Today I am choosing to love myself. I am pushing aside the negative thoughts.

I am brushing
away my so called flaws. Today I am putting on my rose colored glasses, in the hopes that they
will one day become permanent, and no longer a temporary fix.

Today I am choosing to love myself because I have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
When I put myself down, I only miss out on moments of joy and happiness. When I put myself
down, I hide my value away from myself – I shield my body in pity. I hurt too much. When I
choose to love myself, I have everything to gain because I will be open and free, not tied back or
hidden away by my own self-constructed limitations.

Today I am choosing to love myself because not loving myself is exhausting. When my brain
feeds my mind and body hurtful insults and negative words, my desire to live and to grow is
smothered. My body is tired. My mind is worn out. My hopes and goals are washed away. These
harmful words dim my sparkle and hide my heart in the shadows. Hate is a much heavier load
than love.

Today I am choosing to love myself because I have found peace in the realization that not
everyone will love me. Not everyone will like me. But how they feel is a reflection of them, not
of me. We are all different souls, and we all find connection with different people. I now see that
my own self-love and validation is more powerful than validation from others. And when I
choose to love myself, the right people will come into my little corner of the world.

Today I am choosing to love myself because when I love myself, my heart shines brighter. I
flourish when I do what I love. The hesitance in my step weakens. I stand a little bit taller; I hold
my head up higher. With love in my heart, I have more confidence and grace in my step. I notice
the red flowers I walk past. I feel the sun shining on my arms. I am more present. I shine with the
sun.

Today I am choosing to love myself because I need someone to lean on. I need to know that I
can be at home in my own body. I need to know that I am coming home to myself, and that is
enough. That is plenty. I am choosing to love this comforting home.

Today I am choosing to love myself because I want to love others purely. I want to love
others with no jealousy and no envy. I want to love others uniquely, with strength and bravery. I
want to admire others without wishing I were more like them. I want to be able to give
compliments freely and genuinely, with deep honesty.

Today I am choosing to love myself so that I can in turn be a better friend. When I love
myself, I have more room in my heart to care for the hearts of my loved ones. I have more to
offer to others – more to give. When I love myself, I have a greater capacity for love

Today I choose to love myself because there is no need for hate. The world already has
enough negative energy. What the world truly needs is more kindness…more vulnerability. Self-
love is an act or pure compassion. It nurtures positive vibes that shine and sparkle throughout the
universe.
Today I am choosing to love myself because love is my purpose. I am in this world for the sole
purpose of spreading love, and of “being” love. By embodying love, I am honoring my own
unique contribution to the world. I am realizing that I am enough, just as I am.

Today I am choosing to love myself because I am worth loving.

5. Keep Your Stuff Secure

 Identity Theft & Credit Card Fraud – How to Protect Yourself

6. Make a Budget

 How Personal Budgets Work

 A Personal Spending Plan that Actually Works
 7 Reasons Why Your Personal Budget Is Failing and How to Fix It

7. Get Out of Debt

 How to Get Out of Debt

 A Step-by-Step Guide to Getting Out of Debt
 24 Quick Actions You Can Do Today That Can Change Your Financial Life Forever

8. Learn How to Invest

 Investing for Beginners

 How Stocks and the Stock Market Work

9. Contribute

 13 Fun And Easy Ways To Give Back To Your Community

 Volunteer Match – Find a Cause That Lits You Up
 Kiva – Empower People Around The World With a $25 Loan

10. Live Green

 25 Ways to Live Green at Home

11. Master Your Habits

 Sticking to a Habit: The Definitive Guide

 3 Surprisingly Simple Things You Can Do Right Now to Build Better Habits
12. Floss

 5 Reasons Why Flossing is Extremely Important

13. Breathe Properly

 How to Breathe Properly – A (Surprisingly Important) Complete Guide

14. Drink Enough Water

 Drinking More Water: The Ultimate Guide to Increasing Your Daily Water Intake

15. Sleep Well

 Why Sleep is Important & How to Get Better At it

 Lucid Dreaming: A Beginner’s Guide

16. Know Basic Cooking

 Basics of Cooking Series

 Learn to Cook – Cooking Basics

17. Shower Cold

 The Health Benefits of Cold Showers

 Cold Shower Therapy Guide

18. Exercise

 13 Unexpected Benefits of Exercise

 Beginner Body Weight Workout: Burn Fat, Build Muscle
 7 Ways to Build the Exercise Habit

19. Meditate

 Benefits of Meditation: 10 Science-Based Reasons To Start Meditating Today

(Infographic)
 Free Guided Meditations
 Calm.com – Enjoy a Moment of Calm

20. Drink Green Tea

 Top 10 Evidence-Based Health Benefits of Green Tea

21. Be Present
  How to Make Mindfulness a Habit With Only a Tiny Commitment
 How to Practice Mindfulness: A Beginners Guide

22. Make Good First Impressions

 5 Ways To Make a Killer First Impression

 Using “The Halo Effect” To Make a Good First Impression

23. Remember Peoples’ Names

 Why People’s Names Are So Hard to Remember

 How to Remember a Person’s Name (And What to Do When You Can’t)

24. Communicate Effectively

 10 Ways to Communicate Effectively

 18 Ways to Improve Your Body Language

25. Help Others

 25 Ways to Help a Fellow Human Being Today

 How to Help Someone Who Won’t Help Themselves
 10 Ways To Help Others That Will Lead You To Success

26. Forgive

 10 Reasons to Forgive the Person You Hate the Most

 How To Forgive Others

27. Let Go of The Past

 10 Tips to Let Go of the Past & Embrace the Future

 8 Effective Ways to Let Go and Move On

28. Get a Mentor

 How to Find a Mentor to Help You Go Further, Faster

29. Join a Mastermind Group

 7 Reasons To Join A Mastermind Group

 How to Find a Mastermind Group
 How to Organize and Run a Mastermind Session for The First Time

30. Tell Good Stories

  The Science of Storytelling: Why Telling a Story is the Most Powerful Way to Activate
Our Brains
 How to Tell Your Story without Boring Your Audience to Tears

31. Give Great Toasts

 Make a Great Toast in 5 Steps

32. Master Public Speaking

 How To Be The Best Public Speaker on the Planet

 15 Tips For Public Speaking That Apply to Shining At Work, And Just About
Everywhere Else

33. Date Your Wife

 Date Your Wife

34. Flirt Without Frightening

 The Social Issues Research Centre Guide to Flirting

35. Know Your Why

 You Can’t Keep Doing This And Expect To Find Your Passion (+ your burning
questions )

36. Always Be Learning

 Stuff You Should Know Podcast

 Khan Academy – Free World-Class Education For Anyone Anywhere
 TED – Ideas Worth Spreading

37. Speed Read

 Scientific Speed Reading: How to Read 300% Faster in 20 Minutes

38. Get a Journal

 The Health Benefits of Journaling

 How to Journal

39. Have a Morning Routine

 3 Reasons A Morning Routine Will Change Your Life

 Top 10 Ways to Upgrade Your Morning Routine
40. Have an Evening Routine

 Bookend Your Day: The Power of Morning and Evening Routines

 Evening Rituals: Getting Better Sleep with a Little Preparation

41. Write a Blog

 How to Start a Blog – The Ultimate Guide

 How NOT To Suck At Blogging

42. Speak At Least Two Languages

 How to Learn Any Language in 3 Months

 How to Learn a Language in Hours, Not Years

43. Know What to Do In Emergencies

 CPR in 3 Simple Steps

 How to Perform the Heimlich Maneuver in 6 Different Situations

44. Travel Hack

 How to Be a Travel Hacker

 How to Travel Around the World for $418
 How to Use Frequent Flyer Miles to Go Anywhere

45. Travel Lightly

 How to Travel the World with 10 Pounds or Less

 10 Tips for Packing Light

46. Play an Instrument

Pretty much every instrument known to man has great tutorials on YouTube.

47. Take Great Pictures

 Basics of Photography: The Complete Guide

 40 Tips to Take Better Photos
 10 Easy Non-Technical Secrets to Taking Better Photos

48. Learn How to Draw

 50 Clever Tutorials and Techniques on Traditional Drawing

49. Declutter
  Zen Mind: How to Declutter
 10 Creative Ways to Declutter Your Home

50. Be Grateful

Are you someone who likes to grow? Do you constantly seek to improve yourself and become
better?

If you do, then we have something in common.

I’m very passionate about personal growth. It was just 4 years ago when I discovered my passion
for growing and helping others grow. At that time, I was 22 and in my final year of university.
As I thought about the meaning of life, I realized there was nothing more meaningful than to
pursue a life of development and betterment. It is through improving ourselves that we get the
most out of life.

After a year and a half of actively pursuing growth and helping others to grow through my
personal development blog, I realize there is never an end to the journey of self improvement.

The more I grow, the more I realize there is so much out there I don’t know, so much that I have
to learn.

For sure, there is always something about ourselves we can improve on. The human potential is
limitless, so it’s impossible to reach a point of no growth.

Whenever we think we are good, we can be even better.

As a passionate advocate of growth, I’m continuously looking for ways to self-improve. I’ve
compiled 42 of my best tips which might be helpful in your personal growth journey. Some of
them are simple steps which you can engage in immediately. Some are bigger steps which takes
conscious effort to act on. Here they are:

1. Read a book every day.

Books are concentrated sources of wisdom. The more books you read, the more wisdom you
expose yourself to.

What are some books you can start reading to enrich yourself? Some books I’ve read and found
useful are Think and Grow Rich, Who Moved My Cheese, 7 Habits, The Science of Getting Rich
and Living the 80/20 Way.

When you’re reading a book every day, you will feed your brain with more and more knowledge.
Do you know what’s the best way to store up all this knowledge and information? You need this
Digital Brain.
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2. Learn a new language.

As a Singaporean Chinese, my main languages are English, Mandarin and Hokkien (a Chinese
dialect). Out of interest, I took up language courses in the past few years such as Japanese and
Bahasa Indonesian.

I realized learning a language is a whole new skill altogether and the process of acquainting with
a new language and culture is a totally a mind-opening experience.

3. Pick up a new hobby.

Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies, is there something new you can pick up? Any new sport
you can learn?
Examples are fencing, golf, rock climbing, football, canoeing, or ice skating.

Your new hobby can also be a recreational hobby. For example, pottery, Italian cooking,
dancing, wine appreciation, web design, etc.

Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects, whether physically,
mentally or emotionally.

Here’re 20 hobbies to get you some new ideas

20 Productive Hobbies That Will Make You Smarter and Happier

4. Take up a new course.

Is there any new course you can join? Courses are a great way to gain new knowledge and skills.

It doesn’t have to be a long-term course – seminars or workshops serve their purpose too.

I’ve been to a few workshops and they have helped me gain new insights which I had not
considered before.

5. Create an inspirational room.

Your environment sets the mood and tone for you. If you are living in an inspirational
environment, you are going to be inspired every day.

In the past, I didn’t like my room at all because I thought it was messy and dull. A few years ago,
I decided this was the end of it – I started on a “Mega Room Revamp” project and overhauled
my room.

The end result? A room I totally relish being in and inspires me to be at my peak every day.

6. Overcome your fears.

All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, fear of risk… All our fears keep
us in the same position and prevent us from growing.

Recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can grow. I always think of fears as the
compass for growth.

If I have a fear about something, it represents something I’ve yet to address, and addressing it
helps me to grow.
A Self-Love Letter To Myself
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To start off with, I am so proud of you. Life hasn’t been too easy on you lately, and I am truly
sorry about that. But despite it all, you have managed to keep your head up and continue fighting
throughout.

Be proud of everything you have gone through, and mostly, what you’ve become.

Stop being so hard on yourself. Everything will make sense to you one day. All the pain, hurt,
and frustration will become worth it. Remember, everything happens for a particular reason. You
are in the exact place you are meant to be right now. So breathe, be patient, and trust the course
of your life. Let go of all the expectations you have created in your head. Accept reality as it
comes. Accept life for what it is.

Don’t take everything so personally and try to not let others get you down. Most of the time,
things have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the other person. When people
hurt you, try and understand their side of the story. Forgive them. Learn from their wrongdoings,
and then let it remain in the past. Not everything is always how it appears.

<h2You are perfect in every way, especially with your flaws. Accept the things that make you
different, while embracing everything that makes you unique.

Even though you think you are broken, there is so much beauty in your pain. Also, you’re really
not as broken as you think you are. You are stronger than anything that has tried to tear you
down. You are a survivor, not a victim. So with that, try not to be so hard on yourself, we
both know you’re doing the best you can.

Create a meaningful life for yourself that you can be proud of. Promise me, you will make the
most of it all. Never let anyone get in the way of your goals in life. More importantly, never give
up on your passions and your dreams. Do not waste your time on people who do not believe in
you. You don’t need anyone like that in your life. Only surround yourself with people who
encourage and inspire you.

You deserve the world and even a little more. You are smart. You are beautiful. You are
enough. You are everything. You are all.

Try not to rely too much on others for your happiness.

At the end of the day, all you are guaranteed is yourself,
never forget this.
Stop worrying so much about stupid boys. There is so much more to you than being someone
else’s girlfriend or wife. Frankly, there is so much more to life than a guy. Be patient, and stay
positive, while waiting for love. Just because you have not found it yet, does not mean you don’t
deserve to be loved.

You must learn to completely love yourself, before you even

try to love another.
Help others. Be a good friend and make sure to be kind of your family. Be selfless, not selfish.
Love like you never seen pain before. And if you do not find the strength to do so, just make sure
you find enough love for yourself.

You are so strong my dear. You have been through a lot and come out on the winning end. The
world has tried to break you, but you never let it. Thank your past, for it has made you into a
better person today.

Not everyone you have meet is meant to stay around forever. People will leave you. On the
contrary, you will also leave others. People will disappoint you, and all you can do is learn to
appreciate them for what they have taught you. Thank the people who have stayed. Fill the
spaces of the ones who have gone.

More importantly, gracefully let go of the things and people

that are not meant for you. Accept things the way they are.
Thank you for never giving up and being so tough. You inspire others and you lift them up. Stay
strong. Stand up tall. Be more beautiful than ever. Make them wonder how you do it.

You know you deserve the world, now go get it.