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Kiya Powell
Kiya Powell
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Like many children Pete thought the physical abuse he suffered from his mom was normal.
Pete’s earliest memory of his mom’s temper was when he was a toddler and his mother was
throwing books down the stairs at Pete’s dad. But Pete thought it was just a game. Pete’s dad
moved out of the house when Pete was about five or six years old. When his dad moved out of
the house his mother’s aggression then turned on Pete. She would kick and beat him, throttle
him, throw him down the stairs and push him into scalding hot bath water. She once put Pete’s
head under water and another time shoved a full bar of soap into his mouth. Pete never knew
when his mother was going to flip and get angry and start screaming at him. Sometimes she
would apologize after getting angry. Other times she’d accuse Pete of making her angry and
sometimes she’d pretend it never happened. Pete didn’t misbehave as a kid but his mother would
find something small to get angry over that triggered her violent outbursts. It usually started with
her yelling and swearing. Pete would go up to his room to avoid her but she’d follow him to his
room and throw him against the wall and proceed to hit and kick him. If Pete put his arm or leg
out to protect himself she’d say he hit her and the whole thing would escalate. Pete’s sister had a
better relationship with their mother than Pete. She would hit and yell at her but Pete was the
bore the brunt of her anger. Pete’s sister wouldn’t admit to their dad that their mother was
abusing him, but she’d admit in private to him. Pete’s dad saw bruises on Pete’s back when he
was eight or nine years old and called the police. They took pictures of his injuries and
interviewed him. Pete believed the neighbors heard the raised voices but never made a complaint
or did anything about it. Pete moved in with his dad but in a month he was returned back to his
mother. It was around the age of 12 that Pete realized what his mother was doing to him was
wrong and not normal and that other kids’ parents didn’t treat them the way he was being treated.
Over the years Pete got stronger and started to fight back so the beatings happened less. Pete
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lived with his mother until his GSCEs were finished then he moved in with his dad. His dad went
to court numerous times to get custody of Pete but nothing changed. His mother still says that
nothing ever happened and that Pete’s dad made it all up. Pete still lives with the feelings and
fears from those days as a child and he’s in his 20s now. Pete finds it difficult to trust people and
he has flashbacks especially if he’s watching something on TV that triggers a memory. Pete finds
everyday things like walking down a street difficult as he worries that something as simple as
making eye contact with someone will cause them to be physically violent towards him.
Child abuse is common. It is important to understand and reduce the risk of child abuse
and familiarize yourself with the signs of abuse. Approximately three million cases of child
abuse and neglect involving almost 5.5 million children are reported each year. As the graph
shows, children are more likely to be introduced to child abuse at a younger age rather than a
older kid. The majority of the cases that are reported to Child Protective Services involve sexual
or physical abuse. Sexual abuse is any sexual activity that a child cannot understand or consent
to. That includes acts of fondling, oral-genital contact, and genital and anal intercourse. It also
includes prostitution and exposure to pornography. Studies have suggested that up to one in four
girls and one in eight boys will be sexually abused before they are eighteen years old. Physical
abuse occurs when a child’s body is injured as a result of hitting, kicking, burning, shaking and
other forceful contact with the body. One study shows there are about one in 20 children abused
in their lifetime. Child neglect includes failing to provide the basic needs for a child such as
food, clothing, shelter and other physical necessities. Child neglect also includes emotional
neglect such failing to provide love, affection or comfort. Medical neglect includes failing to
provide needed medical care. Emotional abuse ties into all of the above but also is associated
with verbal abuse resulting in a child’s low self-esteem and well being. It is not always easy to
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recognize when a child is being abused or neglected. Most children who are being mistreated are
often afraid to tell someone because they are afraid of the result of their actions or being blamed
for what happened to them or that no one will be believe them. Most of the time they keep quiet
symptoms of abuse
This is a serious
day. A child who has been abused needs special support and treatment. The longer a child is
abused or left to deal with the situation on their own the harder and longer it takes for that
individual to heal and develop mentally and physically. The different forms of child abuse affect
the development and self-growth of individuals today because these individuals are not receiving
the proper treatment or support they deserve. Child abuse is an underestimated problem in
America because many children are afraid to speak up about it for fear or love of the
abuser, some children do not even know that it is not normal and many adults do not know
to speak up.Children don’t understand what they are going through and why they are being
abused so they don’t tell anyone they are being abused. In order to keep the abuse secret, the
abuser will often play on the child's fear, embarrassment or guilt about what is happening,
perhaps convincing them that no one will believe them or that the child will be punished.
Sometimes the abuser will convince the child that he or she enjoyed it and wanted it to happen.
Children also don’t speak up about being abused because they are ashamed of what has
happened to them and don’t want to believe it or feel like they brought on themselves.They
assume there is something they could have done to stop the abuser. They regret what they did or
what they did not do. They wonder if the perpetrator would have stopped had they screamed
louder or fought harder. They ask themselves if they could have avoided the situation, the
location, the person. Survivors often don’t tell because they think they did something wrong or
didn’t do something right. They blame themselves. The public stature of a perpetrator plays
prominently in a survivor coming forward. If the abuser is a respected member of the community
or an admired friend of the family, the chances of a survivor speaking out are significantly
reduced.The survivors also feel trapped because the abuser is a public figure or well respected so
they don’t feel they have a chance of freedom. Many perpetrators do indeed threaten the victim
that if he or she tells, they might kill someone in the family. Sometimes they say that the
authorities will come in and break up the family not an unlikely scenario if the child is believed
and the parent who is told actually reports the perpetrator. Other victims are told that no one will
believe them.Children don’t tell that they are being abused because they are afraid or being
threatened or told that no one will believe them. Some of those who do reveal suffer negative
consequences, such as being blamed for "seducing" the perpetrator or being accused of lying.
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One study showed that 52 percent of those who reported mistreatment to a parent were still being
abused a year after the disclosure. Children also don’t tell they are being abused because they
feel nothing will be done about it and some victims have love for their abusers.
The child may not realize that the abuse isn’t normal because they trust the abuser and
because they think what the abuser is doing is okay because the abuser is intoxicated. These are
all bad signs of child abuse that causes emotional and mental damage to children minds. The use
of alcohol, tobacco, or illicit drugs can hinder a caregiver's judgment and put a child in danger,
leading to things like neglect or physical abuse. But in some states, substance abuse is also
considered a form of child abuse on its own. Most children don’t realize the truth until they
interact with other children who are not experiencing abuse. This says that sometimes people say
things that make children be in denial of what has happened to them because they are focused on
what will be said or done to them. For many years I lived with an inner roar of self-hate. Meeting
other women with the same pain made me realise it was not unique and I wasn’t to blame.Denial
is a funny thing, isn’t it? I’m sitting at a dinner party, freshly wounded from a failed relationship,
and someone is talking drunkenly about Jimmy Savile. “Well all those people who have come
forward as victims, I bet it’s just for the money, isn’t it? Those people just want attention.” And
at that moment, something inside me shatters. I fall through the glass floor of my own denial and
remember that I was sexually abused. By my grandad, starting from around the age of five or so.
Part of my mind reels, trying to stagger away from the memories. No, no it didn’t happen didn’t
happen didn’t happen. It did though, of course. According to statistics from the NSPCC one in
20 children in the UK have been sexually abused. One in three children who have been sexually
abused by an adult and don’t tell anyone. The children who are being abused were not taught that
abuse is not okay so they don’t make it known to themselves or to other people what is
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happening to them. The children are also convinced by other adults that they trust or fear that the
abuse is okay and that they are not being harmed that’s the way everyone life is when it’s not.
They have been taught to obey adults. They have promised to keep the abuse secret. They have
been bribed to keep it a secret. They have been threatened by the offender to keep it a secret and
are scared to tell. They feel guilty because they believe that the abuse is their fault. They are
ashamed to tell. They are confused because the offender is someone they know and trust. They
have been convinced that the abuse is normal or okay. They are too young to know that the abuse
isn’t appropriate especially if it’s done by someone they know and trust. They have not been
taught that the abuse is not okay. They don’t know the words to use to tell.
Most adults feel guilty because they feel like they didn’t do their job by protecting a child
from danger. When you’re the one who has been hurt in this way (or someone who cares about a
child who has), it’s hard to imagine that there can be any “good reason” for failing to protect a
vulnerable child. You may feel doubly betrayed by someone’s failure to help. You were in
danger, someone could have protected you and chose not to. No excuses or rationalizations for
their failure seem acceptable. Some adults are in denial because they don’t want to believe
something so tragic could happen to a child. Also, some people actually feel more anger toward a
non-abusive adult who didn’t speak up than toward the person who actually hurt them. They may
have expected the worst of the abuser, who was clearly deeply disturbed or had little or no
concern for others, but expected better from someone who was otherwise mostly caring and
worthy of trust. This anger at the person who failed to protect may be especially strong while
unwanted or abusive sexual experiences are happening, or as one begins coming to grips with the
consequences. But it can last for decades.The adults sometimes feel under pressure because the
child can grow up resenting them for what the child feel the other adult who knew this person or
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was around this person allowed to do to them and they didn’t speak up or protect them from this
abuser. Denial is a powerful and primitive defense mechanism. Someone who are dependent,
frightened and themselves the victim of abuse, can remain silent and not even see or hear the
abuse in order to maintain the desperately needed relationship with the abuser. In a way, it is a
variation of the old saying, “Hear no evil, see no evil.” Well, people do hear it and see it and fail
to act. Some adults don’t report the abuse because they are the abuser and doesn’t want to be
discovered and penalized for their sickness. Some adults are afraid to speak up about abuse
because they are scared of what might happen to them if they do tell someone they have
witnessed abuse or involved in it. The victim who is able to articulate the situation of the victim
has ceased to be a victim: he or she has become a threat.The people who are victims to abuse
who had the ability to speak up about the situation who may or may not still be going through
abuse becomes a threat because of the damage that was done to them through abuse so many
people take the fact that the child didn’t speak up as a way of showing denial of what really
happened.
Child abuse is an overlooked issue that happens in America every day because children
are afraid to ask for help, they do not want the person to get in trouble and some children do not
even realize abuse is abnormal and many adults are in denial of the abuse happening. Child
abuse is happening to children all around the world who need to be helped and need a solid
support system to help that child heal mentally, physically, and emotionally from these types of
neglect. As a result of child abuse many children are suffering from brain damage, serious
fractures in the body and low emotional self-esteem, which can affect the growth and
development of that child’s mind. If we do not take child abuse more seriously, we are liable if
more children suffer from brain damage and injuries that they cannot recover from. Suicide rates
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are already skyrocketing in our country, and overlooked or ignored child abuse is only making
that issue worse. Think about a child you know. What if this were happening to that child?
Someone you know may be suffering from child abuse right now. We have to act on this issue
now before it gets worse and starts to affect more children and their health and development.
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O'Grady, Robin L. “Why Children Don't Tell.” Lacasa Center, 4 July 2018,
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“Child Abuse (for Parents).” Edited by D'Arcy Lyness, KidsHealth, The Nemours
Newman, Sarah. “When Abuse Becomes Denial.” Psych Central, Psych Central.com, 8 July
2018,psychcentral.com/blog/when-abuse-becomes-denial/.