•cOuRtsHip

/ pAnliLigAw
- duRinG tHe eArlY
pEriOd took pAtiEncE
anD a sPiriT oF
dEdIcaTion oN thE pArT
oF a mAn tO wiN thE
hAnD oF hIs fAir lAdY.
• eArLy pAnLiLigAw tEchNiquEs
•pAmAmAnhiKaN
-wHen a mAn dEciDed tO mArrY,
hE conSults hIs pAreNts aNd tHe
eLdErs iN hIs fAmiLy. iF tHe gIrL
aNd hEr fAmiLy wErE
aCcEptAblE, tHe gRoOm’s fAmiLy
wiLL sTarT tO negotiate wIth tHe
bRidE’s pAreNts.

-eLdErLy rEpreSentatIvEs oF
boTh pArtiEs dIcuSs tHe tErms oF
a DOWRY with gReaT tAcT anD
diPlomAcy.
•dOwRy
- rEfErs to tHe cUstOm iN
mAnY EuRopEaN sOciEtiEs
oF thE bRidE’s pArenTs
giVinG a sUbsTancIaL
pResEnt tO tHe hUsbAnD.
•sEvEraL tYpEs
oF dOwRy
•1. bIgAy-kAyA
- cOnSiStInG oF lAnd, gold, oR
dEpEnDenTs. iN aBsEnCe oF
tHeSe, aNy vAluAbLe aRtIcle
wOuLd dO.
•2. pAngHimUyAt
- cErTaIn aMouNt oF mOneY
tO bE gIvEn tO thE bRiDe-tO-
bE’s pArEnTs aS pAymEnt fOr
tHe mOtheR’s eFFoRTs iN
rEaRinG tHe gIrL tO
wOmAnhOOd.
•3. bIgAy-sUsO
- bRiBe gIVen tO thE gIrL’s
wEt-nUrSe wHo fEd tHe bride
dUrIng hEr iNfAncY with
miLk fRom hEr oWn bReaSTs.
•4. hImArAw
-sUm oF mOnEy tO bE gIvEn
tO tHe gIrL’s pArEnTs aS
rEimBurSemEnt fOr tHe
aMouNt sPeNt iN fEeDing tHe
gIrL dUriNg hEr inFaNcY.
•5. sAmBon
- A dOwRy gIvEn tO tHe
gIrL’s reLatIvEs.
•cOnCepTi
Ons
oF
lOvE
• aCcOrDiNg tO R.J. STERNBERG, lOvE
cOnsIsTs oF vArIouS dEgReeS oF:
• iNtImAcY
• pAsSiOn
• cOmmItMeNt
• iDeNtIfIcAtIOn oF lOVe uSing bAsiC
eLeMeNtS oF LoVe aCcOrDinG tO R.J.
STERNBERG

•1. NoN-LoVe
- dI kA nYa gUsTo bEs!
- aBsEnCE oF tHRee oF
cOmpOneNts.
•2. liKiNg
- lAnDi yA pA soY
- iNtiMaCy wIthOut pAssIon
oR coMmItmeNt.
•3. iNfAtUaTiOn
- buRi mE mU, aLi mE pA LaB
- pAssIon, without iNtiMaCy
oR cOmmItmEnt.
•4. rOmAnTic lOVe
- sAna All
- inTimAcY aNd pAssIon
wIthOut cOmmiTmenT.
•5.
cOmPanioNate
lOvE
- pRenS kE mu
- cOmmItMent aNd iNtimaCy
wIthOut pAssIon.
•6. fAtUoUs LoVe
- bEsPren kE mU.
- pAsSion aNd cOmmItmeNt
without iNtiMaCY.
•7. eMptY lOvE
- nAnlAmIg nA.
- coMMitMent wIthOut
pAssIon oR iNtimAcY.
•8. cOnSummAte
LoVe
- xXxmAhAlkItAbEnTeuNo21x
Xx
- combination oF coMMitMent,
pAssIon aNd iNtimAcY.
• aCcOrDiNg tO JOHN LEE, tHerE aRe
NuMbeR of sTylEs oF lOve, tHaT
 dEsCRibE tHe wAy LovErs rElAtE tO
eAcH oThEr.

•1. LuDuS
-a LuDic LovEr vIeWs lOvE
aS a gAmE, aS pLAy, aS
fUn aNd rEfuSeS to bEcOme
dEpEnDent oN aNy pErsOn
anD dOes nOt encourage
aNotHer’s inTimAcy.
•2. pRaGmA
-Love of tHe pragmatic wHo
is LogIcal aNd rAtioNal.
ThE pRagMa LovEr
aSsEsses hIs/hEr pArTner
oN tHe bAsiS oF aSsets aNd
liAbilIties.
•3. eRoS
-oPpOsiTe oF prAgma,
eRotiC lovErs arE consumed
bY pAssIon AnD rOmAncE.
•4. mAnIa
-a PerSon wIth mAnic LovE
fEels iNTensE eMotioNal
aNd sExUal pAssIon bUt is
Out oF ConTrOL.
•5. sToRgE
-stOrgE love is cAlM,
sOotHing, nOn-sExUal love
dEvoId oF iNtEnsE
pAssIon.
•6. aGaPe
-aGaPe is sElFleSs aNd
gIviNg, eXpeCtiNg nOthing
iN rEtUrN.
•MARRIA
GE
•mArrIagE
-aFter thE dIffiCuLt siTuAtiOn
oF coUrTsHIp aNd SelEctiOn
or cHoICe of Mate, yoU aRe
noW rEaDy tO emBarK Into
tHe mOst eXciTing pArT of iTs
jOurneY, conStiTuTinG yoUr
fAmiLy.
• bEnEfITs oF mArrIAge
1 .HeAlTH – sPousEs aRe siCk less oFten.
2. LoNgeVitY –sPouSes live lOngEr tHan
siNgles.
3. HaPpInEsS –sPoUser rEpoRt bEing
hAppIer tHat siNgles.
4. SexUal SatIsFacTioN –spoUseS rEpoRt
bEing mOre saTisfIed wIth tHeir sEx.
5. MonEy –spoUseS hAvE mOre eConomic
rEsoUrcEs.
6. LoWeR ExPenSes –tWo cAn liVe mOre
cHeaPly tOgetHer tHan sEpAraTely.
7. DrUg UsE –sPoUses hAve lower rAtes of
dRug uSe anD aBuse.
8. ConNecTednEss –sPouSes aRe connected to
mOre iNdivIduALs wHo
pRovidE A sUppOrt sYstem.
9. ChIldReN –rAtes oF high sChoOl
drOpoUts, tEen pRegNanCies, and pOverTy
arE lower aMong cHilDreN rEareD in
A tWo-pAreNt hoMe.
10.HiStoRy –spOusEs dEvElop a sHarEd
hiStoRy aCrOss tiMe wiTh sIgniFicAnt oTher.

•Theories of Mate
Selection
• Endogamy
-from the Greek word “endon” which means
“within”
- Specifies the groups within which spouse
must be found and prohibits marriage with
others
• Exogamy
-from the Greek word “exo” which
means “outside”
- Requires mate selection outside certain
groups, usually one’s family or certain
folk
• Incest Taboo
• A social norm common to virtually all
societies, prohibits sexual relationships
between certain culturally specified
relatives
• Other Marriage Patters
• Monogamy – Each man have only one
wife at a time, and each woman may
only have one husband

• Polygamy – marriage in which a person

may have more than one spouse at a
time
• 2 Kinds of Polygamous Marriage
Polygyny – allows a man to have more
than one wife at a time (islam
• Legal Concept of Marriage
• Marriage is adopted pursuant to
Executive Order No. 209 approved and
signed into law by Corazon Aquino on
July 6,1987

Justice Malcolm says that “the basis of

human society throughout the civilized
world is that of marriage”

• Sociological and Anthropological

Concept of Family
“The Family is, as far as we know, the
toughest institution we have. It is, in fact,
the institution to which we owe our
humanity” – Margaret Mead
• “Family is the basic unit of the
society”

Family can be defined as a set of people

related by blood, marriage, or adoption
who share the primary responsibility for
reproduction and caring for members of
society.

“Feelings of warmth, love, and caring

from parents were associated with less
emotional distress, lower substance
abuse, and later age for first intercourse”
• The Filipino Family
• Monogamous
• Plays unique role for the child
• Members are bound to help each other
• Help the handicapped or take care of the
aged
• Marital virtue of whatever religion is cohesive
in nature
• Closeness and harmony
• It is governed in the best tradition of human
rights and understanding each other

• 4 KINDS OF LOVE IN THE FAMILY

• Conjugal Love – neutral affection of
husband and wife
• Parental Love – manifested in the desire for
children and in self-sacrificing care,
protection, and love of offspring.
• Filial Love – attraction of child to father and
mother
• Fraternal Love – love between siblings
• Members of the Filipino Family
• The Husband and Father
leader or head of the family
and his authority is respected

• The Wife and Mother – hear of the

family

F- father
A- and
M- mother, a member of the family will
say
I- (child – son or daughter)
L- love
Y- you
• Functions of the family by Sociologist
Willian F. Ogburn
• Regulation of sexual
behavior and
reproduction
• Protection
• Socialization and
Education
• Status Conferal
• Affection and
Companionship
• Economic Activity
• FAMILY SUB-SYSTEMS
•Marital Subsystem
•Parental Subsystem
•Sibling Subsystem
• Marital Subsystem
• Parental Subsystem
• Sibling Subsystem
• KINDS OF FAMILY OR FAMILY
PATTERNS
• Membership, Organization and
Structure Patterns:
• Nuclear Family
• Extended Family
• II. RESIDENCE PATTERN:
• Neolocal
Residence
• Matrilocal
Residence
• Patrilocal
Residence
• III. AUTHORITY PATTERNS:
• Patriarchy or
Patriarchal
• Matriarchy or
Matriarchal
• Equalitarian
• IV. DESCENT PATTERNS:

• Bilineal Descent
• Patrilineal
Descent
• Matrilineal
Descent
• LEGAL CONCEPT OF FAMILY

•Concept of
Family Planning
•CHOOSING
THE RIGHT
CONTRACEPTI
VES
 •Dissolution of
Marriage
• DISSOLUTION OF
MARRIAGE
• DISSOLUTION OF
MARRIAGE
“It’s not you, it’s me…”

“You deserve better…”

“We need space…“

“Kailangan ko munang hanapin ang sarili ko…”

“Para sa ikabubuti ng lahat…”

“Hindi na kita mahal…”

In the PH, there are laws wherein marriage
could be dissolved for as long as the ground for
dissolving the bond is present. The Family Code
or the Executive Order no. 209 provides the
methods in which Filipino couples could dissolve
their marriage bond.
• LEGAL SEPARATION
This is merely the separation of spouses from bed
and board. While it permits the partial suspension of
marital relations, the marriage bond still exists as the
marital bonds are not severed as in the case of
annulment.
• Grounds in filing a petition for
Legal Separation:
• Repeated physical violence or grossly abusive conduct directed against the petitioner, a
common child, or a child of the petitioner.

• Physical violence or moral pressure to compel the petitioner to change religious

affiliation.

• Attempt of respondent to corrupt or induce the petitioner, a common child, or a child of

the petitioner to engage in prostitution, or connivance in such corruption or inducement.

• Final judgment sentencing the respondent to imprisonment of more than six years, even
if pardoned.

• Drug addiction or habitual alcoholism of the respondent.

• Lesbianism or homosexuality of the respondent.

• Contracting by the respondent of a subsequent bigamous marriage, whether in the PH

or abroad.
 • Sexual infidelity or perversion.

• Attempt by the respondent against the life of the petitioner.

• Abandonment of petitioner by respondent without justifiable cause for more than one
year.

• ANNULMENT OF MARRIAGE
This has the effect of considering the marriage as
“void ab initio,” a Latin term to meaning the marriage
never existed at all. Although it has a different effect
in how it considers the marriage (null and void) after
the annulment, it has, however, the same effect in
terms of capacitating the parties to remarry.
• A marriage may be annulled for
any of the following causes:
• Absence of parental consent if one of the parties is eighteen years
old but below twenty one.

• Either of one party was of unsound mind.

• Consent of either party was obtained by fraud.

• Consent of either party what obtained by force, intimidation, or

undue influence.

• Physical incapacity.

• Affliction of serious and incurable sexually transmissible disease.

• Recent development on
Divorce
There is now a proposed law in the House of
Representatives during the 11th Congress filed on March 8, 1999
and authored by Rep. Manuel C. Ortega of La Union providing the
grounds of divorce in the PH.
This bills seeks to amend E.O. no. 209, otherwise known as
the Family Code of the Philippines, as amended by E.O. no. 227,
by allowing absolute divorce (a vinculo matrimonii in Latin) and
thereby granting legally separated spouses the right to remarry.

• Recent development on
Divorce
• Recent development on
Divorce
• Executive Order no. 227
Sec. 1. Article 26 of the Executive Order No. 209 is hereby amended to
read as follows:

"Art. 26. All marriage solemnized outside the Philippines in accordance

with the laws in force in the country where they were solemnized, and
valid there as such, shall also be valid in this country, except those
prohibited under Articles 35(1), (4), (5) and (6), 36, 37 and 38.
Where a marriage between a Filipino citizen and a foreigner is validly
celebrated and a divorce is thereafter validly obtained abroad by the alien
spouse capacitating him or her to remarry, the Filipino spouses shall have
capacity to remarry under Philippine law."

• Executive Order no. 227

Sec. 2. Article 36 of Executive Order No. 209 is hereby amended to read
as follows:

"Art. 36. A marriage contracted by any party who, at the time of the
celebration, was psychologically incapacitated to comply with the
essential marital obligations of marriage, shall likewise be void even if
such incapacity becomes manifest only after its solemnization.“

Sec. 3. Article 39 of the Executive Order No. 209 is hereby amended to

read as follows:

"Art. 39. The action or defense for the declaration of absolute nullity of
marriage shall not prescribe. However, in the case of marriages
celebrated before the effectivity of this Code and falling under Article
36, such action or defense shall have taken effect."