A Beginner's Guide

to Reparenting
Reparenting is giving ourselves what we didn't receive in childhood.
These are the things parents are supposed to model for their children.
Most parents are unaware that these are part of the parenting
process or did not receive these themselves. As adults, it is now our
responsibility to teach them to ourselves

Accountability
Allowing a child to process
mistakes with compassion.
Guiding the child to accept
their role in the situation &
helping them to understand:
1. What they learned
2. How they can behave
differently next time
Discipline
Modeling how to delay
gratification, work to
achieve a goal, & keep
daily promises to self
with firmness and
compassion
Emotional
Regulation &
connection
Modeling how to process
emotions:
1. Understand how they feel in
the body
2. Label them to aid in
communication
3. Soothe them by sitting
through them or choosing a
healthy way to feel better

Self Awareness Self Ability to

Understanding of needs,
wants, desires, and
passions. Helping a child to
understand their internal
world as well as to develop
the ability to view oneself
objectively from the
perspective of others
Re lection
Helping a child to objectively
view a experiences & see the
"why" in how things
resulted. Examining their
role in each situation without
judgement for feedback
be present
Modeling conscious
awareness,:
1. Ability to be fully present
2. Ability to mirror back a
child's unique emotional
experience (even when
different from their own)

Source: @the.holistic.psychologist
Daily Reparenting Menu
Take a minute to tune into yourself and ask:
"What do I need today?
Pick 1 of these things each day to reparent yourself
Bounda ies
Say no to something that doesn't serve
you
Clearly state your needs in objective
language when not emotionally
reactive
Hold a boundary even if you're
uncomfortable
Disconnect & spend time in self
reflection
Self Ca e
Go to bed a bit earlier
Eat a home cooked meal
Meditate for 5 minutes
Future self journal
Move your body for 5 minutes
Get sun on your skin
Connect with nature
Connect with someone you love
Emotional Awa eness
Observe how emotions feel in your
body
Notice what causes you to be triggered
Practice deep belly breathing to
regulate your body's response
Allow an emotional response without
judgement - Practice allowing any and
all emotions
Joy
Dance or sing freely
Do something unplanned
Find a new hobby or interest
Compliment a stranger
Do something you
absolutely loved as as child
Daily Reparenting Tracker
Commit to 30 days of filling these
questions out in the morning and at night
You will be amazed at your growth!

Morning Question:
What will I do today to reparent myself?

Night Questions:
How did it feel to reparent myself?

What could I do differently tomorrow to reparent

myself better?