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Menand TS Eliot and Misogyny
Menand TS Eliot and Misogyny
Menand TS Eliot and Misogyny
By Louis Menand
September 22, 2002
T.S. Eliot's sex life. Do we really want to go there? It is a sad and
desolate place. Eliot was twenty-six and, almost certainly, a
frustrated virgin when, in 1915, he married Vivienne Haigh-Wood,
an Englishwoman he had known for three months. Haigh-Wood
was a medically and emotionally vexed person. Her troubles
included irregular and frequent menstruation, migraines,
neuralgia, panic attacks, and, eventually, addiction to her
medication, particularly to ether. She was pretty, ambitious, and
(on her better days) vivacious. Eliot was handsome, ambitious,
and the opposite of vivacious. "Exquisite and listless," Bertrand
Russell described him when he met the Eliots for dinner two
weeks after the marriage. "She says she married him in order to
stimulate him, but finds she can't do it. Obviously he married in
order to be stimulated. I think she will soon be tired of him."
After the lecture, she went onstage and stood next to him while he
signed copies of his books. "I said quietly, Will you come back
with me?" "I cannot talk to you now," Eliot replied. He signed the
books she had brought with her, and then he left. She never saw
him again. ♦
This article appears in the print edition of the September 30, 2002,
issue.
• Louis Menand has been a staff writer at The New Yorker since 2001. He
was awarded the National Humanities Medal in 2016.
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