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Boys Versus Girls Parenting Styles
Boys Versus Girls Parenting Styles
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Introduction
When it comes to the matter of parenting boys’ versus girls, the debate of nurture versus
nature has been happening for several years. Some of the key questions raised are; are girls and
boys inherently different? Or do the guardians or parent raise them in that manner? In a study
conducted in 1997 by Newsweek, it indicated that almost sixty-two percent of parents believe that
the difference amid girls and boys originate from the manner in which they are brought up rather
than genetics. Sex differences are real, and I totally believe parenting for a daughter should differ
from son parenting. It may take some parents several years to comprehend the effects of different
parenting amid the two genders, but from what has been done in the literature so far has shown
that girls, as well as boys’ value different things or in other words both genders, prioritize their
values differently. For instance, it has been reported that for daughters, the most vital thing is
relationship while boys show respect to actions. A lot of literature has been done on how do
parenting styles differ from raising a boy child as well as a girl child. However, the truth of the
matter can be clearly explained from the perspective of nurture versus nature.
Researches have reported multiple profound differences amid girls and boys and the
manner in which they respond to the world, commencing from their birth. For instance, a newborn
girl spends most of the time keeping eye contact with adults. As a consequence of that, once the
child has reached four months, can recognize various faces. Again, looking at infant boy, the infant
Experts in parenting have reported that girls reach the initial developmental stages earlier
compared to boys, which include having hand-eye coordination, talking as well as managing their
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emotions. The kind of difference is associated with hormones. Infant girls have lower levels of
testosterone compared to infant boy and high level of serotonin. The difference in the hormones
makes the infants more easily stressed as well as harder to calm down. Again, it indicates a greater
tendency for the kinds to comfort themselves through thumbs sucking. Moreover, high levels of
testosterone hormone have been identified the leading cause of infant boy having more aggressive
At the age of four years, boys appear to be poor at the interpretation of emotions as well as
building a relationship as compared to girls, while girls have a poor understanding of the spatial
relationship. Again, a tangible difference has been noticed amid boys and girls when it comes to
language. Studies have reported that the development of verbal skills is faster in girls than in boys.
While girl child use words almost exclusively, boy child tends to use words roughly sixty percent
of the time, as well as substituting sounds and noises for the remaining percentage of the time.
In the age of schooling, the difference amid the sexes is clearly seen on the playground.
For instance, for sons, play mostly centers around winning. Boys tend to play in large teams with
organized games which do maintain a certain score. The boys thrive in competing as well as one-
upmanship as every one of them struggle to lead the rest. On the other hand, girls are seen playing
in minor teams between two to four members. Mostly, the girls engage in inmate talking, intently
listening to one another as well as keeping eye contact. Often, their play centers around buildings
as well as discussing relationships. Referring to our traditions, female games such as jump rope as
Again, some literature has indicated that teenage girls perceive more stressors in their life
friends, family as well as romantic interests). Again, teenage girls have been portrayed as having
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a strong reaction to stressors and are very likely to encounter depression. For instance, if a teenage
girlfriend and boyfriend fight, the girl has high chances to obsess over the fight. While the boy has
While some differences amid girls and boys can be considered inborn, the style of parenting
automatically plays a key role, more so parenting boys and girls in line with stereotypes of gender
difference. For instance, some parents or guardians, if I may say, may offer less quick affection to
boy child for anxiety of converting the child into “mama’s boy.” Parents may be not responding
quickly to comforting the boy child when makes a mistake or probably injure himself and they
may appear more lenient at the instances when the child roughhouse or shows other forms of
On the other hand, some parents are fast to rush in and assist their girls when attempting to
complete a particular activity. Only by trying, failing and attempting again, do most of the children
help the girl child, once they deprive their girls of this learning encounter, they teach them to
Understanding that girls tend to develop language as well as excellent motor skills earlier
compared to boys, girls can outdo boys in the classroom very quickly, although boy child most
does better than girls. However, girls tend to perform better in elementary studies. To balance the
playing ground, most of the parents have started to enroll their kids in kindergartens almost an
entire year later. Furthermore, several schools have replaced free play recess with other activities
which are more structured in order to minimize the competition. Again, games within the class are
also diminishing as most of the teachers pay attention to the more cooperative activities in which
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every pupil is a winner. Although the kind of environment being embraced is more helpful to the
girl child, researches have reported that boys turn frustrated as well as more aggressive in situations
free of competition.
However, other schools appear to be pushing the gender difference theory too far. More
so, with a push witnessed in Bush administration, several schools are adopting single-gender
classrooms, whereby, girls and boys are separated. Recent statistics have reported that more than
three hundred and sixty classes all over the United States have embraced single-gender classroom
policy. The most real claim to support the approach sites the difference amid boys and girls in
certain subjects, for example, sciences and mathematics (whereby boys naturally appear ton score
higher as compared to girls); and language arts and reading (girls typically score better than boys).
In that manner, the single-gender classroom approach would enable teachers to compensate for the
gender discrepancies through permitting girls to engage in science projects which compare
cosmetics or basically allowing boys read various types of novels instead of the traditional
literature in the typical curriculum. Some boys only classrooms are evaluating a boot camp style
Conclusion
Many researchers have agreed that the best parenting strategies pay attention to a
combination of nurture and nature. Exactly, girls and boys are naturally not the same in various
ways; however, they should be brought up in an equally nurturing environment. Both girls and
boys have to be educated on the same values: respect, independence, empathy, confidence, and
compassion. Moreover, physical aggression must carry a similar consequence for both girls and
boys and parents must teach their children alternative approaches to problem-solving.
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When parents are bringing up their boys and daughter, they must understand that every
child is unique. Parents must observe the manner in which every child expresses him or herself as
well as permitting every child to get exposed to varying interest. Motivate their children to hone
their different gifts. Finally, parents need to acknowledge that both boys and girls require affection,
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