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CONTENTS
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Lifestyle
Meet Heather Aldrich
Love ‘em or hate ‘em, her pro-
vocative ads are changing the
game
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Lifestyle
Back to Basics
Going green and glamorous in
Racine
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Features
A Singer with Soul
Karri Daley adds a splash of
color to Madison’s music scene
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Spotlight
Dirty Politics
Where did all the women go in
Wisconsin state government?
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Spotlight
Recycling Revelation
How Milly Zantow helped
empty Wisconsin’s landfills
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Spotlight
Put a Ring on It?
Why some couples opt for an
early “I do”
On the Cover
Urban Exploring 10
Etsy Style 12
Best Damn Meal 14
Modern Storks 24
Queens of Rock 28
1 is Too Many 36
Is Monogamy Dead? 42
Divine Design 46
SARAH KARON
Managing Editor
Wisconsin women list many accomplishments. We’re not afraid to take things to the next LEIA FERRARI
level, like the mothers in our story about inclusive education. And we’re not afraid to take Web Editor
things to a national level, like Milly Zantow, who helped kickstart the recycling move-
NATE GESSNER
ment. We go where our curiosity takes us, are endlessly creative and can rock like you Online Associate
wouldn’t believe. Basically, Wisconsin women keep good company.
JOSH HILGENDORF
But if you want to know the one thing that really sets us apart, it’s just one word - moxie. Online Associate
JESSE KOEHLER
Wisconsin women are witty, sharp and bold - if you get in our way, watch out. Indepen- Online Associate
dent but also fiercely loyal to those who deserve it, we do whatever it takes to get things
done. CASEY CHRISTIAN
Art Director
Being a Wisconsin woman is a title I tout with pride, and I am glad we have the chance LUKAS KEAPPROTH
to show what that really means with this year’s edition of Curb. Photo Editor
So make fun of me all you want for being a Wisconsinite. The joke’s on you if you think ALEXANDRA BREAM
we’re all about cheese. Even if we do enjoy it from time to time. Production Editor
JULIA BRENNER
Production Associate
Curb magazine is published through generous KASSIE MCLAUGHLIN
alumni donations administered by the UW
CAILLEY HAMMEL Foundation and in partnership with Production Associate
EDITOR, CURB MAGAZINE Royle Printing, Sun Prairie, Wis.
KATY CULVER
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Gloria Delgado Pritchett (Modern Family) * Chocolate milk and salt. And a
chicken that’s been well slapped
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creepe
Snooki Sookie Stackhouse (True Blood) * Tru Blood, just in case any
vampires show up. We don’t want to discriminate now, do we?
|Don Draper (Mad Men) * Lucky Strikes, Canadian Club and a secretary
$$$!!!
Stewie Griffin (Family Guy) * Cool Hwhip
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Beer - it’s a way of life. flute and the tulip. If you’re serious about
And in Wisconsin, we have – and make – beer, visit a bar that features a slew of differ-
a lot of it. According to a 2008 survey by the ent glassware behind the counter - you’ll be
Brewer’s Association, Wisconsin is ranked treated well there.
10th in the nation for breweries per capita. Another great tidbit from BeerAdvocate:
But how much do you really know about those chilled glasses that give beer that oh-
the beer in your glass? Or Wisconsin beer so-appealing frosted look? Not so good for
culture in general? your beer. As the brew hits the glass, the ice
Well, you could write a book about all condenses into your drink and dilutes your
that. So we spoke with Robin Shepard, a guy beer.
who did indeed write a book about that ti-
tled, “Wisconsin’s Best Breweries and Brew- Thinking about a brewery of your own? It’s
pubs: Searching for the Perfect Pint.” We pretty competitive.
also chatted with Deb Carey, founder and According to Deb Carey, Wisconsin sells
president of New Glarus Brewing Company, more than 100 brands of beer. That means
to get her inside perspective. cutthroat competition. Before New Glarus
Read on to see what you know about opened in 1993, a major domestic brewery
Wisconsin beer - you may learn a thing or
purchased all of the brown glass on the mar-
two, and be encouraged to think, or drink,
ket, leaving none for New Glarus or other
outside the box.
small breweries. There are plenty of day-to-
day tricks as well.
Ales and lagers are only the beginning.
“You put up signs, someone takes them
In addition to the main division that is
down. You stack your beer in a store, some-
ales and lagers, there are a slew of styles, or
one stacks their beer around it or kind of
labels, given to a beer to characterize its fla-
vors and origin. According to Shepard, there tries to slide in on it,” she says.
are upwards of 75 accepted styles of beer. In other words, “more money, more
BeerAdvocate is a little more liberal with problems.”
styles, currently listing 101 different styles of
beer, hybrids not included. And Shepard says You’re damn lucky to live in Wisconsin.
those numbers will grow as brewers around Not only does Wisconsin boast a reputa-
the world continue to experiment. tion as the beer state, we also have a few beers
that are legendary outside state lines.
Yes, the glass matters. “(New Glarus’) Belgian Red is like cur-
“Every place you go has that same, heavy, rency anywhere beyond Wisconsin,” Shepa-
glass, 16 oz. tapered cylinder,” Shepard says. rd says. “Brewers are enamored by that beer.
“And that is the worst glass for beer, abso- It’s won all kinds of international awards.
lutely, hands down.” When I travel, I guarantee you 80 percent
BeerAdvocate lists 10 kinds of glasses, of the brewers I run into will ask me about,
each suitable for a long list of beers. Exam- ‘When’s the last time you’ve had Wisconsin
ples include the pilsner glass, the stein, the Belgian Red?’”
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Take only
photos,
leave only
footprints
S
he slips off her sleek, gem-stud- exterior. As I get to my feet after clearing Wisconsin’s forgotten factories, churches,
ded suede flats and pulls on her the jagged metal, I get my first glimpse. homesteads, laboratories and hotels, and
thick-soled, waterproof boots. Beams of light shine through the large her curiosity has taken her as far as Cali-
She purposely doesn’t change holes in the tin wall, partially illuminating fornia.
out of her skinny jeans, trendy scarf or the enormous, desolate factory. Even the “Take only photos, leave only foot-
high-cut leather jacket. Rule number graffiti on the walls is starting to decay. prints” is the mantra of the urban explorer.
one: don’t look suspicious. Today, I’m observing. Melanie is urban Urbexers are adventurous thrill-seekers
She stuffs her pepper spray, camera exploring. Urban explorers, or “urbexers,” with one goal in mind: to photograph the
and flashlight into the pockets of her make up a vibrant underground movement unseen. By sharing their photographs, they
jeans and we walk toward the trail. It’s 3 - sometimes literally - and are united share a unique understanding of our man-
p.m. on a Saturday afternoon in Madi- by their passion for discovering deserted made past. However, acquiring these pho-
son, and we’re searching for the spot in buildings and areas within a city. Urban ex- tographs can come with serious legal and
the fence where the barbed wire is cut. ploring has been gaining steady popularity physical risks. This is something Melanie
As we look, we hear sounds of children over the last decade, largely due to the prev- knows all too well.
playing and bikes whizzing down the alence of online community websites and “The building actually collapsed par-
trail. After finding the spot - our en- the recent documentary “Urban Explorers: tially while we were inside,” Melanie says.
trance - we take one last look behind us, Into the Darkness.” She was exploring a 50-year-old paint
take note of the red no trespassing sign, Today’s exploration was organized on factory in Milwaukee, which has been
and hop the fence. a popular urban exploring forum, and empty after operations shut down in 1999.
Half an hour later I’m flat on my aside from a pair of friends, we’re complete The total factory site is composed of six
back, shimmying my way through a 1 by strangers to one another. Since the sum- buildings of 34,000 barren square feet - a
2 foot opening in the building’s rusted mer of 2009, Melanie has been exploring concrete playground for any urbexer.
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Teardrop earrings
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These
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this
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The Best
Damn Meal
I’ve Ever
Had
A
s I sit down at my table (or in the U.S. for that matter), Meritage’s and everything [go] together.”
at Meritage, Jan Kelly’s menu changes with the seasons to accom- Kelly has been preaching freshness for
3-year-old restaurant on modate seasonal ingredients. “There were a years. A California native and daughter of
Milwaukee’s west side, the lot of customers at the beginning who were restaurant owners, she has known good food
group adjacent to me parts with a single like, ‘No, what do you mean you’re going her entire life. She also understands that
recommendation. “Get the chocolate to change the menu?’ But it’s kind of a fun seasonal food doesn’t just provide flavors
cake,” a woman says. “It’s almost orgas- thing. They’ve embraced it,” she explains. and smells — it allows people to enjoy their
mic.” Not surprisingly, the first course legiti- seasonal favorites while broadening their
When I asked my server, Marie, about mizes her reasoning: thick-cut fries with palettes with new tastes. “I love that big
the dessert, she responds without blinking truffle aioli and crumbled lamb chorizo. change,” Kelly explains. “The subtle change
an eye. “It’s our specialty. It has three lay- The aromas are entirely autumnal, in par- is fun, but it’s that big season change where
ers, with flourless chocolate cake on the ticular, the scent of freshly cooked potatoes it gets really cool. Now we get to cook stew,
bottom, chocolate mousse in the middle, with a slight kick turns an ordinary dish now you’re back into going hearty dishes,
and it’s finished with a chocolate ganache into something extraordinary. In fact, Kelly braised things. Then in the summer, we get
on top.” I don’t really have a choice. believes all of her dishes do just that: take to grill again.”
For people who take food seriously, a fresh product and allow its own flavor Speaking of “braised things,” the entrée
Kelly doesn’t disappoint. Aside from her to stand out without the help of sauces or couldn’t have come at a better time. My
mouth-watering desserts, her menu fea- spices. dish: braised lamb shank with ricotta gnoc-
tures among the best produce and meats Michael Engel, a longtime friend of Kel- chi, kale, caramelized onions and roasted
of all Milwaukee restaurants, and she ly’s as well as chef and owner of Pastiche Bis- garlic, paired with a Stephen Vincent zin-
brings out the flavors of those ingredients tro in Milwaukee, has been tasting Kelly’s fandel from California. On a chilly and
without overwhelming spices and sauces. creations for the past 15 years - and went windy November night, there might not be
She says the secret to her success doesn’t as far as to call her “one of the best chefs” a more appropriate dish. The kale soaks up
lie in her ability to cook, but rather in the he’s ever known. “She has a really wonderful the flavors from the meat, which is so tender
freshness of the food she serves. palette,” he says. “Her food is always very it could be eaten with a spoon. Not a single
Unlike most restaurants in Milwaukee balanced in flavors and all the little tastes flavor competes with another; instead, they
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Go dawgs: local
shops rally behind
Cedarburg’s high
school teams.
Asking for a table for one Where to get breakfast: Candy Kitchen. You know it’s attractions is the Cedar Creek
was awkward enough. I had Make a stop at Boulange- a great day when the hardest Winery. With a history dating
never been to a sit-down res- rie Du Monde, which means decision you have to make is back to the 1860s, it crafts 12
taurant by myself, let alone in a “Bakery of the World.” It’s a between 20 types of candied nationally and internation-
town where everyone might not simple, Paris-inspired bakery apples. And while you con-
ally awarded fruit wines and a
necessarily know your name. owned by head baker Brad sider your options, take time
few special varieties during the
But the locals sure know you’re Brandolino and known for its to watch the chocolatiers make
“not from around here.” Feel exceptional croissants, fresh sweets in the mirror hung on town’s seasonal festivals. For $3
free to repeat the last line with breads and homemade pastries. the ceiling. A must try: it’s and 45 minutes of a mediocre
an appropriate, sarcastic twang. between their award-winning tour, you can probably get a de-
I may have been by myself Caffeine break: fudge or the light and airy fairy cent buzz.
(and it might have been awk- The Roastery is right across food.
ward at first) but that didn’t the street from Boulangerie Du What makes Cedarburg, Ce-
stop me from the task at hand: Monde, and boasts a wide se- Best natural landmark: darburg:
Spend a day in Cedarburg, lection of coffee beans roasted Take a quick drive north to At 7 p.m., catch that movie
Wis., and see what it’s all about. in a giant vat in the center of Covered Bridge Park. Cedar- you “meant to see in theaters”
With great places to eat, drink, the floor. But if you’ve got a burg boasts the last remaining at the Rivoli Theatre. Every
be entertained and relax, a day pooch in tow, try Java House. original covered bridge in Wis-
night, the Rivoli shows second-
in Cedarburg provides peaceful There’s a chalkboard full of consin, which deserves a walk
hand movies for only $3.50.
enjoyment for travelers of all drink options for you and a through. The park itself is a
ages. But for those of us who bowl of water outside for your great place for a relaxing picnic On Tuesdays, it’s a whopping
want a sure-fire travel experi- pup. along the creek. $2. Saturdays and Sundays of-
ence, here’s a cheat sheet to help fer a 3:30 p.m. matinee as well.
you out: Best novelty shop: When you need a drink: Try even renting a movie at that
Hands down, it’s Amy’s One of Cedarburg’s main price – you just can’t beat it.
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It’s a late night in Milwaukee. campaign, brazenly titled “How Can You attention. And within Milwaukee, she’s
While taking a cab ride home, the police Sleep?,” involved carefully placing life-like also known for her “I don’t take no for an
chief suddenly asks the driver to stop. He stickers of sleeping homeless teens at bus answer” attitude.
sees a homeless teen sleeping next to the stops, on billboards and at storefronts across According to Aldrich, Serve is the only
Hi Hat Lounge, a popular restaurant on the city. non-profit advocacy advertising firm in the
the East Side. As he gets out of the car and The campaign was a success, contributing country. While they don’t charge for their
approaches the teen, dread washes over to a 21 percent increase in annual funding services, it’s surprising how often Aldrich’s
him. How will he explain this to the driver, for Pathfinders. services are turned down - at least at first.
to his co-workers? The company behind the campaign is “Almost every campaign that Serve has
He fell for one of Milwaukee’s biggest Serve Marketing, and the woman behind done, people initially said no,” says Aldrich.
stories in 2008 - a bold campaign to raise Serve is Heather Aldrich. With a soft voice But Serve wouldn’t exist if Aldrich left
awareness for Pathfinders, a shelter and and loud hair, she is known for changing it at that.
counseling center for at-risk youth. The the way non-profit organizations attract “If I had to point to my most important
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Lori picked up the home pregnancy test Saturday night, but another couple but later sought custody of the child. More recently,
knew she shouldn’t take it until Sunday morning, just to be sure. surrogacy has cropped up in a spate of TV shows and movies,
The next day, she took the test, and waited. After two minutes, the including the 2008 comedy “Baby Mama,” which pairs Tina Fey, a
word “pregnant” appeared in the window. Lori was thrilled. successful businesswoman in her late 30s who desperately wants a
Her husband was excited, too, if a bit bemused. child, with Amy Poehler, a woman she meets through a professional
“Congratulations?” he said. “Is that what I’m supposed to say?” surrogacy service.
The pregnancy was a new experience for both of them. It wasn’t Surrogacy services play matchmaker between surrogate mothers
because Lori had never been pregnant; in fact, she and her husband and intended parents. Mary Murphey, program director of the
have two beautiful sons. But this time was different. Still full of Surrogacy Center in Madison, has worked with women and men
elation, Lori grabbed the phone to share her morning news. She from all over the world to help them realize their dreams of being
didn’t call her parents, or her best friend. She called the two people parents. For Murphey, intended parents looking to use a surrogate
she knew would be even more excited than she was: the newly are victims of a sad paradox.
conceived child’s biological mother and father. “You spend most of your reproductive life – think about this –
… trying not to get pregnant. Then when you do want to get pregnant,
For many people who lived during the 1980s, the term you think it should be easy,” she explains. “Sex becomes a job, and
“surrogacy” recalls news coverage of Mary Beth Whitehead and the it’s not fun anymore.”
bitter battle over “Baby M.” Whitehead, who was the biological Founded in 2002, the Surrogacy Center follows strict vetting
mother of the child, contractually agreed to carry the baby for procedures. Before being matched, intended parents, surrogates
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returned to Madison, recorded a six-song
ehind the door of a sound- er each other and bring out the confidence EP and won four more MAMA awards.
dampened room, the five in us. It’s awesome to see women bring out Then she stopped to take a breath or two.
members of Wicked Edge their inner diva.” Soon after, Kille realized breathing
smooth the rough edges of Ladies Rock Camp may be all about would have to wait. She had an idea to start
their first song. They’ve been women rocking out, but it all started with a a Girls Rock Camp, which she mentioned
a band for less than 48 hours, and they are little girl who wanted to drum. to Scott Meskin, lead guitarist in Madison-
nonchalant but sharply focused. They hone based Bonobo Secret Handshake (Kille’s
I
in on the song they’ve written to perform husband plays percussion in the band).
at the High Noon Saloon the next day, on n 2007, Wisconsinite Halle Pollay Kille and Meskin contacted the national
instruments two of them had never touched tried to send her daughter, Sarah Girls Rock Camp Alliance, who told them
before they met one day earlier. Corbin, who was then 9, to Girls there was already a Girls Rock Camp in
“It’s got balls. No, it doesn’t have balls. Rock! Chicago. To her dismay, the Madison. They were surprised – pleasantly
It’s got ovaries.” camp was full and Corbin was put surprised. Soon Kille joined forces with Pol-
In between practice takes of their brand- on the waitlist. The following year, Pol- lay, a move Pollay says cemented GRCM’s
new single “Turn Away,” vocalist Sarah lay sent in another application. Waitlisted future success.
Whitt jumps up and down, unable to con- again. She tried a third time, to no avail. “She’s a force of nature in music in this
tain her excitement. The 36-year-old dis- Undiscouraged, Pollay started thinking town,” Pollay says. “Between the two of us
plays the animation of a rocker half her age, outside the box and inside the borders of – my skills from the administrative side and
absolutely delighted to unleash her words her state. her skills from the
and voice to the universe. Unapologetic. “My whole musical side – have
“Rock ’n’ roll is a lot of fun,” she says. family has a musi- made the camp, re-
“It’s sort of like this reckless abandon thing, cal background,” ally, I think one of
and I thought it’d be really neat.”
Whitt and her bandmates are at day two
of the first Ladies Rock Camp Madison, a
Pollay says. “And
I’m a musician
and songwriter,
“It’s got balls. the best in the coun-
try.”
Pollay and Kille
grown-up, weekend edition of Girls Rock
Camp Madison. Open to women ages 19
so I thought,
‘Why am I not
No, it doesn’t garnered the atten-
tion and support of
and older with a desire to rock, the camp is
designed to give neophyte rockers the op-
doing this here?’”
Pollay con-
have balls. It’s friends, family and
businesses. Pollay
portunity to try something new.
With the instruction and direction of
tacted the inter-
national Girls got ovaries.” attended the GRCA
meeting in San
an enthusiastic group of local female musi- Rock Camp Al- Francisco, and was
cians, the campers take instrument lessons, liance and began asked to teach at
form a band, write an original song and organizing her Girls Rock! Chicago
perform it live for their friends and families own Girls Rock (since Pollay was
at the High Noon Saloon, a 400-capacity Camp in the Madison area. The first week- now teaching, they got Corbin off the wait-
venue on Madison’s east side. Along the long camp was held the summer of 2009 list). Kille contacted High Noon Saloon
way, they make new friends and build self- in Viroqua at Pollay’s home. Thirteen girls owner/manager Cathy Dethmers about
confidence. ages 9 to 13, applied and all were accepted. holding the end-of-the-week showcase at
“Music, a lot of the time when you think They formed three bands with the help of her venue. It was the first time Dethmers
about it, it’s really male-driven,” says Dani- five instructors and 10 volunteers. Deemed had heard of Girls Rock Camp, but she says
elle Brittany, a local singer-songwriter and a success by all those involved, Pollay and the partnership was a no-brainer.
LRCM instructor. “This allows women to friends had gotten the Girls Rock Camp “Now that music programs are being
be women, be around women and empow- Madison drumbeat rolling. Little did she cut so drastically in schools, it’s even more
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nside the Madison Music Foundry
is a maze-like warren of practice
rooms. On this particular Saturday
afternoon, each door opens to a
2 room of women, grabbing the rock
world by the cojones and refusing to let go,
twisting them like volume knobs cranked
to 11.
Behind door number one, seven camp-
ers stand in a circle. Their attention is fo-
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cused on Anna Vogelzang, a Madison A major seven while belting out a powerful “It seems like a weird idea to me,” she
singer-songwriter, who balances a keyboard vocal melody. Nothing slows Kille down. says, making a face.
on a wooden stool. Vogelzang leads a vocal Heading down the hall, it’s a shame this Despite Kira’s hesitation to rock with
warm-up. Ten women practicing lip trills isn’t a game show – it’s easy to guess what’s her mom, she admires what her mother is
sound like a chorus of mermaids – notes behind door number four. Instructor Nicky doing. And Dohrn is glad to be in a band
bubbling up from pursed, pulsating lips of Sund leads the beat on her own drum set with her sister, finally taking time to do
otherworldly women of the sea. while Rasmussen keeps time with a cow- something for herself.
Down the hall, seven bassists huddle to- bell. A couple of the women with sticks “Driving my children from one place to
gether for a lesson from instructors Laura seem more confident than others, but that the other, laundry, grocery shopping,” Beth
Detert and Connie Jordan. Seven bass play- may be due to the intruders in the room. says. “None of those things, I don’t miss any
ers in one room seems like a recipe for di- Camper Cathleen Dohrn says to the pho- of them today.”
saster, but through the patience of Detert tographer over the sound of the skins, “This
T
and Jordan and the determination of the is a lot harder than it looks.” Before leav-
campers, these women will become masters ing the room, Dohrn playfully throws in a he first Ladies Rock Camp
of disaster – picking and plucking, creating drum fill. Sund smiles. Madison comes to a close
a low-toned thunderstorm. Everyone breaks between instruction with a spectacular showcase
Behind door number three, Kille sits and practice. Beth Dohrn, Cathleen’s sister, at the High Noon Saloon.
front and center, surrounded by three sits with her daughter, Kira Dohrn Jones, All the bands take the stage
campers with guitars. Her ebony acoustic- who is 14 and a GRCM camper. Beth triumphantly – their sons, daughters, sig-
electric shines, illuminated by studio lights. Dohrn is master of ceremonies and board nificant others, co-workers, friends and in-
Behind her beautiful guitar peeks a five- president of GRCM and LRCM, but today structors screaming like teenage girls seeing
months-pregnant belly, a pale blue t-shirt she plays the role of camper. Dohrn says the the Beatles at Candlestick Park. After all the
stretched taut over the swell of her stomach. whole family is somewhat musical now, jok- women are done rocking, they’re positively
She is the image of patience and grace—al- ingly suggesting the idea of a family band. glowing – and not just because of the stage
most saintly, if a saint could strum a mean Kira is not amused. lights.
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On the road
ible fun, not only being with my sister and
niece, but with this great group of women.
I have a newfound appreciation for the
drums.”
with Anna Vogelzang
T
he likelihood of a “Dohrn
Family Band” remains un-
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clear, but the world may not
A
be ready for a hard rock ver-
sion of the Partridge Family, nna Vogelzang is a cliché, and she knows it. Her gorgeously emo-
anyway. Teenagers will al- tive folk songs are inspired by her Kerouac-esque lifestyle on the
ways find a way to be embarrassed by their road as well as love lost and found. But just five seconds of hear-
parents, no matter how rockin’ they may be. ing her full-bodied, emphatic alto lilting over Americana string ar-
Sharing the stage with your mother could rangements will have you captivated. She’s not trying to be Kimya
mean the kiss of death for a high schooler. Dawson or Dar Williams. She’s just Anna.
Although the daughters of rock camp Since graduating from Carnegie Mellon University in 2007, the Massachusetts
moms might not want to share the spotlight native has been building a steady following in the Midwest music scene. After
with their parents, one thing is for certain – spending a year and a half in Chicago, she relocated to Madison in 2008 and signed
these grown-up campers have gotten a taste with local record label, Slothtrop Music.
of rock ‘n’ roll and want a second helping. Taking a rare time-out from her month-long tour of the Northeast - during
Many of the women say they’ll return next which she is performing every night while also recording songs for her newest al-
year and nearly all want to switch to drums. bum - Anna discusses her travels, her music and, of course, her feelings.
Halle Pollay, meanwhile, has quit her
job as an accountant to pursue GRCM full- CURB: How did you get your start in music?
time. VOGELZANG: I was born! My whole family is in music – my mom is an opera
“It was probably the best career move singer. I grew up singing and I started playing guitar at 14. In college I ended up
I’ve ever made,” she says. “Maybe not finan- creating my own major in the school of music. It was called Creative Music Pro-
cially, but definitely spirit-wise.” duction, which basically gave me the excuse to take a bunch of jazz classes. I got to
learn jazz guitar and do sound engineering. I ended up doing two projects where
I made my first two real albums in the studio lab at school and they counted for
credit. I kind of made the singer-songwriter degree.
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K
U.S. you have as the back-
They get a lot out and it is super
ground for your website and arri Daley is a Madison staple. For the past
cathartic for me, but I am emo-
MySpace. You also categorize three years, the 27-year-old singer has lit up
tional beyond the songs too.
your music as “Americana.” I the Madison music scene with her shows at
But it’s usually in a funny way.
know this sounds strange, but Funky Mondays at the Frequency. Perform-
are you very patriotic? ing as part of the Clyde Stubblefield Show
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VOGELZANG: I really love - Clyde Stubblefield being known for his years with James
being able to see the country cover on your MySpace is pretty Brown in the late ’60s - she wows her audience with her wild,
the way I do. It’s tiresome … hilarious. If you could have one soulful voice and commanding stage presence. And the elec-
especially because I’m on the artist cover one of your songs, tric blue hair doesn’t hurt, either.
road right now, I’m right in it. who would it be? But if you saw her three years ago, you’d see an entirely
But the cool thing about this VOGELZANG: Ooh, that’s different woman.
job is that you’re on a constant hard. I guess it’d have to be the “I got to the point when I was 25 going on 25 that I real-
road trip. I was actually hav- Mountain Goats. It would be ized that anything that I ever wanted was slipping through my
ing a conversation the other great if it was a dude, especially fingers because I was too afraid to take it,” she says. “I was too
day with someone about how because so much of my music is afraid of criticism, too afraid of what other people thought,
we put in all these highways, lady-centric, it’d be great. too afraid of being booed off stage.”
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It’s not as if Daley wasn’t talented - it’s “Clyde said, ‘Hey, you know you’re get- With blue hair and a newfound confi-
quite the opposite. Daley first started sing- tin’ real good. I wanna give you a chance. I dence, Daley took the stage with the Clyde
ing at age 3 when her mom, a writer, played wanna hire you. Would you like that?’ And Stubblefield Show and never looked back.
guitar for Karri and her sister, Aryn, to sing I said, ‘Yeah! Are you kidding me?’” She not only won over her new bandmates,
them to sleep. Despite no formal training, And thus a performer was born - al- but also the audiences she entertained. “She
Daley set herself on the path toward a ca- most. When shedding her shy way of life has a way of connecting with the audi-
reer in music. But something set her back - three years ago, Daley wanted to change in ence. People just love her,” says guitarist Joe
her shyness. While Daley performed in bars a big way. That’s when the blue hair became Wickham. “And women too. Usually they
and coffeehouses, she had no stage presence part of her life and an integral part to her get jealous because she’s the hot girl singer,
and went entirely unnoticed. identity.
but she just wins everybody over.”
When she was 20, Daley met her sound “People would like my voice but
And now, she’s hoping to win everyone
engineer fiancé Jaimie Doering, who for- wouldn’t remember my name. I was just
over with her own original album, set for
tuitously began working for Stubblefield. another blonde girl, brunette girl, black-
release in early 2011. “They’re songs that I
Daley took on lighting. It wasn’t too long haired girl – even if I dyed it bright pink
didn’t just come up with out of my head
before Stubblefield himself noticed her. or bright red it didn’t matter, it was all the
“When I first met Clyde, he said, same,” she says. just for the sake of writing a song, they’re
‘Who’re you little girl? I hear you can sing,’” That’s when she settled on blue. “I knew all genuinely from the heart,” she says. “I
she says. “I decided to get up and sing a it was very unusual-looking, which is ex- strongly believe it’s therapeutic.”
blues song with him all nervous and shaky, actly what I wanted. Not only because it’s None of Daley’s success would have
but they thought I was cute and they let me fun and I like it - and I really do like blue happened were it not for the epiphany she
do it every now and then.” -but I really was doing it for marketing,” had at 24. Not only does she believe in it,
As time passed, Daley pushed herself she says, giving her neon locks a twist. “So but also she espouses to everyone she meets,
to open up more on stage. After about now if people don’t remember my name, “Life is too short to be shy so get out there
three years, Stubblefield offered her a deal. they sure as hell remember I have blue hair.” and just take it.”
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Motherhood can be a game of numbers. Brittany Kilar, 17, the oldest of the Ki-
How many children do you have? How old lar children, saw her numbers in miles. On
are they? How many miles did you drive the evening of Sept. 2, she was in Elkhorn,
this week between practice, piano and play- Wis., with her swim team. As they filed
dates? into the locker room, her coach’s husband
On the evening of Sept. 2, Mary Kilar, approached her and said she had to leave
mother of four, faced her numbers. “I had with him immediately. While packing her
four of my family members going in differ- things, she received a call from her mother.
ent ambulances, and I had to choose which “She was yelling, ‘There was a car accident!
one to go in ... Thinking about your entire Trey is fighting for his life! Be strong and
family being wiped out, one of the things pray hard.’”
that is horrific about it is choosing.” After traveling 52.6 miles, Brittany felt
... her heart race upon arrival at Waukesha
Eileen Jaskolski, commonly referred to Memorial Hospital. Nurses escorted her to
as “Grandma J,” counts her blessings, num- a “quiet room” where she would wait to hear
bering three children and seven grandchil- more. A social worker entered the room and
dren whom she talks about constantly. On began to explain what happened but was
the evening of Sept. 2, she watched televi- interrupted. “My mom came in crying and
sion at her Sussex, Wis., home when the was saying, ‘He took my baby!’ When I saw
phone rang. Eileen answered to hear her her and heard her say that, I just started
daughter, Mary, uttering the words she now crying even harder. Because I knew that my
hears over and over. “Mom, I need you to 6-year-old brother was dead.”
be strong. Mike was hit by a drunk driver. ...
I’m in an ambulance and Treyton is fighting For each of these women, the numbers
for his life.” come down to one thing: one less son, one
... less grandchild, one less brother. They are
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bout five years ago, Ashe and Boone wanted something that would be relevant to us and people our
Dryden decided they wanted age; we wanted a community for discussions and support, not for
more out of their relationship. finding partners,” Boone says.
The love life that once propelled So, in January 2008, Ashe, Boone and Miller started their
the two to marry had become own group, Coming Out Poly, which is geared toward their own
virtually nonexistent. Monogamy demographic but open to anyone who is interested in or currently
just wasn’t working, so the couple living a polyamorous lifestyle.
searched the Milwaukee area for “We wanted to start a group specifically for younger individuals
discussion groups about open and couples that were going through the really hard parts of being
relationships. polyamorous that usually go along with being new to it,” Miller
But instead of finding a community for discussion and support, says. “If people are honest with themselves, they probably have an
the mid-20s couple ended up at swingers’ parties, filled with inkling of an interest in the community.”
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45-year-olds cruising for sex. “It made us really uncomfortable,” ...
Boone says. “I wanted to have a place to educate folks about how to he group, which began as discussion group, has
[enjoy] more open, trusting, communicative relationship[s].” transformed into a full-fledged support resource with
Boone and Ashe didn’t want to sleep around. They wanted to weekly meetings, mailing lists, social events and additional
be polyamorous. Polyamory – not to be confused with polygamy support online that enables ongoing discussions. Coming Out
– essentially means having more than one steady, romantic Poly attracts polyamorists who have been in the community for
relationship at any given time. A polyamorous individual might years as well as people who have never been in a non-monogamous
have a primary partner, as well as secondary and tertiary partners. relationship before. Miller believes the group allows those who have
According to a study conducted in September 2009 and cited in little experience in the poly community to connect with and ask
Newsweek, there are 500,000 polyamorous households in the U.S. questions of people who can offer them guidance. “It’s a safe, open
... space for people to bring up issues and get advice from others that
Boone and Ashe abandoned the swingers’ parties, and soon have gone through the same situation,” she says.
Boone began seeing Lyndzi Miller, a writer and call center worker. For people like Julie Richardson, a 33-year-old sex educator
Shortly thereafter, Ashe found a boyfriend. But Ashe, Boone and from Milwaukee, being a part of the poly community allows her to
Miller were still frustrated by what they perceived as a lack of be more honest with her husband, as well as herself. Before joining
resources for polyamorous people in Wisconsin. They wanted to the group, Richardson struggled to find happiness in her marriage.
find a group where they felt safe expressing their feelings about “I felt like I could possibly cheat to find some happiness,” she
open relationships and experiences dating multiple people. “We says. “I told him that something wasn’t right, and in discussions we
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experience the
relationship at a time. We still treat our partners the same, we don’t
do anything that is much different from monogamous people. We
still have to pay rent and go grocery shopping and deal with jobs
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any people who practice polyamory maintain it isn’t so
realized that monogamy might just not be for us.” different from monogamy – it just involves more people.
Like many in the poly community, Richardson also struggled “I think we experience the same issues, the same troubles,
to find the right support group for her husband and herself. She, and the same joys [as monogamous people],” Boone explains.
too, experimented with swinging, which she described as “a bad “We just have to deal with them with more than one person and
fit.” It wasn’t until she had an actual relationship with another man work to communicate about a lot of things.” Communication is
that she really feel a sense of fulfillment in her love life. Ironically, essential for all healthy relationships, he says, noting that the lack
Richardson believes having the opportunity to have a relationship of trust that can exist among monogamous couples doesn’t occur in
with another person helped save her relationship with her husband, polyamorous relationships because there is no reason to lie to your
who is also actively dating in the poly community. partner. “Everyone knows what everyone is doing.”
“I think my husband feels less pressure,” she says, explaining Coming Out Poly currently meets once every week. And while
that whatever she finds lacking in their marriage – be it emotional the group doesn’t go as far as to offer counseling to those confused
or sexual – she can find with her second partner. “It takes some about their relationship preferences, Miller says the organization
stress off our relationship in general,” she says. gives people opportunities for self-discovery, whether they choose
... to be polyamorous or not. Ashe, Boone and Miller think Coming
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very path to non-monogamy is different, explains Dr. Out Poly meetings fill a niche, offering support to younger people
Meg Barker, a polyamory expert based in the U.K. who are interested in pursuing more than one romantic relationship
and co-editor of “Understanding Non-monogamies,” a – not just sleeping around.
collection of essays on polyamory. In her research conducted in “There’s a lot of misconceptions about what polyamory is, and
2005 on 20 polyamorous women and 10 polyamorous men living some people might stop by thinking we’re swingers, or that we’re all
in the U.K., she concluded that about half of polyamorous people kinksters, or just sex addicts or something,” Miller says. “In reality,
between ages 20 and 60 thought they were born that way. Others that’s not true — we’re all just very normal people that just happen
use polyamory as a means to invigorate their love lives or retain to have more than one love in their life.”
•
personal freedoms within committed relationships.
“Everyone draws lines about what emotional connections it
is OK to have outside their main relationship, and what physical
contact it is OK to have,” Barker explains.
Whatever the reason, Barker argues, people are polyamorous
because they not only feel capable of loving more than one partner,
but more often than not, they need to love more than one person to
feel a sense of fulfillment in their lives. But in a world where fidelity love noun \'l e v\
to one person is the rule, Barker says the media present “polyamory 1. strong affection for another person, or
as something rather ‘out there’ that normal people wouldn’t be able
to do.” more than one, arising out of personal
preference or a feeling of desire for
F
...
or those who practice polyamory, however, having multiple
partners is, well, normal. Aside from loving more than one more emotional connection beyond one
person, Ashe, Boone and Miller say they all want the same monogamous relationship
thing: to take care of their families, have a good job and
live a normal life. In that respect, monogamy and polyamory have
much in common, Ashe explains.
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Is there a third church in her future?
“I still get calls from real estate agents about churches,” she says.
“And I’m like no, never, ever, ever again.”
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1. Isaac and Neis
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3. The church has
two downstairs
bedrooms, but
Isaac and Neis pre-
fer to sleep in the
upstairs loft.
for Tammy Baldwin, Jim Doyle and the Urban League. and I’d already started tearing down the drywall, which was lime
green … And Ed comes in and says, “I wouldn’t do anything to this
What have you changed about the space? kitchen for a year.” And I was like, “You’ve got to be kidding me.”
Everything. I worked really hard on this place for the first few But he was right … He wanted us to figure out how we used
years after we moved in. I did a ton of demolition, building, paint- the space before we did anything. And I’m so happy we waited. We
ing and plastering… The kitchen was a disaster. The windows were lived with it for a year, and where we were in the beginning and
boarded up, and you’d open the lower cabinets and the inside went where we ended up is completely different.
down to dirt. There was drywall, but it only went up eight feet …
We found a giant crack in the wall and had to excavate the entire What’s been the biggest challenge about living here, from a de-
side yard. sign perspective?
Figuring out how to bring things down to a human scale. We’ve
What’s your advice for people who are remodeling? tried to find ways to make it comfortable, cozy and bright. Paint
Live in a space before you change anything. Ed Linville, the helps—painting a wall to delineate a room, for example...
architect who designed all the Food Fight restaurants in Madison, [But] I hesitate to call what I do “design”… And that’s why it’s
told us that. He came into the kitchen when it was a mess ... The hard to pull something out, because I see this weird boatful of stuff
walls were black, the previous tenants had painted the ceiling purple as one thing… but anyone else who walks in here probably sees it
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1. Isaac and Neis gutted the kitchen, and now it’s one of their
favorite rooms in the house. Isaac used acid to etch designs into
the backsplash. 2. A sunny corner in Isaac’s studio. 3. The studio
bathroom is decorated with 1970s tiles from Buenos Aires.
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This is an excerpt from the full article, most gender diverse cabinet in the history Democratic Rep. Donna Seidel sits
available on curbonline.com. of Wisconsin. next to Pasch in her office, surrounded by
But now, Wisconsin has a secret - one campaign photos and pictures of her fam-
B
that permeates county boards and the state ily. Like old friends reminiscing about days
y now, Sandy Pasch was used
legislature. A secret that clouds city councils gone by, the two state representatives re-
to it.
and circuit courts; a secret that’s not easy to count the challenges they have faced when
She walked up another cement
keep. And surprisingly enough, it’s available running for office in Wisconsin.
sidewalk. Rang another door-
for all to see. “The question is, ‘How will this impact
bell. Gave another smile and
According to the Wisconsin Women’s your family?’ As primary caregivers, gen-
another handshake. And then she had to
Council, women currently hold 25 percent erally, that is a question that not only we
answer the questions she’s heard time and
of elected offices in Wisconsin, the lowest ask ourselves, but the public asks that of us
time again.
number in more than two decades. as well,” Seidel says. “They don’t ask men,
“Who will watch your kids?” they ask.
‘Well how many kids do you have? How
“Who will cook your family dinner?”
But Who Will Take Care of the Kids? old are they? How are you going to handle
Wisconsin has a rich tradition of wom-
Seated at a table in one of her colleague’s this?’”
en and politics. In 1919, the state became
offices, it has been two years since Demo- It’s this double standard that is inherent
the first to ratify the 19th Amendment, giv-
cratic Rep. Pasch was on the campaign trail. in politics. But it’s not all political - Pasch
ing women the right to vote. Vel Phillips
However, the time spent knocking on doors says that in general, the public has different
became the first African American woman
and talking to strangers is fresh in her mind. expectations of women.
in the U.S. elected to a statewide office
And of course, she cannot forget the ques- “The reaction to a woman performing
when she won her campaign for secretary
tions about her role as a mother, wife and the same behavior as a man is, ‘Well, she is
of state in 1979. As recently as 2002, Gov.
politician. But she’s not the only one to face so nasty,’” Pasch says. “Some of that may be
Jim Doyle was recognized for having the
such questions. more tolerated with men.”
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ohn Muir. Aldo Leopold. Gaylord tow says. “‘We can’t have this.’” have a flawed jug come through that you
Nelson. When it comes to envi- Her refusal to accept an ever-expanding can’t use?” she asked.
ronmental leaders, Wisconsin can heap of trash sparked a national revolution. The reply: “We put it back and run it
drop some names. One woman changed the way America through again.”
But chances are you haven’t heard looked at garbage. In fact, she changed the A light bulb went off.
of Milly Zantow. very definition of “garbage.” “Aha! That was my answer,” she says. “If
“I see Milly as really one of the un- “I just knew it had to happen. Down they could recycle it in the very beginning,
sung environmental heroes of Wiscon- deep in my heart, I knew.” why couldn’t we recycle post-consumer
sin,” says Gregg Mitman, director of the material?”
Nelson Institute of Environmental Stud- Getting started But convincing companies to use re-
ies at UW-Madison. Zantow knew recycling plastic was pos- cycled plastic and politicians to enact recy-
Zantow, 87, isn’t an ecologist, a poli- sible. On a recent trip to Japan, she had cling laws was no easy task. Wisconsin leg-
tician or a professor of environmental seen bins on city streets and curbsides that islators laughed in her face. They told her
studies. She has no background in public separated plastic, glass and metal from gar- the concept was 20 years ahead of its time.
policy or science. But the North Free- bage. Zantow didn’t back down. She eventu-
dom resident knew a problem when she If she were going to solve the Sauk ally convinced Flambeau Plastic, a com-
saw one. County landfill crisis, Zantow knew she pany in Baraboo, to experiment with recy-
In 1978, the Sauk County landfill was needed to learn about the plastics industry. cling the material. But there was a catch:
overflowing, 10 years ahead of schedule. She read the plastics encyclopedia, spoke to The recycled plastic needed to be ground
Zantow recalls visiting the facility one experts and contacted companies specializ- before they would use it.
day, and watching, depressed, as plastic ing in the material. “Well, where am I going to get a grind-
bottles whipped in the wind. She called the Borden Milk Company er?” Zantow recalls thinking after she hung
“I thought, ‘This is ridiculous,’” Zan- in Milwaukee. “What do you do when you up the phone.
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When she inquired about purchasing a UW-Baraboo science department to learn
machine to recycle post-consumer plastics, how to distinguish different types of plas-
her request was met with laughter. tic using burn tests, smoke tests and water
“Oh, they thought that was the funniest weight tests.
thing they ever heard,” Zantow says. “He “I don’t think until I got mixed up in
Garbage
said, ‘I just can’t imagine doing that.’ But [recycling]… that any [companies] were re- If you’ve ever bought something in a
he said, ‘I’ll do it. If you get the $5,000, cycling plastic,” Zantow recalls in “Plastics plastic bottle, you’ve probably noticed
I’ll do it.’” One Through Seven,” a 2009 documentary a little number inside a triangle on the
That mountain of money seemed even by Liese Dart. bottom of the container. Ever wonder
bigger than the landfill at the time. Zantow Soon Zantow received calls from com- what that means?
called a friend, Jenny Ehl, to propose they panies around the country, wanting to
both cash in their life insurance policies to know if certain types of plastic were recy- 1. PETE or PET
buy the grinder. She figured they wouldn’t clable. “That’s how I kept going,” she says. (polyethylene terephthalate)
need the insurance for years while the plas- As the recycling movement caught on, Typically seen on soda and water
tic bottles were immediate. Zantow realized people needed a system to bottles, food containers and
With their policies liquidated and the distinguish different types of plastic. mouthwash bottles.
plastic grinder paid for in full, Zantow and “We came up with the idea of a little
Ehl started a recycling program in 1979, imprint on the bottom of every container, 2. HDPE (high-density
known as E-Z Recycling. a little triangle emblem, with a number in- polyethylene)
“[We] felt like throwing a party when serted in it,” Zantow says in “Plastics One Found on milk jugs, detergent
we threw the first jug Through Seven.” bottles, toys and household cleaning
in,” Zantow says. The Society of the products.
E-Z Recycling was “I see Milly as Plastics Industry stan-
one of the first centers
in the U.S. – if not the
really one of the dardized the now-
iconic triangle codes
3. PVC or V (polyvinyl
chloride)
only center – to recy- kind of unsung in 1988. Today they’re Used on shampoo containers,
cle plastic, newspaper, used around the world detergent bottles, pipes and outdoor
cardboard, glass, alumi- environmental to separate plastics. furniture.
num and tin. Mitman says the
Initially, the plastic
heroes of symbols “helped trans- 4. LDPE (low-density
recycling program only Wisconsin” form the way we think polyethylene)
included milk jugs. about and practice re- Typically seen on dry cleaning bags,
With the help of lo- cycling in the U.S.” food storage containers and produce
cal markets and community centers, Zan- Shortly after recycling codes were stan- bags.
tow and Ehl established drop-off locations dardized, Zantow celebrated another vic-
where people could leave old milk contain- tory: Wisconsin passed a recycling law, 5. PP (polypropylene)
ers. They told their families and friends, requiring paper, metal, glass and plastic Found on bottle tops, yogurt
and soon milk jugs piled up.“They began be collected and kept out of landfills. The containers, videocassette cases, straws
getting so full, so we knew people were as legislation came after years of lobbying by and medicine bottles.
worried as we were,” Zantow says. “But Zantow and other recycling activists.
they didn’t know what to do about it.” Zantow’s years of advocacy did not 6. PS (polystyrene)
bring her fame or fortune. Outside the en- Used on throwaway cups and plates,
A recycling revolution is born vironmental movement, her name is virtu- disposable eating utensils, rulers and
As E-Z Recycling grew, Zantow was de- ally unknown. But those familiar with her CD cases.
termined to expand the program to include story insist that she is a role model, not just
detergent bottles, shampoo bottles and for environmental advocates, but for any- 7. Other
other types of plastic. Once again, plastics one seeking to incite change. A plastic classified as seven represents
experts discouraged her, saying her project “I think what we learn is that it’s really all plastics other than the six listed
would be too labor-intensive given the va- true that one person can make a difference,” above. This may include reusable
riety of plastics involved. Zantow refused Mitman says. “This is somebody that had water bottles, sunglasses, iPod and
to give up. a real passion and commitment, and per- computer cases and bulletproof
“They’re just a different type… of plas- severed and as a result helped changed the material.
tic, and they’re recyclable,” Zantow recalls world.”
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n a recent episode of the getting hitched. for our age,” Kaiser says.
AMC television series In fact, one could argue that things have While that may be true, age does have
“Mad Men,” Peggy moved so much in the opposite direction something to do with it. Studies have
Olson, a bright young that young married couples are now the shown that duration of marriage is linked
copywriter at an ad agency, looks at her outliers. When a 22-year-old couple to a woman’s age at her first marriage—the
co-worker and sighs. announces their engagement, there comes older she is, the less likely she is to divorce.
“I signed the first new business since the inevitable, “Why so fast?” It is perhaps surprising, however, that
Lucky Strike left,” she says. “But it’s not “We know what we want to do with couples who marry at age 20 or older are
as important as getting married.” our lives,” Kayla Kaiser, a UW senior, says. less likely to separate than those who marry
Peggy is 26, and in the ’60s, that was Kaiser, 22, is engaged to Kyle Terpstra, 23, under 18. A 2001 Centers for Disease
pretty much over the hill. In 1960, the also a senior at the university. The couple Control and Prevention study found that
average age of marriage for women in the met about five years ago, during their senior 59 percent of women who marry under
U.S. was about 20 years old. For men, it year of high school, and plan to marry next the age of 18 separate from their partners
was just under 23. summer. or divorce within 15 years. For women
Nowadays, of course, Peggy’s mid- Neither is worried about relationship who married at age 20 or older, however,
20s singlehood wouldn’t raise an trends or marriage statistics. What’s the 15-year-divorce rate dropped to 36
eyebrow. The most common trend in most important, they say, is that they’re percent. The findings were based on a 1995
relationships is “the increasing delay of in love and feel ready to make what study of 10,847 women aged 15 to 44.
the age of marriage,” says Professor John Kaiser acknowledges is an “enormous A more recent study, conducted by
DeLamater, a relationship expert at UW- commitment.” the Pew Research Center, also found a
Madison. In 2009, women in Wisconsin The couple plans to meet with a correlation between a woman’s age at
entered their first marriage at an average financial advisor, and has already begun marriage and the duration of her marriage.
age of 25.5, while men were just over budgeting for the wedding, Kaiser says. She The 2009 study was based on findings drawn
27 years old, according to a Wisconsin is confident that with open communication from a 2008 survey sponsored by the U.S.
Department of Health study. and financial planning, she and Terpstra Census Bureau, which examined marriage
Many reasons account for this trend. will effectively manage their money. And, and divorce statistics at the state level. The
People now spend more of their young she adds, the success of a marriage depends study found that states like Arkansas and
adulthood experimenting with love and less on the age of the couple, and more on Oklahoma, where half of all brides were
careers. Social norms have relaxed, too; their maturity. age 24 or younger on their wedding day,
it’s no longer taboo to shack up before “I feel that Kyle and I are very mature also had an above-average share of divorced
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