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Gloucestershire Self Harm
Self Harm Helpline Service
Helpline
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People can self harm for different reasons. It may be to deal with
difficult feelings1 or to give someone release or escape.2 Some
may find the physical pain of self harm distracts them from the
emotional pain they are feeling.3 For some they may need to self
harm to let other people know how they are feeling.4 Others may
feel it is the only way to feel in control of their body 5 or to punish
themselves because they feel guilty.
It may be helpful to match your coping strategy with how you are
feeling. For example you may want to do something that
comforts you if you feel low or release energy if you feel angry.
This booklet goes through some different things you can try to
help cope with the urge to self harm. It goes through how to
distract yourself, how to do something that makes you feel better
or give yourself strength.
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Give yourself time
When you feel like self harming give When the ______________feeling
yourself a bit of time before you do it. wears off I feel _______________
This will allow you a chance to not act
impulsively. For example:
• Keep things you harm yourself I self harm because it makes me feel
with in a locked cupboard or in a calmer for a while.
box with Sellotape around it. When the feeling wears off I feel
When you are taking the tape off worried because I have gone too far.
you have time between wanting to Below are some of the things you
self-harm and doing it. could be feeling:
• Phone Rethink Gloucestershire • “I’ve managed for two weeks
Self-harm Helpline. Come up without harming. I don’t want to
with some strategies about start again”
how to not self harm. Agree to • “Once I start it’s difficult to stop”
call them in an hour or two and • “It doesn’t help in the long run. I
tell them how it went. can self harm now but I’ll need to
do it again in a couple of days.
• All the suggestions we
• “I don’t want to end up in hospital”
already discussed can be
• “If I can hang on the need to self-
useful to delay self harm sometimes passes”
harming. • “There may be consequences I
• Wait 10 or 15 minutes to decide don’t want e.g. brain damage,
if your urge to self harm is still paralysis”
as strong. You can decide what • “I will feel bad if I self-harm now”
to do at this point.
• Why do I feel I need to hurt myself? What has happened that I feel
like this?
• Have I felt like this before? How did I come out the other side
the last time? Can I do that again now?
• Is there anything else I can do to get rid of this feeling that doesn’t
mean I will hurt myself?
• The 15-minute rule – if you’re feeling the urge to self-harm, give yourself
15 minutes before you do. Distract yourself by going for a run or writing
down your feelings. When the time’s up, see if you can extend it by
another 15 minutes. Try to keep going until the urge subsides
• Visualisation - try to picture the urge as an emotional wave you can surf.
Imagine it reaching a crescendo then breaking as you successfully
resist its force
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Other useful Relaxation albums
techniques There are all different types of
relaxation albums. Some have nice
Deep breathing sounds such as the sound of the sea.
Lots of people don’t realise how Others have someone talking in a
useful deep breathing until they’ve calm and reassuring way. You could
tried it. If you learn how to do deep find it useful to listen to one of these.
breathing it can be really helpful. Sit You can download a lot of these to
straight on a chair and put one hand MP3.
gently on your chest and one hand
gently on your stomach. Slowly Muscle relaxation
breathe in, feeling the air expanding If you are feeling tense you can use
your lungs. Your stomach should something called progressive
muscle relaxation. This is when you
move outwards as the air fills you.
tense your body and then relax it. It
Hold the breath for a moment, then
can help to be aware of how tense
breathe out as deeply as possible. you feel and let go of it. You can
This can help to calm you down in download guides to help you do this
situations when you feel panicked. or watch tutorials online.
You can get free guided breathing
exercises online such as on Practice mindfulness
YouTube. Mindfulness is a process of making
sure you and your thoughts are in the
Safe place imagery
here and now and staying grounded.
What is your happiest memory?
Mastering this technique can be useful
It might have been a holiday or day trip
if you have a lot of painful thoughts
you had, it might have been a birthday
from the past which can trigger self
party or a day at school. Think about
harm. xiv Below is one example of a
this time. Think about all the things you
mindfulness exercise. Really learning
liked about it, how you felt, what
this can take a long time so don’t give
actually happened. Try to remember in
up if you don’t feel you’re getting it at
great detail. When you’ve done this
the start, it will come!
you can close your eyes and really
concentrate on this place and this
should help your upset/ angry feelings
to leave you. You can listen to guided
imagery meditations for free online until
you get the hang of it.
Then when you start to feel upset, But that’s all it is, a habit. People
angry or vulnerable, stand in the give up bad habits, or change their
circle and repeat your affirmation habits all the time. So can you.
to yourself until you feel safer. Persevere, and gradually your
thought processes will change.
Stop signs
Sometimes, we find ourselves saying
critical, hurtful things to ourselves
without even realising it. This is your
“inner critic”. This is the voice inside
you that keeps telling you how bad
you are. It can be a very powerful
force sometimes.
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