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You Are NOT Your Behaviour PDF
You Are NOT Your Behaviour PDF
You Are NOT Your Behaviour PDF
How many times have you been told that you are (either one of these):
It is so easy for us to tell another person they are useless because they did
not do what was expected of them. At some point in our lives, we have all
judged and labelled others. It may be that our parents or teachers said these
things to us. And we unconsciously learned and modelled this behaviour.
Let me share my personal story on same:
I have always had a scientific mind, analysing with logic and trying
to understand how things work. So at school, I used to excel in
Science & Mathematics but would do poorly in Arts & Literature. I
remember how I used to struggle with drawing and painting in Art
class.
It all started when my Art teacher once told me: “You are hopeless!
You will never be able to draw properly”. And you know what? I
believed her. From that day on, my mind created a new meaning
which became part of my identity. I started to believe “I do not know
how to draw, I am not creative enough”. I became my behaviour:
from ‘struggling to draw’ to believing ‘I am not a creative person’. It
became a limiting belief for me.
You are not their behaviour – You are more than you think you are!
As human beings, we are more than just our behaviour. We are whole
individuals. We have purpose, values, beliefs, strengths and skills, which
shape who we are. We can learn new strategies. We can choose and we
can change.
Similarly, it is never too late to have a ‘happy childhood’. What this means
is that you can transform your limiting beliefs and learn new beliefs (with
the help of a certified coach). Just like I did.
So when giving feedback challenge the behaviour, not the person. How?
(1) Focus on the specific action or behaviour
We have the power to choose for ourselves, we have the power to choose
how we are going to respond to everything that is happening to us. We are
more than our behaviour.