Have you ever noticed when you talk to someone your voice actually gets louder and more

forceful?
When you argue with someone do you automatically raise your voice or begin to yell at people. It may
be time to examine your behavior as this kind of behavior is not helpful in getting your job done and
gaining compliance with your orders. One must control their tone and volume of their voices at all times
to avoid misunderstandings, confrontations or unnecessary arguments.

Raising your voice is not very helpful or healthy. It creates stress and tension that is created and often
escalated into conflict. Therefore, it is extremely crucial and important that you are aware of your voice
tone and volume at all times in order to reduce stress, anxiety and conflict in the workplace or anywhere
else you may engage in a controversial conversation.

Are you the type of person that automatically increase your voice so that you can create a situation in
your favor by being the dominant speaker? If so you may be damaging your ability to be a better
communicator and getting compliance more effectively. Shouting, yelling or raising your voice is a sign
of force. Force that may be interpreted as aggression or coercion into compliance. Although some
situations may dictate or prescribe such conduct, most situations do not need to be forceful in
mannerism or tone.

Raising your voice invites interruptions. Interruptions create broken hints of communication and impairs
listening attempts. This is more intense when the two people shouting or yelling are different genders as
one might take this as an act to dominate the other.

Regardless of the situation, yelling, shouting or screaming is taken as a sign of aggression and invites
physical confrontations. It also justifies the use of force by some as they take this as a first step of
aggression or assault and intervene with physical force preempted by the threat of being struck or hit by
the other person.

Therefore, it is important that you regulate your voice to a volume or tone that does not imply
aggressive behaviors or dominance over the other person. One can identify a bully as a person that yells
or shouts at others to get them under control and dominate their actions. The louder the voice, the
higher the intensity of angry is created.

Regardless of intent, yelling or raising your voice is a method used to control the situation and download
to the other person they have to listen to what is being said in order for the situation to be resolved.
However, the actions of those engaged in yelling or shouting are often misunderstood and create high
levels of negative feelings. This in turns tells them they don’t have to listen and comply with any words
or directives given under such perceived hostile conditions.

Good interpersonal communication skills requires sound emotional control. One must practice to be
calm and relaxed under such conditions to be an effective communicator. Learning how to control the
situation and gaining the upper hand in such potentially violent situations takes a lot of practice and
self-control and does wonders on such sensitive subjects as respect and disrespect of the other person’s
feelings or situations.