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HOCHSCHILD - The Capacity To Feel
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things that surface m erely as ends o r m eans. Philip Slater, for exam ple,
explores the world o f unconscious affect, focusing on the subterranean
channels through which energy em erges into behavior, nearly bypassing the
actor’s consciousness of feelin g altogether.3
This image, like that o f the conscious cognitive actor, docs not deny affec
tive consciousness. Im ages deny nothing. Rather a focus on conscious think
ing, as with G oflinan, and a focus on unconscious prom ptings, as with Freud
and Slater, allow conscious feeling to fall into a no-man V ian d in between.
So we need a third im age— that Of the .sentient self, a self that is capable offeel
ings and m ean'o f being so. M ore than a bloodless calculator or blind expresser
of uncontrolled em otions, the sentient self is aware of feeling as well as o f
the many cultural guideposts that sh ape it. In everyday life we are often
aware o f indicating to ourselves our subjective states (“ I feel anxious
today"), which in turn stand out against a taken-for-granted background
stream o f experience (“ I’m not usually this anxious"), further, we select and
apply to these states a variety of labels (e.g., anxiety, malaise, uptightness)
from among the em otion vocabularies available to us at a given time and
place in the world.
F.very sociological study foc uses on a range of variation. In the study o f
the sentient self, we distinguish between one and another em otional state
given the em otional vocabulary we have at hand. We explore what we expect
to feel and wanted to feel. With clinical insight, we sometimes link these to
unconscious goings-on beneath the conscious tip o f the iceberg.
But we keep an eye out foi patterns in the very' terms we apply to em o
tional states and the “standing," so to speak, o f each term. We can describe
ourselves as “apathetic." But how bad is it to be apathetic? Is it always a prob
lem? Is it ever norm al or average? As G ordon Allport and H. S. O dbert
observe, certain terms cam e into use in English only after the eighteenth
century (e.g., depression, ennui, chagrin, apathy), and the m odem sense o f
some older terms has becom e m ore subjective (e.g., constraint, em barrass
ment, disappointm ent). Such labels are not, as they note, “univocal svmlxds
corresponding through the ages to fixed varieties o f human disposition."1 In
addition, feelin gs— as people describe them to themselves and others—
may vary in social way's. Ju st as certain behaviors (e.g., suicide, hom icide,
delinquency) are unevenly distributed across layers o f society and the
stream o f time, so too we need to ask whether and why the various em otions,
such as jo y or depression, unfold in ways that reflect larger social patterns.
But arc we not caught in a pecu liar em barrassm ent by the elusiveness o f
our subject matter? For o n e thing, feelings relate to acts in many ways. So
feelings are by no m eans a neat, clear predictor o f actions. For exam ple,
William Kephart asked co llege students, “ If a boy o r girl had all the other
qualities you desire, would you m arry this person if you were not in love with
him /her?" A total o f 64 percent o f the m en, but only 24 percent o f the
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p ie g iv e fo r w h y th e y d o w h a t th e y d o . “ I q u it g r a d u a t e sc h o o l Ijccause I fell
in lo v e w ith y o u r fa t h e r " w as, th ro u g h th e lq b o s , a c o m m o n an d acceptable
t h in g f o r a m id d le -c la ss w o m a n to say, w h ile its c o u n t e r p a r t fo r tnen ("I quit
g r a d u a t e s c h o o l b e c a u s e I fe ll in lo ve w ith y o u r m o t h e r " ) was not. Today a
w o m a n sa y in g th is w o u ld b e q u e s tio n e d , d o u b t e d , a n d pu t o n the spot, and
so w o u ld a m a n .
T h e s e c o n d a p p r o a c h , c o r r e s p o n d in g to th e u n c o n sc io u s emotional
s e lf, ta k e s u s to I re n d a n d th e a p p lic a t io n s o f h is th o u g h t to social science.
W h ile w o rk b y su c h d iv e rse th e o rists as Jo h n D o lla rd , J o h n -Seeley, Philip
S la t e r , G e o f fr e y G o r e r , M a rg a re t M e a d , Ki k F .rik so n , a n d Bronislaw
M a lin o w sk i p r o v id e s e n r ic h in g in te g r a tio n s o f w h at a r e — o r w e re — fairly
d iffe r e n t ia t e d fie ld s (p sy c h o a n a ly sis a n d sot lo lo g y , sa v ), it still often glosses
o v e r th e se n tie n t s e lf .lv 'Phis tcM ilts in stu d ie s w ith a sim u lta n e o u s focus on
tlu* u n c o n s c io u s a n d th e so c ia l, w ith c o n st io n s fe e lin g e d g e d out now by
tw o sid e s r a t h e r th a n o n e . D o lla id , fo r e x a m p le , u ses th e em otion word
“ fr u s t r a tio n " to r e fe r to o b s e r v a b le b rh a vio r le s u lt in g fro m situations in
w h ic h e x p e c t e d acts a r c p r e v e n te d fro m o c c u i i m g .1' B e tw e e n inducing sit
u a tio n a n d c o n s e q u e n t b e h a v io r, D o lla rd g iv e s o n ly a c a su a l glan ce at the
in d iv id u a l's c o n s c io u s e x p e r ie n c e o f f r u s tra tio n , a n d at h e r o r his response
to th at e x p e r ie n c e . T h e “ it" o f fr u s tr a tio n th at g e ts d isp la c e d from one
issu e to a n o th e r, th e “ it" th at is so c ia llv c a u s e d a n d in tu rn c au ses behavior,
re m a in s m y ste rio u sly o u t o f view . W e le a r n m o r e f ro m D o lla rd on the situ
a tio n a l sid e th a n o n th e r e s p o n s e sid e . H is r e s e a r c h n o n e th e le ss suggests
h o w a g g r e s s io n — o n c e w e m a k e c le a r w h at it fcrls lik e to th e aggressive per
s o n — c a n b e “ d is p la c e d ." (T h is is th e c e n t r a l c o n c e r n o f th e section of his
essa y c a lle d “ F e e lin g a n d th e P o litic s o f A im " a n d o f th e essay “ Love and
G o ld " in p a rt 4 .)
T ile th ird a p p r o a c h , b a se d o n th e im a g e of th e se n tie n t self, leads us to
m a p th e in n e r w o rld o f fe e lin g a g a in st th e c u ltu ra l w o rld o f labels. This is
d o n e e it h e r by h o ld in g e x p e r ie n c e c o n sta n t a n d e x a m in in g variations in
la b e lin g , o r by h o ld in g la b e ls c o n sta n t a n d e x a m in in g v a ria tio n in experi
e n c e , o r by lo o k in g at th e in te r r e la tio n s h ip , h o ld in g n e ith e r constant.11 An
e x a m p le o f th e last a p p r o a c h is R o b e r t L e v y 's stu d y o f w h at b e called trans-
s c lie m a tic e x p e r ie n c e a n d c u ltu ra l s c h e m a a m o n g T a h itia n s .'In a list o f 301
w o rd s d e s c r ib in g fe e lin g in th e m issio n a ry d ic tio n a ry , 4 7 r e fe rre d to angry
fe e lin g s a n d 2 7 to p le a s u r a b le states. T o th e W e stern e y e , so m e feelings
(e .g ., a n g e r, s h a m e , fe a r) w e re w e ll d is c r im in a te d , w h ile o th e rs (e.g., lone
lin e ss, d e p r e s s io n , g u ilt) w e re p o o rly d is c r im in a te d .
In th e stu d y o f s e x d iffe r e n c e s w c m ig h t d e t e r m in e w h e th e r an d how the
s a m e la b e ls r e f e r to d iffe r e n t e x p e r ie n c e s f o r m e n a n d w o m e n . F o r exam
p le , K e p h a r t fo u n d th a t c o lle g e w o m e n r e p o r t e d m o r e “ in fatu atio n s" than
d id c o lle g e m e n . H e re a s o n e d th at fo r w o m e n lo o k in g b a c k , “ love affairs are
r e la te d to in fa tu a tio n s . . . a n d a r c r e m e m b e r e d m e re ly as p a ssin g fancies."1-
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worker who blow's up at his wife, the wife who gets angry at her children,
and the children who kick the dog. The very first task would be to explore
the conscious feelings o f people at each juncture in this series o f emotional
waterfalls. The second task would be to determine what anger seems lobe
“displaced" and what not. Who, wc can ask, gets how angry at whom and for
what? When a slightly burned chicken draws a raging response from the
husband, and when a child's small miscalculation about continence draws a
storm of reaction from the mother, we can make a guess about displaced
anger, the idea being that each is “really" angry or “also" angry at something
else. But in order to develop such a guess, we would need to inspect the btuk-
gmunri exficctntums Of both the people in the “anger-chain" and the sociolo
gists studying them.
The “social" goes far deeper than our current images o f self lead us to
suppose. Social roles and relations do not simply reflect patterns of thought
and action, leaving the realm o f emotion and feeling untouched, timeless,
and universal. No, there are social patterns to feeling itself. Our task, as soci
ologists, is to invent both a magnifying glass and a pair o f binoculars that
permit us to trace the many links between a world that shapes people’s feel
ing and people who can feel.