A Heavy-Hearted Tribute To Darshi

FOUR DECADES MARRIED LIFE JOURNEY

Darshi, a popular and nick name of Mrs. Sudershan Bajaj,

was born on 1st November, 1942 at Lyalpur, West Pakistan. Her
date of birth is not accurate and authentic but as per paper
records, we recognize it and have been celebrating it for the last
more than forty years. She was the fourth child of her parents,
three elders and two youngers. I do not know much about her
early period of life but before marriage her parents stayed at Jind,
Panipat, Amroha and Rampur. Her father was in Railways working
as P.W.I. and the transfer was very common to him. We got
married on 1st October, 1968 and from Arora she become Bajaj
and thus married life went on very smoothly. Her mother and my
father were cousins to each other and ours was an arranged
marriage to be celebrated at J-10/89, Rajouri Garden, New Delhi.
She was tall, slim and fair complexioned lady resembling Asha
Parekh at her prime youth period.

I was a regular Govt. teacher and part-time lecturer in

colleges. Despite her being qualified for a job, I did not insist her
to go for work and thus she was an absolute housewife and
housemaker, serving to my parents and family. We lived at C-18,
B.K. Dutt Colony (Karbala) till May 1974. Our first two children,
Shivendra and Monika were brought up there and she had to
nurse them and my parents too. Moreover, I used to work for
eighteen hours a day from early morn to late night and she did full
co-operation. Before marriage I was simply a trained graduate but
she persuaded me and I became double M.A. in English and Hindi
from Aligarh Muslim University, in the capacity of teacher. There

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at Karbala, Shivendra, our first child born on 12th July, 1969 and
we were profusely happy, having the first male child in our whole
family. My elder brother had two daughters and no son and my
parents particularly my father had a great love for his grandson.
At the time of Mundan Ceremony of Shivendra, we organized a
family get together party and that was the first happy occasion for
us after marriage. All our relatives from both sides were invited
and we took many photos there. On 23rd June, 1972, Monika, our
second child was born, and the girl proved to be very auspicious.
My transfer from Kirti Nagar to Defence Colony School was done
and the grades were revised. Shivendra and Monika both were
happy to each other, and after a bath they used to go to general
merchant shop to carry Kishmish and Phulian and it was
considered a good omen for the shopkeeper too. At the age of 2,
Monika was disappeared for some time but was found by my
father sitting in a tent gathered for a condolence function near our
vicinity. Shivendra alias Pale was sent to Sharma Montessori
School, near Lodhi Colony Railway Station through school
rickshaw. The habit of reading much in Shivendra was inculcated
by my wife. She was fond of reading all the time and had a deep
interest in booklets and fiction. Children books like Lot-Pot,
Champak, Panchtantra etc. were her favourites. On every Sundays
and holidays, we in a family used to go for movies, Biji’s House
(my in-laws) at Rajouri Garden, Behnji’s House (My sister in-laws)
at Kailash Colony. Moreover, we had seen almost all the historical
and religious places of Delhi and sight – seeing was our best time
pass. On every first day of every month i.e. pay day, we all
enjoyed a lot in sitting at restaurant to dine. And our neigbours
and relatives sometimes felt jealous of it but we never took notice
of them. We ceremonised all the important functions and festivals
decently at Karbala house till 74.

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 After the disposal of the house in Rs. 24,000/- we were
shifted to C5C/5B Janakpuri. And it was allotted to us by DDA in a
lucky scheme. Moreover, it was a sample (model) flat for the
public to see in a Low Income Group. It was 1st Floor, Corner House
situated on the main road, near the bus stop. I got myself
transferred to Naraina, Govt. Sr. Sec. School in August, 1974 and
on 12th Sept., 1974, Sonika, our third child was born. Every
member of our family predicted that there would be a male child
but it happened not. Had it been the male child, my Bhabi (Prithvi
Raj’s Wife) would have adopted it. And it was the commitment
made between my wife and my Bhabi. Thank God, it was not
acceptable to the Almighty. Third child is generally taken to be
active and intelligent and it is applicable to Sonika, as my wife
thought. We had decorated the house with new fittings, show
piece, wooden work, many alterations from both sides and
purchased T.V., Fridge, New Sofa, Beds, Dinning and Dressing
Table etc. from the money we had got from selling the previous
house at Karbala. But the happiness did not last long and my
father expired on 5th August, 1975. All the last rites were
performed by my leder brother at his house, Karbala D-12. But
anyhow I was lucky to attend him at the last time at Safdarjung
Hospital and there was none else except me who had served him
day and night for the four days period. It was my wife’s boldness
and will power that she used to come to Karbala from Janakpuri
carrying three children during the period and did a lot of work in
kitchen. Despite being ill, she worked to the maximum.

Shivendra was sent to Cambridge Foundation School C-I,

Janakpuri and got his earlier education upto 6th Std. Monika and
Sonika were admitted to Gyan Deep Public School and there they
remained upto 4th Std. They both had a taste for dance and music

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and used to participate in every school activity. Wearing almost
same coloured dress and shoes, they danced well on the stage
and family functions and gatherings. My wife used to encourage
and support them on all occasions. Shivendra was studious from
the very beginning and wherever, we went, he used to read
something sitting all alone in a corner of the house. In the year
1979, I was transferred to Chhawla village school and it was very
hard duty starting at 7 AM and finishing at 6 PM. During this
period we had started our own Academy by the name of Tagore
Model School, Tilak Nagar. It was flourishing well in the beginning
and there was a good response. It was a five room rented set on
the ground floor at 23/15, OP Babbar’s sister house, Tilak Nagar. It
was very difficult to manage for the lady but she never lost heart
and supported me through thick and thin. It was our crucial period
and our family was being neglected. Thus we had to wind up the
academy up and closed it for ever. We could not properly manage
as our mother, being an old one, could not stay alone at Janakpuri
house. It was nobody’s fault and luck did not favour us. But it
proved to be a blessing a disguise as we the whole family availed
our first L.T.C. and went to Southern part of India, while travelling
Rajasthan, Maharashtra, Gujrat, Hyderabad, Shirdi, Khujrao, Goa,
Mysore, Bangalore, Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh and back to
Delhi. Our children enjoyed the trip and spent nearly three weeks
very descently in sight seeing and making merrily. From Chhawla
Village to Karanpura, I was transferred and got some relief but it
was the morning shift school and I had to start from 6 AM in the
bus. It was my wife who used to get up at 5 AM, sending
Shivendra for Cambridge Foundation School, Rajouri Garden in a
charted school bus at 6 AM in winter season and then made
Monika and Sonika ready for C block, Govt. Girls School. To be
wonder struck, Monika and Sonika didn’t qualify their 5th Std. and

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got admission directly in 6th class, English medium on test basis
and affidavit grounds and to some extent credit went to both of
us. Shivendra got the first prize in his 8th Class and got recognition
from the school authority. Cambridge Foundation School, Rajouri
Garden was one of the best schools in studies and activities in the
whole city.

Our three children were school goers and there was only one
earning hand but because of her economical nature, everything
was going on well. She used to maintain daily expenditure diary
and did not waste even a single rupee. While keeping records,
once she lost eighty rupees and it was a great concern for her, I
knew how she felt it. In the year 1978, her younger sister Shashi
was married to Mohindra Nangia at Nangal but her marriage was
functioned at her elder brother Mr. D.B. Arora’s House,
Chandigarh. And we all of us attended it and enjoyed the marriage
ceremony. And in the year 1980, her brother Ved Prakash working
in DDA was married to Shashi, the bank employee, and the
marriage took place at Geeta Colony, trans Yamuna area. My wife
took great labour and managed all preparations at Biji House,
Tilak Nagar. She won the hearts of everyone whosoever attended
the function. She was recognized as the tireless worker, playing
the key role in the family. And when Neelam, my niece was
married at Karbala, she contributed a lot and particularly the
sarees which we had broght from Kanchipuram, and Bombay
during the LTC tour donated her and did a lot of work of sewing
and embroidery. Every one of our family spoke high of her on both
the occasions.

At C5C/5B house, we in the family used to go to Distt. Park,

Dushera Ground, Holy places and movies and led a happy life. But
sometimes we both quarreled over trifles and I had to pacify her

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and felt my mistake. She understood well and the married life
went on smoothly as ever. After my father’s death, my mother
remained with us and lived as the head of the family and was
contented with my wife’s behaviour. It looked nice when we all sit
together on the dinning table at night’s meal. I recall the day
when Sham, my friend’s brother Inder who had come from Poland,
was invited on dinner at my home and my wife prepared the meal
with eight vegetables and his family relished the dinner and spoke
words of praise. Sometimes, I had to got to Aligarh for my
Examination and being the semester system, twice in a year, and
she used to manage everything during my absence. She was bold
and hard-working lady.

In the year 1982, I felt some cardiac problem but I thought it

a gastic and acidity and it was my wrong notion. And on 1 st June,
82. I got heart attack for the first time. She alongwith her brother
Ved took me to the Safdarjung Hospital and got me admitted
there. I remained in the hospital as an indoor patient for sixteen
days and nights and she served me all the time. It was very
difficult for her to handle in this situation, to control the family and
look after me too. Thank God, it was summer vacation period for
me and my children. It was a financially down period too. After my
recovery from ailment, I took a bold step and withdrew Shivendra
from Cambridge Foundation School and got him admitted in Govt.
Sr. Sec. School, A-Block, Janakpuri in 9th class English medium. It
was very much affordable fees for all the three school going
children and we both were happy to send them in Sarvodya
School, English medium to our existing circumstances. My heart
attack at the age of 43 occurred because of overwork and
hypertension and my Dr. L.M. Ghoshal of Jorbagh used to say that
it was the disease of old age and I had developed it at my youth

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period. I at once gave up smoking which I had been smoking for
the last more than twenty five years secretly and became health
cautious.

From Karampura to Sagarpur School, I was transferred on

medical grounds and this gave us much relief as it was a walkable
distance. In our family we were reputed to attend all the functions
of joy and sorrow of any relative from any side. We went to Rohtak
early in the morning to attend the condolence meeting on the
death of her sister Chander’s third son, Kaku and everyone was
surprised to find us there. We attended the marriage party of her
sister Bimla’s first son Babu at Kailash Colony and our family
enjoyed a lot, as my wife was taken a family member in Behnji’s
house. It was only because she had done many a work of the
family and spent her study period with them. Every member of
the family had a deep affection to her.

At very early childhood days, Shivendra had a right foot flat

and he could not run fastly. My wife noticed it very minutely and
we both took him to the Safdarjung Hospital for the doctor’s
consultation. The doctor examined him and recommended to wear
a Baluja’s shoes and they were to be found only at Chandni Chowk
Shoe Emporium. We made him wear for six months and Shivendra
became all right. Then he faced another problem of baldness
when he was in his 8th class. She was much worried and we took
him to Mool Chand KR Hospital for Ayurvedic Treatment. The
concerned doctor took pain and with his medicines and massage,
Shivendra recovered from the problem of baldness and his hair
started growing as usual. Once he stumbled while getting down
from a bus at Lajwanti Crossing near D Block, Janapuri and
underwent for right leg plaster for three months. He became
perfectly fit only because of her constant care and precautions

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with service. Sonika our younger child was physically weak from
the very beginning and we used to give her treatment from the
child specialist Dr. B.K. Jain of Defence Colony and Gole Market.
She improved a lot and physically fit and removed deficiency day
by day. My wife took much pain of our children health and
upbringing. She used to give them on the spot medicine, multi
vitamin, nourishing food and fresh fruit regularly. She took much
care in their early studies and home work complete was her daily
routine. Sometimes she had to spend mid night oil for their
education.

At Sagarpur School in the year 1983, she used to send some

homely made snacks for me and sometimes in large quantity for
my staff members and they praised a lot. In the end of the year I
had a urine problem and it was found that there was a stone in my
gall bladder. On 25th December the Christmas Day, 1983, Dr.
Rajan Mathew of M.C.K.R. Hospital an eminent Eurogeolist, did
minor operation, removed the stone and sent me home in the
evening with some precautions. It was done only due to her
guidance and deep knowledge of medication. It was the vacation
period for me and children and I took rest at home and became all
right. She proved to be a good nurse.

The year 1984 is reminded even today because of Sikh riots

and during the period I was in the Sagarpur area where there
were the maximum casualties. But we all remember the fatal day
of 6th November, 1984 when Behn Bimla, the elder sister of my
wife, passed away. She became the victim of the emergency
period and she breathed her last in Mool Chand Hospital. Her
whole body was swallon and became poisonous due to abdominal
problem. She was very much adorable and treated my wife as one
of her children. My children used to call her Behnji and not Mausi

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and only because of unforgettable love. That was really an
unbearable loss to the whole family including us. It was a great
setback to my wife because her elder sister used to support us
sometimes financially as well as morally. There was a true
attachment between the two sisters. We were to some extent
financially tight and because of this reason we sometimes led a
cat and dog life. Moreover, there was my mother’s attitude
towards her and my children, it was not cordial and smooth. And
above all my temperament was not cool, it was because of my
harsh nature and economically not sound. My circumstances were
responsible because there was no other source of income except
only one pay and all the children were school goers. Now I realise
that she was not contented from the heart of heart and had
migraine pain because of deep thinking and the existing
atmosphere. The behaviour of my two sisters, Raj and Krishna and
my Bhabi, Prithvi’s wife and above all my mother, was not
satisfactory to her and she often grumbled me about them but I
generally paid her no heed and she became thoughtful and
pensive. She was over burdened with homely works but she faced
well and everything went on smoothly.

1984 year was important for Shivendra’s first board

examination, his 10th class but despite our efforts, his result was
not to the mark and he got poor second class marks. His result in
Maths and Science was third class but got good marks in English,
Hindi and Social Sciences i.e. my subjects. When enquired he put
all the blames on Mr. Iqbal Singh, my personally known teacher
and his tutor of Maths and Science. He concealed the facts and I
started him beating and that was the first time I gave him
punishment. Anyhow he got the admission in Maths, Science
Group B, Medical faculty, class XI and it was out of the way and

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my friend B.K. Nain’s efforts and latest eligibility rules. But I took
great concern in his XI class studies and he became serious and
responsible and his constant efforts bore fruit in XII Board
examination. His XII class teacher, Mr. Nijhawan was a friend of
me and he took much interest in his studies and with the result he
topped in his Medical Group getting distinctions in three subjects.
We both were puffed with joy finding his twelfth class result. In the
year 1985 when I was in Patel Nagar, School no. 3 for sometime
say about six months we were sifted to Pushp Vihar, Saket, I was
allotted Delhi Govt. Flat No. 507, Sector –V and my children got
admission in Andrews Ganj School, and our Janakpuri house was
locked and it was difficult for me to come and go from Pushp Vihar
and Patel Nagar. Anyhow she did not lose patience and
cooperated me at every step. That house was not sufficient for our
family and my mother was also with us and sometimes petty
quarrels within our family went on. My family was not happy at all
in the circumstances and I had to surrender the Govt.
accommodation to the Deptt. And we all came back to our
Janakpuri house and heaved a sigh of relief.

The year 1986 was very important to our family and it was
full of events, good less and bad more. Sweety, my niece was
engaged with Vinay her cousin and we all attended the ceremony.
But we could not attend the wedding because I got heart attack
for the second time. I got down on the floor from my bed at night
and my blood pressure suddenly fell and it was 70 from the higher
side and 40 from the lower. It was very dangerous and Dr. R.K.
Ahuja of C3 was called in and due to his medicine, I recovered
from the ailment. So, in the present circumstances we could not
participate in the marriage ceremony. But my brother and his
wife, Pushpa in particular felt it so much that we were not in good

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relations for pretty a long time. My wife understood well and
realised the position but the members of my brother family
blamed us. To some extent my cousin Jeet and brother in law
Prakash, Raj’s husband were responsible and they had given them
the wrong reports against us. During the period, Monika my
daughter cleared her X class examination and Sonika, the younger
one passed 8th class. They both were average students in studies
but active in dance and music. Monika took part in music
programme at Jawahar Lal Nehru Stadium, Pt. Ravi Shanker’s
Programme and got award too. They both used to participate in all
the school activities but in studies they were mediocres.

1986 proved to be bad because in the month of March, my

mother in law, Biji was no more and she died on the day when
Shivendra’s board examination Paper Physics was conducted.
Imagine, our family’s position and moreover Biji’s family were
living in C3, the walkable distance to us. She had to struggle much
but due to her will power, we came across all the difficulties.
During the occasion, the relations of the sisters, brothers and their
wives were not properly well but my wife found no problem at all
and her relations with them were cordial even the last day.
Chander, her elder sister, being the sensitive could not properly
adjust with the circumstances while she faced no problem.

My children were on adolescence period and my mother also

wanted a separate room and the accommodation was not
sufficient to our family. Moreover, the flat was in the middle,
neither floor nor ceiling. The upper storey neighbour Mr.
Bhatnagar’s family was not cooperative to us and they often used
to disturb us and quarrel over trifles. Their two children tried to
harm us and the family did not allow us to go to the ceiling to
check our water tank thinking it personal. And above all there was

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always foul smell of sewer and the noise of bus stop. Anyhow the
circumstances compelled us to shift the house and luckily there
was a single – storey flat near the vicinity. We disposed the house
in the amount Rs. 1,70,000/- (one lakh and seventy thousand) and
purchased the new house in Rs. 2,30,000/- (Rupees Two lakh
Thirty thousand) through Mr. Trehan, the property dealer. But
later on we found that it was a disputed property. We got
possession of the house with great difficulty and before Diwali in
the year 1986 we shifted to C5A-145, Janakpuri. It was a good
house on the nice location, near the market and mandir and a sun
facing one. We all were happy to find the new house and my wife
lit the earthen lamps and worshipped the Diwali festival with
pomp and show. My mother got relief on finding the separate
portion for her. We made some alterations and extensions of the
house taking loan from the bank and chit fund. Our financial
position was very tight but she used to encourage me through
thick and thin and never lost patience. It was a far better house
than the previus one because there was enough scope to extend
the house. My children were very happy to find themselves in a
good company. Now Monika was in XI class taking Arts subjecs
with Economics and Pol. Science and Sonika was in 9 th class
English medium, Shivendra had cleared his twelfth science Group
B i.e. Bio-Botany, Physics and Chemistry. We both wanted him to
be a Doctor and for this I went to Rohtak and Fazilaka to get
domicile certificate and with great pursuation and efforts I got it
from Fazilka. He took medical examination from various
universities but luck did not favour him. Delhi Directorate sent him
to Hyderabad for fishery and Drug Inspector Course and I also
accompanied him but there was a strike period in the Usmania
University and the authorities told us to come in the month of
Sept. But he was not interested to join for engineering medical

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and any other course except B.Sc. Botany group. So we both
agreed and he took admission in Botany group at Shivaji College
in the month of August, 1986. He had already told us that he did
not wish to become an Engineer nor doctor but become Doctor in
Science Faculty. Our children were not good at Maths and opted
for Arts. Shivendra was happy to get his Choicest Group of Botany
(Hons.) and we both and our mother all were happay that he
would be at Delhi and remain at home before our eyes. He did his
B.Sc. in three years and stood third in the whole of the city. He
had made friends with Santosh Rawat, Popli, Dinesh, Sunita,
Shanti, Suresh, Ranjana etc. and they all used to come in our
home and my wife felt happy to serve them with hot and cold
drinks. She was very much hospitable and offered to eat whatever
she found available at home. Similarly Monika and Sonika had
their friends circle and they also used to come our house
frequently. Monika was fond to cooking and she was perfect in
making Bread Pakora and Besan Barfi and Special Tea.
Shivendra’s friends, her own friends and our neighbours
particularly Mrs. Sareen and Mrs. Gulati often came to our house
and all of them used to speak high of Monika’s and wife’s
hospitability.

Time passed on swiftly and the day came when we started

our new Academy in the name of K.B. Academy on 10 th October,
1988 on 1st Floor with five sheds providing all teaching furniture
and other relevant materials. K.B. name was suggested by my
friend Mr. Raj of Pitam Pura. He was expert in Astrology and told
us that “K” being common n all our names and “B” for Bajaj and
we both readily agreed to him and started working. I was at
Sarvodya School, Distt. Centre, Vikaspuri and remained there till
my retirement in the year 1999, and my wife and my first two

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children Shivendra and Monika supported me too much. She was
all in all in-charge of the institution and whatever she decided, she
did. She was completely busy from morn till night, rather over
burdened and took no time in her health. Ours was the first
academy in the whole of C block, Janakpuri and the students
sometimes used to come from distant areas. Being a Govt.
employee, I could not come to the front in the matters of the
academy, so she used to collect the fees and manage everything.
It was difficult for her to control over he teachers and students
and sometimes she became furious and irritable. Academy work
was a great burden to her and she found no time for her health.
Shivendra and Monika were helping hands for me in teaching and
she was performing well in administration. My mother and Sonika
remained at home in the ground floor doing domestic work. The
time came when all my three children had to appear for final
examinations. Shivendra was doing B.Sc. Botany (final) Monika
was appearing in Twelfth Board examination while Sonika was
taking the 10th class Board examination, so everyone was busy in
their studies and did not waste their time in going outside of the
house. That was why our children succeeded in flying colours and
did not create any problem for their higher education. Shivendra
joined for M.Sc. (Genetics), Monika got admission in B.A. regular
from Gargi College and Sonika in 11th class from Rajouri Garden
Sarvodya School. Thus there was no big problem for their higher
education and that was only because of my wife’s strong base
imparted to them. And upto twelfth class education was my
responsibility being in the same department of eduation.

During this period an uncommon incident happened which

gave trouble to my wife and that was the allegation of theft made
by Ved and Shashi for stealing golden ornaments from their house

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at Biji’s time. We both were shocked to find the police officers at
our doorstep and they started searching out our house and made
many queries. It was a great slur on the part of brother-Sister
relationship. Really, it was amazing and painful to both of us. Later
on it was found that it was nothing but their own internal matter.
Her fault was only to meet her mother, Biji in the afternoon during
their absence because they both were office goers and she was to
look after Biji’s requirements. But Thank God, the relations
remained amicable and the credit went to Darshi’s greatness.

Our academy responded well and the students started

coming in groups. We all were serious to their need and we
provided them the teacher efficient in their subjects. We had won
the name and fame particularly in PCMB i.e. Physics, Chemistry,
Maths and Biology and were recognized the utmost in the
Janakpuri vicinity. By the time many new coaching centres started
and it was the period of competition and year by year the
students started decreasing.

In the year 1990, Shivendra was studying in South Campus,

Dhaula Kuan, doing M.Sc. (Genetics) in the final year, Monika was
busy in college studies and Sonika in Class XI, from Rajouri Garden
school in the vocational group with health and beauty culture.
Shivandera was getting stipend from the University and was not
dependable to us in his higher studies while Monika and Sonika
had to spend much money from my income. Sonika’s vocational
course was very much expensive and Monika, being a collegian
spent lavishly and above all my mother’s nature and the burden of
Academy work, all the circumstances had made her temperament
high. Moreover, I could not have the time on domestic affairs
being over busy in school duty, tuition work and academy
teaching and extra curricular work.

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 Sunita, Shivendras’s classmate in Genetics often came to
our house and started working at home like a family member and
was very affectionate to my mother. My mother used to tell us
about here becoming daughter-in-law and her prediction proved
to be true. Shivendra and Sunita had been co-students
continuously for eight years right from B.Sc. to Phd. Shivendra had
told us much about Sunita’s qualities of head and sharp intellect.
We didn’t know why he was telling and praising a lot at that time.
My wife was not much impressed by here talents and I wanted a
Punjabi girl from my circle. Anyhow our views were almost similar
about Shivendra’s would be life partner. Moreover, they both were
too young to be married. Monika had cleared here graduation
while Sonika passed here twelfth class in the year 1991. They
both were ahead in their studies by one year to their age. Monika
had much inclination in computer study, while Sonika preferred to
join some professional course and they did to their choice.

The year 1993 proved to be ill-omened for many reasons. My

health was deterioting as I had already suffered two hearth
attacks. On March 9, all of a sudden my blood pressure rose high
and we both went to C4E Mkt. and took some snacks in the
evening. At night 11 PM I felt unwell and had the problem of
breathing. Then suddenly vomiting started and there was blood
from my mouth on the bed and the floor. My family was shocked
and Dr. V.N. Verma was called in. My wife did not lsoe heart and
strengthened me a lot. The doctor injected me and gave the
sleeping pill. In the morning, my wife took me to the Kartik Clinic
for my check up. Dr. Usha Shridhar, the heart specialist examined
me, called for the ambulance immediately and sent me to G.B.
Pant Hospital. She had come to know that it was a major heart
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done and found that all the three arteries were blocked and
advised us to go for Bye-Pass Surgery. My wife and my son
understood the situation and brought me to home. Then they
consulted to other doctors and sought their opinions. They both
came to know that AIIMS was the best hospital and Dr. Venugopal
was the unique in this respect. But he used to take the referred
cases and for this Shivendra’s friends helped a lot and got the
recommendation of Dr. H.D. Kaul, the head of Anesthesia Deptt.
Now the financial problem raised and how to arrange for Rs. One
lakh, was the major issue. It was all due to my wife’s efforts and
she collected Rs. Twenty thousand each form her relatives say Mr.
B.R. Bajaj, Ved, Shashi and Chander. The day and date was fixed
for my admission and operation. My wife had a firm faith in God
and having a strong will power and patience she bade me bye
standing outside of the Operation Theatre. From 13th April to 20th
April, 93, I remained in the hospital for my treatment. The
operation was successful, blockage of cholesterol was removed,
and bye-pass surgery was done by Dr. Venugopal.

I was discharged from the hospital with some precautions

and diet chart. The doctor advised me to keep away from curry,
worry and hurry. But at the same time I had become a victim of
blood sugar. All of her relatives and Shivendra’s friends helped me
financially and blood collection respectively. How could I repay
their gratitude!

My mother was so shocked that she could not recover from

the illness. It was a difficult period for my wife to handle such a
situation. My doctor strictly advised me to take bed rest at least
for two months, it being an infectious disease. My mother was
physically and mentally ill and became victim of indigestion.
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brought my mother to my brother’s house at Patel Nagar. And
there she could not recover her health and here condition was
deterioting day by day. Probably she was not given the proper
treatment. Moreover, there was an age factor, being weak and
pale. At the age of 78, she passed away on 1st August, 1993 at
Baljeet Nagar, my brother Prithvi Raj’s house. It was all a matter
of chance that my mother lived with us for the whole of life, after
my father’s death but breathed her last at my brother’s home. It
was a shocking incident for all of us and we, the whole family
stayed there till the last rites. Not caring of my health, I took part
in all the ceremonies from first to last and my wife also was beside
me. Coming and going from Janakpuri to Patel Nagar with family
was a daily feature and she did not hesitate and co-operated well.

Sonika had completed the Marketing and Management

Course from South Extension and luckily got the job on the day
when my mother died. She joined for Hero Honda Groups at Nehru
Place, in the administrative wing getting good salary at the
beginning. She proved to be a supporting hand for the family and
used to spend all her salary in decorating the house. At that time,
she was hardly 19, a working hand to us. Her income was taken as
an addition to the family and making dowry items for Monika’s
marriage. Monika had joined Computer classes from NIIT, Raja
Garden after graduation. She was doing three year course as a
programmers in Hardware and side by side B.Ed. frm Anna Malai
University. She completed her B.Ed. and got the degree in 1994.
My friend, R.K. Gupta of Gagan Bharti School, helped much in
practical exams. So Monika, was fit for teaching and computer
programme job and this was a great achievement for her. The
year 1993 was a significant because it was the year of our Silver
Jubilee wedding anniversary to be held on 1st October. On this

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auspicious day our children celebrated the festivity at home and
for us it was a gala day. All of us enjoyed the day with outing,
seeing movie and the dinner at some restaurant. Our children
gave us the small gifts while Shivendra presented Titan Wrist
Watches, both of us and they were costly and good looking.
Otherwise, every year on this day we all of us used to go for
movie and had the dinner or snacks at some restaurant. I was
fond of movies and outing and the same habit I had developed in
her and the family. Our neighbours and relatives felt jealous and
sometimes they used to say before us not to waste money over
these things but we turned deaf ear to them.

In the year 1994, Shivendra was doing Ph.D. in Genetics,

Monika was in service of Computer at Karol Bagh and Sonika had
joined Whirlpool at Naraina. Monika was at the marriageable age
and this was a great tension for us. We wanted a suitable match
for her and for that we gave an advertisement in the matrimonial
column of H. Times. And there was a good response from the
paper ad we started further verifications. We both had a much
struggle and left no corner of Delhi for about one and half year.
Moreover we went many matrimonial centres running at Temples
and Arya Samaj Bhawans. At last, our efforts bore fruit and we had
found the suitable match at Nimri Colony and he was selected the
best of all Sandeep and Monika were taken to be the Choicest
Couple and the further customary traditions started. At that time,
Sandeep was at Jhansi working as an Accounts Officer in BHEL,
Govt. undertaking Concern.

Their engagement was ceremonised at Swagat Banquet, BI,

Janakpuri and there was the gathering of almost hundred people
from both the sides. It was the first and foremost happy occasion
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On the occasion, the marriage date was fixed and it was 6 th
September, 96. Being the first marriage at home, we had to
arrange many things and we did systematically. I collected money
from my GPF, savings and homely deposits. We spent a lot on this
marriage and beyond our expectations. Each and every neighbour
and relative was surprised to see such a wedding. It was the best
one from all angles. And on the marriage occasion of my
daughter, my wife looked to be extremely beautiful and to look at
her, some the ladies of our family felt envious and paid comments
at her face. How could I forget such satirical remarks! Almost five
hundred people graced the occasion and all of our relatives
attended it. Sunita and her parents were also invited and they
also appreciated the arrangements.

There was an offer made by Rockfeller Foundation, USA to

Shivendra for Post Doctorate in Plant Molecular and he had
already accepted it. Moreover Shivendra and Sunita had come
close together that only a marriage was the best solution. Though
we both were reluctant and I wanted the girl from my family but
we had to accept their will. And it was the right decision to get
them married before leaving for USA.

11th December, 96 was fixed for their marriage but there was
the short period. To collect money was a great problem but some
or how the other, the arrangement was done and within three
months, we had to perform the marriage function of our son.
Being the only son of our family, we wanted to ceremonise the
marriage descently, but the time was too early to cherish. Anyhow
the marriage was functioned with both the customs and traditions
of Punjabi and Bengali. It was performed at Palam, Banquet Hall
with Vegetarian and Non-Vegetarian meals separately and
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bound together and before their departure to USA. After the
marriage on 10th January’97, it was very cold and chilly. On the
way back to our home from Palam, my wife felt cold and fever and
in the morning she had to take the medicine from Kartik Clinic.
She got well soon but the weakness persisted. Anyhow she was
internally happy and relaxed because within three months, two
marriages had conducted decently. It was not a Child’s play and
everyone wondered particularly the ladies from our families.
Our Academy work continued but it was the period of
Competition being opened new coaching centres in our vicinity.
Shivendra had made up mind to leave for USA for Post – Doctrate
studies and on the basis of earning while learning. We felt no
objection and ultimately Shivendra and Sunita left for Ithaca, USA
for three years period. Monika and Sandeep were at Jhansi and we
three, including Sonika felt loneliness. Depression started to my
wife feeling loneliness. She took it to heart, how it all happened.
She could not tolerate their departure to America and the
neighbours also teased her saying the only son had deserted us at
the age. We were helpless and they went to America on 30 th June,
1997.
Before Shivendra’s marriage on 11th Dec’96 and Monika’s on
6th Sept ’96, we had already attended the marriage of my sister’s
son Manoj and her sister’s son Manoj and she had no problem at
all. But on the marriage of Sonia, my sister’s daughter, my wife
did not feel well and we could not attend the wedding. On
October’97 she underwent cataract operation and it was operated
by Dr. Thadani at Tilak Nagar. It was successful and she felt relief.
We were feeling alone as both Shivendra and Monika had gone to
different places. But we three including Sonika were leading
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like that of the previous state. Even then we were getting and
gaining.
On 20th November’97, we got very good news that we had
become grand parents and we named the girl Srishti. Luckily the
name was also suggested by Sunita’s parents. Being summer
vacation, I was free and I had been to Jhansi, Monika’s house from
7th May to 13th May. While my wife and Sonika remained at home
and found no problem.
On 30th October, 1998, the marriage of Sonika and Dheeraj was
fixed and it was celebrated at MCD Banquet Hall, C2B, Janakpuri.
It was newly constructed building and ground and First floor both
were booked for the occasion. Shivendra, Sunita and Srishti had
already come from USA. The function was attended by almost all
the VIPs of Janakpuri aera and Prof. Jagdish Mukhi, the MLA, was
also present there. My wife was over joyed to see such a great
and grand gentry. After the marriage celebrity, Shivendra went
back to USA all alone and Sunita and Srishti stayed with us till 20 th
Nov 1998 after celebrating her Ist Happy Birthday. The birth day
of srishti was performed descently. It was like a marriage day
celebration and everyone was surprised to look at the nice
arrangement.
In the month of Sept’98 we had stopped Academy work
because the number of students were decreasing. We could not
pay proper attention to the work because of Sonika’s marriage.
My wife was fed up with the monotonous routine and her health
did not allow to do such an additional work. Moreover it was not a
profitable work to continue. To wind up the Academy was taken to
be a wise step.
My wife’s health got down in Feb’99 for a lady trouble. Her
overy and uterus were removed from Kartik Clinic but she got not
a permanent relief. Then it was tested from Verma’s Laboratory

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and found some symptoms of early Cancer. Lady Dr. Sunita of
Noble Medicos, C2B suggested us to go for the treatment from
AIIMS. But first of all we went to Rajiv Gandhi Cancer Institute,
Rohini and my wife got the treatment from lady Dr. Kataria, the RT
head and got many tests from there but could not continue
because of the doctor’s harsh temperament. So we then went to
AIIMS and started their treatment. In March’99, she underwent
Radiotherapy for the first time and it continued for 27 times till
June’99. After RT strong doses then she was given Sorbio. She was
put on heavy Electric Machine in a special room and its connection
was from outside given by the doctor. She had a firm will power
and tolerated everything. During the process Sonika and Dheeraj
and sometimes Monika also helped us and I remained with her
day in and day out.
In the middle of June’99, Shivendra alongwith his family had
come back to India for good from the States. He got the Job in
Monsanto Company through America with all the comforts like
accommodation, Vehicle, Laptop, Telephone, Mobile and Medical
LTC etc. On 24th June’99 Shivendra took both of us and my brother
Prithvi Raj and his wife to Jaipur to attend my brother in law
Prakash’s death Ceremony. My wife was not feeling well but
realized the situation and accompanied. After RT and Sorbio, She
felt some relief from her ailment but check up from time to time
continued. In the month of July’99, we shifted from C5A to BI-573,
Janakpuri on the rent of Rs. 8000/- per month through Shivendra’s
Company deed agreement for eleven months. We all were happy
living together in a new five room set and my wife and Sunita
faced no problem.
On 31st October’99, I was retired from School, Shivendra and
Sunita took me to home and there at home it was a great
celebrity. The arrangement of Tent and Halwai was already done.

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More then a hundred people were invited and almost all our
relatives, neighbours and friends attended the function. My wife
was beautified like a newly wedded bride and she gadlanded me
on the front gate welcoming us. It was really a good scan to look
at! The unforgettable memory is still with us in the shape of
photos. On my retirement I got nearly about 5.25 Lacs and the
Construction work at C5A-145 house started on 10th October’99.
We got the loan of 4.5 Lacs from H.D.F.C. for the house extension
and spent more than 10 Lakhs on the three floor building. We both
used to go to the house in the morning and come back at night.
And the process continued till May ending 2000. Had she not been
supporting hand, I would not have completed such a nice building.
The credit hundred percent went to her.
On 15th December 1999, Sherya Sonika’s daughter was born and
we the whole family went to Ghaziabd at Nagar Hospital. Srishti,
our grand daughter felt overjoyed to see her new sister and same
was the position of all of us. My wife performed all the Customary
rituals on the arrival of new babe. Shivendra and Sunita
accompanied us too. During construction work on 25th March
2000. I again got a mild heart attack and my wife accompanied by
Sunita and Mr. Gulati took me at Amar Leela Hospital, BI Janakpuri
for treatment and she stayed with me for a week day in and day
out.
On 1st May,2000. Monika’s son Daksh got birth at Jeevodya
Hospital, Ashok Vihar and on the occasion Shivendra and Sunita
did a great job for them. On 21st May 2000. We all attended the
function and party hosted by Sandeep’s parents at Rani Bagh
Banquet and there too my wife performed the traditional customs
by presenting golden chain to the newly born male child.
On 28th May, 2000 we did Greh Pravesh at our own home with a
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performed by us attended by Shivendra, Monika, Sonika and their
families. My wife was very happy looking at the three storeyed
newly constructed home and we all shared to her.
Lease finished from BI-573 and on 19th June 2000 we shifted to our
own home through Aggarwal movers. IInd Floor house was given
on lease to Syndicate Bank employee from Ist July for three years.
In the month of Sept.2000, my wife got the same lady trouble and
was admitted to AIIMS in RCHS Ward and remained there for thirty
five days upto Oct.2000. She got little bit relief and was released
by the Hospital. In Nov’2000 REKI treatment was given by Dr.
Narula at Satya NIketan and from December 2000 to March 2001
another treatment was done by Dr. Mrs. Chopra at Green Park, but
she was not completely cured. An Ayurvedic treatment was
started by Dr. Qadri of Patte Wali Masjid at Nizamuddin and then
she was given Homeopathic treatment for three months by
Tibetan Institute, Nizamuddin, and got some improvement except
the trouble of Homo Globin.
In the month of December Sunita got the job in Park Royal Hotel
as a Hygiene Manager, with good post and salary and she got us
visiting to Five Star Hotels. In the month of March’2001, Namrata,
the maid servant joined us and she gave us much comforts in
cleaning the house and preparing the meals too. We were on the
ground floor while Shivendra’s family was living at First Floor and
the Kitchen was also on the First floor. From April 20 to May 2001,
we both went to Jhansi, Monika’s house and attended Daksh’s Ist
year Birth Day Ceremony. She did a lot of work there in the field of
sanitation and setting things right at right place and then came
back. On May 3 and 4 we were busy to attend the weddings of my
Cousin Harish’s and Davendra’s sons. Then in June, 2001 we also
attended the marriage function of my cousin Krishan Lals’
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any function of our family. In the month of June ending, I got the
same trouble of heart and the treatment was done by the famous
cardiologist Dr. Karoli, but I got temporarily relief and from July 15
to 21st. I had been admitted to Saroj Hospital under the treatment
of Dr. Natrajan. At everytime in the hospital, my wife helped and
nursed me well and similarly I used to stay with her on such
occasions.
Around 15th August 2001, my elder sister Raj came to our home
from Jaipur and met us only for ten minutes and my wife
welcomed her with open arms. On 31st August, 2001 we came to
know my sister Raj was no more and Shivendra took us including
my brother, his wife to Jaipur in his car. We all attended the death
ceremony function and came back in Shivendra’s car. Indeed, it
was a great loss to the family. On 12th September 2001,
Shivendra, Sunita and Srishti left for Mumbai and go for LTC tour
for ten days and came back on 23rd Sept. And on 24th Sept. the
Monday I alongwith my wife went to AIIMS for her routine check
up.
On January 11, 2002 the angiography of my heart occurred at
AIIMS Hospital and during the process, chest pain started and I
was admitted there for two days and then released on 14 th
January, 2002. The film showed that two atteries had almost
completely blocked and the third was 25% working and the Dr.
M.L. Talwar suggested for IInd Byepass Surgery. My wife and the
members of my family also recommended and the preparations
started. The money and blood was arranged and I was admitted
there in a Pvt. Ward on 5th Feb. 2002. On 19th February, the
operation was done and it was the successful one and was
released on 28th Feb 2002. Shivendra, Sunita and my wife did so
contribution that my life was saved for the IInd time. She had a
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Shivendra had decided to leave for New Zealand and we felt no
objection. On 31st March Monika’s family had come to see off
Shivendra’s family. On the night of 15th April, 2002, Shivendra,
Sunita and Shrishti flew off for Auckland, N.Z. We were left all
alone and had started Chaliswa from 9th April to 18th May, 2002. It
was our daily routine to go to Mata Santoshi Temple, Hari Nagar
for the said period. It proved to be successful and no hurdle came
during the interval. On 22nd April Monika alongwith her family had
gone to Jhansi because Daksh 2nd Birthday was drawing near to be
held on Ist May. The Hemoglobin of my wife was low and she had
to be admitted in Kartik clinic on 25th April. There she was given
two bottled of blood and four injections of Glucose. And she got
recovery very soon. Namrata, the maid left our house and at the
time of departure she was given Rs. 5500/- alongwith railway
ticket etc.
From Ist May 2002 the Ground floor was rented out to Mr.
Johnson, the Syndicate Bank employee and from Ist June, the IInd
floor was vacated. On IInd May, we attended Neelam’s of Saket
son marriage at Batra Banquet Hall, Naraina. On 24th May,
Dheeraj’s uncle M.K. Khanna expired at Vikas Kunj and we both
attended the condolence meeting at their house. On 25th May’
2002 there was a routine check ups of my heart problem at AIIMS
and they did not judge of my jaundice fever. We could not attend
Sandeep’s Cousin Marriage on 30th May 2002 at Pitampura. On
31st May 2002. I had been to Dr. Verma’s Laboratory for blood test
ands on Ist June, it was recognized and found Jaundice by Dr. Usha
Kartik. It was blood infected Hypertide B which was very
dangerous and my wife had already alarmed me and since then at
least for a month I remained on bed rest and weekly check up
continued. My wife was always ay my service day and night. On
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23rd June, morning by Shtabdi express and stayed with them for a
couple of days. On Ist May 2002 G.floor was rented to Mr.
Johnsons, the Chief Manager, Syndicate Bank and on 2nd June, the
2nd floor tenant Mr. Abdul left the house and transferred to
Vijaywada and since then the portion left vacant. In the mean
time my wife was admitted to Kartik Nursing Home for six times
i.e. 1st May, 5th May, 7th May, 31st May, 11th July and 30th July for her
stomach problem and her Homoglobin was 8.2. In weakness, she
was doing all homely activities. My jaundice was completely
recovered on 12th August 2002. During the period we both were
patients sitting at home all alone. Such hard days we spent in the
absence of Shivendra’s family. But his calls and letters we used to
receive every week. Monika and her family came to us on 11th
Sept. 2002 and stayed with us for a week. On 14th Sept 2002 the
Saturday, “Mata Di Chowki” was performed at our home and all
the relatives nearly 70 attended the function. It was conducted
because of my recovery from Bye pass Surgery and the family
welfare. Everything did well and we were showered blessings by
Mata Vaishno Devi and the Kirtan Mandli. On 27 th Sept 2002 we
went to Shakti Vihar to attend the Uthavni ceremony of Chander’s,
her sister mother in law. On 28th Sept. we went to Wellington
Hospital to enquire about Monika’s father in law’s health who was
hospitalized there because of heart problem. On 12th Oct’2002 we
left for Jhansi and remained there at Monika’s house for about a
week and there we attended the Dushera festival at BHEL Colony
on 14th October and enjoyed the period in sight seeing places. On
19th October 2002 we came back to Delhi and celebrated the
Diwali festival on 4th November 2002. She used to put the first
earthen lamp at DESU Colony Temple. We celebrated the function
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 On 25th December 2002 we both went to Ghaziabad to
attend Shreya’s birth day and all of us enjoyed the festivity
merrily. It was attended by more then 30 children and my wife
was overjoyed but missing Srishti much. On 13th January, it was
Lohri festival, Punjabi’s great day and Sunita’s parents visited our
home and we exchanged words of thanks to each other. The
whole month it was cold and for the first time it was the coldest
one after 40 years and January 2003 would be remembered as the
chilly coldest Month. She could not tolerate extreme cold and hot
weathers. On 17th January 2003 Ved’s mother-in-law expired and I
alone attended the Uthavni Ceremony at Shiv Puri. while she
remained at home, being very cold evening. A good news for all
that on 25th January 2003, Sandeep was transferred to Delhi from
Jhansi and Monika’s family stayed with us at our home. A sad
news occurred on 3rd Feb 2003 that Sonika’s father in law Sh. D.N.
Khanna expired, and the Uthanvi Ceremony was on 14th Feb 2003
and we were present there on both the occasions. It was a great
setback to Dheeraj and his family. On January 27, 2003 we
received the sponsership letter sent by Shivendra and on 5 th
Feb’03 we submitted our application for getting Visa in the
Embassy of New Zealand and on Monday, the 10th Feb, we
collected it from there and started packing. On 21st Feb’2003 I had
been to AIIMS for my routine check up. But on the next day the
22nd Feb I was feeling unwell because of cough cold and fever and
till March 2nd. I was not in normal health. On March Ist, the
Saturday, the Shiv Ratri day, Dheeraj Family including his mother,
brother, bhabhi, Sonika and their children came to our house on
Phera and my wife did all the arrangements and left no stone
unturned to welcome and entertain them with a heavy lunch.
Monika also helped her in Kitchen work. On 18th March, the Holi
Festival, we attended the function at P&R.P. Association, BI

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Janakpuri and we were also busy to leave for New Zealand. on 28th
March for six months. On 26th march, Prithvi Raj, my brother
alongwith his wife and Praveen Chawla, his son in law came to our
house to see us off and Sham Lal alongwith his daughter too came
to us.
Our preparations were complete and on 28th March at 5:30
A.M. Our aeroplane boarded for Hong Kong and then to Auckland
landed at 11 a.m. on 29th March 2003. Shivendra and his family
were waiting for us anxiously and they welcomed us and took us
to home. The same evening we went to Hare Ram Hare Krishan
temple and at night we attended one Indian Family child birthday
party. On Sunday the 14th April, we again went to Hare Ram Hare
Krishan Temple and the Big Flee Market like Janakpuri Saturday
Mkt. and had the lunch in the temple. We were glad to meet some
Indian families there and most of them were Gujraties, Bengalies
and Punjabis. We ceremonised there Ashtami at home and Halva
Puri were prepared by my wife and Sunita and served to Kanjakas.
On 19th April, the Saturday there was a Bar-Be-Que Programme at
our house and it was a good gathering of say about 30 persons
known to Shivendra and Sunita and they all wished us with Indian
Style. On 3rd May the Saturday we spent our time in attending
Rabindranath Tagores Jayanti in some big hall. There was a great
and grand cultural programme in which our grand daughter Srishti
took part in dancing. On 4th and 5th May we had been to Rotorna
and Tapuhs, the cities of hot spring water and there the Maoris
were in abundant, and both the cities were important for resort
and lake. On 12th May we went to Sunita’s library in the University
of Auckland, the world fame and spent there much time in seeing
and had there heavy breakfast. On 17th May we went to Waitkere
Sr. Citizens Association and met there Fiji Indians presided by
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Yoga and day to day Indian politics. On 24th the Saturday we
attended the meeting of Annual Day Sr. Citizens Indian
Association representative and met Mr. Ashraf Choudhary, the
member of Parliament Indians representative, belonging to Sialkot
living in New Zealand for the last 27 years and we discussed with
him to get permanent Visa and gave him the application later on.
It was a nice cultural programme attended by 200-250 Indians
and met many Shivendra’s friends too. On 25th the Sunday we all
went to two Gurudwras at Otahuhu and Papa Toetoe, calling Sikh
temple, and Dashmesh Darbar respectively and after bowing to
the Almighty, we took there heavy lunch. Our grand daughter,
Srishti accompanied by my wife was looking cheerful and Sunita
took there many snaps. On 2nd June, the Queen II Elizabeth 77th
Birthday, my wife, got stomach pain and she was hospitalized for
sometime and our son paid $52 at that moment. On 7th June, the
Saturday, Shivendra took all of us to a big cultural Shanti Nivas
Annual Day function. It was really a gala day where International
Countries participants performed the function organized by Mrs.
Indu Bajaj and we all met her after the show. On 8th the Sunday,
they all went to lady saloon and other Indian shops while I
remained at home busy in reading and writing work. On 10 th June,
Sunita’s birthday, the Tuesday, we distributed the Prasad and had
a chat with Sonika, Monika and Dheeraj and Sandeep and their
children. We spent there time in watching T.V. Indian Programmes
and many movies. On 29th, June the Sunday we again went to
Dashmesh Darbar Gurudwara at Papa Toetoe and spent there
three hours and took there Guru ka Langar. On 30 th June, Monday,
Mrs. and Mr. Grewal, my friend came to our home at tea. On 1st,
July we all had been to Ware House for shopping and purchased a
lot of clothes for Monika and Sonika and their families. And on the
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English test and second that Monika purchased computer set with
camera, mike and had fixed A.C. in their car. On 3rd, July, after
lunch, my wife had got the stomach pain and she had to be
hospitalised and was given pain killer injection. It was the second
chance since we came to N.Z. On 2nd, we had attended two
programmes, one at Grewal’s house and the other was at Mr.
Shanker’s house and both were with heavy meals. On 5th, the
Saturday we were invited to Mr. Chakerverty’s house on dinner
and on 6th, they all went to Hare Ram Krishna Temple while I
stayed at home and the 6th July on Sunday was the coldest night
and the temperature was 3 degrees.
On 12th July, Shivendra’s birthday, we celebrated it at Mt.
Roskell’s Hall by giving a heavy dinner to around 70 persons and
each and every veg and non-veg items were prepared by Sunita
and my wife helped her a little bit. On 13th the Sunday, there was
a Satya Narain Katha at our home and it was celebrated very
piously, Prasad and heavy breakfast was served to nearly 40
persons and on this day one of Shivendra’s friend Mr.
Chakarverty, the palmist predicted about our future saying my life
was longer than my wife. On 21st, July, it was the day of Srishti’s
Operation of ear which took half an hour and we all were standing
outside the operation theatre and my wife felt nervous but it was
successful and we all returned home thanking God. Our home at
Henderson was quite near to the hospital and on walking distance.
On 26th, July, the Saturday, we had been to “Sky Tower” the
biggest centre for theatre, Casino and entertainments in Auckland
and in the evening to Peninsula, water from three sides, place and
it only happened because of Shivendra’s love to us, specially to
his mother. On 6th, August, I went to my class at Henderson Velley
and on the way to Yoga Ashram run by the German Lady,
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wife and my daughter-in-law with Srishti, went to Mrs. Grewal’s
hosue while I remained at home. On 12th, the Tuesday, the Rakhi
Day, the German Lady whom I took as my elder sister tied Rakhi,
sent by Monika and Sonika on my wrist and I paid her some
money. On 17th, August I attended the programme at Civic
Theatre, which was organized by Indians to celebrate 56th
Independence Day and the Prime Minister, Madam Helen Clerk
was the chief guest.
On 22nd, August, the Friday, a wonderful incident happened
at Shivendra’s house that a lady came to our house and my wife
at once recognized her telling here name Krishna. She became
wonder struck and they were friends together meeting after 35
years. They both were classmates and neighbours living at Rajouri
Garden and thus they hugged together. On 28th, August, we were
invited by Mrs. Krishna and her family to tea and her husband Mr.
Ram Pal Sharma became my close friend there and on 30th, again
we were invited by them on lunch. We stayed there for four hours
and did full justice to the lunch. Mrs. Ram pal and my wife were
close friends for ten years at Rajouri Garden. We had to go to
Wellington, the capital from 5th to 7th, Sept. but it was dropped
because my wife was not feeling well. Moreover, the weather was
not favourable and the gusty winds wee blowing and it was raining
too. On 13th, the Saturday, the lucky and auspicious day for us
because the German lady, Hriday Kamal and the group were
invited by us to hold the “Lady Satsang” to be sung by them and
the music party, the sacred hymns were sung. It looked like
heavenly day and all of us were blessed by the holy Sadhvi and
we served them the good dinner. On 18th, Sept. our tickets to go
back to India was confirmed. On Sunday the 21st, Sept. we had
been to Kelly Tarton’s Antarctic Encounter Underworld, very
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$18 each, them to Balmore Temple for my parents Shrad
ceremony and then to Sri Krishan temple, all three places in one
day – a very busy day for five hours. On 22 nd, the Monday we were
invited to Mr. Grewal’s house and on 23rd, we attended the lunch
party hosted by Mr. Rampal’s family and on the night my wife got
a little trouble of high pelpitation and chest pain. After taking
some medicine of heart, she took a sound sleep. During the
interval of six months, we saw 43 movies and the last one was
“Namaste London”. On 25th, the Tuesday, Shivendra and Sunita’s
friends Raj Da, Kar Da and Mr. Grewal’s family came to our house
to say Good Bye and it was the day of final packings. On 26th
morning at 7 AM we left the house and the country and completed
all the formalities at Auckland Airport to get the boarding ticket for
Hongkong. Shivendra, Sunita and Shristi bade us Good Bye with
warm eyes.
We boarded the aeroplane for Hongkong and landed at 5.30
PM and then at standford Hillview Hotel at 8 PM. Sooner the
moment we entered the hotel lounge, my handbag kept on the
sofa beside my wife, was robbed, it contained cash, important
documents, insurance papers. Thank God, the tickets and Visas
were with me. We lodged the complaint of robbery at the police
station but all in vain. It was a bad night for us because we
suffered the loss of nearly Rs. 60,000/- and the papers also. On
27th evening, we got the boarding ticket with the help of Sri
Lankan Sindhi gentleman, boarded the aeroplane ultimately and
reached Delhi at 10 PM. At the airport, Monika, Sandeep, Sonika,
Dheeraj and their kids Daksh and Shreya were there to receive us.
We reached our home at 12 PM and came back with the memories
of six months spending at Auckland on 28th Sept at home, we took
rest and felt giddy, dreaming of New Zeeland and in the evening,
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Sonika and their families. We felt happy when they started triffling
over the dresses because the dresses were costly and not easily
available in India, after feeling relaxed, we started to live a normal
life.
On 8th, we saw Dushera and celebrated Kanjak and Ram
Navmi festivities at home. On 10th Oct, we went to Sunita’s
parents house on the inauguration of their new home at Dwarka.
On 21st Oct., 03, I alongwith my wife went to AIIMS for my routine
checkup and got the next date too. On 23rd, Oct, 03 my maternal
uncle Lakh Raj expired and we both attended the last rites
ceremony. On 24th my wife’s elder sister Chander came to our
house and felt happy to see us in high spirits and felt jealousy
when Darshi talked of New Zeeland qualities. Actually there was a
great love between the two sisters. On 25th Oct, 03 there was a
great and grand Hindu festival, Diwali and we celebrated at our
home descently, went to temple and to Ved’s house too. Sandeep
and Monika came to us from Nimri Colony for a while and they
came back. On 26th Oct. we arrived at Connaught Place and there
Dheeraj came to pick up us for Ghaziabad and there we had to
stay for a week because they were to leave for Jabalpur to attend
Dheeraj’s cousin’s marriage. On 29th they came back and I
attended the marriage reception on the night but my wife could
not attend the function being unwell. On 30th Oct., 03 we came
back home after spending five days and on 31st Oct. I alone went
to Mama Lakh Raj’s Uthawni ceremony at Ram Mandir, Safdarjung
Enclave and met my sister, Krishna there. On 6th Nov. 03, we both
went to Kailash Colony to attend Behn Bimla’s Death anniversary
and after having a light refreshment we came back home and
every year we used to attend the ceremony since Behn’s death.
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brother’s house to give them some gifts and sweets as a
customary tradition.
On 25th Nov. night Sunita alongwith Srishti came to India
from New Zeeland for two months and stayed some time with us
and sometimes at her parents house, Dwarka. On 2nd Dec., 2003,
we all hired a taxi for Ghaziabad to Sonika’s House and Sunita
handed over some gifts to them. And on 3rd Dec. we again hired a
taxi for Nimri Colony, Monika’s house and we handed over some
items to them too. On 7th Dec. Monika and Sandeep shifted to
their own house at Sector XI, Rohni and left our home which they
had occupied during our absence. And on 16th we all including
Sunita and Srishti went to Monika’s house and spent there the
whole day and we both liked their newly constructed house much.
On 23rd December, we both went to Ghaziabad to attend the
function of Dheeraj’s father 1st Death anniversary. And then again
went to Sonika’s house on 28th and stayed there upto 2nd January
04 after coming back on 3rd January, the Saturday, my wife did not
feel well at night she had to be admitted at Kartik Nursing Home
for stomach problem and vomiting, dysentery also were added.
From 1st to 4th Jan I was also not feeling well and Suntia came from
Dwarka and served us for three days but on Saturday the troubled
night there was none with us and we felt lonely at that moment.
She being unwell, I had to stay at home and we both did not
attend the function organized by my sister’s grand sons arrival
while Sunita, Monika and Sonika alongwith their families attended
at Panchsheel Banquet Hall on 8th January, 04. On 11th the Sunday
we all including Sonika’s family went to Sunita’s parents home at
Dwarka on lunch and it was my wife’s choicest one. On 13th
January the Lohri night, Sunita’s parents visited our house and we
all ceremonised the function nicely but missed Shivendra’s
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after taking bath, performed the rice and pulse ceremony and
donated to the needy persons alongwith other things and cash
too. On 23rd Jan. we all went to Panchsheel Club on Sh. B.R. Bajaj’s
Diamond Jubilee Birth Day alongwith Sunita and Srishti and on 24th
they both mother and daughter flew off to New Zeeland and via
Bangkok and Australia and reached Auckland on 26th Jan.
on 10th Feb. 2004, we went to AIIMS for my wife’s routine
checkup and on the way back to home, we went to my sister
Krishna’s house, Sarojini Nagar. On 17th Feb. Tuesday, we went to
janta X-ray, Tilak Nagar, for my wife’s CT Scan and luckily it was
the normal report. On 2nd, March 2004 it was a happy day because
Monika and Sonika both alongwith their families met together
after at least one month. One 7th March , the Dulhandi Day after
Holi we celebrated the function first at home, then went to Ved’s
home and in the evening we had a chat with Shivendra and his
family. On 9th March, my wife had an acute abdominal pain and
was admitted to Kartik Nursing Home and then was discharged on
the next day after her recovery. On 20th Saturday we went to
Deen Dayal Hospital as our medical Card for the whole life had
been issued from the Deptt. For our checkup and got the medicine
for a month and on the way back we deposited Rs. 501/- annually
to the Santoshi Mata Temple, Hari Nagar. On 11th May Tuesday I
purchased a new Mobile Nokia worth Rs. 3570/- as the previous
one was heavy and not of proper use. On 17th May the Fair Deal
Property Dealer, Gagan Arora came to our home alongwith the
party and handed over Rs. 10,000/- as the token money for the
sale of ground floor and on 21st Mr. Ashok Kumar paid us Rs.
90,000/- as the earnest money. On 27th June the Sunday night my
wife got stomach pain and she had to be admitted to Khastiger
Nursing Home and on 28th she was discharged and this was the
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asked about Mr. Ram Pal’s Health as he had been admitted there
because of some injuries and Shivendra had asked me to do so.
On 15th I was asked to meet S. Samarjeet Singh, Beena’s father at
Vikaspuri and on the next day morning he came to us and we
welcomed him with open arms being our guest coming from New
Zeeland. On 17th Monika and Sonika both came to our home and
they enjoyed a lot because there was a great attraction of Tub
Bath for Daksh and Shreya and on the next day they went back to
their respective homes. From 13th August to 21st Sept. there was
Chalisa at Mandir performed by my wife. On 20th August there was
an agreement for the sale of 2nd floor with Mr. Sandeep Aggarwal
and Sonika alongwith her mother were ready for the deed while I
was reluctant but I had to agree with their consent. On 30th
August, 2004 it was the day of “Rakhi” and Monika, Sonika
alongwith their families came to our house and my wife felt
happiness to be found them at home. On 25th Sept. we went to
Patel Nagar to ask about Neelam’s Husband Praveen Chawla who
had undergone bye-pass surgery and there my wife gave some
instructions to Neelam and Praveen. On 15th Oct 01 according to
the family wishes I went to Distt. Centre, West Delhi Court to get
money from Sandeep Aggarwal for the 2nd floor registration. On
20th Sonika, alongwith my wife went to Karol Bagh for some
shopping and on the same evening, my wife had a stomach pain
and was injected by Sunita Sharma, the sister of Kartik Nursing
Home. On 21st Monika and Sonika alongwith their families came to
our house and they got some money from my wife as it was a
good omen because of the sale deed. On 22nd the Dushera Day
and there was a Greh Pravesh for Sandeep Aggarwal family and
we both attended the celebrity and on 25th Oct. we also attended
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 On 2nd November, the Tuesday, Shivendra alongwith Sunita
and Srishti came to India and stayed with us upto 25th Nov. and
celebrated Diwali festival on 12th Friday and it was an
unforgettable event to ceremonise the festival with full family. My
wife had a true affection with Shristi and felt overjoyed to see
celebrating the gala day merrily. On 3rd December, the Friday we
had been to Monika’s new home, sector 15, Arya Apartments. On
19th the Sunday we went first to Monika’s house and then to
Sonika for Shreya’s birthday at Ghaziabad. On 1st January, 2005
Saturday I went to P&RP Office BI Janakpuri and paid them the
cheque of Rs. 1000/- for the victims affected by the Tsunami
Waves in the Indian Ocean. From 8th to 20th we stayed at
Ghaziabad, Sonika’s house and spent there time happily. There
we went to Dheeraj’s sister house and Ram Nagar, Pandit Ji house
as my wife had a faith in Pandit Ji’s prophecy. From 2nd to 5th Feb,
2005 we went to Monika’s house as Sandeep was on official tour
to Indore. We used to stay with our daughter’s houses whenever
they needed and on 6th we went to Sonika’s house as her mother
in law had gone to Lucknow, her elder son. From 5 th March to 17th
March, 05 I was on tour to Mumbai, Nasik, Goa, Shirdi and
Mahabaleshwar through P & RP Association while my wife
remained at Sonika’s house. On 22nd March, Monika, Sonika and
their families stayed with us and spent two days and two nights.
On 24th we went to P & RP Association Office BB Mandir to
celebrate Holi and there I presented my hand written detailed
programme of the 12 days spented on the tour. On 29th March I
got the sad news of the demise of my newphew Vijay’s death at
Jaipur and on 1st April, I alongwith Krishan Lal, Krishna, Neelam,
Nanda and Bharjai attended the uthawni ceremony at Jaipur but
my wife being unwell did not attend it. On 6th April for my wife’s
tooth problem and on 7th too we went to DDU hospital and on the

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way back to Mata Vaishno Devi Temple, Hari Nagar, to deposit Rs.
501/- for Nav Ratre. On 10th May, the Mother’s Day, my wife was
overjoyed to get the parcel containing a diamond earballs sent by
Shivendra and Sunita. On 15th Monika, Sonika alongwith their
families turned up to us to ask about my health as I remained
unwell because of infection for more than one month. On 17 th May
we went to AIIMS for her check up and on the way we also went to
Safdarjung Enclave, my maternal uncle’s house.
On 22nd May at Monika’s house, there was a grand function
celebrated on Daksh Birthday and nearly 150 persons were invited
and all our relatives attended it gracefully and we remained there
from 21st to 26th May. On 14th June we attended a marriage
function of Mahindra’s newphew at Peera Garhi Land Mark
Banquet Hall and there we met Bhayeji’s whole family. And there
she was pained to hear the satirical remarks uttered by the foolish
chap of their family. On 23rd June we had been to Nimri Colony to
ask about Sandeep’s father health and on the next day, the
construction work started in our house regarding stair case, two
small rooms, one extra toilet and above all the kitchen work and it
took two months to complete the work and the wood work also
included and finished it on 20th August, 2005. On 31st August, we
attended the Shagun Ceremony of Neelam’s son Bunty at Batra
Banquet and on 6th Sept. we attended the marriage party at
Vasant Kunj Farm House alongwith Sonika, Dheeraj and Shreya
and stayed at Ghaziabad.
On 1st October, 2005 with the help of Dheeraj, we left for
Haridwar staying at 4 star hotel U.P. Govt. and had a dip and
Asnan at Har Ki Pori and came back on 3rd morning to our home.
On 7th Oct, my birthday I went to Puthkalan village Blind Ashram
and donated something there and in the evening cake cut and
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Oct., Kanjak Ashtami was performed with the contribution of
Monika family at Rohini and on 12th the Dushera day at Swarn
Jayanti Park, we all witnessed. On 18th Oct. my wife was not
feeling well and got checked at Kartik Nursing Home and on 20th
there was Karva Choth and then on 21st Oct to 28th. We again had
been to Monika House. On 31st the Chhoti Diwali and on 1st Nov. it
was the holy festival of Diwali and we celebrated it as usual and
we exchanged the gifts to Bhaya Ji, Ved and our neighbours. On
3rd the Tikka Day and the families of Monika and Sonika came to
our house and performed the festivity. On 22nd Nov. 05 I attended
the Uthawni ceremony of my Chachi Late Darbvari Lal’s wife at
Kiran Garden Temple but she being suffered from stomach pain
and loose motion, could not attend it. On 26th Nov. the Saturday,
my wife underwent for minor operation at Kartik Nursing Home
and in the evening we went to Ghaziabad alongwiht Dheeraj and
Sonika and there we stayed for a week. After coming back on 3rd
Dec. 05 we attended the marriage of Mr. Bhatia’s daughter at
Rohini. On 5th night the stiches were removed by Dr. Sridhar but
the mild pain still prevailed with my wife. On 11 th December, we
congratulated Shivendra and Sunita on their 9th Happy Marriage
Anniversary and Sunita was busy in packing to shift to their new
owned house at Albany. On 25th December, the Christmas Day we
received Greeting Card, some cash and gifts sent by Shivendra
through Mr. Dipankar and his family, and we also welcomed them
with open arms. On 31st December, we both went to P & RP
meeting at BB Mandir Janakpuri and there we had a heavy lunch.
My wife felt happiness to be present in such a get together
meetings and tried not to miss them provided she was all right.
On 4th January 06 I alongwith my wife went to AIIMS for her
routine checkup and on 10th January we went to GMR Institute,
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thanked God to collect the report being everything normal. We
celebrated the Lohri festival on 13th and on 15th Babbu and Neeru
from Kailash Colony came to our house and we as usual welcomed
them with high spirits. On 18th January, the Wednesday we went to
AIIMS and showed them all the reports they demanded from my
wife. On 22nd January, we went to Mission School to attend the
Health Check-up Camp and then to BID Mandir for Senior Citizens
Brotherhood Association Function and had there heavy lunch. In
he evening of 23rd January we went to Rohini, Monika’s house and
on 24th we went to Prashant Vihar Balaji Temple and met Sadhvi
Suman Sharma and she proclaimed some prophecy about Monika
and my wife too. On 28th Monika was admitted to Jeevodya
Hospital for her check-up as Dhruva was expected to take birth.
On 8th Feb. 06 we went to AIIMS alongwith my wife’s echo report
and after examination, we went to Bhaiyeji’s house, Kailash
Colony and had there lunch. On 23rd Feb. 2006 we came to Rohini
and on 24th at 9.38 PM we got the happy news that Dhruva, the
second of Monika’s son took birth and on Sunday, the 26th we
went to Jeevodya Hospital to congratulate Monika and blessed the
new born baba and thanked the Almighty. On 8th March we came
to Janakpuri as my wife had completely exhausted and felt unwell
because of hectic exertion at Rohini. On 9th Monday, Sonika came
to our home, did some shopping with my wife at Tilak Nagar. On
Tuesday the 14th, March we went to P&RP Association meeting for
holi celebration and Shreya also accompanied us and there we
had a heavy lunch. The next day, being Dulhandi, the colourful
day we received a call from Shivendra and Sunita and they
congratulated us on this day and for Monika’s new born son first
festival and at night Sonika, Dheeraj and Shreya left for
Ghaziabad. From 14th to 19th and particularly on 18th and 19th we
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because we both had become the victim of cough, fever and cold.
On 20th we went to Kartik Clinic for our treatment and medicine
and on 23rd we both felt fit and normal. From 30 th March to 5th April
2006 it was the Nav Ratre days and on 2nd April we were at Rohini
and on 5th April it was the Kanjak Day and there was also
Bhandara in the society. On 8th April we came back to our home
and from 9th to 15th April there was Swami Ram Dev Yoga Camp at
Dwarka Sector-10 and I alongwith Ashok Sachdeva, attended it.
On 23rd the Sunday we all went to Krishna Ratna, Raj Nagar and
had there dinner and my wife preferred to take Masala Dosa but
not full. During this period, we happened to visit Govindpuram flat
booked for Sonika and Dheeraj. On 7th May the Wednesday we
came to Rohini to attend Daksh Birth Day party and it was a nice
celebration attended by Sanjay, Neeraj and their mother. And
Sonika and her family were presented and after the function they
dropped us to Janakpuri. On 13th, Monika-Sandeep alongwith their
family stayedwith us for a week and they were provided all the
facilities. On 14th Sonika alongwith Shreya also turned up to our
home and both the sisters and their families felt overjoyed and
seeing them happily, my wife joys knew no bounds and she felt
pleasure to nurse their children descently. On 18th my cousin
Charanjit came to our home and discussed about the share
business while my wife had no interest in his talks. On 20th May 06
Shivendra’s brother in law alongwith his mother and wife come to
our home and we all went to Paschim Vihar to Shanti’s Parents
house and congratulated them on their youngest son’s marriage.
On 21st we got Sunita’s letter alongwith Shristi’s photos and my
wife puffed with joy to see Shristi’s snaps as she had the deepest
affection from the core of her heart with her and seeing her tall
and slim, she used to recall her own childhood. On 23rd the
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in the evening and seeing our newly renovated house, they
appreciated my wife’s architect’s hand. On 10th June, there was
Shivendra’s call and we congratulated Sunita on her birthday and
luckily Dheeraj, Sonika and Shreya came to our home. On 16th
Guru Arjun Dev’s Martyrdom Day, we went to Gurudwara and in
the evening Neeraj came to our home and met Pushpinder Singh
and asked about his prophecy.
On 26th, June Charanjit cme to our house with sweets and
invitation card on his daughter’s wedding to be held on 28th June
and on this day, we went to Monika’s house and alongwith Daksh,
we attended the marriage function at Khatir Banquet, Madipur and
there was a small gathering, even Charanjit’s mother and brother
and sisters were not invited but we were given warm reception.
On 12th July the Wednesday we made a call to Shivendra and
wished him on his birthday and on the same day there was
Shristi’s council operation and Thank God, luckily it was all right
and we celebrated it with the Prasad at DESU Mandir. On 16th the
Sunday we attended the marriage party at Le Meridon, Connaught
Place, of maternal uncle Lajpat Rai’s grandson, Gulshan’s son with
the Sikh family and it was the great and grand ceremony to be
attended. On 23rd the Sunday I went to Satya Sri Ram
International Centre, Lodhi Road to get my ID Card for the journey
to Sai Prashant Nilayam. And on 28th July at 9 PM I alongwith my
group of around 20 persons, boarded Karnata Express train for the
pilgrimage to Prashant Nilayam and there we stayed upto 10th
August, 06. We did service in the Super Special Hospital and had a
darshan daily of the divine Sai Ram Ji sitting at the heavenly
place.
On 13th August, the Sunday, Sonika, Dheeraj and Shreya
came to us on Rakhi and we all celebrated Janam Ashtami and 15 th
August descently. On 27th August, we both attended the Medical

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check up camp at Sarswati Bal Mandir BI Janakpuri organized by
Khetarpal Hospital Staff through our Retired Teachers Association
and there we got checked all our health problems. On 1st
September, 06 I made a trip to South India starting from 1st to 15th
Sept. through our Senior Citizens brotherhood, organized by Tamil
Nadu Tourism Bus and travelled for 15 days and nights seeing all
the important places and temples of South India and then back to
Delhi on 15th. My wife was not in position to travel such a long
journey due to her stomach problem otherwise local and short
journeys she did. On 1st October my birthday, I distributed sweets
to all the members of our morning health club. On 2nd being the
Dushera and Ved’s birthday we ceremonised it by taking Jalenbi at
home. On 22nd October the Diwali day and we celebrated all the
festivals with great pomp and show. Then on Tikka Day, Monika
came with family but Sonika could not turn up to our house and
Monika being annoyed but at the time of departure, she became
happy and we all took dinner at Kadimi Restaurant. On 1st Nov.
being my wife’s birthday, we enjoyed the day by exchanging gifts.
On 6th November we went to Kailash Colony for prayer and then
we went to Mr. Chopra my Guru Bhai Friends’ house at GK Part II.
On 8th November, 06 we both went to Passport Office at Chankya
Puri and got fulfilled all the formalities to go to abroad for the 2 nd
time. On 16th Nov. I accompanied by my friends Mr. D.S. Negi and
Mr. Bagga, went to India Trade Fair, Pragati Maidan and did there
shopping and brought gifts for my wife and children. The day of
Shivendra’s family of arrival to India was approaching and the day
of 27th November 06 came and the period was full of busy
schedule. First of al we celebrated Shristi’s happy birthday at
home and all the near and dear families were invited to grace the
occasion. Then on 5th December 06 Shivendra took us to Amritsar,
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Bagh, Bagha Border, Maharaja Ranjit Singh’s Panoroma at Ram
Bagh and on 6th night we came back through Shatabdi Express.
The snaps taken at Bagha Border, Golden Temple, of my wife and
Shristi were praise worthy. From 12th to 16th Shivendra Sunita and
Srishti had gone to Goa to meet Raja’s family. On 17th we all went
to Prithvi Raj’s house at Patel Nagar. We also had been to Rajesh,
Neeru’s house at Alaknanda. On 22nd December, Shivendra went
back to Auckland while Sunita and Srishti stayed with her parents
house at Dwarka. Our preparations to go to Auckland started and I
was very busy in Telephone disconnection, insurance of medical,
tickets collecting, house insurance and packing etc. New year
greeting cars were also sent to our relatives and friends. Many
shoppings were done and on 12th Sunday I gave a small party to
all my friends.
On 14th Tuesday I, my wife, Sunita and Srishti left for New
Zeeland and boarded Thai Aeroplane at 11 PM and reached at 4
AM on 15th at Bangkok. There we had a halt of twenty hours and
stayed at Ambassador Hotel, got there breakfast and lunch and at
7 PM. We took Thai Airways again and at 2 PM on 16th. We reached
Auckland and there Shivendra was already there and we reached
Albany, his new house. We both were overjoyed to see our son’s
house, having a big swimming pool, greenery all around, with fruit
trees and vegetables and adjoining public school fences. We both
used to have a stroll to Albany main road and Beechorth Senior
Living Centre and sometimes to Albany Junior School, Srishti’s
School in the evening. On 27th January Shivendra dropped us to
Mr. Grewal’s house, my known fried and then to Krishna’s House,
here old friend and we had a long chat and dinner. On 30th January
my wife went to Sunita’s office at the university and there was an
Indian Women Health Camp. It was a free health check up
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Waiting Day on which the agreement between the Maoris and the
British Empire was done on 6th Feb, 1840, we went to Pahorea,
Binu’s house met her brother, Raja and her husband Tinku, stayed
there for three hours and after lunch we came back to our home.
On 10th the Saturday, we all went to Srishti’s Swimming pool and
then to Mt. Wellington Volcano and in the evening to Sri Lankan’s
house and there we had a heavy tea and my wife praised high of
the descent family. On 11th being the Sunday we all went to the
Eskon temple, donated something did prayer and had a heavy
lunch. We met there many Indian Families known to our son and
daughter in law and my wife appreciated a lot of their style of
living. On 16th February the Shiv Ratri we went to Bala Mora, the
Bhartya Mandir, the nicely decorated one, we performed Puja to
Lord Shiva and after having “Langar” we came back to home late
at night. On the next day, the 17th the Saturday we all five
members went to Mr. Ram Pal’s elder son house to attend the
marriage reception of his younger brother. We both presented
them two big gifts and took there heavy lunch. There we met 15
Indian families including Ram Pal’s brother in law who had settled
there in 1930 with his grand parents.
On 21st the Wednesday we had a long chat on Telephone to
Sonika and also came to known about Sunita’s father’s Operation
of Prostrate and Harnia done well. On 22nd Feb. we all went to
Mahadeva Temple and Mahatma Gandhi Convention Hall and fixed
the date of our home Mahurat with the Panditji and he had agreed
to be present to our place on 3rd March at 10 AM. On 25th the
Sunday we all went to Papa Toetoe Gurudwara, donated
something and had the Guru ka Langar. My wife alongwith Srishti
sitting side by side in the hall felt pleasure. On 3rd March, the
Thursday, very auspicious one and there was a good gathering
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nad all the guests praised it and enjoyed the heavy lunch. We
both donated and blessed our son and daughter in law and in the
evening we also attended the birthday party of our next door
neighbour but it being a non – vegetarian one, my wife didn’t
touch anything and we came straight to our home. On the next
day the 4th March, it was Holi festival, put the Tilak to Lord Krishna
then to all of us and greeted to one another and at noon we all
went to Eskon Temple and after donation, we took there lunch and
met some Indian families. On 17th the Saturday our Whites
neighbours organized a nice party in our honour and there were
many and more vegetarian and non-vegetarian items hosted by
Mrs. Trudy and seven families more.
On 21st the Wednesday, my wife did not feel well and we
went to Medical shop to get her checked and the next day, she
became all right and did all the works of kitchen as usual. On 25th
the Sunday we all were invited to Krishna’s House, my wife’s
childhood friend on tea and we exchanged the gifts to each other.
The next day, the 26th it was the Ashtami day and my wife
prepared all the items with the help of Sunita and traditionally
ceremonised the festivity, gave first Kanjak to Srishti and
Shivendra carried the Prasad to his office too. On 27th being Ram
Navmi we all went to the Bharti Temple, performed the Puja and
got the Prasad and blessings from the Almighty. On 1 st April, 07
the Sunday we all went to Otawa hoohoo Gurudwara, bowed to Sri
Guru Granth Sahib, and then had Guru Da Langer and then on the
way back, we all went to Devon Port to enjoy Ferry journey which
was like Cruise and enjoyed to our heart’s content. On 13th April
the Baisakhi Day, the Punjabi Festival, my wife prepared Halwa
with Desi Ghee and Puri also and we all took it and our son
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On 15th the Sunday we went to Manurewa Gurudwara and had not
seen such a big Gurudwara in abroad and there was the gathering
of at least 700 people and then to another gurudwara at Takanini
and it was nice to look, moreover, there was the editor of “Kook”
magazine and heard his lecture. It was the Gurudwara Hall
arrangement of the Langer distribution milk sweets, drinks and
fruits. My wife spoke very high of Gurudwara and particularly their
system of langer Prasad and we too donated there much and
carried the Prasad to home.

To us it was the second to the Golden temple, Amritsar in

size and grandeur. Its golden polish and the Nishan Sahib was
beyond description and after three years completion its
construction was still in progress. On 25th April 07 the Anzac Day
being a holiday we all went to Taposh, Shivendra’s friend’s house
and took their heavy tea and my wife, Sunita and her friend went
to parlour for hair cut while we he gents waited for them. On 1 st
May we congratulated Daksh on his seventh birthday and had a
chat with Monika too. On 4th the Friday my wife did not feel well
and she had strong fever and shivering too. My son and daughter
in law both took half day leave and we all went to Mt. Roskell
Medical Clinic for her treatment. Dr. Mukul Dheish, an Indian
doctor examined her and gave her strong injection but her
condition remained stable for four days and nights. She started
loose motions and got extreme weakness. Then with the passage
of time, she felt some improvement took rest and slept soundly on
13th May, the Mother Day, very auspicious day, our son, daughter
in law and Srishti wished good morning saying “Happy Mother
Day”, to my wife and presented an electric Automatic Kettle, with
greeting card and some cash on this day. My wife’s feelings were
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nice day and the particular scene it was! On this day, Sonika,
Dheeraj, Monika, Sandeep, they all wished “Mother Day” and had
a long chat with my wife. On 20th May the Sunday we all went to
Mt. Roskell Medical Centre for my wife’s illness and the doctor
examined her BP, HB and checked fever also. Her HB got down to
7.9 and the doctor gave her injection of double dose. Then we
came back home and in the evening, I alongwith Shivendra went
to Sherton Hotel to meet Mr. Sanjeev Prasad, Ravi Chopra’s friend
and discussed regarding immigration for Sonika and Dheeraj. The
Sunday night was unforgettable to my wife because she and
Sunita exchanged some hot words to each other but in the
morning they both were perfectly all right and Sunita went to her
duty smilingly saying “Bye” to my wife. On 24th May, I alongwith
my son went to Carry Park Henderson and brought Srishti back to
home after attending four days Scout Camp. On 4th June, the
Monday, the Queen’s birthday the gala day for UK and all the
colonies of England including New Zeeland, we all five members
left for Pieroa, Beenu’s house to meet her parents who had come
from Jullandur getting PR of NZ. They all welcomed us, amused us
with good chatting and served with heavy lunch. My wife felt
happy to meet such a nice family and in the evening we saw old
movie, “C.I.D.” Dev Anand’s hit movie. On 10th June, the birthday
of Suntia we all went to Gurudwara at first, then to Mall and did a
lot of shopping there. On the next day, the 11th we both had a
chat with Shashi and Mohinder and congratulated Mohita on
getting 82% marks in the 10th class. On 15th June at 10 PM
Shivendra left for Kualalampur, Malaysia for almost one week
conference and we all bade him “Bye”. On 23rd June, the Saturday,
Monika’s birthday and we had a chat with her and luckily
Shivendra had come back from Malaysia and brought many gifts
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and we both saw T.V. programmes of “Star Voice of India” a
popular show. On 29th I alonwtih srishti went to Kristin School,
near to our home to see the stage play, “West Side Story”
spending $50 say nearly Rs. 1500/- and I enjoyed the show
depicting the European Culture. On 30th June, my wife’s friend
Krishna alongwith her family of five members came to our house
on lunch party and she had brought many gifts alongwith $100
cash for my wife and we thanked them much. Our day of coming
back to India was approaching and we started preparations
already. On Sunday, the 8th July, very busy day. We visited many
places and first of all we went to Sri Lankan’s Budha Temple, then
to Shivendra’s office, took there coffee and I became nervous and
forgot the lift system ad then we went to Mt. Roskell Medical
Centre and there Dr. Mukul Dhish examined and gave injection to
my wife to increase Hemoglobin. After coming back to home, we
saw the TV best programme “Star Voice of India”. On 10th July, we
did the full and final preparation for packing and Shivendra
brought our passports, tickets and other valuable things from the
bank. It being Tuesday, we distributed Prasad and then I rendered
Mukesh’s two songs and my son and daughter in law praised a lot.
It was the scene of our departure to India. In the evening of 11th
July. We three including Shivendra went to our neighbours houses
to say them Good bye and gave them the birthday cake of
Shivendra. And on 12th we both gave Shivendram the birth day
card with cash and after sometime I alongwith Shivendra and my
wife went to the neighbours houses and presented them bottles of
wine as according to their custome and they hugged us and
showed a nice see off. And at night Shivendra and Suntia’s friends
circle came to our house alongwith many gifts for us and had a
good dinne with us. At 11 AM after breakfast on the 12th July, we
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airport, got our passports visa checked to the immigration
authorities and boarded for Bangkok through TG990 Thai Airways
saying Shivendra, Sunita and Srishti “Good Bye”. It was the scene
of heavy heart with tears in all our eyes. At Bangkok, we stayed at
Ambassador Hotel for one night, took breakfast in the morning
and went to Thai Market for some shopping. In the evening at 6
PM Thai Airways TG 315 after all formalities flew off for Delhi and
at 11 PM we reached Delhi Airport. There we were received by
Monika, Sandeep and family and reached Monika house at Rohini.
Really it was better trip than the previous one. In the morning on
14th July Sonika, Dheeraj and Shreya come to Monika’s house to
greet us and in the evening left for Ghaziabad carrying their
materials which we had brought for them. On 17th Tuesday after
taking breakfast, we went to our home at Janakpuri. On 22nd the
Sunday we attended the Greh Pravesh of our Ground Floor flat
owned by Mr. Bhatnagar. On 31st July, we left for Monika’s house
at Rohini. And on 1st August, we went to the Society Temple, being
my parents Death Anniversary and handed Dakshna to the temple
priest. On 4th August, we both went to the Astrologist, opposite to
Monika’s house and clarified our queries and predicted about us.
Sandeep was not feeling well and seeing his condition, my wife
told him that it was the disease of Harpiece and his doctor also
confirmed and gave him the treatment. Had my wife not
diagnosed, it would have spread to the whole body, which was
very dangerous. On 5th August the birth day of Dheeraj, we left for
Ghaziabad through Metro and they took us to South Extension
Market and there we purchased three sets of footwears and then
to Dheeraj’s sister hosue at Sahibabad and after taking dinner at
Krishna Sagar we came to Sonika’s house. On 19th we came back
to Janakpur and took dinner Kadimi restaurant and masala dosa
was my wife’s favourite. On 28th August, being Raksha Bandhan

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day we both along with Monika’s family went to Ved’s house living
in C3 Block and there we took breakfast to our heart’s content. In
the afternoon, Sunita’s elder sister Dalia, cme to our house and
we handed over the packet to her sent by Shivendra and Sunita.
And in the evening Sonika, Dheeraj and Shreya came to our house
and after taking dinner, We all went to Ghaziabad. On 1st
September the Saturday we all went to the Shipra Mall which is
the unique market for shopping and entertainment. On 2nd
September we set out for Rohini through Metro and there was
Monika’s family waiting for us at the Rohini West Station. On 6th
September being the marriage anniversary day of Monika and
Sandeep, we both wished them and blessed them for their happy
long life and on this day, a Panditji Prakash Sharma, the astrologer
came to their house and predicted many fore say for us. On 8 th
night we all including Monika’s family went to attend the Bhagwati
Jaagran as invited by Usha and Satish Verma, the sister in law of
Ved and there we had a heavy dinner and took Prasad at home
too. It was like that of a marriage function and Narinder Chanchal
rendered many melodious hymns. On 12th Sept the birthday of
Sonika, we celebrated it in the evening at Ghaziabad but being
Dheeraj out of the station, we celebrated it on Sunday, the 16 th
very gracefully. On 15th there was a call from Sandeep Aggarwal,
our 2nd floor neighbour that Mr. Goswami, our opposite neighbour
had expired. On Monday, the 24th T20 final cricket match to be
played between India and Pakistan in which India got victory and
declared to be world champions and we both felt happy to see the
match on T.V. On 1st October 07 our 39th marriage anniversary day
we went to Satyam Distt. Centre and saw the movie, “Dhamal”
which was a big comedy and had a dinner at Kadimi Restaurant.
On 7th Oct. my birthday at Ghaziabad we all had a lunch at Sukh
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left for Jaipur on officially tour. On 17th Oct. 07 the Wednesday, we
both went to BB Block Mandir, Pand RP Office and boarded the bus
for Akshardham, the miracle piece of art, where there was the
history of India depicted with music and sound, multi coloured
watery fountains and seeing the gesture, my wife spoke very high
of it. On 18th Oct. there was a good atmosphere at our home
because Monika, Sonika alongwith their families had come to our
home to see the Sampuran Ramayan programme at Ram Leela
Ground which was a big entertaining for the children. On 21st
being the Dushera Day, we went to C5 Ram Leela Ground and
took Jalebi as a Prasad. On 29th the Monday, Karva Chowth Fast
day and my wife performing the puja, then we took dinner at night
at night. On 1st Nov. the Thursday, my wife’s birthday and we
remained busy from morn to night. Like mine birthday, we at first
went to Satyam Distt. Centre and saw the movie, “Bhool Bhuliyan”
which was our last move to see in the hall and then we had a
dinner at Kadimi Restaurant and she ordered for “Masala Dosa”
while I preferred “Idli” and we both shared together. On 3 rd
November, the Saturday, we hired an auto and went to Patel
Nagar, my elder brother’s hosue to give them “Baye” and there
we wonder struck to seem my Bhabi’s condition as she was
completely bed ridden, unable to sit and stand properly. On 4th
Sunday we attended the senior citizens brotherhood meeting at B
block and had there lunch. On 6th November we could not got to
Kailash Colony, prayer for Behnji’s anniversary because my wife
was not feeling well on that day. On 9th Nov. 07 the pious Hindu
festival the Deepawali Day, we decorated our home with new
photos and distributed the sweets and other eatables to our
friends to our friends and neighbours and illuminated our home as
usual. On 11th Nov, the Bhaiya Dooj Festival and both the families
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festivity descently. Moreover there was a call from Shivendra and
we all of us had a long chat together. On 13th we had confirmation
about the tickets and on 15th November we alongiwht Sonika nad
Dheeraj, Shreya boarded the train at Safdarjung Rly Station for
the pilgrimage to Mata Vaishno Devi. But before reaching Jammu,
we got the sad news of the death of Sandeep’s father. We had the
complete Darshan and my wife’s long cherished wish was
achieved. We were extremely overfoeyd to see Mata Darbar and
came back to Delhi via Rajasthan Express. We thanked Dheeraj
for the nice arrangement. On Sunday at home being exhausted,
she did a great labour and arranged Kanjaka and after performing
Puja and Kanjak, we both went to Rohini, to console Sandeep and
his family. On 19th November, we attended the Uthaoni ceremony
of Sandeep’s father at Rohini and stayed there for six hours. There
we met Vid, Shashi, Raji, Rajinder, Sonika, Dheeraj, Sunita’s
parents and Monika’s in laws. We performed the ceremony
traditionally and after bidding “Bye” we came back to home. We
were so tired that without taking anything, we went to bed. The
next day, the 20th November, Srishti’s birthday and e
congratulated her on her birth day and luckily our greetings had
already been received by them. On 25th November we again went
to Patel Nagar to ask about my Bhabi’s health and to give them
the Prasad of Mata Vaishno Deviand on the way back we came
through Metro. On 30th, Friday, there was a religious conference at
our home and on the topic of “Mind, Body and Soul” attended by
eight persons, the disciples of Sai Ramji, my wife had a spiritual
joy and served them tea with snacks. On 15 th December, Shreya’s
birthday, we reached Sonika’s house attended the festivity and it
was nice to be present among 20 children, descently celebrated
with Coke and snacks and other eatables, enjoyed music and fun
with games. And on 17th Dheeraj dropped us at Dhaula Kuan and

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by auto, we reached home at 8 PM. On 20th December 07 being
the coldest day of the season with the temperature 4.2. I
remained at home and could not got for trading. And at 7 PM, it
started pain to my wife and Suntia Sharma the sister was called in
and she gave her injection and my wife got some relief and had a
sound sleep. On the enxt day, the 21st the Eid Bakreed Monika,
Sonika and their families all came to us and on 22nd the Sunday
we made a call to Shivendra and asked about the earthquake that
fell in Giberton, New Zeeland and there was everything normal.
On 25th the Christmas Day at 3 PM we both went to Sanatan
Dharm Temple to attend the Uthaoni of Anu’s father alongwith
Monika, Sandeep and his mother. On 27th December, 07 we got
the news that Sonika’s mother in law who was admitted in the
hospital got operated for her two ankles and she was perfectly
well. On 30th the Sunday very busy scheduled, at firs ti attended
the meeting at Mr. Chhabra’s house, then to DESu Mandir and
then alongwith my wife went to P and RP Association programme
and my wife used to attend it every year.

On 1st January, 08 New Year Day Shivendra, Sunita,

Srishtiwished us Happy New Year and we also exchanged good
wishes to them. On 6th the Sunday, we both went to Monika’s
house at Rohini and from there we all left for Ghaziabad to ask
about Sonika’s mother in law who had recently undergone ankles
operation and then on the way back we all went to Gurudwara
Moti Bagh, Historical important one and then they dropped us
home at Janakpuri. On 13th January the Lohri Day, I went to C4G
Gurudwara, had a lunch and took Prasad for my wife. On 18th the
Friday there was a cell from Shashi and Mohindra of Nangal and
on this day we both went to Chander’s hosue at Hasthal and there
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son Inder Mani. On the next day the 19th we went to Distt Centre
shopping centre to buy Reebok shoes but there the shop was
closed and then we went to Rajouri Garden Market and purchased
the Reebok shoes and met Raji at her house. On 25th January we
received a call form Shivendra and came to know that they were
going to depart for Australia to meet their friend for three days.
On 27th we got invitation for Raj-Prem’s daughter marriage to be
held on 1st February and they wanted our accommodation for their
guests. And accordingly, their guests from Jammu stayed with us
for four nights from 29th January to 2nd February. On 1st February
08 the Friday the marriage day and we both went to C4G Park to
attend it but we came earlier and did not participate the function
properly because of my wife ill health and at night she had the
problem of loose motions and indigestion and at 12.30 night. She
was given injection and then she had a sleep. On 5th February the
Tuesday I went o C5c/IC house S Gobind Singh and then to CP
Singh’s house to pay them homage and on 8th we both went to S.
Gobind Singh. On 17 the Sunday I alongwith Mr. D.S. Bagga went
to Gurudwara rakab Gunj and there after bowing my head to the
Guru Granth Sahib for my wife’s health, I had a longer there and
purchased a good suit for my wife from Baru Sahib Stall and that
suit my wife wore well. On 24th the Sunday we were ready to leave
for Monika’s house and luckily Mr. Amritpal Singh fo C5A-148 gave
us lift to Rohini, Monika’s house and they, husband and wife were
happy to meet Monika’s family. And in the evening there were 25
children of the society attended the 2 birthday of Dhruva and
there was a good arrangement of cake, snacks and heavy tea.
Sonika, Dheeraj, Shreya also had come from Ghaziabad to attend
the party. At night they went to their home but we stayed there
for the night and on the next day morning we reached our home.
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presented by P.Chidambram in the Parliament and it was the
nicest budget in the history of India but the opposite parties called
it a election budget. On 6th March being the “Mahashivratri Day”. I
read out the article written by me being the cultural secretary of
the Health and Laughing Club and all the 60 members appreciated
it and on the next day the 7th March we both went to Rajiv Gandhi
Hospital to get my wife checked and from there we went to
Monika’s house but come back to our home in the evening. On 9 th
March the Sunday I went to Green Valley Flats near Faridabad to
attend my guru bhai friend Chopra’s “Greh Pravesh” ceremony
but my wife stayed at home. On 11th the Tuesday we went to DDU
Hospital Hari Nagar to get Medicine being the Delhi Govt. Medical
Card Holder. On 13th March Thursday my wife got herself checked
at Verma’s Laboratory of various tests like X-ray, Lever, Kidney,
Hb Sugar as prescribed by RGCI and luckily all the tests were O.K.
On 18th I went t DDU Hospital and met Dr. Swami and Mr. Bakshi
and got information and procedures for the treatment of my wife
from Rajiv Gandhi Hospital. On 21st we both went to DDU Hospital
and my wife got checked from the concerned doctor and the
doctor in charge signed and referred to the RGCI Hospital as we
required. Then we went to the P and RP Association, BI to attend
“Holi Function” met there known friends and had heavy lunch too.
On 22nd the Duhlandi Day, in the morning I gave a speech on the
festival among my health club and we went to Ved’s house took
their breakfast and celebrated the festivity with friends and
nieghbours. On 23rd the Sunday there was a great pomp and show
in our house as Monika, Sonika and their families had gathered
and celebrated the day much and in the evening, they all
dispersed. On 24th we went to DDU t get the certificate with all the
formalities completed for Rajiv Gandhi Hospital treatment and on
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on 26th went to Green Park GMRI and got done the MRI got the
report on 27th the Wednesday and showed to the RGCI, Rohini on
28th and they also recommended for biopsy and on 31st the
Monday, they declared of the reoccurrence of the same problem
which was nine years before and there was thickness found on the
left side of the vagina and we both were stunned to know. We
immediately locked our house and set out for Monika’s house at
least for one month to get treatment from RGCI. On 1 st April the
Tuesday all the tests done on my wife like Biopsy, Sigma Doscopy,
Nuclear Medicine Cytoscopy, Histopath Lab., ECG, X-ray, Echo, All
blood and Urine tests from the RT Deptt. and then the case was
discussed in the conference hall for two times and there they
concluded that Chemotherapy could be given and the first dose fo
chemo started on 14th April she was admitted to the hospital on
14th for one day and night. And for this Sandeep and Sonika
helped a lot. On 17th April night Shivendra came to us from New
Zeeland for a month. From 7th April Mrityunjay Path had already
been started from the Panditji and his associates who lived
opposite to Arya Apartments, Monika’s house and for that he was
given around ten thousand rupees for 51,000 jaaps. It was
performed as my wife wished. The round of Chemotherapy of
Type I started from 14th April and finished on 14th June, 08 for
seven time and each Chemo costed nearly Rs. 25,000/- with day
and night care and for that each and every member of the family
contributed but after the 7the Chemotherapy the doctor
concerned (Col.) Dr. Ranga Rao openly told that the
Chemotherapy did not effect but it spread more and the new type
II chemotherapy would be fixed on 28th June. On 19th June, we all
went to Max Hospital to meet Dr. Amit Bhargava, known to
Dheeraj and he also did not satisfy us. On 24th June, Tuesday, we
hired a taxi and reached AIIMS and met Dr. Mohanty, HOD,

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radiation and got the 2nd opinion and he told that the treatment
given by RGCI was sufficiently good and there was no other
option. On 27th June, we both along with Sonika went to RGCI and
there all the concerned tests were completed and got the room
through Dr. Ranga Rao for the new Chema to be given on 28 th and
there Ved and Shashi met my wife and Sonika while I was busy in
the hospital work. On the fixed date, the chemotherapy started at
8 PM and remained upto 11:30 PM and with no side effects and
Sonika stayed at night with her mother and on the next day at 2
PM, she was discharged from the hospital and we stayed at
Rohini. On 29th The Sunday morning, we alongwith Monika,
Sandeep and family went to Gulabi Bagh mandir, had the Mata
Darshan but could not participate the Bhandara with them
because my wife didn’t fell well and we both immediately came
back home on 4th July at 2 AM, midnight, my wife got a severe
pain at the stomach and was admitted in the casualty ward at
RGCI and I stayed at night while Dheeraj and Sandeep both
donated blood to her and then on 5th. She was given
Chemotherapy 2nd dose in the morning and then was discharged
in the evening. On 12th July on a Shivendra’s birthday there was a
call from them and we congratulated him on his birthday from
Ghaziabad on 13th the Sunday, babu and Neeru came to
Ghaziabad to ask about my wife’s health and presented her some
gifts too. On 18th Friday we alongwith Dheeraj went to RGCI,
Rohini, but due to THC Cells week Chemo could not be given and
on 21st Monday we set out for RGCI from Ghazibad and reached
there for my wife’s next chemotherapy and after the blood tests,
it started chem. And after that in the evening we came back to
Monika’s house. And the same dose of Chemotherapy was
repeated on 28th July after all the blood tests done. On 0th July the
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severe pain and lose motions, she had to admit in the RGCI in the
causality Ward and there she was given drip and injections and on
31st in the evening she was discharged. On 5th August, we all were
not feeling well and couldn’t celebrate Dheeraj’s Birthday at
Ghaziabad and on 9th August, the Saturday, being a lucky day, we
all went to Silver City Cinema Hall and saw the movie “Singh in
King” and we all particularly my wife enjoyed the movie it being a
great entertaining and comedy. On 10th the Sunday there was a
call from Shivendra and Shashi Mahindra of Nangal made us call
too.

On 12th Tuesday, we left for RGCI, Rohini alongwith Dheeraj and

got tested all tests, HB was down 8 degrees, on the next day, the
13th August, blood was givens by Suresh Gupta, Shivendra’s friend
and by Sweety, Ved’s daughter and then my wife was admitted to
Hospital for the next Chemotherapy for two days and released on
the 15th August’08. The next day, the 16th being Rakhi day there
was a good gathering at Monika’s house as Bhaiya ji from Kailash
Colona, Sonika, Dheeraj family and Ved Shashi all came to meet
us at Monika’s house. On 21st August being the last dose of
Chemotherapy and it was given free of cost by the Delhi
Representative of Dr. Reddy’s Company and my wife was given in
the proper way and Dr. Ranga Rao gave us the next date of 3 rd,
September’08 to meet. In between on 24th August we started the
Ayurvedic medicine prepared by the Vaid ji of Dichaon Jalan
Village near Nazafgarh and for that from Ghaziabad to the village,
we all went there met Pt. Hari Chand Ji Vaid and got the medicine
but in the first two three doses being not suited to my wife, left it.
On 3rd September’08, I along with my wife and Dheeraj went to
RGC & Rohini to meet the concerned doctor and there MRI and
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ji and gave him the balance of Rs. 15,850/- and got the Ring for
Dheeraj. On the next day, 4th September, we collected the MRI
and all the blood tests X-Ray reports and met Dr. Ranga Rao and
Dr. Sankhen and they both advised us to stop chemotherapy for
ever and gave oral capsule and other medicines and called us to
meet the next week and in between the treatment given by Dr.
Munir Khan of Bombay started and the medicine sent by Sanjay
Kumar was collected from Savita, his wife at Noida, by Dheeraj
and Sonika and made them the payment of Rs. 15,000/-. On 18th
September, we all Sonika, Dreeraj, his mother too went to
Janakpuri, our home and there our all neighbours particularly Raj’s
Wife, S. Amarjeet Singh, Mrs. Gulati and Mrs. Yadav welcome us
and they asked about my wife’s health. And Dheeraj’s mother
went to Nishant Jewellers to purchase something and we all came
backs to Ghaziabad.s On 23td September at night, my wife didn’t
fell well, did vomiting and felt stomach pain. She was so weak that
she could not stand properly and found no relief with any of the
medicine and the treatment. She had reduced 5 kg weight, her
face had become mild pale and her health was going to
deteriorate with chemotherapy and Dr. Munir Khan medicine but
what to do being helpless. On Ist October’08 our 40th Marriage
Anniversary, we congratulated each other and our children wished
us many whishes, Shivendra and his family made a call, Monik and
her family too made a call to us and we both alongwith Sonika,
Dheeraj his mother and Shreya, Dheeraj his mother and Shreyas
went to Krishna Sagar Restaurant took their lunch ands on the
way back we all took Ice-cream and my wife was very happy to
ceremonise the occasion. And similarly on 7th Oct my birth day we
all took dinner to our fill at Krishna Sagar and took Ice-cream from
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On 9th October’08 a very special day Dushera Day, We hired a taxi
and reached Rohini to attend the Mundan Ceremony of Dhruva,
attended the Havan, then barbers work of cutting hairs then
heavy lunch and we both gave them sweets, fruit, cash and above
all Gold coins to Monika and Sonika families and it was my wife’s
long cherished wish. On 16th Oct’08 we both went to RGCI, met
the doctor and got the new oral medicine and on this day, Rajji,
her niece came to Monika’s house and we all met her. And in the
evening at 5 P.M., we hired a taxi and we all reached Ghaziabad at
7 P.M. and we all went to Krishna Sagar, Raj Nagar at night
because of Dheeraj’s mother birth day and took eggless pastry
and my wife gave her some cash. On 17th Friday the Karva Choth
Day my wife performed all the ceremony but she was not feeling
well and at night she started vomiting and lose motions but she
took Dr. Munir Khan’s 12th dose. On 20th October again she felt
unwell and not in a position to stand and walk. Because of
cancerion pain she could not sleep soundly and always preferred
to sleep all the time. No medicine seemed to be effective and she
reduced her weight from 54 to 48 in three months.
The date of Shivendra’s coming to India was approaching and on
25th the Saturday, he came to Ghazibad from New Zealand via
Hyderabad and met all of us with open arms. And my wife was
profusely happy to see him and it looked as if she had no an
problem and there was a natural smile on her face after a pretty
long time. On 28th October’08, the Diwali Day, we three including
Shivendra hired a taxi and went to our Janakpuri home and there
we met Ved and Shashi and all our neighbours too and my wife
illuminated Diya and performed the Puja and came back to
Ghaziabad in the evening. And at Sonika’s house, we both the
families performed Deepavli Puja with systematic Hindu ways. We
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Dheeraj, Sonika, Shreya and upper neighbours unfurled crackers
too and the Prasad was distributed to all.
On 30th October’08 on Bhaiya Dooj Festival my two daughters
along with their families and my son all assembled at Sonika’s
house and my wife was very happy to see all of them after a petty
long time celebrating this Tikka Festival and Shivendra had
brought many gifts for all of us and particularly for children. It was
also the day of Sonika, Dheeraj 10th Wedding Anniversary and it
added the charm of the function. On Ist November’08 the Birth
day of my wife and we all the members of three families bade
good morning as well as Happy Birthday to my wife. It was her
66th birthday as per official records. At 8 P.M. we all went to Sagar
Ratna for dinner but my wife took almost nothing as she was not
properly well but we all enjoyed her birthday. That night
Shivendra could not even a wink of sleep because his ticket was
not confirmed due to some mistake. At the eleventh house it was
done and he got ready for the USA flight, left the home at 7:30
A.M. and reached the airport for USA and then for New Zealand
too.
On 7th November we hired a taxi and left for Rohini and on the
way we dropped Dheeraj’s mother at Sahibabad and took the
appointment to meet Dr. Ranga Rao and on 8th he examined and
suggested to paste a Patch for pain relief and my wife did it. Munir
Khan’s medicine continued side by side. On 13th, November, we
handed over the Ring to Dheeraj by the Pandit Ji of Rani Baghs
and got the news from Sonika that Dheeraj got the job from
Videocon but the posting would be at Karnal. On the next day, the
14th, my wife got sudden pain and she was rushed to RGCI in the
Causality Ward and then shifted to Room No. 354B. There she was
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Ranga Rao for t two days and then she was discharged on 15th
evening.
And on 17th, we collected the MRI report and found that it was
stable on 20th November, Srishti’s Birthday, we congratulated her
on the day and Shivendra made us call for three times asking my
wife’s health and she could not go to the Hospital to meet the
doctor. On 22nd the Saturday we got the bad and sad news of my
brother Prithvi Raj’s wife death and we three Sandeep and Monika
got ready for Patel Nagar and attended the funeral and to Sant
Nagar Cremation Ground but my wife couldn’t attend it owing to
utmost weakness. And on 24th, the Monday I went to Patel Nagar,
Neelam’s house and remained there till evening to attend the
Uthavni Ceremony of my Bhabhi, Monika, her mother-in-law,
Sonika, Dheeraj, Charanjit his wife, Bunty, Satinder his mother,
Krishna and her family were all present there and it was the
gathering of 200 persons at Lal Mandir, Patel Nagar. All the last
rites ceremonies were performed by Neelam’s elder son,
Bunty(Sandeep).
On 26th, November’08 at night my wife got again abdomnel pain,
the componder was called in and he gave Boscopin injection and
then she got relief and slept. On 27th we at first went to ours
Janakpuri house, and in the same taxi, we left for Ghaizabad. On
the two days i.e. 26th and 27th November’08 there was heavy
blast and Counter attack by the Terrorists and the Military, Police
at Taj Hotel, Oberoi Hotel and Nriman House at Mumbai and there
more than 200 lives lost and multi crores damage occurred.
Reaching Ghaziabad, my wife was given injection at the Sarvodya
Hospital and then she went to sleep. O n 4ths December’08 at 9
PMs, Abdomnel pain started again to my wife and at first went to
Aastha Medical Centre and then at midnight, same problem
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there she got the treatment and on the next day at 1 PM, she was
discharged from the Hospital.
On 11th December, being the marriage anniversary day of
Shivendra and Sunita, we made a call to them and wished them
Happy Marriage Anniversary Day but for the first time, we could
not send them the Greeting Card as being busy in the treatment
of my wife. On 12th, my wife did not feel well and had to be
admitted in the Sarvodya Hospital and then ultimately went to
Rajiv Gandhi Hospital by hiring a taxi and there the doctor
concerned Dr. Ranga Rao checked my wife’s condition, got the
medicine and came back to Ghaziabad in the same taxi.
On Sunday, the 14th, while coming back from the Gurudwara, I
stumbled down and got injuries at my ankles and hands and thank
God there was no fracture. Dheeraj took me to the Sarvodya
Hospital and there I ws infected and got the medicine. On 15 th
December, Shreya’s birthday, we gave 5 kg floor each to the both
maids of Sonika’s house and donated some cash and sweets too
and they both blessed to my wife. On 19th December, my wife had
a problem of urine pass and a cute pain also in the abdomnel and
she had to be admitted in the RGCI, Rohini and the Dr. Ranga Rao
suggested to tie urine bag on her right side and then she got
some relief and the urine passed on but looking awkward. Monika
also accompanied us to the hospital and we both came back to
Ghaziabad in the evening.
On 24th December at 4 PM, Shivendra came to us from New
Zealand for ever and joined an American Company Dupont at
Hyderabad. It was a good news for all of us and my wife got much
relief and felt overjoyed. On 28th December, after Dheeraj’s arrival
from Karnal, we all celebrated Shreya’s Birthday and it was a
special day because Monika and her family, Reshma and her
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good arrangement of spl. Snacks, drinks, cake and dinner and we
including Shivendra enjoyed it to the maximum. On the next day
Dheeraj went to Karnel on duty and Shivendra went to Dwarka to
bring car of his in-laws. I paid Rs. 30,000/- through PNB cheque to
Monika for the double dose of Munir Khan’s medicine to continue.
On 30th December, my wife felt the same problem of vomiting and
lose motions and we hired a car to go to RGCI, Rohini and there
she remained for two days and then was discharged on Ist January
and there Monika and Shivendra both did a lot to get relief to
their mother. So the charm of New Years Day had been vanished.
On 2nds and 3rd January, Shivendra and Sonika had to struggle to
search for a permanent maid for their mother and for that they
moved to Shakurpur and Palam Vihar Agenciess and ultimately
they successed to get the maid belonging to Darjelling, Nepal, my
wife’s choice. On 4th, the Sunday we both hired a taxi and reached
our home at Janakpuri and Shivendra, Sonika along with the maid
were already there waiting for us and after our arrival, my wife felt
tremendous relief and happiness and it was our cherished wish to
be found at our sweet home, full of all amenties.
On 7th, Ved and Shashi, on 8th Babu and Neeru and on 11th
Chander, they all came to meet my wife but she was deterioting
day by day and was unable to stand properly. Moreover she was
unable to change clothes herself and found difficulty in moving
independently. She was going in the stage of oblivion also and
started murmuring. On 13th January, the Lohri Days, important
festival for Punjabis and it happened for the first time that we
could not go to Monika and it happened for the first time that we
could not go to Monika and Sonika houses to present gifts and
they too realized the situation.
We along with Shivendra and our maid, Uma, celebrated the
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difficulty and did the customary formalities. And similarly on 14th,
the Makar Sankrati Day, we did God’s prayer and donated to the
poor as we could. On 16th night at 11 PM, my wife felt again the
problem of acute pain, vomiting, indigestion and we all set out for
RGCI and there she was admitted in the Causality Ward and
remained there for five hours and in the morning at 4 AM on 17th.
We came back home. On 21st, Jeet, my cousin came to meet us
and was wonder struck to see my wife’s condition. On 23rd we all
went to RGCI as my wife felt the same problem and the doctor
after examining told us that in future Home Care Team would
come to our home to examine and needed not to come to the
Hospital and on 27th, the team alongwith the hospital van came
and checked her condition thoroughly and provided the help they
could. Raji had also came on this day. On 31st the Saturday,
Sonika and Shreya came to our home and in the evening Ladi and
Arun came to our house to give us the invitation card and sweets
to attend the marriage of their son to be held on 19th Feb’08. On
11th February, Mrs. Gauri and in the evening Shivendra’s in-laws
came to our house to ask about my wife’s health and her
condition was going to be deterioted day by day despite being
given injections by Sunita Sharma on 12th Feb.
And on 13th Feb. in the morning the doctors team came from the
hospital and examineds my wife and in the evening at 5 PM my
wife got another complication and we immediately rushed to RGCI
in the causality ward and there the doctor alongwith Surgeons
examined and replaced the urine pipe. On the way back to home
she was so weak that she could not cross the stairs and she had
to crawl to get in the house and that scene looked to be very
touching but what to do. On 15th night Shivendra all alone
attended Usha’s daughter marriage at Hari Nagar Banquet Hall.
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eat and there started swallowing on her feet and fell from the bed
while taking water on the stool.
At night 9 PM my wife didn’t feel well and we all went to Hospital
and there she was admitted first to causality and then to Ward
Room No.-107A and remained there for four nights and there she
was given medical supporting care and after many diagnosing
tests, she was given satisfactory medical care. Shivendra, myself
and Uma looked after her then she got some relief from the
problem and then discharged from the hospital. On 24th the
Tuesday the 3rd birthday of Dhruva was ceremonised at Rohini and
from our side Shivendra attended the function while we could not
because of my wife’s in capability. On 27th the Friday, Home Care
team from RGCI, Rohini came to our home to check my wife’s
health and gave her satisfactory treatment. On Ist March’08 my
wife got stomach pain and was given injection by the sister Sunita
and again she had a problem of constipation and was given Anima
by the same sister. On 8th March, the Sunday, there was a great
hustle and bustle in our home because Monika and Sonika
alongwith their families had come and Dhruva’s birthday was
celebrated with cake, snacks and dinner and same snaps were
also taken. My wife was over whelmed with joy at seeing the
happy occasion. But in her heart she knew the fact. In the evening
Raji and Rajindra also came to our house and Sonika, Dheeraj
welcomed them in the absence of Shivendra as he had gone to
Hyderabad for his official meeting. On 9th March, Chander, her
sister came to ask about my wife’s health and she was given due
welcome by us.
On 10th and 11th the Holi and Dulhandi Days respectively. I paced
Tikka of Holi to Lord Krishna at home, then to my wife, Shivendra
and Uma and congratulated them on this Auspicious Day. On this
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and my wife took one Pakora being her favourite and we all
enjoyed the festivity much. Our neighbouring ladies had also
come to congratulate my wife but did not enjoy as in the previous
years. In the evening there started a mild pain to my wife and
Sunita, the sister gave injections of Boxopain and she got some
relief.
On 12th March’08, we made up our mind to go to RGCI, Rohini and
after lunch, we with great difficulty alighted the stairs carrying my
wife and she took back seat with the support of Um and reached
the hospital and at first in the Causality Ward and then to rooms.
From 12th to 25th March, it was her last journey period and in the
hospital, she struggled with death. From Room No.-259B to ICU,
she was shifted on 17th being multiple problems of suffocation,
cardiac, acute and unbearable pain in the cancerion part,
uneasiness, memory lost, unutterance and high blood pressure
and on 21st she was shifted to ward room no.-108B and there also
she did not improve and her pulse rate was shooting up, she got
breathing problem and actually going to the conditions of
helpnesses and mentally disordered being blood pressure not in
the normal position. She was not in the stage of fainting and
permanent silence and ultimately on 25th March at 3:05 PM she
breathed her last in the presence of Shivendra, Sunita and the
maid while I and Sonika had gone for lunch at Monika’s house.
Shivendra informed us on the mobile and we both reached there
on the spot and bade her “Good Bye” for ever.
We three, Sonika, Monika and Sandeep came to our home,
unlocked it and did the prior arrangements and in the mean time,
Shivendra, Sunita and the maid brought the body through
Emergency Ambulance Van and with all the traditional Hindu rites
at home and mandir, she was cremated at Delhi Cantt. Cremation
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members, neighbous, friends reached in time and she was given
profound Hindu rituals and ceremonies for the last human journey
and all the last rites ceremonies were performed by me and my
son, Shivendra and she left for heavenly abode for ever and gave
us heavy set back and irreparable loss. Her unforgettable image
will be kept in our heart and the rest of my life will be spent with
her forty years past memories, shared joys and sorrows, at all
seasons and festivals.
For full four days I didn’t move out of my home and on 28th
morning at 8 AM, we the male family members gathered at the
cremation ground and performed the Phool Chuna Ceremony and
from 4 to 5:30 PM there was the Uthawni Ceremony at C3, Ram
Mandir, Janakpuri in the presence of almost 400 people. All my
relatives, neighbours, friends and political, religions leaders were
present there. She was given homage with heavy hearts by the
Mandir Authority, our block secretary, Retd. Teachers Association
Dharmik Maha Sangh Secretary and Bhaiya ji Sh. B.R. Bajaj and
then it was Pagri Rasam and in the last light refreshment.
On 29th March, the next day we four persons (myself, my son,
Sandeep and Dheeraj left for Haridwar carrying her immersions
and ashes and flowed them in the holy water, of the Ganga’s River
at Kankhal and we all took a dip and bath at Har ki Pori and met
our ancestral Purohit too. On 3rd April, being the 10th Ceremony,
we performed at Nigam Bodh Ghat, on 6th April being the 13th day
ceremony for the purification of the house, there was a Havan by
the Arya Smaj Pandit Jagmal Ji, Arya and then the 13 Brahmans
including one female were fed with heavy lunch and were given
donation alongwith nine items to each were also given. And all our
family members presented the occasion. And in this way, she was
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To analyse Darshi’s personality, I can say that she was an ideal
housemaker. She loved her family much and that is why all the
members of our family loved her more. She had a deep affection
with Srishti, being the first child in our family and had an equal
love for others. She had better understanding with all the three
sisters in comparison to brothers. But she had a great admiration
for Behnji of Kailash colony. She was fond of reading but not
writing. She had a complex of having not good hand writing. That
is why she was jealous of my writing beautifully. She had an
enough stock of vocabulary and particularly household articles
and had formed a dictionary of English words for children. She was
introvert and did not like to be mixed up with all the ladies in
circle. To my mind, she never uttered a lie in life and used to
speak spade a spade openly. She disliked gossip making among
women and was a reserved type of woman, confined to family and
household activities. She hesitated to go all alone for shopping
and preferred my company. She was always neat, clean and tidy
and did not like to visit remote, thickly-populated and backward
areas. She loved to see TV serials and specially based on society
like Bidaai, Krishna and Balika Vadhu and for this, she had a
separate TV in her bedroom. She had an extra knowledge of
construction, machinery and medicine. She took a great concern
when any of my ailment occured and took care of my regular diet
being myself the patient of diabetic and heart. She was broad
minded lady and did not like old rituals, orthodox, superstitions
and old dogmas like other old ladies around our vicinity. She was
religions but not fanatic and prejudice. To her Mandir, Arya Samaj
and gurudwara all were one and the same. She was not only
sensitive but also sensuous. To some extent she was pessimistic
and looked dark side of the world. She had a soft corner for the
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washer man, sweeper, maids and other down trodden people.
That is why they miss her even today. She was very much
contented what she had and never wanted me to work extra after
my retirement. She believed in giving more and expected less
from relatives and friends on occasions of joy and merriment.
Being delicate, she did not want to indulge in fighting over trifles
with neghbours and others. She had a sweet voice and did not like
to speak loudly. She was very much hospitable and did not
differiante between her and my relatives and friends to serve.
Being tall and slim, clothes and ornaments suited to her much and
particularly on joyful occasions. She had two wishes- one to dine
at five-star hotel and other journey to abroad and thank God she
had fulfilled the both in life with the support of our son and
daughter-in-law.

In short, she was a perfect virtuous lady to be an exemplary for

others. Need not to say any more.

Thus married life journey started on Ist October, 1968 and ended
on 25th March, 2009. May God grant peace and solace to the

departed soul and strengthen us to bear such an irreparable loss!

Written and Presented

by :-
Jugal K. Bajaj

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