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Chapter 11 - Interpersonal Attraction and Close Relationships
Chapter 11 - Interpersonal Attraction and Close Relationships
Chapter 11 - Interpersonal Attraction and Close Relationships
Interdependent Relationships
- Interdependence: interpersonal association in which two people influence each
other’s lives
- Often focus their thoughts on one another
- Regularly engage in joint activities
Family Members
- First and most lasting close relationships
- Attachment style
o Degree of security experiences in interpersonal relationships
o Differential styles initially develop in the interactions between infants and
caregivers
o Involves acquisition of basic attitudes about self-worth and interpersonal
trust
§ Self-worth/self-esteem: degree to which the self is perceived
positively or negatively; one’s overall attitude towards self
§ Interpersonal trust: degree to which others are perceived as generally
trustworthy, dependable and reliable
Attachment Styles Description
Secure Attachment Style - High in self-esteem and trust
- Able to form lasting, committed,
satisfying relationship
- Most successful and desirable
attachment style
Fearful-Avoidant - Low in self-esteem and interpersonal
Attachment Style trust
- Tend to not form close relationships
or have unhappy ones
- Most insecure and least adaptive
attachment style
Preoccupied Attachment - Low self-esteem combined with high
Style interpersonal trust
- Wants closeness (sometimes
excessively) and readily forms
relationships
- Cling to others, but expect eventual
rejection because deem themselves
unworthy
- Conflicted and insecure attachment
style
Dismissing Attachment - High self-esteem, low interpersonal
Style trust
- Belief that one is very much
deserving of good relationships, but
due to lack of trust, fear genuine
closeness
- Exclaim to not want or need close
relationship with others
- Conflicted and insecure attachment
style
Friendships
- Form as result of proximity or parental friendship
- Maintained by mutual interest and positive experiences together
- Close friendship
o A relationship in which two people spend a great deal of time together,
interact in a variety of situations, and provide mutual emotional support
o Characteristics of close friendship
§ Exhibit modesty when interacting
§ Less likely to lie
§ Speak as “we”, “us” instead of “she and I”
Loneliness
- The unpleasant emotional and cognitive state based on desiring close relationships
but unable to attain them
- Consequences of loneliness
o Spend leisure time in solitary activities
o Have few connections that are important
o Only have casual friends or acquaintances
- Loners are perceived as maladjusted, poor health, lower life expectancy
- Why are people lonely?
o Combination of genetic factors, attachment styles, lack of opportunity for
early social experience with peers, environmental factor
- Reducing loneliness
o Acquire new and more appropriate social skills
What is Love?
Love
- A combination of emotions, cognitions and behaviours that often play a crucial role
in intimate relationships
- Involves more than merely being romantically or sexually interested in another
person
Passionate Love
- An intense and often unrealistic emotional response to another person
- Usually begins as a sudden, overwhelming, surging, all-consuming positive reaction
- When experienced, often perceived as indication of true love; observers perceive it
as infatuation
- In addition to sex, includes strong emotional arousal and desire to be physically
close, intense need to be loved as much as you love
Unrequited Love
- Love felt by one person for another who does not feel love in return
- Most common among people with a conflicted attachment style
Origin of Love
- No one knows for sure
- Evolutionary
o Ensuring survival of species
- Biological
o Desire/Lust
o Interpersonal commitment