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The Dying Art of Traditional Courtship Between Man and Women in The Philippines
The Dying Art of Traditional Courtship Between Man and Women in The Philippines
Outline:
Introduction
Importance
Courtship as a culture
Diminishing culture
Conclusion
Introduction
The indirectness or assurance in the way men tries to catch the love of the woman they love
is one of the thrills of the Philippine way of courtship is or Panliligaw as its called due to its
subdued nature the Western countries are alien of as the concept of how the Filipinos show love
Middlemen or (Tulay) is the middleman to introduce a potential suitor for the lady that the
man likes. It sounds like common sense as any tradition would do such but its rare and already
considered tradition for a man to seek help from someone else to be introduced.
It is important to remember because the same things will happen, indirect confrontation is one
way of showing respect to a Filipino lady as permissions from family to Court the lady is a priority
before asking the lady herself in traditional ways but that now gone what we have now Is more
feministic ideologies whereas a woman no longer needs permission from there parents to date
anyone they want because that kind of value is now lost. But out of respect for the parents of
the lady the man still needs to visit the house and show servitude and being a gentleman around
the house in order to even come close to being accepted in the household. This can be true for
women as well for a man’s house but the traditional way if inside the lady’s house.
This meticulous system has been one way to ensure that the man is persistent and
consistent enough to be a lover of a father’s daughter and to ensure safety of daughters and
young “Dalagas” or young Filipinas as no man with questionable motivations has the guts to do
Courtship in the Philippines is not a one-time deal until you get bored. It is a way of showing
respect and true love without getting tired because the one who gives up loses and in the
traditional eyes of the time it is not the woman’s fault to say no as she believes the man is not
Importance
“Courtship as a culture”
Why was Courtship so important in Philippine culture? Protection from shady suitors and
future men that will come to the way to destroy a life of a lady because no man is ready for the
consequences of an entire family that he had to face while courting the lady.
This had effects in the traditional way of life in the Philippines and colonial period because
not only has become a staple to show your love to someone a man actually loves but is to
actually prepare as well in whether or not he will be accepted which is the time he can be
answered that the woman ahs accepted him as his Boyfriend. This kind of behavior has been
carried over in the modern era in which information technology has now flourished but as
Based on what was said in the paper in chapter two “generations pass so does the way of
showing love” culture and its way of transforming lives throughout the years ahs brought us
together but in a world that promised to connect us only made us feel disconnected and how in
the past that the internet was haven today real life is now our escape. Information technologies
gave rise to new ways the tradition of courtship can flourish and has evolved the way we can
actually communicate because as thousands of people logging in and creating profiles to match
each other it is no longer a problem to look for a potential partner in the long run.
“Diminishing culture”
In a rapid change discussed in chapter two as well the rise of information technologies and
its offering has not only slowly made us lose track of tradition, but it could have possibly slowly
made us lose it core values as its slow demise is upon us as cohabitation and hookup culture
introduced after the liberation of the Philippines by the west has sprung and how the western
culture has reigned upon the Filipinas of the time. Parties rebellion and feministic ideologies that
they can now choose for themselves and that permissions are no longer required came into play
as the way of merging the traditional to the new. The views of families and Filipina women has
changed and so did the entire culture of Panliligaw or courtship did as well.
“The evolution of courtship”
In the conclusion of the paper one of the discussions is the future of courtships in which the
evolution for the sacrifice of tradition is a benefit for as long the core values of the courtship still
exists mainly servitude, persistence and permissions from the family. Surprisingly a lot of men
still practice the traditional way of courting but in a world of technologies and the change of
tradition a lot of women end up running for a man instead of the opposite which defies the
Conclusion
In conclusion women should uphold traditional values to learn and be respected by men and
their fellow women and how education of the traditional ways of courtship should still be
followed and there is no need to abide to the traditional views or systems in place but to follow
the core values that our ancestors taught us to create more meaningful and lasting relationships.