BDSM DIARIES

The importance and significance of preventing a Sub Drop

A Submissive drop. A thing that usually happens after a sexual intercourse, in

BDSM relationships it usually happens after a rough session, and from that view
point I will speak from experience, even tho, it happens in many different
occasions. While the adrenalin, serotonin, and feremon, are high during sex, a lot
of things that aren’t nececarely true are being said, like degrading things, words,
like slut, whore etc… And while it lasts, it helps the moment and the high of the
sex, the sub drop is what happens once the sex ends. Degrading, can turn you on,
rough play can turn you on, but it’s not a full experience or a full circle without a
thing called aftercare. In my opinion, unless 2 confidant people are fully
selfconcious about having only sex without any further relation, aftercare is a
must. And no dom is a real dom if he does not provide it. When you are
dominating someone, and that someone, gives herself/himself to you, that
person gives you the power to destroy her/him, and you should handle it with
care, that’s why in a BDSM relationship, trust is a must. So, if after a rough sex,
and degrading words, you get up and leave, without saying anything, or just turn
to the other side of the bed, there is always danger of ur partner feeling
worthless, used, danger of that person beliving those degrading words, or beliving
she is only that. And that is what is a sub drop, and it’s a really ugly and nasty
thing. It destroys confidance, self worth, and it can brake a person. So, the way
you deal with it is aftercare.
Aftercare comes in many various ways. Depending on what works for different
people, that is why, you should always communicate with your partner, what a
partner loves doing after sex, what makes your partner happy. What calms her
down, and what makes her feel loved or appreciated. That can be, a simple
cuddling, embrace, those can be a bag of snacks and watching a movie, a kiss on
the forehead, whatever you do make sure that the person you are with does not
feel irrelevant, used, since she did make a decision to trust you and give herself to
you. And that isn’t a small thing, it should be handled with care. I had minor or
bigger expiriences with this, but the most significant was when a partner of mine
was dealing with issues… And after an amazing sex while she was still in my arms,
she broke down, and she started crying, after such a high, a drop caused all her
issues, and problems to flow out of her at once, and it would end really bad if I
just got up and left, instead, I embraced my partner firmly, and kept holding her,
while close, while she calmed down and finished crying. Crying wasn’t out of
sadness, or out of feeling worthless, it was tears of relief, teras of being able to
cry in front of someone without being judged, able for someone to see the real
you and respect and appreciate you for it. Aside sexual fulfillment, and saving
someone from hurting him/her. It’s an amazing bonding experience. Later that
person told me that the whole aftercare experience felt even better then the sex.
Some things feed ur mind, not only ur body, and Dom/Sub experience isn’t full
without those 2 together. So, what can I say, fuck eachother, but don’t forget to
cuddle , kiss, or hug. Epsecialy for the males who think showing compassion or
vaulnrability is weakness, it’s the opposite, it’s strength, it means you are
confidant and in touch with your emotions, and you know how to control them.
Nothing screams confidance like that does, aside showing that you are not a boy,
but a man. Anyhow, it’s only my view on a matter, there will be more on the topic
of BDSM, I hope you enjoyed it…