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One Thing That Will Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship: The Behavior That Can Make or Break Your Connection
One Thing That Will Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship: The Behavior That Can Make or Break Your Connection
One Thing That Will Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship: The Behavior That Can Make or Break Your Connection
Belittling.
Criticism in close relationships starts out, in most cases, on a low key and
escalates over time, forming a downward spiral with increasing resentment.
The criticized person feels controlled, which frustrates the critical partner,
who then steps up the criticism, increasing the other’s sense of being
controlled, and so on.
Criticism fails because it embodies two of the things that human beings hate
the most:
Critical people are certainly smart enough to figure out that criticism doesn’t
work. So why do they keep doing it in the face of mounting frustration?
ISFPs (Julie), tend to take criticism very personally so what ENTJs (Adam)
might see as constructive suggestions, ISFPs (Julie) often perceive as a
personal attack. Where ENFPs (Adam) can be insensitive, impatient and
bossy, ISFPs (Julie) can be prone to being moody and sensitive with an
unwillingness to let go of hurts. Finally, ISFPs (Julie) and ENTJs (Adam) may
have sharply different values which can cause a variety of problems. The
ENTJ’s (Adam) self- worth is often tied to their professional lives and
accomplishments which they value greatly, whereas the ISFPs (Julie) tend to
place more importance on their personal relationship and interests