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This Is How Pain Changes
This Is How Pain Changes
Jérôme Licht
There is no love without pain and there is no life without pain. Pain is how
we gain our wisdom and our strength and it’s how we develop thick skin. But
in between pain and wisdom, we change — because no one gets out of
pain the same person they used to be.
We still love. But with our guards up high, not as reachable as we used to be,
not as trusting, not as innocent, not as pure and not the hopeless romantics we
once were. We’re cautious, we’re afraid, we don’t want to get rejected, we
don’t want to be bitter and we don’t want to repeat the same mistakes again.
We break hearts to save our own and we can live years without telling
someone how we feel because we know they don’t feel the same way.
We still dream. But we don’t dream too big and we don’t try to chase our
dreams because we don’t want to lose again, we don’t want to fail, we don’t
want to feel like we’re worthless. We want to prove that we’re good enough,
that we’re capable of depending on ourselves, that we’re responsible adults,
so we dream within reach, we dream about what we know we can attain, we
don’t look up, we don’t look too far away and we don’t believe in
miracles. We dream, but we don’t follow our dreams, we don’t think they’ll
happen to us, we don’t think we deserve that kind of happiness because we’re
used to pain.
Pain changes people; mostly for the better, but when people suffer, they try to
do everything they can to avoid it, they don’t want their hearts to sink into the
ground again, they don’t want to cry uncontrollably again and they don’t
want to feel weak again.
Sometimes I wish pain didn’t change us, I wish pain didn’t get so deeply to
us so we can love, live, hope and dream like we used to. So we can believe in
happiness and miracles the way we used to.
Sometimes I wish we could change pain instead of pain changing us, so we
can find a way to be ourselves again, to be the people we used to be before
we were broken.