BARROGA, ANGELYN B. EUTHENICS.

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My mistake and failure Manifesto

“ Sometimes we must undergo hardships, breakups, and narcissistic wounds which shatter
the flattering image that we had of ourselves, in order to discover two truths; that we are not who
we thought we are and the loss of a cherish pleasured is not necessarily the loss of true
happiness and well-being.” – Jean Yves Leloup

I write, think, and do mistake a lot.

Everyone, at some point of their life has made a mistake. We exert enormous energy
blaming each other when something goes wrong rather than finding a solutions. Defensiveness
and Accusations take the place of forgiveness and apologies. Other times, we mess up a lot and
have to fix what was damaged over a long period of time. Our failures and mistake teach us
valuable lessons that we only gained because of the experience we gathered after messing up.
We often said that we failed as a son nor a daughter, as a friend or best friend especially as a
human. But we only love the idea of failure and not the idea of growing, that we all failed to reach
expectations on a daily basis in our personal and professional lives. I struggle with resistance
just like everyone else. I want to take the safe, easy and stress free route over the difficult one.
I seek easy over hard. To some, this might not seem like a big deal, but for me it’s a real problem.
You see my life philosophy is based on a few beliefs I hold. It’s not easy to force ourselves to
seek out mistakes and failures. The thing is if we want to become the best we can be, we must.
I would prefer to avoid making mistakes but without perfect attention and perfect prediction they
are inevitable. But now, I want to make mistakes as many as possible because that means I am
making progress. When I am not making mistakes in my eyes. I feel like I’m not making enough
progress. I feel like I’m being safe and comfortable.

A word of advice for someone who had failed. Let your mistake and failures lead you to
success and happiness. Failing at something of failing yourself with often leave painful and
humiliating feelings. And when you fail it also usually means that the return on our time, effort
and money at the moment is nothing. It is a fact that we will all fail at something sooner or later.
It may be with big important things in our life or with small things might seem meaningless, it is
normal to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunset and uneventful nice
days. I always believe that human happiness is defined by hardships and conflicts you have
been through. The greater they are, the greater is your happiness. Always remember that “you
are the storyteller of your own life, and you can create your own legend or not.”

“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I
can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”