Hi Nitin,

Thank you very much. Your answer will help me:)


What about you? Who are you :)) Please tell us a bit about you. Where are you from,
what are you doing and why do you want to learn English?

Hope to hear from you,

Veronica

ghazal July 30th 2010


Dear Veronica

Hi,I hope you enjoying your life too.

About your post,I think grammer is not so difficult


I mean it?s difficult at first you must read this course so much.
just try to understand the rules and then analysis every exercise for your self.

Please don?t tell sentences about your self like( I can?t understand) because these
sentences have really bad effect.

I didn?t write post for you until now so this is my post for my new friend.
I hope see your post for me soon

sincerely

ghazal

ghazal July 30th 2010


Dear Elham

Hi,How are you?


I have missed you my friend.

Do you remember that I said you I have friend namely Elham,now every time I see her
remember you and I said her about you .

Oh my lovely friend I read your post for Aseman ,I think that was really good .

and another thing,you play Daf!!!good for you I think that must be full of energy .

have good time

GHAZAL

ghazal July 30th 2010


Dear Behnam
Hi,how are you?
I hope you enjoying your life.
I'm here again

Wow you went to nice trip,good for you.

hope to see your post for me soon

sincerely

GHAZAL
ghazal July 30th 2010
Dear kanelia and shanar
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii,are you fine?
what are you doing in this summer?
I really want to see you ,Oh you can see gether but I can't!!!

Did you see marks ?very good!!!!!????!!!!!LOOOL

I remembered you in my trip.

kamelia you say me about your trip?

shanar did you have trip?where?

I love you and always did and always will

sincerely

GHAZAL

ghazal July 30th 2010


Dear Aseman
Hi
my friend your question is so hard to explain.
there is many reasons but you can just read them.
you must feel them.

you know,I went to Makkah 4 weeks ago.


we can find God every where but in that place I thought I was in God's hands.

when I went a round Kaaba ........


Oh I can't explain....

Just see world ,you can find God every where especially in your heart.

this poem is for you

The world and God:

How to harmonise?
Difficult? No.
No wide surprise.

Our Father is God;


The world, our Mother.
This living truth
Our protecting cover.

Father is the Face,


Mother the Smile.
Without the one,
The other futile.

sincerely
GHAZAL

elham_z July 30th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Thank you so much for sending your really pretty pictures to me. They were so nice and
while seeing I really wished I could experience being in such places very soon.

Oh about Ballet dancing I wonder how I didn't get the type that moment. I love it and I
always dream of having such flexible body to do such arty movements.

Sorry for short post of me today, I am not at good mood at all.

Hope to hear from you soon,


Elham

elham_z July 30th 2010


Hi dear Veronica,

Thanks a million for writing about your nice family to me. So you have three children ,
one more lovely than the other one. I hope you be always HEALTHY, happy and
energetic enough to be able to care for your children in your best. They should be proud
of having such an awesome mom like Veronica.

Thank you once again for your precious friendship with Elham.
I will write to you about my own family as soon as I feel mentally better. This post was
just to let you know that I have read your post.

Don't forget to write to me any time you like about whatever you like. I appreciate it a lot
to learn from such a sophisticated and kind woman.

Hope to read from you soon,

Elham

elham_z July 30th 2010


Heyyyyyyy, Look who is back here again,

Dear Ghazal, SALAAAAM, Ziyarat ghabul Ghazal junam,

Believe me , last night I was thinking about you, saying to myself that she should have
come back till now.

I got extremely happy to see your nice posts again. Oh don't hesitate to write more about
your fabulous trip to Makkah, Oh, Good for you. During last several weeks I envied a lot
of people for having taken trips, but yours is above all.

Welcome back,
Elham
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nitink12 July 30th 2010


Hi Veronica,

I belong to India and I am a chemical engineer. English is very required if you want to
grow in global arena. I can communicate my point but was facing issues with effective
communication. So to speak as much as possible was the soultion. I am looking for that
problem's solution only.
Nitin.

Bluegreen July 30th 2010


Dear Veronica,
Hi there. How are you? How's everything going on with you sweet mom? Are you
enjoying your summer? Well I really wish that you do.

It's been a long time since I wrote to you. I've been missing writing to you. Actually I
really enjoy your simple but comprehendible language. I like the way you explain things I
actually remember peace whenever I read your posts.

Well, there was this post of you to Dear Elham, I actually had read Elham's questions to
yours and I was really curious to know the answers LOOL So I thought with myself that
you've got to wait for Dear Veronica till she writes that post to Dear Elham. So, you're
successful mom and a great person yourself. How did you handle to be such a nice
manager in your life? I mean it must be hard raising children and working outside
simultaneously. Am I right?

Dear Veronica, I was reading your posts and through them some questions came to my
mind about your job. You had written that you've seen a lot of people being injured or
wounded. Well you are a nurse and that mustn?t surprise me but, how do you really
control your emotions? I mean how do nurses do that?

Well, in our city there's this main hospital of surgery and wounded people and
unfortunately it's just one square down from our house so whenever I want to go back
from somewhere I have to face it. Lots of ambulances come while some people have been
hardly injured by knives or even fire burns or sometimes they have committed suicide and
those poor nurses have to immediately get down to business and take them out of the
ambulance. While doing this they have to watch all those bloody hands or feet or people
who have lost their blood due to these accidents and have pale skins. I want to know, how
do nurses do this? How do they control their emotions? I myself can't see a child even
having a little bleeding scar having somewhere on her/his skin. Isn't it hard for you?
Does it become habitual?

LOOL I talked of a lot of bad things, I might have ruined your positive mood today. I'm
so sorry but I really can't stop wondering these questions while I see all those nurses
helping these kinds of patients.

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 30th 2010


Dear Ghazal,
Wohow! Look what have we got here? How are you gal? How've you been? Shall I call
you haj khanum again? LOL

How was your trip? Would you tell me all about it? Oh I've written all about my trip to a
post to Dear Elham right after I got back from it. I'm afraid to write all that stuff again
here and bore our other friends. But hey, you haven't still said a word so please write
about it. By the way, how did you do with your books? Have you started reading them?

Oh and about marks, oh god! I really wondered if you couldn't ask me this question. I
know yours are better. Aren't they? LOL
Dear Ghazal, you said something about Shanar and I gathering together but have you
thought that this bad girl haven't even been giving missed calls to me? What do you think
we should do with her? LOL Nope I was just kidding, Shanar's been having some guests
from Shiraz and she says that they are just as sweet as our sweet Samira is! I think we
should wait to see what she says later on!

Waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen July 30th 2010


Dear Elham,

Gosh! Is that Sweet Elham telling me she's having a bad mood today? What's wrong girl?
Is that because of taking a dead person to graveyard? Is it because you heard all those
sounds and recalled some ill-omen things?

Look, you know what? Do you know how many people die each day on this huge planet
called Earth? Do you know that this might happen to all people one day? Do you know
that you should appreciate your life while it is right now before you and stop regretting
for people who might not be here for some purposes? I don't say that we have to forget
them! No! But why not learning something new and let all those regretful things away?
Why not look at these happenings in another way?

Well, Kamelia's been preaching like a nun today! LOL. Hope that there's nothing really
wrong with you. I'm worried. Write to me soon honey,

Think positive as you did before; I know all of us have some turning points in time that
might pull us down where you think that the entire world has been crushed down on us!

Waiting impatiently to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

metzean July 30th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Hope you enjoy your time, charging your batteries, my idea is that your batteries is
atomic and not need to be charged, but if you think you need more power, add a series of
atomic battery in the tier, then no surprise to see Veronica levitates from her house to
hospital.:)

About Soraya, be sure that it is a fake movies, because for many years in Iran the stoning
sentence in not executed.
I can't judge about some Islamic rules like stoning for committing adultery ( stoning is
also a part of Christianity rules) ,because Islam wants a society without any crime ,so
some people who are felon should be as an example for other seriously punished .

I wonder at your idea about death penalty, why you disagree with it. Yesterday I heard
from our TV news that Police of France have found 8 bodies of children who where killed
and buried in a field in north of France. What do you think about punishment, how the
murderer should be punished when he was arrested by police?

All the best,


Mohsen

Veronicaho July 30th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Thanks a lot for your post and what you have wrote. I was really happy to found post
from you to me. I hope all is good with you.
As you already know I have holiday this days and I enjoy every minute . I spending my
time at our summer house with new born birds and a rabbit baby.. They are so sweet!

I was laughing when I read that you was waiting for my answer to Elham. Haha Feel
free?if you wondering about something?ask what you want and I will answer if I can.

You was asking me how I handle ?to be such a nice manager in my life?. I?m not so nice
everytime?ask my children :) But of course I have a strategy as makes it possible.
Because my husband work away one week and then free one week is very much on me.
Because of that all our children got to learn from the beginning that everybody help each
other. Everybody have tasks to do at home and we work in a team work. I think it?s
important for children to learn to take responsibility from they are small. One day they
have grown up and then they also need to help other, to have respect to other and to take
responsibility. Because of this it has been possible for me to work. I don?t have to work
just for the salary. I really want to work because it giving me so much and I can develop
as human being and as Nurse. One point in this is, that I feel very well to work and then I
can be a good mother, that?s the reason.

When my husband have free weeks has he always done a lot at home and take care of our
children. So it is not only I who work in our family. It?s both of us and I think we can
handle this very well because of our open relation. We help each other and always talk
about everything.
An other reason to why it is possible for us to have it like we have is that we have rules
for our children. You know, here in Nordic area is a very free education of children and
many children missing rules. I hope you will understand.

About how Nurses have control to our emotions? It isn?t so easy every time, especially
when you are a new Nurse. But you will learn. When something acute happen you doing
what you have to do and you are not thinking or feeling at all. You thinking and feeling
when the situation is ready. Then you thinking about what was happen and if you done
right or if you should have done in an other way. We always talk a lot to each other and
got help from each other when it is terrible happenings. We also have debriefing time at
work when we talk about ?hard? work.
But I will promise you? There are patients I never will forget! But I have learned to leave
my work at work when I finish for the day. I try my best to not thinking about patients at
home. (but I do it sometimes)

Sometimes when a sad events (?) occurs I crying with the family. Older Nurses sometimes
say that you shouldn?t do it but I think its good to do it if you feel that. Also the family
will see that I?m really sad.

To work with ill children must be a very hard work I think. I don?t work with children at
all. To se children suffering and sometimes dying in for example cancer must be very
heavy and hard.
To have emotions and feelings for the patients is normal and I think it?s time to finish
with work the day you can work without to get emotions and feelings. As a Nurse you
must have empathy for other persons.
Oh my God...A whole letter just about me and my work.. In next letter we will talk about
you! Please tell me about your family and thesituation there. How has you grown up in
your family? Are most mothers home with children and do not work?

Have a nice day and I waiting for your answer :)))

Veronica

Veronicaho July 30th 2010


Hi Ghazal,

Thanks a lot for your post. Nice to meet you and I hope you are fine and helty.
You have right, it isn't good to say to yourself that you are not understanding but
sometimes you feel that. How do you learn english grammar? Do you have some rules or
good ideas?

From where in Iran are you? Are you studying or working? Please tell me about you :))

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Veronicaho July 30th 2010


Hi Julia,

Thanks for your post. I hope you and your family is well and that you enjoy your days.

I agree with you about to stay home with your children when they are small. The time is
galopping as you said and soon they are adults. This time will never coming back... But I
really understand that you sometimes missing your work.

How long is the maternity leave in Italy? How long can you stay home with your
children? In Finland you have 9 month maternity leave with full salary from your work
for 3 months. Then you get 66 % salary from your town. After that you can stay home
untill the child is 3 years old but then you get just 350 euro /month.

You wrote that you have an ambition for your working sphere...tell me...what is it? I
became so curious :)))

Tomorrow my daughter and son in law go to a party and my grandchildren coming to


me. That will be great. They are so lovely. I hope it will be nice weather so we can go to
the beach and swimming, building sand castle and play with boats in the sea.

Yes I know Sicily and I have also look at google where Calabria is. I understand why you
have turists there. Must be a nice place.
I travelling a lot but I havn't been in Italy yet. But next year in april a friend of mine and
our youngest children going to Rom. That will be nice. We will visit the old buildings
there as Colosseum, Forum Romanum, Fontana di Trevi, Vatikanen and other too. And
we will eat real pizza and pasta of course. This year we been to London for five days and
we had a lot of fun.
Do you like travelling? Where have you been and if you have visit many places..what was
the best?

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

behnam July 31st 2010


Hi Hajiye khanom Ghazal,

Welcome back! Ziyarat Ghabul!

Would you possibly write something about your trip; from the begging to the end? How
did you find it? Was it as you had expected?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 31 July, 2010

behnam July 31st 2010


Hi Veronica,

Honey, in a brief way, people who commit serious crimes and threaten the safety and
security of the society must get death penalty. This is my idea, and I do believe in it. I
disagree with collecting tax by the government and spending it on some dangerous
criminals in prisons.

All people belong to God, and that is God's order to stone a dirty woman who makes the
society dirty with her dirty actions. She must die, and her death must give some lessons to
other women! I do agree with stoning, however, as my old friend Mohsen has mentioned,
stoning has been stopped in Iran. Do you know why? Because of the fear of human's
rights which the UN imposes on our country! Human's rights is a new matter in the west,
but my country is familiar with it for thousands years. For me, God's rights are
important. I don't care about other rights at all.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 31 July, 2010
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behnam July 31st 2010


Dear friends,

How life is going? I hope all is well with you.

Hear is a new topic:

Some people prefer to live in a house, while others feel that there are more advantages to
living in an apartment. Are there more advantages than disadvantages of living in a
house compared with living in an apartment?

I hope to receive some clues, and read your essays on it.

All the best,


Behnam, 31 July, 2010

behnam July 31st 2010


Hi again Veronica,

What should we do with married people who commit adultery? In Islam, such criminals
should get death penalty. Stoning is one of the several ways. Don't think of sinful Soraya,
think about the whole society instead. Think of families which lose their foundation stone
by committing such dirty crimes. You may say, "Behnam, in my country, there is no
capital punishment for people who commit adultery, but people automatically obey the
rules and couples are faithful and loyal." I never, never, never believe it. How can I
believe when the majority of men travel to the west because of free sex? It is quite
impossible to see a western film without some kinds of disloyalty in it!

I know, most ladies will consider Behnam a narrow-minded man. I don't care about what
people think of me. I cannot say something to please everybody, and God!

However, I respect your views.


Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 31 July, 2010

Veronicaho July 31st 2010


Hi Behnam,

I find no words :(
Why do you make all things black or white? I will try to write an answer to you today...

Veronica

Clare July 31st 2010


Hi Behnam

(Me again!)

In the west, people don't believe that adultery is a crime - because our laws are generally
not based on religion, but on the state. We don't consider sex (and therefore adultery) to
be "dirty" but a natural, human function. So adultery is not dirty, either. Sure, it's
something most people try to avoid in a monogamous relationship. 'Free sex', as you put
it, is because this happens between two consensual partners. Consensual is important -
both people agree - and it is a normal, human, loving experience.

I think you have the idea that in the west, we're all running around and being adulterous.
This is just not the case! Most people understand that along with "rights" we also have
"responsibilities". If we're unfaithful to our partner, our partner might leave us. And
generally speaking, if a partner is unfaithful, this is because there's also something else
wrong with the relationship. Very often, an affair is a symptom of a relationship in
trouble, not the cause.

Also, in the west, most countries do not have the death penalty - for any crime. I think
that, among western countries, it's only some states in the USA that still have the death
penalty. In the UK, after the death penalty was abolished, it was found that the murder
rate (the crime for which the death penalty was given) did not go up. This, for many
people, cemented the belief that the death penalty is not a deterrent, and has no place in
a modern state. As I've said before, the UK has one of the lowest murder rates in the
world - along with Scandinavian countries. Precisely, countries where there is no death
penalty for murder.
Stoning, for the vast majority of Europeans, is viewed as highly shocking and barbaric.
We associate it with something from 2000 years ago. It was around in the early days of
Christianity, but I think even Christ was against it, and he is attributed as saying "Let he
who is without sin cast the first stone". Meaning, it's hypocritical for a person to punish
another if that person has also commited a sin. He said the sin of committing adultery in
your heart was as great as the sin of actually committing adultery. So if you're married,
but you stare at another woman, you have no right to punish a woman for adultery, for
example, because you're guilty of the same thing!

UK jails are no palace, I can tell you, and I very much doubt they're much fun in other
countries, either. But our belief regarding justice is that criminals should both pay for
their crimes (losing their freedom) and have a chance to learn from their mistakes.
Rehabilitation is important. Maybe this is also a "hangover" from a religious basis,
where we are taught that forgiveness and redemption are important ideals. Like you, we
also believe that individuals form part of a society (though our society is not a religious
one, but a civil one.) So having a "reformed" criminal back in society is seen as positive.
Executing one would be like admitting that society can do nothing to help an ex-member.
That, for us, is almost an admission of failure on society's part - a sad thing.

Best wishes

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

rahaa110 July 31st 2010


very interesting topic!!!
I can't speak very well then I prefer to read your comments :) . Clare's comment have
some new points and was very interesting for me.

Veronicaho July 31st 2010


Hi Rahaa,

Nice to meet you and nice if you like our conversations and think they are interesting :)
It is a difficult topic and it's much more difficult when we compare to different cultures
and religions. But I like it and we can all of us learn from it and also learn why there is
differences.
Can't you please give your opinions about it. There is no wrong or rihgt answer, just
different opinions and your answer as women should be interested to read :)

Veronica
nitink12 July 31st 2010
Hi,

Got a reply from TheEnglishForum.com. These people have said that regular discussions
are already taking place, they have some issues with site uner friendliness on which they
are already working. But if you want to register for the same, you can do it by sending an
e mail to moderator@theenglishforum.com with your skype id. They will send you invite
for the group discussion on the time you would prefer to join.

Nitin

aseman7 July 31st 2010


hi dear elham

Thank you soooooooooooo much for reply message.

I always read your posts. You write really beautiful I feel all your posts is the whole
heart. Whatever comes from the heart of the heart sits(har anche az del bar ayd bar del
neshinad). I wanted to know whether friends have been feeling the God in their lives and
have experience in this case?You have expressed your feeling great. Yes God is absolute
and subjective.
the best wishes
31 July 2010

aseman7 July 31st 2010


hi dear ghazal

Acceptable worship.

Thank you for expressing your unique feeling about God.

the best wishes


31 July 2010

aseman7 July 31st 2010


hi behnam
thank you for reply message

Yes, many religious books about God there. But books do not reflect the true feelings of
people about God's existence

the best wishes


31 July 2010
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aminsb July 31st 2010


Dear friends
I hope you all are doing well!
In the first place I should say your comments about this subject(adultery)are so
interesting.
In my opinion I couldn't agree with Veronica & Clare more!
I sentence stoning in any case.
When a man and a woman get married to each other,They are committed to sharing their
happiness and sorrows.they try their best to reach their goals.
This is sweet,lovely and encourage but if one of them break his/her promise,it might get
finished that relation and broken the confidence.
I think we should ask our self why would a partner tend to do this unfaithful deed?!!we
should know it can occur for us!?Do you think devil is always near to others?
speaking of the stoning,some persons say it can help us.if so then why we steel come up to
this crime after many centuries.with killing,stoning,death penalty and like these
foolishness deeds,how can we expect a peaceful world?!even if we could resolve this
problem it bring about another crime such a murder!gradually we would see killing is the
new case!
we can not resolve any problem with death penalty.
In conclusion we ought to know in very places parents already make their daughter to get
married with a person who is not her ideal man and many other reasons.
I never approve of adultery but we should abolish this crime in correct way.
I'm sorry for my mistakes.
faithfully.
Amin

sahand July 31st 2010


Hi Kamelia

How is it hanging ?
WOW ! you surprised me with you age :D No Way ! are you really 19 ??! I couldn't even
dream about it, seems older than 25 !

Hmmm ... English literature ! That's why you are matured in writing posts to 4 or 5
people in a short time.

Music ?! Yeah I Like It.

In my very own opinion, music is like a game for the mind. Various patterns, puzzles,
jokes, stories ... are expressed through it. It for us is a way to express certain things that
words can't. I'm talking about the music, not singing/lyrics, but the actual melody
harmony percussion parts. The lyrics are just clothes for the melody and for some
mystical reason, at least from my experience. Dance is like the natural response to music,
a way of describing what we are hearing and experiencing. You see this very clearly in
children. No one has told them what dance is. But still they do it as joyfully as a response
to the stimulation of their young brains. This beckons us to be honest to ourselves, to
experience the moments and response with innocence and without judgment. I still don't
know how or why it works the way it does !

Anyway ... let me talk about my favorites. Guitar is my Life, Classic and Fender
Stratocaster. I just wanna play, it's fun either way around ! I love my job as a guitar
teacher too. I can play piano somehow ... but not that much !

My fave is really Alternative Rock, like Evanescence or my own. Some groups still have a
few clients back east so it is nice to see what's going on there, like Khak or Abjis !

Would you mind answering to the same questions ?

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely,
Sahand

metzean July 31st 2010


Hi Clare,

As you said in some modern states there is not any punishment for adulteress and this is
her right to commit adultery ,she is unfaithful to her husband and might her partner leave
her and may not. If her partner wouldn't be annoyed she can continue committing
adultery and this is the status of a modern state. May some people want to omit some
good character like faithfulness, loyalty , mettle and all religious rules from their culture
and called themselves modern country.what do you think?
Would you please explain what does the children feel ,if their mother commit adultery?

You read the News that 8 children was killed and buried in a field in France and police of
France is trying to arrest the murderer ,do you think that the murderer should back to the
society when he/she will be arrested ,do you think that society should admit him and give
him a chance to be reformed ?

All the best ,


Mohsen

Veronicaho July 31st 2010


Hi Behnam,

To the first. Stoning isn't stopped in Iran what I can see. Today I read about a women,
Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani from Iran who waiting to be stoned! All over the world
people are a in protest for this and we will see what will happen...Im sad and I have
wrote under this protest.

Clares explanation is really good and it's easy to understand why we have so different
opinions about this.

I'm a Nurse and for me is it impossible to think about death penalty. I have sworn oath
that I will safe as many people I can. I can also think that if a person have done a crimes,
isn't it a very easy punishment to die. Isn't it better to give a punishment in prison? To
stay there for a long time.

I know that this is not easy but thinking about this please. What is right and wrong? How
have right to determine that someone should die? What is sin? What is infidelity? Just to
go to bed with someone else than your partner...what is then to kiss or look at anyone
else? Where is the evidence? Why is it possible for a man to have more womens?
Do you really think that God wants to kill someone? No way...God is good and he will
always give forgiveness. People make misstakes all time but we also learn from them!
Isn't it a very dirty action to throw stones on a women who are absolute defensless?

What you wrote about western men, that majority of western men are travelling to get sex
with other. This is very offencive word about all men! It is not to have respect to others to
say that because this is not true.

Life and actions are never black or white! Life is not as easy as that. A human being will
feel more comfortable and feel better to have emphaty to other. I think you will
understand about emphaty when you have get children. That day you will stay in an other
day and get a new understanding for many things.

I should have much more to say about this but my english is not so good so I can't explain
exact what I want.
I was happy to read that you respect my opinions and I also respect yours. You are an
intelligent man and I really think you will chance a bit when you are older, in many
respects.

Hope to hear from you again,

Veronica

Veronicaho July 31st 2010


Hi Mohsen,

Thank you for your answer. I was happy to read that stoning is stopped in Iran but few
hours later I read in the newspaper about a women in that situation today in Iran! This
women is Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani as I'm sure you have heard about.
Also I have heard about the French women who killed 8 babies. I don't know about the
reason but this is very unusual. For me I was directly thinking about a maternity
depression/psycos as some mothers get after the child birth. This maternity depression is
not so unusual but it is very unusual to kill the child. This women are 95 % not a murder
(in that meaning) She is very mentally ill. This women needs help and hospitaly care.
Shouldn't she get help? Is it a differense to give a man help for prostate disease or to give
a women help for maternity depressions? Is it? I don't think that.

It is very often easy to give our opinions when something happens but very often we do
not know about the background. Thats why we shouldn't judge people for what they have
done before we know.

For me is infidelity wrong because you don't do that in a relationship but if that happens
there are some problem. Many much worst things can happens. But I can't judge those
people, that is a problem between that couples. And this is nothing to talk about with
children at all. Parents have to talk about it and find out a solution.
Children love theirs parents what else they have done! Thats normal.

I tell you the same I told Behnam. Life and to live the life is never black or white. I can
promise you that you will get many new views when you get children. Was the same for
me. Everything was so easy before and I thought I knew everything and had every
answers but it have changed.

Hope to hear from you soon,


Veronica

shanar August 1st 2010


Dear ghaza

Wo0o0ow look at here ! who is here? ghazal ? am I right or my eyes have some problem?

Hiiiiiiii haj khanoom . how are you ? how was your trip ? I;m sure it was very good and
nice trip , yea ? good for you loooool

Oh honey I really miss you a lot.i wish see you soon . and about kamelia , I will kill her
!!!!!!! ( kamelia ! honey ! I didn?t give you any miss call ?! any message?!! Poor shanar
? nobody love me :( )

Till know we didn?t go any trip and we was just as a host . but this week we wanna go to
north of iran. I mean ,sari,ghaem shahr(or shahi) , noor, and ramsar.

Ghazal come on! Please write about your nice trip for us. It must be wonderful .
About the marks .wowoooooooow! I don?t know but it was good .what about you ?

Honey thanks for your post. actually no body here write for me so I was so happy when I
saw your post. Thanks again dear

All the best

Respectfully

shanar ;)

uann August 1st 2010


hi Behnam fortunatly my isue was solved and im glad to be here with such a
wormhearted friend se u ;)

ghazal August 1st 2010


Dear Amin
Hi,how are you?
I know it?s too late but any way,welcome to this place.

yourpicture is very lovely,all person here know that I really love baby.

I read your post about adultery.


I agree with you and I think that is big crime but stoning is not fair.
I think we don?t have permission for kill some one in this way.

I saw( stoning of soraya m),that was film about stoning of soraya who was innocent
woman and after this film for long time I cried.

Now I want to introduce my self.


I?m 19 years old and I?m student in ferdowsi university and I?m studing English
literature.

You please tell me some things about your self.

I hope too see your post soon

Sincerely

GHAZAL

ghazal August 1st 2010

Dear Sahand
Hi ,are you fine?

I hope you enjoying your life.


I read your post for kamelia.

oh you love Guitar and Rock!very good.


Befor I didn?t like Rock but now I like rock .

I want to ask you some question.


What do you think about Mikel jakson?

Have good time

ghazal
ghazal August 1st 2010
Dear Veranica
Hi,thank you for your reply

I don?t have espical way for rules in grammer but I just try to understand them.
it?s not so hard my friend ,just try .
I?m from khorasan,in sourth of Iran.I?m student in university and I?m studing English
literature.
What else do you want to know?
You say some things about your self,please.

Sincerely
GHAZAL

634

aminsb July 31st 2010


Dear friends
I hope you all are doing well!
In the first place I should say your comments about this subject(adultery)are so
interesting.
In my opinion I couldn't agree with Veronica & Clare more!
I sentence stoning in any case.
When a man and a woman get married to each other,They are committed to sharing their
happiness and sorrows.they try their best to reach their goals.
This is sweet,lovely and encourage but if one of them break his/her promise,it might get
finished that relation and broken the confidence.
I think we should ask our self why would a partner tend to do this unfaithful deed?!!we
should know it can occur for us!?Do you think devil is always near to others?
speaking of the stoning,some persons say it can help us.if so then why we steel come up to
this crime after many centuries.with killing,stoning,death penalty and like these
foolishness deeds,how can we expect a peaceful world?!even if we could resolve this
problem it bring about another crime such a murder!gradually we would see killing is the
new case!
we can not resolve any problem with death penalty.
In conclusion we ought to know in very places parents already make their daughter to get
married with a person who is not her ideal man and many other reasons.
I never approve of adultery but we should abolish this crime in correct way.
I'm sorry for my mistakes.
faithfully.
Amin
sahand July 31st 2010
Hi Kamelia

How is it hanging ?

WOW ! you surprised me with you age :D No Way ! are you really 19 ??! I couldn't even
dream about it, seems older than 25 !

Hmmm ... English literature ! That's why you are matured in writing posts to 4 or 5
people in a short time.

Music ?! Yeah I Like It.

In my very own opinion, music is like a game for the mind. Various patterns, puzzles,
jokes, stories ... are expressed through it. It for us is a way to express certain things that
words can't. I'm talking about the music, not singing/lyrics, but the actual melody
harmony percussion parts. The lyrics are just clothes for the melody and for some
mystical reason, at least from my experience. Dance is like the natural response to music,
a way of describing what we are hearing and experiencing. You see this very clearly in
children. No one has told them what dance is. But still they do it as joyfully as a response
to the stimulation of their young brains. This beckons us to be honest to ourselves, to
experience the moments and response with innocence and without judgment. I still don't
know how or why it works the way it does !

Anyway ... let me talk about my favorites. Guitar is my Life, Classic and Fender
Stratocaster. I just wanna play, it's fun either way around ! I love my job as a guitar
teacher too. I can play piano somehow ... but not that much !

My fave is really Alternative Rock, like Evanescence or my own. Some groups still have a
few clients back east so it is nice to see what's going on there, like Khak or Abjis !

Would you mind answering to the same questions ?

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely,
Sahand

metzean July 31st 2010


Hi Clare,

As you said in some modern states there is not any punishment for adulteress and this is
her right to commit adultery ,she is unfaithful to her husband and might her partner leave
her and may not. If her partner wouldn't be annoyed she can continue committing
adultery and this is the status of a modern state. May some people want to omit some
good character like faithfulness, loyalty , mettle and all religious rules from their culture
and called themselves modern country.what do you think?

Would you please explain what does the children feel ,if their mother commit adultery?

You read the News that 8 children was killed and buried in a field in France and police of
France is trying to arrest the murderer ,do you think that the murderer should back to the
society when he/she will be arrested ,do you think that society should admit him and give
him a chance to be reformed ?

All the best ,


Mohsen

Veronicaho July 31st 2010


Hi Behnam,

To the first. Stoning isn't stopped in Iran what I can see. Today I read about a women,
Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani from Iran who waiting to be stoned! All over the world
people are a in protest for this and we will see what will happen...Im sad and I have
wrote under this protest.

Clares explanation is really good and it's easy to understand why we have so different
opinions about this.

I'm a Nurse and for me is it impossible to think about death penalty. I have sworn oath
that I will safe as many people I can. I can also think that if a person have done a crimes,
isn't it a very easy punishment to die. Isn't it better to give a punishment in prison? To
stay there for a long time.

I know that this is not easy but thinking about this please. What is right and wrong? How
have right to determine that someone should die? What is sin? What is infidelity? Just to
go to bed with someone else than your partner...what is then to kiss or look at anyone
else? Where is the evidence? Why is it possible for a man to have more womens?
Do you really think that God wants to kill someone? No way...God is good and he will
always give forgiveness. People make misstakes all time but we also learn from them!
Isn't it a very dirty action to throw stones on a women who are absolute defensless?
What you wrote about western men, that majority of western men are travelling to get sex
with other. This is very offencive word about all men! It is not to have respect to others to
say that because this is not true.

Life and actions are never black or white! Life is not as easy as that. A human being will
feel more comfortable and feel better to have emphaty to other. I think you will
understand about emphaty when you have get children. That day you will stay in an other
day and get a new understanding for many things.

I should have much more to say about this but my english is not so good so I can't explain
exact what I want.
I was happy to read that you respect my opinions and I also respect yours. You are an
intelligent man and I really think you will chance a bit when you are older, in many
respects.

Hope to hear from you again,

Veronica

Veronicaho July 31st 2010


Hi Mohsen,

Thank you for your answer. I was happy to read that stoning is stopped in Iran but few
hours later I read in the newspaper about a women in that situation today in Iran! This
women is Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani as I'm sure you have heard about.
Also I have heard about the French women who killed 8 babies. I don't know about the
reason but this is very unusual. For me I was directly thinking about a maternity
depression/psycos as some mothers get after the child birth. This maternity depression is
not so unusual but it is very unusual to kill the child. This women are 95 % not a murder
(in that meaning) She is very mentally ill. This women needs help and hospitaly care.
Shouldn't she get help? Is it a differense to give a man help for prostate disease or to give
a women help for maternity depressions? Is it? I don't think that.

It is very often easy to give our opinions when something happens but very often we do
not know about the background. Thats why we shouldn't judge people for what they have
done before we know.

For me is infidelity wrong because you don't do that in a relationship but if that happens
there are some problem. Many much worst things can happens. But I can't judge those
people, that is a problem between that couples. And this is nothing to talk about with
children at all. Parents have to talk about it and find out a solution.
Children love theirs parents what else they have done! Thats normal.
I tell you the same I told Behnam. Life and to live the life is never black or white. I can
promise you that you will get many new views when you get children. Was the same for
me. Everything was so easy before and I thought I knew everything and had every
answers but it have changed.

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

August 2010

shanar August 1st 2010


Dear ghaza

Wo0o0ow look at here ! who is here? ghazal ? am I right or my eyes have some problem?

Hiiiiiiii haj khanoom . how are you ? how was your trip ? I;m sure it was very good and
nice trip , yea ? good for you loooool

Oh honey I really miss you a lot.i wish see you soon . and about kamelia , I will kill her
!!!!!!! ( kamelia ! honey ! I didn?t give you any miss call ?! any message?!! Poor shanar
? nobody love me :( )

Till know we didn?t go any trip and we was just as a host . but this week we wanna go to
north of iran. I mean ,sari,ghaem shahr(or shahi) , noor, and ramsar.

Ghazal come on! Please write about your nice trip for us. It must be wonderful .
About the marks .wowoooooooow! I don?t know but it was good .what about you ?

Honey thanks for your post. actually no body here write for me so I was so happy when I
saw your post. Thanks again dear

All the best

Respectfully

shanar ;)
uann August 1st 2010
hi Behnam fortunatly my isue was solved and im glad to be here with such a
wormhearted friend se u ;)

ghazal August 1st 2010


Dear Amin
Hi,how are you?

I know it?s too late but any way,welcome to this place.

yourpicture is very lovely,all person here know that I really love baby.

I read your post about adultery.


I agree with you and I think that is big crime but stoning is not fair.
I think we don?t have permission for kill some one in this way.

I saw( stoning of soraya m),that was film about stoning of soraya who was innocent
woman and after this film for long time I cried.

Now I want to introduce my self.


I?m 19 years old and I?m student in ferdowsi university and I?m studing English
literature.

You please tell me some things about your self.

I hope too see your post soon

Sincerely

GHAZAL

ghazal August 1st 2010

Dear Sahand
Hi ,are you fine?

I hope you enjoying your life.


I read your post for kamelia.

oh you love Guitar and Rock!very good.


Befor I didn?t like Rock but now I like rock .
I want to ask you some question.
What do you think about Mikel jakson?

Have good time

ghazal

ghazal August 1st 2010


Dear Veranica
Hi,thank you for your reply

I don?t have espical way for rules in grammer but I just try to understand them.
it?s not so hard my friend ,just try .
I?m from khorasan,in sourth of Iran.I?m student in university and I?m studing English
literature.
What else do you want to know?
You say some things about your self,please.

Sincerely
GHAZAL

735

ghazal August 1st 2010


Dear Kamelia
Hi my sweat heart.I?m fine thanks and my trip was really good, JAT KHALI!!!!

About mark!!!??!!!!!just God can help us ?LOOL

Books!!!whice books??I didn?t have books!!!


ok I?m so sorry I didn?t start them I really didn?t have time until know so I want to start.

Befor my trip I read books about Haj and after trip we had many guests.

Oh bad girl shanar,wow please image shanar with samira!!!!you think who can win???

I will write post and explian my trip.

Have good time


sincerely

Ghazali

Clare August 1st 2010


Hi Mohsen

Thanks for your reply.

I can't give a judgment on the French woman who killed so many babies. As Veronica
says, it's important to know the full story before anyone can decide the punishment. Was
she ill? Can she be cured??

You'd need a psychologist to explain what it is that drives people to murder, and I'm not
one of these. But from what I understand, serial killers are rare, compared to single-
killing murderers. There are some famous serial killers in the UK (famous, precisely
because they're so rare). They're all locked up in secure psychiatric facilities, with no
chance of ever being considered for parole (early release). For them, it is really a
question of a life sentence, because they will never get mentally well enough to be
released and not be a danger to society.

There's a big debate on whether serious criminals (murderers, rapists, paedophiles etc)
are "mad" or "bad". Are they naturally wicked people, or are they mentally unbalanced.
How far can they be rehabilitated so that they are no longer a danger to society? In the
opinion of most judges and psychiatrists, people like Ian Brady and Peter Sutcliffe (the
"Moors Murderer" and the "Yorkshire Ripper", for example) who have never shown any
signs of remorse, are beyond help and will always pose a danger to others.

We just don't see adultery in the same way as we see serious crimes - or even minor
crimes. Our concept of family is perhaps very different to yours. Parents split up,
remarry, stay single... it's no big deal. If a couple argue and have problems, it's more
likely that one of them will have an affair, but as I said before, the affair is a symptom -
not a cause - of the bigger difficulties in the relationship. And as I said in a much earlier
post, people generally think that it's better for a child to have separated parents than
parents who are together, but always fighting.

In the past, we had a lot of what people call "nuclear families" - i.e. two parents and the
children together in one house. Now, with a high rate of divorce and single parents, other
types of families are becoming more common. Children have step-sisters and brothers,
half-sisters and brothers, and the concept of family has become much wider. For us, this
is neither a good thing nor a bad thing - just the realities of life in the 21st century. The
important thing is that children feel secure in their parents' love for them - not whether
both parents live in the same house
Best wishes
Clare

--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Veronicaho August 1st 2010


Hi Elham,

I hope you are fine and healty and enjoy your time. I just sent yo few photos from my
life..I hope you can open them, I made them smaller so it shouldn't be any problem I
think. Let me know!

Yesterday my grandchildren was here because their parents was to an party. We had
really nice. We was out played a bit, then we cooked pasta with sauce as the small boy
wanted to eat. In the evening we read books, the small boy really like one about ghost :))
We also played with LEGO, do you have those in Iran. Very fanny to build what you want
with them.
This morning I slept until 11 !! Tired because of yeasterday :)))

Have a great day and write to me soon,

Veronica

behnam August 1st 2010


Hi Veronica & Clare,

How are you? I hope everything is going well with you.

"Rabb e shrah li sadri. Va yasser li amri. Vahlol oghdatan men lesani, yafghahu gholi."
My Lord, cool my temper. And make this matter easy for me. And untie a knot from my
tongue (for me, the language barrier). So they can understand my speech.(Extracted from
the Holy Koran)

Before starting to discuss, some facts--relevant to the topic--should be mentioned.


Without knowing these facts, we will speak ineffectively.
1) There are some destructive human emotions such as greed, envy, revenge, jealousy,
etc. that are common among human beings. The weight of them may vary from person to
person, people to people, culture to culture.
2) A person without those destructive emotions has another definition--an angel--but it is
impossible to find an angel living on the earth.

3) Throughout history, crime has occurred in all cultures, so it is universal. It is still


occurring in all countries. For example, according to statistics, by the end of the year
2000, one in every 137 people in America was behind bars!

4) Human beings have capacity for aggression, because they are instinctively aggressive.

5) There is no end for criminality, as long as human beings are living in this world.

6) According to recent research, criminality is influenced by both nature (biology) and


nurture (environment).

Clare, it is naive to suppose that unfaithfulness is a symptom of a fault in a relationship.


Although your sentence is very beautiful and sounds romantic, it does not consider men's
sexual instinct. You should know the majority of men--it is even fair to say all men in the
world--are sex maniacs. One of the man's biggest dreams is living in a world without
other men, and then enjoying all women. You cannot understand this sentence, because
you are a woman. However, men understand what I am saying. Do you think getting
married--for instance--to the king of beauty in the world quenches a man's thirst for sex?
If so, you are absolutely wrong. Nothing can control a man's lust. Therefore,
unfaithfulness, in many cases, is a symptom of men's lust.

Women are instinctively less aggressive than men. Their unfaithfulness to their partners--
in many cases--can be the symptom of a fault in the relationship, as you have put it. In
some cases, women take revenge on their partners by being unfaithful.

Sex is often a consensual activity. However, not every consensual activity can be
considered correct and morally good. In particular, sex cannot be considered like eating
food or drinking some drinks, because it has strong effects on the safety of the society,
relationship between families, and generations.

In Islam, family is crucially important. The security and safety of the society are tied to
the security and safety of families. It seems that some strict rules are needed to protect
the families from separation and destruction.

There is a big difference between you--as a representative sample of westerners, and me-
-as a sample of Muslims. I am a religious person, whereas you are not. This difference
makes discussion very difficult, as if we are speaking in two different languages. I think,
we should focus on some facts, which are common among all people. For instance, I feel
thirsty and hungry as you feel. Therefore, people who live in the UK have the same
definition for thirst and hunger as we have in Iran. We should focus on similarities rather
than differences, because we were similar before, since Adam and Eva are our common
parents.
In my opinion, some laws must be God-oriented rather than human-oriented. Let me give
you an example. In a democratic society, if 50% of the population plus one person vote
for something, for example freedom of marriage to the same sex, it will be accepted as a
rule, but in Islam getting married to the same sex is strictly forbidden. In Islam, even
though one hundred percent of the population vote for freedom of marriage to the same
sex--a complete consensual agreement--it cannot be accepted as a rule. Why? Because in
the holy Koran, God has explicitly forbidden people from getting married to the same
sex. Let me tell you a story:
In the past, there was a group of people--Lot race--who avoided getting married to
women. They used to get married to other men! Their prophet--Lot--tried to stop them
from doing that action, but he couldn't. One day some messengers--some angels who
were male and handsome--came to Lot's home as guests. At first, Lot didn't understand
that these were God's messengers. He was very worried. He tried to hide the guests, but
his wife went to the roof and announced that Lot has some male guests. People came to
Lot and said, "Oh naughty Lot! You advise us to avoid anal sex, but you do it yourself.
We know that there are some handsome boys in your house. Give them to us
immediately!"

Here is the rest of the story extracted from the holy Koran:

***[11:77] When our messengers went to Lot, they were mistreated, and he was
embarrassed by their presence. He said, "This is a difficult day."

[11:78] His people came rushing; they had grown accustomed to their sinful acts. He
said, "Oh my people, it would be purer for you, if you take my daughters instead. You
shall reverence GOD; do not embarrass me with my guests. Have you not one reasonable
man among you?"

[11:79] They said, "You know well that we have no need for your daughters; you know
exactly what we want."

[11:80] He said, "I wish I were strong enough, or had a powerful ally!"

[11:81] (The angels) said, "Oh Lot, we are your Lord's messengers, and these people
cannot touch you. You shall leave with your family during the night, and let not anyone of
you look back, except your wife; she is condemned along with those who are condemned.
Their appointed time is the morning. Is not the morning soon enough?"

[11:82] When our judgment came, we turned it upside down, and we showered it with
hard, devastating rocks.

[11:83] Such rocks were designated by your Lord to strike the transgressors.***
You see how advanced people they were! If freedom of marriage to the same sex is a sign
of improvement and caring about human rights--which nowadays is a popular saying in
some modern countries--Lot race was more advanced thousands years ago. However,
God completely destroyed them and their city.

Do you think that God has changed? Do you think that human beings have changed? No,
God is the same, and human beings are living with the same attitudes, emotions and
needs. Let's see what God says in the holy Koran:

***"Sonnata man ghad arsalna ghablaka men rosolena, va la tajedu lesonnatena


tahvila" [17:77] This has been consistently the case with all the messengers that we sent
before you, and you will find that our system never changes.***

"An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" is a common statement in the Bible and Koran.
That is fair and true. Other types of thinking are cruel and fault.

Clare, you have told a story form the Bible, which means that some sinless people should
do stoning criminals! This story sounds beautiful and logical, but what will happen if we
use it for all crimes and punishment? What will happen if we say something like this;
"Criminals should get punishment from some sinful judges. As long as there are no
sinless juries in the courts, sentencing offenders to prisons is wrong"?
According to your story, we should stop punishing people, because as I have mentioned
above, human beings and crimes are inseparable from each other. Because of the fact
that we cannot find some sinless people in the world, we should stop punishing! That
sounds funny.

Clare, it is not sufficient to be a good person in a society. That is not enough to be a


responsible citizen. We must be responsible for humanity in all over the world.
You are always speaking about the golden history of the west. Is it fair to keep Cyrus
cylinder; which belongs to my country, in a museum in Britain and speak proudly about
civilization and human rights? I do not know why those ancient things--which
undoubtedly belong to my country and represent the antiquity of Iranian culture--are kept
in the UK!

Please do not get mad at me, and think about this question carefully:
You always consider the UK an ideal place--like heaven--in the world. I agree with you,
but I do not know why wherever the governments of Britain go (have gone), take (have
taken) poverty, hostility, split, schism, and division with themselves, and make (have
made) people's life a misery! Do you think that the governments are from Mars, or they
do not represent the UK correctly?

Clare, 'barbarian' was a Greek word, used to refer to tribes that lived around the edge of
ancient Greek society. The Greeks referred to these people as barbars because they could
not understand their speech. Bar-bar was the Greek word for the sound of a dog makes,
like your word bow-bow. The Greeks, in a classic example of ethnocentrism, considered
those whose speech they could not understand to be on the same level as doges, which
also could not be understood. They did not grant such people the statues of human being.

Clare, I am writing in English. If you have got any difficulties in understanding please let
me know. Please never use 'barbaric' to describe something or some actions you do not
understand!

Veronica, I never see things black and white. They are all colourful. According to
scientists, some animals see things black and white, but fortunately, I see them colourful.
How lucky I am.:):):):):):):)

Thank you for reading. Please forgive me for using some improper words. I had to! I
hope my post won't upset anyone. I opologise in advance.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 August, 2010

Veronicaho August 1st 2010


Hi Behnam,

Exactly because of what you are saying, "There is a big difference between you--as a
representative sample of westerners, and me--as a sample of Muslims. I am a religious
person, whereas you are not. This difference makes discussion very difficult, as if we are
speaking in two different languages" we need to RESPECT the differences.

About the religion. We to in Western countries was lived out of what God said many
hundred years ago but we are not doing this anymore. We are Christians but we are not
living from the writhings in Bible.
Just try to respect our way of life. We are not worse than Muslims. We are just different.
And if you respect and want to see, learn and know about it...it is very interesting to know
about the differences.

Our way of living has change a lot through the last 100 years and it will change more in
the future. Thats normal here but not for you and we respect that!
Maybe also Islam will change a bit in the future, I don't know. I just can see many
Muslims in the Nordic area which has change their livings to an more open and more
civil living. Our way of living. I don't know why but maybe they have found something
good from our ways of living. There must be reasons to why many Muslims also are
moving to Europe.

Why do you always compare to USA? We are Europeans and not USA. Between this
countries are also big differences. We are a very tolerant, maybe a romantic people (as
you said) who trying to live our life together whit many different cultures and we want
peace! From the statistic is Europe a very low criminal area and with small criminal
problems if you compare to USA, South Africa and also Middle East.

I don't want to talk about men's and womens sexual drive (I don't know the word) but I
can't let it be without to say that. Men and women have the same needs to sex and women
wants sex as men. The differences are how we show it!! (compare to as example rape as
some men doing but not many women) This is so much studied and big researches has
been done.

Oh my God which soup this has become of my simply question :((

Have a nice day,

Veronica

tsunnieside August 1st 2010


Hi Veronica, I was going through the conversation between you and someone about
www.theenglishforum.com. I wanted to try the online live discussion first. I was amazed
with the experience. These people are so friendly. You learn english without any fee in a
very good atmosphere and get to talk. I got a personal feedback from them as well. Really
good. that guy was right. try it. Also add me to your friend list. My id is
vluvsunny@gmail.com Hope to join you at TEF.

behnam August 1st 2010


Hi Veronica,

I do respect your views and those differences. However, having respect for someone's
views does not necessarily mean to agree with him/her blindly.

You should know, I have said, "Some men (not all men) from other places travel to
Europe for free sex(love)". I didn't say European men...Please notice!

I like all countries in the world. In particular, I love Canada, Swiss, Australia, Denmark,
Finland, Sweden, Norway, and Netherlands. I love Finland very much. However, the
story between my country and the UK is something else. You may not know what I mean.
I dislike speaking about political issues.

Islam is religion of affection and kindness, but unfortunately bad actions and deeds of
some Muslims and some political propaganda, on the other hand, have made it many far
from God's purpose.

Veronica, God belongs to all people, not just to Muslims. Actions are important. I have
said many times that no matter where an individual lives and what religion s/he has.
Actions matter! If someone's deeds are according to the philosophy of life, s/he is a good
person.

Islam is religion of love and kindness, if Behnam's actions reflect something else, it is
Behnam's fault. All I am saying is that we should not blame religions, but some
misunderstanding people or people who misuse them.

Kind Veronica, thank you very much for introducing that wonderful topic. Please think of
this question carefully: Why is it common to say some negative things about Iran these
days? What is the policy behind it? Hockney, it is a dirty action of some dirty politicians.
They are going to kill some sinless children and women, so they are making the world
ready to accept this wild action. They want to make you believe that Iranian people are
some terrorist and barbaric, so they should die!

Swear to God, nobody is stoned these days. Don't believe such dirty political
propaganda.

Islam is the religion of love and affection, and Iranian people are civilized and cultured.
There is no need to mention this fact over and over again.

It seems that there is a conflict between Materialism and Islam. Islam is not for us. Its
owner--God--will protect it properly. Maybe Materialism will win. Who knows. Time will
tell which of them is the real winner.

Veronica, I love you very much.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 August, 2010

Clare August 1st 2010


Hi Behnam

Veronica has already said much of what I would say to you as a reply, so I won't repeat it
all here.

I used the word "barbaric" to mean "unnecessarily cruel" (I don't think the Greek history
of the word is relevant here), It's a word we use to describe punishments that - to us -
seem far too physically cruel and which have no place in a modern society. Stoning is an
example of this. As I said, for Europeans this is highly shocking, and barbaric - as in the
sense of excessively cruel punishment. The fact that it happens in public is even worse.
People go and see this for entertainment? They enjoy watching men throwing rocks at a
woman and seeing her killed? You're right - I don't understand how anyone could think
this was acceptable, let alone appropriate. This is shocking to all Europeans, not just me,
by the way. I don't think you'll find anyone who has been brought up in western culture
who'll say that they think it's appropriate.

I know that this form of punishment is used in some Islamic countries - but not in all.
Does that mean that different people / countries have different interpretations of Islam? I
think this is the case. Which would therefore mean that Islam - like all religions as far as
I know - has no one universal truth or interpretation. What is law in Iran isn't necessarily
law in Syria, or Algeria, for example. So who's right? Is your God who allows such
puniishment right, or is another Muslim's God (who doesn't allow such punishment)
right?

This is a philosophical question, perhaps, but I thnk we're getting into the territory that -
regardless of religion - people have different interpretations. For example, the Bible
stories of Sodom and Gomorrah are used by fundamentalist Christians to protest against
homosexuality, while less fundamentalist Christians ignore them. Why? Because they
believe that a merciful and loving God doesn't care about how a person loves, but the
capacity of that person to love another.

Because there are so many different interpretations, and also so many similarities
between religions, I think this is the reason that our laws are not based on religion. My
belief is that a person can be "good" (take Veronica as an example of someone who does
her job with such love and humanity, or Mohsen who comes across in his posts as
someone who has great faith and tries to live his life according to the writings in the
Koran) and what similarities do you see? That they are "good" no matter what their
religion or their personal beliefs. It's their humanity that unites them, not their religion.
So in a society like ours in the UK, with many people of different religions (and many of
no religion!) living side by side, our laws are civil in nature. The fundamental thing
underlying them is respect for each other as fellow humans. And that means respect for
you no matter what your religion, skin colour, gender or sexuality is. And you know
what? Living side by side with people who are different to us is generally seen as an
exciting, valuable thing - we don't try to make everyone think or behave like us. Another
fundamental idea in UK society - that you have complete freedom (i.e. rights) to behave
as you want, provided that you don't break the law, or, for example, irritate your
neighbours. So I can't play loud rock music to all hours in the morning, even though rock
music is allowed.

I don't think my society or history is particularly "golden" as you say. I think it's
important to try and describe and explain it because culture is so important to language.
There are plenty of instances of colonialism, empire-building, invasion etc etc that
tarnish the reputation of the UK. However, I can't think of a single country that doesn't
have a "skeleton in the cupboard", as we say. But on the other hand, the UK is not such a
bad place to live. People are tolerant, polite and usually hard-working. It's safe, with not
much crime, and respect for the laws. It's not as easy now to get a good, well-paid job,
but it's still the first choice of many asylum seekers and refugees. So not perfect, perhaps
not very "exciting", but a place where you can live your life quietly without interference
or hassle.
I don't know much about the Cyrus Cylinder, but found this on wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cyrus_Cylinder
It would seem that this is a bit of a political dispute between the UK and Iran - perhaps a
matter for the Culture Ministers to sort out.

At this point, I've said everything I want to. I've tried to explain why I think I do, so that if
you ever do get to visit the UK you can better understand people and how they act. But I
also want to stop writing in this thread to allow others to also give their opinions and to
practise their writing.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

aminsb August 1st 2010


Dear Ghazal
How are things with you?
Thank you for your attention.I'm delighted that you are agree with my opinion.
you asked me to introduce myself.
I'm from Isfahan,27 years old,I'm a telecommunication engineering.I wish to take up my
education in west countries.
About my picture!He is my cousin's son.He is 7 months old.his name is Hirad.
I love babies like you.I've seen dreams for two or three times that I had a baby :D
yes I was as a dad in my cute dream.it was so fantastic.I'd like to learn him/her every
thing I know,even more.
would you imagine when a baby hold your finger:D with a soft body,so innocent.s/he
tries eat every thing that is reachable.
if you put yourself in her/his shoes you could find everything comestible.haha!!
I hope to keep contacting.
best wishes.
Amin.

metzean August 1st 2010


Dear Veronic and Clare

People who believe in Islam are not allowed to pick some rules and omit the others,
although it is common among some people to do this. For example alcohol is forbidden,
it is not something to interpret ,frankly it was mentioned in Quran ,but there are some
Muslim people who drink alcohol ,even you may see that the king of Saudi Arabia and
Gorge Bush drinking Alcohol together ,they are pseudo Muslim. So the Islamic main laws
have not different interpretation ,and people sometime deliberately ignore some rules.

About adultery, for a women who is alleged an adultery, it needs some firm documents to
accuse her for . it needs two witnesses in the court ,two witnesses who testify that they
were in the scene and watch everything ,it is not enough to see that a nude male and
female are in the bed and play with each other ,the witnesses should have seen the
copulation by their own eyes ,so you see it is not possible to prove an adultery in the
court. It is hardly possible that two person commit adultery in presence of two witnesses

You wrote that a woman who committed adultery with consensual agreement is innocent
,it is her right and it is her instinct . the homosexuals also have their own rights ,because
it is base on their instinct and consensual agreement. If a modern society wants to extend
these sinful relatives to somewhere that brothers and sisters ,fathers and daughters ,sons
and mothers have sex with each other with a consensual agreement and this is an instinct
and their right ,what would happen then ,Do you think that values in human society have
been declined to a level lower than animal society. Is it belong to pre-barbaric time when
there was no rule in the societies ?

B.Wishes,
Mohsen
736

sahand August 1st 2010


Hi Ghazal

How is life going on ?

Long time no see, I miss you !

Michael Jackson ?! I guess people call him King of Pop out there !!! (not rock) He is
actually, an artist. I love him while dancing ... not singing.

These days it's common to use motion capture for CG animation, where a human being is
wired up with little motion sensors which record their movement and translate it into
movement on-screen. So a lot of computerized animations are based on real life
movements anyway ! It's just that Michael Jackson had a whole lot of dance training and
was pretty gifted to start with ! The human body is capable of truly surprising feats of
grace and movement - just look up a You Tube video of those Shaolin monks strutting
their stuff. It's really, really impressive what people can do if they put time and effort into
achieving it !
Michael moved just like a computerized animation. No human can do that. I have never
seen dancing like Michael Jackson's. He was born talented. Plus with all the practice he
did. His talent and practice made perfection.

He was amazing, cuz he was raised to reach the never land !

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely,
Sahand

behnam August 2nd 2010


Hi Clare,

Thank you very much for following the discussion.

You are right. There are some different interpretation on of the Islamic rules. However, it
doesn't mean that there are different versions of Islam in the world. Suppose Islam is
ranged from 0 to 100. Some people--like Behnam--are 0 in terms of acting according to
Islamic rules, some are 40, or 60 percent of some people's actions are--maybe--in
conformity with Islam, and so on.

Dear Clare, I am quite sure that your field of studying is not science, because you often
don't deal with subjects in a scientific way. How are you sure about stoning women by
men in public? What has made you so sure about it, whereas there is no stoning in Iran?
You have written: "...the affair is a symptom - not a cause - of the bigger difficulties in the
relationship." Why do you insist on this wrong statement? Don't you know wrong
assumption leads to wrong results?

Why don't you study enough to realise that some people are instinctively aggressive, so
rehabilitation is useless for them?

If we rely on some information that we get from the media, we won't be able to judge
fairly. It is not fair to trust the media completely and rely on some fake news, and then
judge on some important issues such as humanity, Islam, Christianity, etc. We should
think; we should use our brains' cells.

I believe, just being a native English speaker, or writing in English perfectly is not
sufficient for judging about some serious and important subjects. We should burn the
candle at both ends, in order to be able to speak about important matters effectively. Yes,
we have freedom of expression. We are free to speak; to express our ideas, but there is a
world difference between speaking effectively and just moving mouth to say something.
Almost all people speak and make speech, but a few of them speak effectively like
Winston Churchill. Obviously, we cannot be like Winston Churchill, but we can be a
good listener and learner!

All in all, thank you for reading, cooperation, and participation. Thank you for running
this powerful site. I have learned many English words and expressions from you, thank
you for teaching me. Sometimes, I take things so seriously, and then behave unkindly. You
should know, I am a very kind person in the real life. :):):):):):):)

My mind maybe is biased towards some beliefs. I don't mean that I am always right, but I
do mean I have taken a lot of attempts and efforts in analysing things scientifically. I
have worked my fingers to the bone to have a scientific outlook on life.

Dear Clare, please do not get mad at me, although my posts seem unfriendly these days. I
do apologise to you for causing any sort of inconvenience.

You have written that you won't write anymore. It is sad to hear that you have decided to
stop writing. Please continue writing if you have time, because honestly speaking, it is a
great honour for me to read your posts. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 2 August, 2010

dentistebru August 2nd 2010


Hello dear Behnam and Kamelia,
How are you my friends? I hope both of you fine and healty.

Dear Behnam, I couldnt hear from you and write to you for a long time.I hope you haven
t forgotten me:) How is going with you? Has your computer fixed ? If it hasnt yet, I hope
you will fix it soon and we can see your post more often:):)

Dear Kamelia, how are you my friend? I hope you are always fine and healty.
You like old yellow sheet.. Well:)) I think pictures on this papers look like antique. You
are really high-brow person.

Kamelia your nickname is bluegreen. Is that a special meaning? Or only you like these
colours?

Your posts make me happy, too. Thank you

Hope to hearing from you ( both of you:) soon


Ebru
behnam August 2nd 2010
Hi Ebru,

How life is going? I hope all is well with you. Many thanks for message.

My computer was stopped working. Its power supply was damaged. I changed it with a
second-hand power supply. Now, it works, but it is not reliable. I have to buy a new
power supply, or maybe a new computer.

I am writing regularly. In fact, I have written quite long posts. It seems that you don't
follow the discussion. If you checked the pages, you would find some interesting posts
about an interesting topic.

Please try to write regularly. Your friendly posts make me extremely happy.

Hope to hear more from you.


Behnam, 2 August, 2010

poooz August 3rd 2010


hiiiiiii evry1

behnam I like yr writing a lot


i liked yr writing in which you mentioned active n passive vocab
I'm new, so how cn i participate in this thread.
i really wanna improve my writing as well as comm skills.

behnam August 3rd 2010


Hi Poooz (I am not sure about using this word as your name, but I haven't got other
choice. So sorry if I use this word improperly.),

Thank you very much for the message. Welcome to this thread.

It seems that you have seen the first page of this thread. One of the drawbacks of this site-
-as a friend of us have said before--is giving the oldest posts for the first click on 'lets'
learn together!'. I think, putting the newest posts on the first page has got several
advantages over putting the oldest posts on the first page.

However, I feel Clare is not on speaking terms with me, so she won't change the feature
of the site. :):):):):):):):) On top of that 'beggars can't be choosers!', so we should take it
as it comes. :):):):):)

I am not sure whether you will see this post or not. Nevertheless, I hope you manage to
find the last posts.

Would you please tell us a little bit more about yourself?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 3 August, 2010

Veronicaho August 3rd 2010


Hi Behnam,

I hope you are fine and healty. I left you alone for some day for a rest but now I have a
new question :)) But first I will be happy if you will explain few things for me.

You wrote to me to think about why it is common to say some negative things about Iran
today. What is the policy...
I really dont understand your question, sorry! Who say negative things? Nobody do that
what I know! Why should the rest of the world speak dirty things about Iran?? Not more
than what it is speaking about other countries. At newspaper, internet, tv and so on we
get information and news from all over the world. To be honest, it isn't so often I hear
about Iran at the news.

If you are thinking about some "stoning story" and news about that...then I'm really sorry
to say that I don't think you have right about what you wrote about stoning these days.
That you "swear to God that nobody is stoned these days"

As I told you before have an Iranian women, Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani , get an
punishment by stoning. Please Behnam...go in to this adress and read. I know this is not a
"news site" because it's facebook. But there you can see many links as government from
many countries have wrote to Iran.
http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Save-Sakineh-Mohammadi-Ashtiani-from-being-
Stoned-to-Death-in-Iran-by-Donya-Jam/123908540984923
In Stockholm has also Iranian ambassador spoken about this women. And I dont think he
lying. He can't lie in his position.

My new question Behnam is.

You wrote to Clare that "there are some different interpretation on of the Islamic rules.
However, it doesn't mean that there are different versions of Islam in the world. Suppose
Islam is ranged from 0 to 100. Some people--like Behnam--are 0 in terms of acting
according to Islamic rules, some are 40, or 60 percent of some people's actions are--
maybe--in conformity with Islam, and so on".

Can you please explain for me, who decides how much Muslim you are or should be? Is it
government, your family, father or.... ? Can you yourself decide how much?
Are there different penalties depending of how much Muslim you are?

You said that some president or King (I don't remember which or who) sometimes
drinking alcohol when they are meeting although that is prohibited for a Muslim. How
can they do that? Shouldn't they lead as a real and good Muslim? Can they do that
because their position or that they are men? Have you ever seen some women done the
same?

This is really difficult to understand. And...who can say what you can violate to? Can
someone, sometimes drinking alcohol, driving to red light, go without hijab, be
unfaithful.....? Who will tell which one is worst or what you can do...and who can?

What should happen with me if I came there? It is always very important for me "to take
the custom where I came" (I hope you also use this sentence).
Of course I should use Hijab and Abaya (?) but what should be possible for me to do?
Could I take a glas of wine to my dinner, speaking to who I want, going with taxi alone....
Should it be possible to meet you there at some cafe, or should that make problem for
you? To meet a married women at some cafe? So I know if we can take a coffee if I
coming there some day Behnam :)))

Now you get something to think about again :)))


Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

elham_z August 3rd 2010


Hi dearest Veronica,

Oh thank you soooo much for doing that favor for me and sending your really nice
pictures to me. I am so sorry, since I had to give my deep thanks to you sooner.

The first picture was of your really really really sweet granddaughter. I couldn't take my
eyes off her. And it also goes for your grandson too. I can guess how much you love them.
You should be so happy having such treasures.

Oh those pictures of your house and that lovely view of it, oh particularly the one taken
from those really beautiful birds, were fantastic. You had taken really nice pictures of
them. I specially loved the one which was taken while they were flying. Your house is
placed in an awesome land full of picturesque sceneries. Good for you for having such
peaceful place to have some time free there and relax.

You had also sent me a picture of your younger daughter, Hana right? Say hello to her
and tell her that Elham has said you are so lucky having such a lovely mother, tell her
Elham has said remember not to bother my sweet friend otherwise Elham comes there
and ..... , :):):):):):) I am kidding, I am sure she is as kind and nice girl as her mother,
Veronica.

Thank you for that picture of you with your family and friend, sitting at table, eating and
drinking. Honestly saying, I envied them for spending time there with such a beautiful,
kind you.

Thank you once again from bottom of my heart, I LOVED YOUR PICTURES.

Accept this sincere * kiss* from me,


Elham

Veronicaho August 3rd 2010


Hi Clare,

Hope you are fine and healty! I really like and agree with your writings and I learn a lot
of English from them. Please don't stop write at this thread!
Clare...you can't leave me alone with all those Muslim men...they will eat me up....slowly
:)) (Joking Behnam) I need you!

Veronica

Veronicaho August 3rd 2010


Hi Ghazal,

Hope you are fine and thanks for your post. You are studying English litteratur, very
interesting. Where do you would like to work? Have you many years left at University?
You asked me about myself. What should I tell you? I'm a Nurse practitioner, work at
hospital in an medical unit. I really like my work but I will go to London for work to see
how they working there. Thats why I need to learn more English. Especially grammar
which a have very difficult with. They are not the same as in my native language swedish.

I living in Finland but on an Island between Finland and Sweden. This Island is self-
independent. We have our own flag, stamps and government. We speak only swedish
although everybody in Finland speak finish. I depends on that we belongs to Sweden 100
years ago.

I'm married and have 3 children. The oldest is a daughter, 28 years wihich is married
and have 2 small children. So I'm a grandmother too!!!! The middle is a son wo is 24
years. He have a girlfriend and living in their own apartment with a dog. My youngest
daughter is Hanna, she is 13 years. A small lady!
These days I have holiday and I spending my time at our summer house...trying to get
more energy in my batteries :))

I'm very interested in other cultures and religion and I think you can see that in what I
write. I like travelling and we are every years for a travel in winter time. Last year we
was to Malaysia and Thailand. I don't know for next year yet.

That was a bit of me and my life, now I really want to know more about you:)

Veronica
737

Veronicaho August 3rd 2010


Hi Elham,

So nice that you likes the picture. Now you have a picture of my and my family in your
head :) But me too, I would like to have a picture of you too...
Anyway...Thanks a lot for your e-mail card! It was so beautiful! I'v seen and listen on it
many times :))
Time is late here and I'm a bit tired so I finish here, but I will write a longer letter to you
soon..

Veronica

behnam August 4th 2010


Hi Veronica,

Oh my God! Lots of difficult questions! You spent months with Mohsen on a ship. It was a
golden opportunity for you to get the answer of your tricky questions from a professional
person like Mohsen, but I guess you have spent your time on doing other things. Poor
Behnam! People enjoy their happy time with others, but refer to you when they have got
some difficult questions.:):):):):):):):):):) (I am joking honey.)
First of all, I should repeat that Sakineh Ashtiyani has not been stoned yet, but she has
been accused of committing adultery. You should know, in Islamic rules, it is very
difficult to prove that someone has committed adultery. For example, 4 people must
witness it. It rarely happens someone commits adultery in front of 4 eye witnesses. Please
notice carefully!

There has been widespread debate over it. Even the general public disagree with it. I
have said that I personally agree, because I believe some people are instinctively
aggressive. There is no way to rehabilitate them. I often call those aggressive people--
who commit serious crimes--some dry and fruitless branches of a tree. We should cut
them down, because they are dry and ill. The tree is in danger of becoming ill, if we keep
those ill branches! (Please note carefully that in this analogy, the tree is the society.) You
might say, "Behnam, there are such dry branches in our tree too, but we never cut them,
and our tree is still alive and produce good fruits." You are right. However, nobody can
claim that the tree is OK. and will be OK forever. Are you sure about the everlasting
longevity of the tree? Let me give you an example. In some countries, the population is
decreasing. Those countries are likely endangered societies. There are many reasons why
this fact is going to happen. However, according to some scientists, one of the main
reasons is removing family and its values from the society.

All in all, dear Veronica, nobody can say how many years the tree will be alive and will
produce fruits! Please note carefully. Wise people always think of the future of the tree
and worry about it.

About your questions, I should say I am an ordinary person. I don't know the precise
answers. However, I would like to write my own idea about them.

Let's make an analogy between a university and Islam, just in order to make some points
clear for you. You may register and take an entrance exam to enter a university and
become a student at it. Similarly, someone says "I believe in the only God. I believe that
Mohammad is his messenger." By saying these two sentences, the person becomes
Muslim. We call him/her a Muslim, as we call the former person a student. Clear? I hope
so!

Being a student is not enough. S/he should study hard to receive degrees. There are
different people at the university with different degrees and different amount of
knowledge. Similarly, being a Muslim is not enough. There are different people in a
Islamic society with different levels of actions according to Islamic rules.

Students and their levels are judged by marks they get in different exams. Their degrees
are given according to their abilities in taking and passing the courses. However, we
cannot judge about the rightness of someone's actions. Nobody can judge unless God.
Therefore, we cannot give degrees for Muslims. God will judge about all people on
judgment day. What we say about people's actions are some guesses. In fact, we take
guesses. However, we can judge about wrongness of someone's actions easily, because
there are some explicit instructions and rules, regardless of our own guesses. We just
follow rules and laws to control human beings' aggression and the criminality in the
society.

Therefore, the answer of these questions: "Can you please explain for me, who decides
how much Muslim you are or should be? Is it government, your family, father or.... ? Can
you yourself decide how much?" in short is NOBODY can judge unless God.

2) Are there different penalties depending of how much Muslim you are? No, there aren't.
People are the same. There is no superiority and preference in Islam. However, as all
societies, powerful people use their power to run away from the laws. Some people justify
their actions easily. Some people consider themselves sacred and holy. It is (and has
been) one of the biggest drawbacks of all Islamic societies.

3) You said that some president or King (I don't remember which or who) sometimes
drinking alcohol when they are meeting although that is prohibited for a Muslim. How
can they do that? Shouldn't they lead as a real and good Muslim? Can they do that
because their position or that they are men? Have you ever seen some women done the
same?

Drinking any types of wine is explicitly forbidden by God in the holy Koran. Therefore,
nobody should drink wine. However, some people drink it. It doesn't mean that those
people aren't Muslim. It is like failing in an exam. We cannot sack a student from the
university for failing in an examination.

4) This is really difficult to understand. And...who can say what you can violate to? Can
someone, sometimes drinking alcohol, driving to red light, go without hijab, be
unfaithful.....? Who will tell which one is worst or what you can do...and who can? So
sorry, but I didn't understand this question.

5) What should happen with me if I came there? It is always very important for me "to
take the custom where I came" (I hope you also use this sentence).
Of course I should use Hijab and Abaya (?) but what should be possible for me to do?
Could I take a glas of wine to my dinner, speaking to who I want, going with taxi alone....
Should it be possible to meet you there at some cafe, or should that make problem for
you? To meet a married women at some cafe? You should just cover your head with a
piece of clothes. You shouldn't put your body uncovered unless your feet and hands. You
will be free to drink wine, to take taxi, to go shopping, to do whatever you are allowed to
do in Finland. I will meet you wherever you say. I will even shake hands with you,
because we are allowed to touch ladies' who aren't Muslim. At least, I will shake hands
with you. :):):):):):):):):), but don't kiss me in public, and don't let me kiss you too.
:):):):):):):):)

You will receive great respect from all people. You will be treated with respect. People
will be friendly with you, even more friendly than Finish people. I am sure about
it.:):):):):):)
I have no time to check this post again. Please forgive me for making many mistakes.

Thank you fro reading. I hope that helps. If there is unclear points yet, please let me
know.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 August, 2010

behnam August 4th 2010


Dear Voronica,

....In public--when there are other men--you shouldn't put your body uncovered unless
your feet, face and hands.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 August, 2010

upgrade August 4th 2010


hey,behnam.my email is shenxiaoyu1994@yahoo.cn
and my skype is shenxiaoyu1994
i'd like to talk with you because your crazy about english

elham_z August 4th 2010


Hi Kamelia,
thank you for your kindness towards me,

How are you doing these days? I guess I'v been feeling blue and down these days so I
was not that energetic to write; What about you? I don't see you active as well. Do you
follow the hot discussion between Behnam, Veronica, Clare and Mohsen too? Maybe like
me you just prefer to read their writings. You know I think I am not enough old and
sophisticated to participate in such discussions, I like reading, thinking and learning. I
think Behnam and Mohsen are so opinionated and I really enjoy their writings as true
representative of Muslims here. we'd better be silent and learn.

Oh honey, let me tell you about something interesting and at the same time frightening
happened to me today. I was alone at home sitting at the computer reading Behnam's
post while doorbell rang. It was a woman at the door asked me if my mom is at home. I
got that she has come to propose for her boy. There was no any other alternative to go to
door. I went but Kami (Cheshmet ruze bad nabine dokhtar), she killed me with her eyes. I
was melting in shame while she was looking at me that way. She was coming to my eyes.
Actually she had come for my sister, at first she thought I am the oldest girl, but
immediately I got the point and explained that I am not the one you think. But she was
still staring at me in that really frightening way. I was ashamed and angry at the same
time. I thought with myself that I have to be thankful that she has come for someone else,
what if I was the objective? Any way, I convinced her that she has to go and come when
my mom is at home. I was dying actually. But she still was standing at door looking at
me, finally she said : What about you yourself, Don't you marry? Woof, I was going mad
with her. Any way I made him leave there kindly and with those fake smiles on my face.
Guess what? I came here again to read the rest while I heard the doorbell again. This
time there were tow of them, don't you believe that they were coming upstairs. I just said
Oh sorry my mom is not home. Again they looked at me as much as they could and left
the home. This time I was absolutely angry. How inconsiderate some people are! I think I
am going to have a conflict with my sister when she comes home. Why should I be
exposed to those scary looks while some one else wants to marry.:):):):):):):):):)

I said the entire story to say my feeling now. Oh I thought if someday one of these women
comes to our home with her boy for me? It is better for us to live here safe and soundly in
peace along with our caring parents. ( Bekhoda!) (LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL)

Honey it seems to be such a horrible and breathtaking experience. God helps us that
day.)))))))

Ok my sister came, let me go have my conflict:):):):):):)

Please write to me more,


Elham

behnam August 4th 2010


Hi again Veronica,

I was in a hurry when I posted in the morning. I wrote your name with incorrect spelling.
Please forgive me.

There are many mistakes in my post. I hope those mistakes won't prevent you from getting
the main points.

I read your post to Clare. I couldn't understand this sentence: "Clare...you can't leave me
alone with all those Muslim men...they will eat me up....slowly" What do you mean? Do
you think Muslim men eat women? :):):):):):):) Of course, I like eating women, but not
...:):):):):):):):) Don't you know that Behnam is a naughty man?

Don't worry, I won't eat you completely, because I often eat just a little bit meat.
:):):):):):):):):):):):) hehehehehehe.
I am only kidding. Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 August, 2010

behnam August 4th 2010


Hi Elham,

Which day do you expect God to help you? :):):):):):):):) That's a nice paraying, but I
think you should say it on a proper day, not on a day some people meet you at your home.
:):):):):):)

Please take participate in discussing. I am sure your points would be interesting.

Your posts are lovely, and I love reading them.

Hope to read more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 4 August, 2010

elham_z August 4th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Seem like you are on a very naughty mood today!!! Boy you were causing my death,
guess how? I purred a cup of tea took a chocolate and came to check the thread. I was
drinking that hot tea with that sweet chocolate in my mouth when I saw your post to me.
Reading it I forgot all about all that chocolate and tea and burst to laughter, guess the
rest. I am still coughing. Then I read yours to Veronica, wow that was actually worse.
Any way we are alike in term of making people laugh, let's shake hands (Oh but be
careful my hands are not that strong, they might harm :):):):) ) . But the difference is that
I make them laugh in a girlish, gentle way, while you make them laugh while their face
are burnt in shame, in a manly funny way.:):):):):):):):):)

Dear Behnam , in this age, I really prefer to be silent now about these sensitive topics,
But you are doing a great job. Without exaggerating, I am proud of having such a
knowledgeable assertive friend. That last analogy between university and Islam was a
proper wise choice by you. In my idea it seems that you have a good understanding about
Islam rules. I really enjoy reading your posts and learn from.

But if you love my posts and like me to write more please give me easy topics and
motivation to write more. Something that little poor Elham can have ideas about.

Hope to read from you soon,

All the best,


Elham

setayesh August 4th 2010


To dear friends,

Behnam,Elham,Mohsen,Veronica,Kamelia,Ghazal,Rosa,Marinaa,and all other people


who knows me in some way or other.

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii there!:):)

This is Setayesh, has recently come back to the let's learn together garden after a long
time absence. Wow!!!!! How many pages have been written during this period, how can I
read them all:( Poor me!

All through my absence although I couldn?t even check the thread even once, all my
heart and mind were full of you thoughts.

Dear Behnam, It?s so nice that I see you keep this place alive, thank God it?s not mine,
because if it was mine, it would be destroyed at the end of the first week by my weak
perseverance. If we have found many good friends here and kept our friendship going all
is because of you so all of us owe you and your perseverance somehow. There are many
happy and sad stories behind my long time absence, putting sad ones aside, if you be a
good boy I may tell you good ones:):):) Sorry that I left here without saying anything.

Dear Elham, I feel terribly sorry to keep you waiting. I?ve read your nice post which was
full of nice questions, if you don?t say it?s soooooooo late and you don?t tend to know my
answers anymore, I?m going to answer them all as my next post. Honestly speaking, I
was not on a trip. I?ll tell you the story :):);):):)

Dear Mohsen, How are you my old friend? I hope all is well with you in Isfahan. Your
city is one of the nice ones in my family?s eyes; one of nicest cousin is berried in there.
He was a young brave soldier how died in the Iraq_Iran war.

Dear Veronica, Long time no see!!!! How are you honey? I?m so happy to see you again.
To be honest with you I?ve just read 2 recent pages of thread, very happy to see that the
majority of the posts were somehow related to you. Honey, your words are somehow
smelly, do you afraid of coming to Iran? Come on! Don?t worry everything is safe here.
These days I have some guests from Europe, they have taken some Europeans with
themselves, they?re really enjoying here. I promise you will enjoy too if you come:-*

Dear Kamelia, How are you my lovely friend? How?s your summer? I hope you enjoy all
your moment of holidays.

Dear Ghazal, How is it going? You are back from your nice trip! Hope your pilgrimage
to be accepted by God.

Dear Rosa, my lovely Spanish friend, the winner of World Cup!!! When I ran over the
thread I found your tracks through previous pages. Where were you? Please some time
think about your friend here. Your absence is so difficult to bear for us. I?ve missed you a
lot honey:-*

My dear nice sophisticated friend, Marina! Very pleasure to see some post from you in
here. I?m so happy that you come back to your home again. All friends can confirm the
best days that this thread has had was the ones that Marina was active in. So, PLEASE!
Don?t leave here and your friends, we all need your thoughtful ideas.

Hope to hear from you all

All the best


Setayesh,4 August, 2010

Bluegreen August 4th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Hi honey. You don't know how happy I got when I saw your post and the answer to my
questions. You had answered them pretty nicely and simply as I could feel every single of
your sentences. Thank you so much for the lovely post.
Oh so you do have a rabbit? Is that right? God knows how much I love them. When you
just go over to catch one of them as calmly as you can they jump even faster than before
and when you manage to keep one of them firmly in your hands you can easily feel their
heart beats on your finger tips. Isn't it lovely? But I do not keep them more than some
minutes in my hands because I'm afraid that I might scare them or frighten them. So in
order not to harm them I set them free as soon as I can. Have you got any pets at home?
If yes what is it?
Dear Veronica, I know it's late to answer your lovely post but you were busy discussing
some matters with Dear Behnam and I just didn't want to interrupt you and him.
Meanwhile I kept reading those mutual posts and couldn't stop myself following that nice
discussion.
Now about your job, I think now I know whatever I wanted to know. Here's a little
judgment about your character. LOL. I think you've got a pretty delicate soul. I found
that out when I read that you sometimes even cry along with patients' families. You must
be really responsible towards your work. Good for your patients. They must love you.
Now you asked me about my family, well, my dad's got a free job actually a kind of
business and my mom's a teacher. I bet you know how teachers grow up their children.
LOOOL. We are four people living together. That's me, my little 17 years old sister and
my parents.
Mom is mostly into rules and discipline. She believes in being neat and clean and
programming for every work we're going to do. She's much into participating in every
chore. So the manager at home is my mom. LOL
Dad's much in to taking everything easy, he doesn't care much about doing everything
neat and clean but he always advises us " Do as your mother says, she knows what she's
doing" That's it.

Well, I think as I explained the matter you are imagining a kind of army group in here. :))
:)) But it's not it. She's really kind as always takes care of everything. She always handles
the whole responsibility but just wants us to help her.
Sweet Veronica, in the past most moms used to work at home and just take care of
children but nowadays women are mostly participating in outdoor chores and working
outside of home. In the past women were mostly teachers and nurses if they chose to work
somewhere but now on they're trying to take part even in the works that meant to be for
men. For example there's this teacher of my sister, she's about 45 and she has done the
whole work of welding of her house.
Well, we're seeing more of these actions in these years.

Again thank you for answering those bunches of questions from me, LOOL
Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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Bluegreen August 4th 2010


Dear Sahand,

Hi there. How is it going on with you? Hope you're doing all fine Mr. Music maniac!
LOL
Dear Friend, I'm really getting to wonder why everyone around me faces my age like
that. Don't I really look 19? Or is it really the compliment's matter? Hope it's not the
second one. But thank you anyway.
Now about that managing to write four or five posts together that might be a little joshing
toward me. LOOL. Well you know, I read them all and when I decide to write about them
it's like I wait for a couple of my friends to write to me and then I gather all of them
together and post them all at once. Oh and this is not always the way I follow, it actually
happens mostly during the time I spend in my hometown because I get to do a whole lot
of things everyday so it's sometimes really hard to focus and write although I LOVE
writing here.

About music, well I really confess that I don't know much as you do, but I just know that
I'm a fan of piano and daf. They both make me crazy with their melodies once they are
played. About my favorite stars, I really don't know what to say. Once I wrote a post to
dear Ebru and said that there's not really a singer which I really love. There are a couple
of people I like their voice. The thing mostly happens is that, I must like the music itself
and it really doesn't matter who the singer is.

Oh you mentioned something about Fender, I never really had heard of it. Would you
mind talking about that? Wow and you teach Guitar? Right? How many students have
you got? How old are they? How do you manage to teach them all and then practice for
yourself meanwhile? It must be hard.
I'm so sorry if the questions are too much.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 4th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hiii. How are you? What a lovely thing to read from you soon.
Why don't you try writing regularly when you can make your friend Kamelia this much
happy? Please take part in every discussion that comes up?
Dear Ebru, you're right about how the papers would look like. They'll look so antique
and that's exactly the look which I want my paintings to have. You see, those papers do
have great qualities which give you the confidence that you can keep your deeds forever.
This gives me a good feeling; moreover, there's this elegant view you get out of them.

Now about this blue green, well, my name wasn't supposed to be this blue green. It was
supposed to be the name of a kind of blue greenish stone which can be found under the
seas and it's used mostly in jewelry works. I really love them although they are not my
month's stone LOOL. You know each month has a certain stone. Right?
I couldn't sign in to this website with that name due to some errors and failures then I
asked Dear Behnam to give me a hand in this and I simply chose the name Blue Green!
That's it.
Honey I know it's a bit weird but at that time I was really tired to choose any other name
which was my favorite too. Oh your question reminded me of colors. Actually blue and
green are my favorite colors especially when they are in their bright version. They are a
symbol of piece and calm nature for me.
Have we ever talked about colors? What do you think of them? I bet as you?ll be working
with white teeth in the future then you might like the white color. LOOOL.I was just
kidding. Do you think that our taste in colors represent any aspect of our characteristics?
Do you think they reflect our mentalities?
I might bore you with my questions but I like to know what others think of colors.
Please write to me soon and often and I promise to answer soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 4th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hi there honey. How's everything going on? Oh come on, in the blues? How can this
energetic Eli be in the blues? I'm so glad you're feeling better.
About my absence, well I've explained that in the summer I mostly wait for some of my
friends to write to me and then I answer to or three of them at once. You know in the
holidays there are lots of things to do at home and in the meantime I've got lots of classes
to participate in and that makes me envy you in being so punctual in writing to our
friends here.LOOOL
Honey, how can someone be on this thread and not follow Dear Behnam's discussions
with others? I learn a lot from Dear Behnam, Dear Clare, Dear Veronica and Dear
Mohsen. I like their discussions because they make me think deep inside of each culture.
There are lots of things I don't know about other countries and even ours. So I just prefer
to read along.
Dear Elham, you are totally different with me and as Dear Behnam says you can
participate in discussions. Come on! You are a thoughtful girl and your beliefs are strong
I think you can handle the discussions pretty well.

Wow about the story you told me, LOL, it is actually amazing of you to share it with me. I
laughed a lot while I was reading that. I was just imagining your gestures while facing
that woman. Oh and come on! What's wrong with suitors? You must be a beautiful girl
and you mustn?t be afraid of suitors. They might be wherever girl LOOOL
Honey, I was wondering how many sisters are you in your family because in case of
being a lot then you have to get familiar with these situations because you're going to
face them a lot. LOOOOL
Joking aside, I really know what you say. I hate these women who think they have to take
their sons away where ever they go and just God has made them mothers to see their sons
in the marriage suit or something. This is about a year ago when one of them had gone to
my best friend's house. She had just sit in a position right before my friends eyes and all
she had done there was to whisper and murmur on the back of my friends till the degree
that she told me she could hear them gossiping on her back! At the end when she wanted
to leave their house she had looked straight in my friend's eyes and told her ?You are too
thin to be my daughter-in-law" Just imagine this horrible sentence! Gosh, how cruel and
rude can someone be?
Have some of these happened for you and your friends? What would you do if you were
in her situation?

Dear Elham, I promise to be more active LOL and wish me the ability to keep my promise
for long, LOOOL

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 4th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Good things happen at once! Wow look whom have we got here! So glad that you?re
back again. I bet you have been so busy and you've got a lot to tell us right now. Is that
true?
At first I saw Dear Elham's post tonight because she was a little bit absent for some days
and now you! This is a wonderful event.
How are you spending your summer? How about the project you and one of your
professors were doing together? I wish that you're doing all fine.
My summer?s going on as usual. Reading books, participating some classes, going out
with friends oh and writing in here.
So, I'll be waiting impatiently for you to write,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

elham_z August 4th 2010


OHHHHHHHHHH, LOOK ,

Elham believe your eyes dear, yes they are reporting true news, they are right.
This is happy Elham who wants to express her profound happiness to her friends. I am
really excited to see most of us active now.

Dear Behnam has been so active these days writing a lot of EFFECTIVE writings, ( Dear
Behnam thanks a million once again for starting this thread and writing such lovely
posts.)

Dear nice Veronica the same way has participated in discussions actively; actually she
caused all these hot nice recent discussions. ( Dear Veronica from bottom of my heart I
want to say and accept this sincere thanks from me that your nice presence here is a very
motivating motivation for us to write, I have always said that you are FULL OF LIFE
and you transfer this positive energy to us all)

Dear Kamelia are some days off and suddenly she shows up with lots of PRETTY posts to
all of us.( Dear Kamelia your presence here is a real treasure, you are one of the most
beautiful flowers and at the meantime one of the most skillful gardeners of this garden.)

Dear Setayesh has eventually come back; she should explain us all that have gone with
her during her absence. (Dear Setayesh welcome back, I was waiting for you girl.)

Dear Clare once in a while shows up, livens up the discussions and makes us happy with
her writings as a native English speaker. ( Dear Clare we really enjoy reading your
posts, pleas make us happy more often .)

Dear Mohsen is like a free bird but his presence is truly crucial as second active man
here.( Dear Mohsen don't leave Behnam with all these beautiful women here alone, Of
course he himself enjoys it :):):):) but to balance the thread we need you more. please
write more.)

Dear Elham?????? .(Please some one fill the blanket if there is anything considerable
about Elham:):):):):):):):):)

Thank you so much dear friends, I am used to express my feelings honestly and I always
have this habit of mine to let my friends know what is going on in my mind. Here means a
lot to me and I love you all.

All the best,


Elham

sahand August 4th 2010


... and I'm BOOGH ! =)) :-j :D
Clare August 4th 2010
Hi Elham

I'm back! But I wanted to say something to Kamelia who said that her friend's
prospective mother-in-law told her that she was too thin! (What a cheek!!)

You probably know that in the west, what our parents think doesn't often influence us in
our choice of husband / wife. But even though we generally meet our prospective in-laws
once we've started going out with (dating) our partner, there are plenty of "mother-in-
law" jokes. We also have some not-so-nice expressions for men who listen too much to
their mother's opinions:
"tied to his mother's apron-strings" (= hasn't become independent from his mother yet)
"mummy's boy" (weak man, because he always needs his mother - can't make his own
decisions or opinions)

I think from this you can understand that western women expect their men to be relatively
independent from their parents, able to cook and clean for themselves, and acquainted
with the mysteries of how an iron works.

Kamelia, if your friend had been too fat, the prospective mother-in-law would probably
not have been happy either! Some people just can't be pleased...

All the best


Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Bluegreen August 4th 2010


Dear Clare,

I actually didn't get whether the post was related to me or to Dear Elham but anyways I
read that and I?ll answer it with my own opinion.
It was so nice of you to give me those nice expressions and explain about them. I hadn't
heard of them but I'll have to remember them from now on. I appreciate your kindness on
this matter.
And about that mother-in-law, well, I really don't know what to say about these women.
There are still some women like this and actually old ones are mostly insisting on these
traditional acts. You know the society's growing and people are getting knowledgeable
but some mothers still are in to these old habits.
I'd heard what it's like in the west and that's pretty awesome. But here's the thing, not all
the mothers here choose their daughter or sons in law. There are a few of them.
Something terrible had happened to one of my cousins. She had been married for twenty
years to a man and they had four kids. Suddenly the man left her and then sent back a
note that he couldn't tolerate her and in all those years he had just lived for the sake of
his children and without any love towards her and now that the children were grown up
he left.
Her mother then told us that she regretted having chosen her son-in-law herself and not
letting her date the boy!
Well, traditions are traditions. Parents think that their children (no matter what age they
are in) are not yet matured to choose their life partner and they think that they are
responsible for their lives!
Thank you again for your opinion,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

elham_z August 5th 2010


Dear Ghazal,
I owe you an apology for being that scatter-minded not to remember to mention your
name in my previous post.

Honey you should know that for me your presence here is like a colorful butterfly which
gives energy to us and double beauty to our garden.

I am still waiting to hear more about your nice and unique trip.

I love you and your name,


Elham

elham_z August 5th 2010


Hellooooooooooo Sahand,

That's it boy, Ok your little meaningful post means Elham have reached her goal!

Ahan, I exactly wanted this; to make you show that you know yourself from us and feel
yourself as one of the main members of this thread. You had to prove this yourself and
you did. I got so happy to see your critical post, I always wanted to ask you to participate
more in discussions and write to more people here. From now on you have to promise me
not to leave this thread and be one of the activists here. OK?

You know why I persist on male's existence here. My posts personally, strongly smell of
gentle girlish feelings (I feel so), I love to be this way and not only I but also all other
girls and women here make the atmosphere of thread so lovely and sweet .:))))))) But on
the other hand surly to have a PERFECT thread we need male's existence A LOT.(I am of
those type of girls who clearly and firmly says: We need you men .Our gentle feminine
world isn't complete without your presence. BUT of course not every man can enter this
world.)

Any way thank you once again for being with us,

All the best,


Elham
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metzean August 5th 2010


Dear Elham,

I see the seeds you have strewn on the roof ,I stop and sit here ,thanks, I can't say that
women are a case of sour grape, but I should go ahead cautiously behind Behnam. When
he want to eat part of her or kiss her ,he send me to market to buy barbecue for lunch , I
agree ,you know Esfahanian are very lavish with their money , and never let spilt the
bean when they talk about payment.

You know that in virtual world ,it is easy to write and put a comment on every subjects ,so
you can write your idea about everything ,no matter your age and experience. You see in
the subject we discussed about adultery ,Clare and Veronica shared their idea , Clare
always use this sentence "in modern country" she means European country specially
UK.she means that they are developed in all aspects . I agree with her to call them
Modern country ,but only they are modern country in aspect of industry ,not in all
aspects like social laws , behavior and social interaction. Do you want to know my
reason ,when a society recognizes the homosexuality as a right ,this society goes back to
time when Prophet Lout wanted to reform the people from their mistakes (about 3000
years ago) .....or adultery which i wrote my idea in previous posts..

I read the story of two women ,who came by your home. That is a wonderful traditional
way for proposal marriage ,but I can't believe it that it happened for you. As I know you
studying in B.S. degree from Industrail university of Esfahan,after many years of study in
coeducational class , I am sure you have found your favorite boy to marry him. My
uncle's daughter who studied is this university was chosen by his classmate and now after
5 years they have a beautiful boy . When they were engaged they went to Mecca and they
celebrated their wedding when they came back and went to their own home.

I think you have given a negative answers to all of your marriage proposal ,as you are
very ambitious about your life, that is very good ,but think about poor boys?

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean August 5th 2010


Dear Setayesh,

Nice to see your post, I hope you enjoy spending your holiday ,beside your great family,
your cousin and other combatants who were martyred during war are the great honor of
Iranian people ,and they have a magnificent pavilion beside the God throne . I used to
visit martyrs' cemetery regularly ,but I have lost this honor nowadays. I don't know why
,some people believe that when we got marry ,we were stuck in daily work and ignore
some other matter. What do you think? Yesterday one of my single friend told me ,to be
happy or to get marry ?What the girl's idea?

All the best,


Mohsen

elham_z August 5th 2010


Dear Clare,

What a wonderful start you gave me today. It was so nice to see Clare's post to me in the
beginning of the morning. It means that you do read our posts and care about them.
Thank you so much dear Clare. You never should go to need to be back again, please.

So this story of mother-in-law and mummy's boy is common between all countries. You
know I am personally afraid of this mother-in-law, Oh, a woman who keep an eye on all
your movements, your talking, and your clothing, all what you do. But of course we can
find some really kind towards daughter-in-law ones everywhere. God keeps them healthy
for their boys.:-)

I am not sure about big cities but in towns like ours parents play a very important role in
deciding about the future husband or wife. Even if the girl and boy have dated out and
have made their minds, obedient children are supposed to respect their parent's choice.
However these days we hardly find these obedient children. Look let me give you some
samples we have had in our own family.
* When there is a suitor in our family my father before anything else has to do some
researches about his family, his parents even his grandparents. We should have serious
gathering including my grandfather and my uncles. Their ideas are very important too. I
never forget all those nights when we had serious discussions on my oldest sister's
choice. I have to say she herself was in doubt, even once in her engagement period she
decided she wants to divorce, but they convinced her she is wrong. My sister was
obedient.

* There was a suitor for my cousin. She loved him and was sure that he is the one for her,
all of us was sure that their marriage is due to happening while her father firmly said
that he doesn't like this boy and so the rest of the story. My cousin was also obedient. But
still bringing the name of the boy is enough for bringing tears in my cousin's eyes.

* But my own uncle wanted a girl, although the conclusion of all those gatherings was
negative :):):):), he persisted on his decision and disobeyed. He forced them to let him do
what he wants. This was a disobedient case.
* Another cousin of mine had dated out with a boy and again we had this disobedient
case. They are now married despite all disagreements.

Woof, God knows what is my final ! Do you think I am obedient or disobedient?(


LOOOOOOOOL)

So you see not all parents have the authority they used to have in the past. Dear Clare
although I personally like to know my husband completely before marriage and want to
choose him myself but I still believe in the importance of parent's opinion. We see a lot of
failure in marriages these days that the couples have been sure about their choices and
very happy for having found their soul mates but the result is not happiness in real life.
Of course we also have to take this point into consideration that not all failures are due
to wrong choices but are because of this fact that motivations for marriage are not
correct or girl and boy are not familiar with their responsibilities and right roles as
husband and wife.

Oh I think we can talk about this topic a lot. What a complicated matter this marriage is !

Thank you for reading.

All the best,


Elham

elham_z August 5th 2010


Dear Rosa, Andrew and Marina,

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii.How are you three? How is everything with you? Are you enjoying
yourselves? Oh yes I guess you are enjoying in a way that you have forgotten your
friends here!

** Dear, dearest, nice, kind and lovely Rosa where are you? I have missed you so much.
Please please please come and give some news about yourself. We need you here,
beautiful Spanish girl.

** Dear Andrew I am some how in -not being in speaking term with you- mood. As far as
I have known you, You were not of those disloyal men ! Where you? So what has
happened that you don't take a look at us here? Come on musician Russian men, I am
impatiently waiting to read from you.

** Dear Kind hearted Marina, I am due to doubting about your kindness :):):):):) You
are enjoying yourself with your fianc�e in a way that you don't give us the least honor to
meet you once in a while? It is not right to play this seek and hide game with us! You
come make us so happy and you vanish so soon. Care about our hearts please dear
Marin. we need you a lot. For the sake of God leave him alone for some minutes and let
him know your value more.(LOOOOOOOOL). I really hope my kidding doesn't annoy my
kind Marina !

Dear friends please give the answer of this IN WAIT ( this adjective is maid by Elham)
girl. With out the least doubt you will make all of us happy, happier, and no, the
happiests.

Looking forward to hearing from you,

Your little sister,


Elham

behnam August 5th 2010


Hi friends,

How are you? I hope all is well with you. Here is my essay on the last topic:
**************************************************************
Some people prefer to live in a house, while others feel that there are more advantages to
living in an apartment. Are there more advantages than disadvantages of living in a
house compared with living in an apartment?

What are the differences between living in a flat, and being as a prisoner in a prison?
Some people like living in a house very much. Others feel more comfortable in an
apartment. Everything has its pros and cons, and living in a house or in a flat is not an
exception.

One of the obvious disadvantages of a house is its little security, in comparison with a
flat. In many cases, providing security for a house is difficult. For example, it is hard and
expensive to protect a house from burglary. As a result, a house is much more vulnerable
than an apartment to break in. According to newspapers, house burglary is a common
crime, because a thief can enter a house with very little effort.

However, nobody can deny the advantages of a house over an apartment. One of the
many advantages of living in a house is great comfort that it gives to people who live in
it. People who live in flats usually share the ceiling, the roof, the lift, stairs, and
corridors. Therefore, flats are often noisy. In addition, people suffer from the limitations
that living in an apartment imposes on them. However, in a house, everything is
individual, and people have more freedom and privacy.

Another positive side of living in a house is its garden. A house usually has a back or
front garden. The garden offers possibilities for playing, keeping pets, and growing
different plants. Therefore, in a house, children can enjoy playing and parents can enjoy
gardening. However, flats are often cramped. As a result, living in them imposes certain
restrictions on playing, gardening, or keeping pets.

In conclusion, there are many similarities between living in a flat and spending life in a
prison. Both of them impose certain limitations and restrictions on people's freedom.
Although there are some negative sides to living in a house too; in my opinion, if we
consider everything, the benefits of living in a house outweigh the disadvantages.
********************************************************************

Thank you for reading. As always, my arms are kept open to your criticism, suggestion,
advice, recommendation, and guidance.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 August, 2010

behnam August 5th 2010


Hi Elham,

You cannot imagine how happy I feel when I am reading your wonderful posts. You
wanted someone to fill in the blanks and write something about Elham as some
description. Although I have done it many times, I'd like to write again that Elham has
got two types of personalities. Sometimes--as her posts imply--she is a very thoughtful
girl with great attitudes and certain philosophy of life. Sometimes--as some recent posts
show--she is a very sentimental, emotional girl with lots of great feminine feelings.
Therefore, Elham is both sweet and sour, it depends on which side someone is going to
bite her--as an apple--and on their chance actually. :):):):):):):)

You wanted me to introduce simple topics. Is there simpler topic than writing about living
in a house or in an apartment? :):):):)

However, you are a girl, and girls often enjoy sentimental issues. How do you think about
pets? Why do you think some people--particularly--some ladies keep pets? These days
keeping pets is popular in Tehran. Some people monthly spend about $300 on keeping
pets. My cousin keeps a dog, and spends about $300 per month on her food and other
needs. What is the point? Why is it becoming more popular these days?

Write your own opinions. Consider both--negative and positive--sides of keeping a pet in
a house or in a flat, and then make conclusion.

I believe, it is an insult to a girl's personality to be forced to stay at home, and to wait for
someone either chooses her or not! How disgusting! Girls and boys are going to live with
each other. They should make decisions about their life. However, following parents
advice, suggestions, and recommendation cannot be denied, at the same time.

I have said many times that I love reading your posts.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 August, 2010

setayesh August 5th 2010


Dear Elham,

Thanks a million for long time waiting. Being Setayesh's friend is one of the most crucial
jobs in whole world since it requires a great tolerance and patience to bear her strange
actions.:)))))))))

Where do I start??? Did I tell you about my youngest uncle who is much closed to me?
Actually he is 34, eleven years older than me and the main reason of my absence.Why?
Because he eventually decided to MARRY!!! And kill me by his orders at a same time.Let
me tell you more detail later since today is his Bale borun, and I am overloaded with so
many tasks, I should do all of them by 7:00 p.m.

About your nice questions:

You asked me about my friend Eli who is my other excuse for being absent. Eli is a very
pleasant, sophisticated, heart-stealing, warm-hearted and naughty at a same time. Her
life story is so complicated; she was taken to Germany when she was only 2 years old.
She has been living there for nearly 10 years. At the age of 12 she returned to her
hometown. I can clearly remember when we made friend at high school she still had
some problem in Farsi. It's good to know that her German is much better than her other
languages, even now.

After being accepted at Allame University in Management field. She applied for a
German University.(bayad hatman in ja tu reshteye morede nazaresh ghabul mishod ta
betune un tarf apply kone) So she said goodbye to us with wet eyes and left.
She is so interested in discipline and tidiness of German. In this trip she has brought us
two German friends of her as guest. They are so nice, I'll write about them later.

Dear elham, it would be a great pleasure to see you, please let me know when you are
going to be here.

Sorry Elham, I have to leave, my father is calling me. I think he wants me to Iron his shirt
for evening. I should be at his service.

I promise to answer the rest of the questions in my next post to you.

Hope to here from you very soon,

All the best,


Setayesh,5 August, 2010

P.S: Dear Elham, I wish you could see what going on here (in our house). Everybody is
exited and in a hurry. All are preparing themselves for evening(fekresho bekon hame
umadn inja amade shan)...

I'm coming dad! I'm coming...

elham_z August 5th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Accept my sincere thanks to you for your nice compliments about me. I love to be
different persons in different places and times. I personally agree with you on this
explanation, people can experience different Elhams, sometimes so lovely, sometimes in a
way that they just prefer to escape from her.::):):):):)

Oh I felt so shameful of me with seeing the word Blank, I have maid a ridiculous mistake
writing blankets.((((((((((

Thank you for offering topic to me. I will start working on it as soon as I can.But I think
people may feel annoyed seeing this huge amount of Elham name these days. Let me give
some time for rest from it sometime.(LOOOOOOOL). But I can't, I love writing here.

All the best,


Elham

behnam August 5th 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Welcome back! I was waiting for you and your great posts. I guess it will be difficult for
you to spend time with us-- after being with some people from a modern country! It is like
having some guests from the Mars. Good for you Setayesh! I wish I were Setayesh.
:):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Oh people, can you read between lines? Behnam is speaking sarcastically right now.
:):):):):):):):)

Countries can be developed or underdeveloped, but there is no tangible criterion for


measuring how much a human's improvement is.

Again, Islam offers us a criterion and solves the problem. It says the importance and
value of people is tied to their distance from God--not physical distance. "Enna
akramakom enda Allaho atghakom"( people who act rightly are closer to me). It also
says, "toezzo man tasha, and tozello man tasha".

It means people's real development and perfection is related to their good deeds. If they
do according to what God has said, they are in the right way. Otherwise, no matter who
they are; where they are from; what they do; how many nuclear weapons they have, or
how many modern things they make; they are wrong.

If God is ignored in a society, it will be destroyed and deleted from the universe, no
matter where the society is located! There is no doubt about this destruction, because it is
the essential law of the universe--to be destroyed and deleted if God is ignored!

Calling ourselves Muslim is not enough too. We should follow God's instructions. Please
note carefully: No matter who you are; if you are against God, you will defeat the battle
undoubtedly.

Finally, no matter if we are called third world, underdeveloped, retard, black head, etc.
These names are made by some dirty politicians. If we do according to what God has
said in the holy Koran, we are winner. Otherwise, nobody and nothing can guarantee us!

Dear Setayesh, this post is addressed to you, but the words are not for you! Some
sentences in Mohsen's post remind me to write this nonsense!
Thank you once again for coming. Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 5 August, 2010

Bluegreen August 5th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? It's been nearly a long time since I wrote to you. I've been
missing your posts to me really much.
I've wrote to nearly everyone but not you and this makes me feel bad because it's not fair.
Actually my reason for not writing was that I didn't know what to write to you about, my
reason's lack of topic! LOL
But now you've written a new essay. You know that I like your essays and I always read
all the posts and then let this essay reading the last thing I do. By this action I want to
focus on them more. As I've said before, I learn pretty much from the way you write, your
ideas and the way you state them and find reasons to prove them. These are the elements
which are most important for me. Well I haven't passed the writing course yet so they are
essential sources for me.

Dear Behnam, May I ask you something? In the past when you used to write an essay,
you used to mention the things that you were going to explain in the three main
paragraphs in the last sentence of the first paragraph. But in this one it wasn't like this.
Does it have any special reason? Doesn't it matter in which way you write?
Oh and I tried to read it carefully, I liked the examples you used even more than before.
Here's something else. It was actually on Tuesday when I attended the first session of this
TTC class and I didn't know that we were going to have a kind of exam. In this exam we
were required to take a test on all four skills of English.
The first part was the listening, and the speaker's accent was British. The second part
was the reading one. It was a long article and then after that we had to answer some
multiple choice questions and fill in the blank and yes no questions. Then we had about
45 minutes to write something about the topic given. Now guess what? The topic was
actually the one you hated. Do you remember you told me once you were given a topic
and in that you were required to write about both advantages and disadvantages of
something? And you said you just agreed with one part and you wrote about it till the
end. And your teacher had told you that this is not the way!
This actually happened to me that day. The topic was that some people hate changing
and love to be steady in life while others think that change is a good thing! Then we were
required to write about both ideas!!! So surprising!
Oh and after all there was this speaking exam. Each of us went in to the room one by one
and was asked some questions. I was asked to introduce myself and how had I spent these
holidays and how was I doing in the university. Which courses I liked the most and which
courses I hated and why! Simple questions but the way the teacher used to look at me
made feel stressed out! LOOOL this was not the first time but you know, these interviews
always make me anxious!
I think I explained too much, LOL actually I found something worth writing about to you
after this time. :)):)):))
What do you think? Do you think I'll be accepted as a teacher to be trained there?
Nothing can be trickier than these entrance exams :)):))
Thank you for being patient and reading this whole unit of mine,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
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sahand August 5th 2010


Hi Kamelia

Everything's going well here. How is life going on ?

The reason why everyone around you faces your age like that is crystal clear ! cuz you
don't seem to be 19, too much older than your age. (And it's a good point madam)

Daf and Piano ?! Great ! I haven't passed any kind of courses of piano and I really don't
want to, but I'm about to start learning a new instrument. You made me think about Daf !

You asked about Fender Stratocaster. Fender often referred to as "Strat", is one of the
most common and enduring models of Electric Guitar in the world. I'm not practicing
anymore. I past my alternative rock courses and that?s all. I left learning guitar at the
time my teacher moved overseas to Vancouver. Yes, and I teach guitar too. I've been
having fun these past years teaching, it's a great joy when my students are coming back
for more lessons. 7 students only, 3 girls and 4 boys. They are 18, 18, 21, 21, 21, 25 and
26 ! :D You wonder why just 7 students. Parents doesn't really trust a 24 year-old boy as
a Guitar Teacher, they think I'm too young to make it !

Hope to read from you soon

Sincerely,
Sahand
sahand August 5th 2010

Hi Elham

How is it hanging ?

Whoa !!! When I read your post, I did a double take ... you could have knocked me down
with a feather ! :D You really meant to make me join discussions ?! I won't promise cuz
I'm about to leaving country in a month or two. I'll be too much busy studying so I can't
think about my life.

Yeah you really need the presence of males here, Really :D cuz most of the writers here
are female. But anyway ... we won't give up to girls here. (Behnam and Mohsen, Do we
?!)Just joking ... anyway, there is no balance between number of males and females.
Females are double ! I hope more males will join us soon.

Hope to read from you

Sincerely,
Sahand

poooz August 5th 2010


sure behnam ,
no need of apology, u hv used it correctly .
wl right now I'm pursuing btech(IT branch) n I'm in 3rd yr.

An engineer has to face interviews ,GDs etc. so it is very essential to have good comm
skills. I wanna improve my english so that I cn get placed in a reputed company.
To improve myself I hv started reading newspapers,novels .
Waht do you think is it enough ?

To get a good job is my sole aim ,so to achieve it I need to improve my english,thats why I
hv joined this thread . I seriously want to take part in this so that i cn learn something
good for me. Plz do tell me how cn I participate in this thread?

elham_z August 6th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Don't worry honey; your lovely writings are always welcomed. I see how busy you are
with your classes. Enjoy them and write to us whenever you are free enough.

Dear Kami what is amazing about me to share that happening with you? We are tow (no,
two), more than twenty year old girls at home ( Dame bakht) and it is so common to have
such experiences every then and now. But I don't know why I should always be the girl
who is at home and should answer them. I can remember even when my oldest sister was
still single it was me who always would go to door. How miserable I am! Ok, it is not
bad, they see me, they fall in love with such a pretty decent girl and they will come again,
so I am a big help for my sisters. :):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Oh I am just kidding; I actually hate this kind of being proposed. And Kami my hatred for
this is not because of fear of being beautiful or not, I can't tolerate looks at me more than
a normal extent.( Che berese be negahaye kharidaraneye un khanume!).

Oh what a disgusting thing has happened to your friend. What do really people think with
them? Actually there's nothing wrong with them if they don't want a thin daughter-in-law,
it is their right to consider some special features while choosing,( I also doesn't like a
very thin boy ! :-) ) BUT I would never say oh madam your boy is not muscular the way I
like, sometimes we should act tactfully. Every thing has its own way and method. It has
been so rude of them to say so. Oh my god, think, as if they have come to buye goods. Of
course the other way around goes too, some of them just say, oh what a beautiful girl, she
is the one for our boy !!!

Anyways coming suitors are not empty of amusement and joy after all. I never forget
those nights when we had them for my sister at our home, and the other tow sisters and I
(We are four), did a very hard attempt to see the boy while entering the
room.(Hehehehehehe).Wow, one night when we were looking at one of them from the
other side of the curtain, he turned his head and saw us. We really felt shameful, but we
laughed a lot.(LOOOOOOOOOOL).
But I have said although it is not common here for us to present the room at the very first
night, I have to come to room for my older sister and this is me who will say whether they
are allowed to come again or no, by seeing the boy. OF COURSE there is a big problem
here, guess what? I am afraid the suitors especially the boy forget all about my sister
after seeing me! :):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)::) :):):):):)

What am I writing today Kami? I am so energetic today and I am just writing some
nonsense, Don't take them serious. Just laugh.:-)

Hope to read more from you honey,


Elham
setayesh August 6th 2010
Hi Behnam,

How's it going? Thank you for writing that meaningful post to me. What you've written is
not never ever nonsense they are also very important things containing some phrase of
holy Koran. I prefer to be talked in a serious way rather than being the addressee of
joking posts. Therefore don't worry of writing in this way, all your serious posts are
welcomed with open arms.

As I said to Elham, the main reason for my absence was my uncle decision for marriage
not enjoying among some friends from a developed country. To be honest with you, we
were more like alien being in their eyes rather than them coming from Mars in our eyes.
They were completely surprised with Iran and especially Iranians. They told that their
imaginations about us were so dark. They used to think that Hijab issue and style is so
strict here like in Arab countries, everything would be messy everywhere and violence
has covered here and there. But what they faced with was a great deal different.

One of them told me the safety of living in Tehran is much higher than living in European
capital cities, like Paris. I've never been in Paris, what I'm writing is just restating what
I've heard from them.

Dear Behnam, I do understand what you say about human's deeds. I can't agree with you
more in this case. Human's improvement is not tied to where you are living. But there are
many people who think, good deeds require good thoughts, and good thoughts is almost
influenced with the atmosphere that you're living in. So, the living location indirectly
influence on human's improvement. How do you think about it? Are they wrong?

It should be said that, I'm not in group of people who think westerns are more open-
minded and intellectual, what they say is right and we as easterners should just follow
them. It's the bitterest opinion about east and west in my point of view. Unfortunately, I
am usually criticized because of refusing emigrating to developed countries whereas I
can. I have my own opinion and reasons in this case.

But Behnam, I have some questions: do you think it's reasonable to leave your country
for accessing better lives in other countries? What you're achieving there worth what
you're losing here?

Thank you so much for reading and hope to hear from you as soon as you can.

All the best,


Setayesh, 6 August, 2010
aseman7 August 6th 2010
Hi friends

Whether is a selfish man and his stock than anyone and anything else loves and good and
good interest on your interest and preference of others?

Or is the creature against others and provides highly responsible and no interest and no
interest on them is their excellence?

6 Aug 2010

Clare August 6th 2010


Hi Setayesh

I just wanted to say that this forum is NOT the place to quote the Koran. There are plenty
of other places on the internet where you can exchange religious texts - but not here.

This forum is for people from all over the world, believing in all sorts of different
religions. I think we should limit ourselves here to exchanging views / opinions, or
talking about our culture, but not start quoting things from religious books. Otherwise,
the thread risks becoming dominated by people wanting to impose their religious beliefs
on others - not a conducive atmosphere for making friends .

All the best


Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

setayesh August 6th 2010


Hi Elham,

Another post to answer the rest of your questions(I'm making a soap opera by your
questions:)))))

To answer your question about whether I prefer to live in Tehran or in other cities. I
should say, although Tehran is populated, polluted and expensive, I prefer living
here.:):):) Why? Because, I've adapted to the current life style in here. And another
reason is that everything is at hand.

You also asked me to say my own opinion about you. And describe you somehow. I think
all what your friends said can be true about you. They know you better than me. But what
I fell about you is just some signals that get from your posts. I read Behnam's post to you
and I agree with his description about you. What he said is exactly I've felt about you by
reading your posts. I can't state that feeling as well as he did, he has described you in a
best way. (Did you note that Behnam always describes his old friends in here except
Setayesh? He is so unfriendly with me, isn't he?)(Kidding)

And your last question: punishing someone!!!

I think my long absence has faded the reason of punishing Behnam away. Beside it, don't
you think it would be better not to punish him in such cases before letting him to
expresses his reasons? We might find out it was a kind of misunderstanding if he talks.

Dear Elham, I did my best to answer nearly all your questions, at least I hope.

I'm looking forward to hearing from you again.

All the best,


Setayesh, 6 August, 2010

setayesh August 6th 2010


Hi dear Clare,

You are totally right. I do believe that religion is a personal matter. I have never written
and talked about my religion, or Islamic matter or something like that. I have never state
any quotes from Koran or any other Holy Books. I don't know why you have written that
post to me. Maybe it's a way to warn others.

I am living among people who believes in other religions; Armenians (who are
Christian), Jewishes and Zoroastrians. The majority of my neighbors are not Muslim. I've
learnt the only thing which helped us having a peaceful life beside each other, is that we
never discuss about religious matters.

So be sure, in such a place like here which belong to all people from different nations and
religions I'll never talk about religion.

Hope to here from you again,

All the best


Setayesh,6 August, 2010
Clare August 6th 2010
Hi Setayesh

It was just in reply to your post to Behnam where you wrote "What you've written is not
never ever nonsense they are also very important things containing some phrase of holy
Koran."

Sorry if I misunderstood you!

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

741

metzean August 6th 2010


Dear Clare,

In some European countries girls with wearing Hejab are prohibited to take part in
schools and universities, Muslim are prohibited to build mosque ,although these
countries are called themselves developed countries and their motto of freedom make the
people of world deaf. I believe in these countries they are politicians who impose their
politics on these societies and majority of people have different belief. What I believe
about people of Europe is positive as I have correspondence with many of them like you
,Veronica ?and also visit many of them in Iran.

when I saw your post to Setayesh. I was surprised and I still in great perplexity, how
some verses of Quran can be imposed on other people .Does anybody here in this thread
is a tyrant to impose his/her idea on others. I think that you work in the office of this
website ,and may be a politician is in chief how control this website ,a politician who had
asked you to write such an unfair sentences:) :$ LOL

Dear Clare ,we are very very happy if a Christian person write here and support his idea
with some part of bible ,a Jewish write with support of torah .we like to know about
Buddhism, all religion and also atheist . We respect all religion and people with any kind
of idea. We like to make friend with people of different believes.
This is the sign of freedom ,and I am sure you are a woman who believe in liberalism.
All the best,
Mohsen

setayesh August 6th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks a million for your great note. Let me rephrase what I wrote:

Because Behnam had written at the end of his post to me "Some sentences in Mohsen's
post remind me to write this nonsense!", I wrote that sentencese . When he describes what
he writes by such words, he let this word describe even some parts which are taken from
a holy book.

As I knew that he hasn't had such purpose, I wrote that sentence instead of writing "using
such word in a post which is full of phrases from Koran can be consider insulting
somehow".

Sometimes we say our words indirectly to keep the atmosphere mild but the consequence
and misunderstanding which result from it become visa versa.I'm sorry that I put you in
trouble by writing that sentence. If you still think that I am mistaken or I've passed red
lines please let me know.

Hope to hear from you,

All the Best,


Setayesh,6 August,2010

Clare August 6th 2010


Hi Mohsen

I agree with some of the things that you have said about misperceptions of Islam in the
west. But one of the key things about this website is that it's a welcoming and positive
place for all learners of English from around the world.

But religion - like politics - is a heated topic. When two people talk about religion, it's
unlikely that their discussion will remain amicable - as we are beginning to find out here,
unfortunately.

That's why I'm saying again, let's not talk about religion, and let's not justify our beliefs
and opinions with quotes from religious texts - whether that is the Bible, the Koran or the
Torah.

I'm beginning to spend too much time on this thread, monitoring for inappropriate posts.
From now on, anything that's religious, political or intolerant of other people in any way
is going to get deleted. So let's work together to make this forum a welcoming, positive
place for everyone - regardless of their culture, gender, nationality or sexuality.

Many thanks
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Veronicaho August 6th 2010


Hi everybody,

I just want to tell you that I have had a bit to do and didn't had time to write. I'm now
going for a cruise with both of my daughters and my grandchildren. But I'm back again
at sunday and I will write then.
So hold on ....I'm soon back again :)

Veronica

marinaa August 6th 2010


Dear Clare,

According to some last posts from you, I think we should stop writing here.
As I remember You ordered us to stop writing about political issues, and we obayed Your
order because we respect You and your aim of building this powerful site.

I followed Your posts recently, you are a real lover to UK laws and way of living. You
talked about the freedom a lot and you took us to a magical world full of it. Now as if you
deleted it by one odd post. You are making a mistake against yourself when you talk
about something and act in a different way.

A sentance from a holly book makes you upset! Do you think that we need to tell you
sentances from the holly koran to prove our thoughts! Please reread lots of our posts, you
would know who we are!
For me I breath in from the holly Koran, i can write a book about any topic you want
without writing any sentance from the holly Koran, but my writing will spread its smell.
You can prevent us of writing them... But You can't prevent the Koran's smell.
Be happy.. Clare, the dictator.

Marina, a Muslim from Syria who loved this site &Who is told to be out of it.

marinaa August 6th 2010


Dear friends,

As far as i know, all Muslims in this thread are friendly people.


Behnam was a dear friend for lots of Christian friends especially Rosd , CLARE and
Veronica.
Mohsen made a long voyage with Veronica and Andrew. And he is a friend of CLARE.

Elham, Setayesh and other Muslims write in a very friendly way for all people, especially
to CLARE.
.
.
.
.

We may have different thoughts but we have never let this thing affect on our social and
emotional issues.
Clare, Don't you spread some negative signals between us? Don't You think that you
should ask Behnam his opinion about your decision as long as you are in his home " his
thread" that you gave it to him? Don't you think that people who are here from more than
three years ago deserve to take their points of view?

Dear Clare, i ask all friends from all religions to go on strike unless you appreciate the
freedom of writing in any way we want.

PLEASE GO ON STRIKE FREE FRIENDS. Let'S DEFEND ON OUR WRITING WAY'S


FREEDOM.

Marina.

marinaa August 6th 2010


I've made a mistake,

Behnam IS a dear friend...


Thanks.
Marina.

elham_z August 7th 2010


Dear Marina and Clare,

Marina, Thank you so much for your big help to me. From last night when I read the
recent posts I have been thinking how to express my opinions about Clare's posts. But
now by reading yours there is no need to repeat them all.

I think Clare doesn't pay attention to this fact that the majority of people here are
Muslims, so it is natural if we see all these relating to holy Islam opinions, thoughts and
sentences. No one has closed the door of the thread not letting other religions in.
Unfortunately people from other religions are few and those of them who are here don't
participate in discussions effectively. Recently Clare and Veronica helped us a lot to
review our religion.I was very happy that we are having such nice discussions with
them.I am really wondering what has maid her acting that way. What has maid her
angry? Why saying some sentences from holy Koran has maid her crazy about it while it
is DEFENATLY NATURAL. It is just like discussing about a scientific topic, it is clear
that we refer to text books to prove what we claim, *** so when it comes to expressing
such vital beliefs about social life, it is vitally important to state where we have brought
our beliefs. I personally have done it many times here.

Oh Clare I am really in shock, you know why? I think you knew why this thread is that
important for all of us. Let me tell you. This thread is an amazing place, when we can
SERIOUSLY, OPENLY, SCIENTIFICALYY and FRIENDLY talk about any topic (except
politics). I believe here is like nowhere, is unique especially for special and unique
members that Behnam, as starter and main member, is the most special one. He has
managed here in a way that every one who enters here understand that this is not just a
place for having dirty funs or just having serious harsh discussions. Here is a place free
for everyone who wants to enter and states his ideas, But the beaty of thread is becouse
every one should try to defend from his opinions or honestly accept that he needs to learn
more! This is what I wanted to tell you:

So considering the importance of discussions, and Clare most importantly the deep
impact of our writings on each other, it is not possible for us to talk and write about such
crucial matters about life and humanity but not smelling religion from them as Marina
has beautifully said !!! If you see Behnam emphasize that much on Islam and Koran,
which is a great honor for us, it is not because we mean to impose it on others. I
personally as another Muslim feel how Behnam's beliefs are strongly tied to Koran. He
BELIEVES IN it and expresses his ideas in a very stable way that makes me believe in
Koran again and again!!!

So just frankly tell us to shut up by saying no religion! But know if you didn't know till
now, that here was our own home and means a world to us; by doing so you made one of
the biggest mistakes ever.

The biggest fan of this lovely thread,


Elham

Bluegreen August 7th 2010


Dear Clare,

Although sometimes I've disagreed with what others have said or sometimes I've argued
about women in muslim countries or their laws or whatever I don't think that prohibiting
us from talking about our religion is a correct deed! You, yourself know that the majority
of people here are muslims and it is a great honor for us when we talk of that Holy Book
and it's rules. It's like a great law that although it's from many years ago but it has talked
of so many serious things that still are new and we act according to them.

I don't wanna strike or fight but I think you surely know that we're Muslims and our
living style has been inferred from this Holy book, there's nothing wrong about it that
have maid you this mad! I mean, let's face it! What's wrong with talking about it? You've
always talked of your culture and the way you do things and this is our culture, this our
way of talking about style of doing things!

You said your deeds are based on your laws! The governmental laws. Right? Well, our
living had been taken from Islam.

You say freedom, of thought of actions, but where is this freedom that you appreciate?

I don't wanna fight or strike anyone because there's no need to! But i wanna state that
you gave this thread to Behnam and you provided us with an opportunity to write in
English and about whatever we want except Political Issues, and we all agreed upon that.
But please consider this new law. Isn't it unfair ? Just think for yourself.

Sincerely,
Kamelia

Clare August 7th 2010


Dear all

Let me reiterate. This website is supposed to be a friendly place for EVERYONE -


regardless of religious beliefs, nationality etc.

Recently it has become a platform for people to promote their ideas of inequality and
intolerance. And these people have justified their intolerance through quotes from the
Koran. This makes the website a less welcoming place.

So,
YES to exchanging info and views re culture, life, your studies, work, travels, etc etc
NO to intolerance, prejudice
NO to quotes from religious texts
NO to long discourse about religion etc

In short, NO to anything that makes this thread a less enjioyable place to others who
don't share your religion. If you want to discuss what the Koran says, go to a site that is
dedicated for that purpose. This is not the place for it.

Hope this is clear

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
742

sahand August 7th 2010


Dear Clare

I followed your posts in past days.

Every site has some fixed laws with no change. I wonder why you're always making
several miner amendments to your laws.

We all have the right to voice our opinion and speak down to another. You are indirectly
declaring that we are insignificant and worthless just because we have a different
opinion !!!!!!!

Not Moral Standing to Criticize.


Not Moral Standing to write about Religion.
Not Moral Standing to write about Politics.

Is This The Freedom You Always Talking About ??????!

Clare, we obey this board's rule. But you HAD to mention them all at once ... not 1 rule
in a year ! ;)

If we were supposed to stop discussing in the mid-way, why have you started and
continuing it yourself ?!

... So you are probably gonna get hammered by others on the board (as most of them did)
so good luck with that !

Sahand

Clare August 7th 2010


Hi Sahand

At the beginning of this thread, there was very little discussion about religion. It's only
become a more recent thing, and it has come to dominate the thread, which is why I'm
asking people to talk about other subjects. (Of which there are many!)

However, given that there has been so much criticism of my request, it makes me think
that religion is the ONLY thing that people want to talk about. And this is not the site to
talk about religion.

So now I have a choice to make. Keep coming on here to delete posts about religion, or
simply close the thread. What happens in the next day or so depends on what subjects you
talk about.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Bluegreen August 7th 2010


Dear Clare,

I was reading the previous posts carefully and I just figured out something. I'll explain it
now. As it can be seen in some previous posts Veronica has started this discussion by
asking that question. Behnam has answered her questions. You have supported
Veronica's idea and then Behnam has defended his views! Right?
He has just defended Islam and never have begun the discussion himself.

Sincerely,

Kamelia

sahand August 7th 2010


Dear Clare

Iran is not a right place to criticize and talk about politics and religion. We all have to
keep our mouth shut or we will end up in jail or hung ! I'm one of those students who
suffered from such kind of dictatorial attitude once.

I guess this is the reason why religion and politics have dominated the "Let's Learn
Together" board !

Yes of course here's not a place to talk about religion but I don?t think it's a site to talk
about culture, life, studies, work and travel too. (as you said)

We are here to learn English, so it doesn't matter what the subject is. (except politics only
!)

I'm not here to fight or insult. I and all my country men here respect you but I hope you
will respect the members of the most crowded topic of your site too. We did Nothing
illegal and out of your rules till now. Religion is exactly your choice, your own topic.
Nothing matters except the new rules that are beginning to appear these days.

Sahand

setayesh August 7th 2010


Dear Clare,

You really made us shocked by this harsh decision. At the first, I considered it only as a
simple notification but then reading your posts to dear Mohsen and ALL astonished me.
You have made a strict rule out of it. What are you doing???? As you yourself said, You
are enacting a rule to make here "a friendly place for EVERYONE"!!! Aren't Muslims as
a part of everyone?!

This rule not only hasn't made the thread atmosphere friendly but also too rough. You are
going to encourage more other nations and religions to take part in discussions by
making this rule whereas this strict rule which is against of freedom of expression is
dispersing all constant members of your website's longest thread.

Dose it really worth to destroy what Behnam has built by devoting his great effort and
time as long as 3 years in a second? Is it easy for you to ruin this old, great and pure
friendship of us by such stupid rule????

"Let?s Learn Together" was founded by Dear Behnam and developed by all of us so we
are its owner!!! This thread without its great members such as Behnam, Marina, Mohsen
Elham, Kamelia, Ghazal, Sahand and... is NOTHING! We all just know Behnam as the
founder of thread, not anybody else, if someone is going to make rule within the
framework of the thread this is definitely Behnam. Please let us decied for our own
thread.

Dear Clare be sure, if he(Behnam) as a Muslim in order to protest to your new rule in his
restricted area just deiced not to write here anymore, not only new members won't join in
this thread but also every present members--Setayesh is included-- will abandon here.

Please consider our rights as old members.

Hoppe to hear NEW things from you.

All the Best,


Setayesh, The Little member of this humble thread

setayesh August 7th 2010


All Dear Friends,

Last night Dear Behnam put an off for me and said that he has decieded to stop writing
on this thread. I as a member of this thread am so worried. I don't really know what to do
to. By dear Clare new deciesion we are loosing him and thread both together...

Setayesh,7August,2010

jiulia78 August 7th 2010


Dear Clare, and all the participants of this thread!
Let me fill in my modest opinion and great desire to return the agreement to this
important thread.
We touch the religion subject sooner or later because the spiritual life that we practicing
and developing and breeding up during our lifetime is may be the most important
acquisition that we are making. Sometimes it?s our necessity to share what we believe in,
with the best intentions.
And as for the cases of cruelty which may happen in every country, by the way, the
person here is not obliged to answer for this. The other problem is when someone is lack
of tact or thinks that his is the only right opinion...and even then all that is to be done is
to avert the guest to express himself in more tolerant way or the next time Your rule will
be applied, the post will be deleted. But if the theme arises, it is interesting to someone.
Or does Internet start to be deprived of the freedom of the word too?
I haven not seen here stupid people which are not capable to resolve their arguments by
their own. Just one request to all, be friendly!
Sincerely, Julia

elham_z August 8th 2010


Dear Clare,

Let me start this post as I used to do. I hope you are healthy, well, kind and patient as
Clare who we would know. May I sincerely ask you to read my post carefully, with
tolerance and patience? As I am thinking deeply to write it, may you please read it
thoughtfully? It would be so nice of you in case. May you answer my questions/ At least,
please write something in reply.

* Actually I am wondering what else is needed to be said while everything necessary has
been said before. The first arisen question is why all these arguments? Please let me
know honestly what you think about us all here? What kind of people are we in your
opinion? I am sure that you know we are not some children; have gathered here to waste
our time, to have some fun, and just to write some nonsense. Dear Clare I emphasize on
this fact as I have said before that this thread is not an ordinary one, you know it better
than me. I thought this thread was as important to you as it is for us, because as it can be
seen easily, the most crowded and famous thread of your site is 'Let's learn togethe!'.
How many threads like this one are there--on this site? On top of that, let me know how
many threads like this we can find on the net? I am sure you know very well that this
thread is different from other threads. Your last posts imply that you impose limitation to
keep the atmosphere of the thread friendly and enjoyable for all people. That is true, but
may you kindly let us know if there is any complaint ? who has complained about the
atmosphere of the thread? (For example, someone complains about not enjoying the
atmosphere, or something like that). We all enjoy reading posts and posting at the same
time, what exactly do you mean by saying that your new policy is just because of the
thread? I have seen other threads on this site. Nobody shares idea, culture, and custom in
them. They just posts a few posts; speaking about the weather, the importance of the
English language. After a few weeks, they finish! That is all. Therefore, you are supposed
to take the value and the importance of this thread, if you really--as always--mean to
make this site powerful and enjoyable.

* Dear Clare you are acting in a way that as if this is the very first days of this thread
and people have started and come to this thread on the purpose of just talking about
religion. Please pay much more attention to this part of my post.We all can see the date
of the very first post which is from 2007, three years ago. The person who has written
that has clearly said that I am going to improve my English here and it goes for every one
else too. For this purpose we need to write, right? So different people bring up different
topics. Right? I want you to focus your attention on topics. Behnam has been discussing
interesting subjects for three years about Love, Marriage, Friendship, Polygamy,
Education, Science, Psychology, Humanities, Morality, Values, etc. He has written
reports from his trips. Oh, He has written all about his English classes and courses he
takes. Recently as you see he has been taking IELTS classes, he kindly shares information
with us. Listen to this one, recently he has been doing a very interesting thing that clearly
shows his aim of being here. He is generously sharing essays about different topics with
his friends and he persistently asks us to give our ideas and write essays too. As I guess
you have read, I recently asked him to introduce a topic. He wanted me to write about
keeping pets. He is always motivating us to improve our skills. So after all these efforts he
has made, is it fair to accuse him of such unfair things? Isn't it cruel to him? Has he been
here to impose his religion on others? On the other hand dear Clare, every one here is
familiar with his special personality and how he seriously and frankly discusses things
and what strong opinions he has about different matters. We are all educated people and
expect each other to behave in logical way. Let me know if Behnam brought this topic
about religion up deliberately? As Kamelia has put it, Dear Veronica was the starter.
What Behnam did was defending his views by giving some reason from our reference
book--the holy Koran. I think, he wanted to be humble, otherwise it was possible for him
to extract reasons from the holy Koran, and write them without mentioning the reference-
-as some people do to show themselves knowledgeable!

* Religion is one of the hottest and challenging topics and we even should be proud of
having such nice and hot posts about it in our thread. Why do you think it is limiting our
thread or the number of people coming here? What I see is that most of people enter this
thread. They are free to discuss anything they want as I said to you in my last post
too.Behnam himself is the first one who kindly welcomes every new comer. Isn't it true? I
wonder about your justification based on several recent posts. I think, this time
discussions became very serious because you--indirectly--insulted all Iranian people and
their great culture by saying that women are stoned by men in public!

Therefore, Behnam had to answer you in that way. Again and again I say, Behnam is
doing something else here not what you think. Look again, I wanted him a topic, what did
he offer? Writing about PETS. It shows what he is looking for in his thread : ENGLISH.

In order to be fair, I should also say that Behnam has written some things about the UK,
and has judged on you in an unfriendly way. As a woman, I understand you very well. I
think Behnam shouldn't take it so seriously. But, he has apologized to you for his
unfriendly behaviour.
All in all, I hope you and Behnam will make friends again. I hope we will celebrate it
very soon. :):):):)

Hope to read your kind reply very soon,

all the best,


Elham

Clare August 8th 2010


Dear Jiulia and Elham

Just to reply to some of the points you both raise.

- Yes, freedom of speech is important. But with freedom of speech comes responsibility.
You can't just write what you want regardless of what other people think, or the laws of
the country. Unfortunately, religion - and the Koran - has been used recently on this
thread to justify intolerance (of homosexuality) and savage punishments (stoning). I'm
not going to host a thread where intolerance is promoted. You might think it's OK to say
"we don't like X group of people and this is justified by our religious book which says..."
but prejudice based on race, sexuality etc is against the law - certainly in the UK and in
the USA; where this site is hosted.

- Religion is a choice for many people, not imposed because you happen to be born in
such and such a country. Quoting texts from a religious text - ANY text - is like a
"lecture" and it's like having someone else's beliefs imposed on you. This makes the
atmosphere of the thread unwelcoming and unfriendly. There are plenty of places on the
internet where you can go and quote from a religious text, plenty of places where you can
discuss religion. But not here.

- There are many, many things you can talk about - as you have listed, Elham. I ask that
you continue to talk about them. Leave out topics (such as politics, religion) that are
sensitive, hot topics.

- This thread is important to all those who write in it. And how many people are currently
active? Not more than ten people. Most of you are Iranian. I respect all of you (as I hope
is obvious - the fact that I try and explain rather than simply closing the thread should
tell you that I'm not some awful dictator or puppet of a politician, as I have recently been
accused of) and I am pleased to provide you with a platform with which you can write
and improve your English. But I am increasingly spending a disproportionate amount of
my time on this thread to make sure posts are appropriate and do not promote
intolerance and bigotry.

- We all have a choice. Yours is whether to continue writing about topics that do not
cause offence to other people. Mine is whether or not I can afford the time to monitor a
thread that is enjoyed by so few active people, compared to visitors to the other parts of
this site.

If you only want to talk about religion, then you give me no other choice but to close the
thread. If you are happy to continue talking about the vast range of subjects that you
have previously talked about, then great.

I'm not going to write any more here. I hope that I have answered all your questions, and
that my position is clear to you.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

elham_z August 8th 2010


Dear Clare,

Thanks for reply, thanks for respect you have mentioned you have for us here.

This time I did all my effort just to understand you and your explanations, to give the
most right I can to you. But again by reading this sentence from you ' If you only want to
talk about religion, then you give me no other choice but to close the thread' I am in
shock and in doubt about what picture you have from us in your mind !!!

Once again and again I say to you that we are not here to 'JUST' talk about religion. This
time dear nice Veronica caused, in my idea, NICE discussions and dear Clare, accept
that you YOURSELF caused a lot of later posts which you have not liked! We were
writing regular posts as usual in peace. So it is not us Iranians who has to be accused of
such things!

Maybe we are few and mostly Iranian, but we have one of the nicest threads and we are
proud of having it. We also got very happy when you wrote to us and shared your
opinions with us. But unfortunately all of a sudden ..... !!!

We do respect you and what you want us, I personally agree with you on not promoting
intolerance and bigotry. We also understand that you are responsible for checking our
posts and you spend time on it, thank you very much. But you are expected to be more
kind to us after all. Most of what has happened has been so NATURAL, for we are human
beings and we need to exchange ideas as you yourself did so and made us familiar with
life style in your country. Among all those topics religion was ONE OF them.

I give my own opinion. This thread means MANY (more than you think) for these FEW
people. We have enjoyed ourselves a lot here making big progresses in our English by
writing here. I don't want it ever to be closed for such unimportant reasons. We don't
want to just talk about religion but even we can't omit it from our words completely. I
tried hard to digest what you mean by 'Quoting texts from a religious text - ANY text - is
like a "lecture" and it's like having someone else's beliefs imposed on you. This makes the
atmosphere of the thread unwelcoming and unfriendly.' But I still have pain in my
stomach :):):):):). Ok, I just answer myself, Elham it really may not be understandable
for Clare and other respectable people like her what we mean by referring to God's
words and the value of them for us! The same way they think we can't understand what is
going on there in West!

I love to continue my lovely posts :):):):) here, improve my English in it, learn more
about life from nice members and enjoy myself here making lovely friends. It is so sad
that we heard such words about closing this thread by you, you got so harsh at us. Ok no
problem. I tolerate because I love here.
I hope other friends give their opinions as well.

Finally it would be dear Behnam who decides. We respect his decision, whatever it is.

In the hope of nice happenings again here,


Elham

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araghii August 8th 2010


Hello friends,
this is just for testing.
be green
Araghi

metzean August 8th 2010

Oh eeh Clare ,Please don't rock the boat


Up until now you've been satisfied
With the love that we gave to you
Now the goin' gets rough you've had enough
And all you can say is we're through!!!!?

It's been smooth sailing up until now


We've kept true love in the flow
Let me say it again our ship's comin' in
So ,Clare please don't rock the boat.

Don't rock the boat let it keep sailing


A few stormy seas a little cool breeze
That don't mean our Thread's failing
I promise you every thing will come true
Don't you be givin' up hope, LETS LEARN TOGETHER will prove
Let the kisses begin, our ship's a comin' in
So don't rock the boat.

--- Instrumental Guitar - Fiddle ---Daf---Piano?tar---meddle--

Oh eeh Behnam
The sun'll be shinin' when the stormin' is over
And we'll go on like before
We'll anchor our love beneath the thread more and more
I need you even more than before.

You've got a good captain with his hands on the wheel


Who couldn't sail on if you go
Let me say it again our ship's a comin' in
So ,Clare please don't rock the boat.

Choir
Don't rock the boat let it keep sailing
A few stormy seas a little cool breeze
That don't mean our Thread's failing
I promise you every thing will come true
Don't you be givin' up hope, LETS LEARN TOGETHER will prove
Let the kisses begin, our ship's a comin' in
So don't rock the boat.

Let the kisses begin, our ship's a comin' in


So don't rock the boat.

Let the kisses begin, our ship's a comin' in


So don't rock the boat...

=====================================================
================================Clare don't rock the boat
marinaa August 8th 2010
Dear Clare,

So sad to read this unfriendly languge in this decent place. So sad to read your own posts
recently. I think Clare is maybe angry with someone and empty her charges in this place.
I really wish so. An idea came to my mind during the last two days, that women aren't
able to manage something. You have proven it. You are destroying what you have done &
your good deeds. Please be brave enough and tell the programmer to write your first
decision on the page that you put conditions to register.

You even didn't know how to treat with few people who have different beliefs.

It was possible for you to describe your points by choosing a different way, but you insist
on your unfriendly way. Let me tell you that your decision is changed. The day before
yesterday it was about writing sentances from the holy Koran, now it's about religion.
You have fixed your horrible mistake by changing your decision itself. By the first unfair
decision you looked as if you hate Islam especially there is no Christian friend wrote
sentances from the holly Bible. You meant Muslims & their holly book which is so
strange from a woman who has Muslim friends in her real life.

You caused a row between us. I feel I'm as a Muslim is insulted by reading a sentance
from you that some people writing sentances from Koran in order to defend on " savage
acting" like stonning.

Anyway, You closed the door by using such way of writing. All what i can say, God
forgive you!

Marina.

Veronicaho August 8th 2010


Hi All of you,

I come home from my cruise trip this morning, very curious about everything new that
has been written on our thread. But I immediately understood that something had
happened. Now I have read all yours post and opinions.

We have got a problem together but there are no problem which is too big to not be
resolved! So we need to find a solution for this problem. We are a tight group of
intelligent and friendly people so it can?t be a big problem!

To the first I will say that I understand Clare very well about her opinions and decisions
and I agree with her about what she has written. I also understand all of you and your
good arguments. But this is two different things.I will explain why.

I was so happy when I read my post from Kamelia where she wrote ?I like their
discussions because they make me think deep inside of each culture. There are lots of
things I don't know about other countries and even ours? and I think this is why the tread
means so much for all of us.
And this is the points with all our discussions. But I think as Clare that we should discuss
in a way where we leave our political and religious opinions outside.

Take as example ?stoning? . Everybody know what has been written about it. Can?t we
just write what our opinion is? I don?t like it/ like it?But?it doesn?t matter what my
countries government, Koran, Bible, my neighbor or someone else thinking! Just what I
think. When Behnam said, that it was ok for him he could said?because of my
religion?then we know that it is right in Islam. I could had wrote my countries law about
this but I didn?t. It doesn?t matter. The important thing (for me) was about human rights
and why it is terrible for me. And Behnam told me his opinions and thats enough.

An other example is about hijab and abayas. I thought that Islam women use it because it
was in law. But Marina told me her opinion and she never told me what was written in
Koran about it?she just learned me that she wanted to use it, nobody told her to do that
but she didn?t want to show her body for others. It was her decision. A simply answer
where she just told me her opinions and her decisions and I learned a lot!

We are from different countries with different religious so of course we have different
ways of living and thinking. We have found each other at English at home at Behnams
site and together we have made this site to a lovely site where we can learn English by
talking about all in the world. This is so nice and valuable and we have to take care
about this site and all of us. If we leave political and religious views outside this site, it
will be a nice site where everybody can talk. Although we know each other as friend, we
can never know if someone is afraid to say his/her opinions if we are speaking about
political or religious aspects. So it is much more easy for a writer to say her opinion as?I
like/ I don?t like, I agree/ I disagree?if you know that nobody will never ask you about
the reason to your opinion. We have everybody our rights to have our own opinions and
also reasons for that. This is also freedom to each other!

We can never understand everything in this world?we should just understand that we
can?t understand everything and from that respect people for who they are. Never from
theirs religious, color, country, sex, gender and so on?

If Behnam wants to finish writing here is it a big loss, but it is his decision, and we need
to respect that. But I think Behnam is back very soon?He will miss all of us. But I am
confuse and wondering where he is. Why don?t he give his opinions about ?this problem?
?. Just leave????

Let?s go on?as before but we leave political, religious and all other things that may be
offensive to someone else.

Everybody make mistakes and we always learn from them?so now we have learned
something new today. Although I which was the person who started the ?stoning story?.

I have a new topic :)) Are you ready ?? Is it good or not to transplanting? Are you ready
to give some organ (kidneys, heart, cornea, liver?) to someone else if you could? What
can you accept?

Have a nice day and I waiting to hear from all of you,

Your friend Veronica

Veronicaho August 8th 2010


Hi again,

I hope you can read my post. I wrote it in "works program" and then copied it. Thats why
the apostrophe and question marks is in wrong place...sorry!

Veronica

dentistebru August 8th 2010


Dear Behnam

Your posts make me happy everytime.Wont you write here anymore?

hope to hearing from you soon


Ebru

behnam August 8th 2010


Dear Clare and all friends,

I am deeply grateful for the support in recent problem.


I must say that Clare is one of my admirable teachers, and I do admire her very much.
She has helped me a lot. I have learned many things from her. I should like to express my
thanks and gratitude for all that she has done for me.

Undoubtedly, thanks to Clare we are gathered here to improve our personality and
language skills. There is no denying that without Clare's support and management we
cannot share anything with each other.

As you know, last week Veronica asked me a question concerning death penalty--stoning
women--in Iran. I gave her my opinion, but she was curious to know more. At the same
time, Clare disagreed with me and used some words--like barbaric--to support her views.
However, her words were offensive to me. Therefore, I had to defend my view. As you
know, There are two ways to defend a view: You either be a theorist, or follow a theorist.
I am not a theoretician, so I must follow a theoretician. In science we often say
'According to Newton's second law, or according to such and such theory, this is that or
that is this.' In psychology someone may say 'according to such and such psychologist...'.
When it comes to speaking about some laws in Islam, Muslims often say 'according to the
Koran ...' This is actually what I did in reasoning with Clare and Veronica.

I wasn't proselytising at all, since the holy Koran doesn't need someone to proselytise it.
However, it is Muslims' reference book. In my country, the majority of laws are extracted
from it.

None of my friends are interested in writing about religion, although the vast majority of
them are Muslim. I am not interested in writing about my religion too. However, my
religious thoughts are tied in with the holy Koran. When someone wants me to give a
reason for a religious subject, I often quote something from the Koran, although, in many
cases, I have got some scientific reasons.

I am not boasting, but I have studied many books from different western philosophers. In
fact, my field--Physics--is related to philosophy. Therefore, I often use the cause and
effect law in describing phenomena. This is a habit of mine! I am saying these thing to let
you know that we have to approach the humanities from many different angles, but in
many cases, we don't see all angles. Therefore, our judgment is unfair.

Anyway, I am not here to teach you how to approach different issues, but I am always
trying to widen my field of view. I criticised or disagreed just to make you understand
that topics; which are related to human beings, are complicated. They need close and
careful attention.

In caring this mission, I was very rude to Clare. I must confess that my recent posts to
Clare--addressed directly or indirectly--are embarrassing. They really make me feel
ashamed of myself. Although I wanted to expand her horizon, my way of writing was
shameful. Besides being the runner of this site, she is a respectable lady. I shouldn't have
written those things in that unfriendly and rude way. Therefore, I owe her an apology. I
hope she will accept my sincere apology.
If we have decided to stop writing, we should do it in a friendly way. However, I have
received many emails, short messages, and calls from different people; all have wanted
me to continue writing.

It goes without saying that Clare spends time and energy on monitoring the thread. We
should ask her permission, whether we continue or close the thread. I personally intend
to continue writing. Let's wait for Clare's decision.

There are many interesting topics. Particularly, in an exam, we are often asked to write
about some general things. As I mentioned above, I personally dislike writing about
religious things, because in an IELTS exam, certainly I won't be asked to write about
them. However, it doesn't mean that I won't defend my religion. I am a religious person,
and I have deep faith in Islam. If someone argues, insults, or asks for some reasons, I will
answer him/her, although I dislike to waste time and energy on discussing useless things.

Dear friends, I found out that Behnam is one of the luckiest man in the world. I am lucky,
because I have got some sincere friends. I really take pride in making friends with you. I
don't know how to describe my feelings. I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH.

I looked on the bright side and saw good points of the situation. As I said, one of them
was realising that Behnam is a lucky man. The other one can be the turn point of the
thread. I am sure, you will see more good points in this bad situation.

I wrote a lot. Let's repeat the main concerns and points. First, I feel ashamed of my
recent posts to Clare. I hope she will forgive me, either we will continue writing in this
thread or the thread will be closed by her. Secondly, I thank my friends for their great
friendship and support. Finally, I ask my friends to continue writing if Clare agrees with
it--we should avoid writing about politics, religions, sex, and immoral things.

Dear Clare, I hope this post will remove all obstacles to continue this thread and our
great friendship. I extend the hand of friendship, I hope you open your hand.

Let's make peace with each other!

It is so late, and I am sleepy. I have no time to check mistakes. Please forgive me for
making mistakes.

I am very much looking forwards to hearing from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 9 August, 2010

Clare August 9th 2010


Hi Behnam

I'm very pleased to see you back here, and to read your opinion.

There's no need to apologise - the important thing is to be able to move on, and to
continue making this thread enjoyable for everyone.

I'd like to see people able to practise their English, but on uncontroversial subjects, and I
hope other people can also stick with these guidelines.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Clare August 9th 2010


Hi Mohsen

Many thanks for your poem and song. The words are beautiful (and they rhyme!) so I
imagine the tune is also beautiful. I have never heard the daf instrument. Is it a stringed
instrument? What does it look and sound like?

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

metzean August 9th 2010


mmohamadia Salavat

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metzean August 9th 2010


Dear Clare,

I am very happy that the poem made you happy ,and peace came back to the thread.
Daf (Persian) is a large-sized frame drum used to accompany both popular and classical
music in Iran, Kurdistan, Azerbaijan, Turkey, Kuhistoni Badakhshon of Tajikistan and
other regions of the Middle East. Some dafs are equipped with rings or small cymbals,
making them a form of tambourine.Many have no bangles.

The defi (sometimes called daire in other areas) is a fairly large frame drum with metal
bangles. It is similar to a tambourine in construction; however, the defi is made with a
metal screw system so that the head can be tightened and tuned. It is popular in many
forms all over Greece, especially in the mainland klarino music. The defi is particularly
popular in the Epiros region of northwestern Greece, where they are still handmade
today. They have a beautiful low tone, and the bangles are low pitched as well. A
virtuoso defi player can decorate the rhythm of the songs in many exciting ways.

For more details Elham who is a Daf player can help you.

All the best,


Mohsen

Veronicaho August 9th 2010


Hi Elham,

I hope you are fine and enjoy your days.


I'm sorry for being late in answering but it is because I have been on a cruise trip. Mabe
you remember that I told you that my daughters husbund is a captain in a very big cruise
ship? Last friday this ship went to an small island outside Sweden, with name Gotland,
but belongs to Sweden. This trip took two days and my daughter and I desided to go
there.
We had a really nice trip with shopping, delicious dishes and all you can do at the ship.
The ship takes 1800 passanger and there is a big sun deck with many pools at the top,
beautysaloons where you can make you much beautiful (we didn't been there :)))) , many
restaurants, shops, tax free ...
Most people go there to eat delicious dish and dance in the night.
We had one day to stay at Gotland and there was really beautiful. A small pituresque
town with old streets and small shops and many places to take a rest in a coffebar. My
dayghter Hanna found cloths to her and I bought few small things.
In the evening at the way back we visited captains bridge (?) at the ship and Hannes (my
3 years old grand child) was so impressed to see what his father doing there. He asked
where the steering wheel was :))) Of course he can't understand that those big cruises
going by autopilot and computers.

When I come home again I read all post from last days and of course I was thinking
about it. You had wrote lovely post to this thread and you had importent and good
arguments. And I agrree with you but I think this is two different things. And the best way
is to leave religion and politic outside. For us, nothing changes. We can write as before
and if we sometimes think the religion have a big point...just say that..and we will
understand. There is no problem.

Have you seen my new question/topic? What do you thing about to donate organs? Have
you thought about it? Do you have a donate card in your bag so everybody know if some
accident should happen?

Demand for organs is big in Nordic area and I can see it in my work. Most people need
kidneys but also liver and sometimes heart. I have thought about this many time and it is
a bit difficult. I have told my family my desire so they know if something should happens
with me when I'm unable to speak. I will give my organs if anyone need them but I don't
give my heart. My soul is in my heart and I don't want to give it to anybody else.
What's your wishes?

Have a nice day and I hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Veronicaho August 9th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Thanks a lot for your last answer.

I'm sorry but I had no time to ask Mohsen about all my tricky questions at our trip :)))
You know we had so much to do. We should detect many countries and visit a lot of
people.And there was always so much so happened...lizards... octopus...
When we had a rest Mohsen lay in the hammock at the sundeck smoked some cigar...often
half asleep...and I in a sun chair with a glas of wine :)))

But I tried to learn him about my culture of course...I remember when we was in Syria in
Christmas time and I sent out Mohsen to get a Christmas tree and red balls :) This was a
hard job for me to learn him so many new things but he was always so kind about
everything and he learned very quick. So I dared to sak him about those question because
I was scared he should be so tired on me and throw me overboard :))) Thats why you get
my thricky questions :)))

One day I coming to Iran for a visit....and I promise to call you...:)

Have you seen my new questions/topic? About organ donation. Have you thought about
it? How do you think of it? I see the demand in my work, especially people who need
kidneys but also liver, stem cells and sometimes heart. IAs I said to Elham I'm positive to
it and my wish is to give my organs to people who need them if I can. But I don't want to
give my heart because much of my soul is in my heart and I don't want to share it with
anybody else.
But I'm, very grateful to them who will give their heart because I know that there is a
demand of it.

This is a difficult subject for all of us to think about. Here in Europe we use donate
organs cards. Are you using those in Iran? Do you have one or have you told your family
your wishes if something should happens to you when you are unable to speak?

Hope to hear from you soon.

Veronica

behnam August 9th 2010


Hi Veronica,

Many thanks for your wonderful posts. They are all friendly and lovely. You have
described the ship and the trip in a way that I feel as if I am on them--on the ship and on
the trip.:):):):):)

In answer to your question concerning organs donation I should say it is not common in
Iran--as far as I know. In my opinion, organs donation sound great. However, I don't
think my organs are usable! When they don't function properly in my body, how can they
work in someone else's body? :):):):):)

Joking aside, I agree with organs donation, and I have made a will, so my family know
what they must do when the death is getting close! :):):):):):):):)

Some special parts of my body are still unused. Poor organs have been kept unused by
me. Therefore, I do agree with donating them to someone--who can use them properly.
:):):):):):):):):):):) This is actually 'killing two birds with one stone'! LOL :):):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 August, 2010

setayesh August 9th 2010

Make new friends But keep the old,


One is sliver and the other gold !

Dear Clare and Dear Behnam,


Thanks for making everybody happy by ending up struggling and keeping the thread a
peaceful place for all who write in or read it. I?m so proud of having such understanding
friends.

DEAR FRIENDS ARE HARD TO FIND


DEAR FRIENDS BRING PEACE OF MIND
YOU MY BEST FRIEND ARE ONE OF A KIND

Best Regards,
Setayesh,

elham_z August 9th 2010


Dear Behnam,

My happiness after reading your nice post is out of description. I am proud of having
such an understanding and humble friend. You showed how one can be strict and serious
or kind and modest whenever needed.

Such situations really help us know each other better. Friendship even has its ups and
downs like every thing else. But the TRUE one is easily recognized after it passes
HEALTHILY through all obstacles.

You should know how much I love this thread, so I never stop writing here even if there
are tow people left tending to write. We are limited but it doesn't mean that we've come to
end of the world. It was easily possible for us continuing our writing somewhere else, but
we love it to be here. We respect what we have built till now and don't lose it for
unimportant excuses.

Anyway thanks a million once again for your precious effort here, I am sure you have
programs for our thread and we are going to learn a lot and enjoy a lot along with each
other.

All the best,


Elham

mahla August 9th 2010


Hi behnam How are u?
I was invited here by my friend to enhance my English.
Before, I studied English at institute. Unfortunately because of my entrance exam i stop
learning it and I have forgotten almost everything so I am here to make it better.
Thank u
mahla

elham_z August 9th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Oh, how many times do you want to make me feel jealous of you? Do you really enjoy it?
I am forced to spend all these summer days at home while you are enjoying yourself
making really mouthwatering trips :):):):)

You do a very good thing by writing that nicely about your trips to me. I like it very much.
There were tow places mentioned in your last explanations which I wished I could also
be in. I love experiencing one night in ship while I stand hours on the shipboard looking
at see and the sky of sea feeling gentle breeze blowing onto my face. Of course such
experience would be more pleasant while you are not alone, for example to make it more
romantic let's picture my hands in some one else's hands :):):):):):):):):):) And second
one is mentioned shopping stores which dear Hanna has bought clothes. :-)

Dear Veronica as a matter of fact I expected dear Clare to be more kind to her friends
here. I accept that we were unfriendly in some cases but we accepted and apologized. I
think she also was supposed to say just one sentence that she has also accepted her
unfriendly behavior towards us in some cases. We understood her and her
responsibilities here and we accepted to obey her, although for me personally it would be
difficult. But our friendship is more important and WE LOVE HER and her site. If she
orders us not to write anymore we will obey again.Dear Behnam was worried that she
may really not be likely to see our posts here anymore and he wanted to stop it for ever,
respecting dear Clare but I personally asked him not to do so, since we have found one
another here and we'd love to continue our friendship here too.

I hope recent concerns haven't caused any negative impact on you or our other friends.

Thank you for your really kind and lovely posts and I will write about offered topic soon,

Love you,
Elham

jiulia78 August 9th 2010


Hi, Veronica,
welcome back from your voyage!
have you returned to your home or still to the village? you do good to change the places
in order to change the air and to move away from the hospital where you are working. if
not - everything will remind you of the sick and suffering people that you cure everyday. I
always respected the profession of the medical, one must be born with this calling, it's
impossible to work in that place if you don't have the calling to do it. but in order not to
overburden one's heart it is essential to take off the "power button" ( it's not properly
what I wanted to say but I haven 't found the word ). can you "switch you off" in your
everyday life when you come back home from your work?
as for your question to the organs donation, i would give it to my children, to my native
persons without thinking two times. in another case I would prefer not to know it, just
take it AFTER, when I am not conscious any more. it is the thing that requires a great
braveness and self-sacrifice. I am not so generous, or not so brave.... hope that soon the
scientists will be able to resolve this keen problem with artificial organs which will be
accessible in prices.
sincerely,
Julia

jiulia78 August 9th 2010


Hi, Clare,
thank you for your common sense and your diplomacy. I was sure that everything would
be great very soon. it could not gone in another way. we have become very attached to
this site and it is not easy to leave it.
If you permit me the question, I see the Italian flag by your photo, where do you stay in
Italy, if it is so?
have a good day!
Julia
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behnam August 10th 2010


Hi Mahla,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for joining us. Tell your friend that Behnam says
'thanks' for your guidance.

Would you please tell us a little bit more about yourself?

Your English is very good. It seems that your range of vocabulary is big. You should use
your vocabulary and put them together to make sentences. In other words, you should try
to write and speak. This will help you to change your passive vocabulary to active one.
Please do not hesitate to share something with us. Take part in discussing different
topics. Express your opinion freely. I am sure, you will remember the majority of
forgotten words and expressions.

Write about different topics! It does help! In many cases, the lack of information prevents
us from communication (speaking), not the lack of vocabulary. Writing will help you to
get ready to communicate in everyday situations (the real life).

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 August, 2010

behnam August 10th 2010


Dear Marina the great,

This is just to let you know that all people in this thread--me included--appreciate the
value of your concern about Islamic rules and the Middle East cultures. Thank you very
much for strong support for your belief and faith. It shows your great love for Islam.

I know that you feel a great sorrow and you are extremely unhappy now. However, I want
you to see the good points in this bad situation. I know that some words like 'Savage
punishments', 'barbaric' have offended you, but what should we do? We had two choices;
to stop writing in this thread, and to come to terms with this situation. The first one
apparently sounds ideal, but it has several obvious disadvantages. It is easy to stop
playing a game when we see the situation is inconvenient, but if we leave the game, we
will lose the chance of playing.

My first decision was leaving the thread, but I thought about both choices for hours.
First, I put myself in Clare's shoes. I was Clare for some hours thinking 'I am spending a
lot of time, energy, and money on this site. Bad or good, that is my site. People are
getting different benefits from being on this site. They improve their language skills. I am
helping them with the improvement. In particular, three years ago Behnam started his
thread with a limited vocabulary. Now, he has made a big progress and accuses me, my
country, government, style of life, etc. of different things. Someone accuses me of acting
like a dictator. Another person accuses me of being puppet. Oh Clare! What makes you
stand this painful situation? Clare, what have you given, and what you are receiving
now?...'

Honestly speaking, when I put myself in her shoes, I found her a very patient lady, and
myself guilty. My heart was heavy and my conscience was guilty and unclear. On the
other hands, my friends were sad. Some of them cried when chatting to me. One of them
said, "Behnam, if you bring the thread to this kind of stop, I won't forgive you!' I was
sandwiched between my guilty conscience and disappointed sad people. I found it selfish
to insist on hostility and to close the thread as a result. Therefore, I decided to get rid of
my guilty conscience AND make my genuine friends happy. I decided to stay in this
thread, and I feel happy for this decision.

Dear Marina the great, I understand you very well. I am aware of your sensitivities. We
should know people have grown up in different places with different cultures. They see
things differently. In particular, westerners are different from us in that their philosophy
of life is materialist and humankind oriented. We should not blame them for using some
offensive words to describe something that sounds strange to them. In many cases, they
have not got enough information about us. In particular, because of cold and warm war
between Iran and the west, the media often spread fake news and political propaganda to
brainwash the general public.

Last night I went to London chat room 1. I put a message and wanted someone to chat to
me. After a while, a person wrote, "Behnam stop putting message here. People are not
interested in chatting to you." I asked him/her for the reason. S/he said, "You are a man.
Clearly, you are looking for women, but you stone women in your country because of
love affair. Women do that action with men, but you stone poor women and please men!"

It took me a lot of time and energy to make them aware of the fact. How can I prove that
stoning has stopped in Iran? How can I prove that in Iran women play an important role
in the society? How can I prove that Iranian men love--even worship--their wives? Dear
Marina the great, even you should not compare other men with Iranian men. In Iranian
culture, men have great respect for their wives. Women are treated with great respect.

Anyway, another person wrote, "Behnam, why do you force women to cover their bodies
completely and then look through slits or holes? How can you recognize your family from
other women?"

I answered, "You may have seen some photos of women in Afghanistan war who are
fighting. They cover their faces to be unrecognizable, or maybe for religious purpose.
However, in Iran women are supposed to cover their bodies, unless their hands, feet and
faces. Therefore, their faces are uncovered and they look at the universe like men. By the
way, covering the body is the rule, but there is a big difference between making a rule
and obeying it. For example, in the streets, it is more likely to see a girl's naked chest--
the upper part of her round apple shaped things, even the beautiful line between two
voluptuous ... :):):):):):):)--but it is quite difficult to see men's naked chest!" :):):):):)

Dear Marina the great, we should stay and remove obstacles. We should spread kindness
and friendship. We should try to make hearts get closer to each other. When the sky is
cloudy and dark, the Sun cannot be seen properly. We should try to remove the clouds in
order to make the sky blue and let the Sun shines.

Don't be sad and smile. You look pretty when you smile.

Happy Ramadan to you! Please pray for me in this holy month.


Hope to hear from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 August, 2010

behnam August 10th 2010


Hi Aseman,

How are you today? I hope you are doing well.

To be honest with you, I read your question many times, but I didn't understand it! Would
you please write the question in short and simple sentence? Is is possible for you to use
some simple words to ask the question again?

USE SIMPLE WORDS AND WRITE SHORT SENTENCES!

We learn a new language to communicate with other people. The main reason for
learning a new language is communicating, not setting puzzle for people. Anyway, in
your last post, the sentences make no sense! Please rephrase them!

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 August, 2010

behnam August 10th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

How are things? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for the support. It was really the
turning point of the thread. I am sure, we gained a lot of experience from this event--
critical situation. :):):):):)

You have asked me a question concerning the difference between the format of the essays.
I should say that is a rule. If the topic wants us to give or opinion--agree or disagree--, in
the introduction paragraph, we should motivate people, rephrase the topic, give our
opinion, and finally mention three reasons why we agree or disagree. However, when the
topic concerns advantages and disadvantages of something, in the introduction, we don't
give or opinion. We keep it for the last paragraph--conclusion. By the way, in this case,
we are supposed to write about both sides. In doing so, we list positive sides and negative
sides when brainstorming. If the pluses are greater than minuses, we write one
paragraph about minuses and two paragraphs about pluses, then in the last paragraph--
conclusion--we say that in our opinion advantages outweigh disadvantages. If
disadvantages are greater than advantages, we write one paragraph mentioning
advantages, and two paragraphs about disadvantages. Obviously, in this case, we should
say that in our opinion disadvantages of such and such thing are more than its
advantages. We often use different sentences to mean something. I am sure you are
prefect at using them.

If you want more details please let me know.

Thank you for reading my essays and making comments on them.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 10 August, 2010

Clare August 10th 2010


Hi Julia

Yes, I live in Italy! To be specific, in Marche, about an hour from Ancona. Before that, I
lived in Rome. I read before that you lived in Calabria but were thinking of moving to
Milan. I don't know Calabria very well - I drove through it once on my way to Sicily and I
remember that the food was hot, hot, hot! The best chilli peppers in Italy!

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

elham_z August 10th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Now it is time to answer your questions.

* I was supposed to give some information about my siblings. We are four sisters, no
brother--fortunately or unfortunatel-- My oldest sister is 29 married two years ago, no
children yet.( We are killing ourselves begging them to have a child, but they don't obey
our order.( Do you see any logical relation between use of beg and order together ?! )
They can't understand that if they don't want child, we die for a cute nephew or niece!!!
:):):):):):) ) She has studied computer but she doesn't work in this field. She is a skillful
dressmaker. She loves it and most of what we wear is made by her. She is said to be the
apple of my mom's eyes by other third.(LOOOOOOOOL)

Second sister is 26. She has studied computer engineering, now working as a
programmer. Still single called the apple of my dad's eyes by me.(LOOOOOOOOOL)

Third one actually is sweet, cute and lovely Elham who is known to you up to now.:-)

Forth is 14, an active student. Her name is Shirin. Shirin means sweet in Farsi. She is
said to be the sweetest girl for both mom and dad.(LOOOOOOOOOL)

You see, all of them are dear for someone. It seems that this is just poor Elham who is not
loved by anyone! That's ok, I love myself, it's enough. :):):):):):):):)

I am kidding; my parents are so kind to all of us. My mom is so kind and patient with me.
I worship her. My dad always motivates me to study and bring him honor and pride! I
really hope I can someday make him happy with me.

* And about your question concerning organ donation, I have to say my family members
know this, cause I have told them many times, to donate my organs in case of any serious
happening for me. My sister however has another idea; she wants her body to be buried
containing all her organs altogether. She says they are mine and I want to be with me
after death too. We often argue on this matter. I believe I am doing nothing particularly
useful, I am not satisfied with my life style and if my organs can survive some one from
death and that person would be able to do even one thing useful in her/his life why not
donating?
I don't have card yet, but I have seen people carrying it with them and every year in our
university in a special day cards are given to everyone who asks for.

It was interesting to hear that you are not likely to donate your heart. I thought about
your opinion and this question arose for me whether our feelings or something like that
particular to us are possible to be transferred with the organ itself !

Oh Veronica I was picturing myself on the bed of hospital having a brain death. Although
I have agreed with donating my organs, what if doctors say to my parents that it is
possible for Elham to be alive again if they wait enough ? Suppose this would happen
right today, Am I ready for death? Doesn't my soul want my parents not to do that, in the
hope that I will be alive and finish unfinished things up until now?

Now we face a new question; please think about it and let me know of your opinion. If
you are said that you are going to die (God forbids) in a week from now what would you
do in left days of your life? Are you satisfied with what you have been and done till now?
Any regret?
Oh there are so many questions in my mind. Let me postpone asking them to a later time.

Hope to hear from you so soon,


Love you,
Elham

elham_z August 10th 2010


Dear friends,

I have asked a question from dear Veronica in my last post. Would you mind reading it
and giving your personal answers please? I would be happy to hear from you about this
topic.

All the best,


Elham

setayesh August 10th 2010


Dear Veronica,

How are you? I hope everything goes well with you and you enjoy every moments of your
life.

I'm in a hurry right now. It's 4:00 and I have to be at English institute at 4:45. But I'd like
to write my idea about your offered topic.

Organ donating is getting very common in Iran. As far as I know people have good and
positive attitude toward it. I am a firm believer in donation. If someone can benefit from
an early death, why not donate. There are thousands of people on organ transplant lists
and will die before their time because healthy organs are not donated.

It's like one of the best forms of recycling, others can feel your existence in others body.
There are so many people who wouldn't be around today if it wasn't for an organ doner!

If any of my organs can save the life of another human being I will willingly donate them
after my death.

Oh,Oh! It's getting late, I have to leave right now.

Hope to hear more from you

All the best


Setayesh
behnam August 10th 2010
Hi Elham,

Thank you for lovely posts. I REALLY love reading your posts. They are delightful. They
smell pleasant, sound great, and taste sweet. They are full of feelings and thoughts.:):):)

Respect can be requested, but apology cannot! :):):) I had to apology, and I did. Now, I
have a clear conscience, and inner peace. I am VERY happy to apologise to Clare the
great. I found her a great, patient, generous, tolerant, and merciful lady. Of course,
nobody is perfect, but honestly, if I were in her situation--after reading those strong
criticisms--I would bring a sudden end to this thread. Clare's patience makes me feel a
close sense of intimacy between me and her.

Well, her shortcoming is not amazing when you consider that Clare is a lady, so as
Marina the great has pointed it out, ladies cannot be good managers! :):):):):) Although
the rise of production, and the performance of employees--the efficiency--are statistically
significant at some companies, where both sexes are working for--it doesn't mean that
women are much capable than men or vice versa. It shows the positive effects of them on
each other! hahahaha :):):):) Joking aside, because of some psychological reasons,
miracles occur when men and women work together. :):):):):):):)

What am I writing about? Where am I going? :):):):) So sorry for digressing. Let me
confine myself to the main purpose of writing this post.

Your question is very good. What would I do, If I knew the exact date of my death--next
week for instance? Believe it or not, If I knew it, I might take a booklet, and wrote
something for the next generation of my family, or maybe for people in the future. I
wouldn't meet anybody, wouldn't go anywhere, wouldn't eat any specific food, wouldn't
visit any places, wouldn't do any undone things, unless wrote something for the future. I
am obsessed with nothing in the earthy world.

I never fear of death. I love it, and I think death is so sweet. I love to die and see the
mystery of the world, AND I hope to see what I have thought about it had been correct. I
am looking forwards to seeing the day my dreams come true. I love the death and the
other world. I am waiting for it.

Dear Elham, I have read in some books that there is no jealousy, greed, selfishness,
pride, lie, pretense, meanness, betrayal, hypocrisy, and all other destructive human
emotions in heaven. I love living there with great people. I wish I were one of them!

Thank you fro reading. Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 11 August, 2010

aseman7 August 10th 2010

Hi behnam

I'm sooooooo happy to see you back here. we need to you at this thread.
Thank you for guidance.

My question was about selfish. why some people are selfish? and just think to
themselves? and they destroy the others right?????????

Best wishes
10 August 2010
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jiulia78 August 10th 2010


Hi, Clare,
YES, Calabrian chilly pepper is our visiting card!
but even it cannot keep us staying here any more. right in these days we are organizing
the transportation of all the things, furniture. There is a saying -" remove is worse than
the fire..." i completely agree... I hope, if nothing interferes, to make it until the beginning
of the school year. if God wants...destination - Milan.
Clare, for how many years have you been living in Italy? how do you find the Italian way
of life, which is diverse from the English one, and the cuisine? I used to have friends
Englishmen, they were from London, which is famous by it's changeable weather, they all
were planning to move to Italy just for the sea and the sun in abundance.;)

Have a good day!


Sincerely, Julia.

metzean August 11th 2010


Dear Veronica,

You cause me to recollect many beautiful images in my mind related to our traveling. I
learn many things from you and Andrew about seaworthy life , now I am an experienced
jobless captain ,looking for job in a cruise ship. What is your idea about joining to Aland
to Stockholm cruise round trip line. Or is there any job vacancy in Gotland ? if they need
a lighthouse man ,I can control the tower and guided the ship to the Quay . What are
people doing in center of baltic sea in gotland specially in winter , I know the gotland is
belong to Sweden ,so is there any customs when you buy something and leaving the
Gotland?

Let me know ,do you pay money when you get into the cruise board which shipping by
your son in low . I think it is free of charge for you ?, let me say that all of ship is
governed by admiral veronica's son in law. So everything is free for you. Good luck

Mohsen

metzean August 11th 2010


Oh I forgot to write about donation of my organs , I oath that I have no idea if some
people use my organs for themselves ,? I feel my mind is heavy these days ,some symptom
of mind strike I feel , ?customers in a big row. You are welwelwel commmm ..

Clare August 11th 2010


Hi Julia

I've been living here for nine years. I have to say that the weather here isn't always
fantastic: cold and snow in winter, lots of rain year round, thunderstorms every other day
or so it seems... But up here, in the mountains, our summer evenings are cool, so we can
sleep well.

I'm originally from the countryside in England, so I feel quite at home in the countryside
here - except that the countryside here is very "wild"! Lots of wild animals you'd never
find near Oxford, lots of hunting and dog-training, and weird customs like "lunar
gardening"!

I like Italian cuisine, but particularly like the freshness and taste of seasonal food. I grow
a lot of fruit and vegetables, and like finding interesting (not always Italian) ways of
cooking them. I miss the variety of food that you get in London, though: Indian, Thai,
Chinese, Turkish etc. Here it's relentless local dishes and nothing else ;((

There's a lot more to life than just seaside and abundant sunshine, though these make life
perhaps a lot more fun. I'd say that although, by and large, there are a lot of advantages
to life here, there are also some serious economic and social problems and I'm not sure
there's much will to solve these problems.

Moving is stressful, that's for sure! Have you got a flat to go to in Milan? Are your
children already enrolled in school there?

Good luck with the move!


Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Bluegreen August 11th 2010


First to:

Dear Behnam and Dear Clare and all my other friends here,

It might look like a little bit late but it worth congratulating. Doesn't it? I'm really happy
to see this reunion again and would like to congratulate this big event to all of you.

I can't express how much unhappy I was while reading all those struggling and negative
posts. They weren't literally negative but they radiated bad feelings' rays. LOL I don't
want to say that all the time a community should be happy and avoid struggles but I think
we can solve them with negotiating.

Hope that we can continue in this lovely way,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 11th 2010


Dear Sahand,

I'm so sorry that writing to you took such a long time. I was busy doing lots of things
beside wondering how people were doing here! Now I'm so glad that we're back to our
friendly way.

Oh you told me all about This Fender and Stratocaster, and your students. I really
appreciate your help. I really didn't know about them.

So you teach to seven students and that's wonderful. How do you manage teaching them?
They're young people and some of them can't tolerate a teacher just their age. Do they
listen to you and act as that? You know these days I go to this class called TTC. The
professor told us that in the first session, doesn't matter if it is university or school or just
a plain institute, students look for the teacher's faults and just stare to find any mistake or
shortcoming. LOOOL. It wasn't hard for me to believe this fact but I haven?t yet seen it
because there happened no official class performing for me till now( hope that I will) but
I want to ask you, is that really true? How do you manage it then?

Dear Sahand, I'm sorry that I have to ask you this now, because it's been a while since we
write, but where do you study in Iran? Are you satisfied with your major? Do you work
anywhere related to your major?

Oh and please join this last topic because Dear Elham has asked all our friends to write
about it.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 11th 2010


Dear Sahand,

I'm so sorry that writing to you took such a long time. I was busy doing lots of things
beside wondering how people were doing here! Now I'm so glad that we're back to our
friendly way.

Oh you told me all about This Fender and Stratocaster, and your students. I really
appreciate your help. I really didn't know about them.

So you teach to seven students and that's wonderful. How do you manage teaching them?
They're young people and some of them can't tolerate a teacher just their age. Do they
listen to you and act as that? You know these days I go to this class called TTC. The
professor told us that in the first session, doesn't matter if it is university or school or just
a plain institute, students look for the teacher's faults and just stare to find any mistake or
shortcoming. LOOOL. It wasn't hard for me to believe this fact but I haven?t yet seen it
because there happened no official class performing for me till now( hope that I will) but
I want to ask you, is that really true? How do you manage it then?

Dear Sahand, I'm sorry that I have to ask you this now, because it's been a while since we
write, but where do you study in Iran? Are you satisfied with your major? Do you work
anywhere related to your major?

Oh and please join this last topic because Dear Elham has asked all our friends to write
about it.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 11th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

I know your lovely poem related to Dear Clare and Dear Behnam but believe it or not
you really amazed me with the wonderful lyrics. How did you get them? You made it up
or you used something as a model?
It sounded good and it reminded me of those songs which they perform while a sport's
team has won or something. I really loved this creativity. Unique things always absorb
me with their flashlights. LOOL

Oh and that Salavat, LOL I said one in my heart when everything finished. LOOOL

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen August 11th 2010
Dear Elham,

Hi there. What's up? Are you doing all fine these days Dear Eli? I really wish that you
do.

So many thanks for the lovely posts although they were written mostly to Dear Clare and
Dear Behnam but I enjoyed reading them. I like you writing style. It's like spreading this
delightful fragrance of happiness and friendship.

Dear Elham, once I said that I'm a huge fan of your posts to Dear Veronica and vise
versa LOOL and I still am. I can't stop reading them because they are so interesting to
me. Now mind you, I was reading this last one regarding to your sisters and family. So
you're four sisters, oh my god, isn't it lovely? Four girls at home change the atmosphere
to a great degree. You know, it's always busy and as girls love talking and enjoying them
selves so you must always be busy doing something. Right?
Honey, you asked a nice question but the deeper I think the worst it gets.LOOOL I had to
actually empathize with the situation and that made me imagine so many situations. :)):))

Enough of digressions, I think if there was just one week left of my whole life I'd gather
my family members and just enjoying these last moments with them. I'd try to apologize of
anyone whom I might have hurt, and I'll tell them where I have put my diary notebook
LOOOOOL

Sweet Eli, we live these days without knowing what's going to happen and that death is
like a dim line too far from us when we're just busy doing our routing daily chores.
Right? It's somehow hard to plan for this last week. I always think of having better days
than yesterday. I use these 24 hours to learn more and see wider aspects of life. Because
you're never going to know when is this going to happen.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
Bluegreen August 11th 2010
Dear Behnam,

Hi honey. How are you doing? Oh so you think I supported you, no you're wrong! LOOL
I supported a friend which I know for nearly a long time and I do believe in. I supported
a friend which ideas and beliefs are important to me.

Dear Behnam, you can't imagine how happy I am that this argument is finished and I can
read all the pages without any stress or anxiety of asking myself: Gosh! Where are we
going? Congratulations to you and Dear Clare.

Oh about that essay, thank you for further explanation. I read through it carefully and I
found out that my mistake was to write one head paragraph consisting of some major
points then I wrote one paragraph for each of the advantages and disadvantages equally.
This was my major mistake. I agree with you I should have emphasized on the points
which I agree with more.

Dear Behnam, I read your post to Dear Elham regarding to our last days of life and
found you so patient. LOL Are you sure that you wouldn't even get stressed or
something? Oh my goodness this seems so hard. At least for me. Just the idea of dying
freaks me out. You know Behnam, there are some times that suddenly I think what will
happen if I die just right now? Then I say nothing, its ok! I'm ready. But there are other
times which I think of death and say oh god please no. I'm still young and have big things
in my mind. (The latter are times when I'm going to do, read, make, or take part in
something new)

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

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elham_z August 11th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Since I like to see my dear friend 'Behnam' happy always, I try to do the least thing I can,
to make him happy; I mean writing to him.::):):):):):):) Is it good? Do you accept this gift
from me today?

As usual you taught me a big lesson.* Not to expect apology from others*. You gave me
my share of food for thought today. Thanks. You are absolutely right. I can blame others
for not having respected me, because it is every single person's right to want her/him part
of respect as a human being.( For example I always try to respect people when they don't
know something, and this unawareness lead them to some unfair behavior or judgment
toward me. Most of the times I try to look for excuse giving right to others. Yet I know
although it is a very good attitude to approach, It shouldn't make them think with
themselves that I am stupid .It doesn't mean that I stay silent let them do whatever, I do
my best to defend myself for I respect myself too, but I let them know that I try to be a
understanding person.)
But this would be so nice of a person not expecting apology. It is really difficult. Most of
the defects in relationships are resulted in from not considering this delicate fact. These
days people expect A LOT from each other. This is particularly seen between couples,
and one of the main reasons of divorce. Not understanding their own mistakes aside,
expecting the other one to ask for forgiveness is another funny story. So we conclude that
for having a healthy
long _lasting relationship, being 'WISE' to distinguish facts and at the same time
'UNDERSTANDING' enough to sacrifice in time, are crucially important.

Anyways, I hope I never forget this valuable lesson by you.

Thank you for expressing your opinion on my question yesterday. You know, I thought
with myself that if I either was Behnam, I would decide as he has done. As far as I know
based on information you have given to us from yourself, you have done MOST and BEST
you could do in your life. See I don't say that you have been perfect, but you seem to be
satisfied with what you are. I think so. Now my question from you is to write to us about
what you had mentioned you would write in that booklet. Would you please?

I also love to love death! Specially recently I think with myself that how good it is that we
are able to die and leave this ugly world. It is the best gift God could ever give to us. But
I feel stressed out for not having had the best efficiency expected from Elham as a human
being till now. If someday I get enough satisfaction I will welcome death with open arms.
(It should be mentioned that I don't mean that ideal satisfaction that every person desires
for, no, the least reasonable one I mean). Going to that wonderful world you had said
should be really enjoyable and peace we can feel in such world would be irreplaceable
with any other one.

Oh no, I haven't forgotten that I am supposed to write about pets. Be patient dear
Behnam.::):):):):):)

* Thank you for reading. Hope to hear from you soon and have a great day *
All the best,
Elham

behnam August 11th 2010


Hi Aseman,

How life is going? I hope everything is going well with you. Thank you for rephrasing the
question. Now, everybody understands it easily. This is what communication means.
:):):):):)

In short, I am not a selfish person, so I know nothing about selfishness! :):):):)

Human beings are created with some destructive emotions such as jealousy, greed,
selfishness, meanness, etc. These emotions are inseparable part of human. However, the
intensity of them differs from person to person.

Some of those emotions are common among animals and humans. It seems that without
those emotions human beings cannot live in this world. For example, a selfish person
cares about him/her a lot. People must care about themselves. Selfishness causes people
to care about their needs. This is necessary. However, it must be controlled.

If we focus on selfishness more closely, we will find out that it is one of the main powerful
engines in human's actions. Why am I answering your question now? Surely, in the first
place, I care about myself. That is good to care about ourselves. It motivates us to stand
the life.

However, if our selfishness causes some problem for other people, or if we threaten
people's rights by selfishness, it is bad. As a rule, those destructive emotions are good as
long as they have positive effects. Otherwise, they are bad.

Why are some people dangerously selfish? It seems that they are not improved. They are
so close to animals rather than human. They cannot control and balance those emotions.

The role of those emotions in our life is somewhat similar to the role of food. Human
beings cannot live without eating food, but eating too much causes some health problems.
It seems that wisdom balances and controls them.(aghl bayad control kone!)

I hope that helps.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 August, 2010
dentistebru August 11th 2010
Hi Kamelia,
How are you? I hope you are fine and healty.

You are absolutely right about my irregular posts. And my irregular post cause missing
discussions. I will try to write more regularly.

You have chosen a good nickname. And your friendship is precious as your nick name.

Honey I cant understand , or dont know , what did you mean with " each month has a
certain stone". I know nothing about it. May you explain for me please? I think it can be
a symbol of each month. Am I right?

And colors.. I think colors effect on mentality, physchology, on whole body. Each color
has a special energy in my opinion. And this specal energy effect human. Actually, lots of
people can notice it easily. For example red alert exciting emotions.This effects, reflects
on even human metabolism as heartbeat.. As you said, green and blue, in bright version,
are reminiscent of relief and relax. Maybe they make these feelings because they are
main colors of nature.

Things, which effects emotions, surely effect physchology, mentality and whole life.

Nowadays,this topic is more popular. I saw and heard a lot of thing about this on TV and
net. People notice this type of things, as colors, object s shapes etc., are more popular
than before while choosing clothes, decorating houses. For example while decorating
houses, they are chosing different colors for different places. Suh as on living room,
bright and soft green, blue, purple; on kitchen clear yellow etc... This type of choices
effect balance and clear conscience.

Colors also effect our health. I heard, at Ottoman Empire, at hospitals, doctors benefit
from colors and voices. They used colors to cure sick people.Also not only
physchological. I know there are some researches about this topic, today.

When I saw that you ve asked me what do I think about colours first time, I imagine there
is no color in the world. Everything is black and white or gray. I think colors are
wonderful presents to us Beauties are more visible with colors, arent they?;)

I love calm colors but I prefer black on clothes in winters. In summer I prefer white, blue
and pink.

Sorry for my late posts.


Hope to hearing from you soon
Ebru

kimchi August 11th 2010


Dear all,
I am chi, come from vietnam.
I like English and want to improve it every day.
I also want to make friends from all of the world who can learn english together with me.
My skype: kimchineu

behnam August 11th 2010


Hi Friends,

How are you doing? I hope all is well with you.

Happy Ramadan to all my Muslim friends. I beg your prayers, so please pray for me in
this holy month.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 August, 2010

Clare August 11th 2010


Hi Behnam

You (and all my Muslim friends on this thread) are in my thoughts at this special time!

Best wishes
Clare

--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam August 11th 2010


Hi Clare,

many thanks for the kind message. You should know you are always in my thoughts. I am
also quite sure, you are always in our Muslim friends' thoughts.

All the best,


Behnam, 11 August, 2010

naseh5 August 11th 2010


Dear Behnam,
I would like to congratulate
you and all Muslims over the world and say to them*Ramadan Mubarak*and may Allah
return it us when we are in agood mood.
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hi Behanam.How are you?How is Ramadan with you?I know it has a special flavor with
you as a muslim.I can not describe how is the weather of this month at Yemen.It is very
nice,beautiful and if it correct"handsome".People all the night go to other to change the
greeting and visiting the Wombs.So,we are as Muslims,when we are visiting wombs ,it is
one of the types of worship, which by ever closer to God.I can not say only this sentence"
The atmosphere which we live the Faith of this blessed month. I invite you to visit Yemen
this month to see whether we apply the words of the prophet in us when he said "People
of Yemen have come to us whom have the hearts insomnia and Allen hearts"".

behnam August 12th 2010


Hi Naseh,

Happy Ramadan to you too!

Ramadan is a likable month in Iran. People are kinder to each other in this month.
However, I don't know why the prices go up in this month. It seems that in Ramadan
people totally eat and drink more than other months, although they don't eat during the
daytime. This is against the philosophy of Ramadan.

In Iran, the daytime is about 15 hours now. The weather is quite hot. Therefore, fasting is
difficult. However, the vast majority of people--me included-fast.

I have heard some stories about your country. Iranian people think of Yemen positively.
Would you please write a little bit more about your country? How many hours are the
daytime now?

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 12 August, 2010

behnam August 12th 2010


Hi Chi,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for putting message. We are all learning English.
Thank you for joining us.

Write about topics and take part in discussion.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 August, 2010
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aseman7 August 12th 2010


Hi behnam

Thank you for replay message

Ramadan Mubarak to you and God accept your prayers and your fast
pray beg

Your answer was very complete and excellent


So a person selfish of course type dangerous the primarily endamage to him/herself

best wishes
12 Aug 2010

reena August 12th 2010


hello

happy Ramadan to Behnam and all the Muslim buddies here.


best wishes,
Reena

elham_z August 12th 2010


Dear Clare,

I like to express my deep thanks to you once again for having provided this lovely place
for us. Thank you for your kindness toward us (Muslims).

All the Best,


Elham

elham_z August 12th 2010


Hi Behnam and all Muslim friends,

* Happy Ramadan to all *

Don't forget your little sister, Elham, in your prayers.

Warmest wishes,
Elham

naseh5 August 12th 2010

Hi Behnam,
Thanks alot for your good feeling about my country also people of you country.

I will answer for your Q about the habit of people at this especially month in Yemen.Day
time is the same for daytime in Iran.To know that the fasting time is more than the time of
eating.Moreover,I quiet agree the prices is expensive.But in Yemen is double.The prices
of YR(Yemeni Rial) is fall down beside the dollar.Did you know that 1 Rial =240 YR and
the seller have been increasing the prices of the main food.God help us!!

I am really quite because I spend Ramdan in the capital of Yemen Sana?a.So to know
that I am from Amran ,Yemen.The Masgid(Mosque) all the day especially all the night
people stay read the Holy Quran and you can hear them as footsteps of an ant.

I would like to hear from you about the how are people of Iran do in the Masgid?How
are they read the Holy Quran?How many parts of the Koran are you keep?
The time is over for me!I am going to have fast food after forty minutes from now.I hope
you are with me to see what peolpe have a speciall food in Ramadan like
Sanbosah,Shorbah,and Jely.This names of foods are in Arabic.I can not translate them.

behnam August 12th 2010


Some nice sentences(extracted from a magazine).

1) A wise enemy is better than a foolish friend.


2) Justice brings intimacy withing the hearts.
3) The best knowledge is accompanied with practice.
4) To revenge hastily is the manner of the ignoble people.
5) To ignore those who annoy you is the sign of greatness.
6) Forgive people as you like to be forgiven.
7) The best speech is confirmed through behaviour.

Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change
the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

I hope you enjoy them.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 August, 2010

behnam August 12th 2010


Hi Reena,

Thank you for the message. How are you? I hope everything is going well with you.

Where are you? Is there any reason for this long absence?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 August, 2010

behnam August 12th 2010


Hi Naseh,

Thank you for writing about your country and ceremonies which are held in Ramadan.

Many tribes are living in Iran. Some people are Arab. Some people are Kurd. Some
people are Turk, etc. Therefore, ceremonies are different from tribe to tribe. It varies
from place to place, city to city, town to town.

Tehran is a multicultural city. Many races are living in Tehran. Therefore, writing about
Ramadan ceremonies are difficult, even impossible. I just can write about my own family.

We fast--stop eating, drinking, and doing some forbidden actions--in Ramadan. There is
no mosque near my house, so I don't go to mosque. My relatives live in different cities, so
we rarely meet each other. We eat the same food which we often eat during the year, so
there is no difference.

I can say that for my family Ramadan is like other months, except there is no lunch and
eating or drinking during the daytime.

Some people read the holy Koran by heart. Some people read it at offices, workplaces,
mosques, etc. However, I believe the holy Koran must be applied to our lives. There are
at least two or three copies of the holy Koran in almost every house, but keeping them on
shelves doesn't make us Muslim. I although believe reading them with a high voice
doesn't make us Muslim. We must use it--apply it--to our society and in our every day
lives.

Would you please let me know if the holy Koran is applied to people's lives in Yemen?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 12 August, 2010

naseh5 August 12th 2010


Hi Behnam,
W?Allah I do not know what do do or say.I can not rewrite what I have already to answer
your require.The electricity had cut off.

I am so sorry for this.I am nervous NOW,but I promise you to write sooner not later.The
time for me,is the time of reading the Koran.You know we live at the month of Koran.

I am going to the mosque to pray and listen to a religious sermon from the Shaikh until
before the Fajir Pray by hour,I comeback to my house to have Food Suhoor(Snack food ).
I would like to tell me what are doing after Fajir pray to Duhar Pray (from the morning
to noon)?Are you like me go to bed to sleep?I spend half my day at bed because I stay
wake up during the night?

Do not hesitate to tell me more or Little.

behnam August 13th 2010


Hi Naseh,

Thank you for the reply. Please be patient and continue discussing patiently.

Ramadan is the month of the holy Koran. That is OK. I agree. Does it mean to read it?
What is the point in reading a book again and again, but not applying it to everyday
lives?

Dear Naseh, some people do like you in Iran. I am not criticizing. I am just asking a
simple question. What is the point of being awake during night, reading the holy Koran,
or listening to a sermon? What is the point of being awake during night and sleeping
during day? When are we going to work? When are we going to use what we have
learned from the holy Koran?

I hope you will not say that we will use them in other 11 months and will get spiritual or
economical benefits.

The holy Koran must be read and MUST be applied to our lives. I am sure, Muslims do
not apply it to their everyday lives.

Oh Naseh, preachers should preach sermons to some uneducated people. When you are
educated, you do not need to waste your time on listening to what they say. What do they
preach? The history of Islam? Well, it can be easily read in many books. Some stories
about what such and such person did? Again you can read it in some books.

I do not know why people in the west apply the holy Koran to their lives, but the Islamic
communities do not even smell it! This is one of the biggest questions in my mind, and I
cannot find an answer for it!

Dear Naseh, do not get mad at me, I am a Muslim too. Please continue discussing
patiently. I am sure this discussion will result in some interesting topics.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 13 August, 2010
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Clare August 13th 2010


Hi Behnam and Naseh

Can you keep this conversation "light", or perhaps move to private messaging if you want
to get more involved in religious/philosophical discussions?

Many thanks
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam August 13th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks for the message. :):):):):)

OK. I agree. I hope Naseh will email me at: behrampednam@yahoo.com

All the best,


Behnam, 13 August, 2010

sahand August 13th 2010


Hi Kamelia

How do you do ?

You know Kamelia, it's not that kind of official classes, 1 hour private class. We look like
friends, not teacher and student ! Two of them met me at the time I was playing with my
band. I haven't force them to be my students. They chose it, No right to complain then !
:D

And about my major ...

I just finished Software Engineering from Iran University of Science and Technology. I
enjoy what I do most of the time. There will never be a major where you enjoy all aspects
of it all the time. I think that a job can be satisfying if you enjoy it. I planned to head out
to Toronto to studying Communication engineering and Web Design/Development. Pretty
standard stuff for the wanna-be-proffesional code monkey ! :D I joined Creation and
Launching of the Videogame Laboratory about 4 years ago. This project is not only to
create professionals, also glides to enter in the market developing games and images.

After working a year there, I left my job for some reasons. I haven't really started looking
around for a new job yet !

Wish you luck with TTC

Sincerely,
Sahand

elham_z August 13th 2010


Hi Dear Kamelia,

How are you doing honey? Are you enjoying Ramadan? I hope so.

Oh, thank you for showing interest in reading our writings; mine and dear Veronicas'.
Yes, we are four. When ever I talk about us being four sisters, I recall that old cartoon,
named 'small women' ( Zanane kuchak). Do you remember that? I loved this cartoon. Do
you remember the second girl? I think the name was Cathy. Our neighbor always says me
that you remind me of Cathy. The day when she first told me this I agreed with her. That
day I had cut my hair and had a ponytail hair style exactly like Cathy.
You are right about having a busy atmosphere, especially those days when we had our
oldest sister still single at home; most of the times we were gathering around my mom,
mostly in kitchen, just chatting. I can surely say I have wasted a lot of time on such
feminine talks, rather than go study my lessons! You know, we, especially me and my
older sister, are used to go straightly to mom after arriving home, explaining what has
gone on with us out there. I am so intimate with my mom in a way that causes my friends'
or cousins' astonish. I easily hug her and want her to hug me strongly vise versa. A
mommy girl? Emmm, Yes sort of. Oh but not those type who brings complaints from
others to their mom or do those not very interesting behaviors you are aware of yourself.
We are just so intimate and I have made her have deep trust on me. Still I see some
friends of me who claim their mom don't let them out easily, because they have not
enough trust on their children. But fortunately we never have this problem at home. You
see what a good girl I am:):):):):)

Thank you for answering my question. You've got a good attitude toward this matter. I
liked your answer. Let me think about my own answer. A week from now! What would I
do?Emmmm !!! (Seriously thinking ......... )

There is something for sure; in left week I won't leave this thread, reading posts and
writing in it. How can I forget about the thread where has been one of the most important
places for me in my whole life? I am not exaggerating at all; For some reasons here is
crucially important for me. I love it here. I don't know how long I am going to write here
or this thread exists, but anyway finding here has been one of the best and most special
happenings of my life.
So poor Let's learn together in this left week ! I will kill it by my posts containing all my
thoughts and feelings. But you are not forced to read them all in this time, I will write
much enough that you have enough from me to read, so you won't miss me!
:):):):):):):):):):):)

Oh I may do what I always desire for ! Let me reveal a fact about myself. One of my
biggest desires is to write a book. What do you think I will write about? Emmm, Let it
remain a secret. I won't tell you in order to give enough motivation to you to buy my
book. For sure it would be the best-seller book ever:):):):) Don't you believe so? Kami
once I said one of my friends about my love for writing book, but the really unfair friend
told if you do so, no one will even read book at all, not only your book, but any other
one!!! Bad friend of mine.::):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Ok, let me stop thinking here. It might lead to dangerous things, who knows?!
(LOOOOOOOOOOL)

So happy having written to you, dear Kami,

All the best,


Elham

metzean August 13th 2010


Dear Elham,

If I have only a few days for living ,I go to the Karaj lake behind the karaj dam to swim
there , as I swim there many times ,I think it is the most clear water in Iran ,when you are
diving to the depth of water ,and open your eyes there ,you enjoy swimming under the
clean water and you see every thing around you. I am ready to die, although I like
everything in this world .I enjoy everything around me. I like people, animals , flowers
,mountains , plain. I like my relatives, I don't like to think about death. I am not afraid of
death ,but everything should be done on time.

I have a bad habit, to make fun other people ,even in formal meeting ,I can't control
myself, people around me never understand that I am serious or not . yesterday I was
going in an office to extend a contract ,a lady who work in information partition came to
the door and told me that the time of working was about to finish and you are not allowed
enter the office ,I didn't know that in Ramazan ,the times had been changed , so a trick
came to my mind. I called the information department by my cell phone and as the lady
came back to her partition to answer the phone , I stealthily went into the office.I
succeeded to do my job and when I was going out I stopped in front of information
counter and said bi bi to the lady , she was confused ,who I came into the office ,she told
me ,hey naughty man ,try never see you again. I smiled and said bi bi madam.

Some employees are used to finish their work ,sooner that regular time , you may go the
that bank ,the finishing regular time is 2 PM ,but they finish about 1. I never stay behind
the bank door ,I have always a 200000000 Rial certified cheque to put in my account ,
this is what I tell to the bank manger ,when he smells money, the instantly was opened.

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean August 13th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

Yes kamelia, nobody understood the value of my poem except a native speaker and a
student of English literature. I am glad that this poem made you happy. You know
kamelia everything is achievable if some one burns the midnight oil, where there is a will
there is a way. My poem was good ,but there gigantic room for me to develop ,now it is
strange of me to make such a remarks. It is better for me to find something as a model
and change some parts of it , it is a good way for a beginner to commence an activity
base on model , hope to read the poem you composed very soon.

All the best,


Mohsen

naseh5 August 13th 2010


Hello and welcome Behnam,
Blessing Friday and how is life?

Dear friend,
I like read discussing of Behnam !Really?He is the philosopher of this thread by his
constructive criticism?I do not praise him because I do not face him nor were his student
one day before.

Once again hi Behnam,


I like to write to you,but before that,I am going to tell what you have said!I am quite
agree with you how is people will do their work in Ramadan if they will be wake up all
the night.Yes, you are right.But if you do not know people and companies and make
arrangement to their work.They arrange to start working from 11:00 AM to 3:00 PM.So,I
can confirm that the street at 10 or 9 o?clock in the morning ,you can not see any person
or listen to any sound of a car except who has emergency or going to travel to another
govern-orate.People do that,because they say,when we going to work or do what or life
need to do,we will be tired then get hunger and thirsty.
For you topic which you proposed it for me,because I was nervous last night.Of course,I
done that,because the electricity always cut off about twice in the day,this is in the capital
of Yemen.

Dear Beam,
I would like to tell as you know ,Today is Friday,and the Mosque is far from my house
about 500 Meter.To know that,I go to their on my leg to get the wage from Allah.As you
my big brother,I would like to advice you do not listen to the Whispers of the evil,and
disobey him to say "the mosque is far and the religion is the religion of moderation"and
Allah is Forgiving, Most Merciful.We know that is true,but Allah is
Severe punishment for those who disobeyed the order by the messenger.I know your not
do that,we all remiss,but I like to say The Promotion of Virtue.

Do not get angry at me,forgive me and hope to read from you soon about your customs
and traditions of my brothers in the Islamic Iran.

ghazal August 13th 2010


Dear Sahand
Hi,thanks for your reply.

I asked you about Michael Jackson.


I asked because many pepole don?t like him or some one hate him.

So I want to know your idea about him.

At first I didn?t like him but when he died(God bless him) I understood he was spicial
man that many pepole didn?t know in fact who was he?

You know because of his face and some things that he did exist wrong way about him so
it?s better to change our mind about him.

Have good time

GHAZAL

ghazal August 13th 2010


Dear Veronica
Hi,I hope you enjoying your life.

I just passed one year in university and about job I have many dream!!!?

Wow you have 3 childeren and you are grandmother!!!

You have good family and now my life:


I?m living in khorasan in east of Iran,I have 2sisters and 1 brother,and my sister is nurse
too and I have brother?s daughter so I?m aunt!!

I love poems and reading books and music and I always want every one have good life
and this is my slogan in life:DON?T JUDGE

What else do you want to know about me?

sincerely

GHAZAL

elham_z August 13th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

How are you? How is Zayanderud these days? Oh, don't tell me that if I come to Isfahan
this time, I will again face that still water in Siyosepol lake. It is really sad to see such
scene. :(:(:(:(

Dear Mohsen, I had to say this to you sooner, but accept it from me now, Ok? You can't
imagine how happy I got to see your poem. It was fantastic boy. How such an idea came
to your mind to do so? You did a really interesting thing. Thanks. And about that Salavat,
funny boy ! I laughed a lot by seeing that. You seem to be a very funny boy, like those
boys who are the sweet of every gathering. Isn't it? Mohsen wasn't you born in Khordad?

So you go to Karaj Lake! Don't you know that I'm fasting? Talking about that pure water
.... :-) I die for such pure waters, now I have to force my dad to take me there. I am
curious to visit there. Ok, I offer him, and he like always would say, of course Elham.
Pick up your backpack, let's go! Oh, who, my dad? (HahahahaHehehe).::):):):):):)

Mohsen may I know how and where you have learned English? Has English been your
field of study? I don't think so. Which institute in Isfahan have you tried? Please help me
and suggest one of them to me. Last two summers I took classes in Sadr Institute on
Sheryati Street. The teachers were not bad. I never forgot the very first day of my
presence there when one of male teachers took test of me. He was a very nice man. He as
he claimed was a native from Kalifornia. He was from Isfahan and had lived there. When
I started speaking English a big smile appeared on his lips, he was attracted to the way I
was speaking. And immediately offered me to take part in a workshop class that it's
students were chosen from top students of institute. That class was one of the most
enjoyable classes I have ever taken.
Anyways, last summer I took part in the highest class in term of level in Sadr, but I didn't
take the final exam. I was also accepted to participate in TTC classes of there after
having an interview. But I didn't go. Maybe if I had continued now I was teaching
there!!!

This summer I got so lazy, I just preferred to stay at home. But I seriously want to
continue going to English class. Would you offer me a good institute please? You know I
have this bad habit of mine that I can't tolerate every teacher or every class. I have to be
sure the class would be useful for me. I am even sensitive about the classmates. Last
summer I changed three classes. Finally the other students were all older than me and
educated; I can't get along with these childish (Susul) girls. You know? Sadr institute is
full of these girls who have rich ( large) fathers, wasting all their money there!

Hope to read from you,


Don't forget me in your prayers,

Elham
750

reena August 13th 2010


Hello behnam,

I hope you wouldn't be faint because of fasting?well, well, well?? jokes apart; How are
you? I hope you are doing well.

I am busy with my own stuff. I told you that these days my sister is here with us with her
cutie pie my dear nephew. you know he has changed our body clock completely. When
rest of the world sleeps he keeps up and keeps his momma and aunt awake too. These
days we sleep at around 3, 3:30 or sometimes even 4 in the morning and get up at 12:00
in the noon. So most often I miss coming on to thread but yeah when I come, I thoroughly
enjoy reading your post and of course other people's too specially Kamelia, Elham and
Sahand.

Meanwhile, I read about the controversy between you and clare but thankfully at the end
of the day, everything has been resolved and settled. Good for us.Atleast I could be able
to read more post from your side.

Warm regards
Reena
13 August 2010

jiulia78 August 13th 2010


Hi, Clare,
Neither I am a native Italian, so we can complain one another tranquilly of this
country....;)) I am from Ukraine. 9 years here, so as you. when you wrote about the wild
life in the mountains did you mean only the presence of the wild animals or either the
people not very "civilized"? how are your relationships with the neighbors? here in
Calabria there a good many of ignorant people especially those who live in the
mountains. not young people but old men and women cannot read and write. I
understand that they are the generation which has passed thro' the war and so on and so
far, but the life is so long and the war was lasting just for four years... it's not an excuse,
how do you think? what is the situation like in the remote angles of Marche? is it only a
Calabrian syndrome?
the flat in Milan is rented for now. than we'll see.
have a good day.
Julia.

jiulia78 August 13th 2010


Hi, Clare,
Neither I am a native Italian, so we can complain one another tranquilly of this
country....;)) I am from Ukraine. 9 years here, so as you. when you wrote about the wild
life in the mountains did you mean only the presence of the wild animals or either the
people not very "civilized"? how are your relationships with the neighbors? here in
Calabria there a good many of ignorant people especially those who live in the
mountains. not young people but old men and women cannot read and write. I
understand that they are the generation which has passed thro' the war and so on and so
far, but the life is so long and the war was lasting just for four years... it's not an excuse,
how do you think? what is the situation like in the remote angles of Marche? is it only a
Calabrian syndrome?
the flat in Milan is rented for now. than we'll see.
have a good day.
Julia.

metzean August 13th 2010


Dear Elham,

Half of the loaf is better than no bread . you remember that last year the river was dried
,but this year Zayanderud river respects people with small stream flowing. I should say
thanks Zayandehrud.
You know that Elham I have posted some other poems when the thread was wound up or
whenever Behnam dried up and this time I tried to change the atmosphere of thread by
writing a poem.
You surly have heard the Joke about a Muslim was taken to a church to converted to
Christianity , the priest gave him a glass of holy water and asked the lights to be off, then
he told to the Muslim man " in this dark holy place tell the name of Christ for one
hundred times" when the man finished telling the name of Christ for one hundered time
,the lights was on and the man spontaneously told loudly Allahoma saleh ala mohhamden
ve allemohammmad.
For some events like when two people reconcile ,we spontaneously ask people to say
salavat.
I was born in Mordad and last week my wife took a lot of money from my safe to buy a
gift for my birthday, thanks God if she forget about my birthday .
About learning English , I was in semiprivate class which was hold in my company , we
were few students which were thought for purpose of trading and economic , many years
ago I used to go to the institute which was called Roshd. I have heard about many
institutes like Poyesh , Goyesh , Sadr ,Conoon , shokoh ?and so on ,but I don't know
which one satisfy you. If your speaking is in advance level , the same as your writing you
don't need to go to the institution ,you can improve your speaking through Skyp or yahoo.

B. Wishes
Mohsen

jiulia78 August 13th 2010


excuse me for two same massages, my baby is writing with me.... he salutes you alll!!!!!

metzean August 13th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I agree with you that we should practice what we read in Koran , yes it is perfect . but
suppose you read Golestan book which is full of story and advices then you try to
practice what is written in Golestan. Can you say that reading the Golestan again and
again is useless ,because you practice only a small part of it. Reading of Golestan each
time give you a lot of energy and peace . you know that Golestan in compare to Koran is
like a drop of water compare to the sea.
About Islamic sermon I completely disagree with you. Because there are many reasons
behind taking parts in that Islamic ceremony , for example you can say your prayer at
home ,but it is firmly recommended that say your prayer at mosque .that show the unity
and power of muslim people. In sermon also the preacher analysis Islamic theories with
help of Koran and many narrations from Imams and also how this theories can help you
practice Islam in your life , this not a place that preacher tell only about history . Have
you listen to Mr. Fatemnia, he is from Azabayjan . he has not study islam for 70 years to
tell us an story . sometime the preacher start his lecture with a story , like important days
of Ashora Tasoa , yes but this ceremony has a lot of social, political lesson behind it.
About some rule that people observe in Europ which are like Islamic rules , and why in
Islamic country ,people disobey some part Islamic rules ,I disagree that this only because
people put the Koran in the self and never practice it. I think the main reason is poverty ,
you check it in Tehran , when you go to the north of Tehran where people are more rich ,
they are polite , they consider social rule and the other's rights,they have not to tell lie
but when you go to the south of Tehran , less rich people area. people use bad language ,
they do many crime ,not observe other's right ,ignore the rules when drive their car, park
it every where they like and many other things.

All the best,


Mohsen

Clare August 14th 2010


Hi Julia

Actually, I meant the wild animals, not the people! But you made me laugh - I think some
of the people are quite lawless as well!! We've had recent instances of people putting
poison down to kill the foxes (ahead of the hunting season) but that people's dogs have
been poisoned instead. I hate this sort of behaviour...

My neighbours are very nice, kind people. They're farmers, and work very hard. It's a
traditional place, where local customs, language (dialect) and ways of eating probably
haven't changed much for centuries! I've learned a lot about living with the seasons, and
respecting the land and the weather. Strange things to learn, perhaps, in a modern world,
but satisfying, too.

As far as I know, everyone round here can read and write. In the not-so distant past, you
could leave school at 14, so a lot of people have had a short education. Like most regions
of Italy, the local dialect is still used in families, with standard Italian spoken (mostly) in
schools and public life.
There are a lot of young people here. Marche is quite a rich region compared to regions
in the south, but many of the factories in this area have closed. The economic crisis is
making life difficult for everyone.
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

elham_z August 14th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I was supposed to write about pets.Today I eventually did it. Let me first express my
thanks to you for giving me this chance to seriously think of writing an essay. It made me
give attention to what I need to know for such purpose and look for expressions needed to
be applied in such formal writings. I went back to previous pages and looked carefully at
your assays for some clues.
I am going to have four paragraphs; Introduction, stating advantages, disadvantages,
and finally conclusion and my personal idea.
*********************************************************************

Nowadays more than ever, we see more and more people tending to have pets. Daily we
may see a lot of people on the streets having taken their pets with them or we see
programs on TV specialized to pets and whatever related to their health. There are even
movies made based on a story about pets. However there are strong arguments both for
and against keeping a pet.

I would like to begin with advantages. Apparently the most obvious reason for having a
pet is loneliness of people. When they can't find that crucial care and love that is
supposed to be given to them by a loved one, they seek the response for such needs in
owning pets. The pet is always there available waiting for them at home, so one can
easily find ears to share heart to heart talks with. We see increasing number of women
who keep pets. The reason is obvious. One of the most distinctive characteristics of
women is being supportive and their need to love someone; they feel relieved by taking
care of someone. So giving this care to pets is so common among those who stay single or
don't own any child. Moreover, some people keep pets just for fun. Suppose a complete
family, parents and their children. Pets can play a big role in every child's childhood.One
of the sweetest memories of our childhood go back to time when we would play with
animals. We had never pets at our home but I never forget times when my cousins and I
enjoyed ourselves a lot watching caws and their fights with each other or hugging and
playing with lambs of my grandfather.

However, there are many disadvantages of having pets as well. They should be fed and
taken out regularly. One should spend as much time as needed for growing a child on
some pets. Some of them like dogs and cats may cause damages, so one should keep an
eye on them all the time not to damage valuable things at home. Furthermore, they mess
around so they can not be held in every place of home. Another important disadvantage
is that having pets at home threatens our health. They may cuase infectious disease for
family members.

Summarizing, owning pets have both negative and positive sides like all other things. It is
advisable to think twice before having them, considering both advantages and
disadvantages. For me it depends on what kind of pet I am going to have. I can't tolerate
dogs or oh, disgusting cats. One of my friends has a really cute puppy. Whenever I go
there he rushes toward me playing with me. I love him; every now and then I miss him
and go to my friend's house to see the puppy. I enjoy seeing such a clever animal. But, I
never like to have a dog for myself. Recently I?ve been thinking of a calm tortoise or a
talkative sweet parrot. Of course, I may throw both of them away from home; one for
being so silent, the other for making a lot of noise causing inconvenience ! :):):)

*********************************************************************

What is your idea? I personaly enjoyed writting it, but I am sure there are mistakes.
Would you do me this favor and let me know of your own opinion and advice to me?

Hope to write more essays and thanks for reading.

All the best,


Elham

behnam August 14th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

Happy Ramadan to you! Thank you for the post.

My English is not good enough to understand your professional poem. Professional


works are for professional people! I just know the meaning of a few words in English. I
am terribly sorry, but I hope you won't blame your brother--Behnam--for his lack of
knowledge of poem and poetry. :):):):):)

How many 'Fateminiya' are there in Iran? By the way, even 'Fateminiya' often repeats
the same things that I have heard or read years ago.

People should have deep faith in what they say. Besides deep faith, they have to 'practise
what they preach'. Responsible people MUST practise what they preach. Otherwise, the
words will lose their positive effects on our lives. That's a proven fact. Our faith MUST
be carried by some signals. The audiences will receive those signals, if we have strong
faith in what we say! What is they sign of deep faith? Practising, practising, practising
what we are preaching! I even believe that there is no need to preach when we practise!
Practising is the best preaching! :):):):):)

I have got 'Tafsir Al-Mizan' books, and 'Al-Maede' software. They are enough for me
honey.:):):):):):)

Pray for me in Ramadan when you are breaking the fasting. It seems that you are closer
to the Lord.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 August, 2010

behnam August 14th 2010


...What is the sign of deep faith?...Sorry for making a lot of mistakes, but I had to correct
this one. :):):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 14 August, 2010
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behnam August 14th 2010


Hi Reena,

How are things/ i hope all is well with you. Many thanks for the post.

Everything has got a price, being an aunt is not an exception, and staying awake at
nights is its price! :):):):):):)

Hope to hear more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 August, 2010

behnam August 14th 2010


Hi Elham,

Your post is excellent. Your reasons are sensible. The structures are powerful. The
grammar is fantastic. Thank you for posting it in this thread. I really enjoyed reading it.

I will write my essay on the advantages and disadvantages of keeping pets soon. I will not
write new things. I will write the same things with different sentences.

Hope to read more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 14 August, 2010

elham_z August 14th 2010


Dear Behnam,

How can I tell you how happy I get to see your compliments? Not because of
complements themselves but because of the source which they come from; cause Behnam
says them, cause Behnam is not the one who says what he doesn't believe in, cause he has
always said that he believes in what he says and can prove it.

Have I ever told you how much I ENJOY your posts? I don't think so. Have I ever told
you how much time I have spent to read all your posts here? I don't think so. Have I told
you how much you have helped my mind? I don't think so. You may ask how? I answer.
Just by writing some posts. But they are not some normal writings for Elham. The way
you express your opinions and strong believes are amazing, I love it and learn from. I
hadn't told you these things till now but tonight I felt I like to let you know all about it. I
am the one who can't keep her thoughts in mind and I have to tell others about what I
think about them. I enjoy feeling your assertiveness and confidence between your lines.
You have strong opinions about things and no matter to what extent I agree with them, I
just want to read more and more from you. This is not my feeling right now or in recent
months, no believe, from my very first presence here, I have been attracted to your way of
thinking and lovely way of writing.

Why did I tell you these things? It is obvious. I don't hide my thoughts and feelings; I
respect what I have in my mind so I will reveal them to whom they are related to. I never
think with myself that if I do so the person would be proud of himself or such thoughts.

* Thank you very much for being my friend. I am proud of this friendship.*

All the best,


Elham

behnam August 15th 2010


Hi friends,

How are you doing? I hope you are enjoying every minutes of your life.

I couldn't check my mailbox last week. Today I could find time to check it. There were
some lovely emails from lovely people. I haven't got time to reply to them. I am terribly
sorry.

I would like to express my especial thanks for all your kindness and affection. A nice
friend of mine has sent me a nice e-card. Thank you very much.:):):):):)

These days, I am tired and bored. I cannot concentrate on my tasks. I cannot even look at
the screen of my computer. I feel a bad ache on my neck. Ache on neck! Funny, isn't it?
:):):):):)

I would drink a lot of tea, so it seems I am addicted to tea. However, it is Ramadan and I
am fasting. What should I do? :):):):):):):)

Every single cell in my body yells TEA! TEA! TEA! One of them--it is perhaps the leader
of all cells--threatens me with violence! It says that it will complain to the UN about bad
situation! :):):):):) They--cells--believe Behnam doesn't care about their rights! :):):):)

Anyway, God bless me!

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 15 August, 2010

metzean August 15th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I desire nothing but your health, the lesson you get from Ramazan is restraining your
passion. You are dying for a cup of tea ,the tea is near to you ,but you don't drink it ,this
is a kind of practice . What you said about practice I totally agree with you. But we have
self practice ,and interaction practice. You told that you know what X person wants to tell
you ,you read it many years ago and now you don't need to listen to him anymore , So do
you think that you don't need to read Koran ,because you read it many years a go . you
spare your time if read it again. This is only the time of practice But what should we do
when we want to practise according to Koran.

A friend of mine never say his prayers ," what is the use of prayer , I am always with
God, I don?t need to remember him by saying prayer 5 times in a day ,he is always in my
mind" He said ,it is time of practise , not only say some words by our mouth. The practice
is only love people ( he is follower of Dervish set)

I myself practice everything in my life , telling lie, gossiping , bribery ,rubbery don't have
meaning in my life. I respect people in all aspect that you can think , I help others as
much as I can , I work in my office in a way that my boss doesn?t let me to think about
new job. I am a well behaved man, my wife happy time is when I am at home.
Is it enough things a person to practise in his life?
Am I need to be preach any more , or say my prayer , or reading Koran or reading
religious books ,because I know what they want to tell me .

Dear Behnam Praying 5 times a day , reading Koran , listening to a preacher may be is a
repetitive stuff ,but if you put yourself in this repetitive orbit ,likely you put your self in a
centrifuge ,whatever it turns you ,you enrich more and more. Your vulnerability became
less and that radius of your ray extended.

If you see a wolf wears in sheep cloth ,you should not be pessimistic about other sheeps.

To be a professional poet ,it is a long was you should pave ,but don't worry whenever you
catch a fish ,it is fresh ,you have time ,stick to poem.

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

ghazal August 15th 2010


Dear friends

This is my post about my trip to Makkah

I?m so sorry I know it?s too late but my grandfather was sick so I didn?t have time.

And I want to write just important times:

we went to airport in 6/7/2010 at6a.m .our flight was at11:30a.m so for 5hours we were
waiting .after 4 hours being in sky and passing Khalije fars,we were in madine

we went to our hottel that called Joharatorashid .we were close to holyshrine so many
people went to Mohamad?s mosque but I and my sister and her husband had rest in
hottel.

we were group of family that had that trip .I and my mother and my sisters and my aunts
and my cousines and?..

at 3a.m that was time for Azan all of us went to Mohamad?s mosque for raising prayer.
for the first time,seeing green dome in dark sky was really graet.

3a.m was time for sleeping but that wasn?t important for people.they just wanted to come
and pray in Mohamad?s mosque.

that greatness astonished me.

we were in Madine for 6 days and after we went to SHAJARE(the name of mosque) for
pilgrim?s grab.

for pilgrim?s grab ,we must raise prayer and then all of us told especial
sentences(Labeyk alahoma labeyk?..)
And then we couldn?t do 12 things like:
1.looking at mirror
2.saying order
3.useing perfumed,??.
even we couldn?t kill gnat!!

we couldn?t do those works until finishing especial acts for Haj.

we went to Makkah from Shajare with bus and after 6hourse we arrived.

we just went to our rooms in hotel and at 1A.m(midnight) we went to


Masjedolharam(mosque that have kaaba)

I sayed you about especial acts for Haj ,those acts are:
1.circumambulate(7 times)
2.Shafa and Marve(7 times)
3.again circumambulate(7 times)

when I did those acts,I didn?t feel any things .


At that time I just feel my God?

after acts we came back to hotel and we were so tired.


we were in Makkah for7 dayes .

time for saying goodbye recived and?

somethings annoyed me,all of muslemes were not united and many people forgot the
reasons for those acts!

Any way that was really good for me and after that trip I experience new feeling and I
have many new questions and I need to solve them.

Oh MY GOD thanks for your invitation.


and my friends thanks million for read my post.

SINCERELY

GHAZAL

Clare August 15th 2010


Congratulations Haj Ghazal!

I would love to visit Mecca one day, but as a non-Muslim. I know I'm forbidden to even
see it. I don't really understand why that is, as I once visited the Dome of the Rock (in
Jerusalem) without any problems. In fact, a lady praying there took me around and
kindly showed me various things of interest. It was a lovely experience. There were
beautiful rugs on the floor and it felt like a very welcoming place.

Lots of pilgrims come and visit the Vatican in Rome. But I have to admit, I don't find
churches and cathedrals particularly welcoming places.

Perhaps this is due to my experiences as a child, when I occasionally had to go to


church. The average CofE (Church of England) service is guaranteed to make a child
fidget: hours of hymns and sermons, interspersed with instructions to stand, sit and
kneel...

I've just found a link to the same church! If you want to see a photo of my village church
(pretty much from my bedroom window!) click here:
http://www.churnchurches.co.uk/bl_building.php

Mohsen: Can you give more information about Dervishes? An English expression is
"whirling Dervish". Can you explain what this is? I always thought it was a person who
went into a religious trance and spun around. Is it a mystical thing?

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Clare August 15th 2010


Hi Behnam

You only talk about tea when you're not allowed to drink it! I remember that it was the
same last year at Ramadan. So I urge you to forget about tea and think instead about
learning English. If you like, I'll set you some grammar ex's so you forget your thirst and
concentrate on something else instead. Just let me know...

Joking aside, I'd like to say how much I admire your (and obviously other people's)
strength in fasting. It's something that we rarely observe in the west. My mother gives up
sugar for Lent (the 40 days leading up to Easter) and a close Catholic friend of mine also
says you can give up other "treats". She mentions not talking if you're a chatty person, or
only eating bread and water if you enjoy good food / wine.

But generally speaking, westerners don't like giving up their comforts - whether that's
food, drink, or customs. We're used to obtaining things when we want them, for example.
But I think that removing something makes you appreciate it more.

You are in my thoughts

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Bluegreen August 16th 2010


Dear Ebru,

Hi there. How are you honey? How's everything going on with my dentist friend? I hope
everything's fine and you're enjoying every minute of you summer.

Dear Friend, that's so nice of you to say so. Your friendship to me is even more precious
than you think.

Oh about those stones,yes you're right.Some certain stones are symbols of months. I said
each month has a particular stone. Actually this stone is a gemstone. As gemologist
nowadays say it's beneficial for everyone to know their stone because it happens that
these stones might have special medical power on you. Well I really don't know if it's
been proved or not but it has brought along a good deal of money for jewelers.LOOOL.
Well I haven't seen any magical power in them but anyways as just the impossible itself
say I'm possible( LOL) I won't deny it. Maybe there are such powers. Who knows?!
Oh and which month are you born in? Do you believe in this gemology?

Now about colors, you gave me some good information. Thanks for that.I do agree with
you on them.

Oh you said Ottoman Empire, where's that? I haven't ever heard of it.
And you mentioned that"I think colors are wonderful presents to us. Beauties are more
visible with colors, aren't they?" I absolutely agree with you. Without colors this world
was a depressing place. I really can't imagine how could we tolerate it!

Thank you so much for writing about your opinion,


Now I should say sorry for my late posts,LOOL

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 16th 2010


Dear Sahand,

Hi there. How are you? How's everything going on with you? Wish you're quite fine.

You mentioned that you look like friends. Yeah that's fascinating. I actually wanted to
hear this sentence. You know, sometimes people, when finding out that their teacher's
someone at their age, don't tend to listen to her/him. I think they feel like they're
humiliated or something.

I've even tested this. For example, in this frist year of university, whenever I used to teach
a classmate of mine she stared at me like she wants to say: Hey, you're no better than
me!" Or at least I thought it was like that. Although they themselves had asked me to
explain to them. So I sometimes I was forced to change the vocabulary of my teaching.
For example: instead of saying "No you're wrong" I said " well, would think a little bit
deeper? Maybe you found something that you haven't noticed before" And that's it. It
worked better than before. By these, I wanted to show them that although I might ( just
might) be better than them in some aspects but I still am a friend of them.

Well, I wanted to know if you've got such problems but thank god, you get along with
them very well.

So, you've studied in the university which we call Amir Kabir. Right? Great, one of my
cousins used to study there. I bet he does now, I'm not really sure. Good for you.And you
do design computer games, wow!
Dear Friend, this is cool for a young boy like you and cool for the big society of this
country but it's not enough for our humble society here.LOOOL. Why?! Because you've
got to write more and be active finding a subject among all these posts and writing about
it. Is it that much hard? Or you're not much into writing or what?

As you saw, Dear Elham wrote a wonderful post asking you for this. So please! It mustn't
be just reading the posts related to you. All of us read all the posts here and try finding
some topic to write about and you're not the exception.
LOOL well I didn't mean to be this serious( as my tone shows so) I'm sorry if it sounded
too pushy. :)):))
Oh and so sorry for writing this late,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia
752

Bluegreen August 16th 2010


Dear Elham,

I'm soooo sorry that I'm answering you this late. You can't really imagine how much I get
happy when I read your posts to me and then how much I get sad when I can't write to
you just the time I read it! Thank you for making time writing to me. Alright now that I
apologized I can be a little bit more comfortable talking to you about things. First about
Ramazan, I can't express how I like this month and how much I enjoy these holy times of
Sahari and Eftar even if I'm not fasting. I just enjoy being awake at those times. I feels so
good to me. And they mean a lot to me. Because I feel more calm. About the morning fast
breaking I like the weather when it's a little bit cool here and then those house's lamps
get to turn on one by one and I really like it when the city's so slept in this tranquility and
it slowly begins waking up. It's way too amazing for me. And about the afternoon fast
breaking( I'm not sure how to say it maybe I should called it a meal)I like the Azan they
perform on TV. Ever since I was a little kid the Azan has been the same and I really enjoy
it. It reminds me of the times I used to pass in my grandpa's house. Like my grandma and
I used to turn on the TV to hear it. It's just sort of memory for me and it's pretty cool
when I remind all those just by this Azan. I bet it is Moazzen Zadeye Ardebily, I'm not
sure. But the tone of voice is pretty calm.
LOOOL I wrote all the way about Ramazan, now it's time for Zanane Kuchak. Is the
English version called Little Women? Is it the same Eli? I'm not really sure. But hey girl
you really watched it? I can't say much I enjoyed watching those girls with their special
kind of hair style like Maggie's and Cathy's and special kind of dresses they wore. It was
really nice at that time. It was one of my favorites and I remember that I had the book. So
you look like Cathy, now I can imagine you! I liked her more than others. What was the
last one called? She caught a disease I guess. I can remember it was Scarlet
Fever,LOOOOL( thanks to my memory).

Oh and you said you're the kind of girl who talks about everything to her mom. Well, you
might not believe it but I'm the same. I like talking to her about whatever good or bad
happens. And why not?! She's my best friend besides my little sister. And who can be
better than your own family member? They are the best advisors sometimes!

Now about the question you answered, you really would continue writing in here? wow
girl! SO you must be so patient! Well Dear Behnam said he would write something like a
diary for the next generation and you said you would write in here! I think I do envy you
too! And here's the thing, you might not force me to read all your posts but I LOVE to
read them. So there's nothing you can do about it. :)):)):))

Let's talk about Eli the writer. What do I think about your writing? I think you can do it!
Why not? You like it, and you desire for it and if you add much effort you can surly do it!
I think you would write about, emmm, pretty hard to guess! But you might write about
yourself and your lifestyle or your experiences! What do you really like to write about?
Oh and what is your studying major? You might like to write about that so that other
students can use it!

I talked about every word you had written in your last post to me,LOOOL

And here's the last thing, I know your essay was written to Dear Behnam for further
explanations or corrections but I did pry about and read it! I liked it. Well I'm not the one
to correct you or something because my knowledge is far less that Behnam but I enjoyed
reading it and I liked the way you had the words, however, moreover and so on. They
looked so appropriate for the place! I bet this proves that you're going to be a big writer!

Now I'd be waiting impatiently to read from you,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 16th 2010


Dear Ghazal,

Uh finally! How are you girl? How's everything going on? Come on, where were you?
Why did you make us all wait this much to read about your trip's diaries?! You got my
Email?

Look at my greeting. It's so bad! I'm sure you're going to forgive me for greeting you this
fast! LOOL It wasn't my fault because you wrote about it late and I was so eager to read
all of it! OK anyways, honey I really liked your post about the trip. It had the aspects I
desired to know about.

So you went there with your family, I bet you enjoyed a lot and as you're the person
whom others are really comfortable having trip with, so I'm sure they enjoyed having you
along! So good for you I really wish I had the chance to!

You had been there before once, right? How did you find the place? Ghazal, I read Dear
Clare's post to you and I found that I agreed with her on some aspects. I agreed with the
side that she said it's pretty comfortable in those areas like Mecca where there are lots of
colorful carpets and so on. But I myself have just experienced churches once! And that
was about Vank's church in Isfahan! It was nice too. Did the inner designing of there(
mosques) gave you any feeling? I haven't ever seen the Msjedolharam or the Kaabe, how
did you feel there?

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 16th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How's everything? I bet you're doing fine and you've stopped drinking that
much tea.LOOOL You know as I was reading Dear Clare's post you about drinking tea
right at the times when you can't have it. I couldn't stop myself laughing because it was
realllyyyy funny. It was the actual thing that happens. :)):)):))

Oh and about your neck, I'm really sorry to hear that. How is it now? You know Behnam,
I think you should observe the rules which tell us not to get too near to a book or to
monitor! About 45 to 50 cm is alright but not closer than that! You know, today I went to
visit an excellent ophthalmologist in Gonbad and he advised me to do lots of things not to
get the pain in the eyes or even sometimes in the neck. And that's why I'm advising
you.LOL

People might feel bored in this month, that's true! But I guess you should be so happy
that you can fast. It's really nice that you have the chance to while others don't! Oh and
don't worry this boredom feeling will pass as soon.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

behnam August 16th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you doing? I hope you are happy and healthy, benefiting every second of
Ramadan. Do you pray for this brother--Behnam? I hope so!

Many thanks for the criticism and challenge of the idea.

Every boy/girl is the best for their parents. My parents love me, and my colleagues like
me very much. I have a friendly relationship with the employer. These things do not mean
that I practise what I preach.

Everybody considers him/her as a civilized, cultured, educated, thoughtful, and good


person in the society. If people are as they think, why are we facing with some unsolvable
problems?

Let me give you an example. A friend of mine wanted to get driving licence. He practised
driving with my car. I used to give him some advice on looking in rear-view and side-
view mirrors regularly. In particular, I used to preach, "A good driver checks all mirrors
when using the reverse gear." Today, I was in a hurry, and I did not check side mirrors
when using the reverse gear. I crashed into a column in the parking and broke the back
indicator! I did not practise what I preached!

There is no need to list all problems in the society and speak about them. Let me tell you
something about one of the serious problems. As you know, "Annezafato men al iman" is
a famous religious saying, and all Muslims know it by heart. Do you consider Muslims
who practise this saying? I was in the north last month. On beaches, it was quite
impossible to find a clean place to sit and take some rest. Strangely, rubbish bins were
empty, but there was rubbish all over the beaches! It was the same in the streets and
roads.

Whenever we decide to travel somewhere, I worry about the need to use public toilets!
That is terrible. I am sure you know what I am saying.

If someone today comes to the Earth from the Mars--so s/he is not biased towards
anything--and we give him/her the freedom of choosing a country to live, I am sure s/he
will not choose an Islamic country!

Our dear friend Naseh has written that there is no electricity sometimes. Why? Ask our
western friends to know how many hours a year they have no electricity!

I am not saying that we should not read the holy Koran, go to mosques, or listen to
preachers. What I am saying is applying them to our lives. I mean PRACTISING!

You have made an analogy between listening to religious subjects repetitively and
enrichment in a centrifuge! It was great, but you should know if a centrifuge spins us
around for a long time, we will lose all creativity, ability and capability. Surely, it does
not mean enriching something! It means to separate something from something else. In
your analogy, the centrifuge will separate our creativity, talents, ability and capability
from ourselves. All these things are kept in our brains; because of that sometimes we use
'brainwashing' to describe those actions.

You have mentioned to the one of the main reasons of problems--poverty. I completely
agree with you, but would you please let me know where poverty comes from? In other
words, what is the reason of poverty?

Thank you for reading. I am looking forward to hearing from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 August, 2010

behnam August 16th 2010


Hi Elham,

How are you? I hope you are fine.

Here is my essay on keeping pets. Today, I don't feel OK. I crashed the car into a column
and broke the indicator. I am blaming myself for making that silly mistake. This essay is
not good, because I couldn't concentrate well.

***************************************************************
Why is it becoming more and more common for people to keep pets? Some people believe
that keeping pets at home has some positive sides. Others disagree with keeping them at
home. Keeping a pet has both advantages and disadvantages.

One of the main advantages of keeping pets is passing time in an enjoyable way. People
who keep pets often say that the pets are their closet companion. They believe pets
entertain them with doing some funny action. In addition, pets are often affectionate.
Therefore, people keep them for tenderness and care.

However, pets have bad smell, and make home dirty. They also make a lot of noise. One
of our neighbours keeps a dog at home. The dog barks from time to time and bothers us.
Furthermore, pets sometimes inflect people with virus and give them diseases. In other
words, they cause illness.

Another disadvantage of keeping pets is the expenses. Obviously, the expense of keeping
pets is considerable. My cousin keeps a dog. She monthly spends about $300 on it. Once I
saw her walking with the dog. The dog was wearing expensive clothes and glasses!
Besides money, she spends almost all her free time with the dog. This makes her isolated
from the society.

To some up, it seems that, nowadays, people feel much lonelier than before. Some people
cannot get along well with others. They often benefit from having a pet for
companionship. Although keeping pets has some obvious advantages; in my opinion, the
disadvantages of them outweigh the benefits.
*******************************************************************

Thank you for reading.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 August, 2010

elham_z August 16th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Oh, so sad to hear about your crash. Are you yourself healthy? Don't blame yourself
Behnam. Just relax and don't worry about the car. ( Be ghole ma, junet salamat Behnam
jan, khoda ro shokr ke baraye khodet etefaghi nayaftad! ).

Tell me did you oversleep? Oh have you eaten your Sahari? Or you have missed it too? I
hope not. OH, maybe you have been dreaming about Tea? That's it. I figured the reason
out. Dear Behnam just be a little bit more patient, the Eid day will arrive soon and then I
will send you a really delicious Elham maid big Tea pot as your gift (Eidi).Then you have
as much tea as you want to drink in daytime. But what should we do with distance and
teas getting cold? Ok we will find a solution later. Don't think of it
now.:):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Your essay is excellent like always. Thank you for sharing that with me. Whenever I read
your essays I ask myself that how much it would take for me to learn to write as well as
Behnam dose!

I really enjoy reading your posts to Mohsen and Naseh. Your opinions are interesting. I
think with myself that what a heaven we could have on earth in case we acted to what we
know is right !!!

Take care and promise not to dream about that Elham maid tea tonight! We don't want to
hear about another crash tomorrow. :):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

All the best,


Elham

setayesh August 16th 2010


Dear Mohsen,

How are you in these nice days of Ramadan? I hope you are enjoying it by whole your
heart.

Today while walking along the street and seeing bookshops, seeing a book's title
reminded me of you and your question that was completely forgotten to be answered by
me. I'm so sorry to be this much late and absentminded in answering.

In order to answer your question about "being happy or married" I should say that
although single life and married life are both parts of an individual's life, they have a
great far difference in comparison with each other. In my point of view in such cases
comparing is destructive somehow.

I completely disagree with your friend saying; be happy or marry! It's so childish to me
(sorry for saying such). It is as if I say: be a happy child or grow up! Since when you are
child your parents care more about you, everything is easily prepared and provided for
you by others and life is more easer than when you get older. But does it mean that such
advantages of being child outweigh the disadvantages of being an adult? NO! never.

Every stage of our life has its own specific features. When you decide to marry you
should know that you will loss something but you'll achieve another things instead. By
looking to this issue from this angle marriage is not considered as a limitation for your
happiness.
It should not be forgotten that conditions of married life for a couple is different from the
other. Some couples are not considerate; they don't differentiate between the person
whom has shared his/her life with them and their employees. They only suppose their life
should be in the way that they desire and their spouse should obediently treat as they like.
It's a terrible situation that can make a prison out of marriage.

I can remember that I read somewhere "No one was designed to meet your needs all of
the time" so we should accept people as they are in our life. If my husband has had some
habit and still like keeping them, I'm not allowed to prevent him from doing them. When I
marry with him I accept him as he is. (I in this sentences is an ideal person not
me:);))):)))

Dear Mohsen, I have an uncle who is a thoughtful and knowledgeable man and most of
the time he tells me some interesting things to think more about and wants me to say my
ideas about them in next time that we meet or talk. Yesterday when we were talking on
the phone he said "love yourself" as his last sentence. When I asked that what he meant
by that, he wanted me to answer it myself. I'd like to know your interpretation about that
short sentence. Could you please tell me how do interpret it?

I hope I could answer your question. Sorry again for the long delay in answering. And
hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,

Setayesh,16 August, 2010

behnam August 16th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thank you for the friendly post.

As I guess you know, I'm originally from East-Azerbaijan province of Iran. We drink a lot
of tea. In fact, we are notorious for drinking a lot of tea. Tea and Azerbaijani people
cannot be considered separately.:):):):):):) If I decide to give up drinking tea, I can, but I
love it.

Your solution is excellent, but you know, when I am solving a problem, or thinking about
some serious subjects, I need more tea! The more I think, the more I need to drink tea.
:):):):):)

I used to smoke. In fact, I smoked cigarette for more than 10 years. One day, I bought a
packet of cigarettes in the morning. I put one of them between my lips and lit it. While I
was smoking, I thought about the side effects of smoking seriously--for the first time. I
can vividly remember the day I threw away the packet of cigarettes and decided not to
smoke anymore. From that time, I have never smoked. I am a very determined
person.:):):):):)

To be honest, fasting is difficult. Aside from giving up eating and drinking, people often
have some problems with their biological clocks. In addition, tiredness and boredom are
common among people. We feel bored and tired without even working. That's funny. Let's
have a look at a common conversation in Ramadan:

A: Good afternoon.
B: Good afternoon.

A: Are you fasting?


B: Yes, what about you?

A: I'm fasting too. How are you feeling?


B: I am tired and bored.

A: What did you do?


B: Nothing, I was sleeping all the day, but I am tired!

That's funny, to feel tired of sleeping! :):):):):)

Let me tell you another funny side of Ramadan. Eleven months, nutritionists advise
people on eating light, but five times a day. They say that is beneficial to our health.
However, in Ramadan they often say giving up eating and drinking has a beneficial effect
on our health. Which of them should we believe? It seems both of them are correct!
:):):):):)

As you know, in Ramadan, we stop eating and drinking during the daytime. We do it--
observe the law--and don't care about its positive or negative effects.

All in all, I personally love Ramadan and feel comfortable in this month.

Someone asked Albert Einstein about insanity. The most intelligent man of the history
said, "Insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting new results." I am
eating and drinking for eleven months of the year. There is no new results. Let me try
another things for one month! :):):):):):)

Thank you for reading. Hope to hear from you soon--I am ready to spend some time on
grammar anyway. :):):):):):):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 16 August, 2010
Clare August 16th 2010
Ah Behnam - the English are great tea drinkers too! We believe that no problem is too
great that it can't be solved over a "nice cuppa". (cuppa = cup of)

I drink a lot of tea, but I prefer Chinese white tea to Indian "char" (another word we use
for tea - probably a derivation of the word "chai"). I drink Chinese tea black, without
milk or sugar.

What sort of tea do you prefer? (Apologies in advance if this causes you distress given
you can't have any yet!)

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

elham_z August 16th 2010


Hi dear Kamelia,

Thank you for all really delightful posts. Let me ask you a question first? Do you write
them all in one time one after another? Does'?t it take a lot of your time? How can you
concentrate on all these different subjects whole in the same time? Any way, thank you so
much for remembering all of us and your kindness toward us, dear.

Like always you made me happy writing about all the things I had discussed in my last
post to you. Thank you honey. I love reading your posts too. You know these days nothing
makes people happy more than knowing someone dose care about them and their
concerns. The world today, Kami, is a very bad world! People just think about their
needs and try their best to gain more and more just for themselves. Even loves are just
needy loves! Recently I have seen a lot of sad scenes of unkindness among people. They
even are not as kind and patient as they used to be with the elderly. The fact is that
human beings are supposed to work to have something to eat in order to be able to think
healthily and LIVE, ( This live has actually a lot of meanings behind it) But nowadays
working and eating which should be tools, have turned to be objects themselves. Most of
people however, are not guilty; conditions of life are in a way that they forget all about
other things. They are forced to work as much as they can not to stay hungry, or just keep
life going. My dad often says us that you are not in the society and are not involved with
a lot of things as much as we men do! He always wants us to thank God for being healthy
and earning enough, he always says you don't know how miserable some people are and
how difficultly they earn enough to have something to eat just to survive. On the other
hand we see lots of the rich who easily earn money but what do they spend this money
on? Nothing, eating more and more and gaining more and more money !!! So what about
our share of HUMANATY ??? !!!

One of my biggest prayers is that always I say God I want to see the day when I think less
about myself and what I want myself , let me go beyond my own needs so I can be more
among needy people to give a helping hand to whom they need. No, not very great helps,
even bringing the smallest smile on someone's lips is enough for me.How long am I going
to just think about myself ?!

What made me write such things? I don't know !

Honey thanks for reading my essay and your complements on it???

Kami I wanted to write about a lot of things to you but starting to write things above has
made my mind busy thinking and I can't concentrate any more on any thing else now. So
sorry. I will write to you later.

Remember me in your prayers,

All the best,


Elham

753

Veronicaho August 16th 2010


Hi Elham, Kamelia, Julia, Behnam, Mohsen .....

I hope you are fine! I just want to say that I havn't forgotten you...I'm a bit busy but I will
soon answer all of you :)

Veronica

behnam August 17th 2010


Hi Clare,

Many thanks for the reply.

I love black tea without milk and sugar. We call it 'chai' in both Persian and Azerbaijani
languages. It is a common drink almost in all houses. When we go to meet someone at
home, for example, they bring us some tea. They often do not ask us if we prefer milk, or
other sorts of drinks. Sugar is always there--in a container. People may use it or not. I
personally drink tea without sugar. Some people don't drink tea. They prefer water to
other drinks.

If I don't drink tea for a long time--some hours for instance--I will get a nasty headache. I
will not be able to focus on the tasks. In other words, my mind stops working when there
is tea shortage! :):):):):):):)

I drink tea when it is hot. I dislike cool tea. I know it damages my health, but I love it.
Almost all the things in the world are bad for our health, but we should not be so much
obsessed with them.:):):):):)

Dear Clare, would you mind telling me something about your likes and dislikes?

Hope to read more from you.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 August, 2010

behnam August 17th 2010


Hi Elham.

Thanks for the lovely posts.

To be honest with you, I wasn't overslept, late, or something like that. I was in a hurry for
no reason! :):):):):) I didn't check mirrors when using the reverse gear to come out from
the parking. When I crashed into the column in the parking, the indicator broke and make
a noise. After hearing the noise I understood that I am in the car, using the reverse gear!
Can you believe it? :):):):):):)

It is Ramadan, and I will have such stories a lot. It is maybe because of the shortage of
tea in my body! :):):):):)

My friends should know 'bad things never die', so they shouldn't be worried about me.
:):):):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 August, 2010

behnam August 17th 2010


Hi Kamelia,
Thanks for the nice post.

My neck is good, but sometimes I have a nasty pain in it. I don't think it is because of
distance from the monitor, or too much using the computes. I think it is because of some
bad effects on the nerves. Those effects can be physical or mental. Mental health is much
more important than physical health. I believe the majority of illness is mental rather
than physical.

Yes, I am a lucky man, because I have the chance of fasting. :):):):) How about you? Are
you a lucky girl?

I met you in the international book exhibition in Tehran. Your body doesn't need a lot of
food. I guess fasting must be easy for you, isn't it? :):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 August, 2010

Clare August 17th 2010


Hi Behnam

I like black tea and Italian coffee. But neither is good for you in large quantities...

There is a rather long list of things I dislike. I particularly dislike the way people drive
around here. They're either completely inconsiderate of others on the road and drive too
fast, or they're completely unaware of anyone else on the road, and they drive along,
chatting to the passengers (occasionally taking their hands off the wheel to express a
point, for, as we all know, Italians express themselves with their hands and why should
driving stop them) forgetting to indicate, and often straying over to MY side of the road. I
once followed a car whose driver held a particularly long conversation with both the
front seat passenger and the one in the back. Then he changed his T shirt as he was
driving. Unbelievable. Or drivers who are waiting to turn onto the road. They'll see you
coming, wait, wait, wait, then all of a sudden, dart in front of you with 2 metres to spare.
What are they thinking??

I used to really enjoy driving, but now it's a test of nerves...

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
behnam August 17th 2010
Hi friends,

How are things? I hope all is well with you.

Here is a topic to discuss. I hope to read your essays.

"Some people say that it is beneficial for young people to visit different countries of the
world, others oppose. Do you agree or disagree? Provide reasons and support them with
your own examples."

This topic has been asked candidates to write about in IELTS test in India, UAE and
Saudi Arabia --July 2010 (General Training).

Hope to read more from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 16 August, 2010

setayesh August 17th 2010


Hi Behnam,

This is Setayesh your little sister, who has just arrived home, straightly come to her PC to
write her brother a thank you letter full of joy and happiness. A thank you letter for
what???

Today (2 hours ago) I took English final exam. This exam was completely different from
our previous exams; all questions' style had been changed. As you know total English?s
exams were soooo easy!!! So they changed the exams in order to improve them. The exam
quality increased but the point is that the writing part of exam changed entirely. It was
very nice when I found the topic similar the ones you practice writing 5 paragraph essay
on. The topic was "Some people believe that earth is being harmed by human activity.
Others feel that human activity makes earth better place to live.-- How do you think?
Give you reasons and support your ideas" I don't know if you have written about this
topic or not. When I searched about it I found it was the topic of TOFEL exam.

Behnam you can not imagine my happiness when I saw the topic. Although we were not
taught how to write such essays and were not expected to fallow the rules of writing these
sorts of essays, I tried to apply all I knew about writing such essays at exam. The result
was satisfactory at least I knew how to arrange my ideas between the lines and
paragraphs. All I knew was because of your endless effort in making us familiar with
such essays in this thread. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for encouraging me to
study a little about essay writing. What would I do If I haven't had such inspiring
brother?!

Next term I will be at UI5 level. After that I'm not going to continue advance level there. I
will say a big good bye to this awful institute and go to another one.(I will really get rid
of it)

Dear Behnam, I don't know why when I'm going to ask you something you ask my
question before asking in your posts to our other friends indirectly. Last week I was
thinking about your former habit ?smoking?and I was wondering whether you have give
it up completely or not. But reading your posts surprised me where I saw that you exactly
answered my question whereas it was not asked by anyone. But on the whole I'm so
happy that you have stopped smoking.

Anyway, tomorrow is one of my friend's birthday, so today I should go out to buy


something for her. I haven't decided what to buy. We have been friend for several years
and twice a year for Norooz and for her birthday I buy her a present. But this time is so
difficult to find something new that I had never bought as a present for her. What's your
idea? What do you suggest me to buy?

Thanks for reading and hope to hear from you very soon.

All the best,

Setayesh, 17 August,2010

setayesh August 17th 2010


...Whenever I'm going to ask you something you Answer my question before asking in
your posts to our other friends...

behnam August 17th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks for the reply.

Believe it or not, there is great similarities between Iranian people and Italian people.
First, if you rotate their flag 90 Degree (one quarter of a circle) it will become our flag,
but there is 'Allah' in the center of our flag too. Secondly, Iranian people move their
body--particularly their hands--to make themselves understood. Thirdly, both countries
were empires in the past.
Finally, Iranian are terrible drivers too. Driving in Tehran is like playing computer
games. I am quite sure, a westerner cannot drive in Tehran, unless s/he gets used to
lawlessness.:):):)

It seems as if cars have been fighting in battles, because their boots and dumpers are
damaged. Drivers often eat, drink, use mobile phones, speak, change their shirts, smoke,
trim their nails, comb their hair, etc. Straying is also a common thing. Once I asked a
driver about the philosophy of white lines on roads. He proudly said, "Well, it says that
we should drive between those white lines." Then I asked, "Why didn't you care about
those lines and strayed away without using indicators?" He didn't answer and looked at
me angrily.:):):):):):)

Driving in Tehran is like going to battle to fight with enemies. You may come back or die!
:):):):):) It depends on your chance. :):):)

Tell me more about your likes and dislikes please.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 17 August, 2010

elham_z August 17th 2010


Dear Behnam and other friends,

I hope you are all well and enjoying your lives. Today I was thinking what to do to make
myself busy in this long fasting day, when the idea of writing essay on suggested topic by
Behnam came to my mind. Please do me this favor, read my full of mistakes writing and
be kind enough to report me all defects you will figure out.
************************************************************************
Like everything else this subject has its own con?s and pro?s. But I would like to discuss
some benefits of visiting different countries by young people in my essay.

Most importantly, visiting different countries by young people is advisable, since it is


undeniable that all in all it is kind of traveling and who is there that doesn't know how
beneficial traveling is? So in my idea all the known benefits are much more distinctive
when it comes to be a FOREIGN travel especially by a YOUNG person. All other good
reasons for taking trip aside, fun, joy and peace resulted from traveling abroad in this
busy world nowadays, is priceless. It cheers them up and gives us a good chance to
reenergize.

Secondly, going to different countries, besides having all those benefits of a simple inner
trip, provides us with a way more large range of useful chances. It is a golden
opportunity, especially for the young, to gain a lot of worthy experiences. Most obvious
one could be getting familiar with different cultures and various lifestyles; Going to
developed countries observing modern way of living and developed industries or vise
versa going to underdeveloped countries observing life's difficulties and hardships of
severe efforts just for survival, and comparing these conditions with the current
conditions in their own countries for sure could be so helpful to young people, since it
can strongly result in satisfaction with current social and economical conditions of one's
own country or vise versa, cause strong motivation for positive thoughts and ambitions in
order to make progresses. Moreover, another interesting worthy experience, particularly
for youths and especially when they go on a tour, is that they learn how to be well-
organized and get along with different conditions when they are not by their own. So it
improves their sense of responsibility and provides a very good chance for them to learn
from other people in the group.

Another positive side of traveling to different countries by young people, as I have


noticed, is improving self-confidence in them. It may seem strange, but I believe in it.
Having more information about different cultures, having visited historical sights of
different countries or having learned some foreign words can gives us more confidence
while talking with a group of people. My cousin has been to several European countries.
Whenever we have a gathering she confidently starts talking about all she has seen and
learned in her trips!

In conclusion, it seems that benefits of traveling abroad by young people overweigh the
negative sides. There is a nice saying in Farsi language that approves of these positive
effects of traveling. It is said that 'there should be a lot of trips taken, in order to turn an
unknowledgeable person into a sophisticated one? !
**********************************************************************

There are adjectives in my essay which I am not sure about the right place of them being
used, or a lot of sentences I am sure they could be expressed in very better ways, but
anyway I don't change it more and ask for your help.At first I was worried I can't finish it
but finally I did !

Emmm, I have maid deliberate mistakes to test you and your English whether you are
able to recognize them or not !!! ( Giving motivation to find my mistakes.)
:):):):):):):):):):):):):)

All the best,


Elham

754

metzean August 17th 2010


Dear Clare,
Sufis (Dervish) is a sect which came back to Islamic history (7th century AD) period of
Umayyad dynasty. When Ali's two son ,Hasan and Husayn ( Grandson of Muhammad
PBUH) were killed by Muawiya ,the leader of the struggle against Ali.

Umayyad were not real Moslim , During their governing they were busy with vinosity ,
sensuality ,vuloptiousness ,crulty and oppressive treatment , so some of devout Moslim
who had been reserved ,struggle to retain the purity and mystical fervor of early years of
their religion, insisting on a simple life , these people recognized by wearing a plain
woolen garment , the Arabic word for someone wearing wool is Sufi, in later centuries
they were called also mysticism (Dervish ).

Sufism was started with good intention ,but after having a lot of ups and downs, it finally
led to different diverting sects which nowadays recognized as a Dervish in some
countries like Turkey and Iran . Nowadays people who are follower of these sects are
generally unreligious people ,they also organized and supported in Iran by some foreign
countries.

The place where Dervishes are gathered for ceremonies is called Khaneghah. It is a big
old house with many rooms and a big yard.
A khaneghah is near to my house .,unlike to original Dervishes who wore simple clothes
and live in plain method , people who came to this Khaneghah are very rich and have the
expensive cars .
Once I have taken part in Khaneghah, I saw everything but religion , only some addicted
,drunk languishing people.
In Turky where the Iranian Poet Molana jalalodin Balkhi has been buried ,some people
held a ceremony each year on the anniversary day of Molana , but this ceremony is not
related to Islam and nor to the great Iranian poet. This is only for earning of money and
attraction of some tourists .

All the best,


Mohsen

Clare August 17th 2010


Thanks Mohsen.

I only know of this term to describe a sort of dance, where they spin around in a trance. I
didn't know anything about the history of the sect.

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
marinaa August 17th 2010
Dear Mohsen,

How are you dear friend? How is it going?


I hope everything is going well in Ramadan .
To tell you the truth your last post made me write. What you wrote about Umayyad is not
right. I know that all Muslims hate the way of building the power for Umayyad, but it
doesn't mean that their period was bad. Damascus was the Capital of Umayyad's power(
because of that i know a lot about them). All Arabs appreciate what they did.
Mohsen you can't blame all Umayyad family about what the enemy of God "Yazid" did.

Thanks for reading. It was just a simple comment that i had to write. Umayyad in some
parts of having the power made lots of services for all Muslims.

Marina.

PS: I Think Clare meant a kind of dancing called Alsamah which is known in religion
cermonies in Syria.
I'd like to take this opportunity to make an appology to Clare, I was a bit cruel with her.
I'm happy because of what happened after the last problem. Thank you Clare for giving
me the chance to write even there is a row between us.

jiulia78 August 18th 2010


Hi, Clare and Behman,
how are you doing?
Clare, how did your Ferragosta past? have you celebrated it? anyway, my best wishes to
you ! as for us we did. it is impossible not to give up to the holiday spirit which is around.
our sea - street has turned into a multicultural fair! so many events, and our traditional
Festival Jazz are taking place now at Roccella Jonica, our town.. I love summer with its
confusion!
dear Clare, my congratulations, if you have learned to drive on Italian roads there is no
place now where you could not drive....)))
another interesting topic that you have touched is a tea drinking. I am a great tea fan, I
prefer it to the coffee. the tea of different tastes, with all kinds of exotic fruit extracts, with
lemon, with honey and milk, with berries and flowers.... in fact, here I have met a
problem, the lack of its variety. in the shop I can see just the classic one - black, the
green, the fruit tea of bad quality, tisana which tastes more like some medicine rather
than a pleasant drink......and 10 shelves of coffee!!..... where is the justice?... there is a
joke about it. the typical scene at the American bar :
-Coffee, please.
And now at the Italian bar:
-A short coffee,please.
-A long with milk.
-A Venezian one, please.
-In glass cold one.
-An American.
- Coffee Marocchino.
- with Sambucca or corrected ( with another strong alcholic drink, which is added in
coffee for digestion or just for a pleasant smack after the food.)
and it is not all. (sorry for mistakes, the proper names are difficult to translate, it's
needed the time, of which I am always feel the shortage.)
and another funny thing that I am curious to know as do you manage to eat a big cornet
with two sips of coffee as native Italians do? I still cannot do it.....;((( ;))))
as for the traveling and its impact on children besides the fact that its widen their
outlook, it is very good for their adaptation abilities. my babies , especially the elder one
is a great traveler, he have seen a lot of cities in Italy and some countries. it has enriched
him with impressions and new positive experiences, he can orient himself in the place
and is not afraid of smth new, he is also an interesting interlocutor, who always has
something interesting to recollect ....
I hope that my idea can be counted as the answer to this question.
my best regards!
Julia
-with

jiulia78 August 18th 2010


it is 2.30 A.M. and I feel insomnia. the consequence of white night, it has ruined my
habitual regime. so many mistakes I have done.... what a shame....

Clare August 18th 2010


Hi Marina
Lovely to see you back on the thread! (No need to apologise.)

Hi Julia
I didn't do much on ferragosta, but I discovered that my boiler is leaking water.
Unfortunately, the plumber is on holiday all of this week (Ferragosta week) like most of
Italy, so I'll just have to wait! Everything comes to a standstill in Italy in August... better
not have anything too serious happen!

If you ever go to Rome, Castroni has lots of different types of tea. Good stuff, too!
Whenever I go back there, I spend a fortune in all my "ethnic" food!

Here the "caffe correto" is with Varnelli, a local liqueur made from aniseed, or
sometimes with grappa. I quite like it, but rarely drink it.
I agree that travelling is as important for children as it is for adults. It definitely
broadens horizons and helps us appreciate other cultures and customs.

But I recently read a fascinating article about how important it is for cihldren to be able
to play outdoors (in nature) without adult supervision. It helps children socialise better,
learn about risk and reward, develop confidence and problem-solving ability, and as
importantly, reduce Attention Deficit Disorder and other learning disabilities. The article
said that in the UK only about 20% of children regularly get playtime outside (compared
to 70% of their parents when they were children). What's your opinion on this? I don't
notice many Italian kids playing by themselves outside. Then I see how awful they can be
in classrooms! Maybe there's a connection...

Best wishes
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam August 18th 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Many thanks for the sisterly post. Happy to hear that writing has been easy for you in the
exam. Congratulations on finishing UI5, the last basic level in learning English at Kish
institute.

Your English is excellent. You write very well. Your texts are easy to understand and
reasonable. I have no difficulty in following the text and getting the point. You write
coherently.

I have written essays on different topics. The topics have been chosen from Cambridge
IELTS practising books. It means that in real IELTS exams, the candidate have been
asked to write about them.

I believe writing helps us to make ourselves ready for all kinds of exams, because it
covers all skills. For example, in listening exams, in many cases, candidates are
supposed to hear something and write it on answer sheet. Sometimes, we hear what we
should do, but we don't know how to write it correctly. We often make spelling mistakes
and lose the score. Writings helps us with improving our spelling.

In addition, in everyday conversation with people, sometimes the lack of information


about something prevents us from speaking. We often stay silent, although we are a good
English speaker. We stay silent, because we know nothing about something, or we haven't
got enough self--confidence about our knowledge of something. As a result, we follow the
famous advice 'silence is a virtue'. In fact, we are not a good follower of the advice, in
several cases, we are ignorant about such and such thing. Ignorance forces us to pursue
the policy of silence, and amazingly for many people it works!!!

Anyway, when we write, we make ourselves ready for making conversation with people. It
is like having money in your pockets when walking in the streets. You may spend it or not,
but you have self--confidence, and this self--confidence makes you feel powerful.

Some people justify their disabilities and laziness by saying, "I don't need to write in
English, because I won't meet any foreign people in my life." It is like walking in the
streets with empty pockets. I may meet a beautiful girl and want to eat something with her
at a restaurant. Who knows? Therefore, a wise man never goes to make a walk in the
streets without money in pockets. :):):):):):):):):):)

About your question concerning the present for birthday of your friend I should say that
is difficult to answer, because I know nothing about her. I just know girls are emotional.
They like emotional things a lot. Among many emotional things, I think dolls have great
sentimental value for girls, because they have played with them in their childhoods.
Therefore, if I were you, I would buy a doll--a bear doll for example. :):):):):)

I have to leave quickly. I have no time to check the post. Please forgive me for making
many mistakes, both grammatical and spelling.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 August, 2010

behnam August 18th 2010


Hi Marina the great, Clare, and Mohsen,

I am not sure, but I think Clare means a sort of exercise which stocky men--with big
stomachs--do in a circle with some harmonic actions.There is someone who signs and
manages the group. They lift heavy things too. The place where they do exercise is 'called
'Zurkhune' in Persian language. It is also considered an ancient sport by Iranian people.
Iranian people have great respect for those people.

Those people are supposed to be morally good, and helpful. They are symbols of bravery,
kindness, generosity, and honour.

Clare, I am not sure about my answer, but if what I have written helped you, please let
me know.

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 18 August, 2010

Bluegreen August 18th 2010


Dear Elham,

Hi there. How are you honey? How's everything going on with you? I hope all is well.

Dear Eli, your type of asking me those first questions kind of amazed me. I don't know
why but I started laughing, not probably to you but to me! Well I thought maybe there's
something wrong with all those posts that had made you ask about them. I want to
honestly ask you if it's bad or not?!

Honey I read the posts here. And I'm eager to write back to my friends as soon as I can
but it's sometimes impossible for me to do it right away. So I have to put them aside (I
read them first thing but answering takes a bit long) and then when the time came on I'll
be answering them. You know, I think you're right. Maybe that type of posting them all
along and one after another seems a bit weird! Maybe I have to be faster and answer
each one in it's time. I really don't know. But please tell me if there seems to be something
wrong with it. Ok?

Now about the serious problems you discussed with me. Your tone of writing was so
serious that made me think you might have been sad while writing them. Your sentences
were logical. They were really nice. Actually I felt every single word that you wrote
about. It felt good knowing your own opinion about those matters.

You know, there's a good saying in Persian but I don't know the English equivalent for
that. It says: The right words don't have answers! (Hamin harfe hesab javab nadare). I
don't know what to say. You are right. Maybe this mechanical life has worsened us
instead of teaching us to be better human beings. I know what you say about people
forgetting each other. And it's not just about elderly. We just think of ourselves and we
just remember others while we need them. It's a materialistic world and as we get bigger
we discuss it more.

Come to think of it, maybe the world has always been like this! Maybe people has always
been like this but just right now we're getting to know each other better because we're
growing older. Well we were younger, or maybe little kids and we saw the world in our
own way. We used to play and nothing mattered for us even if something really horrible
was wrong with the family. Like financial problems. Have you ever seen some war
pictures? Little children really don't care if their houses are on fire or people are dying I
don't say they really don't understand anything, but if you pay a close attention to the
pictures you can see that they continue playing with their mates.
You know why I'm saying that maybe the world has always been like this? Because if you
take a look at the old movies, you're going to understand that even some of the actors
before used to say: What a bad world it is!

Anyways, thank you so much for writing to me about it,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 18th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? Everything's alright? Hope it is.

I'm so glad to hear that the pain in your neck is alright. Oh come on! Mental problems
are not like this. In pains which have a mental route you really can feel that something's
going wrong with the nerves.

And now about whether I'm lucky or not! I think this year I'm lucky. I didn't fast. I mean I
never used to do such a thing but I did this year. Maybe I'm stronger than before or
maybe I feel so. :)):))

Behnam, your last paragraph made me laugh a lot. So you really think my body doesn't
need that much food and sugar huh? I bet you're wrong. Because this comparison is a
little bit weird. LOOOL

If you think that my body doesn't need that much food so you might have considered that
it consumes the amount of food so little and as a source holds so little an amount as fast
it loses it. Right?! LOOOL it got so complex.

Come on! Who said that slim people can fast better?! :)):))

I actually lose this sugar sooner and I get hungry or thirsty sooner than others. You
remember those packs of water?! I think I drank it sooner!
Anyways, Oh I remembered something. Dear Behnam, I was reading these posts of you,
Clare, Mohsen, and Marina and then your last post. You have talked about Zurkhune! Do
they do the Alsamah at Zurkhune?! Are you sure? I think Dear Clare means these people
in Turkey who were white long shirt and just spin around with special kind of holding one
of their hands upside and the other downside!

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

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behnam August 18th 2010


Hi Elham,

Thanks a million for the wonderful essay.

Your reasons were reasonable. You are very good at making transitions from one point to
another, and from one paragraph to another. It is easy to understand, and follow you.
Sentences are written by using plain words. Therefore, they are clear.

However, you have used some unusual and uncommon compounds in the different parts
of the essay. Some of them are Persian-based, but they make sense and are not
complicated.

You agreed with traveling abroad. You should show your agreement in one sentence.
There is no need to advertise the agreement and speak around it too much. However, that
is very important to support our idea with some good reasons.

In this case--when we are supposed to agree or disagree with something--we should write
an introduction paragraph--containing motivator, rephrased these statement, our own
idea about it, and three main reasons.

Motivator--as its name implies--motivates people to read our essay. Theses statement is
the given topic. We should rephrase it. After that we MUST give our idea--agree or
disagree. Finally, we should write a sentence, mentioning three reasons why we have
agreed or disagreed.

Motivator can be an interesting question related to the topic. There are many sorts of
motivators. I often ask a question, or write a tricky sentence and say other people's
imaginary ideas, then disagree with them.:):):):):) When I disagree with some imaginary
people, it indirectly means I agree with the opposite.

That's a very long story. Let me write the first paragraph just to make you get what I am
saying.

Some people believe that traveling abroad is a total waste of time and money. They also
believe that it has some negative effects on young people, and spoils their social
behaviour. However, those people are wrong. As far as I'm concerned, going on a
journey to a strange country makes an individual expand their horizons, experience
different culture, and gain general knowledge.

Dear Elham, if you pay a careful attention, the first two sentences play motivator's role.
They are written in a way that makes it easy for me to find an excuse to give my own idea.
Obviously, 'however, they are wrong" means Behnam disagrees with them--poor
imaginary people. :):):):) The last sentence says why I disagreed, and what I am going to
write about. You should know the last sentence contains three reasons:

1) Traveling expands our horizons.


2) Traveling provides opportunity for us to experience different cultures and lifestyles.
3) Traveling leads us to gain some knowledge.

You can see that the last sentence tells us those reasons, but with a different structure.

Those three sentences will be my topic sentences in three paragraphs. It means that I will
start the paragraphs with them.

For example, I may start the first paragraph like this:

Obviously, travel broadens the mind.

Then I have to support this idea and develop the paragraph. I have to make it clear why a
trip expands my horizons and how. I am free to explain more, or to give an example such
as: My friend was a stupid person. Last year, he took a trip to abroad. When he comes
back, he was a different person; intelligent, patient, and wise! :):):):):) He was changed a
lot. Before traveling, he was a narrow-minded boy, but now he is an open-minded person.
:):):):):):) I am joking. We should not use bad languages, or write hyphen in an essay.

You can also write what some experts have said about this matter.

The second paragraph should be started with something like this:

In addition, traveling gives us an opportunity to experience culture shock....meeting


different people, eating different food, seeing different behaviour...different lifestyles, etc.
can be written to support it.

Third paragraph can be started with:


Finally, traveling often results in gaining some general knowledge.... It is easy to list
some interesting things which we may learn when we make a journey to a foreign
country. For example, it took us 8 hours to fly from Tehran to..... At the airport ..... It was
amazing, people drive on the left side of the roads...in the hotel...

You should know it depends on your personality to try whether prove your idea by giving
some reasons again--to say why do we gain knowledge--or to say how do we learn, or
even what do we learn from traveling.

The last paragraph is 'conclusion'. In this paragraph, we should repeat our three main
reasons in a different way. We should also try to make the reader learn something from
our essay, to have a good feeling of reading our essay, to gain a little bit knowledge, or
even to make them smile. It depends on us! The last sentence of the last paragraph is
often said 'clincher'. If we have asked an interesting question at the beginning of the
introduction paragraph--the motivator--we should answer it in this section of the essay to
bring it to a good end. This can be considered as a 'clincher' too.

Dear Elham, it is Ramadan and I am fasting. Writing is very difficult for me, because I
cannot concentrate well. I hope you will forgive me for making mistakes, or writing
improperly.

I hope that helps.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 18 august, 2010

behnam August 18th 2010


...thesis statement...

Sorry for many mistakes.

All the best,


behnam, 18 August, 2010

elham_z August 18th 2010


Dear Kamelia,

How are you really nice friend of me? So this year you are fasting. If you didn't get used
to fasting last years it should be difficult for you. Isn't it? I hope you double energy in this
holy month.

Come on Kami! What made you interpret my words about your posts that way? Your
posts are great, any problem with them, believe me. While seeing those lovely posts by
you posted altogether I just wonder how Kami can write them all together. She should be
patient enough to concentrate on different topics discussed in her friend's posts. I can
understand your busyness, I never expect you to answer us right away honey. Your
writings are always welcomed, no matter when you take time to write. I am sure that
Kami is always here and reads everything WITH GREAT ATTENTION. I can't focus on
writing as well as you. you saw the sample, my last post to you I mean; I couldn't
continue it after writing about such things. So once again accept my sincere thank for
your kind attention to everything I write about and your detailed answers that always
make me really happy. I learn a lot toward your posts. I have said many times and I will
repeat again honey, your presence is a real treasure in our thread. Thanks a world*

You may be right on this fact that world always has been this way. Even in the past
people has been so busy, always working. When I hear how hard my dad or grandfather
used to work all day long I become upset. My dad oftentimes says me ' Elham if could
continue my studies, now I was a professor and I was something for myself '. He
describes what difficulties he had to face as the oldest son of his family and when we
expect him more than his capability he says if you knew how much work I have done, you
would understand me while I say I can't. On the other hand I hear about works that
women used to do at homes, as if they had to work harder than men! My grandpa before
he passed away blamed my grandma for not having paid enough attention to him when
they were younger. But she would say to him ' you know how busy we were doing a lot of
various things at home, we even had no time to give enough attention to ourselves as
women are supposed to do! '. I want to conclude that yes always in all ages this problem
does exists. But the point is that in the past the lives were simpler and in my idea people
were more kind to each other. Nowadays every one is trying not to fall behind others,
they call it being wiser and especially I see in our country that a large number of people
are some dishonest greedy ones who just want to do things on their own benefits and
deceive each other easily, no matter how and no matter what is going to happen to
humanity! I am angry with people today, because we can say in the past they were not
enough educated but nowadays we claim that we are cultured people, we write a large
amount of books on physiological subjects and pretend to be understanding but what we
see in reality is exactly vise versa. What I see in families and especially among couples,
the marriage motivations and the quality of their relationships I deeply feel ashamed. All
other people and how they treat together aside, why should these two who are supposed
to be the closest to each other and the most understandings toward each other have such
shameful behaviors? As if they are also in a battle to fight and win !!!

Oh sorry dear Kami, I don't know where I start and where I come to end. I just write
what I feel. Anyways, I am worried about healthy relationships, kindness and humanity.
This is so sad that we pretend to be someone else and face off !!! Maybe I am so idealist !

Kami you see, I think we can guess what I am going to write about in my books, but
Emmm, No I prefer to act to what I believe and offer my ideas in my real life and
personality rather than writing words !!!

Thank you for your patient with my heart to heart talks. I appreciate your friendship.

Hope to hear from you soon,

All the best,


Elham

setayesh August 18th 2010


Dear Friends,

Today I read a short inspiring story in a magazine.Although I'd read it some years ago
somewhere, it was still enjoyable rereading it. I'd like to write it here and share it with
you.

**********************************************

***The Flood Story***

A flood threatens a town, forcing everyone to evacuate, But Joe thinks,"I'm a devout man,
God will save me," and stays home.As the waters rise, Joe's neighbor comes by and says,
"Joe come with me, we've got to go." Joe declines,
"I'm a devout man, God will save me."

The waters keep rising, Joe scrambles to his second floor. A firefighter in a rowboat
comes by. "Get in the boat or you'll drown," he says. Joe again declines, saying,"God
will save me. So this flood story goes."

Finally, the flood waters force Joe to his roof. A police helicopter comes by and throws
down a rope. "Climb up or you'll drown," the policeman yells. "No, I'm a devout
man,God will save me," Joe replies.

Soon, Joe drowns.


He arrives in heaven and challenges God.

-"Why didn't you help me?"


-"What do you mean?" God says.
-"I did help. I sent a neighbor, a firefighter and a helicopter."

Like Joe, many of us wait for something to rescue us while we miss opportunities to help
ourselves. Whether in our business lives or personal lives, we hope for a transforming
event.
A terrific new customer, a great relationship, a better family life.

But life isn't like that. Like Joe, if we want things to be different, we have to do something
ourselves.

*********************************************
I hope you enjoy reading it as well.

All the best,

Setayesh,18 August,2010

behnam August 19th 2010


Hi my dear friends,

How life is going? I hope all is well with you, and you are enjoying every second of your
beautiful life.

I am going to introduce an interesting topic. I don't want you to write an essay on it, BUT
I do want you to write something about it. In fact, I want you to answer the question, at
least.

"If you could change one important thing about your hometown, what would you change?
Use reasons and specific examples to support your answer."

This topic has been asked candidates to write about in a TOFEL exam. The topic is easy.
You should think about some serious problems in your town, then choose one of them.
After choosing one of them, you should say why it is important, and why you want to
change it.

Please do me a big favour and write about this topic. It helps me know something about
your town, and of course your attitude towards it.

As I said, no need to write an essay about it, BUT PLEASE answer the question.:):):):)

I want all my friends and people who visit this thread to write about the topic. Thanks in
advance.

Looking forwards to hearing from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 19 August, 2010
setayesh August 19th 2010
Dear Behnam,

How are you today? I hope everything is going well with you in such nice day.

Thanks a million for your long nice post to me and thanks again for saying such good
things about my English. Dear, that's very kind of you! A very negative point of me is that
whenever my friends tell me my positive points, as a playing joke on them, I refuse
accepting their ideas in away or other. But when it comes to you I don't do it, because my
brother is a reliable frank guy, and whatever he says is undoubtly true (LOOOL)!

Dear Behnam, I haven't finished UI5 level yet, as I said in my last post it's my next term
which is going to start from next Monday. It will be finished nearly in the middle of
Shahrivar. So, I have less than 20 days to make a good decision about how I can continue
my English properly and choose the best choice for that by considering my own situation.
I really like to consult with you about this matter, of course, if it is possible for you.

In answering to your question about changing one important thing about my hometown,
there no especial thing about this city ?Tehran- that I know but you don't. Therefore,
whatever I write doesn't seem new to you.

Living in Tehran has got some disadvantages. It's not only one thing that I'd like to
change there are several important things that I wish I could change them. The first is
Tehran's large population problem which is due to this fact that it is the capital of the
country and overloaded by many facilities. As a result, traffic jam and air pollution
produced by this crowed has made most of citizens mad. These are the second and third
problem of this city.

What goes most on my nerves is the crowded public transportation systems, particularly
subways, and BRT(Bus Rapid Transportation)lines. They are terribly over crowded. If I
was going to change only one thing about this city, I would make a solution for its
population problem which is the source of the rest matters of this huge city.

By the way, your suggestion about the present was so funny; you really made me laugh
by that. DOLL?! Funny! Do you really know what it means?!:):):) It's good to babies
ratter than a lady at her mid twenties! Anyway, I bought a piece of clothing (a beautiful
blouse in red) for her.

Sorry for making lots of mistake I was so tired and could not concentrate well. I hope to
hear from you soon.
All the best,

Setayesh,19 August,2010

P.S:You have made a great analogy between having enough knowledge and enough
money on the pocket when you make a sudden decision for going to a restaurant with a
girl! But the point that you should never forget is that, money is not the only thing that
talks for going out with a girl:):):):):):)

jiulia78 August 20th 2010


Hi, Clare,
thank you for your reference as for the tea-stock. if I find myself to those parts I'll visit it.
and what do you mean by ethnic food, excuse me my ignorance? is it some kind of the
original food of England, of which you feel a nostalgia?

there is undoubtedly the connection between excessive care of the parents about their
offsprings and of the bad behavior of the latest. in Italy it goes in this way---- the parents
don't leave their children the possibility even to make themselves dirty - unburden their
childrens' hearts....;))) they are very formal, very accurate ,as for me, and educate their
children in this way... as a result the children are deprived of their space and freedom to
grow up naturally, listening to their desires to try... . there is a great potential which rests
undeveloped but still is searching the way to pour out... and when they come together at
school they cannot keep their vital energy any more, and then people tell that Italian
children are the most noisy and spoiled in the world leaving the precedence may be only
to the Greece ones. they just have too much of stale energy. I often tell my son about my
childhood: we climbed the trees, we made the tents - our refuges, we used to catch
butterflies, beatles and dragon-flies, we run and jumped all day long and had a thousand
and one game to play in the yard (not just football). we have discovered all the world in
our big yard. we were supervised but we were too engaged to make the case of this. and
here when my son invites his friends to go out for hiking in a daytime in a secure green
air within the towns borders, the guys' parents don't permit them. because this is smth
new for them. and they don't fell quite confident. and at the same time they don't afraid to
let them staying outdoors until midnight.
recently my son has made a progress , he has formed a group and they play the "war",
they make exercises to become strong, do "missions" and protect their friends from
enemies. ;)))
there is no perfect society and I didn't mean to be disrespectful to any. it's just an empty
that I am seeing breeding up my son.
.........................
........dear Behnam, we feel the shortage of nice and large playgrounds for children in my
town. and desirably not one. children are just roaming along the streets here and back....
and I am afraid there is nothing to do here. I am just looking forward to leave soon. but
being a woman and for the more a sentimental one I don't exclude the probability of
missing this land... very much...
sincerely,
Julia

behnam August 20th 2010


Hi Julia,

Many thanks for writing in this thread. Thank you once again for joining us.

Your posts are great. When reading them, I often think of you as an experienced and
thoughtful lady. You are a tactful lady; familiar with the language of diplomacy. You are
very careful not to upset anyone.

Would you mind telling us a little bit more about yourself? I know that you are originally
from another country--maybe Ukraine. Therefore, would you please let me know what
made you leave your country? As all mothers, you love your son. Would you possibly tell
us how old he is?

Your English is very good. How did you learn it?

You often don't speak about your husband--at least I haven't read any remarks on him.
Would you mind writing something about your husband? I hope my questions won't upset
you.

The shortage of playgrounds in big cities confines children to playing at home. On the
other hand, homes are small and cramped. Therefore, children haven't got the freedom to
play just what they like. They often watch television or play with computer games. It
makes children become passive and unimaginative. It also causes children to lose their
creativity. All in all, it threatens children's health. I appreciate the importance of your
care for your son.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 August, 2010

behnam August 20th 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Thanks for the reply.

It is my policy to mean what I say. Your English is excellent.:):):)

If you asked my advice about English class, I would tell you to finish UI5 and continue
IELTS in 'Afarinesh' or 'Safir' institutes.

Some girls like dolls even at their twenties. Some of them even sleep with their
dolls.:):):):) Once I chatted to a girl on the Internet. She said it was hard for her to get to
sleep without hugging dolls in bed!

At that time, I played a joke on her and said, "Great! This means that your husband will
be hugged by you in bed. Good for her." She was clever and answered, "My husband will
be a man, not a doll Behnam!":):):):):):)

I just wanted to be naughty and manage the chat in a way that I liked, but she was clever
and didn't give me permission to be naughty. :):):):):):):):)

When a boy, for the first time, meets a girl accidentally in the street, money is the only
thing that talks! :):):):):):) Taking her to a restaurant, offering her something to eat or
drink works! I am a boy, and I know what works and what doesn't! :):):):):):):):):):)
However, I would appreciate it if you could teach your brother about some effective
things--in this regard. :):):):)=))=))=))

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 August, 2010

behnam August 20th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Thank you very much for the post.

Thank you once again for the care about the pain in my neck! That's OK. Forget it. It
comes and goes.:):):):):):)

Contrary to your idea, I think the majority of illnesses are related to mental disorders. A
physical problem in body can be recognized easily by photographing the inside of the
body, but a mental problem is difficult--even impossible--to be recognized. Human is a
complicated creature. Many things affect our mental health, but we are not aware of
them! I can safely say that the main causes of many illnesses are nerves; which are
directly affected by mental problems.

I was only joking. You may eat and drink a lot. However, you should know eating and
drinking are not honourable actions! :):):):):):):) I actually praised you by saying your
body doesn't need too much food. You didn't get the point, what should I do?
:):):):):):):):):) OK. you eat and drink a lot, as much as an elephant! Is it OK now?
:):):):):):):) I am again joking.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 August, 2010
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Clare August 20th 2010


Hi Julia

I wrote "ethnic" food to mean food that comes from other groups of people to Italians.
For example, food from Asia, or even food from England! For many Italians, this thought
is strange to them. Many Italians don't understand why I would want to eat anything
other than Italian food, because Italian food is the best in the world, right? I tell them
that actually, Ii don't think it's the best in the world, and that probably Vietnamese or
Thai food is better, and they get a real shock!!

Actually, I think Italian food is very good, but I don't much eat pasta. I lke the freshness
of the food here, and the taste. Do you ever cook food from the Ukraine for your family?

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

ghazal August 20th 2010


Dear Behnam
Hi,ho w are you?what are you doing with Ramadan?

I hope you can fast with out feeling tired and with out thirst and hunger !!!!
Oh I think it?s not possible,is it?
Your neck is better?

I agree with you about Tea.this is my faveorite drink and I drink always and always.I?m
really addicted .
Oh my friend we are fasting so what can do?
Do you like green tea?

your topic is really good,thank you

sincerely

GHAZAL

ghazal August 20th 2010


Dear Kamelia and Clare
Hi my friends,are you fine?

Hey kamelia ,how do you feel in Ramadan?yes honey I read your email and replied.
As you said my trip with my family was really good .
As you said when I was 10 years old I went to Makkah but at that time I was child and I
was with my cousin who was 3years old.
I love that trip too because that happened in childhood.

Dear kamelia and clare:


The architecture of Madine is wonderful.Mohamad?s mosque has 2000 pillars and has
beautiful lamps that wrote Allah and Mohamd on those.
The architecture of Makkah is old.both are full of positive energy.

clare,you are not forbidden for seeing,but I think you need person who explain for you all
acts .

sincerely

HAJ GHAZAL!!!

elham_z August 20th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Thanks a million for your really informative post on essay writing. Today once again I
reviewed it carefully. Actually while writing my own essay I knew something is wrong
with my introduction part but I didn't change it to recieve more information from you if it
is that necessary to state reasons there.
You know I came to this conclusion while writing that it is very important to have clear
ideas about the topic and to be able to support them with understandable and reasonable
explanations. On the other hand, it is vitally important to be enough experienced in
English language in order to convey our ideas beautifully exactly like what you do.
Thank you once again for spending your precious time on helping me.

Dear Behnam I had asked about what you would like to write in that mentioned booklet
you said you will give to next generation. Do you remember? I am really willing to know
about that. Without the least doubt they will be so useful and I love to ponder on your
beliefs. Please let me know of them and take time to write whatever comes to your mind,
whenever you have enough time.

To answer your question about what I would like to change about my city I want to say
there are things I really don't like about my hometown. But let me first say that I really
want to leave it here and experience life in different cities with different cultures and I
can't claim I love my hometown. The first thing I would change is our accent and the way
we speak. In the past I just believed it is just our particular accent and no matter if I don't
change it but now for some reasons I don't think so anymore. At times it becomes
offensive and is not that polite. I don't feel any good with it. The second would be the way
our people (Not all of them) dress, specially our boys. They don't care very much what
they wear. While in university I can easily recognize our boys :):):) And the strange point
is that they never feel ashamed or something. A very bad habit of some people is that they
just spend their money on buying lands rather than on their appearance or homes.

But the most offensive thing is some really bad behaviors common among our people. As
my dear aunt last night taught me a new adjective to describe such manners,( It may be
an interesting word for you to know 'Nunkur'), they are not very helpful to each other,
they don't get unite to do something altogether. You may know we have had a lot of
important persons in government from our city but none of them did anything special for
his hometown's progress. It is really sad. Or in term of knowledge our students are so
talented, we have a lot of brains, but they are not supported the way they deserve. And
the ugliest one is that they hide many things from each other, they are not honest and call
such shameful behaviors as being tactful. This is the worst of behaviors in my idea and
one of the reasons I like to leave here.

Thank you for reading,

All the best,


Elham

Andrew August 20th 2010


Dear Julia, Clare, Behnam and others! I devote this short musical-gastronomical
exersise to all of you.

The tables were joined end-to-end and formed a big Russian 'P' letter, or a caret. Snow-
white clothes covered the tables. Plates were put so tight that people couldn't take one,
not risking to overturn another. When someone wanted to try some food that was not in
front of him, he just reached to it by hand or a fork. No woman could you see there. And
it was not a surprise - Azerbaidjanian men often celebrate separately.
What about food? Well, various kinds of traditional caucasian dishes such as shish
kebab, dolmah and pilaw (which is, by the way, very different from Uzbek one) adjoined
with Atlantic salmon, sturgeon, sterlet and even herring salted with spices. Dwellers of
ocean deeps, calmars, octopuses and lobsters were presented as well.
And, of course, a lot of greens and mountains of fruit were piled up here and there.

The speeches followed one by one, and the band had continually to stop its music and to
start again, obeying to waving hand of the banquet host. Musicians sincerely hated both
that hand and their job. There were about fifty men at the room which was not large, so
the band placed closely to the tables what was not comfortable, of course.

The banquet continued for more than four hours. All this time guitar and bass guitar
players had to stand. Keyboard player was lucky, he occupied their only chair. There was
very stuffy in the room and the shirts on men were wet from sweat.
Gradually the speeches reduced and, at last, a man got out from the table, came up to the
band and, saying 'can you play Tebriz, guys?' gave a banknote to the guitar player.
They played Tebriz, then Dunya senim, Karabah, Raya and many other songs.
The tables were partially taken away and people started to dance. Do you know what is
Azeri dance music? It is fast and hot. Very fast and very hot. Have you ever played
Tharaqyama? Azade? Aslani? Papaha? Have you ever played it non-stop for an hour
and then, after the short break for two hours more? Try, it's amazing!
After few hours of almost continuous playing, musicians had their pockets filled with
money tightly. Even more banknotes lay on a floor because men trew the packs of them
up to the ceiling. Roubles and buckses dwelled peacefully in this ocean of fun.

What I like about Caucasian parties is that incredible drive, the drive that charge
everyone with an energy. Drive, that make you to stir up, to throw out the nap and enjoy
the sleepless night.

The end turned to be a little unpredictable but natural. Hero of the festivities decided to
thank musicians in special way. He shaked out the bottle of champain and arranged a
kind of 'rally Paris-Dakkar' show. At that moment the music stopped and has not been
started again. Thanks God!

When I (a keyboard player) threw a glance to my wrist watch they showed six am. So the
banquet continued for nine hours in total. Nine hours with no rest, almost with no meal
(we just had no time to eat). I feeled deadly tired and hungry. We ate hastily what was
served for us, paying no attention what delicacy we were eating and, about thirty minutes
later, went to the subway station, rich, satisfied and tipsy.

All the best,


Andrew, former Azerbaijanian musician and a Caucasian cousine fan:)))
metzean August 20th 2010
Dear Setayesh,

Your post about marriage and happiness was convincing, thanks, I wish you would make
your life happy when you find your spouse. All good things come to those who wait.

You know that one of the Ramadan customs is giving the food for breaking the fast
,specially to needy people , during last week I was a member of needy people that invited
for food for three nights , and tonight I am invited by my brother ,I should go to his house
for special food which is waiting for us , Ramzan is the month of Zolbia Bamiye, ( A kind
of fried sweets) ,every where we are received with Zolbia Bamiye, oh my God I like it
very much ,some time I eat Zolbai bamie with Dogh , Like Doogho Goshfil , Is there
Doogho Goshfil in Tehran.
My wife and I were content during past week , She was far from the Kitchen ,some
relatives were very kind ,they gave us a container of foods for Sahari after we eat our
food in Eftar in their home. But ,some time I find stress , why, yes ..one day is my turn to
invite all of them, Last year I invite 100 people for Eftar ,but this I want to refuse it , I am
not tolerate it , this year everything is expensive , what is my fault that people like to have
party ,no,no I refuse it? I will be sick very soon ,how many kilos of Zolbia bamiye
someone can afford..!!?
What is your program in Ramadan , does your father give Eftari to the relatives or needy
people?:)

You ask me a question about "Love yourself" when someone love herself she enjoy her
life and have less stress and anxious. I think this is the same as having self confidence ,
when you think positive about your abilities , you can support yourself in all aspects of
life. If we want to speak about it ,we should cover a book ,that is what I can't explain in
English , but generally I can say accept yourself for what you are and love what you are .

Have a good day,


Mohsen

metzean August 20th 2010


Hi keyboard Player,

Then your absent is for the banquet , do you perform in Caucasia , What was the
speeches about ?
oh Andrew , shish kebab, dolmah and pilaw , I like it very much , you eat as much as you
can , we are in forbidden time of Ramadan
Traditional Azarbyjan player put their Tar on their shoulder ,not on their leg, I don't
know why ?do you know?

have a good day


Mohsen

Andrew August 20th 2010


Hello Mohsen,

I am sorry for posting a food story when my muslim friends have to restrict themselves.

No, I don't work as a restaurant keyboard player for years. So, my story took place in the
end of 90th, about 1998 maybe. Just now I play piano at the restaurant once a week,
besides my work in circus. Playing piano bar music is very different from what I
described above. People almost never dance when they hear piano music. Though, it
depends on..

My prolonged absence can be explained with three factors: 1) my staying at country


house mostly, this summer, 2) extreme heat, which made me sick and tired and 3)
spending time on livemocha, what I told you before.
However, it seems I told you my points 1)... and 2)... as well.

I've never seen anyone playing authentic tar. Azeri musicians that I have seen played
mostly keyboards, guitars, accordions, sometimes violin. Only percussion was
presumably authentic, like nagora.

Well, I must finish, tonight I'm exactly playing at the restaurant.

Best wishes,
Andrew

behnam August 20th 2010


Hi Ghazal,

How are you? Long time no see! I hope you are fine. Thanks for the post.

Ramadan is a lovely month, and I love it very much. I am fasting, and I neither get thirsty
nor hungry. Sometimes I get tired and bored, but that's OK.

I drink black tea a lot. I am a big tea drinker. a habitual tea drinker, in fact. :):):):)

My neck is OK. thank you for caring.

How about you? I think your city must be so hot. Is it so hot there?

The report about your trip to Mecca and Medina was wonderful. I really like it. Thank
you for sharing it with us.

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 August, 2010

behnam August 20th 2010


Hi Andrew,

Welcome back! How life is going? I hope you are happy and healthy.

Thank you for sharing the story with us. I really enjoyed reading it. I am familiar with the
culture of Azerbaijani people. I understood what you have written, as if I have been there
myself.

You have described it very good. Would you mind telling us why did you go there? What
was the main reason?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 20 August, 2010

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behnam August 20th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you? i hope all is well with you.


As far as I know, they put the TAR on chest rather than on shoulder! It gives player an
especial feeling, because it is believed that the main source of songs is heart--behind the
chest. Therefore, when the TAR is on the chest, it is closer to the source of the words.
Therefore, the player have a good feeling. I have tried it, since I have got a TAR, and I
often play it.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 21 August, 2010

elham_z August 21st 2010


Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii daer Veronica,

How is everything there? Are you ok? I hope so.

I just wanted you to know that I have missed you terribly. You are in my thoughts. I am
waiting for you to get less busy and find some free time to write to me.

Hope to hear from you,

*All the best and KISS*


Elham

elham_z August 21st 2010


Dear Mohsen,

How are you doing ( Marde neku)? I like to call you this way; you know, I have a very
nice and funny cousin which is addressed this way by us. Whenever reading your posts I
start to picture you as him, of course I think you should be more muscular and maybe
with bear ! Any way in my idea you seem to be a Marde neku:-)

So, Haaaaan I have to add a new feature while picturing you 'a man with a little bit big
stomach ' having eaten a lot of Zulbiya Bamiye :):):):):):):) But dear Mohsen be careful, I
can understand your wife. Please do her a big favor and eat less of them, decrease that
stomach in size. We women never like men with mentioned feature. :):):):):):) I am just
kidding; I hope you don't take offence of me. (Nushe junet Mohsen jan). Men should be
strong and energetic!
Reading your explanations about Eftari in Ramadan made me share my concerns with
you. The other night we had around forty gusts, my father's family, tonight we have
around fifty of them, my mother's family. Mohsen I wonder if this custom of having such
parties are taken serious in other cities as we do in Isfahan! We really can spend this
large amount of money instead, on giving a helping hand to needy people. But why
should we pour all these food into each other's stomachs? If it was one time, that was ok.
Tonight they are our guest, tomorrow night we are their guest, next night we both are the
guests of another family. Oh, it is terrible. I even get tired of meeting the same people
over and over. I don't disagree with the main idea, at all; having such parties is for sure
necessary but not in this way! Anyways, God bless us!!!

But I get so happy to invite my friends to Eftari , serving them at first with a happy nice
smile on my lips then with a different kind of food they are not used to eat at other homes
and I love having serious discussions on different topics and of course it should be
considered that some naughty and funny people like Behnam and Mohsen are severely
needed to liven up our gathering:) Dear Mohsen you are the nearest friend of mine
among those in this thread in terms of distance. Give me this pride to have you and your
family as my guest, I would be so happy:)

I have to go do my share of help to mom, pray for this needy friend,

Warmest wishes,
Elham

elham_z August 21st 2010


Sorry Mohsen, a mistake:
' ....... With beard '

all the best,


Elham

Bluegreen August 21st 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? Enjoying this Ramazan and the long stands of bread,
vegtable and so on? LOOL How about the weather? Is it better there? I hope so.

Oh well I know you were joking but anyways, thanks for mentioning that. Now to be
honest with you I have never ever ate that much that worth taking it under consideration.
:)):)) You know Behnam, my mom often complains that her daughters eat as little as
chicken and then she confesses that she has always praised and even envied other's
children for eating that much! I really don't know if she's honest or not. But I myslef am
satisfied with my body!

Now about the question you asked, it is such a nice question. I really wished that I could
genuinly change IT! Well the thing that I'd rather change about my city is it's
WEATHER! You know, I can get alon with people and with their far different styles and
culture. I can get along with different languages and outlooks here. But there's just this
WEATHER which I can't get along very well!!! And I think it's an important factor.
Behnam, just magine this situation, it's not dry here and it's not that much humid as it is
in Rasht, Ramsar and so on. But it's so hot with a little moist in here. And then the
geologist say that this city is in the hollow! I don't know how to interpret it in English.
But they mean that it's not on some hills and it's not on the skirt of the hills. It's actually
in the hollow and deep parts. So that's why the heat is always high here.

Thank you so much for asking because I think in these days I really needed to talk about
it. :)):))

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Andrew August 21st 2010


Hello Behnam,

No:)) I've never been in Azerbaijan. That banquet, as well as hundreds others took place
here in Saint-Petersburg. For about ten years, in 90th, I combined work at the circus with
work at the restaurants, which were mostly Azerbaijanian ones.
Quite opposite, many musicians from Azebaijan came here to S-Peter, looking for a job.
Sometimes restaurant owners hired two bands, for some reason: locals, who were
supposed to play regular restaurant repertoir (Russian, American, European songs) and
visitors who could play ethnic music and popular music of Near East countries. In fact,
very often both locals and visitors performed mixed repertoir. We adopted music and
manner of playing from each other. My mates have learned singing not only
Azerbaijanian but also Turkish, Iranian, Armenian, Georgian and other songs. Not
knowing the languages, however:))

By the way, my friend, guitar player continue that activity till now.
I stopped in 2001, when that work ceased to be profitable. After all, a combination of
these two jobs, at the circus and at the restaurants, was really tiresome. For example, on
Saturdays and Sundays I started my work day at 11am and finished it late in the night.
And a specific of the work for a tip, uncertainty in every other day: non-regular earnings,
permanent awaiting to become unemployed...to say short, I got sick and tired of it. And
you got the most idle and cherishing his idleness mate:)))))

Yours,
enjoying coolness after two months of diabolic heat and survived in yesterday energetic
collapse in S-Pet,
Andrew

behnam August 21st 2010


Hi Elham,

How are you today? I hope you are having a good day.

Many thanks for the kind post. I really enjoyed reading it. Thank you once more for
saying some positive things about my writing skill. That's very kind of you, but my writing
is not that much good. :):):):):):) When we are optimistic about someone, we often see
positive sides of his/her actions, and think of his/her positively. In other words, our minds
become biased towards people who we are optimistic about them.

You write excellently, and your posts are lovely. I am sure, people agree with me on this
statement.

Dear Elham, When I know there is just one week left for me to live, my manner and way
of thinking will change. Consequently, my sentences will change. Therefore, at the
moment, I cannot write anything, because I don't know what my thoughts will be!
:):):):):) I may give my friends and next generations of the family some advice.

Thank you for the answer, but what have made you become so pessimistic about your city
and its people? What do you mean by saying "...our accent isn't polite.."? Do you mean
some bad languages? If so, there are bad words in every accent in the world. Maybe, you
mean some pronunciations which are very similar to sounds of bad words. Anyway,
please give me more explanation.

About boys' way of wearing I should say it is almost the same in all cities. Nowadays,
some boys wear make-up and behave like girls. Sometimes, it is quite difficult for me to
understand if someone is a girl or a boy. Once I was talking to my friends about this
matter in the society. I said this sentence 'it is quit difficult for me ...', and a naughty
friend of mine said, "Come on Behnam! That's easy. Just check their...with your hand!"
:):):):):):):):):):) I was naughtier and said, "I am sure, even by checking their..., you
won't be able to recognize if he is really a HE or a SHE!" :):):):):)

My friends were male, and we men understand each other very well. You may not
understand what I am saying, but I cannot explain more. Sorry! :):):):):)
About 'nunkur', I understand what you are saying. They don't help each other. They are
not cooperative and supportive.

Thank you for reading. If you see I am writing differently, you should know my mind
doesn't help me as it used to do. I am just writing something, I don't know what it is!
:):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 21 August, 2010

Andrew August 21st 2010


Tits?

elham_z August 21st 2010


Dear friends,

I found something interesting to thoughtful Elham on the net, please take a look at it. You
have three choices:
* Just to read
* Read and think about it
*Read, think and share your thoughts about it.
*****************************************************************
Culture and meaning:

A while ago, a worldwide survey was conducted by the UN. The only question asked was:
"Would you please give your honest opinion about solutions to the food shortage in the
rest of the world?"
The survey was a huge failure...

In Africa most didn't know what "food" meant.

In Eastern Europe most didn't know what "honest" meant.

In Western Europe most didn't know what "shortage" meant.

In China most didn't know what "opinion" meant.

In the Middle East most didn't know what "solution" meant.


In South America most didn't know what "please" meant.

And in the USA most didn't know what "the rest of the world" meant.
***********************************************************************

All the best,


Elham

behnam August 21st 2010


Hi Andrew,

I am afraid, you are wrong. These days, both girls and boys have flat chests. sometimes,
a boy is fat and his chest is meaty(barrel-chested) like what you have written! :):):):) But,
girls often are flat-chested! I am not saying that bumpy-chested creatures are endangered
species. What I am saying is that the majority of girls--who show off in the streets--have
smooth chests. Girls with bumpy chests often get married early or hide their bodies.
:):):):):):):)

Oh Andrew, I cannot give details. I have promised to avoid writing taboo


things.:):):):):):):)

Anyway, now, I hope you can solve the riddle. :):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 21 August, 2010
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Veronicaho August 21st 2010


Hi Elham,

At least...I have time to write :)) I hope you are well and feel good! I'm fine but I have
had a lot to do. As you know I have holiday and me and my family have been there...very
nice time. But there is also a bit to do :)) Our summerhouse is ready since few years ago
but now my husbund has builded a "sauna" and also a new guest house and we have
fixed a lot at the garden so we have done a lot with this. We have also been with our boat
at the sea and we have had friends and grandchildren at us... Sometimes I feel that I need
48 hours a day :))

But now "the normal everyday" are back...Hanna is back to school since thursday and I
have had time with a daytrip to Sweden with two friends yesterday :)) I do not dare to say
why :)))

Today I'm alone because Hanna and all her friends from her class, they are 18, went for
a small school travel to Sweden today. They went to an old castle where they doing an
adventure trail (?). Many school classes are going there and have fun together. They are
divided in two teams and complete against each other. They will learn problem solving
and collaboration. Tonight they will sleep in tent. I think this will be very fun. They went
there by bus together. All parents have rent a bus together and Hannas dad drive it (he
have licens for it and it is cheeper without a busdriver), and there are 3 more parents
with them.

You gave me an interesting question. What should I do my last days if I'm going to die
after a week. To be honest, I have thought about this many times but I have never got the
answer. I have met patients at the hospital few times who have got bad news and facts
about that they have just few weeks left.
Some of them have been absolute desperate and crying, just lien down in the bed and has
went in to themself. Some other have been calm, taken the informations and said...this
was my life, I'm happy for my time in this world.
I have wondered about why/how they are so different...what make a person strong/weak
in this situation? Of course age, children, love and if you have gone through difficulties
previously have significance but sometimes there is something else...but I'm not sure
about what.

I have made a lot in my life, both experience that I like and regret. I'm happy with my life
but I'm absolute not ready to die. I think that I should be very sad but also angry...why
me? Depending of why I have just one week left, I should try to find a treatment/solution
for my disease. I should also have my family around me and I should tell my children my
whishes about them. Then I should write a letter to all my children and grandchildren
where I would tell them about themself and the especially with them and what they have
meant for me. I should give them personal advice for the future. But it should be just
advice...I want my children to live the life they want so the advices should be some help
on the way of life..

What about you...what should you do? Have you thought about it? I think it's very diffcult
to know what to do in this situation. I think it's possible to know which reaction and what
you will do, only if you are in this situation...but it is very importent to think about it.
People in this days very often thinking about the future and what they will do then. We
should always live our life as if the day was the last day in my life. But how many do
that? Not many!
I think it is importent for a person to live our life as we feel and want. If you do that you
will feel comfortable, secure and at peace with yourself...and this is important that day
when you have to die.
An proverbs I like is: You rarely regret what you have done, you regret that what you
didn't done.

Now I have to change my clothes...my daughter and her family coming after few minutes.
We gonna go to a restaurant and eat pizza.

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Andrew August 21st 2010


Come on Behnam, stop to suspect me in misunderstanding your riddles!
Well, everything is ok about teenagers. Let 'em alone. Eventually, young people, even
those who look unusual for our adult eyes, become adults themselves and turn to be quite
common men and women.
What I really didn't understand was: did you mean that those boys who look like girls,
behave like girls, wear make-up were gays? Is it possible? Is not being a gay condemned
in Iran?

behnam August 21st 2010


Hi kamelia,

The weather is very hot, the streets are packed with cars and people, and the lines are
very long! I don't know what has happened, or is going to happen. To buy some fresh
bread--barbary--I had to stay in a long line. It took me two hours to but some bread--two
barbary actually. It is the same to buy vegetables, fruit, and other ingredients like
'Zulbiya', 'Bamiye', 'Halim', and 'Shirini'.

It is unbelievable that people traditionally buy those things in Ramadan, but they don't
fast!!! I was talking to a person in the queue the other day. He said buying those things in
Ramadan was good (Savab dare) even though they didn't fast!!! In particular, he said
nobody in his family fasted, but they laid the table and ate something in the evening
(Azan)! Doesn't it sound ridiculous?

What should we do? Different people, different beliefs, and different attitudes. We should
tolerate, because we haven't got other choices. However, believe me it is very difficult to
tolerate such two-faced people. They even cheat themselves!

I have heard that Gonbad is a hot city. Why don't you think about moving to another city?
There are many beautiful cities in Iran with good weather and lovely climate. Why do you
waste your time in living there?

Let's stop speaking about eating and drinking. Those actions are common among people
and animals. I was only joking, please forget it.
Anyway, I hope you are enjoying your life.

All the best,


Behnam, 21 August, 2010

behnam August 21st 2010


Hi Andrew,

Come on man! I am not speaking about teenagers. I am speaking about adults!

They are neither boy nor gay! They follow fashion!

Have you solved the riddle? :):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 21 August, 2010

setayesh August 21st 2010


Dear Behnam,

How's it going? I hope all is well with you.

Very nice to see that you can play Tar. Good for you. Tar is my favorite musical
instrument, but unfortunately I have never had the chance of learning it. Every year I tell
my self "Setayesh this summer is the time for going to Tar class" but what happens? It
postpones to the next summer. Because every summer I get busy by some unexpected
activities. May I know how you learnt it? Is it difficult to learn? And,does it take a long
time to learn?

Thanks for your recommendation about English institutes. I searched for Afarinesh. I
think that?s more convenient than Safir for me. I must prepare myself for its exam. as far
as I know its exam is too tough.:(:(:(

Dear Behnam, girls are so sensitive and sentimental they often use some stuff, like dolls
just as emotional outlets. Some girls who are so introverts are the ones that use dolls
even after childhood.

And finally about going out with girls. Shagir amada oassa moallim galar!( omidvaram
sarfe felesh dorost bashe:):):) LOOL. I'm neither a teacher nor an experienced girl in
going out with boys.( alan migi maghruri dige) All I knew are some facts about females
world.

Dear brother, a fisher man can't fish all kinds of fish by the same tools. The more
valuable fish is, the more qualified instruments are needed. Girls are the same, for going
out with some of them just having money in pocket is enough, but where your desire is
high this is where money doesn't talk. Girls have a lot in common but it doesn't mean that
they are all the same.(I'm sure,you know it yourself well)

Hope to hear form you soon

All the Best,

Setayesh, 21 August,2010

setayesh August 21st 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Many thanks for replying to my post.

So you were enjoying your time beside your family over previous days. That's really
great. I like breaking feasts during Ramadan time. It's normal in my family either. Every
Ramadan my parents hold such parties for our near families, such as my uncles and
aunts.

It shows that you have a big family. Wow! 100 guests for breaking fast?! Did you
hospitalize them in your own house, or took them to somewhere else? How did you
handle this great number of people? Inviting such number of people in for Tehranian
people is so difficult. Hospitalizing them in 100-meter-flats is impossible somehow:(:(
How poor Tehranians are!:):):)

My family is not that big. All my maternal relatives are 15 people all together. 4 of them
are children under 10 years old. So it's so easy to invite and hosting them. My paternal
family is different from my maternal, that's expand. But as we live far from each other it's
not possible to invite expect 2 of my uncles' families during Ramadan nights. We haven't
still invite any gusts this Ramadan. there is no hurry, we're going to do very soon. By the
way this Rmadan we're going to invite our new family member- my new aunt( My uncle
fiancee) ? as well. It's the time she is going to be in our house. It would be very enjoyable
for HER!:):):):) LOOL

And about dugh o Zulbia bamie. Don't worry, it doesn't hurt your boday at all. Iranian
men have to work in 2 times more after Ramadan to gain the money that they've lost
during this month. So you'll completely loss how much weight you gained by eating
Zulbia.:)
I haven't heard anything about ghushfil o dugh:):) It was new for me. I don't know if
people hear eat them together or not. I just once tried Tooto dugh in Darake. That was
ok. Have you ever been in Darake?

Hope to hear from you. And don't forget to pray for me in your prayers.

All the best,

Setayesh,21 August,2010

setayesh August 21st 2010


Dear Andrew,

Look who is here! How are you my dear friend? Very pleasure to see you're back. I
missed you a lot. You were always in my mind. Watching some programs in Russia
Travel Guide reminds me of you. Those programs has made me eager having a trip to St.
perter.:):):)

Your presence it this thread is so beneficial for all of us coz your English is excellent. I'm
so happy that you are here again. I'd like to see you as active as you were in last summer.

Hope to here from you soon

All the best

Setayesh, 21 August,2010

setayesh August 21st 2010


Correction!

To Mohsen:

1)I don't know if people HERE eat them together or not...2)It's the FIRST time she is
going to be in our house...3)Inviting and hosting them is so easy(not:it's so easy to invite
and hosting them.)

To Andrew:

...a trip to St.PETER.:):):)


Veronicaho August 21st 2010
Hi Julia,

How are you? Fine I hope.

I have been a bit busy, thats why I haven't write for some week. It's better with time now.

My daughter Hanna is back in school and the everyday life is back. I have few days left
on my holiday...uh...then back to work. I love my work but it's always "to hard" to go
back after holiday. Very quick you get used to sleep in the morning, relax and have soft
life.
But it is good to go back to the normal life again. I like to eat nice food and take a glass
of wine and now I have got 4-5 kg extra:( Today I have bought new shoes so tomorrow I
have to start with walking and jogging:)) And eat more healty..and no wine! In sex week I
will be back in my normal weight.

Are you doing some sport exercise? What kind? Are you going to gym?
To be honest I can tell you that I don't like sports...I'm to lazy. I trying to walk few times a
week (nothing at all this summer) and I will try to go to gym. I have to try my best now!

Have a nice day and hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Veronicaho August 21st 2010


Hi Mohsen,

I hope you are fine!


As you I remember a lot of beautiful memories from our journey. Maybe we should go for
a new one...what about Asia? Today I also saw Andrew here back again!

You asked about what people doing at Gotland in winter time? Gotland is also an Island
as Aland but with much more inhibitants. There living 55000 and they working as other
people in small cities.
All European countries included The European Union, Sweden and also Gotland, and
this Union is without customs so you don't have to pay any toll when you leaving
Gotland.

To your second question. Yes you quessed right! We didn't pay anything for our trip with
the cruise to Gotland. We spent all our money in Gotland :)))

Today I heard at news that Iran has start up their first nuclear power plant (is it right
word?). Finland have 4 or 5, I'm not sure. I know too little about them to say anything
about them. Sometimes I think it's a good way to get energy because it is not bad for the
environment but I'm very afraid that something should happen with it. Like the accident
in Thernobyl in 1986. And where to put nuclear waste so it is safe for many thousands of
years?

What do you think? Is it good or bad? Are you afraid that something can happen? Do
you think something else is better? What about wind turbines?

Have a nice day and I hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica
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Andrew August 21st 2010


Hello Setayesh,

Ohh, you really make me to blash like a boy and melt like an iciclke in a hand.
By the way, I have never gone far away from here. Just swam in the next pool -
livemocha.com, one more site disigned for people studying languages.
So, I'm still available, ready to defend every disputable statement and dispute every
indisputable truth.

Andy, just back from Acapulco

Andrew August 21st 2010


What is meaning of 'sex week' Veronica? An idiom?

Andrew August 21st 2010


Behnam!

I think I've solved your riddle. The whole phrase must be "Just check their passports with
your hand", right?
Veronicaho August 21st 2010
Hi Kamelia,

How are you? I really hope that you are fine.


I know you have your fasting period now and I hope you enjoy it. Isn't it difficult to be
without food so many hours. How do you do to manage it or do you think it's easy for
you?
When you eating, are you eating some special food in this time?

I am at the end of my vacation...just 3 days left and then work again. I like that the
everyday life is back soon.
We have had the hottest summer since 100 years in Finland with 25-33 degrese but soon
the autumn time coming. Very often our autumn is a nice period with temperature around
15 degrese. I like all our periods but there is something especially with the autumn. The
sky is so clear, the air is so frech and all the colors in the nature. Which period do you
like most?

Are you doing some sport exercise? I'm a bit lazy but I try to walk sometimes. This
summer I have been very lazy and I haven't done nothing so today I bought new walking
shoes and tomorrow I have to start my new more healty life with healty food and a bit
sports :)) ... and I must finish to eat sweet.

Have a nice day! Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Veronicaho August 21st 2010


Hi funny Andrew,

In sex week means after sex weeks...What do you think :)) Sex week...no no no

Veronica

Veronicaho August 21st 2010


Hi Behnam,

Thanks for your post to me. I hope you are fine and enjoy your fasting period.
You told me that organ donations are not common in Iran...but all womens here says it's
common in Iran....hm hm...I believe in women because women never lie :)))))
Today I heard at news that Iran had got their first nuclear power plant (?). As I told
Mohsen, Finland has 4 or 5 of those. I know too little about those so it is very difficult to
have any opinions about them. Sometimes I think it is ok because it give us cheap energy
and it's no emissions to the environment. But I can say that I am afraid for it too. Do you
remember the accident in Tjernobyl in 1986? So many people died and many children got
leucemia and other cancer diseases. And how to take care about the nuclear waste for
thousands of years...is it possible?
What do you think about it? Is it good or bad? Do you think there is other energy
sources? Wind turbines? Do you have wind turbines there? Here in Nordic area we have
a lot of those but of course, they can never give energy as much as nuclear power plants
can give.

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

Veronicaho August 21st 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Thanks for your post to me! And sorry for being late in answering.
You have fasting periods now and I really hope you enjoy it. What I know every Muslim
like this periods. For me it is a bit difficult to understand how it is possible to be without
food for so many hours...Isn't it difficult?

I have asked Elham, Kamelia and Julia about sports exercise and I asking you too. Do
you do any sport exercise?
Here is it very popular to do it and almost everybody are doing something. To go to gym
is very popular. As I told the others I'm lazy but I will start tomorrow!!! Only to walk but
soon with gym.. I tell my patients how importent it is with exercises but I doing nothing!
They would only know how their nurse lives :))
Shame on me!

Have the weather changed to autumn there yet? No, I think it's too early.

The clock is already half past one in the night and I think I have to go to bed.
I'm waiting for your answer,

Veronica
jiulia78 August 22nd 2010
Hi, Clare
what of interesting are you doing these days? I am packing up my things little by little, we
are surrounded with the walls of packs and boxes. it begins to irritate. the most things
have been packed already and from time time it rises the need of some thing which is
already inside of some box.... my brains are engaged at remove but writing here helps me
to distract myself a little bit...
I'd like to taste some ethnic food, I like the experiments with the food. I am still in the
search of the favorite cuisine....So your advises are welcomed...is it in English what I
have told now? ...are welcomed.... I mean your corrections are welcomed too, I should be
very thankful...
as for our everyday preference it's quite strange but there's almost no desire to eat
Ukrainian, may be it has been established according to the climate or the air here, but
the Mediterranean dishes are going here the best. they are lighter than the Ukr. ones.
Neither I eat much pasta, but I shall never refuse to a plate of spaghetti with tiny
tomatoes and basilica with parmisan. or pasta with zucchini and shrimps, always with
sicilian tomatoes gravy. I like mozzarella, all the greenery that they eat and appreciate
the freshness and high quality of all the goods here as well. but from time to time I cook
ukrainian too...there are dishes which we miss.
Italians are very proud of themselves, the good to be sold must be " 5 times Italian". this
feature of them sometimes makes me laugh. conservators and devoted to their traditions
they have made the way to the world-fame by their proud. it is deserved, for Heavens
sake, but, there is a saying which corresponds to the fact : the modesty is the way to the
obscurity.;)
as far as I know and we have studied at school these are the Englishmen which are
famous with their traditionalism. who is stronger in this as for you? you or Italians?
the last night I was a testimony of an extraordinary scene. the girl which lives the floor
beneath me was to marry. and the night before the wedding party her spouse has has
come with a small band of musicians to sing her a Serenata.... it was so romantic, do you
imagine. the night and the lyric songs beneath her balcony.... just as in old Italian films.
it is a rarity even here, but still there happen such crazy guys!!!
have a nice day!
Julia.

jiulia78 August 22nd 2010


Andrew, I am happy to see you in a good health! I was thinking of you...
.Mohsen, you too.
Behnam, thank you for your kind words, the letters to you require time ;)))- write you
tomorrow.
Veronica, I shall reply you tomorrow, ready to drop today!
have a great day!
Julia

behnam August 22nd 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Thanks for the kind post.

Yes, I play TAR, and I love it very much. I am playing it just to spend time, not
professionally. I have learned it from my father. My father plays TAR perfectly. I love
Azerbaijani music and I am rather good at it.

It is not difficult at all. You just need to practise a lot. It is just a matter of practice. I am
sure, it will be easy for you, because you have got long and flexible fingers! :):):):) If you
are very interested in it, try to follow related programs shown on satellite(I have heard
from some people that there is always Azerbaijani music on satellite if you watch Baku
channels for example). There are many ladies who play and sing. It sounds lovely when
they put the TAR on the chest and play it while singing. I really love it.

I didn't get the Azerbaijani sentence! Would you please rewrite it simply?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 22 August, 2010

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behnam August 22nd 2010


Hi Andrew,

Bravo! Finally, you solved the riddle. You are perfect at solving difficult riddles. You are
an intelligent man. Yes dear, it is checking passport! :):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 22 August, 2010
elham_z August 22nd 2010
Hi Behnam,

Good morning. How are you doing? I can guess, you are busy doing the biggest hobby '
Work '. I wish you the best in your favorit pastime.

Come on Behnam! I didn't like your way of judging on me just because of saying some
facts! In my own idea I am neither optimistic about you nor pessimistic about my city.
Find one person who claims I am wrong about what I believe in about your skill at assay
writing! On the other hand when Elham says something you just accept and say ' Yes
Madam ' :):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

And about my city, I just said what I would like to change. I don't see any dark point in
my claims about it. It is my hometown and wherever I go on this earth I would introduce
Najafabad as my hometown and the place I have been grown up in. See, it is right that
sometimes I think with myself 'What if I was born in a big city?' or 'How living in other
places could affect my personality and life style?', but I also strongly believe that what
people will notice in each other and get to know as one's personality, severely goes back
to the effort every single individual has made to build as his personality to show to
others. Something came to my mind Behnam, an analogy. I am not sure about it but let
me write it here and ask for your idea on it. Maybe we can consider a person with all the
features that his family and environment has naturally caused in, as a stone slab with the
natural shape of it left in the nature. The effort I mentioned can be seen as the effort one
can do to carve the preferable figure out of this stone. One is free to leave his stone a side
remaining its natural shape or be shaped by natural disasters or weather changes, or be
assertive enough to decide on being an art man making his own attempt! But this is a
very difficult thing to do, making your mind on what kind of shape you like and how to
you do your job professionally. But as professor Behnam always says, it is difficult but
POSSIBLE. Practice makes perfect! :):):)
No matter where you are born, how you continue to be is the matter !!!

Anyways, what I mean about our accent is its tone of voice and how we express them. At
times our accent is really interesting and funny; we, young people, try to imitate old ones,
using old words with its special music and make each other laugh. But what I mean is
that in social situations and in relationship with people from other cities it is not
considered a very suitable way of speaking. ( Yekam shol va nachandan jaleb benazar
mirese).

About boys and what you had said, honestly I didn't exactly get what you mean! But
Behnam a question! In my idea boys are in a very interesting way confident.:):):):) It is
not bad at all; they are supposed to be this way to make life continue on earth, in every
aspect of it I mean. But some times I wonder where and when these creatures feel shy or
not that convenient! Seriously? Would you share with me some situations that Behnam
feel shy in ?

Thank you for reading. Hope to read from you soon.

All the Best


Elham

elham_z August 22nd 2010


Dear Veronica,

So happy to see you back. Did you enjoy yourself eating pizza with friends? I hope so. I
still wonder what you have done in that daytrip to Sweden with two friends! Is it a
secret?:):):)

Honey I don't know if you have read my answer to Kamelia about what I would do in left
week! I said to her that I won't leave writing in here; not only I will write as regularly,
but also I will write much enough to leave you a great amount of my words, therefore you
won't miss me soon. You have enough to read from me. Another option is writing a book,
since it is one of my biggest desires in life to become an outer. Emmm, but I really love to
spend this left time in one of the greenest villages in north of Iran. Wow, think of that! A
small wooden charming cottage surrounded by green wet plants and wonderful red,
purple and orange wild flowers and a lot of ducks and chickens in the front yard. There is
wooden short fence around it and there is a path covered by long old trees in both sides.
The path is led into a small lake; do you see those pretty swans in the lake too? There is
this flat rock here beside a large tree I can sit, think and write my book. After finishing
daily writing, I will pour some pieces of bread in the lake for the swans, look at the blue
sky upside doing wishes in my heart for my loved ones and walk to the cottage. On the
way I will run and hop the way I used to do in my childhood and sing my favorite songs,
maybe those I used to song in my childhood, loudly. It is getting dark when I reach; I will
pick those little vegetables and some tomato, I will wash them cleanly in cold water and
eat them with maid-at-hom bread and cheese. Wow, how delicious they are! Now it is
time to write in let's learn together. I will lie on my side in the bed, put the laptop by my
side and type while I can clearly hear dragonflies making those special for nights
soothing noise...............

Dear Veronica I understand what you mean by living our life as we feel and want but let
me share my thoughts with you. Last night I had my aunt as our guest. She has four
children. two daughters, one two years older than the other one, studding at primarily
school and a twin both boy nearly one year old. After her marriage she has rarely seen a
happy day in her life. Her husband was addicted and hase grown up in a not very good
family. Now the husband is mentally ill and all daylong is at home just crying. They have
no money and all they eat is given to them by her family. A small dark house and four
little children and........, you can picture how terrible the condition is. Any ways, last
night while they were leaving our house I put a white Chador on and went to door to say
goodbye.( Have you have any idea of Chador? Those black clothes you might have seen
Arab women wear that cover the whole body completely).

Immidiatly after seeing me in that white cover, my aunt said 'Wow Elham, I hope to see
you in that white Chador while going to 'Luck's house'. (Luck's house is the word by word
translation of a Farsi expression meaning husband's house. In the past and even now
usual in some religious families, the bride would wear a white Chador in her wedding
day, leaving her father's house and entering her husband's.)

I felt the sadness deep in her voice and saw the tears in her eyes. She was thinking about
her dreams before marriage and what kind of life she would imagine for herself! You
don't know how upset I got seeing her thin tired face and what FATE had maid from that
beautiful young girl. Yes, that's it dear Veronica ' FATE '. If it really was up to ourselves
to choose how to continue our life, how happy and lucky we could be! I hope I have been
successful in conveying my message. Some times I whish my aunt were able to get rid of
all these terrible conditions that is stuck in, she could do a revolution in her life and make
a difference. How long must she stay in this point? But as if she has even lost her
consciousness and is confused!

Dear Veronica it seems that our lives are controlled by mysterious powers we even can't
imagine. It is not easy to be yourself and do whatever you feel makes you happy. We are
not alone and we are supposed to consider a lot of things while deciding. I don't make
this story longer, as if we have to try our best to accept the condition we are put in, do as
more good and helpful things as we can to help ourselves and others and be HOPEFUL
to god's kindness and forgiveness. He knows better what the best is for us !!!

Sorry for my long post. Hope to here from you soon.


Elham

setayesh August 22nd 2010


Dear Behnam,

Many thanks for your nice post.

So you have learnt playing TAR by taking lesson from your father. It's so good. Can your
father teach me too?:):):):):):):)I don't like to be taught by some fashionable young
(Susul)boys who can be seen here and there. One of such creatures is living next door to
us. He plays Violin and Guitar very well. He has really keened on teaching me guitar just
after asking him once about that. I wish I hadn't asked him because since then whenever
we see each other, he says that he is still waiting to teach me.:(:(:( I prefer to die rather
than being the trainee of such a long haired guy!

Anyway, I have seen those programs that you mentioned. Those ladies sing really great. I
do love them.

I going to say "Teacher comes when the student is ready" by writing that sentence in
Azari. I am terrible at pronouncing and speaking Torki language. I will never forget
when I was a little child, how much my grandmother tried to convince me to learn this
language. Whatever she asked I used to answer in Persian even though I could answer in
Azari. Even I used to negative Azari verbs by Persian rule. As you know in Persian by
adding "Ne" at the beginning of verbs we make them negative, like Miravan>Nemiravam.
Whenever my grandmother said Torki Danish! I used to answer back Nemidanisham
instead of Danishmiam. Now when I see some of cousin beside English, French and
Spainsh count Torkish as an independent language that they know, I really regret. God
bless my grandmother, I was a very naughty grandchild for her.

Hope to hear from you soon

All the best,

Setayesh, 22 August, 2010

behnam August 22nd 2010


Hi Elham,

Thank you very much for the long and nice post. I was tired, but now--after reading it--I
feel relaxed and happy. Thank you for praising me. OK. My writing is good. :):):)

I am terribly sorry, but I didn't get your analogy. Would you please write it simply? I am
sure--of course--you know that we often make analogies to describe difficult things in a
simple way; to be understood easily by people, but the reverse isn't necessary! To make
easy things complicated!!! What for? :):):):):):):):) So sorry. :):):):)

About the accent, I agree with you.:):):):)=))=))=))

You haven't get the point about boys and girls. That's great. You made me happy by
saying so. I wish I hadn't written those sentences! Now, I realized that you hadn't
understood it. Thanks God! :):):):) Forget it Elham. :):):):):) Andrew knows, because she
is a man. Oh, please forget it. I shouldn't have written it. You know, checking people if
they are male or female is not a decent job! :):):):):):) =))=))=))=))

Your question concerning times I feel shy is very good. That's a tricky question. You have
put finger on a tricky question. How clever you are!

To be honest, I feel embarrassed when I understand I have been wrong about something,
but have insisted on it. Yes, it is embarrassing. I hate to break my promise too. It is really
shameful to promise to do something, but not to keep it! Finally, I really feel shy when a
guest comes to my home and the home is messy and nothing is ready to entertain them. I
really really really feel ashamed if I cheated someone, but s/he knew that I had been
cheating. That's terrible. I prefer dying to living when someone understands that I am
cheating. Therefore, I rarely cheat, but when I do it, I am quite sure that the people won't
get it.:):):):):):):):):):):):):)=))=))=)=)) Rozam batel nashe! Vali hala patil shod eshkali
nadare! Mordam az khande! :):):):):):) :)):)):)):)):)) LOL Irani bashi cheat nakoni
MAHALE! =))=))=))=))=)) LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Anyway, I apologize to my foreign friends for writing something in Persian. You know
they are private, and I don't know how to translate them too. :)):)):))

Oh Elham, that's better for me to leave quickly, because my mind becomes dirty right
now. I may write terrible things. You know, when I am in my naughty mood, I often forget
who I am, and who I am speaking (writing) to! :):):):):):)=))=))=))

Thank you fro reading. Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 22 August, 2010

Veronicaho August 22nd 2010


Hi Elham,

To not be late in answering this time I will answer direct:) But it is not only that reason.
Thanks for your post! Your writings are lovley! Elham...you write in a very nice, clear
and interesting way and despite to your young age you can see wholeness.

You wrote that you will become to be an outer...did you mean author? I think so and you
have definitely certainly the ability to be that..but you should also be a great Nurse or
Doctor :)

You are a person who can "see" a persons feelings inside, (hope you understand), and
you can feel with others and see their needs. You have a big good heart with empathy to
your fellows. Those people are exactly what the health care needs.

Your story and describing about your aunt was strong and touched me much. That is also
an reason to why I want to answer you now.
I'm really sorry for your aunt and it is very difficult to see how she would find luck in her
life.

When she is in this situation it's very importent for her to talk about it. To have close
friends to which she can say how she feel, how tired she is, how bad everything is, how
sad she is to be in this situation. Because she is that...thats normal...even through she
love her husband and children. She have aggression inside and before she can go
forward in her life, the aggression must came out. A good way is to talk about it. Ask her
about her feelings. I'm sure she will be happy inside if you show her that you have
empathy and wants to help her. And remember! Be quiet about that what she trust you.
You said that her home is dark and not good. Think about if there is something all her
friends and relatives can help with? To make thems home more nice? What is her
interest? Is it possible to help her to take care of her children few hours sometimes so she
could do something nice for her self? Help her to have possibility to do something she
dream on.

Your aunt must go on in her life...but she must get energy and find the positive things she
have so she can.
It is so difficult for me to know about her husband because I don't know anything about
his disease. You said that he crying all time. It seems that he is depressiv at least. Has he
been to a doctor? Has he got any treatment? Today there is so many good treatment for
mentaly illness...

Also in this situation there is not hopeless! She have a lot of nice things and reasons to
live for and to get energy from. But she needs help in this situation and this is importent
for her but also for her husband and the children!

If she can get energy and feel better and then see the small positive things in her life she
will be a strong person and have better possibility to chanche her life a bit...to the better
for her whole family. You know that a person who has gone through difficulties in her life
grow up inside and will be strong.

Give a big hug from me to your aunt and let me know how she have,

Your friend Veronica

behnam August 22nd 2010


**THIS POST HAS BEEN DELETED BY THE MODERATOR**

elham_z August 22nd 2010


The difference between men talking and women talking:

Two women talking:


Woman 1: Oh! You got a haircut! That's so cute!

Woman 2: Do you think so? I wasn't sure when she gave me


the mirror. I Mean, you don't think it's too fluffy looking?

Woman 1: No, it's perfect. I would love to get my hair cut like that, but I think my face is
too wide. I'm pretty much stuck with this stuff I think!

Woman 2: Are you serious? I think your face is adorable. And you could easily get one of
those layer cuts - that would look so cute I think. I was actually going to do that except
that I was afraid it would accent my long neck.

Woman 1: Oh - that's funny! I would love to have your neck! Anything to take attention
away from these football player shoulders of mine.

Woman 2: Are you kidding? I know girls that would love to have your shoulders.
Everything drapes so well on you. I mean, look at my arms, see how short they are? If I
had your shoulders I could get clothes to fit me so much easier.
...
...
...
.
Now, two men are talking:

Man 1: Haircut?
Man 2: Yeah.
***********************************************************************
Hahahahahahehehehehehehehahahahahehehehehe:):):):):):):

Happy to make you laugh*


Elham

marinaa August 22nd 2010


Hi dear Behnam,

As a human being I congratulate Iran for building Boushaher station. All of us know how
much is important to have a permenant source for electricity in a very big country like
Iran.
Dear Behnam, take the importance of this event as a scientist in the first place and as an
Iranian citezen.

Solar and wind systems can provide electricity , but the sun will go at the end of the day
and wind may stop in anytime.
Nucleare sourse is a great one, please be happy for building it and don't listen to some
foriegn politicians.
It's a great day in the history of science in Iran, I really congratulate all of You.

God bless all Iranian scientists and protect Iran.


Marina.

Clare August 22nd 2010


Please, no politics.
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
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Bluegreen August 22nd 2010


Dear Veronica,

Hiiii there. How are you? How's everything going on? Seems like your holidays are
getting finished and you're not that much satisfied, so do mine! You know what? I like my
studies and all those classes and I do enjoy all those projects, home works and writings
but just the idea that this holiday's going to be finished soon makes me depressed a little
bit. You know, getting back to work after a sweet lovely holiday like this is a little bit
scary. :)):))

Oh you wrote about the weather, tell you what, it's just boiling in here. You can't imagine
that the day before yesterday the temperature was 49 degrees Celsius!!! I could feel my
blood running through my veils and the bulbs of water in them. It was boiling. LOOL

Dear Veronica, when you wrote a tiny post to some of us, I said I'm going to greet her
first thing. But I thought that you might be on a trip again or you might be busy not
finding time to answer or write so I postponed it. But now, you can't imagine how happy I
got when I saw that I have a post from you.

About your first question, well, I think you'd better ask old fasters like Behnam or other
people (LOOL). I'm just new to fasting. But I liked your question. I just try to make the
distances I used to walk to somewhere shorter. I try not to talk too much (LOOOL); I
don't do hard exercises I used to do, like basketball or aerobics. I try to eat some sort of
things which contain too much water like watermelons and melons more. I try to eat some
sort of things which contain a lot of sugar so that I might not run out of sugar LOOL.
Dear Veronica, your question regarding sports and exercising made me think of the days
which I don't fast. I use to walk with my mom everyday. There's this big lake in our city.
It's an artificial lake which surrounding is about 1KMs. And if under any circumstances
we couldn't we would do some exercises at home. You know what Dear Veronica, you
don't to just exercise that much formally to lose weight or to keep in shape, just the house
work, or the gardening or even cleaning would keep you in shape. Oh and dancing has a
great effect on women's bodies.

But it's really good if you have the time to go and exercise. New shoes can be good
motivators. Right? :))

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Veronicaho August 22nd 2010


Hi Behnam,

Thanks for your post to me (I read it before it was deleted).

As the oldest women here in this tread I am like a Mam and now "your Mam" wants to
have a seriously talk with you!

I really understand your thoughts in your post but what is the point??

You are an intelligent man...why do you drops to that low level? Why do you get so angry
sometimes for something you read, heard, think or adopt?
Why do you always thinking like; good or bad, christians or muslims, black or wite, win
or lose, we and them...I can say many more. Nothing is like this.

As example we can take what you wrote. Someone say that Israel wants to attack your
nuclear power station and some journalist write about that in the newspaper. Does that
means that all inhabitants in Israel have the same idea? No way...Most people there are
nice people with normal thoughts!
Why do get so angry about it. Only a text in a newspaper. Use that energy to something
nice instead. If you get that reaction in situations like this, then you will give the same
patterns and reactions to your children also. How should people change in this world if
everybody going to attack immediately and thinking in terms like war and how to protect
our countries?

Reactions like this reminds me to think about a 5 years old child who wants to defend
everything and just can see one thing. YOU are better than that!!

Please Behnam...open your eyes and look to both side, not only in the front. When you get
angry...take a deep breath and thinking about why you feel so angry....then try to thinking
in a different way than you are used to do.

What should I do?


I know that Muslims don't like westerns ways of living. Should I hate all Muslims? Never
in my life ...because I know that most of Muslims respect that people in this world are
different...especially between religions. So there is no reason for me to get angry about
this!

Also I can be very angry sometimes. I can "hate" a person from Sweden, Italian, Israel,
Thailand, Iran....but I will never see the whole country deleted.

Now to my last post to you. Do you want to answer my questions?


As I told you Finland have 4 or 5 nuclear power stations and I think this is good in one
hand because we get cheap energy but in the other hand I'm afraid that something like
Tjernobyl can happens. Do you think the stations are safe (forget Israel and nuclear
rockets) enough? What about the nuclear waste? Is it possible to store the waste for
thousands of years?

You as a Physics...do you think it is possible to take care of the energy we get from the
sun in the future?

I hope you don't feel angry on me too now...thinking about what an old women with some
experience has told you :)))) I do not want to mess with you!

Mam Veronica

Clare August 22nd 2010


Thanks Veronica! I hope we can discuss nuclear energy without getting sucked into a
political argument.

What are the pros and cons? How can we make sure another accident like Chernobyl
never happens again? Are other forms of energy viable?? These are many questions that
are best answered by an expert in Physics (like Behnam).

It's also useful to have someone who doesn't have a declared interest in nuclear physics.
For example, my father is a nuclear physicist and he argued "until he was blue in the
face" (English idiom) that nuclear energy was the way to go. Well, he would say that,
wouldn't he! What are your opinions?
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam August 23rd 2010


Hi mother Veronica,

First of all, you know Clare has punished your child by deleting his political statement
about nuclear power station. What are you going to do for your broken-hearted, 5-year-
old son? :):):):)=))=))=))

Secondly, imagine there is a humble lion in a forest. The lion is modest about his
strength. However, there are some dogs in the forest too. As a habit, the doges bark when
they see the lion. The lion pays no attention to the barking dogs. This makes the dogs
think that the lion is frightened. Therefore, the dogs get closer and start playing with the
lion. One of them bites the lion's left ear. Another dog takes the lion's tail. They start
having fun with the humble lion.

The lion wants to be humble, but too humbleness makes the dogs abuse him! The lion just
stands up and roars! This roar makes the dogs get away! :):):):):):)

Sometimes, it is necessary to roar! :):):):):0

I told you this story just to point out that there is a fine line between humbleness and fear.
Therefore, surely your 5-year-old son knows when to be humble, when to get angry, and
when to roar. :):):):):):)

My field is Physics, but this thread isn't a university classroom to teach people the
advantages and disadvantages of nuclear energy. Every thing--of course--has two sides,
and nuclear energy isn't an exception. However, scientists try to lessen its negative
effects.

Finally, I've got a question. You have written that Finland has got 4 or 5 nuclear stations.
My question is this: Why didn't other countries threaten your country with war or
something like that?

70 millions people live in Iran, so you can yourself compare your country with mine.
Which of them should have nuclear power plant? Which of them has privilege?

And, don't call yourself an old lady. I believe you are a young beautiful mother. Do you
know what is the main problem of your son? Do you want to know why your son sees the
things black and white?
I am not sure, but I think the lack of wife in your son's life causes those problems. It
seems that you should help your son get married very soon. Otherwise, your son will roar
from time to time. :):):):):):)=))=))=))

A man must know when to get angry, and when to be humble. If a man is always calm,
undoubtedly there is something wrong with him. Men must be like lions in a forest. Too
much humbleness and calmness make other animals threaten their kingdom!

Thank you for reading. I love your advice.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 August, 2010

metzean August 23rd 2010


Dear Setayesh,

How are you ,,We are in the 12th day Ramadan , 12th day has been passed very soon ,
Unfortunately I have not had enough chance to take part in one of Ramadan ceremony
like Doa Abohamzeh Somalli , poor Mohsen only deal with materialistic world .
For the breaking fast party ,yes, the ceremony held at home , in three houses ,we have
three houses next to each other , we are relatives and when we have a party we share our
houses to each others, houses is not too big 150 square/m to 250 S/m. In old parts of
Isfahan the houses are about 500 to 1000 S/m, but nowadays every where people
speaking energy saving, we are not used to listen these nonsense , if we kill ourselves ,a
lot of energy will be saved . What do you think about it ?

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean August 23rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

I hope you have drunk enough tea last night, I don't drink tea unless in parties when I am
offered a cup, but I am a fruit wormer , and a mug of lemon drinking for late a night .

Dear behnam, Ramadan is really, a gift for Muslims , I saw some people who do not
believe in fast , they try not to break the rules and hid their cigarette in the streets , off
course , Islam's tenets can be difficult to follow; and sometimes the social environment is
not supportive of a devout way of life. some people like a football player who should have
his practice or a labor who works directly under sun light , or a baker , how can they
talorate 15 hours working and being fast ,so Islamic daily practice for many can fall by
the wayside. But remmeber these people who are not practicing, don't abandon it
emotionally or spiritually, and to me this is not hypocrisy .they like to be on fast ,but hey
are lazy ,Some people may say it's hypocrisy; and say you call yourself Muslim but you
don't practice.

All the best,


Mohsen

metzean August 23rd 2010


Dear Elham,

You are very kind , many thanks for you invitation for the breaking fast party , I hope we
gather in your big garden and have a party there . but these days I afraid to say my
waiting list is full ;)
I read the story of your aunt ,and really effected on my soul ,I know that it cause you to
change your view to be an skepticism about the man who will be your husband in future.
Off course it is your right to be careful choose your favorite man ,but remember man are
very different from earth to sky. Regarding addicted men you should be very cautious,
searching through a man 's relatives and friends who work in a same place .
I am a kind of mommy child ,because I have never seem any kind of drugs in real life, if a
person give me one kilo of opium power , I use it as cedar powder and wash my hair with
it. I also have not seen any kind of pills (ecstasy) which they say it is at large . poor
Mohsen should be very careful about making friends.

Sincerely,
Mohsen

metzean August 23rd 2010


Dear Veronica and Marina,

Thanks for your writing about Iran Electrical nuclear power station, I was off for few
days , I was busy refueling my reactor , I was a member of VIPs and a lot of picture and
movies were taken during ceremony , last night I was in a party, not in Bushehr , in
Isfahan . We were many friends gathered there and after being hungry for 15 hours, we
started to refuel ,after one hours eating and drinking ,the drops of sweat were running on
my face and I find that my reactor was really refueled , Joking aside ,the operation to
load fuel into Iran's first nuclear power station has begun amid nationwide celebration,
that was for the Iran who is considered undeveloped country or developing country or
developed country. Regarding nuclear waste I don't know what they do , but if I were
them , I make a big well in the moon and take all the wastes to the moon , this is only a
suggestion , they earn a lot of money , the owners of spaceships , but remember that it
was Mohsen's suggestion ,so do forget about my commission .

Sincerely ,
Mohsen

Bluegreen August 23rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing dear roaring friend? LOL is everything ok? I bet you're still
a little bit mad at people with their unusual kind of buying things in Ramazan oh and the
weather and the traffic jam. :)):)):))

I couldn't agree with you more with this weather. But here's the good news, today there
were big thunders in clouds with big drops of water. I couldn't just stand by the window, I
loved to get out and walk in the yard. But there was my best friend Shahrzad here, so I
couldn't get out. She doesn't like to get wet! So we watched the rain from inside.

Now about those longs stands of Bread, Zulbia, and Ash and so on, I really am confused
too. I haven't ever heard that someone calls such a thing Savab! Well, they don't fast,
they don't want to undergo its difficulty and then they just do the eating thing. Eating's an
everyday work! So if they're doing it like everyday and then there's no fasting thing so
why do they really call it Savab?!! It's weird. I think at first it's because of some bad
teachers who told them that just EATING eftari has Savab! Then their own opinion!
They've just heard something; they don't want to change it! Uh anyways, it's people
Behnam. They are so different from each other. I know they're going to make things
tough for other people but we can't just expect a whole group of them to understand this
matter.

Oh you finally suggested me to move, huh? Well, yes the idea of moving is really nice.
Especially for people like you who are sitting in ivory towers. LOOOL. No I was just
kidding. You know Dear Behnam, my mom's a teacher and its pretty easy for her to move
but what about my dad? He?s got a free job, and he's got his own textile shop here. And
what's better for a man who sells textiles than others knowing and acquainting with him?
I mean these kinds of jobs just need to be known by others so they're going to come and
buy something from you. And the second problem's that finding both a house and a shop
suitable for us is so hard! Believe me it's so hard! By the way, there's this little sister of
mine who's still 17 and hasn?t passed the entrance exam, so it would be really hard for
her to start everything from the first. And the hardest part for her is to MOVE from her
school! Because she studies in a special kind of school here which is called Sampad so
taking the permission is drudgery!

Thank you for asking me, oh and suggesting me,

Maybe I did something for myself instead of for the whole family. I'm going to continue
my studies so then I'll try my best to do whatever I can! God willing LOOL

Hope to hear from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

elham_z August 23rd 2010


Dear Behnam,

A tiny cute mouse (Elham) has come to say hello to her PROUD, HUMBLE, kind and
strong king of jungle (Behnam). Would you mind giving her permission? The mouse
heard the roars last night. Whenever she hears such roars by the supportive lion there is
this really deep peace inside that no enemy can do the least harm to the woods. Now she
is here to give her thanks to the proud lion last night and humble one this morning for his
punctual roars. :-)

Behnaaaaaaaam, why didn't you get my analogy? It was so simple dear. Of course, you
know, it is not job of every person to understand professor Elham's theories! (Alaki nist
baba ke, eeeeeee). Even a scientist like Behnam needs a lot of thought and research to get
the point in her words! :):):):):):) You may say again that the analogy is supposed to be
coherent to everyone, I know, but in my idea it was clear. Anyways we leave it there and
forget about it now.

So you rarely cheat! I can guess what those rare cheats have been, in relation with what
persons! When a BOY has just some of this experience, not a lot, it is easy to understand,
isn't it? :):):):):):) Emmm, but no I don't believe such behavior by a gentleman like
Behnam! Ok, I was wrong about my guess. Let's let Behnam to keep his cheats
secret.(LOOOOOOOOOOOOL)

I understand the shyness caused by mentioned situations very well. It is actually common
between all people. Now let me know of situations when generally BOYS feel shy! Is there
any possibility that we see a boy while in shy in contact with a girl? Picture a boy with
his girl friend, with a simple classmate, fianc�e or even his wife. What can cause men
feel shy? I am really eager to know about it.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the Best,


Elham

P.S. I think dear Veronica has made a mistake that you have meant all people of such and
such country. I hope it would be clear that people never have fight with each other.
People are the ones who get hurt most because of political issues. It is really sad that
some politicians, no matter from which continent and country, give this right to
themselves to decide about all other people's lives and destiny of their countries!!!!!!

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metzean August 23rd 2010


Dear Julia,

I hope the hardship days come to the end and you move to your new location in Milan , I
always keep you in mind when I am writing here , You are a friendly friend ,intelligent ,
industrious ,how can I forget you.
You are busy with packing the house furniture ,and I truly wish I was there beside you to
give you a hand . Dear Julia be careful about fragile object ,put some clothes between
them when you put them in cartoon .
People have a lot of crystals and porcelains , some of them put these items in a big
sideboard which has big window ,they use it as a decoration at house and also a place to
keep the dishes, what about you ,do you have this kind of decorating style at home.
Some Iranian keep dishes at buffet for one day which they have lots of guests.
The problem is how they move these fragile objects to a new house and packing also is
difficult.
I have two antique lanterns which are inherited to my mother and she gave them to me
,and my wife should always be careful dust removing and moving them to a new place.
Do you keep antiquities at home?
I have two question : there is a plant that Italian use for food , it is called Carciofi or
carciufi ,do you know about this plant?
Do you know how prepare pasta for Macaroni?

Sincerely,
Mohsen

Andrew August 23rd 2010


Hello my dear nuclear-power lovers and haters:))),

Three days ago blackout occured in my city. Light went out in my house at twenty to
seven. I didn't pay much attention to that fact for I knew from experience, that
insignificant power fails took place often. The energy used to come back soon:)
That time it was different. At seven I went to my gig. On the move, I made a phone call to
my friend, also musician. He said that he was in a rush - the subway station was closed
and he tried to stop a car to reach his work. Coincidence? - I thought. But when I passed
the yard and went out on the street I came to awareness that that was not a coincidence.
There were somehow too many people, for this time of a day. They didn't look exciting,
no. But everyone, EVERYONE held a cellphone in hand. You don't see that everyday. And
you know, it is scaring. It is like a nightmare. The questions started bubbling in my mind:
at least two subway lines are out of order...an accident?..act of terrorism?..global power
failure?..thousands people got trapped under the ground...have they at least an
emergency light?..and so on. Thanks God, my wife and daughter were not on move.

I have called to the restaurant that I was going to, described the situation and declared
that I had no money to take a car. Admin girl said me angrily that they wait me to go with
minimal delay.

To say short, I missed my gig that day. About 60% of the city was out of electricity and
water for few hours. We were lucky - our house stayed with no power for half an hour
only.
They say it was some technical problem, just a failure.

Brrr, how can we survive after the real Global failure??

Yours,
Andrew, the author of an unfinished story "The Man Who Survived The Catastrophe"
behnam August 23rd 2010
Hi Setayesh,

Many thanks for the reply.

Unfortunately, my father suffers from heart problem. Doctors don't allow him to play
TAR. About teaching TAR, I am not sure, but I have to speak to him. You know, my father
is not comfortable with ladies. He feels shy. That's why I am a shy boy. 'Like father like
son'! :):):):):):)

Oh dear! Don't learn from that boy. It is dangerous. You know, boys are naturally
dangerous, but music and playing musical instruments make them more dangerous. It
often starts up with teaching and learning, but ends up with something else. What do you
mean by saying '...whenever we see each other, he says that he is still waiting to teach
me..'? Your sentence says that the boy is eager to teach girls, and there is no untaught
girl left in the neighbourhood!

Anyway, a boy--whoever he is--shouldn't speak to my sister in this way. I have to cut his
tongue.:):):):):)

A new language is a new world, and the Azerbaijani language isn't an exception. You
should have learned it from your grandmother. You still have the opportunity to learn it,
why don't you start to practise it? Your father can speak Azerbaijani very well, because
of the fact that your grandmother was an Azerbaijani. Therefore, when there is a
opportunity to learn from him, try to have a go!

Good for you! You can practise many foreign languages such as Spanish, English,
French, etc. with your family and cousins. I really feel jealous of you! I am a self-learner,
and nobody helps me with learning and practising any languages! :(:(:(:(:(:(

My spoken English is awful. My Persian accent is terrible. My Azerbaijani accent is not


good. The worst thing is that there is no improvement in learning progress for me. I am
disappointed in the progress. :(:(:(:(:(

Setayesh, have mercy on people, and don't count your blessings in public! Don't you
know it may make some poor people--like Behnam--jealous? Why do you like eating tasty
food while some hungry people are looking at you? Have sympathy for needy people--like
Behnam!

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 23 August, 2010
Andrew August 23rd 2010
Don't believe him, Setayesh! I am a musician and I'm not dangerous. Quite opposite,
harmless as a lamb.

elham_z August 24th 2010


Hi Veronica,

I hope you are enjoying your life in your wonderful summerhouse. I have never asked
about the weather there! Have I ? Here are again hot these days. Do you know what I
dislike about the whether? summers are naturally supposed to be warm, winters cold and
spring and autumn pleasant. But nowadays human beings spoil not only themselves but
also nature. Earth is getting warmer and warmer so summers are extremely hot and
winters not that cold. What is going to happen eventually !? God knows!

Dear Veronica thanks a million for your deep and heartfelt sympathy with my aunt. You
know we do the best we can for her. Even the home that now they are living at was
bought by my grandfather before his death but he was not enough rich to buy a larger
one. Something interesting is how much she loves her husband. Before having the twin
she was offered to get divorced because others could predict such hard days for her but
she insisted on staying with him. You yourself are a woman; women severely get
dependent to husbands and as if after marriage he will be the whole life of them! This is a
fact I have observed in most cases. As if the presence of a man is enough for them. It goes
for my aunt too. She feels responsible toward the man who has entered her life under the
name of husband. The beautiful thing is that no matter how bad he is in other eyes; in her
eyes he is a human who is her husband. Isn't it nice? You know, what I want to say is that
all of human beings need and look for someone to be kind to them regardless of how
good they are. My aunt for sure has thought with herself that what would happen to him
without me. This is kind of sacrifice actually. I don't want to approve of her. Because
now, not only she herself and the husband are in danger but also four children with an
unknown future !!!

You see Veronica, again I want point out to the fact that it is not really easy to distinguish
right from wrong and decide based on what we FEEL is right. Such aunts and worse than
them are not few. World is full of them.
How much good it would be in case although we, human beings, are not able to be
healing to one another, at least tried not to be wounding !!!

Thanks once more for your helpful and kind advice; you are such an understanding
woman. So you offer me to become a doctor or nurse .Emmm, you may be right, maybe
my soul and emotions matche more with such jobs rather than engineering! But on the
other hand I think I am not that strong and tolerate, I easily get sentimental and it is very
probable that for example I leave the sick aside, sit somewhere bursting to treas. :):):):):)

Hope to read more from you.

Warmest wishes,
Elham

P.S. I remembered this quotation while writing:

* I've learned that being kind is more important than being right! *

elham_z August 24th 2010


" I say to my child, I will explain to you as much of life as I
can, but you must remember that there is a part of life for
which you are the explanation."

-- Robert Brault

setayesh August 24th 2010


Hi Behnam,

So sad to hear about your father's heart problem. I hope his problem don't be serious
although whatever relates to heart should be considered as a serious thing. Take care of
him dear, fathers are invaluable treasures. The older they get, the more support they
need from their children. There is no doubt that your father is great man because sons
take after their fathers.And forget about teaching me. I was kidding!

And thanks for your great support and caring about me. I completely understand what
you said about boys and especially the one I described to you. Due to the fact that you
mentioned, I have ignored his suggestion. Nevertheless, hearing the sound of his violin
every night absorbs any listeners. Ok(Chashm), I'll carry on my previous policy and
ignore him. Hope my ignorance doesn?t make me more attracted to him :):):):):):)

Dear Behnam, don't feel jealous of me at all. My cousins live far from me, we just meet
each other at most twice a year. In such short time we can not practice any sort of
language even Persian:):)Surly my English should have been much better than this If
could practice my English with them. Be sure that you are in right path; your progress is
not only good it?s excellent. Definitely the self-learners are best learners!

My dear brother, today is an especial day for me. It's 24th of August and the anniversary
of joining me to this thread although the story of getting familiar with this thread is
longer that 1 year. How quickly one year passed!!! Do you believe that? I never forget
when I was writing my first post. Staying here for one year was beyond my imagination in
those days. Making friend with precious people, discussing on many topics and learning
English together are only some advantages of being a member of such great community.
It's really a great honour for me.

I'm looking forward to hearing from you soon.

All the best,

Setayesh, 24 August,2010

setayesh August 24th 2010


...doesn't make me more Attractive to him...

Andrew August 24th 2010


Hey, Setayesh dear, ignoring and ignorance are little bit different concepts, aren't
they?:)))

763

setayesh August 24th 2010


Hi Veronica,

How are you dear? I hope all is well with you and with you exercises. Thanks a lot for
your friendly post.

Weather is still hot in Tehran and fasting in such hot long days for a young thin girl like
me who have to pass lots of streets and take some taxies for going to English class at the
beginning of the day is not that easy. But fasting itself is not a hard job, it is hard for just
the first 2 or 3 days. After that your body gets used to the fasting condition.

My favorite sport is basketball. I used to play it some years ago before being accepted at
university. My sister and I were members of a nearby club and both were good players.
Unfortunately it's almost 3 years that I have quitted playing it. But each Friday morning
(except during Ramadan) my father and I go to the local Park for jogging. My father is
an energetic man and spending time with him is so enjoyable.

Dear Veronica, I think you're making arrangement for another trip with Mohsen and
Andrew. Right? Could you take me with yourself too?

Hope to hear from you soon

All the best,

Setayesh, 24 August,2010

setayesh August 24th 2010


Dear Andrew,

Thanks for your posts.

Those boys that Behnam called them dangerous are some new creatures. They are not
comparable with you man. You are an angle! Not only you are not dangerous in my eyes
but also I'm eager to see your performance in your gig. Will you invite me to see your
playing if I come to St.peter one day?

Hope to hear from again

All the best,

Setayesh, 24 August,2010

sahand August 24th 2010


Dear Friends

I hope everything is going well with you

It has been a tough week wondering how to write my last post. I haven't been here for a
long time but seriously, I feel addicted to this thread and all my friends here. I haven't
post many topics here but I want you to know that I was checking on here from time to
time and reading all the posts.

So, I just thought I'd throw this on our board just to make a point to what's going on here.
As I told Kamelia before, I planned to head out to Toronto to studying Communication
engineering and Web Design/Development. I was supposed to leave the thread on 5th of
September but the recent news about my college made me post this message sooner than
expected. One of the biggest confusions in the current mess is the class programs. I'm
confused with it ... all I got in my head are mixed up. My worries are small in
comparison: beating the airport traffic, lessons maybe different from what we learnt
here, or that there's no ghorme sabzi ! =)) Thing are indeed making me mad !
I'm leaving Iran on Friday 27th of August. My first flight is to Moscow (Sheremetyevo
Airport) and the second is to my main destination, Toronto.

I would like to end by personally thanking all of you for the massive contributions which
each of you have made in promoting my English. Thanks to all of you for your kind
replies, inspiration and for sharing your stories and experiences with me. It has been a
tremendous honor for me to meet you all, I'm really lucky !

(Alphabetical Order :D)

Dear Behnam

I found you as my first friend here. I appreciate you potential and energy. Thanks for
starting "Let's learn together!" and gathering all around.

Dear Clare

When I'm getting prepared to write to you, I feel like I'm gonna write to my boss ! :D You
are a symbol of a logical and liberal woman to me. Thanks for giving this space to us.

Dear Elham

You know ... I felt nonsense after that "Boogh". If only I written more. But no regrets !
They don't work anymore cuz there's no time left for me to write. Thanks for reminding.
I"ll be more active when I'm back.

Dear Ghazal

As long as I remember, most of your posts to me were about art. I really enjoyed it. I can
remember you were interested in Dulcimer. Are you still willing to learn it ? I hope you'll
become a musician one day.

Dear Kamelia

Writer of the longest posts ever ! :D I will surely miss your sweet posts. I hope you'll
become a successful English teacher when I'm back in Iran. Wish you luck with TTC.

Dear Mahla

I completely forgot to introduce you to my friends here, hope you'll forgive me. I'm still
waiting for your offline messages. It was always a pleasure to chat with you. I will never
forget my memories of your kindness and your encouraging words. Please, don't lose
your contact. I'm always looking forward to reading emails from you. Wish you luck Ms.
engineer !
Dear Mohsen

Active part of thread ! Your posts were always enjoyable for me, specially your poem to
Behnam and Clare. That was awesome man, how could you do that ?! :D I hope your
Zayanderood will flow soon. (You know, I'm some how from Esfahan too)

I'll be back with my memories and experiences of Toronto on February 2011.

Waiting impatiently to read from you all before my flight. Please, keep contact with me
through email. I wish you all the best

Yours truly,

Sahand Yegane 24 August 2010


E-mail Address: sahand_yegane@yahoo.com

setayesh August 24th 2010


Hi Darioush,

Thanks for your post. Your blog is good, I visited it. I wish you success.

All the best,


Setayesh, 24 August,2010

setayesh August 24th 2010


Dear Mr.Yegane(Sahand:)

Although I haven't had the chance of writing to you, reading your posts regularly in here
was a great pleasure for me. I wish you great time in Toronto.

Hope to see you here again

All the best,


Setayesh, 24 August,2010

setayesh August 24th 2010


Oh Andrew!

I made a mistake. yeah! I meant ignoring. Thank you so much.


behnam August 24th 2010
Hi Sahand,

It was very sad to read your last post--what you have called it! You are going to leave
Iran and to go to Canada. Leaving Iran doesn't necessarily mean leaving this thread,
does it? It will be easier for you to access the Internet, won't it? Therefore, I want you not
to leave contact with us. If we deserve and you really value our friendship, keep it going!
I hope so.

However, I wish you success and all the best in the world. Your thoughts are great, but
frankly speaking, you weren't so generous to share them with us. I hope to find an
opportunity to get to know you more. I hope so.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 August, 2010

dentistebru August 24th 2010


Hello dear Behnam,
How are you? I hope you are happy and healty.

I m sorry to it s been long time, I couldnt write to you. There was a malfunction about
internet. Also we have some guests for ramadan. So I couldnt write, sorry again.

Happy Ramadans to you and all friends.Dont forget me in your prayers please..

My grandparents came our house and staying with us along the Ramadan to be
together.Ramadan is more meaningful and amusing with them.

In Turkey, Ramadan is really special time, I think. For example special activities, special
visits to relatives.. there are special meals and desserts equated with Ramadan:)
Actually, in the old days, Ramadan month was more special than now, parents say. They
are complaining about now. They say Ramadan is not enough meaningful, happy and
plentiful as past. Because people dont care about being together according to them.

What about you country?Are there some specialities for Ramadan in Iran? Are your
parents complaining and missing old days?

Sorry again for my late posts. I will try to write more regularly
All the bests..
Ebru

Bluegreen August 24th 2010


Dear Sahand,

Hi there. Gosh! Are you really leaving? Well till now we haven't seen enough of you and
now that you're leaving! Such a bad news. Well it's probably bad for us because we're
losing a friend. But it's terrific news for you because you're going to study abroad and
you must be happy for it.

Nice compliments thanks. LOOL. Do I really write the longest ones? Shame on me, I
think I should have been more brief to make others read my posts easily. But I think it has
always been the vice versa. I actually praise the ones who are more laconic than others.
Seems like I have to practice more. :))

As Dear Behnam has written I think it's going to be pretty much easier for you to write
while you're in Toronto. Isn't it?

Wish you the best dear friend,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

dentistebru August 24th 2010


Hi Kamelia,
How are you my friend? How is going on your holiday?I hope you are in your best mood

Happy Ramadans to you. Please dont forget me in your prayers..

Thanks for information about stones.I think this type of things, are alternatives to
medicines.To be honest, I dont like taking medicines. Because each medicine is made
some different chemical things. Maybe they can damage us on other ways. I dont adduce
this. This may be a wrong idea. But I dont like medicines. So these things, like effect of
colours or special stones always make me curious.I dont say I believe objects definitely. I
like try them only:)

I was born in november, I m scorpio. People usually think bad things about this sign of
zodiac but I love it:):)Do you anything about scorpioes and their bad characters:):)?
What is your sign of zodiac? Do you believe them?

About Ottoman Empire, Ottoman Empire was collectivity before Republic of Turkey.You
may remember it from history books.In english "Ottoman Empire" but in turkish we say
"Osmanl? Imparatorlugu" for it. It was founded in 1299 and falled down in 1923.

I m sorry again I cant write regularly as everytime. But you see I write finally:):):)

All the bests


Ebru

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Bluegreen August 24th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? I was choosing my courses and planning for them then I
remembered the thread and suddenly missed it. So I said it might be better to write some
sentences here to my friends and especially you and then get back to my work. It's a great
break for me. I feel more energetic after writing here.

To be honest with you I'm going to talk about you about today and this final examination
of TTC class. I'm actually so glad that it finished because it demanded so much work and
effort on my side. And i had to put a lot of energy on it. Well yesterday and today were
two stressful days in a row. You want to know why? I couldn't really concentrate and
sometimes I even forgot and that How am I going to even greet with little kids? :)):))

You know, we had two days to practice for the final test. And then today, there was this
manager of the institute and our professor as well sitting right in front of us. Watching
every little move of these young teachers. LOOOL

Meanwhile she sometimes wrote some sort of things down in her notebook, and
sometimes talked with our professor so quietly. That could make you think like: uuuh!
Now she's criticizing me! :)):))

Well anyways, I wasn't the first one. The first person was a woman who's married and got
a daughter. She seemed so relax before the exam. It was pretty much easy to guess that
she was so confident! But I really don't know that what happened that after her greeting
she forgot the whole part the vocabulary she was going to teach! This made me feel
anxious! I thought, well she's older than me, and might be more experienced. Then if
she's like this there, what am I going to do if it was my turn?!
I was just imagining and considering the situation when i heard my own name by
professor. LOOOL I really don't know what happened but just the three first minutes I
could feel those butterflies in my stomach! And after that nothing! I was really easy. I
was asked to greet with students, then to say the date. After that I had to teach three
vocabularies and then teach numbers! (This was really new, he asked no one but me! I
wonder why poor me have to sacrificed all the time LOOOL ) And then he asked me to
teach a conversation and the present continuous tense! Whevv! It all went on well on my
behalf!

Now I'd better wait for the results! I really wish that I be good enough to be accepted!

Wish me luck please,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

elham_z August 24th 2010


Hi Sahand,

Come on!!! What do you really mean by saying that you will continue writing here after
returning? After that post to you I thought with myself that now Sahand will write as
much as he can and show me how serious he takes this thread and his friends here. But
you yourself are not that kind to us.( Shoma nesbat be ma kammehri mikonid! )

See, you have to convince me what you mean. It seems that you even have to need more to
write here after going there. Suppose you will feel lonely or feel like writing or talking to
someone there, sometimes we are more convenient with friends rather than family; where
better than here? Han Eeeelham, what are you saying dear, Canadian girls do exist!
:):):):):):):):):):):)

So we kindly ignore your goodbye, as if you have never said it. Tell me, at least once in a
week, no once in two weeks, no once in three weeks, nooooooo once in a month you can
say a hello to your friends sharing some of your experiences there. I personally love
Canada and want to learn about the country, people and lifestyle there. Maybe I will go
there too someday, who knows?

Take serious what I told and be generous to us.:):):)

Best of luck,
Elham
Andrew August 24th 2010
Hello again Setayesh,

Take it easy:)) You make mistakes because you write fast. So they are rather misprints.

Of course you may listen me playing piano while staying in S-Petersburg. However, there
is nothing special in my playing, it's quite humble.
Are you really going to visit my city?

All the best,


Andrew
p.s. And yet, you've called me an angle! I am an angel, my dear friend, not angle:))))))))
Don't hurry while writing!

behnam August 24th 2010


Hi Marina the great,

Thanks a million for congratulating. I am terribly sorry, but aside being tired and bored,
I had a lot to do, and that is why I am late.

You have defined the meaning of friendship, the meaning of support, the meaning of
affection, and the meaning of patronage in an excellent way. I believe, people--me
included--should learn the lesson of life and living from you. In a nutshell, you are one of
that person God aimed at creating human.

You are engaged and living in Syria. Therefore, wise people certainly know that what I
am saying is not merely some common compliments people often pay to each other to
show themselves polite, civilized, cultured, affective, educated, and gentleman or
gentlewoman. Wise people know that Behnam is not trying to attract your attention.
Getting your attention! What for???

When I am describing you as the owner of some unique qualities, people might ask me
about the reasons. Actually, they may think to themselves: Why does Behnam use unique
words to describe Marina? In answer to this probable question I should say, I believe
Marina is a sample of real Muslim woman. I also believe people, particularly our women
in Iran, should learn about the reactions of a real Muslim woman in different
circumstances. Marina the great is an alive example to us all. Therefore, I am using those
words on purpose. In fact, I am introducing myself by writing those and these things to
Marina the great! Wise people already know that!

Anyway, dear Marina the great, after Ramadan, I am giving a party in order to celebrate
the first nuclear power plant in Iran. Do you fancy coming?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 August, 2010

behnam August 24th 2010


...You are one of the people God has aimed at creating human.

I am not sure about the structure of this sentence. What I mean is this: God wanted to
create human--substitute for Himself. Angels said they were sufficient, because they
worshiped God perfectly. God said He knew something that they didn't.

Now, I am sure, all my friends understand what I meant by writing that sentence.

Sorry for making mistakes.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 August, 2010

Clare August 24th 2010


Hi Sahand

Wishing you all the best in Toronto! I'm sure you'll have a fantastic time, but be sure to
let us all know how you're getting on. If you have any questions about English, etc, you
know you can post them on the Help Me! forum, don't you? And please come back as
often as you can to tell us all about life in Canada...

Have a safe trip!

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Clare August 24th 2010


Hi Julia

How romantic to be serenaded. But I think you'd need to have a good voice or be a good
musician to carry it off well. Alas, my husband can neither sing nor play a musical
instrument, so I was never serenaded... What about you?

WELCOME BACK ANDREW!


In capital letters to show how excited I am to see you again! Sorry I didn't write sooner,
but you know how it is... Hope all is well with you and that you're enjoying the Russian
summer.

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

jiulia78 August 24th 2010


Hi, dear Behnam,
how are you? It?s not within my rules to keep the persons waiting, in fact I would like to
spend more time at computer, but alas! Not now... I will start with answering your
questions like where have I learned English. But I am afraid that on knowing it you will
be dissapointed thinking that ? in such a case she should know it better?. In fact I am a
little bit dissapointed with myself but it is never too late to recommence, right? I begun to
learn it at 5 years with entering the class with an extensive English learning. Then,
naturally, the University of Foreign languages and the faculty of the translation. After the
third year of studying as it happens often with women ? family, babies ( I?ve got 2), the
change of country?all this has made me completely go off my rails. But this is an
advantage of bearing children in a young age, --having fulfilled the ?babies program?
one has still the age to think of what is her place at the sun . I am working at regaining
my English. And all you favor my improvement very considerably!...
Why Italy? Because it?s better here than in Ukraine. The conscious choice of the country
to live in.
Ukraine is a beautiful land apart that it is world?s granary and very industrial country
but the paradox is that the profit of all these belongs to 20 per cent of wealthy persons.
And the rest are waiting for better times...We have decided that waiting will very
probably be longer than our lifetime....;))
My husband is a present person in my life, but I don?t like to write about the persons
behind his back. And he by himself cannot do it because he doesn?t speak English and
doesn?t show the minimum interest towards learning it. I?ll tell more, he cannot
understand is it really that I have nothing more interesting to do than spending my time
on looking out the 21st meaning of the verb ?to take? in the dictionary....;((((??? He is a
music director of the radio by profession. So music is accompanying me in life. The discs
are everywhere, at least the greatest part of them are at computer now thanks to
technological progress.
In order not to make you sleepy with this narration of my life, I shall round off.
Take care and good luck!
Julia.
behnam August 24th 2010
Hi Setayesh,

It is about 19:00 in Tehran now, and it was raining. Not continuously, but it rained
heavily for some minutes. Although I am extremely tired and bored, it is unfair not to
write to you some sentences on this memorable day.

Happy the anniversary of your dramatic entrance into this thread!

Undoubtedly, you have made this thread a friendly place by posting many delightful
posts. We had ups and downs, but the important thing is that we kept friendship going.

I really appreciate your friendship and do value it. Thank you very much for contributing
to make this thread a nice place to be in. I hope our friendship lasts long, and this thread
will be everlasting.

Thank you once again for your care about my father's heart disease. Actually, a few
years ago he had a heart attack, and then had an operation. Now, he is very well.

Ladies are much too much interested in music. In Azerbaijani folklore, some lovers have
lost their soulmates, because they--soulmates--were attracted to someone's else singing
or playing music.

The story of 'Ashegh Husein'--an Azerbaijani singer in old stories--is one of them. It has
been said that one day Ashegh Husein's wife went to buy some bread. She was very late.
When she came, Ashegh Husein asked her about the reason of the delay. She said,
"Husein, God knows, so let me make you also know that there is a guy in the bakery's
who sings very well. I am very much interested in his way of singing. When he is singing,
I am standing there for longer time to fully enjoy listening to his voice."

It was a great shock. His wife didn't know that Husein could play TAR and sang perfectly.
For some political reasons, Husein had to hide his TAR and stop singing. However,
Husein realised that he was going to lose his wife. Actually, he had to play the TAR and
sing. Otherwise, he was in danger of losing his soulamte. Therefore, he took the TAR and
put it on his chest and played it while singing. He sang much better than the guy in the
bakery's. After this time, Husein became Ashegh Husein.

The story is so long. I just wrote some lines of it, to make my claim clear.

Art and music are interesting fields. Human beings use art and music to explore their
emotions. However, those fields are dirty too. Someone should be an angel--like Andrew-
-to stand away of the dirt.
Without any doubt, women often lose many things in order to learn how to play a musical
instrument or sing. I cannot list those things in this public place, but what I claimed is a
fact. People who play and sing instinctively, or who self-learn are exceptions.

Oh Setayesh, it is 19:46 now. I have to post it. Sorry for mistakes. I have no time to check
and correct.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 24 August, 2010

jiulia78 August 24th 2010


Hi, dear Mohsen!!!
In fact another pair of hands would not be too much in my house now. But even your
thinking is very helpful already.;))THANK YOU.
I like not antique furniture but the one which reminds me much. For example, I have
prohibited to my mother to get rid of our old suit of furniture in salon because I have
grown up with it and it is precious as a memory to me. In fact all our old furniture has
remained in our Ukrainian home, which we haven?t sold and which is waiting sad and
lifeless for when we come to visit our relatives and make him inhabited. I COULD
NEVER SELL HIM. Here in Italy we live in rented houses. But soon we?ll have to face
this problem too.
You have asked me about carchiofi ,artichokes is their another name. We use it often in
our kitchen. They are the kind of green fleshy flowers which when stuffing with minced
meat or the blend on the base of cheese and stewed is very tasty. And with macaroni is
more difficult here. Macaroni is not a recipe. It?s a type of noodle ? PASTA- as italian
call all the noodles. There is a great variety of shapes of pasta, each of them is good for a
certain gravy. For example my children are great lovers of the small butterflies and
spaghetti ( long subtle noodle). There are spaghetti of different thickness. So macaroni
are short hollow inside noodles, you can cook it with the gravy of tomatoes and minced
meat. Or with beans or zucchini as a lighter variant. Italians can eat pasta almost every
day changing just the gravy. Understood?;)))
Is it Ramadan effect that you ask me about smth tasty? Does the month of deprivations
have told on your figure? When does it begin to be cold in Iran? Do you have classic four
seasons? What is your favorite one? Because we have just two here in Calabria ?
summer and autumn. (Calabria is a region of Italy.)
B. Wishes.
Julia.

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Bluegreen August 24th 2010
Dear Ebru,

Oh hi there dear lovely friend. How's everything going on with you? So glad to read a
post from you. You really don't know how happy you made me. Happy Ramadan to you
too. Are you fasting? Alright then if yes, I wish you patience. LOOOOL Come on, I
always pray for my friends. But here's the thing, you shouldn't forget me in your prayers
too.

Thank you for your suggestions and your opinions. It was nice reading about it. I agree
with you on the medicine part. I don't like to take medicines too. I think your future
patients will be so lucky! Because you will be suggesting them more herbal medicines
than chemical ones. Right? :)):))

Oh well, now here's another side which I couldn't agree with you more. And that's testing
something for one time. I like to test it too. You know what, I think nowadays scientists
are doing investigations on herbal medicines and the natural ones rather than chemical
ones. Maybe because chemical products have side effects. Uh so you're an scorpion. I've
heard of it and I know that they're lovely. Come on, are you sure about the bad things
people say about scorpions? I don't think so. I love them. Actually one of my friends is
like this. Now I wish if you could tell me some of these bad habits which you've read in
horoscopes and you found in yourself! Would you please write about it?

Oh well I'm Cancer! LOOL. Yeah, sweet, snuggly, cry babies :)):)) they say all the
childish things about us. LOOOL But just sometimes I feel like I'm having these in my
behavior. Not all the times!

Thank you so much about the Ottoman Empire, I didn't know about it. You told me about
Osmani! Then I got what you mean. We call them Osmani too. So it's the same in Iran
and Turkey.

Thank you for answering, hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

sahand August 24th 2010


Hi Setayesh

I'm glad to see that you are being so nice to me. Thanks for your post. I'm waiting
impatiently for February 2011 to write to you again.

I wish you all the best

Sincerely,
Sahand

sahand August 24th 2010


Hi Behnam

I wanted to make this news as short as possible and leave without anyone knowing much
about it. Seems like we're gonna have a long story till Friday. :)

As I told you before, I'm not losing contact at all ! I'll be really glad if I see your name in
my mailbox.

Behnam, what you do you mean by my thoughts ?! ... No, it's not the case of not being
generous. It's just that I really don't know what to write to others and in reality, maybe I
speak 20 sentences each day !!!!!!!!!!

Sincerely,
Sahand

sahand August 24th 2010


Hi Kamelia

Oooooh Please ! Just stop telling me that sentence ! "Well till now we haven't seen
enough of you". I AM ashamed enough. None of you has the same feeling as I do now. I
really want to continue writing here but unfortunately that was all for now.

And about your last question. The only difference is the speed. So, how come it's easier to
access ? I don't think it makes any difference. Anyway ... I'll be too much busy studying. I
left some other stuffs like Facebook and Netlog from now ! Make sure I will post again
just when I find spare time.

Sincerely,
Sahand
sahand August 24th 2010
Hi Elham

Whoaaa ! Don't talk about Canadian girls ! :D I'll be there for studying not other stuffs.

Surely I need some friends to talk to or to tell him/her what's happening to me or stuff.
But the case is I have nothing to do here and I'm not that kind of guys to voice my opinion
and belief about everything. I prefer reading yours all the time ! So, it's not the case of
"kam mehri" ! (as you said)

Elham, it's just 5 months. That's ok with everyone, I'm sure.

Sincerely,
Sahand

sahand August 24th 2010


Hi Clare

That's so nice of you to post such a lovely comment. I'll be back with all I experienced in
Canada. Hope to write to you soon !

I wish you all the best

Sincerely,
Sahand

Andrew August 24th 2010


Lets talk about Canadian girls. I was there for studying them, not other stuff.

jiulia78 August 24th 2010


Let's. but what pro' is in talking? It's better one time to see than 100 times to hear, right,
Andrew?
I have heard that Canadian girls have modest appearance. you make me jealous,
Andrew. ;)) Are you bored with Russian ones?
jiulia78 August 24th 2010
Dear Veronica.
good starting of a working week to you!
thank you for your reply and excuse me for my overdue.
You are right that the vacations relax. And if there always were vacations a person one
day would abandon to comb his hair. So welcome back to reality and duties, and to all
which is waiting for your part. Even if for some period you will feel still with the hear
among the clouds.;))
As for a sport theme, I am a sportive enough, at least used to be. I take every opportunity
to ride my bike or to make some jogging. in this period some other moms with their
carriages and me instead of just walking with our babies we used to accelerate and do
jogging with carriages. such a new kind of sport.;)) I like it not only for the benefits for
my body but the more for the spirit. When I move a little I feel that I become old or ill.
brrrrrrrrrr. terrible feeling... I love doing yoga too. this is my old passion.
The couple of weeks ago we have hired canoes and rowed them along the coast. It
seemed to me that it was difficult to row. But it was not at all. I have surprised all with
my first time on canoe. I have one secret , I am convinced that "there is nothing
impossible for a person with intellect" (it's a saying). even if you don't know smth, say
you know and do it. one glance at the person who can do it can be enough. I have done so
many times in my life. it works!
Veronica, what wine do you like? what countries producers do you usually have in
Norway? are there some Italian among them either?
GOOD LUCK!
Julia.

jiulia78 August 24th 2010


Hi, Clare,
I have laughed at your letter just having imagined my husband singing me Serenata. He
doesn't know any being a Ukrainian like me. You have remind me an anecdote.
One mom tells while putting her child to bed:
-Now I shall sing you a lullaby.
at what her husband responds:
-May be try on good terms first....

That guy that I have mentioned has taken a band with him and the professionals sang and
played. and he was just standing with flowers and waiting for her to look out.
Julia.

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ghazal August 25th 2010
Dear Sahand
Hi,I can say I'm sad or glad.
you want to leave this country for studing Communication engineering and Web
Design/Development.these are really good,Good luck
but you can be here and you can write for your friend,can't you?

Oh don't worry about Gormesabzi!!!!if you want ,I can teach you how cook it!!!!LOoOL

yeah I always wrote for you about art because I think you are artist.I really love
Dulcimer and I will learn it.

this is for you but you must promise me for staying with us,ok?

The hardest part of any friendship


is when it is time to say goodbye,
and even though I wished I could make you stay,
I know I got to let you spread your wings and fly.

For life is a journey that needs to be travelled


and I am certain you'd make it through,
I just want you to know and never forget
that I will surely miss you.

So follow your heart and never give up,


as dreams and wishes do come true,
for I know that someday we'll meet again,
so never forget I will be praying for .............

best wishes for you

sincerely

ghazal

Andrew August 25th 2010


Dear Julia,

I believed that a Russian could understand English of another Russion somehow better,
eh?:))))))) Original sentence about Canadian girls belonged to Sahand, not me (just two
messages above). I just picked it out from the context and distorted a little for unknowm
reason, koroche, perevral boh znaet zachem:)))
I've become actually 'bored with girls' about hmm..many years ago, just after my first
marriage. Now I prefer rather to speak than fall in love.

All the best,


Andrew
send me even more olives please!

Clare August 25th 2010


Hi Julia

I didn't understand your anecdote about the lullaby... Can you explain it?

I'm not very good at singing, either, but sometimes I sing to one of my cats. It's true: I'm a
crazy cat lady!

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Andrew August 25th 2010


Me to. For both, missunderstanding Julia's anectote and being mad of my cat.

sahand August 25th 2010


Hi Andrew

I guess I always assumed that Canada was filled with lots of guys and a few burly
woodsmen type women or something like that. But I was wasting some time online today,
and apparently in their major cities there are tons of attractive girls that seem cooler
then most girls that I meet in Iran. Just so you know. Ontario Rocks ! :D

Son keep on chasing Canadian girls until one of them fall in love with Asian guys !!!

Canada may be good for you, Andrew ! Don't give up. :D

Sincerely,
Sahand
Veronicaho August 25th 2010
Hi Kamelia,

Thanks a lot for your post, It makes me happy also!

You have absolute right...I'm not that satisfied as usually am because my holiday is
finish...today..after half an hour I go there...As you like your school, I really love my work
but a day like this is really hard.... But tomorrow everything will be as always...normal.

Also about my new shoes you had right...It givees me motivation :))) And I need it :)) But
I have been for walking every evening so my shoes have made me success :))

Lucky you when you have summer yet! I love hot temperatures. We have summer here
also but you can feel the tast of autumn in the air. The sky is very blue and clear and the
air fresh. Very soon the trees starts to change color.

About the weather. Can you see that the weather and climate has change in your country
since you was a small girl? I can see a lot. Especially with temperatures and that the
winter are not cold as before and sometimes without snow. Do you think this is normally
variations or dependent of us humans?
I think it is dependent on that we have destroyed the nature with poisons and gases from
all motor vehicles and industries. And that the rain forest have harvested largely.

In my country and all countries in the nordic area everybody sort our garbage, save
energy, not use our cars so often-better to take busses, subway..., Are you doing this in
Iran? If yes, what are you doing?

Now I have to pick up my things and take my bycicle to work..." Two birds with one stone
" ( Are you also using this preverb? ) I safe the nature and get motion :))

Have a nice day,

Veronica

deepti August 25th 2010


HI BEHNAM
I AM FROM INDIA.....I READ YOUR ALL POSTS...AND FOUND THAT YOU ARE A
MASTER OF ALL....MY COMMUNICATION SKILLS IS NOTHING INFRONT OF ALL
THE FRIENDS HERE SENDING POSTS EVERYDAY....PLEASE HELP ME TO
IMPROVE MY ENGLISH....(VOCABULARY AND COMMUNICATION SKILLS)..........I
WOULD BE THANKFUL TO U....AND PLEASE MAKE CORRECTIONS....SO THAT I
CAN IMPROVE MY ENGLISH..

nati579 August 25th 2010


Hello Behnam, hello everybody,
I'm Natia from Georgia, 21 years old. I'm a new member of this site and I'd be happy if
you accept me as a friend. As everybody I want to improve my language skill and I found
this site very helpfull. You everybody seem so friendly and nice and I hope I am not late
here. May be i don't know English well, but nobody learn it at the begining without
practise I think.
So, I'm happy to be here... Thank you..
Best Wishes,
Natia
best wishes,
Natia

behnam August 25th 2010


Hi Deepti,

Welcome! Thank you for putting message in this thread. We are all here to improve our
communication skills through writing to each other and reading posts. Thank you once
again for joining us.

Your English is very good. And you communicate effectively. I easily understood what
you have written, so it means that you communicate very well. However, there is always
room for improvement, and that is why we are here.

Please share something with us. Would you please write something about yourself? What
do you do? What are you likes and dislikes?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 August, 2010

behnam August 25th 2010


Hi Natia,

Welcome to this thread, and thank you very much for putting message here.
Your English is excellent. You write very well. Thank you for joining us.

As you have written, 'practice makes perfect'. The English language is not our first
language. Therefore, we have to practise regularly.

We are some people from different parts of the world. In this place people are very
friendly. They help each other improve language skills.

Please do not hesitate to write and share something with us. Would you mind writing a
little bit about yourself? What do you do? Are you studying? What is your subject at
university? If you work, what is your job? Do you like your field?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 25 august, 2010

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Andrew August 25th 2010


Hello Sahand,

Ha-ha! Are you kidding me? Yet I have already said that I am a married man. And an
aging one. I really haven't looked for girls, dates, travels and all those lovely things for
very long.

By the way, I met Canadian guys and girls in the past, and I can't say that they look too
different from American or, say, Europian ones.

Good luck with your moving to Canada,


Andrew

nati579 August 25th 2010


Dear behnam,
I appreciate your attention to my massage and I'm so gratefull for your words.

Chatting here and sharing ideas are very helpfull of course to improve English and to
know and learn more about many different things as well. Also, friendship is one of the
most important thing I think. We can make a good friends with each other.

As for me, I've already graduated the university in my country and I'm a bachelor of
tourism management. May be the study level is not as good as abroad in my country, but
if you really want learn something everywhere can do it I think.

What about my future plans? I wish to continue my study abroad, although at this
moment I don't have enough opportunities. So I'm looking for a job not to be idle and
have my own money. And then future will show me the rest...I like my field of course and
according to it I wish to visit as many places as I can...

I hope one day my dreams and not only mine (your's as well) will come true.

All the best,


Natia

Veronicaho August 25th 2010


Hi Behnam,

Hihi...The humble lion has listened to his Mum...I'm so happy :)) With female list you can
go far :)))))

You have so right...sometimes it's necessary to roar...but you should always thinking in a
humble way in the beginning.

Yes...you need a wife ! So where is she? I think she is waiting there somewhere but she is
a bit afraid and pensive about Behnam because you are sometimes too much a roar lion...
A female is a very mysterious creature. They are different from day to day and they can
change ideas from hours to hours. And women will always have right.... and never forget
that the women are always cheif in the family :)))))))) This equation does not balance
with a roar lion :) Sorry....but my advice is that you are forced to become more humble:)
Then you will find a lot of suggestions of wives... Do you invite me to the wedding??

If you don't find her there in Iran I will find a Finnish wife here to you.... but then you get
hard time :))

About your question: Why didn't other countries threaten your country with war or
something like that?
This is a difficult question with many answers. The biggest reason is because countries
here are working together and strive for more cooperation than competition in all cases.

I also know that countries in the Middle East working like this but there have the religion
a big influence. My own opinion about this is that differences in religions make problems
many times and also in the politic world.
We shouldn't talk politic here so I don't want to say more about it.

Joking aside...maybe we are more humble here...we are no roar lions...no one will be
angry on us :)))

Now I have to go to bed, clock is already 00.30 and I go to work at 07.00...

Hope to hear from you soon,

Veronica

sahand August 25th 2010


Hi Ghazal

Oh it's so nice of you to post such a great poem for me. I can remember you posted
another at the time I joined this board. Thanks.

You know ... food in Iran is a tremendous heritage and it's a part of our life and culture.
Iranians are completely tied with their foods ! So I can't tolerate not eating Ghorme
Sabzi ! :D

I wish you all the best

Sincerely,
Sahand

jiulia78 August 25th 2010


Hi, dear friends,
I knew that the anecdotes are to be told in the native language.... I'll retry ......
One mom tells while putting her child to the bed:
-Now I'll sing you a lullaby...
at what her husband responds:
- May be try first in a good way with him...
(Mojet poprobyi snachala po-xoroshemy. ANDREW -SOS- HELP ME TO TRANSLATE).
The point is that this mom has a terrible voice. and her husband is asking her to try first
with another means, not singing. singing will be used rather as a punishment.
;(((( it's not funny, I knew...
Andrew,as for Canadian girls -I was not attentive, bag your pardon...
I had a cat which lived with us for 12 years, her name was Simona, the Russian blue
race. She behaved as a real mistress at home, met with an estimating stare all who came
in. Some people even felt an embarrassment at her look. She was a very intelligent cat
with smooth and noble manners. When we used to be out for some day she was so happy
at our return, would you believe that she embraced me with her pads by my neck, and
lacked my nose... the tears come near at recollecting this cat. I will never find the same.
But I love them all.
Clare,I sing well too, and play the guitar either.
Julia.

behnam August 26th 2010


Hi Natia,

Many thanks for the reply. Your field is wonderful. Would you please let us know what
are major tourist attractions of your country?

In terms of tourist attraction, Iran ranks forth in the world. As I guess you know, Iran is
an ancient country with long history. However, for several reasons, my country earns
little money from tourism. How about your country?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 August, 2010

sahand August 26th 2010


Hi Andrew

Our class has been saying that for ages. Just kidding. Well, to the best of my recollection
I don't recollect anything regarding this matter. I had no idea about your marriage. Sorry
!

I haven't ever met one of those Canadian girls. But anyway ... I strongly prefer Persian
girls !

Sincerely,
Sahand
behnam August 26th 2010
Hi Elham,

Thank you for the kind words and friendly reply. Sorry for the delay, I was busy.

Imagine a boy has four girlfriends at the same time. Managing four girls is a difficult
task, so it needs a lot of intelligence and skills. One of the most important skills--
applicable and effective in this situation--is cheating or telling white lies! :):):):):)

Those girls may know that the boy is cheating. They also may cheat. However, when life
is going very well, no need to dig everything so deep. :):):):):)

Too much digging something can be both good or bad. Sometimes, we dig the ground and
get valuable things. For example, we remove dirt and find a treasure. However, many
times we dig and get terrible results. It depends on people's wisdom to know in which
circumstance they should dig something, and in which situation is better to avoid
suspecting.

It seems I have digressed. So sorry.

Men often are learned to say 'you are beautiful' to their partners. Experts advise men to
say 'you are very beautiful' to their partners, even though the mirror reflects their ugly
faces back to them. This is a wise way of cheating. If a man doesn't know this strategy, he
will get into trouble in the life.

Both nature and nurture influence on children's beahaviour. Some people are shy, some
people are self-confident. Some people are brave, some people are timid. Haven't you
seen twins with different behaviour? For example, two children are born at the same
time, but one of them sleeps very well, the other cries all the time! Why does it sleep?
Why does the other child cry? Their body and brain are different, as a result, they behave
differently. Many scientific researches are doing on the causes of human's actions and
reactions. It is a very complicated and mysterious area.

Some boys are shy with girls. Some boys have a lot of self-confidence. Why? The reasons
are still unknown. I was very shy with girls when I was a teenager. But now I have no
difficulty in making communication and conversation with them.

Why was I shy? Well, I guess my sexual needs for girls have made me feel shy with them.
I maybe thought that girls were some sinless angels, but my aim of wanting them had
been guilt. I knew why I needed them, but I didn't knew that they also needed me for
almost the same reasons. Now, I am older and wiser. I know that the need is mutual. In
many cases, they even need more than me.:):):):):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 26 August, 2010

behnam August 26th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Thanks for the post. So sorry for the delay, but I was busy.

It is said that people who work for governmental offices--such as teachers--face a lot of
difficulties in changing their workplaces, but people who are freelance or have free jobs
can easily move a city and go to another city. However, what you have written about your
parents' situation sounds paradoxical!

I believe, it is a waste of time to live in a hot and dry city when there are other cities. You
don't need to leave the country. You just need to leave that hot and dry city. I think that is
easy. My parents have done it. They have moved from Marand to Tehran.

There are many beautiful cities with nice weather and lovely climate in the north. I
believe your family can move easily.

Your post doesn't give me some excuses to write. Sorry for the short answer.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 August, 2010

deepti August 26th 2010


HI BEHNAM.....
THANKS FOR UR NICE MESSAGE.WELL....I AM FROM DEHRADUN..CAPITAL OF
UTTARAKHAND..I M A HOUSEWIFE AND STAYING WITH MY HUSBAND AND
INLAWS...I HAVE ONE YEAR OLD TODDLER (BABY BOY)....I AM AN ACTIVE
MEMBER OF DEHRADUN CLUB...WHERE PEOPLE FROM DIFFRENT CITIES
COME AND WIFE OF ARMY OFFICERS COME THEY COMMUNICATE IN
ENGLISH....AND I HESITATE TO SPEAK INFRONT OF THEM BECAUSE OF MY
WEAK SKILLS. I TAKE PART IN CULTURAL PROGRAMMES
ALSO AND GOT FIRST PRIZE....I WANT TO DO ANCHORING ALSO BUT
SOMETIMES I GET DISCOURAGED AND HESITATE TO GO FORWARD TO
ANNOUNCING SOMETHING.AND I GET DEPRESSED.SO I AM HERE TO IMPROVE
MY ENGLISH AND MY VOCABULARY IS WEAK...MY HUSBAND ALSO SAYING TO
IMPROVE UR VOCABULARY......SO I FOUND THIS BLOG AND FRIEND LIKE
U....AND I NEED UR HELP IN SOVING MY PROBLEM...I WOULD BE THANKFUL
TO U.IF U HELP ME TO IMPROVE MY ENGLISH AND COMMUNICATION
SKILLS.PLEASE MAKE CORRECTIONS."A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND
INDEED".
C YOU SOON........

768

Bluegreen August 26th 2010


Dear Veronica,

Hi there. How are you? How's everything with you? How are the work days that have
just begun going? I hope all is well with you.

Oh come on! Am I lucky to face these boiling days? Dear Veronica, I think it's passed hot
now! It's absolutely boiling! Or maybe I've lost my tolerance against extreme
temperatures! LOOOL

Sometimes I like hot days. But this SOMETIMES means just the week that we're on
holidays and enjoy the beautiful beach wish the vast blue sky above. But when you've got
to do your daily chores, plus studying for the classes you're participating it becomes such
a drag!

Dear Veronica, I know what you say about nowadays changing climate of the world. You
know what; I think it all depends on us. Well, I think earth has been created in a way that
it revives itself gradually just if it's by itself. But when it comes that human beings
interfere then it can't fix itself as well as it did before. You see what's I'm getting at? I
mean years before when human being didn't even exist the world (based on documentary
programs) had enough jungles, forests, natural water springs, mild climate( except in
some areas which are naturally involved in extremes). But now on, with these factories,
loads of cars in streets, unrecycable litters and so on I think we're just penetrating the
self-fixing process of the earth.
Now would you please tell me your own opinion about it too? I want to know how others
think about it too.

Oh about the public transportation, nowadays lots of people in Iran are using the
subways, buses, BRT system (as Dear Setayesh mentioned). I think without them we
couldn't just drive half a kilometer without spending an hour on it. :)):))

LOOOL yeah we do use it. Both in Persian and English. I think you can kill three birds in
this way.
1. Keeping the nature safe and clean.
2. Exercising.
3. Getting to work faster and easier.

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

Bluegreen August 26th 2010


Dear Behnam,

Hi there. How are you doing? I hope all is well with you. Thank you for the post. And
thanks for writing to me. It's so nice of you.

You know why I say it's hard for dad? Look, when you say a teacher or a government
officer you surly know that these can have the same job everywhere in our country.
Right? Because it just needs spending some hours of paperwork, and going up and down
in the big halls of the offices to get that transmission allowance. But for a freelancer like
my dad, you have to first find a new shop! This new shop, especially in a new town where
you know nobody and especially for job as his that everyone needs to know you, you have
to find a shop in a busy street right in the main mall or the main streets. Because just in
this way you'll get the chance of having more customers. And here's another thing, he
sells textiles, and people in Gonbad go much for it. The reason?s Turkmen people. Their
wives wear these long dresses which have been made from just one material in the whole.
And they wear them everywhere, no matter at home or at work. So they're going to need
them a lot because it's their usual and routine clothing. So my dad says it's better to stay
here.

You know, talking about moving especially when your parents are in their middle ages is
a little bit difficult. They wouldn't accept change that easily. Because they think that there
are too much things in the new city to get along with.

Oh and about wasting time, I agree. I actually couldn't have agreed more. Well I'll see
what I can do. Maybe I could persuade them or maybe I leveled with them in a way that it
worked. LOOOL

Oh come on, why you think that I didn't prepare much excuses for you to write?! After the
post in which I had explained the reasons why aren't we leaving Gonbad, I posted
something new to you in page 764 about that final TTC exam and I wanted you to
comment on it. Well, maybe you're right. Maybe there weren't enough reasons to write
about.

But here's the thing, I've always loved your posts, never mind if they're long or short. But
who's the one who hates long posts? :)):))

Oh I suddenly remembered something. Dear Veronica and I were writing to each other
about global warming. Would you mind writing something about it and state your own
ideas, I think we'd be so glad to read yours too. We were talking if it's all human's fault
that the earth is warming and these days we see less snow or rain.

Thank you for writing to me,

Hope to read from you so soon,

Sincerely,

Kamelia

nati579 August 26th 2010


Dear behnam,
Tank you for your reply. How are you? I hope everything is ok...

I have heard a little about your country.. As for mine may be you know nothing. Georgia
is a country to the east of the Black Sea, A former republic of the Soviet Union. It shares
borders with Russia in the north and Turkey, Armenia, and Azerbaijan in the south.
Georgia is an amazing cluster of cultures, religions, fascinating landscapes and ancient
history. The country where everyone can find something to his liking ? from snowy peaks
to subtropical shores, from deserts to lush forests, from cities to enchanting villages. The
nature is really fascinating and beautiful all around the country. Climate is tamparate,
warm and pleasant; We have hot summer and cold, snowy winter. So here are developed
winter resorts as well as summer ones.

Our country has rich cultural history and magnificent 1,300-year tradition of
architecture. You can see a lot of ancient and impressive buildings, churches, etc?May be
here are not none of wonder from world's 7 wonders, but If you ever been here, you'll
enjoy undoubtadly I am sure.
People are very hospitable, humanitarian and friendly here.

So, it was a little information about my country. I hope it wasn't bothering for you. :)
hope to hear from you soon,
all the best,
Natia

metzean August 26th 2010


Dear Sahand,

It is the last minutes of your life in Iran as you find your future in Canada . many Iranian
live in Canada ,who are working there ,they have high ranking positions in the
universities and organizations ,so you never feel like a lonely stranger. From bottom of
my heart I wish you successful life ,please never forget that you are from Iran and a
Muslim too, not a west oriented, So you have commitment to defend your country
everywhere in the world ,even if you believe that there are some problems among our
society and etc?

I offer you this peom as a gift to see you off to Toronto

Neither of us planned
That we would get use to it
Writing here would be our habit
But since we did
Why should we be apart
Sometimes, some things happen
Something that we explained
But now, it's too late for us
w've already given our heart to this thread.

Who knows why we choose


When we choose the ones we love
Who knows why we do the things
We do when we're in love
I know that you're a decent man
And you try to do what's best
But you can't forget
All the stories we have shared

I can't find the words to say


I don?t want to say goodbye
I'm drowning in my tears
I can't tell you good bye

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

Andrew August 26th 2010


Hi Julia,

Translation is similar with opening the locked door. When you can't open the door with a
key, try picklocks (just avoid using crowbar:)))

I would tell your story like that:


A woman is putting her baby to bed. Baby whipmers because s/he doesn't want to sleep.
Woman: "If you promise to stop crying, I'll sing you a lullaby"
Woman's husband: "Hey darling, there is no need to press so hard (or maybe, "put it
aside up to the extreme case).Try to persuade first."

As to the cats, my wife says very similar phrase about her own one, Busya - "I've never
had such a cat". And really, how to translate e.g. 'ona takaya laskuchka'?:))) Busya
always licks hands that to express her feelings.

All the best,


Andrew

metzean August 26th 2010


Dear Julia,

"Italians can eat pasta almost every day changing just the gravy" ,I didn't understand this
sentence.

Please explain it in simple way.

I know Macaroni very well as it is in our main dish ,we have many kind of it in Iran and
many competitive factories , I like it very much as I eat Macaroni from my childhood.
Only I asked you a question" how prepare the pasta in the kitchen ?"

Today my wife is cooking two kinds of foods. One of them is called Ash Reshte , Ash
Reshte has a lot of adherents in Iran ,specially it is one girls favorite food .Elaham
,Kamelia, and Ghazal can confirm it . I touch my stomach, after 15 hours of being hungry
, I want to give it a big reward.

How much does your house in Ukraine cast? I want to buy a new house , I have 200000
USD in my account , I never live in a flat , and I think I am not able to live in a flat, in
summer I always sleep in my veranda and looking the stars ,so I want to buy a villa .Do
you want a reliable customer for you house?

Thanks for carchiofi, would you please send its picture to my mail mohbon@gmail.com

There are for seasons in Iran , I like first spring , summer , winter and autumn , the
autumn starts 27 days later and at the last month of autumn the weather change to cold.

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

Clare August 26th 2010


Hi Julia
Thanks for the explanation - now I understand!

I used to have a Russian Blue cat as well. She was called Millie, and she had a fabulous
character. Smart as a whip, and very playful. She used to bring us things for us to throw
for her, then she'd bring them back and drop them at our feet. I loved the cat, but
eventually she died from kidney failure. It was a very sad time for us.

Andrew has already "met" my cat Micia, but Micia has three little cousins that she likes
to beat up. Micia is a vengeful and unforgiving cat, but very loyal and sweet with us. And
very chatty. I mean, very, very chatty.

Mohsen: Italians change the sauce for their pasta every day. So, for example, one day
you have pasta al ragu (pasta in a meat sauce) then the next day you have pasta al
pomodoro (pasta in a tomato sauce) etc etc. Italians eat a lot of different types of pasta,
not just "maccheroni". Each different pasta goes well with different sauces. And there are
different pastas for different regions of Italy. Hope that helps!

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam August 26th 2010


Hi Ebru,
Many thanks for the friendly post. Happy Ramadan to you and to your family too. Please
pray for me in the evening when you are breaking your fast.

You should know women are closer to God, because they commit less crimes than men.
Therefore, God accepts their prayers.

Ramadan is a lovely month. I really love it, although it is summer and very hard to fast.

In Ramadan, women cook especial dishes, and people are kind to each other. My parents
often tell me some stories about the past. They feel nostalgic about it. They believe people
were friendlier and kinder in the past. For example, my mother says in the past a few
people had alarm clock. Therefore, it was difficult for people to get up in the early
morning to eat 'sahary' (what people eat in the morning before sunrise is called sahary).
People who had alarm clock used to make other people awake by knocking doors.

Technology, as everything, has got two sides--negative and positive. It has brought us
some comfort and convenience, but it has taken many traditional customs too.

Old people believe they were happier in the past. They say the pace of life was slow in the
past.

How do think about the effects of technology on our lives? It is inevitable that technology
will take some ancient customs. On the other hand, our customs are part of our identities.
It seems a balance between them is needed. How can we balance its advantages against
its dsiadvantages?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 August, 2010

behnam August 26th 2010


Hi Julia,

Thank you very much for the replay.

Do you mean your field of study is the English language?

What you written about Ukraine is unbelievable. I also cannot believe that Italy is better
than your own country. Is your husband Italian?

Ukraine is a nice country. I prefer it to Italy anyway.

Dear Julia, throughout history 80 percent of the wealth has belonged to 20 percent of
rich people of a country. It has been a rule from the beginning of the history of human,
and will be everlasting. There have been many revolutions in distributing the wealth
fairly, but the results have been disappointing. It seems that unfairness is in human's
blood.

You may say it is different in some countries like Italy, but it cannot be true. It seems
different because we haven't got enough information about distribution of the wealth
among people. We are living under illusion of fairness and justice.

Oh, the post is going to become philosophical, and you ladies often hate philosophy. OK.
you don't like speaking about your husband, tell me something about your boy. How old
is he? Does he resemble (like, take after) you or his father? He is a lucky boy if he
resembles you in appearance. :):):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 26 August, 2010

Clare August 26th 2010


Hi Behnam

I think you raise some important questions about the effect of technology, and the
importance of our customs.

Most people in the UK and Italy would probably agree with you that things were better in
the past - in the sense that people had more time for each other, so they could be kinder
and more neighbourly.

But I also remember as a child collecting stamps, and being amazed by all the countries
in the world. I wanted to visit them all - they were so mysterious and exotic to me. Now I
can see them online and I can learn more about these places that fascinated me. I can ask
people like you to tell me about your customs, to describe a day to me, to explain
something about your culture. Technology has made all this possible.

Of course, I still like to chat to my neighbours and compare the progress of my tomatoes
with theirs... I don't think human beings will ever lose the pleasure of passing the time of
day with others...

Best wishes

PS: The countries who had the "best" stamps were Libya, Oman and Romania! And I still
haven't been to any of these countries!!
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com
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jiulia78 August 26th 2010


Hi, Behnam,
I would like to put you an encounter question. why do people migrate? think of it.. it's not
as easy as people are just leaded with the illusions. put the sentiments aside( it's never
easy to leave your own country, home, relatives). Our reasons, ideas, desires and the
craziest ambitions make us make choices in life. We make the choices every day and
every minute. We arrive to some cross-road and understand that now right at this
moment we shall take the decision and it will lead us along some unknown route, and if
we change our mind now and shall go another way, the life will take another shape. but I
make my choice because I have maturated to do just that very choice. because I need to
go there to have this. ( who has told that the women don't like philosophy?) ;)))))))
I understand that you percept it like an act of betrayal. I do not. May be I am more
cosmopolitan than you.
The second is as far as I know there's a perverted impression about Italy in Iran. They
are all rumors, Italy is a beautiful country with very friendly people. Believe!
Dear Behnam, thank you very much for your sweet words about my appearance, it's
always a pleasure even for cats to listen to sweet words....;) I have two children. they are
both boys. the elder one is almost 11 and the younger one is almost 2. The elder is a
brilliant pupil at school, the captain of the volleyball team and a good boy, the little has a
very jealous attitude towards me, he doesn't let the elder son to sit in my arms, he pushes
him away and takes his place, his full rights property...;) - me. So I am sitting at the
maternity leave now. that is why I have forgotten many many things. I used to be one of
the best students. Yes, I studied language. But as I have written already earlier, learning
languages is comparable to swimming against the stream. When you stop moving ahead -
you are moving back.
Tired to justify.... Dear Behnam, your loneliness has surprised me. why so intelligent and
witty young man is still unmarried? Be frank, are you very critic about the girls? Your
foster- mother Dear Veronica has suggested you not your stereotype of the woman. Two
lions in one family will never share their power. You need a patient and docile lady,
right? What is an ideal woman like as for you?
Boys and girls - a new theme for discussion if you want. I am curious for example to
know what are the beauty cannons in different countries, let's start with Iran.;)
Dear Behnam, I hope to hear from you soon.
Sincerely.
Julia.
jiulia78 August 26th 2010
Hi, Andrew, brilliant translation, brilliant piece of advice! One head is good - and the
intelligent one is better! ;)))))))
Without further re-due I'll try to put your advice into practice.
Explanation for not Russian friends. There's a Slavic proverb: One head is good but two -
are always better. Now reread my remake above-cited again.
Andrew?
Julia.

jiulia78 August 26th 2010


Hi, Clare, thank you for your explanation.Write you these days!
Hi,Mohsen,
If you still want I shall give you my personal recipe of the souse ( I called it gravy) for
Macaroni. I pour a little of the olive oil on the bottom of the pan and add a little bit of cut
onion in too, make them fry until it gains a golden color. Then I put the minced meat and
add a concentrated tomato guise . Make all this stew for a half an hour on a low fire,
when the souse has become thick I add some aromatic herbs and a grated hard cheese
Parmisan above. Mix it all with macaroni and eat it very quickly! until it's hot. Bonn
APPETITE!
Mohsen, my apartment is not for sale. Where shall I stay when I come to Ukraine? Don't
tell me that you will hospice me.;))))))))
Take care, Friend!
Julia.

behnam August 27th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

Thanks for lovely posts. I agree with you. Some people cannot fast. That's OK. I mean
people who can fast, but don't care! Not only don't they fast, but also they cause trouble.

Anyway, I shouldn't be too judgmental.

Dear Mohsen, I have heard that Esfahanian ladies use their hands in a skilful way to
make things--perfect in handicrafts--, but not good cooks. Is that true?

This is a difficult question. You should have been to other cities in Iran, to taste and
compare other people's food with yours. I am quite sure that Yazdian ladies are terrible
cooks, but I am not sure about Esfahanian ladies.
It is said that Tabrizian people--both women and men--are excellent cooks. Do you agree
or disagree? Have you ever been to Tabriz?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 August, 2010

behnam August 27th 2010


Hi mother Veronica,

Thanks for the advice. I understand what you are saying.

For a lion there is a lioness too! Therefore, I am still looking for my own lioness! :):):)
My roar won't frighten the lioness. I am sure, she will enjoy listening to my roar. In fact,
she will marry me because of roaring powerfully.:):):):):):):)

Dear Julia has asked me a serious question concerning the reason of being unmarried
until now. I will write something to her. Please read my post to her, and check if a Finish
girl matches me or not. :):):):):)

I completely agree with you on the influence of religions on political decisions. Your
answer is correct. The issue is political, so I prefer not to write about it.

Women are always right, but they don't care about rightness. :):):):):):):):):)

Dear Veronica, you are a nurse, so you can understand easily that men are like ill people
in a hospital. How do you deal with unwell people in the hospital?

If a lady is a successful nurse, surely she is a successful wife.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 August, 2010

setayesh August 27th 2010


Hi Andrew,

Many thanks for your posts. As usual I got delighted by reading them.
Dear Andrew, we're(my family and I) just thinking about this travel. But it hasn't been
fixed yet. You know, according to businessmen's way of talking, this plan is at the stage of
negotiation.:)

Dear Andrew, some of my mistakes result from writing fast and thinking about the
container rather than words but is in some cases it's because of lack of knowledge. I
would be very happy if you could aware me about them sometimes.

By the way, in Persian for describing nice people, whether they are men or women we
can use angle for describing them. I don't know if English people do the same of not.
Maybe they use it just for ladies and use another word for men. If so, could you please
tell me what words they use instead?

But be sure I strongly believe you are an angle and haven't made any mistake in this
case.

Hope to hear from you soon

Yours,

Setayesh,27 August,2010

behnam August 27th 2010


Hi Sahand,

Thanks for the reply. I do believe that your thoughts are great. Although I have only read
a few posts of you, they have pictured a thoughtful person in my mind.

Saying twenty sentences each day can be a virtue, but some people have to speak a lot. In
fact, other people want them to speak.

I wish you success and happiness. Please keep in contact with the thread.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 August, 2010

behnam August 27th 2010


Hi Deepti,

Thank you very much for the reply.

Humans use language to communicate. Therefore, the main philosophy of learning a new
language is communicating with people. Communicating can be done by using words,
gestures, signs, body languages, etc. There is no need to have a wide range of
vocabulary, although it helps a lot. I believe, the most important thing in communicating
is self-confidence.

Your English is very good. Try to expose yourself to different situations and communicate
with people. I am sure you can.

By the way, English is a widely spoken language in your country. There are many people
who use English in everyday life. Therefore, you have the opportunity to use your English
and practise speaking.

In this thread, we often do not correct each other. We improve our English through
reading and writing.

Dear Deepti, would you please write in small letters? Thanks.

What is your name? I'm calling you 'Deepti', is it correct? How did you learn English?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 August, 2010

sahand August 27th 2010

Packing luggage
Saying goodbye to family members
Bringing along my ticket
Ketabe ashpazie asan :D (Just kidding)

Checked !

... And the last thing to do in Iran is saying goodbye to all my friends here.

I'm leaving home and I'll drive to airport after posting this comment.

I wish you all the best


____________________GOODBYE____________________

Yours truly,
Sahand Yegane 27 August 2010
E-mail Address: sahand_yegane@yahoo.com

Andrew August 27th 2010


Hello Setayesh,

Hmm, I considered your 'an angle' metaphor as a missprint, really. I've never heard
about using this word for describing a character either in English or in Russian. So, as
far as I till don't catch the point, I can't speculate about some possible substitution.

The question about reasonableness of correcting mistakes of each other has been on
agenda for many times. And since I've adopted strict rule "never indicate anyone's
mistakes if you're not native" I follow this rule. If you really want to try this way, I
recommend you livemocha.com. By the way, it's really worthy to try. Just ask me why:)

See you,
Andrew
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behnam August 27th 2010


Hi Natia,

Many thanks for the reply. I have heard the name of your country many times. I am
originally from East Azerbaijan province of Iran. Therefore, I am familiar with
Azerbaijan and its neighbours.

In particular, there is a famous folklore in Azerbaijani culture, based on a girl from


Georgia and a boy from Azerbaijan. The boy--Karam--is Azerbaijani and the only son of
its King. One day Karam was hunting with his bird. His bird went to a far distance and
entered a garden. Karam followed the bird and wanted to enter the garden, but the gate
was closed and the walls were high. Finally, his friends helped him go up and stand on
the wall. Karam looked at the garden and saw some girls in it. Karam saw that one of the
girl was playing with his bird. The girl was from Georgia and her name was Asli. Karam
wanted his bird, and they started making some conversation. Finally, they fell in love
with each other. Since the girl was Christian and the boy was Muslim, they had many
problems in their love. The story is long.

When Karam wanted his bird Asli said:

"Divarin ostinda doran kimsana?


Bo gushin soraghin kim verdi sana?
Gush manimdi pishkesh eyladim sana,
Karam eyla oghlan gal gushin apar."

"Who are you standing there on the wall?


Who said that your bird is here?
This bird is mine, but I give it to you as a gift,
Karam, please come and take your bird."

Many Georgian are living in Iran. They are living in Esfahan province of Iran. My
mother's uncle has a Georgian wife.

Thank you for sharing some information about tourist attractions of your country. Have
you ever been to a foreign country?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 27 August, 2010

behnam August 27th 2010


It is a sad time. :(:(:(:(:(:(:( Dear Sahand, have a nice and safe trip. May God bless you.

Don't lose contact with us. Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best, :(:(:(:(:(:(:(


Behnam, 27 August, 2010

Andrew August 27th 2010


Hello Julia,

Don't flatter me. For some time I was satisfied with my English. And I've got rid from
illusories just recently, since the moment I started to communicate with natives much
more often. I could never imagine before how tongue-tied I have been.
By the way, being tongue-tied doesn't mean that you should abstain from speaking at all.
I was a witness of a spontaneous (unprepared) show of some guy. He, Russian, who
spoke English awfully bad, sang folk songs, asked riddles and told anecdotes for a group
of Englishmen and Americans. I repeat, his translations were really terrible. But he was
good singer, good actor, he was incredibly charimatic, and naturally, had great success.
You know, an auditory is the true indicator. It can't be decieved.

Ehh, chtoi-to ya zaboltalsya, nado idti delami zanimatsya:))))


Poka,
Andrew

elham_z August 27th 2010


Hi Behnam,

I hope you are a world well. ( A world well just came to my mind, no matter how right in
English it is; I hope you a lot of health). The tiredness of Ramadan is natural and
common between all, don't worry. Instead, the strength that we gain in heart is worth a
lot more. When lovely god teaches us to stop some while and learn how to be patient,
how to put away even ordinary things that we are used to do. Anyway I hope all your
prayers will be kindly answered by God because I know you remind all your friends
including Elham in them.

Thank you for answering my question. Thank you once again for teaching me; this time '
not to dig things too much '. Ok, I promise to have this advice in mind always. I am a very
good student. But keep in mind that this clever student never loses her thirstiness, so be
kind enough to water her with your words of wisdom.

Behnam do you know how much I am happy to have this thread in my life? I don't think
so. Elham is so thankful to you for having provided this great chance for her to learn a
lot and not only learning but also feeling in peace for having somewhere to feel herself
between people and even more than that ........ .

Your stories about Hosein ashegh or this recent one about Karim are lovely. I always
read the Turkish poems written by you loudly even though I have no idea what they mean.
I love the language and accent. It is so nice of you to share them with us; it makes the
thread a very pleasant place and scatters a wonderful scent al around the atmosphere.
Let me tell you something. These days I am reading the famous novel by Simin Daneshvar
' Su va shun ' . The character ' Yusef ' in the story just reminds me of you . Exactly like
you; a roaring lion that is so gentle and kindhearted. The best description that I find to
describe a real MAN !!!

These days I read all posts by all friends and really like to participate in discussions, I
LOVE writing here, but I can't focus on any topic. I have started writing but after a while
I stop it. I don't know why!

Thanks for reading. Nothing special in my post but anyway something from Elham.

Don't forget your sister in prayers, (Although I am sure you won't)

All the best,


Elham
metzean August 27th 2010
Dear Julia,

We make Macaroni in the same way as your recipe ,thanks ,except that we don't add
cheese to the macaroni ,We only use cheese for pizza.

One of the food that some people eat in Iran is called Kalleh pache , It is the head of
sheep and its legs, first we wash the head of sheep and its legs carefully. Then put it in
stew pan with cut onion ,add water and spice ,then for 4 -6 hours on the low fire. Some
people never eat Kalle pache because of their fitness ,it is very fat , it is also not
recommended for the people whose heart has problem . but I like it very much , I bought
it today ?a ready made from a cookshop ,also bought fresh lemon to squeeze on it when
we open our napkin in 2 hours later . the tongue and the cheek of sheep is very delicious ,
have you ever tried it?

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

metzean August 27th 2010


Dear Behnam,

I am one the traditional food followers , the broth is the most frequent order to my wife ,
as you call it in Tehran Abkosht Bozbash ,we call it Koshtalobia or Kosht kobideh or
nokhod-ab ,but nowadays people prefer to eat fried foods ,snacks , pizza, Lazania,
Kentakies, off course I like these food ,but I think that traditional foods are more
nourishing .What do you think about traditional foods?

About Esfhanian ladies , yes they are skilful in handicrafts as much as they are skilful in
cook.

You know that a quarter parts of people in Tehran are from Esfahan, some of my
relatives live in Tehran and they are respected in their neighborhood because of their
cook art and their generosity.

You can try some of them in Tehran , to have Esfahanian cook proof.
But to tell you the truth ,I never been in Tebriz ,but I am sure that they are very skilful in
cook as they are very famous in handicraft .because they were Esfahanian companion in
Tehran or in Esfahan at the Safavi era.
B.Wishes,
Mohsen

nati579 August 27th 2010


Dear behnam,
thanks for your reply. I'm glad you've heard about my country. I know about georgians in
Iran of course. As I've read they live in the area historically known as Fereydan. And
many of this people still speak in Georgian.

I have never been to a foreigh country, but I hope I would...It's my dream. It's always my
pleasure to learn more about others culture, lifestyle, etc... What kind of people are all
around the world...find some differences or resambles and so on... And what about you?
have you ever been outside your country?

As for the legend, I didnot know it and liked very much. folklore is wonderful in our
country as well. As you mentioned in this legend the boy was muslim and the girl
christian...And what is your opinion about it? What do you think about couples of
different religion? Is it easy to live in two culture?

I'm looking forward to hearing from you.


best wishes,
Natia

elham_z August 28th 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you doing nice man ( Marde neku)? I hope you are doing all fine with fasting.
You know, I have heard that Ramadan is a cold month ( Mezaji). But I believe it is exactly
vice versa. For me eating just a little date and such sweets are enough to feel so warm. (
Garmim she). Last night I liked the sweets in my uncle?s house and ate more than the
usual amount. But I couldn't go to sleep since I itched all over and it derived me crazy.

Recently I have been following your delicious posts about foods. Mohsen, do you really
use this name ' Nokhodab' too? It was interesting for me to hear such nice names by you.
So we are in the same boat, preferring mouthwatering Abgusht to Pizza. You know, since
in Ramadan we had eaten just the repetitive dishes like Kebab and Chicken at parties,
last week I begged mom to cook me a ' Janane Abgusht '. She did and Wow, it was so
tasty. I love it specially when the water is so rich, I mean 'Melahatdar'. :):):):):):)

About Macaroni, I want to know how you cook it. I don't use meet in it. I hate meet in
Macoroni. I just add diced boiling potatoes and carrots to fried onion, then add salt and
other seasonings and bell peppers. Fry them all and at last I add some ketchup and mix
them all to gain a very nice color and pour this between the Macaronis. So I just cook it
very simply. What about your wife? How does she cook it? Any different idea of cooking?

And about Ashreshte, you have to taste my moms' once. I believe she cooks it better than
anyone else. It is not because she is my mom; I just believe in my mom?s Ashes.:):):) But
I personally prefer Ash Kashk to Reshte. And I ask mom to cook as much from it as I can
have enough to eat in future days as well. Oh, how greedy Elham is.(LOOOOOOOOL).

Ok, that's enough for today, talking all about food. Let me digest all these foods today
and then other?s turn. On the other hand, I have to be more kind to myself, since Im
fasting and writing too much about this topic may causes not very interesting
results.:):):)

I love knowing more about different ways of cooking. I love to be a skillful cook in the
future. It is actually my dream.

Thank you for reading. Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Elham

behnam August 28th 2010


Hi Clare,

Thanks for the post.

It goes without saying that technology has made our lives better in many ways. When I
was a teenager, I used to collect cards with pictures of beautiful women on them. Now,
the Internet has made it easy. Whenever I want to see some beautiful women I go 'google'
and write 'beautiful women in the world' in the search box then click on the search
button. It is amazing. Have you ever checked it? :):):):):)

In the past, it was quite impossible for me to chat to a foreigner, but thanks to the Internet
I have chatted to many people around the world. At the moment, I am writing these things
to a respectful lady--Clare. After a few minutes, she may read them and even answer me,
who knows? :):):):):)

On top of them, it was the Internet that I met my dearest friend in my life on. I am sure
you know who my dearest lovely friend is. :):):):):) The first letter of her name is 'M'.
:):):) The second letter is 'A' and she is Marina the great. :):):):):):)

The benefits of technology are uncountable. However, we must admit that technology has
made the pace of life fast. It has negative effects on customs. Plus, It has made life
complicated.

I hope you will visit your favourite countries very soon. I wish Iran was one of them, but
alas you don't like it.:(:(:(

Dear Clare, it is aid that the British are fond of collecting stamps and ancient things.
Would you please let me know if that statement is true or false? If that is true, would you
please tell me why they like collecting old things?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 August, 2010

behnam August 28th 2010


..it is said that the British...

Sorry for making mistakes.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 August, 2010

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behnam August 28th 2010


Hi Kamelia,

Thanks for the message. I completely agree with you. That's absolutely right. Moving
from a city to another one is very difficult. It is better to tolerate the situation, however it
is. That's a nice policy.

About global warming, I have no idea. That's a fact, and the result of human's misusing
the resources on the earth. It has no solution, because people don't care about its
importance. That's a fact, and nobody can escape from it! There is no solution for it!

As a general role, the universe is getting old, the things are getting worse. The entropy is
increasing. There is no solution for it!

The sun is going to stop emitting light and heat. The stars are becoming black bodies.
People are getting unfriendly. Men are becoming like women. Women are becoming like
men. There is no solution for it!

The next war between nations will be because of water! Water shortage will be the first
serious problem of human. There is no solution for it!

According to Physics, the Entropy of the universe is increasing. It means, today is worse
than yesterday! There is no solution for it!

Al-aman men sharre akhare azaman!

THERE IS NO SOLUTION FOR IT!

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 August, 2010

Clare August 28th 2010


Hi Behnam

Yes, stamp collecting is a common pastime. Many British people also love antiques.
There's a popular TV programme called "The Antiques Roadshow" where people bring
along their furniture, porcelain, paintings etc, and experts talk about the history and offer
valuations.

I'm not sure why this is so popular. Perhaps because we like the idea of passing on
heirlooms, or perhaps because we admire craftmanship. I suppose you can say that old
things often have a lot of character to them, as well, which makes them attractive.

Best wishes

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

behnam August 28th 2010


Hi Julia,

Many thanks for friendly and kind reply. I wish you happy moments with your sons and
husband.
Thank you once again for describing me as an intelligent and witty person. This is the
first time a lady uses these words to describe me. As you have put it, they are sweet
words. Thank you very much for using sweet words to describe this lonely man. :):):):)

Philosophy is difficult. Sometimes, it sounds like playing with words. Some women dislike
it. Although it is not good to generalize, I am sorry I did it. Do you like Philosophy?

Dear Julia, I don't want to sound rude. On the other hand, I like answering questions
about marriage in a funny way. I don't know why I like that way of answering. It seems
answering these sorts of questions in a funny way is in my blood, somehow.

There are several reasons why I am still unmarried. One of the main problems is the lack
of money. The other is high expectation of Iranian girls. These days, love has been
removed among couples, and hostility is replaced. I am not a pessimistic person, but this
is what the newspapers and statistics say.

Couples have serious difficulties in tolerating each other. They can't get along well. They
compete in getting divorce.

It is difficult to make the ends meet. The cost of living is so high. In short, it is difficult to
shoulder the responsibilities of marriage.

I personally prefer being single to tolerating a selfish, inconsiderate, and demanding


wife.

So far, I answered your question in a polite way. However, it is difficult for Behnam to
avoid playing jokes. By the way, you have asked me about the criteria for beauty.You
know, I am allergic to beauty.:):):):):):):)

In order to combine comedy and facts I should say in my view, a beautiful girl has kind
face, big eyes, long eyelashes, narrow and curved eyebrows, small lips like bud, white
teeth, small nose, shoulder-length soft hair, slender arms, slender neck, large breasts,
narrow waist, wide hips, small feet, and average height.:):):):):):)

Those are physical appearance of a beautiful girl in my eyes. Writing about her
personalities is another story.:):):):):):)

Dear Julia, I used some offensive words. I didn't mean to insult you. I hope my words
won't upset you. I just answered your question frankly, as you have wanted!

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 August, 2010
jiulia78 August 28th 2010
Dear Behnam,
My compliments to your taste! You have chosen a terrestrial woman! Must say you've
stroke a bargain! She is really kind of a gorgeous creature, not as those girls from
constellation of Centaurus with three eyes, four hands and tails at their back.;)))
I fell really sad about having not deserved of ".......another story" of your "beautiful
woman" description..............
Neither I feel confident within guys ,the possessors of the pretty nice faces, which are
known to be too egocentric and aware of their attractiveness. as for me the ideal man is:
1. Intelligent
2.Kind.
3.But strong, a personality.
4.Not stingy.
5. To be in grade to protect his lady.
6. The woman will feel the woman with him.
7. And I would add that it must be the one who has smth to be respected for.
I hope you didn't mean to tell me rude words. Anyway I haven't found them. Your ironic
mood is another thing and I have appreciated it.Once a great GOETHE has told: "You
don't know the woman until you see the woman in love".
So do you know women, sir Bernam?
I wish you knew them from the bottom of my heart. The possession of an account at the
bank is a secondary attribute when you meet the one like you, lonely and sad and for
whom you will become the reason to wake up in the morning and the sense of the every
day. You'll discover that her face is beautiful....Isn't your mother a beautiful woman for
you? don't be afraid of this word, it's very deep. don't pervert it, please.
Sincerely.
Julia.

Andrew August 28th 2010


Hello Behnam,

Why should you deal with selfish, inconsiderate, and demanding women, man? Deal with
those you like, and who like you. Chose one, grow fond of her, pay attention to her, and
you'll see sweet, smart and faithful life partner in front of you.
Marriage is not buying food. You can never make sour wine to become tasty. Marriage is
rather a sailing (trite expression, sorry:)). And you're supposed to be able to keep the
steering weel of your family boat well.
behnam August 28th 2010
Hi Natia,

How life is going? I hope all is well with you. Thanks for the reply.

In answer to your question concerning possibility of living with someone from different
culture with different religion I should say love is the only thing that rules a marriage.
Therefore, in my opinion, that is possible, although it seems difficult.

Sometimes, families cause couples problems. I think if families let them cope with
difficulties, they will easily overcome them and enjoy living together. In short, I am
optimistic about it, provided that love dominates the culture gap and religion differences.

Dear Natia, some people believe that tourism has negative effects on a country and spoils
its culture and traditional customs. Others think that tourism brings business to a country
and is beneficial to it. How do you think about it? Do you agree or disagree? Would you
possibly write something about advantages and advantages of tourism?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 28 August, 2010

behnam August 28th 2010


hi Mohsen,

How are things? I hope you are enjoying every minute of your life. Thanks for the reply.

I love traditional food very much. In particular, broth (abgusht) is my favourite food. I
really love it. My mother is perfect at cooking it. I also know how to cook delicious broth.
At least once a week we have broth.

I love 'ghormeh sabzi' and 'ash reshte' too. I believe traditional food is healthful. Fast
food--like fried food--is bad for our health. However, I sometimes eat pizza in
restaurants. It is easy to serve pizza rather than traditional food. It confers prestige as
well. I am only joking. I often order chicken when I am out.

Are you satisfied with your wife's cooking? Nowadays, girls have got degrees instead of
skills. Is your wife a skillful lady or someone with a piece of certification that indicates
her educational degree? Education is important for a girl, but that is not enough. I
believe skills come first when it comes to considering effective factors in a succesful life.
How do you think about this issue?

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 28 August, 2010

nati579 August 28th 2010


Dear behnam,
Thanks for your reply. Life is doing well thanks, and what about you? I hope everything
is ok with you.

I agree that sometimes families interfere in couples relationships, but only for they want
good for their child I think. May be they don't want to see her/his child in troubles,
knowing such love makes him/her to stem difficulties. Although it seems to me a bit
strange, but nothing is impossible may be.

Today I watched TV and saw something strange to me in breaking news. In our country
and not only some people hold meetings in front of Iran's ambassadorial to protect an
Iranian woman who betrayed her husbend and was expected to put to death. And may I
ask you if there Is really such severe punishment for it in Iran?

As for tourism I think it has advantages as well as disadvantages.There are a number of


benefits of tourism for both the tourist and the host destination. Of course It has
economical benefits for the country and aslo provides employment for the local people.
Tourists can familiarize themseves with others culture through the tourism. Many
Countries maintain their traditions in order to make people to get acquainted with it. It
happens so in my country.

However, sometimes many tourists act with no respect to national traditions and it's very
pity. May be you meant this. Tourists also can cause environmental damage. They often
pollute it that negativly affects the country and the environment. Attantion is very
significant, although sometimes we forget it and couse problems by chance, beside the
purpose.

So, Everything has it's own positive and negative sides. In this case the mutual respect is
the most important I think and everything will be better..

Dear behnam, hope to here from you soon...


all the best,
Natia
elham_z August 29th 2010
Hi Behnam,

How are you today? I hope everything is ok with you.

In your last post to me like always you had honestly answered my question if boys also
feel shy. Thank you for your frankness. I do understand what you mean about mutual
need between girls and boys. I think neither you have been wrong in your teens nor at the
current time. I mean neither unawareness of our natural and personal needs, nor having
knowledge about them should cause wrong social behaviors. You know, sometimes it is
necessary to be shy and even I want to say it is necessary to CHOOSE to be shy in spite
of our knowledge. Actually I am thinking about all those untrue relationships that we
observe in the society just because some people are not shy with their needs. I hope I am
clear this time to you about what I mean. A wise and considerate boy like Behnam knows
where and when to put his embarrassment aside and he also knows how to control his
needs or answer to them rightly. Not any teenage or young person is supposed NOT to be
shy with his natural needs. On the other hand, sometimes exactly vise versa, being
wrongly shy makes a lot of troubles in relationships; like shyness common between
couples.
Emmm, Behnam I try my best to believe you have been shy sometime in your life, but my
mind doesn't accept to believe it ( Winking) ! :):):):):):) ( Just kidding)

Dear Behnam, I read your post to our new friend, Natia and now there is this question in
my mind. You have pointed to the power of love enough to have a successful marriage.
Now would you do me this favor and let me know what you exactly mean by the concept
of such strong love? See, a lot of these couples who we see in courts having come for
getting divorced, some day would thought that they were the biggest lovers of all the
history. You know the application of word 'love' is so common these days, so confusing. I
do agree with you but I need your explanation please.

Hope to here from you soon.

All the best,


Elham

behnam August 29th 2010


Hi Julia,

Thanks a million for the reply.


Dear Julia, there is an answer to every question. You asked me about beauty and who is
beautiful in my eyes. Therefore, I answered your question completely, frankly, and
carefully. I described a beautiful girl, and wrote to you who is beautiful in my view.
Maybe, there isn't such a girl in the world. Maybe, all girls are as I described. I don't
know! I just know that a girl with mentioned physical appearance is beautiful in my eyes.

I have written many times that 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder', so different people
have different opinions about it. Beauty is not an absolute thing.

I have wrote that personal characteristics (inner beauty) is another story. You were
supposed to ask me about inner beauty(=real beauty), before judging about me.
:):):):):):):)

However, it seems that you unwillingly have judged about poor Behnam. It is not fair to
judge about someone without knowing him! :):):):):)

I am not an intelligent person, but I know what real beauty is!

You asked me about physical beauty, and I have answered your question. If you wanted
to know who my ideal wife is, you should ask it directly. :):):):):):) Professor Behnam is
always ready to answer his friends' questions. :):):):):):)

What you have written about your ideal man is wonderful. It shows that you are a real
lady with right feminine feelings. May I ask you a personal question? Does your husband
match those characteristics? I hope your husband has all those qualities.

Dear Julia, I know women quite well. Actually, my female friends have taught me how to
know women. If you like to know my idea about them, just ask me! I will answer to all
your questions. BUT never judge! :):):):):):)

My mother seems beautiful to both me and my father. However, my definition of beauty is


different from my father's definition, in that she is sexually attracted to my father, since
he is her husband. However, I am her son and I am looking for something else in her. My
mother is beautiful in my eyes, but, this beauty is different from a girl's beauty. My sister
looks beautiful, but again in different way! :):):):):)

I hope you will ask me about real beauty and what makes my mother be attractive to me!
I hope you will also ask me about important qualities of a good wife. I am always ready
to answer to your questions.:):):):):):)

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 August, 2010

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nati579 August 29th 2010
Dear elham,

It gives me much pleasure to write to you...I read your posts and this last one made me to
write to you. I hope I don't bother you if I say something about such loves...

As it is considered love has a great power and we can undergo any difficulties when we
are in love. However, if we see it on other side, everything is not so as we think...

Every country has its own traditions, religion, rules, etc. We are grown up by this rules
and imagine that one day you will have to make a compromise for love. At the begining It
seems so easy may be, because we are in love, but after a while everything will change.
To my mind it's very difficult to follow others rule and forget yours. You may say "I don't
forget my traditions", but if you want to live peacfully, one of them must do it.

Everybody believe in one god, doesn't it? So imagine that you and your husbend/wife
believe in different ones. How does this affect on their relationship? I think negativly,
because probably one of them must forget and change his/her religion. Nobody can
believe in two gods. Otherwise There will be more Disagreements in their family and
Thats why then they divorse I think.

It was my opinion and may be someone doesn't agree with me but may I ask you If you
are ready to do everything this for love?

I hope I didn't bother you... hope to hear from you soon. Thanks.
all the best,
Natia

behnam August 29th 2010


Hi Andrew,

Many thanks for the post. Thank you once again for the advice. I will follow your advice.

Dear Andrew, the discussion is serious again. Julia has asked me about beauty, Elham
has asked me about love. Both issues are absolute. What should I do? Can you help me
with answering these two nice ladies?

I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 August, 2010
behnam August 29th 2010
Hi Natia,

What a wonderful post! Thank you very much for participating in discussion. That's very
kind of you.

Your writing skill is excellent. You write very well. How did you learn and improve it?

It is said that lady has been married to a man, but has been unfaithful to him. She has
had a secret sexual relationship with another man for years. Apart from committing
adultery, she has assisted her love affair in killing her husband. Therefore, she has
committed two serious crimes--adultery and murder. According to our law--which are
based on our religion Islam--this woman should get capital punishment. These sorts of
crimes are very rare in Iran.

Some people believe that she must be stoned in a public place, in order to use deterrent
effect of it, and give others a good lesson. Others believe that stoning is an old way of
punishing criminals, so she should be given dearth penalty in a modern way. There are
even some people who believe that only sinless people can stone such a criminal. They
say, " When there are no sinless people, stoning must be stopped."

Some politicians have found the situation proper to follow their own benefits from this
matter. They believe that the woman deserves to be given rewards!

The woman is still in prison. The court's judgment is not finalised yet. It seems that the
issue is totally political.

Everyday, many people are killed in different parts of the world with different methods.
Why this lady has become so famous and important, I don't know, and nobody knows!
:):):):):)

What is the punishment for serious criminals such as murderers and adulterous people in
your country?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 29 August, 2010

jiulia78 August 29th 2010


Dear Behnam,how are you?
how do you feel among such pushy ladies like me and Elham? ;)))))) it was just a
tentative of a journalistic investigation. Andrew will not help you because I know very
well what do Russian men appreciate in women. ;))) and I have asked the Iranian young
men....
I recognize my fault, I haven't formulate the question precisely. and this has caused the
confusion. about judgments I shall tell that they are done only at the end of the life and
not by me...;))))
Oh, my husband is a normal men, not the ideal that I have described. but he does his
best.;))))))))))))))
all the best.
Julia

ammad August 29th 2010


hi behnam how r u... I am really so confused what to do now??

elham_z August 29th 2010


Dear Natia,

How are you my dear new friend? Welcome to this thread. For sure you have made one
of your best decisions in your life to be among us.

You are the first member here that seems to be around my age. I will enter my 22nd year
of my life within about 14 days from now. I remember the day when I would say 'I am just
16 , Ohhhhhhh, I have still four years in front of me to reach my twenty.' How soon time
passed!

It is so nice of you to ask something from me. I do love questions and appreciate the
chance they bring me to write more in English. So no need to be worry. But let me first
read my dear friend's (Behnam) answer.

I believe it is not easy to bring the holy name of 'LOVE' with tongue for every attraction
or crush. Love results in responsibility and acceptance with it. Fortunately or
unfortunately, I haven't been in deep love yet. But about your question if I am ready to
sacrifice or not I will think and write my opinion.

Thank you for reading.

All the best,


Elham
metzean August 29th 2010
Love is Blind ,but hungry kills love
Dear Elham,

What kind of Marde Neku ,It is going fast ,I mean the Ramadan. , and Marde Neku (good
man) is tolerating starvation, not develop his spirit, woe is to this man.

Brain can not think well, eyes see nothing but stars ,ears are heavy and no energy is in
the knees ,the last breath of life .the starvation is prevailing. This is the minutes of today.

We are living in the same province ,why did you surprise about Nokhodab ,My grand
mother always cooked some traditional foods like ,Nokhodab, Yakhmi lobia, Yakhmi
Torsh and so on? , have you ever eaten Polo mash with Zardak. or many kinds of Ash like
Ash Choghondar , Ashe Serkehshireh..Omaji? these are Esfahanien traditional foods
which are losing in the history.. but my wife can cook traditional foods , Once I asked her
to prepare Polo adas with Gosht ,Polo Baghali with Gosht , Polo Albalo ,she knew all of
them ,because she is from a traditional family. how about you do you know about
cooking?

Hell is the place where all cooks are British.


Mohsen

nati579 August 29th 2010


Dear behnam,

Thanks a lot for your letter. It's my pleasure to keep in writing with you. I'm not as good
at writing as you said, although I try and hope to improve it more. :):) Thank you...

I learnt english at school, then at the university as well... And now I practise by myself
with help of the computer, movies, with help of you as well.

As far the crimes and punishments are concerned, Our laws aren't such severe at all.
Nobody is killed because of murder or adultery.(not for other crimes as well). There were
executions in old times, but not nowadays.

Prisons exist for it. And murderers may be put into it forever (but not killed under no
circumstances) If someshing wouldn't change.

Adultary isn't considered as a crime according to laws in my country. It is crime in front


of their familys and they solve it by themseves. Couples just divorse in many cases.
Although our country is traditional and many of us never betray and be together at the
end of life.

I don't think the execution is the only solution. Do you think so?

hope to hear from you soon... have a nice day..


all the best,
Natia

nati579 August 29th 2010


Dear elham,

Thanks a lot you accept me as a friend. I appreciate your attention and I'm really glad.

It's true I don't know others age here, although I'm glad too you turned out about the
same age as me. You can ask me everything you will be interested in. Of course if it isn't
bothering for you. I don't know to annoy someone and It willn't be problem...

Have a nice day...


best weshes,
Natia

setayesh August 29th 2010


Hello to my dear friends and specially to dear Behnam,

I hope all is well with all of you.

For next week I'm going to give a lecture in my English class. The topic that have chosen
is "the importance of family". The following text is what I'm going to say in front of my
classmates and teacher. I would be so happy to hear your suggestion to make in better
than what it is now. It should be mentioned that this I've combined some text from here
and there and processed them to make this lecture so this has not been originally written
by me.

**By the way, please don't forget me in your prayers over Ghadr's nights.
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What I'm going to talk about today is about the importance of family. The purpose of this
lecture is answering to this question:

"What exactly makes up a strong family that possesses good family values?"

The main points I will be talking about are:

-firstly, general importance of family


-secondly, important elements of a strong family system
-finally, we're going to have a brief look at the influence of the successful marriage on
having a successful family.

In every culture values, norms and lifestyles differentiate. However, there's one aspect of
every society that does not differ greatly, the importance of family. The role of family is
important in every society because it is the main foundation and structure of society
itself. A strong family is one that sustains its members -- that supports and nourishes the
members throughout the span of that family . A strong family unit creates a safe, positive
and supportive place for all members to thrive. They are able to utilize resources and to
live together in a fairly healthy manner. The adults in a strong family set the tone. They
are good role models that lead by example. They reach out to friends and community and
teach their children the importance of doing the same --and that becomes part of who the
children are. They work together to solve problems, and they pass their skills on to the
next generation. Some important elements of a strong family system are family cohesion,
family flexibility and family communication.

In families cohesion would be defined as the feeling of being loved, of belonging to the
group and being nurtured by it. Although closeness is good in a family unit, there must be
a balance between being together and being separate. A person must be able to develop
their individuality, while being supported and confident within the family. A few things
that bring a family together are the commitment of other family members, and the
spending of time together.

There must be a structure in a family or it will become chaotic and will not be a peaceful
setting for a family. Conversely, there must be flexibility or the family becomes rigid and
the authority figures become resented. We could compare a successful family to a
democracy. There are leaders, but the whole group is involved in the decision making
process. Although the leaders are in charge all members develop the ability to cope with
stress, and at times lead. While the family works to avoid stressful situations they work
together to solve problems, without blaming, criticizing and finding fault with each other.
Families that tend to have a strong spiritual base seem to have a sense of well-being that
facilitates this working together in times of stress.

Now let's move on to communication, A lack of communication can rip a family apart and
destroy them. Things that facilitate communication are the things mentioned so far --
family closeness, flexibility, time spent together, spirituality. All members must feel a
freedom within the group to express themselves freely.

In a family that is parented by a happily married couple, people are able to express
themselves more freely. What they might say isn't filtered through the problems of the
"guardians." A happy marriage seems to set the tone in the house. It spills over from the
family to the community and a healthy family will be reaching out to help others. They do
not tend to isolate themselves from the rest of the world.
A very important thing for families to teach their children is how to make good decisions.
If they have watched their parents making well thought out decisions over the years, they
will tend to be good decision makers themselves.
I'd like to recap the main points of my presentation

-first I covered family cohesion


- then we talked about, family flexibility and
- finally we looked at family communication

At last I'd like to say that, a healthy, happy family benefits our whole society. Among the
children of strong families their is less crime, less divorce and less emotional problems.
They tend to go on and have strong, healthy families of their own, having learned from
their folk's example. Hope to see good families and good societies.

...Do you have any questions?

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All the best,
Setayesh,

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behnam August 29th 2010


Hi Setayesh,

Well done to you! The lecture is excellent. I wish you a big success in giving it in the
class. I'm sure you will give the lecture perfectly.

How do you think about the negative effects of modernity on families? In some countries,
family is not as important as it used to be. In those societies, individualism is important
rather than families. Plus, families and their values are considered old-fashioned.
However, you have generalised your idea about family and its importance to all societies.
What is your explanation for a society that doesn't value family?

Hope to hear from you soon.


All the best,
Behnam, 30 August, 2010

elham_z August 29th 2010


Big thanks to God for his presence,

Dear lovely god, the longer I live on this earth, the more I become confident that you
exist and you have to exist.

Nowadays being a human being has turned out to be so difficult. I don't know, maybe it
has always been that hard!!! But YOU ARE, that is enough to be hopeful to overcome this
challenging effort for being a right human.Thanks.

These days I observe a lot of ugly behaviors by us, 'people' that makes me feel shameful
of being a human being. But then I remember what you have said to yourself right after
creating such amazing creature and have enjoyed yourself doing so, saying : ' Well done,
you have done a great job, for sure you are best of creators! '

Recently I have seen a lot of disabled or poor or ugly people. I have seen families that
have no father or any supporter, I have seen families that the only concern of them is
what to eat at night, I have seen old people who are living lonely waiting for their turn of
death. I have seen a lot of sad scenes. But after all what helps me to calm myself is just
and just belief to YOUR PRESENCE. The only hopeful though is that there is a very kind
and caring God who observes everything. There is someone who does listen and
understand every, every every one. That is enough. You are, that is enough. Thanks.

Although sometimes I terribly feel confused and mixed up what to do, how to decide and
where to step in, I feel as if I am lost and as though all the doors are closed and I have
reached the end of the world, but after all what makes me continue? Having faith in you
and your promise to us that you will answer our invitation and takes our hands. Thanks.

Although being a human being is so hard these days, But remembering you strengthens
every week and is healing for all wounded hearts. Thanks.

Without any doubt, lovely God, you have had a great and wonderful aim for creating us,
but help us to create ourselves once again with our own hands, so that we can say a big
well done to our selves!!!

I love you dearly, dear God. Make it easy for me to be patient for being a lot far from
you!

elham
behnam August 30th 2010
Hi Elham,

Monajate Elhamiye was wonderful. Well down to you! :):):):):):):):):)

All the best,


Behnam, 30 August, 2010

behnam August 30th 2010


Hi Julia,

I have written about the qualitities of a good wife many times. However, I have respect
for you and your question. In my opinion a good wife is someone with the following
qualities:

1) She is happy
One of the main concerns of men is to make their wife feel happy. If a lady is happy, fifty
percent of her husband's problems is solved automatically.

2) Affective and kind.


3) Honest
4) Faithful
5) Jealous of her husband
6) Modest and humble when she is with her husband
7) Thrifty
8) Sexy
9) Has positive attitude towards sex
10) Calm
11) Patient
12) Tolerant
13) skillful
14) Accepts her husband as he is
.....

A good wife think of her husband as a wild animal. Therefore, she always tries to
domesticate him by patient, calmness, and tolerance. She does not compete with her
husband in saying bad words and creating conflict. She is a good nurse too.

About the importance of women you should know that the world is like a big graveyard
without women. I hate living--even for one second--in a world without women. I believe,
the most expensive things in the world are womanly emotions and her feminine feelings.
Love cannot be defined without women. Kindness cannot be defined without them. All in
all, I believe creating women is the masterwork of God.

I personally love the way they walk, the way they talk, the way they worry, the way they
feel jealous....

I like writing more about it more, but I am in a hurry. I also have no time to check my
post to correct mistakes. So sorry for making mistakes.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 August, 2010

elham_z August 30th 2010


Good morning Behnam,

OKKKKKKKK, well DOWN. I always make this mistake, understand it and again do the
same one!!!

Thanks. I really liked the nice use of Monajate Elhamiye by you.:):):):):) Now I count
myself as important as persons like Khajeabdellahe ansari.Who knows? Maybe someday
I really become that Aref. Oh, you even gave me an idea for another book by me.
Thanksssssssssssss.:):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Have a great day.


Elham

marinaa August 30th 2010


Hi dearest friend Behnam,

Thanks a lot for your last post to me. You always make me feel that I'm like a queen when
you write about me. Thank you very much indeed!

It would be my pleasure to come to your party. I know that Behnam is a generous man
and he knows how to make his friends happy. Moreover, the occasion deserves such a
party. I wish i could be there.

So nice to read your last posts to all friends. One of them was to Clare, you mentioned my
name :). To tell you the truth I'm sure that we are best friends because of transfaring true
feelings, true attitudes and true words.
All friends know that you made our friendship like that. Thank you for all what you have
done for me besides your great patient.

Wish you happy Layalie Alghder for you and your family. Please remember me in your
prayers.

Marina.

elham_z August 30th 2010


Ohhhhhhhh Behnam,

Well DONE, well DOWN, well DONE, well DOWN,.................

I am confused, as though the well DONE by me was true. (In ye baram ke umade budam
dorost benevisam khodam be khodam shak kardam, ajabhaaa! :):):):):) ) Any way, the
concept is important. Isn't it? :)

Have a nice afternoon.


Elham

behnam August 30th 2010


Hi Elham,

So sorry. It must be well done! You know, what do you expect from a sleepy boy at the
beginning of the day? :):):):):):)

Silly mistakes! Forgive me.

All the best,


Behnam, 30 August, 2010

ghazal August 30th 2010


Dear jolia
Hi,I know for saying welcome is late but WELCOME.
I?m so happy, I can have another friend here.
My new friend, I read your post about your cat.Oh she was really lovely what did happen
for her?
I had cat too she was really good and I loved her, she could understand my feeling when
I was sad she tried to make me happy, she was dependent and when I wanted to go out
she always tried to come with me even when I wanted to go to school!!
But I lost her.

I think we must be kind with all animals.

I hope to see your post soon

GHAZAL

ghazal August 30th 2010

Dear Mohsen
Hi, what are you doing?are you fine?
I hope you are enjoying your life in Ramadan.
I read your posts, I?m so happy because after long time I could see another person who
writes poem, that was your poem?

And thanks for remembering us traditional foods; oh my God you could ignore
kallehpache!!!?
Poor sheep!!!

You know foods that I didn?t eat like Serkehshireh, Yakhmi lobia, Yakhmi Torsh!!!!!!
Good for you ,because you have really good wife, all Esfahanien girls are really good.

HAVE GOOD TIME

GHAZAL

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setayesh August 30th 2010


Hi Behnam,

So many thanks for reading my lecture's text. I hope I can perform it well in that day.
Today the first person delivered her lecture in class, that was ok but not perfect. She
didn't utilize any linking phrases to make her presentation fluent. I do believe the tone of
voice has a great influence on the audiences, I hope I could manage my this part
properly.

You asked my a tricky nice question. I agree with you about the effect of modernity on
families' structure. Nowadays there is a great tendency toward cohabitation and other
sort of living in many countries. Nevertheless, this trend to these forms of living doesn't
mean that family has lost its great significance and value there.

Having a healthy family is not an easy job. In most cases for moving away from marriage
and parenthood's responsibility people appeal to modern form of families. It can not be
denied that the variation in how people organize their family life nowadays seems to be
greater than it ever was in any period before. But the result counts not what seems now.

As far as I know even in countries where cohabitation is accepted as a new way of living,
people have a positive view on traditional form of families(like the sort of families which
exist in our country) and have respect for it. I?ve heard that in US being a family man
and paying attention to your family is considered as a valuable characteristic.

Morever, seeing those who has fulfilled their desires by floating in freedom feel regret at
the end and confess nothing is sweater than feeling the warmth of a family around you
can confirm that the concept of family has not lost its importance completely yet.

Hope to hear from you soon

All the best,


Setayesh

jiulia78 August 30th 2010


Hi, dear Behnam,
thank you for this short excursion into your world. I liked it very much! the question is
settled now. Dear Behnam, if I just had more time I should read all almost 8000 posts of
this great thread but I have made an acquaintance with it in a diagonal way, you know
how it is, right? excuse me if I have made you repeat some things. this is the unique
defect of the thread, it is impossible to follow it, the messages multiply as fast as the
mushrooms in autumn.
I hope you will forgive me small pins, they were supposed to provoke you and to make
you laugh sometimes. but I have convinced of how easy it is to be misunderstood with the
persons communicating with them at the screen, -- no face, no voice, no mimic, nothing
that could help you to dis-code correctly the phrase you send.....
thank you once more for your patience. may be if you haven't written in your first reply
that you are allergic to a beauty, the conversation would have passed more successfully.
anyway, in argument the truth bears. it was very cognitive to talk to you. hope we are
friends and we shall write each other many times yet.
sincerely.
Julia.
jiulia78 August 30th 2010
Hi, Ghazal,
Thank you for your letter. I love cats you know what for? for their independent nature.
the less they obey you the more you love them. I shall explain myself. when I used to look
at my cat passing thro' my hall never hasten, with an air of importance ,never looking
around, just going directly at her favorite place, the window-sill, I called her to come to
me from the sofa. at what she just moved slightly her ear, nothing more. What?- I used to
think, -I breed you, I am you master and you won't come to me when I call you?... and I
took her from the window -sill, accompanied with her discontented Miaaaaooooooo....
she came to me when SHE wanted that and when she was bearing kittens, she followed
me everywhere and often I missed the school and stayed with her. there was no more
important thing for me at those moments. she has become old and has gone from
home.......
Hope to hear from you soon.
Julia.

jiulia78 August 30th 2010


Dear Mohsen,
your recipe sounds very appetizing! by the way, do you cook it by yourself? do you like
cooking and how often do you dedicate yourself to this occupation? as the practice shows
the men are the best cookers in the world! and the major part too. another benefit of
cooking is that it coaches our brains, did you know that fact? I mean not the monotone
preparing of the usual dinner but creating something. for example my mother doesn't like
to threw away the remains( I mean the fresh ones) and she can prepare for example from
the remained boiled potato from our dinner the tastiest potato cakes with pieces of ham
inside. my mother cooks gorgeously!
Mohsen, I adore your poetism! you seem to have a poem for every life case. I do love the
poetry. all the words there - are so measured and precise that it's impossible to say
better. in four lines it may take your breath away if it goes about declaration of love -- or
express you all the horror of the war for example. the poets are really ingenious persons!
this week is the last one in this house.... is supposed to be. nothing goes smoothly in life,
the problems rise from nowhere, hope that we have resolved them all....and nothing
interferes.
have a great day!

Julia.
behnam August 31st 2010
Hi Elham,

How are you? I hope you are fine.

That is very difficult to write about 'love', although speaking about it is quite easy and
tastes sweet.

Some people say love and peace of mind go hand in hand. If someone gives you peace of
mind, you love him/her. Some people believe total acceptance is unconditional love.
When you accept someone as s/he is, you love him/her. There are people who think that
expecting nothing of someone, not judging, not criticizing is love. To be honest, none of
them make sense.

The word 'love' literally means 'to have a strong feeling of affection for someone,
combined with sexual attraction'. It also means 'a strong feeling of caring about
someone, especially a member of your family or a close friend'. The former definition is
suitable for marriage, because sexual attraction is the main factor in it.

If we pay a careful attention to the definitions, we will find out that 'feeling' is a common
word, since it is used in both definitions. I believe 'feeling' is a key word, and speaking
around it can be useful to answer your question.

If love is a feeling, it is in danger of change! Our feelings change regularly, because


change is inseparable part of the universe. In other words, change is inevitable. This is
what happens to some couples who are deeply in love before marriage, but ask for a
divorce after getting married. A change in feelings results in falling in love, and similarly
a change in feelings leads to divorce!

Undoubtedly, as long as 'feeling' is used to describe any kinds of relationships between


people, those friendships are in danger of separation, because our feelings are transitory.

Imagine there are two people who are deeply in love with each other. We ask the girl:
Why do you love him? The girl gives us some reasons. Those reasons are internal or
external. For example she may say, "I love him, because he is handsome, or he is very
kind, etc." Or, she might say, "I love him, because I am happy with him." The validity of
these statements is not everlasting. The boy is maybe kind and handsome today.
Tomorrow he maybe changes willingly or unwillingly. The girl feels happy now.
Tomorrow she maybe feels sad. The same goes for the boy.

If love is based on physical appearance or some transitory feelings, it will die, because
both physical appearance and feelings change inevitably.

I believe there are several similarities between sticking two things into each other and
marriage. Imagine there are two substance--A and B. Now, we want to stick them into
each other. We often use glue to do that. The glue must be chosen properly; otherwise the
attachment won't tolerate stresses and strains. Due to different coefficients of thermal
expansion, there are always some mechanical stresses and strains, when we stick two
things into each other by using glue or something like that. Apart from that, the change of
temperature-coldness and warmth--causes extra stresses and strains. Therefore, the
things and the glue must be chosen correctly. It should be said that there is a limitation
on sticking things together, and the limitation is imposed by coefficient of thermal
expansion. In a nutshell, it is not possible to stick any sorts of two things into each other.
We should care about the kind of glue and other properties of two things when sticking.

In marriage, 'love' plays the role of the glue, and two substances are a boy and a girl.
Cultural and other kinds of differences are like differences between coefficients of
thermal expansion. Coldness and warmth are life's ups and downs, for example. Stresses
and strains are difficulties in life and other emotional changes.

Love--the glue--must be based on some unchanging things. It seems that love should be
based on beliefs, personality, and morality and ethics, although change occurs in them
too, but, the change isn't rapid.

I personally believe that friendship is better than love. Love is mixed by selfishness,
jealousy, and passion, but friendship is sacred.

Self-sacrificing is one of the great signs of love. I believe if someone is able to forget
him/herself, and put others first, s/he loves them. In the lower levels, tolerance can be
described as love between partners. When there is no tolerance, there is no love!

I hope the text isn't complicated. Thank you for reading. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 September, 2010

metzean August 31st 2010


Dear Behnam,

At morning I can ruminate my thought and write something, I am full and no feel of
hungry so far.
We are in the same kitchen for traditional food, I no need to have prestige ,you know as
we say in Farsi ,our donkey have passed the bridge, off course I care about my
appearance and wearing , what do you think about appearance and wearing , Have you
seen some tourists who came to our country their appearance are shaggy..? some of them
seem never comb .

My idea is that the girl should have both of it education and skill , otherwise they always
should bear her husband nags. It is impossible to live with a sentimental educated woman
with tender hands, or a close minded prolific maid.
Be sure that you never find a person collect all the criteria you are looking for . I had a
friend ,he was beautiful and educated , many girl fell in love with him , but when he start
eating , oh my God ?all friends around him runaway..

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

elham_z August 31st 2010

"If A equals success, then the formula is: A = X+Y+Z, where X


is work, Y is play, and Z is keep your mouth shut."

-- Albert Einstein --

setayesh August 31st 2010


Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope all is well with and many thanks for your reply.

It's 20th of Ramadan how fast days are passing! We are in some special days and nights-
Ghadr's night. These night's means a lot to us, please remember me in your prayers in
such valuable nights.

Dear Mohsen, you asked me to write about energy saving. It's very hard for me to talk
about such topics. All I knew are just some stereotyped words about it. Energy is needed
for everyday use such as, transportation, heating and cooling, manufacturing, and energy
which is needed for lighting. Most of our energy resources are nonrenewable, and they
will eventually be unavailable if not used moderately and is also expensive. Beside that
there are renewable energies are produced from natural resources. Nonrenewable
energies like oil can be harmful to the environment either. Thus, conserving the energy
we have now for the future generations is very important.

But do you think that money which is saved by conserving the energy may stay
circulating in a country?

Hope to hear from you soon

All the best,


Setayesh,1September,2010

setayesh August 31st 2010


Hi Dear Elham,

How are you honey? it's a long time since we wrote last time to each other. I really
missed your nice posts to me. Have you forgotten me? Or maybe you don't like
me!!!!!!!!!!!! Poor Setayesh!

Honey as usual I read all your posts in this thread. They are really heart-stealing. I do
love them. Specially your heart to heart converstion with God was very nice. You have a
great talent in writing, you will be a good writer sooner or later if you keep doing it. But
give me a promise, send me a volume of your book which consists of your signature on its
first page!

Hope to hear from you soon

Kisses:-*

Setayesh,1September,2010

elham_z August 31st 2010


Hi Behnam,

Thank you for your nice answer. I loved it. Not only it was not complicated at all, but
also I got your point completely. Actually I was exactly looking for such explanations by
you. I can't agree more.

I also have the same idea like you but you always are skillful at conveying your message
with proper sentences and examples even scientifically acceptable.

Many thanks for pointing to mistaking changeable feelings with a for ever love. This is
the main reason of all troubles in my idea. Our feelings are always controlling us, not
only in this field but also in every aspect of our lives. One should be so wise and learn
how to direct his feelings in order to meet success. But it is very difficult.

I want to copy this part of your post that was so logical and very important: 'Love--the
glue--must be based on some unchanging things. It seems that love should be based on
beliefs, personality, and morality and ethics, although change occurs in them too, but, the
change isn't rapid.'
In other words we have to have a logical look at love, although it seems strange and
impossible, because we think love is just related to heart and feelings.

You know maybe 'LOVE', just the sense of love itself, is that unrepeatable moment when
tow sights tie together as if two hearts have tied together and as though something
severely shakes or breaks deep down inside. As we have this in Farsi that ' Guyand ke
lahzeyist ruyidane eshgh, An lahze hezar bar taghdime to bad '.This feeling is terribly
beautiful and invaluable. But I think in most cases such moments are just some moments
and their worth is limited just to those few seconds, although they leave a constant sweet
memory in our minds for ever. It may happen to us just once or even more than one time
and so whenever we hear the word 'love' we pleasantly remember that moments and the
person who has gifted them to us and we make best wishes for that person.

But exactly like what you have said, I believe in MARRIAGE we should dare to
DECIEDE to like someone deeply and so we know that s/he would be the most important
part of our life, so we learn how to be tolerate, how to accept someone for what s/he is
and we are ready to sacrifice and more important, we help each other to improve
ourselves and our characteristics together.When we can say to each other that you make
me to be a better person, you bring me peace and you make me happy, for I am important
for someone and some one is important for me. The aims of a healthy marriage. This is
called a true friendship and This is time when we enjoy ourselves together and we can
say from the bottom of our hearts that : I LOVE YOU.

This was my idea about love. Thank you for reading. I hope I have made sense and I
would welcome any other comment on it.

All the best,


Elham

775

behnam August 31st 2010


Hi Natia,

Thanks for the reply.

In answer to your question about execution, I should say that is what our law says. The
vast majority of Iranian people are Muslim, and our laws have been extracted from
Islam. For me, it sounds logical to kill someone who has intentionally killed someone
else.

I have discussed this matter with Veronica and Clare. I am not sure, but I guess one
month a go we discussed this matter.
The accused lady has committed two serious crimes. The first one is assisting her love
affair in killing her husband. The other one is committing adultery. This lady must be
killed, it doesn't matter how. Death penalty has beneficial effects on the safety and
security of the society.

When there is no crime, there is no criminal, and there is no punishment. This is an ideal
place to live. Nobody likes seeing or hearing about such crimes and offenders. People
look for peace of mind and comfort. However, some criminals threaten people with
murdering. They should be stopped. I personally think that putting a serious criminal--a
murderer--in prison for some time is not a proper punishment. It is a total waste of
money. In addition, it doesn't console the family of the murdered (I mean someone who
has been killed by the murderer).

Capital punishment has beneficial effects on a society. It brings comfort, safe, secure,
and relief. What is your suggestion? What should we do with murderers?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 September, 2010

behnam August 31st 2010


Hi Marina the great,

Your posts make the summer sound like spring. Nightingales only sing in springs, but you
always sing when you put message in this thread. Thank you very much for caring and
supporting this friendly place.

God accepts angels' prayers, and you are an angel. Therefore, I am sure you have an
especial place in God's kingdom. Please remember me--as a sinful person--when
speaking to God at these valuable nights. Please say, "God, please help Behnam with
improvement in life. Please give Behnam whatever is useful for him to have. Please
forgive Behnam for his shortcomings."

Although I am not a devout person, I always remember you. You are always in my
thoughts.

Hope to hear from you more.

All the best,


Behnam, 1 September, 2010
elham_z August 31st 2010
Hi Mohsen,

I hope you are enjoying Ramadan and it's delicious food. If your wife really is able to
cook all you order, especially traditional dishes, tell me how do you thank her enough?
Such a woman, these days that girls just bring a certification to their husband's homes, is
a real treasure. Kiss her hands and enjoy your life with your pretty wife.

Dear Mohsen, actually I am not familiar with Yakhmi. What is it exactly? My mom even
didn't know. I haven't also eaten Ashe serkeshire . But we do cook Omaj, especially in
outman and winter. It is so pleasant when you arrive home tired at noon and face with
the delicious smell of warm Omaj. Have you heard about or tried Gondi? It is something
like Kufte but very different. It is a very rich food and needs a lot of ingredients. We eat it
once a year in winter; my Grandmother cooks it with help of my mom and other
daughter-in-laws. I love it.

Why hell is the place where cooks are are British?!

You are married. Please give your opinion and your own experiance about love in
marriage.

Hope to read from you soon,


Elham

elham_z August 31st 2010


Hi dear Setayesh,

I got really happy to see your kind post to me. Have missed your posts to me too. I always
remember you and read your posts. You made me ashamed by being that much kind to me
and paying nice compliments about my writing. I am just a beginner and I have a long
way in front of me. You write very well and know a lot of useful words that I learn from.

What about your new member in your family? Are the women of family satisfied with
her? You know after a new member enters a family all want to evaluate her or him and
judge whether s/he has been a proper choice or not. After we had our brother-in-law
entered, all the relatives started giving their opinions and derived us crazy. Still they
don't stop it. I hope you have made friends with each other and I wish happiness for your
uncle and his wife.

Come on honey! Talent in writing and giving signature!!! I thought about how much I
love writing and once more I tanked god for having found here that gives me this
valuable chance to write and express myself.

Dear Setayesh, we have to go to university very soon just after Ramadan is finished.
From 20th of Shahrivar. You see, the summer is about to come to end. What about you?

So happy for having written to you today, take care and KISS.

All the best,


Elham

nati579 August 31st 2010


Hi behnam,
thanks for answering my question... As for my suggestion I don't know really what to
say... However, I think it can't solve the problem and bring peace for society. We killed
one, but another one will appear. You say: "When there is no crime, there is no criminal,
and there is no punishment" - everybody want to be so, but it's impposible I think...

We are against murderers but when we put him/her to death we commit the same crime
she/he did... Our laws don't discuss the death penalty and That's why I think so may be..
In a nutshell, everybody has it's own rules and oppinions and follow them. It's natural.

I wish you everybody peace of mind...


all the best,
Natia

September 2010

metzean September 1st 2010


**THIS POST HAS BEEN DELETED BY THE MODERATOR**

Clare September 1st 2010


Please keep religion off this forum.

Thanks
Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

jiulia78 September 1st 2010


TODAY IS THE 1 SEPTEMBER! -- the first school day for all the pupils of Ukraine,
Russia and other countries of the former Soviet Union.
Even if many years have passed already since my graduating the school every 1
September I feel chill inside of me and my heart is filling with recollections.....
On this day all the towns , cities - countries are filling with pupils in festive uniforms and
flowers in their hands to gift them to their teachers. At 8 o?clock all the pupils come
together at the school yard, draw up in lines forming the square beginning with the
smallest 6 -years old children for whom this will be their first school-day in their lives
and finishing with the elderest final-year pupils at which all look with envy and respect,
thinking how grown up they are.... why do people want to grow up while they are
children and turn back in childhood when they are adult? Ah?
All the forms stand near their teachers, happy to meet each other, changed during the
summer and all so pretty... Then the head of the school holds the speech congratulating
all with the beginning of an academic year and making the parting wishes to all. Then the
most moving moment comes. The pupil from the final form ( the one with the best school
results has this honor as usual) lifts up on his shoulder the little girl from the first-year
form. The girl carries the bell and the boy begins to run inside this square formed by all
the pupils and the little girl rings the golden bell with the red ribbon sitting on his
shoulder. This is the First Bell and from this moment the school year is considered
opened.
All the pupils enter the school , their classes, take their sits and talk about how did they
pass their summer holidays.
This tradition doesn?t change with time and I wish it never did. It?s a pity here in Italy
the picture is diverse ---all is much more simply and not festive at all--- no flowers to
teachers, no elegantly wearied school- pupils, no parade in front of the school and no
touching First Bell. At least I am content with the quality of the education.
Congratulations to all the pupils!
Julia

jiulia78 September 1st 2010


Hi, Clare!
How are you? Hope you are fine.
So as you I like to visit different corners of the world with the Inet. I have downloaded
many films dedicated to different countries such as 1000 places to see before you die or
The Miracles of Engineering, which is about how the most incredible constructions have
been built, among them the Dubai?s Dream Palace, the Palm Island and so on and so on.
The last we watched was about the dam near London to protect the city from the possible
flood caused by the shattering waves of Atlantic.
Soon I feel we shall refuse to watch the tv and shall use only the Internet to watch what
we have chosen. It?s more convenient. No stressing ads, no girls-Velines, no shocking
news ? what a stress! How do you find the Italian television?
We use also the Google Maps for searching the places. Do you use this program? With
it?s help you can not just look at the place at the bird's ?eye view but literally walk along
the streets of any city with the vision at all 360 grades. There are really no limits any
more for the possibilities of the Internet. Can you imagine what shall we be able to do in
next 10 years?
I remember you wrote that you have visited Sicily? In what places precisely have you
been? I have been there either and have fell in love with it?s beautiful landscapes and sea
views. I have been to Messina, Taormina, Catania, Eolie Islans(Panarea, Vulcano,
Stromboli). This summer the earthquake has stroke Lipari (one of the island of this
archipelago), have you heard about it? The force 5, strong enough.... What is your
favorite city in Italy, do you have such a one?
I did?t mean to bomb you with the questions, answer them if you feel to and if you have
time....
Have a luck!
Julia.

metzean September 1st 2010


Dear Clare ,

Thanks for deleting my post ,this the best thing you have done to show the British
character.Our nation is familiar with British and its characters for a century. you
guarantee what I always said and say about democracy and freedom in west. The
freedom which can't tolerate few sentences of Goerg Gordagh.

Sincerely
Mohsen

776

Clare September 1st 2010


Hi Mohsen

The choice is up to you. If you want to write religious posts, you can either
a) private message the people who you wanted to see the post
b) post on a forum which is specifically for religious topics.
This forum is for people to practise their English. What I don't want to see are posts
about sensitive issues, such as religion or politics. This is not a question of "British
character" (whatever that means) but a simple request to not talk about the sort of issues
that lead to arguments and bad feeling.

I'm locking this thread. I don't have time to have to continually monitor what people write
in order to delete inappropriate posts.

Wishing everyone all the best

Clare
--
Clare,
english-at-home.com

Andrew September 1st 2010


Dear Mohsen,

Wouldn't it be fair to accept as a rule tolerating the site owner's rules also?

Lawer Andrew:)

metzean September 1st 2010


Dear Julia,

I like cooking, it gives me a feeling of relax, the brain is free, only the scene of frizzling,
the voice of sizzling and the nice smell of slice eggplant fried on boiled oil, and smell of
Kebab when turning skewers on the brazier, whistling cheerfully and singing one of the
beautiful poem.

I am follow your mother in the kitchen, I don?t like to threw away the remains either; one
day in a week we mix all the remains which consist of rise. mince meat, potato, tomato,
green bean, it is a tasty food, we call it Istanbuley or sarcastically people call it weekly
events. Have you heard about Istambuley? how often do you eat rice per week?

One of my favorite food is koko (omelete with vegetable) it is a mix of ground vegetable ,
egg and flour which fried with boiled oil. my wife adds walnut and barberry in koko. on
holidays I am assistance of her in the kitchen.
what is your idea about koko, we have three kinds of koko,koko sabzy(omelete with
vegetable),koko sibi (omelete with potato ) , koko ghandi ( omelete with potato and
sugar) ,also there is lots of omelete with meat.

Julia,I am not a poet ,but Ilike poeticism ,this is an art who come from pure hearts ,and
Iam sure you have it ,than try it and send me one of your favorite poem.

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

And our history will never be


erased,

And our memories will never,


ever fade….

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