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Features
Letter from the Publisher ....................2
The Swingers Next Door
Are Your Neighbors Swingers?
by Brian Depenbrock ...................................6
LifeStyle Interviews ...........................10 2

Watch Out For Low Flying Objects
A Trip To The Group Room
By Cori ...................................................12 12 38
Rule Making and Breaking
Tips Every Couple Should Know ...................14
Single Gentlemen In The Lifestyle

How To Win Success
By Barbi Leigh ..........................................18
How The LifeStyle Changes Women

By Ramo Kye ...........................................24
LifeStyle Libations
Cool Drinks For Hot Nights..........................42
LifeStyle Paradox
Always Discuss Things With Your Partner ........44
What’s In A Word
By Bob Hannaford.....................................46 42 30
How To Enjoy A LifeStyle Convention
By Bob and Tess ........................................50 Departments
LifeStyle Games Couples Questions
Win A Trip To Desire Resort & Spa ................52 by Dr. R. Lindsey .........................................4
Believe It Or Not The View

Sex And The Law ......................................54 If It Feels Good... Just Do It
By Dr. Ziggy .............................................28
Club Listings .......................................58
Fashion Fix
Events & Conventions........................62 Casual, Elegant, Sexy or Slutty
By Danielle ..............................................30
Photo Impact
Fun Photography For Sexy Couples ...............34
Fabulous Firsts
You Always Remember Your First Time ..........38
PUBLISHER Letter From The Publisher LifeStyle Magazine | Premier Issue
Dear Readers,
Welcome to the premier issue of LifeStyle Magazine™. The LifeStyle is exploding,

growing faster than ever before. Let us accompany you down the path to Publishers Brian & Olga Depenbrock
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COUPLES
Questions
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good enough for you, remember on those lonely
Dr. R. Lindsey,
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Dear Dr. R. Lindsey, weekends about old friends being gold.” After
www.pleasure-tek.com reading this I was a bit shocked and confused
Dear Dr. R. Lindsey, We are a couple in the Lifestyle and have been and now I am feeling a bit angry. We have great
“full-swap” for about two years. We have a core respect and affection for our “old friends” but
We are nudists in our 60’s and have been swingers for 20 group of friends that we play with, and often we were attracted to swinging for the adventure
years. Our three kids are grown, with kids of their own. We and excitement of being with new people.
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meet new people at house parties. We know that
never spoke openly about swinging with our children, yet everyone has their own rules and we always try to Help!!!
Dear Dr. R. Lindsey, it has been a silly little secret in our nudist community for respect them. However, one rule seems to puzzle
decades. Recently, a couple we have known for many years me and I have encountered it more than once, Signed,
We are a professional couple in our attended a swinger’s convention and ran into my youngest why do some couples allow intercourse but forbid Feeling Trapped
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40’s and have been in the Lifestyle child and her husband. This is a very complex situation for us. “kissing.” Help me to understand.
for two-years. We have made many Do we say anything to our daughter? Do we disclose to them
friendships and enjoy our “swing our Lifestyle? Did we influence their choices? Should we give Love and Kisses, Dear Feeling Trapped,
time.” However, we also have many them advice? Please help. Missing Kissing
long standing friendships with This happens more often than you think. Many
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couples not in the Lifestyle. We are Signed couples get into the Lifestyle only to settle down
open with most of them and they Confused Parents Dear Missing Kissing, once again. This is not good or bad, it’s just
look forward to hearing about our human nature. We all seek a balance of things
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adventures in swinging. Recently, I am happy to know that you always try to respect that are familiar, consistent, and safe with those
one couple has indicated a desire to Dear Confused Parents the boundaries (rules) of others. Similarly, the experiences that are new, exciting, and a little
explore the Lifestyle and yet we feel depth and range of likes and dislikes, fetishes, and risky. Some couples will become overly attached
uneasy about it. We notice that they This is a perfect example of the saying “No matter how taboos are almost infinite. However, what you and experience feeling of dependence with
are often angry with one another and old they get, they’re still my kids.” In addition, I honor the have encountered is not all uncommon. In fact, a desire for exclusivity. Others engage in the
very jealous. What should we do? complexity of your situation. many couples reserve intimate kissing as something Lifestyle as a series of “one-hit-wonders” never
special and unique to their own relationship. looking for social relationships or experiencing
Sincerely, First, you must ask yourself, “Has she always known that you Although a restriction on kissing is a personal sincere friendship. The key is to find a balance
COUPLES QUESTIONS with DR. R. LINDSEY
COUPLES QUESTIONS with DR. R. LINDSEY

Concerned Friends were swingers?” The answer is probably “Yes.” It is difficult choice, it may have its roots in social and cultural that works for you. I encourage you to try and
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to keep secrets from children, particularly in smaller, closed traditions. Many people seal their commitment to have a discussion with your angry friend. Don’t
communities. This conversation would require “intentional one another (often in a marriage ceremony) with a assume that the individual who sent you the
Dear Concerned Friends, disclosure.” Intentional disclosure consists of a conversation kiss. Kissing is also viewed as symbolic of romantic “stinging” e-mail represents the entire group.
akin to “coming out of the closet.” So you must decide if love and is one of the few expressions of physical Think of a way to express your thoughts and
Your caution is well founded. The “intentional” disclosure is what you want and is it necessary? affection tolerated in social settings. So for some feelings and give your “friend” a chance to
Lifestyle is intriguing to many people, couples, keeping kissing special is a rule that makes share as well. Don’t try to convince them of
but it not suitable for most. Your best Your next question is “Did you influence your daughter?” sense. anything, state your case and leave it in their
approach is to have a discussion with
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Well the answer is probably “Yes.” Parents influence court. The Lifestyle is not supposed to be about
this couple and educate them about their children in many ways. So do their friends, their gossip, rumors, anger, and co-dependence.
how the Lifestyle can quickly bring a community, their culture, and their personality. Most young Dear Dr. R. Lindsey, It is supposed to be about being respectful,
prepared couple together or tear an adult children reject their parent’s lifestyle to assert their intelligent, passionate and fun.
unprepared couple apart. Focus on independence. Yet your daughter has found value in your We have been swinging for eight years and have
the need for great communication, choices by choosing them for herself. This may be a hidden been part of a small community of “play buddies” Good luck,
well developed self-esteem, and how complement to the example you have set for her. for the past two to three years. Recently we have Dr. R. Lindsey
to manage one’s jealous feelings. begun to explore new relationships through on
The Lifestyle is not the answer to a Your next question transcends all parental concerns “Should
challenging relationship. However we give her advice?” My question is “Do you give her advice
line chatting and going out to some off-premise Have a question for Dr. Lindsey?
clubs in our community. Last week I received a
it may be a great enhancement to a regularly and is she open to accepting it?” If so, you may Just send an e-mail to DrRLindsey@LifeStyleMagazine.com
“stinging” e-mail from one of our play buddies. In
stable and caring relationship. wish to speak about subjects that focus on emotional and it they stated that “I heard you were out looking If your question gets published we’ll send you a FREE
physical health, safety, and trust. These are always good for some fresh meat. I guess that we are no longer LifeSyle Magazine Hat.
subjects to discuss with the people you love and care about.
COVER FEATURE
BY BRIAN DEPENBROCK
www.SwingLifeStyle.com
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You probably see a swinger
everyday, only you don’t see
them. Chances are that your
neighbor, an associate at work
or even a family member is a
Today, the LifeStyle is evolving
and becoming more mainstream.
As the quality of swinger events,
websites and clubs improves,
more people are willing to join
swinger. The sexually free are the fun.
found in every community, and
within every demographic. The The Internet LifeStyle dating
LifeStyle is growing and reaching websites have proven to be
new levels all the time. an invaluable tool for couples
and singles looking to find like-
Only a few years ago, before minded adults. Whether you’re
the Internet era, swingers were looking for something voyeuristic
essentially a secret society, or a full-blown orgy, you can
The Internet LifeStyle dating websites have

proven to be an invaluable tool for couples
and singles looking to find like-minded adults.
meeting each other through find it online. Looking for a

dating magazines purchased at gang-bang, or some bi fun? You
adult bookstores. Because of that, can find it online. A recent search
it was difficult to even guess at at www.SwingLifeStyle.com yields
how many swingers there were. pages of matches, many of which
THE
are within a mile of where you
Now, on the other hand, we are. Now that’s a swinger
SWINGERS
can make fairly good estimates next door.
-- based on information coming
from a variety of sources Numerous studies and polls
(including the Internet). give widely varying results on
how many swingers there really
In the past, meeting another are. However, it’s pretty safe to
Are Your NEXT DOOR couple often took weeks of

mailing photos and writing letters
before the meeting actually
assume that no less than one-
half of a percent of the U.S.
population is actively involved in
took place. If you lucked out and some sort of sexual activity that
Neighbors Swingers? happened to live near a swingers

club, it probably wasn’t a very
falls into the general category of
swinging.
attractive or “upscale” place.
FEATURE The Swingers Next Door
Whether it’s same room sex, a threesome her being naked with his wife. While like-minded people using the magazines work, at dinner, at a strip club, at a that their preconceptions about the
or even an orgy, many sexual activities most swinging is about two couples gleaned from the adult bookstores and non-swinger party, at nude beaches and LifeStyle were way off. Swingers are
are included. At a minimum these sharing fun and swapping partners, that made it easy to give up. With the in many other places. It almost seems not the middle-aged, overweight 1960’s
studies indicate that a lot of people are many swingers regularly participate in Internet, you’re only a few clicks away like swingers develop the same sort of rejects as the stereotype suggests. They
receptive to the idea of swinging. threesomes. Virtually all men fantasize from finding thousands of swingers “radar” that gays are supposed to have. are normal people, the same people you
about having two girls, and many who are just what you’re looking for. You start to pick up on things that others see everywhere. They go to the grocery
Most likely, the percentage is much women admit to fantasizing about sex Even if you enter a distance range, age don’t notice: the couple at the local night store, to the baseball game and to the
greater. As knowledge and freedom with two men. range and other basic criteria, there club dancing a little too close, or a bit too movies. Swingers are not sexually deviant
expand, so will the numbers that are still too many results to consider. risqué. Or maybe it’s the couple at the and perverse. They simply enjoy their
participate. Even given the low estimates As each generation enters sexual Narrow that search down and you’ve
of half a percent -- that equals 1.5 million maturity, with less sexually repressed found several perfect matches that
in the U.S. alone, or about 1 out of every attitudes, they are increasingly willing are only a few miles away. Looking People in the LifeStyle don’t often talk
100 people of a sexually active age. to experiment. Just as it has become for a couple with a bisexual female,
more socially acceptable between 35 and 40, within 20 miles? It’s about their LifeStyle to others.
to be gay or lesbian, easy to find hundreds of them on the
sexual attitudes Internet. Additionally, LifeStyle clubs are
toward bisexuals and evolving, becoming more elegant and coffee house where the female is wearing sexuality and are more open about it
partner swapping are attracting a broader range of people. something WAY too sexy for a coffee than most.
house -- especially on a Tuesday. What
about the two couples you’ve seen, and As the taboo of swinging starts to lift,
The taboo that society places then you can’t figure out which of the people begin to realize it is a LifeStyle
males and females are together? that allows them to define their own
on everything it categorizes rules and have a good time without
as “out of the norm” has Have you seen a neighbor walking from
the front door to the car, wearing a long
being judged. At a club or LifeStyle
event you can dance however you want
kept both homosexuals and overcoat, in August? Maybe she’s wearing
something a bit too sexy under that
to, say whatever you feel, watch the
sexy girls or most anything - without
swingers in the closet. coat. I’ve begun to notice some couples’ concern for “what other people think.”
reaction when a sexy lady walks by at the The best part of it all is that most of
local pizza place. It’s very interesting to the neighbors you encounter will have
also changing. The Frequently, people in the LifeStyle see when they both turn to watch as she similar rules or are at least willing to
taboo that society attend a party or club and run into walks away. That’s a pretty big clue. Yes, abide by whatever rules you have set for
places on everything someone they know from work or some swingers are everywhere, and if you look, yourself. Of course, if you want to party
it categorizes as “out other social activity. Most swingers have you’ll see them. A few careful questions wildly and have sex with almost anyone
of the norm” has kept a story about just such an occurrence. later, you’ll be able to confirm that they (as the stereotype suggests) there are
both homosexuals and It usually goes something like this: “My are, in fact, swingers. plenty of people to play with. If, on the
swingers in the closet. wife and I go to swinger’s parties often other hand, you prefer friendship at first
But today it almost and one party we went to was great -- We live in South Florida and are blessed or only touching and fondling, there
seems cool to be Gay. until our neighbor and his wife walked with a variety of clubs to choose from. are plenty willing to do that as well. If
Perhaps in a few years, in. I was shocked and concerned that We have six clubs within a thirty-minute you want to go out for dinner with a
it will be the “in thing” the whole neighborhood would find drive and each club is packed full of couple, maybe dance and drink, that’s
to be a swinger. out. After I got over the initial shock, I people every Saturday night. Each fine. Then if sparks begin to ignite you
realized that my neighbor was thinking weekend there are also several private take it all the way. Many neighbors may
Given the thousands of the same thing. Of course neither of parties, hotel parties and other events be interested in the LifeStyle but have
swinger clubs, resorts, us told anyone, and we’re now great from which to choose. With all the things never done anything of the sort before.
conventions, websites, friends as well as neighbors.” for swingers to do, it’s obvious there are If they only knew you were in the
Photo courtesy of www.SwingLifeStyle.com
private parties and plenty of people in the LifeStyle. LifeStyle, perhaps they would seek your
related events, it’s easy People in the LifeStyle don’t often talk advice or counsel. We have helped to
Many swingers, especially females, are to agree that swingers are everywhere. about their LifeStyle to others. All seem Those interested in the LifeStyle who introduce many that were interested in
active in the LifeStyle due to bisexual As information becomes more freely to be very aware of the unwritten rules develop enough courage to investigate the LifeStyle, but needed a gentle hand
curiosity. The man at the grocery store available via the Internet, more and of privacy. For that reason, you can feel beyond the curiosity stage are often to guide them.
who looked your wife up and down more couples talk about it and decide pretty secure that you won’t be ratted surprised when they discover how easy
may not just be thinking about her to give it a try. In the past it was quite out; we’re all in the LifeStyle together. it is to find swingers so close to them.
being naked - he may be thinking about difficult and time consuming to meet I’ve personally run into swingers at Those new to the LifeStyle often find
special feature
LifeStyle Interviews Olaf &Frauke

Brian&Olga
What do you enjoy most
about the LifeStyle?
One of the best things about it is, that we became
LifeStyle Nicknames: best friends. Being able to share our sexual thoughts
Brian and Olga and fantasies with each other and eventually fulfilling
them as well, is a wonderful thing.
How long in the LifeStyle?
In those 6 years we’ve met lots of interesting
4 years people and developed relationships that go beyond
swinging. That is definitely something, that we enjoy
about the Lifestyle!
What is your relationship?
Married 5 years
What do you enjoy least
How did you get started? about the LifeStyle?
After going to several titty bars and a few nude Occasionally, you come across some disrespectful
beaches, it became clear to us that we wanted people, who don’t understand what “NO” means.
more out of our sex lives than a bedroom dance. Well, that’s truly not enjoyable and can ruin a
After many discussions we decided to try going to precious evening
a swingers club just to see what it was REALLY all
about. Our first club experience wasn’t that great,
but it got us very excited none the less. After a few What’s the most exciting place
weeks, we decided to try another club and had an
exhilarating experience. We didn’t “hook up” with
you’ve done it?
anyone, we were simply scouting, but the experience LifeStyle Nicknames: There have been quite a few, but for us it’s not the place,
was nothing short of amazing. We began attending
regularly, and still do. Lovers that makes the excitement, it’s the people we play with.
What do you enjoy most Which do you prefer in others, a Which do you prefer in others, a
How long in the LifeStyle?
about the LifeStyle? Friendship or a Sexship? Friendship or a Sexship?
6 years
The openness, trust and honesty toward each other It depends, we’re always looking for new friends that we
That depends... Lets say, you start off with a good “Sexship”
that the LifeStyle has added to our relationship. feel comfortable with and can do much more than just
(that’s why we’re all in the Lifestyle, right?), chances are,
play. At the same time, it’s fun to meet new people, get
to know them a bit, and hit the sack for a one nighter, What is your relationship? you find out that you have more things in common than
What do you enjoy least just Sex and a friendship develops from there... well then
especially when you’re out of town.
about the LifeStyle? Married 10 years the friendship is a big, precious bonus! So, in other words:
Although friendship is certainly something precious and hard
Pushy people, that seem to think we ”owe” Any advice for others, or those to find, we do not mind a good “Sexship” to start with.
them something. new to the LifeStyle? How did you get started?
What’s the most exciting place Our advice is to take it slow, and communicate with each After “sharing our thoughts” about this exciting way to Any advice for others, or those new
other. There is no reason to rush into anything, there is
you’ve done it? plenty of time and are plenty of hot couples out there.
expand our sexual horizon, we decided to take the first step the LifeStyle?
by placing an ad in a swingers magazine. It took a while until
We’ve seen many people get into the Lifestyle for the we finally had our “first date.” Although there was no sexual
Too many to choose from, but I’d have to say the In the beginning it is important to set some rules. By doing
wrong reasons or simply jump in with both feet and interaction, we both felt inspired and our sex life became
most exciting was during a party at our house. We all this, you will avoid getting into situations where you’re not
drown. You need to be in a loving caring relationship much more exciting. Eventually the right couple came along
decided to go for a naked walk on the golf course. comfortable. Take your time and communicate with your
before you start. The LifeStyle will not FIX a broken and we had our first “real experience.”
We didn’t walk very far before the romance of the partner.
relationship, it can only enhance a good one.
full moon overtook us all.
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PAS is when couples have swapped mates, the guy happens
to glance at the other guy, to make sure his wife is happy,
WATCH OUT FOR and, for whatever reason, loses his erection.
LOW FLYING OBJECTS PAS is when couples have swapped mates, the guy happens to someone does make a gesture to play by touching an arm or
glance at the other guy, to make sure his wife is happy, and, for leg. You can gracefully decline with a “no thank you,” but
A TRIP TO THE GROUP ROOM whatever reason, loses his erection. realize that being in a group situation already gives a green
light for at least an initial contact.
BY CORI It can be for a myriad of reasons, his wife is making noises he’s
never heard before, or maybe the other guy’s cock is fucking Finally, being in a group grope can be hysterical fun! I will
www.intimatecircles.com huge! All of a sudden Willie is limp and the guy upstairs can’t close with an experience that happened not long ago. There
get the guy downstairs to get over it!!! were 3 couples, all friends in the group room at our club. They
In the group room, everything

is magnified. It‘s a hedonistic,
sweaty experience when
you’re ready for it. It’s one
of the reasons we don’t have
objections to couples watching.
The fantasy “cum-true” makes
for great lovemaking later
when you’re home rehashing
every erotic detail. We all know
that sex is more in the mind
than in the body, so all you
need to do is whisper to your
U
wife,“ I’d like to see those 2
guys in the room last night
doing you; one guy with his
Used by few, but an attraction to many, the ubiquitous group cock in your mouth, the other
room is where it’s happening at a swing club. Sometimes called in your pussy and you hungrily
“The Orgy Room,” “The Big Room” or “The Group Room” is taking it all.” GET IT??
the stuff that swinger’s dreams are made of.
How do you be BOLD enough
It’s a common mistake that new couples think the group room is “off limits;” to make merry in the group
that it’s for seasoned couples only. At most clubs, as long as the couple goes room in the first place?
in together and leaves together it’s not a problem. As a matter of fact, it’s Knowing a few couples that
welcome. How else are you going to learn? It’s the eye-candy of the lifestyle. you are comfortable with
and suggesting that you go
Most couple’s start out slowly, meeting a couple and then perhaps going to into the group room to play is one way. Another is strike out all started playing and I mean balls to the wall, boobies all
a private room so the 4 can explore without intrusion. It’s hard enough to and just venture into the room and start playing with each over, cocks flying in and out and all of them were TALKING!!!
maintain certain standards (or erections) with all eyes upon you unless you other. You may position yourselves on a bed near or next to Talking about the weather, talking about work and every once
are a veteran, so suffice it to say, if you don’t want to worry about PAS, aka other couples. Swingers etiquette says if you want to get in in a while, talking about SEX! Can you imagine that??? One
“Performance Anxiety Syndrome,” you’ll do just fine. on the action, just ask the other couple. You may get a yes couple was 69-ing, another husband had the wife on her knees
or no, either way take it gracefully. Sometimes a more subtle and another couple had another wife riding on top! One of
approach is needed. You and the wife are playing on the the guys, known for his “outbursts” yelled he was cumming
bed and she is on her back and you are licking the velvet ice and came so hard he got everyone in the room, the walls and
cream cone for all its worth. A hand reaches out and touches mirrors and even a face or two. Personally, I think Cameron Diaz
“According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable another body; soon, another connects until it’s one big daisy had the right idea. It makes for a great hair spritzer!
undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other chain! It’s important to remember NOT to be offended if
women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course,
men are just grateful.”
– Robert De Niro
Personally, I think Cameron Diaz had the right idea.
It makes for a great hair spritzer!
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Rule I am interested in the Lifestyle because…
Making RULE 2: I am interested in making new friends

I want to have sex with other people
Know Your Partner: Remember you are in this together. I want to please may partner
Basic questions include:
and
I want to please myself
• Why is your partner interested in the Lifestyle? None of the above
Breaking
• What types of relationships is your partner looking for? All of the above
• What activities will your partner engage in? I am interested in playing with…
I am interested in the Lifestyle because… • What activities is your partner willing to explore? Single male
I am interested in making new friends • What activities will your partner not engage in? Single females
I want to have sex with other people
Tips Every • Who will your partner play with? Couples only
Couple
I want to please may partner
Groups
I want to please myself An Experience: When You Assume… I am interested in people that...
None of the above A moderately experienced couple is attending a house party with eight Will always use condoms Non smokers
Should
All of the above other couples and one single female. As the evening progresses the Don’t use condoms Same age
I am interested in playing with… single female is spending a lot of time and paying a lot of attention Enjoy drinking Older
Know
Single male to a husband. As people become more playful, the single female takes Drink moderately Younger
Single females
Do not drink Nudists
Couples only
Smoke Other
Groups By: Dr. R. Lindsey
I enjoy…
I am interested in people that... www.pleasure-tek.com
Kissing Oral sex
Will always use condoms Non smokers Being a happy and healthy couple in the Lifestyle requires a lot of Light touching/ massage Intercourse
Don’t use condoms Same age love, trust, flexibility and energy. Couples that enjoy the Lifestyle to Mutual masturbation Anal Sex
Enjoy drinking Older the fullest have one thing in common, they know “The Rules.” Now Playing with toys Other
Drink moderately Younger these are not a book of rules on how to find the perfect mate, or how
Do not drink Nudists to manipulate your significant other, these are the rules that you
I am comfortable with …
Voyeurism (watching others / partner have sex)
Smoke Other create TOGETHER.
Exhibitionism (being watched by others)
I enjoy…
Oral sex Same room sex with other people
Kissing However, getting started on creating your rules requires some
Intercourse Threesomes
Light touching/ massage organization and we hope this article helps to get you started.
Anal Sex Orgies
Mutual masturbation
Other Gang Bangs
Playing with toys Here are two simple questionnaires to help you get started on an
Female Bi-Sexuality
I am comfortable with… important discussion you need to have with your partner. I suggest
Male Bi-Sexuality
Voyeurism (watching others / partner have sex) you read this article, then each of you complete your part of the
Different room sex with others
Exhibitionism (being watched by others) survey in private. Afterword, compare notes and discuss your answers.
BDSM
Same room sex with other people If the discussion results in an argument, you may want to reconsider
Sex with strangers
Threesomes your interest in the lifestyle.
Orgies
I will never________________________________
Gang Bangs
Female Bisexually RULE 1: I really want to_______________________________
Male Bisexually Know Your Self: Knowing yourself is where it all starts. There are
Different room sex with others many questions one might ask to get to know yourself better. Basic
BDSM questions include:
Sex with strangers • Why am I interested in the LifeStyle?
• What types of relationships am I looking for?
I will never________________________________ • What activities will I engage in?
• What activities am I willing to explore?
I really want to_______________________________ • What activities will I not engage in?
• Who will I play with?
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the husband by the hand and leads him into the other room
for some “private time.” The next morning the wife is quiet RULE 3: RULE 5: RULE 7:
and moody. The husband inquires “What’s wrong?” The wife Share What You Have Learned: A simple process is to Don’t Break the Rules: If you agree to a set of rules, stick to Take Time to Revise Your Rules: Your rules may change
discuss your individual responses to the questionnaire. Do not them. Don’t change them in the in the heat of the moment. If due a variety of reasons. If you are having difficulties in your
approach this conversation as a negotiation. Approach it as you feel that you are ready relationship, you may wish to
an opportunity to learn more about each others thoughts, to go beyond your rules, tighten things up or take a break.
feelings, and motivations. stop and discuss this with Illness, financial issues, and the
your partner. The best time stress of everyday life may also
RULE 4:
to explore your rules is impact your rules.
during the time you spend
Create Rules You Can Love With: It is important to create reviewing your experiences. If things are going well, you
a set of rules that make you both comfortable. Typically, one may wish to expand your rules.
partner is more adventurous than the other. As you begin If you are experiencing a surge
this process together it will require flexibility and patience.
Remember, one’s exploration of the Lifestyle is a process.
RULE 6:
Take Time to Review Your
Things begin to evolve quickly and your rules will change
over time.
Experiences: This is very If things
important. Share what you
enjoyed and didn’t enjoy, are going
and what you may be willing
to try. These discussions may well, you
be the most intimate and
exciting discussions that may wish
Don’t Break the Rules: you may ever have. Reliving
passionate experiences can
to expand
If you agree to a set of rules stick to them. be very erotic.
An Experience:
your rules.
The Morning After
A couple is lying in bed after
a night of very playful fun
An Experience: Too Much Too Soon in confidence, the excitement of
with two couples that they
A couple is attending an on-premise club for the first time. new friendships, or the comfort of
like a lot. They begin to talk
They shyly watch the activities in the “hospitality suites for familiar playmates, you may wish
about the evening’s events,
a while.” After a few drinks they decide to take a chance to make general and/or specific
the food, the music, and
and begin to become intimate with one another in a semi revisions to your rules.
the sex. The wife indicates
private room. Another couple joins them and the environment
that during the evening she
becomes very erotic. In the heat of the moment, the wife Either way, enter this knowing
explored her first bi-sensual
reaches out to the other couple. She slowly moves toward the that your individual and collective
experience and really
begins to cry and states “I can’t believe you left the party to other man and mounts him as his wife massages her back. Her preferences will change and grow
enjoyed it. As she shares the
be alone with that girl. I don’t even know why the bitch was husband is stunned, left alone, he grabs his clothes, gets up, in a healthy and happy manner if
details of this experience
invited.” The husband responded in a surprised fashion asking and abruptly leaves the room. you work together as a team.
they both become aroused
“What did I do wrong?” and make the most of the
Rule review… Dr. R. Lindsey
morning. The wife indicates
Rule review (if they had rules)… • Voyeurism - OK DrRLindsey@LifeStyleMagazine.com
that she may wish to explore
• Full Swap - OK • Exhibitionism - OK
bi-sensuality more at the
• Different Rooms - OK • Intercourse with a stranger - Not OK
next gathering.
• Single Female - Not OK • Ignoring her husband - Not OK
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You will have a great time if you leave your
Single “macho attitude” at the door.
Gentlemen People in the lifestyle meet many

different ways. The most popular
venues are through swinger clubs,
qualities to their friends. But don’t walk
around saying you’ve got a 12-inch penis,
even if you do. If you really do, everyone
Remember that people in the lifestyle
are there for their enjoyment, not yours.
Some are interested only in couples,
In The private parties and websites. For the

aspiring single male, clubs and websites
already knows it.
2. You will have a better time at parties

some only in women, some in nothing
-- they just like the atmosphere. Some
Lifestyle
are the main vehicles -- since it’s pretty are interested in playing with single
hard for a newcomer to get invited to a if you check your macho attitude at men. Many couples are seeking a second
private party.
Like other private

clubs, swing clubs
are “Membership
How To Only.” But

lifestyle clubs
Win Success operate a little

differently. In the
lifestyle, privacy is
the first priority.
BY BARBI LEIGH So clubs usually
www.BlondFlasher.com forego formal
background
checks. However,
once you’re
T
accepted, your
character is under
The lifestyle is many different things to
constant scrutiny.
many different people. What they share is a If you behave
badly or become
fascination with the erotic experience and
disruptive, your
the pursuit of sexual enjoyment. There are membership will
be immediately
three major categories of swingers: couples,
revoked and
single females and single males. Couples you will be
permanently
are the foundation of the lifestyle. Single
barred from
females are comparatively rare. When they attending the
club. With that in
do get involved, it’s often because they are
mind, it’s in your best interest to read and the door. You don’t want to be one of or even third man to join them. The
bisexual and the lifestyle affords them easy heed the following: those guys who are standing in the front important thing is -- how do you get to
wearing a towel, waiting for someone to be the guy they choose?
access to both males and females.
Single (Gentlemen’s) Guide perform for them. Such macho, horn-dog
to Successful Swinging. attitudes classify you as a “Towel Shark,” 4. Get to know the lifestyle, the
and you don’t want to be one of those. expectations and the realities. Read the
Not surprisingly, single males are plentiful.
1. In private clubs, the same members other articles in this magazine, it’ll help.
A constant new supply of horny men visit again and again and get to know 3. Be yourself, be natural and socialize. Keep in mind that most people you meet
each other quite well. If you insult or Ask a lady to dance and be sure to have at a swing club are there for the same
assures that it will stay that way. But what
offend one couple, the word will quickly a good time, you’re more attractive that reason you are. Most swingers aren’t out
does it take for a single man pursuing the spread to others. Alternatively, if you way. It’s a good idea to ask the lady’s there cheating on their spouse. They’re
are pleasant and the couple enjoys your husband for permission to ask his wife open about what they do, and about
lifestyle to be successful?
company - sexual or otherwise - they to dance. Talk to the husband and be what they like to do. Don’t go to a party
will be eager to introduce you to their friendly to him too. Why? Because if he to fall in love, or think you’re going
friends. Of course, swingers like to doesn’t like you, you’re probably not to sweep a lady off her feet and away
introduce people with unique sexual going to get anywhere with her. from her husband. Come to have a good
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new friends. To be P that by ten. Before you go maybe they like to be watched by single
successful in the out, spend extra time Don’t assume act overly
shy or stand
into the “couples
only” room guys -- but not touched. So don’t sneak
long run, you
need to be the
brushing and flossing
your teeth, showering that because you around like
a wallflower.
pretending to be your hand in there to “grab a piece”
nice guy that’s

been seen
and shaving, styling
your hair and
talk or dance If you see a If someone tells you “NO”
lady you’re
with other dabbing on your with someone interested in, that’s all there is to it.
couples, not best cologne.
the weird that they want observe her.
If she dances Don’t ask, “Why not?”
7. Don’t assume
guy that’s
running that because you to have sex with guys
besides her
from table
to table
talk or dance with
someone that they
with you. husband, with a couple. If a thinking that she won’t know whose
or if she couple wanted to be hand it is. Even if she doesn’t know, he
trying to want to have sex spends time involved with a and other involved partners will know
score. Just with you. Don’t talking with single man, then and will have you quickly removed from
about all get too aggressive 10. Don’t insult a member’s single men, they would be on the club.
couples have a unless you get the intelligence with the statement, “My maybe she the “single” side
set of rules by clear message that wife wanted me to come here first by would enjoy of the room. And 15. If someone says NO, that’s all there
which they play, it’s OK. When (and if) myself to check it out, so I’ll come back talking or if they wanted you is to it. Don’t ask them, “Why not?” or
and they vary you get that message, with her next time. How about you and dancing to join them, they “Are you sure -- I’m the greatest lover in
little from those go with it, just don’t go I play now.” Every swinger has heard with you would invite you. If a the world?” Actually this is Rule 1, 2, 3,
rules. Don’t try to overboard. You can even ask that line over and over again. You too. Don’t be afraid couple is engaged in a 4……... The most important rule of the
change them. You’ll fail. again” Is this okay?” might as well say you are here to cheat to approach her - just approach her threesome or foursome lifestyle is NO MEANS NO.
on your wife while she’s at church! politely and with class. Chat
5. Be a gentleman and a classy guy. Just 8. Leave the pickup lines at home with for a minute; maybe give her
because a woman likes sex doesn’t mean the tank tops. Ladies in the lifestyle are 11. Don’t talk about your wife or a compliment, then say, “It
she likes vulgar language or innuendoes. adults and are not into head-games. They your girlfriend, how great she is or how was great meeting you. Let me
Good manners and social skills are more have already heard every line in the book. beautiful she is. Let’s face it. If she were, know if you’d like to dance a
important in this lifestyle than just about you wouldn’t be here song together later.”
anywhere else. 9. Again, in the case of couples, alone wearing
introduce yourself to both husband and that towel. Approaching a woman that
6. Dress nicely, like you’re going on a wife. Do not approach a lady when her way makes it easy for her to
date. Because you are going on a date! husband is not present. Remember that approach you later.
When you know you’ll be having an “Towel Shark” fellow? When the husband
intimate encounter with your mate, you comes back (and he will), he won’t be 13. Drink in moderation.
take extra special care in your personal happy to see you. Lifestyle events are social
gatherings, not boozing parties.
Needless to say, alcohol and
DRESS TO IMPRESS
erections don’t go very well
together. So if you drink too
NO
much, you will not only act
stupidly and belligerently, you
Printed T-Shirts will also be unable to get an
Tank Tops erection to save your life and
Torn or Excessively Baggy Jeans you will wind up making a
complete fool out of yourself.
Shorts
Baseball Caps
Sandals
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16. Don’t touch without

permission. Do not touch. We
know what that means.
17. Do not go to the club with

a group of buddies. Even if it’s
true that some women enjoy
multiple male partners and enjoy
a “gang-bang” -- they don’t need
you to provide the “gang.” If
you only feel comfortable with
a group of friends, then go to a
hockey game or a titty bar.
18. Most people in the club

have a partner. Include them
in your conversation when
appropriate.
19. Pay attention to non-verbal

signals, the ones you interpret
as positive or negative. Body
language speaks much louder
than words. Act accordingly.
20. If you’re unsure about

proper behavior and etiquette in Photo courtesy of www.TrapezeClub.com
a particular situation or what’s it with you to a trash can. Never leave treats both with respect. If you follow
allowed, ASK. Go to the front desk of a it where you took it off or you will be these guidelines, you should have a
club, or ask the host at a party. invited to leave and not come back (and great time and make lots of new, very
you might end up wearing its contents sexy friends. And if you want to know
21. Admission to a club or party DOES on your head.) All in all, it’s simple. Act more about what it is to be a classy guy
NOT guarantee that you will have sex, like a gentleman, be classy, be friendly, and have the greatest success meeting
but only that you will be admitted. and treat people well. Everyone has a couples -- check out the next issue of
No one owes you anything and you much better evening if the ladies have LifeStyle Magazine and read “What
shouldn’t expect anything from anyone. a fun time, and if they do, then you’ve To Expect”, an article for couples and
The most annoying thing couples report got a great chance at having a really singles who have never been to a swing
is that single males seem to think they fun time with them. club. Also, look for future articles with
are owed something because they paid “Questions & Answers.”
to get in. Keep in mind that the couples The true gentleman and classy guy in
paid to get in too. the swinging lifestyle is non-threatening This additional information will help
to the female spouse’s virility. He’s you better understand single ladies and
22. Always dispose of used condoms happy to be sharing in the encounter couples and what they are thinking.
in the trash. Yes, this mean that when and he doesn’t try to monopolize it. He
you are through with it you must carry is also a friend of BOTH spouses and
All in all, it’s real simple; be a gentleman,

be classy, be friendly, and treat people well.
She was discovering an amazing thing,
men, all kinds of men, found her to be very sexy.
women who have reached an age where jockey, being considered physically encountered are impossible to describe.
they’ve forgotten how to giggle. desirable was something she’d given “Nervous” just isn’t enough of a word to
up on. explain how you feel while driving over
So, is this a view thrust on women, by to meet new and potential play-partners.
men? Or is this a view that women Entering the lifestyle was a difficult “Excited” can’t encompass the feelings
incorporate, regardless of how they process for her. And, since I was new just before the first foreign touch.
are treated? Most men would probably to it as well, I wasn’t able to guide her “Satisfied” would do an injustice to the
agree, that this feeling that women have along very well. But soon, given the feeling of contentment one has the day,
is not reflective of how men truly view circumstances we were putting ourselves or week, afterward.
them. Though, it is a view reinforced into, other men were enjoying her, and
many times daily, with newspaper and she, them. Unless you’ve been through The first indirect change for Lara was
television advertisements that feature it, the intensity of the emotions we both with her wardrobe. She couldn’t well be
too many thin, young blondes.
But, luckily, there is a cure for this - the

lifestyle.
Our own relationship provides a

startling transformation. Lara was in her
early forties when we began playing.
How The
We’d spoken about it for years, but she
was hesitant, if not downright petrified,
by the idea.
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Changes
We’d been together for a dozen years or
so. We still had great sex, though it was
more of a weekly affair that had turned
somewhat predictable. She’d grown shy
as she’d aged. She rarely undressed
Women
unless she were alone. She locked the
bathroom door when she showered. She
took to wearing baggy jeans and blouses
that did much to hide her form. We
made love with the lights turned off.
Slowly but consistently, the direction our

life was taking became clear. We were
turning into our parents.
M
Eventually, Lara agreed to try some soft
play with others. And her transformation
began from there.
By Ramo Kye
Many women have a hard time keeping up in a man’s world. Mass-market culture offers
a feminine standard that is far too hard for most to match. Not only are they expected to
We started placing on-line ads and
be free of blemishes, as thin as they are busty, and otherwise attractive, from their styled
soon began hearing from interested
hair down to their painted toenails, they’re usually also expected to be charming, witty,
couples and single men. We moved
compliant and well employed.
slowly from there. We got to know
people through e-mails, chats and
It’s a hard enough icon to emulate when women are young. But, as they age, it
phone calls, before meeting. After
becomes even more difficult. Once a woman is past the mid-thirties, our culture
meeting, we normally moved even
generally denies that they have very much sex appeal remaining. The mirror view they
slower. Our first few encounters
get of themselves consists of streaks of new wrinkles, weight that just won’t go away,
barely had enough action to make a
and strands of gray hair.
monk blush. But, she was discovering
an amazing thing, men, all kinds
Sure, the same thing happens to men, and there are words for this - distinguished,
of men, found her to be very sexy.
mature, noble. But women seem to go from “young” straight to “elderly.”
While Lara is an extremely intelligent,
knowledgeable woman who, if given
But wait! Lots of guys are attracted to mature women. Many men prefer women that
half a chance, can quip and banter
are not too skinny, women who defy the norm with their hairstyles or makeup and
faster and better than a morning disc
LifeStyle Departments
LD
meeting people for sexual play in the sex life had been prior to the lifestyle. been trapped in an erotic fantasy, and
W
intentionally frumpy outfits that filled We seek out new experiences with each proves it by being wet to my touch. At
out her wardrobe. Suddenly mini-skirts, other - just to be sure we are able to try times, we make love until the alarm clock
garter belts, nylons and tall, leather them together before we are caught beckons us to work. elcome to LifeStyle Magazine Departments. Here we
boots started showing up in the closet sharing them with others. The foreplay
and dresser drawers. Sex between us is more frequent, more feature a section of ongoing columns to help educate
Sex between
intense and more satisfying. While Lara
Then, her shyness with me rapidly used to have multiple orgasms, they
vanished. It had to. How could she pale compared to the enduring chain of
people about hot topics in the LifeStyle. Our goal
be stripped naked in front of near
strangers and then deny me the chance
us is more climaxes she now experiences. She used
to beg me to stop when her coming here is to shine a light on such topics as photography,
to see her the same way in our own
home? How could she handle another frequent, overtook her rationalism. Now, she begs
me for more. fashion, heath and so much more. We hope you enjoy
man’s hard-on, and not lend me a
squeeze on her way by? She stopped
wearing panties and a bra with
more intense When the kids aren’t around, and the
windows are closed, all we talk about is
our Departments section now and in the future.
every outfit. Rather than locking the
bathroom door, she began inviting me and more sex. When we’ll have it again. How great
it was last time. Who’s next.
into the shower with her. Whenever
the weather allowed, she’d sleep in the
nude, and hum all night long.
satisfying. So, in the end, the lifestyle experience
has had as much to do with convincing
Lara that other men found her attractive,
And sex with each other? Hot damn! Like of soft touches and gentle smiles can last as it did with her to realize that I, her
it has never been before. Only now are from noon until midnight. I never know mate, her lover, her partner, have always
we even able to realize how stale our when, suddenly, she’ll admit that she’s thought of her that very same way.
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If It Feels Good... Just Do It:
The Threat of Sex and Sexuality...
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You always remember your first time.
True for individuals. True for couples.
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If it Feels Good... Just Do It: The Threat of Sex and Sexuality...
W Why is it that merely mentioning the word “sex” makes

people so uncomfortable? After all, sex is perfectly
morality, socially acceptability, and deviancy -- are all
closely identified with sex in the language and attitudes
impure, like sex) and the spiritual and aesthetic (no sex),
which meant that bodily pleasure was devalued and the
created taboos and passed laws to control the sexual
behavior of citizens. They knew that sex was the means to
with Dr. Ziggy

natural, the biological requirement for procreation. of our culture. Sex has become a control mechanism and a ideal of self-denial was elevated. To Plato, sex was just a control the masses.
tool of cultural conformity. distraction from more “intellectual” pursuits – in short, a
Yet, I am continually amazed to see how uncomfortable necessary evil. That is why today, sex is still a “taboo” topic of
people look when the word sex is uttered in their However, we must transcend these narrow views and look conversation and makes people so uncomfortable. We’re
presence. Judging from their reactions, it’s easy to assume at sexuality with a more logical approach. Here are some Then came Christianity. Drawing on the ideas of the afraid that people will learn about our secret, forbidden
that the word “sex” immediately unleashes a chain - questions to illustrate my point: Greeks, Christianity added some of their own – namely the fantasies and the desires of our rich imaginations.
gathering event that is sure to infect everyone in the room very clever story about a man, a woman, a serpent, and
and may eventually wipe out the entire world population. • What is the function of sex? Is there just one? an “apple” (a metaphor for sex), which resulted in the But wait a minute. Did we forget that sex is about biology?
expulsion from Paradise and the idea of Original Sin.
Of course, psychological wisdom infers that anxiety- • Should sex be exclusively heterosexual or is homosexual The lack of sexual openness and acceptance is a major
provoking events (including sexual behavior “normal?” Henceforth, in the prevailing western consciousness, sex reason why swingers still go up to the attic to play
ideas) trigger defense Where does that leave was sin and women were considered villains. and make sure no one sees them; this in an era when
mechanisms that protect bisexuality? homosexuals have come out of the closet in droves.
us from the threats of So now you have it. That’s how Sexual Ethics became
those events. But why • What’s the relationship prohibitions and sex became Guilt. Time to wrap it up, so, my final thought on the matter.
is sex - a wonderful and between sex, love, intimacy,
blissful experience in and marriage? Over two thousand years, the Church and the State If it feels good – just do it.
most instances – so often
perceived as an anxiety and • Can sex be independent
stress-producing event? of emotional feelings?
The answer is simple, yet • What is the connection

complicated. Let’s start between sex and moral
with the “simple” part: character?
Everyone knows what sex is • Is it OK to get laid more

and that it’s main purpose than twice a day, or do
is reproduction. Right? we have to have a fixed
schedule?
Wrong. There’s another
aspect to sex – pleasure. Obviously, ideas about
That’s where the trouble sexual behavior can get
begins. Think about it. very, very complicated.
Suffice to say, sex has

If sex was really become inextricably
unpleasant, how many intertwined with
people do you think would philosophy, religion and
want to do it? Certainly, politics.
we wouldn’t be lining up
to do the “nasty deed.” No lesser man than the
(Perhaps not even the most great Sigmund Freud long
ardent disciples of S&M would step up to that plate.) ago hypothesized that sexual repression was at the root of
neuroticism and hysteria. Today, science tells us otherwise.
But because sex is pleasurable (some say the ultimate) However, repressed sexual feelings are recognized as a
we not only have volunteers lining up for it, we even contributor to many psycho pathologies and can also
have some who are willing to die for it. Consider this: the affect other (physiological) medical conditions, such as
adultery rate in countries that punish it with the death ulcers, high blood pressure and even heart disease.
penalty is about the same as it is in countries that don’t
punish it at all. The intertwining of sexuality with philosophy and religion
is nothing new.
Now, we proceed to the complicated part.
In ancient times, the Greeks and Romans believed that
In our society, sex has been highjacked by religion and the body and the mind were separate entities. This
politics under the pretense of Sexual Ethics. Ideas about “dualistic” view distinguished between the physical (and
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HOT HOT HOT

the neighborhood coffee house? What if you all decide
to go for a long romantic walk? For both of you, unless
Elegant, you are meeting on the beach, flip flops and tennis shoes
are Don’t choices.
mystery to your look. For him, conservative is also better.
Sexy or Slutty, We have been invited by a couple we’ve just
met to a house party. What do we wear?
Men have the advantage. They can be Mr. GQ on the outside
and have a very hot pouch underneath.
it all depends...
We have never attended a club…
By DANIELLE
W
www.shopfantasy.com what should we wear?
Many clubs have a dress code and they may have a theme
We’ve been talking with another couple and party planned for the night you are attending. Check with
we’ve decided to meet. What should we wear? the club for these particulars. Do dress as if you are
going to meet your fantasy couple. If you always try
The most important thing to remember is to treat to look your best, you will never have that “Oh my
SIZZLIN STYLES
meeting with someone for the first time as a “First gosh, they are so Hot, why did I dress like this” feeling.
Date.” Look your best, as first impressions are truly If there is no theme, Saturday night at a club is your
night to shine brightly. A little black dress is always
DRESSING SEXY IS FUN AND #1, but you can be glitzy with rhinestones or casual
sexy in a denim mini skirt and sexy blouse. This is the
A GOOD CHOICE, BUT BE night to bring out the 6” platforms, the rhinestone
earrings, belly rings and belly chains. Rhinestones and
CONSIDERATE OF THE HOST’S rhinestone belly chains are, by the way, very hot for
the fall and
NEIGHBORS. Holiday season.
Get the most out

of a theme
night… join in
lasting impressions. Because first dates are about the fun and
the unknown, you might indulge your own romantic dress all the way.
fantasies by selecting outfits in which you feel you Yes, that means
look your best. Choose fashions that show your best you too, male
assets to their advantage without revealing too half of the

much. A “slut look” for your first date is not your best couple. Dressing
choice. Attire all depends on your personality, the as a Naughty
other couples personality, and where you are meeting. School Girl and
the Headmaster,
Keep in mind the location. Do dress appropriately The Pirate and
for the venue. Are you meeting in a coffee house, The Wench or
restaurant or other public location? Be sexy in your instructed to by the host). Because these are people you whatever the
short skirt, but leave the micro mini in the closet. have just met, do dress a little on the conservative side. theme, can add
A little cleavage can be a good thing. Being almost It is far more comfortable to unbutton or remove an
bare at a public venue is a definite Don’t. For him, again, Always feel free to ask the host what type of attire they article than to feel as though you are very “under” or
look your best and keep in mind where you are meeting. would prefer. Private home parties vary in appropriate “un” dressed.
Slacks and a nice shirt are always appropriate. Guys, no dress. Depending on the host and type of party,
matter how comfortable those jeans and sneakers are, dresses, tops and skirts or pants and even costumes are Dressing sexy is fun and a good choice, but be considerate playful fun to meeting
avoid the temptation and leave them at home. appropriate. If there is no special theme for this home of the host’s neighbors. Remember, the host will still other couples. Let
party, choose a dress, skirt or pants, depending on live there after the party. If you choose something very your imagination go
Don’t forget about shoes. Ladies, very high heels can what you feel comfortable wearing (Note: Don’t wear revealing, you might try a shawl or cape that would add to wild and it just might
be very flattering to the leg and add some sought after ripped or torn jeans and t-shirts unless you have been your outfit, but will hide what you want to show until you lead to even more
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look ravishing in white… the
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change of clothes in the car. You don’t want to be the ONE you are both comfortable with and go for the fun of it. of her fall casual wardrobe. For the men, Basic Black and
couple that mixed up the dates and is dressed in a toga. Enjoy yourself. You can both just be yourself at the resort
without worries. Don’t worry… Be happy!
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and just a little see through.
IT’S ALL ABOUT STYLE
Another handy feature to have in a digital camera would spontaneous. We enhance our love life by taking sexy
be the ability to take short video clips. Video clips eat up shots whenever we feel like it. We especially love outdoor
memory very fast though! So you’ll usually need to be situations. We once took some beautiful nude shots in a
short and sweet when taking videos. Again, the “size” corn field while on vacation. Basically, if you can imagine
Fun photography of your pictures also influences how many shots your
camera can hold. Usually one or two megapixels will
suffice for leisure situations. But if you plan to print any
a place, we’ve probably taken pictures there. And so can
you. But you need to exercise a little common sense and
caution. We were nearly arrested once on what appeared
for sexy couples: of your pictures, the higher the resolution, the better.
Most budget cameras are capable of taking pictures of at
to be a desolate, remote beach with apparently no one
around! (Park rangers sometimes use binoculars!)
Taking great Cluttered areas take away from a photo Again, the point is to maximize your experience and
above all, have fun. A little bit of planning can add to
the experience and even the excitement level. We’ve
pictures is cheap all seen photographs that people post on the Internet
that look bland, boring and are sometimes just rude.
and easy! (We’re guilty of this ourselves actually.) The fact is, most
people can take good, even great shots with only a
little thought, creativity and preparation. You needn’t
hire a professional photographer to get professional
By Emmanuelle and John results. There are simple steps and things to keep in mind
www.BluNun.com/sex that can ensure great shots and make for an exciting
experience. Anyone can take a beautiful photograph
and be a glamorous model. Some of the most important
things to keep in mind are also the simplest.
S
Your surroundings are one consideration. Just keep in
mind what looks appealing and professional. The shirt,
socks and pants that you may have just flung over the
Snapping pictures has always been a fun pastime for Clean surroundings make for a better photo bed post don’t really make for an appealing backdrop,
many people. The problem was that for most of us, and unless you’re going for that “spontaneously messy” look.
you know who you are, it was difficult if not impossible Instead, a nicely made bed and tidy surroundings look
to get a roll of film developed that had your more, let’s much better. If necessary, just shove all the junk under
just say, “intimate” shots on it. So bravo to whomever the bed! Or you could always go to a nice hotel. That
invented the digital camera! Now we can be “as nasty could make for an exciting evening, especially if a sexy
as we wanna be” without the fear of obnoxious photo rendezvous is involved!
clerks, prints being discovered in our closets or other

unnerving situations… The freedom that they offer us is The next thing to consider is lighting. Simply relying on
so liberating that they’re truly worth the investment. If your camera’s built-in flash just won’t do it! That’s why
you haven’t already done so, you should run out and get amateur shots usually look flat, bland and have that
a digital camera today. And for those of you who already “burned out” or over-exposed look. Natural lighting
have one -- start putting it to good use! and indoor lighting from table lamps can produce great
Photo courtesy of www.SwingLifeStyle.com results. Real professionals often use lighting sets that
To maximize your experience though, there are a few cost thousands of dollars. But a couple of common table
things to keep in mind. First of all, even a $100 camera budget camera should have an LCD screen on the back. lamps can produce similar results. One lamp positioned
can take decent shots that are good enough to show your This allows you to preview and/or delete unwanted least two or three megapixels, which is usually adequate. to the side of the subject can give nice results. Actually,
friends. You don’t need to buy a $600 dollar, 6-megapixel pictures so as to not waste space on the memory card. You don’t need to fork over hundreds of dollars extra to there are various positions that can give various
deluxe model that promises you the world. Remember, A memory card is like a digital file. The only difference get the high-end model that takes 6-10 megapixel shots dramatic results.
the camera is only as good as the person pointing it. You is that, depending on how “large” you select your unless you plan to enlarge your pictures or print them
can find great cameras for less than $200 that will serve pictures to be, the memory will fill up faster. You should out in extra sharp photo-realistic detail. We usually take Ceiling lights can produce nice highlight effects,
you well. We still carry around a worn-out 2-megapixel get a camera with at least 32 MB of memory capacity, our basic pictures in two or three megapixel mode. This especially for hair and curves. A lamp positioned behind
model that works just fine for spontaneous situations. or preferably 64 MB. The more memory you have, the allows us to take about 100-150 shots using our 64 MB the subject or just off to the side can give dramatic
--You never know when the “urge” might strike you or more it will hold and therefore, the less often you will (megabyte) card. effects. A couple of dim lamps placed in opposite
when you’ll be inspired to take some interesting photos! have to stop and download the pictures to the computer. directions (one to the right and another to the left, for
Downloading is the process of transferring the pics from The best benefit of having a digital camera, aside from example) can give great results. Just take a little time to
Be sure that your camera has certain features. A good the camera to your computer using a cable. taking risqué photographs, is the ability to be totally experiment. You’ll see how great things can turn out.
Emphasize the positive! Another strategy is to think try holding a pair of sunglasses over the lens to create an Breaking the ice (or not):
about bringing out your better features and minimizing interesting polarized filter look. It works great with the If you want a usually sure fire, guaranteed-in-writing way
others. There are many ways to go about doing this. One broken sunglass you sat on last week. Be creative and try to break the ice with your sexy, new open-minded friends,
thing you can do to emphasize the subject is to zoom in different things. then try bringing out one of your photo albums, or the
on it while standing back a bit. This will not only cut out computer as the case may be. This can make for some
unflattering Leave some things to the imagination. The best shots very lively conversation and elevated blood pressures.
backgrounds, are seductive and invite the viewer to fantasize. It can After gauging the reactions of your hopefully-impressed
Photography Tip but will tend

to slightly
be much more erotic and seductive to flirt with the
camera when taking your photos. Think of it in a way as
friends, try bringing out the camera. Most people are
fairly curious to see how they would look in certain sexy
blur the situations. Some people though have reservations about
background having that moment “documented” in photographs. This
A one-megapixel photograph due to the can sometimes be tempered by the use of a mask or a
is about 1280 x 960 pixels in focus of the blindfold –or by simply having that person turn their head
dimensions. Most people have lens. If your to the side or positioning them just outside of the frame.
their screens set far below that, camera is A thin piece of lace or
capable, Simply changing your position can make cloth can work well
so at that size you would need
to either zoom out or scroll over
slightly de-
focusing the for a more appealing photograph.
to conceal details and
help keep your friends
Photography Tip
and down to see the whole subject can anonymously sexy.
image. However, printing that produce a Be sure to empty your
picture on a high quality printer romantic Aside from meeting new
camera’s memory card
might look a little bit fuzzy if you glow with friends, many people
certain also enjoy “showing prior to an expected date
make it larger than say, 3 x 4 lighting. off” sexy and risqué or event. And above all,
inches. Photo editing programs Most image photography with always have a fresh pack
give you the ability to scale- editing their friends and the of spare batteries waiting,
down or crop your images, but programs Just using a pair of sunglasses in front world. This is especially
because you can be
that can take time, depending will let helpful when it comes
you blur of your lens can make a big difference to setting up account absolutely certain that if
on how many pictures you need an image profiles and your things do get interesting,
to resize! Other nice features or apply special correspondence. your batteries will go dead!
to have might be: a tripod filters to Other than seeking
mount (for shake-free and give special out people who have
effect. Some compatible personalities,
photographer-inclusive shots),
of us may most people are also interested
built-in flashes, automatic have certain You don’t necessarily need to show off all of your juicy in and concerned about physical appearances. Whatever
exposure modes and light features attributes just to be sexy. The anticipation is what makes the case, it’s just fun and liberating to share a naughty
compensation modes. that filters photography exciting. A subtle glimpse can be far more erotic picture or two over the Internet! It also helps in finding
can’t remove. than a gynecological exam photo. Besides, you want to create just the right people, or your ideal match. One way to
Experiment with desire and anticipation. If you absolutely must take a picture think of it is as “advertising” if not simply self-promotion.
different positions with a penis as the subject, try to make sure that it is REALLY Some of us just like showing off, but if your main intent
that might seem to worth showing off and something much more impressive is self-promotion, then you need to ask yourself, “What
flatter your appearance. Simply laying on your back than any other close-up of an anonymous “member”. Using sets me, or us apart from the rest?” Anyone can take
or positioning your lamp differently might avoid a beer can as a measuring device isn’t really all that terribly “average” shots of themselves and e-mail or post them on
embarrassing shots. Try taking your shots from different interesting or impressive. Size sometimes matters, but most some web site. That’s only half of the fun. Taking special,
angles, either from the sides or even from above or people probably won’t be impressed and your double exotic and seductive pictures is a totally different form
below. High or low angles can make a big effect on how a strip-tease. The person shooting the photos definitely Budweiser will be totally irrelevant. of entertainment that promises to both entertain and
the subject looks and can make a dramatic difference. needs to give verbal support here! “Yeah baby” might bring couples closer together. Whether you’re alone or
be encouraging, but isn’t really all that helpful. Rather, Atmosphere and mood are also important things to keep with friends, it guarantees to liven up an afternoon, or an
Outdoor shots can pose more of a challenge in that try giving supportive tips and advice to the person being in mind. Most women are experts of creating just that evening. Try it sometime!
the model needs to be positioned in order to provide photographed. For example, “Honey, maybe you could special atmosphere and love the planning of it. Guys,
the best lighting from the sun or reflections while not try to suck in your gut, just a little bit!” But remember, even if you aren’t into being “creative” with special
blinding them. Supermodels can stare directly at the sun the photographer is really the one who is responsible theme nights or elaborate script writing, just let the Authors Emmanuelle and John are both artists and
without squinting, but most of us are not quite able to ensuring that the shots turn out well, and that the model women do the planning and go with the flow. You will be photographers. Visit their online gallery for sexy images
do that! You could always try wearing sunglasses. Also is looking, well, like a model. rewarded in the end! advice and services: www.BluNun.com/sex
FabulouS FirStS
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drew up their collective courage, knocked on the door, and bathroom. Or, worse yet, “That must be the midnight
someone who later identified herself as “Chantal” slid one of buffet and we already ate.”
those peek-aboo, speakeasy things open to check them out.
Pushing aside the beads, Mary and Don found themselves
Mary spoke with her for a minute or two, the door in a cave like stone foyer, with torch lights leading from the
unlocked, Chantal welcomed them in, took their coats, entryway down into a dark, very steep, stone staircase. And
ushered them to one of the banquettes around a special down they went, their fears taken over by natural curiosity
effect filled disco floor, and then brought them some wine.
Once settled in, Mary and Don were delighted with the people Mary had told her they
watching, content to gape away at couples talking together,
dancing sexy, just sitting around and looking very Euro. were Americans, virgins
to the scene.
Let the Action Begin
After about an hour, Mary and Don noticed that one couple and obvious temptation. As they descended, they heard
walked off the dance floor, with some degree of flourish, moans and groans from a deeper unknown, along with sighs
and headed through a beaded opening at one end of the and whispers. No doubt about it, those were the serious
club. Don recalls thinking that they must be going to the sounds of something very seductive.
bathroom together –– perhaps it’s a cultural thing.
The stairway led into a long cave like area. At the bottom
But another of the steps,
couple left right before their
after. Then eyes even
another. Then adjusted to the
others. Then all surroundings,
the others but they
Mary and Don. encountered
their first (of
They guessed what was
about 100 to be many)
Mary and Don

people had gone visual delights:
through the a pair of
mystery opening highly sensual
within about looking
They’ll Always Have Paris!

fifteen minutes. women

The obvious hit clinging to
them like a load each other,
By David Lawrence from their favorite up and down
money shot: there and wrapped
must be something around using
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behind those beads. hands, legs,
Maybe those arms, lips,
“activities” tongues
Once upon a perfect spring evening, Mary and Don, a With some apprehension, Mary and Don discussed what other than –– they were
happily married, mainstream couple (well, okay, they this might mean if they dared enter. Clearly they were not dancing. all over, top to
did watch a little porn now and then) were walking shocked at the notion. After fifteen years of togetherness, bottom and
back to their hotel after enjoying a late dinner on Paris’ perhaps it was simply a natural inclination for some sort Holding hands inside out. Don
Left Bank. Stopping to cross a street, they spotted an of spiced up variety beyond those porno tapes. For twenty like two almost had
alluring neon sign above an old, windowless building on minutes or so, Mary and Don watched from the curb side innocent kids, an “in-pants
a dark corner. Working through their rough translation as rather normal looking couples poured into the place; they crept Photo courtesy of www.TrapezeClub.com accident.”
capabilities, they read that this was a place for “Couples the women dressed mainly in little black dresses of various through the beaded opening filled with worries like,
Libertines.” –– one of those notorious, couples only Paris sorts and the men in ties and jackets. In all, it was what “Hey, what if these people are all falling into a Dante As their eyes adjusted fully, Mary and Don peered further
“disco clubs” where it was understood that “activities” you would define as a very proper crowd. After swearing like inferno?” Or, gasp, maybe it was, in fact, a coed into the cave and saw a series of small bistro tables with
other than dancing occurred. allegiance and pledging mutual protection, Mary and Don
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seats, and several hallways leading to who knew play between women was not uncommon La femme guide them around. And they saw amazing things. not at all grimy and there seemed to be an enhanced
where? They also saw many people wandering around, continued, saying emphatically that at this club, and There were a lot of “buffet” encounters, where people ventilation system that kept the airflow fresh.
in different states of disarray, all seemingly quite at every club, there is a strict etiquette, which must be casually felt each other under tables or against walls, soon
comfortable and confident, and not because they had a followed. The most sacred rule is No means NO. There moving on to others. There was a fair amount of more During their wanderings, they declined a few invitations
good day at the office! A bit fearful, but charged with is no negotiating a NO. It is unconditional. And so you intense oral sex and intercourse, between couples, or and appreciated how polite people were in respecting their
excitement, Mary and Don asked themselves, “So, what only do what you and your partner agree to and are foursomes, sixsomes, and moresomes –– on and off beds, wishes. Nevertheless, the atmosphere definitely heated
do we do about this?” Before either could answer, or comfortable with, together or alone. in rooms of varying sizes that were at the end of those their mental mode, and much more. So by 3 am they
bolt away, a charming woman approached. She spoke to hallways from the main room. headed out, completely wired in the most erotic way.
Mary. After a minute or so the woman laughed, reached She went on to say that “Play” means anything from Once back in their hotel room, they took steamy showers,
out, took both their hands and sat them down at a table. pleasurably watching others to pairing off with another Their “guide” quietly explained some more rules: and then had even steamier sex. Naturally, they couldn’t
Mary had told her they were Americans, virgins to the couple, joining in for group groupings, or engaging in all No smoking or drinking in the play areas (imagine sleep a wink. They talked, and talked about what
scene, completely unaware of what was happening –– or out mega orgy. Regardless of setting or circumstance, if people actually obeying those restrictions!) and zero they saw, what they liked and what they desired; until
could happen. you reach a point where you’d rather not go further, you tolerance regarding drugs. Safe sex was optional and, the cafes opened for coffee. They remained blissfully
like everything else, based on consensual agreement. exhausted the rest of the day, meandering their way to
After about an hour, the woman left Mary and Don on typical touristy sites, including an old place Don recalls
their own, giving them both a warm hug and kiss on as The Louvre, or some such. (He thinks they had a few
Five Things You Should Learn From the cheeks. For a few hours after, Mary and Don stayed paintings there. He’s not sure, being a bit mushed-brain,
and watched. (The club is open from noon until 5 am after all.) As evening approached, they somehow found a
Mary and Don’s Experience: everyday of the year!) burst of energy. Over a bistro dinner, they eagerly agreed
to return to the club, surprised at how much they were
1. When it comes to the over the world. It’s a universal For the most part, the playrooms were lit well enough mutually intrigued. And so they returned later that night,
for those with voyeuristic tendencies to enjoy the action. and every night for the rest of their stay in Paris –– and
Lifestyle, almost all of us go phenomenon and has been
Throughout the club, Mary and Don found things were every year since for the past decade.
through similar anxieties, since people have been people.
decisions, fantasies, and Be sure to check ahead. Some
expectations. And as with clubs are for couples and women
every aspect of being a couple, only while some admit single
it’s essential to communicate men. Certain nights can vary
all of this with your partner. regarding that policy. (Paris
clubs are listed in weekly
2. In the Lifestyle, No means Pariscope guides available at
No, and you are always in many new stands throughout
control of what you wish to the city.) Or check the internet
experience or not. for quick information. Regardless,
make sure you call to confirm
3. Lifestyle “play” ranges what you’ve read or heard.

from simply watching to
dance floor fondling to all out 5. There are incredible
intercourse. There is something rewards in terms of self
for (almost!) everyone. discovery, and couple
discovery, awaiting those The Wisdom of Woody Allen
4. Lifestyle clubs, and many who take even small risks by
other opportunities, exist all exploring the Lifestyle.
“Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty
good questions.”
The woman explained that this was one of many couples’ only need to say so or push a hand away. And it always
clubs throughout Paris, France, Europe, the world! works because No means NO. There is no pressure to do “Don’t knock masturbation - it’s sex with someone I love.”
anything; ever.
She explained that these clubs exist for sexual encounters
between men and women. There is no male-to-male Sex of Many Sorts “Remember, if you smoke after sex you’re doing it too fast.”
sexual play, saying that the male gay clubs were well- Well, this woman painted a civilized yet pretty sexy picture
known and well-established to attract that clientele. for Mary and Don. They both felt very comfortable from
However, as Mary and Don had recognized from the start, her orientation and easily agreed when she offered to
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“He was still working on the breast, quite a long time I thought.”
LifeStyle Paradox massaging her, but he appeared to be

massaging her breast. Not groping or
top the next time. We’ve played with
single males in the past and enjoyed it
listed on several websites and have adult
material all over the house. Her being
anything overly sexual, but more than very much, but this was not the type topless and having an open personality
what I considered normal. I know there of encounter we look for. Maybe as a could easily appear inviting, but it’s still
are muscles in there, but it caught me fantasy, but never in reality. not appropriate. Just like it’s not OK to
as unacceptable for the grab a naked lady at a club,
masseur to massage my without permission, it’s not
wife’s exposed breast. On OK to touch an exposed
my way back by a few breast without asking.
M
minutes later, he was still
working on the breast, So, the moral of this story
My wife and I have been in the LifeStyle for quite a long time I thought. is that you should always
several years. We’ve been to many clubs, parties, I’m not sure if jealousy is discuss things with your
conventions and resorts. We have played with the correct term, as I don’t partner. Keep an open line
more than a few couples and singles and have really think I was jealous as of communication and head
not had a jealous moment in a long time. I was much as I felt this person off any problems as early as
quite surprised at a recent, non-lifestyle event, was taking advantage of possible.
which struck a jealous bone. the situation and getting a
bit of pleasure for himself.
We’re very secure in our relationship and only Have a Paradox? Write to us, if we
play together; it’s more fun that way. We recently I discussed this later with feature your Paradox we’ll send
my wife; she didn’t realize you a LifeStyle Magazine hat.
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everything was fine. He brought his own table, a 10 minute discussion, she agreed We still use the same masseur and have
oils and all the stuff you need, but didn’t have that it was not acceptable conduct not had any problems. It’s quite possible
by the masseur and agreed to wear a that he knew we were swingers; we’re
“Her being topless and

having an open
personality could easily
appear inviting.”
a sheet for us to cover up with. I usually strip

down naked for a massage since I’m under a
sheet. Since there was no sheet, I decided to
keep my boxers on. My wife kept her thong on,
but went topless.
Being secure in my masculinity, not to mention

that we are open about our bodies, active in
the lifestyle and frequent nude beaches; I didn’t
have any problem with her being topless, at
least not at first.
As two or three weeks went by, one session per

week, I began to notice that my entire massage
was given with me on my tummy. My wife’s
massage was given half face down, half face
up. Now, I have lower back problems, which the
masseur is aware of, so I blew this off as him
just spending more time on my back. One time
the masseur came to our house, I happened
to walk by the massage table while he was
What’s
in a Today, you can find articles on “swinging” in Time
magazine, the New York Times, Details, on HBO, MTV,
“lifestyle” from the mainstream. Nonetheless, the term has
been useful, in fact, because they help explain ourselves
Word
Showtime, VH1 and most national and local newscasts, when referring to social values and behavior.
newspapers and magazines. Conventions and clubs have
popped up in every state. Resorts and hotels now cater Why the history lesson? Most people I run into find the
to “swing” groups like never before. Recently, in New label “swinger” as a negative term with which they don’t
Orleans, over 1,000 “swingers” paraded down Bourbon want to be labeled. While I understand their reasons, most
By Bob Hannaford St. in the first ever “swinging parade” behind a jazz do not understand that the terms “swing” and “swinger”
ILA Board Chair (swing) band with a police have undergone many
S
www.TheILA.org escort. Swinging has almost transformations over
become mainstream. the last century and
Lifestyle: “A way of life or will continue to change
It has become so over the next few years.
“Swing,” “Swinger,” what do these words mean to mainstream that swing style of living that reflects My favorite dictionary
clubs and businesses finally definition defines
you. How about the word “lifestyle?” Funny how
have their own trade the attitudes and values of “swinger” as: “A person
words mean so many different things to so many association. Imagine the who actively seeks
different people. My dictionary defines “Swinger”
effect of an organized a person or group.” excitement and moves
effort to put forth positive with the latest trends.”
as: “One that swings: a good swinger of baseball images of this “swinging Now that is a term we
lifestyle.” This is the first step in gaining acceptance and can live with. Maybe we should print that definition on
bats.” I always had a suspicion that Barry Bonds was tolerance for a sexual minority that is steadily growing and shirts, come out of the closet and show the world who we
we are being noticed. are. OK, maybe not this week... but soon?
a “swinger.” My dictionary also says: “A member of a
couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges By the way, I looked up the word “lifestyle” and my The International Lifestyle Association (ILA) is a nonprofit,
dictionary said: “A way of life or style of living that reflects member-controlled organization that exists to promote
sexual partners.” Now we’re getting somewhere, the attitudes and values of a person or group.” When a positive image of alternative lifestyles and to support
although I didn’t know marital status had so much the term “lifestyle” became popular over a generation lifestyle businesses, professionals, and participants. We
ago, it had many critics that objected to it as trendy and will be contributing to Lifestyle Magazine with articles
to do with “swinging.” I’ll have to call Webster and superficial because it was mainly used to justify habits of we hope you will find informative and most of all,
consumption, recreation or fads to categories in a system interesting. Please visit our site at www.theILA.org for
explain to him that non-married couples swing too. of social classification. Many different forms of sexual more information on the growing swing community. You
I’m sure he’ll be glad to hear that. minorities all consider themselves to be living a different can support our efforts by joining today.
The word “swing” dates back to the 20’s when the black Of course the “shagedelic swinging sixties” followed and
community discovered a new form of music called Jazz and once again the term “swinger” took on a new, cartoon-
called it “Swinging Jazz.” The reference described the form type of character. Towards the end of the 60’s, swinger
of dance where a man would literally “swing” his partner clubs started to form. Publications were printed and
through a series of dance moves. Like the Charleston and different forms of alternative relationships like swinging,
the Lindy Hop were born, and so was the term “swing.” polyamory and communal living started to show up.
Most conservatives couldn’t believe it when they saw
people shaking their hips and frolicking to this new It wasn’t long before the 70’s and rumors of “key parties”
underground sensual music. and “wife swappers” became the common explanation of
the “new swingers.” Again, sexist overtones dominated
Eventually, in the 30’s and 40’s, band leaders like Cab the “swinger” scene, the very term “wife swapper” implies
Callaway, Duke Ellington, Glen Miller and Count Basie that the man owns his wife and can trade her at will for
brought in the big band era and “Swing was King.” The another partner.
popularity of swing music faded after WWII until the late
50’s when Frank Sinatra and the Rat Pack redefined the word The 80’s saw a surge of new clubs forming until the AIDS
“swinger.” The word’s connotation reached beyond their scare forced many swingers underground and many clubs
music and started to represent their lifestyle. They were hip, closed or dropped in membership. Eventually, swinging
fashionable, cool and sexy. They were swingers, man. Playboy became a lot more open, clubs rebounded and national
magazine was first published and a new era of sexuality conventions like Lifestyles in California and Las Vegas
was born. “Swinger” had a positive connotation, everyone gained in popularity and thousands of couples came
wanted to be called a “swinger.” Of course the term was to meet other open minded couples. “Recreational
only relegated to men. Being considered a swinger would swinging” became a powerful economic factor, in fact it
never be considered appropriate for a woman. became an industry.
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Ochlophilia
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T The editors of LifeStyle Magazine asked us
to write an article entitled “How to enjoy
a lifestyle convention.” So, we spent an
exhaustive year researching this subject so
Here’s what we found:
1. Conventions rule! Conventions are the best place for the night. Inside we have our room key (or anyone else’s
How to
beginners to “test the waters,” because of the informative we may happen to come across), some money for cocktails,
we could put together a sure fire guide to seminars and the sheer number of experienced couples condoms (at least three different sizes!), a small bottle of lube
to meet and get to know. They are also the best place for (very important), her silver bullet (in case of emergencies),
enjoy a having a great time while at such an event. experienced couples to make new acquaintances, catch up Tylenol or Excedrin Quicktabs (someone always needs these),
lifestyle
Now this may seem like a dream job, but with old friends and have a venue to party all weekend long. mints and of course a little blue diamond shaped pill (hey, if
let me tell you, its not easy spending hour it works for Bob Dole). You can accessorize your kit by adding
2. Education: Conventions offer a wide range of seminars rabbit fur, vibrators, dildos, duct tape (for you McGyver’s out
after hour trapped in play rooms, judging
convention
from “dealing with jealousy,” STD’s, erotic massage, there) or whatever else might make your evening memorable.
wet “Tease” shirt contests, attending erotic photography, polyamory, BDSM, building communication, and You can remember these motto’s: “be prepared (Boy Scouts) or
seminars, meeting and dancing with over on and on. You can’t find this kind of a resource at a local club “adapt & improvise” (Marines) but Tess prefers: Semper Paratus,
or resort. Make sure you schedule time to attend some (or which is Latin for the Coast Guard’s motto “always ready.”
By Bob & Tess one thousand open minded, friendly, warm, many) of these great seminars.
www.neworleansinnovember.com giving , sexy and sharing couples. But These are just a few things Tess & I learned as we attended
because we love these guys, we sucked it up 3. Forget the education, let’s party: Hey, seminars are great most of the conventions during the last few years. I hope
but we’re here to party! With dances, contests, entertainment passing on some of these tips will help you add to your
and went to work. and of course hospitality rooms, there are so many choices for experience while you are here. Remember, no matter what
a couple to have a fun time, the only real question is “when experiences you may encounter during this weekend, when it’s
do we sleep?” over, you will be heading home with your partner so keep the
lines of communication open and show some respect and you
4. Speaking of hospitality suites, some conventions have can’t go wrong.
Forget the education let’s party

special “Hospitality Suites.” What are these suites you
ask? A place to get a snack? Sometimes. A place to meet
people after the dance? Yes, and more. Much, much more.
SEX
Hospitality suites are areas that most would consider the “on-
Pleasing premise” party area. You can head to this area to play, watch,
be watched and best of all you don’t have to get your own
TIP Him room dirty. So grab your “essentials kit” (more on this later),
a sense for adventure and head to the hospitality suites.
If you wake up 5. Smile: This is the single greatest piece of advice we can
before him, give him a give you. We have seen so many nervous couples sitting by
themselves, wishing someone would come up and talk with
surprise. Oral sex is them, but they are unknowingly putting people off with an
especially good in the half unapproachable look. Just smile. It’s so simple, yet it will make
awake half asleep twilight you so much more approachable. We are looking for fun,
happy and secure couples, if you are looking sad, we’ll move
dream world. on until we see someone smiling and having a great time.
Depending on his size, 6. You’ll get out of this, what you put into it: Talk to each
other about what you expect from this weekend and then
add a hand (or two) “go for it”. The minute you arrive, the clock starts to tick
to your oral workout. away. You only have a few short days to have fun and then
Stimulating the shaft the convention is over. Get out, meet people, participate in
silly games and contests and have some fun. The party won’t
as well as the head can come to you.
make all the difference.
7. Put together an “essentials kit”: Tess has a great little
black bag with everything we need to help get us through
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16 In Willowdale, Oregon, no
7 60% of men and 54% of women
believe it or not
man may curse while having
have had a one-night stand. sex with his wife.
8 In the state of Utah, sex with an 17 In Texas, sixteen-year old

animal, unless performed for profit, is not divorced girls are prohibited
considered sodomy and therefore is legal. from talking about sex during
high school extracurricular
9 Women can sell items and be topless in
Sex and
activities. [For everyone else it’s
Liverpool, England but only in tropical okay?]
the Law...
fish stores.
18 The T’ang Dynasty Empress
10 In Kingsville, Texas there is a law Wu Hu passed a special law
concerning oral sex. She felt that
against two pigs having sex on the city’s
airport property. a woman pleasuring a man
1 In the state of Texas it is a misdemeanor if 11 In Minnesota, it is illegal for any man

represented the supremacy
of the male over the female.
two men engage in oral and or anal sex. Yet, Therefore, she insisted all
to have sexual intercourse with a live fish.
the same law does not apply to men and visiting male dignitaries show
women engaging in the same activities with
each other.
12 As recently as 1990, these states had their respect by pleasuring
laws against the use of dildos: Idaho, Utah, her orally when meeting. The
2 In 1609, a doctor named Wecker found a

Arizona, Oklahoma, Minnesota, Louisiana,
Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia, Florida,
empress would throw open her
robe and her guest would kneel
corpse in Bologna with two penises. Since then, before her and kiss her genitals.
South Carolina, North Carolina, Virginia,
there have been 80 documented cases of men
Maryland, Massachusetts, Rhode Island
similarly endowed.
and Washington D.C. 19 In Florida, having sexual
3 Men say the average erect penis is 10 13 An 18th century French prostitute could
relations with a porcupine is
illegal.
inches. Women say it’s 4 inches.
be spared punishment if she were willing to
join the opera.
4 A honeymooning couple are suing Holiday 14 While not as extreme as the ancient
Inn for $10,000, claiming their sex life is now
Israelite punishment for adultery
dysfunctional because an employee mistakenly
(stoning), Greek men still had their
walked in on them on their wedding night.
fair share of discomfort when their
5 England’s King Edward VII, a man of pubic hair was removed and a
large radish was shoved up their
considerable heft, had a special table built so
rectum.
that he could comfortably engage in sexual
intercourse.
15 In Harrisburg, PA
6 It was considered elegant for aristocratic it is illegal to have sex with
a truck driver inside
ladies of the 16th century to let their pubic
a tollbooth.
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beautiful regardless of size or weight. Fellation – Oral stimulation of the S&M or SM – Sadism/Masochism
penis.
BDSM – Bondage-Discipline- Safe – Someone that is not at risk for
SadoMasochism Fetish – Sexual stimulation via non becoming or causing a pregnancy.
sexual acts or objects.
Bi or Bisexual – Someone that enjoys SBF – Single Black Female
sex with both men and women. Full Swap – A couple that enjoys
sexual pleasure with others that SBiF – Single Bi Female
Bi-Curious – Someone that is curious, includes anything up to AND
interested in or has had limited including intercourse. SBiM – Single Bi Male
Bisexual experience.
Gay – Homosexual, generally a male, SBM – Single Black Male
Bi-Sensual – One that enjoys but not always.
touching/fondling/watching both SGL – Single
sexes, but not Oral/Intercourse. GBM – Gay Black Man
Sodomy – Usually Anal sex, possibly
Bondage – The practice of restraining GWM – Gay White Male forced.
a person(s) for sexual pleasure.
Heterosexual – One who enjoys and Soft Swing/Swingers – A couple
Can Entertain – Someone that has a has sex with only the opposite sex. that enjoys sexual pleasure with
private location and is willing to invite others that includes anything up to
others over. Homosexual – One who enjoys and but not including intercourse.
has sex with only the same sex.
Can Travel – Someone that is willing STD – Sexually Transmitted Disease.
to travel, generally beyond an hours Hung – One with a large penis
drive. STR8 or STR or Straight – Straight, a
HWP – Height/Weight Proportionate. Heterosexual person.
Clean – Diseases and Drug Free Someone that is not overweight or
underweight. Swap or Swapping – Two couples
Convertible – Topless exchanging partners
ISO – In Search Of
Couple – Two people, generally one SWF – Single White Female
male, one female. Lesbian – Gay women
SWM – Single White Male
CPL – Couple LTR – Long Term Relationship
Versatile – Bisexual
Cunnilingus – Oral stimulation of the M – Male
vagina/clitoris Voyeur or Voyeurism – One who
MBC – Married Black Couple enjoys watching.
DD – Clean, disease and drug free.
MBiC – Married Bi Couple Water Sports – Urination involving
Discipline – Spanking, bondage or sexual stimulation.
similar practice intended to arouse Moresome – More than four.
sexual desire.
events and conventions 2004 - 2005 november
november january 05
Takeover at Calinda Cabo San Lucas - Lifestyle Week At Hedo III Resort - Jamaica
Baja, Mexico
January 8-15, 2005
september
september Annual Au Natural Side Takeover - Jamaica November 6-13, 2004 Escape winter for a week, at the hottest party ever!
This week the wild and outrageous Calinda will be Experience the fabulous all-inclusive accommodations,
Curacao Au Naturel Week - Caribbean October 16-23, 2004 taken over by Lifestyles Tours & Travel for a truly unlimited premium drinks, land sports, water sports,
Don’t miss this one! Lifestyles Tours & Travel takes over memorable “lifestyles” experience! The clothing- beaches (one au natural), or relax in one of four
September 12-24, 2004 all the rooms and suites at the beautiful Grand Lido optional swimming pools and hot tubs will be open 24 Jacuzzis. Entertainment includes a circus workshop, late
Plan ahead for a naked good time. Have you ever Braco Village Resort. They offer all-inclusive luxurious hours a day. There will be theme nights, dinner parties, night discotheque, karaoke, live bands, performers,
wondered what it would be like to try activities like accommodations, food services, entertainment, water disco nights, trips to town for nightlife and shopping, a floor shows, and themed parties!
diving, snorkeling, sunbathing, swimming, beach games, sports, golf, and many other amenities. bar crawl, and many other activities!
volleyball, miniature golf, tennis, hiking, jogging, and www.toplesstravel.com
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October 20-24, 2004
Another exciting “hotel takeover,” alternative lifestyle Sandi & Samantha’s Caribbean Cruise
Dallas Interlude LIFESTYLE Come and party at a beautiful, secluded hotel used
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exclusively for this exciting convention. Couples will enjoy convention. A gathering of open-minded couples who
PARTNER February 27 - March 6, 2005
September 16-19, 2004 delicious dinners, an indoor pool, various lifestyle-topic desire to explore their sexuality and want to visit New
Orleans, one of the sexiest cities in America. Plenty Experience the flavor and ambience of the beautiful
Bring your party clothes and a party attitude, but leave seminars, erotic dances, trip giveaways, and vendors
of erotic activities including seminars, professional Costa Atlantica, European style cruising at it’s finest.
those inhibitions at home! Enjoy three full days of a selling erotic adult novelties.
entertainers, demonstrations, themed dance parties, No detail has been overlooked to bring you the style
complete hotel sell out at this convention, designed
www.enticeny.com contests, and much more! (Inside Back Cover) and hospitality of Italy. On every Costa sailing, you will
to bring like-minded couples together in an intimate
enjoy authentic Italian cuisine and the warm attentive
experience. Sexy events include wild and crazy pool
www.neworleansinnovember.com crew will make you feel like one of the family. From
parties, erotic and sensual theme dances, entertaining
the moment you board till the final night’s Bacchanal
seminars, and much more!
Exotic Erotic Ball - San Francisco Parade and Toga Party, it will be an unforgettable week
www.dallasinterlude.com of enjoyment.
October 23, 2004 Everything To Do With Sex Show -
Don’t miss the 25th anniversary of the world famous Calgary, Canada www.trystmag.com
Exotic Erotic Ball. It will be the biggest celebration ever!
Fetish Con 2004 - Tampa, Florida Get your tickets early for the wildest and sexiest party November 18-21, 2004
Plan to attend where “playtime” was never this fun! The
that offers more than entertainment.
4th annual sex show is an upscale consumer trade show
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September 23-26, 2004
Make reservations early for the 4th Annual Fetish www.exoticeroticball.com featuring everything related to the subject of romance
Convention. It is going to be the biggest, hottest bondage and self-improvement. It’s entertainment, education, and Couples Fantasies Week - Jamaica
and fetish convention of the year! Meet hundreds of loads of sexy fun, with a party atmosphere!
sexy models, shop for kinky toys and clothes, attend March 13-20, 2005
workshops, demonstrations, and party hardy! Fetish & Fantasy Halloween Ball - Las Vegas www.canwestshows.com/sexshow Make plans to attend the ultimate fantasy week at
Hedo III. Couples fantasies games and contests held
www.fetishcon.com October 30, 2004 every day with plenty of live entertainment every night!
Purchase your tickets early for one of the wildest bashes on
Hedonism II - Jamaica
october earth. Named “One of the top ten events in the world,” www.couplesfantasies.com
you don’t want to miss this one!
November 21 - December 8, 2004
www.halloweenball.com Caribbean Dreams welcomes you to another European
Chicago Adventure and Erotic Fair LIFESTYLE Naturists and Swingers event. Join in the fun with Body
MAGAZINE Shots, Naked Twister, Hanky Panky games, as well as Do you have or know of an event or convention you
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many other sexy happenings at the fun-packed vacation would like to see listed, please contact us at
September 30 - October 2, 2004.
at Hedo II. 954.755.7338 or editorial@LifeStyleMagazine.com
Don’t miss the best party in the Windy City. The 6th Ms. Hedo III Contest - Jamaica
annual convention features seminars, hot and sexy theme
dances, a clothing-optional pool party, and much more October 31 - November 7, 2004 www.superclubs.com
erotic fun. Vendors will be offering a variety of clothing, The wildest women in the world will compete for the title of
shoes, fetish wear, party attire, erotic art, jewelry, and Ms. Hedo III. Party with these beautiful contestants all week
adult items for fun, pleasure, and titillation. long. Every day of the contest week is sexier than the last!
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