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Emotional - Intelligence 11-12 Years PDF
Emotional - Intelligence 11-12 Years PDF
Intelligence
for pre-teens
ages 11-12
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Note to Parents
Emotional Intelligence is a wide range of skills that children of all ages can
develop and improve. These skills are critical for emotional well-being and life
success.
This section of the Youth Deployment Activity Guide is designed to give you
additional age appropriate resources that are helpful in teaching your child about
emotions. The emotional and social skills that are presented were written in order
to help you grow your child.
We encourage you to use these activities throughout the deployment process and
beyond.
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Emotional Intelligence Activities
Ages 11 - 12
InTRApersonal Scales
Self Regard............................................... Spread Your Wings
What Do I Think About Me?
Emotional Self-Awareness .................... And Now a Word From…You!
Feelings
Assertiveness ........................................... Stand Up!
It’s NOT Okay To Do That To Me
Independence ........................................... Independence
What Do You Do?
Self-Actualization ................................... Make Believe
How I Feel
InTERpersonal Scales
Empathy ..................................................... Listening
How Do They Feel?
Social Responsibility ............................... Do I Have To?
Lend a Helping Hand
Interpersonal Relationship.................... Beeee The Best
Your Piece of the Puzzle
Adaptability Scale
Reality Testing ......................................... Mmm-um?
Using Your Head
Flexibility .................................................. On The Move…
Put On A Different Hat!
Problem Solving ........................................ Walking A Tight Rope
Decisions! Decisions!
Stress Management
Stress Tolerance ..................................... How Do You Spell Relief?
Relax!
Impulse Control........................................ Rainy Days
Behind Your Back!
General Mood Scale
Optimism.................................................... Way To Go!
Look On The Bright Side!
Happiness................................................... What Makes You Happy?
I Am Happy When…
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Spread Your Wings
Special animals that were used included: the beaver—the symbol of patience, wisdom, and wealth;
whale—symbol of strength and bravery; thunderbird—the symbol in the sky dealing with thunder and
lightening. The thunderbird is located at the top of the pole. His wings are always outstretched; and
the eagle—is the symbol of wisdom.
Take a minute to think about the positive skills and deeds in your life and design a totem pole. Think
about what type of animal describes your skills and deeds. What deeds and activities have you done
that you would like to tell someone or pass along?
Materials needed:
Markers or paint
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What Do I Think About Me?
Have you ever taken time to really think about "Who you are?" Do you feel
good about the person you are? Feeling good about yourself is called self-esteem. If
you don't feel good about yourself, you won’t use all of your talents and skills. Take a
few minutes to answer the questions below. This exercise will help you be aware of
your beliefs, values, strengths, likes and dislikes.
2. Name something that was hard for you to learn to do - but you kept practicing until it wasn't hard
for you any longer.
3. What is the one thing you have done in your life that you are the most proud of achieving? Why?
4. Name three things about yourself that makes you a good friend.
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AND NOW A WORD FROM ....... YOU!
Directions: On another sheet of paper use the words listed below to design an
advertisement called "How I feel most of the time." Take a moment to think about it.
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Feelings
The following activity may be shared with an adult if you would like.
Write a short definition for the following words or describe an incident that made you feel a
particular way.
Brave__________________________________________________________________
Defeated_______________________________________________________________
Eager__________________________________________________________________
Envious________________________________________________________________
Glad___________________________________________________________________
Hopeless_______________________________________________________________
Jealous_________________________________________________________________
Overwhelmed___________________________________________________________
Peaceful________________________________________________________________
Shy____________________________________________________________________
Tired__________________________________________________________________
Worried_______________________________________________________________
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Stand Up!
Being assertive does not mean being mean or bossy. It
really is okay to let people know what you want and what you
like or dislike.
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The interruption:
Every time you make a phone call to your best friend, your older brother interrupts your
conversation and tells you to hang up the phone. You do not want to make him mad.
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Peer Pressure:
Jason, Elizabeth and Chad are your best friends. They have decided to skip English class
because they did not finish the homework assignment. You do not want to skip class and you do
not want to make your friends mad.
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It’s NOT Okay To Do That To Me
A bully is someone who unfairly uses his or her power, socially, emotionally or physically, to
hurt someone else over and over.
Can you identify bullying acts? Write the following words under the correct heading:
kicking, dirty looks, embarrassing, hitting, insults, gossiping, shoving, name calling, teasing, hurting
friendship of others, breaking things, holding nose, cliques,
making fun of someone’s clothes
The best way to deal with a bully is to use the power of your mind and emotions and take away the
bully’s power.
1. Make friends. Be kind and friendly. Most bullies feel angry and hurt.
2. Refuse to fight and walk away. Decide if fighting solves anything. Walking away takes
courage.
3. Agree or stand up to the bully. Surprise the bully. If you show that the bully’s words don’t
hurt you, you’re taking away the bully’s power.
4. Use Authority. You are showing the bully you are not afraid to call on someone who is more
powerful than the bully to help you.
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Independence
Being independent means that we make decisions and do other things
without being dependent too much on others. As you get older and
learn more about the world and gain new skills, you will want
to test your ability to do things on your own.
List the advantages of being independent.
It is okay to depend on others at times such as, police officers, your dentist, etc.
Name three other people that may be ready to help you.
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What Do You Do?
In this activity you will learn how independent you are. Answer the following
questions and share them with your parents.
Make a list of all the things you do on your own including what you do around the house.
What do you feel that you can do by yourself without help from a grown up?
Do you feel that people see you as independent or just a little kid?
What things would you like to do on your own that you aren’t currently doing?
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Make Believe
Have you ever wanted to do something exciting, daring, or just fun? Have
you ever wanted to be a cook, a taxi driver, president, or maybe a lion tamer?
In this exercise all you need to use is your imagination.
Write down four things that you would like to be when you grow up.
On another piece of paper, design a house that you would like to live in, a
car you would like to drive or clothes you would like to wear.
Now, imagine yourself doing the job of your choice, wearing the clothes
you've designed, driving the car around the city you have chosen and living
in the house you've designed. How do you feel?
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How I Feel
Materials Needed:
Empty Jar
Scissors
Magazines
Journal
Directions: Take the words in the columns on the left and cut them out. Fold the
pieces of paper and place them in a jar. Weekly, take one of the pieces of paper out
and either make a collage out of pictures from a magazine on how you view that
feelings or take that word and write in your journal about when you have
felt that way.
Caring Sad
Confident Angry
Impatience Calm
Glad Hopeful
Eager Happy
Worried Hurt
Excited Panic
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Listening
Call your local paper and see what information is necessary for an
article to appear in the paper. Then call the individual and explain
why you are writing this article.
Do not record the interview - rely strictly on your listening skills to gather
and write down the information you are given.
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How Do They Feel?
12 1.__________________
10 2.__________________
1 3.__________________
4.__________________
5.__________________
9 2
6.__________________
8 3 7.__________________
8.__________________
7
9.__________________
4 10.__________________
11.__________________
6 12.__________________
5
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Do I Have To …?
What is responsibility?
Responsibility is being able to answer for one’s conduct and carry through with obligations.
For each situation give examples of when you have been responsible and when you have been
irresponsible.
SCHOOL
I was responsible when:
HOME
I was responsible when: I was irresponsible when:
COMMUNITY
I was responsible when:
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Lend a Helping Hand
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Beeee the Best
Using the examples given, write one thing
on each petal of your flower to describe what
makes YOU a really good friend. Now, think of
your best friend (p.s. it can be one of your
parents, too) and write one thing on each petal of
their flower to describe what makes THEM a
special person.
I You
Am Honest
Are
Kind
You can make a poster for your friend and give it to them.
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Your Piece of the Puzzle
Your family is like a puzzle with every person having important roles
and responsibilities. Like a puzzle, each person is needed to make the
family complete.
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Mmm - um?
How we see the world is how we think it really is. You
may not have all the facts or they may be inaccurate but you
are convinced they are true.
Let's take a look at the following statements. Note how their perception was way off
the "reality mark."
Now ask yourself: "What views do I have that may be limiting me in life?"
Write your responses below:
Think about careers of the future and how technology has opened doors to areas that
we never thought possible. Create a collage of pictures related to jobs that you might
be interested in the future.
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Using Your Head
It is important to be able to tell the difference between reality and fantasy. Sometimes we can
make decisions based on what we think is REAL but later discover we were wrong.
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On the Move …
Your family is moving to a new location in two days. You have learned that your new
room is smaller than the one you now have. You must compromise and be flexible in
what you take with you.
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What will you do with the items you decide to leave behind?
_______________________________________________________________________________
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Put On A Different Hat!
Have you ever tried to wear someone else’s hat? What about your mom’s hat when
she is balancing the checkbook? What about your dad’s hat when he is repairing the
kitchen sink?
What would happen if you had to wear someone else’s hat for a whole day? Are
you flexible enough to handle all the things that go along with wearing that hat?
Not only do we need to be flexible when we wear someone else’s hat, we also need
to be flexible in our roles as friends, children, siblings, players, and students.
Look at the hats below and answer each of the questions.
SOLDIER
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Not only do we lose our
balance on the outside, but
there are times we feel out
Walking a Tight Rope of balance on the inside.
What would happen to a tight-rope walker if he/she lost their balance?
Have you ever lost your balance just walking down the street? How does it make you feel?
Have you felt angry or afraid on the inside? What did you do?
Think of a way to remind yourself to act differently next time you want to lose control.
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Decisions! Decisions!
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How do you spell relief?
Exercise is one great way to blow off some steam. Stress can really cause problems if you
don’t deal with it effectively.
Look at the pictures below and answer the following questions for each activity.
How would doing this activity How often would you do this activity?
help you relieve stress?
What are other activities you could do to help you relieve stress in your life?
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Relax! Learning to relax helps you
manage STRESS!
Identify some situations that you have made you feel stressed out, like …
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Rainy Days
Impulse control is the ability to control the way we respond to
certain situations. Sometimes we are in a situation that we find
very frustrating and we react before we allow ourselves to think it
through.
For Example:
We can’t control…
Soccer games
Our parents
Our siblings
The weather
RESPOND!
Using the situations below, write a response that
demonstrates impulse control and one that demonstrates
NO impulse control.
Example:
1. You overhear someone making fun of how you played during a game.
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Behind Your Back!
As we mature, we must manage our emotions so that we do not lash
out or hurt other people just because they do something we don’t
like. Read the following example and complete the exercise.
You overhear your best friend talking negatively behind your back.
Just ten minutes earlier, the same friend was being nice to your face.
Immature Mature
Example: Tell them off Example: Confront your friend and calmly tell them
how you feel.
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Way To Go!
“I’m so stupid!” “I should have never said that to my Mom,
I wish I could take those words back.”
A lot of the time we say nothing good about ourselves. In other words, we do a lot of NEGATIVE
self-talk or have thoughts that have no logic. When you spend time this way, it gives you excuses
that limit how you use your talents and skills.
Take a few moments and check any of the following negative thoughts that you may have about
yourself. Put a star by any positive thoughts you may have.
___I don’t want to go to school. ___Today I will count how many times I
smile.
___I don’t like helping my parents. ___I will help my parent clean up the dishes
after dinner.
___I think my teacher thinks I’m stupid. ___My teacher thinks I have improved.
___I fight with my little brother/sister ___I will spend quality time with my
everyday. brother/sister.
___I don’t like reading books. ___I will read an article about something I
like to do.
GO ME!
Yeah
Me!
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Look On The Bright Side!
In this activity you will reflect upon how to cheer yourself up in bad situations. Take
each situation and think about how you could handle it in a positive way.
Situation 1: You just had your bike stolen. You did not lock your
bike up while you went into the store. How can you make this
situation a positive one?
Situation 2: You have lost your favorite toy. You have had this toy
since you were very young. It was a favorite keepsake. How would
you perk yourself up after such a disappointment?
Situation 3: You have stayed up for the past three days studying for
your math finals. You have drilled over multiplication and division for
hours. After three days of work you take your test. Unfortunately,
you did not do so well on the test. How would you manage to cheer
yourself up after all the effort put into the test?
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What Makes You Happy?
Here’s an activity that helps you decide what makes you happy.
Write as many reasons as you can think of to tell why this person,
place or activity makes you feel happy.
• School _______________________________________________
• Lunch ________________________________________________
• Laundry ______________________________________________
• Home ________________________________________________
• Camping ______________________________________________
• Friends ______________________________________________
• Pets ________________________________________________
• Art _________________________________________________
• Math ________________________________________________
• Reading ______________________________________________
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I Am Happy When…
I am happy with…
I am happy to be me because…
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