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In the past five years, the internethas revolutionizedsociety. One areawhich is
evolving at warp speed is that of male-female interaction, specifically with regard to
romance and seduction. Discussiongroups have sprung up all over cyberspace,with
virnrally every major ISP and website offering content in the category. unlike other
infonnation, such as sports scoresor stock prices, relationshipadvice is subjective,and
the contentis strongly regulatedpolitically. In most fora, the femalepoint of view reigns
supreme,with men who dissentfinding themselvesberated,harassedeven, their account
accessterminated and their opinions unwelcome

The exceptionto the censorshiprule can be found on IJSENET (AOL keyword:

newsgroupsi),a collection of newsgroupsdevotedto every topic imaginable, including
seduction. The most popular groups are alt.romance and soc.singles,but from those
groups a spinoff group was created,alt.seduction.fast(ASF) to deal with the increasing
popularity of a man namedRossJeffries and a product namedSpeedSeductionrNr, or SS.
Ross's work has becomeso popular that the movie characterplayed by Tom Cruise in
Magnolia was based on him. SS currently numbers approximately 40,000 paying
customers,and probably three times as many who have heard of the method and put it
into practicebasedon the free materialon Ross'swebsiteat www.seduction.com.

In the past few years, ASF has evolved from an SS-only group into a group for
playersof all kinds, men who want to have sex with many Foxes, ffid to have it quickly
after rneeting. The new information on ASF has sparkedan explosion of websitesand
e-mail lists which bring its total audienceto close to 200,000 or more (in my estimate),
and which is growing every day. Too many men are getting laid too easily and too often
by women who are too beautiful for this explosionto be ignored. The information is
high-quality, free of the female-dominatedcensorshipon the rest of the web, and it is
4 rurning men who never got laid in their lives into superstudswho can scorealmostat will
4 with higher-qualitywomen than they were striking out with previously.
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4 familiar with it, and to captureits essenceby revealingthe frustrationof the former nice
guys who populateit. The result is a collectionof sinrationsin which a jerk got laid
4 while a nice guy would not have. My purposeis to angerthe reader,to once and for all
1 explainto the nice guy how he is being screwedover by Foxes,why he is being screwed
4 over, and how he can imitate the behaviilr of the successfulseducersof the internetto
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The above, postedto USENET as an insult to decent,datelessmen, is typical of

what inspired this book. I have had enoughof seeingwomen get away with taunting men
who dare to complain about their behavior, no matter how wrong it is. Hell may hath
no fury like a woman scorned, and she may get sympathy and her honor defendedby
men who want to get laid but a nice guy scornedis shit out of luck. The man who writes
a long post to USENET about how women have mistreatedhim can expect a slew of
negativepostingsin response,taunting him for everything from his attitude, to his height,
career, or even ttrat he is too nice.

TOO MCE!!?! Perhapsshe would have preferred OJ Simpson! It is very

difficult to have sympathyfor Foxes, who have more men to choosefrom than anyone,
yet who manageto chooseone jerk after another, if they are going to taunt the polite,
decent, civilized men they claim to want as weak-mindedwimps who deserveto be
walked on. The double standardhasgone on long enough:Foxeswho want nice men are
going to have to changethe rules. The way ttre dating game is currently rigged, nice
guys get a raw deal almost 100 percentof the time. The debateis eternal: on one side
are thosewho are willing to speakthe truth, ffid on the other are those who attemptto
deny it. To argue that Foxes do not reward men for behavinglike jerks is just naive.
This book is written for nice guys who are wondering why they bother treating women
well if they are not onlv not going to be rewarded for doing So, but, as I will clearly
denronstrate,actually be punished for doing the right thing by treating them as they are
supposedto be treated.
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a to despise,while repeatedlyignoring a man sheclaims to want. Either Foxesare terrible
a judges of men, they are lying about what they want from men, or a combinationof both
a factors is at work. With this book, I seekto answer all of thesequestions,providing a
a full understandingof reality to the nice guy in denial, a blueprint for turning into a jerk
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happier. Are we so self-destructivethat we act againstour own interests? No. The :
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work with nature rather than againstit. They would know who is
likely to want them, why, for how long, and if they were able to !
read their behaviorproperly they would be able to determineif they !
were fundamentallycornpatible. Instead,we have a sinrationwhere 3
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fairy tale that will make it all worthwhile, and point to those who
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1 gravitate to the conqueringmale who is rude to the world but treats her like
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breed contempt, and she will be treatedmore and more like the rest of the
1 world over time. Still more are dysfunctional due to societal conditioning
1 and their upbringing that they either expect, tolerate, or try to change
4 abusive behavior. The dysfunction can be addictive, with the added
4 problem that once a Fox is in a relationship, over time she becomes
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a of the jerk lifestyle becausethe samenice guy who becomesa jerk winds up pursuedby
the very Foxes who used to reject him! This would not happenunless it was his nice
4' qualities they found repulsive. A reward system that gives sex to jerks and which
rt punishesnice men for being nice is going to populatethe world with jerks. Foxeshave
a the sexualleverageto alter male behavior, and the burden restsupon them to do so by
a rewarding the behavior they claim to want, and for nice men to shift the burden to the
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t giving him the power, she acceptshis shallow preferencesas his due, his reward for
t being the ultimate, strong, confident,alpha-male. As such, he desenesthe best, and she
comeson to him like a porn-staror a stripper. Conversely,a Clark Kent-typewho even
t mentions her body will be called a pervert. It has nothing to do with how a man
t behaves,but how much respecthe commands. A typical USENET post might read as
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hi, and after that I don't know what to do. What can I do to get them interestedin
I talking? Do any of the playersin the group havegood ice-breakers?I'm a newbie
t and just found this group last week. I think it's great! Help a brother out ou his
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t and experience,or observation. Note already from this "post" that his first screening
t processis basedon looks. Does this hurt his chances?Of coursenot. It doesn't stop
men with money from winding up with golddiggers,either. Foxes who want money in
t a man do not usually admit it, and looksdiggerswill not'admit it either. We admit it in
t our humor, especiallyin sitcoms,where the presenceof a Fox leadsto predictablystupid
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! Get this. guys!! I met sometat chick from biologyclassat the local bar last night
t aud shewas ALL OVER ME!! I didn't want to be rude or lose my reputationin
t front of the hottiesI wantedto bang,so I had to be polite. I hatethat!! Don't these

a warpigsknow that they don't havea chance?Neways,I talk to the warpig and she's
askingme what I like. Turns out shehasa boyfriendand wantedto fix me up with
a her friends!! Sheask-s me what I want and I tell her I don't careas long as she'shot
and not a psycho. I askedher why shewantedto fix me up so bad and shesaidthat
1 her and her friends had beenwatchingme for a while and liked my conftdence I'rn
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1 Note here that he's heededthe repeatedcommentsby women that they want a man to be
1 confident. Their idea of confident is usually cocky, but the reasonthey want it is that
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1 tact, the chix want me the mostwhen I do that. But this is what I hate:the SECOND
1 I stan caring aboutone of them and tell the othersto get lost, the one I choosedumps
me! Don't they want relationships?What'sup with this? I don't wanrto be a player
1 but I don't want to be alone. Is thereany in-between?Don't get me wrong, I love
1 the sex, but I'm beginningto think it was the womenall alongwho are the players.
a What do you think? In a way this is good for me bcuz it allows me ro be a player
and if I want to dump them, all I haveto do is cling!! The most valuablething I've
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rt newsgroupis too good to be true! Keep up the greatpostings,guys!

D A nice guy losesby pinning all of his hopeson one Fox, which she crusheswith
t the predictability of the sunrise. AFC refers to an averagefrustrated chump, or a man
a who forms his opinions of dating basedon what Foxes tell him to do. Postersto ASF
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a jerks rely on. Even if 99 out of 100 Foxes rejecta jerk, one will eventuallyspreadher
legs for him, and even a Fox who rejects99 out of 100jerks will still get burned once.
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1' defensivemechanismbuilt by men who havebeenburnedtoo many times. The term next
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t a lnan doesn't get what he wants, he moves on, although unlike a Foxhunter, he will
t often leavea parting shot that baits her into continuingthe banter. I do this occasionally,
but recomnend it only as an advancedtechnique,as it is complicated.
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t treat your soulmate like a slut rule is unfortunate,but necessary. The absoluteworst
t thing any man could do is to give up his harem becauseonce he does so his chosenone
t has control, and is likely to abuseit. Have you ever noticed how Foxes complain about
boyfriendswho won't commit? That's becausetheydump the ones who would commit!!
t Be a jerk who has ten Foxes, and eachwill want you to chooseher; be a nice guy who
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4 hang out with her as friends. Nice guys are not trained to recognize opportunitieslike
4 this, and they are conditionednot to challengeFoxes when they lie. I got laid for two
reasons:I knew enoughto spot a phony compliment, and wasn't afraid to challengeit.
4 This Fox had rejectedmany decentmen whose only crime was that they weren't smart
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4 cynicism and a direct challengeto her honesty,which she hates,not becauseit's mean,
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approach. Nice men project their own qualities onto the Foxes they meet, and see
babytalk as an insult to their intelligence. Although not as flashy as a dramatic
confrontation, this example is even more important to digest than the other reasons
becauseof its insipidness. By appearing to do nothing, the player wraps up the
chessgameat move one, establishingan advantageover the nice guy which gives him a
winning position from which checkmateis easy. A disturbingpercentageof intelligent,
educated,accomplishedFoxes are suckersfor babytalk. The emphasison playfulnessin
men demonstratesan unhealthy focus on the short term, which punishes the nice guy,
whose strengthsdo not come into play early in a relationship.

This is all you need to know about how to seducein a bar, and, unfortunately,
anywhereelse. The combinationof playfulnessand childlike behavior is a great short-
term turnon, which will often result in her making a long-terrn decision to build a life
with a man whose only demonstratedability was babytalk. Finding the winning move
is clear: nice guys don't treat Foxesas if they were children. Maybe it's time they did.
There is acnrally a lot of fiction out there which shows nice men getting fed up and
assertingthemselves,winning over the Foxes who had been rejecting them by finally
displayingbackbone. The downsideis that such a display can be spun as jerk behavior
if she is not interestedor who feels her intelligencehas been insulted. Sometimesshe
will act like you are out of line to see if you will further hold your ground, and if you
do, then she will crumble.

It is almost universally agreedamong the ASF regularsthat playfulness is a key

to seduction. I should qualify this by saying that this works best with Foxes who are
young, unmarried, and have no children, and worst with non-Elites who are divorced,
with children, and who have been burned by liars who originally seducedthem with
babytalk. This reward system,as it stands,dictatesthat if you are mature, you will have
to wait for Foxes to use up their fun years with thefun men, and then come to you to
mop up the messtheir lives becamewhile they were out having fun....and aging.

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openingline! If you wantproof that he is in fact like that, ask yourself if he would have C
backpedalledif the she had acceptedhis proposition. With his openingline, he aroused c
her emotions (though in a negative way), ffid when he realized she was offended, he C
changed up and approachedher again as a sweetheart. In Golf they call this a Mulligon, C
and the Fox who gives a secondchanceto a jerk after he has revealedhis true colors in
this fashion is an absoluteidiot. The nice guy who doesnot realrzethat he is losing his
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her if she wants to have sex the moment he meets her. In an episodeof Alice, Mel C
proudly spoke of using this approach,going up to a Fox and asking her Your place or
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It's Okav To Cheat

Foxes would rather have part of a winner than all of a loser. They complain
about men who cheat, but they ignore a simple reality: if men did not cheat, the excess
women that the desirable men who cheat maintain would have to settle for less or be
alone. The harem mentality kicks in, where she does not care who else he is with, as
long as he provides for her. If this doesn't rationalue it for her, she always has denial
as a backup plan. Nice men who are told they have to change their attirude to get laid
should take a look at the attitude of this fictional ASF poster who gets a harem:

The secretto getting laid is to play the numbers. Even after you find one, keep
looking for more hottiesto bang. You haveGOT to do this. Don't worry if one of
them catchesyou with another. IT TURNS THEM ON MORE!!! Let me tell you
what happenedlast weekend-- I thoughtI was gonnaget killed but I wound up with
the first threesome
of my lit'e!!!

Friday night I'm on the bus when I bump into this chick I fucked last month, and
she'sstill all smiles. Greetsme with a kiss on the lips and we keeptalking. Man,
she was HOT. I wantedto keep fucking her but after a week or so she stopped
returningmy calls so it was time to next her. In the meantimeI hookedup with a
coupleotherchiclcsI met at a party lboth 7s] and staneda "relationship"with oneof
tltem (I had to or I wouldn't havegottenany). Anyways,this chick on the bus ancl
I are having such a good time I told her to come over tomorrow night, when my
LI "girlfriend" was gonna be out of town. Just my luck, she missesher flight ancl
rt decidesto surpriseme! (thatsan understatement!)

a I'm gettinghot and heavy with the chick from the bus when the door rings. The
a cltick from the busdoesn'tcarebut Jerurythrowsa shitfitwhen sheseesus. I tell her

a I guessit's over hetweenus and I'll understand thatsheneverwantsto seeme again

and she startsfuming and arguing and somewherein there she startspicking on the
a chick from the bus, they get into it, and I won't bore you with the rest of the details

a he we all woke up laughingthe next morning.

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a exampleto highlight siruationsthatjerks find themselvesin which lead to wild sex where
t nice guys wouldn't even get out of the startinggate. Notice how when caught, the jerk
a concedeshis wrongdoing and is willing to accepthis punishment,becausehe knows that
damagecontrol is impossible. By doing this, he stops feeding her anger, and as her
t anger at being cheatedon subsides,all that is left is passion,her boyfriend and another
ID half-nakedhottie. This is the stuff porn movies are made of. Literally. I'm sure the
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toleratinghis infidelity becauseof his high market value and whatever it is he provides e
for her (usuallymoney, sex, parenting,and the statusthat comeswith family life). The
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a child through years of infidelity on one and possibly both sides (who could blame e
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Bill Clinton would make his chosenFox very happy, and in fact the e
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Hillary and lost her to Bill. The question of whether Hillary
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helps! Except for the bottom of the barrel, which cannot lower its e
standardsto get laid, most of us find our leagueand from there we
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quality/securityproblem that Foxes do, but are quicker to adjustto e
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their youth. As with job hunting, if you alreadyhave a job you will e
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unemployed, you are more inclined to take anything you can get,
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market value, especially since having a job makes you more e
appealingto other employers. In seduction,this processis known e
as trading up, somethingttrat nice guys wouldn't think of doing, ild e
why they get stuck with non-Elitesor fail to keep the Foxes they do e
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behavior in men, and does not make a move on her. If she smells
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4 choosethe nice-but-nervousguy, for the following reasons:
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1 not be nervous. Foxes claim to want men who are decent,
4 and they claim not to lie, so we have to conclude that they
want a clingy guy who makesthem his world, basedon what
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1 Reason#I2) and don't hesitateto flaunt their popularity, but
1 slimier jerks operate by acting as if they were her perfect
man: romantic, charming, and loyal. Sickening, isn't it?
1 Since the jerk is alreadyhaving sex, he is not desperate,not
1 eager,and his date readsthis as a sign of maturity, while the
a nice guy's sincere interest and natural sexual hunger brand
1 him a desperateloser. Perceptionis reality, unfortunately,
1 and when that is the case,honestmen do not have a chance.
1 3. The "player" is GAY. Rare, but this is the other explanation
1 for why he would not make a move. Though not relevantto
t my readers, this is included because ASF players have
a reported from time to time that they have been thought
1 homosexualfor unintentionallytriggering a Fox's gaydar.
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primarily becausethey preemptany one Fox from having power over them. If one Fox
t departsthe harem, the cheaterdoesnot care. It is the nice guy who pines over one Fox
t and thinks that being loyal to her is relevant who pays the price of not getting what he
t wants. and not even allowing himself other options. I have found that I haveno difficulty
t developingthree or four relationshipsat once, eventhough this is not my preference. It
is iust much easierto have Foxes to fall back on when one lets me down for whatever
t reason. Insteadof being disappointed,I jupt pay more attentionto the others. This often
t causesFoxes who have been ignoring me to return more quickly. This reward system
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marl must win her over, and once she is won over she must be kept won over lest he in r
his duQ to satisfyher. They want honestyfrom men, but they can't tolerateit when they
get it. The Fox who lies is checkmatedbecausea man will either be too stupid to fall
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tiebreakeris bravery and intellect, which meansthat the only successfulway to deal with c
a lying Fox is to call her on her bullshit, or refuse to deal with her at all (the smartest f
option but sometimesthis will cost you great sex). They know they are dishonest,and e
even though they punish a man who calls them a liar, they also punish the one who does
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to be lucky to be with her, and she is supposedto be a saint for tolerating you. If you c
don't measureup, you are unworthy, but if she doesn't measurerp, you're a shallow e
bastard. Is it any wonder that so many nice men becomejerks and eventuallytell this e
systemto go fuck itselfl Logically, Foxes know that a saneman would not acceptthese e
rules. and have respectfor men who don't allow themselvesto becomepussy-whipped.
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wouldn't want to join becauseit would admit him as a member. A vicious cycle is e
createdwhereby they are denied sex due to lack of aggression,become agitatedand e
desperateover being denied,increasingthe boost to Foxes'egos, in turn making them e
more desperate,boostingtheir egosevenmore, and providing absolutelyno incentivefor
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they find a formula that works. The tolg Obsessionby Animotion (1985) summedup
the attirude: Wo do you want me to be to make you sleep with me? Substance- the
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judgment of a man's every move is one who will wind up with a jerk who has learned c
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jerks they reject him for, or when they need a favor from him. Foxhunting toucheson
this conceptby acknowledgingthe futility of pursuit in most cases. If shewantsyou, she
will let you know and "pursuit" will be nothing more than a formality, with dating a mere
pitstop on the way to the bedroom.

The extremesto which sexualhope is used to exploit men is phenomenal. Shehad

sex with the football team? Hang in there, buddy, your time will come (by then the
football team will have fucked so much ttrat their cocks have fallen off, from wear-and-
tear or disease).Just keep being patient, let the yearsroll by, and pay no attentionto the
jerks who are stealingyour pussy. What the Foxes aren't telling you is that they seethe
jerks and players as winners who deservethe prize that is them, while you are an also-
ran, a loser, who deservesonly basic civility, silent contempt,and a second-class lover.
As I have already said, any Fox who truly respectsyou as a man will either want you for
herself, attemptto fix you up with someoneelse, or both!

A while back, I imagined a world where men suddenly stoppedpatronizing strip

clubs. We would be left with a pile of Foxes who suddenlyhad their income cut off.
What would the dancersdo? Lower their prices and improve their product, of course.
In poorer countries, you can get a lot more for your money from the local talent,
although the crime element tends to increasein influence with poverty (this is basedon
second-hand reports). Foxes know not to give away the milk (sex)without making a man
buy the cow (marriage);why can'tmen apply the concepttheother way around,refusing
to part with anything until their sexual desires are truly met? The bait-and-switchgets
2 tiresome,and it is no wonder Foxes have no respectfor men. The number of men who
4 part with large amounts of money at strip clubs for no true sexual satisfactionservesas
4 a measuringstick for our gender's collective sexualsnrpidity.
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to be teased,and who refusesto be pacified with hope. The next time she tries to string
D you along with hope, rememberthe words you just read, especiallyif she is askingyou
1 for a favor, becauseif she doesn't respectyou as a man, you can always withdraw the
1 utility, leaving it to hef to up the ante while freeing up your time until she does.
1 Common senseshould tell you that if she truly wanted you, she would work to reduce
a any burdenshewas to you, nol overloadyou with chores. This is especiallytrue because
in her mind, if she wants you, she will assumeother Foxes will also want you, and she
t will know that if she becomestoo much of a hasslethat you will becomemore likelv to
r) leave her and feel more justified in doing,so.
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desireto fuck into us? Hey, I gottatry that line the next time on a chick I bet it'll t
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this chick flick. I startthinkingto myself of what I could do to get her in the mood
to fuck and realizeI got a porn movie upstairs,but I figure she'll freak on me if I
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MOVIES!! Oncemy mind getsgoin' I rememberthe adviceto be playful, so I stan
using the VCR remoteto toy with the movie, fast-forwardingand rewinding over the
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playingaround,andthenI executethe next pan of my plan, tellingher "Let's put on a
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The Bitch Shield

The most respectedplayer of ASF is a man known as Mystery. He is a performer

and a magician, among other things, and lives the artist's lifestyle, well enoughto pay
his bills, it would seem. He claims over eighty conquests,and few disputehis claims.
Othersclaim to have seenhim on television. Sinceso many othershave successfullyput
his methodinto practice, he is worthy of study. Mystery is creditedwith identifying and
destroying the bitch shield, the defensemechanismthat the super-Elite have to put up to
keep away the jerks (like him) who will hit on anything hot that moves. The problem
that theseFoxes make is assumingthat they can't be conned,because,as Mystery loves
to prove over and over again, once you analyzehow the stuck-upFox's mind operates,
it becomeseasy to conquer it.

The bitch shield is an interesting concept that sums up the wall of silence that
Foxes put up in front of men, walls which only experiencedjerks are accustomedto
dealing with. As often happenswith ASF, successfulconceptsare expandedupon and
perfected into working techniques, and with the bitch shield, this expansion included
various methodsof breaking it. Negs (short for negativehits, or playful insults designed
to knock her down a peg) evolved into a generalconceptas well, not just somethingto
use during the opening. As a writer with a sharp tongue, I have a natural affinity for
negs, although I hate having to use them. Sometimes,however, a stuck-upFox has to
be knockeddown a peg or two, which is what the neg is useful for. As a Foxhunter,I
tend to encounterthe bitch shield when I hit on a Fox who has approachedme, as it
makes it more difficult to turn rude or act like I shouldn't have pursued her, but the
principle is the salne. Wheneverher opinion of you is slipping, a well-timed neg can
savethe dav.
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are hot (8-9 on the scale)and the third (the host) is a warpig (maybe a 3-4). This
1 meantI wasn't going to be spendingthe night thereand I haclto get somethinggoing
rl FAST. Of the two 8-9s, one was indifferentto me while the otherwas sendingme
rD nottverbals all night but who wouldn't give me an opportunityto approach.I deciderJ
it was time for a neg.
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that I wasn'tgonnatell her which part. This droveher fucking INSANE!! Shestans
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1 checkingher look to seewhat's wrong (nothingwas as far as I knew and if it was no

a guy was gonnagive a fuck with that body), I startedlaughing,shehit rne onceancl
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backedoff, but shewantedto keepgoing. She'stelling me I couldn'thandleher if
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my life dependedon it (sheneggedme!), andwithoutthinking I get reallycocky and
deliver one more neg that gets her going: "Are you woman enough?" She stans e
actingreally sexy, playing with her hair, we stop talking and get into nonverbals.
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"Y.p, not woman enough"and TURNED MY BACK ON HER and startedtalking
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one is eating up the attention. I keep playing them off againsteachother and don't
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over me. First one to slip me your numbergetsto fuck me." I don't evenwait e
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are gonnagrab the bait. The one I neggedcomesup first and slips her nunber into
my PANTS pocket,takingsomeextratime to t-eelme up (down?),therrsheputs her e
other hand in my other pocket,and startshumpingme dry from behind. I break
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pocket. I say nothing,and shekeepsfollowing me, and I don't do anythingto stop
her. We get to my car and I get in, while she rushesto the other side of the
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teachingme the neg,because without it I wouldn'thavegottenanywhere.Chicksare
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apart insteadof complimentingher, a transparentform of reverse-psychologythat only e
an idiot Fox would fall for. If P.T. Barnumwere alive today, he would be gettinglaid
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man who is too civilized to engagein it. Foxes often ask me why all of the men they
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? resultsfor me. I usually reserveit for Foxeswho are alreadyinterestedin me and whom
I want to challenge into performing sexually. The kid-sister approach from Foxes was
? the inspiration for this post, and while I am not a partygoing player, the methods are
? transferable to any social environment. Mystery's negs are often very insulting and
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? to reversethe opinion. I might tell a dancershe'snot sexy enoughwhile she is moving,
? which usually leadsto her dancing sexier, or if she is truly lost, asking me how she can
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? The saving gracesfor the neg are that they show you are not bowled over by the
? mere presenceof a Fox (backbone),that you observeher as more than a body (even
? though you are insulting what you observe),that you are playful (the insult should not be
? vicious and should be delivered almost as a backhandedcompliment), and that you are
a challenge. Foxes are familiar with what it is like to want what they cannot have
4 becausethey are usually the ones who are what someoneelse wants and cannot have.
? Instinctively, they mimic the behavior of the desperateAFC who pursue them, with the
? role reversal even a bit refreshing. Foxes love challengesto their sexuality, they love
2 passing those challenges, and the men who issue the challengeslove it when the
? challengesare rnet. Everyonewinds up happy, exceptof coursefor the nice guy who is
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up, greetsher with a kiss on the cheek,takesher waist with his arm, guidesher into her /
seat,and then sits down right next to her, on the sameside of the table, establishingthem
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becomesthe establishedbehavior throughout the relationship. It also puts her on the F
spot, requiring her to reject him immediatelyand risk ending the date if she wishes to
protest. At the end of the date, he does not have this leverage.
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terminology, kino or getting kino refers to her tolerancefor or receptivity to touch. Kino e
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failure to establishkino in a timely matter is a habit nice men shouldbreak. Where most e
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is the nice guy's last instinctand thejerk's first. The nice guy would sit acrossfrom her
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thing I carry with me to this day is an understandingof touch. I can usually tell if a Fox
is receptiveto my touch, and I recornmendother men learn this valuable skill. If she
wants your touch she will surrender to it, and the players find out quickly where they
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as an idea, even if you explain it. What can be conveyed through the postings is the
timing with which kino is initiated, with the ideal timing varying with individual
circumstance,due to environment,privacy, opportunity (some Foxes are very good at
avoiding kino or making it clear that it is not welcome), courageon the part of the pickup
artist (PUA), skill with touch, and the ability to convert kino into actual sex. The more
experiencedthe player, the more quickly he will attemptkino, if for no other reasonthan
to savehis time, since an experiencedplayer can usually tell within secondsof touching
a Fox if he is going to have sex with her or not. Foxes shouldtake this as a wakeupcall
to remember that any touch from a man, no matter how incidental it may appear, is
usually indicative of a desire to fuck her brains out.

There is nothing againsta nice guy initiating kino, but the notion goes againsthis
mindset of waiting for super-bright green lights before proceeding down the road of
seduction. Foxes who perpetuallyavoid conflict at all costsare most vulnerableto kino.
becausethey have to actively reject tt, whereas with a nice guy all they have to do is
minimize his opportunity and not sendhim a signal, which is passive. A pushoverFox
who finds herself confronted by aggressivekino can find herself in bed very quickly,
becauseshe finds it easierto surrenderto his touch than to fight it. What preventsthe
nice guy from pursuing touch is the fear of rejection. Without question, a Fox who
reactsnegativelyto kino can be forgotten instantly. Some of the more aggressiveASF
playerswill persistwith kino after a rejection,but my experiencesin doing so have been
decidedly negative. If I were the type to press the issue after one failure, I would
interspersea negativehit to break the ice and challengeher.

My brand of kino is a lot different from what you will find on ASF. I am not
interestedin using it to create opportunity as much as to close the deal once I have
createdan opportunity through Foxhunting. Since I am not a cold-caller, most of the
sinrationsI am in where kino is a possibility involve a Fox who has alreadyexpressedan
interestin me. The advantagethis gives me over the player is that if sherejectsmy kino.
I can honestlycall her a tease,while she can honestlycall him a creep for moving in too
quickly. Having studiedmassageformally in a 50-hour coursein 1990, I becamever\
sensitiveto touch and its power, and have a respectfor it ttrat is not common iunong the
players. Touch is invasiveandshouldbe consideredthe halfwaypoint betweena platonic
relationshipand a first kiss. The songI Wanna Hold Your Hand by the Beatlesis not
terribly far removed from the song Me So Horny by Two Live Crew. The onlr
differenceis that the first messageis deliveredmore elegantly. A gentlemanis nothing
r)rorethan a patient wolf. ,

If you are at a loss for what type of kino to use, you could try my favorite
\\'eapon:the hsnd massage. Hand massageis perfect date kino becauseshe does not
have to removeher clothes, it is easyto learn how to massagea hand (I learnedin a da1
as part of the course),it is not invasive,and if you succeed,shewill wind up with a ver\

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relaxedhand, a hand which is now perfect for holding, and a body that wishesit felt like
her hand did. A foreshadowof ASF occurredin my life almost a decadeago. Had the
group existed, I would have posteda lay report (successfulpickup) which would have
read somethinglike this:

Sheeeeeeeeeiiiit! Thank GOD I found this group. I needconstantremindersof ltow

AFc:Masturbation and make more of an effon to break from my past thinking
which got me into LIBF land. SaturdayI had a kino breakthroughthat turned inttr
a lay WITH A WOMAN I HAD JUST MET!!! It stanedout norrnally,but as the
day rolled on I got more andmore confident,more andmore aggressive,andwouttd
up getting laid more easily than I ever had in my lif'e!

I was sitting at the coffeehouseminding my own businesswhen two AFC friends of

mine enter and ask me to play a card gameI'd never seenbefore. I figure what the
hell I'm not doin' anythingso I grab a java and join the game. We're chatting,.
fucking aroundlike we alwaysdo, when this 7 walks in and catchesmy eye. I ignore
her because most of the chicks in this coffeehouse ate stuck up or have
BOREFRIENDS(usuallyboth) and being the AFC that I am I don't have the nerve
to approachthem anyway so I wind up wasting time and drinking a lot of coffee.
This time, however, things just WORKED. Every goddamnfucking thing I did
WORKED. And it wasn'r like just anythingwould haveworked. I madettre right
moves several times and wound up in bed with her when I didn't think it was
possible. Now I think ANYTHING'S POSSIBLE! (gottahaveconfidenceguys).
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Newayz, the7 sits down to join the gameand we all starttalking. I complimeuther
on her body and clothesbut after that I get into the game. Mayhe ignoring her
worked becausewhen the garneendedshestuckaroundfor a conversation.I bought
her a cup of coffee(yeahI know that's supplicationbut I'm still in AFC recovery),
a3d we chatted. We wound up aloneand I askedher if shewanteda hand massage
(I just finisheda $900 classand wanteclto try out what I learned),but she said no.
We kept talking an hour later she'ssayingshelshungry so I sayme too and ask her
tp join rne at Track N' Turt for a bite and a t-ewdrinks (theplaceis right uext to her
house).Sheacceptsand we walk there.

The tbod was pretty good, and so was the music, so we kept drinking. Alcohtll
loosenedus up a bit, enoughfor me to try the handmassage again. Shegivesme her
hald this time without complaintand I beginmassagingit. I know from the classthat
it takes 10-15minutesto give a completehandmassageand I GO TO TOWN. By
the time I'm donewith her shecan't pick up her glassso I startfeedingthe rest of
5er wine to her with my free handwhile holding her handwith the other. I tell her
we shouldgo for a walk, and shefollows. We walk like a happycoupledown the
srreetand both move in for our first kiss AT THE SAME TIME! From there it's
hack to her place,whereI fuck her brainsout all night and leavethe next morning.

Kino is an area where I actually have professionaltraining and a successfulla1

basedupon that training. To this day, I havenever had a seductionthat was more in the
spirit ol ASF than this one. There was no strategy, tro Foxhunting, no waiting. no
timetables.,or any bullshit. An accidentalmeeting betweentwo people who normalll
don't hop into bed quickly just caughtfire, turned into a date, a massage,someexcellent
sex. and now material for a book! WheneverI feel like attackingthe one-night stand.

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I find myself having difficulty doing so becauseof this experience, still one of my
favorites.

Touch is somethingthat is necessary,although immediate touch is not. Suffice it

to say that you generally will not know where you stand with a Fox until you attemptto
touch her. If you can handle being rebuffed, and be polite about it (don't ever make a
Fox have to apologrzefor refusing your touch), you'll have a tool for seductionwhich
is similar to the ability to play the net in tennis. The point usually won't last very long
either way after you get aggressive.

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 Reason#I0:
He SaysAll The Right Things

...&t EruCTLY the rtgfu fimes...but he means nothing to you and you don't
know why. This is from a song called Everything You Want, currently popular, and
which touchesat the heart of what SpeedSeductionis: words. The reasonshe doesnot
know why she is attractedto him is that she is hypnotized, sometimesmildly, sometimes
very deeply, with an insidious method of conversational hypnosis known as
neurolinguistic programming (NLP) , a popular alternative medicine behavior
modificationtool which was cooptedby RossJeffries in 1989and applied specificallyto
seduction. Ross has becomean internet cult hero, leading men out of AFC land and into
the world of easy pussy, or so the lay reports claim. NLP is sound enoughthat it adds
strengthto any man's arsenal,but a magic bullet it is definitely not. Like any method.
SS has its flaws and its strengths. One must commendMr. Jeffries on his originality and
the intensity with which he defendshis method.

While you are trying to irnpressher by being yourself, other men have adopted
more aggressiveapproaches.In the following "post," the SSerapproachesa Fox unde?
false pretenses,hypnotizes her by disguising his induction in the form of a poem.
manipulatesher into a submissivestatewhere her ability to resist has been weakenedor
eliminated,and with suggestivehypnotic language,commandsher to have sex with him
(indirectly). News to nice guys: the only way to competeagainst this without doing
covert hypnosisyourself is to expressdisgustat men who do, while educatingFoxes on
how to spot this tactic.

It is important to note external factors such as those which comprise CUPID

(height, money, looks status,etc.) becausethis will affect every man's results. A man
who reports successwith a method doeslittle good for the group if he omits mention of
the fact that he is a major rock star, for example. A good ASF post will contain
informationthat can be put to use by the readerregardlessof his externals;to ensurethis.
we have to ensurethat the method is responsiblefor the successand not the man:

It worked!!! I can't believeit but it worked!! I SSeda girl on a BEACH, put her
into trance in fifteen minutes,and fucked her right out in the open (no une was
aroundandwe were awaytiom the public view). You gottahearhow this happened!
I'rn so excited!!!

First, thanksto the brothersof the group, especiallyMystery, becausebeforeI got

into the SSwith her I brokethe icewith a neg, initiatedflufftalk, elicitedher values,
spit them back to her (I love the way they tell you what they want to hear and thelt
melt when you say it -- how STUPID are they?). We sit down for a "deep
conversation"and she asks me what my greatestpassionin life is. Sensingalt

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 opening,I tell her that it's poetry, that I'm just starting out with it, and that I want
to maybepublishsomeof it. I haveONE SSpoemmemorizedand it's a good thing
becausesheaskedme to readher someof mine sometime,and I was able to do so
for her right then and there.

I use an SS poem I wrote called "Staringinto the eyesof your soulmate. " I havea
little experiencewith hypnosis and know that eye-contactis a way you can put
someoneunder. I figure I can get her under by having her imaginestaring into her
soulmate'seyes, telling her how relaxing it feels, how she's surrenderingto the
inevitability of connectingto him, and how shefeelslocked into his eyesand unable
to look away. Within five minutesshe'sstandingtherewith her jaw dropped,barely
awake. I get reallyaggressive andgo into straighthypnosis,tappingher lightly once
on the foreheadand saying "If you were to SLEEP NOW you would DREAM OF
HIM. " Out shewent like a light as I guidedher down to the sand. The embedded
commandsin the poem took her down andthe embeddedsleepcommandput her out.
I gaveher a few suggestions to get her arousedand gentlywoke her up, and shewas
more turned on than I've ever seena woman! We fuckedfor aboutan hour and then
headedback to her placewhere we finished off the weekend.

Can she be hypnotizedwithout her knowledge? Most definitely. You just saw
how. Under the guise of listening to a poem, the SSergave her a full-fledged hypnosis
induction that she never saw coming. Can she be made to do things against her will?
Does someonewith a blank stare on her face, her jaw dropped, and little awarenessof
her surroundingssound like someonecapableof soundjudgment? Rape issuesaside, a
nice guy is going to have seriousdifficulty competingagainsta man who has learnedhow
to use words in such a way as to producea drug-like high. Intelligentmen who read this
might think that Foxes do not fall for thesemethods,but they do. The men presentthem
in a playful, nonthreatening,hey-let's-do-this-together,
fake-intimatemannerwhich Foxes
rarely question. Comparethis with the nice guy who asksher for a date: immediately
she will be thinking that he wants sex, and her shield goesup. When the spell breaksa
few days or weeks later, she wonders why she hooked up with the player in the first
place.

If Foxeswant to be hypnotizedso badly, why don't theyjust walk up to nice guys

and ask them to do it? They'd be happy to. That they don't do this meanseither that
women aren't aware that they are being hypnotized,or that they want to be hypnotized
by jerks instead of nice guys. Either way, they still have no excuse for making the
wrong choices.

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I am not a streetpickup artist, but I've had the occasionalstroke of luck out in f
public at random. My player buddy from way back when was the masterof this pickup, C
and tagging along with him I learned a few things, the main one being that in a cold-call
environment such as the street, how you look is the dominant factor. ASF people tend
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to avoid dealing with this reality, as their seductionsare basedprimarily on words and
C
attitude. It only makes sensethat the better you appear in public, the more successful C
you will be in public, and to this extentmy technique for streetpickupswas to dresswell C
whenever I go out, something I have since abandonedas I do more of my seductions e
online. C
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The online seductionis the oppositeof a street pickup in that the first meeting is
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not a cold call, but a physical confirmation of the expectationscreatedat a distance.
Either the body measuresup or it does not, and if it does, no hurdles remain. This is e
why most first datesfrom an online relationshipresult in sex or a breakup. [n a street C
pickup, the opposite occurs, with the looks screen cleared first, and compatibility C
determinedlater. Of the two, I much prefer the online method becausewhile it may
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seemrude to reject someonefor their looks, it takesmuch longer to find out that a good-
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looking person is garbageinside than it does to learn that an otherwiseworthy lover is
sexually repulsive. The false hope of an online love without lust is the lesser evil e
comparedto an offline lust where the absenceof love surfacesslowly over time. c
over the nice guy is that he operatesanywhere.
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Let's put to rest the notion that a Fox needs to get to know a man before deciding
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whetheror not she is interestedin him. Foxesmakeup their minds instantly, but almost
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alwaysin the negative,so the times someonesuccessfullypicks one up on the streetseem C
like an accident. The key word here is seem. Streetpickupsare so difficult that they are C
anything but accidents,and a key ingredient of making them work is to make the pickup C
look like anything but. Why would a Fox trust a tall, dark stranger she met on the
street? Because he isn't trying to pick her up! This is a case where nature
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his strategy. He would make a point to circulate within the city at the right times and C
places, but not seek out hotspotsor do somethinghe didn't want to do. He carried (
himself in the relaxedmannerthat being independentlywealthy makeseasy(more CUPID
influences),and with his body on display, he immediatelygainedan advantageover his C
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rejection. To this end, ASF has what it calls a crash-and-burn mission, where the
specific purposeof the mission is to get rejectedas often as possible. This immersion
F processis such that a guy can't help but improve, becauseas a logical creature,he will
Ft not make the sirmemistake twice. By the end of the mission, which should number at
a least a hundred or more blind approachesin neutral public environments, the AFC will
F usually emergewith a few telephonenumbersacquiredvia the law of averagesor natural

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talent, and the necessarystrong stomachhe will need for the times in the future when his
more bolder and refined approachesget rejected

2 As a tributeto the playerI snrdied,I will "post" someof his betteradvice,in his
it voice. The crash-and-burn missionis self-explanatory and not in needof an example,
4 which would be depressing readinganyway:
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Hey everyone,Bladehere!! All I can sayaboutthis group is WAY TO GO GUYS!.
4 SHOW THOSE BITCHES WHO THE BOSSIS. I've been playing chicks since
4 eighth grade, thanksto some really good friends (male)who taughtme the ways of
womenearly on. I noticedthis threadaboutstreetpickupsand wantedto show you
4 guys how the gameworks.
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First, you gottago wherethe pussyis. TIMING is very important. Every hour of
4 the day counts!! If they can't seeyou theywon'thit on you. I'vegot this down to
4 such a sciencethat I can go out and pick up at ANY HOUR OF THE DAY OR
4 NIGHT. In the morningsI walk downtownto the businessdistrict where all the
office girls go for breakfastand to collecttheir thoughts. After that it's off to the
4 gym whereI know everyoneand find somelonely housewivesor studentchicksand
4 keepin shape.Then it's hackto the businessdistrictfor lunch,and on the way horne
I stophy the Penncampusto checkout the scenery.Besttime for that is betweenl-3
4 prn when they're eitherat lunch or their day is ending. Around dinnerI'll pop into
la a campusdining hall if I can standthe food, or maybepop into a happyhour, and at
night it's tirneto hit the town and the nightlife. I don't do this everyday, but this is
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whereyou'll find me at thosetimes. Guyswho go throughtheir dayswithout seeing
2s the opponunity under their nose or who are too scaredto take advantageof the
La ()pportunityare shit outtaluck. Find your BALLS, get out there,and APPROACH!

La Betilre I move on to approaching,anothernote on the timing is that during the year

there are a lot of special event days like holidays and St. Patrick's that you
4 ahsolutely,POSITIVELY,shouldNOT stay homefor, not unlessyou don't want
1' your pick of a hundredeasy,drunkIrishwomenat a St. Patty'sor New Years'party.
La The major differencehere is that you gottapick the right placesto be whereasin your
everydaylife you neverknow whereyou'll find someone. Now on to the approach.
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4 When I'm in a cocky mood I'll approachwith a neg, but I don't haveto do that.
Clticlcsdig my body so they want me to approach,and all I have to do really is
La establishcontact. So I use the simple "Hey, how ya doin?" openerto get their
a attention. If they want me, but don't want to approachme, they havetheir chance

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more quickly. Sinceall your really sayingwith an approachis that you want to get (
to know her what you say to her really isn't gonnamatter unlessyou're good at
fuckingwith her head,which I arnbut as I saidI'm not reallyinto headgames. I just (
like to find gorgeouschicksto fuck. I
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like to DO STUFF. It took me a while to figure that out but once I did getting
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might want to fuck or you keep the option of fucking you.
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Bottom lins: it's a NUMBERS GAME. Don't worry about how often you get
rejectedbecausesooneror later you won't be. Onceyou get the hang of it and get
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their number,talk to them somemore, do something,make a move, fuck. Pretty I
sirnpleprocessonceyou figure out your moves.
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Nice guys will say that this doesn't work, but the Foxes he wants are usually I
spendingtime with guys like this who sometimespick them up on the street. Hope is not (
reality, ild as much as you might hope that Foxes are more evolved or intelligent than I
what the players pick up, I'm sad to report that these are the very samegood Foxes, I
Foxes who either specificallywant to be played, want to tame a player, or just want to
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havefun with a guy who won't cling to them, act needy, bore them, or have a real
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relationship.EmotionsFoxesthrive on - passion,drama,excitement,fear, curiosity-
are in full force during the brief but intenseinterlude with the player. The three-month I
barrier is a key one, as theseshort-termprincesseemto turn back into frogs as if on cue.
with the spell sometimesbreaking earlier.

Foxes are not quick to admit io letting men into their life this way, ffid this is a
large part of why the nice guys have such difficulty figuring it out. It was not until I
startedtalking to men in depth about how they operatedthat I uncoveredtactics like this.
The player I studied was fascinatedby my fascinationwith him, and turned his life into
an open book for me. For two months. I was privy to his thoughts,emotions,and his

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answeringmachine, which was constantlyfilled with sexy, begging,teasing,or desperate
messagesfrom his groupies, all wanting to be the one chosenfor the backstagepass.

n Why the excitement? Civilized Foxes who make such a point of convincing us
e they want the opposite of this man go rushing into his arms when we are not looking.
Despitethe incredible disrespectto the nice guy who wishesthat he would be given the
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time of day by the Fox who has not more than a few secondsof civility for him, yet who
would alter her scheduleat any time of the day or night just to be with a jerk, who would
not care if he was cheating, and who functions as his loyal submissivewithout his even
|? having to ask. Becausehe is what she calls a winner, she gives him the power, the
power to do anything he wants, the more outrageoushis demandsthe better, since she
f" seesthem not as a burden, but as an opportunity to serve her prince, and an hon0r.
ft Comparethis to the chore she finds it to be in the company of lesser men, men who are
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f" The other player I studiedin depth was a man who went by the name of Ricardo,
|e whom I met one stormy night after ducking into a coffeehouseto avoid the rain. Ricardo
was sitting alone at a chessboard,studying opening moves, a habit that only the most
Ft seriousor tournamentplayersdevelop. I assumedhe was a tournamentplayer and since
n I am also one (with an expert rating), I introduced myself. It turned out he was a
rt beginner and was trying to learn how to win a specific opening that a friend of his was
beatinghim with. We begantalking and I gavehim my standardthree-hourchesslesson,
f" a form of intellectualtorture that causes90 percentof my studentsto never want to play
? chessagain, while the remaining ten percentmove on to dominatethe players who used
It to beat thern. Ricardo passedhis first lessonwith flying colors, ffid becamea regular
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of seductionI was interestedin how he operated. His demeanorwas passive.his look
that of a poet or musician, his hair in a ponytail, his voice soft and controlled, and the

a completeabsenceof a temper, which he reservedonly for life-threateningsituations. He

was a martial artist who.wasvery tough, but a new-ageman in all respects. To Foxes,
1 he was the ultimate sensitivealpha-male. To rival men, he was a nightm&re, becauseif
1 you and he wanted the sameFox, you were just shit out of luck. On the other hand, he
was the perfect pivot (see Reason#12), especiallysince I would distract his attention
1 from the Foxes who wanted it, making me the roadie that his groupieshad to go through
1 to get to the rock star. If you play chess,in coffeehouses,chooseyour male opponents
1 carefully.
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1 Ricardo and I traded chesslessonsfor seductionlessonsfor six months or so. He
a would constantly invite me to parties, but I declined all of his invitations, choosing
insteadto hang with him alone, picking his brain for his accumulatedknowledge. The
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report I will "post" for him in this book recountshis pickup approach,as nonthreatening (
as Mystery' s negs are intimidating, perfect for his style of establishinga minor foothold (
and letting the Fox's natural desire for a man like him causeher to crumble into his (
arrns. The pussy-whippedexterior and vicious, alpha-maleinterior inspiredme to coin
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I see this group and I'm amazedat all the negativeand aggressiveenergy around (
here. I know that somewomen respondvery well to thesetactics,but they aren't (
going to be the womenyou want. What'smore is that you don't haveto be rude to
get your point acrossor to get h,erto think of you as more than a friend. You just I
have to be SMART and OPPORTUNISTIC. And vou have to understandhow
women think, not just a f'ewgame-playingsluts.
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I becamea PUA after my fiance dumpedme a few yearsago. I was livid that the
woman I loved could turn around and stab me in the back, and I wanted to get
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revenge. No one matteredto me anyway,so I went from AFC to player oventight. I
My backgroundin actinganda job as a bartenderin NYC taughtme more than I ever
treededto know aboutthe pickup, and now I was going to put it into practice. I just
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staned approachingone woman after another in a maruter as nonthreateningas
possible. (

If I can get her talking for a few minutes,after showinga genuineinterestin what c
sheis saying,I ask her if she'dlike to join me for a cup of coffee. Most of the time
she'll think I'm trying to get in her pants(okay,I am) and rejectme. At this point
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I use this againsther, telling her that she had the wrong idea, that I was having a T
rough day and wantedsomepleasantconversation,but I understandhow she f-eels C
sincemen hit on her all the time. Most of the time shefeelsstupidand tries to fix
the damageby going for coffee or giving me her number. Now the trap is set and
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I do NOTHING but be her friend for a little while, telling her to call me if sheever (
needsto talk, and neverhitting on her.
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The ernotionalroller-coasterhasher rejectingme in the beginning,and realizingthat I
I really am never going to pursueher. Shewins up wonderingif she's nor sexy (
enouglttor me, and when she seesall the otherwomen I'm popularwith shestarts
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thinkingmaybesheshouldhavelet me comeon to her or not rejectedme. Not long
after that, she'll hegincoming on to me, and when I ignoreher, just like the group (
kltows.shewantsme evenmore. As otherguysfall out of favor with her I moveup
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evelt funher in her eyes,and finally shecrashesand throws herselfat me.
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I'd surrunarvethe processas this: approach,converse,ask for coffee,get rejectecl, (
tell her you weren'thittingon her, becomefriends,be niceto her, showher you're
desirable,and let naturetake her to you. If you're normal, intelligent,halfivay (
popular,and you know ltow to be her dreamboyfriendwithout ever committingto I
her, she'll be yours. The challengeof not hitting on her and your popularityand
knowledge and understandirlgof women all combine into something they find
irresistible.It's a little hard to get staned,but onceyou do, it snowballs.

Ricardowasoneof themaininspirationsof theFoxhuntingsystem,havingput into

practicea lot of what CUPID and my researchhad taughtme. I knew how to find rhe
Foxeswho were likely to want me, but knowingwhat to do with thernwas another
matter. Ricardoshowedme the ins andoutsof how Foxesprocessinformation,andhou'

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 to presentinformation knowing how it will be processed,using his knowledgeto tailor
the presentation in content and sequenceto achieve his desired result. He was a
Foxhunterwith a player's edge.

I met Ricardo at the tail end of his player days. He was actually in a fledgling
relationship when I met him, and he had confided in me that he had cheatedon his
girlfriend a few weeks earlier. I had to sit through a dinner with hirn and his lover,
saying nothing while hearing her go on and on about what a loyal man he was and how
once a man finds the right woman he settles down. Privately, I let him know my
dissatisfactionwith what he was doing, becomingincredibly brazeneven, askinghim why
I couldn't ask his lady out if he could cheat. I did not want her, but the realizationthat
a player like him could keep severalFoxes off the market at one time, made me realize
that the reward system was messedup. It was not his fault for taking advantage,but it
was an alarm to me to raise my game to his level or be left out in the cold.

Guys like Ricardo make excellentboyfriends, for as long as they last. They go
in with good intentions,unless they are in revengemode like he was after his broken
engagement,and when they finally do settle down their wives tend to be very happy.
The problem is that a jerk can make his harem happy, but once he is tamed he can only
satisfy one, and he is no longer on the market, leaving the surplus for the new players
that they will make the samemistakeswith, avoidingthe lessernice guys, ffid never quite
able to tamethe bad boys. If I were a femalecountry music singer, I'd title a songDon't
Want The Nice Guys, Can't Tame The Bad Boys, and maybe have a charted single.

Once Ricardo knew I was becomingan anti-player,he could seethe weaknessof

his loose lips, and began closing up about his infidelity.. Either he becameloyal to his
girlfriend. or he just knew not to talk about what he did with me out of fear of it getting
back to her. Ricardo's descriptionsof femalebehaviorwere as or more condemningthan
the typical putdowns the ASF players use, but lacking in the vulgarity and crudeness
which makes the latter group so easy to attack. On the surface, his behavior is very
civilized and social, but underneathlies a chameleonwho knows how to blend into any
social situation, ingratiatehimself into the lives of his targets, and get what he wants
without anyone ever realizing he wanted it in the first place. Such mastery of social
situationswas anazrng to watch on a daily basis as I did that year.

When I asked Ricardo why he was successful,he attributed it to his female-

centered,socially active lifestyle, his interestsin things most men overlook but which
4 Foxes love (like cooking, wine, cheese,the arts, coffeehouses,and so forth), using how
4 they think to his advantage (as demonstratedby pursuing for friendship and letting
4 himself be pursued by them through Foxhunting-type techniques), but most of all his
4 acting background. He was an admittedchameleon,and he was good at it. He gave a
I? piece of advice to me which he shouldhave beengiving to thoseFoxes he seduced,and

a tlrat is that the eyes are NOT the mirrors of the soul.

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his eyes. If you could, the acting industry would grind to a halt. A trained actor can
manufacture emotions, and if he knows what Ricardo knew about which emotions to
produce at which times, he will be able to provide an emotionalmagic ca{pet ride that
is not genuinebut which they enjoy. The nice guy never knows what hit him becausehe
is relying on simplehonestyto seduce. Even when operatingnonaggressivelyin a hostile
environmentlike a big-city street,he still managesto pull of pickups. That takesa level
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The Pivot And Social Proof (Friendly Fox)

Here is an area which is a tailor-made opportunity for the nice guy. Formal credit
for my discoveryof the pivot conceptgoesto someoneI knew growing up, a man called
Boards, who earnedhis name with his incredible ability to catch way-out-of-his-league
Foxes on the rebound. He had perfectedthe anti-player seductionmethodsyou seein the
final chapter. At 5'7", with terrible eyesight,skinny (in his youth), he wasn't a dream
man by any standards. He did have a good job, a brain, was always highly respectful,
and was friends with men who got laid (that's called drafting rn Foxes). Where he
turned into a vicious seducer,however, was with a Fox who trusted him as a friend for
years...andjust dumpeda jerk. Whateverhe did, I didn't want to hear aboutit. I didn't
have to. The details were not important, as it was obvious how he operated. Boards
understoodthe importanceof timing, being with her when shewas most receptiveto him.

Another method that Boards used a great deal was thepivot. His favorite pivot
was a Fox named Belle, who looked like a Barbie Doll come to life with four times the
chestsize. Boardstold me that it would never fail ttrat after having lunch with Belle, he
would wait around the dining hall reading a paper, ffid other Foxes would opproacft him.
Being seenwith a Fox made him more popular. As it nrrns out, the pivot concepthas
floated around seductioncircles for decades,but until recently it was consideredonly
worthy of a footnote. The idea of buildittg an entire seductionmethod around pivots was
my creation,built in part out of necessity,as I prefer to avoid risk and rejectionwherever
possible. It's not the most aggressiveapproach,but if you use it properly, it will solve
your love life problemswith ease,even if you aren't Mr. Excitement. The value to this
for a nice guy who can't otherwisecompeteis nearly infinite.

Your chanceswith a pivot improve becauseyou are not hitting on her, and your
chanceswith other Foxes improve becauseyou are seenwith her. Toss in the reduced
dating costs and you have a dangeroustriple threat, making strong use of a Fox who
a would otherwisenot want you, using her to attractother Foxes, and cutting your expenses
a while putting you in the sameenvironment,with the sameFox, a lot less pressure,and
a much betterreputation. Her vestedinterestin deflectingyour sexualattentionis strong.
4 Ratherthan trust her to fix you up with her lessdesirablefriends, you can let her attract
4 her peers to you. Nice men do not manipulate, but perhapssometimesthey should.
1 Nice men forgive manipulation,yet don't extendthemselvesthe sameconsideration.
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1 Of Foxhunting's contributionsto ASF, the pivot is the one which has caughtfire.
1 It has spawnedseveralperipheraldiscussionsabouthow social proof works, ffid how to
- use the concept to seduce. One such poster, a man identifying himself as "Soren
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girffiend. In doing so, he took a conceptI touchedon in Foxes (the FantasyFox) and
expandedit to the point where it is now a powerful weapon. I am opposedto the use of
the phantom girlfriend proper becauseit is deceptive, and it tends to drive away the
Foxes I want, who value loyalty. I much prefer the use of pivots to conveydesirability,
and with an available Fox, I don't beat around the bush and just pursue her. Either
strategyis sound; your preferenceis a matter of taste.
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Pivots, phantom girlfriends and social proof expose a Fox's lies about being (
satisfied with her lover by treating them as if they were the truth. You show up with (
your pivot, she talks about her great guy, she seesyou having fun with your pivot, and
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she is boxed in. Even the phantom girlfriend techniqueshould require only one lie, to
get the first Fox, after which she is no longer a phantom. Nothing turns a Fox on'like (
a man who is committed to his relationships,even if getting him for herself meanshe'd (
have to cheaton or dump his partner, which would theoretically turn him into a jerk, but (
which would be forgiven becauseshe rationalizesit as a necessaryevil to bringing her (
together. More chick logic at work.
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Nice men have an advantagewith pivots becausethey usually have no difficulty (
accumulatingthem. Pivots give the nice guy a use for theseFoxes, who sensethe sudden. (
lack of interest from the nice guy who hasjust made lemonadefrom the lemons. The (
effect is compoundedbecausehe is no longer at odds aboutwhat to do with her. Sooner
or later, his behavior will convey her reduced standingin his mind, and that triggers the
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challengeresponse,which could go as far as a direct attemptto seducehim. Thanks to I
the internet, and the collaborative efforts of ASF, men are finally piecing together the I
entire puzzle of how Foxes think. When I see the.successof the ASF posters, I'm I
remindedof Joe Gibbs' comment on the no-huddleoffenseand how he dismantledit: (
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It appears unbeatable at first glance, but when you break it
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down, it is not that dfficult to stop.
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Gibbs' RedskinscrushedBuffalo in the 1992 Super Bowl, and signalledthe end

of the no-huddle fad that had begun sweepingthe NFL. He knew that he couldn't be
doomed to lose no matter what he did, and designeda winning strategy. The men of
ASF havedonethe samething with seduction,dissectingthe tacticsusedby Foxesto gain
the upper hand, and using countermeasuresto swipe the advantage. The Foxes have not
yet responded,as most are still dismissiveof the idea that men not only are not being
fooled by thern, but are now turning the tables with techniquesthey learn from the
internet. Previously, an AFC would get stoodup and fall to pieces;today, he just asks
the group what to do, and when two dozen men tell him to ignore her for a week and
screw ten other Foxes, he resistshis urge to cave in, and with his resolve, createsan
excellent Returning Fox scenario,known to ASF as a takeaway, or a reversal of her
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14 A Fox copsan attinrde...untilsheseeshim with another Fox, and of coursesinceshecan
14 no longei sting him, suddenly she wants him to have her number and spend time with
a him:
F9 Hey guys,just checkingin. Beendown in the dumpslatelywithout much time to do
f? PU. Told myselfto get back in the gameas it had beena few weekssinceI fucked
i? a chick and a few dayssince['d eventalkedto one. I headdown to the coffeehouse

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tor someJavaand flirting with the HB I know hangsout thereevery Thursdaynight.
She'smaybean 8.7 or so. They hada poetryreadingscheduled
so the place was quieter than usual.
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I work up the courageto finally approachthe HB after checkingher out for a while.
I openwith a slight neg (aboutthe book shewas reading)and shegivesrne the your-
a-creeplook. I ejectsincetherewasn't any oppornrnityand go back to my table. I
h startwriting somepoetryand this attractsthe attentionof a coupleof HB (9.2,9.'7)
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who comeup to me andaskme what I'm writing. I tell them it's a poemI'm working
on and they ask me aboutpoetry,as the 9.2reachesup to the bookshelfand grabsa
compilation. We get into somegood conversationand fluff talk, I get minor kino
F going with the 9.7, and we're havinga greattime.

t" About 5-10 minutes later, GUESS WHO pops over to my table all smiling and
F triendly? The 8 .7, of course. She puts her hand on me ahnostimmediatelyand
FA placesherselfdown next to me, dislodgingthe 9.7 which pissesme off. Newayz,

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we're all havinga greattime (the 9.2even boughtme a doublecap!),and the 8.7
startsteasingme in front of the other two. I give her a vibe like I'm not into her
(tlnnks to her earlier rebuffl, and before I can say anything she writes her number
down and givesit to me. An hour laterI get #s from the9.2and9.7 as we're all
tt leaving,andfrom thereI ejectimmediatelybecause I don't want to ruin my progress.
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IT I call the 8.7 a day later becauseI want to ask her abciutpivots and socialproof. I
tell her I've beenreadinga newsgroupon the internetthatsaidwomenwantyou more
TE when you're with otherwomen. Shedidn't evendeny it!! Fuck, man, the yearsI
a wastedpining over one chick thinking she would respectthat and now I leant the
opposite!!Wherewas this NG when I was 16? Shit, we gottatell the world that the
II rulesare changingand WE are now the onesiu control!!!!
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a Social proof is common to all human interaction. How otherstreat a personoften
dictateshow we treat them. It is illogical, but convenient,to acceptpublic opinion, even
a when the rewards for independentthought are so great. Foxes claim not to think alike,
a yet they are willing to rubber-stampeach other's opinions. The sameman they ignore
a when he is alone, they suddenlyshow interestin if they seehim with anottlerFox. A
a vicious cycle is created,where popularity with one Fox feedson itself, and multiplies to
a the point of absurdity. This is why you will see a player with hundreds of fernale
contactsof all kinds, and a nice guy left out in the cold.
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a Nice guys don't make use of social proof and pivots, while players do this
a instinctively. Now that they know this, the nice guys can adjust their behavior
a accordingly. One Philadelphiamillionaire who is still dating Foxes in their twentiesas
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anywherewithout a female escort. This is a good policy, becausehow a man is treated
when he goes out is usually a function of whether or not he is alone, and the body of his
date if he is not. Why shouldhe subjecthimself to second-class treatmentby going out
alone? It's one thing to go through one's everyday activities alone, but to live the
nightlife without a date or the appearanceof a date in your compiuryis just stupid for the
reputation-conscious man. I

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and pivots or manipulation in general have to rcalize that often these are otherwise (
excellentwomen! It's not like they do this consciously. Simple efficiency tells them that
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when a man is popular with Foxes, there is usually a good reason,if not his looks, which
are obvious, then his brains, status,wealth, or sexual skill. The problem with social (
proof is that Foxeswind up cheatingoff of eachother's exams,with no one knowing the (
answersin the first place. Men who becomeaware of how the phenomenonworks can (
specificallyexploit it by getting the ball rolling with a pivot or go all the way with the
phantomgirlfriend.
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 Reason#L3:
The Bovfriend Destrover

A nice guy stopspursuing when he hearsa Fox has a boyfriend, while a jerk does
not. Worse yet, she will often becomeintrigued by the jerk's persistence,mistakinghis
aggressive,numbers-gameapproachwith a speciallevel of interestin the real her. Her
chick logic tells her that he must want her badly if he is ignoring her boyfriend, while
in reality he's just a squirrel trying to get a nut. The intensity, interest and passionhe
conveysto her are all fake, but this does not matter.

Why, why , why does this happen? In a word: drama. Foxes love drama,, and
being the center of attention. They also like pitting men againsteachother (more drama),
and there is always the chancethat the jerk could be a better man that she might dump
her guy for. The longer he staysin the game, the better his chances,and even when he
fails, when he pulls back, she may take the lead and keep the drama going. Once she
gets that far, reason flies out the window and her love life is on a crash course with the
daytirnetalk shows.

The boyfriend destroyerrefers to an SS patterndesignedby RossJeffries to cause

a Fox to turn againsther lover. NLP is used to get her to feel trappedand smothered,
and is cornbinedwith having her imagine how it would feel to be free of the entrapment,
moving rn a new direction (which soundslike "nude erection" and is supposedto arouse
her subconscious,though I don't know if that really.happens), and he attempts to
hypnotizeher with words disguisedas opinions. If the relationshipis faltering, boyfriend
destructionis powerful; if not, it can backfire. Soren's phantomgirlfriend approachis
superior, becausethe risks are reduced,while the rewards remain intact.

The boyfriend destroyerhas evolved from its roots into a general ASF concept.
Regardlessof how it is delivered, her lover is consideredan obstacleto be removed.
With SS, this is done with a pattern, while a player will do it with social proof and
pivots, and a Foxhunter with one-and-done,letting the clock tick until she is available
andior until she returns. Which strategy works best for you depends on your
temperament,your goals, and whatwould fit bestin the contextof your overall approach.
It is much better not to have an establishedconnectionwith a Fox until she is without a
man in her life. I have had good resultslejecting even friendshipswith Foxeswho were
taken. Ratherthan destroyher relationship,which will dissolveon its own if it is weak,
I would just use her as a pivot and let the clock tick until shewas available. The furthest
I usually go with this method is an ex-boyfriend destroyer, whereby I will questionher
logic in selectingbad men, letting her know with words or by logical implication that I
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 In the event you find yourself the boyfriend and want to prevent being destroyed,
worry not about the other men, but about yourself. If you keep a Fox happy, she will
usually not stray back into the snakepitand risk a real disaster. The Foxier she is, the
more this is likelv to be true for a few reasons:

l. As a super-Elite,she has more men to choosefrom than any other

classof female:

2. Her ability to selectamongher vast choicesis usually not up to p&r,

making her more likely to make a mistake;

3. Her desirabilitymakesher a prime targetfor players,muchthe way

a fat bank accountmakesa man a prime target for businesscon
artists;

4. You maynot be in her league,but who is? Don't worry aboutbeing

her inferior, becauseto her all men are, and we tend not to
differentiatemuchbetweenthosewho are beneathus.

5. Once she has found a man that she feels safe with, she is not going'
to want to return to steps1-4 above.

There are no guarantees.You don't belong in a relationshipuntil you can handle

anything, including her leaving you without warning. Unfortunately for Foxes, the type
of man who can handle their departureis the one who doesn't care she was there in the
first place, but it is always preferableto be cold and distantinsteadof too clingy. Since
so few of us focus on fundamentalcompatibility(explainedin the last chapter),our lovers
have becomeinterchangeablealmost to the level of householdappliances. We have to
have one at all times, but we don't really scrutinize what we have or select it very
carefully. As long as it works, for now, we do not concern ourselvesmuch beyond
superficialselection. In an environmentlike that, boyfriend-destroyermethodswill work
very well.
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 Reason#I4z
LJBF And The Guv Switch

Another Foxhunting technique: the guy switch occurs when a Fox:

1. Rejects you on the grounds that she has a boyfriend;

2. Dumps the boyfriend;

3. Acquires a new boyfriend without notifying you or giving you a

chance in between.

If you are in (let's) just (be)friends (LIBF) territory, and you are hanging around
hoping for a reversal of fortune, give up when you see her move on from her current
man to another man. The odds of successplummet at this point from drawing to an
inside straight to drawing to an inside straight-flush. You will not know if you have
moved up from #2 in her life to #l until this happens. Foxhunters circumvent the
problem by using an LJBFox as a pivot, but even then for your own information keep an
eye on what she does after she breaksup. One variation of the guy switch which favors
you occurs when she goes through men like water. Then, if you hang around long
enough, your turn will come, and soon after, so will you.

To becomea true player, set the table for your departureafter the guy switch with
a) a dialoguealong theselines:
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a) Her: You got a deal!

a Usually, she will forget the promise, figuring that a "best effort" will suffice for
a the fixup, and since sheknotvs she won't be breakingup with her boyfriend, she won't
a have to make good on the date. She's placatedyou, and has you whipped. If you play
a along while secretlyusing her as a pivot while waiting for the guy switch, the odds that
a her relationshipwill end increaseover time. When this happens,do not remind her of

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enough,put two and two together, and contact you in order to reestablishthe friendship. C
If you hold your ground, usually she can be seduced. Working to your advantagehere C
is that shewill havejust endeda bad relationship(do good onesend?), shewill be on the C
market, and rejecting you will cost her a friendship. Your bargainingpower will never
be higher, which makes this the ideal moment to make your move.
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The guy switch works best if Guy #2 rs the wrong man. It's bad enoughfor her t
to go through a breakup, but to lose her emotional support or any other utility she's C
gemingfrom you ups the anteconsiderably. What this will alsodo is raisethe stakeswith C
Guy #2, becausechoosing him will have cost her your friendship. If the second
relationshipfails, shewinds up evenworse off than shewould have beenif you had been
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there to console her. This is undoubtedly manipulative and cruel, but what are you C
dealing with here? A Fox who deniesyour sexuality,use you as an emotionaltampon, t
ridicules you behind your back to her girlfriends as not man enough, and who would T
suddenly complain if you started looking after your own interests? Being a nice guy is T
great, but being met halfuay is also essential.
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mention here. Like a Foxhunter, has masteredthe art of using LJBF. His plausible-
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deniability approachwhere he pretendshe's not after a date in the beginningerasesany e
thoughtsa Fox may have about his courageor desirability, and from there when they get
ro know him as a friend they just steadily heat up. What Ricardo proves is something
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my own Foxhunting confirm ed: LJBF works to your advantage if you let it. The key
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What this chapter says about LJBF says a lot about the way Foxes think. It is I
much the way banks think, offering money to whomever they believe needsit the least. I
The pleasant,civilized social environmentsin which we interact are actually cutthroat
environmentswith a caste system where Foxes hand out the colored dots. False
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advertisinglaws cannot be enforcedover somethinglike this, but anyonewho tells you
that what you see is what you get when socializingis either lying, delusional,,ignorant. I
or all tfuee. While you think you arejusthanging out and making innocentconversation. (
Foxes are taking the liberty of determining your social ranking based upon factors as I
arbitrary or irrelevantas what their looks peersthink of you. I'm remindedof celebrities I
who are more famous for being famous than for whatever it was that put them in the (
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 Reason#I5:
The Secret Slut

The secretslut is my term for somethingASF posterstalk about a lot: the good-
girl on the surface who is waiting for the conqueringmale to exposeher for the slut she
is underneath. She is the most difficult of all Foxes to deal with, becauseshe sends
highly deceptivesignals. Players who stumbleupon this little seductiongoldmine are
rewardedwith some of the best sex of their lives. Nice guys who are unaware of how
the secretslut works can wastedays, weeks,months, or evenyears wondering why such
a nice girl who thinks the world of him simply won't have sex with him. In the secret
slut's fantasy,he just knows she is a slut. In reality, he guesses,but she doesn't know
the difference.

A long time &go, a friend of mine namedPaul told me about a card-trick he uses
when he wants to leave an impression. He has someonepick a card, look at it, and put
it back in the deck. Then he has them shuffle the deck mix up the cards any way they
want, without looking, to remove any possibility of trick handling of the cards. He then
declaresthat he's going to pick your card out of the deck as if by magic. In my case,
he picked the wrong card, and when I laughed at him he shruggedit off by saying that
it was a luck trick, that works only Il52nd of the time, but when it works, it dazzles.
To understandthe secret slut, think of it as this card trick with the only difference that
you get laid if you pick the right card, and that your odds of being right are closer to l0-
15 percentthan l-2 percent.

Secretsluts are one pocket of the Fox populi where supply-and-demandfavors the
men. One factor I have become very sensitiveto in the course of my researchand
writing is learning to differentiate when a method is working becauseit is strong, or
whether it works becausethere are more Foxes who want it used than men who are able
to use it on them. Dominance and submission(d/s) is a lifestyle that the secret slut
enjoys, and while there are more female submissivesthan male dominants, the
submissiveswho don't tell you they are submissiveoufirumberthe dominantswho can
a recognizethis even more. In other words, if you play the secretslut gameproperly, you
a get laid. As time wears on, this will not hold as true becausemore and more men will
a supply themselvesto meet the demand.

a How do you spot a secretslut? ffte first step is to screenout the obvious sluts,
4 or the teaseswho are overt on the surfacebut who put the walls up when challenged.
1 A secretslut is more likely to be a good girl in every respecton the surface,and the only
a way shewill admit her true nature is if you draw it out of her, a processwhich requires
several challenges,,culminating in her admissionthat you had her pegged all along,
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neg is designedto flush out a secret slut without insulting her, but there are many other (
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Psychic/palm readings. You can suggestthat she is not the good girl the (
world thinks she is, that she wishes she could be more open with her wild I
side, and so forth. This is especiallypowerful becausenot only do you (
open Pandora'sBox (literally!), but you convince her in the processthat (
you have magical powers. Foxes say all the time that nice guys don't
(
produce magic for them. The proper term for magic, of course, is illusion,
which sendsa direct, brutal messageto nice guys that a pleasantillusion is (
preferable to something less exciting, but real. This gimmick is catching I
on fast becauseevery man who tries it reports success. It will be a while I
before the sexual marketplacecatchesup.
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Attitude. Guys like Mystery aren't out for blood, but his techniquesare I
useful to those who are. Put her on the spot, invade her space,give her I
self-esteema knock, and when sheproteststhat she's too nice to be treated.l
that way, tell her you know it's all an act, andhold your ground. If you're (
wrong, nothing will happenexcepther being offendedby you, but if you're
right, she'syours. All yours. Body, mind, and soul. At that very instant,
I
shehasbecomeyour submissive,your pet, your sexualtoy, at your service, I
all day, all night, for as long as you deem her worthy of keepingaround. I
You become a keeper of the slut's secret, part of an inner-inner circle I
which usually will consistonly of you. You function as the invisible wall I
she has which keepsthe nice guys and others too stupid to seethe real her (
as you had guessed. The numbers-gamerequirement for this approach
shouldgo without saying(but it doesn'tjust in case).
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Letting her know you're dominant. A secret slut who knows you are I
dominant but thinks you either don't want her or don't know she's (
submissivewill becomevery excited, often wanting to show you the real
her so that you can take commandof her. She will do so subtly, slowly
upping the anteuntil she has inspired you to make her your pet. By playing
along with her denial, you create a pleasurableinternal conflict which
causesher to becomeirrcreasinglyfocusedon you and arouseduntil shecan
no longer standit. Once you learn to recognizethis response,and what to
do when this happens,seductionwill become extremely easy. Indirect
seductionmethodssuchas thosediscussedin Foxes work excellently. Tell
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 your next Fox (if you aren't into lying), ild she will often inject herself
into the fun.

A secretslut will never admit to being one until you call her one. If she tells you
she is one without provocation,then she's a pretenderwho will top from the bottom, or
PAD, what I call passive-aggressivedomination. Submissiveshave a decidedpreference
for strong men, ffid many get off on exploiting the inexperienceor weaknessthat many
dominant men have. A truly dominant male knows the difference and tests specifically
to screen out the fakes. A secret slut tests men not by feigning obedience, but by
feigning lack of desire to submit, weedingout all but the doms who know, or thosewho
guess. A guessercould becomesomeonewho knows how to spot the secretslut, but this
is not as sure for the pet as finding a master who already knows what he is doing. , A
truly submissiveFox will be more concernedwith her own happinessand not into playing
gzrmesto hurt men. The men who do not qualify, she does not tease,but ignores. The
key word here rs secref, a word she brings to life in a very sexy way.

One annoying characteristicof the secret slut is her general contempt for all men
but the few who conquer her. Men who could conquerher are offended by her thinking
they can't. and thosewho can't sensea stuck-upattitudebut cannotpinpoint the source.
When a nice guy is tauntedby a Fox about what a wimp he is, this is usually done with
the idea of getting him angry, or taking out her anger against some jerk who has
mistreatedher. Foxes are just like that: while they demandto be treatedwith respectat
all times, they can be amazingly abusivepsychologically. I am taunting the nice guys
here as a wake-up call, to demonstratethat the polite, civil treatmentthey think of as
respectfulis anything but. If you have ever seenher act cold to you and then overtly
friendly to a jerk in your presence,rcalize that she has just disrespectedyou mightily.
a She shouldn't be punishedfor it in public, since she's still beenpolite to you, but if you
a can't hear the screirmsof omissionthat say you arenothing to her, you're deaf and blind.
a
a One area most relationship experts never touch on is what causesa Fox to
a detenninewhether or not a man is a winner. We have a paradox: if you beg for her
approval like a nice guy, you will be rejected,but if you take the reins, she surrenders.
a The numbers-gameapproachthat nice guys eschewis anothermissing ingredient from
a their repertoire. Nice men are conditionedto want one Fox at a time, for the right
a reasons,and wind up falling into unrequitedlove with a secretslut, who.is not what he
rt clairnsto want, not anything he can handlein bed, and who is not able to tell him where
a he is rnakinghis mistake, which is misinterpretingher manipulative,passive-aggressive,
conquer-meselectionprocessthat has her telling him what a nice girl she is up until the
1' very molnent she wears her master's collar. If this makes you ffigry, goodll Do
a something about it!
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a What makes many Foxes like being dominated is that they are the ones with the
true power in this world. So few men ever challengethem that the ones who do stand
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out. I suspectthis is going to lessenin the future, as more of them realizethat the men (
they encounterare not true dominants, and are just using another cannedpickup system (
to get into their pants. She will choosefrom multiple mastersthe one she finds most (
desirablefor other reasons. Due to supply-and-demand, few Foxeshave that choice,but
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this is changingrapidly. The watering-downof talent and intensity is a natural byproduct
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of proliferation to the masses. Thosewho invent somethingare alwaysgoing to be more
talented,more passionateabout their inventions,and more qualified to use them than all (
but a few copycatswho help evolve the discovery. (
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I have someexperiencewith d/s, and while the sexualroleplay is intense,for most
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peopleit is a brief experimentation(roleplay submission). Lifestyle d/s involves a long-
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term commitment to a partner, and to the lifestyle itself. My experiencewith hypnotic
seductionhas d/s offshoots, but these are accidental. Many secret sluts fall into the I
categoryof roleplay submissives,wanting to be completelydominatedin the bedroombut I
treated as an equal otherwise. It's a very difficult balancing act ttrat few men can pull
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off for very long. The upside, of course, is that you have a sexualservantwho will do (
anything you want her to. What you do with her is up to you.
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I will now "post" a recent hypnotic phone seduction. This Fox, a 2l year-old (
dancer, was a textbook subject. Nice guys should pay attention for how the situation.l
developed,and where they would not have done what I did and conqueredher mind: (

This report is about a pet I conqueredover the phone through hypnosis. Phone I
hypnosisis idealfor initiatingd/s becauseshecanbe wild while still feelingsafe. If I
shelikeswhat you do, there'splentyof time to meetandrepeatthe performancelive.
It helpsto be on the level of a stagehypnotistif you're serious(takinga prof.essional I
courseis the best investmentyou'll ever make, plus practicing,readingbooks and (
listeningto tapeswill help a lot). If you know what your doing you can broachthe (
suhjectproperly,makingher morelikely to give you an opportunityto hypnotizeher,
andwhenyou get thatopportunity,you dazzleher by makingher feel incredible,and (
wantingto experienceit againand again. The more talentedyou are as a hypnotist, I
the easierit will be to separateyourselffrom the increasingnumberof rnenwho try
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to hypnotizebut who really don't know what they are doing.
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This Fox (abouta 9.5) I met online talked on the phone, and somewherein the
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conversation I askedher if sheliked hypnosis.Turnedout shehad a lifelongfantasy
of beinghypnotizedand askedme -- no, BEGGEDme -- to hypnotizeher. I knew
I hadan eagersubjectso this wasgonnahe easy. I alsoknew shewould askme over
and over until she was practicallyunderat the IDEA, so I let her chill for a while
thinking I wasn't gorun do it. A day or two later sheaskedme againand shewas
ripe, so I told her I would.
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I neverhad a subjectassistme as rnuchas this one did. I had her put on the sexiest
outfit in her closet,light a candle,and havea small drink of wine to loosenup (this
is optional). Shetook careof any business(includinggoing to the bathroom)so that
shewouldn't be distractedoncewe began. I told her to get comfortableby relaxing
with her legsuncrossed, her armsat her sides,andthephonecradledso thather anns
were free. I then told her to releaseher breathing,letting go of it and letting her

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 body do it for her like when shesleeps. Mixing in commandsto her body to relax,
feeling her outfit releaseits sexualityinto her body as she breathed,regulatingher
breathingvrith commands,andhavingher eyesstareat the candle,shewent deepinto
trancevery quickly and passedthe "point of release"where the hypnotist'scontrol
is genuine,like that of a stagehypnotist.

Onceshe releases,it's time to switchmy inductionfrom inducingto deepeningand

guiding her mind towardsorgasm. The processis similar to what a stagehypnotist
does with his audience,but is more intimateand inten-sein a comfortable,private,
one-on-onesession. I took her through deepeningroutines,including a "hroken
count" where shecountsdown from a numberI stan her at, resumingthe countat my
numberwhenevershehearsme intemrpt, tying the count to imagery of her locking
my eyes, our eyes connectedas if by laser beam, me looking up and her body
suddenlyrising, a magiccarpetfloatingunderneath her body, my eyesreleasingtheir
grip, her body falling onto the magic carpet,and as she countsdown she t'eelsthe
carpetsinking a yard towardsthe eafth, while if shecountsup or is interruptedwith
a higher number,the carpetrises.

I took her throughan extendedbrokencount,giving her the keywordsor triggersof

stuck, where she remainsstuck on a number, counting the samenumber over and
over again,until shehearsthe word unstuck,at which point sheresumesher count
urrtil the next corrrmandor interruption. Firnlly, I use the keyword random to
conquerher mind, telling her it becomesmore andmore difficult to remembermore
than a few secondsinto the past, and that she can no longer keep track of her
counting. If she'sbeenproperlyrelaxedand inducedto this point, shewill lose all
controlright abouthere. From the randomnumbersI told her she'dget moreturned
on as shecounted(this is calleda sexycounting techniquethat I teachto womenwho
use hypnosisbecauseit's easyto learn),and that shewould lose evenmore control
(alsotook a few chancesto regulateher volumeso I could hearher more clearly).I
then instructedher to inform me eachtime she cameand kept track with my owu
c0unt.

At this point, shewas GONE and LOVING IT. It was like her mind was on a yo-yo
and I was holding the string. The hypnosiswas a completesuccess,and I took her
throughthecountingexercises a bit more,puttingher temporarilyto sleep,andgiving
her sometrigger commandsso that shecould reenterthe stateat a later tfune. The
triguersI gave her were words comhinedwith the snapof a finger, eachof which
would sendher deeperinto tranceand causea responsephrase. First I installeda
generaltrigger of Lucy LovesHypnosisl(Lucy is not her real name),which is easy
to execute,and a true statement, with the responsephraseof "I am relaxed." Therr
I told her anytimesheheardthe word pet shewould respondby sayingthat shewas
a well-trainedpet; whensheheardthe word hypnotizedshewould respondby saying
"l am not evenawareI am hypnotized";the word s/z/ causedher to say "I am a well-
trainedslut," and so forth (sheis, afterall, a secretslut and the term is not an insult
or meantas one). Oncethe triggerswere installed,shelost completecontrol, and
was ready for her sexualtriggers,

I gaveher a rathersimpleone,tellingher thatanytimesheheardme saya word with

the word come embeddedin it and snappedmy fingers, shewould climax. Using
phraseslike come-pletelyrelued andcome-pletelycome-fortable,be-come-ingcome-
rf pletely aroused,shewent into auto-orgasm modeand camea total of thirteentimes.
I woke her up quickly, sayingsimplyyou can wakeup now (no needfor an extended
i wakeup),and whenshecameto shefelt incredible.Shethentold me shewas wetter
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A trained hypnotist who is a dedicatedFoxhunterwill have little difficulty working
the gimmick to perfection. I'm sure more than a few male stagehypnotists chosetheir
professionfor that very reason. They have status,talent, training, ffid an endlessstream
of subjectsto select from. They don't have to approach or use their shows to find
subjects,becausethe secretsluts will come to them. It is much easierfor a secretslut
to begin revealing herself through an innocentconversationabout a topic like hypnosis
than to reveal her secretdirectly. What preventsher from revealingherself is the same
thing that prevents the nice guy from pursuing her: she doesn't want men who do not
know what she wants without her having to ask, and nice guys make the mistake of
asking her directly or analyzing her behavior at face value. The result is a clear
mismatchwhich favors the jerk.

As the popularity of hypnotic seductionincreases,the level of talent required for

it to be effective is going to rise considerably. Seriousstudy and practice will one day
be a necessityif current trends are any indication. Ross Jeffries has proven with speed
seduction that the demand for male hypnotists, even the watered-down ones that his
courseworkproducesrelative to the professionals,far exceedsthe supply. The point of
socialization, where secret sluts who want to be hypnotized (a way of releasing.
responsibility) will have their choice of hypnotist, instead of reacting instinctively to
every one who enterstheir lives, as many do now.
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To hypnotize a Fox, you need to understandthe principles of hypnosis, why it

works, but most of all you need to know how to perforrn an induction, how to tell how
deepshe is in trance, how to achievemaximum control over her mind during the session
(if you don't,, someoneelsewill), and it helps to install triggers so that she can go under
againmore quickly shouldshedesirea repeatperformance. The amateurhypnotistswho
achievelight tranceswith Foxes are successfulnow only becausethe overall supply of
quality hypnotistsis low. The rule for hypnotic seductionis simple: strongesttrance
wins. How strong that trance needs to be is determined by her exposure to other
hypnotists,their talentlevel relativeto yours, and your secretslut's appetitefor hypnosis.
which in a minddigger is going to be huge.

If you are a nice guy and you've ever had that you-just-don't-get-it look from a
secretslut, this is what you don't get. This is the greatmystery, the great experiencethat
she thinks you cannotduplicate. Is she a bad girl becauseof this? Not as a citizen, but
she could level the playing field by letting the nice guys in on the secret,especiallysince
the bad boys learn it quickly. [n the absenceof this, Foxes could be more honestabout
why they don't want the nice guys, or, as a last resort, frustratednice guys can make a
consciousdecisionto becomeplayers and reap the rewards. Thanks to ttre internet,this
last option is being chosenin record numbers.

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F" massagepickup was typical of this, although that was more of an accident betweentwo
f" frustrated AFC than typical of either of our character. I have found repeatedlythat the
l" mere mention of hypnosisto a secretslut works a lot like a bell on one of Pavlov's dogs.
a It is hypnotic in and of itself, like a commandshehas beenwaiting to hear all of her life.
When you encounter this, if you are skilled, you have an easy way to seducewithout
ft being rude, by displaying your hypnotic talents. The creativity of your approach will
F intrigue her, and the experience will blow her mind away. If you act like a skilled
a hypnotist and Foxhunter and let your subjectsbeg you rather than being active like the
F speed seducers, you will be dealing with the highest-quality Foxes who are most

F interestedin you and most eager to go under.

e The leaderof the hypnotic seductionmovementfor now would be Wendi Friesen,

ft a California hypnotherapistwith a wild side who has made it her personalmission to
ft bring erotic hypnosisto the public. Her website,www.wendi.com, offers a book/tape
p set called Hypnotize Your Lover that is a perfect introduction to hypnosis in general and
its erotic applicationsin particular. Wendi is not shy with the media or with hypnosis,
2 and has carved out a fine erotic niche for herself. Nice guys who are put off by the
It aggressionof SS and player methods might want to check out her website as an
? alternative.
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I do not expect nice guys to confront secret sluts, but they should keep the
possibility in the back of their mind that they are dealing with one. If they are, pursuit
over any length of time will not work, and unlesshe wants to conquerher, he should find
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greenerpasturesbecausehe will get nowhere, be rejectedin the firmest but most polite
of ways, ffid will be shut off from any sexualinteraction.bythe invisible wall that only
I' the dominant male knows how to knock down or walk around. That the wall exists at
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of Foxes, and in doing so, costingthemselvesan awful lot of sex.

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 Reason#16:
Indoctrination

A big part of the ASF culture is accepting the education process. Part of that
processinvolves asking the elder statesmenof the group for advice and commentseven
when you think you know the answer. This is similar to the practice of tournament
chessplayersto record their games, analyzingthe moves in post-mortemswhich can be
very animated, with even grandmastersdisagreeingon the correct move. In the finest
tradition of academicresearch,the original pu{poseof USENET, seducersall over the
world share their secretsfreely with the newbies. When the number of men who are
listeningas if E.F. Hutton had risen from the dead and were talking himself approaches
amillion, as it may in a few years, the rules of dating wind up rewritten. This is already
beginning to happen.

The force is almost impossibleto stop. Men constantlystumbleupon ASF or its

related websites,or mine, or another, they are told that they can read or purchasethe
answers to their questions, and guess what? They can. The demand for quality
information is so great that any author who stepsup to the plate right now will make a
profit, with the potential of fame and fortune awaiting them down the road if their work
catcheson. The free information catchesfire almost instantly, as there is no price or
distribution barrier. Newsgroup visitors now have the benefit of several free websites
which archive the posts, sometimesorganizingthem by topic into a curricula. My main
contributionsto thesearchivesare the pivot and returningFox theories,both of which are
very useful to players. It was not my intent to help playerswith pivots, but I shouldhave
seenthat coming.

The liberalismof the 1960sand 1970sgaveway to Reaganomics, and athere-are-

no-victims, my-shit-never-stinks-and-yours-better-notattitudethat hasput us into the law
of thejungle. We advertiseourselvesas compassionate, but we aren't. Foxesespecially
have taken their natural power and enhancedit to the point where they can treat a nice
guy like absolutedirt, he won't fight back, and he will still want her or even ask for
more if he thinks it will pleaseher. The tough-loveapproachis truly justified here, as
nice guys just have their head in the sand. They take all kinds of crap from Foxes, for
all of the wrong reasons. A Fox who sensesthat he won't retaliatewill often become
even more abusive. They have unlimited,accessto muscle, so they can attackand insult
without fear. One aspectof the nice guy problem that is rarely spoken about is that
Foxes are often nice to violent men becauseof fear, or even worse, becausethey want
to make use of the goon, justifying his violent behavior by saying that the targets(i.e.,
men shedoesn't like) deservedit.

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 One thing players do is instill sexual respect. This can be done any way (even
Ricardo accomplishedit with his tame approaches).The nice guy who allows a Fox to
ignore his sexuality might as well let her cut his bal"lsoff. Establishing yourself as a
sexualcreatureearly on helps a lot, becauseonceshegetspasther disgustthat you're just
anotherpig, she will have to deal with you as such if she wants to keep interacting with
you. Just as men do things they don't want to do to be with Foxes, the reversealso
happens. A musician who is getting laid left and right and refuses to accept an LJBF
presentstwo choices:have sex with him and be part of the music, or write him and his
music off. Groupies have shown through their behavior that they are willing to pay the
price. In this case,being a jerk doesn'tget the musicianlaid, but it allows him to ensure
that being a musician getshim laid by being a jerk, so the gimmick would be credited
with an assist.

A nice guy refuses to see a Fox who acts innocent as something other than what
she appearsto be, and she rejectshim becauseshe figures he is clueless. The player's
posture is more defensive, oriented towards preventing her from giving him shit, but
that's only a step away from full-fledgedjerkhood. Men who talk about respeclshould
raise red flags, because what happens when they are disrespected is often highly
unpleasant. A Fox who wants respectshouldchoosea nice guy, but she often finds that
a turnoff. It is difficult to blame men for beingjerks when the jerks are rewardedwith
sex and the honestmen are punished. It is up to Foxes to changethe reward systemif
they want male behavior to change.

ASF indoctrination formally begins when a lurker loses his ASF virginity and
introduceshimself to the group. A typical introductorypost might read as follows:

Hey guys. I'm a newbieAFC hereandwant to sharemy storywith everyone. Like

many here,I've beenwalkedon by womenall my lif-e,and only recentlydid it dawn
on rne that there had to be sornethingbetterout there. This NG is the greatesrthing
I've seenin my lif-e!!! All the expertsmakethis placethe bestadvicesireon the net
and its FREE! Who needscoursesand bookswhenwe haveall this!!

Newayz,my nirmeis Rob, and I'm26 yearsold. Justgot out of a relationshipwith

a 6.5-1 who I thoughtwas the bestI cando. RecentlyI just got a job at a technology
firm and the! got the hottestofficegirls ['ve everseen! I don't want to makea move
on any of thembeforeconsultingthe mastershereand as I get to know themI'll post
updatesand seekcomments. Help me out as much as you can!!

Doesnel no how to useSS in the workplace?I want to be carefulnot to causeany

harassment problemsor accusations if shecatchesonto what I'm doing. What about
negsor kino? Also, can someoneexplainto me the terminologythey use here'/ I
think I got most of it, but what doeseverythingmean? WherecanI tind the archives
yttu always talk about? Oh, and what is the lounge and why do you need a
-) password?

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-tD The loungerefersto the privatesectionsof the relatedwebsiteswherethe ASF regulars
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who get along with each other go to speakprivately. This affords them the benefit of
trading secretsamong themselveswithout letting the public caprtaltze. It is very smart (
practically, and the seriousplayersare alreadyseeinghow discretionis at times the better I
part of valor. The loungesalso contain picture sectionswhere the players post actual I
pictures of their actual conquests,and file sectionswhere the truly daring can upload (
audio or video recordingsof them engagedin various activities. I have never felt the
need or desire to participate in the lounges, and as a commercial publisher I am thought I
of as a bit of a sellout, even though I publish a mass of free advice and information. I
That's life on the internet. however. I
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Once the newbie player has made a commitment to the lifestyle, he is expectedto
ask, listen, implement,report, modify, and persistuntil his mission is accomplished.He
I
detachescompletely from the notion of waiting for a specialFox, embracingthe numbers I
gamewhereby he continuallypursuesFoxesuntil he finds one who saysyes. Sooneror I
later he will find one, and when he does,that Fox will be ignoring a nice guy who is just (
like the newbie player used to be, proving directly that the negative change in attirude (
leadsto a positive changein sexualoptions. (
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Afier his first mission, the newbie reports back to the group, documentinghis
mission with analysis, seeking comments,criticisms, and anything that will help him ' ( I
along on his quest. A typical newbie mission post might look like this:

Hey guys,I'm backaftermy first newbiemissionwith a report. It's 3:00 a.m. and
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I'm kinda drunk so forgive me if I ramblea little. Man, I can't believewhat a little
change in attitude will do. I dropped my nice guy act and just started being I
cqnfident,a little cocky, playful, and if I saw a HB I followedthe three-secondrule
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and approached her immediately.
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Went to a club down by the dockswhich is known to attracta wild crowd, but when (
I got there it was pretty dead,at leastfor the guys, mustabeenthree of us for every
gne of them. This 7.3 (blonde,about 22) is standingby the pay-phonenext to the I
rcstroomand givesme a smileas I passhy. I smileback, say hi and keepwalking (
to seeif shefollows. I keepwalking out by the dancefloorandthere'sa four-set,all
HB (9.0. 9.6, 8.6,8.2) and as usualthey'reall ALONE. All the AFC wallflowers {
are STARINGat themtoo SCAREDto approach,so I seizethe tnomentandwalk up.

Mysterysaidto ignorethe target(the9.6) in a grouppickup, so I focusedon the 8.6

anclthe 8.2, askingthemaboutthe songon thejukeboxand initiatingflufftalk. The
8.2 bailed immediatelyand suddenlyI was gettingminor kino from the 8.6 whiclt
broke off when she had to use the bathroom. They invited me to join their table,
which meantI was IN. This is the first time in my life that I've ever sat down at a
HB table, and a four-setat'that! I seethe socialproof factor kicking in and the
OTHER HB in the club are checkingme out, while someAFC are fuming because
they didn't havethe balls to approachanyone. What losers!!!

I try to elicit somevalues,but the music is loud so I keepthe conversationto fluff

with a little kino hereandthereto emphasize my points. I pulledmy chair closerttr
the 8.6 who satdown next to me when shegot backfrom tlte bathroom,andwe were

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 ableto havea conversation as long as we practicallywhisperedin eachother'sears,
which was cool. Beforecoming to this NG, I would have frozenby now, but the
more progressI made,the more confidentI got. I kept up the playful, confident,and
mysteriouspersona,toying with the 8.6 and at one point she knoclcsme out of my
chair (almost)by askingme if I'm a player. WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU SAY TO
THAT? Should I deny it or let her think I know what I'm doing. I couldn't think
of what to say and froze up. DAMN!! Next time I'll havethe answerthanksto all
of you though and that's why I keep coming back to post.

The eveningwrappedup and we headedfor the exit. The 8.6 walked right next to
me and we pausedoutsidefor a cigarettewhile talking aboutwhat a greateveningwe
had. I useda line from this NG and askedher how we could continuethis another
time, and she immediatelyreachedinto her purseand wrote her number down on a
rnatcltbook,which she handedme. I put the matchbookin my back pocket so I
wouldn't accidentallythrow it away like I did onetime. I wantedto kiss-closewitlr
her, but the AFC took over a bit so I just took her handand kissedthat instead.She
LIKED IT!!!

When do you think is a good time to call her? How long should I wait? I was
thinking of just forgetting her for a bit and calling her but she might hook up witlr
someoneelse. I dunnowhat to do therebut I was proud of myself for puttingthis
NG into practicethe way I did. I didn't kiss-closelike Mystery (well I did sorta),
but I felt CONFIDENT for the first time and FUN TO BE AROUND. Socialproof
helpsthat a lot cuz onceyou get pastthe shieldsand you hook up in convowith a HB
the rest of them want to know what's up. Then you relax and things kick into gear
and it's like you were neveran AFC! I got rejectedseveralothertimeswhen I went
out but tonight this NG just CLICKED and things fell into place. I know I'll get
betteras time goeson but this was a real confidence-booster!

Call it The Making Of A Jerk. Foxes would have nice guys believe that the
reward system is an accident, but is it? How many' times do they have to enter
relationships because of approachesunder false pretense, fake confidence, a kino
invasion, fluff talk, and the numbers game before they wake up? This is not the way to
find the man of your dreams! The young Fox I hypnotrzed in the secret slut example
wouldn't even considera long-term relationshipat this point. In her words, she'syoung,
attractive,and wiurts to have fun. Not once does it occur to her that those are reasons
for her to searchfor a good husbandnow, ild not to wait until she is a shell of her
a) tonner self. Just as men have difficulty dealing with having to be alpha-malesto have
a) an)/rneaningfulchoices,Foxeshaveto confront the reality that they don't havethe luxury
a) of waiting until they are 30-35 in order to settledown. Once shehits 25, and evenwhen
a) she lrits 2l ,, her market value begins to decline as the next generationblossoms.
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ASF taughtme as clear as anythingever has that Foxes go out of their way more
a) than any man could ever dream of to avoid decentmen and to reward jerk behavior.
a Sometimesthey do so actively, out of attractionto thejerk, and a lot of the time they do
a) so passively,by rigging the game in the jerks' favor without even being aware that they
1l are doing so. They do this by respondingonly to aggressiveapproaches,allowing jerks
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trusting the wrong men), and from there they use isolation, entertainment.head games.
and every trick you see in this book to close the deal sexually. Passivecreaturesthat (
they are, the Foxes fall into a routine which has the jerks on center stagein their lives. I
creating the drama they crave, while the decentmen are exiled to the sidelines.kept I
under glass in caseof emergency.
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The indoctrination process documents the player's evolution: a newbie AFC I

becomesa newbie PUA, he makes progress,reports back, gets feedback,makes more (
progress,and the cycle repeatsuntil he getslaid once,perfectshis movessomemore, and (
truly conquersthe opposite sex. How Foxes or nice men can ever expect things to (
change when sex is the reward for being a jerk and masturbation the punishment for
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being a nice guy is beyond me. Compare the progressmade during indoctrination to the
nice guy's progress,which will often be nothing or negative. ASF and its websitescry (
out to the nice guy perpetually, showing him where he is going wrong, inviting him to (
join the chosen men that Foxes deem worthy., and to turn the meat market into a I
complimentary,all-you-can-eatbuffet.
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After the newbie mission is successful,he usually finds himself on the right track
but stumbling in a key area. A typical post might read as follows: I
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Help me out guys!! I've got my movesdown, but I haveproblemsKEEPING MY '(
FOOT ON THE GAS PEDAL. When I'm a hardassthe womencan't get enoughof
me, but onceI makeprogressI turn back into an AFC and then I get shit on again. I
I don't evenneedreal help becauseI KNOW what the fucking problemis. So why
can't I fix it!! Are thesechichsusing SS on me or somethin?
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Last week I usednegsto pick up this 9.3, got the # and a kiss-on-the-cheek close I
(doesthat count?),and I call her. Her fucking ROOMMATE answersthe phone,
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SCREENSme, and tells me she's not there. She asks me if I want to leave a
rnessage andI getpissed.In a cynicalvoice,I said"Yes,I'd like to leavea message. (
Tell her I can takea hint." Then I hung up. TEN MINUTES LATER shefucking
calls me back and saysshewas at the storeand why did I think shewas lying? I told
her to hangup if all shewantedto do was fight with me and she'slike no what's up
and could we hangout. I tell her to meetme at Lucky's at 8:00 sharpand to "dress
well." Sheshowsup HOT!!! We go to sit down at a tableand I wantedher to sit
next to tne and shedid for a secondbut then shegot up for a minute to go to the bar
and when she came back she sat down acrossfrom me!! BITCH!! MAJOR
disrespectand the beginningof the end.

Next thittg I know her two UG friends show up and one sits down next to her while
the otherstartsflining with me. FUCK!!! I couldn'tfuckingSTAND it!! I should
haveejectedwithout sayinga word and let her comeback to me but like the fucking
AFC I still am I spenda BORINGeveningchattingwith the cockblockwhile the 9.3
starts letting three guys fight for her attention. At least I could have circulated
aroundthejoint as therewere a f-ewHB therebut I was back in AFC modeand there
was no savingthe evening. I headout aroundl1 and stop at anotherclub down the
street,but nothing was happeningthere. What a fucking wasteof an evening.

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rr interfereand not calling her on inviting them) or you'll blow all your progress.

F Don't listento what womensay, they like to shit-testyou all the time. If shedidn't
want to fucking be alone with me, why the FUCK did she come at all? Fucking
rf chick logic. I'm beatand gottago to bed nite all.

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One thing that is clear is that many of them are not thrilled with what they have to do in
order to get laid, and who can blame them? When the same man who is rejected as a
nice guy is treatedlike royalty when he loseshis civility, how can we expecthirn to put
l'r up with that? They might as well just drop the charadeand tell men that this is what they
tr want. The lack of honesty in what Foxes claim to want and how they reward negative

F behavior while punishing positive behavior is what createsthe problems they complain
about. If nice guys could fix the problem, they would, but they can't put a gun to a
f'f Fox's head and make her treat men respectfully, or to pursue the men who have the
f qualities they say they value but which they ignore while having sex in the parking lot
p of a club with some player who just imposed himself on her, cracked a few jokes,
f dropped a few names, ffid used social proof and a pivot to challengeher into seducing
lrr him away from the others. This is not love. This is not a searchfor a soulmate. This
a is slut behavior, plain and simple, and any nice guy who deniesit even when he seesit
firsthand is going to have a lot of problemsbecauseuntil he acceptsreality, he is going
a to lose out on a lot of pussy.
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rt When I surf other newsgroupson USENET, I find female-orienteddiscussions
rl where men who speak freely about this are criticized, ostracized, shunned, insulted,
t) taunted,by both genders,ffid even shouteddown with ridicule, essentiallyproving that
Foxes are psychologicallyabusiveand that AFC men defendthem in the hope of getting
rl on their good side or out of fear of getting on their bad side. If you move from
rt IISENET to moderateddiscussiongroups,the bias becomesunbearable,with anti-female
a) postingsdeleted,the posters'accountsterminated,and the resulting "discussion"an AFC
rl paradisewhere Foxes rule, men beg, and nice guys are told not to changea thing despite
rl miserableresults, to keep up hope that things will turn around, and one day they will
meet that mythical right woman, who makesall the pain worthwhile. On ASF, the men
f presenttheir problerns,are given solutions,and put them into practice. In doing so they
a have createda movementlike no other.
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t The final step of indoctrinationusually comeswhen a player posts about how he
a, has difficulty reconciling all of the sex he's getting with the jerk he has to act like in
order to get it. He sayshe wants to settledown, and while he is encouragedto, he rarely
t finds that special Fox who can tame him into a loyal boyfriend. This is called the
7) ConcessionFox techniquein Foxes, and is yet another example of how all a jerk has to
rl do to get a better relationship than a nice guy is to change, with no penalty and even
4 somecredit for having beena player. This is like the drug addictsin professionalsports
rt who recover from addiction and wind up profiting from repairing the damage they
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inflicted to begin with! If Foxes wanted nice guys, they would selectnice guys in the I
first place. It is obvious that they are less interestedin seekingout a nice guy to begin I
with, and are more interestedin the drama createdby the challenge of turning a jerk I
back into the man she never wanted. I
Compulsivegamblersare said to live in denial. Specifically, they are in denial
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abouthow poorly they do becausethey don't keepaccuraterecords,relying on memories I
of the occasional winning bet to sustain themselves through the losing which they I
normally experience.A recreationalfootball bettor can easilylose a few thousanddollars I
a year and convince himself that he is breaking even, and in seductior, & nice guy can I
convincehimself that the occasionalaccidentalvictory or lay is fate finally mrning in his
favor, not the aberrationit almost always is.
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Before you go criticizng ASF, keep in mind ttrat jerks were getting laid long a
before it. For a nice guy to wind up an ASF legend,a lot has to happen. ASF is the last I
stop on this road, not the first. Men who are not already fed up with failure and
beginningto doubt their belief that Foxesare nice are the oneswho are ASF-prone. Like
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born-agatn zealots,the regulars approachthose who are desperate,out of answers,who
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feel a need to belong, take them in, make them part of a family, without them ever a
having to leavehome, and most important, they are given advicewhich helps them solve .a
their getting-laidproblems. The player lifestyle, with its easyanswersand quick sexwith a
hotties,is difficult to resist. I
It is by the very Foxes who wind up used that the seedsof ASF were planted.
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Take this "post" from alt.romance,written from the female perspective,to a nice guy I
who just rambled on about how he was twenty-six years old and still a virgin: I
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Hey girls, anotherbitterboyjoins the ranks of AR!! Bet he's a short, fat, balding, (
unemployedloserwho's still living at home watchingSpringer.
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I got news for you, loserboy,it's your ATTITUDE that is preventingyou frotn (
wussthatwomenavoidfor the REAL
gettingwomen. You're nothingbut a spineless
man. What's wrong, are you bitter? Stopwhining and DO somethingaboutit!! I
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I'rn sick of thesecowardswho can't talk to a woman in real life thinking that just
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becauseTHEY can't get laid that womenare evil. Womenare GREAT!! If wttrnett
dumpedon you in the pastyou needto takea look at what you did to DESERVEit,
creep! If you think womenare so bad, why don't you try men! I bet you'd look
really good with a nice long DICK shovedup your ass!!

If a Fox ever dressedyou down like that, how would you react if your only crime
was treatingher with respect? After a while, learnedhelplessness kicks in, and the nice
guy realizes that no matter how nice he is to ttre rattlesnake,he is still going to wind up
bitten. The combinationof socialbias which holds Foxesharmlessfor their conductand
men accountablefor theirs, ild the tendencyof men to ignore bad behavior in the hope
that it will change into good behavior, is sufficient to make life for the nice gu)'

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 absolutelymiserable. Moreover, the scornednice guy who actually takesthe advice of
this "post" will see ASF as the right move. He will take action, changehis aftinrde,
giving Foxes what they want, but making it so they do not want what they get.

You-can't-get-laidtauntsare unforgivable. They tell men that sex is a contest,that

getting laid most often by the best-lookingbodies determinesthe winner, and that if you
do not get laid you are a loser that somethingmust be wrong with. This would only be
true if Foxes always made the right choicesin men, which most of the time they do not.
We wind up with them claiming to be able to judge men while misjudging almost every
man they meet, rejecting the men they should be with, playing pornstar for the men they
should be avoiding, and lecturing the men that they wrongfully reject as convincingly as
a 400-poundperson lecturing a competitive bodybuilder on how to stay in shapethrough
eating right and exercise.

A fundamentalproblem even Foxes have is keepingmen sexuallysatisfied. They

are better at looking after their own needs than concerning themselveswith his. They
believe if they are a little sexy that this is good enough, and rarely maximize their true
sexual potential. Those few who do make the effort to truly satisfy men are rewarded
with their pick of the lot, more loyalty than most Foxes will ever know, and the true
appreciationof men who are relievednot to be punishedfor being men, for having sexual
desires, and for appreciatingthe fine female form. Foxes who don't measureup to
princes' higher sexual standardsput the blame on the male elite for having them, yet their
own fairy-tale expectationsare thought of as their birtlright. The double-standardis
nauseating,and createsa dearth of truly desirable Foxes, making it difficult for all but
the alpha-malesto reliably be able to secureone.

As ASF matures, the indoctrinationprocessbecomesmore efficient. With the

relatedwebsitescatalogingthe methods,newbiesare broughtup to speedquickly on how
to think and behave,what to say, and when to say it. As if assimilatedby the Borg, they
turn from caring. decentmen into misogynisticplayers who lose respectfor individual
women but who respect all women, in the Bill Clinton senseof the word, and who
t developthe necessarydistanceand attitudeto draw Foxesinto their lair. The Foxeshave
rl no one to blame but .themselves,for had they not dumped on the men prior to
a) indoctrination,,they would have been able to savethe nice guys they suddenlydeem so
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The Looks Screen

Ask a Fox if shewould be with her lover if all he caredaboutwas how shelooked
and how often she had sex with him, and she will say no. Ask her lover why he is with
her, and unless she is within earshot,he will usually say it is her body and the sex.
Nothing drives this point home more clearly than ASF: men want looks and sex (and
youth), and for this shallow sin they are not punished. The insistenceby Foxesthat men
ignore or minimize the one thing they want most is absurd. Insteadof just acceptingthe
fact that they are sexually desirable to all men and using ttrat desirability to choosethe
man who is best for them, Foxes require men to deny the truttr,,acting as if looks did not
matter, highlighting their other qualities, with the reward for his focus away from looks
and sex being more sex with a better-lookingFox than he has ever had in his life.

Recently,I havebecomevery sarcasticwith Foxesaboutthepower of their beauty.

I point out the tendencyfor them to reward men for pretending not to want their body,
sarcasticallyadding that they should considerthemselveslucky that men haven't caught
onto this yet, or they might lie in order to get laid. Talk to any Fox who is exiting a bad
relationshipand her most common reasonfor breakingit off will be that sherealizedshe
was being usedfor looks and sex. Despitethis, she will not changeher flawed selection
process, ffid if you want her to consider you as a lover, often you have to lie. A
minority of Foxes take the oppositeapproach,rewardinghonesty,so I cannotsay that all
of them reward lies, but far too many do. Even thoseFoxes who do value honestyhave
to be able to detectdishonesty,which is anotherexampleof how naturecan punisha nice
guy even when a Fox is well-intentioned.

The bias extendsway beyond sex into every area of life: her lovers want her for
her body, but so do her friends. She'll insist that her AFC groupiesare good men, not
like that, that they like her for her personality,but if you measurethe behavior of the
AFC (or read their confessionson ASF) you reahzequickly how Foxesinspire friendship
just as easily as they inspire sexual interest, and beyond that, they are elevatedto a
celebrity statuswhich makes it possiblefor them to cruise through life on looks alone.
This must remain unspoken, for the man who dares to speak the truth is hated, having
struck the ultimate raw nerve. Few Foxes are mature enoughto confront this reality.
Many have never known anything other th,anbeing young and beautiful, and do not learn
the cruel looks lessonsuntil much later in life, when their insight and the maturity that
comeswith it are useless,becausethey are no longer desirableto the men they used to
take for sranted.

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 While Foxes are allowed to screenmen for shallow reasons,even looks, and
especiallyheighf, which is as bigoted as it gets, sincea man cannotchangewhat he was
born with. That they also want men to be brilliant, successful,and popular in addition
to being tall and good-looking rules out most men immediately. By contrast, men are
very honestabouttheir preferences,with eachother, evenwith Foxes, but rarely are they
fully honest. Men will acknowledgebeing men and appreciatinga Fox, but they act as
if they wind up with them by accident, when in fact they are practicing somethingvery
slimy called slithering basedon qppearance. The processis so subtle that Foxes do not
pick up on it, and even when it is pointed out to them they prefer to remain in denial.

Foxes are unable to move through society without being approachedby men at all
rurns. Their professionaland personalrelationshipsconstitutea minefield where the next
approachor passis right around the corner, the net result being that they can find a man
anytimethey want. This createstwo typesof Foxes: thosewho alwayshave a boyfriend,
and those who are single by choice. A Fox who remains alone for any length of time is
a picky creature, ffid must be treated much differently from the ones who have their
replacementslined up before their current relationship ends. Players know to avoid
Foxes who screencarefully, and nice guys shouldlearn to avoid thosewho do not. The
times nice guys do wind up with Foxes, it is usually only after they have wised up
enough to take some time to evaluate their potential mates and do so correctly. Such
good fortune is rare, but it does occur. A broken clock is right twice a day, and even
a compulsivegambler wins a bet every now and then. Usually, however, the race is to
the swift, the fast-movingplayers of ASF.

Nice guys are conditionedto respeclFoxes, and part of that respectis not to think
of them primarily as sexual objects, even when they think that way themselves. In
theory, he is not supposedto care that his nice, loyal girlfriend doesn't fully turn him on,
becauseit would be wrong of him to put unrealistic pressureon her. Even a minor
offense to her sensibilities is enough to throw him into a guilt-ridden apology fit,
displaying his lack of backbonefor her to see, and to reject in favor of the man who
challengesher that she is not woman enough. It could not be any clearer that looks
screensare not punished,that even when a man valueslooks aboveall else, that he pays
no penalty and, as with. the other reasonsin this book, is sexually rewarded for being
shallow. This raisesthe recurring questionof why Foxes reward the very behaviorthey
,a claim to despiseyet again.
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consequences.She is more likely to find,men agreeingwith everythingshe says(except
ra for the jerks who know not to do this), telling her how intelligent and interestingshe is,
4' and convincingher on a constantbasisthat her opinionsmattermore than thoseof others,
a, her desiresare more importantto fulfill, that in every possibleway, her shit simply does
a, not stink. She finds herself treatedlike a piece of meat at the most unexpectedof times
ra in elevators, walking down the street, at the superTnarket,or anywhere she goes.
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Being by herself can be dangerous, as a number of men who go over the edge find
themselvesfixating on Foxesout of warpeddesireor hatred, sometimesraping, stalking, (
or evenkilling them. While the protectivebehavioris excusable,for the most part Foxes (
becomestuck-upbecauseit's easierto keepeveryonebut a few trustedindividualsat bay.
The problem lies not with the wolves in the darknessbut insteadwith that trusted few,
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who slipped through the cracks and fooled her into thinking they are different. Seeing
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a Fox insist that a shallow player is a sensitivegentlemanis enoughto make a nice guy
vomit repeatedly. (
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The insistence on a man not being too into a Fox's body is difficult to bear. No (
matter how ridiculous it is on the surface,the denial continues. The true motives surface
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indirectly: a Fox needsa job, and suddenlyten men are hiring; she needsan apartment,
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and suddenly they need roommates, and rent is optional! On the darker side, if she
mentionsthat shedoesn'tlike a man, she'll haveoffers of protection, to havethe problem (
taken care af, sometimesthrough violent means. The Foxier the damsel in distress,the (
more inspired the chivalry cavalry is to help her. I have seenfirsthand where Blutos and (
wannabe Prince Charmings tie such behavior to the body of the recipient of their (
assistance.One incident which sticks out in my mind involved a bartenderwho was big
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on defending Foxes, but whom I caught one time yelling at an older non-Elite who had
no physical inspiration left. It was one of the most patheticsights in my life. Had he . (
ever addresseda Fox that way he would have been risking severephysical harm. Men (
guard Foxes much the way they guard large amountsof money.
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Nice guys are very forgiving of the punishmentthey are dealt when a Fox lets a
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jerk who only wants her body and usesher for sex gets years with her, while the nice
guy gets platitudesabout one day finding his soulmatb. She considersher relationship (
as ideal, what the nice guy should strive for, yet what she thinks is a deep, spiritual I
connectionwith her boyfriend is often nothing more than her being on the wrong end of I
an ASF lay report. The Fox who revealsthat she was cheatedon for the past ten years
and didn't know it should remind herself that her faulty selectionprocessplaced the
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cheaterabovethe nice guy sherejected. One questionI use to taunt divorced Foxeswith
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is How can I be more like your ex so I can con a.fine young woman like you used to
be into having sex? Such negs are effective becausethey get the point across in a I
sardonicsoundbitetypical of one that Foxes themselveslove to use on men. {

Media portrayalsof nice guys shit on by Foxesfurther conditionour looks biases.

On Family Matters, Steve Urkel spendsyears chasingdown Laura Winslow, while on
A Different World, Dwayne chases'Whiteley and gets her after years of unrequited
pursuit. Readersfrom my era rememberJoanierebuffing Chachifor severalseasonson
Happy Days before finally giving in, causing Chachi to be so excited at finally getting
his chancethat he threw an apron up in the air as he walked out of Big Al's, burning
down the restaurant. In each case, the alleged nice guy had his attention fixated on a
Fox, and given the way each was treated, it would appear that looks were all that

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t'" but a shallow thing when a player does? Thesequestionshave no easy answers,but my
D position is that Foxes are society's prizes, ffid should be awarded to the men with the
b best character. Rarelv is this the case.
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The occasiorru,,rr.. guy who marries or dates a Fox for a long while, usually
4 someonewith a great deal going for him, often financially, is cited as proof ttrat nice
II guys win in the end. My research,experience,and observationhave indicated that even
Fl on the nice guy's home turf, the long-term relationshipor marriage, he loses. If you
2 want a great example of how this works, take a look at the Ted Nugent Behind The
-T Music specialon VH-1. You'll find Ted, one of the top alpha-malesof the 20th century
or any era, retiring from a career of what he now calls a sex addiction and settlipg
I? comfortably into the live of a devoted husbandand father. The messageto nice guys is
4 that it is okay to sow your wild oats as long as you turn nice in the end. If you know
I" from statisticsthat you are not going to catch a Fox's eye by being nice until you are
F? older, then it suitsyo to put off being the AFC until you yourself are mature. Otherwise,
FT you will wind up like me, waiting for the right young Fox (as in 18-21 years old) to
marry, and not having a chance with anyone in your target market until you approach
l? thirty.
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l' belief that it will improve their chances. If they hold out and remain single past college,
n as their career takesoff, they developenoughexperienceand alpha-malecharacteristics
n to make them a solid beta-male, a Richie Cunningham type any Fox would be proud to
introduceto her parentsas their new son-in-law. Fonzie can marry anytime he wants,
4 but as soon as he does he becomesa spinelessversion of Fonzie. Men like Fonzie and
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Ted Nugent tend to marry only after they find it more difficult to keep playing the field,
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and since relationshipsare new to them, they often becomevery devotedhusbands. In
4 doing so, they give just enoughcredibility to the belief that every Fox can tame a badboy,
;t when in fact few can. Those who do often admit to being drawn to the challenge, while
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those who fail to tame often expressregret and feel used. This is impossibleto avoid
when a hundredFoxes want to marry one player, as was certainly the casewith Nugent.

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Many jerks are men who experiencednothing but rejection through college, who
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found a subpar lover to tide them through their lean years, and who found their
popularity soar as they continued their education, their income rise as they enteredthe
workforce, and their desirabilityto the oppositesex appearto materializeout of nowhere.
1 Foxeshave afirazrngstatusradar, moving ,ayear or so aheadof a man's rise up the career
a ladder. Part of the emphasis on status, especially from the golddiggers, involves
4 recognizingpotential and giving credit for it. This is why male college studentsfind
a themselvesgetting laid regularly for the first time in their lives: their CUPID rating gets
a a boost becauseof their dreamsand inability to be thought of as a true failure for several
years into the foreseeablefunrre.
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Foxes. When they realue what is motivating the attention, they take a step back,
wondering why they should feel grateful that suddenlythey are mature enoughor wealthy
enough to be consideredworthy of the same Foxes who had treated them poorly for
years. With the shoe on the other foot, they often turn the tables, playing the field
mercilessly, taking what they want without regard for anything but their own desires,
much as had been done to them before they made it, and to them, turnabout is fair play.
Moreover, the prince seesas phony the suddenlywarm behaviorof the Foxes, motivated
not by any genuine interest in him, but by the same opportunism they used to criticize
him for having when in fact his problem was that he simply did not measureup. To the
victor belongsthe spoils.

Solutionsto society'slooks hangupsare few and far between. Nice guys are faced
with the choice of admitting that they are as shallow as the jerks, or settling for
somethingless than they want, while the Foxes will never be able to escapebeing sex
objects. It's not that men do not appreciatea brilliant, accomplished,Fox, just that they
will still judge her on her sexuality. Shecan have all the brains and stanrsshewants, but
the men will simply not care. This leads intelligent Foxes to seek out intelligent men,
only to learnthat most intelligentmen prefer to haveless-intelligentlovers who appreciate
their minds more. To a Fox not wise in the ways of the world, I have a lot more to offer
than to someonelike ChelseaClinton, who has seenmore of the world at her young age
than I probably ever will. Men like to be appreciatedand needed.

Being nice does not mean having to settlefor less than a Fox. It doesmean that
you will have a more difficult time acquiring one, but it can be done. Being good-
looking yourself is a good place to start, with nature and nurture playing equal roles.
You can't control nature,but you can do your bestto look as good as possiblegiven what
you were born with. The large majority of men are nowherenear their looks peaks,and
the men who take the time to pay attentionto this and other CUPID factors are rewarded.
Since you don't have to be a jerk to raise your CUPID rating, if you are looking for an
alternativethat lets you remain nice and honestwhile still having a chanceof getting what
you want, this is the answer for you.

Until Foxes change how they deal with their beauty, nice men are stuck with
having to adapt in some fashion to avoid being shut out. Putting up looks screensis
effective, but in doing so many nice guys will considerthat jerk behavior and avoid it.
I think it's time they stoppedpunishingthemselvesso badly and admittedtheir sexuality,
and what they want. Whether or not a ryan is nice should be measuredby how he acts
in nonsexualsiruations,not his genetically-wiredlooks preference. He cannot control
what nature has programmed into him, and making him apologize for that nanrre while
not doing the same for the jerks who are not only shallow, but dishonestabout it, is
wrong and leads Foxes to the emotionally slaughteringarrns of the wrong men.

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 Reason#I8:
The Pluck

You would think that a stripper eorning two grand a weekcould afford
somedancelessons.- Me

Strippers are compatible with me in that many of them are minddiggers, a lot of
them like hypnosis, but their lifestyle is such that I find myself relating much beler ro
professionallytraineddancers,particularly thosewho like middle-easterndance. That's
just a personalpreference. Although any Fox hasthe potentialto be a stripper, especially
in private, this reasonis devotedto the professionalvariety, the oneswho make excellent
livings teasingdesperatemen out of their money. Mystery is the only ASF regular who
hastruly conqueredstrippers,claiming eight to his belt already,a numberprobably closer
to a dozenby now. A few of his poststalk abouthow he seducesstrippersby going into
their clubs and acting like a fellow performer who just wandered in and is friends with
the DJ, but pulling this off is beyond the capability of most men. The nice guy who
wants to seducea stripper has a tricky time ahead.

The golden rule of lucking into a relationship with a stripper is to meet her away
from her club. I knew one nice guy with money and the player mentionedearlier who
were able to successfullyexecute the pluck, or picking up a stripper at her club and
bringing her home. The lifestyle of the typical nice guy is not suitedfor strippersunless

a they are looking to get out of the business,or are very discreet(which is rare), but in the
short-term, thesefactors do not come into play. We are told by dancersall the time that
a plucks are not possible,yet I know of severalon a firsthandbasis,ffid severalmore from
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news stories which demonstratethat the right man, or the right amount of money, can
catch lightning in a bottle. Nice guys who have no interestin strippersshould still give
rt this reasona clear look becausethe degreeof difficulty of a pluck is higher than almost
rD anything.

t Nice guys who meet strippers away from their clubs should take the Foxhunting
t approachand say that they don't date strippers. This might lead to her challengefetish
rD being triggeredand she'll have to seduceyou out of your viewpoint. Shouldthis happen
t to you. hold your ground for a little bit before caving in to make it look legitimate. On
the other hand, if you want to try your lqck in a strip club, it is best to know what and
t rvhatnot to do before your first trip into one. In the courseof my research,I visited area
t strip clubs for several months off and on, with different amountsof money, different
t attirudes.and pretty much the samelacklusterresults, with a few exceptions. I am not
t suitedto plucking, althoughif I went to the clubs long enoughI could seewhere it would
I happento me. Since I can operatein other environments,and seducestrippersI meet
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away from their clubs, I have no need to wastemy time and money trying to executea
pluck. Still, it is the ultimate pickup challenge. (

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Since strip clubs are basedon fantasy, is it unethical to turn the tableson a stripper
and becomeher farrtasy? A player, Foxhunter, nice guy, or any man who even daresto
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attempt a pluck has to respect the enormity of the task. Nothing should be taken for I
granted, ffid he will have to be on his guard at all times. Even then, a lot can go wrong. I
and if he picks a toxic stripper, a lot more can go wrong. I don't considerit a negative (
that I never did fully executea pluck, becausethe lifestyle is one I find abhorrent. The I
Foxhunter in me would be more inclined to just take a job at a club and let nature take
its course, not work against the grain by being the ultimate loser in her eyes: the
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customer. I
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The strip club is a microcosm of gender relations: the alpha-malesare the club I
bosses,who are rumored to get free sex as a perk of being in the businessor working in I
a high-rankingposition. The beta-malesare the wealthy customerswho help to keep the I
place in business. It's said that thesemen don't get laid for their money, but one has to
wonder if that's really true. Strippers I talk to say that for anywhere from $300.00- I
1,000.00,it is usuallypossibleto get them to losetheir religion temporarily. Long-term. I
a man has to be worth about $250,000.00or more to have a realistic shot at keepingher .f
happy, and he should be worth ten times that, so that he could blow that much a year on
her and not touch the principal.
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The rewards of a pluck are not worth it given the effort required to achieveit. If I
you happen to be on a CUPID mission, becomegreat-looking, wealthy, and achieve I
status,you'll be able to pick up strippers,but you'll also be able to pick up dancerswho I
have more sexual ability and no lifestyle problems. Drugs, high-risk behavior, and I
criminal activity surround this corner of the nightlife, and it's not really somethingthe (
nice guy is going to want in most cases. What appealsto him is the easy accesshe gets (
to Foxesfor a few extra dollars, with the lure that maybe,just maybe, he'll wind up with
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a pluck. Many strippershavemadenice livings leadingtheir customerson as expensively
as possible,sometimeswith deadly results. (
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In one of the most well-known casesof a well-intentionedgood-girl rewarding a {
jerk and punishingthe nice guys. StephanieRabinowttz,amain-line Philadelphialawyer. {
married her youthful sweetheart,Craig. Craig told Stephanieand her farnily that he
wanted to start a businessselling medical supplies,and designeda scirm for borrowing
money from Stephanie,her family, and their friends. Stephanienever knew anything was
wrong with the marriage, butunder Craig's nice exterior was a man living a doublelife.
The money he had raised for his businesswent not to building it, but to a stripper who
went by the name of Summer, and danced at Deliloh's Den (2nd and Spring Garden.
Philadelphiaand www.delilahs.com).

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 Summer and Craig provide a textbook example of what not to do at a strip club
if you are a customer and exactly what to do if you are a stripper. Leading him on,
expensively, Summer took Craig for every dollar he could stuff into her g-string,
extendingtheir relationship beyondthe club, taking money from him for rent, health club
memberships,expensiveclothes...nothingwas too good for Summer. Stephanie,on the
other hand, had just given birth to the Rabinowitzes'daughter,she was aging, and just
not enough for a winner like Craig, who was not only getting laid by his wife, but
probably by Summer as well. A customerwho spendsthat kind of cash will stop the
gravy train if the dancer doesn't come across. One look at Summer and another at
Stephaniehighlights his differential inspiration.

The game lasteduntil the money ran out, and Craig, who had been whipped into
a perpetualstateof sexualfrery by Summer,got desperate.He took out a $1.5 million
life-insurance policy on Stephanie, killed her by strangling her in the bathtub in an
attemptto collect the bounty, and coveredhis crime by telling police shedrowned. Right
before trial, he admitted to a morol disconnect that led him to not fully understandright
and wrong, which made sex with Summer more important than his wife and his child,
and which led him to murder Stephaniein cold blood. In return for his confession,for
which the city of Philadelphia thankedhim, Craig received a life term in prison, which
he is now serving. In an interview over a year after his incarceration,he said he still
missed Summer. Summer, who is dancing under another name at another area club,
spokehighly of Craig, probably to easehis time in prison more than as a reflection of
any genuinesentiment.

To Summer, Craig was a successfulbusinessmanwho treatedher like a queen.

That she was taking blood money never became apparent to her until after the fact.
Many lnen like Craig spendmoney on her, and the more they spend,the better they are
treated. Or so they think. What Mystery, the first player I snrdied, and my wealthy
friend who married a stripper prove, the best way to get sex with a stripper is to spend
nothing on her at the club. Money spent is money gone. Having money but not
spendingit like a Fox being sexy and refusing to have sex. Your bargainingpower is
highest before you spend your money, not after. Expectationsof sexual gratitude or
loyalty from a stripper who has alreadypocketedyour money is foolish. Having money
is an advantage.but not if you give it away.

Most players who wind up with strippersthey meet at clubs either meet them at
regular dance clubs, through friends, or by working at the clubs themselves. A true
pluck is rare without money or drugs beipg involved. Choreographyand hypnosiswere
the onlv two gimmicks that sparkedenoughinterestin the strippersI met where it would
have evelt becomepossible. After one attemptat contactwith a stripper outsideher club
u'hich did not materialize (to teach her hypnosis), ffiy researchtime was up and my
n'lone\ found better uses. It makes very little sensefor me to choosean exotic dancer
*'ith a large male following when I can isolatea dancerwho is into me and me alone, or

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me imd only a few rivals. I get all the looks benefits,an easierconquest,betterdancing, (
and the samesex. I
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The rules I presenthere in the form of a pluck report which could come from any
ASF player are designedfor the higher-classclubs. Lower-classstrip clubs, or what I
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call skank bars, are places where Foxhunters can make out like bandits, but you won't
want to. I went to a skank bar once on a Friday night and was offered two numbers, one I
by a Fox who was beautiful, young, new in town, and wantedto learn hypnosis(there's I
that gimmick again). I declined both offers though I was never more popular in a strip I
bar than with the skanks, who hadn't seen a guy in a suit in forever I guess. At the (
larger clubs, pickups don't happen so easily, becausethe dancers don't want to be
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rescuedfrom the environment the way the skanks do. Plucks from skank bars do not
count. T
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In this "post,''a'genius" combinesall pickuptechniques
to executethe pluck: (
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I did it guys!! I PLUCKED a stripperfrom her club!! Never thought it would
happen,and it kindahappenedby accident,but I'll take it. Shewas HOT! Fucking C
INCREDIBLE!! Let me tell you how it all happened:
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I'm at the mall eatingmy dinner when thesetrvo 9s I met at a party a week ago sit .C
down next to me. One sits acrossand the other next to me, with soms immediate
kino. The oneacrossgetsup to get somefood, andwhile she'sgoneher tiiend starts
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flirting with me. Kino getsheavyand by the time her friend getsbackwe look like e
a couple. Sheeventeasesus, askingwhenthe weddingis. My confidenceis up, so (
I get cocky and say "dependson how tonight goes." They both blush and get a
wickedlook in their eyes. I
"Reallynow!" says"my" 9, while the otherone movesa little closer. "Anclwhat
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pray tell did you havein mind? I tell the other9 that she'll haveto hearaboutit orr I
the phone tomorrow and could she pleaselet us get going on our date. My (
decisiveness caughtthem offg;uardand they liked it! The other 9 stopscockblocking
and ejects, leaving my new "girlfriend" and I to get to know each other. I know
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from this NG that I'm alreadyhomewith her and I relax completely,readyto let the (
eveningunfold.
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We're driving aroundin my car (herswas left at the mall), and she saysshehas to (
go to the bathroom. At the nextexit is a STRIPCLUB, and I point to her, laughing. (
"Let's go!" she says,but I can't tell if she'sexcitedby the club, the bathroom,or
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both. As we're rushingin (timewas becominga SERIOUSfactor),I ask her if she
wantsto just usethe bathroomor get a table,and shelooksat me for a second,says
"get a table!" and rusheson. When shecomesbackto my table,I tell her I ordered
:
her a glassof wine and beerfor myself(I don't like gettingtoo drunk too early since
it slowsme down).

Soonas shesits down the dancerscan't taketheir eyesoffmy table. They realvel
noticethemlookingso they stop,but theymakea point of stoppingby andwhenthey
do they aren'tquick to bum for tips or rush offlike I thoughtthey would. I felt more
like I was at a regularbar or club. No wonder HB love going out! They get treated
like fuskingROYALTY. Socialproof was in full e-f-f-e-c-tthistime as well because

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 if I had gonetherealoneI'd havebeenjust anotherloser,but shelookedbetterthan
almost all of the dancersand she was with ME.

We hangfor aboutan hour, andmy dategivesme oneof thoseit's-time-to-golooks.

She'salso in a hurry. I don't want to supplicateso I tell her to chill out a few more
minutes,and shewaits,but impatiently.SinceSHEjust supplicated with that I speed
it up a bit and we headout backto the parkinglot. As we're walking, shegrabsrne
CLOSE,touchesa few privateplaces,and says"I havea surprisefor you." I askher
what and shewon't tell me, but when we get to the car I seeone of the dancerstiom
the club waiting for us. I don't know how she pulled that off and I don't want to
know hut my first pluck and first threesomeis worth a mention out here.

My advicefor going to strip clubs:

Bring a date!! Obviouslyshewas bi or shewouldn't have wantedto stay. Expert

advice:bring a datewho could work at the club becauseshecan get the dancershot
without you having to do the work. Don't tip becauseif they want you they won't
care and if you do tip they'll just want more. Let them danceall they want for you
and touch you but don't act interestedin anythingbut your date. Dou't stay long
either becauseif something'sgonnahappenthe dancerwill want to catchyou betore
you leave, since she can get distractedperformingon stageor called over to the
couchesor champagnerooms. Rememberwhen you go in with a datethey already
know you're desirable,so you don't haveto impressthem. Ignoringthem irnpresses
thernmore.

If this sound easy, it shouldtell you something:players always make it look easy
and narural. Had he gone out with the idea of the pluck in his head, it probably wouldn't
have happened. Also note the key maneuverat the mall cafeteriawhere he ditched the
cockblock so he could be alone, a bit ironic given how the evening ended up. His
ditching of the cockblock was correct, becausehe knew he had one sure thing and didn't
Il want it deteriorating.
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1l Only at the tail-end of my strip club visits (all alone, none with dates or even
a pivots) did I begin to learn how to work the hypnosisgimmick. Occasionally,a stripper
would ask me to hypnotize her in the club, but I quickly surmised that this would not
a work well, becausethey have to remain in control in their environmentsand their guard
a will go up naturally, preventingthem from enteringa really deep trance. I did manage
a to get one under briefly on my own and that led to a rather inexpensiveand long
a lapdance($10.00 for a half-hour, during which she came six times), but when I started
a using the energy of the club, I made somereal progress. This next "post" is basedon
an experienceI had at anotherclub right after the failed phone-numberpluck (I probably
a actedtoo slow by not asking her to meet me right after her shift). Here, I put a dancer
a under in a very creative way, with the help of anotherdancer:
a
a For guys who know hypnosisreally well and want somethingto try at strip clubs,
here'sa cute trick I'm developingthat has a lot of potential. Insteadof thinking of
a SSingor hypnotizinga danceryourself,you canuseonedancerto hypnotizeanother!
a I did this by going to a local club with my pendantaroundmy neck (it's a crystal),

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(and are hungrier for tips).

I order a long-islandiced teaand tip the bartendera few bucks(bartenderslove being

tippedwell sincethe dancersget most of the money),and when a dancer(9.1) stops
by sheasksaboutmy pendant. I tell her I use it to do hypnosisat parties,and she
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gets interested. I then tell her that I teachhypnosisto dancersand she gets more
interested. She asks what I teach and I tell them it's how to hypnotize with I
movement. Sheasksme if I could teachher or hypnotizeher and I told her the club
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was a bad placebut if shegot me anotherdancerto help I might be able to pull it off.
Shebails for a secondand comesback with as closeto a 10 as I've seenin weeks. (
Shewas PERFECT for the role of decoyherebecauseshehad an exotic look. I tell (
the 9.1 to work the club for a while and let me talk to the 10, so I canget her ready.
I tell the l0 what to do and shelikes the plan. Turns out she'sbi and has a thing for (
the 9.1. PERFECT!!! The l0 leavesto go up on stage,and the 9.1 returnsat her
signal. Sheasksme what I'm going to do, and I told her to just relax, listen,and
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watchas the 10 comeson stase. (
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The l0 startsout dancingnonnally,but shequickly isolateson the 9.1 I tell the 9.1
not to take her eyesoff the 10 at all, and that she'sgoing to like what she seesand (
becomevery relaxed. I guideher into the chair next to me and tell her to mentally (
draw a triangle on the body of the l0 betweenher eyesand her navel, and to let her
eyesmovealongthe triangleas if theywereball bearingsmovingalonga track. Her (
eyesloosenedimmediatelyand I beganusingkino in combinationwith my commands .(
to get her readyto drop. Onceshewas into a blank stare,her eyes glazed,watching
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the l0 on stage,I useda stagehypnosistrick, tappedher fbrehead,and said "you
haveto sleepnow!" SheDROPPED!!! I kepther underuntil the l0 camebackand I
said "she'sall yours." We had somefun with her beforeI woke her up with the
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suggestionthat shewould perform like an animalin heatfrom now on, and that she'd
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I had achieved. (

Now it's pretty clear where Craig went wrong. His only drawing card was his I
money, and when that ran out, he was finished (as was Stephanie,unfortunately). This I
is why I advise Foxhuntersnot to use money to get laid until they have reachedtheir (
magic number, or the amountat which they can live nicely off investmentreturns without I
touching their principle. At a minimum, this would be about $250,000.00,while at a I
maximum, onceyou get past$10 million, you're probablyokay. Bill Gatescould easily'
retire, toss $100.00 bills at strippersevery minute for the rest of his life, and wouldn't
even begin to touch his. Sincebillionairespatronizestrip clubs, your money is going to
look like chump changein comparison. Once you have enoughto pay her more than the
club can without hurting your nest egg, you can execute a pluck almost any time you
want, becauseno stripper in her right mind who liked and trusted you would rather dance
in a club with all its risks than to just take the money from you. In the absenceof such
wealth, the other ways to seduce are with your looks, brains, personality, or a
combinationof all three. Attitude and seductiontechniqueslike thosein ASF complete
the picture.

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 If you go to a strip club, don't expectto get laid unlessit's for money or drugs.
From what I'm told, drug dealers are very popular in the clubs, as are those connected
to organized crime, who often are friendly with those who run the clubs. Not all clubs
are like this, but the perception has existed for a while, and I'm sure there is truth to it
in some places, while in others there is not. I do know that being rich or violent or
connectedto the underworld won't work againstyou, and that should say somethingabout
the prospects for the nice guys. If you have a stripper who is repelled by the
environment,she might be open to you. Otherwise,you'll need somethingspecialand
different to offer her. or vou aren't likelv to attract her attention at work.

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If there is one techniqueevery nice guy should learn, it is how to use pivots. If e
you are going to be spendingmajor platonic time with Foxes, you might as well use that e
time to your benefit. Nothing accomplishesthis like the pivot. On the one hand, I am
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pleasedto have seenmy Friendly Fox creationexplodeinto ASF theory (it is universally
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acceptednow), but on the other, I get annoyedwhen I seeplayers using it to run up the
score. The original purposeof the pivot was to level the playing field for the nice gqy, e
not to give the jerk yet another advantage. The burden is on the nice guys to heed the e
warning and start using pivots themselves. There is nothing wrong with building your e
rep. Avoiding premature loyalty to one Fox and circulation will usually cure your
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isolationproblems. Foxes like male friends anyway becausethey do not hit on them.
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At some point, Foxes are going to have to stop reacting to pivots. It's too easy
for men to win the game this way. For the time being, until the market digests this
simple concept, the near-surefireway for any man, no mater how inadequatehe thinks
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he may be, to becomepopular with women is to acquireone quality pivot to get the ball
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rolling. You need not become a jerk to make use of this. In Foxes.,I outline a few
scenarioswhere pivots can easily be acquired: c
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l. Utihty Foxes. A utility Fox is one who relies on you for some form d
of utility, such as free car repair, computerhelp, etc. If you keep
the fake-positive attitudemost of the time, and one day you wind up
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in a conversationwith your utility Fox about your love life and how
you want it to improve (preferably right before sheneedsthe utility), e
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she will often agree to function as your pivot. Fear of loss of the
utility will be the true motivation, but on the surfaceshe'll just say
she'sdoing it becauseyou're sucha nice guy (we have to bribe them
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to call us nice, apparently). You neednot ask her directly. Justgo
out ds friends and let nature take its course, as explained in Foxes.
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by waiting for a Fox to ask me why I never go out. The simple c
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reply that I don't want to go out without female cornpanybecauseit
hurts my reputation often provokes a responsethat she can fix the e
problem. Even without the pivot angle, this is still my preference,
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becauseI considersocializingalone to be a waste of time. I don't
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have several hours a night to build a social circle, and want what
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 preemption, you can explain how the pivot works to Foxes, how
players use it, and how you feel you have to in order to level the
playing field.

3. LIBF. The old standby: "I promise not to make a move on you."
Cute, isn't it? She thinks he's a gentleman when in fact he's
Kasparovusing her as a pawn. Poeticjustice, especiallyafter he has
used her successfullyto build his rep, she wants him, and he no
longer needsher.

As a nice guy, you have two choices:go out alone and face ridicule, or bring
along a pivot and be popular. As the pluck exampleindicates,pivots are powerful. Even
when bisexualityis not involved, being seenwith a Fox gives you a sealof approvalthat
looks, brains, or money cannotbuy, becauseyou've alreadyachievedthe objectivesthat
having thosethings is supposedto help you achieve. You becomean instantwinner, and
since everyoneloves a winner, you becomemore and more of one as your popularity
begins to feed on itself.

Creatinga pivot post is easy,but for this ASF-styleexplanation,I'll pull up an old

story that Boards told me, in the voice he would use if he were posting himself:

Hey guys. Love the group. Somesuggestions: keepthe reponsON-TOPICand cut

the flaming. No onegivesa rat's assaboutanythingbut what they canuseto get laid
here. In that spirit, I will makemy only postto this group. I'm not a bigtimeplayer
like you guys. Natureonly blessedme with a strongmind. I'm 5'7", scrawny,but
well-educated, from a good family, and I move in somepretty interestingcircles.
They call me "boards"because the only time I get laid.bythe beautifulwomenI want
is on the rebound.If a manhits,cheats,lies, ordoessomething elseto get dumped,
- I'rn the guy shecallsand criesto.
1l After a while of beingan emotionaltampon,I beganto learnhow to takeadvantage
- of this. I'm not onefor bullshitso I'm not going to strokeher ego or lie to her to

a get laid, but I will let her tell me what went wrong so I can eat it up. I tell thern
what they shouldlook for in their next guy, and off I go into LIBF land. Sometimes
a I can lay them on the rebound,but I don't haveto. I like the oneswho breakup with
a a new guy etery two weeksbecauseI make friends with their new guys, sincethey
want my approval after I show them what they do wrong. The guys are usually
- really desirableand becomequick friendswith me, which opensup a world of other
a women. Do this a few timeswith the right pivotsand your socialcirclewill literally
explode. Beingaccepted by alpha-males improvesyour statusright beforea woman's
a eyes,and shejust acceptsyou as part of the in crowd.
a I usea lot of the otherstuff in this group, like negs(sarcasticones),massage(great
) fitr rehoundingbecausethey're alwaysstressedafter a breakup),social proof and
a pivots, althoughI'm not much for approaches.For that I haveonepivot who helps
rnea lot - Belle. Bellecan't sayenoughgoodthingsaboutme andanyonewho likes
a her, male or female,winds up liking me. She likes me becauseI neverhit on her
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Boardsusedpivots of both gendersto accumulatehis Fox harem, and rebounding e
to closethe deal. It u'orked for him. [n 1988, he met a strongsub-Elitehe becamea
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couple with an hour after meeting, they married shortly after that, and as far as I know
they are still married. Boardsdid what most men with low CIJPID ratings, which is to e
find one Fox *'ho valueshis strongpoints (i.e., his brains and status),and not let go. e
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time. He succeedsas a nice guy becausehe knows his strengthsand plays to them, and e
was Lhepriman inspirationfor the anti-playermethodsdescribedat the end of the book.
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down fronr his vieu's that Foxesdump all over nice guys, and his debateskills were so
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and using them. Screenvour pivots for beautyand how much time they spendwith you,
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keepingas man) as )'ou can around. For the man who has not yet seduceda Fox, it is
the ideal steppingstone.especiallyif you developyour'seductiontechniqueso that you e
can capitahzeon the opporrunitiespresentedby the pivots. Boardswent to the ultimate e
extrerne,using ever\''onehe knew as a pivot of someform or other, but he had to because e
he had little to break the ice with otherwise. The extent to which you will have to
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Chick Logic

Logic is a wreath of prery flowers that smells very bad - Spock

Chick logic is the processby which Foxesjustify their behavior and their choices
of men. Men agreewith chick logic becausenot doing so entailsthe risk of rejectionand
even ostracization. The following "post" is taken from a one-night stand I had a while
back, where I used the reverse-timetabletechniqueexplainedin Foxes to refute her chick
logic and score the lay:

This lay repoft is simplebut it's typical of how chick logic works. I havethis first
datewith a Pennchick (sciencemajor, cute,abouta6.6, with a l0 mind), and it's
going real well. We get back to her placeand I wind up massagingher on the couch.
The inevitablesex issueis raisedand shestartstelling me shehas to wait beforeshe
hops into bed with a guy. I decideto try a little reversepsychologyon her and tell
her that I agreewith her, and that we shouldwait a YEAR. This threw her off-guard
so much to the point that we were in bed fifteen minuteslater. Fucking chick logic!
I love it!!

Her chick logic was suchthat once I showedher I was willing to wait for sex, she
had no need to withhold it from me any longer. She wanted to have sex anyway, and in
her mind that was all the excusesheneeded. Chick logic is a valuabletool for the player
that surfacesin almost every ASF discussion. One surprisingexampleis the number of
playerswho were able to get laid when the Foxes they wanted found out they were not
after a relationship! They didn't want to break his heart, but once they learnedthat all
he wanted was sex, that was all they cared about! Nice guys lose out on a lot of great
sex with Foxes who either do not want to hurt them or who fear being judged morally
inferior.

Chick logic in cOnversationcan be maddeningto the nice guy. He knows that

uhen it's usedon him that usually she is either lying or just plain stupid, and either one
uill tick hirn off. When shehooksup with an equallyillogical, stupidplayer (so srupid
but he gets laid anyway), his frustration intensifies. He doesn't want to confront her,
becausehe has beentaught that this is rude, but unlesssomethingchanges,he knows he
\\on't be getting laid for a long time. The only thing left to changeis himself, and when
- he reachesthat point of realizatron,it's off to ASF he goes, with yet anothernice guy
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Taking Off Her Shirt

Nice men usedto think that Foxesmerely toleratedjerk behavior. More and more
evidenceis surfacing that they not only tolerate it but seek out and reward rt. One post
that struck me on ASF was about a man whose pickup technique was to somehow
convinceFoxes he just met in bars to remove their shirts. I've actually seenthis myself
at somelocal college bars, but figured it was spontaneous.That a Fox would removeher
shirt on the spur of the moment is one thing, but for it to be planned all along by some
jerk is incredulous. For it to work saysa lot about how Foxes think.

Another application of this techniquewith better chancesof a lay resulting would

be the good, old-fashionedskinny-dip. As the player who posted about the shirt man in
the bars pointed out, once you are in the right environment with a Fox, even in public,
you can sometimesget her to remove her clothing. It becomelogical, then, to consider
ways of arranging a skinny dip. Hanging by water on a wann summer night would thus
be ideal, with certain climatesmore conducivethan others.

I gave this techniquereason statusbecauseit shows how far apart players are in
their thinking from nice guys. They plan situationswhere Foxes literally strip for them,
and make it appear spontaneous. As an objective observer, Foxes have no difficulty
seeingthrough a transparenttechnique,but when they are drunk at a club, they often get
wild. Note how they put themselvesin positionswhere they know they are going to get
wild, so fhe nice guy has to concludethat this behavior is actually in their nature and that
it's up to the men to bring it out of them

When Foxes ralk about wanttng exciting, playful,, spontaneousmen, this is what
they are referring to a lot of the time. The reality behind their descriptions is often
enoughto make the nice guys want to puke, but what can be done about it? I would like
to report that the number of decent Foxes is greater than the number who are removing
their clothesfor near-strangersin bars, but I also know that I am much more likely to be
able to get a Fox I just met to go skinny-dippingwith me than to keep her in a long-terrn
relationship. The sex supply for playerson all levels is far greaterthan it is for the nice
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F One has to admire the audacity of Foxes sometimes:a man who judges them on
F the basisof their bodies is thought a shallow pig who is only after one thing, yet they can
F rule out all men under six feet tall and write it off as a mere preference. He is
Ft admonishedto look beyond the surface,to what she has inside, which, as we all know,
Fr is what counts. On USENET, and every other messageboard I've ever postedto, others

F will make the occasionalpost which dealswith height bigotry, as most of the other men
who post are either tall and don't care about the issue, or they're short and not in the
rt mood to endure being tauntedthat the only reasonthey are posting is that they are bitter
tt and short. Consequently,I have wound up as a torchbearer of sorts, the rare tall man
rr who sticks up for his short brothers, a man who at 6'2" is immune to the you're just
f" bitter becauseyou sre shorf arguments.
F| Your height and her height bigotry will not change, but you can use it to your
Fr advantagebecauseFoxes have no real justification for it other than the same casemen
l'f try to make for being into looks. Anytime you broach the subject, she will want you to
F' changeit, becausethere is no way shecan legitimatelydefendher preference, excepton
F|) the sameshallowgroundsmen have beenusing to justify their selectionprocessfor eons.
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basedon factorswhich can be regulatedby behavior(suchas weight), whereashersjudge
a man on the basis of something he was born with. 'That a looks bias in men is
4 considereda problem while a worse bias in reverse is not speaksvolumes to how
1 conditionedwe are to the double standard.
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a standpoint,I am. My life definitely has beenmade easierdue to my height. I know of
many sinrationswhere I have been treatedwith more respect,including job interviews,
1 becauseI was taller. For short-term relationships,it's a good thing, becausethose
a, attractionsare superficialin nature, and any advantageI can gain over my rivals is good
a for me. When it comesto the long-term, however, any advantageI gain by being tall
1 is offset by the fact that the only Foxes my height helps me with are height bigots, and
a I'd rather have a Fox who wasn't one. Among height bigots, the only Foxes I will
considerlong-terrnare thosewho restrict their bigotry only to sexualselection,and who
a give rnen equitabletreatmentotherwise,suchas in employmentor a nonsexualsiruation.
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a wants a Fox on the basis of her chest size. Since breast-sizeis somethingone is born
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expandsmy menu. Foxes can find many quality men simply by dropping their height
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Mystery is 6'5", and many of the otherswho are most successfulare over 6'. Those
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bride is 6" shorterthan her grooffi, which leavesfew Foxesunder 5'for the men who
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that he will seeher true feelings,along with a heapinghelping of insults, including taunts
that he has short man's attitude, a complex abouthis height, and the worst lie of all: that
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uphill battle. The Artist Formerly Known As Prince is all of five feet tall, and has had e
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The Cockblock

Even players have problems sometimes. The cockblock refers to someonewho

establishes himself or herself as a deliberateobstacleto your getting laid. Nice guys and
jerks alike encounterthis, where well-meaning "friends" of the pickup target interfering
with their rop, destroying the pickup opportunity. Sometimes this is because the
cockblockdoesn't want you hitting on her friend, but just as often it is the result of her
being jealous of the attention her better-looking friend is receiving. Cockblocks are
annoying, and give the jerk yet anotheradvanhge, becausehe does the correct thing and
stopsthe world until the obstacleis removed, while the nice guy doesnothing. Note the
stripper example where the first thing the player did was remove the cockblock even
though things were going well.

In a recent case of a Fox I met online, I had to laugh when her friend started
discouraging her from talking to me without even bothering to get to know me. The
friend was online the next day and I askedher if it was her personalmission to keepgood
men out of her friend's life, and that I didn't appreciatebeing badmouthedby someone
p I had never met. I wound up dating her friend anyway, but I could seewhere her friend
? would have kept shier men than myself away or slowed them down. Nice men don't
want to be rude to cockblocks, and often wind up killing golden oppornrnitiesbecause
F they fail to assertthemselves. Male cockblocksare usually AFC friends, but it's the
a female variety that causesthe true damage. Playerson ASF point out how cockblocks
a work, interrupting conversations,dragging their friends away from you, badmouthingyou
rl in the bathroom, and are always on the lookout for this cancer, eradicatingit whenever
a they find it, while the nice guy lets the tumor grow until his chancesdie.
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ability to answer any situationquickly enoughto help the player on an ongoing and as-
rl neededbasis. Insteadof.being criticrzedfor their goal of getting laid, they get practical,
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Lying Pays

Factoring out the clearly abusivemen for a moment, most Foxes considera man
who lies a jerk. Confront a Fox with her mistakesin choosingliars in the past, and she
will usually defend herself by saying somethinglike but at least I got rid of him when
Ifound out. Unfornrnatelyfor her, shegot rid of him after he got what he wanted(sex),
and before she got what she wanted (commitment). This is akin to a restaurantgetting
rid of a customerafter he has eatenthe meal but before he has paid the dinner check.
Lying turns ever),rule of relationshipsupside-down,becausewhen a liar and an honest
m&n want the same Fox, the liar will win every time. The reason for this is simple:
Foxesdo not check for honesty. Until they check, and until they can handlehonesty,the
jerks' lies will remain unpunished,while nice guys continueto get the shaft.

Nice gu),slose out to liars becauseliars are not restrictedby truth or ethics. A liar
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he is lacking, while your honestman is stuck with the plain old truth.
Liars haveno qualmsaboutusing Foxesfor sex, mistreatingthem, or doing anythingelse
that the power they give to the lie allows them to. Pausefor a moment and contemplate
what Foxestell nice guys who are lied to, used, or otherwisemistreated:

Don't blame all womenfor the actions of one. A Fox burned by a liar
will use that experienceto justify intensescreeningof future men, with a
processthat weedsout nice guys even more efficiently becausethey don't
now how to bypassthe screens. On the other hand, a man who is burned
is supposedto come back for more with a smile on his face, and without
complaint. much like Charlie Brown kicking the football even when he
knows that Lucy is going to pull it away. Be careful not to respondto this
by saying it was more than one becauseshe will put the blame on you as
the common denominator. My rebuttal is that one need not have beenhit
by a car to know not to play in traffic.

Wat did you do to deseme being treated like shit? Chick logic: she
wouldn't hurt a man who didn't somehowdeseruert. She loves a jerk, he
hits her, and she figures she wouldn't have been hit if she hadn't done
somethingwrong. She gives the abuserthe power, and doesn't question
him the way she would a nice guy that shehas no respectfor. She views
the abuser's treatment of her as a barometer of her self-worth, but
amazingly, when a decent, honestman comesaround and treats her well,
she never acceptshis opinion, at least not until she has been sufficiently
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that the only step a man can take to not allow himself to be harmed is to
stop trusting her, and if he does that, suddenly she wants to win him back
F over, changehim back into the man she was treating like shit and rejecting,
f. just as Lucy becomessweetwhen she wants Chuck to trust her yet again.
Ff The only time he has the upper hand is when he behaveslike a jerk and
rf refusesto kick the football, not trusting Lucy due to past experience. Ever
wonder how she recognizesthe signs of a burned man so easily? It's
fin becauseshe has inflicted it in the past

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blaming the victim. Complain to her about being lied to, and she will crrticize you for
FI being a victim. It's a true no-win sinrationthat puts the nice guys at a disadvantage:he
h has to be honest,put himself in a position to be lied to, and not complain if he winds up
Fr betrayed. His lack of sexual experienceworks againsthim, becausehe usually won't
know how to turn her or, she will sense this, dismiss him as a lover, and their
I! conversationswill stall becausehe doesn'tknow how to get where he wants to go and she
I! has no desire to take him there. She then wants to repel him, and to do so she starts
f, lying, becauseshe correctly presumesthat he can't handlethe truth or turn her on in any
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dishonestabout their desires. Actually, they can, but to do so they have to play the
a secret-slutgame, and she cavesin. The only alternativeto this is honesty,ffid that's not
a somethingwe seemto be ready for. The words of Jack Nicholson's characterin A Few
a GoodMen ring loud: YOU CAN'T HAMLE THE TRUTH! ! Can you? Do you really
want to know that the innocent, sweet Fox who treats you like a kid brother is really
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playing pornstarfor a lying jerk? Do you really, really, reolly want to know that the Fox
! who told you to wait for six months while she makesup her mind on whether you are
! worthy of a date is out {here spreadingher legs for a man who treated her as just a
! number and a slut? My experiencewith men who are confrontedwith reality is that they
! react emotionally and angry, becauseit is not what they want to believe. That it's ttre
a trutlt seelnsto matter not at all to them, becausethat is not how the world should be.
a It may be wrong, but it is reality. Jerks are much more in touch with reality than most
nice guys. and as a result they get laid a lot more. Foxes despisecluelessmen, as
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! truly wanted honesty as they claim, they would not dive into a relationship with a
superficiallyattractiveman andhopehe is honest,but they do. A Fox swept off her feet
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get one of the standarddismissalsabout being a bitter loser who can't get laid and is G
jealous of her prince, who will sit by, snickeringat what a loser you are, and after she C
is done with you, will continueto laugh at you while they have sex. The final insult of
the guy switch from one liar to anothermakes it very difficult for a nice guy to sit by and
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saving you time. If she has sex a hundred times with a liar in one year, and can't find
time to evendateme, she'sgarbageand I'm betteroff withouther. I've broken off mapy e
friendshipsor buddingrelationshipswhen I felt shewas giving too much respectto a jerk e
and not enoughto me. Without pressuring,sometimeswithout even notifying, I let her e
know with words and actionsthat I don't like her rewardingthis behavior, and I consider e
her to be a jerk just like the men. This has to be done with timing and tact, to mintmize
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disappointment and cynicism that she is like the rest. This setsup for a returning Fox
scenariowhen she finally tires of the liar, and wants to make a statementto herself that e
she is maturing, by treatingme with respect. As long as you don't let her return on the e
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will screw over thosethey don't like (who desemeit, of course), ffid so forth. The old €
saying that like attracts like applies. Who among men hasn't been lied to, at the most €
unexpectedof times and for the most irrational of reasons? Lying is often used as a shit e
test, but it goes beyond that.
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but which is actually the worst reason,is to spare his feelings. It's not that they aren't e
trying to sparehis feelings when they lie about why they reject him, or vrhat they truly e
think about him, but insteadthat the reasongiven is yet another lie in and of itself!! e
Foxes do not lie to spare your feelings; they lie to sp&re their own image. Does she
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uh1 tre liars never have to wait long before finding a lover? What she believesbut
ne\ er adrnits is that life is divided into winners and losers, and that being honestand
pla) ing bv the rules is for losers. This is not surprising,given that the rules are bent for
her all the time. A man who actuallyhas a senseof ethicsmight considerit wrong to do
this for her, while a jerk who wants to get in her pantsand who has no ethicswill alter
fate in her favor without breaking a sweat or batting an eye.

If you want to check a Fox's honestyand ethics, ild get a preview of how your
breakup will go down, get her talking about people she doesn't like and see how she
treats them. If she brags to you about lying to others, you can be pretry sure she's
bragging to others about lying to you. Foxes are amazng when it comes to not making
this connection, for they think they are so special that a man who lies to others wouldn't
dare lie to them, but they are usually just fooling themselves, which they find out
eventually. Smart Foxes find this out earlier than later. If you don't take a standagainst
the first lie, you are inviting them to lie to you as a matter of course,which is not good.

If Foxes are going to behavethis woy, they cannotturn around and complain when
men take countermeasures.ASF spawnedfrom male frustration at being manipulatedand
mistreated. Overcompensationin turning the tables is a natural, though primal response.
If Foxes are going to rig the game in favor of jerks, men, who want sex, are going to
behaveas they perceivethey have to in order to get laid. The ASF explosionin the past
year, and the malignant growth of websites which derive material from the group, is
evidencethat a seriousmovement is afoot. The men may be jerks now, but there was
a time when they were honest. It is only after being lied to one too many times that they
turn the tablesand show the Foxes how the game can be played.

One trick that ASF exposedfrom lying Foxes that I had never heard of involves
their taking phonenumbersfrom one man and giving them to the next who asksfor them,
or collecting them and never calling. How can nice men do nothing in the face of this?
It's one thing to be nice if they respondin kind, but when they lie through their teeth,
rrrock.and ridicule you becauseyou are nice, it's time to draw the line. How dare those
decentmen approachthem politely, respecttheir privacy by offering their number, and
take them on their word that they will call! How dare they!! No good deed or nice guy
goesunpunished,and nothing is going to changeuntil Foxesstoppunishingmen for being
nice. and men start punishingFoxes for being dishonest. I-lntil the affectedpartiestake
action to irnprove their situation, nothing will change. If the Foxes take action, the net
result is more nice guys on the planet, while if it is left up to the men to change,then the
7' populationof jerks will explode. ASF and its websitessay that the latter is playing out
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looks go, or until she marries a man she winds up divorcing after giving him the best
years of her life. If I were willing to settle for leftovers and damagedgoods, I would
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realizedthat the smooth-talkersthey thought were princeswerejust faking it, they decide (
that a nice guy is worth getting to know. While I appreciatebeing wanted, it is not a (
compliment of any kind for a Fox to give her best years and her first children to a man (
who does not deservethem, and then expecting me to rebuild Humpty Dumpty.
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infuriate nice gu,vs, and it does. The problem nice guys face is that they have no (
recourseor even ways of complaining about the way things are without being attacked (
as bitter losers who were burned and cannot get laid. These taunts only reinforce their (
notion that Foxes are cruel, that lying pays, ild sooner or later they read enough
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punishinghonesty. They say sex is not a scoring contestyet they brand a loser any man . (
who cannot get it at the moment, and even many who can. They say looks are not (
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and what they reward are polar opposites. The typical ASF player may appearto be (
cruel. but he only becamethat way after exhaustingall of his other options.
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bad, but also becauseit would crush the nice guy to hear that she really thinks he is a (
dickless wonder, but that he's good to keep around as a girffiend. Moreover, they (
concludethat the jerks cannotbe lied to becausethey might get mad and retaliate. The
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retaliate,andjerks being treatedwith respectout of fear. Until nice men start speaking (
up en masseabout this, and hold their ground, nothing will change. What bothersme I
personally is that no matter how often he is lied to, no matter how blatantly, and no
matter how obvious it is that the Fox he insistsis sweetand innocentis actually a secret
slut, he just can't accepther dishonestyor the idea ttrat her characterisn't completely
pure. Men like this make life miserablefor other men, becausethey are traitors to both
their own gender and to the truth.

When a Fox lies to a man, she expectshim to just get over it, tells him it was his
fault for trusting her, leaving him to stew in his betrayal. When a player lies to a Fox.
he becomespublic enemy #1, and the woman-scornedreaction kicks in. The double-
standard is incredible. Nice men are too bothered by guilt to handle being caught in
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order to get laid. The sexualrevolution is to blame for a lot of this, becausein the past,
a nran had to walk down the aisle before he got laid, and for him to win that honor from
a For. he had to have somethinggoing for him, althoughif he was a cheater,she would
otten stick out a lovelessmarriage for the sake of convenience,financial support, and
reputation.

In the final analysis, Foxes have to be held completely accountablefor lying men
becausethey are the oneswho continueto tolerateand reward them even when presented
with evidence, or alternatives to the player. Hearing what they want to hear and
believing what they want to believe is more important to them than whether or not what
they are hearing is true. When askedspecificallyhow they can tell their man is honest,
a Fox will begin by protesting that sheTus/knows, and when it is pointed out to her that
this is impossible, she will concedethat she does not know for sure, but that at some
point you have to trust. Trusting a man becausehe used patterns from a website is
stupidity, but calling the Foxes snrpid for doing this is a way to wind up retaliated
against. They complain about a problem they create, ask for the truth, get mad when
they hear it, and refuse to changetheir behavior even when the solution is obvious. The
psychologistshave a tenn for people like this: beyond help. By ttre time most Foxes
wake up and rcalize what they are costing themselves,it is too late, for their looks,
youth, and purity are all but gone.

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The shit tests I talked about earlier can take many forms:
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done, or what ASF calls next. The theory is that she can't be too (
interestedif she's willing to blow him off, so he should just write her off (
and leave it to her to up the ante upon her return. This is a common shit (
test where you pass if you do the jerk thing and do not call her again, and
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you fail if you act like a nice guy and call, assuming she must have
forgotten to keep in touch. I
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he's just been severelydisrespected,and saysnothing becausehe thinks he
will be punishedfor complaining. Playersdon't concernthemselveswith
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the punishment, and through ASF have learned to temper their righteous .l
anger just enough to get their point across without going over the edge. I
This is the attinrde that Foxes are obviously looking for when they give a I
shit test like this, and many postersreport quick reversalsafter they pass I
the test.
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Bringing a friend along on a date. A true player would walk away in the I
opening minutes unless a threesomewas on the horizon, while a nice guy (
would "enjoy" a lovely platonic evening at his expensefor all three. As I
with other shit tests, this one can only be passedwith an immediate and I
correct response,which most nice men either wouldn't think of giving, or
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even if they would, they are too well-manneredto bite back the rattlesnake.
If you aren't aiming for a threesome,eject the cockblock. I
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Timetables. As you've seenrepeatedly,once shedecidesthat you are who I
she wants to have sex with, she'll put out. A Fox who truly wants you is
not going to leave you on the market. The nice guy loses double to this
maneuver becausehe thinks she is taking her time to judge him properly,
when in fact she'sjust keeping the upper hand or using him while stringing
him along. Jerks don't tolerate this treatment, and don't hesitateto let
Foxesknow that they won't be playedlike the AFC they are usedto dealing
with. Pivots and letting her know that you have other options are efficient
ways of getting her to reduceor releasealtogetherany timetable shehas set
for vou. In Foxes.I wrote about the reversetimetable, where you turn the

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having sex. The Chick Logic example(Reason#20) demonstraresthis.

Lame excuses. When shewants somethingshe will move heavenand earth

to make it happen. Her failure to do so, to allow banal obstaclesto get in
the way of somethingshe insistsshe wants to do, is a major red flag. One
excuseis fine if her overall treatmentof you is not suspect,but be very
careful with how much you tolerate. Always keep in mind what Foxesdo
for men that they respect (like Mystery), and if her behavior doesn't
measureup, just don't tolerateit. Be especiallycautiouswhen you notice
a Macy's Excuse Parade.

The key to recognizng the shit test is to ask yourself if she would treat her
favorite male movie star as she did you, and if the answer is yes, monitor how long it
takesfor her to make it up to you, and to what lengthsshe goes. This will tell you what
she thinks of you. Too many men have been too whipped, for too long, by too many
Foxes becausethey refuse to call them on their shit. The players who do this wind up
cleaningup becausethey are the only men display backbone. It is obviously incorrect
for her to mistake your tolerancefor weakness,but that is chick logic for you. How
often did Spock get laid, anyway?

Before you write off shit tests as cruelty, they do serve one purpose, and that is
to seehow much shit you can protect her from, or how much you would be willing to
take from others as a couple on her behalf. Her chick logic reasoningis that the man
who won't take her crap will not take crap from others, and will be a more desirable
partner as a result. What she doesn't take into accountis that the only thing a shit test
proves is how he will react to her crap. A decent, honest, civilized, ffid evolved man
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may be very tolerant with a Fox he's consideringmarrying, yet ferociouswith outsiders
4 when the nest is attacked.
a The next time a Fox gives you crap, take it as a test, pass the test, and then
4 decline the prize, at least at flrst, to see if she ups the ante. Let her know that respect
4 is a two-way street, and you don't appreciatehaving your manhoodtested. If you're a
ta Foxhunter,use one-and-doneand wait for her to return, requiring sex or somethingof
a strong value as the price of admission for her to reenter your life. If you insist on
{ renraininga nice guy, rememberthat there's a differencebetweenbeing nice and being
a stupid.arld that while you can alwaysbe civilized, you won't let her walk all over you.
You are ro blame for allowing it, but only on a practical level. If the only mistakeyou
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e\ er tuake is trusting her, you shouldnot be punishedfor that. If you are punished,take
i) the ne\\' inf onnation about her negative character and adjust your future behavior
a accordingl)'by ignoring her and refusingto take further shit. You don't have to dish out
e anr shit in retaliation,as shamefor being fooled by someonebeginsaccruingthe second
t time. not the first.
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Shit testsare part of the overall covert selectionprocesswhich has Foxesactivel-r I
screeningout decentmen. As such, it is one of the primary causesof the jerk problenr I
that they complain aboutbut never do anythingto solve. If passingone is a sign that 1'ou I
are worthy, giving one is a sign that she is unworthy. Players will not reject a Fox I
becauseshe gives shit tests,becauseher body is what impressesthem, not her rnind or
her character. They seetheseflaws as necessaryevils to gettingthe pussythey want, and
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they are right. Men do not lose their ethicseasily, but seeingFoxes who have no ethics I
makesit much easierfor them to do so without guilt. As I have said a few dozen times I
already. if they thought lying men were jerks, they wouldn't be having sex with them. I
and if they,thought honesty was so important, they wouldn't be so quick to trust what I
they want to hear to be true, even when it soundstoo good to possibly be.
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The compulsive-gambleraccountingsystemthat has one honestgesturefrom one I
Fox offsetting dozensor even hundredsof lies has got to go. A Fox lying in a sexual I
relationshipwill hurt a nice guy as badly as a bungee-cordsnapping. He can write off I
one or two lies, but when it is perpetual, he cannot deny forever what is really I
happening. ASF is always there, calling him, using the lure of the Fox revealinghow
she really thinks and behaves,and sooneror later his sexualurges dominatehis thoughts,
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getting laid becomesmore important than how he gets laid, and after his indoctrination. t
he is never quite the same. The concessionFoxes then pop out of the woodwork asking
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him why he felt the need to change, and why he won't give them a chanceand change
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Even When You Win. You Lose

Ever been told that one day you'll find someonewho makes all the crap you had
to endure worthwhile? Don't buy it. I bought into this when I was eighteenyears old

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and waiting for that nice young Fox to settle down with and start a tamily. I was too
young, not establishedenough (for golddiggers), not mature enough, or just about
anything but the truth, which is that I was too nice. I bought into feminist propaganda
that kept the biases from the pre-civil rights era intact, despite their claims of wanting

F equality. As a reward for my kindness, I wound up lied to a number of times, and am

still waiting for that wife. I have no trouble finding short-terrncompatibility, but most
Foxes lack the ethics to sustaina long-terrn pairing.

F Once I realized that Foxes act differently from how they say they act, I beganthe

F
researchprocesswhich has led to both my books, and to the creation of CUPID, my
compatibility formula. Aside from any other profit motive for researchingand writing,
my mission is to educateyounger men in the ways of the Fox so that he does not have

E to waste years before waking up the way I did. The internet didn't exist in the 1980s,
and men, especiallyyoungermen, were left to their own devicesto learn how to seduce.

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The information superhighwayof that ERA consistedof Playboy and Penthouse.

What happens to the typical AFC over the course of his life can be best
sunrmarizedwith the following life progressionfor the typical nice guy, contrastedwith
rr that of the jerk:
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Fr Age Nice Guy Jerk
rr Gets laid like a bandit, gets
It rejectedby the oppositesex. At best, respect. Sometimesbeatsup on
rr he hears that things will get better, to nice guys, sometimesat the request
It pacify him with false hope. of the oppositesex.
p 18-22 Has l-2 relationships,usually by Gets laid like a bandit, has a Fox
p accident,with non-Elites,who have harem wanting to tame him and get
FI
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the upper hand from start to finish. him to settledown. Joins frat.
It Spendsparents' money.
f lr-3t) Gets a job, careerprospectsbegin Gets a job from a frat brother,
rt looking good, gets the occasional money, a car, and gets laid like a
r, lover, but has to beg for everything bandit.
r|) and pay through the nose.
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30-45 Loses his looks, ages,makesmore (

Dates lB-24 year olds who like
money, settlesfor leftovers and older, controiling men. Risesto (
damagedgoods, or, if he can afford managementdue to take-no-shit (
it, golddiggers' attitude. Divorces wife for trophy I
if married. Gets laid like a bandit. (
45+ Too old. Renounces previousways Too old. Renouncesprevious ways (
and runsoff with a 19 year_old and settlesdown with gorgeous
waitresswho takespity on him. I
young model, with whom he raises (
a familv.
When I first went online a little over five years ago, (
I was surprised to find so
many women hitting on me. I was never the super-outgoing
type, but something was I
causing them to want to talk to me. At first, I took
noticed what 95 percentof thesewomen had in common,
it as a compliment, but when I I
I realized what was going on: I
l. They were over thirty; I
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2. They were divorced, usualrywith ex-husbandprobrems; I
and
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They had children.
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on the alt'romance newsgroup, females who fall
into the above category are
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referred to as leftovers and damigei goods. Arrogant
in their youth when they are ar a
their sexiest,many Foxes spendttreirpii-r years*iltrt
loser afterioser, marry the wrong a
man' wake up after so many years of mistreatment,
themselvesback on the martet, ten years older, ignored
leave the marriage, and find a
Iooks, and get a rude awakeningabout their ,.",lii
by the players who are only into
market value. 'it . charming assholes
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who would sweet-talk them all night in their youth
suddenly want no part of them, and
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they turn their attention to the nici guys they had
been ignoring forever. I
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How a nice guy reactsto being offered the dinner
taken during her youth dependson the man. Some
check for a bad boy,s buffet I
are grateful to finally not be rejected, I
while othersare offendedthat they waited so long
to wise up. The former Fox often has (
problems adjusting, still thinking she has the
ufper hand, and only after a few brutal
remindersdo they begin to adjust their expectations,
if they are smart. The onesmy age I
who are on the market have very little clue of what
they are up against. They want their
past mistakesforgotten, they want to be treated
as if they *br.-rtill twenty-one,never
married, and with no children' but it. is almost impossibie
to build a relaiionshipwith
them for many reasons,including:

l' Her children will alwayscomefirst. I do not mind this,

but it takes
awaythe,childfree yearswith her thatthejerk enjoyed. It alsosays
that he deservesto have children and have them raised
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F deserveonly to raise anotherman's child. I refuse to ever accept

F being cuckoldedthrough divorce.

F 2. Her children may not like me becauseI'm not their father, and
frankly, I don't blame them becauseit is natural for a child to want
its natural parents. The man who takes on children which are not

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his will have all of the responsibility and none of the authority of a
natural parent.

She has already been married and raised a family. If you are
divorced yourself, you're exempt, but I pity the single man who

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waits for years to take sloppy secondson a car that has a quarter-
million miles on it put there by someother driver. If it were my car
when it was new, I wouldn't tlrow it away just becauseit was old,
Ft and the memories of when it was a young, new, fast car would
It satisfy me even if it didn't go as fast as it once did. To ask me to
rt take anotherman's memoriesand build on them just isn't possible.

rt I used to wonder why older divorceeshook up with younger men, but through my
It researchI reahzedthat it was the samedynamic that yields Dudley Moore/SusanAnton
rr type height odd-couples. A Former Fox is past her prime, while younger men have not
rt yet reachedtheirs. She is much more likely to overlook their lack of financial security,
career accomplishments,and even maturity in return for having a grateful, loyal
l'l companion. Long-term problemsarisewhen her lover approachestwenty-five and thirty
Ff that his suddensexualsuccesswas not an accident,but a product of his age, advancing
Ff career,and increasingmarket value. As he's realizing this, his older woman turns into
p an old woman.
Ff In the fifteen yearsfollowing the typical weddingday, the man's rnarketvalue will
Ff usually rise, while the bride's beginsplummeting. Foxes marry right before their stock
to
p is about to drop and right before his is about to rise. The First Wives' Club explained
to its audiencethe syndromeof the successfulman dumping his first wife for a trophy
tf lralf his age. Many a young Fox have tragically married men who think forever means
tf until you are forQ, the kids are raised, and your looks are gone, not learning of their
p misukesuntil it is too late.
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Nice men who endure romantic torture early in life should be rewarded later in
II lit-e. If a jerk is worth a gorgeousvirgin,,eighteenyear-oldbride, then a nice guy should
ro not settlefor anything less. This is especiallytrue of men who have takenthe trouble to
f, becomeexceptionallyappealing, and who sometimestake a while to forget their past
rejectionsand acceptthat they are now the onesin the driver's seat,just as the leftovers
and damaged goods don't fully understandhow far their sexual market value has
plumrneted.

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American Woman! Stav Awav From Me!! G
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The Guess Who's biggest hit, remade recently by Lenny Kravitz, exudes a G
sentimentgrowing among a segmentof the American male population so fed up with the lF
selectionin its home country that it has expandedits searchoverseas. The typical mail- G
order bride customer is betweenthe ages of 25-45, well off, and lacking in the jerk e
qualitiesthat American Foxesdesireso badly. After yearsof rejection,he learnsof sure
things overseas,placesor respondsto personalads, or in somecases,travels there.on
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vacation, and make outs like a bandit. Two men who post regularly to ASF and C
USENET have spoutedoff regularly about the flaws of Americans, and the advantages e
of ignoring them altogetherin favor of superior imports from Russia,The Philippines, C
and anywherethat feminism hasn't entirely taken hold. e
In the following post, a man called DB has an exchangewith a woman over his
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decision to marry abroad. DB has endured a lot of criticism for his decision, and e
exposedanother female darkside, provoking taunts from Americans that he has to go C
overseasbecausehe is not good enough. DB countersthis criticism by stating,correctly C
for the most part, that American Foxes make horrible choices in men when they are C
young and most attractive, and only when they are no longer able to get by on their
looks, and no longer wantedby the jerks, do they turn into decenthuman beings,but by
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the time they do they are sexuallyworthless,old, often divorced, with children, and not C
somethinga self-respectingor desirableman would take for his first wife. As a man who C
haspatientlywaited for a wife sinceage eighteen,I would be inclined to agreewith him. c
I'm willing to have lessseriousrelationshipsto passtime while waiting for my soulmate, G
but for men who want to start a family, it is insanity to play a mating game that is rigged
againstthem.
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American men thrive overseasbecauseAmerica is wealthier than almost any other lF
country in the world. A man who earns an average salary here and who can offer c
American cttizenshipto a Fox in a war-torn, poor country is going to be treated like a
king by her. If he is smart, he will not let on that this is his objective, he will travel to
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their countries, observethem in their own environment, and not work with marriage
agencies,which is where the horror storiesyou hear about tend to originate. It makes C
perfect senseto expand one's dating cirple to include the globe, especiallygiven the lF
financial superiorityof the averageAmerican man. It seemsthat American Foxesaren't C
too thrilled with their new competition,as the exchangeindicates: €

> > The first is confirmed by the number of bitter divorceeswith kids around.
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> Perhapsshe shouldconsultyou first for approvalon her dates?

AS I SAID, if shehadn'tchosenso badly,she'dnot be divorced.Whatpart of thatdidn't you

understand?

DB is pointing out the number of American Foxes who marry young and insist they have
tound the perfect man, only to get a rude awakeningdown the road, yet who expect the
romantic equivalentof a Mulligan, with a new prince, even if their market value has been
cut to ten percent of what it once was, ffid they have another man's children in tow.
American men are so popular overseasthat at almost any age they could find a young
Fox with little difficulty. Dianne knows this, and has very little solid ground to standon:

> > And yes, many of us can spot the ConfidentExcitingAssholes a mile away,
> > like the slimy little weaselmy cousinmarriedand later (predictably)
> > divorced.

> So'/ Why do you care? It is her life. Let her live her life how she
>wants. You live your life how you want. You don't needall this hate
) and angeragainstotherpeople. They don't carethat you hatethem,
> it doesn'thurt themafterall, only you.

I don't hateanyone,silly one.

And it doesmatterto me, becauseI was willing to settlefor damagedgoods,beforeturning

to Asianwomen.

As Ray hasstatedso well, Americanwomenwastetheir bestyearson assholes, becausethey

car).rea.sonably nice guy later in life.
sure that they can find somedesperate

If rnoremen marry overseas,the damagedgoodswon't havethat option anymore,and will

spendtheir yearsalone.Hopefully youngergirls will seethis and not act the siuneway.

Besides,if I can savejust oneman from settlingfor leftoversand damagedgoods,by rnaking

him awareof benerchoicesoverseas.it's all worth it.

DB

ConfidentExcitingAssholesare those smooth-talkingliars that Foxes gush over.

7) DB mocks them quite well with his label, which points out that Foxes definition of a
t confident. exciting man is his definition of an asshole. DB is also correct when he says
a) that super-arroganceis a trait found more often in America than overseas. He cites
a) feminism as the cause,but I cite America's wealth. Foxes in poorer countriescan't
afford to be sruckup, while their American counterpartscan. The selectionprocessis
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the sameall over the world, but his standingis much higher abroad.
a)
a) A caution to men who Foxhunt overseas:it's risky. Check the news for more
a) information. On the other hand, the mere threatof the Foreign Fox is useful as leverage.
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Forget ASF if you want to seejust how evil some Foxes really are. Pay a visit
sometime to alt.support.divorce(ASD), alt.support.domestic-violence (ASDV), or ?
alt.support.marriage (ASM) if you want the stuff daytime talk shows are made of. The ?
saddestof the nice guys can be found in this group, usually after age thirty, after their ?
wife has left them for anotherman (or Fox or couple), taken the kids, filed for divorce,
made false allegationsof abuse,and lifted a large chunk of their assetsand future income
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to pay for her new life and new lover.
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ASF has sparked a minor gender war, but some civility is maintainedbecause e
dating is a recreational activity. Where the major battle is being fought is in the other ?
newsgroupS,which are highlighting a growing anti-feminist sentimentamong men. Men
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who are in favor of gender equality are finding that their tolerance of feminist causesis
being pushedto the limits by women who want not only equality, but supremacy. ?
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What percentageof rape allegationsare false? Feminists acknowledgea low ?
number, usually around five percent, while men's groups claim it's closer to fifty ?
percent. My personalguessas a statisticianwould be thirty percent,but there is no way
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to know for sure. What we do know is that DNA technology has allowed for the
reopeningof a number of rape caseswhere a man behind bars was releasedonce the
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DNA evidencein the casewas examined. ?
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The following USENET post (from alt.support.domestic-violence) highlightsjust €
how disturbing some female behavior can be. With society so protectiveof Foxes, and
so quick to believetheir allegations,this has createda downright dangerousenvirorunent
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for the men. To wit:
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A womanhasallegedthat four men--amongthem,her ex-boyfriendandhis father-in-law--of €
breakinginto her homeand rapingher. Troubleis, DNA evidencefound at the scenedoesn't
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rnatcheither of their DNA profiles (the other two "suspects",if they exist, haven't beerr
caught),plus their fingerprintsweren't found either! No signsof semenon her, either. e
Ah, but here'sthe best part--ttriswoman,whoseidentityis beingwithheldaccordingto the
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Gkrbe'spoliciesconcerningthesetypes of.cases,presentedtapesallegingthat the accused a
contactedher after he'd beencharged,so they revokedhis bail and lockedhim up. Thett,
tapeswere found to havebeenFAKED! And the womanpresented
up()nanalysis--the faked
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once...not
tapes...not twice...butTHREETIMES!! €

Has she been chargedwith presentingfake evidence? No!! Has she been chargedwith
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at despiteno DNA evidencelinking him to the allegedrape and the fact that the victim has ou
,t tltreeoccasionspresenteddeliberatelydoctoredevidence?No!!
,t "The questionremains: How long will this allegedvictim be allowedto abusethe systeln
r) hefore she herself is incarcerated?"---RobertA. George,defenseattorneyfor the accused.
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a Many men have had their lives ruined by such false allegations,and a backlashis
developing,especiallyamongfatherswho are sick of beingportrayedas absentdeadbeats
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when the reality is that it is often the mother who is turning the children againsthim and
a denying his accessto his own children. A number of men do not meet their financial
a support obligations, but this is also in part to the unrealistic expectationsof the system
,f on a man's income. You can blame the men all you want for getting into a bad marriage
rt and having children, but you can't get blood from a stone either. Destroying a child.'s
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father after a divorce is no way to help it heal, yet this is what many ex-wivesdo. Men
do it as well, but this is a book about female behavior, not male behavior. Foxes often
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claim to be morally superior to men, and caseslike this show the oppositeto be true.
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,J Whether it is a false rape or abuseallegation,or evenjust standinga man up for
rt a date, men learn over time that the number of bad apples out there is a lot greater than
rt they would haveus believe. Is it any wonder that men stop trying to impressFoxes, stop
caring if they win them over, and adopt a fuck-it attinrde? Once they have their new
rt attitudein place, Foxes suddenlytake an interest,and this further rewardsjerk behavior.
rt To criti cvzemen for doing what has been done to them for years is difficult, just as
I rewarding bad behavior with sex makes it impossibleto stop. If all that is waiting for
t the nice guy at the end of the rainbow is a false rape or abusecharge,and the loss of his
rt money, and what is waiting for the players is a harem, the choice betweenbeing a nice
guy or a jerk becomesclear.
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r' Foxes who complain aboutjerks so much should stop enablingthem. How does
rt this enablingtake place? [Jpon approach,by requiring men to be confidentto the point
t of cockinessor even obnoxiousness,in the initial conversation,by auditioningthem and
rD requiring them to be exciting and witty, in dating, by requiring them to behave like a
player and not show sincereinterest,and in all situationsby respondingto socialproof,
rD eimmicks, tricks, SS, hypnosis,and anythingelsethat finds its way onto ASF. Nice rnen
TD also needto stop enablingFoxes by being their friends no matter how badly they are shit
rD on. b1' misinterpretingtheir behavior, by learning to acceptthe reality that most Foxes
rD are selfish,dishonest,shallow, manipulative,childish, and actually respectjerks more
rD thur they do, and by refusingto evenassociatewith thoseFoxeswho do not respectthem
as nlen. Much better is to spendyour soqial time with Foxes who respectyou enough
rD to date )/ou or serve as your pivots than it is to waste it with thosewho will use you to
rD \ our tace and mock you behindyour back. The absenceof any meaningfulchangein the
D \\ a\ Foxes act necessitatesa change in the way the nice guys act, the sooner the
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Why Men Are Jerks e
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Men are not jerks. Not at first, at least. e
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It's only after somethingI call the line in the sand game Foxes play that drives C
men to distraction, that they becomeuncaring, not becausethey are, but becauseafter CI
trying their best and failing to live up to the unrealistic expectationsof the one they truly
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love, they reahze that their feelings never matter, only her agenda. Now if they are
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wealthy or handsomeor something that Foxes want, they will always be treated like
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kings. For averagemen it is much different.
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Whereasmen tend to not want leftoversand damagedgoods after they have been
ruined by bad-boy behavior, women are the opposite:they don't want a man IINTIL he
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has been hurt badly, tt which point they will notice his anger and ask something
ingeniouslike You are angry at women, aren't you?, or Why do you hate women?,, e
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when the answer is blatantly obvious.
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Three unansweredquestionsplague this psychodrama: CI
l. Why does she wait until he has had his heart smashedto show
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compassion?If shewantedhim to not give up, why doesn't shefind
a man who hasn't been destroyedyet? This type of man is the
polite, nice-guy that Foxes say be patient to; in other words, they
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ignore him when he is whole and wait until he is shatteredto express e
compassion,which really isn't compassionin most cases.
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2. Why does the Fox he truly loves not appreciateit? The answer
women give is not valid: You picked the wrong one. The wrong e
ones don't wear labels; and they are never the wrong ones in the C
beginning. In fact, they are quite nice until they have gotten what 6,
they wanted, at which point they turn into a bitch, not caring if they
hurt the man becausethey are done with him and once he no longer
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suits their purposes. This makes him jaded, especially when he
considershow well the players do with the wrong ones. I
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if that trust is violated? If he sayshe doesn't trust her, she saysYou e
have to trust, yet if he has been burned, she saysIt was your fault e
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neighborhoodat2:00 a.m. on a Friday night with $5,000.00in cash
on display if they think trust is so important.

Eventually, the nice guy learns not to open up, and to be jaded, cynical, and
distant. This of course is smart behavior that makes him attractive. They reallu;ehe is
onto them, and he becomesa challengeto get closeto, plus a dissidentto win back over.
It's the sitmereasonpolitical candidatesspendtime campaigningto win over voters from
the oppositeparty. Then the game-playingbegins, with her pretending to be interested
in order to get him to let his guard down, the more he refusesthe more she will trv. and
insist that he hos to trust her, etc., etc.

If he lets his guard down, he returns to the situation above and gets burned. The
longer he resists this urge, the more intriguing he becomes,for he is finally displaying
strengthand passion. This perceptionof strengthhooks her, and she obsessesover him
while ignoring the nice men who haven't yet reachedthis point. There you have it: only
a true ierk (actually a man who has been burned one too many times and refusesro get
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the trust-and-burncycle.

Foxes like to put themselvesin impossible situations with a man, to test his
resolve, and hope and pray that the if he passesthe test that he will just forgive and
forgive her shit test, no matter how calculatedand awful the behavior. In casJswhere
he has beenburned by anotherFox they use a cute transitivetrick to accomplishthis: the
one who hurts you will say I don't care and the ones who (pretend to) care will say 1
didn't hurt you. The man has absolutelyno redressfor his anger, and no choice but to
let the crimes againsthim go unpunished. The only reliable alternativero sucking it up
and being a glutton for punishment is to become a player.
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a feelings, as he is SUPPOSEDto do, and is punishedfor it if the rruth is not whar she
a wants to hear. On the other hand, if he stopscaring, stopsletting his desirescontrol his
a emotions,stopsgoing out of his way for Foxes,'andstopsgiving them the benefit of the
a doubt, they will forever try to change him back into the man they ignored in the first
a place.
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a heartbreak,but to many it is simply not worth the risk, especiallywhen one can have
aa incrediblesex with Foxes and no emotionalprice to pay. A Fox is not a man and cannot
a understandthat he will only take so many chancesbefore he becomesa jerk, and when
a he finally achievesjerkdom he will rule her gendersexuallyfor the rest of his life.
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inherently evil. If Foxes offered sex to the man who fed the most hungry, housedthe
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up to savethe world. They use their sexualinfluencefor selfishpurposesinstead,such e,
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insteadof those less fornrnate. In dating, the samething happens,with a man constantly
finding himself at a fork in the road where acting like a nice guy will doom the
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Many of the men who post to ASF point out that for years they were nice guys
who got screwed over, that one day they got fed up with being mistreated, found the
newsgroup, began asking questions,pieced the puzzle together, got laid more than they
ever have before, and never looked back. As they comparenoteswith other players, the
mysterious qualities about Foxes ttrat made them impossible for most men to figure out
began to unravel. Men like Mystery showed how you can work even hostile social
situationsto your advanhge, and just about every regular contributor would add a trick
here or there that had been used on him, only to find responsesfrom several men that
they had experiencedthe samething.

The conclusionof my researchinto the nice-guy/jerkdebatecomesdown in favor

of what I call anti-player seduction. Within that framework, nice guys can be anything
from aloof and distant to whining and complaining, and they can still competeon equal
footing with the players. The teenagerscall it playa-hating, with accomplishedplaya-
hatasachievingdegree(Ph.D.) status. The playa-hatais a one-womanplaya, as cool as
the players, but he useshis cool for good, rather than evil. A future Fox ttrat I know of
was cheatedon for severalmonths by a Ph.D. who made a big point of talking about
soulmatesand loyalty, proving that even reputednice guys can be players in disguise.
With even civilized behavior suspect,what is the nice guy to do? The anti-player
methods in this chapter are my recommendationfor putting the rest of this book into
practice.

My conversationswith Foxes about this book and its contentshave been arnazrng.
Identifying the nice-guy problem from all its anglestook me fifteen years and was more
difficult than designingFoxhunting. In Foxes,I was presentingmy personalseduction
method,telling rnenhow to becomedesirable,how to interpretfemalebehavior,and how
to create and maximize seduction opportunity. Since it was my method, ild since
Darwinism's rules are so clear, once I had the systemdown in my head, putting it on
paper was simplicity. The nice-guy problem was not so easy to tackle prior to ASF.
Fen'jerks had ever previouslyoutlinedtheir seductionmethodsin suchdetail that I could
undersLand how they think. Even after ASF, I was wrestling with the definition of nice
gu)' andjerk, attemptingto documenta,problem for a group of people I couldn't even
classif'\'. I decided finally that for thesepurposes,a nice guy is one who behavesin a
\\'a) \'ou would expect Foxes to prefer over jerk behavior. The nice guy problem is
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poorly they are treated. Their declarationof ethics is an invitation to Foxes to betray
him, becausea nice man wouldn't fight back evenwhen harmed,nor would he careabout
such shallow considerationsas how his lovers look, or how easily or how often they put
out. In their minds it is perfectly logical to caterto a jerk's looks bias becauseas a jerk,
how she looks mattersto him, while a nice guy isn't supposedto care. She can mistreat
him without fear of retaliationbecauseshe believesnice guys are not vindictive, or too
weak, and as such it is their lot in life to tolerate the psychological abuse and
pigeonholingthat a jerk wouldn't put up with for even one minute. The price for being
a nice guy is not gettinglaid while getting respect,and for being a jerk it is losing respect
while getting laid. Since our respectdrive is not as strong as our sex drive, the rewards
for being a jerk are too strong for most men to resist

Like all problems, this one has to be attackedat its root, which I have identified
as the looks screen(Reason#17). Looks screensare not nice, so the nice guys wind up
taking the wrong path at the fork in the road, giving equal credibility and value to Foxes
and non-Elites alike, approachingseductionwith the attitude that looks count, but only
a little, that it is okay as long as a woman is not repulsive to him, and that if he winds
up with a Fox, it is okay, as long as he didn't pursue her becauseof how they look.
Players take the opposite approach, treating non-Elites as if they do not exist, or as
consolationprizes if they do exist, restricting their interactionand building their social
universe on a foundation of beauty. If you want to seehow this works in practice, try
accumulatingten pivots, approachas often as you have to in order to accomplishyour
goal. For the first group of five pivots, do not factor in looks, but make sure the second
group consistsof five Foxes. What you will find is that you have built two foundations
for your love life, one which cannothelp but yield a Fox, .while the other cannothelp but
find you a nice woman who appreciatesyou, becauseyou aren't somejerk who discards
her for not being good-lookingenough.

With the looks screen,you have a small number of players isolating on an even
smaller number of Foxes, hitting on them constantly,all soundingalike, but making it
just a matter of time before one slips throughthe cracks,removing a Fox from the market
with ruthlessefficiency. She becomestaken, unavailable,for a period as brief as a few
weeks or months or as long as a twenty years or until her looks are gone, and the nice
guys never know what hit them. The numbers-gameapproachcausesthe jerks to hit on
an unlimited number of Foxes, while the nice guys gravitate towards more realistic
options, with the end result being that both will be successfuleventually, with the jerk
getting the Fox for no other reasonthan this is the leaguehe choseto play in. As I tell
Foxhuntersall the time, a looks screenis critical becauseyou are literally wasting your
time with anyonewho does not measureup physically. If nice guys say this is shallow
behavior, they should ask themselveswhy they care about losing out in the first place.
I would counter this myself by saying that nice men deserveFoxes more than jerks do,
on principle, and that being nice has nothing to do with wanting a Fox.

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convincing themselvesthat her man is not like other men, that he wants her for much
rnore than her body, even when it is obvious that she is wrong. The player enablesher
denial by emphasizingher special qualities,and she validateshis enablingby using him
as proof that she has a great mind or personality. She requires him to lie in order to get
into her pants, effectively screeningout men who are not willing to lie to get laid. In a
typical ASF scenario,a Fox is chosenafter passingthe looks screen,is approachedunder
pretext designedto make her think it is destiny or fate, and she refuses to punish either
the screenor the pretext, resulting in punishmentfor men who don't use either tactic, for
they do not reap the rewards. Shewinds up perpetuallytaken by one looksdiggingplayer
after another, with the nice men never getting a chancebecausethe jerks are working ten
times harder to win her over. This doesnot even accountfor the Foxeswho seekout the
jerks, detnonstratingthat evenwhen nice men are notpunisheddirectly, they are punished
by nature and the reward system.

The looks screensetsthe tone for a player's entire love life. His world becomes
a place wherenon-Elitessimply do not exist. Oncethe critical shallowtest is passed,he
relatesnormally, becoming friends with some Foxes, flirting with others, and being
rejected. Everything he doeswith women is done with a Fox, while everythingthe nice
guy does is done with a non-Elite. The screenis silent, undetectableon the surface,and
unchallenged. Some Foxes will accusea man of wanting only their body, but how can
you prove this? The player has the plausibledeniability of being able to say that he was
not like that at all, that he was offended,and as he bails out, not only has the Fox fallen
for his lie, but she feels gutlty for calling him on it! There is a poetic justice in seeing
r' a sruck-upFox treatedlike the dirt shetreatsnice guys as, but this doesnot help the nice
guy who wants to get laid.
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{t twenties emerges. Former Foxes who never would have given me the time of day
rt suddenlystart calling me their soulmate. I ask them about their first marriages,and in
retrospectthey find their youthful behaviorhorrid. Their ex-husbands,and the men they
t dated before, all had looks screens,all denied them, and only over time did it become
t apparent. By the time they caught on, the liars had been rewarded with sex, creating
t punishmentby naturefor the nice man. The key moment in the developmentof my anti-
It player seductionmethodsoccurredwhen I beganpointing out to Foxes that even if they
I are well-intentioned,as they surely are when they get married, unlessthey know how to
spot a liar,, their intentionsmean nothing. I also point out that nature can punish nice
t Illen through suppl'yand demand,for if she is a truly great person as she claims, she is
I going to break many more hearts, becausemore men will want her without being able
I tt) hare her. Follow this up with a light joke about how we need to clone her a few
a rnillion times to satisfythe demand,and you make excellentprogress.
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a jerk by saying that nature made him do it. Foxes can critrcrze him for giving into the e
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right to a Fox than his lying rivals, and that his being of good characterdoes not make e
him any lessappreciativeof physicalbeautyand sex. The burden is shiftedto the Foxes e
to stop rewarding bad behavior and to start rewarding good behavior. The Fox who e
complainsabouta bad relationshipfinds herselfaskedwhy shedressedlike a call-girl and e
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easier to change yourself than to change another person, which fully explains the
popularity of ASF and its relatedwebsites. Talk is cheap,ffid after a while the platitudes
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to stop being a sucker and to start doing what Foxes obviously want him to do. His c
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developscontemptfor Foxes,justifying his increasinglysuccessfuldishonestseductions
by pointing to the reward system and the extendedchancehe gave Foxes to keep him
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worked out his anger, at which point if be is smart he will claim a concessionFox for /,
himself and settledown. In the process,he will have burned hundredsof Foxes, some €,
of whom will use his behavior to justify perpetuatingthe vicious cycle. I
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a through it, he will rarely be able to make progresseven with the best of opportunities.
n Once the player has establishedan advantagewith kino, what usually remains is one or
-) two shit tests,which he passes,at which point he has conqueredher. The nice guy never
7) knows what hit him, thinking he did nothing wrong and that sex was not meant to be.
7) For this to change, Foxes would have to reject men who attempt kino, and treat all kino
as a sexualadvance. If they do so silently, this is effective,but if they accuseevery man
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who touchesthem of trying to seducethem, they are overplaying their hand and giving
t) the jerk a way out. Foxes should insteadrequire the player to live up to his claims of
,) not wanting sex, andjust allow nothing to happen. Most players who are confrontedwith
,) a shield of this nature will eject quickly after making one or two attemptsto bypassit.
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t) players fail a great deal, as much as 99 percent of the time. Cynical observersseethe
at massiverejectionand assumethat he is not gettinglaid. His strong stomachfor rejection
,, allows him to accumulatea harem, becausehe just keepsapproachinguntil he succeeds.
ao Even a .100 hitter in baseballwill hit a home run eventually. Mystery said that he
averagestwelve approachesin an evening, usually landing three or four numbers, never
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spendingmore than fifteen minutes on an entire approach, ejecting if he fails to close.
ao For fifteen minutes, whichever Fox he is talking to is special to him, and if she puts out
rt or indicatesthat she will put out, she remains special until he no longer needsher.
ao Mystery demonstrateswhy most Foxeswho are sweptoff their feet wind up breakingup
within three months and on the market perpetually.
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It powerfully, just as quickly, but who has chosento continueto play the game clean. I
t have yet to seea personathat Foxes have a greaterrespectfor. This approachsatisfies
t all of her major requirements:the intelligenceto seethroughher shit testsand other lies,
the passionand skill required to turn her on, the honestyto admit you want her in large
t part becauseof how shelooks, and the good characterto treat her right despiteall of this,
t and not to use your powers of seductionmaliciously. If she tauntsyou for being alone,
t \ ou can point to ASF as an answerto that problem, and then refute her by sayingyou'd
t rather be alone than with the wrong person, and you'd rather be alone than have to lie
t ro get laid. You can quickly point out that you have optionsto get laid, but that you are
also picky. and that you are not preoccupiedwith relationships.
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o decidingand getting what you want. If you are like most men, you want a Fox who is
t li-l-l \ears old, unmarried, and with no children, for a long-term relationship. This
t Jcrnographicis in the highestdemand,and as such it is most difficult to seduce. Women
,.rhr''do not meet all of thesecriteria (I use 18-21for age) are what I call empty-netters,
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make. One of the cruel twists of gender bias is that men are expectedto lower their e
standardsjust as they begin to meet higher ones, as if it were okay for a Fox to reject a e
16 year-old geek for not being mature, but to then turn around and chide him at24 fot e
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to break down walls and bitch shields,to win argumentsabout relationshipsand gender e
behavior. and change the rules a bit, as Foxes see a point of view that they cannot
pigeonholeor refute. Whateveryour requirements,you can apply Foxhuntingand work
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courseof his work will put him into favorableproximity to so many Foxes that his entire e
social circle will consist of seductiontargets, many of whom are substanceabusers, el
nymphomaniacs,or just regular Foxes who earn a lot of money and seehim as a human e
being, superiorto the loser clientele. Most strip club DJs get the benefit of having a few
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minutes of private time in the booth with dancersas they are about to go onstage. The
strategicadvantagesare so incrediblethat they go beyonddescription. Listen to the way
strippersdescribe different DJs and you can see how some men know how to exploit
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the game are difficult to escape. This was made clear to me once again not long ago, a
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to online. The first (the offline one) was sickeninglycompatiblewith me, and obviously e
ttre better long-term selection. In my mind, I choseher. Since shehad shown sufficient e
interestover the phoneto want to meet me for coffee, and we had a pleasantget-together e
that was rushed because she is very overworked. As usual, my analysis of our
compatibility meant nothing, and her bias towards rejecting men on sight kicked in,
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lo difficult. Even with long-term corrrp&tibility,her mind is thinking only in the short-term
F' (hence the extreme eating behavior), and she is not open to hearing what she needs to
I' hear. She rewards men who enableher dysfunction, by providing emotional support
while allowing her to avoid confronting her problems. The sameproblem occurs with
f't Foxes who are drug addicts, alcoholics, or spendingaddicts who will come to rely so
f, heavily on their enablersthat sex with them becomesnatural. Even if a man has sex with
It her, once she heals she will lose respectfor his caprtaltzingon her illness, or she will
TT overreactwith sexualgratitudeat his helping her recover. It was impossiblefor this Fox
to see me as a long-terrn compatible male worth taking the time to relate to, becauseI
f't was not meeting her short-termneeds
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F arrogant and teasing, and I sent her an IM which opened with two words: pathetic
p profile. I told her that most profiles like her are createdby men or ugly women, and that
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called a nice approach. Certainly I had the right to questionher profile or challengeher
Irt to back up her bold claims, and when she did (with severalpictures), we settledinto a
tst nonnal conversation.I hadjust returnedfrom the unsuccessfuldatewith the foodchucker
lc and was annoyed at how anytime I find someoneI could have a good relationship with
xt and whom I would be loyal to, my analysiswas overridden. For now, I was contentto
just be a player, and consequentlyI went straightfor the end zone. Her hypnosisfantasy
Irt met my hypnosisability and producedinstantchemistry. There was never any real long-
rt terrn potential, but who needsthat if you can be a player and find one Fox like her after
rt another? That I was only out for short-terrnsexualenjoymentdid not matter, and making
{t progresswas easieras a result.
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treating her more like the dancer, and lost her when I startedtreating her like sornething
a other than a sex object (I did not require her to begin the date with kino or a kiss, like
{t I usuallydo with online dating). We were friendly, buthow can you comparefriendship
l' to sex? I like a good female friend, but if she can turn into a slut for other men,
O especiallyjerks, then I feel like I have as much right to get my turn at bat, so to speak,
rt especiallyif I am willing to stay with her for the long haul. I had not given her my
tO heart. but it was very clear to me that we were compatible. With the dancer, I knew
betterthan to downplay the lust factor, and the resultswere superior. In the spaceof one
O da) . I had watchedthis very book come to life in a good and a bad way.
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I refuseto settle,eryoy moderatesuccesswith the most desirableclassof femaleon earth,
and work constantlyto improve my CUPID rating and my technique so that I can keep
for rnyself one of life's trophies. This strategyhas left me alonemore often than I have
to be, but I would not trade it for anything else, becauseI have seen too many men
ruined by societal pressureto want what they should want, to date whom others think
they should date, and not to look after their own interests.

The empty-netterswho pursue me are fine relationship prospectsnow, but they

were finer ones when they were younger. Most of them are silencedwhen I ask them
how old they were when they begandating their ex-husbands,with the answerrevealing
that the only way I could ever have had them before they made the biggest mistake of
their lives is to havedatedthem when they were betweenthe agesof 18-21in most cases.
After they are humbled, the empty-netters,the former Foxes I now so cruelly call
leftoversand damagedgoods,want me to suddenlyforget a decadeof insultsto my male
ego' and settlefor them as if they were doing me a favor. After fifteen yearsof research
into figuring out why the game works as it does, after thousandsof interactions with
Foxeswith good and bad results,after waiting patientlyfor a young, beautifulwife, I am
content not to cash in unless it is for somethingbetter than I have ever found before.

I know that nice men are conditionednot to think of Foxes as sexualtoys, but it
is what they are. It is how the jerks treat them, and what they function as for them.
Why not you? Why not now? Will it make you any lessnice to have a one-nightstand?
It won't make her any lessnice, becauseher doing it with other men doesn't bother you.
As every player learnseventually,long-termis the way to go, becauseit is a lot of work
to seducea stranger. It is much better to find a quality relationshipwith a super-Elite,
with its averageof 150-200 sexual encountersa year. To pick up that many Foxes is
almost impossible, and incurs severemedical and emotional risks. Knowing how to
conquerFoxes does not mean you shouldhave to spendyour life doing it.

If you really want to understandjust how great the rewards are for lying, imagine
for a momentthat you had HIV. In a large majority of cases,you could get laid by lying
about your status,ild not get laid by being honest. This appliesto other STDs as well.
I've often wonderedhow 95 percentof us could claim that we would never sleepwith
someonewho had an STD, yet almosthalf of us windup infectedwith one. Having had
the misfortune of catching one (herpes)in my youth, I know firsthand the price of having
a scarletletter. My choicesare to lie and get laid, but be a true jerk (and break the law
in many states),or to tell the truth and cost myself the most attractiveoptions.

One of the reasonsI studiedseductiontechniquesin suchdepth was becauseI had

to. Not only did I have to seducea Fox, I then had to accountfor the percentageof
conquestswho would refuseto have intercourseupon learningof my condition. This has

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IC fate, I find myself often seducinga Fox and knowing that it won't matter once she finds
X' out. It is not the death of my sex life, as there are Foxes who acceptherpes,but it does
IC impact my menu and the quality of what I wind up with. Fortunately for my readers,if
Ic they are not infected, they will achievemuch better resultswith my methodsthan I could.
!'c If you have an STD, the time to tell your lover is after shehas decidedto have sex
Ic with you and before you actually have sex. This wny, your condition is not factored into
Ic her decision, yet you still will not put her at risk. It is easy to lose respectfor Foxes
|c when I let them reach the point where I know they wouldn't have askedme about STDs,
(' and where they are thankful once I tell them. My reward for being honest? Loss of sex.
(' For someonein my condition, having perfect seductiontechniqueis essentialto createthe
overflow necessaryfor the STD rejectionsto not matter. It is a horrible experienceto
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lose sex to an STD, but it is a gratifying experienceto know that I can seducethe super-
Ic Elites, with my failures causedby a medical condition, not any flaw in my personality
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a What most of you find difficult - getting a Fox to want to have sex with you -
(t is somethingI find very easy. Where my difficulty comes is after she has made that
a decision. If you use thesetechniques,and achievemy results, you will have no sexual
a barriers left. This w&y, you won't have to learn the secretsof seductionthe hard way,
(t like I did, you can practice safe sexualbehavior, stay clean, and enjoy what it is I lost
lc to youthful stupidity and older honesty. Without the motivation of a barrier like herpes
a to overcome,most men will not be inspired to refine their techniquethe way I had to.
The motivation required to digest two books is a lot less than that required to spendhalf
a your life performing the researchthat went into them.
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a The bottom line with all you have read here and all you will read on the internet,
a in other books, and experiencein your life, is that the connection that Foxes make an
a absoluteprerequisitefor lovemaking,whetherone hour, one day, one week, one month,
one year. or even one decadeafter meeting, is more often artificial than not. Artificial
a connectionscreatedunder pretextwith ulterior motivesandhiddenagendasrule the dating
a game. Men who systenatically make themselvesexternally desirableas measuredby
a CLIPID. and who understandthe strategyand tacticsof seduction,are the oneswho wind
a up with the most sex. Those who are willing to lie, cheat, or do and say anything in
a order to get laid are alwaysmore successful.Being nice is its own reward, becausesex
sureisn't one.
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a nonexistent. In theory, he should not care how poorly he is treated,and should accept
e it as a part of being nice. In practice, one has to ask oneselfwhy it is wrong for a man
a to become mean but perfectly okay for a Fox. The rules governing proper male

a behavior. applied to Foxes, would disqualify all but a handful from relationship
considerationdue to lack of character. Let a man openly admit to lying in the past. and
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he will forever have to prove he has changed. Let a Fox betray her ex in the worst of e
ways, and nice guys will be lining up to redeemher as surely as Charlie Brown will try e
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do feel either of these emotions, they can easily be kept to yourself via a polite wall e
which you make difficult to knock down or move around. Where nice guys fail most e
with Foxes is that they never quite understandthat it is okay to be aloof and distant if one e
takesthe stepsnecessaryto appeardesirablewhile doing so. A jerk in a bar by himself e
won't appeardesperate. He also will take stepsto rectify the situation or changehis
planson the fly. Surely we've all seenmen who walk into a room, survey it, declarethat e
it's a dead social environment,and leave, as if anyonecared whether or not they were e
entertained. Compare this with the nice guy who will walk into the same environment, e
not question its rigor mortis, and spend the entire evening in the mortuary without e
complaint. This is especiallytrue of nice-guyclusterswho sendloud messagesto Foxes e
to ignore the entire group. Sad as it is, your male friends are a reflection on you.
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When putting this book and Foxes into practice, reserve the philosophical e
discussionsfor low-percentagesinrations. If you have a high-percentagesituationlike a e
Fox who has approachedyou and left you with a clear opportunity, caprlalizeon the e
opportunitybefore you do anything else. It is with the Foxes who put up bitch shields, e
LJBF, or who otherwise do not think of you sexually that discussing relationships
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becomesa powerful gimmick. It is very difficult for a Fox to argue with documented,
reproducablesuccess,and the messageto her that you have the option of losing your e
religion and becoming a numbers-gameplayer becomesvery clear. In what appearsto e
be an instinctiveresponse,many Foxeswill switch from stuck-upto placatingmode, still e
doing as little as they have to in order to stay on your good side, but realuzrngthat they e
have to up the ante, andfast, or they will lose you as a friend, with the worst part being
that you won't even care. The next chick logical step from this point is to see you as
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genderstereotypeswhich have all men paying for the sins of alpha males. Foxes have
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dominated the discussionsof romantic injustice so thoroughly that even men accept
scathingindictmentsof their genderas absolutetruths. Reversethe genderswith any of e
thesecriticisms and the standardreply is to not judge all Foxes on the basisof a few or c
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none, with insult addedto injury via the advice to be thankful you did not get to lay the
superrnodel,becauseshewould havewound up hurting you in the end. With alpha-males
who mistreat their lovers, Foxes still obsessover changing them. For just about any
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