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A Child's Story: Life Changes! by Olivia
A Child's Story: Life Changes! by Olivia
A Child's Story: Life Changes! by Olivia
This story was written by a young girl here in Maine named Olivia when she was only 8
years old. She worked with a counselor to help her get through some of the most difficult
parts of her parents' divorce, and one of the things that helped her the most was writing
down her thoughts along the way. Four years later, Olivia has adjusted very well to the
changes that divorce brought to her family and hopes that you can benefit from hearing her
story.
Life Changes!
By Olivia
Hello. My name is Olivia. I am 8 years old and I live in Maine. I am in the 3rd grade. My
parents were separated from each other when I was 6 years old. This caused a lot of
changes in my life that I had to get used to. Right now I live with my Mother but I see my
Dad all the time too.
I decided to write this book for a few reasons. First, I wanted to help other kids deal with
changes in their lives by sharing some of my ideas about the experiences in my life.
Second, by writing this book, I can understand my own life changes a little better. Third, I
would like to help other kids learn that there are ways to deal with changes that could
happen in their lives, too.
On my Dad's last day at home, which I'll never forget, I felt very, very, very sad. I remember
everything about it. My Dad felt sad too. He had to move to a different town and live with my
Nana. After one year he moved closer to me and now lives in an apartment in the next town
from me. The ride to his house is only about 10 minutes away from where I live with my
Mom.
After they were separated for a while and lived apart they decided to officially get divorced.
That means that they went to court and a judge signed a paper. This was a big Life Change!
2. Giving Things Up
After my Mom and Dad got separated, my Mom and I moved into a new house where we
couldn't have a dog unless we owned the house. We rented our new home so we had to
find a new place for our dog. Her name is Chloe. I felt upset, sad and sort of mad that Chloe
couldn't live with us anymore. She now lives in a different town in a house with our friends
and their children. We still get to visit Chloe once in awhile (she officially still belongs to us),
so that makes it easier. I didn't want to give my dog away but we couldn't live in our new
place if we didn't. I miss her but I'm getting used to it now, and I found out that I can be okay
without Chloe. Sometimes you have to give something up when Life Changes!
I learned that it is important to take care of yourself when your parents get divorced, and I
learned that they have to take care of themselves. Kids can't take care of their parents, they
can only take care of themselves. Parents have to make their own decisions about
separation and divorce, it's not up to the kids. Parents get divorced because of their own
reasons, not because of their kids. Parents keep growing up too. Sometimes we get afraid
of things in our lives when it feels different in our family, and it's important to talk to other
people when Life Changes!
5. New Relationships
After a divorce your parents may go on dates with a person that they have met somewhere.
Sometimes parents will develop new relationships with new people, and you may be able to
bond with that person too.
You may feel worried and confused about who will take care of you and what is going on.
You may be angry at your parent because you may not know how to share your parent
since it has been just you and your Mom or you and your Dad with undivided attention for
each other. Or you may feel happy just to see your parent happy. You could feel all kinds of
these feelings. But that is normal too, just remember Life Changes.
My parents worked out a way to make sure I get equal attention from them both and that I
would always be with an adult that could take care of me the way they do.
Sometimes parents with children get divorced, but they can work together to make sure you
are well-taken care of.
A Note to Parents
Dear Parents,
As you can see, I worked through my parent's divorce because it was amicable. The most
important thing they did to help me was they kept up their talking and their friendship. I still
get the same attention that I got when my Mom and Dad were married.
I really had to get used to this change, in some ways it took apart my life. In three years I
was able to sew my life back together. This is how your child can feel too if you as parents
keep talking to each other and to your kids. Make sure that your children know why you got
divorced, because they may think it's their fault like I did.
Sincerely,
Olivia