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Couples Counseling Booklet
Couples Counseling Booklet
Couples Counseling Booklet
getting the
MOST
Out of
couples
counseling
Intro
Many couples find counseling helpful in improving their relationship.
Whether you are considering couples therapy, or have already started,
the information and tips included in this booklet will inform you on what to
expect during counseling sessions, help you clarify goals for counseling,
and to give some suggestions to get the most out of couples counseling.
Contents
WHERE TO START 05
GROUND RULES 09
WHAT TO EXPECT 11
OUR APPROACH 13
COMMUNICATION 15
WALK THE TALK 17
KEEP MOVING 19
M
any difficulties may bring a person to seek couples
counseling: infidelity, lack of intimacy, escalating
conflicts, poor communication, drug and alcohol
addiction, or a sense that while you love each other,
you are not in love anymore.
FOUNDATIONS
I. TRUST
THAT
CONTRIBUTE II. A COMMITMENT TO EACH OTHER
TO NUTURE AND GROW TOGETHER
TO A HEALTHY
III. AN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
RELATIONSHIP: SYSTEM
THE RULES
I. SESSIONS START AFTER BOTH PARTNERS HAVE ARRIVED
FOLLOW-UP
Your counselors job is to get you and your partner to a place
where you do not need them to handle conflicts and issue in your
relationship. So, scheduling follow-up sessions or phone calls at
one month and three month intervals after active therapy is
complete is helpful in maintaining changes and staying on a good
path in your relationship.
FOCUS ON RELATIONSHIP
Your counselor will help you understand your relationship difficulties
as residing “between” you and your partner rather then “in” either of
you. What that means is you will work on how your relationship
operates and the dynamics that perpetuate problems. Your time in
counseling will help you identify escalating or ineffective patterns of
interacting and react to your partner in new more satisfying ways. It is
our belief that when a couple is connected in a healthy, loving, way
they can solve most of their day to day problems. And, when there is
a lack of good-will, even small problems can seem insurmountable.
FOCUS ON GROWTH
We believe that people, and relationships, naturally growth in positive
directions. Therefore, we see our role as removing barriers to that
growth. In our work we stay focused on the positive and life affirming
nature of relationships and believe that even healthy relationships can
benefit from intentional care and nurturing.
The role of the “speaker” is to focus one issue or problem that they
would like to discuss. The speaker talks about the issue while
taking responsibility for their feelings. The listener responds with
empathy by actively listening to the speaker, summarizing what
the speaker says, and asking questions for clarification and
understanding.
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