Think of Yourself Less

Fighting Pride’s Preoccupation with Me

I am very qualified to speak on pride because I am so proud. I hate my pride, but

what I take even more seriously is how God hates it so much more.
Pride is our greatest enemy because it makes God our enemy — an almighty
opponent. “God opposes the proud” (James 4:6; 1 Peter 5:5). Why? What makes pride
so singularly repulsive to God is the way that pride contends for supremacy with
God himself. Pride is not one sin among many, but a sin in a class by itself. Other
sins lead the sinner further from God, but pride is particularly heinous in that it
attempts to elevate the sinner above God.
Pride is not just a sin, but a sinful mother — a sinful orientation that gives birth to
more sins. For example, pride can lead to lying. You tell a lie because you are too
proud to admit you were wrong or you did something wrong. But the problem is so
much bigger. Pride doesn’t just tell lies; it is a lie.
Why? Pride is self-obsession; pride is preoccupation with ourselves. Therefore, it is
a lie about reality. It says I am worth thinking about all the time. It is an orientation
that wrongly assumes that everything revolves around us.

A Shape-Shifting Sin

Pride deserves to die, but it is hard to spot and even harder to kill. Pride is a
slippery sin because it is a shape-shifter. Jonathan Edwards said pride is “the most
hidden, secret, and deceitful of all sins.” Let me give you an example. Here is a
conversation that I might have with myself after a meeting at church:

“That meeting went really well. I think the turning point might have been when I
asked that question which no one had thought to ask before. Wait a minute! That was
such a prideful thought. It sounds like I am taking credit for the meeting going well. I
am such a prideful person. I hate my pride.”
“Humility is fundamentally a form of self-
forgetfulness as opposed to pride’s self-
fixation.”
Meanwhile three seconds later, “I fight pride pretty hard. I’m glad that I caught that
initial prideful thought. I wonder if other people are as aware of their pride and fight
it as hard as I do. Wait a minute! It just happened again. I am taking pride in my
awareness of pride. O, deliver me from this body of death, Lord Jesus! Thank you
God that you give us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Several Shapes of Pride

If pride is preoccupation with ourselves, then we cannot defeat pride by becoming

preoccupied with how we are doing against pride. When we do, we play right into
the hands of pride because we take a page out of pride’s playbook. Think about
yourself more. Obsess more. Become preoccupied with how you are doing — how
the fight is going.

You can fall into self-exaltation (takes credit for success) and self-promotion (put
those successes in other peoples faces so they will give us credit for them). But pride
can shift into the shape of self-degradation and self-demotion when we beat
ourselves up for our failures. We are still obsessed with ourselves. In the first form,
we are obsessed with our successes; in the second, we are obsessed with our
failures.

Think of Yourself Less

Maybe some of this will make more sense if we talk about what real humility is. As
C.S. Lewis said, true humility is “not thinking less of ourselves, but thinking of
ourselves less.” We can spend a lot of time thinking less of ourselves but we only end
up thinking a lot about ourselves. The problem of pride does not boil down to
whether we think high thoughts or low thoughts about ourselves but that we think
lots of thoughts about ourselves.
 Humility is fundamentally a form of self-forgetfulness as opposed to pride’s self-
fixation. Humility can set you free because when you think about yourself less you
are free to think about Christ more. Humility puts us on the path of grace; pride puts
us on the path of opposition. God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble
(James 4:6; 1 Peter 5:5).

Two Crash Sites

The collision between the glory of God and the pride of man has two possible crash
sites: hell or the cross. In other words, either we will pay for our sins in hell or Christ
will pay for our sins on the cross. Hell is like an eternal crash site and crime scene. It
is a horror movie in which there are no closing credits because it never ends.

God opposes pride actively and hates it passionately, which means that pride is
spiritual suicide. The reason is simple. Pride is on a collision course with God
himself and the date is set. “For the Lord of hosts has a day against all that is proud
and lofty, against all that is lifted up — and it shall be brought low” (Isaiah 2:12). All
must be torn down so that one thing alone may be left standing. “The Lord alone will
be exalted in that day” (Isaiah 2:11). The Bible calls it the day of the Lord.

“The collision between the glory of God and the

pride of man has two possible crash sites: hell
or the cross.”
But God in his mercy made another way. The Son of God emptied himself by taking
on humanity and humbled himself by obeying to the point of death — even the death
of the cross. God sends his Son to vindicate the worth of his great name, which
sinners have defamed. The sacrifice of Christ fully absorbs and satisfies the wrath of
God. This glorious aspect of the atonement is called “propitiation” (Romans 3:24–25).

The Solution to Our Self-Obsession

Seeing the cross rightly crushes our pride decisively. Why? Seeing the cross rightly
means that we see ourselves rightly. We see him on the cross and conclude that we
are actually seeing our sin on the cross. The cross reveals what we deserve from
God. We cannot receive the grace of Christ apart from seeing and embracing the
undeserved dis-grace of Christ.
We see the cross rightly through the miracle of conversion. We were blind to the
glory of Christ on the cross (2 Corinthians 4:3–4), but God’s grace is stronger. When
Christ is proclaimed, God overcomes our spiritual blindness by flooding our hearts
with light. The eyes of the heart are opened to see and savor the glory of God in the
face of Jesus Christ (2 Corinthians 4:6). The Spirit acts like a floodlight to illuminate the
work of Christ on the cross.
The Bible’s answer to our fallen self-obsession is a great work of grace in the gospel
that creates a worshipful obsession with God. Pride is defeated decisively at
conversion, progressively in sanctification, and totally at glorification — where we
experience ever-increasing, everlasting, white-hot worship of God. The day is
coming when God alone will be exalted. It will be the worst day for unbelievers and
the happiest day for all Christians.