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Winning Other, Negociating (Faire Adhérer Et Négocier)
Winning Other, Negociating (Faire Adhérer Et Négocier)
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Winning over, negotiating
Summary
● Presentation of the CFPJ Group 3
● Using the training support material 7
● Course sheet: objectives and programme 8
● Training sheets 10
• The theoretical context: engaging communication or the
psychology of engaging
• The winning over position
Preparing yourself on the content
– Setting an objective
– Determining an angle
– Communicating as a strategist
– Convincing: facts, opinions, feelings
Listening to the content and form
– Going after a "yes"
Reformulation
Questioning
It’s all a matter of attitude: 6 instructions
• The effective negotiator’s check-list
● Paper for making notes 36
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The CFPJ Group
● The partner for information, media and communication
professionals
● CFJ: the training school for journalists
• As the original training school of the CFPJ Group, the Training
Centre for Journalists (CFJ) awards a diploma recognised by the
French State and by the French National Joint Commission for
Employment for Journalists (CPNEJ). An institution with an
international reputation and a member of the Conférence des
grandes écoles, CFJ has trained over 2 000 journalists with
responsibilities in all media. Thanks to its rigorous selection and its
solid and practical training methods, CFJ trains multidisciplinary
journalists in two years, with specialisations in print, radio and
television. Multimedia is taught permanently at CFJ and is part of
our basic culture.
• CFPJ Media: vocational training for journalists
• The Advanced Training Centre for Journalists (CPJ) is the centre for
vocational training and coaching in print, television, radio and
multimedia. A place where experience and the future outlook of
the profession is shared, CPJ welcomes 2 500 journalists for inter-
company training every year (over 150 training courses in our
catalogue) or for tailor-made in-company training.
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The CFPJ Group
● CFPJ COMPANIES GOVERNMENT LOCAL AUTHORITIES: training
in communication techniques
• 3 000 communication professionals from companies, government,
local authorities and associations come to CFPJ every year to be
trained in the best communication techniques and journalistic
know-how. A complete range of over 130 training courses to refine
your communication strategy, develop effective lobbying,
communicate in crisis situations, adopt best practice with the
press, convince through the written and spoken word, master web
communication, and assert your leadership… Essential techniques
today whether you’re a leader, an executive or manager. CFPJ also
develops your communcation skills for managerial relations.
Discover our total expertise in personalised media-training which
has already convinced numerous company directors, politicians
and eminent political figures.
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The CFPJ Group
● CFPJ Leadership: serving the performance of leaders
• CFPJ Leadership trains the leaders of large French and
international companies to improve their communication and
assert their leadership. Specific training methods, situational role
plays and individual training concentrated in just a few hours, a
limited number of participants, specialised contributors, dedicated
premises: all the ingredients of CFPJ Leadership training have been
brought together to respond to the requirements and amount of
time that leaders have available. Leaders therefore strengthen the
effectiveness of their message in all situations: general assemblies,
works councils, conventions, seminars, presentations,
negotiations, meetings…
● CFPJ LAB: the incubator of digital ideas
• CFPJ LAB is an incubator for ideas, a place to meet and discuss web
innovations. CFPJ LAB organises 7 or 8 free mornings every year,
led by recognised experts who bring both a technical eye and a
journalistic approach to the chosen subject.
• A few themes covered in 2009 : "Web fiction, web documentaries:
creativity serving the editorial?", "Digital intelligence and tracking,
the keys of effective intelligence on the web", "Hyperlocal
information seeking to conquer the web".
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The CFPJ Group
● CFPJ INTERNATIONAL: training foreign journalists
• CFPJ International has been dedicated to the initial and continuing
training of foreign journalists for over 40 years in Paris and around
the world. Around 2 700 students and journalists have taken
training on our premises (continuing training). CFPJ International
has also been running three French-speaking journalism courses
for the last 14 years in Egypt, Lebanon and Russia (initial training).
Nearly 700 professionals have graduated at Master’s level from
these courses of excellence.
•
● CFPJ EDITIONS: disseminating professional know-how
• CFPJ Editions offers journalists and communication professionals
practical reference manuals. Thanks to these books, journalists
and communication professionals can increase their know-how,
and better perform and understand their job.
• Recent publications include:
"The communication of influence",
"The journalistic angle",
"Developing your professional mark",
"Manual of typographical usage",
"The written web".
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Using the training support material
● This material contains:
• The course objectives, the training method, the training
requirements, the profiles needed, ...
• The course programme.
• The training and practical content.
• Paper for making notes.
• For you to complete with practical work documents and
exercises, corrections to them, the corrections and
additional documentation provided by the trainer over the
course of the training and any notes you make.
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Objectives and Programme
● Making it a state of mind to win the other person over
● Objective
• Winning over both internally and externally. Becoming an
informed and attentive negotiator. Concluding lasting, beneficial
and confidence-building agreements. Developing a communication
style that wins over and supports your leadership.
● Course participants
• Operations managers, communication managers, HR managers,
marketing and sales managers, negotiators.
● Programme
• Preparing your negotiation
The different types of negotiation.
Identifying the stakes, the levers, the context of the negotiation,
detecting the decision-makers and integrating the notion of third-
party deciders.
Building your arguments and anticipating your interlocutors’
arguments.
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Objectives and Programme
• Mastering the protocol of winning others over
Connecting with the positive intention of your interlocutors.
Assuming your objective of convincing.
Evolving in listening and reformulation.
Dealing with objections by moving from "yes but" to "what if".
Going after a "yes" and points of agreement.
Arguing at the right time and concluding in line with the other person.
• Making the logic of winning others over your own
Verbal and non verbal language: adapting your communication to the
vocabulary and level of maturity of your interlocutors.
Convincing without binding : "what can I change in me in order to
change the other person without asking him/her to change?"
• Managing negative behaviour and speech
Getting out of power relationships: decoding power play and adapting
your behaviour to create a climate of trust.
Dealing with objections with goodwill.
Daring to say "no" and managing your stress.
Setting up a strategy: using the common objective in a negotiation to
stay your course and differentiate between the emotional and the
rational.
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Training sheets
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The theoretical context: engaging communication or the psychology of
engagement
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The theoretical context: engaging communication or the psychology of
engagement
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The theoretical context: engaging communication or the psychology of
engagement
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The theoretical context: engaging communication or the psychology of
engagement
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The winning over position: preparing on the substance
● Setting an objective
• Is my message of interest to my interlocutor?
Am I speaking for him or for me?
Complete : "my objective is to convince you that … "
• What is the priority idea?
Getting to the point
• Is my interlocutor receptive or reluctant?
Choosing the good communication strategy
• How will I see that my objective has been reached?
In order to make sure that my objective is realistic and achievable
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The winning over position: preparing on the substance
● Determining an angle
• The angle enables you to
Present complex information clearly
Highlight a particular theme
Present things in the interest of your interlocutor
• Defining the angle
The angle is defined from
– an objective
– the concerns and interests of your interlocutor
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The winning over position: preparing on the substance
● Communicating as a strategist
• If your interlocutors are primarily receptive
Get straight to the essential message without trying to argue unduly:
keeping things brief increases the impact of your words
Tip: say the essential in less than 3 minutes
The goal: gaining time and impact
• If your interlocutors are primarily reluctant
Introduce the subjet
Create an exchange with your interlocutors so they can express their
resistance, refusal or disagreement
Listen to the different points of view
Argue
Sales people know that arguments carry more weight when they
respond to an objection
The goal: to convince
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The winning over position: preparing on the substance
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The winning over position: listening
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The winning over position: listening
● Reformulation
• Reformulation consists of repeating what your interlocutor has
just said, but in other terms – often more concisely and explicitly.
• On no account is it about interpreting what has just been said by
the other person. It is not about mimicking or imitating the other
person.
• Reformulation has a double objective
making sure that I’ve understood the other person properly,
showing the other person that I’m interested in him and his project
• Reformulation must be expertly dosed in order to attain your
objective and avoid falling into the trap of wasting time or the
parrot effect.
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The winning over position: listening
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The winning over position: listening
• Reformulation-clarification
Reformulation-clarification enables you to clarify what is confused or
underlying in the other person’s words. The interpretation must be
right.
Example :
– A : "You must offer something extra in order for us to reach an
agreement; at the same time, it’s on the quality of the project
that we will make the decision; the important thing for us is to
work in partnership"
– B : "In fact, what you’re saying is that your choice will
especially be made on the quality of our proposal, and that if
we offer something extra you will see it as a desire on our part
to enter a partnership."
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The winning over position: listening
• Inverted reformulation
Inverted reformulation leads the other person to change his point of
view, to re-organise his thinking, to reflect on the consequences of the
ideas expressed.
It sets out to reverse the construction of the words that were said in
order to update what has not been said, although this was embodied
in his words.
Example
– A : "I’m the only person in the team who doesn’t know how to
make myself understood by customers"
– B : "What you’re telling me is that you think all the others in
the team make themselves better understood than you."
– This reformulation leads the other person to "review" his
problem, to rectify what he is saying and to become clearer in
what he says.
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The winning over position: listening
● Questions
• Closed questions...
Call for an answer with yes or no
Must be precise for a right answer
"Did you sleep well?"
Serve to validate, check, confirm
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The winning over position: listening
Attitudes to On condition
Adapted
display that you…
Listening with empathy
Refocusing a
negotiation
DECISION …plan another meeting
If lacking time
Opening the
negotiation …take account of the
ENQUIRY other person’s
If your interlocutor is concern
very closed
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● "Meta-communicating"
• Many disagreements come from a different interpretation of the
words used.
● The negotiator’s role consists of
• Encouraging each person to state clearly what he wants.
• Proposing common definitions of the words used.
• By doing this, we can hear reflections in a negotiation such as: "in
fact we agree… " ; "if I understand correctly, we’ve been debating
for 5 minutes although we are talking about the same thing … "
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● Being convincing
• This is the result of a series of factors:
Accompanying your words with gestures, getting physically involved in
the communication.
Speaking in a lively way.
Structuring your messages with method.
Listening to your colleagues.
Playing your role of negotiator: organising, defining the framework,
encouraging discussion, etc.
Persevering throughout: if the negotiator doesn’t convince the first
time, he can convince the second, or even the third time.
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● In conclusion
• Contrary to popular belief, convincing is less a question of
"charisma" or of "the gift of the gab" than the result of discussions
with your colleagues.
• These discussions require involvement, courage and method.
• Starting with method can help you have more confidence in
yourself.
• The involvement and courage will follow.
• Now it’s up to you to master this advice, make it your own and
adapt it to your different occasions to communicate.
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