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Let's define parenting...

* Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting

the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual
developmentof a child from infancy to adulthood.

* Parenting refers to the aspects of raising a child aside

from the biological relationship.

* The general pattern of behaviors that a parent uses

to raise his or her children.
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Stages of child growth

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4 different parenting styles

Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

* Democratic, balanced behavior

* High love and high limits

* Relies on positive reinforcement and infrequent use of

punishment.
* Parents are more aware of a child's feelings and
capabilities and support the development of a child's
autonomy within reasonable limits.
* Research shows that this style is most beneficial when
parenting children.
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Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

Children of authoritative parents tend to be:

* Happy
* Self-confident
* Curious
* Independent
* Likable
* Respectful of others
* Successful in school
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4 different parenting styles

Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

* Low love and high limits

* Parents who practice authoritarian style parenting

have a strict set of rules and expectations and
require rigid obedience.
* If rules are not followed punishment is most often
used to ensure obedience.
* There is usually no explanation of punishment
except that the child is in trouble and should listen
accordingly.
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Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

Children of authoritarian parents tend to be:

* Unhappy
* Anxious
* Low in self-confidence
* Lacking initiative
* Dependent on others
* Lacking in social skills and altruistic behaviors
* Coercive in dealing with others
* Defiant
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4 different parenting styles

Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

* High love and low limits

* In these family settings a child's freedom

and their autonomy are valued and parents
tend to rely mostly on reasoning and explanation.
* There tends to be little if any punishment or rules in this style of parenting
and children are said to be free from external constraints.
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Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

Children of permissive parents tend to be:

* Selfish
* Unmotivated
* Dependent on others
* Demanding of attention
* Disobedient
* Impulsive
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4 different parenting styles

Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

* Uninvolved, close to rejecting, neglecting

* Low love and low limits

* An uninvolved parenting style is when parents are often emotionally

absent and sometimes even physically absent.
* They are not responsive to a child's needs to do not demand anything of
them in their behavioral expectations.
* Provide everything the child needs for survival with little to no
engagement.
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Authoritative Authoritarian Permissive Uninvolved

Children of uninvolved parents tend to be:

* Disobedient
* Demanding
* Low in self-control
* Low in tolerance for frustration
* Lacking long-term goals
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What is your parenting styles? Be honest with yourself!
How is your parenting style changing throughout the week?
Where do you see your spouse?

High limit

Authoritarian Authoritative

Low love High love

Uninvolved Permissive

Low limit
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Core Parenting Skills

* Promoting positive relationships

* Brief quality time, talking to children, affection
* Encouraging desirable behaviour
* Praise, positive attention, engaging activities
* Teaching new skills and behaviours
* Modelling, incidental teaching, ask-say-do, behaviour charts
* Managing misbehaviour
* Ground rules, directed discussion, planned ignoring, clear, calm
instructions, logical consequences, quiet time, time-out
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Core principles of positive parenting

Authoritative parenting style
for baby and toddlers

* Talk to your baby. It is soothing to hear your voice.

* When your baby makes sounds, answer him by repeating and adding
words. This will help him learn to use language.
* Read to your baby. This helps her develop and understand language
and sounds.
* Play music. This helps your baby develop a love for music and math.
(Sing to Your Baby)
* Praise your baby and give him lots of loving attention.
* Spend time cuddling and holding your baby. This helps her feel cared
for and secure.
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Core principles of positive parenting

Authoritative parenting style
for children and adolescents

* Ensure a safe, engaging environment

* Create a positive learning environment
* Use assertive discipline
* Have realistic expectations
* Take care of yourself as a parent
See Explore-Learn-Grow framework
1. Improve your fitness & health
2. Think positive & feel well
3. Enhance your productivity & creativity
4. Communicate with style & develop your social skills
5. Live a conscious & meaningful life
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How to discipline your kids?

Tip #1: distraction. Distract a misbehaving baby or child.

Offer a different activity. Move the attractive, but forbidden,
object out of your child's reach.

Tip #2: positive language. Avoid saying "No!" too often.

The word will lose its impact. Save it for important times, like
when safety is an issue.

Tip #3: consistency. Let him know your limits. Enforce your
rules the same way every time. Gain mutual trust through
consistent behavior.
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How to discipline toddlers and babies?

Tip #4: appreciative inquiry. Appreciate your children

feedback, questions and comments. Ask questions to explore
and discover.

Tip #5: praise. Honestly praise your children for progress

and good behavior. Celebrate small like accomplishments, but
do not praise too much

Tip #6: empowerment. Encourage your child to solve

problems by themselves. Ask your child specific, open-ended
questions. Teach children to focus on the entire situation, not
just part of it.
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How to discipline toddlers and babies?

Tip #7: model behavior: lead and educate by example,

work on your own project, your kid will admire you and copy
you

Tip #8: right environment: make sure that your kid have a
quiet place to learn, separated from the rest of the house,
away from distraction like games and TV. Give him/her with
enough school supply, a suitable desk and monitor that
he/she has enough time and support to complete daily
homework assignments
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Positive Parenting Solutions with Amy McCready

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How will evolve your behavior

towards a positive parenting style?
#1: distraction

#2: positive language

#3: consistency

#4: appreciative inquiry

#5: praise

#6:empowerment

#7: model behavior

#8: right environment

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 Sources and References 21

* wikipedia.com
* Parenting style by Cheryl Breck

* Huxley, Ron, LMFT. Hand Tools: Parenting Education: The Four Parenting
Styles, 2004
* Omrod, Jeanne Ellis, Third Edition. Educational Psychology: Developing
Learners. Merrill and imprint of Prentice Hall. Columbus, Ohio, 2000
* Cooperrider, D. L., Sorensen, Jr., P.F., Whitney, D., & Yaeger, T. F.,
Appreciative inquiry: Rethinking human organization toward a positive theory of
change. Champaign, IL: Stipes Publishing, 2000
* Quinn, R. E. Change the world. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2000
* Watkins, J.M., & Mohr, B.J., Appreciative inquiry: Change at the speed of
imagination. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2001

* www.parentingtoolbox.com/pstyle1.html
* www.kidsource.com/better.world.press/parenting.html
* www.unt.edu/spe/module1/blk2styl.htm
*ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/hstein/parentin.htm
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