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16 P O R C H E S + S TO O P S 22 S N A P S H OT S O F O W N I N G I T
Reviving the tradition of passing time on the porch. An invitation to live life without excuses.
62 F LO W E R I N G B R A N C H E S 36 FOCUSED J OURNALING
How to forage and display the season’s Prompts for a year of reflection.
prettiest blossoms.
44 J ESSIC A HONEGGER:
68 B AT H R O O M VA N I T I E S T H E PA R A D O X O F AU T H E N T I C I T Y
Making room for style in a space The world needs the truest version of you.
regarded for function.
94 OF UNDISPUTED ORIGIN
100 B U I L D I N G C LO S E TO H O M E Stories of authenticity.
They made their home-build a community effort.
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ENTS lifestyle food & garden
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30 N E W YO R K C I T Y 58 SPRINGTIME SHRUB
Jo’s guide to one of her favorite cities. Strawberries and rhubarb combine
for a sweet-tart syrup.
48 DEAR KIDDO
In defense of making messes. 86 B R E A K FA S T S E R V E D D A I LY
Breakfast dishes that never go out of style.
76 COMMUNIT Y SEED E XCHANGE
A seed and plant swap welcomes spring.
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1 2 M AGNOLIA REPORT
Check out what’s going on
this season at Magnolia.
52 J O + C H I P ’ S
S P R I N G FAV O R I T E S
Chip and Jo share what
they’re loving this season.
57 N O T E F R O M J O :
L I F E U N F I LT E R E D
Choosing the beautifully
imperfect view right in front of you—
no edits required.
108 C H I P ’ S C O R N E R
The value of being real,
no matter where.
110 S O U R C E B O O K
Find information on products
or professionals featured
throughout the issue.
11 2 M A N I F E S T O
58 S P R I N G T I M E S H R U B
Look for this icon throughout This syrup recipe strikes the perfect balance of sweet + tart.
the magazine to find free
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There’s a thrilling calm that own voice with the loud noise
settles over me this time of year. of commotion, we slowly begin
Most days are still chilly in Texas, to fade back. And once we’re
but the sun is growing stronger, covered up and the real us is
slowly waking us all from our quiet, we find that we’re forced
winter sleep. A little light breaks to look around, to other people
through the clouds, and you can and other things, for evidence of
feel a shift in the air. The year is who we are.
new, and everything feels bright That’s why I’m inspired by the
with possibility! stories on page 94 of people
Here at Magnolia, we try to who have found refuge and
be intentional about embracing restoration by honoring who
each upcoming season with they are at their core. I don’t
a renewed perspective. This know if a journey like this is ever
effort begins with our magazine. complete, but I’m encouraged by
Once our team has landed on a the persistence shown through
theme for the season, we begin these stories.
to unpack and explore the ideas On page 22, we’re showing
within it. From there, we take all examples of how we can own up
that we’re learning and begin to to common mistakes. When we
weave it into the issue as well as can own our imperfections with
into the fabric of our company’s a little bit of humor and grace,
culture here in Waco, Texas. those around us can know our
We are dedicating the next four true selves.
issues of The Magnolia Journal How we choose to design our
to different aspects related to home is one way to express our
Identity. It’s a pretty vast topic individuality. On page 68, I’m
that we didn’t feel we could do justice to in just one issue. So breaking down a few different design styles for the bathroom,
we’re spending the coming year exploring the fullness of who including ideas for how to make this space not only extremely
we are as human beings. functional, but also distinct to who you are.
In this issue, we’re peeling back the layers of authenticity. In Children have a way of teaching us what it looks like to live
the early planning stages of this theme, we came across a simple authentically; they are so entirely without pretense. You might
definition that has become a favorite of mine: “Authenticity see a glimpse of your own everyday reality in the “Dear Kiddo”
can’t be copied; it can’t be false.” It seems to me that there letter on page 48. If so, I hope it offers you the same abundance
are very few absolutes in this life, only a handful of things that of grace that it’s encouraged within me.
are true to their core. If our authenticity is one of these rare, I don’t think it matters how far you’ve drifted from who you
undisputed truths, why then does it seem to be such a difficult were created to be or how high the wall is that you’ve built to
part of ourselves to live out? hide the parts of you that you don’t want seen. Authenticity is an
Perhaps we choose to hide a little bit of who we truly are open invitation to find the life you were always meant to claim.
each time we compare our lack to someone else’s plenty. Or we I hope this issue might help point you there.
muddy the truth about ourselves whenever we imitate a glossier
version of our current reality. Or maybe when we hush our With love,
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THIS SEASON
SPRING 2019
In We Are the Gardeners, Joanna and the kids share The Silos grounds are in full bloom,
the adventure of starting their own family garden. which means it’s time to officially
Trying something new isn’t always easy, but often usher in the spring season! Join
it’s the hardest work that leads to the greatest reward. us for three days filled with family
There are always new lessons to be learned in the garden! activities and an artisan vendor fair.
Find out more at magnolia.com. Learn more at magnolia.com/events.
Here are a few items CURRY CHICKEN SAL AD A S PA R A G U S Q U I C H E EGG SAL AD SANDWICH
on our spring menu Chicken salad with Mild, buttery cheese paired with Egg salad on a flaky croissant,
that we’re excited water chestnuts, served earthy asparagus in a handmade crust, garnished with fresh
for you to try. on multigrain toast. served with fresh greens. cracked pepper and dill.
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PORCHES
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Making your porch or stoop a worthwhile place to
pause—for time with family or a few minutes of
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won’t require much more than a little focused effort.
STORY BY SARAH COFFEY
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T
here’s something meaningful about the first things we Whether you have a grand front porch or a quaint stoop, you
notice when we arrive home. Whether it’s a glowing can do a few simple things to make it a place you love to come
porch light, a set of rocking chairs, or muddy boots lined home to. Improve your curb appeal with a coat of paint, a unique
up side by side, these details signal to us that we’ve made it. We light fixture, or new door hardware. Decorate as you would
are home. Very often, these first impressions happen to be found indoors, with furniture, pillows, rugs, and lighting. Natural
on the porch, stoop, or whatever threshold you cross before materials like rattan, wood, and wicker feel at home outside,
settling inside. while sofas covered in cushions encourage repose. Rocking
Historically, the porch has been a symbol of family and chairs are a fixture of Southern front porches—adding throw
community. American authors including Harper Lee and pillows and a blanket can make them more comfortable.
Toni Morrison have used porches as metaphors for the way Adding plants and planters will enhance the ambience.
we engage with the world. Before air-conditioning became Consider a mix of sizes and shapes, like a pair of dwarf
a popular amenity in homes, the porch was where families spruces in large concrete planters with hydrangeas scattered
could escape the stuffy heat inside. It was a place where people around in simple galvanized steel buckets. For a looser look,
would visit with one another, wave to passersby, and watch the try ferns, vinca, and creeping Jenny. In spring and summer,
neighborhood children at play. Communities were built and you can move your olive trees and fiddle-leaf figs from inside
strengthened by time spent on the porch. onto the porch or stoop.
Nowadays, with our busy schedules and modern comforts, it’s Thoughtful details are what make this extended living space
not rare for people to head straight inside after returning home unique to you and your family. Choose flowers and plants you
from work or from running an errand—unlikely to resurface love, have your house numbers made by a local metalworker, or
again until morning. But there is value in reviving the tradition whip up your favorite tea recipe and share it with your neighbors.
of passing time on the porch, especially when warmer spring It’s how you use the space that makes it a true retreat—for you
weather invites us to linger outside well into the evenings. and the people you welcome.
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olive stems, or magnolias.
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THIS SEASON
When we can admit that we’ve messed up or graciously acknowledge the real
messiness of our lives, sometimes something magical happens: We see that we’re
not alone. While mistakes and fumbles will always be a part of our human nature,
the ability to own up to them with grace—and humor—can be a little bit divine.
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LIFESTYLE
tory y J O A N N A G A I N E S
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or one semester in college I got to call
New York City home. In just those
few months, something about this
city lit a spark in me that has never really
left. I was fascinated by the small boutiques
with their warm ambience, intricate
window installations, and interesting old
architecture. I loved wandering down block
after block, each so different from the last—
all contributing to inspiring the designer
within me that I hadn’t yet acknowledged.
Later on, New York City was where Chip
and I spent our honeymoon. We explored
together and let the city’s constant creative
energy guide us. There was a time when our
big kids were babies and our businesses were
just getting off the ground that it was hard to
get back for a visit. But lately, life and work
have brought us back to the city more often.
Whenever that happens, I make a point to
visit the places that never fail to inspire me.
I’m sharing a few in this guide with the hope
that they may do the same for you.
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F R E E M A N S R E S TA U R A N T
Lower East Side
The food at Freemans Restaurant is like its
ambience: simple, rustic, and full of flavor.
Designed to feel like a rugged Colonial
tavern (expect plenty of taxidermy), the
interior is dark and cozy. To find a spot
for good conversation, consider reserving
a table upstairs where it’s a little quieter
than the main-floor bustle.
freemansrestaurant.com
MAMAN
Greenpoint
This serene French bakery-café is a go-to
for breakfast, lunch, or brunch with its
farm-fresh quiches, sandwiches, soups,
and incredible pastries. In true country
French style, flowers are everywhere—in
vases on tables, the wallpaper, and the
food (try the lavender hot chocolate).
mamannyc.com
more R E S TA U R A N T S
ABC Kitchen Blue Dog Kitchen Clinton Street Baking Co. Roman and Williams Guild
Flatiron District Midtown Lower East Side SoHo
Go for the farm-to- Grandma’s recipes are Avoid the long breakfast lines Shop fixtures, furniture,
table fare and stay to served with a twist in this and go for dinner instead. I and home goods after
shop sustainably charming kitchen and bar. get the pancakes and fried enjoying a few dishes at
sourced home goods. bluedognyc.com chicken any time of day. the French café.
abchome.com clintonstreetbaking.com rwguild.com
Cecconi’s Dumbo
Bill’s Townhouse Brooklyn Bridge Park Jack’s Wife Freda Russ and Daughters Cafe
Midtown Enjoy modern-day, classic SoHo Lower East Side
Dine on upscale American Italian food with a fantastic Hospitality is knitted within Grab breakfast or brunch at
dishes in a 1920s townhome waterfront view of the this family-owned, American- this fourth-generation deli
turned restaurant and piano Manhattan skyline. Mediterranean bistro. known for its bagels and lox.
bar. billstownhouse.com cecconisdumbo.com jackswifefreda.com russanddaughterscafe.com
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Spend the night or just step inside to
enjoy the view of these beautiful hotels.
Some are decades old, and they all boast
inspiring architecture.
ARLO
SoHo
I love the views of this ever-moving city that can
be seen from the windows of the Arlo Hotel. Located
close to SoHo, Tribeca, and West Village neighborhoods,
its small but smartly designed rooms make a great
base to explore the city from—just grab a cup of coffee
(or a bag from the candy bar) to go.
arlohotels.com
FROM TOP: PHOTOGRAPH COURTESY OF ARLO HOTELS; PHOTOGRAPH COURTESY OF THE BEEKMAN, A THOMPSON HOTEL; PHOTOGRAPH BY ANNIE SCHLECHTER
THE BEEKMAN
Lower Manhattan
Looking up through The Beekman’s nine-story atrium
with its one-of-a-kind skylight is all it takes to feel the
same sense of wonder those early builders must have felt
when NYC was on the rise. Meticulously restored, this
historical landmark is full of intricate, old-world details.
thebeekman.com
BOWERY HOTEL
Lower East Side
From the bowler hat-wearing bellhop who greets you
at the door to the rich, oak furnishings and the grand
fireplace that warms the lobby, a step inside the Bowery
Hotel feels like a step back in time. Gemma, the hotel’s
Italian trattoria, serves delicious pastas, and I’ve heard
you can borrow a bicycle from the concierge to cruise
around this Lower East Side neighborhood.
theboweryhotel.com
more HOTELS
SCHOOLHOUSE ELECTRIC
Tribeca
While this is one of my favorite places to get vintage reproduction
and modern light fixtures, Schoolhouse Electric also has fantastic
hardware, dishes, clocks, and more. With a focus on quality, its
products are crafted in America and made to last.
schoolhouse.com
SPROUT HOME
Williamsburg
When I lived in NYC
during college, I rented
a place across the street
from a flower shop. I loved
watching customers leave
with their carefully wrapped
bouquets. The whimsical
arrangements Sprout’s
in-house designers create
remind me of those days.
But that’s just one side of
their hustle. These folks are
passionate about gardening
and are happy to share their
expertise. While Sprout
focuses on offering unusual
but easy-to-maintain
plants, it also carries a small
assortment of locally made
home goods.
sprouthome.com
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more SHOPS
Elizabeth Street Shops ABC Carpet & Home John Derian Shops McNally Jackson Store:
Nolita Flatiron District West Village Goods for the Study
I always seem to make my Intricately designed The artist’s curation of SoHo
way to Elizabeth Street to displays of modern and decoupage, dry goods, A writer and journal keeper’s
wander around and check contemporary furniture, furniture, vintage artwork, dream store with expertly
out the shops. I typically home goods, and rugs, and more at these made office supplies,
start at Clare V., a favorite including handcrafted and three East Second Street stationery, and every kind of
place for purses, and then sustainably sourced pieces. shops all set in a row. writing tool imaginable.
meander from there. abchome.com johnderian.com mcnallyjacksonstore.com
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FOCUSED
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Focused journaling, even for a few minutes at a time, can bring
a sense of clarity and renewed purpose to your days. This simple practice
offers the space for you to reflect on the months behind you
as well as anticipate what’s ahead. Once you’re ready, journey to wherever
your thoughts lead you, or you can follow these prompts to help
you thoughtfully navigate the months ahead.
01. 0 7.
Identify the hardest parts of last What obstacle is holding you
year through the lens of gratitude. back from who you want to be?
02 . 08.
Consider one word that List ways you compartmentalize
encapsulates what you want to your life. How can you break those
focus on in the year ahead. down in order to live more fully?
03. 09.
Imagine the best version What are your mistakes and
of your true self. Describe imperfections? Own them and
what that could look like. commit to moving beyond them.
04. 10.
Who or what has given you What have you viewed negatively
the grace to be yourself? about yourself in the past that
How has that impacted you? you now accept as a positive?
05. 11.
Freedom means something What changed in you for the
different to each of us. When and good this year that you are resolved
where do you feel most free? to carry into the coming year?
06. 12.
Who do you need to forgive? Pen a note of encouragement
How can you allow yourself to heal to yourself about how far you’ve
from past hurts and move on? come over the past 12 months.
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THIS SEASON
U EST COLUMNIST
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stood alone in my living room, both of my hands Test that went along with it? My P.E. teacher acted as if
experience that I think we all crave deep down: authentic presented to me wasn’t limited to my youth. Years later, after
connection. I have to admit that I have often chosen the launching a successful ethical accessories company, I found
path of playing pretend when I’ve felt vulnerable—a myself struggling to be my authentic self once again—this
tendency that first started, of all places, on an elementary time in a very different setting. As the CEO of a company
school P.E. field. that had—in my mind, miraculously—taken off, I was
Do you remember the United States’ 1980s health craze being invited to a lot of entrepreneurial gatherings filled
and the government-funded Presidential Physical Fitness with people whose success both inspired and intimidated
THIS SEASON
Jessica Honegger
at home in Austin
with her husband,
Joe, and their three
children, Amelie,
Jack, and Holden.
me. Among these go-getters, I found myself wanting to fashion executive and I’m curvy. I am passionate about
hide certain aspects of my story to fit the perfect CEO mold caring for the poor and I love having fun with style. I just
I had in my head. The story I wanted to tell was about how don’t fit into a neat little box. And surely neither do you.
I had received my MBA at a prestigious university, secured Standing in my home that night eight years ago, I knew I
venture capital funding for a brilliant entrepreneurial had a choice: I could cancel and keep my mess safely mine,
idea, and set up shop in a fancy or I could welcome others into it. But as
downtown office. The real, authentic my friends and neighbors showed up
story—that mounting international one by one, I realized the truth: The real
adoption bills had led me to start a “...we are messy, version of me is what people wanted all
side hustle that required me to pawn paradoxical people along. And what’s more, by opening
my grandmother’s gold jewelry to pay up I hadn’t just created a space where
for my company’s first website—just who sometimes it was safe for me to be vulnerable; I
didn’t seem like the right kind of story. just don’t fit inside created a space where other people felt
What I finally came to realize is safe to be vulnerable, too.
that authenticity lies in being who the lines.” That night also sparked a fashion
you are no matter what environment brand that has created dignified work
you’re in. It’s about being able to live for thousands of people around the
in the paradox—to hold those tensions, rather than try to globe. So not only did we bring Jack, my beautiful Rwandan
erase them. Because when we chase our worthiness instead son, home, but through trunk shows much like that first
of embracing it, we eventually run out of breath. We find evening, we also have raised almost a million dollars to help
ourselves, gasping and winded, running after the notion that families bring their kids home, too.
we will finally be worthy of acceptance when we have reached Today, when I am tempted to pick my jump rope back
perfection—a tidier and sometimes unrecognizable version up, I remember that singular night. I know now that
PHOTOGRAPH BY BECCA MATIMBA
of who we really are. But carefully controlling the narratives vulnerability is worth the risk, because when people show
of our stories means we will never show up and be truly seen. up, in all our beautiful imperfection, we don’t just change
We will never receive the gift of being known. our lives for the better; we can change the world.
Finally, I had to ask myself: Why do I feel compelled to
draw these self-restrictive boxes around myself? The truth Jessica Honegger is founder and co-CEO of
is, I am a good mom and I also work. I am a successful the socially conscious fashion brand Noonday
entrepreneur and I bootstrapped my company. I am a Collection and author of Imperfect Courage.
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Kiddo,
When I held you tight against my chest that first day home from the hospital, I
knew my life was suddenly and infi nitely richer because you had joined us. What
I didn’t (and couldn’t) know is how you would beautifully disrupt the stillness of
our home, unleash new emotions in every which way, and push me to a place
that felt both uncomfortable and magical, sometimes in the same moment.
You’ve freed me from worrying so much about what others expect. We’ve had
tantrums and joyrides all over the city. We’ve sung in quiet places, danced even
when we were the only ones, apologized to shopkeepers for not being able to
resist costume shows in their aisles ... and delivered doughnuts to those same
shopkeepers, after the fact, when we knew our apologies needed some sugar on top.
You’ve challenged me to speak clearly and live with a directness that I used to
avoid, afraid of upsetting the apple cart and my own carefully crafted image.
You’ve created tiny masterpieces and built enormous fortresses, both equally
awe-inspiring to me.
I’ve lived long enough in the world to know that what happens next doesn’t
need to be perfect. The elaborately markered walls and muddy footprints across
the floor are all proof that we’re living and learning. That all of us will
have days when we shed some tears, have bursts of frustration, meltdowns, and
misunderstandings. That all of us will also have moments topped with the height
of joy, hilarious nights born of nothing but silliness, unexpected adventures
that magically tie our hearts closer together. That pendulum will swing as the
hours and days pass. But know this, child: You are free. You are free to explore
this wildly complex world and soak up its goodness and fight its injustices and do
your part to make it even more wondrous for others. You are free to make a mess
of things, just as I have, because I’m not sure there’s any other way to move
forward courageously. And I promise you this: We can clean up the mess together.
Thank you, child, for waking me up. I sure do love who you are.
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I enjoy the satisfaction of doing something myself, and this
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I need a kick in the pants, this coffee does the trick. Brewed
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I’ve always leaned toward the practical
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a useful tool or a well-made product.
I hope you fi nd something here that you can
put to good use this season. —Chip
FOR
GROOM I NG
When I need a clean shave, these products are great to
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Jo loves when she finds something cool or unique for my office.
I’ve got to say, this Baseball Stadium Blueprint might be my new
favorite. They’ve got about every stadium you can think of. This
radio has a mahogany frame and brushed metal faceplate, which
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written by JOANNA GAINES
It wasn’t so very long ago that I had only a handful of followers catching a glimpse. Don’t fall for the trap and believe it’s
on Instagram. There wasn’t any pressure to post anything at all, anything more than a snapshot in time, even if it’s highly
so whenever I did, it didn’t really cross my mind whether or not edited and beautifully presented. Let’s not miss or critique the
people would “like” it. When that number started to rise and beauty that others are trying to put out into the world by
people were sharing their opinions about what I was posting, that evaluating them based on our own set of criteria or by making
changed. I could feel insecurity start to creep in, and posting a it about ourselves.
photo was no longer an act of enjoying the in-the-moments of How healthily or carelessly I use social media is on me. Not
life but rather a more calculated decision. With every picture on the companies that create the platforms or the people
I found myself critiquing if there were messy backgrounds or who I follow or who follow me. It’s up to each of us to abstain
blurry smiles. I think this is how we can end up losing sight of from or partake in these mediums with whatever level of
what is worthy of sharing and what is even more worthy than grace, kindness, or confidence they require by their very
that—moments worth simply experiencing. Eventually, I realized nature. I am inspired by the everyday beauty and
that I was letting this small square on my phone become yet encouragement that can come from seeing
another thing to perfect. through other people’s vantage points. I am
It is so easy to let social media rob us of authentic also, finally, mindful of when the red flags
moments. I think part of why this happens is because these of comparison or anxiety begin to move
platforms can easily become our own alternate reality if we in. They kindly remind me that something
let them. There is a certain, creepy allure to a place where in my own heart or mind is a bit out of
we can present ourselves any way we choose with sorts. My best next step is to stop
very little accountability. But one could argue scrolling and put my phone away.
that the more versions of ourselves we That’s way harder for me to do
present to the world, the less real any when I’m not in a great place in
one of them can be. my head or heart, but
And what happens when continuing down the rabbit
we don’t think our “real life” hole never, ever helps a thing.
looks as good as someone I’m a firm believer that how
else’s? We make adjustments— we spend our minutes can
find better lighting, dress our become the way we spend our
kids in something nicer, place a life. Don’t get me wrong;
vase of fresh flowers in the I love to snap photos of my
background, or add the perfect kids whenever it’s physically
filter. They say you should take a possible. My camera roll is
picture to make a moment last constantly full because of it,
longer. I don’t disagree. But it but when I hear myself start
seems to me that if you’re present, to say something like “move
really present, the memory is what slightly to the left” just so I
outlasts anything else. can get the perfect angle,
Many of us genuinely benefit that’s when I know it’s time
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p r i n g t ime
s
ShruB
Nothing brings out the sweetness of peak-season strawberries quite
like the sour candy-esque quality of rhubarb. This supercharged
combination excels in the form of a shrub—a syrup made from muddled
vinegar and fruit. The strawberry and rhubarb are complemented by
light, bright basil leaves and apple cider vinegar. The result is a refreshing
base for any warm-weather pick-me-up. Just add club soda.
STORY BY PRIYA KRISHNA PHOTOGRAPHY BY ADAM ALBRIGHT FOOD ST YLING BY CHARLES WORTHINGTON PROP ST YLING BY SCOT T J. JOHNSON
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Strawberry-
Rhubarb &
Basil Shrub
PREP: 20 minutes
S T A N D : 1 hour
C H I L L : At least 1 hour
2 cups sugar
1 cup apple cider vinegar
1 cup chopped fresh
strawberries
1 cup chopped
fresh rhubarb
1/2 cup fresh basil leaves
Club soda or
carbonated water
Add the first four ingredients to the pan Use as fine a sieve as possible to avoid Let the mixture stand for an hour after it is
before placing it over the heat. getting any solids in your syrup. done cooking—this will concentrate the flavors.
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Authenticity is rarely found in grand gestures. Not in lightning
strikes or fireworks in the sky. It is a deep-rooted, gentle stirring:
an invitation to be the only you there was ever meant to be.
It’s the clearing away of all that is not true, peeling back the layers
until you discover what was there in the beginning. It’s allowing
yourself to be truly known and loved, as well as really knowing
and loving someone else.
So your time is now. To welcome in the light that is all your own.
To dive deep into the glorious reality of who you are meant to be.
Let’s not tarry, let’s not hesitate—in finding the one life
we were born to claim.
Few things feel more like spring than blossoms. After When possible, it’s best to snip from your own yard or
months of barren-looking landscapes, specks of color garden. Before foraging any branches on public property,
finally start to appear, reminding us that despite the familiarize yourself with local laws, ordinances, or social
chilly winds and brief daylight of winter, nature has been mores in the area. Many public parks and spaces do not
diligently at work all along. allow foraging, but you may be surprised by the generosity
of private landowners when asking their permission to
Foraging blooms and flowering branches is a simple way to clip a few branches. You might also find that neighbors
bring spring indoors. It may require some exploration— whose vines and trees droop over onto your own space
whether it be in your own backyard, walking around the may be willing to share.
neighborhood, or driving through the countryside. Try to
take notice of the new hues of yellows, pinks, blues, and Using the proper tools is important for preserving both
whites against the various shades of green in the yards the tree and the branch. Even a thin branch can be
and fields and along the fence lines and trees. The earth is deceptively tough, and an appropriately sized, sharp
alive, and a few well-placed flowering branches displayed pruner will help prevent damage. When choosing
inside—as a table centerpiece, on a bedside stand, or in branches, consider ones that will not affect the overall
an entryway to welcome guests—can cultivate the same form of the tree or its future growth.
joy and beauty found out in nature.
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Sharp, strong snips help make clean cuts Floral clay blocks help affix branches Smashing the end of a branch allows better
that will preserve the branch and tree. to the vase and keep them from falling. water absorption and prevents resin buildup.
WIRE
A water mister supplies moisture Wire secures large branches together
directly to branches and blossoms. position branches and stems to your liking. and stabilizes the arrangement.
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On Display: Flowering
branches, like this redbud, invite
the beauty of the natural world
into our daily living.
SNIP
Using sharp pruning shears or snips, cut the branch where
it meets the adjoining branch. Make the cut flush with it.
S OA K I N LU KE WA RM WATE R
Before arranging the branches in a vase, soak them in lukewarm
water for a few hours to let them acclimate to the indoors.
Remove any lower buds and keep flowers above the water line.
S T Y L E I N A VA S E
Transfer the branches into a favorite vase with at least 6 inches
of lukewarm water. A clay block, floral frog, or wire may be helpful
in positioning branches.
EN JOY
Keep the branches away from direct sunlight in a cool room.
Change the water daily or every other day, depending on the
cloudiness of the water. Most branches will last a few weeks
with proper care. More delicate blossoms, like cherry blossoms,
may have a shorter life span.
Vases: With their graceful length and interesting lines, flowering branches
don’t require much more than a simple vase to make a strong statement.
Choose a vessel that’s about half as tall as your branches. For textural
interest, select branches that have curves and forks. Simple containers are
great for displaying one or two branches, while a larger, spherical vase makes
a nice counterbalance for a fuller bouquet. Save short sprigs and pieces that
have broken off the branch for bud vases. These are great for adding interest
to small spaces such as windowsills or open shelves.
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FLOWERING NORTHEAST
Star magnolia, ornamental pear, flowering dogwood, cornelian cherry dogwood,
TREES flowering plum, golden rain, American yellowwood, fringe tree, crepe myrtle
BY REGION MIDWEST
Flowering dogwood, southern catalpa, parsley hawthorn, yellow poplar, eastern
redbud, crabapple, sassafras, black locust, lilac
Whether you are foraging
in a specific location or WEST
Japanese crepe myrtle, madrone, California buckeye, Yoshino cherry,
looking to plant in your curl-leaf mountain mahogany, desert willow, red-twig dogwood, Apache plume
garden for the future, here
SOUTH
are popular species that Redbud, crepe myrtle, Vitex, magnolia, lilac, flowering dogwood, forsythia,
f lourish in these regions. jacaranda, cherry
Bathrooms tend to be a common pain point in a lot of homes because they typically have to work for a
range of people every day. That’s why functionality is essential and can often be solved by a well-thought-
out vanity. If you prefer to hide everyday accessories that belong in the bathroom, opt for a vanity that
offers generous storage opportunities, such as closed cabinets and drawers and shallow shelves. You can
also could install a medicine cabinet. If it’s counter space that needs to be better utilized, an attractive
tray or caddy can keep it looking tidy. Good overhead lighting will also contribute to making this space
useful to your daily living.
While it’s relevant to want to focus most of our effort on the functionality of a room like this, even
the bathroom should reflect conscious choices when it comes to design. That’s how we can make even
a hardworking space like this one beautiful and interesting as well. This can be accomplished with
materials that are both durable and attractive—from the mirror, hardware, and light fixtures to the art
and other details that help make a room feel complete. Small areas are ideal for trying more unusual
design ideas, like concrete counters or an antique dresser retrofitted with a sink basin. Tile and wallpaper
are great ways to add bold pattern or color to the space. And here’s the good news: The relatively small
footprint of a bathroom limits the amount of money, time, and effort you’ll have to spend to make it a
reflection of your personal style.
If it’s not the right time for a major renovation, incorporating a few basic items like attractive storage
containers, a pretty bath mat and shower curtain, or a few new countertop accessories can make
a significant difference in how you feel about this room. When an essential space functions well, it
can improve your quality of life—day in and day out. I’m breaking down the elements of a few of my
favorite vanities in a range of styles, as well as ideas for how you can create a bathroom that’s not only
exceedingly functional, but equally beautiful.
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ELEMENTS
Vanity
white oak, stained
in special walnut
Minwax
Cabinet Style
inset, shaker panel
Light Fixtures
single + double swag sconce
Shades of Light
Hardware
diamond ring pull
PHOTOGRAPH BY CODY ULRICH
in antique brass
Lee Valley
mushroom cabinet knob
in burnished brass
Amerock
Countertop
honed carrara marble
Vanity
walnut, stained in dark walnut
Minwax
Cabinet Style
inset, flat panel
Light Fixture
phansthy glass wall sconce
Amazon
Countertop
poured concrete
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ELEMENTS
Vanity
antique dresser,
refinished and painted
Cabinet Style
inset, applied molding
PHOTOGRAPH BY LISA PETROLE/HOMEBODY, HARPER DESIGN, 2018
Hardware
brass knobs
San Miguel de Allende
Light Fixtures
vendome double sconce
Circa Lighting
Countertop
white granite
Vanity
paint-grade cabinet,
painted in coffee nook
Magnolia Home
Cabinet Style
inset, shaker panel
Light Fixture
20th c. factory filament
metal double sconce
Restoration Hardware
Countertop
bardiglio gray marble
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ELEMENTS
Vanity
paint-grade cabinets,
painted in sunday stroll
Magnolia Home
Cabinet Style
inset, shaker panel
Hardware
handle cabinet pulls
in flat black
Top Knobs
Light Fixtures
20th c. library
PHOTOGRAPH BY CODY ULRICH
single sconce
Restoration Hardware
Countertop
calacatta siena quartz
MetroQuartz
Vanity
alderwood, stained in
golden oak
Minwax
Cabinet Style
full overlay, slab door +
beaded trim
Hardware
mushroom cabinet
knob in chrome
Emtek
handle cabinet pull in chrome
PHOTOGRAPH BY CODY ULRICH
Top Knobs
Light Fixtures
globe sconce
West Elm
Countertop
lagoon quartz Sourcebook on page 110
Silestone
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THE ANATOMY OF
S H A KE R S T Y L E + R A I S E D PA N E L A PPL I E D SL AB DOOR
B E A D B OA R D PA N E L Arguably the most MO L D I N G Built for a modern aesthetic,
This cabinet style is a great traditional cabinet style, Add molding for a layered you can easily add interest
complement to a cottage you’ll notice this look in a look that complements a to this clean cabinet style
or coastal aesthetic. lot of ready-made vanities. vintage aesthetic. with unique hardware.
WAYS TO INSTALL
ILLUSTRATIONS BY CHRIS HANKINS
INSET OV E R L AY
Doors and drawer fronts sit flush with the cabinet Doors are mounted on top of the cabinet face frame, leaving little
face frame. Typically, you’ll have a choice between to no space between doors and drawers. Concealed hinges allow
visible or concealed hinges. Inset cabinets can the doors to open with ease. Full overlay cabinets are most often
be more expensive than other options because of used in modern spaces. You can also select a partial overlay look,
how precise the construction must be. leaving roughly ½ inch between each cabinet drawer or door.
W h e t h e r c u lt i vat ing a l a rg e p l o t or
j u s t a f e w p o t s , mo s t g a rd e n e rs h av e a n e xc e s s
o f s e e d s at s om e p oin t. E v e n if yo u don ’ t h av e
a g r e e n t h u mb, w i t h a l i t t l e org a nizing
a nd s om e word o f mo u t h , i t c a n b e s imp l e
t o f ind or ho s t A s e e d a nd p l a n t s wa p.
story by Liz Bell Young photography by Nick Kelley Prop St yling By Ashley Maddox
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When nature
provides
something
beautiful or
nourishing in
abundance,
sharing can be
the most natural
thing in the
world.
Whether you’re a proficient gardener or
more plants have died rather than lived
under your watch, spring brings with it
a brightness in the air as gardeners begin
plotting their gardens. This year, with the
promise of new life and earned growth,
seek out a community of growers, where
some bring jars filled with heirloom
seeds that often come accompanied by
a story, perhaps of their great-grandpa’s
prized tomatoes or some other inspiring
testimonial. Others might arrive bearing
bags of leftover potting soil, a cutting from
their favorite plant, or extra seedlings that
would have otherwise gone to waste. Still
others contribute packets of seeds they
picked up on the way over. Perhaps they’ve
never been to a seed exchange but love the
idea of learning the ropes as they go. By
coming together, sharing your offerings,
and hearing the what and the why behind
what people are growing, everyone has the
opportunity to return home with a piece of
someone else’s story, perhaps in the form of
a tiny seed or plant.
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A homegrown Gathering
No matter where you fall on the beginner-to-expert grower spectrum, seed saving and sharing promote the
diversity of what we can coax to life in our own backyards. A gathering like this helps keep biodiversity alive
and well, and it also nurtures community. No matter their age, everyone has a chance to soak up the legacy
of people who share and take care of what they’ve been given. To take part in a similar gathering in your area,
search online or inquire at local nurseries. Or you might consider hosting a version of your own.
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HOST YOUR OWN
SEED SWAP
A seed and plant share needn’t be a
complicated event. One garden expert
should be enough to help you set up, make
sure seeds are well-labeled, and answer
any questions along the way.
Find a space .
Gather supplies.
Provide a
pot ting station.
HERB-INFUSED
LEMONADE
Cool beverages prepared beforehand,
like these lemonades, are an easy way
to offer your guests refreshment.
Instructions :
1. In a gallon container combine water and juice. Add sugar; stir until dissolved. Add herbs. Using a wooden spoon, press herbs against bottom
and sides of container to crush leaves and release oils. Add peaches, strawberries, or cucumber. Cover and let stand. If desired, strain mixture.
Transfer lemonade to a large pitcher. Cover and chill until serving time.
2. Serve lemonade over ice with lemon and/or lime slices and additional peach slices or strawberries and herbs.
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Everyone has
the opportunity
to return home
with a piece of
someone else’s
story, PERHAPS in
the form of a tiny
seed OR PLANT.
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You can fry, soft boil, hard boil, poach, and scramble them.
You can enjoy them in an elaborate dish or au naturel. That
versatility makes eggs a popular choice to cook up with just about
anything. We’re sharing our favorite classic egg recipes as well
as a few extras you can pair them with, like our upgrades of basic
toast and juice, for a breakfast that’s just right.
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resulting in eggs that are sunny-side up.
pepper.
1 Tbsp. butter
Makes 3 servings.
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Poaching-Pan Eggs
ps water
p. vinegar
s
Lightly grease cups of an egg-
t and black pepper
poaching pan. Place cups into
pan over boiling water (following
Add water to a 10-inch skillet; add
manufacturer’s directions);
vinegar. Bring to boiling; reduce heat
reduce heat to simmering. Break
to simmering (bubbles form slowly and
an egg into each poaching cup.
burst just before reaching the surface
Cover and cook 4 to 6 minutes
of the water).
or until the whites are completely
Break an egg into a cup and slip egg set and yolks begin to thicken but
into simmering water. Repeat with are not hard. Run a knife around
remaining eggs, allowing each egg an edges to loosen eggs.
equal amount of space in the water.
R I COT TA
with
Country-style
Italian toast,
blend of ricotta
and pesto, thinly
sliced tomato,
soft-boiled egg,
freshly ground
black pepper
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mashed avocado,
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of marriage before we realized how threatening it could be beside me and we’re both working toward the same goal—
to our relationship if we were to make any sort of mutual even when we’re not really sure how it’s all going to turn
life decision from opposite ends of the rope, essentially in a out—that’s when I feel the most known by him.
game of tug-of-war. Of course there have been many times when we have
So, early in our marriage, we conceded to truly become failed at this, and we’ve ended up pulling in different
partners in the most thorough sense of the word. For us, that directions. And when that happens, it never really feels like
meant that when it came to decisions about our marriage, a true victory for whomever happens to win—we both just
our kids, or our business, we would stand together, on the feel weaker for having gone at it alone.
same end of the rope, and pull in the same direction.
A lot of times this has required that one of us lay down our chip: When I look back at that time in my life when
own agenda in order to pull alongside the other person. But I tried to control everyone’s perceptions of me, I can clearly
here’s the thing: Every time Jo and I have pulled together, see how even though I may have been loved by many people
even when the reality was that we had chosen the wrong throughout my life, I was rarely truly seen.
direction, it still felt way more powerful because we were doing Jo and I are opposites in a lot of ways. That may lead
it side by side, and we always ended up stronger because of it. people to draw the conclusion that we must not see
And the times when we have in fact chosen the right direction, eye to eye on things. And while we’re not immune
not only did it feel like a type of nuclear energy, but we to disagreements, I think it’s because of our differences
became very convinced that pulling together, just simply put, that we’re able to see the best parts of each other. And
was much more productive than pulling against one another. man, when Jo and I show up on the same team, just as we
are, and we let each other draw out that gold in the other,
jo: It never seems to matter much whether I surrender to that’s when we really start to tap into the fullness of who
his side or he to mine because every time I see Chip standing we were created to be.
“ I don’t regret
ever trusting
someone.”
got my start in the electrical business when I was 6 years just had no way of knowing. So when I saw people of different
I old. My dad and uncle wired houses for a living, and I liked kinds, I was just amazed and spent most of my time asking
to hang around them, so I would just tag along to jobsites. questions about their lives. I’ve always had a curious nature,
Pretty quickly they figured out that they could put me up in the and I love people.
attic, and I could run the wire between the boxes myself—that It seems to me that in order to open up to people, let alone
way they’d never have to set foot in the attic themselves. I was strangers, you gotta first be comfortable with yourself. I believe
smaller and could fit into those tight spots—just like a little rat. that when you’re around people, it doesn’t take ’em long to
And I liked it. I liked being with my dad and uncle. Especially know if you’re true or not. In just a few words, they know who
when it was time for a coffee break. They would take one break you are. So I always try to be me. If they don’t like me, they
in the morning and one in the evening, and I would just sit don’t have to. A lot of folks say, “How in the world do you know
there with them, drink my coffee, and listen. everybody in town?” If I go in a restaurant and I don’t know
When I was growing up, we had little to nothing. But nobody, before I leave, I’ll go and introduce myself. “See? Now
everyone who lived around us back then was in the same I know somebody.” I like to believe the best about people and
situation. You didn’t notice anybody having more than you. their intentions, even though it can come with a cost. I’ve been
I’m sure some of them did, but we never did notice. In the cheated out of deals and lost money on some electrical jobs.
mornings, Mother would get me up and say, “If you would go But I don’t regret ever trusting someone. I like to think that
shoot a couple of squirrels for me before you go to school, that’s somewhere down the road, the money that I was never paid
what we’ll have for supper.” So I would get up, go shoot a couple for this or that job helped someone who needed it at the time.
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squirrels or check my fish line, clean whatever I got, and then I ain’t saying it didn’t hurt. Oh, it hurt. But I didn’t let it bother
wash up and get ready to go catch the bus. me deep down. I don’t like to be bitter. You know, if you’re bitter,
When I left for the Navy after high school, it was the first your days aren’t gonna go right. Your nights aren’t gonna go
time I’d ever even been outside the state of Louisiana. There I right. So, the best thing I can do is just forgive ’em. I’m 78, and
was traveling the world—to places like Guam and China and I’ve still got a lot of livin’ to do. I got a lot of people to meet that I
Thailand. A lot of times I thought to myself: All those years haven’t met before. That’s really how I want to spend what time
growing up, and I never knew all this was out here. I never I’ve got left on this earth. So that even if I die without a penny in
knew there were people that looked so different than I did. I my pocket, I will be rich in friends.
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has been almost a year since I learned that I have mixed and family loved me, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was
It anxiety depressive disorder. It was actually a relief to an extreme burden on them. So, to be polite, I would shun
finally know what I had long awaited an explanation for—the myself from their scope of attention. It was in this darkness that
reason why any type of forward progress in my life resulted thoughts would continue to race about all the ways I’d let myself
in hours of analyzation—considering every possible facet of become a nuisance, pressing further and further into feeling
a situation so I wouldn’t be caught off guard when something shameful about who I thought I was. Then anxiety would kick
turned out differently than I’d expected. those thoughts into hyperdrive—making me think about the
Some days, it’s still a fight to withstand overthinking how to many ways I’d ruined my chances of having a relationship with
act or whom to trust, but what I’ve learned in this year is that any one of them in the future. I’d never felt so very alone.
becoming a genuinely free version of myself actually requires Eventually, I was able to speak to a friend who has struggled
digging into the messiness of my life. This lesson hasn’t come with the same condition for decades. She assured me of my
easy. It’s actually been quite painful. Before becoming engaged identity. She also assured me that I was sane and that I was
to my fiancé, we spent two years dating, but the whole time cared for. She taught me that there’s really no way for us to
it felt like we were on opposite sides of a seesaw. He couldn’t go on fighting darkness by ourselves. We live in a communal
wait to get married while I was constantly in fear, always world, and we’re not meant to go at it alone. To overcome my
waiting for the other shoe to drop. feelings of distrust was to act in belief of those truths.
Throughout those two years, I often considered every which Adam and I got a second chance at dating. And while it
way a marriage could go wrong. I couldn’t fully understand was still difficult to take steps back into familiarity with one
the grace and patience Adam was showing me, so I wrote it another, there was a quiet confidence that followed each new
off as some sort of desperation to get married. But then my step we took. Those steps led us all the way to an engagement,
fears became self-fulfilling prophecies. Eventually, the back- and I’ve never felt so sure about anything.
and-forth of our relationship became so draining that the For a long time, I felt ashamed about how long it took me
healthiest decision was to break up. I decided that while I was to get to the point of saying “yes” to Adam. I’ve heard from a
still living in fear, I had no business dragging someone down lot of people that saying “yes” to their spouse was the easiest
that path with me. decision they’ve ever had to make—and I’d ache for that to
I sought out a therapist and a medical doctor to help me be true about our story. But now, I’m increasingly thankful
think through why I hadn’t been able to move out of my own for the convoluted route I had to take to be able to declare
way. Between prayer, therapy, and medication, a fog lifted that my commitment to him. I’m glad we got to fight for the place
I had been sitting in for too many years of my life. Suddenly, we are now because in 50 years I’ll be able to say I made
I felt free to hope for things without considering tragedy as this decision—one of the most important of my life—with
imminent. I allowed space for my heart to catch up to my complete confidence. And whatever troubles our marriage
racing mind—finally, my heart could plainly believe what may endure, we’re better equipped to step into the messiness
my mind knew all along. with open hands, releasing the notion that everything needs
What I had inadvertently learned about depression was that to be flawless for it to be right. It’s a redemption story I’ll
it forces its captives into isolation. While I knew my friends continue to take cues from and continue to thank God for.
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been journaling since I was in second grade. Those What I didn’t realize then was that time was just a season
I’ve scribbled-through pages could tell you a lot about in our marriage and in our lives. Soon enough, things did
who I am and how I’ve grown. They can also point to some change. All of a sudden I was pregnant. And in that moment I
of the ways I’ve stayed the same. Recently, I looked back at realized that I needed to get a hold of who I was before bringing
some old entries and realized one thing I’ve written down a tiny human into the world. I ended up being sick my entire
consistently over the years: “I really don’t feel like I handle pregnancy, so I chose to use that slow time at home to really
transition well.” That struck me because isn’t almost all of life focus on who I was, aside from my job and my husband—even
about change and our ability to adapt to it? aside from the little baby growing inside me. Once I had come
I was 14 when my parents divorced. That transition led me to terms with the fact that I am not defined by my job, I was left
to adopt the mindset that I could really only rely on myself. to discover the things that I do gain my value from. I thought a
Subconsciously, I began to fear the vulnerability it would likely lot about what I believe in and what values I wanted to stand for.
require to depend on anyone else. So I put my whole heart, During that time, other fears surfaced. I was scared I might
body, and mind into the things I did. What I couldn’t yet see lose my identity in a different way because I had a lot of
then was that by doing that, I was tethering my identity not to preconceived ideas about motherhood. I wondered if I was
who I truly I was but to what I could achieve. For a long time, going to dissolve into a woman whose entire existence is her
I didn’t even realize I had blurred the lines between what I kids’ lives and who has no ambition of her own. But after my
thought was worthy and my actual value. daughter was born, I realized that motherhood is so much
When I met and married my husband, Clint, I was working better than I thought it was going to be. I’ve been so surprised
as a product photographer, making good money for someone at how complex it is to be a mother, but one thing I’m certain
who had just graduated college. It was empowering to be able of is that my daughter has changed my life for the good. I’m in
to stand on my own two feet and take care of myself. I loved awe of how much a human heart is capable of feeling.
the independence I felt by doing work that I loved. I spent so much of my life not knowing who I truly was
A year into marriage, Clint made a significant career because I would pick up on what I thought people wanted me
transition. The circumstances around the situation were to say or what I knew people were going to agree with. I didn’t
extremely stressful—and I was at a place where I was ready know what I believed. I’ve had to start being OK with people
to do something new as well—so we decided together that disagreeing with me or not thinking that I’m cool. And each
it made the most sense for me to quit my job in order to help time I do that, it ends up making me feel stronger because
him launch a few new ventures. It was fun at first. We were I’m carving out who I am. What I didn’t realize in all these
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spending a ton of time together and just really enjoying being changes of season is how much power I had to choose how
newlyweds and everything. But once the initial excitement I felt. I can get so afraid, anticipating that what I’m about to
faded and Clint’s new projects started ramping up, I grew go through will be bad, when really, it’s my choice to embrace
resentful that while he was often traveling, I was spending whatever season I land in. I am never powerless.
my days alone at home. I was trying my hardest to take Next year, next month, or even next week will bring with it
care of things and make a perfect home life for us, but I can more change, I’m sure. But if I can remind myself of who I really
remember times when people would ask me, “So what do you am, I’ll be able to trust that I can handle whatever transition
do now?” and I would say, “Nothing. I do nothing.” inevitably comes my way. And that feels really powerful.
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six years I’ll turn 30, which will mean that I will have Emotions aren’t really considered to be a part of who a person
In officially lived in America for as long as I lived in is. Instead, identity is tied to the family you come from, the
Vietnam, where I was born. district you live in, and the school you attend. Gender matters,
Going to school in America was always the plan. It was too. As a man, there was the expectation that I should always
especially important to my mom, who works at the U.S. Embassy appear strong and capable. Even after I’d lived in America
in Hanoi and has made a lot of friends over the years who teach in for many years, it was difficult to dismantle that part of my
the States. To help my sister and me be able to adapt to life in the identity. It wasn’t until my relationship with my wife, Maddie,
U.S., my parents did their best to raise us with both Eastern and that I was finally able to see how I could be different. I gained
Western influences. At the time it felt normal, but looking back, a new understanding of what authenticity could look like
I think it actually required my dad to make some sacrifices, not because she created a space of trust between us where I felt
fully being able to instill in us traditions from his own heritage. like being emotional doesn’t equate to being weak.
I can remember seeing this conflict rise a few times between my There was a time when I thought I would move back to
parents. But, for the most part, my entire family was excited for Vietnam after I received my degree and I was ready to start a
us to have the opportunity for a good education. family. However, in my field of engineering, it can be hard to
The first few months living in Savannah were pretty lonely find work in a developing country. Besides, I met my wife in
ones. Even though my parents raised me in a more westernized Texas, so that’s where we live now, and I work as an engineer
way, I continued to experience cultural differences. A big one designing roads and bridges in the state capital of Austin.
was mealtimes. Back in Vietnam, our family sat down for dinner Just recently, I came across this book, Beautiful Legos.
at the same time every night. It was always ready at 7:00 p.m. and It’s about standard Lego models that artists have used to
we would turn on the news and talk to each other. In America, create these really fascinating things. Playing with Legos
it was never that same way with the families I lived with. Here, as a kid is actually what made me want to be an engineer.
kids have sporting events or one night the mom comes home I used to think that they were very one-dimensional and
late or the dad comes home late. They cooked later than what I straightforward. But, as I flipped through this book, I was
was used to. I think I noticed this because back home I always realizing that these artists have the same bricks as everybody
really valued that family time. So, when dinnertimes would be else, yet they are making extraordinary things—not from
sporadic or everyone was eating separately, it almost felt like the manual that comes with the box, but from their own
a personal attack. Obviously, it wasn’t, but that was something imaginations. That has led me to this idea that I don’t have to
that took me a while to fully understand. build my identity or limit my self-expression to the way any
At the time, I really didn’t feel like there was anything to one culture dictates. My authenticity isn’t completely shaped
do about my sadness, so I buried my feelings. In Vietnamese by how or where I was raised, or where I happen to live now.
culture, it’s typical for people to cover up their true feelings. I am Vietnamese and American.
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L iving Room En t ry: Designer Bria Hammel helped the family find the
right balance between darks and lights in this open-concept living room.
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Banque t t e
( l ef t ) :
Above the
banquette, the
Halls mounted
black-and-white
family photos in
simple frames
from Pottery
Barn and Target.
The custom
bench was locally
sourced and sits
with a dining chair
and pendant lamp
from Four Hands
and a round
Bernhardt
dining table.
Dining ARE A
( righ t ) :
Phillip Jeffries’
Savile Suiting
wallpaper creates
a crisp, tailored
look in the dining
area. Local
craftsmen made
the custom table,
and the rug came
from a nearby
vintage shop.
Mas t er Bedroom
(opp osi t e ) :
Purchased from CFC, the
couple’s Soledad four-poster
bed was handcrafted from
reclaimed Douglas fir. Dark
striated wallpaper and a ceiling
of charred planks ground the
room against the pale oak
floors and large windows.
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CHIP’S CORNER
THE RE AL KIND OF
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want you to imagine that you’re sitting in a swanky conference That struck me, and I started thinking about how easily we can
room in some high-rise corporate building. Everyone to become mistakable. How quickly we can be swept up in a current
the right and left of you is dressed to the nines. I’m talking heading in a direction that’s opposite of who we are and what
nice suits and slick shoes. All of a sudden, you get a whiff of we’re truly about. I think a lot of times this happens by accident.
something awful. You look around, trying to figure out where We dress the part in order to get the part and then realize too late
the smell is coming from, and behind you sits this guy who’s it was not a part intended for us to begin with. Then we just never
wearing a white V-neck T-shirt and dirty old cowboy boots. make our way back, or it’s simply too late. To me, these seem like
That guy is me. And that smell is most likely the goat poop on far more dangerous gambles than being willing to stand out as
my jeans ... or worse. the unique individuals we actually all are. Buying into some lesser
I tend to stand out. In a room full of dark suits, I’m the guy in the truth somehow requires our resignation—a surrender, in my
white T-shirt. This is my uniform. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve worn opinion, from living out this one purpose we were born to fulfill.
a suit a handful of times, but I can’t help that I I know who I am beneath whatever
look best in a tight white tee. I do mix it up with I happen to be wearing. I’m confident about
a healthy dose of both crewnecks and V-necks. “ I K N OW W H O who that guy is—and who he isn’t.
I have worn one nearly every day of my adult I A M B EN E AT H If I’m to lead my family and our company
life, along with my favorite pair of jeans and well, then I gotta do it from a place of courage
the very same brand of boots. No matter if I’m W H AT E V ER and confidence and authenticity—trusting in
spending the day working the farm or heading I H A P P EN TO the uniqueness of who I was created to be.
to the office for some big, important meeting. I can’t risk what might happen if I were to lead
I think I take after my grandad, J.B., who was
B E W E A R I N G . under a counterfeit version of myself. I believe
much the same way. Every day he woke up I ’M CO N F I D EN T our company would suffer. My family would
and put on the same boots and the same jeans ABOUT WHO suffer. And there’s no doubt my marriage
and drove the same truck. To me, those small would suffer. These things are just too valuable
things somehow embodied hard work and a T H AT G U Y I S— to consider compromising simply because
simple life. J.B. was always true to who he was, AND WHO I opted to pretend to be someone I’m not.
and that left a mark on me. That would be a betrayal to myself—and to
There’s a good chance some people think H E I S N ’ T.” anyone who might be relying on me.
my “uniform” is, in some way, disrespectful or While I’m not one to underestimate the
maybe me just goofing off. Or maybe they think it’s a way to draw influence of good people in our lives, I believe that if we allow
attention to myself. Some of that could be true; I’m not sure. But ourselves to be molded and remade based on what other people
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what I do know is—this is me. What you see is what you get. think we should be, then what we’re really doing is handing them
Recently I was having a conversation with a friend on this topic, the pen and letting them determine who our character is and
and I looked up the definition of the phrase “stand out.” I was what our outcome will be. And if we do that, there’s a good
expecting to find meanings that essentially alluded to someone chance we might never get that pen back. I don’t know about
who’s attention-seeking or self-absorbed, words that I’ve heard you, but I’m just not willing to let someone else write my story.
people use to describe me. What I found instead was this: “to be Especially since it’s the only one I’ve got, and honestly, I’m the
easily noticeable.” Another word for noticeable is unmistakable. only one qualified to tell it.
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We believe that newer isn’t
always better and that there
is something inherently good
in hard work. We believe
that friends who feel like
family are the best kind of
friends and that nothing
matters more than family.
We believe that today is
a gift and that every day
miracles are scattered about
if only we have eyes to see
them. We believe in seeking
the balance between hustle
and rest and striving to be
passionate about both:
a leisurely first cup of
coffee to start the day
mindfully and then at day’s
end not clocking out from
a job till you’re proud.
M AGNOLIA M ANIFESTO
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It’s time appliances had a personality. Yours.