Activity # 10: Am I Assertive?

Assertiveness is the ability to express your wishes and beliefs in a positive way. Too little assertiveness can make you a doormat. Too
much, and you can be bossy and aggressive.

1. Think of a time when you were a doormat.

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Now think of a better way to handle that situation in the future. Write a better response and practice it.
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2. Think of a time when you were too bossy.

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How did you feel? _____________________________________________________________________________________________

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Now think of a better way to handle that situation in the future. Write a better response and practice it.
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