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Are You Ready For Marriage
Are You Ready For Marriage
If you aren’t called to remain single (1 Corinthians 7) then a significant priority for this season of your
life is preparing yourself for a biblical marriage. Finding a mate recognizes that God is at work, but we
also have a responsibility to be faithful in our part of the process.
STEP 3: Create a checklist you are praying for in your future spouse
Be careful when creating this “perfect” list because you may not find your future spouse meeting every
single item. That’s why it’s important to be firm on the non-negotiable items on your list (ie. he/she
must be a believer in Jesus Christ; he/she must attend church) and differentiate those from the negotiable
items (ie. he/she must have blue eyes, drive a Ferrari and love all sports & fishing). As you seek the Lord
through prayer, you will be able to better determine what those checklist items should be, and which
category they fall into.
STEP 4: Be a part of and serve within the Church and Christian community
We live in a day of hyper individualism where people feel very little sense of obligation to others. But
God calls us to vibrant community within our families and within the body of Christ. Living in a Christian
community makes it easier to find a mate who shares your spiritual values. The church provides
connection with others, through worship, Bible studies, and small groups, and is the source for much of
our growth as Christians. As you develop your relationships and grow within the community of faith,
God can use those opportunities to connect you to some wonderful people.
The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why? by Gary Thomas
"Gary Thomas looks at the heart of a subject that many consider him an expert on—successful marriage.
Anyone who is dating, engaged, or hopes to be one day needs to read this book!" - Ed Young
Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas
The authors are pastors who communicate a new, almost provocative voice to the conversation that, with
straightforward theological insight, pleads with Christians to get serious about honoring Christ with their
sexuality.
Get Married: What Women Can Do to Help it Happen by Candice Watters. This book explains why
marriage is an honorable pursuit and shows how women can live like they are planning to marry.
A Guy’s Guide to Marrying Well – This site has put together a short, practical guide for men to help them
become proactive about whether, how and who to marry. (Free download at boundless.org/guys.)
Recommended Websites:
Focusonthefamily.com
Marriage, God’s design for marriage
Familylife.com
My Marriage, Choosing a spouse
Boundless.org is a webzine for young adults. Its most popular articles are those about finding a godly spouse
and dating according to biblical principles.